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Saying goodbye to a friend is never easy, but the passing of my friend Jay Selman on March 18th of this year has been sitting heavy on the hearts of everyone who knew him since we got the bad news. Jay was far too young to have left us and when a light as bright as his goes out, there simply isn’t any replacing it. As hard as it is for those he left behind, the friend we all knew and loved wouldn’t have wanted us to mope around, so we put our best foot forward and planned a celebration of life that would have been just the kind of gathering he would have enjoyed.

He loved live music, particularly outlaw country, so local musicians played, while his friends shared their favorite memories and stories. Naturally, there were tears shed, but also a lot of smiles and laughter, which was how Jay would have wanted it. His infectious laughter happened to be a part of many of the memories shared. He had the ability to lift the mood in a room with his laugh and larger-than-life personality. Those traits alone made Jay a friend to everyone he met and the outpouring of love and support that followed his death made that abundantly apparent.

I knew who Jay was when I was younger, but it wasn’t until I moved back to Rome to start V3 that we forged a friendship. At that time he was inseparable from my dear friend Mikel Sykes, who was the head chef at La Scala at that time. They worked side-by-side and did just about everything outside of work together as well so everywhere that Mikel went, there was Jay. He is such an easy guy to love; we were instant friends. We joined with our friends, Robb and Tracy Raymond to form the Sons of Thunder bowling team in the Sunday night mixer league, and we pre-gamed bowling with Sunday afternoon 3-3 basketball. Generally, if I was doing something that wasn’t family oriented, I was with Mikel and Jay.

APRIL IS CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION MONTH,

and Harbin Clinic is partnering with The Exchange Club Family Resource Center and Advocates for Children to raise awareness and provide encouragement, education, and practical help for our children and families.

Symbols Of A Hopeful Future

People who drive by Harbin Clinic’s pediatric locations during April will see a heart-warming sight: hosts of spinning blue pinwheels planted in the grass. These pinwheels are eye-catching reminders that there is hope for the children of families at risk.

The Family Resource Center works with parents who feel overwhelmed. Executive Director Tina Bartleson says, “Maybe they have a colicky baby, or maybe they’re unsure how to raise their children in supportive, healthy ways. We go into the homes and work with families every week for one to two hours per week for up to a year. We’re bringing in information about child development, parenting, life skills, budgeting—anything they need to deal with whatever challenges they’re facing.”

“What we find,” Bartleson says, “is some parents don’t have good information. Or they have trouble deciphering what is good information and what is misinformation. There are so many things coming at them—and when you couple that with all the everyday parenting pressure, it can be overwhelming. So, we walk with them as they try to implement positive changes in their lives.” She explains that their whole system is based on trust and relationships. Although some parents are hesitant to get involved at first, they often later say, “Please don’t go!”

Pinwheels For Prevention

Another of Harbin Clinic’s partners in helping children and families is Advocates for Children, which works in 11 counties in Northwest Georgia. Amanda Tant, vice president at Advocates, says, “We have eight distinct programs, all designed to prevent child abuse and build family capacity.”

Pinwheels for Prevention began in 2008 with Prevent Child Abuse America.

“Now you’ll see the pinwheels at the Bartow County Courthouse and different Harbin pediatric locations,” Tant says. “This is to bring awareness to the needs of the families and children we serve. These pinwheels represent the positive changes we can make in the lives of at-risk children when we come together to ensure they have a brighter and safer future.”

Phoebe Floyd, marketing and communications manager at Advocates, explains, “One of our programs is Hope in Your Home, which is a parent education program. One of the programs within Hope in Your Home is First Steps. Last year, First Steps visited over six hundred babies in the hospital to give those new families some initial support. It’s a scary thing to be a first-time parent.”

The Basics Program is a parent education piece that focuses on cognitive development for children from zero to three years, which is a vital period for brain development. The program teaches parents how to stimulate their children’s brains during that critical period between infancy and toddlerhood. Floyd says, “We make those families aware they don’t need to be in a state of crisis to need the resources Hope in Your Home has to offer.” She goes on to say, “Our relationship with Harbin is a longstanding one, and it goes far beyond their being financial donors; they are true partners in this work. And to see that continue to grow is really exciting.”

A Community Of Caring

Harbin Clinic pediatricians manage the physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing of their patients in every stage of development. Children see their pediatrician for an average of 15 well-child visits in their first five years, so building that relationship with a healthcare provider early on helps equip families with tools to support children’s emotional, social, and cognitive development.

Dr. Melissa Davis, a Harbin Clinic pediatrician, says, “I had a patient in the office this week with a parent aide from the Family Resource Center, so I got to see our community partnerships making a difference firsthand. A mother, who found herself in difficult circumstances, had been struggling a bit with some control issues, and the best choice for her was to get a parent aide to help manage some childhood behavior that was inappropriate.”

“Over the last five years, we’ve dealt with many mental health issues with children,” Dr. Davis says. “We now screen for a lot of things we didn’t use to screen for. Depression. Anxiety. ADHD. We’ve had different societal pressures that have brought these problems to the forefront. The pandemic caused many people to become more isolated, and mental health took a turn for the worse. And if parents are undergoing financial difficulties, that childhood experiences, such as abuse or neglect, or even being in a home where a parent abused alcohol or drugs. So, being aware of the signs of abuse or neglect is very important. Like they say, if you see something, say something.” romestonebridge.com/launchbox

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