Valley Christian Magazine November 2012

November 2012

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Things a

Daughter Needs from Her

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The Unraveling Of a Marriage

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Features

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The Unraveling of a Marriage

12 22 24 34 36 38 40 42 45 45

FCA Camp Campaign

National Columnists 10 18 20 28 46

James MacDonald Greg Laurie Proverbs 31: Lysa TerKeurst Joe Beam Dave Ramsey

At Home With Pastor Tim Ousely My Valley Story: Pilot Rick Larson: Star of Bethlehem 7 Things a Daughter Needs from her Father Kids Talk About God Fellowship of Christian Athletes Music: Tedashii Books Events Praise on the Hill Concert Photos

On The Cover 24 The Star of Bethlehem Myth? Fact? Follow the Science for yourself…

Rick Larson shares about his upcoming visit to Edinburg.

AT HOME WITH: Pastor Tim Ousely

Valley Contributors 8 16 26 30 32 40

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7 things a daughter needs from her father

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JESUS THE WORD

By Dr. James MacDonald

1In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2He was in the beginning with God. 3All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. 4In him was life, and the life was the light of men. 5The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

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But here’s the point: All of the intimacy that would grow beWZHHQ XV ZRXOG EH WKH UHVXOW RI ZRUGV :RUGV ZRXOG EH WKH thing that would make it happen. We would exchange some words which are the currency of disclosure; disclosure leads to LQWLPDF\ 6R LI , ZDQWHG WR JHW WR NQRZ \RX EHWWHU WKHUH ZRXOG need to be some words. Likewise if you wanted to get to know me better—words.

God wanted to get to know you and me better. And God wanted us to know Himbetter. So He sent the Word. He disclosed in a ELJ ZD\ -HVXV LV WKH :RUG WKDW FRPHV IRUWK IURP *RG¡V PRXWK VR you could know Him and so He could know you. Do you get it? This ZDV QHZ IRU PH 1RZ HYHU\ WLPH ,¡P VHHLQJ -HVXV FDOOHG WKH :RUG ,¡P OLNH ´7KDW¡V *RG WDONLQJ WR PH Âľ +HEUHZV VD\V ´/RQJ DJR DW PDQ\ WLPHV DQG LQ PDQ\ ZD\V God spoke . . . but in these last days he has spoken to us by his 6RQ Âľ 7KDW¡V ZKDW LW PHDQV ZKHQ LW VD\V -HVXV LV WKH :RUG +H ZDQWV WR VSHDN LQWR \RXU OLIH <RX KDYH WR KDYH D SHUVRQDO H[SHULHQFH ZLWK Him if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re going to know Him completely.

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Prayer â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Father in heaven, Your Son and His words are the Bread of life to me. Let me never tire of taking them in and relishing how they renew my mind and transform my life. I want to mean Jesus when I quote Psalm 119:11, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.â&#x20AC;? I pray this in the name of Jesus who gave His life for me. Amen. / 10 /www.valleychristianmagazine.com /

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North Mission Church of Christ www.northmissionchurch.com 1410 E Mile 3 Road Palmhurst, TX 78573 956-585-0146

Service Times: Sunday 9:30 am Bible Study 10:30 am Worship 5:00 pm Life Groups Tuesday 7:30 pm Small Group Bible Study Wednesday 7:00 pm Classes for all ages Thursday 6:00 am Menâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Breakfast

How long has North Mission Church of Christ been here on 3 Mile line in Mission/ Palmhurst?

Since Feb 1992, before we were down over on 495 at the now Ric Brown Funeral Home. That used to be our building. We moved out here in 1999. That was when we built the building and bought the property.

Great set-up out hereâ&#x20AC;Śtell us about it ,W¡V NLQG RI D VWUDQJH \HW JUHDW *RG 7KLQJ Back in the early 1990â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s we would double in size, mostly due to the Winter Texans and other older generation.

By about 1995 and 1996 things were going well and just by Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s timing, we added several new families. One of the members that had joined us was a very successful businessman in McAllen and a very generous person. One day we were driving around and he asked â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Where do we want to build a building? We canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t stay where weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re atâ&#x20AC;Śweâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re land ORFNHG Âľ As it turns out, we had our eye on a piece of property very close to where we are now but the price was way high. We then drove by this piece of property and it had a faded sign. Turns out an older out of town couple bought the property a long time ago.

We explained what we wanted to do with the property and they asked for a price that was well within our budget.

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Share about some of the Ministries you all are doing here at NMCOC? We are doing a number of local ministries with our community. We offer a Food Pantry, Partnered with City of Palmhurst with National Night Out, offer Financial Peace University, Upwards Soccer, Living Water, and we offer a jogging track for our community.

How do you think that affects the parents, especially those who typically donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go to church?

They can see that we are normal. e are not freaks. t helps them to seeâ&#x20AC;Śa lot of time their only images of Christians are those they see in the news. Negative stories. What they are seeing are Christians who are actually serving them.

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Our mission is to Reach in and Reach out into the glory of God. We want to serve and to minister to our community so they can see the love of Jesus. We are just doing what we can.

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Pastor Tim during an Upwards Game

When did you feel the call to be come a Pastor?

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How about three words to describe your wife?

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Excuses, Not Reasons

By GREG LAURIE

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A reason is what we offer when we are unable to do something, while an excuse is what we offer when we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to do something and want to get out of it. And people offer a lot of excuses as to why they canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go to church.

Yet I look at the commitment that sports fans haveâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;how they will go and support their team, no matter what. No matter what the circumstances or weather conditions, they will root their team on. They will dress in the team colors and even paint their faces. And when their team scores, they will yell in their excitement.

â&#x20AC;&#x153;When you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go to church, is it that you have areason or excuse?â&#x20AC;?

What if people were like that in churchâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;never missing a service, never missing an opportunity to worship? And what if people offered the same reasons for not going to sporting events as they do for not going to church?

Think how stupid it would sound: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Yeah, I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go to the games anymore.

The people who sat around me didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t seem all that friendly. And it is so crowded. There are just too many people.â&#x20AC;? Or, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The seats were too unFRPIRUWDEOH Âľ 2U ´,W LV WRR KDUG WR Ă&#x20AC;QG D SDUNLQJ SODFH Âľ 2U ´7KH FRDFK never personally came and talked to me.â&#x20AC;?

Or how about these excuses? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Well, I read a book on this sport, and I think I know more than the coach anyway.â&#x20AC;? Or, â&#x20AC;&#x153;My parents took me to a lot of games when I was growing up, so I just donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to go anymore.â&#x20AC;?

I doubt you would ever hear these excuses for missing a sporting event, yet these are things people say about why they donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go to church. They may have a lot of excuses to offer, but none of them are reasons.

greg laurie is Senior Pastor of Harvest Christian Fellowship in Riverside, Calif. He began his pastoral ministry at 19 by leading a Bible study of 30 people. Since then, God has transformed the small group into a church of 15,000-plus, one of the largest churches in America. For more, visit www. greglaurie.com. Used by permission from Harvest Ministries with Greg Laurie, P.O. Box 4000, Riverside, Calif., 92514.

All rights reserved. Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright Š 1996.

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The

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Pilotâ&#x20AC;Ś Welcome to My Valley Storyâ&#x20AC;Ś Story began as an idea to share the story of people who have My Valley ´What do you want your kids to say about come from wrecked lives. People who have hurt others, and been hurt. \RX WKDW \RX FRXOGQ¡W VD\ DERXW \RXU 'DG"Âľ People who are cheaters, liers, perverts, violent, bitter, and angry. People with all of these characteristics who were radically rescued by TRUTH.

Valley Christian Magazine & Logos Community has partnered up for the next PRQWKV ZH ZLOO SRVW D VWRU\ DQG D YLGHR RI WKHVH SHRSOH <RX ZLOO KHDU WKHP tell rough, painful, stories of ugliness. Of pain. They will vividly describe to you, their scars.

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Hope that real forgiveness and new life is possible. All of the people whose stories you will hear and see have been saved by HOPE. Truth and Hope have a name, and that name is Jesus.

This was the question Pilot Galvan heard that rocked him to his soul. He was sitting in church hoping to hear some words of peace, but instead heard this. So many years of pain, hurt, longing for better days... What could he say about his Dad? That he was a wife beater?

Drug addict? A man who cursed him and called him names the last day he ever saw him?

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earliest memory was at 2 yrs. old watching his Mom be dragged through the apartment where they lived with a bloody QRVH DQG D EURNHQ Ă&#x20AC;QJHU 6KH ZDV PRQWKV pregnant with her second son, Alex. Hearing the sirens outside and seeing the people stare outside his apartment, Pilot felt great shame and embarrassment. These feelings would remain with him for years.

At 16 Pilotâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Dad left the family forever, and they havenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t seen him since.

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spent years telling himself he would never be like his Dad. he hated his Dad. The following years were spent searching IRU WKLQJV WKDW ZRXOG Ă&#x20AC;OO WKH YRLG LQ KLV KHDUW Entering a relationship with a young woman which started off as a Christian relationship, it soon morphed into a sexual one. He began to realize he was doing some of the same things that his dad had done: He was cheating, lying to her, and had become verbally abusive.

Go to www.myvalleystory.com to watch Koreyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s amazing story.

Pilot knew that unless things changed, it was

going to get worse. No matter what relationship he was in, his past was going to haunt him. He needed help. Pilot turned his life over to Jesus knowing that nothing else was going to bring change. What he found was not only change but hope in greater things in Christ.

Pilot

still doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know where his Dad is.

Hasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t seen him in years. He does pray for him and wants him to know Jesus.

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Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve all heard about the Star that leads the Wise Men to Jesus. â&#x20AC;&#x153;After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea, during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him.â&#x20AC;? 0DWWKHZ 1,9 â&#x20AC;&#x153;After they had heard from the king, they went on their way, and the star they had seen when it rose went ahead of them until it stopped over the place where the child was. When they swathe star, they were overjoyed.â&#x20AC;? Matthew 1,9 Valley Christian Magazine had a chance to talk with Rick Larson on his upcoming visit to the Edinburg Conference Center at Renaissance on November 17th at 5:00 pm. Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a little bit from our conversationâ&#x20AC;Ś

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About Rick Larson: Received a BA degree from University of Southern California, a Juris Doctor degree from the University of Southern California Law Center; practiced in Los Angeles; Professor at Texas A&M University; voted Larson Professor of the Year multiple times; directs the STAR project, a ministry dedicated to spreading word of Messiah worldwide; Larson has been on ABC, CBS, NBC, TBN, Fox News, PBS, & BBC; Star DVD has been the #1 Independent Documentary in the world, #1 on Amazon. For more information go to www.starofbethlehem.net

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My Entourage

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BY JOE BEAM

How to Win Back Your Husband or Wife ´<RX DFWXDOO\ ZDQW WR VWD\ PDUULHG WR WKLV JX\"¾ 6KH GLGQ¡W KHVLWDWH D PRPHQW <HV VKH wanted to save her marriage. She and her husband were 40ish, married about twenty years, with a couple of children.

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Accept the Person but Not the Actions

Never accept the sinful actions of another, but try to understand and accept

what is behind the sin. What led the person to those actions? Was it pain? Feelings of neglect or disrespect? Even if you consider it imaginary, accept what your spouse sees has his/her reality and be very open to the possibility that you played a part in causing your spouse to feel the way he/she feels. That doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t PDNH \RX WKH ´EDG JX\Âľ RU WKH RWKHU SHUVRQ WKH ´JRRG JX\ Âľ ,W VLPSO\ PDNHV each of you human beings.

Be Ready to Forgive

, UHJXODUO\ VHH SHRSOH ZKR ZRUN KDUG WR save their marriage and as soon as the spouse turns, the anger overwhelms the spouse trying to save the marriage. At that point he or she doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to forJLYH ,¡P ZDUQLQJ \RX GRQ¡W WU\ WR VDYH your marriage unless you intend to follow through by learning to forgive. That doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t make the hurt instantly go away; it makes it possible for it to go away. That also doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mean that you arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t entitled to know who, what, when and where but that is a delicate matter for each of you that weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve found often needs a third party or at least a constructive plan.

Such a plan is outlined in my article, ´+RZ WR &RQIHVV $Q $IIDLU ZLWKRXW /RVLQJ <RXU 6SRXVH ¾ ,W¡V ZULWWHQ PRUH IRU WKH straying spouse, but it will likely help you understand that this type of conversation needs the right mindset, environment and forethought (maybe even professional help).

There are steps that the other person will need to take in order for you to be able to do this to the level necessary to save your marriage long term. But in the short term, while your spouse still wants to leave, you QHHG WR Ă&#x20AC;QG D ZD\ WR IRUJLYH WKHP XVLQJ D EURDG VWURNH ,I \RXU VSRXVH IHHOV KH VKH is just going to be punished by coming back, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s very unlikely to happen.

STRATEGIES

7KH QH[W VWHSV DUH DERXW VWUDWHJ\ ,Q some ways, theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll act as your secret weapon in winning back your spouse. %XW \RX PXVW EH FRQĂ&#x20AC;GHQW WKDW WKH\¡OO work so that youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll stick with them even if you feel the urge to do the things you VKRXOGQ¡W /LNH , VDLG DW WKH VWDUW RI WKLV DUticle, if anything will work, this will.

Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t Pursue

,I \RX EHJ ZKLQH FOLQJ RU WU\ WR PDQLSulate your mate into staying, you push them away faster. *LYH WKH RWKHU SHUVRQ VSDFH WR EUHDWKH ,I you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t leave them alone, you arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t allowing him/her the opportunity to miss you. <RX SUREDEO\ QHHG WR WDNH D VWHS EDFN LQ order to create a vacuum that the other person will see and feel. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be rude or mean but donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t make them feel that they are all youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve got. Make yourself scarce.

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Do the PIES

Make yourself attractive physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Do it for you but it also will affect the other person. ,¡P QRW WHOOLQJ \RX WKDW \RX KDYH WR FRPpete with your spouseâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s lover. Simply attempt to be as attractive as you can at your stage in life. Get involved with a local gym, go for walks or bike rides, join a book club, and/or sign up for classes at church.

Not only will those things help make you more attractive physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually, but theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll give you things to do and new friends to enjoy to help you resist the urge to pursue or be clingy toward the straying spouse.

HAVE FUN

1R VHULRXVO\ ,I \RX PRSH DURXQG DQG sound like Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh, your spouse is not going to want to come back to you. Do you want to be around people who are constantly complaining, whining and negative? Do you feel attracted to those types of people? No you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t.

Let your spouse see you having fun. By WKDW , GRQ¡W PHDQ WKDW \RX JR RYHU WKH top or fake it. Go out with your friends (preferably of the same gender) and have a good time. Go see a comedy at the movie theater, go to the mall, go to concerts-just have fun. Even if your spouse is not there to see, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s possible that he/she will hear about it. Or maybe theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll call about something and youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re too busy having fun to talk (thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a good thing because it shows them that you have a life and a world that doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t revolve around them). At the very least youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll be making yourself a more fun and attractive person.

2QH Ă&#x20AC;QDO WKLQJ WR NHHS LQ PLQG RQ WKLV VWUDWegy step is that if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re having fun, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re probably doing the other things right too.

Do the Work

,W LVQ¡W HDV\ WR SXW D PDUULDJH EDFN WRJHWKHU EXW WKH /RYH3DWK ZRUNV ,I \RX do the things mentioned above to stay on the path, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll likely pull your spouse back to walking the path with you. ,W¡V LPSRUWDQW WR OLPLW \RXU SDQLF 'R \RXU best to stay cool, calm and collected so that you can focus on what you need to do to apply the strategies mentioned in this article. There are other strategies that , PLJKW EH DEOH WR SURYLGH LQ IXWXUH DUWLFOHV EXW EHFDXVH RI WKHLU FRPSOH[LW\ , donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have the space or time at the moment.

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â&#x20AC;&#x153;Give thanks in all circumstances...â&#x20AC;?

1 Thessalonians 5:18 , VXSSRVH LW¡G EH DSSURSULDWH WR WDON DERXW WKLV VXEMHFW as we near the holidays--walking out the door, already you can see little emergences of seasonal tradition: clumps of stringed lights pulled out of garages, cardboard turkeys holding welcome signs, greeting cards, television specials, the works. All a subtle crescendo in preparation of gorging on your favorite dish, seeing the relatives, even going out of town for a nice weekend if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re lucky.

For me, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the annual dinner at the grandparentsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;, FDWFKLQJ XS ZLWK WKH FRXVLQV , KDYHQ¡W VHHQ LQ PRQWKV , donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t remember there ever being a Thanksgiving where ZH VWUD\HG IURP WKLV FXVWRP (YHU\ \HDU ZH Ă&#x20AC;QG RXUVHOYHV holding hands in a circle around the kitchen, surrounding a succulent lineup of food, while my grandpa or another elected relative says grace. Meanwhile we restless kids never cease to exchange funny looks while everyoneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s eyes are closed, squeezing each otherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hands a little too hard, tapping feet to the agonizingly slow rhythm of the prayer in a pressurized silence, taunted with the promise of turkey and casserole. , NQRZ ,W¡V SUHWW\ EDG RI XV $V LOO PDQQHUHG DV LW PD\ have been, our little discreet tradition continued year after year without a second thought. (Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll deny it, of course.) %XW DV IDU DV EHLQJ JUDWHIXO DQG , PHDQ *5$7()8/ IRU WKLQJV , GLGQ¡W WUXO\ XQGHUVWDQG WKH IHHOLQJ XQWLO WKH VXPPHU of 2011. My parents--reluctantly--had let me join a drum corps, which in a nutshell consisted of an entire summer spent touring parts of the U.S. We practiced in the sun all day, perfecting a 10-15 minute show, competing with the constantly evolving product in different states. My rations: water jug, some clothes, a box of crackers, and a whole lot of sunscreen.

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Even a year later, as tan lines and seasons faded, those principles had a nifty way of keeping true to everyday OLIH :KHQ \RX KHDU WKH WHUP ´JLYH WKDQNVÂľ LW LV QRW VLPply plucking the word out of your mouth and handing it to *RG REOLJDWHG ,W¡V DQ HYHUODVWLQJ ZHOOVSULQJ RI EXEEOLQJ total gratitude. Letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not forget that God gave us this life, and every little blessing that weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve grown callous to from our routine indulgences.

This year, try something different. Break free by opening your eyes to the splendor of your circumstance. Swathe yourself in the bliss of the little things. Throw your gaze up at the sky in gratitude, and dare yourself to shout in thankfulness.

Then, maybe, you can get another serving of casserole.

JACOB RAMON IS A 16-YEAR-OLD STUDENT AT S HARYLAND HIGH SCHOOL. HE IS MEMBER OF THE MAKING A CONNECTION GROUP AT SHARYLAND HIGH SCHOOL.

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I Love Thanksgiving!

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Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good His love endures foreverâ&#x20AC;Ś

, XVH WR WU\ WR FRRN WKH PHDO EXW OHW¡V MXVW say God passed me over when handing RXW WKH ´FRRNLQJÂľ JHQH JLIW ,¡YH EXUQW turkeys, undercooked turkeys and even dropped turkeys-thank goodness for the VHFRQG UXOH $QG ZKHQ LW ZDV DOO RYHU there would be the cleaningâ&#x20AC;Śever notice that the men suddenly disappear WR UHFOLQHUV RU DUH RXW WKH GRRU IRU JROI ,W ZDVQ¡W IXQ DQG , ZRXOG EH H[KDXVWHG IRU GD\V , ZRXOG EH WKDQNIXO WKDW LW ZDV RYHU , ZRXOG LGHQWLI\ ZLWK 0DUWKD IURP WKH VWRry of Martha and Mary. Martha is busy trying to prepare a meal and has opened her home to Jesus and his disciples. She is obviously overwhelmed and noticed Mary, her sister, sitting down at Jesus feet.

But Martha was distracted by her many tasks; so she came to him and asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Lord donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!â&#x20AC;? Luke 10:40 , ZRXOG¡YH VDLG WKH VDPH WKLQJ ,Q IDFW ZKHQ , UHDG -HVXV¡ UHVSRQVH WKH Ă&#x20AC;UVW WKLQJ WKDW FDPH WR P\ PLQG ZDV ´ZKDW" 0DUWKD LV VHUYLQJ DQG VKH QHHGV KHOS 0DU\ JHW XS DQG KHOS \RXU VLVWHU¾ 'R \RX UHcall His response?

But the Lord answered her, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.â&#x20AC;? Luke 10:41-42 $ IHZ \HDUV DJR , PDGH D GHFLVLRQ , ZDV not going to stress over this meal. Trust PH ZKHQ , VD\ P\ IDPLO\ LV WKDQNIXO WKDW , KDYH JLYHQ XS FRRNLQJ 1RZ , HLWKHU preorder the whole meal or we go somewhere to eat. Thanksgiving shouldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be about the meal and all the distractions WKDW FRPH ZLWK LW ,W VKRXOG EH DERXW JLYing thanks to our God for all our blessings and trials.

My family has a better time and we enjoy each otherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s company.

,W¡V D JLYHQ WKDW PRVW RI XV DUH WKDQNIXO IRU our families, our health and blessings. But we need to go deeper. There are reasons to be thankful even when we are faced with trials. Did you know that for every WULDO ZH IDFH *RG LV UHĂ&#x20AC;QLQJ XV" <RXU character and faith is being tested and we will come out stronger and probably more thankful when things turn around.

Look around you and change your perspective. Do you have a job? Be thankful because some donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t. Do you have shelter and clothes? Not everyone is so lucky.

Are you feeling depressed? Give thanks because there is a God that is waiting for you with open arms who wants to carry your burdens.

Are your kids out of control? Be thankful that they are alive and you have a daily chance to impact them. There are many parents who wish they had that opportunity. ,V \RXU PDUULDJH VWUXJJOLQJ" %H WKDQNIXO because God promises that he will never forsake you and through Him restoration is possible . $UH \RX VLQJOH RU ORQHO\" <RX KDYH WKH RSportunity to be committed to God and his SXUSRVH IRU \RXU OLIH ZKDW D EOHVVLQJ ,V VRPHRQH FXUVLQJ \RX" %H WKDQNIXO WKDW God is protecting you and teaching you appreciation for true friends in your life. ,V \RXU KHDOWK IDLOLQJ" *RG VD\V E\ KLV VWULSHV ZH DUH KHDOHG Are you feeling overwhelmed with commitments of family and work? He gives you grace and endurance to keep going. Be thankful for the many promises God has made and that you can rest assured that he does not lie.

Money is tight and bills seem never endLQJ" <RX DUH OHDUQLQJ VWHZDUGVKLS DQG have physical ability to overcome it.

When was the last time you thanked God for the simple things? Air we breathe, waking up to a new day, ability to attend church services, eyes to see and ears to hear the Word of God. 3HUVRQDOO\ , KDYH PDQ\ reasons to be thankful and am a testimony that

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'HVSLWH DOO WKH FXWV LQ UHLPEXUVHPHQW , am doing well. His promise to provide for all my needs has been more evident this year than in past.

3. My staff makes it a joy to come to work. God brought peace to my workplace. There have been times in past WKDW , WKRXJKW LPSRVVLEOH , DP SK\VLFDOO\ VWURQJHU WKDQ HYHU EHcause He promised that all things are possible.

5. My children are attending a Christian school and learning to apply biblical principles to all areas of academics. :KDW D SULYLOHJH DQG EOHVVLQJ 6. God has shown me this year the importance of trustworthy friends.

7. VCM-whether opinions are good or EDG RQ DUWLFOHV , DP EOHVVHG WKDW , KDYH this opportunity to not only share but DOVR OHDUQ IURP RWKHUV >DQG WKDW \RX WKH reader have taken the time to read my DUWLFOHV@ 8. Marriage is tough but here we are 20 \UV ODWHU +H¡V VWLOO UHĂ&#x20AC;QLQJ XV So my advice is to choose to be like Mary and stop being overwhelmed and disWUDFWHG OLNH 0DUWKD ,I \RX ORYH WR FRRN and you are great at it and itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not stressIXO WKDQ GR LW %XW LI \RX DUH QRW DQG \RX Ă&#x20AC;QG \RXUVHOI IHHOLQJ RYHUZKHOPHG DQG GLVWUDFWHG LWV RN WR VLW DQG EH VWLOO ,W¡V not about the meal. Sit at Jesus feet and enjoy the moment and focus on the one thing that matters most on Thanksgiving. $ KHDUW RI JUDWLWXGH 1Thessalonians5:18 â&#x20AC;Śgive thanks in all circumstances for this is Gods will for you in Jesus Christ

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Father As a girl grows up, men will come in and out of her life, but the one man who will always be there is her father. A father plays a vital role in his daughter’s journey to adulthood, and below are seven things that can help a father give her his best.

1. She needs you to be involved.

3. She needs you to support her.

A daughter needs her father to be actively interested in her life. “Actively interested” does not refer to the second-long conversation that sometimes happens between a father and daughter when he asks how her day went and she replies with one word. A father should participate in his daughter’s hobbies and activities by displaying interest. For example, if she is interested in collecting coins, take her to coin shows. Use the Internet to learn about rare coins and talk about them. Is your daughter talented in the any sports, such as volleyball? Whether she wants to play or just enjoys watching the games, become an enthusiastic fan and supporter! Show your daughter that you are interested in her life by learning more about it and trying to become a part of it.

Even though a father may not always agree with his daughter, she needs to know you will support her. When a father fully and wholeheartedly supports his daughter, she will develop strong self-esteem and a positive self-image. This doesn’t mean that you always have to agree with her, but show her that while you might not agree with a choice she is making, you will always believe in her as a person and KDYH FRQÀGHQFH LQ KHU DELOLWLHV

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7KH ÀUVW UHODWLRQVKLS D GDXJKWHU H[SHULences is the one between her mother and father. If her father disrespects his wife with physical or emotional abuse, a daughter might come to believe that is the expected relationship with a husband. However, a father that displays physical affection, respect, and a true partnership with his wife provides an incredible example that his daughter will want to mirror in her own life.

6. She needs a strong spiritual leader.

A father should be the spiritual head of a household and should take charge of his children’s religious education. Pray with your daughter! Don’t be shy about bringing the Lord into your conversations with her.

7. She needs a positive role model.

Many daughters today lack a positive male role model in their life. A father is WKH ÀUVW PDQ LQ D JLUO·V OLIH WKDW VKH ZLOO LQ4. She needs to trust you as a con- timately know. Her father sets the stanÀGDQWH dard for all other men in her life, and a When your daughter does come to you positive role model will help her choose a and discusses personal issues and prob- good husband in the future. Take a molems, she needs to know that you will treat PHQW IRU VRPH VHOI UHÁHFWLRQ $UH WKHUH WKHP ZLWK UHVSHFW DQG FRQÀGHQFH 7KH\ any habits you need to break? Are there shouldn’t become dinner-table conversa- some areas of your own life that could use tion with the rest of the family. a “spiritual overhaul” and prayer? When your daughter sees that you are willing to 5. She needs your unconditional examine your own life and make changes when necessary, you provide the best exlove.

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WOW!!! What a great “Fields of Faith” event we just had across our South Texas Area. Approximately 15,000 were in attendance, and we saw thousands of students, teachers, coaches, and community members whose lives were touched and changed forever. One of the attributes that makes the Fellowship of Christian Athletes so powerful and so beautiful is all of the many volunteers who pull together to minister through FCA. Fields of Faith a good reminder that we should all take some time to love on those who voluntarily give of their time and resources in order to help someone else succeed. Philippians 2:3-4 “Do nothing out of rivalry or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.” THANK YOU FCA VOLUNTEERS!!! To God be the Glory. Jesus Christ is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. He is worthy!!! It is a joy serving alongside each of you.

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Tedashii â&#x20AC;&#x153;I wanted to do college ministryâ&#x20AC;Śbeing a part of Christian Hip Hop was never the plan,â&#x20AC;? he reveals.

While Tedashiiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s robust stature and delivery on the mic catch the attention of most, his gentle spirit hints at an even deeper story behind the man and the music. %RUQ LQ (DVW 7H[DV 7HGDVKLL ´7'RWÂľ $QGHUVRQ ZDV UDLVHG WR be very family-oriented, respectful and appreciative, but HPEUDFLQJ WKH ODWWHU ZDV RIWHQ GLIĂ&#x20AC;FXOW LQ OLJKW RI WKH HFRnomic conditions his family faced. Television became an HVFDSH IRU KLP DV KH DGPLWV WR ZDQWLQJ D GLIIHUHQW OLIH ´, UHDOO\ ZDQWHG WR JHW DZD\ Âľ 7HGDVKLL UHFDOOV +H HQYLHG the Huxtable lifestyle and eloquence and desired the urbanized southern version, topped off with a candy-painted car on 26â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s.

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Tedashii was given a wake-up call in college after being confronted by a student who overheard him using profanLW\ ´+H WROG PH WKDW , ZDV D VLQQHU DQG EDVLFDOO\ VKDUHG WKH *RVSHO ZLWK PH WKDW GD\ ¾ 6RPH WLPH ODWHU DIWHU JRing to a Christian event on campus and seeing hundreds of urban students authentically worship God, he received Jesus and found new life in Christ instead of Hollywood.

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His newfound family in Christ encouraged him to use his rapping skills, honed since being challenged to freestyle in KLJK VFKRRO WR JORULI\ *RG $QG ZKLOH KLV Ă&#x20AC;UVW DWWHPSW WR GR VR ZDVQ¡W ZHOO UHFHLYHG KH ZDV UHFRJQL]HG DV ´GLIIHUHQWÂľ E\ KLV SHHUV DJDLQ EXW QRZ LW ZDV EHFDXVH RI KLV IDLWK After being introduced to Lecrae, rooming with both him and Sho Baraka and later being featured on several tracks from Real Talkand the 116 Clique Compilation, Tedashii was H[KRUWHG WR FRPPLW WR PLQLVWU\ WKURXJK PXVLF ´, ZDQWHG to do college ministryâ&#x20AC;Śbeing a part of Christian Hip Hop ZDV QHYHU WKH SODQ Âľ KH UHYHDOV %XW ZLWK HQFRXUDJHPHQW from his peers, along with releasing his debut album Kingdom People and recognizing his ability to reach people with his raw, southern style, he has since needed no motivation to continue spitting the Gospel. :LWK ,GHQWLW\ &ULVLV 7HGDVKLLL VKDUHG KLV SDVW LGHQWLW\ VWUXJgles, the fountain of his new identity, and challenged lisWHQHUV WR Ă&#x20AC;QG WKHLUV LQ &KULVW DORQH +LV VRSKRPRUH DOEXP charted No. 2 on the Gospel Billboard chart and No. 9 on the Christian Billboard chart, solidifying the appeal of a unique artist who is unashamedly Christian and soulfully Hip Hop. Since his last release, Tedashii has blazed several tracks as a feature artist, and is gearing up to release his third album this spring. He has also been serving at The Village Church in Denton, TX and raising his son with his lovely wife.

Far from his childhood dreams, if he had things his way, being known as someone who lived and even died for Christ would be the perfect ending to his life story.

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How Should Grace Christians Vote?

By Max Lucado

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Is God a Republican or a Democrat?

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Tony Evans has written a small ERRN WKDW GLJV LQWR VRPH %LEOLFDO truth get you thinking about how you should vote.

This may surprise some people because, to some, there is no question how Christians should vote.

Perhaps I agree with Tony Evans when he says the following: â&#x20AC;&#x153;On a number of issues, the Democrats represent the values of the kingdom of God. And then on a number of other issues, the Democrats are antithetical to Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s kingdom laws.

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Grace.

We talk as though we understand the term. The bank gives us a grace period.

The seedy politician falls fromgrace. Musicians speak of a grace note. We describe an actress as gracious, a dancer as graceful. We use the word for hospitals, baby girls, kings, and premeal prayers.

We talk as though we know what grace means.

But do we really understand it? Have we settled for wimpy JUDFH" ,W SROLWHO\ RFFXSLHV D SKUDVH LQ D K\PQ Ă&#x20AC;WV QLFHO\ RQ a church sign. Never causes trouble or demands a response.

When asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Do you believe in grace?â&#x20AC;? who could say no?

Max Lucado asks a deeper question: Have you been changed by grace? Shaped by grace? Strengthened by grace? Emboldened by grace? Softened by grace? Snatched by the nape of your neck and shaken to your senses by grace?

Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s grace has a drenching about it. A wildness about it.

A white-water, riptide, turn-you-upside-downness about it. Grace comes after you. It rewires you. From insecure to God secure. From regret riddled to better-because-of-it. From DIUDLG WR GLH WR UHDG\ WR Ă \

Grace is the voice that calls us to change and then gives us the power to pull it off.

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Evans says, â&#x20AC;&#x153;As a Christian, it is your job to promote Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s kingdom values and stand in the divide without giving full allegiance to any one party.â&#x20AC;? Whether you agree or not with that statement, consider reading this book.

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Christine Caine offers life-transforming insights about how not only to overcome the challenges, wrong turns, and often painful circumstances we all experience, but also to actually grow from those experiences and be equipped and empowered to help others. Using her own dramatic life story, Caine shows how God rescued her from a life where she was unnamed, unwanted, and unTXDOLĂ&#x20AC;HG 6KH WHOOV KRZ VKH RYHUFDPH DEXVH DEDQGRQPHQW IHDUV and other challenges to go on a mission of adventure, fueled by IDLWK DQG Ă&#x20AC;OOHG ZLWK ORYH DQG FRXUDJH +HU SHUVRQDO VWRULHV LQVSLUH readers to hear their name called, just as Christine heard her own--â&#x20AC;&#x153;You are beloved. You are the hope. You are chosenâ&#x20AC;?---to go into a dark and troubled world, knowing each of us possess all it takes to bring hope, create change, and live completely for Christ. Part inspirational tale, part manifesto to stir readers to lives of adventure, Undaunted shows the way with spiritual wisdom and insight.

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By Dave Ramsey

)RU PRUH Ă&#x20AC;QDQFLDO KHOS SOHDVH YLVLW www.daveramsey.com Dave Ramsey is a personal money-management expert and extremely popular national radio personality.

His three New York Times best-selling booksâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; Financial Peace, More Than Enough and The Total Money Makeoverâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;have sold more than 6 million copies combined. His latest book, EntreLeadership: 20 Years of Practical Business Wisdom from the Trenches, releases in September 2011.

Handling the Severance Dear Dave, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m an accountant, and my company is experiencing layoffs. I just learned that Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll be losing my job in four weeks. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll receive a severance check, but I have no other savings set aside. Should I use some of the severance to pay off debt, or hold on to that money as long as I can?...Frank Dear Frank, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d hang on to that money and pile up as much other cash as I possibly could. Right now, the most important worries are food, lights, water and shelter. Debt is not on the list. We need to take care of \RXU EDVLF VXUYLYDO QHHGV Ă&#x20AC;UVW DQG PDNH WKDW PRQH\ VWUHWFK DV IDU as it will go.

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Some historians may argue that among the greatest restoration stories of mankind are the European Renaissance or perhaps the post-World War II era.

The cultural movement known as the European Renaissance roughly took place during the 14th through 17th centuries. This moment in history saw the face of Europe evolve with respect to its arts, architecture and long held science tenets. It also saw a rediscovery of the Greco-Roman classical knowledge and a rebirth of the study of Latin and vernacular languages. It served as a bridge between the Middle Ages and the Modern Era. Closer to home, America saw its restoration take place in the years that followed World War II. During this era, couples who could not afford families during the Great Depression made up for lost time.

The mood in America suddenly became optimistic. At that time, the unemployment rate of the Great Depression dropped dramatically and the economy improved substantially. The G.I. Bill empowered many honorDEOH VHUYLFH PHPEHUV WR ÂżQLVK KLJK VFKRRO DQG DWWHQG FROOHJH $V WKHLU VNLOOV ZHUH LPSURYHG VR ZDV WKH Âżnancial well-being of their families.

But, without a doubt the greatest restoration that can take place is when a person does as Romans 10:9 instructs us to do. Romans 10:9 says: â&#x20AC;&#x153;If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.â&#x20AC;? The message is simple: invite Christ into your heart and make him your personal Lord and Savior. At that time, your restoration will be complete.

Next He will do as Philippians 1:6 says, â&#x20AC;&#x153;And I am certain that God, who began the good work within \RX ZLOO FRQWLQXH KLV ZRUN XQWLO LW LV ÂżQDOO\ ÂżQLVKHG RQ the day when Christ Jesus returns.â&#x20AC;? As you seek and strive to honor God with your life, He will reward you by allowing you to take on His characteristics. Hosea 14:4 says, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I will bring my people back to me. I will love them with all my heart; No longer am I angry with them.â&#x20AC;? I pray that you will invite Christ into your heart and allow Him to restore you!

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