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In Search of Faithful Companions

by Jerrell Jobe

“I will search for faithful people to be my companions, that they may dwell with me.”

-Psalm 101:6

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he Psalmist says something very remarkable in verse six. He says, “I will search for faithful people to be my companions.”

A “companion” is a friend. Often, we view the discovery of friends in kind of a happen-stance manner. Indeed, friendships frequently emerge out of such seemingly spontaneous settings and meetings.

You meet someone. There’s some sort of chemistry or similar common interest and affinity. Then, perhaps over time, a friendship develops.

But, the Psalmist doesn’t seem to be speaking of such scenarios here. He says, “I will search.” He’s intentionally on the look out. For what? A companion. For the Psalmist, he’s not merely looking for a friend, as in an acquaintance. A companion is something much deeper. The word “companion” was also used to describe “pillars that would provide support at an entrance or doorway of a building.”

A companion is a person we can live life with. Not just anyone will suffice, the Psalmist says that he’s looking for those who are “faithful.”

The Psalmist may have many acquaintances, but he recognizes that there are those who transcend beyond surface fa-

JERRELL & CHARISSA JOBE

Jerrell is a teaching pastor at Palm Valley Church in Mission.

He is married to Charissa and has three children : Micah (10), Naylah (8),and Avi (6).

miliarity into the realm of companionship.

A companion is one who has access and the ability to speak into our lives, to know us deeply, and to be known by us. They have permission to ask us about the tone we use with our kids when we’re frustrated. They are close enough to discern the times we’re spending more time at the office than is healthy for our family. A companion is like a guardrail. At times, they are God’s instrument for keeping us on the road and out of the ditch. But a companion is more than that.

A faithful companion is someone who helps us pay attention to what God is doing in our life. This is significant! They help us pay attention to what God is doing in our life. In other words, they know not only our struggles, but our strengths as well. They are someone that we can share things like, “this is what God showed me in Scripture this morning… This morning, while I was praying, I sensed God saying…”

A companion is someone who knows not only our hopes and dreams, but also the hidden fears that often keep us from pursuing them. A companion reminds us of the folly of such fears and there mere companionship infuses encouragement into our souls.

The Psalmist knows that a healthy soul is often the byproduct of having with-life companions. Our lives are shaped by those we “dwell” with and who are allowed speak into our lives and influence us.

We all have friends…

But, how many are faithful companions? How many faithful companions do you have currently? People who know who you are? Someone who knows your dreams, your fears, your frustrations and so forth?

What would it look like for you to “search for faithful people” in your life?

How many people consider you one of their faithful companions…?

“A friend is someone who asks how you are doing and then waits around long enough for you to answer.” Henri Nouwen How many people do you demonstrate this quality to…? How many people ask you “how you are doing,” and then wait around for the answer…?

We all need faithful companions! May we develop the intentionality to “search,” and, a keen “eye” to see those who God is putting in our path to journey with...

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Tom Weaver

You Can’t Out Sin God’s Grace

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he truth of the matter is that in my Christian life, I’m a raging sinner. I’m good at it. I excel at it. You might say I’m varsity. You see, the truth is that Christians don’t stop sinning, they just stop getting penalized for it. I understand we have to deal with the aftermath of stupid and sinful decisions, scripture is clear on that. We will reap what we sow: Don’t be deceived: God is not mocked.

For whatever a man sows he will also reap. Galatians 6:7 HSCB I’m talking about having to pay for it.

Eternally. Jesus has done that for me on the cross. He payed for my sin with His life so I don’t have to. So if this is the case why do we Christians continue to hide the fact that sin gets the best of us a lot? Here is the conversation that is played out in Self Righteous Church across America: person A: How are you doing? (hurting deeply, has issues with fear) person B: Great! (devastated with a porn addiction) person A: So how can I pray for you? (please notice I’m hurting..) person B: Pray for my Aunt. She’s sick.

(I can’t tell you about my porn issue.

It’s obvious you don’t struggle)

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person A: Okay. (wow, He’s doing awesome. I’ll bet he never struggles with fear..) person B: How can I pray for you?

What are you struggling with?

blood for you, being hung on a cross for you, is. Jesus work is sufficient. It’s enough.

So you can stop covering up now. You can share. You can get help. Your issues are actually where Jesus works the best.

person A: Pray for my family’s vacation. That it might be a good one.

Your weaknesses are where He is going to show His strength (2nd Cor 12:9). This means you can drop the pretentious, “I’m ok, pray for my cat” nonsense and share what is really hurting you, dare I say killing you. Why?

(I can’t tell the truth, he’ll think I’m a horrible person)

CAUSE JESUS IS GOING TO SHOW HOW STRONG HE IS IN YOUR WEAKNESS!!!

person B: okay.

Grace.

(wow, he doesn’t have any issues at all. Thank goodness I didn’t tell him the truth)

Religions says, Be good enough and Jesus loves you.

(wish I could talk about this struggle I’m having..)

person A: See you later! (wish I was perfect like him) person B: Have a good one! (wish I had no issues like that dude) This resemble anyone you know? Maybe you. Your sins may be different, but the process is the same.

Here is the deal with GRACE. Jesus says that it is sufficient for you. Jesus means that your goodness, your awesomeness, your ability to not say bad words, do bad things, go to bad places are not sufficient.

That His being murdered for you, shedding

Jesus says, I love you completely and forgive you. You are free now to love me.

Religion says, don’t share your ugliness, make everyone think you are perfect Jesus says, You can share your ugliness, because I am perfect.

Today, walk in the truth that Jesus is sufficient for you. Jesus is strong in your weakness.

Jesus frees you up to respond in righteousness found in Him, and not your works.

No matter how awesome you are at sinning, your actions are not greater than God’s grace.

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This is a phrase have heard often and from numerous people when concerning myself. You see daily I battle fear. Fear leads to worry& anxiety and is ultimately connected to loss of control-whether it’s regarding a situation, relationships or my personal tribulations. I need to feel in control. What’s been the hardest for me is realizing I am not and never will be.

“You are your worst enemy”. I

My childhood was chaotic and rarely did I ever feel a sense of peace. There was always an undercurrent of uneasiness and insecurity. For those parents who believe that divorce will not affect your child in the long-run let me stand here and set you straight. It does!

Divorce teaches a child that love is conditional and that promises can be broken. When parents criticize each other in front of their kids it brings on shame and insecurity-why? Well a child is a by-product of each parent. A child has no control over parent’s relationships or harmony in home. Nobody asks the child where they want to spend vacations or weekends. Achieving adulthood gives the fallacy that they now have the ability to control their own lives.

There are biblical reasons for divorce and it may be merited and in the best interest of the family especially if abuse is an issue but there will still be long-term issues for your child. My brother and I have lived it and I see it every day in my office.

So my control issues started in childhood but became magnified in adulthood. I worry about everything. At times it has consumed me and ultimately affected my health.

If my husband didn’t come home on time I would worry that he was in a car accident. My kids would become ill and I worried they had some horrible disease-like the ones I had seen during my medical training.

I worry I’m scarring my children or that they will grow up to resent me. I worry that one day my practice will fail or that employees will quit. I worry that I will die and my kids won’t remember me.

I worry when I run that I won’t be able to finish the mileage, or that I will get injured again. I worry that my friends will one day deem me unworthy. I worry when my friends are having issues of their own and I can’t fix or help them.

I suffer from chronic insomnia because guess what? I worry when I try to fall asleep-it never stops.

How do I combat this? Well unsuccessfully I have tried to control every situation. I constantly check up on my husband if I see an accident on road. I rarely let my kids out of my sight with the exception of school. I text my friends a lot to check up on them

and will try to “fix” their worries. It’s an endless battle of my trying to control everything around me because of my fears.

So how could someone like me still help someone else overcome these issues? Trust me I have asked God the same thing. I would like to share some coping mechanisms that help me when I’m feeling challenged.

Scripture and daily devotionals are essential for me. I’m going to direct you to the very scriptures that I use to help me with this daily battle.

Philippians 4:6-7-Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Deuteronomy 31:8 the Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.

Matthew 18:20 For where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them.

Proverbs 3:24 When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet Isaiah 53:5 But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities, the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by His wounds we are healed.

These scriptures remind me that the first and only place I can experience peace is through Christ. Even if my worst fears were to come true I have promises that He will not leave me and that I should always give thanks while transferring worries to God. When I’m restless I remember that whatever is preoccupying my mind needs to be handed over so that my sleep will be “sweet”.

The worry for health issues and healing whether it is mine, my children or friends has already been taken care of at Calvary.

This may be extreme for some but I also have stopped watching television news and numerous programs. If I’m afraid of car accidents or kids being kidnapped or abused why am I going to sit and watch a show that reinforces my fear? I rarely hear any good news on TV. It serves no purpose for me to watch the trial of a predator. Why watch realities show that promote infidelity, divorce and unrealistic expectations?

We are supposed to be vigilant about what we allow into our minds because it can become part of us. John 10:10 states the “thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy” where as God has come to give us life and to have it to “the full”. What a better tactic to keep you from Gods peace than to fill your mind with worries.

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by Theresa Vallardes

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Music has always had a therapeutic effect on me so I have incorporated into my “anxiety plan”. There is one song in particular I play when I feel overwhelmed or consumed with anxiety and fear and that is “Control” by JJ Heller. I encourage you listen to it. She beautifully speaks of the fight that can’t be won-control.

Perfection has a price but I cannot afford to live that life It always ends the same; a fight I never win. Oh control its time to let you go. I’m letting go of the illusion I’m letting go of the confusion I can’t carry it another step I close my eyes and take a breath I’m letting go, letting go. There were scars before my scars Love written on the hands that hung the stars Hope living in the blood that was spilled for me. Oh, control its time to let you go…..

I will stop what I’m doing and either listen to the song or sit and sing to myself “silently” by my son’s request. It reminds me that Jesus when he died for me also took the burden of my worries but I have to consciously decide to hand it over-release control.

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Developing a mantra can be useful. If I am running and my mind is racing I will scream “STOP” and I physically stop, regroup and restart. Running started out as a way to release stress so it’s insane to turn it into another moment to obsess about worries.

One of the most important things I’ve adopted is I’m no longer sharing my worries or burdening others with my anxiety. If I do disclose to someone it is only so that we can agree in prayer to release my fears. If you vent to anyone that will listen you will end up with bigger worries or worse someone that backs up your unfounded concerns.

Realizing that I am succumbing to worry and fear is a good first step to winning the battle. The definitions of control, fear and anxiety state to command, have power or dominion over experiencing distressing emotions whether it is real or imagined. The antonyms of these three words are to unleash or loosen power, to feel calm, serene and have courage, tranquility and certainty.

So what I’m learning is that I need to relinquish my fears and anxieties by handing them over to God. Essentially I’m losing my perceived sense of control. I am a work in progress. It’s still a daily battle that one day I know I will overcome but for now…..

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Greg Laurie is Senior Pastor of Harvest Christian Fellowship in Riverside, Calif. He began his pastoral ministry at 19 by leading a Bible study of 30 people. Since then, God has transformed the small group into a church of 15,000 plus, one of the largest churches in America.

For more, visit www.greglaurie.com.

Used by permission from Harvest Ministries with Greg Laurie, PO Box 4000 Riverside, CA 92514

Start with Praise — Greg Laurie

that it is possible to say your prayers but not be praying?

We can run through our ritualized requests and not actually pray. Jesus said to the scribes and Pharisees, “Hypocrites!

Well did Isaiah prophesy about you, saying: ‘These people draw near to Me with their mouth, and honor Me with their lips, but their heart is far from Me’ “ (Matthew 15:7–8). Not all prayers are offered to God.

Did you know

You can sing praise songs and send up prayers to God but have no thought of Him. Do you know why? Because you are thinking about you. Or, you are thinking about someone else and the way they look or thinking about how good you may look.

Jesus told the story of a Pharisee who went to the temple to pray and “prayed thus with himself” (Luke 18:11). That Pharisee’s prayer didn’t go any higher than the ceiling because for him, it was all about putting on a show. As a result, his prayer wasn’t heard by God. Yes, our prayers need to be offered to God. It is very important for us to remember that we are talking to God Almighty. Therefore, it’s a good idea to slow down and contemplate the awesomeness of God. When I do this, my goal is to get my will in alignment with His. Prayer is not getting my will in heaven; it is getting God’s will on earth. And when you know God and spend time in com-

munion with Him, you will know what God wants.

It is okay to bring your needs before the Lord. But start with praise and adoration and get a sense of the awesomeness of God. The more you realize how great God is, the smaller your problems will become in His presence.

Therefore the Lord said: “Inasmuch as these people draw near with their mouths and honor Me with their lips, but have removed their hearts far from Me, and their fear toward Me is taught by the commandment of men.”

— Isaiah 29:13 TODAY’S BIBLE READING: Ezekiel 47-48. Luke 2 Copyright © 2013 by Harvest Ministries. All rights reserved.

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I Had the Perfect

Lysa TerKeurst is a New York Times best selling author and speaker who helps everyday women live an adventure of faith through following Jesus Christ. As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa has lead thousands over the past 15 years to help make their walk with God an invigorating journey. In the midst of her ministry, though, Lysa is a real, everyday woman who simply seeks to glorify God through her life and family.

Comeback

By Lysa Terkeurst

“Only let us live up to what we have already attained” Philippians 3:16 (NIV)

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ast year, I was on a plane with two of my friends. We were talking in normal conversational tones about the release of my book, Unglued, when suddenly the couple in the next row up came unglued. On us. Joy.

And most of the time, I am too. But in this moment I didn’t want to apply a single bit of my own advice I’d just written about in Unglued. I won’t tell you what I wanted to say, but I can assure you it didn’t involve being kind or gentle.

The man turned around and said, “Can you guys just QUIET DOWN already?”

This is the exact point where I had to make a choice.

It wasn’t a gentle suggestion. It was a harsh command.

A little stunned, we simply replied, “Sure.”

And we did our best to finish our conversation in a volume slightly above a whisper. But that wasn’t working for this man or his wife who kept turning around to give us “the look.”

Finally, in as kind a voice as I could muster up, I tried to explain the situation, “Sir, we are really trying to be as quiet as possible, but I’ve recently experienced trauma to my ear which caused hearing loss. While I want to respect your wishes, I’m having such a hard time hearing my friends …”

Before I could finish my sentence, his wife whipped her head around and snapped, “Well, we don’t have hearing loss and your constant talking has given me a migraine. So just HUSH, okay?”

A choice of whom I wanted to partner with in this situation … God or Satan.

If I’d chosen the route of anger, a harsh comeback and retaliation, I would have basically stepped into Satan’s camp and caused conflict escalation. If, however, I’d chosen the route of gentleness and grace, I would be partnering with God and would continue to make progress with my raw emotions. Like Philippians 3:16 reminds me, “Only let us live up to what we have already attained.”

On my journey of improving my reactions, I have already attained more gentleness, more grace, more peace. Why would I want to trade all that for a few minutes of retaliating words? Words that will only leave me with a big ol’ pile of regret.

Have you ever wanted to put your Christianity on a shelf and be as mean to someone as they are being to you?

Now I can’t promise I’ve progressed to the point where my initial thoughts about this couple were nice. They weren’t. But, I chose to consider the reality that people who are that on edge must have a lot of stored up misery. Their reaction probably had a lot less to do with me and a lot more to do with another situation in their lives.

Maybe not, because you are nice.

My job wasn’t to fix them or set them

My heart raced. My face turned red.

And I thought of the perfect comeback to say.

straight or prove how wrong they were acting.

My job in that moment was to keep everything in perspective. And simply give a gentle answer that could turn away their wrath.

While it felt hugely offensive when it was happening, it wasn’t huge. This wasn’t some sort of major injustice in my life. This was just a minor inconvenience. Why would I want to trade the peace of partnering with God for a few cheap moments of putting someone else in their place?

It’s all about perspective.

Because in all honesty, if this was the worst thing that happened to me that day, it was still a pretty good day!

Dear Lord, You are so good and faithful. Thank You for helping me keep things in perspective so I can work on having better reactions that honor You. In Jesus’ Name, amen.

Related gling to midst of out Lysa

Resources: If you’re strugmake wise decisions in the your raw emotions, check TerKeurst’s book Unglued.

Reflect and Respond: Think about the last time you reacted out of anger, frustration, bitterness, etc.

Assess how you felt in that moment and what mindset you need the next time a conflict arises.

Remember to ask yourself — will I partner with Satan or God with the reaction I’m about to have?

Power Verse: Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (NIV)

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was fearful to find out that the king wanted to see him. At this point he was probably thinking - after all these years of hiding I have been found and I will surely perish and my son will suffer as I did while growing up without a father.

When he arrived at the palace and was presented before King David, he fell on his face and prostrated himself. Expecting the worst he begged for his life: “What is your servant, that you should regard a dead dog like me?” he cried (2 Samuel 9:8).

I can picture David smiling at him and asking his servants to help him to his feet.

David’s only desire was to show mercy and kindness to Jonathan’s surviving family. He said “I will give return to you the properties that belonged to your grandfather and as of today and forever you shall eat at my table” and he did...

The M ephibosheth

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By Milton Gonzalez

once heard a Christian leadership coach say that there is one solid difference between successful and unsuccessful people...they think differently.

If you see yourself as a victim well then brace yourself and prepare to suffer. If you envision your family barely getting by then you will never experience the abundant life that God has designed for you. You will never get that promotion you have longed for if all you see in the mirror is a loser.

The words that have been spoken over your life in the past and in the present have the potential to leave an indelible imprint in your mind. It is somewhat of a mental tattoo that has been etched into the very depths of your frontal lobe. Some people are tattooed for life unless of course they are able to see themselves as God sees them and not how others do.

God sees you as His child, justified and redeemed, accepted, holy and righteous.

There is a story in 2 Samuel about a child named Mephibosheth. He was the son of Jonathan and the grandson of King Saul.

At 5 years of age he lived an easy and carefree life. He lived inside the palace, while servants doted on him and satisfied his every whim. One day his grandfather and father set out to fight the Philistines but end up perishing on the battlefield.

In eastern dynasties, it was the custom that when a new king took over, the previous king’s family was completely annihilated so as to prevent any possible revolt. When word reached the palace that Saul and Jonathan were both dead, a scene of utter terror set in.

In a blink of an eye life would forever change for the young prince. As panic disseminated throughout the kingdom

Mephibosheth’s nanny grabbed him and tried running while dodging the multitudes trying to find the nearest escape route.

Stumbling she desperately tried to hold on to the young boy. Despite her effort she ends up taking a hard fall while the boy screamed in agonizing pain as his back was crushed.

Mephibosheth saw his life change in a fraction of a second, it went from paradisaical bliss to fugitive status. To make matters worse, both of his legs were shattered in the fall and mobility was no longer an option for the fleeing prince.

The young child was taken to a place called Lo Debar which means “no pasture” or “desolate place”. Lo Debar was a forsaken land and no place for price. With his powerful grandfather dead and his father killed in battle, alone and now a paralytic, it seemed that he was surely destined to die.

For 20 years Mephibosheth lived and breathed desolation, it had become his new identity - a new mindset had been etched within him. Crippled, poor and looked down upon Mephibosheth was no longer able to see himself as the grandson of a powerful king. His environment, the words that were spoken over his life and the people he grew up with had warped his perception and self-image.

David, now king, had once told his friend Jonathan that he would always look out for his family thus decides to send out one of his servants to find out whether or not there were any survivors from the house of Saul. His desire was to bless anyone connected to Saul and Jonathan. Upon finding out about Jonathan’s son he asks his servant to bring him to the palace Mephibosheth, now the father of Mica,

Many Christians these days have developed the Mephibosheth complex.

It is a state of mind that handicaps our present and future by making us believe the lies that have influenced our lives whether through words, experiences or the environment we grew up in.

“Our mindset can become our greatest detriment” If we are not mindful of God’s Word we make Lo Debar our final destination and become stagnant as we contemplate our paralysis while feeling sorry for ourselves.

We look at ourselves in the mirror and the lies we have been fed impede us from seeing the man or woman that God has fashioned us to be. We develop “a dead dog mentality” while setting ourselves up for failure.

-Our mindset can become our greatest detrimentIt is time to toss the crutches, stop looking at your paralysis (circumstances), rise up and take heed of God’s word. Recognize that you’re not a dead dog no matter how many times the enemy has tried to make you believe that lie…

You are a child of the most high God, holy priesthood (1 peter 2:9), fearfully and wonderfully made (Ps 139:14). You are the child of a King, the very one that owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Ps 50:10).

Rise up and position yourself to be blessed!

Shalom, Milton

Milton Gonzalez Milton is the Principal of Covenant Christian Academy in McAllen and has a son David. He is married to Elena and they have a son Daniel.

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When American Culture and Hispanic Values Collide fter significantly influencing the 2012 presidential election, Hispanics captured the attention of the nation’s leaders and media. Now, as the debate over the future of immigration continues, political liberals and conservatives alike may be surprised to learn about the values and priorities of today’s Hispanics in the U.S.

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Research from Barna: Hispanics, in partnership with the American Bible Society, the National Hispanic Christian Leadership Conference, and OneHope, reveals that the faith and social values of Latinos may be more conservative than many cultural observers realize. As America’s fastest growing demographic segment, Hispanics demonstrate high commitments to the

Christian faith and to traditional concepts of family.

In fact, foreign-born Hispanics who currently reside in the U.S. are often more socially, spiritually, and politically conservative than are those Hispanics who are citizens. The implication is that the longer the Hispanic community experiences U.S. cultural norms, the less socially conservative its members become. In the broadest sense, this creates a fascinating paradox for policymakers and politicians: social conservatives stand to gain more allies by pushing for aggressive immigration reform, while liberals who advocate for reform are likely to find fewer allies on social and moral issues among foreign-born Hispanics who are given a path to citizenship.

How Conservative are Hispanics?

Given their relationship-driven culture, it is perhaps not surprising that Hispanics in the U.S. place high value on the traditional family. Three-quarters of all Latinos in the U.S. say that the traditional family is the main building block of a healthy community (78%).

Seven out of 10 believe it is best for children to be raised by parents who are married to each other (69%). In addition, Latinos remain markedly committed to preserving the traditional family structure. Half say they are “very concerned” about the breakdown of Hispanic families.

When it comes to typically hot-button social issues, homosexuality and abortion, most Hispanics embrace conservative points of view. On the issue of same-sex marriage, considered an important voting issue to many evangelical Christians, two-thirds of Hispanics say marriage should be defined as a relationship between one man and one woman (66%). And the majority of Hispanics in the U.S. (73%) believe that adoption or parenting are better choices than abortion for a woman who is not ready to be a mom.

The Foreign-Born Gap While on the whole, Hispanics are more conservative than might be expected, one of the key findings of the research is a significant gap between U.S.-born Hispanics and foreign-born Hispanics.

On almost all counts, U.S.-born Hispanics (including those born in Puerto Rico) are much less conservative in their social views than are those born elsewhere. For example, foreign-born Latinos are more likely to see family as important (81%); more concerned about the breakup of Hispanic families (65%); more likely to be embrace a traditional view of marriage (73%); and more likely to reject abortion as a solution for not-yet-ready moms (87%). The one exception to this rule is the opinion it is best for children to be raised by married parents. Still, the difference is slight—71% of second- or third-generation Hispanics hold this belief, compared to 65% of first-generation Hispanics.

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What This Means for Immigration Reform What do Hispanics really think about immigration? Despite what might be expected, only half of Hispanics in the U.S. are strongly concerned about immigration (53%). Of course, immigration is of higher concern for those Hispanics not born in the U.S. (65%) than for those born stateside. Still, most Hispanics in the U.S. are more concerned about issues that pertain to their practical livelihood, such as employment (57%) and education (58%). On the same level as immigration, about half of Hispanics say they are “very” concerned about healthcare (54%) and affordable housing (52%).

Yet immigration is more than a political issue to many Hispanics.

For many Latinos, immigration connects with their biblical convictions. Two-thirds of Hispanics, for example, agree they have “a biblical responsibility to show hospitality to strangers and immigrants.”

This number rises among Protestant Hispanics—three-quarters of whom affirm the same. Yet one-half of Hispanics hold this view in tension with another biblical principle: that Christians are called

by God to obey the government. Again, this number is higher among Protestant Hispanics (85%). In other words, the immigration debate raises many conflicting attitudes among Hispanics, and especially so among the nation’s increasing percentage of Evangélicos.

About Barna Group Barna Group (which includes its research division, the Barna Research Group) is a private, non-partisan, for-profit organization under the umbrella of the Issachar Companies. Located in Ventura, California, Barna Group has been conducting and analyzing primary research to understand cultural trends related to values, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors since 1984.

If you would like to receive free e-mail notification of the release of each update on the latest research findings from Barna Group, you may subscribe to this free service at the Barna website (www.barna.org). © Barna Group, 2013.

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Reaching the

Next Generation

by Abram Gomez

Part 2

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few months ago, I had an exceptionally productive conversation with a very good friend of mine. He is a Pastor of a church, and we often talk to discuss life, marriage, and ministry. I consider him to be a pillar in my walk with the Lord, as well as an accountability partner. In this particular dialogue, we discussed the importance and role that young people have in our churches today. I shared with him the necessity of reaching out to young people in his community. I described how this generation is filled with unlimited redemptive potential and that they possess such energy that seems to be unparalleled. They are a generation of high powered creativity and innovation. As we shared in conversation, he expressed his personal desire to want to do more for the young people in his church. Soon after, he established monthly services for his youth, and really began to minister to their needs. Just the other day, he testified of a young man in his ministry who had decided to pursue full time ministry, and has recently started to attend a Christian university! My pastor friend seems very enthused with what he is seeing happen before his eyes. He has stated that his youth are bringing a fresh energy and momentum to his church.

In today’s world that is changing at a faster pace, the Church in general has a great opportunity to proclaim a Message that has not changed, and at the same time, provide a place that can walk with young people on their adolescent journey. As an adult, it is so easy to overlook this younger generation and just continue with business as usual. However, let’s remember that young people are in the heart of our Lord as well. God works in and though young people. Throughout Scripture, we find young people being used by God such as Joseph, David, Esther, Jeremiah, and Timothy. When we reach out to the Next Generation, we give the Holy Spirit an opportunity to touch their hearts. Let me give you a few reasons why it is important to reach out to the Next Generation:

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They are part of the Great Commission. The Church carries a responsibility from Heaven to reach out to young people. God desires that none should perish. Working with youth is not an option, but a mandate. Billy Graham was 16 when he fully gave his life to the Lord. My Senior Pastor began to pastor our church at the age of 20. I surrendered my life to the Lord at a young age, and I preached my first sermon at 19. Some of you reading this article got saved at a young age, and today, you might be serving in some type of leadership capacity at your church. The young people we reach today will become the ones who lead the church tomorrow. We must offer them Jesus.

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They are looking for a Sense of Community. Because of fractured families and traditional familial roles breaking down in our culture, support networks are not there to help buffer life for many youth. They often deal with certain issues and things at a much earlier age. So, young people often search for a place or

a group of people to provide the support they are lacking. We must not only include adults in our fellowship, but youth must be included. Connection is the key. Community allows us to build authentic relationship with the young generation. Moses included Joshua. Paul included Timothy.

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They are in need of Guidance for their Calling. Just like the young man who is following his calling at my friend’s church, young people need a sense of destiny. Moreover, destiny is hard to figure out at a young age, so mentorship and guidance is important. Like arrows in the quiver of the Lord, young people need a hand to help release them towards their targets in Christ. The older generation has a chance to provide wisdom and a practical Biblical lens for young people to view their destiny and calling.

They may not be called to full time ministry work, but we can help them see how their vocation can help them fulfill their God-given purpose on Earth.

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They are able to provide their Gifts to the Local Church.

Young people have gifts and talents that many churches could benefit from. They just need a place for their gift to be nurtured and developed. Obviously, it takes time. Yet, with time, they can become an equipped vessel used mightily by God to bless His people. From media to musicians to children’s ministry, young people can bless your local group of believers.

These are just a few reasons why I think it is important to reach out to the Next Generation. I pray that our eyes would be open to see them as the Lord sees them: A Generation that can potentially change their world!

Abram Gomez is the Executive Pastor at Valley International Christian Center in San Benito, Texas. He serves under the Leadership of Bishop Jaime Loya, and is a graduate of Southwestern Assemblies of God University. Abram has helped to develop leadership in various ministries and programs at VICC. He and his wife, Rebecca, currently reside in Harlingen, TX and are parents to Isabella Claire.

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I DARE YOU...

By Nick Dombrowski

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couple issues back I wrote an article on confession. After it was published someone came up to me and said, “Nice article, Nick.” No conversation followed their comment, but rather a sudden change of subject. It left me wondering why? It got me thinking more about the topic of confession, so much so that I wanted to write another article.

I know confession is uncomfortable, and actually doing it is on another level entirely. But why? Why is it so strange? So frightening? Repulsive even?

1. Betrayal One reason could be that you’re afraid of being or have been betrayed. The idea of people using your sins against you to gossip about and slander you is terrifying and angering. If you’re afraid of this happening then you’ll never take the risk. If it has happened to you then you’ll do everything to prevent it from happening again.

2. Condemnation Similarly, you might be afraid of being or have been condemned by someone for your sin. When you confessed they looked at you with self-righteous, holier-than-thou eyes and spoke words of guilt and shame with no heir of compassion or forgiveness and without any intention to help you turn from your sin. The word “loving” is far from your mind when describing how they treated you.

3. Model A different reason could be that no one has really modeled confession for you.

Since no one has confessed their sin to you before, you don’t really know what it’s supposed to look like. It’s unfortunately true that confession of sin in our churches has become rare if not non-existent.

There are more and more church pastors and leaders that hide their sin because we’ve created a church culture at large that doesn’t foster space where they are free to show their human weakness, while still being shown grace and also held accountable to change. And this goes for the average church member as well. This leaves a large gap of discipleship in one of the most basic areas of our spiritual life… confession.

4. Not That Bad The last reason I could think of is one of the hardest to swallow, but is the closest to home for me in my heart. We don’t confess because we really don’t think we’re that bad. And because we believe that we’re not that bad we don’t think we really have that much to confess. This line of thinking is actually extremely dangerous for our spiritual lives, because the smaller our view of our own sin the less need we have of a Savior to save us from the judgment and power of that sin. In short, we’ll deceive ourselves into thinking that we need Jesus less. We’ll become less dependent on him day to day, and our sin will suffocate us. This was/is me. People

like us often think our sin is merely our actions. It’s what we do or don’t do. But our sin is so much more. It’s our thoughts. Our words. Our motivations. The inclinations of our hearts. Try to pay attention to those for a solid week and not only will you see the depth of your sin, but also your need for a Savior and a close friend to bear your soul will become ever so valuable.

So, Nick, where do we go from here?

Let me say this. No matter your fears of confession or your hurts and anger from previous experiences, you still need to confess; we all do. Even if it hasn’t been modeled for you, you still need to confess; we all do. And especially if you think you’re not that bad, like me, you definitely need to confess. Again, we all do! Not just because the Bible tells us to, although that would be reason enough, but because it is only through confession to God AND another human being that we’re able to experience grace, forgiveness, freedom, joy, and true life the way God intended.

Don’t believe me? Try it. Trust Jesus with your fears and pain and step out of the boat. I dare you.

If you have questions or want to discuss this article further please contact Nick at dombrowski.n@gmail.com.

Nick Dombrowski

Nick graduated from Western Michigan University and leads campus staff for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship here in the Rio Grande Valley.

Chapters are located at both UTPA and STC. He is married to Chelsea and live in Edinburg.

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But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved—and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

—Ephesians 2:4-9

WHY IS GRACE AMAZING?

by James MacDonald

follower of Christ should have an understanding of the word grace on the tip of their tongue. Grace is the atmosphere in which our relationship with God lives. The followers of Jesus Christ have been singing about and reveling in the truth of God’s grace for two thousand years. This is one of the crown jewels of Christianity.

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Do you know what grace is? Can you say you have experienced God’s grace? The apostle Paul was so excited about telling the Ephesians about grace that he snuck a hint in verse 5—by grace you have been saved—before he arrived at his great declaration: For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

While all believers have a God-given measure of faith (Romans 12:3), what saves us is the work God’s grace accomplished in Jesus Christ. No matter how big or small our faith, it could not be effective if God wasn’t graciously willing to save us. We are saved by grace—through our faith in Christ.

Grace is unmerited favor. It is in no way a result of your performance, your attitude, your victories, or your defeats. Why is the fact that it is undeserved important? If you had to earn it, you could lose it—or more likely, you would never get it in the first place. If somehow you received salvation because of what you did, it wouldn’t be grace. It would be wages or reward.

One of the ways we show the world how God’s grace is amazing is by living out that grace. We fall. We get up. We fall. We get up. Why do we get up again? Because His grace allows us to endure. His grace makes His strength available. His grace will be sufficient no matter what we meet each day.

Whether you have been living in victory or defeat, if you are in Christ, God has graciously set His love upon you. And that is truly amazing.

The last two phrases drive home the point: not a result of works, so that no one may boast. If it’s all God’s work by God’s grace, there’s no room to claim we contributed anything to our salvation. Grace saving us through faith means we stop working to try to save ourselves!

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RGV Children’s Arts Festival Winner Enjoys Ride of His Life in the Rockies “It was the best week of my life,” is how Colton Hughes, 12, described the vacation he won for his family at the Bar Lazy J Guest Ranch in Parshall, Colorado.

Since learning on May 3 that he had won the RGV Children’s Arts Festival, Hughes had been waiting all summer to ride in the Rockies August 18-24.

Even though the Bar Lazy J Guest Ranch offered morning and afternoon rides, there were three that caught Hughes’ attention and all had something to do with food.

The candy ride featured a ride into the small town of Parshall for ice cream and other goodies. Hughes had to pack a lunch for the all-day ride, but on the breakfast ride, he packed nothing. He smelled eggs, biscuits, gravy and sausage cooking over an open fire as he and his faithful horse “Duke” approached.

The breakfast ride was yummy, but it didn’t feature the ranch’s famous, flying blueberry pancakes. Those were available on all other mornings back at the ranch kitchen.

“If you wanted one, you had to go open the kitchen door and yell, ‘Blueberry!’” said Hughes. “Then Cheri would come out and throw one in the air and you’d try to catch it with your plate. I caught two because my dad was too embarrassed to catch the second one.”

Hughes came to Colorado as a greenhorn with virtually no riding experience. But it didn’t take long for the Bar Lazy J kids’ riding program to have him loping the trails like an experienced cowboy.

“We learned even faster than the adults,” says Hughes. “I was riding on long rides when they were still doing their orientation.

We went on our first ride over some hills and through the river. That was exciting!”

Colton Hughes is the son of Will and Nancy Hughes of Harlingen. “The week at Bar Lazy J was different from anything we’ve ever done,” said Nancy Hughes. “It was great. We thoroughly enjoyed it. We’re seriously thinking about going back.”

Another Valley child will have an opportunity to win a Bar Lazy J weeklong vacation for his or her family during the 2013-14 RGV Children’s Arts Festival, according to festival organizers Carey & Lisa Kinsolving. Arts festival guidelines, entry form and questions to answer and illustrate can be found by clicking on the picture of Colton and his horse Duke at www.KidsTalkAboutGod.org. There is no entry fee, but parental consent is needed.

“In addition to winning the vacation for up to five immediate family members, the winner will receive $1000 to help with travel expenses,” said Carey Kinsolving. “All this is possible because of the generosity of

our Valley sponsors and Jerry and Cheri Helmicki of the Bar Lazy J Guest Ranch.”

Valley Gold Spur sponsors include El Pato Mexican Food, orthodontist Dr. Joel Martinez, Children’s Center at Renaissance, pediatrician Dr. Martin Garza, Lone Star National Bank and Melba’s Dance School.

When asked if she had any advice for kids thinking of entering the RGV Children’s Arts Festival, Nancy Hughes said: “People should not be afraid to enter. Just do it.

Encourage your child to do their best and to put some effort into it. You never know what could happen. You don’t have to be a grand artist or anything. It’s well worthwhile to do, whether you win or not.”

Remember the TV series Bonanza? Get ready for Hughesanza. Colton Hughes, 12, (middle rider) lived the dream of riding through rivers and across valleys in the Rocky Mountains at the Bar Lazy J Guest Ranch in Colorado. He won this week-long vacation for his family through the RGV Children’s Arts Festival. The festival is now accepting entries for next year’s vacation. There is no entry fee. For details, click on Colton and his horse at www.KidsTalkAboutGod.org.

Carey Kinsolving’s Kids Talk About God syndicated column is distributed by Creators Syndicate.

KidsTalkAboutGod.org features a Bible-lesson archive of all columns. Kinsolving is the co-founder of the RGV Children’s Arts Festival. One Valley child will win a vacation for up to five, immediate family members to the Bar Lazy J Guest Ranch in Parshall, Colorado plus a check for $1000 to help pay for travel expenses. For details go to KidsTalkAboutGod.org and click on the horses.

River: Colton Hughes, 12, enjoyed his vacation prize by crossing the Colorado River in the Rocky Mountains at the Bar Lazy J Guest Ranch August 18-24. For this year’s opportunity to win this vacation, children can enter the RGV Children’s Arts Festival. There is no entry fee. For details, click on the image of Colton and his horse at www.KidsTalkAboutGod.org.

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a cadre of songwriters and worship leaders, a half-dozen CDs, chart-topping songs such as “One Thing Remains,” and both online and on-campus worship schools. A Bethel song was even featured on American Idol last season as part of the “Songs I Wish I’d Written” night. This expanded scope means more and more people are associated with the ministry. In short, the community has grown.

It’s that community that played a part in another key decision that radically affected the development of TIDES. The album was communal.

From the songwriting, to the artwork, to the track listing, to the marketing, everything was done in community. “We’ve made a commitment to always try to use musicians in the local church,” Johnson says.

“The people you hear on the albums are the normal worship leaders in our church.

We try to keep connected as much as we can. Everyone has a position in a local church.” As TIDES progressed, that commitment grew and grew, such that every facet of the project was touched by a group of more than fifty people.

by Mark D. Geil

Sometimes

something really special happens, and you know you need to drop everything to see it through to completion.

For Bethel Music, the worship ministry of Redding, California-based Bethel Church, steady progress was being made toward a follow-up to 2012’s The Loft Sessions live album. Songs were being selected for intimate performance in a rustic loft, when founding worship leaders Brian and Jenn Johnson and label director Joel Taylor were called into the studio with these words: “Let me show you something we’ve been working on.” What they heard was no loft session. It was an extraordinary fullon production complete with layers of instruments, loops and a new sound and passion that turned heads. Brian recalls the moment. “Joel, Jenn and I looked at

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each other and said, ‘All right, we’re not doing The Loft Sessions follow up! We’re doing this!’ In about five minutes we changed direction.” Just like that, TIDES was born.

Bethel Music’s first full studio album addresses the popular maxim that “the only thing you can count on is change.” As the tides roll in and out, so does life bring ups and downs, good times and hard times.

Johnson’s answer is that there’s one more thing you can count on. “Through it all,” he declares, “God is in control. Through the whole album, there’s struggle, there’s tension, but then there is a reminder that God is always in control.”

Over the past four years, Bethel Music has grown from a local church music ministry to a global outreach, featuring

3. The Afters

Every Good Thing CD: Life is Beautiful

Naturally, that complicated things a bit, and the production was one of Bethel’s more challenging endeavors. “There’s certainly been stress, but the outcome is worth it. It’s like a family that sticks together. You’re gonna have some stuff that happens, but we have fruit. This album, this whole thing we’ve done says, ‘Here’s what happens when everyone gets their heads together and tries something.’ You learn each other’s strengths and weaknesses. It’s real – we’re past the honeymoon stage, we’re in deep with each other. You have to make it work.”

The fruit of that effort is an album of passionate emotion, anthemic declaration, and sometimes surprising experimentation.

Lead single “Chasing You” is an extraordinarily catchy Jenn Johnson pop song about following God with insatiable abandon. “I Can Feel

4. Matthew West 5. Sidewalk Prophets Hello my name is CD: Into The Light

Help Me Find It CD: Live Like That

6. Building 429 We Won’t Be Shaken CD: We Won’t Be Shaken

7. Mandisa Overcome CD: Overcome

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You” could have been pulled straight out of the 80s, complete with saxophone solo and Miami Vice vibe. The musical imagery works to point the listener to a distant, bright light of Christ finally visible in a shadowed, hopeless world.

Those familiar with the old spiritual “Give Me Jesus” will marvel at Matt Stinton’s gorgeous vocal just as they find new meaning in the song through a truly surprising arrangement. And Bethel fans are particularly eager to hear “Forever” for the first time on an album. The powerful Easter-themed anthem has been previewed in a congregational setting for a few months now, and it stands as an example of how well these songs will work in churches.

The community that made TIDES worked so hard because they recognize the unique responsibility inherent in music that points to the Creator. “A simple song,” Johnson reflects, “can do so many things in the realm of the kingdom of God. It’s amazing how one song can go past denominational walls, past people’s preconceived notions. People start humming a song and then singing it and then actually believing it after a while.”

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Moreover, Johnson notes, the presence of God in music can change the way people think about God, about society and about our role on this earth. “It’s not just about being nice people.

It’s about being people who carry the power of God through the rising and falling tides of our time. I feel like we’ve been given a huge responsibility in music to capture what God has said and what He’s doing. That’s why we’re willing to push the envelope a bit, to try different sounds and styles.”

What’s especially refreshing about the new sounds and styles on TIDES is that the band remains authentic. Even these eclectic songs, born of such a large community, maintain the consistent thread that is Bethel music. With an earnest desire to combine so many people to create something fresh and inventive, the team has exceeded perhaps even their own expectations. These are songs of adoration, instruction and worship that speak not only of what God has done, but also what He is doing now, in the highest and lowest of tides.

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ORGANIC CHURCH

Freely you have received; now freely give.”

In some cases, the people of God can be dependent on the resources such as the building, programs, pastors, and missionaries.

I recall Pastor Ellis Orozco often saying, “Every member is a minisby Neil Cole ter.” Unfortunately, some members of churches are spectators or Leadership Network Publication supporters. Sometimes people are so busy doing things that we are not really loving people, and really representing Christ as His ambassadors.

What is the church?

In Organic Church Neil Cole writes, “In our organic church movement we have come to understand church as this: the presence of Jesus among His people called out as a spiritual family to pursue His mission on this planet.”

Most people will agree with this definition, but the difference that Neil Cole presents is how this is accomplished. Cole argues that God’s people need to get away from the mindset of doing church focused on a location, namely a church building.

Cole also sees the other side of it. He brilliantly states, “Recognize, once again, the beauty of the New Covenant: a decentralized nation of priests bringing the presence of Christ all over the world.

All of us who are children of God have been set free and empowered in order to spread His glory all over the place. We are not all called to go overseas, but we are all called to take His presence into the dark pockets of lost people in our world. Whether to your neighborhood or the nations, Christ in you is the hope of glory.

Book Review by

Miguel Paredes

Is a teacher at Edinburg North and earned his Masters in Theology from Dallas Theological Seminary.

He is married to Brenda and has four children: Diego (10), Karla and Andrea (7), and Charis (3).

CAPTIVE IN IRAN

Maryam Rostampour, Marziyeh Amirizadeh, John Perry Tyndale Publishing

Embark on a chilling journey inside one of the world’s darkest and most dangerous places: Evin, the notorious Tehran prison. Here, prisoners are routinely tortured, abused, and violated. Executions are frequent and sudden. But for two women imprisoned for their Christian faith—Maryam Rostampour and Marziyeh Amirizadeh— this hell on earth was a place of unlikely grace as they reflected God’s love and compassion to their fellow prisoners and guards.

Against all odds, Evin would become the only church many of them had ever known.

In Captive in Iran, Maryam and Marziyeh recount their 259 days in Evin. It’s an amazing story of unyielding faith—when denying God would have meant freedom. Of incredible support from strangers around the world who fought for the women’s release. And of bringing God’s light into one of the world’s darkest places—giving hope to those who had lost everything, and showing love to those in despair.

Christians can get so focused on the work of the denomination and the local church ministry that God’s Kingdom and interests are unintentionally secondary. I recently heard of a local pastor telling another pastor, “I am not interested in [my church agenda], I am interested in God’s Kingdom.” That is the right mentality, yet we don’t always act as though God’s King is the priority.

Cole is a bit hard on the way church is often done these days, but he is not too far off. If anything, let Cole get you thinking about how church is done. Maybe some things can changes to a more Kingdom focus.

This is a challenge to get out of our comfort zone and into a hazard zone of ministry. We do need to depend on God’s spirit to get the work done, and not only our modern and cutting edge ideas for reaching out.

Not all people will respond to the way your church does things, maybe a different approach is called for.

The Church is God’s people, a living organism that needs to be alive in the world, not just in a church location.

The Case for Grace

A Journalist Explores the Evidence of Transformed Lives

By Lee Strobel Zondervan

The Case for a Creator explored the scientific evidence for God; The Case for Christ investigated the historical evidence for Jesus; The Case for Faith responded to eight major objections about Christianity; The Case for The Real Jesus refuted the current challenges to the Bible and Christ … Now, in The Case for Grace, Lee Strobel crafts a compelling and highly personal experiential case for God, focusing on God’s transforming work in the lives of men and women today. Writing with unusual candor, Lee draws upon his own journey from atheism to Christianity to explore the depth and breadth of God’s redeeming love for spiritually wayward people. He travels thousands of miles to capture the inspiring stories of everyday people whose values have been radically changed and who have discovered the “how” and “why” behind God’s amazing grace.

You’ll encounter racists, addicts, and even murderers who have found new hope and purpose.

You’ll meet once-bitter people who have received God’s power to forgive those who have harmed them---and, equally amazing, people mired in guilt who have discovered that they can even forgive themselves.

Through it all, you will be encouraged as you see how God’s grace can revolutionize your eternity and relationships… starting today.

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Wealthy, but Not Spoiled Dear Dave, How do you make sure you don’t spoil your child when you’re wealthy?

-Ryan Dear Ryan, I know this will sound mean to some people, but you simply explain to them that they are not wealthy.

I remember a time years ago, after we’d gone broke, that we managed to scrimp and save and finally had a little bit of wealth.

We bought a nice car and my son piped up from the back seat, all smug and satisfied, “We’re doing pretty good, huh?” I’ll admit it was kind of funny, but it was also a teachable moment. I looked at him and said, “I’m doing pretty good, but you’re broke!” That was a pretty consistent message around the Ramsey household as the kids were growing up. If you’re not working and making your own way, you’ve got nothing.

The second thing is we taught them, from a very young age, was to work. That can start with simple things like kids cleaning up their rooms or doing the dishes after dinner. It should carry over to the teenage years as well. Every able-bodied child should be working and earning money, whether it’s their own entrepreneurial idea, at a store in the mall or babysitting.

The third thing we did was based in our faith. As evangelical Christians, we taught our kids that we don’t really own anything.

It all belongs to God, and one of our jobs is to wisely manage the things He entrusts to us. The first rule is to take care of your own household—the important stuff. After that, it’s okay to have some nice things, but it’s not all about pleasure. It’s also about giving and extraordinary levels of generosity.

Teach them to work. Teach them to be givers. And gently remind them once in a while that they’ve got nothing until they go out and earn it.

—Dave

Big Car Debt, Small Income Dear Dave, My mom has about $35,000 worth of debt from a $17,000 car and $18,000 in student loans. She makes $20,000 a year. How can she get out of this mess?

Christina Dear Christina, No one needs a car that’s worth nearly all of their yearly income.

That’s just ridiculous. If you listen to me on the radio, I’m sure you’ve already heard me say what I’m about to say now—sell the car! That will get rid of almost half her debt, then find her a little $2,000 beater to drive until she can save up for a better car.

Remember this simple rule: Never buy a car that costs more than half of your annual income. Also, never go into debt to buy a car.

Automobiles go down in value like a rock, and you never want that much money wrapped up in something that’s depreciating.

We also have an income issue here. Your mom has to do something in the short term to get her income up and pay off debt. A part-time job nights and weekends would be a really good idea.

Then, she needs to address her long-term situation with an eye toward a decent job. Whether it’s more formal education or technical training in a particular field, she needs to find a career that will significantly increase her income.

—Dave

“Remember this simple rule: Never buy a car that costs more than half of your annual income.”

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Raul “Rudy” Rodriguez

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Some historians may argue that among the greatest restoration stories of mankind are the European Renaissance or perhaps the post-World War II era.

The cultural movement known as the European Renaissance roughly took place during the 14th through 17th centuries. This moment in history saw the face of Europe evolve with respect to its arts, architecture and long held science tenets. It also saw a rediscovery of the Greco-Roman classical knowledge and a rebirth of the study of Latin and vernacular languages. It served as a bridge between the Middle Ages and the Modern Era.

Closer to home, America saw its restoration take place in the years that followed World War II. During this era, couples who could not afford families during the Great Depression made up for lost time.

The mood in America suddenly became optimistic. At that time, the unemployment rate of the Great Depression dropped dramatically and the economy improved substantially. The G.I. Bill empowered many honorable service members to finish high school and attend college. As their skills were improved, so was the financial well-being of their families.

But, without a doubt the greatest restoration that can take place is when a person does as Romans 10:9 instructs us to do. Romans 10:9 says: “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” The message is simple: invite Christ into your heart and make him your personal Lord and Savior. At that time, your restoration will be complete.

Next He will do as Philippians 1:6 says, “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” As you seek and strive to honor God with your life, He will reward you by allowing you to take on His characteristics. Hosea 14:4 says, “I will bring my people back to me. I will love them with all my heart; No longer am I angry with them.” I pray that you will invite Christ into your heart and allow Him to restore you!

At my office, I also want to be part of your restoration plan, albeit in a different way. I pray that God will use me for His honor and glory in helping me address your needs. If you have been involved in an auto accident and/or other serious injury or if you have lost a loved one as a result of someone’s negligence, I will do my best to restore some sense of normality to your life. I will also help you in matters involving family law, criminal law and real estate and will issues. As always, I bear in mind that in honoring God with the way I handle my business relationships I will be honoring you my esteemed client.

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