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“Women supporting women is the most powerful force for change in the world.”
~ Ntozake Shange
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Camaraderie
Happy spring! I don’t believe there are many places in our beautiful country that welcome spring with more joy and gladness (desperation?) than Michiganders do! After enduring the cold, snowy, and dark winter months, I feel like I am emerging from my cave, shaking the fogginess from my brain and squinting in the sunlight. How about you?
For us, one of the great things about spring is that March is designated Women’s History Month. This year’s theme is Moving Forward Together (see Kellie Pardi’s article with that title to learn more). In Michigan, spring can be calm or tempestuous and we never know which it will be, but we know for sure this month can bring more seasonal change than almost any of the year. In that regard, I am thinking Women’s History Month was set in the perfect month for it! Our foremothers absolutely brought change and we are reaping the benefit of their determination and hard-fought battles.
When our theme for this issue was set a while back, “Moving Forward Together” wasn’t even known yet or considered. But, isn’t it wonderful how nicely it partners with ours of “Camaraderie”? (I just love serendipity!)
At the root of camaraderie is friendship. In this issue, you will enjoy several articles about friendship from these writers: Colleen Kilpatrick, Trice Berlinski, Lynn Turner, and Suzanne Young. I know you have deep-felt friendships you treasure; because that’s one thing women are really good at—cultivating friendships.
Also integral to camaraderie is support, and we are blessed to have you as loyal supporters and friends in our Women2Women circle.
Enjoy the coming season! Hugs and love,
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Kellie Pardi
10 Ways to Strengthen Female Camaraderie
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Support Women Around You
Celebrate another woman’s success, share opportunities, and uplift those on their journey.
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Choose Collaboration Over Competition. Instead of seeing other women as rivals, seek ways to work together and amplify each other’s strengths.
Advocate for Women’s Voices. Make space for women in leadership, business, and everyday conversations. Support their ideas and contributions.
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Connect Across Generations.
Seek wisdom from older women and offer guidance to younger ones—every woman has something valuable to share.
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Learn from Women in History. Explore the stories of women who paved the way, and let their resilience inspire your path.
"The success of every woman should be the inspiration to another. We should raise each other up."
~ Serena Williams
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Prioritize Female Friendships. Nurture relationships with women who inspire and uplift you—these connections are essential for well-being.
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Build Your Circle.
Join or create a women’s group where you can share wisdom, support, and encouragement.
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Show Up for Women, Always. Whether it’s attending an event, shopping women-owned brands, or offering a helping hand, your support makes a difference.
Share Your Story. Open up about your experiences; your journey may empower someone else to keep going.
Give Genuine Encouragement. A kind word, a recommendation, or a simple “I see you” can have a lasting impact on another woman’s confidence.
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Jennifer Gardner is a wife and mother of two girls. She loves being creative with the ladies of Women2Women Michigan Magazine.
Embracing Emotions
Lisa Rena Scott’s Journey to Helping Women Validate Their Feelings with her debut book and podcast: And That’s Okay!
Lisa Rena Scott is no stranger to the complexities of emotions. As an author, podcast host, and advocate for self-awareness, she has dedicated her life to helping women feel seen, heard, and validated. Through her book, And That’s Okay!, and her podcast of the same name, Lisa provides a space for women to acknowledge their feelings rather than push them aside.
Too often, women juggle careers, families, and responsibilities, leaving little room to process their own emotions. Lisa understands this struggle firsthand. “Most of us were never taught how to properly handle our emotions, sit with them, or learn from them,” she shares. “Instead, we’re told to ‘get over it’ or simply don’t have the time to sit with what we’re feeling.” Her mission is to change that—to encourage women to embrace their emotions, recognize their worth, and take steps toward personal growth without guilt.
THE STORY BEHIND AND THAT’S OKAY!
Lisa’s inspiration for writing And That’s Okay! was simple yet profound: women needed to hear that their feelings mattered. “So many of us feel like we ‘should’ have it all together,” she explains. “We think we need to be strong, not let emotions get in the way, and just keep moving forward. But the truth is, our feelings are valid.”
Instead of dismissing emotions with phrases like, “I shouldn’t feel this way,” Lisa encourages a new mindset: “I have feelings… and that’s okay.” This shift is not just about acknowledgment; it’s about processing emotions in a healthy way, leading to deeper self-awareness and personal growth.
A PERSONAL JOURNEY OF SELF-DISCOVERY
Lisa’s journey to this realization was not a smooth one. Like many women, she has faced challenges—career shifts, parenting, child sexual abuse, divorce, and health scares. When her position was eliminated, she unexpectedly found herself in early retirement at the age of 47. “Great, right?” she muses. “That’s what I thought, too. But then reality hit.”
Suddenly, Lisa was navigating a whirlwind of emotions— anger, sadness, worry, confusion, fear one day; joy, gratitude, and excitement the next. “One thing about feelings is they never come alone,” she says. “They bring their friends, and they are complex.”
It took a year for her to settle into her new role as a stayat-home wife and mother, but even then, she found herself searching for purpose. Through deep self-reflection, she discovered that acknowledging her emotions was the key
to moving forward rather than staying stuck. This realization became the foundation of her book, offering women the encouragement and practical steps they need to embrace their own emotional journeys.
THE BREAKTHROUGH MOMENT
Lisa’s path to writing And That’s Okay! was not just personal—it was transformational. After attending a powerful self-development seminar, she had a breakthrough moment. “We wrote our biggest fears on one side of a board and our greatest desires on the other,” she recalls. “Then, without any training, we karate-chopped through them. It was an emotional and physical representation of breaking through our barriers.”
Two months later, she attended another seminar—one that lasted 14 hours instead of the expected two. When reviewing her 28 pages of notes, she noticed something striking. Next to a particular phrase, she had written MW (short for My Words) 47 times: And That’s Okay!
It was a defining moment. “I knew then that this was something everyone needed to hear,” she says. “Whatever you’re going through, whatever you’re feeling—you were created with feelings… and that’s okay.”
STRENGTH THROUGH FAITH AND COMMUNITY
When life’s challenges arise, Lisa turns to three pillars: faith, selfreflection, and community. “My faith has always been my anchor,” she says. “It reminds me that I’m never alone in my struggles.” She also believes in stepping back to process emotions and asking, “What is this challenge trying to teach me?” And, of course, having a strong support system makes all the difference. “We don’t have to do life alone,” she emphasizes.
THE LESSONS LISA WANTS WOMEN TO KNOW
Lisa’s life has taught her invaluable lessons that she now shares with others. One of the most important? “Feelings are not the enemy—ignoring them is.” She explains that when we allow ourselves to feel, we gain clarity, healing, and strength. Another key lesson is that women don’t have to be everything for everyone. “It’s okay to take up space for ourselves, set boundaries, and prioritize our well-being.”
Perhaps most importantly, she wants women to know that small, consistent actions lead to big changes. “You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight— just take one intentional step at a time.”
WHY AND THAT’S OKAY! BELONGS ON YOUR BOOKSHELF
If you’re someone who constantly pushes your emotions aside to keep up with life’s demands, And That’s Okay! is for you. This book is your permission slip to feel, reflect, and grow. With real-life examples, validation, and actionable steps, Lisa guides readers toward embracing their emotions rather than fighting them.
“If you’ve ever been told to, ‘Suck it up,’ ‘Get over it,’ ‘You’re overreacting’…this book will help to give you validation and help you move forward with confidence,” Lisa says. You can find And That’s Okay! on her website: www.lisarenascott.com
STAY CONNECTED
Lisa continues her work through her podcast, And That’s Okay! Each week, she dives deeper into emotional well-being, selfgrowth, and mindset shifts.
Apple Podcast: https://apple.co/4dCoEQ7
YouTube: https://3XPUZgs
Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3Nj5aFk
She also shares insights on social media: Instagram: @AndThatsOkayQuotes Facebook: @AndThatsOkay Personal Page: @LisaRenaScott
WHAT’S NEXT?
Lisa is currently working on her second book, And That’s Okay! FOR WOMEN, which is in the editing phase.
She would love to bring these important conversations to more audiences. If you’re looking for a speaker for your book club, chamber event, Bible study group, expo, employee event, or keynote, she’d love to be invited to share her message with your community.
Lisa Rena Scott is living proof that acknowledging and embracing emotions can lead to transformation. Through her books, podcast, and coaching, she is helping women reclaim their emotional wellbeing—one “And That’s Okay!” at a time.
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Coming Together
After Hurricane Helene
I'm writing this after spending several months in North Carolina assisting with the recovery efforts following Hurricane Helene's impact. Although some areas have returned to normal and many places remained unaffected, the severely impacted regions are widespread, covering a considerable landmass, and still face a lengthy recovery process. Numerous logistical challenges remain, requiring substantial energy, time, and financial resources to resolve. There are many areas that will simply never be the same.
No matter how lengthy the journey to recovery might be, individuals are persistently working towards it, and the dedication and perseverance I've observed in many people here has been astounding. I believe that the current status would be far worse if it weren't for the unity and strength within the community. Being here is showing me that building resilience must have community as the centerpiece.
Even though I am a northerner myself, I got to witness this strong community spring into action immediately after the storm. I myself was caught in the storm that no one had anticipated. I was among the fortunate few to have power restored within days, despite the downtown area
minutes away being under water. Once the storm passed and communication was partially restored, I immediately sought volunteer opportunities. What struck me was the number of individuals who also sprang into action. In Marshall, NC, it was incredible to witness the local community swiftly unite to establish a supply distribution hub and coordinate volunteers for cleanup efforts and supply distribution, among other tasks. The community didn't wait for assistance from outside organizations or the government; instead, neighbors helped each other. Passionate community members took the initiative to organize themselves.
Having lived in various other parts of the country, I was not expecting to witness this; to see the community uniting and selflessly giving like this. Typically, I would assume that most people would just wait for external assistance. Though I wouldn't wish this disaster on anyone, it's oddly appropriate to note that if it had to occur anywhere in the country, the people here were possibly the most ready—not in the conventional sense, but in spirit and heart.
From my time residing in this region years ago, I've noticed that the people here are among the most open-hearted and
generous that I've encountered. If there's a problem, folks will assist you regardless of who you are or whether they know you. People here go out of their way to offer help, and they do so sincerely. I've heard that even FEMA has expressed amazement at the local response following this storm when compared to other disaster-stricken areas they've aided. Nowhere else have they witnessed such a significant local reaction, with grassroots organizations and mutual aid efforts emerging to support the region's recovery and resilience.
Presently, I am here volunteering my healing services to those severely affected by the storm through a mutual-aid free clinic. I am assisting both individuals who have experienced significant losses, such as their homes, businesses, and loved ones, and those who have been tirelessly dedicating countless unpaid hours since the storm hit. Being here has been tough in various ways, but the sessions I have with people make it all worthwhile.
I've worked alongside individuals who left everything behind to volunteer from the start, as well as those who have come from far-off states like myself. I've met people who could almost be called “storm chasers”, going from one storm to the next to assist with rebuilding efforts.
I've encountered many who have almost reached their limit, feeling burnt out and overwhelmed by the amount of time, effort, and energy they've invested. Yet, I will never forget how, when I asked one passionate volunteer why they keep doing it, their answer was simple: love. They believe everyone needs and deserves help, and most importantly, everyone deserves love. So many here have put fear aside and it is the power of deep love for humanity and the earth that is driving them forward.
In an era where political polarization is rampant, I've noticed that in this area, many people are setting aside their differences. They have more pressing issues to tackle and understand that arguing with neighbors is futile. This is a moment for love and unity, the only path to building resilience and recovery. I am seeing this as a lesson we can all take notes from.
Everyone present here is learning significant lessons. Emphasizing our differences leads to weakness, whereas concentrating on our shared basic human needs and ensuring everyone has access to them is essential for uniting us and building a stronger, healthier society, as well as healthier individuals within that society.
I understand that my presence here is not only about contributing and aiding the locals and volunteers but also about learning for myself as I observe the transformative power of love in action. I wish to apply this lesson to every part of my life and inspire others across the nation to recognize what can be achieved when we choose love over fear to strengthen our community. I have an immense sense of gratitude for these communities that are paving the path forward as shining exemplars. Their efforts illuminate the way, setting a standard for others to follow, and their dedication inspires admiration and deep respect.
Joy Dettling of Ignite Life specializes in helping individuals release unseen stuck stress patterns and embody their true potential. To find out more, visit ignitelife.net or contact joy@ignitelife.net.
Women & Financial Preparation
Women have different considerations than men when it comes to retirement and finances.
Why?
• Women have a longer life span than men, which means their money must last longer.
• Women are more likely to take a few years out of the workforce to care for children or parents.
• The gender pay gap (ugh!) means women still make less, on average, than men
• Nearly five in ten marriages end in divorce, which means women may need to depend on their own income and not their spouses’.
• Women’s social security payments are lower than men’s because of lower wages and being out of the workforce. Women tend to be busy caring for others, and often, neglect themselves. When it comes to money and being on an airplane, women need to put their oxygen mask on first, THEN help others with theirs. To help women put their financial mask on, I would like to provide some simple tips to help them with their specific financial needs.
• Save as much as you can and do it consistently.
• Educate your self on basic financial principles.
• Figure out your financial goals and create a plan. If you are not sure what they are or how to achieve them, work with a financial advisor.
• Be a part of your household’s finances. Even if you do not pay the bills—know what you pay, where it goes, and how to find out more information.
• Protect your assets–get your estate documents in order, name your beneficiaries, create powers of attorney for healthcare and your finances, maintain insurance, etc.
• Seek counsel if you become nervous about the money you have invested in the market. Often people sell when the market is already down, out of concern that it will continue to go down. Maintaining your portfolio through good times and bad is generally a much better strategy.
• Do not help your kids (with college, with letting them live with you forever) at the expense of building your own retirement savings.
• Hire professional help when you need it.
Once you have your own needs taken care of, you can help your kids and elderly parents. Here are some tips for that:
Kids:
• Know what you need to save for a college education (look into the costs, determine strategies, financial aid, etc.). You do not have to pay for it all, but you can be there to help your kids make sound decisions.
• Help instill financial independence in your kids. Ensure they know the same basic financial information that you do. There are several tools online for this.
• Plan to protect your kids financially if something should happen to you (i.e., life insurance, etc.).
Parents:
• Help your parents think about having adequate income for caregiving needs later in life.
• Have them update their estate planning documents if it has been 5 or more years or have them work with an attorney to create their estate plan if they don’t have one yet.
• Understand the difference between normal age-based memory loss and Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia.
• Provide education around the different ways that people try to scam the elderly, so they don’t fall prey to this.
It is estimated that women will control much of the nation’s wealth by 2030 (Bloomberg, “Women Will Control $30 Trillion by 2030 in Massive Shift for Wealth Management,” December 2024). Let’s show them that we are up for the challenge!
Jill is a passionate Senior Wealth Advisor, continually striving to find new ways to exceed her clients' expectations with her depth of knowledge in taxes, estate planning, and personal finance. She seeks to empower her clients to increase their own financial literacy and understanding of wealth management. She’s especially interested in helping younger clients and older single women who may need help with their finances.
Neither Stephens Wealth Management Group (“SWMG”), nor Jill Carr is affiliated with Women 2 Women. There can be no assurance that any investment or non-investment related content made reference to directly or indirectly in this article will be profitable, be suitable for your portfolio or individual situation, or prove successful. Due to various factors, including changing market conditions and/or applicable laws, the content may no longer be reflective of current opinions or positions. Moreover, you should not assume that any discussion or information contained in this blog serves as the receipt of, or as a substitute for, personalized investment advice from SWMG. To the extent that a reader has any questions regarding the applicability of any specific issue discussed above to their individual situation, you are encouraged to consult with the professional advisor of your choosing. SWMG does not make any representations or warranties as to the accuracy, timeliness, suitability, completeness, or relevance of any information prepared by any unaffiliated third party, whether linked to SWMG’s website blog or incorporated herein, and takes no responsibility for any such content. All such information is provided solely for convenience purposes only and all users thereof should be guided accordingly.
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Camaraderie Community & Collaboration
I just love that sound!! It’s the mellow buzz of a group of women talking casually together, quite often punctuated by a burst of laughter. It’s women getting to know one another, such as what happens at our W2W Girlfriend Gatherings. All it takes is a question to the neighbor seated next to you, or even across the table from you, and away you go.
“Have you attended one of these before? Are you from this area? Tell me about your family. What do you do for fun?”
And this sort of thing happens at any women’s gathering anywhere. Women just get each other. We are indeed comrades in the trenches of womanhood and all that it means. If you don’t think so, just mention “hot flashes” in a mixedaged group of women!! Before your flash is even over, you will have six testimonies, two remedies, and a woman giving you a fan!
Camaraderie is a spirit of friendship and community between two people or a group of people. The members of the group are comfortable around each other, and they support each other.
The root of this word is comrade, bringing to mind soldiers who absolutely must have each other’s backs. Think also of a sports team and how they function together.
When women demonstrate camaraderie, they show support for each other, and this is an area that our society needs desperately today. Do you think those women who were the forerunners and fighters for gaining our rights could have gotten anything accomplished if they were competing with each other over center stage? Yet, today that seems to be quite common—at least on social media.
“Women supporting women is not a competition; it’s a collaboration.”
— Unknown
How do we show this spirit of friendship and community?
LOYALTY—your friends can count on you and they can trust you.
SUPPORT—you are available when they need help. You stand up for them.
ENCOURAGEMENT—speak kind words that lift someone‘s spirits and remind them they are not alone.
NO GOSSIP—this is a cancer that eats away at friendship and can easily divide a community of women! Also, things told in confidence must remain that way.
NO JEALOUSY—because being a woman is a collaboration. Someone always has a great idea, or a different ability from yours, and that’s why it takes all of us to make up such a beautiful community.
And camaraderie among women is also about sharing: sharing stories, ideas, childcare, experiences, lessons learned, adventures, and the best one, laughter.
Aren’t you thankful to be part of such a wonderful community?
Mimi Matthews is in the “encouragement business” as the owner of Empowordment Cards by Mimi. She is also a speaker, workshop leader, writer, and our editor. Visit her shop at www. etsy.com/shop/EmPOWordmentCards and her blog at www.particularpassions.me.
called to create
“Your time on earth is limited. Don’t try to ‘age with grace’. Age with mischief, audacity and a good story to tell.” ~Unknown
Carpe Diem
A ROLE MODEL FOR LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST
At the beginning of 2024, my dear friend, Diane, 78-years young, created a new affirmation for herself.
I am open to new opportunities.
This mindset unknowingly prepared her for an unexpected adventure when I invited her to join me at a community drumming circle. Without a hint of hesitation or knowledge of what awaited, Diane embraced the unknown and accepted my invitation with enthusiasm. That evening, with a borrowed
drum in hand, amidst a circle of new friends, she played heartily, her face aglow with joy.
Curious about her motivation, I later asked Diane if an interest in drumming influenced her decision to join me that evening. Chuckling, she replied, “Not at all! After years of teaching in noisy classrooms, I relish silence; music and drumming never called to me."
"Then why agree to join me?” I pressed.
Her response was simple and profound: "I had been telling myself ‘I am open to new opportunities’, so when you offered, I thought ‘Here it is. Time to step up and try something new!’"
“Carpe Diem” - “Seize the Day”.
Diane’s decision to join me so beautifully showcases the true spirit of the ancient Latin expression, “carpe diem”. Her vibrant enthusiasm for life and willingness to embrace new experiences reflect her dedication to seizing the day. What’s more, Diane embodies this philosophy not only in action but in spirit, gracefully embracing change even in the most challenging of times.
Shortly after her beloved husband passed away, Diane courageously embarked on an ambitious journey to redecorate her home - a move some considered hasty. Despite their skepticism, she felt a profound need to transform the spaces they once shared into a serene sanctuary, symbolizing her journey into a new chapter of life. For Diane, this home redecoration was not merely an aesthetic project; it was a deeply personal quest to cultivate a space that reflected her evolving identity and the cherished memories she and her husband created together.
One of Diane's secrets to a positive mindset that embraces change emerged during a recent conversation we had. In it, she disclosed a morning ritual.
"Each morning, I say, 'God, thank you for yesterday and this gift of a new day. Please show me how I can love and support those I meet today.'"
This practice undoubtedly instills in her a joyful and expectant mindset eager to serve.
"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance."
~Alan Watts
“My husband was a professional chef and the kitchen was his domain. Consequently, it had a very dark, masculine feel to it. Actually, our whole house did and that was absolutely fine while he was here. But after he was gone and I was on my own, I felt compelled to create a bright, peaceful home environment that would nurture my soul and lift my spirits.”
Over the course of several weeks, Diane sold, gave away or donated all the things she no longer found useful or beautiful. She then redecorated using a soft palette of soothing colors adding modern fixtures, appliances and furniture.
Her adult daughter questioned the many changes Diane was making so soon after her husband’s passing. “Do you have to do everything at once?” she asked.
To which Diane responded, “Yes, I absolutely do. I’m in my 70s. I want to create a beautiful, serene home sooner rather than later and enjoy it as long as I can.”
Diane's willingness to dive into change headfirst exemplifies a philosophy echoed by the renowned thinker, Alan Watts. “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance,” Watts wisely noted. As Diane embarked on transforming her home into a personal sanctuary after her husband’s passing, she embraced change wholeheartedly. In so doing, she exemplified the concept of moving with change rather than resisting it—a testament to her vibrant embrace of life.
The late inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” suggesting that the people you frequently interact with significantly shape your behaviors, attitudes, and habits. With her joyful countenance, sense of wonder, and unbridled enthusiasm, Diane’s presence significantly impacts all of us who know and love her. She proves that life should not dull our sparkle, but rather, it should make us shine even brighter.
Today, Diane is a regular member of our drumming circle and attends others in the area, as well. While writing this piece, I received a touching message from her:
“Bless you, Colleen, for inviting me to join you at that first drumming circle. I thought I was happy and content and I was. But, oh my God! Now I feel like my life has a new spark! I think I’ve always been kind of alive, but I think I’m becoming really alive.”
It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth - and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.
~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Colleen Kilpatrick is the Author of “Eliminate What You Tolerate”, a concise, but mighty book that has earned a 5-star rating on Amazon for helping readers identify and release what no longer serves them and make room for what lights them up. A Wellbeing Mentor, Colleen helps women discover the transformative powers of ancient and modern wisdom and selfcare practices to revitalize body, mind, and spirit naturally. You can contact Colleen at colleen@colleenkilpatrick@icloud.com or 248-762-9828.
My Best Friend law
For the past 2-3 years I have been researching all the pros and cons of having a total knee replacement done on both of my severely arthritic knees. When 2025 arrived, I decided it was time to stop procrastinating and become my own BEST friend by writing in my journal each morning until I felt like I could decide, one way or the other, in total confidence.
As I began writing on this topic, an awareness came to me - I quickly realized I had been constantly caught up in a loop of paralysis by analysis. Each time I researched the positives and negatives around this subject, I would temporarily forget a very important Law of attraction (LoA) principle. This principle simply states that the manifestation process unfolds easily and effortlessly when we follow our own guidance and stop listening to everyone else's opinion on what they think we should do.
My journal is private, and I know that no one else sees it, reads it or hears it. It's the safest place I can go, where I know that I will never be judged. This is where I can be my authentic self and write down all the fears and worries and doubts that I have around this surgery.
Writing my real feelings on paper enabled me to acknowledge and then release the negative thoughts that have been producing my anxiety and ongoing procrastination. A sense of relief soon appeared, and clarity and calmness arrived. In this good-feeling place my inner being (Higher self/ God) wrote me this message:
“I am not my programmed childhood limiting beliefs. I am not the worrisome thoughts that make me feel afraid of the unknown.
I am not defined by the habitual, selfdefeating stories that I subconsciously carry deep inside of me.
I am not the labels other people have put on me throughout my childhood.
I am not an unworthy person who first needs to suffer and sacrifice before I can have what I truly want in life.
I am none of these things.
Who I really am is a spiritual being, a small aspect and/or an extension of God/Source Energy who has temporarily chosen to travel on planet earth in a vehicle we call a body.
I am a beautiful, high frequency, loving, energetic being.
My I AM Presence (God) never abandons me and is always found deep within me, wanting to co-create with me and ready, willing, and able to assist me when I ask for help. And because of this I am a powerful creator. No one else’s thoughts and opinions create my reality. I create my own reality. I have the power to choose how I want to think about everything and the free will to pick a perspective that supports my desired outcome.”
After I read this beautiful message, I was at total peace, and I scheduled my surgery for March 5th.
A wise man named Albert Einstein once said, “Your imagination is the preview to your life’s coming attractions.”
Knowing this to be true, I begin to imagine how my life is going to feel after my knee surgery. I begin imagining all the fun I’m going to have this summer with my little 5-year-old granddaughter Olivia.
I see Grandpa, Olivia and me happily walking effortlessly to our neighborhood park. Instead of sitting on the sidelines and taking pictures, I now easily jump into the pool with Olivia as Grandpa takes pictures.
After we’re tired of swimming, we walk over to the playground. I effortlessly climb up the ladder to the big slide where I wrap my legs around Olivia as we slide down together in unison. Next, Olivia and I feel as free as birds as we cheerfully pump our legs, while we swing higher and higher on the “big girl” swings.
After we walk home from the park, Grandpa, Olivia and I chase each other around our beautiful big backyard and joyfully run and kick balls back and forth with each other. We pick flowers from my garden and make a pretty bouquet for the dinner table.
After dark, it's so much fun to painlessly get down on the floor as I play card games, board games and read books with Olivia while Grandpa cooks dinner.
Later in the evening Grandpa surprises us and makes popcorn and a fun movie night unfolds where we all snuggle up together in front of the TV, filling our tummies with popcorn, as we watch Olivia’s favorite movie: Frozen
Another tried and true LoA principle is that we must first get into the feeling place (how it would feel if we already had what we wanted to manifest) before we can attract it to us.
As I pictured having fun with Olivia, I easily conjured up this happy and carefree feeling place in my mind and intend to get into this great feeling place each morning before, during and after my surgery because it's not the words we speak that bring us our dreams, but instead, it's how we truly feel deep inside that attracts the results we want.
So…
This year I invite you to set aside 10 to 15 minutes every day to speak your truth to yourself in your own private journal or record it in your phone if you don't enjoy writing. It's never too late to put yourself first on the list of people you want to help.
You might be surprised and delighted that in the year 2025 everything you’ve ever wanted to manifest in your life began showing up after you made the choice to BE your own best friend!
Suzanne Young is an intuitive life coach who specializes in the Law of Attraction. She is also an inspirational speaker, author, and co-owner of Personal Success Programs, since 2007, with her husband Kevin Young. You can email her at suzanne@psprograms.com and their website is www.psprograms.com. Her office number is 248.349.6225.
Moving Forward Together Celebrating Women’s History Month 2025
BY KELLIE PARDI
in 1982. Congress passed a law in 1987 designating Since it was instituted, we have seen both leaps forward and equal pay and adequate representation in leadership. While moving together AS WOMEN, not women in a man’s world. In our bid for equality, we have lost a sense of our sacred femininity as mothers, healers, stewards of the earth, and qualities are in shaping the world around us, and whether we are conscious of it or not, we are longing to reclaim our
The reinstitution of the Sacred Feminine isn’t a weird “out there” concept but, instead, a necessity in re-establishing women as equals. Not only regarding equal pay, but also to be respected for the very qualities that make us women.
It’s part of finding our voice, owning our power, and understanding our purpose.
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Grit & Grace
This article is dedicated to Mary, my best friend for life. This year we are celebrating our 55th year of friendship.
Mary and I met in kindergarten, at Healy, an old brick schoolhouse in northwest Detroit. We lived in the same neighborhood 2 blocks from each other, and our fathers were both Detroit Police Officers. Our mothers had jobs, however, they placed most of their focus on raising the children and caring for their husbands and the home. Each the youngest of 5 children, our sibling roster was almost identical with an oldest brother followed by two sisters then a brother 6 years our senior.
We did the kind of things kids did in the 1970s: played four-square, kick the can, the board game Sorry, and with Barbies. We baked sweet treats, swung on the swing set, rode our bikes, begged to spend the night at one another’s house, did lots and lots of Trick-or-treating, shoveled snow from driveways to earn a few bucks, chased boys, and oh so much more.
Admittedly, Mary tormented me…just a little bit. She would put my long hair between the desks at school so I would be stuck when I tried to get up, pull that same hair when I started to win at Sorry, rearrange things on my dresser when I left my bedroom, and laugh until she cried when I got stuck, hanging upside down by one foot, in the Apple tree in my backyard.
Most importantly, however, Mary challenged me to grow. Years before it became an adage, Mary knew that life does begin outside of your comfort zone. She
valued what I was missing so she wasn’t going to have her best friend writing poetry at home when I could be playing kick-the-can with her and the boys on her street.
Mary boldly embraces life.
Our dynamic continued through high school, college parties, and adult functions. I’m not sure Mary knows how much I needed her to pave the way for my introvert to come out and play. Over the years I influenced her too, in more subtle ways. It’s harder for a whisper to affect a boisterous gust of wind than vice versa.
I have learned from my friendship with Mary and others that long-lasting relationships require Grit & Grace. When we witness each other’s stories over many years, undeniable hard truths rise to the surface that cannot be brushed away. There is no better reflection than a friend willing to be honest with you. When this happens, it will feel like a kick in the gut and you will know it is true. This is when it is time to grow.
My mindfulness practice has allowed me the opportunity to examine these truths rather than become defensive and deflect them. Sure, at first, I have an emotional reaction, which I acknowledge but don’t give any power to. Then I allow time and space to do their magic. I’ve come to look forward to these transactions as some of the greatest gifts my friends give me
because on the other side I am a little less stuck than I was before. A little more free.
Grace comes into play when the other person is being human. They cancel yet another date with you, show up late, forget your birthday. Emotions are sure to bubble to the surface, and maybe even boil over, but with practice and the mindful awareness that most of what people do or don’t do is not even about you, you can loosen the tie of judgment, engage in curiosity, and begin to really learn your friend.
Friendship: to be seen, heard, felt, known, and loved anyway.
Thank you, Mary, for always being “there” for me, right in my heart.
Mindfully Yours, Trice
As a leader in the mindfulness movement Trice began teaching mindfulness 2011. She started a non-profit in 2012, The Michigan Collaborative for Mindfulness in Education, and has taught kids, teachers, & administrators from Detroit to the UP! As a Certified Meditation Instructor, also certified in the neuroscience of change by Dr. Joe Dispenza, she has trained numerous individuals & organizations, including GM, U of M, and more.
4 BUDGET-FRIENDLY IDEAS
TO Freshen Up Indoor Spaces
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Whether you’re fatigued by seeing the same decor every day or simply looking for an opportunity to refresh indoor spaces with an appealing mini makeover, rethinking your favorite room in the house doesn’t need to be an expensive ordeal.
Even if your budget is tight, you can still make small changes to transform a room. Consider these ideas:
Bring stylish flair to your space with a new color scheme. Rather than replacing all the furniture, which can be costly, focus on smaller accessory pieces such as pillows and decorative items. Create variety by using multiple hues of the same color or mixing two or more complementary colors.
Introduce new accent furniture. Smaller and less cost-prohibitive than centerpieces like a couch, for example, accent pieces such as end tables or a coffee
table can provide subtle changes to the look of a room. You could also opt to refinish a piece of furniture you have on-hand to create a look that’s all your own.
Morph your room by simply rearranging what you already own. Adjusting the orientation of your furniture and decor can let you see your favorite room from a whole new perspective.
Whether it’s a flea market find, such as an old window frame that you paint and add a display shelf to the base, or a series of photos from your favorite vacation destination, adding some DIY art can not only update your room, but make it more personal, too.
A new look for your favorite room can go a long way, so find ways to update your space for a comfy retreat you can enjoy. Find more ideas at eLivingtoday.com.
I’m a
Wife Swapping Woman!
Oh!
I know you read that title, and you are looking for some steamy details from a woman that is living the lifestyle of a wife swapper. You and your dirty mind! The Definition of Wife swapping: A lifestyle in which a couple exchanges spouses for an evening of sex and fun.
Well, there is a second definition of a “Wife Swapper”: One who has been on an internationally televised show called, “Wife Swap.” I’m sorry to disappoint you, but no steamy sex stories here. I fall into the second definition of a wife swapper.
It was 2005 and the reality television show genre had just hit primetime television networks. My husband and I were watching television when we scrolled upon a show that caught our attention. We watched in shock as two seemingly dysfunctional families swapped lives on a show called, “Wife Swap.” The byline reads, “They live each other’s lives for two weeks.” It’s an interesting concept to take two women, who seem completely the opposite, and have them live each other’s lives. While what someone considers “functional” is relative, we were living rather functional lives with our six kids. Four of the kids were our biological children and two of the kids were a niece and nephew that we were raising.
My husband was uninterested in the show and left the room. I continued watching. As he wandered past the television screen for one of the scenes, he commented, “We should go on that show just to give people hope that they can have a functional family.” A few days later, my husband left on a hunting trip.
While he was gone, I reflected on his idea. I decided to reach out to the producers of “Wife Swap” with a brief email. I relayed some information about our family. My husband is a Pastor, I home school our six kids, we love the outdoors and hunting. They emailed me back the next day and asked me to send them a video. I created a brief video on a VHS tape and, as I dropped the video into the postage box, I said these words, “May the favor of God be upon this video and may we be selected for your glory.” Within days, I received a call from a producer that told me they had searched through 10,000 applicants and that they wanted our family to be featured on the first season of “Wife Swap.”
When my husband returned from hunting, I reminded him of HIS idea to go on that show. He replied, “I was just joking.” I responded, “Well, a producer from Great Britain is flying here in two days to meet us.” Thus, began a six-week decision period as to whether we really should go on a show called, “Wife Swap” and subject ourselves, our family and, possibly the corporate “Church”, to a lot of unknowns. We consulted with wise friends, mentors, fellow pastors and television producers before we ultimately agreed to be on the show.
I always had a very supportive mother that gave me the confidence to take on new adventures, even crazy ones like this. However, my dad was verbally abusive and uninvolved in my life or the lives of my two brothers. Therefore, I would say that I grew up in a somewhat dysfunctional family. I had made the decision to serve Christ when I was 15 years old. My immediate family members were not Christians. I did not know if the Christian family that I imagined for my future existed. When I visited the homes of friends that I met in college,
I discovered in their families that the “family in my head” was real and did exist.
A lot of young people were drawn to the “Wife Swap” television series. Part of our motive for ultimately agreeing to be on this show was the opportunity to show young people— not much different from me as a teen—that functional families existed, and they could have one too!
We accomplished our goal. After the show aired before ten thousand viewers on a Monday night, before Monday Night Football, we fielded over seven thousand emails with both young and older viewers. We also created a live chat website and genuinely helped a lot of families. My prayer was answered. We were selected “For HIS glory.” We saw lives saved, families changed, and people worked through some very challenging church experiences.
It was a good decision for our family. We have so many life lessons that we learned from that experience. We still share these stories with friends and at speaking engagements. Among the lessons that I will leave with you today is to take chances. Go on adventures. Don’t let fear lead your decisions for, or against, something that you feel led to do. Also, don’t judge others because you never know what God can use for HIS glory.
Kelly Stonerock was raised in Clarkston. She has been a resident of Goodrich for 29 years. She is presently the CEO of BatsAndTraps.com, an animal removal company that services Genesee County and it’s surrounding communities. Kelly has five children of her own and she raised three other children. She was featured on ABC’s television show, “Wife Swap” in 2005. Her episode is available on Hulu, Season 2: Episode 11.
Today, our episode: Stonerock/ Finley Season 2: Episode 11 is available on Hulu.
The following excerpts are from the people we met, emails and letters that we received.
“After Watching “Wife Swap,” I want you to know that motivate me to be more--more of what God wants me to be as a wife, mom, friend, etc. Thanks for sharing your faith with so many on TV.”
-Pat, Detroit WMUZ listener
“I loved how the show closed with Jeff saying we should love our neighbors as ourselves and then you told them that atheists are my neighbors too.”
-Kim, Arizona viewer
“Even if this show never aired, I want you to know that you have changed my life”
-RDF/ABC Crew Member
Let me tell you about my mentor, my sister, my friend, Sabrina Cesaire, LMSW. In the realm of mental health, she is not just a name but a remarkable force of compassion and expertise. For over two decades, she has dedicated herself to the field of Social Work as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the state of Michigan. Her journey started with a foundation laid at Stony Brook University in Long Island, NY, where she earned both her Bachelor's and Master's degrees. She is the founder of Queen Carriage Horse rides, a recipient of the Spirit of Detroit award, as well as a recipient of a proclamation from the United States Congress given by the honorable Dr. Shri Thanedar.
But Sabrina's story goes far beyond her academic accomplishments. What sets her apart is her deep-rooted love for connecting with people, and it extends to an unexpected place—her passion for working with horses. This unique combination underscores her extraordinary ability to form genuine connections with those she meets. It's a gift that's been with her since a young age when she first visited and volunteered at stables in Central Park.
I've always believed that life has an uncanny way of bringing the right people into our paths when we need them most. In my journey, one such person, Sabrina Ceasare, has had a profound impact on my personal and professional
Beyond Mentorship A Heartfelt Journey with Sabrina Cesaire
development, and I'm filled with gratitude for her presence in my life.
It all began five years ago when Sabrina and I found ourselves working side by side in the field of psychiatric intervention. I was the new kid on the block, eager but unsure of my place in the highly specialized world of mental health care. In stark contrast, Sabrina was a seasoned professional who, as one of the most senior staff in the program, was renowned for her unwavering dedication to her patients, her meticulous work ethic, and her formidable knowledge.
I vividly remember our first encounter. As an extroverted and somewhat quirky personality, I had a knack for diffusing tense situations with humor and a touch of silliness. This couldn't have been more different from Sabrina's typical demeanor—serious, professional, and utterly focused on her patients and her case loads. To say she was standoffish would be an understatement.
But, the remarkable thing about life is that sometimes the most unexpected connections are the most profound. It didn't take long for my somewhat unconventional mannerisms to win her over. In a matter of days, Sabrina's stern façade began to crack as she found herself chuckling at my quirks and antics.
One day, to the astonishment of our supervisors and coworkers, Sabrina brought me a home-cooked lunch. It was a simple gesture, but it spoke volumes. She had gone from a mentor to a friend, and her warm smile and that heartfelt hug left me speechless. Her small stature was deceiving, for she was a powerful force who had, quite literally, dominated the room with her extensive knowledge and impeccable work ethic. The change in her demeanor, brought about by our friendship, was extraordinary.
Sabrina's mentorship was not just about professional development; it extended to personal growth as well. She showed me that while dedication to work is essential, life's richest experiences often come from the connections we build. Sabrina taught me to balance my professional life with the personal, to appreciate humor in the midst of seriousness, and to understand that there is more to a person than their job title.
Her impact on my life is immeasurable. She has not only opened doors for me professionally but also personally. In fact, my son had the privilege of flying an airplane at the tender age of 13, an experience that would have been unthinkable without Sabrina's intervention. It's a memory my son will carry with him throughout his
life, and I will always be grateful to her for making it possible.
In closing, I'm reminded of a quote by Melody Beattie:
"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more."
Sabrina Cesaire has undoubtedly unlocked the fullness of my life, and for that, I'm forever grateful. The profound difference she's made in my life is immeasurable, and I can't thank her enough for the doors she's opened, the laughter she's brought, and the lasting friendship we've cultivated along this remarkable journey. Sabrina is a shining example of how gratitude, mentorship, and friendship can transform our lives in the most unexpected and beautiful ways.
Lynn Nicole Turner is a seasoned mental health professional with 20+ years of experience. Specializing in suicide prevention and high acuity patients, she is a trusted counselor, addiction treatment specialist, and certified life coach. Lynn's dedication extends to mentoring young women and advocating for the vulnerable in mental health. www.linkedin.com/in/ lynnnturner
Winter can be beautiful with snow covering the trees and blanketing the ground. As much as I can appreciate that time of year – time to be quiet and hibernate a bit - when I see the first touches of spring, I come alive. The green grass is peeking through the snow and the other day there was a whole flock of robins in my crabapple tree! YES!! Spring is coming! I feel the urge to refresh my space —decluttering closets, deepcleaning spaces, and making room for something new. Do you go into the spring-cleaning mode?
But what if we approached our inner lives the same way? Just as we clear out physical clutter, we can also clear out the emotional and mental weight that holds us back from stepping into a fresh start.
Spring is a season of renewal, a perfect time to release old burdens, embrace growth, and move forward with clarity. And while personal transformation is powerful, it’s even more meaningful when shared with a community of women who uplift and encourage one another.
THE WEIGHT WE CARRY
When I hear “the weight we carry”, my mind immediately goes to my physical weight – especially after the long winter months! While there is something about spring time that has us wanting to shed those excess pounds, there is so much more to “weight” than just that. Many of us hold onto things long past their usefulness—grudges, regrets, selfdoubt, or even outdated versions of ourselves. We carry the weight of past failures, disappointments, or
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relationships that no longer serve us. Just like we can feel overwhelmed when our home or office is cluttered, an overcrowded mind and heart can make it hard to step into new possibilities.
THE POWER OF LETTING GO
Letting go isn’t always easy. Sometimes, we cling to the familiar— even when it’s not healthy—because change feels uncertain. But releasing what no longer serves us isn’t about loss; it’s about making space for something better.
Spring cleaning for the soul starts with small, intentional choices:
• Let go of perfectionism and embrace progress. Celebrate the small things!
• Release negative self-talk and replace it with grace and encouragement.
• Forgive yourself (and others) for past mistakes, allowing space for healing.
DECLUTTERING OUR MINDSETS
Just as a cluttered space affects our mood, a cluttered mind can keep us stuck in old patterns. Spring is an opportunity to refresh our perspectives, shifting from a mindset of limitation to one of possibility. These are my most favorite and powerful shifts!
• From “I have to” → “I get to” (reframing obligations as opportunities)
• From “I’m not good at this” → “I’m still learning” (embracing growth)
• From “It’s too late” → “Now is the perfect time” (letting go of self-imposed deadlines)
GROWING TOGETHER: THE POWER OF COMMUNITY
Letting go and moving forward isn’t meant to be a solo journey. Women thrive in community—encouraging one another, holding each other accountable, and offering a safe space to share struggles and victories.
Think about the women in your life who inspire and support you. How can you nurture those relationships? Maybe it’s reaching out to a friend, joining a supportive group, or simply having open, honest conversations about your own journey of renewal. There are many groups in our midMichigan area with women just like us – wanting to develop friendships, needing encouragement, and having some fun!
CREATING SPACE FOR WHAT’S NEXT
Once we’ve cleared out what no longer serves us, we can begin filling our lives with what truly matters. This might look like:
• Setting a new personal or professional goal
• Prioritizing self-care without guilt – this may be one of the hardest for us to do!
• Taking steps toward a healthier lifestyle
• Saying “yes” to opportunities that excite you
Spring reminds us that no matter how long winter has been, new life always returns. You have the power to embrace a fresh start, let go of what’s
weighing you down, and step forward with renewed energy and purpose.
Journaling is a powerful habit to create transformation. Here are a couple journal prompts to get you started:
1. What thoughts, emotions, or habits have been lingering in your life that no longer serve your wellbeing?
2. What is one belief, habit, or past experience I’m ready to release so I can move forward?
Happy Spring! What beautiful new beginnings will you make room for?
Debra Loader is a Christian Health and Wellness Coach, a Christian Life Coach, as well as a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC). She helps women integrate their Christian faith into their health and wellness journey to find greater motivation and resilience. You can contact Debra at debra@ debraloaderlivingwell.com or 810-2874096.
Book Club Classics Books that Change You
Voices of the Sacred Feminine: Conversations to Re-Shape Our World
by Karen Tate
Most of us have come to realize patriarchy - rule by a male-dominated society revering solely a male God - is not working for Mother Earth or most of the people on the planet. How do we counter beliefs that there is no option but the authoritarian father? How does society go about making a course correction? How do ideas that permeate every level of society from womb to tomb, boardroom to bedroom, voting booth to the workplace shift into a more fair, equal, and just world of partnership, sharing, caring and peace?
Empowering Our Feminine
As a constant observer of humanity, it is impossible to have not noticed a universal scarcity of power, in women, all over the world. It is not always self imposed, although we are responsible for allowing it to have happened. Oh, we can point fingers at our circumstances, men, children, parents, careers, teachers… the list goes on and on and on… The truth is three fingers are pointing back. We have, collectively, contributed to our own demise. It has not always been this way. It is not meant to be this way.
Our own evolution has separated us hence diminishing our strength. We have drifted from our gathering sisters and gotten too wrapped up in our singular daily rituals of societal and self mandated obligations of child rearing, wife being, home makers, gossipers and workers. It is not surprising that we are zapped, drained of energy and might…we don’t feel empowered…just worn out.
The time has come for us to reclaim our sacred feminine. We can have and do it all…with a little help from our sisters. If we combine we can accomplish this much more quickly!
Here are ten suggestions to begin the journey of self reclamation:
1
No more gossip. Back stabbing is the major combined consumption of command we have. Each time a woman puts another down, a bit of womanhood vanishes. It is painful to hear beautiful people speak badly about a friend, acquaintance or stranger. It belittles the gossiper, not the gossipee. We are unaware of what may be occurring in their life, heart or head. Who made us the expert? Instead, support without judgment. When you hear gossip, speak up! I guarantee you feel be respected as well as empowered!
2
Find a mentor/be a mentor. There is room for all of us to be successful. We can share our expertise, without fear, if we can trust one another. TRUST, is key. We would “give” more freely if only we knew that it would not back fire. Unfortunately, we have become understandably afraid in the work place. Competition has forced us to conceal our naturally nurturing nature. If we worked together, instead of against ourselves, we would find a renewed sense of sisterhood. You may get hurt but keep moving forward, fearlessly. Lead by example. To mentor without jealousy or fear is definitely empowering.
3
Form a tribe of women who lift you. These can be women from work and/or play. They are the sisters who have your back, depend on and talk to about anything and everything. Form a mastermind group to help each other succeed. Celebrate the accomplishments of each. Start a dinner, wine, walking, tennis or whatever club. Linking with like-minded women will be empowering to all concerned.
4
Take care of your body. It is the only house that matters. It makes no difference how much you weigh, however, how you feel about it does. If you are in pain, unhappy or uncomfortable… your full power will neither be accessible nor evident. Take charge. Create a powerful self image. Eat well… be well, think strong…be strong. Stretch, walk or do whatever you can to improve your self image. Find an activity that you enjoy, can schedule and stick to. Being your best self is evident and empowering.
5
Feed your mind and your spirit. You must replenish yourself. This is where a DivaSister can help. Exchange turns watching the children, even if it is for an hour of peaceful tranquility, a walk, a read, a bath. Return fully charged, ready for the next round. Meditate early in the morning or last thing at night. Just breathe!
6 Read. Doesn’t matter if they are fact or fiction, read. Throw in a prominent female author now and again. There are tons of women who have a message, a teaching experience, a biography or autobiography or a good story to tell. There are bits of wisdom everywhere, find them, share them. A book club is a great way to have “adult” conversation.
7
Wear clothes that make you feel good, no matter the occasion. If everyone is wearing jeans and you feel like wearing a dress, do it. The opposite is also true. Some colors suite you, others do not, learn these. Your particular sense of style will emerge, others will notice. Be yourself, consistently, chin high, shoulders back. There is power in being an individual who is not afraid of their own distinctiveness.
8
Try a new look. Feeling a little down, change it up! Get a make-over. Arrange a girls’ day at the salon or spa, or just have a friend do something fresh to your face and/or hair. It may be as simple as experimenting with a trending lip or nail color or buying a new bra (an uplifting experience!). Sometimes, the simplest little change can perk up your personal power.
9
Go to dinner alone. Get comfortable spending time with yourself. As a coach, I see fear of being alone, as one of the most disempowering situations a woman can find herself in. You do not always have to be accompanied by a friend, partner or child. Take a test drive in independence, go shopping, have dinner or see chick flick ALONE. Just do it! Your self esteem will sky rocket.
10
Know who you are and what you believe. This is the most vital step of all. If you do none of the others, please do this one. Learn about you. What makes you unique? Why do you have set behaviors or insist on certain things? Explore your beliefs about the universe and God, raising children, your parents, things that matter. Think. Discover a passion, be it painting or skate boarding. Who are your influencers, your heroes, your want-to- be’s? In other words, focus on YOU. Once you truly know yourself and your beliefs, making it easy to be authentic, attract the right people, define your purpose and stand for something. You will be YOU and that, my friend, is empowerment.
You can turn your personal empowerment journey into tangible goals by making a list and crossing them off as they are achieved. If we all come to realize our own strength, think how powerfully we can be together. Just imagine the possibilities.
That’s what The Divalution is all about. Welcome.
Deborah St.Hilaire is a unifier, enlightener and catalyst for change in the way women are treated and treat each other. Author, speaker, transformational coach and teacher, Deb, the founder of MyBodyMindSpirit. com, is dedicated to enriching lives through selfcare, meditation, movement, thought and journaling. She can be reached at 989.450.4200 or deb@mybodymindspirit.com.
Love in Action Women Making A Difference
BY MARY PITTMAN
Sister Carol Weber and her team at the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center in Flint, Michigan, extend a transformative kind of love to their community. I was fortunate enough to be introduced to Sister Carol by our neighbor Bob Jacobs, who has dedicated nine years to the N.E.W. Life Center and now sits on their board. Bob's passion for the center's mission is infectious, and it was through his encouragement that I discovered the incredible work happening to uplift those in Flint.
Sister Carol is at the heart of the center's efforts, whose unwavering dedication and compassion create a nurturing environment for individuals and families in the Flint area. Her vision of love in action is evident in every initiative—from providing essential resources to fostering a sense of belonging among those who walk through their doors. Love can take on many forms, and sometimes, the most transformative love is the one that reaches out to embrace those in need, regardless of where we call home.
Since co-founding the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center in 2002, Sister Carol has dedicated her life to uplifting those often overlooked. In a city like Flint, where challenges can feel insurmountable, Sister Carol embodies a powerful vision: to empower individuals and families to reclaim their lives through education, skill-building, and
a faith-driven approach to community support.
At the heart of Saint Luke is a mission grounded in love and resilience. The N.E.W. Center offers life skills training, educational programs, and workplace readiness initiatives specifically designed to help individuals rise above their circumstances. With a budget of $2 million, it is more than just a service provider; the center fosters a nurturing environment where self-esteem blossoms and hope is reignited.
A Journey of Compassion: The Birth of Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center
The story of the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center began in 1998 with Sister Judy and Sister Carol, who started a street ministry to lay the groundwork for what was to come. After a transformative 30-day silent retreat, Sister Judy was moved by a vivid dream of women with blurred faces reaching out to her, pleading for help. Though she returned to her daily work at Saint Luke Catholic Church, the dream lingered in her heart.
Around the same time, Sister Carol's niece, Alison, was preparing for her confirmation, and together they decided to take action. They collected used clothes and accessories to distribute to people experiencing homelessness, leading them to the St. Luke North
End soup kitchen. One poignant moment from this initiative stood out: while handing out homemade peanut butter cookies, a man approached, tears streaming down his face as he revealed that it had been over 41 years since he had tasted a homemade cookie. This encounter highlighted the profound impact of compassion and connection, solidifying their resolve to continue their ministry.
In January 2002, Sister Carol encountered a woman needing newborn clothes for a child born in an abandoned home. This heart-wrenching situation pushed Sister Carol to recognize an urgent need for more consistent support in the community. When the St. Luke school building was slated for closure later that year, Sister Judy seized the opportunity to gather church members and discuss the potential of the vacant space. The parishioners voiced a collective desire to create a safe haven for women and children, focusing on education and self-esteem building.
With this community input, Sister Carol and Sister Judy launched a three-year program aimed at life transformation. They welcomed their first cohort of women, creating a family-oriented environment that included meals and tutoring for children. The humble beginnings of the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center marked the start of a journey filled with hope, resilience, and a commitment to lifting families out of hardship.
As they grew their food pantry to serve approximately 300 families each month, Sister Carol and her team laid the foundation for an organization that meets immediate needs and fosters long-term growth and self-sufficiency.
Weathering the Storm: A Response to Crisis
However, in 2008, the landscape changed dramatically. The financial meltdown and recession hit hard, leaving the community grappling with unprecedented unemployment and despair. Flint, a city already struggling with economic challenges, faced a grim reality as jobs vanished and families found themselves in dire straits.
In response to this crisis, Sister Carol and her team recognized that they needed to adapt and innovate. They understood that simply providing support wasn't enough; they had to create sustainable opportunities for the community. With a resilient spirit,
they launched a sewing enterprise aimed at teaching women valuable skills that would enable them to secure employment. This initiative provided practical training and instilled a sense of purpose and accomplishment in the participants.
Through a serendipitous connection, the center received a call from Bob Jacquart, the owner of Stormy Cromer, a renowned outerwear company in Ironwood, Michigan. He was looking for skilled sewers, and Sister Carol and Sister Judy saw this as a pivotal opportunity. With a group of six women, she embarked on a week-long journey to learn the intricacies of sewing the company's products. For many of these women, it was their first time leaving Flint, and the experience was both transformative and empowering.
As they honed their skills, the women gained employment and confidence, realizing that they could overcome obstacles through determination and support. This venture marked a significant turning point, enabling Sister Carol and her team to expand their sewing operations. They upgraded their equipment with industrial machines, enhancing the quality of their work and establishing a fulfilling business model.
In the same year, Sister Carol and Sister Judy recognized the need to extend their mission to men in the community. The struggles faced by families were not limited to women; men were equally affected by the economic downturn. Thus, the Adult Literacy Center was established, sponsored by the Adrian Dominican Sisters, formalizing their original quest to help individuals grow in education. This initiative created another pathway for long-term sustainability, allowing both men and women to obtain their GEDs and pursue further educational opportunities.
A New Era of Growth and Opportunity
Today, nearly 70% of the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center's funding comes from individual donors. Over the past 22 years, the center has been blessed with dedicated volunteers and supporters, allowing it to flourish and expand its impact on the community. Currently, there are 43 employees at the center, with ten scheduled to transition to new employment opportunities in the coming months. This cycle of growth and renewal is a testament to the center's commitment to fostering self-sufficiency.
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Sister Carol is now on a quest with two significant goals for the upcoming year: completing renovations for a new social enterprise hub and establishing more extensive pathways for participants to gain meaningful, long-term employment outside of the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center. An inspiring milestone is the opening of a second building that will house three of their social enterprises, showcasing the center's growth and their faith in their mission.
Jessie's journey stands out among the many success stories from the center. Once weighing 450 pounds and enduring a history of abuse, Jesse has transformed her life. After facing cancer twice and carrying a bullet from her abusive past, she is now a proud mother and grandmother and a respected figure in her community, known for her vivacious spirit and hard work as a seasonal seamstress.
Then there's Napoleon, who battled addiction for years. With the unwavering support of his determined wife and the resources from the center, he turned his life around and now serves as a supervisor in a local factory. His transformation is a source of pride for him and everyone at the center who witnessed his journey.
Pepsi's story adds another layer to the center's impact. Once a victim of severe abuse, Pepsi found hope through the Resilient Women's Program. Today, she contributes her skills to the sewing enterprise, demonstrating the power of resilience and support.
In recent years, the center has changed the lives of more than 100 adults each year, and expectations are high for this number to grow with the renovation of the new facility. Moreover, the positive impact extends to the children of these adults, guiding them toward a future filled with hope rather than despair.
A Call to Action: Share Your Love
Sister Carol believes in the profound impact of listening and encouragement. "Community service is not just about doing something;
sometimes it's about being an active listener and a cheerleader for those who have never had one," she states. A smile and a kind word can go a long way in a troubled community.
We invite the Genesee County community to get involved with Sister Carol and the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center. There are many ways you can extend your support. Financial contributions are vital to sustaining and expanding their programs.
You can donate through their website (www.StLukeNewLife. com), send a check to 3115 Lawndale Ave., Flint, MI 48504, or even schedule a tour to see their work in action (Phone: 810-239-8710).
We invite members of our community to consider hosting a small gathering at their home, where our neighbors and friends can learn more about Sister Carol's impactful work. Bob Jacobs is eager to discuss this opportunity in more detail; you can reach him at bjacobs@viengineering.com.
Non-financial contributions are equally important. Consider volunteering, serving on a committee, or referring someone who may want to help. Sister Carol encourages everyone to engage with the community: "Go and listen. Ask them about their story, and then listen—really listen."
The work happening at the Saint Luke N.E.W. Life Center is a testament to the power of compassion and community. By supporting Sister Carol and her team, you're not just donating; you're becoming a part of a movement that believes in changing lives. God is at work in Flint, and with your help, we can spread His goodness even further.
