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'm sure most of us heard the disheartening news last month regarding the deaths of Kate Spade on June 5 and Anthony Bourdain on June 8 by suicide. Each time I hear of someone who has completed suicide, my heart breaks for the victim, and for their loved ones. I know what it feels like to experience those first few hours, days, weeks and months after hearing the devastating news that your loved one has died by suicide. For us, it will be three years in September since we lost Tristan. I cannot adequately convey to you how devastating losing someone you love to suicide is for those who are left behind. It is truly a hell like no other. Those who make the decision to take their own lives leave behind a sea of broken hearts and tremendous devastation. Kate Spade's family released a statement that her 89-year-old father, already in poor health, was so heartbroken at the news of her death that he passed away on June 21, only 16 days after his daughter. Her 13-year-old daughter Frances Beatrix was so upset, she could not attend her mother's funeral. Anthony Bourdain also left a young daughter
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Barking up the Wrong Tree As I write this letter to you, my family and I have just returned from a much needed vacation. We really enjoyed our time at the beach, and even took our dogs with us! Even dogs need some beach therapy once in a while, right? This vacation was the first time my old girl, Dixie, a black Labrador mix, had ever seen the ocean. She loved running into the water and biting the waves. It was so much fun to watch. My younger dog, Scotch, a male Golden Retriever mix, didn't want any part of the beach – especially the water. He refused to get near it. I honestly thought he would be the one who loved the water, and, I thought Dixie would probably hate it. Go figure. I tried several times to get Scotch to go to the water but he refused to budge each time we would get about 10 feet from the ocean. I just knew if he could get to the water and feel it, then he would love it. The last time I attempted to bring him to the water, he dug his paws in the sand and slipped right out of his collar. Defeated, I finally left him alone. Life is like that sometimes, isn't it? We may have these pre-conceived notions and beliefs about someone or something, and then we're proven wrong. But, we still don't want to believe the truth that is right in front of us. In This Issue Our cover feature this month is Mrs. Cynthia Langley. With a natural servant's heart, Cynthia has been an advocate for troubled youth her entire life. As executive director for Carroll County and Carrollton City Communities in Schools, Cynthia, along with some very special site coordinators and community partners is sharing love, kindness, empathy and hope with kids in many of our local schools. Read about Cynthia on page 10 as she shares her story of extending a helping hand to empower these atrisk children to claim their right to a better life. The Carrollton Optimist club reached out to me last year about possibly featuring one of their members who is deeply involved in helping foster children through the club's "Clothing for the Growing" project. When we began working on the article, imagine my surprise when I found out the woman the club told me about was one of my dearest friends, Eileen Burton. I had no idea she was the woman involved with the project, but, I must say how excited and honored I am to have the opportunity to feature my friend of 20 years! Eileen is such a beautiful person, inside and out. She is a friend that I can confide in about everything because I know she loves me, regardless. I am truly so fortunate to have Eileen in my life. I know you'll enjoy reading about Eileen and her work with the Optimist Club on page 31. Is your child moving away to college or tying the knot? Cheryl Francis shares some tips on how to ease the pain during this transition on page 25. I hope you're having a wonderful summer so far and thank you for reading West Georgia Woman! Have a safe and happy Independence Day!
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Empathy Came Early In school, Cynthia had great compassion for her classmates, particularly those that seemed to endure hardship or struggle. “As a middle child, I had learned very early on to be quiet and observe the world around me," she relates. "Through my experience with 4-H and other activities, I became very attuned to the needs of others. I was always concerned about fellow students who tended to get in trouble in school for their behavioral problems. As I reflect now, I realize some students probably acted out to deflect attention away from possible learning deficits.” She has a particular memory dating to seventhgrade science class, when the teacher required students to take turns reading aloud from a textbook. Cynthia had befriended one young man in the class who was several years older than her. He had repeated grades three times over the course of his education. “When it was his turn to read, I could tell by the look on his face it would not end well,” she recalls. “I kept telling him, ‘Don’t do it, I’ll help
you later,’ but the situation ended up as an all-out fight between him and the teacher.” The student was sent from the classroom and he never returned to class. “The confrontation and scene made a huge and everlasting impact on me,” she relates. Cynthia, with her empathetic heart for troubled kids, felt they were just misunderstood. When adults would ask her about her interest in teaching during this time, Cynthia would usually respond with, "Only if all of the bad students are in my classroom!"
Her Career Path After graduating from Woodland High School, Cynthia first attended Southern Union Community College, then followed in her father’s footsteps by completing her bachelor's degree at Auburn. “My choice to get a degree in social work seemed the logical choice for someone who wanted to serve others,” she explains. She did follow her sentiment and wanted to learn how to help those students who were suffering with a variety of situations, from learning difficulties to stressful home lives. While studying social work, Cynthia was offered real world experience including volunteering at a battered women’s shelter in Auburn, and placement experiences with individuals
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The Real World Shortly after graduation, Cynthia was hired as a status offender worker in the Carroll County justice system. As a fresh-faced, rather innocent 21-yearold, Cynthia’s case load was chock-full of truants, unruly kids and runaway youth. “Some of my most interesting cases from that time were with the
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truants," she recalls. "These kids often came from large families of five or more children and I often found not one of the children was enrolled in school. Many times these families did not place any value in education." She says it is very difficult to make an impact on truancy or, effect change when a child is continually told she doesn't need an education. She was also shocked at the level of poverty that some people live in every day. In fact, Cynthia says it seems as bad today as it ever was. “Poverty has always been here, of course, but as our population has increased, so has the poverty rate," she explains. "Poverty is a bigger issue in our schools than the average citizen even understands. We have students who receive their only meal of the day at school and, if school is out, they are not fed.” Schools can be safe havens for students because they will be fed, kept safe and warm. But with so many issues facing many kids today, it can seem overwhelming for some to even make it to school in the first place. “We have grandparents raising grandchildren, parents in jail and parents on drugs," she shares. "Sometimes, kids are just sofa-hopping and living from friend-to-friend and no permanent residence. Many times kids enter the school building each morning with a huge burden on their shoulders, and they feel they don’t have anyone to share their problems with. So, that burden can make an appearance as bad behavior, sleeping in class, a lack of attendance, poor grades and a detached demeanor.”
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Professional And Personal Growth “My first supervisor in the Carroll County Juvenile Justice System had a very strong influence on me and helped prepare me for career growth,” Cynthia says. Gwen Skinner was in a rare leadership role for women and, she was a huge influence on Cynthia’s work and career. Cynthia says Gwen demonstrated that women can be in a leadership position and still be caring and compassionate to their clients. Gwen was married to a man who worked in the Carroll County Sheriff’s Department, and another coworker of theirs was dating a deputy. So, Gwen set a personal goal to also set Cynthia up with a deputy. Ultimately, Gwen arranged for a shift sergeant in the sheriff’s department to drive Cynthia around his patrol area so she could become familiar with her work territory. Cynthia, with her husband, Terry. “I met the deputy at the beginning of his shift, and I was expecting to ride along for a couple of hours," she shares. "Eight hours later, we finally ended up back at the station, after traveling from one end of the county to the other!” Not only did Cynthia observe how this deputy handled his calls and demonstrated his ability to drive in the snow, she also observed that they really got on well.
In fact, that ride-along eventually ended with a trip to the altar – they were married one year later. That deputy who drove her around in February 1984 is now known as Carroll County Sheriff Terry Langley.
Marriage, Kids And Case Work After the wedding, Cynthia continued to work in the juvenile justice system, rising next to a senior court service worker over the Intensive Supervision Division. While holding down this position, Cynthia and Terry began their family. They had two girls, Hannah and Billie. “I had both children while working as court service worker and it was a new program at that time," she relates. "Our office was one of the pilot sites for the program. It was very stressful learning about and creating a new unit and being a brandnew parent." During this time, Terry was an investigator with the sheriff’s department, which required him to be on-call much of the time, including nights. Cynthia’s own job demanded nighttime curfew checks. “I’d leave the house and often had the babies in the back seat of the van while I drove house-to-house checking on the kids," she says. "Luckily, the kids under supervision loved our babies and would run to my car to see them and talk to them!” While working as a court service worker and
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raising a family, Cynthia also worked toward and received her masters degree in public administration from the University of West Georgia. “I worked for Juvenile Justice for 18 years, and I received my masters during that time," she shares. "In fact, the day I received my diploma I also gave birth to our second child, Billie.” She chose to get her advanced degree in public administration because she wanted to move into a leadership role and she knew that degree would provide an excellent platform for that journey. Cynthia admits it was a struggle to balance fulltime work, earning a master’s degree, maintaining a happy marriage and caring for two babies. “I could never have done it without the support of Terry," she smiles. "He encouraged me to go back to school and he worked part-time jobs to pay the tuition.” Terry took care of Hannah when Cynthia was in class, and relatives helped out when he was on call. “I often had a great deal of guilt thinking I was leaving someone out, but the support of other moms in the class helped me get through,” she relates. Eventually, Cynthia’s hard work and experience was rewarded by her being named juvenile program manager for the Carroll County office.
Another Direction When Hannah was beginning middle school and Billie was entering fourth grade, Terry was elected Sheriff of Carroll County. “After Terry was elected, we made the decision that I would stay home for a while and work as a full-time mom,” she says. She found time to work part-time as a parent educator with the JumpStart Program, which was designed as a prevention program for juvenile court. She also worked with a group of other citizens
Cynthia, third from left, during a Communities in Schools board meeting.
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to begin the Live Oaks children’s shelter, which provides a home for children who require shortterm placement before being assigned to a foster family. Live Oaks allowed children to remain in their community and in their schools. Eventually, Cynthia rejoined the workforce fulltime as the coordinator of the Juvenile Wellness Court under the direction of Judge Dan Camp. “I thought the world of Judge Camp and respected his leadership greatly,” she shares. She worked in this position for five years before another challenge presented itself: the Communities in Schools Program.
Communities In Schools Communities in Schools was founded in the 1970s by Bill Milliken for the New York City school system. The basic idea behind CIS is to bring community resources into the public schools, where they can be coordinated, accessible and accountable to helping kids succeed in their education. Cynthia was hired as executive director for Communities in Schools for Carrollton City and Carroll County schools when the program became affiliated with the national program in 2012. “Our local affiliate was incorporated in 2012 after a local task force looked at the graduation rate in our county as a whole – cumulative of both systems," she explains. "The task force was familiar with the CIS model, believed it to be a credible program and decided to affiliate." Carrollton City schools utilized the Performance Learning Center model – the CIS model program – and Carroll County Schools chose Villa Rica high school as the initial site for their first site coordinator. Cynthia was brought on board in May 2012 to complete the incorporation process, develop the organization as a non-profit and to hire staff. Cynthia says a great tag line for CIS is “We are in schools to keep kids in schools.” Carroll County CIS currently has site coordinators in primarily senior high schools and provides one-on-one support with mentoring, tutoring, obtaining clothing, food, housing, mental health needs, medical needs and anything else that may be a barrier to keeping the student in school. There are hopes to obtain funds to add CIS to middle and elementary schools in the future, although some guidance and initiatives are being brought to the middle schools already. Ninety-six percent of the kids they worked with last year graduated from high school, and
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graduation rates have steadily increased over the last six years. Each school has its own on-site coordinator and the lead site coordinator, Temekia Cheely, is based at Villa Rica High School. Corrine Hindman is site coordinator at Central High; Kevin Pace at Temple Middle and High; Kristin Fretwell at Carrollton High; and Hannah Langley Yates is at Bowdon and Mt. Zion high schools. Roshonda Powers is a mobile site coordinator who was contracted with the program this year. “We contracted with Roshonda this year to provide bullying and suicide prevention services and direction," she says. Carroll County Schools used Title IV federal dollars to hire Roshonda to travel to the middle schools throughout the county to provide guidance lessons on bullying prevention. Students are taught how to recognize bullying behavior, what to do if it is observed and if they are victimized. A major task of Roshonda’s is to help students who have attempted suicide and have threatened and made a plan of action. They create an individual plan of action to help students with difficult or crisis issues. Roshonda’s pilot program has been very successful, and the schools would like to have Roshonda full-time at their campuses. Funds only covered 25 hours per week, and Cynthia and CIS are seeking additional funding for this very important and serious program. Next year, CIS will work toward school-wide recognition of suicidal behavior, teach students how to have a willingness to seek help and where to go for that help.
Central High School site coordinator, Corinne Hindman, with a Central High student. Photo provided by Cynthia Langley.
How CIS Works
Teachers are already so stretched in their capacities it can be difficult for them to provide an intensive, one-on-one support system for students. A major goal for CIS is to help struggling students develop a relationship with a caring adult. This relationship can provide support, stability and the encouragement students need, not only to stay in school, but to thrive. Site coordinators have unique relationships with students and are able help the kids outside of traditional classroom assistance, and the relationship is different from that between teacher and student. “Students sometimes don’t believe a teacher is sincere in their concern because they might believe the teacher is mostly concerned with testing scores,” she explains. First, students are referred to the site coordinator for participation in the program. Parental permission must be obtained, and this can be an obstacle in itself. “If a parent is disengaged, it can be a challenge to get them to sign the form," she says. "We have tried every method in the book to get their signatures and have even offered to meet at McDonald’s for a meal on us.” She says the CIS staff try their best to keep parents involved in the case management and recalls one site coordinator helped a parent get a driver’s license, then got her a mental health evaluation and necessary hospitalization treatment. Another site Villa Rica High School site coordinator, Temekia Cheely, left and mentor Richelle coordinator helped a parent get into a women’s shelter. Carter, right, with a VRHS student, center. Photo provided by Cynthia Langley.
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Cynthia, and her daughter Hannah Yates, CIS site coordinator at Bowdon and Mt. Zion High Schools, sort through donations received from community partners.
The site coordinators help provide clothing, food, It Takes A Village toiletries, assistance with housing and utility bills – all The CIS program requires a significant amount of areas that can affect a student’s ability to attend and funds to succeed and much of its budget is funded stay in school. through community donations. Site coordinators One of Cynthia’s favorite success stories is from reach out to the community – individuals and this past school year. “This young man had been companies – for donations of money, clothing, behind in his school work and was referred to his foodstuffs, school supplies and much more. site coordinator," she shares. "The site coordinator CIS needs monetary support for expansion into began working with him to help keep him focused, the middle to attend school regularly, to bring up schools, the high his grades and set some goals. school kids need "He became interested in the school supplies, military and decided to go into the snacks and fresh National Guard. She kept him on track fruit for the for the remainder of the year and if he school pantries. didn’t show up, she’d go get him at his "For many of house and bring him to school. the high school At the nationwide signing day students in the for enlistment, he asked the site program the only coordinator and a school administrator significant meals to accompany him. The administrator they get are at even helped him tie his tie. All of school," she says. them were proud of his dedication. “Fresh fruit is But would he have made it to that day a commodity – without her help, interest and concern? Temple High School site coordinator, Kevin Pace, with a THS student. Photo provided by Cynthia Langley. when someone Probably not.”
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Carrollton High School site coordinator, Kristin Fretwell, with a CHS student. Photo provided by Cynthia Langley.
donates fruit, it is gone in a blink of an eye – kids love fruit.” They also need bottled water and personal hygiene items, as many of the kids are homeless and move from place to place. "We try to provide them with items like toothbrushes and toiletries," she says. Naturally, it is hard to list every individual and business who has supported CIS, but corporate donors have helped the organization tremendously. “We have an incredible board of directors who are very active in the fundraising arm of our organization," she explains. "We are so fortunate to have the Carrollton City Schools and Carroll County School Systems who are the largest funders for CIS. The Carrollton City Schools acts as the fiscal agent for CIS. We could not do it without the school systems and are so proud of the fact that we have a great relationship. It is a joy to work with them.” Some sponsors and donors include: SMI; RA-LIN; Southwire; Tanner Health Systems; Carroll County Commission; Carrollton City; Carroll County Sheriff’s Department; Jules and James and West Georgia Electric. CIS has also received support from the Community Foundation of West Georgia and the Carroll EMC foundation. West Georgia Technical College generously donates office space for Cynthia at their Adamson Square location in Carrollton. “Donors have helped with prom fees, eyeglasses, graduation and testing fees, medical exams, academic support, school supplies, hygiene items, recreation department fees, sports fees, food, electric bills, housing help and much more," she says. "Our donors recognize what an impact CIS is making and want to give back.” While CIS occasionally holds fundraising events, most local fundraising comes from the relationships that site coordinators and board members have in the community.
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Individual and corporate donations, grants, services, community support, resources and volunteers are all managed by the site coordinators. In addition to funds, they also depend on volunteers to help staff special events, help with projects and they have a great need for volunteer mentors. The CIS program in Carroll County provided case management for 300 students during the last school year and approximately 10 percent were provided with mentorship. “We have a long way to go in the recruitment of mentors because we have a lot of needy kids,” she says. The challenge is to find adults who can come to the school during class hours to provide mentorship. CIS only requires a one hour per week commitment from mentors, but, even that can be difficult. Plus, some adults feel they can’t communicate well with teenagers, and Cynthia admits that can be challenging. However, Mentoring Village provides all the training and background checks for mentors so they are well-equipped when they arrive to help. Mentoring Village, located in Carroll County, is a non-profit that provides credentialing services for mentoring programs and their volunteers. The same difficulties exist for CIS in finding qualified tutors – finding tutors to come to the school during classroom hours and receiving assistance with math and science tutoring is particularly tough. "Reading comprehension may be the biggest obstacle," she shares. "If you can’t read, you can’t do well in any subject. One of our successes is we can cut through some of the bureaucratic and policy nonsense and focus solely on the needs of the students.”
Bowdon and Mt. Zion High School site coordinator, Hannah Yates, with a Bowdon High student. Photo provided by Cynthia Langley.
Outside of Work With Cynthia and Terry both enjoying careers in service to the community, it is admittedly hard to leave their work at the office. Their professional careers have been entwined for the duration of their marriage, but that is okay with them. “We have never been successful at not talking about work but, to tell the truth, we have been each other’s greatest sounding board," she relates. "He lets me know when I am getting in too deep, and I am always the devil’s advocate for him. So much of our lives intermingle, and we truly understand each other." To balance out the stress of life, they each cherish some alone time; for Cynthia this means time for reading her precious books and for Terry, he enjoys trips with friends. They also enjoy traveling on road trips together, with Terry taking the wheel and Cynthia reading to her heart’s content. They also enjoy spending time with their girls. Earlier years found them spending lots of time at the softball fields, watching travel softball and, later, college ball for Hannah. Hannah graduated from Bowdon High School and went to Southern
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Union Community College on a softball scholarship. She then transferred to Auburn where she received her degree in psychology. She had originally intended to work in the substance abuse area but, when a site coordinator position with CIS opened, she was so happy to work in the same area as her mom. She loves working with kids and being in the county where she grew up. Younger daughter Billie is also a graduate of Bowdon High and she, too, attended Southern Union before finishing her psychology degree with an emphasis on child development from Troy University. She had always thought she would enter the teaching profession, but after working at a daycare center while enrolled in college, she decided the classroom wasn’t for her. She now works in Birmingham as a full-time nanny for the twin children of a pair of local doctors. Cynthia and Terry count their two fur babies as full-fledged family members as well. They have two Shih Tzu mix dogs, Petey and Mikie. "Mikie is a great, big goofball and Petey thinks he is a Doberman.” she exclaims. "They add so much character to our lives and entertain us greatly. They love Terry more than me because he lets them do whatever they want!”
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Behind The Success of CIS Cynthia is quick to deflect any recognition given to her regarding the success of the CIS program. “The success for CIS comes from the dedication our site coordinators have for their students and their schools,” she relates. “Working for a non-profit is not going to make you rich, so you find fulfillment in helping others. Non-profits are set up to have two feet on the ground and provide direct services to our consumers, which is why they are so important to a community. "I can’t say enough about our site coordinators. They are the most enthusiastic people I have ever come across in my years of working with kids.” Based on Cynthia's dedication and love for the Communities in Schools program, it is probably safe to say they would return the compliment. WGW
To learn more about Cynthia Langley and Communities in Schools or to make a donation call 678.664.0536, email clangley@ciscarroll.org or visit CIS on Facebook @ciscarroll
The Empty
By Cheryl Francis
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othing about parenting prepares us for the reality of the last child leaving home. We've read the self-help and psychology books, but none of those prepare us for how we will feel when we see our children moving on with their lives without our everyday involvement. We call it the empty nest syndrome. It is not a diagnosis nor a disorder, but it can be one of the most challenging transitions for any parent. Whether it is the last child going off to college or getting married, it weaves a pattern of colorful mixed emotions in a parent’s life. Both mother and father experience this loss, though each may manifest different symptoms. When our children move out, it leaves us feeling mixed emotions that may include a sense of disorientation, anxiety, excitement, elation, grief, loneliness and sometimes depression. The excitement surrounds your child being ready to leave home and you getting to experience this huge milestone. Grief and all of the other negative emotions stem from you recognizing that – although you know he or she is well prepared for this task – there is a part of you that believes your child still needs you. You realize their choices will no longer be
dependent upon your approval or disapproval. It is the reality of knowing your control of their existence will be oh, so limited.
Time To Let Go We all live for the moment when our young adult is ready to fly the coop. We accept it as a normal part of parenting. However, when the reality hits, the aftermath leaves a trail of shattered emotions. For years, this child has been dependent on you, the parent, at every stage of life. Now your role must change. No longer will you be the center of your child’s world, but your child will always be in yours. Daily routines, a car ride or even a gas fill-up will now be entirely different. You will reminisce about the last time you spent doing something with your child. You will question your true responsibilities. Who will you take where and to what? Who will be home asking things of you when you're home, or when you get home? The room will be quiet as usual, but now there will be no one in there texting away on the phone. Sure, it will be awesome not having to make dinners that cater to specialized taste buds or going out to eat after a long day’s work. Recalling those routine habits will hurt when life becomes centered around you only. The irony will be all too real when you finally must focus on who you are without your child.
Easing The Pain Of Transition Recognize that just like you, your child is experiencing this change as well. Like you, they are terrified of the unknown. Your ability to cope and ensure a smooth transition will be beneficial to both you and your child. Remind yourself that you have given her the best you knew how. For years, you have invested in her and prepared her for this season and, you have provided her with the skills she needs to leave home and experience life on her own terms. Now is the time to prepare yourself for this shift. Although this may be a time of loss, it is an opportunity to reinvent yourself. Your identity will change. You will now be called by your given name, not just someone's mother. • Be kind to yourself. You have done a great job parenting. Childhood is over and your child is ready to begin “adulting.” You have
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given her the tools to be safe, and in your absence she will demonstrate the awesome job you have done. You did it. Be proud of this moment. • Make the most of the time you have left. Do things you want to do with your child now. Include siblings, extended families and friends. Use the last year, months and days to just be together and enjoy each moment. If the relationship is estranged, choose to forgive quickly, repair what you can control and choose your battles. There can be opportunities, even with an estranged relationship, to enjoy certain moments and live life with minimal regrets. • Nurture your dreams. Many parents have put their aspirations on hold to invest in and prepare their child for this day. It is okay to dust off those dreams and start again. You are never too old to begin again. • Sleep in. If you work outside the home, take some extra time for yourself in the
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mornings. Set the alarm clock for you. If you stay or work at home, this applies to you as well. Create an agenda for you and the lifestyle you want to recreate. Begin this process before your child leaves home. • Continue volunteering. Your previous volunteer activities were centered around how they related to your child and her activities. Now you can focus your servanthood activities around things that truly matter to you. What are your passions? What changes do you want to make in society? What mark do you want to
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When our children move out it leaves us feeling mixed emotions that may include a sense of disorientation, anxiety, excitement, elation, grief, loneliness and sometimes depression.
leave on the world? Start now! • Embrace the absence of your child. Give your child the capacity to grow by not calling every moment you think of her. When she needs you, she will call you. • Respect her space. It is best never to surprise visit your child, especially if they are at college. Be courteous and let her know of your plans before you visit. And, if marriage created the empty nest, “I was just in the neighborhood,” is never a good excuse. Discuss any concerns about boundaries before the child leaves so each person will know what is expected. • Acknowledge your feelings about the transition. It is okay to hurt. Know that you will not fall apart. If you're experiencing sadness, anxiety or depression, let someone know how you are feeling. You may be relieved to know others have been there or are experiencing the same angst as you are. Shared burdens are much lighter and easier to manage. Recognize that as your child changes, so will you.
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Time has a way of helping us become acclimated to this new phase in life called the empty nest. If the symptoms that come with this season of life seem too difficult and you are unable to experience any relief, professional help is available. Take care of yourself, pay attention to the signs and symptoms and be okay with allowing others to help you make it through this difficult time in your life. WGW Cheryl A. Francis, Licensed Professional Counselor, is the owner of The Heart Matters Wellness Services LLC, a full-service counseling agency. She is certified as a Mental Health First Aid Adult trainer and regularly provides seminars and trainings to the community on various mental health issues. She has partnered with the Georgia Center for Child Advocacy to train individuals in the prevention of childhood sexual abuse. Visit heartmatterswellness.com for more information about Cheryl and her work.
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he 4th of July is an exciting time full of fun, food and, usually, fireworks. These holidays create warm memories with friends and family, but, thousands of children, teens and young adults under the age of 25 are injured each year on Independence Day by using consumer purchased fireworks. Males are injured three times more often than females, and the injury rate is the highest among boys who are between the ages of 10 and 14 years old, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The most common injuries from fireworks occur on the eyes, hands, face and legs, and are more severe among people who are active participants, rather than bystanders. A larger percentage of fireworks injuries are surprisingly caused by sparklers. Many people believe that simple sparklers are harmless and readily give their small children access to these. The fact is sparklers can reach a temperature of 2,000 degrees – hot enough to melt certain types of metals, says Patty Davis, a spokesperson for the U.S. Consumer Products Safety Commission. Children often hold sparklers too close to themselves or other people, and clothing can go up in flames very quickly causing severe burns. Up to 20 percent of fireworks injuries were caused by sparklers in 2014, according to the CPSC.
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The easiest way to keep your family safe is to not purchase and use consumer fireworks, but if you must use them, use sound judgement and closely monitor and supervise your children at all times. Alternatively, you could opt to attend a professionally run, public fireworks exhibition in your area where the risk to you and your family's safety may be lower than experiencing the "rockets' red glare" in your own backyard. This 4th of July, make fireworks safety a priority so you can enjoy that cold watermelon or blueberry pie afterward, instead of taking an unexpected trip to your local emergency room. WGW
The Sunny Side of Life Local Community Leader, Eileen Burton, Clothes Children Through Civic Organization Photos by Sydney Dailey
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elen Keller said, "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement," and Eileen Burton embodies this belief in every aspect of her life. From her steadfast religious faith, her love of family and friends, her dedication to her clients and her devotion to children through her work with the Carrollton Optimist Club, this Villa Rica resident walks the walk of an optimist each and every day.
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As Eileen's children grew older and needed her less, she discovered she had more time for activities outside of her home. She began researching various local civic organizations and had a keen interest in becoming more involved in her local community. "I wanted to do something meaningful and something I felt would have the most impact on the future for our community," she explains. Her search came to an end when she learned about the Carrollton Optimist Club. "I looked around for an organization with the most focus on what is important to myself," she shares. "What could be
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35 members, with a goal of increasing membership to 50 active members serving the community by the time they celebrate the club's 50th anniversary in 2019. According to Eileen, the primary focus of the club is to serve the communities in Carroll and Haralson County by helping children and families. They host and implement several projects each year: an oratorical contest that could lead to a $25,000 college scholarship; an annual essay contest that could lead to major scholarships; a respect for law enforcement program; a most improved student program at several local schools; Easter basket preparation; an annual 5K race at Hobbs Farm; and their primary fundraiser each year is their annual golf tournament. The club also participates at MayFest in Carrollton, setting up a minigolf course for kids, and they offer free Ident-A-Kid® child ID cards to the public. These cards provide parents and law enforcement with important information – a fingerprint, photo, address and other crucial identifying information should a child become lost or missing. The club also helps sponsor the Carrollton Christmas parade, and members of the club donate their time to support Southwire's Project GIFT® annual "Back to School" event that gives free school supplies to children (see page 15 for more details). The Optimist Club's annual golf tournament raises most of the funds used to support their focus in the community and, each year the club's budget is set based on the proceeds. Those proceeds are used to
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To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work for only the best and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
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Clothing For The Growing Of all the projects Eileen is involved in with the Optimist Club, the program that is most special to her is the "Clothing for the Growing" project. This project serves families in Carroll and Haralson County who are hosting foster children. "These children may be from Carroll and Haralson County, but they also may be from throughout Georgia," she explains. "Because of privacy, we are not told where the children are from, but we do know that the host families are local. When I heard about 'Clothing for the Growing,' I knew it was something that I wanted to be a major part of and was excited to work side by side with others on this worthwhile project." The Optimist Club has been doing this for the last 14 years with Sue Ellen Folk spearheading the
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L i fe . Star ts . He re . project as chair in 2004. "It was originally titled the 'Back to School Clothing Fund,'" she says. "It was held at Goody’s, and in that year we helped to clothe 30 children from ages 5 to 18. We worked in partnership with the Carrollton Housing Authority to locate the children who needed assistance." Eileen says it was important for the club to be involved in their community, and the members wanted to do more than just be a "checkbook club." "Our members showed up at Goody’s and helped the parents shop with their children by looking for sizes, adding prices and getting the children’s input on what they liked and didn’t like to wear," she recalls. "We would bag the clothing for them at the checkout lines and, seeing the excitement on the faces of parents and children so grateful for what we had done was the best feeling in the world!" In 2009, Eileen began to work beside Sue Ellen as co-chair of the program until 2012, when Eileen became the project chair. "In 2012, we began working with the Carroll County Foster Parenting Program and the Carroll County Division of Family and Children Services (DFACS) after the (then) president of the Foster Parent Association, Susan Lester, came to speak to our club," she relates. "We were truly touched by what she had to say in terms
of the financial responsibility of the foster families." The Optimist Club now works directly with Lytisha Florence, Resource Development at DFACS. That year, the club also transitioned from working with Goody's and began working with the Carrollton Kmart store. After the Kmart store closed in 2015, the Carrollton Walmart store graciously stepped in to help out in 2016, and the store has continued to help with the project since. "They do a great job helping us to serve these children and make it even more enjoyable by opening a couple of registers designated for these parents," she shares. "Everyone gets in the spirit and are so excited to see how great they did with the designated amount of funds to spend!" On average, the "Clothing for the Growing" project has a budget of $3,000 to $4,500 each year to spend on the foster children. This may seem like a good deal of money, but considering the fact that foster families sometimes have four or five children, those funds can be depleted quickly. "We give assistance to as many children as we can help by spending $100 per child to purchase items such as clothing, school supplies, shoes or whatever the needs are for those children," she explains. "We hold this shopping event usually around 10 days before school starts so we can take advantage of back to school sales!" This year's "Clothing for the Growing" project will be held on July 17. Eileen says since 2004, the club has remained consistent with helping children each year, and over 420 children of all ages have received help. "I would love to see this project continue," she relates. "With more members, we can touch more of our local businesses to participate in our projects or make donations. With help from more businesses, we can pass on those funds to this project and the many other great programs we sponsor." The Carrollton Optimist Club meets at noon for lunch and to hear scheduled guest speakers weekly on Thursdays at the American Pie on Maple Street in Carrollton. Volunteer hours typically depend on the various projects in motion, with more hours needed
during major projects and programs. "I joined to be involved in working with children to make some small difference in their lives," she smiles. "It is my wish to see the club grow to more members so we can remain a strong and active club involved in the community!" WGW
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"This recipe is the perfect way to share your patriotism with others on Independence Day."
Patriotic Brownies
Ingredients 1 cup sugar
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa 3/4 cup flour 2 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla
1/2 cup butter, melted 1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 cup sour cream
Cooking spray, as needed 1 cup fresh blueberries
2 cups sliced strawberries
2 16-ounce containers of white frosting Pastry bag with a large star tip
Preparation Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Prepare a 9-inch-by-5-inch baking dish by
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These brownies are sure to impress at any 4th of July picnic or party.
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spraying well with cooking spray and lining with parchment paper. The edges of the parchment paper should come up over the top of the pan for easy removal of the brownies. Blend sugar and cocoa together until well combined. Add flour and salt, and stir until well combined. Add eggs, butter, vanilla and sour cream. Blend until well combined. Pour batter into the prepared baking dish and bake for about 20 to 30 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the middle comes out clean. Remove brownies from the oven and allow to cool completely before decorating. Spread white frosting evenly over the top of the brownies. Arrange blueberries in a square in the top left corner. Using the sliced strawberries, layer 4 to 5 rows. Fill a pastry bag with the remainder of the icing. Pipe white stripes in between the rows of strawberries. Serves 6 to 8.
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Low Country Boil
Ingredients
Preparation
Crab boil seasoning, about 2 teaspoons per quart
Fill a large stockpot halfway with water. Add seasonings and salt, then bring to a boil. Add potatoes, onions, garlic and lemon to the pot. Allow to return to a boil. Cook 10 minutes. Add sausage and corn and cook about 15 more minutes, or until potatoes are tender and can be pierced with a fork. Add the shrimp and any of the optional seafood and cook for 3 minutes, or until the shrimp turn pink. Drain through a colander, discarding the liquid. Pour on a newspaper-lined table or use a platter and serve family-style with a loaf of crusty french bread. Serves 6 to 8. WGW
of water
3 to 4 tablespoons of salt
1 to 2 tablespoons Old Bay Seasoning 4 pounds medium red potatoes 2 medium sweet onions
4 to 5 bulbs of garlic, tops cut off 3 lemons, halved
8 ears of corn, cut in half
2 1/2 pounds pork sausage links, spicy or mild, cut into 3-inch pieces
4 pounds of shrimp, shells on
Optional: crawfish, crab legs or other shellfish
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Recommended Vaccines During Pregnancy • Whooping cough (pertussis). Whooping cough can be serious for everyone, but it can be life-threatening for your newborn baby. In the U.S., up to 20 babies die each year because of whooping cough, according to the CDC. Approximately 50 percent of babies younger than a year old who get whooping cough require hospital treatment, and the younger the baby is when she contracts whooping cough, the more likely she will
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least one month before conception. Ask your partner and any other close contacts to get the flu vaccine to reduce your risk of being exposed to the flu. Your partner and other close adults should not need an additional pertussis vaccination as long as they are up to date with their Tdap vaccines.
Vaccines To Avoid • Nasal spray flu vaccine (the flu shot is made from an inactive virus and is considered safe during pregnancy) • Chickenpox (varicella) vaccine • Shingles (varicella-zoster) vaccine • Measles-mumps-rubella (MMR) vaccine
Vaccinations After Childbirth After you give birth to your baby, your healthcare provider may recommend you receive postpartum vaccinations. These will help protect you from getting sick and, if you plan to breastfeed, you will pass some antibodies on to your baby through your breastmilk. Getting vaccinated after pregnancy is particularly
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important if you did not receive certain vaccines before or during your pregnancy. It is safe for you to receive vaccines right after giving birth, even while you are breastfeeding, according to the CDC. Your baby gets disease immunity or protection from you during pregnancy. This immunity you've given her will protect your baby from some diseases during the first few months of life, but that immunity will decrease over time. She will also begin her own series of vaccinations to protect against many detrimental childhood diseases. Ask your baby's pediatrician about
Before you become pregnant, keep up to date with all of your vaccines. This will protect you and your unborn child from serious diseases. Using your vaccination record, your healthcare provider can determine which vaccines you will need during your pregnancy. If you don't have a current record of your vaccinations, ask your parents or other caregivers if they kept your school immunization records and ask them about any previous childhood illnesses you've had because some illnesses during childhood may provide immunity as an adult. For example, adults who had the chicken pox as children have immunity. Contact previous physicians or clinics where you may have received your vaccinations, for example your workplace clinic, pharmacies or the health department. Even without your records, your healthcare provider can still protect you and your baby by recommending the appropriate vaccines. You should always discuss each vaccine with your healthcare professional before getting vaccinated. WGW
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Local Happenings Healers and Helpers Wellness Group This group meets the last Saturday of every month in Douglasville or Austell. For more information, contact Cheryl at theheartmatters@gmail.com or 678.754.5840. Learn more at www.heartmatterswellness.com.
Hope For The Journey This group meets the third Thursday of each month at 6:30 p.m. in the board room at the Tracy Stallings Community Center at 118 South White St. in Carrollton. These events are free to breast cancer survivors or those currently battling breast cancer. Learn more at www.hopeforthejourneywestga.org, email execdirector@hopeforthejourneywestga.org or call 770.214.1491.
Rare Pearls Mentoring and Leadership Program Rare Pearls mission is to enrich and empower the lives of young girls and women. This group meets the third Saturday of each month at WellStar Douglas Hospital, 8954 Hospital Dr. in Douglasville, in the Sycamore Room from 2:30 to 4:30 p.m. This program is open to all girls ages 10 to 17. For more information, call 770.947.8210, email rarepearls2015@gmail.com or visit the website at www.rarepearlsmentoringandleadership.org
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Kidz Korner By Charlene Brooks
Back to School Book Worms
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o back to school in style with these really easy to make pencil book worms. These can be used to write with or, as bookmarks for your child's favorite book. Keep all of your important papers in place with these really adorable lady bug paper weights. Both of these crafts are super easy to make and even young children can make these with ease. Be sure to help your little ones with the hot glue gun as they can be burned if left unattended.
Materials Pipe stem cleaners Googly craft eyes Hot glue gun Hot glue stick Pencils
Instructions Twist the top of a pipe stem cleaner to create the bookworm head. Using the hot glue gun, glue the googly craft eye to the middle of the head. Taking a pencil, start wrapping the pipe stem cleaner – beginning at the top – and wrap around the pencil.
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Ladybug Paper Weights
Materials Stones
Googly craft eyes Paint Paint brush Hot glue gun Hot glue stick
Instructions Paint 3/4 of the stones your choice of color and allow to dry. After drying, paint in spots and allow to dry. Using the hot glue gun, glue googly craft eyes to the stones. WGW
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