White Magazine |Wedding and Marriage | Issue 39 (Trust)

A MARRIAGE AS BEAUTIFUL A S Y O U R W E D D I N G D AY

AUS $15 / NZ $16 ISSUE #39 : 2018 ISSN 1834-3589

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A LETTER FROM THE EDITOR Hi lovely! How are you going, precious one? It’s an absolute honour to have you pick up this copy of White Magazine and be reading this letter—thank you. Each piece I write comes deep from my heart straight to yours and I hope to share some words that meet you where you’re at.

So, you’ve picked up this copy most likely looking for some inspiration—I hope that we give you a visual feast but also leave you with a deeper impression, one that carries long into your marriage. We care so deeply for your relationship and want to see you have every success, through the beautiful times and the ones that need your patience.

I’m excited for you in this journey! No matter where you are at, if you’re six months away from being married or a more seasoned couple, there is so much to keep learning as individuals and together. Sometimes the mountain seems really high, but the climb is most definitely worth it.

Amongst these pages, our focus has been on the topic of ‘Trust’. Do you ever have trust issues with your friends, family or colleagues? I’ll be the first to pop my hand up for this one. I remember early on in our marriage being unsure if Luke had my back—would he stick up for me no matter what and defend my honour to the end? I was proud to be on his arm, but was he proud to have me on his? Enough was enough though … I had to come to a point where I needed to throw out those negative, consuming thoughts and being a ‘doubting Thomas’, and start believing, start trusting. If I wanted trust, I needed to show it and live it! There are times when these thoughts try and creep back in, but instead of retreating into my own little world, I go straight to Luke and we talk it through.

Sometimes we think it’s easier to do things ourselves, but here you are about to embark on the most beautiful partnership … one that requires ALL of you. 1) It needs you to trust yourself and 2) Trust your husband/wife. You’ve totally got this you know—believe in yourself and believe in them. Marriage can be the most beautiful thing where two souls join and achieve so much more together.

Enjoy the ride, and the read!

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Passionate about helping people find their own voice, Amanda is a writer, speaker and creative coach. Along with managing her own business and a CMA awardwinning daily blog, she is an expert at juggling a full work schedule while still making time for family, friends, social justice and her love of writing. @amandaviviers

Alisha is the charming creative behind the tasty masterpieces from Sweet Bakes. She began her journey to cake baking at 19 and has since developed her business into a highly sought-after bakery. “It’s the perfect hybrid of making something delicious for everyone to enjoy, but can also be a design piece.” @sweetbakes_

Erica Bartle is a freelance journalist, wife and mother of two girls. She’s the former award-winning editor of the media/culture blog, Girl With a Satchel, and worked her way into the media sphere via a gig as the deputy editor of Girlfriend magazine.

She also works alongside her husband on ethical brand Outland Denim. @outlanddenim

Emily is a talented and exuberant wedding photographer based in LA. She is passionate about community, friendship and capturing the authentic moments and candid details in her clients. “My job is about connecting with people and having them become more than just clients, but lifelong friends.” @emily.magers

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LOGAN COLE PHOTOGRAPHER

BONNIE-LEE MOONEY HAIR + MAKEUP ARTIST

SAM COLTHORPE PHOTOGRAPHER

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Sabrina is a new generation blogger, speaker and author.

She is passionate about relationships and wrote her first book on the subject at just 21. She is currently completing a double degree in psychology and counselling and hopes to become a clinical psychologist specialising in marriage and sexuality. @sabrinapeters

Logan is a wedding, fashion, lifestyle, commercial and celebrity photographer with a sarcastic sense of humour and impressive portfolio, working with clients such as Beyonce Knowles. Based out of Hollywood, CA, he loves to tell couples’ stories their way, and share in the excitement of their big day. @logancolephoto

Bonnie-lee is a freelance makeup artist and hair stylist who recently founded her own makeup line, MBL Beauty. Based in Newcastle, Bonnie has a passion for creating a look that tailors perfectly to each bride.

“With a gleaming inner glow and the perfect shade of lipstick, you can move mountains my dear.” @makeupbybonnielee

Sam is a Newcastle-based wedding photographer who believes that marriage is worth celebrating. He enjoys travelling all over Australia and loves capturing genuine and authentic moments between a couple.

“Marriage is an amazing life event and the most rewarding occasion to capture and be a part of.” @samueljacobweddings

Chloë is the owner and creative director behind Lines and Squares, a beautiful stationery and design company that specialises in custom designs. Her work is personally tailored and she has received several accolades over the years from publications such as Frankie and Cosmo Bride. @lines_and_squares

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Made from soft leather with a sleek and effortless design, Hobes’ footwear are the perfect mates for your everyday life. Their range is all about simplicity, paring back and keeping it real. Check out hobes.co

These dainty Sweet Daisy Wreath Earrings by Mignonne Handmade are intricately crafted hoops of ceramic painted brass flowers with moonstones and seed pearls. Win a delicate pair for yourself at whitemag.com/win or see more of their range at mignonnehandmade.com

hint of jasmine Tania Maras’ designs are driven by a romantic spirit. This Jasmine wedding comb is the perfect example of her passion, with its handwoven crystal leaves, pearl clusters and enamel flowers that create a stunning headpiece fit for a bride. See more heirloom-quality pieces at taniamaras.com

hold me close Close to My Heart by Bella Freud is a sensuous and intimate scent entwined with Tuberose Absolute, jasmine, neroli and Rose de Mai. It sings of late nights on the Lanai and close moments.

Find more fragrances and fashion at bellafreud.com

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Handcrafted in the heart of India, From St Xavier holds a range of intricately exquisite clutches that are not only fair trade, but also promote female empowerment. Win this Harriet clutch for yourself at whitemag.com/win or see more of their range at fromstxavier.com

all your wedding dreams Brown Brothers Milawa is the perfect wedding venue, complete with a picturesque vineyard backdrop and a beautifully restored historic barn built in the 1860s.

Plan your big day at brownbrothers.com.au

young + free The gowns found at Georgia Young Couture are nothing short of distinctive. Their new Marmalade collection is the reinvention of simplicity, harnessing bold sculptural silhouettes with definitive lines to create a series of elegant and contemporary dresses. Go to georgia youngcouture.com

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bold + beautiful For the bride that wants to make a bold statement on her big day, a daring red lip is the way to go. We highly recommend trying one of these wonderful brands—Stila, Burt’s Bees, Zoeva, Antipodes and Red Earth.

One of Australia’s leading letterpress companies, The Distillery is a creative studio full of passion for what they do.

With a wonderful design ethos of “heritage soul with modern minds”, they offer everything from corporate stationery to wedding invites, all handcrafted in-house. Take a look at their beautiful stationery suites at the-distillery.com.au

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WHITE LOVES stylish silhouettes Handmade in Perth, the individuality of a bride is top priority at Lola Varma.

The Mariposa gown is no exception to this rule, with its billowing sleeves and high waistband. It’s sewn from matte silk fabric with gold button details, making it both simple and elegant, with a hint of whimsical. lolavarma.com

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Who needs eggs and bacon when you can have diamonds for breakfast? The vintage styles and handcrafted rings found at Gem Breakfast are all custom-made, one-of-a-kind pieces for that special someone in your life. gembreakfast.com

This Santa Maria Novella After Shave Emulsion is an alcoholfree balm that tones, soothes and moisturises the skin postshave. It’s made with such skin-nourishing extracts as witch hazel and milk thistle, with a splash of olive oil. mensbiz.com.au

simple luxuries These fun socks by French label, Bonne Maison, are a great basic for dressing up your everyday outfits.

Naomi Murrell’s eye for understated, graphic femininity has translated into a collection of trends and designs for the simple pleasures in life. Head to naomimurrell.com

sweet tooth It’s hard to stick to that pre-wedding diet after staring at these delectable goodies from Winnow Chocolates.

Rich in fruits, nuts and spices, these treats are as much a sensory delight for the tastebuds as they are for the eyes. See their full range of organic, fair trade, couverture chocolate at winnowchocolates.com

lace loves Bridal Trousseau is a chic designer brand for lingerie, bridal garters and accessories.

Their collections tell tales of elegance and feminine beauty while accentuating the silhouette of the female frame. Head to trousseau.com.au

nailed it Here’s a little something to brighten up your fingertips. Miss Frankie is a healthy and innovative nail polish full of all the good stuff to keep your nails looking sleek. Plus, it’s vegan and cruelty free! missfrankie.com.au

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for your beau Wood & Beau’s wooden and leather bow ties offer a different take on the traditional groom accessory. Win a gift box at whitemag.com/win or see more at woodandbeau.com.au

tied up This oh-so-comfy It’s Your Fantasy Jumpsuit from Free People is effortlessly chic, with a flattering silhouette and cuteas-a-button shoulder ties. It’s available in two delectable shades: Nautical Navy and Rosy Coral. Check out more of their relaxed styles at freepeople.com

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wild love Karen Willis Holmes’ Wild Hearts collection radiates the freedom and gentle embrace that love can bring. The fabrics and silhouettes blend together to create pieces that are elegant yet relaxed. karenwillisholmes.com

twist of fate Who would’ve thought that this sweet letterpress studio began with two lovesick design graduates and a ninetyyear-old hunk of cast iron? Doug and Danika rescued a printed press from an old hospital and have brought us fun stationery ever since. ddletterpress.com.au

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carry on Chloe’s Faye day bag is functional yet elegant, with its practical magnet closure and roomy compartments. The line’s signature ring loop and hanging chain add a retro appeal to this feminine accessory. chloe.com

cap it off While you’re out running around from vendor to florist, these caps from Brixton have you covered from the blazing sun or the freezing wind. Win the Albany (red) cap for yourself at whitemag.com/win or see more styles at brixton.com

tasteful scent Nasomatto’s Baraonda scent is a clean, fruity musk of ambrette seed and whiskey undertones, evoking impressions of slowly-baked apples, caramel, stewed pears and chocolate. Find this delicious perfume and many other delectable Nasomatto frangrances at mensbiz.com.au

sole-mate Like the name, these shoes have bared all, leaving only the essentials of a fantastic foot companion. From silhouette to style, these Bared Footwear Flicker heels have solid soles and a sturdy structure encased in deep hues of velvet and leather. bared.com.au

picture it For a creative alternative to a portrait canvas, look to the talents of Inkling Design for a unique wedding keepsake.

Designer and illustrator, Inga Campbell, will capture the essence of you and your partner with her fun brush strokes and intricate sketches. inklingdesign.com.au

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This polished one-shoulder Gwyneth Dress by BHLDN, in its rich Bordeaux tone and column silhouette, is the perfect choice for an elegant bridesmaids’ dress. And if this bold red isn’t right for your wedding theme, there are four other colour options to choose from. Shop the full range of bridal party gowns at bhldn.com

Australian brand, Love Tea, thoughtfully designs a range of organic, fair-trade blends with exceptional flavour and minimal impact on the environment. Win a set of their Calming, Skin Glow and Sleep tea at whitemag.com/win or view more of their range at lovetea.com.au

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WE’ VE GOT THIS “MEMORIES WERE MADE LIKE A PATCHWORK QUILT OF COMMUNITY, EACH AND EVERY PERSON CAREFULLY CONTRIBUTING TO WHAT WAS THE MOST STUNNING OF DAYS.” Words: Amanda Viviers | Photography + Styling: Randi Kreckman, Michelle Larmand Photography | Dress: Daughters of Simone | Florals: The Flower Method | Cake: Sweet Crumb Bakery | Table Decor: All Ye Citizens Jewellery: Wild Habit | Couple: Chuy + Michelle Rodriguez

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ithin two weeks of being engaged, my fiancé ran off to the Bahamas! He had already accepted a job in

the Caribbean Sea and to top it all off, we had chosen the date to be married with only six months to prepare.

Little by little, over those two weeks we realised unless we engaged our village in the process, we were not going to make it through. Have you ever had to trust someone to do something that is really important to you?

Your wedding day is one of the three most stressful moments of your life. The first being the day you are born, the second the day you marry and the third day the birth of your first child.

How did we arrange a day that was not only stress-free but brilliant? We engaged an army of friends and family to take part in every detail. Rather than rely on just our bridal party, we gave out tasks to many different people, starting with my ninetysomething-year-old grandma to envelope the invitations.

The best part of all, now years upon years later, I still smile at the memories of all the different people who helped with small jobs. It was a flurry of encouragement as people said yes to contributing to the beauty of our day.

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I have flashes of memories of a friend up a tree hanging decorations. A work colleague walking across the campus carrying a table. My dad spending weeks working on his special brew and my aunty sewing together parts of my grandma’s wedding dress into the bottom of my veil. Memories were made like a patchwork quilt of community, each and every person carefully contributing to what was the most stunning of days.

How can you trust other people in the midst of the preparations for your day? Firstly, I thought carefully about every person who was coming to the wedding and the strengths that I know they had. For example, my Aunty makes a mean slice, so I endeared her help with something she is really good at, asking her to bring it to the house as the bridal party got ready.

Little by little I weaved a network of strengths by asking my community to bring their best. I learnt that not everyone has the capacity to do everything, but each and every person has something that they are good at. It takes courage to ask for help in moments of life that can be overwhelming,

~ “HOW CAN YOU TRUST OTHER PEOPLE IN THE MIDST OF THE PREPARATIONS FOR YOUR DAY?”

but a lesson I learnt from my wedding day was to not have

however, where it is really important that no matter the

high expectations of a small group of people, but to search

element within your big day, that you release control. The

out those in your life that have something small to offer that

cake may have a little lean, the bridesmaid’s hairstyle may

matches and celebrates their strengths. It is very rare that

not deliver your original intent, but at the end of the day, you

someone says no when I am asking them to do something

need to revel in the sheer beauty of the moment.

that comes naturally to them.

This lesson is so applicable to everyday married life. Often

Secondly, I needed to learn to communicate clearly and then

your ideas will not pull off the way you imagined them. That

release control. One of the hardest elements of a community

is the beauty of life. Tradesmen will interpret your ideas

life is thriving in the midst of diversity. You may have a very

differently, your spouse will bring something into your life

clear plan in your head of how you want something to go

unexpected and it is still important to find ways to release

but the interpretation can be extremely different. The art of

control and love the imperfection of it all.

delegation is an important skill to foster in the arrangement of any event, but the magnification of your intention around your wedding day increases this tension.

Allowing friends and family to contribute to your everyday life is a beautiful expression of a village. Each and every person plays a part that flavours your world with difference.

It is really important when you are finding ways to trust

It is important that your wedding day has the flexibility to

people with your thoughts and ideas, that you find a way to

foster this environment because the results will be glorious.

describe your wants and needs in detail. This may be best

The generosity of people bringing their strengths. The hope

described by a mood board, a regular coffee conversation

of friends contributing to the commitment you are making

or a task list with some great questions to help ascertain

for your tomorrow and the peace that comes when you

that your idea has been caught. There will come a moment,

learn to let go.

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TRUSTING YOUR GUT DREAM WITHOUT LIMITATIONS, AND CREATE A DAY THAT’S TRUE TO YOUR COMMITMENT TO ONE ANOTHER. Words: Sharee Gray | Photography: Lauren Scotti

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s a couple, our overarching purpose for the wedding was unity and experience. This became our prayer in

each stage of planning. We fought for unity to create a day that left our guests blessed by what they had experienced.

When you shift your headspace to a place of intentional purpose, it will often come with a fight. It is always easier to follow the way it’s always been done. We are all so unique and my journey of staying true will look a lot different to

~ “WE ENCOURAGED EACH OTHER AND REMINDED ONE ANOTHER THAT THIS DAY WAS ABOUT A DECLARATION OF OUR FUTURE TOGETHER.”

yours. So, release yourself of comparison before you read on! This is a story of going against the grain and is here to inspire you to explore yours.

The decision to do things differently began from the moment

look back from here—there was no option but to fight for our wedding to represent the same values.

my love proposed. A French meal, French Bordeaux and

One night over another French red, our imaginations flirted

an Art Deco, bespoke engagement ring. We then excitedly

with the idea of a ceremony held at sunset, in an idyllic

texted all our family and friends our news and that the

European backstreet. We would keep traditions that spoke

engagement party was to take place that night! Two

to us personally. Visually, our guests would become the

hours later, we crashed our friends home, a fire pit was

backdrop to this understated canvas. Following the intimate

lit, the music was cranked up and drinks were flowing. An

ceremony, we would lead our guests into another world.

impromptu party, celebrated with our nearest and dearest.

We further pictured an abundance of shared food, drinks

Nothing could summarise us as a couple better. We couldn’t

flowing long into the night and dancing that felt euphoric and culturally rich. A party to rival a scene from Midnight in Paris.

As I write, I still can’t believe this all happened! We dreamt without limitations and the crazy thing is, it became a reality!

Behind every dream is a journey. For us, this was a journey of allowing ourselves to have creative play, knowing when to wait patiently and knowing when to fight for what our hearts hoped for. Mostly it was a beautiful journey of learning that from here on we are doing every part of life side by side, with heart and soul, not in perfection but right with love! Along the way, there were countless moments of pressure to break unity and let go of our dream. But we encouraged each other and reminded one another that this day was about a declaration of our future together.

Now, before even beginning your journey—dream! The day is about your commitment to one another and the people closest to you. After all, life is community. Choose traditions that mean something to you, stay clear of obligations, fight for your purpose and most of all, play!

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ROPE & PULLE Y “WE AIM TO INSPIRE OUR COUPLES AND WE WORK CLOSELY WITH THEM THROUGHOUT THE PLANNING. THIS HELPS THE COUPLE RELAX AND FOCUS ON GETTING MARRIED, WHILE WE CAPTURE THEIR STORY IN ALL IT’S BEAUTY.”

as an art/photography teacher, so storytelling has always been close to our hearts. The saying, “What’s for you, won’t go past you,” really sums up our decision to shoot weddings. It just felt like something we couldn’t resist. Planning our own wedding also influenced this decision. We searched high and low for a photographer, finally finding the perfect fit and we were so grateful for the photos that he took. It’s such a privilege to be chosen as the ‘perfect fit’ for our couples.

What’s your approach when shooting a wedding?

Having a meet up and getting to know our couples is really important to our process. It’s usually sitting down with a nice drink and chatting about their story, the images they love and finding out what’s important to them. We create a run sheet with the couple, scoping out locations if we need to, which we then use to brief our team. The advantage of being so thorough in the planning stage means that it allows for the flexibility that weddings often require.

Colour is such a subjective aspect of photography and film—how do you guys get it right? As artists we use colour the same way a good writer uses language to bring a scene to life. By focusing on the mood and atmosphere of your wedding, we create a colour palette to match. We

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e chatted with the lovely couple behind Rope & Pulley, Katy and Matt, about their gorgeous photos

and how they tell each of their couples’ unique story.

How do you guys create imagery that connects people to the love story being told? Creating beautiful imagery through photography and film is really about storytelling. All the best stories have truths in them—genuine moments of real life. As artists, nothing is more beautiful or compelling than real expressions and connections. These moments are candid, honest. They’re the ones that can be easy to overlook; a glance, a touch, these are the raw emotional moments that make up

understand just how important colour treatments are to the narrative we are trying to tell. Safe to say we obsess over this!

What does marriage mean to you? It requires dedication, unconditional kindness and mutual goodwill. Being married and also working together is nothing like what we thought it would be. We’re best friends, colleagues, confidants and each other’s cheer squad. We see so much potential in each other, and I think that potential is what we see in all of our couples and love to capture. Being that storyteller for just one day with our photography and film is a real honour and privilege to us both.

the day and they’re the moments we aim to capture.

How did Rope & Pulley start? I loved my wife the minute I saw her. Funnily enough it was in a photography studio, which looking back is probably less of a coincidence than I thought it was at the time. I can see now how everything was leading to us creating Rope & Pulley together.

Why did you decide to start shoot weddings? I came from a background of photo and TV editing, while Katy worked

hello@ropeandpulley.com.au ropeandpulley.com.au @ropeandpulley

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DRE AM TE AM “TRUST IN WHAT YOU LOVE, CONTINUE TO DO IT, AND IT WILL TAKE YOU WHERE YOU NEED TO GO.” —NATALIE GOLDBERG Photography: Samantha Simone Photography | Styling + Stationery + Silk: Lines and Squares | Florals: Rose & Bud | Furniture: Owl & Bear | Place Settings: A la Table | Gowns: Maevana | Hair + Makeup: Elicia Rudd | Model: Aniqua Toquero | Venue: Fridays Studio

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risp autumn tones with rustic accents embody this stunning shoot by the collaborative works of a very

talented mix of vendors. The wild florals are tamed by the simplistic tableware and unique furniture, while the soft stationery and bridal gown add a touch of femininity to an otherwise rugged scene. There are contrasting textures strewn throughout, making this stunning table setting a feast for the eyes.

CHLOË HOPE-JOHNSTONE Stylist + Stationery—Lines and Squares At the heart of it all, I’m a storyteller, all about soul-filled celebrations that ooze each couple’s unrivalled uniqueness.

I love little more than celebrating the pairs who like to tread their own paths, stepping away from the carbon copied to create a pledge and party that’s as equally unique as their story to date. Our work often provides a first glimpse in some way, shape or form. It brings about first impressions, begins the story and builds all kinds of anticipation. I see it as my job to document each couple’s story, capturing all of their quirks in one cohesive, stylish paper parcel that not only delivers the need-to-know details, but serves as a timeless little keepsake for both themselves and their nearest and dearest.

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~ “AS SOON AS YOU TRUST YOURSELF, YOU WILL KNOW HOW TO LIVE.”— JOHANN WOLFGANG VON GOETHE

SAMANTHA SIMONE Photographer I bring a relaxed but fun vibe to the industry with soft, romantic moments, tying all elements of the event together so they can be treasured forever. I’m very lucky that most of my clients come to me from seeing my previous work—they can feel the love and the stories I share. I’m all ears with every detail, knowing the vendors and location and feeling very confident with light at most times of day. But what they get on the day is my gentle presence; I let them lead the way, walk me down the path of their day and their new lives together. I give some direction but let the magic unfold naturally. I love capturing candid, fulfilling moments and don’t let any little detail or warm smile go unnoticed. I can cover all bases by building the story of the day, starting from the lights, the family and the laughs to the shoes they take their life-changing walk down the aisle in.

KARA PROUT Florist—Rose & Bud

~ “CREATIVITY COMES FROM TRUST. TRUST YOUR

My floral creations really bring a whole wedding look together,

INSTINCTS. AND NEVER HOPE FOR MORE THAN YOU

making the day a cohesive environment for the clients and

WORK.”—RITA MAE BROWN

their loving guests. Blooms really add personality and warmth to the space—I love seeing them go from my studio to the place they were made to be in! My work is all about creating meaningful and open relationships. Throughout the whole process, I work really closely alongside my clients to help

CHIARA MILFORD Furniture Hire—Owl & Bear

them create a day that reflects them as a couple. I always make sure that when clients come to me, I give them the

Through Owl & Bear, I provide the furniture for my couples

very best of me, no matter the size of the order.

to create the wedding of their dreams. I bring a fresh vibe, trust and a wicked range of handmade products that were made in our warehouse, making them unique hire items. And as for me? I’m a realist and tell it how it is. I have no secrets and I respond to every single client, no matter how big or small their enquiry is. The interior design industry inspires my work! I’m always looking at what the next big interior trends are and adjust the wedding trends to fit in. Couples can have faith in what we do as we will never let them down.

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END OF THE ROPE WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR BUNGEE CORD BREAKS? THE EVER-INADEQUATE RICHARD MILLER STRAPS ON THE ELASTIC AND TAKES THE PLUNGE TO FIND OUT. Words: Richard Miller | Photography: Tyler Branch Photo

with people. But that’s good, because it means her strengths cover my weaknesses; her weaknesses are covered by my bumbling “humour” and powers of distraction. Is that a Hemsworth over there? I think he’s wearing a tuxedo!

Lots of us go into marriage carrying doubts. And if you’re as neurotic as I am, those doubts will mostly centre on your own inadequacies: What if I can’t do this? What if she gets bored of me? What if I get sick, or she gets sick, and we can’t handle the pressure? What if we can’t have kids? What if we have kids and can’t cope?

The uncomfortable truth is that we’re all inadequate. We’re all flawed and broken. And yet, in a committed and loving marriage, we’re more than enough. We work together to make it work. It’s not easy, of course it’s not. As well as the great times, we go through horrid times—times when we stop talking, or stop listening, or both. But when you commit to go through it together, you get through it together.

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ave you ever hit the end of your rope so hard that it snapped? This is a perpetual fear of mine when it

comes to bungee jumping. The soles of my feet ache and itch at the mere mention of heights.

So, for me, standing at the top of a cliff and launching myself out and down into a canyon with nothing more than a piece of elastic strapped around my ankles is sheer stupidity.

So as you take a peek over the edge of the cliff and imagine looking into your to-be’s eyes and saying, “I do”, remember the power that those two words hold. It’s not a throwaway line. It’s the truest thought that ever surfaced in your brain: I love you. I will spend my life with you.

And here’s the thing: your spouse will do the same. Not despite who you are. Because of who you are.

Either I’d have a heart attack on the way down or my cord

So, don’t look down, don’t freeze up—jump. And if your cord

would be the one in 10 million that breaks (of course it would).

snaps, when your cord snaps, trust that your one and only

Neither would be good.

will be there to catch you.

But there are plenty of life situations in which I’ve hit the end of my rope so hard that it snapped. (All metaphorical ones, obviously.) And in those times—as I plummeted like Wile E. Coyote strapped to an anvil—the first and sometimes only thing that saved me from ending in a crumpled heap on a canyon floor was my wife.

She is not the rock on which I break my bones; she is the rock that holds me up, that gives me sure footing. In so many ways, she’s my opposite: positive, even-tempered, great

~ “IT’S THE TRUEST THOUGHT THAT EVER SURFACED IN YOUR BRAIN: ‘I LOVE YOU. I WILL SPEND MY LIFE WITH YOU.’”

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“PERCEPTION IN LIFE IS EVERYTHING. WHERE SOME SEE ABUNDANCE, OTHERS ONLY SEE LACK.” Words: Erica Bartle | Photography: Montana Lee Photography

It started with an audition. But perhaps it was before that.

This creeping sense of not being quite enough. It has followed me for as long as I can remember, like Peter Pan’s shadow, mocking and taunting as I strived to do things right, to make something of my life.

On that audition day, I remember lining up with perhaps 100 other little girls in a room with a parquet floor to gain a part in a stage production of Swan Lake by The Australian Ballet.

There I stood, leotard, stockings, bun, all of 10 years old, waiting to be told if I had been successful. I had been. I was in. And so I ran to my mother to tell her the good news. “Really?

Are you sure?” she asked. That is when the doubt crept in.

She was, of course, delighted (and later confirmed this to me as a grown-up), but like a lottery winner who puts the ticket aside for some time in disbelief, shoving it perhaps in a box next to the toaster and kettle, too scared to redeem it at the newsagent just in case … well, just in case it was too good to be true, there was some disbelief. And this tiny seed of doubt, well, that sprung into a lifetime of questioning my adequacy … and I took that all the way down the aisle and into my marriage.

Perception in life is everything. Where some see abundance, others only see lack. Open a pantry in any home in Australia, with its packets of Salada biscuits and pasta and sauces, and if you are not of a creative bent, you see only the basics and boredom, and head straight to the shops. Open that same pantry in Africa, and you see blessing. The same

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~ “WHEN ONE OR BOTH OF YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM AN APPARENT LACK OF WHOLENESS, OF ‘NOT-BEING-ENOUGH-NESS’, TROUBLE CAN EASILY FESTER.”

might be said of what we see in the mirror, on our CVs, in our

celebration of seemingly perfect people who are kicking

spouse. Is the glass half full or half empty?

all the life goals and then some, but at the very same time

In her popular book Not Just Lucky, Jamila Rizvi describes the ways in which the inner voice conditioned by society and the messages we have been receiving since childhood affect our

selling us things to make up the shortfall. “Because you’re worth it” the L’Oréal ads say. And how many of us have imbibed that as a mantra?

actions and ultimately our life outcomes, particularly in the

Hitting the shops, the internet, the gym, the fridge, Instagram

workplace; that darned creeping suspicion that we do not

when we are feeling dog awful about ourselves to just get a

deserve our place at the table, even if we have a Master’s

fix of feeling a bit alright momentarily; this is escapism with

Degree or PhD. “My inner voice says things that no polite

unfortunate consequences. Like finishing a 5k run all flushed

human being would ever say aloud to someone else.” And

and victorious, we emerge from the state of immersion

isn’t that right? On finishing my best friend’s Callanetics

in whatever activity it is that keeps us from feeling utterly

class (think ballet meets Pilates and lots of achy muscles

inadequate, only to feel guilty and shameful and stupid and

the next day), I exclaimed to her via a text message, “That

fat, because we know, know, know that these are NOT the

was brilliant! You are an excellent teacher! Witty, clever, full of

things that make us whole. Not the new mascara tube, not

knowledge, a gentle but firm instructor, and so pretty to look

the pretty shoes, not the designer handbag, not the smaller

at!” I would NEVER say such things to myself. But perhaps

bottom, not the Cadburys, nor the Instagram muse …

that’s what girlfriends are for? Or husbands? Filling the confidence gap? I know it’s not just women. It’s men, too.

What does this mean for marriage? When one or both of you are suffering from an apparent lack of wholeness, of

I’ve seen my husband overcome hurdles and fears and

“not-being-enough-ness”, trouble can easily fester. Affairs

inadequacy and push back tears when he was just about

have been had solely on the basis of one partner feeling bad,

on the brink of devastation amid a cyclonic storm of

downtrodden, unacknowledged, unloved, lacking attention,

circumstances only to be delivered the very next day into

and needing to find that something or someone who sees

much quieter waters. He’s mentally much more adept than

them, wholly and wonderfully, for who they are. This may

I at talking himself off a cliff. I’m too quick to give in and

temporarily bolster their self-esteem while the other partner

succumb, like a life raft adrift. But I’m working on it, because

goes about life unwittingly inattentive, or aware but in denial,

I do not want “I couldn’t” or “I can’t” or “someone else will do

of what is going on.

it” or “I wish I had …” to be the message that my daughters receive because I was plagued with self-loathing and the “not being enoughs”.

And if not another person, the void could easily be filled with other things. I’ve been known to hit up Booktopia like a gambler at the pokie machines when I’m feeling unmoored,

The whole world appears to be dead set on reminding us

the idea being that if I can just have that book, hit the button

that we are not enough, through its barrage of images and

so the magical package arrives in my PO Box the next week,

all the answers will fall into my lap. I might ostensibly be filling a knowledge gap, but what I’m really doing is numbing that gnawing sense that not all is well with my soul. And it’s expensive! It is financially debilitating to not be alright.

So you need to find your “enough-ness” some other way to keep from justifying these silly behaviours and frittering your life, your bank account and your dignity away. Especially if you are not being truthful with your spouse about the shortfall in your soul. Your partner should be the one who helps to identify the deficit and work with you on rendering it void.

This requires raw honesty. Like, “I’m really not doing well.

I’m in a world of emotional turmoil. Can you please help me to get back on track?”

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I’ve slipped off the Yellow Brick Road more than a few

is the most progressive man [or woman]. There is nothing

times. Once when a girl at school thoughtlessly commented

progressive about being pig-headed and refusing to admit

on my looks in a not-nice way. Once when the negative

a mistake. And I think if you look at the present state of the

anonymous comments on my blog became too much to

world it’s pretty plain that humanity has been making some

handle in isolation. Once when I took on a job I knew I was

big mistakes. We’re on the wrong road. And if that is so

completely unqualified for and endured despite this lack of

we must go back. Going back is the quickest way on.”

professional confidence.

Isn’t that wonderful?

Another time when I felt I genuinely was not on the path that

So, if you want to find your enough-ness, perhaps you have

I wanted to be on; juggling work when all I wanted was to be

to go back to when you started to feel like you weren’t

mothering my little girl who I could see desperately wanted her

enough. Like you weren’t worthy. Or worthy of celebrating.

Mummy. Another time when I was working in my own company

Or of good things. And have a little chat to that person you

and feeling like I was not up to the job! This inner conflict can

were then, and override those thoughts and feelings with

be debilitating, particularly if you are the sensitive type.

something else more, say, helpful.

C.S. Lewis once said that sometimes the fastest way to get

In Becoming Attached, psychologist Robert Karen explains,

to where you want to go is to go back to where you went

“[Early in life], one forms images of the self and others and

wrong. “We all want progress. But progress means getting

of how they fit together, which have a powerful hold on the

nearer to the place where you want to be. And if you have

personality and serve as a blueprint for future relationships.”

taken a wrong turning then to go forward does not get you

So the foundations laid when you are a wee thing, hovering

any nearer. If you are on the wrong road, progress means

around your mother’s legs as she did the dishes, have a

doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road and

profound and lifelong affect on your self-perception, sense

in that case the man [or woman!] who turns back soonest

of worth and security. This absolutely impacts how you

~

the pickle jar because we are meant to be interdependent,

“REGARDLESS OF THE ROOT OF THE

your needs start to become more than what one single

INADEQUACY, FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR MARRIAGE IT IS NEVERTHELESS IMPORTANT TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THE PICKLE JAR.”

counting on each other for emotional sustenance, but if person is equipped to meet, or those unmet needs turn into dysfunction, you may need help to become whole and exist in a marriage that is not operating from a place of lack but fullness with ample growing room and tolerance for imperfections.

“Feeling enough is more about just feeling it,” says life coach

view yourself within the context of your marriage. If you felt

Angela Simson of The Gratitude Project. “It’s about doing the

rejection early on, then you may be the type to kowtow to

things that pour back into your cup … It’s about realising that

your partner’s every whim for fear of them doing the bolt.

self-care is not about just yourself, it’s about what it allows

Or else you won’t let them in to see the “real you” or disclose

you to give to others and the quality of how that happens.”

your truth because what if their reaction is exactly the

You are responsible for your thoughts, emotions, choices,

same as when you wet your pants and were made to feel

actions and personal growth, not your partner. They do not

ashamed? Was your mother or father too consumed by work

exist to complete you but to complement you on your life

to notice you were struggling at school? Or were you only

journey; to bring the best out of you, and offer a strong shoulder

celebrated when you achieved something and so strain your

to cry on, as you grow, learn and navigate life’s rough terrains

marriage to accomplish “All The Things” outside your home?

as you build a family and a home. The quality of your marriage

Regardless of the root of the inadequacy, for the sake of your

is at least half of yours to care for. So find your fulfilment, your

marriage it is nevertheless important to get to the bottom of

“enoughness equilibrium”, and watch your marriage flourish.

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IDA + PETER M E X I C O

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IDA + PETER

DEAR IDA I loved you the moment I saw you and can’t believe how lucky we are to have found each other. I thank my lucky stars I got to marry my dream girl. I hope that we both continue to grow as individuals and as a couple. The fact that we can stand individually on our own two feet makes us stronger as a partnership. I am so excited to be by your side as you continue to blossom in all your ventures.

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IDA + PETER

DEAR PETER I feel really lucky that we have found each other because I know how rare it is. I am excited for more of your weird hobbies for us to do together and thank you for joining me on my crazy adventures. I am here with you to walk side by side as long as you need me, to grow and allow you to be the best version of yourself. I cannot wait for the adventure ahead of us and cherish all the memories we’ve had so far.

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A SHLY N + ERIK U S A

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A SHLY N + E R IK

DEAR ASHLYN My hopes and dreams were to find you,

person, regardless of how unfathomable

and now that I have, my future will be that

love can appear. You have realigned my

more pleasing knowing that I have my best

paradigms on love and religion. My love for

friend by my side. I cannot wait for each

you is my religious sanctuary. It has brought

passing day with you, knowing that I will

mental clarity and a sense of purpose, two

continue to learn with you and for you. My

aspects that were lacking drastically in my

love for you will never fade; it will never be

life until our paths crossed. I promise to live,

stagnant, for it will constantly reiterate how

laugh and love with you each day I have

lucky I was to find you in the first place. You

here on Earth, with everlasting worship

have proved that there is someone for each

beyond the grave.

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DEAR ERIK In our vows I told you of the adventure we

children unless I was going to be able to

are starting together, and how I will deliver

provide them with parents who loved and

to you the trip of a lifetime. I will continue to

cared for each other. You gave me that

show you how much I appreciate you finding

opportunity and I am so excited to create a

me and keeping me. I am so excited to build

family with you. I love you and I thank you

a home with you and fill that home with love

so much for being mine and only mine for

and compassion. I never intended to have

the rest of our lives.

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DANIELLE + FRANK A U S T R A L I A

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DANIELLE + FRANK

DEAR DANIELLE So the big day has come and gone, but

yours. People say marriage can be tough,

the memory and the feelings I felt that day

but I know that if we remember why we

still stay deep within my heart. I remember

first fell in love, together we can face and

waiting so anxiously at our first look. I knew

overcome any challenge life gives us. I’ll

you would look breathtaking and when I

always support you and help you achieve

finally got to turn around and see you for

whatever you desire in life. I know you will

the first time, I couldn’t wipe the smile off

make an amazing mother, we’ll build our

my face. I knew from that moment onwards

children the perfect house to grow up in

that everything was going to be OK. The

and we will grow old together. I really look

rainy weather didn’t dampen your spirits

forward to what life has in store for us and

and you approached the day like you do

how we can further grow as the loving and

with everything, with a big smile on your

carefree couple we are. Love you to the

face, love in your heart and my hand in

moon and back and forever my possum.

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DEAR FRANK Every day I am reminded of the reasons I chose to marry you. You are kind, generous and fiercely loyal, with an old-fashioned soul and values much like my own. You spread happiness to all those around you and face every challenge head on, with no chance of ever giving up! In our marriage, I hope that we will be patient with each other, support one another and listen to each other’s problems. We will allow one another to truly be ourselves, however stubborn or silly that might be! And we will love each other all the more for it. I trust there is nothing we can’t work through together. With our love, we can face anything!

We will strive to be the magic in each other’s days. We will have fun with one another and keep each other young and playful. We have made so many memories together and we will continue to make many more in the years to come. Marriage will be our greatest adventure yet. We will build a home together filled with laughter, understanding and love. We will be not only husband and wife, but best friends, lovers and one day ‘Mummy’ and ‘Daddy’. We both entered marriage certain that we wanted to be with one another forever. I want to hold your hand at 90 and say, “We made it!”. Love always, your possum. PS. ‘Husband’ is my new favourite word!

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DEAR CARLIE I knew a seed was planted the moment you

present. It’s not always easy to see, but

said you’d marry me. That seed is a promise

love is always an option. I choose daily to

I made to you to give of myself. I had a

remain curious, attentive and to watch and

definition of that then, but now, five months

listen closer, and be OK with not having an

into our marriage, I see that the seed is

answer for everything. I am so grateful for

sprouting. I see there’s more to understand

your patience and commitment to us. I am

about that promise. Time is not to be used

hoping the seed planted will only continue

lavishly. To be a better man and husband is

showing me what it will take to be a greater

to value the time we have and to never be

man, human, husband and father one day—

too preoccupied to utilise it to grow with you.

to pass on the alchemy of who we are to

The choice to turn to love is only in the

our future children. I love you meesh.

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DEAR SCOTT The patience, perseverance and honesty that our relationship has always had is what I treasure most. Our love grounds me, it supports me and it is always there. I know we will continue to show up for each other as we always have, while also being committed to finding new ways to evolve and connect. You have helped bring so many of my dreams to fruition, and I’m so excited to see what we continue to create together in our future. I admire and love your desire to always be finding new ways to be of service and give back, and I know the future holds endless opportunities for us to do that together. I promise to always support you, and honour you as an individual, as well as my husband. My greatest wish for our marriage is that we continue to look to each other, even when it’s hard, and always create space for more love, more understanding and to weave passion into all that we do.

The responsibility and trust required to hold a mirror up for each other is not easy, but it remains worth it in every way.

Thank you for being not just my best friend, but my partner, and holding space for me to be the best version of myself through every season of life. I love you with my whole heart.

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BETH + SIMON A U S T R A L I A

“I’VE NEVER LOVED ANYONE MORE DEEPLY THAN I LOVE YOU.”

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AS A COUPLE We are the best of friends! There’s no-one else in the world I would rather spend my every moment with. We make each other laugh constantly and drive each other crazy in the best of ways. We have each other’s back and we can talk about anything, from things that don’t make sense to our boring day-to-day stuff or the things that weigh on our hearts, knowing that there will never be any judgement about anything we say. We always try to forgive each other quickly and do things for each other that help the other person. We are each other’s one true loves.

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THE PROPOSAL I was on holidays with my family and was due to come back home the following day. Simon rang me and suggested we meet for lunch halfway in Berry at a winery because he had the day off. When I got to the winery, I rang Simon and he told me to go to the reception and ask for him. I spoke to the receptionist, who said, “Oh, you must be Beth!� and gave me a letter. It told me we were going on an adventure today and to go to his car where there was something I needed to put on—I started to get really nervous at this point. I got to his car and there was a dress for me to put on which I had told him I liked a while ago when we went shopping. I then followed the instruction to a big yellow monster truck. The driver drove me up a mountain and in the truck was a book that Simon had made with photos of memories of us together from when we started dating and our journey together. I got to the top of the mountain and there was one of my favourite songs playing and a note that said to follow the rose petals. They led me behind a large tree, and there Simon was, waiting for me. He then told me how much he loved me and asked me to marry him. We were both so happy! A few of our friends were hiding in the bushes taking photos and jumped out to join us with wine to celebrate.

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CEREMONY + RECEPTION Belanglo, NSW GOWN Delphine Manivet SHOES Dear Frances HAIR Make a Statement Hair Design JEWELLERY Swarovski (earrings) GROOM’S + GROOMSMEN’S SUITS Topman BRIDESMAIDS’ DRESSES Reformation (dresses + skirts), Grace Loves Lace (white crops) RINGS Polly Wales (bride), Lost Wax Studio NYC (groom) FLORALS Eden Flower Design CAKE Michelle Stringfellow HIRE Party Hire Group CELEBRANT Matt T ickner—Hillsong South West Pastor

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JESS + SHANE A U S T R A L I A

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THE PROPOSAL It was a normal Sunday arvo. I arrived home to Shane who met me outside with a tea towel blindfold. He asked me to sit and wait on the couch while he went to grab something from upstairs.

When he returned, he sat close to me and said, “You know when you say things like, ‘When do you think we are going to get married?’ and ‘When are we going to get a puppy?’ Well, will you marry me?” I opened my blindfold to see Shane on one knee with a tiny puppy in one hand, and a ring in the other. My first reaction was complete disbelief—“What? Are you … sure?” It was an incredible moment but also a sneaky one—how could I say no with that adorable puppy there? Our parents then came and joined us for a celebratory drink. It was a nice surprise for everyone, especially Shane’s mum who had been absolutely hounding us both about getting married.

Everyone was buzzing with excitement as we called up all of our friends and family. I don’t think I slept for about three days!

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AS A COUPLE …

We both met each other at a time in our lives when we had no intention of starting a relationship; I was a uni graduate with big plans of moving overseas, whereas Shane had moved home from London and wanted to focus on starting a business. I think because of this we have learnt to grow with each other’s lives and circumstances. We both have strong beliefs in the importance of balance in life; while we are both hardworking, we love spending our time surrounded by friends, family and food (our first few years living together definitely showed this as we stacked on a few kilos indulging in almost everything!). I am thankful that we usually have the same ethical point of view as this helps, but we aren’t perfect— we have our fair share of arguments and disagreements but have learnt to discuss things in the open, never letting it fester under the surface.

It’s very important to be forgiving of each other’s imperfections and learning when it’s right to let things go!

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CEREMONY St Thomas Church, Claremont WA RECEPTION Drill Hall—The University of Notre Dame, WA PLANNING + STYLING The Butcher, The Baker, The Stylist & Creator GOWN Aurelio Costarella SHOES Zimmermann HAIR Shane Dias Hair MAKEUP Francesca Poggi JEWELLERY Christie Nicolaides GROOM’S SUIT Calibre BRIDESMAIDS’ DRESSES Bec & Bridge GROOMSMEN’S SUITS Jack London RINGS Stelios Jewellers, House of Riches FLORALS Fox & Rabbit STATIONERY JeanAndLouise (Etsy) CAKE Sarah Schwikkard HIRE + SETUP Hire Society, Event Artillery, Micktric Events, V illa Kula

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YUNA + ADAM M A L A Y S I A

“EVERYTHING JUST FELL INTO PLACE.” PHOTOGR AP HY We d d ings b y Qa y

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HOW THEY MET …

Yuna and Adam met for the first time in

in a bad mood. “We prepared a big set

2013 during a 14-hour commercial shoot,

at a studio in Putrajaya. That shoot was

where their relationship then blossomed.

critical and we had only one day to nail it.

Adam was the assistant director and

I understood that it’s natural for someone

Yuna—who, at that time, had achieved a

to feel grumpy after a long-haul flight, so

breakthrough after being signed to New

I came up with a plan on what we could

York-based music label, Fader Label—was

do to make Yuna feel comfortable on set,”

the talent in the commercial. “I’ll tell you

Adam said. The singer was moved by Adam’s

about our first day,” Yuna started her story.

attentive nature while he was also taken by

“My initial flight back from the US for the

how humble she was on set. Both Adam

shoot was cancelled so I had to take a

and Yuna formed a quick bond … over

later flight. When I arrived home, I had to

stories about the supernatural! “We got to

go straight to the shoot. So, I was feeling

know each other really well in the first 10

moody and I didn’t feel like I wanted to do

minutes after she arrived. We talked about

the shoot.” Adam was prepared to welcome

‘Cerita Hantu’ (ghost stories). After that,

his talent, knowing well that she could be

everything just fell into place.”

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WEDDING TRADITIONS We follow the usual Malay culture for our wedding.

First, we exchanged our ‘Hantarans’ (meaning gifts that we have for each other) decorated on trays with fresh flowers. The marriage was made official by my father and Adam as they did a ‘Lafaz Nikah’—an agreement between the bride’s father and the groom as a passing over of the responsibility of care for the bride’s wellbeing after she is married. This is made in a vow, which needs to be vocalised by the groom, clearly and with confidence, and the witnesses (my two uncles) would have to agree that he had said it with confidence. Adam did wonderfully by saying the vow once, and from there, the marriage was made official!

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plant that straight into your newlywed garden bed. But you can’t take everything; you also have to plant your own seeds.

If we want to cultivate a healthy marriage, we need to plant healthy seeds. During our pre-marriage counselling sessions, we were asked to write down any areas of communication that concerned us. I ended up in a bit of a teary mess as I shared honestly about how my then-fiancé had made me feel. My husband is genuinely one of the kindest people I’ve met, but when we were dating he would make comments on my choice of clothing in a way that didn’t make me feel very beautiful. His idea of style and beauty for his soon-tobe wife was somewhat different from mine, and his honesty

TEND THE GARDEN

often came across as criticism. He didn’t mean it to have the impact that it did, but because we hadn’t dealt with that seed the moment it appeared in our relationship by telling him how it made me feel, it turned into something bigger

“MARRIAGE IS A GIFT DESIGNED TO REVEAL BEAUTY, BUT IT NEEDS TO BE TENDED TO SO IT CAN FLOURISH.” Words: Anita Pickstone | Photography: Anni Graham

than it should have been. So, months later, as we were preparing for marriage, we weren’t just dealing with a seed anymore: we were dealing with a weed.

The good news is that forgiveness, humility and open and honest communication are amazing weedkillers! As we begin to open up with each other about the things that may upset

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n our dining room is a little sign that was a wedding present from one of my friends. It’s a dark slate tile, with

a string for hanging, and written on the tile is the greeting, ‘Welcome to our garden’. This sign is not amongst green leaves or red roses in a garden, but sits in the middle of our house, in one of our most-used rooms. It reminds me that

or concern us in our marriages, as we forgive the hurts, and as we transform into spouses who are full of integrity and honour, our marriages start to become healthy gardens, enriched with life and beauty. And you know what? It’s now over a year into our marriage, and I have never felt so beautiful, affirmed and loved by my husband.

just like a garden, a marriage needs love, nurture and healthy

Marriage is a gift designed to reveal beauty, but it needs to

seeds to flourish.

be tended to so it can flourish. Treat it kindly, bring it into the

Marriage begins with a fresh bed of soil; we get to choose what grows, and what doesn’t. We get to say “yes” to important things, and “no” to less important things. We get to choose what we feed our bodies and what we feed our souls; what (and who) gets to influence our lives; what kind of marriage we want to build; what values we share, what standards we will keep, and how we will spend our time.

We’ve come together to form our own identity, no longer relying on the family unit of our parents, but having to choose the good examples of marriage and family that we’ll adopt, and what we will abandon. You may want to embrace a particular family dynamic from your own childhood, and

light and water it often. For us, this is just the beginning, but we’re aiming to lay down a healthy foundation. This is our garden, and we’re going to own it!

~ “IF WE WANT TO CULTIVATE A HEALTHY MARRIAGE, WE NEED TO PLANT HEALTHY SEEDS.”

TRUST IS A MUST

“LIFE IS NOTHING WITHOUT RISK, AND MARRIAGE IS NOTHING WITHOUT TRUST.” Words: Sabrina Peters | Photography: India Earl Photography

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rust is a must, especially in marriage. It creates a solid foundation in which security, affection and intimacy

can flourish. Without it—fear, doubt and insecurity grow and ultimately undermine the stability of the relationship.

Love without trust is not really love at all. You can’t fully love someone without trusting them. Love at its very core requires vulnerability. Which to be honest, is freakin’ scary. Well at least I think it is. In the early years of my marriage, I had trust issues (big time). I absolutely loved my husband Ben, and he loved me passionately in return, yet I struggled to trust him with my whole heart. It became clear that although I trusted him to be faithful, I doubted his ability to manage our finances wisely, to be emotionally present and to be a strong leader for our family.

As a new wife I was guarded and independent. Previous relationships had left me heartbroken and disappointed.

Childhood trauma had caused me to be self-protective and independent. Ben didn’t write the cheque, but I certainly made him pay.

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~ “BEWARE THAT YOU DON’T PUNISH YOUR SPOUSE FOR THE FAILURES OF PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS.”

One significant ‘trust’ issue rose to the surface when we were expecting our first child. I was heavily pregnant and began to notice a fear that Ben would be absent during the birth.

Honestly, I imagined myself pushing out our baby girl, looking around the room and Ben being nowhere to be found. The more I thought about the delivery, the more anxious I became.

There was some merit to my worries. At the time, Ben was running a thriving business while juggling a pastoral role at our local Church. He was busy, and at times overwhelmed.

To blow off steam, he started playing a game on his phone called Risk. For several weeks I found him hidden away in random spaces glued to his phone. It wasn’t like him at all, and it bothered me. Crazy thoughts began to race through my mind. “What happens if he gets stressed during the birth, is he just going to leave me? Will he be on his phone while I’m having contractions? What happens if he’s not there the moment she’s born?” I didn’t trust him to be dependable, and I certainly didn’t trust him to be present. Instead of

drowning in my insecurities, I told him exactly how I was

be more conscientious and thoughtful in the process. It

feeling. He was patient and listened. We even spoke to a

also became clear that my fears were in fact irrational and

counsellor about it.

stemmed from much deeper issues (than his brief obsession with Risk). Sometimes it’s not even the person in front of us

D-day finally came and I remember gripping his hand for dear

that gives us reasons not to trust. It’s our past experiences

life crying, “Babe, don’t leave! Seriously, please don’t leave

and we project them into the present. Beware that you don’t

this room.” He looked at me lovingly, “Babe, I’m not going

punish your spouse for the failures of previous relationships.

anywhere.” Turns out he was true to his word. He was there.

There through the pain, tears, white knuckles and clenched

I believe there’s a big difference between blind trust and

teeth. He was absolutely present when our daughter, Liberty,

mindful trust. Blind trust ignores and overlooks, while mindful

entered the world. To this day, it’s still the most euphoric

trust is intentional, authentic and honest. Mindful trust breeds

experience of my life! The moral of the story—when it comes

open dialogue and doesn’t shy away from tough conversations.

to trust, communication is key. By expressing my insecurities

If there are areas in your marriage you struggle to trust in, be

about the birth, Ben was able to alleviate my concerns and

real about it. Talk about your thoughts, feelings, expectations

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and disappointments. Talk about past pain and how it might be affecting you today. Talk about what trust and faithfulness

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looks like to you and your spouse.

“MINDFUL TRUST BREEDS OPEN DIALOGUE

risk being hurt, you risk being rejected, and you risk having

AND DOESN’T SHY AWAY FROM TOUGH

your heart broken. But life is nothing without risk, and

CONVERSATIONS.”

The truth is—trust is a risk. When you trust someone, you

marriage is nothing without trust. It’s a scary thought, there’s no denying it.

Trusting someone with every part of your being puts you in a vulnerable position, but it’s that vulnerability that leads to true intimacy. And authentic intimacy is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. So take the risk—there’s nothing better than being truly known, yet deeply loved.

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T HE R E L AT IONSHIP TA L K TAKE OUR QUESTIONNAIRE TO RECONNECT AND ESTABLISH TRUST FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AHEAD. Photography: India Earl

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DO YOU HAVE ANY FEARS ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP?

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WHAT DO YOU VALUE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

WHAT DOES LOVING SOMEONE LOOK LIKE TO YOU?

4 DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN TRUST ME COMPLETELY?

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DO YOU HAVE ANY INSECURITIES?

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IS THERE ANYTHING YOU FIND HARD TO TALK ABOUT WITH ME?

WHAT EFFORT COULD WE MAKE TO BUILD MORE TRUST?

BUILDING TRUST CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO STRENGTHEN YOUR FOUNDATION. Photography: Emily Magers Photography

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his Issue’s social experiment sees us tackling trust: how we can strengthen this in our relationships day-

to-day by taking that one extra step to make your partner feel valued and loved. We’ve put together a very sweet list of activities—this one is definitely one you’ll want to try out for yourselves! But if you have reservations, check out what these three couples learnt about trust from this experiment.

TAKE UP THE CHALLENGE • Both of you take the time to write a letter to each other. Tell your partner why you love them and what they mean to you. Share what it means to have someone so close that you can trust with so much. Swap letters and read aloud.

• Two to three times this week, spend three minutes staring into each other’s eyes.

• Play the classic game, ‘Two Truths, One Lie’.

Tell your partner two facts about you they may not know and one lie, and see how well they know you.

• Each of you should write a list separately of fun things you’d like to do together. Compare the lists and do one of the activities that you both wrote about.

• Switch off! At least once this week, turn off the TV, switch off your phone and set some quiet time for you two to either lounge around, have a meal together or take a stroll.

KANDIS + DAN: SAFE + SECURE We both agree that working on being patient with one

fail at doing so, because no-one is perfect, forgiveness heals

another and thinking the best of each other are huge parts

broken trust. Being people of our word is a big deal to us—

of what trust looks like to us. Acting for the other’s best

not saying one thing and doing another. When people feel

interest makes us both feel safe and that we can trust each

like they are being heard and cared for and listened to, they

other in any situation—it also helps create a safe space for

are more likely to trust you, especially when they see you

vulnerability. Building trust requires risk (mostly emotional)

have their best interest at heart. Being consistent is another

so we both feel like it’s important to do what we can to build

huge way also. Trust is hard and we understand that; it takes

a safe platform in our marriage. Trust must be nurtured and

work, struggle and is sometimes trial and error. Trust has a

built from the other person’s perspective, a truly ‘put yourself

lot to do with believing who the other is in what they say and

in the other person’s shoes’ kind of thinking, and when we

do, and building on that is so important in a marriage.

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STEFANIE + CALEB: HAVE FAITH Trust looks a lot like faith in our relationship. We have trust/

could be believing. When a core lie is hit in our hearts, it can

faith that the other person has our best interests in mind.

cause us to cope in a way that hurts the other person (when

When Stefanie is making a decision, I trust she’s thinking

we feel unloved, not good enough, alone etc). We try to

about me as well. I trust her instincts and wisdom and vice

remind each other afterwards that we are loved, not alone,

versa. We are quick to say sorry and forgive. We never go

and good enough. When we feel secure, we stop coping in

to bed angry and build trust everyday by listening, growing

a negative way and are able to love each other with full trust.

and learning. It’s so helpful to know when there has been a

Having one person stop that cycle can keep much more

perceived violation of love and trust to recognise the lie we

peace in the relationship.

BAILEY + JOSUE: SELFLESS LOVE Bailey: Trust is foundational for every relationship. The

trust him more for the future. He has never broken my trust

beauty of trusting someone is that you’re giving them the

before, and I trust that he will continue to keep it. Josue:

opportunity to break your heart or care for it. I think trust is

For me, it means having the confidence that whatever she

one of the most beautiful gifts you could give … it’s saying,

does is for my best interest and vice versa. Bailey: I think to

“Here’s my heart—I believe you will care for it well.” Josue:

make myself more trustworthy involves communicating all of

It’s putting the other person’s needs above your own. Bailey:

my inner thoughts, insecurities and expectations. The more

Trusting my husband means not being afraid to be vulnerable

transparent I am, the more my husband can trust me. Josue:

with him. I find that looking at our past together helps me to

To be more like this for me means becoming more selfless.

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STILL THE ONE I LOVE

DOSS + GLYN: A MARRIAGE OF A LIFETIME Photography: Samuel Jacob Photography

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here is a lot to be said about a couple that gives everything to be able to raise their family, never giving

up on each other in the process. Doss and Glyn are one such couple, determined to make their marriage last a lifetime.

“Marriage isn’t always easy, but divorce is not an option for us. We both believe that marriage is for life,” shares Doss.

This earnest pair met as young teenagers through Glyn’s sister, Del, sparking a sweet romance that started with an innocent attraction. Glyn thought Doss was a “real goodlooking sheila,” while she thought he was “a real spunk.

He had these beautiful light grey eyes with a dark ring around them.” Doss’ teenage heart couldn’t resist Glyn on a motorcycle, so the pair spent many a date doubling on the bike sharing each other’s worlds.

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When you find yourself spending hours upon hours in complete

And after I’ve gone and bought you the rainbow

comfort with another person, knowing full well that you could

I’ll go out and I’ll buy you the moon” …

just slip into marriage seamlessly, no elaborate proposal is required. And for Doss and Glyn (who were also soon to welcome a child to the world), they skipped the fanfare, agreeing to a lifetime of commitment to each other. “To be honest, it was more of an agreement than a proposal. We knew it was what we wanted, there were no secrets about it, and we started organising and planning our wedding together.”

Buzzing with wedding excitement, Doss remembers feeling like a princess the moment she tried on her beautiful gown.

“I even walked down to my house, a few blocks away, just to show off my dress to everyone walking around the streets.”

The wedding day itself was full of the same sweetness. Glyn serenaded Doss with the song, “Rainbow” by Russ Hamilton …

Since the pair were young when they wed (Doss was 16 while Glyn was 19), their honeymoon was humble, but just what these lovely newlyweds needed. “Our honeymoon was at my sister’s farm because we didn’t have any money, but we loved it. We didn’t need anything special,” explains Doss.

Being a family-oriented couple meant that Doss and Glyn dedicated their marriage that followed to raising children.

“We wanted to raise good kids. That was very important, and we’ve really done that. Glyn could go out with Terry (our son) and I spent a lot of time with our daughters, Julie, Jennie and Susan,” shares Doss.

While they were both very committed to their family, Doss and Glyn still found it just as important to keep their own

“I’m saving my money to buy you a rainbow

identity intact for the sake of their marriage. “Your individual

A rainbow, to put on your finger

interests are what keep it interesting and fun. I used to love

~ “MARRIAGE ISN’T ALWAYS EASY, BUT DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION FOR US. WE BOTH BELIEVE THAT MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE.”

getting on the back of Glyn’s motorcycle when we were young.

Imagine if he only did the same things as me!” laughs Doss.

With a beautiful family and plenty of hobbies and interests, it would be hard to imagine that this pair faced any squabbles.

But Glyn and Doss do confess to their fair share of disagreements … “There were a lot over money. When you haven’t got enough, you argue about not being able to go ‘here and there’. We both have our interests and sometimes they have clashed. But it is very important that you don’t just jump out of the relationship when you have an argument, because you’re in it for better or for worse,” explains Glyn.

These arguments for Doss and Glyn were always short-lived, as they knew their commitment to each other was so much deeper. “I love him and he’s my rock. Young people think it’s going to be all glitz, but you’ve got to really commit and work at it because it’s worth it,” shares Doss.

It is plain to see that Doss and Glyn have cracked the secret code to a beautiful long-term marriage, and if you’re dying to know just what that is as much as we are, here’s some advice they shared on finding it out for yourself—“When you get married, you are both completely different people coming together, so be sensitive and really find out why your partner is upset, and talk through how to move forward. Also, remember that you will change over the years, as well as your partner. But you have committed to growing together, and moving forward together, and with your family.”

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My aim is to capture the natural mood and feeling of your wedding with elegance, warmth and artistry. I document each moment in a way that reflects who you are as a couple.”

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SILK & HONEY

Designed in-house specifically for elegant occasions, Esther Luxe offers a stunning range of dresses and accessories ideal for your bridal party.

Our intuitive, unique-to-you advice, recommendations and one-to-one consultations make your New Zealand wedding planning easy, stress-free and fun. We find your perfect ‘dream team’ for your perfect day.

customercare@esther.com.au | esther.com.au | @estherluxebridal

love@silkandhoney.co.nz | silkandhoney.co.nz | @silkandhoneynz

VANESSA MEGAN

MUSE PHOTOGRAPHY

Vanessa Megan produces results-driven skincare using 100% natural and organic ingredients. Their range solves skin concerns naturally, meeting the standards behind their slogan: “You should never put anything on your skin you wouldn’t eat.”

“My photography style is based on an effort to preserve moments and tell stories humbly. I’m transparent—you are welcome to know me so I can know you—and I chase light, emphasise relationship and encourage openness.”

info@vanessamegan.com | vanessamegan.com @vanessameganorganics

info@musephotography.net.au | musephotography.net.au @musephotography_thelifeofamuse

VOLCANO SUNDAY

THE WEDDING AND EVENT CREATORS

Volcano Sunday was carved from the rafters of the La Lune Cinema studio. We knew simplicity is very powerful, so we created a film co for young lovebirds wanting a professionally produced and creatively sound film, at a more fun price point.

We’re a wedding planning, styling and hire company that provides personal and helpful advice throughout the planning process. Our belief is that your wedding should be a day filled with joy, so we work hard to ensure no detail is overlooked.

hi@volcanosunday.com | volcanosunday.com | @volcanosunday

theweddingandeventcreators@gmail.com weddingandeventcreators.com.au | @wedeventcreators

WEDDING HONEY

SOFIA ROE

Wedding Honey is all about providing your guests with a generous, personalised gift that says, “Thank you for holding a special place in our lives”. We offer 100 per cent Australian honey from beekeepers you can trust.

Born with a love of style, the Sofia Roe brand is inspired by individuality and the intrigue that great jewellery can bring to every look. They’re an Australia-based online business offering carefully curated bridal jewellery with fashion influenced design.

info@weddinghoney.com.au | weddinghoney.com.au | @_weddinghoney

info@sofiaroe.com | sofiaroe.com | @sofia.roe

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YOUR WEDDING IS THE OPPORTUNITY TO STYLE YOUR NEST At The Wedding Nest we specialise in providing gifts that are design and style focused, helping you to build the gift registry of your dreams.

Choose from our wide collection of beautiful homewares; statement furniture and unique artwork.

We are dedicated to suiting your every need, so beyond our contemporary gifts, we can also create bespoke Wishing Well or Honeymoon registries.

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