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Caring & Sharing issue

IN THIS ISSUE:

CARING FOR THE COMMUNITY

Local non-profits that need your support

Erika Farber: CARING

FOR YOURSELF

CAREFREE HOLIDAY ENTERTAINING

INSIDE:

A Very Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays & Happy New Year 2017 From Woman Newspapers

Photo: In The Moment Photography by Hollis.

Publisher’s Note Who cares?

Of the approximate 44 million caregivers in the United States, over 60% are women. Most are middle-aged with jobs outside of the home. Stepping into the role of an at-home caregiver can be be a difficult transition but typically, we women do whatever it takes to provide for our family and care for our loved ones, whether coming into the office early, staying late or reducing their hours altogether. Many of us wind up burning the candle at both ends, leaving us exhausted and prone to caregiver stress.

There’s no doubt about it. Caring for a sick or disabled person can be draining, emotionally, physically and financially. Add to that the responsibility of caring for a family and holding down a job, and it’s easy to see why many women suffer from caregiver stress. The problem can vary in intensity, and if left untreated, it can lead to a host of conditions, some short- and some long-term.

Anger, frustration, exhaustion, guilt and loneliness are usually the first signs of caregiver stress. Unfortunately, most woman are too busy to recognize the symptoms, much less deal with them. Many begin to suffer from anxiety and depression and become increasingly ill. We catch bugs easily and take longer to recover. Many also put on weight. All of this can lead to the development of more serious, life-long conditions, like arthritis, cancer, diabetes and heart disease.

Recognizing the presence of caregiver stress is the first step in dealing with it.

Seeking help is the second. Many communities offer a wide range of resources for caregivers, from transportation and meal delivery services to home health care and counseling services to support groups and in-home volunteer services. Many are available at a low cost.

Gathering support from family members can also be beneficial, especially with the financial aspects. Family members may be able to share the financial burdens,

or at the very least, share the responsibilities. While one person might be the main hands-on caregiver, another might arrange for appointments and another for food and clothes.

There is no shame in asking for help. Family caregivers typically get their knowledge from others who have been in a similar situation. Often, experienced caregivers pay it forward by sharing strategies and techniques they themselves developed based on someone else’s knowledge which was previously paid forward as well.

Sooner or later, life will hand us a problem or situation that exceeds our capacity.

Seeking solutions to difficult situations is, of course, one of the most important tools in caregiving. You are not alone. Check out Woman’s Caregiver Central PA guide inside this issue for helpful resources and useful tips.

More importantly, we should take care of ourselves, taking the time to exercise and eat right and see the doctor regularly. Ill, stressed caregivers cannot provide the care needed for their loved one or their family. Whether you’re a new or 2017 GUIDE experienced caregiver, I hope you can use this special issue to pick up some valuable information to help make your life a little less stressful.

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CONTRIBUTORS Brenda Tadych sumthin2say@hotmail.com Brenda Tadych is a lifelong resident of Dauphin County, currently residing in Middletown. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/Brenda-Tadych

Erika Farber erika.farber@gmail.com Erika has spent many years as a strong and independent force in both the restaurant business and online dating scene, and she has chosen this medium to share her successes and failures in both. Recounting the adventures that have shaped her life has enhanced her growth and ignited her passion for writing. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/Erika-Farber

Deb Baer Becker dbbecker2@yahoo.com Deb advocates for women’s breast health, and writes about her experience surviving breast cancer. She’s writing a book about her years as a young airman with the USAF Thunderbirds. She holds an MFA in Writing from Pacific University, and is the proud mother of two adult-sized children and two rescued dogs. She lives in Houston, Texas, but dreams of her native Pennsylvania’s rolling hills and cut-away fields. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/Deb-Baer-Becker

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I have always been an over-thinker. Being perpetually occupied always made me feel productive, responsible and necessary. In my personal relationships, at work, and alone, I spent a lot of time scampering around, immersing myself in lots of little projects. In the absence of a husband or children, I thought of my boundless “busy work” as a reward, not a burden.

Surely cooking brunch for a friend, canning 25 jars of pickles, going to the museum, crocheting a scarf, calling my grandma, sending out a bunch of personal emails and birthday cards, baking cookies for the office, watching a documentary and then going out to dinner all in the same day were the perks of my hedonistic, single gal lifestyle, right?

One of the nicer things about growing older is that you finally begin to know yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in life’s “busy work” but sometimes we forget to nurture ourselves. How wonderful it is when we take that break and bask in the glory of a rare moment to ourselves. We all know this to be true, but it’s a completely different story to try to implement it.

Eventually I learned that sometimes, in order to really know what’s best for myself, I needed to take the time to slow down. This can be a daunting thought for a busy bee - what am I going to do for the next 5 minutes? I don’t have anything planned! It can be scary to cast aside the comfortable structure of a busy calendar, and just plan...to do...nothing.

Our society today has equated slowing down and rewarding ourselves to curling up on the couch with a plate of warm cookies and watching TV. Few of us have time in our schedule for more than a scroll through Facebook or a flip through a magazine. But this doesn’t really calm us down, or quiet our minds. It’s just another activity that we can do while we’re not moving.

Given my predisposition to over-thinking, I fully immersed myself in finding out how I could learn to relax, regroup and refocus. And boy, did it stress me out at first! Every attempt to look inward was clouded with racing thoughts, a ticking clock, an uneasiness to simply sit still and...be.

I tried all sorts of different exercises, hoping to find “the zone” that I’d heard about so often, but nothing was helping me achieve the elusive peace in my mind. I was just adding things to my life instead of trying to remove them. It all just felt like more “busy work.” I was running faster and faster in the hamster wheel, and not getting anywhere that really mattered. I had a pantry full of pickles and an enviable social calendar, but I was tired.

I ultimately resolved to shut off my phone, sometimes even leaving it at home (only in small doses though, I’m not crazy!) and spend as much time as I could outdoors. I took long walks and sometimes sat on a park bench and people-watched. Soaking up the sun, listening to the birds chirp, hearing the wind in the trees are all extremely relaxing and helped me shut my mind down.

There were the inevitable surges of guilt that I should be spending this time doing something better (ie: more productive) but I promised myself that this was an exercise that I had to schedule, just like anything else. As someone who lives by her planner - and who plans events for a living - I knew that I had to stay the course and make this mental exercise a little part of every day.

As cold weather approached I found I needed to find an indoor alternative. I tried, for the first time in a long while, to close my eyes, and mindfully meditate. This wasn’t a structured or guided meditation. This was just me, sitting on my living room carpet, legs crossed, eyes closed, comfortably enjoying the silence. I drew in deep, slow breaths, and exhaled fully. I allowed my mind to gently dissipate, and let my thoughts begin to be carried off.

I admit, the backdrop of my noisy city did distract me at first, but the longer I allowed myself to relax, the less I noticed it. I wondered if I was going to fall asleep, and decided that if I did, so be it! I allowed myself to remain in this state for what seemed like forever, and when I felt ready to stop, I did.

I try to practice this quiet time at least once a day now, more if necessary, and it not only helps soothe my frayed nerves, but I’ve come to look forward to these peaceful moments. I’ve developed a different kind of confidence, evidenced in how I relate to the world around me. In the hustle and bustle of New York City, I find myself able to close my eyes and enjoy a few solitary moments by shutting out the world around me, if only for a few minutes.

Sometimes I’ll even catch myself smiling.

Try this out: Choose a time when your world is quiet. For many, this is first thing in the morning, before everyone is awake. Put your phone down, turn off the TV. Find a quiet space where you can be alone and sit or lie in a comfortable position. Close your eyes, and just breathe. If you need to count your breaths, this can be very helpful for those who need help to focus. Allow your breaths to become deeper and longer. You will feel your face relax, your shoulders loosen, your neck soften and your back settle. If you are able to do this a little bit every day, you will find that place of pure calm and quiet that I promise will eventually benefit your body as much as your mind.

Being busy with all of the tasks that make us feel important and useful are often unavoidable, but eventually, the steady stream of activities can wear us down.

Deciding to carve out time to hit reset isn’t an easy habit to develop, but instead one that brings value with time and practice.

I value my time much differently now, and as rewarding as it is to be able to help and support my friends and family when they need it, I’ve finally found a way to help myself, too. Intentionally caring for myself has made all the difference in the world.

As women, we give away so much.

Take care of yourselves, especially during the hectic holidays. Be gentle, be mindful, and love yourself, ladies!

BY ERIKA FARBER

2016 estate planning and tax law changes by jan l. brown, attorney at law

Every year there are changes to the law that affect us. Here are four changes made in 2016: New Standards for Financial Professions.

The Labor Department issued a new Rule last April which applies to financial professions when selling investments for retirement savers.

The Rule requires financial professions to put their client’s interest ahead of the financial professional’s own financial interest. The prior standard was that the investment product sold only needed to be considered “suitable”.

A lawsuit has been filed to prevent the new standard from being implemented and at the time of writing this article, it is unclear if the new standard is being followed or not.

Annual Gift Exclusion. Many people make annual monetary gifts to their family members, especially at year-end. There are tax laws that govern those gifts including the amount of a gift that can be made without having to notify the IRS or pay any tax on that gift. In 2016, a person can give as much as $14,000 per person within the calendar year without having to inform the IRS; this means no record or IRS filing is required for these gifts. These gifts of $14,000 or less (again, made in a calendar year) are not taxable for the recipient either since the

recipient did not earn the money. The $14,000 amount is called the annual gift exclusion amount and it did not increase in 2015 or 2016.

Federal Estate Tax Exemption. For people with large estates, there is a federal estate tax to consider. But $5,450,000 (the federal estate tax exemption amount) is exempt from this tax. Estates that have more than the exemption amount are taxed on the amount over the exemption. The exemption is doubled or $10,900,000 for married persons who plan and take actions to capture both exemptions. This

are receiving benefits under this option can continue to receive the extra benefits but otherwise this strategy ended in May 2016.

This change was done to correct an unintended option from the earlier law. Other changes to Social Security were made as well. It is important to seek advice or educate yourself on when it is best to claim social security benefits if these payments are essential to your retirement, otherwise tens of thousands of dollars or more can be lost.

If you have changes to your health, finances, living arrangements or families, it is wise to have your estate planning situation and documents reviewed to ensure they still meet your needs.

If there are no changes, we recommend you review your documents every five years to make sure they are up-to-date with any law changes.

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If you’re looking for an easy entertaining idea for an impromptu gathering, a wine and cheese pairing menu is still a winning option.

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and be merry Either as a light meal for oneself or an impressive entertaining centerpiece for friends, wine and cheese are the ultimate culinary companions. But how exactly do you best pair the two?

To help home chefs and entertainers, cheesemaker Lisa Gottreich of Bohemian Creamery, offers some delicious suggestions.

“Think of a wine and cheese tasting experience as having a beginning, middle and end,” says Gottreich. “In other words, pair your lightest flavors together in the beginning of the meal and work your way towards more robust flavors later. This avoids palate fatigue and allows you to best experience all of the nuances of each wine and cheese pairing to its fullest.”

Gottreich advises that a good way to begin is with a light and refreshing white wine, such as a California Sauvignon Blanc. The bright flavors and crisp acidity of this style of wine pairs well with light style cheeses, such as chèvre, a fresh and tangy goat’s cheese that doesn’t override the delicate fruitiness of the Sauvignon Blanc. Together, they evoke simple, fresh flavors of spring and summer. Serve the spreadable cheese with a plain, crusty baguette or an herb cracker that matches nicely with the slight green notes of the wine.

Moving on to fuller flavors, Gottreich pairs a smooth and nicely balanced red wine with soft tannins, such as a Merlot, with more complex cheeses. For example, Bohemian Creamery’s The Bomb is a sheep-goat blend washed rind cheese, washed in beer and aged in old Cabernet wine barrels. Gottreich suggests serving this pairing with Marcona almonds to add in nice, crunchy texture. Merlot can also be paired with more widely available cheeses such as Gouda or Gruyere.

She recommends saving your heartiest wine for last. A great option is an old vine Zinfandel, a full-bodied wine that pairs best with a pungent cheese. Aged Cheddar or Parmesan would fit the bill. Pairing the combination with onion focaccia adds to the rich, earthy flavors.

Overall, remember to have fun with your wine and cheese pairings. With delicious, high-quality food and drink, you simply can’t go wrong.

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Do good, feel good this holiday season by christopher meehan, director of development, catholic charities

As we enter the “most wonderful time of the year,” many of us are eagerly preparing for some of our favorite traditions such as heading to a loved one’s house for Thanksgiving dinner, preparing our Christmas wish list, and finding the perfect tree. Each of these reminds us the holidays are quickly approaching.

Another sign that the holidays are here is the numerous requests for help from many worthy charities that rely of the generosity of others to do their important work. For many nonprofit organizations, the majority of their charitable contributions are received this time of year.

You may think to yourself that your contributions do not make a difference, but I assure you that all gifts, regardless of the amount, are very much important. Many organizations also rely on volunteers who help support their mission. Your contribution to a worthy cause will be used to make a difference and help make your community a better place.

Equally important, giving our time, talent, and treasure makes a person feel happier.

Studies have shown that spending money on

ourselves does not significantly increase our sense of happiness or wellbeing. Rather, giving to others is directly correlated with an increased sense of happiness. In fact, a Harvard Business School study suggests that “happier people give more and giving makes people happier, such that happiness and giving may operate in a positive feedback loop.”

Think about a time when you did something positive for someone else whether it was a good deed or donating to a cause that was important to you. You didn’t do that because you had to, or because of the tax benefit (although that is another benefit of charitable giving); you did it because it made you feel good.

So this holiday season, do something for someone less fortunate. Donate to a deserving charity. Buy gifts for an Angel Tree project.

Volunteer at a soup kitchen. When you do, I promise you that not only will you be doing something for someone less fortunate; you’ll be doing something for yourself.

I wish you the very best this holiday season and in 2017!

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Taking care of your skin the natural way by shaina reisman, skin care specialist

Many people believe buying natural or organic products means sacrificing effectiveness. Plant-based products are not only competitive with the rest of the skin care market, they are often more effective.

Given the right ingredients, our skin has the ability to care for and mend itself. Our bodies use nutrients absorbed not only through food but also through our skin.

Natural skin care products are made from non-artificial ingredients such as natural oils, plants (like seaweed, green tea), fruit extracts and fruit acids. These products are known to effectively treat the skin and nourish it.

Many natural products have powerful antioxidants and superfood ingredients that assist in slowing down the aging process, creating younger looking skin.

Every day, millions of Americans knowingly - and often unknowingly - expose themselves to dangerous, toxic chemicals in their skin care products. Some of these chemicals are even known to be cancer-causing.

Some of the chemicals that make products effective could actually increase the probability of developing skin allergies, irritations and other harmful side effects. Although these ingredients are often fast acting, they are also invasive and could be causing harm we cannot see, resulting in premature aging and loss of the skin’s natural productive elements.

Our skin is more of a sponge than a barrier.

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ere in south Texas we don’t experience fall’s apple-crisp night air, or the kaleidoscope leaf colors that make my kinsfolk of the Keystone State wistful, even misty-eyed at Nature’s gentle reminder that the holidays are almost here. Nature doesn’t nudge us with Her frosty finger; I’m not sure if we have Nature here in Houston.

But we do have Hobby Lobby, and although you might have a Hobby Lobby, too, ours is bigger. Ours is Texas-sized and crammed floor-to-ceiling with trinkets dolled up in fall colors, and all of that glitter-glazed-glory-halleluiah-Christmas treasure, what the Hubster calls, “stuff.”

That’s where I took Kay, my darlin’ grown-up baby girl, just the two of us on a Monday night, after a quick sup at the Chick fil A. We pulled into the parking lot just as the sun was kicking out its last rays, wrapping the store’s adobe brown façade in its golden glow.

Kay opened the car door, lifted her iced tea from its holder, then paused and turned to me and said, “Should we take our teas? ” “It’s ninety-six degrees, so, yes,” I said.

“You dropped yours in the store last time,” she reminded me.

“I like to think I baptized the floral section.” I said, and raised my iced tea to the sky.

“Mom. You’re ridiculous,” Kay said, and I laughed, as we entered the store, giggling and excited like kids at Christmas.

“I’ll grab a cart,” Kay said as I wandered in.

“Seems like they just put all of the Halloween stuff out,” I said to no one. Then I looked up, up, up. I stood speechless and still and my eyes were glazed over by the light and sparkle of a twenty-foot Christmas tree adorned with whorls of metallic orange mesh ribbon, and a heft of Halloween ornaments: sparkly purple pumpkins topped with feathers and plaidshirted scarecrows and iridescent witches perched mid-flight and glittery spiders’ webs from the tree’s bottom to top where a witch’s hat, all silk and lace and trimmed in tiny tinsel pumpkin pom-poms, and a garland of feathery bats that seemed to fly around the tippy top.

For a moment I’d forgotten where I was and why and with whom—.

“Mom!” Kay said.

“Oh. Sorry, it’s just--I’ve never--a Halloween tree, huh,” I stammered.

Kay gave the tree a moment’s consideration and said, “It’s not done until it’s over-done.

Jeez. Move on. Halloween’s over.”

She handed off the shopping cart to me, reminding me that we’d come to look for holiday stuff for her house.

But two steps later I stopped again - all that farmhouse stuff - aluminum milk cans, baskets

trimmed with burlap hearts, and an assortment of chicken wire figures.

“Look! Chicken wire chickens!” I said, almost shouting, and lifted a wire chicken with cut metal comb and tail feathers.

“Mom, the Thanksgiving and Christmas stuff is this way,” Kay said. She lead and I followed, pushing the cart, a wiry chicken in the basket.

We made it past Floral, and around a corner display of candles to the aisle of BLESSED, GRATEFUL, THANKFUL, HAPPY HARVEST, and GOBBLE ‘TILL YOU WOBBLE. Kay lifted one of the many cream and gold striped “Happy Harvest” pumpkins, and said, “These are so Kate Spade-esque!” and added it to the cart.

Meanwhile, I’d dropped to my knees to hold a round pillow, which was embroidered with leaves and knotted flowers in gold, brown, and turquoise and the words BLESS THIS HOME stitched on black canvas. I held it up, and Kay said, “Chalkboard – cute! That’s so YOU, Mom!” We ooh’d and aah’d our way past shelf-after-shelf of polyester owls with plaid candy-corn colored scarves; foam gourds in coats of many colors; swirled glass pumpkins with golden stems; stuffed and feathered turkeys dressed in polyester argyle sweaters; coppery metal pumpkins trimmed in satin leaves; grapevine wreaths wrapped in yards of gold leaf stamped burlap ribbon and bows; cornucopias of fruit and pheasant feather adorned cornucopias, and then we saw the sign: 40% OFF ALL HOLIDAY ITEMS I inhaled sharply, and then coughed, and choked, and coughed again, but somehow managed to squawk, “I just threw up in my mouth!”

Kay nearly dropped the argyle sweater-dressed turkeys that she’d held in each hand like poultry bouquets, when, laughing, she doubled over.

“I’m going to pee my pants!” she said.

“I can’t catch my breath—I think I almost died!” I said, my eyes teary from choking and laughing.

“This is the best Monday night I’ve ever had,” I said, my voice still a bit ragged.

“Oh my god, Mom,” Kay said, and we headed to the check out counter.

And so we drove home happy and in high spirits in the light of a silvery moon, with all of the magic of the holidays paper wrapped and stuffed in Hobby Lobby bags in the back seat of my Jeep.

' WWishing riting these columns for Woman makes me feel BLESSED, GRATEFUL, and THANKFUL. you all of the miracles and magic of this holiday season.

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The Human Needs Index need than any other index.

Another important contribution of the HNI is that it provides a reliable instrument for measuring human need in near real time, and for tracking trends over time.

The advantage of this approach is that it provides critical observations informing the work of nonprofit organizations and public policymakers in reducing poverty.

Paul Overberg writes in an April 13, 2016 blog for The Wall Street Journal the following: “The Economy Grew Last Year, But Poor Americans Needed More Charity.” Sadly, while broad economic measures improved last year, one measure of the acute needs of poor Americans worsened.

It’s another example of a two-tiered recovery in which wealthier households have advanced while middle and lower income Americans struggle. You may have noticed this as one of the themes in this year’s presidential race.

Paul Overberg writes, “Atheists like me get uncomfortable when we start throwing around words like holy and mission. The Christian charities do it very well. I am being neither trivial nor ionic when I say, ‘Well done them’.”

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The Human Needs Index (HNI) was developed in a unique collaboration between the Indiana University Lilly Family School of Philanthropy and the largest Christian based charity in the United States. It provides an analysis of enduring, and consistent collection of service data to expand the pathways through which individuals and communities in poverty may be identified. When combined with an assessment of governmental data, the HNI provides a new lens through which to understand human need across the U.S. In other words, it represents the 7 basic needs people need for survival: • Meals provided • Groceries provided – food items provided by voucher or distributed through a food pantry or food bank • Housing assistance – the number of rent or mortgage assistance payments to establish or maintain an individual • Medical assistance – assistance with prescription medicines and volunteers/hours served in medically related roles • Furniture provided • Clothing provided • Energy assistance – assistance with energy bills and volunteers/hours served in energy-related roles Unlike other traditional measures of poverty, the HNI comprises indicators that represent need substantiated on consumption rather than income. Thus, the HNI’s greatest strength is that it illustrates a more intimate portrayal of

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Vegetarian Holiday Roast 8 oz. dark brown lentils 1 large onion, thinly sliced 1 bay leaf 4 oz. Brazil nuts, shelled and finely chopped 4 oz. walnuts, shelled and finely chopped 4 oz. hazelnuts, shelled and finely chopped 2 T. chopped thyme 2 T. chopped parsley 1 t. chopped rosemary 4 T. dry red wine Salt and fresh ground pepper 1 T. chopped savory

Not everyone enjoys the traditional turkey or ham holiday dinner. Maybe this is the year you prepare a alternative vegetarian entree for your dinner guests.

If you decide to cook a strictly vegetarian meal for your guests you should probably warn them in advance because to some people it wouldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be the holidays if there werenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t meat on the table.

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Roast: Combine lentils, sliced onion and bay leaf in a pan of water; bring to a boil

and continue boiling until they are well softened. Remove the bay leaf then drain and mash the onion and lentils. Add the nuts to the lentil puree then stir in the herbs, wine Gently cook the onion in the oil until the onions soften. and seasoning.

Remove the pan from the heat and add the breadcrumbs, seasoning, sage and red wine.

Spread half the lentil and nut mixture in a flat oven-proof dish. Spread the stuffing mixture over it and cover with remaining lentil mixture. Mold into an oblong loaf.

Combine breadcrumbs, oil and sesame seeds and press the mixture over the roast. Bake in pre-heated oven at 400 degrees for about 45 minutes or until the topping mixture is brown and crispy.

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hen school is in session, it may seem like the greatest lessons to be learned revolve around reading, writing and arithmetic. But teaching children the importance of getting involved in their community and lending a hand to neighbors should not be overlooked.

Here are a few ideas on how individuals of all ages can make a positive impact.

• Donate to a local shelter. Provide aid to children and families in need by donating school supplies, toys, as well as gently used shoes and clothing to local shelters. Children can collect things they no longer use at home, and then help deliver items to a local organization. They can also mobilize neighbors and friends to make donations by hosting a drive.

• Participate in a local fundraiser in your community. Learn about upcoming special events that support your favorite charities. Children can help at all levels, from assisting at registration tables, cheering on individuals running in a 5K or passing out literature. They can also organize their own fundraiser. A bake sale or car wash are some fun ideas that children can participate in -- from start to finish.

• Research organizations that support charities important to your child and lend a hand together. Get involved by volunteering, spreading the word or donating to the cause. Local chapters can provide numerous ways children can participate.

• Support companies committed to philanthropic efforts. Many companies identify non-profit organizations that support like-minded causes and offer customers opportunities to give back throughout the year.

For example, there is a national company dedicated to strengthening the communities it serves through a longstanding -- and ongoing -- partnership with the non-profit organization Shoes That Fit. Rack Room Shoes supports Shoes That Fit’s mission to help more students attend school in comfort, and with confidence and dignity by providing children in need with a new pair of shoes.

If you’re a parent, you know children’s feet grow fast! However, the importance of having shoes that fit properly is sometimes taken for granted. Your children may not realize that some of their schoolmates may have to wear ill-fitting shoes that make it hard for them to participate in sports or concentrate in class. The good news is there is something you can do to help.

Through volunteering and charitable giving, children can learn a lifelong lesson that extends far beyond the classroom.

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The holiday season can be a joyous time of year!

However, for someone who has developed traumatic responses to events, the holiday season can be anything but festive. This may include unwanted memories, nightmares, or avoiding thoughts and situations that are reminders of difficult and/or painful events. So, while many may look forward to holiday cookies and twinkling lights, be mindful that those same anticipations can be triggers of unpleasant memories for others.

Giving defines the holiday spirit. Compiled from client suggestions, these following tips are some ways we can support individuals who have experienced trauma during the holidays: You don’t know what you don’t know. Would you give someone who’s allergic to peanuts a peanut butter cookie? Just as we cannot look at someone and know they have this allergy, we cannot usually visibly see that a person has experienced trauma. Be aware that you may not have all the information to accurately assess what someone is feeling or experiencing. Avoid snap judgments.

Avoid judgments and labels such as “Just a Scrooge.” Have you ever been told “You look tired,” even though you felt well-rested? How

Philanthropy benefits your charity and you by deborah pajak

Charitable giving encompasses many ways of philanthropic gifting. Here is a brief look at some of the more common ways individuals can give to charities: Outright Gifts--Taxpayers Deborah Pajak, CFP, make of cash and property to CLTC, ChFCcontributions , CDFA 5001their Louise Drive favorite charities.

These contributions can Mechanicsburg, PA 17055 717-791-3383 be as simple as an outright transfer to a charity. depajak@financialguide.com One primary motivator for this is the charitable tax deduction. An individual who itemizes may be entitled to a charitable income tax deduction.

Gifting from your IRA--Individuals who are at least 70 ½ at the time of the contribution can transfer up to $100,000 annually to a qualifying charity. The transfer of the assets can go directly from the IRA to the charity. The direct transfer is not taxable for federal taxes. Another option is to transfer the Required Minimum Distribution amount each year and satisfy the IRS requirement for those withdrawals.

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did that make you feel? Keep this in mind when someone does not share your enthusiasm for wearing ugly sweaters because they may associate it with a negative past event. Be accepting of his/her right to not participate in an event, or to participate in a different, creative, nonthreatening way for that person.

Help out. Ever had a hard day? What would have been one thing someone could have done for you that would have made a difference?

When offering to help, try to offer something specific - such as bringing dinner to them, assisting in gathering or wrapping gifts, etc. Only offer what you can deliver, and commit to what you offer.

Just listen. Have you ever just wanted to share your feelings only to be told by the other person how they handled a similar situation?

Sometimes exchanging ideas can be helpful, but also recognize that sometimes it is just as important to have a safe place to vent and be heard.

Know when and how to suggest help. It is okay to allow someone to vent, but if it is beyond venting, take action. Share your concerns in a tactful and heartfelt manner. Offer to sit with them while they look for and secure professional resources. If you are concerned about an immediate threat for safety, call 911.

By practicing these tips, you may be the twinkling light of hope for someone this holiday season. Happy holidays!

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aring is the greatest gift

It’s that time of year, holiday parties, getting together with family, eating way too much food and of course, gift giving. For many people these activities bring joy, for many they bring stress and for most of us, it’s a combination of both. But what if this year, you did something a little different?

What if this was the year that you actually did what you have been promising and volunteered your time? Make this the year that you give back and not with a gift card, but with your heart. The holidays are a great time to give of yourself and here are few ideas to get you started.

Don’t wait until the holidays are here to decide how you want to give back. Start researching the volunteer opportunities in your community early. There are a couple of reasons that this is important. One, you want to make the best use of your talents. You might be better suited for one opportunity over another due to your skills. The second reason is there may be training or orientation involved. If you wait until the season is upon us, you may not have time to qualify as a volunteer.

An organization that may be able to provide several volunteering options is the United Way. They are in the business of helping others and have many contacts and sources throughout your community where people need your help.

One way to decide how you want to help is to pinpoint a group of people who are in need.

Hospitals are always looking for volunteers and a friendly face. Being at the hospital is never good, but it’s twice as tough during the holidays. There are many people who are hospitalized that would love a visit from you. Along with hospitals, nursing homes can be a lonely place during the holidays.

The elderly folks who don’t have any family would be uplifted by a visit. Check your local elderly care facilities to see how you can help.

A group who would love a touch of home is our servicemen and women who are stationed overseas.

There are many ways to volunteer and help these folks.

There are many organizations that collect and pack care packages for these brave men and women. You should have no trouble finding one that needs your time.

Most of us eat way too much during the holiday, but let’s not forget those who don’t have enough to eat. There are probably many organizations in your community that provide food for the needy and need your help to collect it or serve it.

Volunteering in any of these ways seems very altruistic and it is, but you also get something out of it.

Visit anysoldier.com to learn You get the pride and satisfaction that comes by helping about sending a care package your fellow man. to a soldier.

These are a few ideas for giving your time during the holidays, but consider giving all year round. Giving of yourself is a win/win, no matter what the season.

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Positive energy in giving to others by barbara costik, administrator middletown lumber, inc.

To be honest, my niece wrote this article. I was having a hard time starting and within two minutes she expressed my thoughts perfectly!

At this time in history women have never been stronger and had more control of their own lives.

We continue to push the boundaries, bettering ourselves, and by doing so, those around us.

Our natural propensity for fostering, teaching, nurturing and philanthropy has positioned us uniquely in the world today.

Charity and volunteering can be a small effort with a tremendous impact. It is global as well as local.

Everyone on this planet (including the animal world) is looking for the same validation. We all want the necessities of life: food, shelter, health, and safety for ourselves and our offspring. Of course, these things are not easily accessable to everyone.

Simply checking on a next door neighbor, posting a thoughtful letter, giving blood, or even something life-changing like joining the Peace Corps can make a tremendous difference in someone’s life. The key is to match your talents,

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your strengths and your time to the charity.

Every once in a while the stars are in alignment, the universe is as it should be, and the perfect situation shows itself to you. It truly can be that simple.

Years ago, I read a story from “All Creatures Great and Small” by James Herriott. Dr. Herriott had to find a home for a dog with a terrible flatulence problem (which by the way is gas.) He found a farmer that couldn’t smell.

Perfect match!

I am a loner by nature but I love to garden and weed. So, I volunteered weeding a small community garden!

I like to think I put positive energy out to the universe and it came back to me!!!

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HEADACHE-FREE HOLIDAY HOSTING TIPS

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sometimes feel more like a burden rather than a blessing. This year, keep your holiday gathering fun, not frantic, with these headachefree holiday hosting tips.

Put time on your side.

Start your dinner or cocktail party prep as soon as possible to make room for any last-minute surprises, like forgetting an ingredient or unexpected guests. Developing a checklist and assigning manageable to-do’s each day will help prevent you from feeling overwhelmed. For example, once the invitations have been extended, plan the menu, and gather recipes and a grocery list. Take inventory of your cooking supplies, serving dishes and tableware. While cleaning the house, identify what decorations are needed.

Know when to buy, DIY, or ask for help.

From appetizers to desserts, determine what on the menu can be homemade, made ahead of time or store-bought and how guests can contribute. Figure out what is actually feasible for your meal - it’s OK if you can’t make everything from scratch. If you’ve never made homemade pie, there is no reason to put your culinary skills to the test the night before. If budget allows, buy prepared dishes or desserts from the market and place on festive platters. Find do-ahead recipes that can be stored in the fridge until they are ready to be served. By prioritizing your menu and asking for help, it will alleviate unnecessary stress and allow you to enjoy the event.

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Set the scene the night before.

Focus on setting the table, deciding where to put the drinks, and gathering extra seating and decorating the night before. That way the day of the party, you just have to worry about putting out the food and drinks.

While last minute rearranging is bound to happen, conquering the planned details ahead of time will help keep you sane.

Deck the dinner table.

For a sophisticated, yet deceptively easy place setting idea, add a napkin fold as a pretty and practical accent.

Although some napkin folds can be intricate, try a simple design that can be made in a matter of minutes.

Include complementary greenery or pine cones for a festive touch.

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7 tips for fall style by kathy mccauslin-cadieux, owner, creative elegance boutique

Hot summer days are behind us and it’s time to think about cool weather wardrobes. Here are tips to help you get a jump on looking chic this season!

Clean Out Your Wardrobe Yes, it’s a daunting task, but it will give you a chance to evaluate everything in your closet and get rid of pieces that no longer serve you. Think of it as making way for fresh new fashions that better fit and flatter you. Get rid of anything that hasn’t been worn in the last 12 months by donating to charity. Win-win!

Take Note of What You Have… and What You Don’t - Once you’ve discarded the hasbeens, note areas that are lacking. List strategic pieces that need replacing. Your wardrobe shouldn’t be without core pieces that include a good pair of jeans, leggings, black pants, a pencil skirt, updated cardigans, a cool blouse, a couple of jackets, a sleek coat, and the perfect dress.

Evaluate Your Lifestyle - The right wardrobe should reflect your lifestyle. What you wear should complement how you live. Many companies’ dress codes are more relaxed now, so reconsider your waning need for business attire, and add more casual outfits that do double-duty at work and play!

Reassess Your Style - There are great resources like Pinterest or your favorite blogs to check

out what styles and trends are in this season.

Figuring out which key items will make the biggest impact in your wardrobe will reduce your angst about where to start… while saving time and money avoiding things you don’t need.

Balance Your Color Scheme - Although black is the easiest go-to color for colder months, a neutral palette that includes greys, whites and nudes will facilitate mixing and matching options. Enhance neutral basics this season by emphasizing structure and texture. Then take it up a notch by adding some pieces with tones of navy, olive, wine and red.

Emphasize Quality Over Quantity - Aim to have a wardrobe of high-quality key pieces and low-cost essentials that can coexist together perfectly. Transform an outfit by belting a classic dress or adding a denim jacket for a quick refresh. And don’t overlook statement jewelry or handbags that can really up your game!

Buy Only What You Love - Once you have clearly defined your overall style direction for the season, it is time to go shopping! Careful consideration of what you need beforehand will prevent impulse buys and overspending.

Each piece should compliment your style and the rest of your wardrobe. And remember fit is everything!

Once your shopping is complete, create some go-to looks by spending time putting together as many different outfits as you can.

Enjoy the season!

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a baker. At all. Baking requires patience and the ability to precisely follow directions - both areas where BY I come-up short.

KA I adore cooking. I will T IE JEN kind of/mostly follow a recipe K IN S the first time, but after that, all bets are off. I will make substitutions if I don’t have an ingredient(s) orjustwanttomixthingsupalittle.Iwillreadthrough a recipe once, then use it as an inspiration to do my own thing.

I love the creativity and freedom that cooking has to offer.

But baking is a completely different ballgame. A baker needs to be exact and precise, and if they are not, your cake will fall or whatever and I just can’t do it.

But, every year for her birthday, my mother hints around at key lime pie. I have a recipe via Emeril Lagasse that I got years ago. While there are a bunch of steps, I have to keep mumbling to myself whilst making it: “It’s for Mom, so if that’s what she wants, a key lime pie is what I will make.”

I started on Wednesday and made my own sweetened condensed milk. Yes, I can buy it at the store, but my daughter, Maya, is a Type 1 diabetic, so I try my best to tweak recipes so that they’re a little easier on her blood sugar numbers. Sweetened condensed milk has a truckload of carbohydrates in it, and this recipe calls for two whole cans, so I made my own with Splenda instead.

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Friday morning, I crushed up the graham crackers in the food processor, mixed them up with some sugar and butter, smooshed them up against the sides of a springform pan, and made the crust.

After it cooled, I mixed in my homemade sweetened condensed milk, a bunch of lime juice, and eggs. Baked the pie in my new oven at the 325° as Emeril instructed, let it cool, wrapped it up, and put it in the fridge.

I even made my own whipped cream with sour cream and confectioners sugar and lime zest. I was feeling pretty proud of myself.

Saturday morning, I got the pie out of the refrigerator, went to put extra foil on the top and discovered it was complete liquid inside. It never set and I was devastated. All that hard work, my time, and a birthday gift for Mom no less—ruined.

I now refer to this pie as “The A-hole Pie.” I have never dealt with such an jerky baked good in my life. What did I ever do to this pie but love and care for it??? Why would it wrong me in such a way?!? I wanted to hurl it out into my driveway.

Mom told me to bring the pie anyway; if necessary, she would drink it through a straw.

We ended up re-baking it, and believe it or not, while the crust was too soft, it actually turned out OK. Extra sour, just like Mom likes it. Charley, my youngest, kept asking for more “sour pie”, and Maya, my oldest, got to enjoy a whole piece without it affecting her blood sugar.

This pie really did try to do me in. I’m even less of a baker than before, but I’ll probably make it again next year anyway. You know...For Mom.

What Mad Men didn’t tell us about smoking by teresa gilbert

Just imagine Madison Avenue in the 1960’s.

Don Draper...yummy! Good-looking, dressed to the nines, smoking a cigarette, drinking his immortal Old Fashioned at his desk - in his office, no less. So cool.

The entire picture speaks of high power and romance. Well, at least this was the image big tobacco advertised to the public in the 60s. Perfectly safe we were told.

Isn’t it ironic the sex appeal we were sold by the tobacco industry today has a cost? Were we warned?

Well, kind of. In the late 60s if you looked really closely you could see a small-print warning on one of the side panels of each cigarette package. SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING: Smoking Causes Lung Cancer, Heart Disease, Emphysema, and May Complicate Pregnancy.

The tobacco industry didn’t come clean for decades and by then the harsh reality set in for millions of Americans. We now know that not only were smokers in danger, but the people surrounding them were suffering from secondhand smoke as well.

We, as a society, are paying it forward big

time and not in a good way. Recent studies of the top causes of death are named as follows: heart disease, cancer, chronic lower respiratory disease and stroke.

We are now seeing a surge in severe Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) and other diseases that call for the need for oxygen therapy on a normal basis.

Under the heading of COPD falls chronic bronchitis and emphysema which are most commonly caused by smoking cigarettes and other tobacco products.

Severe asthma flare-ups and respiratory distress syndrome are becoming more commonplace earlier in life. Many of the individuals who suffer from these symptoms have never smoked a day in their life.

All in all, the romance with cigarettes has left us sick. Not lovesick, just sick.

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The holidays should be a time of joy and celebration, but often become a time of stress and frustration for those of us who face the prospect of giving or receiving holiday presents at our workplace.here’s some ideas to help.

(I think)

Nothing says holiday fun like gift giving at the office! Not really. It’s a tradition that most of us are forced into. We go along to get along because you don’t want to be the Scrooge who doesn’t want to participate. If you are forced into participating, here are some ideas to make this awkward tradition a little less painful.

The classic office gift giving tradition is of course, Secret Santa. Everyone randomly draws the name of a co-worker who then becomes the person that you give a gift. There is normally a limit on the amount of the gift, so things don’t get out of control. In some cases, smaller, less expensive gifts are purchased and left with clues. When the big gift exchange occurs people then try to guess the identity of their Secret Santa.

For the studious office, there is the book gift exchange. Everyone offers their favorite book as a gift.

The books can be given randomly or in Secret Santa fashion. The interesting part of this tradition is to see what kind of literature your co-workers like.

Maintaining the theme idea, how about a coffee mug exchange? Most people drink coffee or tea at work.

Coffee mugs come with practically anything printed on them. This is best used with an assigned recipient. That way you can match the mug to the personality.

An altruistic approach would be a charity exchange.

This means making a donation to someone’s favorite charity. This is the true meaning of the holidays.

To make sure they get what they want, you could do a gift card exchange. Not a lot of surprises here, but most folks like to shop. To keep it interesting, have everyone supply 3 places that they like to shop. Leave it up to the giver to decide from which place to buy the gift card.

What about no gifts and a potluck instead? Take the money you would normally spend on each other and put it toward a nice meat and cheese tray or a seafood platter. This is good way to take the pressure of gift giving off and just have a good time.

And finally, there is the traditional White Elephant gift exchange. Each person buys a gift. When the gift exchange occurs, one person starts. The next person then picks, but has the option to take the previous person’s gift, thus forcing them to pick again. It’s kind of like “Let’s Make A Deal,” but on a smaller scale. One way to avoid hard feelings is the make sure the gifts are light-hearted.

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Remembering to buy gifts for your co-workers is just one more thing to do during the holiday season. But if you make it fun and creative, it might not be so bad.

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MY SUCCESS STORY by Stefany Scales

Restoring confidence Hi, my name is Stefany and I am honored to share my success story. I’m the mother of ten and grandmother of eight. For me, life is truly beginning.

Approximately six years ago I had gone through some circumstances that caused me to question my faith. Before our family moved from New York to central Pennsylvania I had a terrible bout with eczema which spread from my head to my ankles.

For my children, life in Pennsylvania was challenging due to cultural differences but for me, life had started to move in a positive direction. I started to meet influential people who were business owners and authors. I met a gentleman who was the first AfricaAmerican to own a Christian radio station here in Central PA and I started my own little radio program called “Living Single, Saved, and Uncompromising”.

Unfortunately, circumstances started to change for me when I again became ill with this skin disease.

Shortly afterwards, our house went into foreclosure and we moved into a neighborhood that wasn’t considered to be safe and my

children started to rebel. My relationship with my youngest daughter had worsened, one of my sons had gone to jail and I became depressed. At the time I didn’t relate my circumstances to depression. I thought I had just let despair set in.

Gratefully, I survived and decided that it was time to live again. In the past I worked in the mental health field and did a short stint with youth offenders. I’ve always had a passion to help others, so I studied massage therapy and volunteered my skills for caregivers and clients of a hospice.

I started to focus my time on my passion, which was writing. I wrote a book about my life story but I knew I needed to get back into the work field to fund the publishing of my book.

I had lost numerous possessions; one being business clothes. In New York I was aware of Dress for Success but was under the impression that a person only qualified if they were completely destitute. One of my daughters reassured me that that wasn’t the case. She educated me on taking the necessary steps to see if I qualified, and I did!

Through a referral from CareerLink, I was able to obtain an appointment with Dress for Success South Central PA. The irony was in the blessing of the story that follows: I received my interview outfit and went to my interview the next night. The job I interviewed for called back the next day raising

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my hopes that I had the position. I immediately called Dress for Success South Central PA and came in for more clothes for my new job.

Unfortunately, I wasn’t hired for that job. I called Dress for Success South Central PA and asked if I needed to return the clothes. They told me, “No, keep them. You can always use them for your next job!” And that is just what happened.

Two weeks later I was in a training class and a woman who was employed with the same organization where I worked with the youth offenders asked me if I’d ever consider returning. She felt I would fit the job perfectly.

Not long after, I received a call from the program director who was impressed with my appearance and persona and I was hired.

Dress for Success South Central PA has really restored my confidence and increased my hope. There are people who just need that little boost of confidence and for those of you who give it, I thank you.

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Making personal defense decisions by nathan lamb, lanco tactical, llc

Personal safety is an issue for everyone, but more women are making it a truly personal decision. As you take on a proactive role in your own protection there are many questions and options that present themselves. Take the advice women have been giving male traveling companions for years – don’t be afraid to ask for directions.

There are many options out there for women considering their self protection. Some of the options include: Classes – Local ranges, gun stores, law enforcement organizations and even some local politicians host classes at little or no cost that include legal aspects of self protection, buying decisions such as weapon selection and personal comfort levels and even hands on training classes. Keep in mind classes are informative and instructional but won’t take the place of actual practice with your firearm.

Professional Referrals– We wouldn’t think twice asking for referrals and advice regarding everything from clothes and fashion to finding a local plumber. This is also a good resource regarding protection options. Friends, family and coworkers often have experience and

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contacts that are most helpful. Be very specific when asking questions and share your personal concerns and preferences so you get the information you need to make the decisions that are right for you. You will find there are many sources out there but it often takes multiple sources to gather all the information you need.

Online Resources – There are many organizations, government, sports/outdoor clubs, equipment manufacturers and private citizens, who post information in the form of online articles, blogs, publications, etc. Be careful that the information you see online is safe and reliable by going to trusted sites and verifying with local professionals.

Write down your questions and concerns and take your time making decisions when it comes to your personal self protection. Also remember that no one else’s comfort level and personal choices when it comes to self protection will be the same as yours.

If you’re going to trust your life to a handgun, make certain it’s the right one.

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‘Tis the season of Thanksgiving with it’s overflowing

Finding peace

cornucopias symbolizing abundance. I don’t like to measure the fullness of my horn of plenty by the material things. What fills mine are the people I love and care about. Even though it is quite filled, sadly there will be some missing this year.

Isn’t the best part of Thanksgiving getting together with family and friends? Remembering those we lost - usually with both laughter and tears - can have a healing power. Collectively, we share in mourning over their passing, but we will also laugh at their quirks and recount funny stories.

I tread lightly in writing this column for what should be a celebratory holiday issue, but I feel compelled to focus on the those who lost their battles with addiction. Four people I knew and cared about succumbed to substance abuse within a six-month time period. Their addictions touched everyone who ever knew these four, and if I’m right, that means hundreds of other people out there were affected. That math convinced me that this was worthy of sharing.

It’s different when remembering those we lost to addictions. Good times are overshadowed by the feelings of betrayal and suspicion - and impending doom. That they raised our hopes and busted our balloons over and over is hard to forget.

Yet, despite our fears, we kept rooting for them, praying for them to recover, certain they had it in themselves to quit. We tried everything to convince them of their own worth, but they were entrenched in their addictions and their drug of choice was in control.

For me, giving thanks this year will be bittersweet. Bitter for lives being cut short, but sweet, in a way, in the knowledge that their turmoil is over. Instead of looking at the dark circles under their eyes, I can remember how they used to be able to look me in the eye. I will let go of the more recent unpleasant memories and keep only the joyful ones in my cornucopia.

For those of us who lost someone to addiction, or any reason for that matter, we may actually have something extra to be thankful for: a reminder not to take anything or anyone for granted. We have been gifted with a renewed sense of appreciation for all that fills our horns of plenty.

when you’ve lost someone to addiction

Mixed Blessings

By Brenda Tadych

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Caring for the sideeffects of treatment by terry scott and jill robbins

After breast cancer surgery, about 20% of women develop some lymphedema, a painful chronic swelling of the arm following removal of lymph nodes. Lymphedema is a chronic but treatable condition in which fluid (lymph) is retained in the tissue and causes swelling (edema). The swelling occurs when a blockage in the lymphatic system prevents the fluids from draining adequately.

Without proper treatment the condition can progress and the compromised immune functions put the patient at high risk for serious infection and other costly complications.

There is no known cure for lymphedema; a course of care is a visit with a physical therapist who can help reduce swelling and pain with massage and exercise techniques that encourage the movement of the fluid.

The therapist will often recommend a medical grade gradient compression garment worn daily to offer the best relief and keep the disease from progressing. To be most effective, these garments need to be fitted on

an individual to insure the garment is sized properly. A garment that is not fitted properly can cause even more swelling and pain. Many patients can wear a pre-made garment costing around one hundred dollars. A custom made garment will cost several hundred dollars because it is made specifically for the individual.

This expense is minor compared to the costly complications and lymphedema pumps that might be needed if the disease is not controlled. Medicare and other insurance companies are not currently covering these garments, so many patients do not seek treatment.

The PA Breast Cancer Coalition and the Lymphedema Treatment Act wants to change this coverage. Please contact them at Info@PaBreastCancer.org or www.

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