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IN THIS ISSUE:
Hacks for Greener, Happier Living
ERIKA FARBER:
Home Sweet Home
5 Common Decorating Mistakes (and how to fix them)
MOM This Mother’s Day , Woman honors moms everywhere with our own collection of photos and reflections.
Craig, Nathan, James and Adam are the greatest gifts God has given me. As Craig used to say when he was little, "Mommy, I love you up to the sky." ...I love my boys up to the sky. Tina, Senior Account Executive
The sign of a beautiful person is that they always see beauty in others. Thanks for showing me how to open my eyes, Ma. Julianna, Creative Director
Thanks, Mom, for always helping me remember what’s important in life. Louise, Editor/Publisher
Everyday I become a little bit more like my mother, and I couldn't be prouder! Pam, Account Executive
Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws. - Barbara Kingsolver
Photo: In The Moment Photography by Hollis.
Publisher’s Note Dark, blurry and just plain horrible I have a guilty pleasure; I love to prowl vacation rental and real estate websites. Or rather, I’m addicted to their hilariously bad photographs and it's frankly amazing how many there are. Have you ever come across a picture in a listing that made you do a double-take? Spotting cringe-worthy photos has become a sort of sport for me. Nothing says “welcome to my home” like a room full of creepy dolls. Or a gloomy house crowded with taxidermy. And why so many pictures of dark hallways and basement stairways?
Nothing says "welcome" like a mysterious sideways photo of a stairway to hell.
I especially love the shots that show the toilet but nothing of the bathroom it’s sitting in. Or the close-up shot of the “high-end” dishwasher and no other kitchen photo. How about the ones that take several photos of the exterior and none of the interior? What does that tell you? Either the owner doesn’t want the antique chandelier showing up on the internet (OK, I get that) or the place needs a total rehab (more likely.)
It’s true, professionally staged photos can mislead us sometimes, but now and then, a brutally accurate photo can actually spare us a trip. A bumbling owner or broker can reveal a deal-breaking flaw: Toilet sitting inside the shower stall? Ummm, I'll pass, thanks.
These websites are supposed to have beautiful photos of their listings, right? After all, photos pull us in for a closer look. Common sense says don’t take pictures of a grimy bathtub or a sink stacked with filthy dishes.
This serves as reminder that not all homes are created equal. Whether it's bewildering house designs, nightmarish pets, or outlandish decor, one question remains: Is it really a good idea to flaunt it?
Blurry and sideways photos aside, couldn’t the owner at least hide some of their junk in a closet? Just to take the picture? Guess not. Louise Sukle Editor & Publisher
editor & publisher Louise Sukle lsukle@womannewspapers.com
contributors Kathryn Baxter kathrynbaxter@gmail.com
creative director Julianna Sukle julianna@pressandjournal.com
Kathryn Baxter is a writer living in Brooklyn, NY. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/Kathryn-Baxter
sales manager Dave Brown daveb@pressandjournal.com ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Dauphin County: Tina Rinehart (717) 421-3247 tinarinehart@pressandjournal.com Cumberland County: Pam Rux (717) 433-6779 pamrux@pressandjournal.com
Brenda Tadych sumthin2say@hotmail.com Brenda Tadych is a lifelong resident of Dauphin County, currently residing in Middletown. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/Brenda-Tadych
Deb Baer Becker dbbecker2@yahoo.com Deb advocates for women’s breast health, and writes about her experience surviving breast cancer. She’s writing a book about her years as a young airman with the USAF Thunderbirds. She holds an MFA in Writing from Pacific University, and is the proud mother of two adult-sized children and two rescued dogs. She lives in Houston, Texas, but dreams of her native Pennsylvania’s rolling hills and cut-away fields. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/ Deb-Baer-Becker
Erika Farber erika.farber@gmail.com Erika has spent many years as a strong and independent force in both the restaurant business and online dating scene, and she has chosen this medium to share her successes and failures in both. Recounting the adventures that have shaped her life has enhanced her growth and ignited her passion for writing. Find her online at womannewspapers.com/Erika-Farber
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BY KAT HRYN B AX T E R I first started fantasizing about real estate in 2004. The woman who would later become my wife worried my obsession spoke of unhappiness. Why wasn’t I happy with our home, albeit a rental, where we lived and laughed and built our together-ness? I wasn’t unhappy. I loved our home! But I really enjoyed thinking about real estate and loved imagining how to make something amazing in those spaces. At that time, new websites were popping up on the Internet featuring photos, square footage, price and tax history of properties and, best of all, floor plans. I can look at floor plans all day. What walls are likely load bearing and thus too complicated to remove; what were the original builders thinking when putting a sink there; how much outdoor space is there? I fantasize about properties. On one of our earliest dates, and still early in my real estate obsession, my future wife and I went on a post-brunch walk in my neighborhood and passed an enormous new glass condo building. I’d watched with envy as it was being built, but then there it was: A giant banner announcing the open house. So, our Sunday walk led us to my fairy-tale glass castle. We decided to go inside. This was not a casual open house. We were required to put our names on a list and offer contact information before we could venture beyond the lobby. This was also my very first open house. We were given a brochure and asked which unit we were interested in. I, of course, took the lead. “We’re not sure,” I said offhandedly as though unimpressed, “but the one-bedroom might be up our alley.” Allow me to put my situation in perspective. This was 2008, the economy was slowing but had not yet tanked, and I was real estate browsing in New York City, one of the most expensive cities in the country. At the time, I was sharing an apartment with a roommate and paying nearly equal amounts in rent and student loans. I had no real savings and had no business looking at seven-hundred-thousand dollar apartments. Still, with our backs straight and our chins up, we allowed ourselves to be led through the 4
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exquisite lobby, up the elevator to the enormous one-bedroom apartment. The agent’s shoes clacked on the pristine tile hallway floors ahead of us while my Converse sneakers squeaked like a toddler’s. The apartment’s kitchen featured endless, smooth white countertops. The expansive exterior glass walls overlooked a park, a courtyard and a library. It was downright dreamy. We awkwardly joked, still early in our relationship, that we could easily picture ourselves coming home to this kitchen, mixing one another a martini, staring out over our kingdom. It was heady stuff - this property and now also the fantasy of this incredible person in my future. At that point, I hadn’t allowed myself to dream about the future of our relationship. It seemed like it would be testing fate and something that would only happen if allowed to do so organically. But dreaming about home-ownership was practical - something we have to plan for it if we want it. Sticking the woman of my dreams into the dream apartment fantasy was my sneaky subconscious at work. We eventually left and went home to our respective apartments; hers with it’s terrible heating, a bunk kitchen with a refrigerator that didn’t close, and a clinical hoarder for a roommate. I returned to my apartment with its tiny kitchen, peeling linoleum floor, cement wall views, and neighbors who hung out in the hall asking for spare change. In our own ways, we loved our quirky apartments. They represented our adulthood, independence and freedom. But a bug was planted. That was eight years ago this summer. We continued to rent together for a few years before we bought our condo. I could not be more grateful for that overzealous walk and the absolutely ridiculous fantasy life it conjured for us. We cite that day as our first thought of moving in together. Home ownership is a monumental responsibility for all, a milestone for many, a privilege for me. But mostly, it’s also a love story.
Estate planning for pets? by jan l. brown, attorney at law
Absolutely! We plan for our spouses, children, grandchildren and other family members and those of us with pets, often include them in our estate planning as well. Most of my clients with pets have cats, dogs, birds or horses but I have clients with Macaw parrots (average lifespan 64 years) and tortoises (average lifespan 164 years- a point of interest, the oldest record of a tortoise’s life was 226 years!). Planning for pets that are likely going to outlive the owner requires special consideration. Most often clients with pets provide for them in their Last Will and Testaments. There are a number of ways to provide for your pet in your Last Will and Testament. When doing this, the most important task is choosing someone who you think will take good care of your pet and who is willing to take your pet(s). A backup person (or a number of backups if you have a tortoise) needs to be named as well. Unfortunately, you cannot assume your first choice will take your pet upon your death. Things happen in life and circumstances change, often preventing your first choice from being able to take or care for your pet. Circumstances, such as an illness, a child or grandchild's allergies, or a move to a non-pet friendly community have all prevented client’s first choices from actually taking the pet. Once you have a consensus on who will take your pet, then there are a number of ways to compensate that person or provide funds to care for the pet. Sometimes the client will leave a lump sum amount to the person who is going to
take the pet, to provide for the pet’s food, veterinary bills, and any costs associated with the pet. Sometimes, monies will be set aside in a Trust and a person other than the one taking the pet is named as Trustee of that Trust. The Trustee will pay the bills for the pet and keep an accounting of expenses, exactly like the Trustee of a child is required to do. A number of people with pets cannot find anyone to take their pet, so they will leave the pet to a no-kill shelter and if possible include a sum of money to provide for the pet. Oftentimes, if a family member is taking the pet, no money exchanges hands. In Pennsylvania, animals are classified as personal property so if no special planning is in place; the named executor of the Will handles the care and placement of the pet. We encourage naming someone in your Will who will take your pet, so that the executor doesn’t give the pet to someone else or take steps that would conflict with your wishes.
WHO makes the financial decisions in your house?
Jan L Brown and Associates is a law firm founded in 1993 to help families. The firm has over 43 years of combined experience and practices exclusively in the areas of estate planning , probate and elder law. Estate planning includes Wills, Powers of Attorneys, Living Wills, Trusts, Tax Planning , Special Needs Trusts and Guardianships. Elder law addresses the legal issues of seniors, their families and those who care for them including obtaining benefits, such as Medicare, Medicaid and VA benefits and protecting assets from nursing home care costs. The information presented is for educational purposes only and should not be taken as legal advice as every client and situation is different and requires specific review and analysis. If you would like an appointment, please call (717) 541- 5550.
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Change can be good -if you allow it by barbara costik, administrator middletown lumber, inc.
In the March/April issue of Woman, I talked about reworking rooms in your home by making small changes. Clearing out a room and then slowly adding furniture and accessories, piece by piece, layer by layer, can create a fresh look without spending a fortune. In this issue, I’m going to talk about how creating warm and inviting spaces in your home can be an outlet for more than just your creativity. The decorating process has evolved during the last thirty years. My mom equates it to the cooking revolution. Years ago, woman made basic meals, mainly meat and potatoes. If there was a salad it was iceburg lettuce. You didn’t toss together “spring mix” blends. One certainly never grilled vegetables. The same can be said of decorating. One didn’t mix antiques with yard sale finds or toss together floral fabric with stripes and prints. Back then, the lines were pretty clear.
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Nowadays, eclectic decorating is perfectly acceptable. It’s OK to mix antiques, flea market finds, and - if you don’t mind me saying - just plain junk, with your brand new pieces. Some decoraters are so good at repurposing you find yourself drawn to it, even if you consider yourself a diehard “meat and potato” type of decorator. What I am getting at is there are no limitations. I have been thinking lately of all the restrictions and controls we place on ourselves, whether it’s in our workplace, home environment, relationships and our place in the world. Maybe if all of us could be a little more open to change, I wonder what would happen. My husband and I are working on remodeling our basement and I am trying to be open to the endless possibilites. At this point we are not sure which way to go because we love everything! In basement remodeling - and in life - I’ve decided to step out of my comfort zone, beginning with something completely new for me: Writing these articles! Hope you enjoy. Please call (717) 944-4005 or stop by Middletown Lumber, Inc. located at 2 Clinton Avenue, Middletown, PA 17057 for information.
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Solution: OVerdecorating Too much color or pattern
Embrace “less is more.” When adding bold color or layering patterns, it’s best to take
COMMON DECORATING MISTAKES
baby steps when first trying it out, starting with pillows, then working your way up.
is overwhelming and, well, tacky.
AND HOW TO FIX THEM Fear of Color
Solution:
Many people are too scared to use color, but too much neutral is boring.
Solution:
Edit your collections so they look
visible clutter
good as a small grouping.
It can make even the cleanest room seem
Add a bit of contrast. In
messy.
this case, yellow chairs.
Solution: Get the furniture off the walls and create an intimate space where people can gather, while allowing for flow. Add an area rug to anchor and the define the space.
unsightly cords & wires A tangle of wires is not only distracting but can be hazardous.
Solution:
floating furniture If everything is pushed back against a wall, the room can seem unwelcoming.
You have the accessories, the furniture, and the color on the walls. But is something not quite right? Most home owners aren’t professional decorators and will eventually fall prey to common decorating mistakes. But don’t fear - most mistakes are easy to fix.
Simply place your power strip or harrietcarter.com
surge protector inside a box.
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The right first step toward home buying Whether you are buying your first home, moving across town or refinancing your current mortgage, Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation is here to help! We offer several financing products that can help make homeownership more affordable with the speed and service you deserve.
Before you buy or refi, get pre-qualified!* Contact me today for more information! Leanne Via Senior Mortgage Advisor NMLS #132408 Office: 717-591-3278 Mobile: 717-215-3184 Direct: 717-591-3278
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Age-related macular degeneration submitted by american home medical
With age comes wisdom but with it also comes illness. It’s a fact of life that as we get older our bodies wear out and are susceptible to many diseases and maladies. One condition that affects nearly two million Americans is agerelated macular degeneration, also referred to as AMD or ARMD. AMD commonly affects people 50 years old and older. It causes damage to the macula; this in turn impedes the eye’s central vision. Your central vision allows us to see objects directly in front of you. Sufferers develop a blank spot in their central vision. As you can imagine having your central vision impaired can affect many aspects of your life. The disease can progress slowly with the blank spot growing larger over time. However, it can also progress quickly and lead to vision loss in both eyes. While AMD does not lead to complete blindness, loss of central vision is very impairing. AMD comes in two forms. Dry AMD occurs in the early stages of the disease and causing thinning of the macular tissue, a depositing of pigment in the macula or a combination of both. Wet AMD occurs when new blood vessels grow under the retina 8
and leak blood and fluid. The leakage causes damage to the light sensitive retina cells, which then can create the blind spot. Drugs, laser treatment, vision aids and surgery are some of the treatment options for AMD. If you have been diagnosed with AMD, consult your doctor to find out which treatment option is best for you. Age-related macular degeneration can affect your quality of life. Be aware of your risk factors and if you suspect you may have AMD, make an appointment with your doctor. As with any illness, the sooner you are diagnosed the better.
by leanne via
Things were going great for the Smiths. Joe had gotten a promotion; Jane’s business was booming. Life was good. They made the decision: time for a new home. They started driving around looking at houses and searching online. They saw some homes they loved and really started to get excited. Joe and Jane were ready to list their house. They didn’t want to mess around since houses were flying off the market, so they called their realtor. Their realtor was excited for them: everything was going great financially with the Smiths according to the form they filled out, their house was going to sell quickly and they were loyal clients – slam dunk. Their house was listed and sold quickly. In addition, the Smiths found a house they wanted to put an offer on, but they needed a preapproval for a mortgage. When I started talking with them about financing I was excited because on the surface, everything seemed perfect. But it turns out Joe’s promotion involved commission, which he didn’t have for two years, so we couldn’t use his additional income. Jane’s business was doing
exceptional, but because of the way her self employment was analyzed, her income was less than they expected for mortgage purposes. They did not qualify for the mortgage for the new house. Ouch. Don’t let yourself be subject to this pain. Before you try to buy, make sure you qualify; contact a mortgage professional. That is the right first step in home buying!
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Living green
Even simple lifestyle behaviors have the power to make a big impact, on both a personal and global scale.
5 Hacks for Greener, Happier Living showers, reduce food waste or make eco-minded choices at the store, adopting some new habits can make a difference in protecting earth’s natural resources. These simple, renewable lifestyle changes may even affect your personal mindset.
1. Conserve resources, including water.
The Environmental Protection Agency estimates that cutting your shower by just one minute will save two and a half gallons of water. Over time, that savings adds up: 75 gallons per month and nearly 1,000 gallons over the course of a year.
2. Choose products in renewable packaging.
Choosing food and beverage products in renewable packaging is a natural extension of environmentally friendly habits, such as recycling or composting. From milk and soup to water and juice, you can usually find food products packaged in cartons - primarily made from paper, a renewable resource from growing forests - instead of plastic.
3. Buy only what you can consume.
At the grocery store, it’s easy to over-shop, especially if you’re hungry. Buy only what you need to reduce waste and seek groceries that are carton-packed from renewable materials.
4. Use re-usable containers.
These days, hectic lifestyles are the norm and that often means meals and beverages on the go. When possible, rely on re-usable drink and food containers instead of disposable ones.
5. Bike or walk when you can.
According to data compiled by National Geographic, it takes nearly 13 gallons of water to produce each gallon of gasoline. Using alternative modes of transportation and taking care to combine errands, car pool and use public transportation help cut water and energy demands.
Source: Family Features
Whether you take shorter
Controling pests the natural way submitted by weaver’s outdoors
Gardens are a prime target for pests of all kinds - from tiny insects to deer, geese and more. Keeping a garden pest free can be difficult, but it is not impossible. There are many methods for controlling garden pests, some more natural than others. One of the best ways to keep pests out of plants and let the light and water in is to use floating row covers. Made of porous polyester fabric, the covers can be applied in numerous ways—draped over hoops, attached to frames, wrapped around cages or secured with pins over plants. Floating row covers come in lightweight and heavyweight versions and work best on seedlings and really active pests. They are a temporary fix, as many plants require insect pollination. Sticky traps are another method for keeping insects in check. You can purchase them or make them yourself. Just make sure the color of trap you use appeals to the pests you are after. Yellow, for example, attracts fruit flies, fungus gnats, male-winged mealy bugs and other pests. White attracts cucumber and flea beetles. Light blue attracts flower thrips, and red, flies that turn into apple maggots. The traps will lure insects through the color and trap them with a
sticky coating. If covers and traps are too much of a hassle, consider using sprays. Insecticidal soap is a popular product that will eliminate any insects it comes into contact with. It can burn some plants, however, so a spot test is recommended prior to use. Oil sprays are also effective. Should you have a specific insect problem, bacillus thuringiensis (BT) is an option. Make sure the product you select applies to the pests you are targeting. Whatever the spray of choice, you should apply it only in areas where you know there is a problem. Parasitic nematodes are another organic solution to pests. These occur naturally in the soil but can be purchased by the billions and applied with water to eliminate pests. For small infestations, you can forgo covers, traps and sprays in favor of plain, old-fashioned hand-picking. That’s right. You pluck the pests from the plants by hand and dispose of them properly. Just make sure you wear gloves and can handle the task at hand. Not all gardeners are keen on removing pests by hand. These are just a few organic options for keeping pests under control. Keep trying until you come up with the right combination of methods for you.
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Time to get to work by bill wood, executive director of habitat for humanity of the greater harrisburg area
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ENJOY The thrill of the hunt!
Spring is here, summer is just around the corner, and for many homeowners who DIY, it’s time to dust off the “to-do” list, roll up the sleeves and tackle some projects! Upgrading the cabinets can improve your kitchen’s aesthetic while adding value to your home. We’ve all seen the shows where somebody is getting a new kitchen and they delight in taking a sledgehammer to the old (perfectly good) cabinets, right? It looks like fun, but it’s also messy, dangerous, and wasteful. What if I told you there’s a better way to remove your cabinets that can save you money, help the environment, and teach you about construction? Although it might seem formidable, “deconstructing” your kitchen cabinets is a job that is well within the skillset of an average DIY’er. With a little help, a cordless drill, and a weekend day, you could remove your cabinets so that they could be donated to a reuse center. Most kitchen contractors will negotiate their fees around the reduction in cost that comes with the homeowner’s removal of the old cabinets, so bring that to the table when soliciting bids.
If you’re intimidated by the plumbing or any cabinets with electrical outlets, leave those pieces to the pros, but most cabinets are simply secured to the wall by a few screws, a piece of trim, and a few layers of paint. Countertops tend to break during a salvage, and that’s ok – they are difficult to reuse anyway, and writing them off as collateral damage allows you to focus on efficiently and safely removing the cabinets themselves. Removing your old cabinets for reuse is a rewarding way to involve yourself in an aspect of your kitchen remodel beyond picking out new appliances (you can also donate your old ones!). Put on your safety glasses, and get to work! Habitat for Humanity of the Greater Harrisburg Area is a 501c3 non profit. If you have any questions or would like further information on how to volunteer or donate, please call Bill Woods 717545-7299, ext. 210. I would love to hear from you.
The week before my 40th birthday, the man with whom I had been building a life and planning a wedding with, unceremoniously and shockingly broke up with me. While trying to navigate all of my feelings of rejection, pain and devastation in addition to the relentless search for the “whys” and “hows” that were plaguing me, I also found myself, for the first time in my life, homeless. Let me clarify: I was not forced to sleep on the subway, or live out of my storage space. But for this moment in time, I was definitely minus a home. This was not my choice. I didn’t want to leave. I had to leave. Moving to a new apartment had always been a conscious choice. I truly embraced my new spaces: the blank walls were an empty canvas that I couldn’t wait to decorate, the fridge, clean and empty felt like a fresh start. And along with each move came an immediate sense of pride and ownership. Each move, which was often due to career advances, was also accompanied by the comfort and satisfaction of having come to each new home on my own terms. I was single and financially secure, working my way up the ladder of a crazy career in an insanely competitive industry. I was able to travel AND put some money away on the side. Big pat on the back for a job well done! It was a happy and satisfying time. But for all of my hard work and success, as I got older, I longed for a partner to share it all with. So, when things with the man in my life progressed from dating to love, we happily decided to move in together. I left behind my bachelorette pad in a hip, fun part of town to move to an area closer to our jobs but regrettably farther away from the cozy network I’d cultivated. In truth, it would be a big leap for me but I was ready. I was about to boldly and bravely enter my forties with a man who had seemed to want what I wanted, a man who I was in deeply in love with, whom I had allowed to enter the security and comfort of my carefully appointed life. I forged ahead with bravado, even arrogance, happily throwing away or donating most of my furniture, and all of the little mementos I’d accumulated along the road of my single gal life. I wasn’t going to be that girl anymore. Big pat on the back for another job well done! Needless to say, the sudden break up shook me to my very core. Everything was turned upside down. Colors looked different to me, foods smelled different. My reflection in the mirror looked like a stranger. What was this life now, and what was it going to be? For the first time, I no longer felt in control of my future. Well-intending friends and family told me, “You’re one of the toughest chicks I know, don’t worry: you’ll figure it all out.” I certainly did not feel tough. I felt weak, vulnerable and scared. For all of my careful life planning and strategizing, how did I not see this coming? I packed my things and was lucky enough to be invited to stay with a very dear friend. It was the immediate shelter between homes and the one constant that I desperately needed after having my heart broken. Night after night I would collapse into bed, numbed by earplugs and an Advil PM. Despite the solace of being in her apartment during such a difficult time, I knew that I couldn’t stay there forever. I would have to start the search for a new apartment. This move felt as unwelcoming as my ex had been when
1. Make sleep a priority
Getting seven to eight hours of sleepDr.each night is I’critical I felt silly, and humbled. Embarrassed. H was right. d forbogged the body to produce that trigger myself down withhormones so many negative feelingshappiness, during explains and expert Johnson. the pasthealth months thatperformance I had neglected to seeMatt anything positive “I all. amTha isbigwasfantheofslap always going to bed a positive at I needed to wake mewith up and change attitude, he says. “If you go to bed angry, worried or stressed, my ”perspective. that tends toback come back the nextinday. Dothat what youandcan before I went to my apartment a hurry night, bedbefore to reset your mood. Read, take a bath, exercise or talk I even took off my coat, I made a list on a Post It note face-to-face. to avoid screen time.I was ” thankful for, and - yes, I’m a Try list maker - of all the things
stuck it on my bathroom mirror. The last item read: THIS PLACE, HERE. And that Post It stayed on my mirror for a long time. “Over the last 20seemed years, family timefoods has vanished. Sporting Slowly, colors bright again, smelled delicious we were settling our affairs. The money I’d been saving for events, projects, work and technology have swallowed more. If I felt a little shaky and unsure, or if I had a sad this our wedding now had to go toward real estate broker’s fees time,once ”day, says Johnson. “I think family timekind is the I would try to do one nice thingface-to-face for someone else, of and new furniture. Lonely trips to IKEA with all the other most important part offora all healthy family relationship and hapas a karmic payback the nice things people had said and newly single adults, pages-long lists of items I needed to buy, piness.” done for me during my dark time. pricing out moving companies and storage facilities, setting Johnson suggests dinner two to three Coming home planning has becomefamily something I look forward to times up my cable television...none of it brought the familiar sense of a week. “When we start to eat dinner as a family in the home, now - not because of the things I’ve bought or collected, but excitement and accomplishment. our health and happiness will follow, ” he notes. because of the things I feel I’ve achieved here. And with a lot The cold and dreary days dragged on, but somehow, the of help along the way, I managed to find Home, once again, on big move to a new apartment happened. I settled in, hung my own terms. pictures on the walls and stocked my fridge. But this was a I regainedis the sense control I had over my own life by time youofdedicate to yourself to refresh, place I hated coming to at the end of the day, and hated waking Whitespace changing my perspective and by reading that damn Post unplug and rejuvenate. This could be making time to doIt yoga, up in every morning. It was dark and lonely, and so quiet. I was everyread, day. I continue remind enjoy note a hobby, meditatetoor take amyself bath.that the brief bout home. Why didn’t it feel that way? I experienced when I was “minus a home” a mere on bal“People who have hobbies and activitieswasthat giveblip them Months later, this unsettled feeling still haunted me. I the radar screen of my life, and a far bett er situation than so bellyached to my therapist, Dr. H, about how unfair and ance tend to be happier,” Johnson says. “If your hobby is texting, many people are forced to struggleTV, withthis every day.set you up for a unlucky this all was. I deserved to feel better by now, didn’t I? checking social media or watching will I have a new Post It note on my bathroom mirror. It doesn’tbut I felt like I had been robbed, and despite my new apartmentfeeling of emptiness. These things are fine in short periods, say, “Big pat on the back. ” It says, “Keep it up. ” and new furnishing, I still felt “homeless.” I began to list all too much will take away what life is giving us.”
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the things I was missing, all the ways I felt like I was floating instead of feeling grounded. He listened patiently, and even laughed a little at my With the expanse of the Internet and mobile commuting, self-deprecating jokes. He told me it was OK to mourn workers are now connected more than ever before. But this conthe loss of the man I loved and the life we’d shared nectedness can get out of control when answering emails 24/7, but it was time to stop keeping a tally of the so work-life balance is important for overall happiness. losses. It was time to start looking at the gains. “We all want to be successful, but with anything you need I shrugged and said, “I can’t even name one.” proper balance, ” says Johnson. “If you look at professional athletes, Dr. H’s posture stiffened. At the very the best ones try to find activities outside of their sport that help least, he said, not marrying the wrong them stay hungry, engaged and excited. Find things that help you man was a gain. Hmmm. Having a create balance in your life.” support system in my friends and Johnson suggests: family, having a job that I was good • Don’t check email after 8 p.m. at, with coworkers that had been • Go on a date night or family night understanding during this tough • Exercise at a time that fits your schedule time, waking up in the morning • Walk during lunch and getting things done • Schedule a massage once a month productively - all gains. Not being self-destructive, not acting out in irrational and harmless ways: Gains. “I believe we have more behavior and mental health issues than He went on, reminding we should, and a big part of this is the lack of proper nutrients,” says me that lots of people Johnson. “The most important nutrient when it comes to brain out there wouldn’t have health and mood is omega-3s.” been lucky enough to America is one of the most deficient countries when it comes have been able to build to omega-3s, with an estimated 91 percent of people not getting a brand new life for enough. “Adding cod liver oil to your diet can be a game changer for themselves as easily your mental health,” Johnson says. and with as much support as I’d had. Some people are Thinking of the things you are grateful for can have a dramatic without a shelter effect on your satisfaction and overall happiness. Do this daily as you or a safe haven wake up or make it a conversation you have with your children right to protect them. before bed. They are the true “Telling yourself you are grateful for your health, family, friends, definition of job and life gives you that pat on the back we all need,” Johnson says. homeless, and “I also think we don’t tell people how much we appreciate them until I never had they are gone. I encourage everyone to write a handwritten letter to been, really.
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You’ve been working on the outside of your you when you go shopping. Homeowners who do home for months now. You removed the dead not have shutters might want to have a professional trees. You had the lawn treated. You redesigned the come out to their home and take accurate flowerbeds. You stained the driveway. You painted measurements. For the best results, you should shop for shutters the house. You had new windows installed. The result? The curb appeal of your home has improved locally with a reputable vendor. Ask questions, know considerably. Now you just need to add some final what you are purchasing and make sure you are able to handle the installation yourself. If not, hire touches, starting with new shutters. Your shutters have taken a beating over the years, someone reputable. You don’t want to spend a lot and now it’s time you replaced them. Before you on new shutters only to damage them during the start the shopping, you need to determine the style installation process! Protect your investment with of shutters you want. Perhaps you want what you smart choices from beginning to end. had before. Perhaps you want something new. Shutters come in four basic styles: louvered, raised panel, board and batten, and Bahama. Louvered are the most common, and their traditional look suits most home styles. Raised panel shutters also feature a traditional look and work well on homes with paneled doors. Louvered, raised panel & board and batten Board and batten shutters are simple in design—a few vertical slats held together by a horizontal board on the top and bottom—and suit most rustic, country homes. Bahama, or hurricane, shutters serve both form and function, adding a touch of style while protecting the windows of homes in areas prone to hurricane weather. They cover the entire window and open like an awning. Shutters come in a variety of materials. PVC is popular with homeowners because it requires very little maintenance. It does fade, crack, dent and bend, however. Wood is another popular choice, and there are several types of wood suitable for shutters. Some of these include pine, cedar, cypress and redwood. Wood does require some maintenance, in particular primer, paint and sealer. If you plan to use Bahama shutters, you will also have to select hardware. A number of styles are available for shutter dogs, hinges, tie-backs and hold-backs, locks and caps. Hand-forged are the best. Once you have an idea of the shutters you want, you will need to take accurate measurements. Measure your old shutters and have the figures with
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Spring has arrived, and once again, you will need to prepare your vehicle for the upcoming season. Many people will take their vehicle to a shop and say, “Call me when it’s done,” while others won’t maintain their vehicle at all. But you, you’re different. You’re going to pop the hood and get your trusty steed ready to take to the road. Checking the tire pressure and wiper blades and cleaning the interior are maintenance 101 for you. You’re more concerned with the inner workings of the vehicle. Start with the battery. Check the posts and connections. Make sure they are free of corrosion and making good contact. The same goes for the spark plugs— clean them if necessary. Spark plugs can fire three million times every 1,000 miles, so proper operation is crucial. Check the oil and oil filter. Your vehicle’s manual will have recommendations on how often to change the oil and filter. A good rule of thumb is every 3,000 to 5,000 miles. Make sure you are using the correct grade of oil. The outside temperature is now warmer, and as you probably know, oil gets thicker when it’s cold and thinner when it’s hot. Using an oil grade of 10W40 means that the oil will flow at a 40 viscosity rate during the warmer spring months.
Another filter to check is your vehicle’s air filter. The air filter keeps dust and other debris from getting into the engine’s moving parts. Dust and debris in your vehicle’s engine can cause it to be less efficient and underperform. It is a good idea to replace the air filter annually or every 12,000 to 15,000 miles. Next, check the coolant level. The radiator on a cold engine should be completely full. The reservoir should be at the “cold” level. Again, check the vehicle’s owner’s manual to determine when the system should be flushed and fresh coolant added. The next level to check is the brake fluid level. If the level has fallen below the “low” mark, it may indicate excessive brake wear or a leak somewhere in the system. Unless you are certified to repair brake systems, you should take the vehicle to someone who is. This function of the vehicle is too important to not be overseen by a professional. Check all the belts and hoses. Winter could have damaged these parts. Replace any fraying belts or bulging hoses. Being a do-it-yourselfer can be rewarding and save you money. But keep in mind that your vehicle is one of the most expensive things you own. It can also be dangerous if not properly maintained. Do your best to do it yourself, but consult a professional if you’re not sure what you are doing.
Four yellow tulips by paige faulk, lsw, family & community liaison, the middletown home
of our lives under this special roof. Like the blooming of the annual yellow tulips, near my favorite old tree in our backyard, I am so grateful for my husband’s presence, his strength, and his uniqueness. Where do you call home? Is it one physical place, in particular? Is it in your heart, where you and your loved ones are, no matter where you physically are located? Wherever and however you define “home”, I hope it is a place for you to feel love, kindness, forgiveness and charity. And if you find yourself feeling displaced and homeless, physically or spiritually, know that God is always watching over you and He has a plan for you.
With the arrival of spring, comes the excitement of new growth, new life and new beginnings. I am always in awe of the little signs that nature reveals to us when the spring season has begun. A couple of days ago, I saw the familiar dark green thick leaves sprouting from the earth, by my favorite old tree, in our backyard. Four yellow tulips will soon be revealing themselves at that special place. It is like seeing an old friend, when these tulips and other perennials in our yard, bloom each spring. I did not plant those yellow tulip bulbs. Someone who used to call this physical address their home, planted them. To me, these tulips are a small yet powerful sign that this place is not only currently our home, but a house that has been a place for others, in the past, to lovingly (I hope) call home. Our home is my own special little place in the world in which to be creative, to reflect on life’s blessings, and to simply be one with nature when I am tending to our flower garden. My husband and I moved to our Pennsylvania home 10 years ago. It is our home because we share our love and the seasons
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Massage therapy has been around for centuries. As far back as 2,700 B.C., ancient Chinese cultures used it to relieve all types of ailments. Hippocrates wrote about the benefits of rubbing and friction regarding joint and circulation problems, and Julius Caesar is believed to have had daily massages to treat nerve pain. Today, massage therapy is used in all types of settings to treat a variety of conditions ranging from stroke and heart attack to nerve damage, cancer and paralysis in babies and seniors. In addition to treating chronic conditions, massage therapy can help reduce stress and tension. Although they use their hands mainly, massage therapists may also use their elbows, forearms and feet to apply fixed or movable pressure to the body, speeding up healing and increasing overall well-being. Here’s a brief description of just a few of the different therapies available: • Amma therapy is based on 5,000-year-old Chinese massage. Using their thumbs, fingers, elbows, arms, knees and feet, therapists press, stroke, stretch and manipulate pressure points along the 14 major meridians of the body. The therapy can be done while patients are fully
clothed lying down or sitting up. • Integrated energy therapy is a holistic therapy designed to increase life flow energy. Focusing on the nine primary energy points of the body, therapists use a cellular energy map to find out where emotions and energy are suppressed. To unblock and release the two, therapists spend an hour to an hour-and-a-half rebalancing patients’ energy fields as they lie on their back fully clothed on the massage table surrounded by pillows. After the session, patients must take some time to allow their body to readjust and absorb the massage. • LaStone therapy uses hot and cold stones to relieve sore, stiff muscles and joints. Alternating between warm and cold stones of all shapes and sizes, therapists apply the stones to the body to balance patients’ chakra or energy. Warm stones improve circulation and ease stiffness, while cold stones move blood away from the swollen area. This is just a sample of the various types of massage therapies available. There are therapies designed for the mind, the body and both the mind and the body. There are therapies designed to relieve aching joints and muscles. There are therapies designed to aid relaxation and rehabilitation. As with any type of medical treatment, make sure you talk with your doctor first before starting massage therapy.
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Percutaneous Induction Needling (P.I.N.) also known as Percutaneous Collagen Induction Therapy or more commonly, microneedling, is a new innovation in aesthetic medicine for the treatment of fine lines, acne scars, scars, wrinkles, fine lines, crows’ feet, stretch marks, sun and age spots, and overall improvement of the skin’s appearance. During this procedure, tiny needles are used to create controlled micro-injuries to the skin in order to produce collagen and elastin. The skin’s repair process results in a thicker dermis with the appearance of softer wrinkles. Automated micro-needling also creates superficial micro-channels, which allow topical serums, and creams to be absorbed more effectively into the skin. This process causes much less damage to the epidermis than dermal rolling or lasers and other ablative treatments. It is considered safe and effective for all skin types. Before the procedure, a topical numbing cream is applied to the skin to ensure a comfortable experience. After the procedure, the skin will be red and mildly sensitive. Typically, a series of 3-6 treatments, spaced
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It takes most brides months to find just the right dress, so it is no wonder that many preserve it and tuck it away for safekeeping once the big day is over. Some cannot bear the thought of parting with the dress they worked so hard to find, while others hope their daughters will wear their dress one day at their wedding. For brides not as attached to their wedding gown and unsure what to do with it, donation might be a good idea. Just because you had a small fortune to spend on the dress of your dreams doesn’t mean others will. Help out brides in need. Donate your dress to a charitable organization that will make it available for other brides to wear. There are several that accept gently used bridal gowns and offer them to brides in need. Many of these organizations will also accept gently used bridesmaid dresses for use in weddings and other special events, like homecoming and prom. If you’d rather your dress be sold and the money put to good use, there are organizations that will do that, too. Many charitable organizations accept gently used wedding dresses, sell them and use the money for a good cause, like raising awareness of domestic violence or searching for a cure for cancer. Just think. Someone somewhere could get the help they need to get out of a bad situation because you took the time to donate your wedding dress.
Can’t stand the thought of someone else getting married in your dress? No problem. Donate it to a charity that will repurpose it, for christening gowns or baby quilts, for example. Imagine an infant getting christened in a gown made from old wedding dress. What a beautiful way to put an old gown to good use. Along with your wedding dress, you may be able to donate other items left over from your wedding, such as candles, centerpieces and favors. Many charitable organizations will accept donations of wedding goods to help brides in need have the wedding of their dreams. Don’t throw away all of those boxes of wedding stuff sitting in your garage. Donate them instead. These are just a few ideas for giving back after the big day. If you are in the initial stages of planning your wedding, you may also be able to give back on the big day, whether having your guests donate to a special cause in lieu of a gift or asking your caterer to take any leftovers from your reception to the nearest soup kitchen. If you are able to help please donate to any of our 6 retail locations listed in our ad below. The Salvation Army, an international movement, is an evangelical part of the universal Christian Church. Its message is based on the Bible. Its ministry is motivated by the love of God. Its mission is to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ and to meet human needs in His name without discrimination. Call (717) 541-0203 to donate today.
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Putting a stop to the ‘mean girl’ mentality by: ellen kyzer, mpa, ceo, girl scouts in the heart of pennsylvania
For far too long it has been thought that bullying is a rite of passage for girls in middle and high school. Unfortunately, the ‘mean girl’ mentality of peer pressure, stereotyping, name calling, gossiping, and cliques are considered to be the norm in schools and on social media. Statistics show that six out of ten teens witness bullying every day. Sadly, when a girl is bullied, 85 percent of the time no one steps in to help her. Now is the time to step in. Bullying is seen and heard, but there is a lack of intervention and worse a lack of reporting. Children often keep bullying a secret in fear of retaliation. Girls are known to participate in relational aggression; such as, silent treatments, exclusion and spreading rumors to inflict harm. Research has shown that victims of relational aggression have higher levels of depression, loneliness and anxiety than peers who aren’t victims. Bullying behaviors peak as early as middle school when the need for social acceptance is high; this makes it a crucial time to provide girls with a positive and safe outlet that provides emotional support. Childhood is an important
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Going natural By Brenda Tadych
I’d read many credible accounts of successful whole body-focused treatments using four of their products which included a multivitamin, dermal creams, and a for any number of conditions and I was convinced alternative medicine was digestion aid. She made her recommendation based solely on her examination of something I wanted to investigate further. Treatments taking into consideration a me, not on an average of all women, and I was willing to trust her. I’ll be honest, one of the main reasons I hadn’t considered naturopathy before person’s entire body sounded logical, and I decided to take the plunge. I’d been intrigued with this form of treatment ever since I had something is because it is not covered by traditional medical insurance. The consultation and called electrodermal screening (diagnosing health problems by measuring products cost me $315 but I felt hopeful and determined that it damn well better electrical resistance and polarization at acupuncture points) at a wellness expo. I be worth it. Fast forward one month. I was feeling more alive and less tired on a daily basis. was amazed that this test could accurately determine as much as it did by simply However, I wish the liquid vitamin had a warning label on placing a device on odd parts of my hand and fingers. it because this stuff looked, smelled and tasted like, well, Prior to my foray into wellness, I had gone through an vomit. I had to hold my nose while I drank, swished for 30 entire year of working a plethora of part-time and temporary I didn’t want a seconds, then swallowed it. jobs. My eating and exercise habits were nil. I went from tired The dermal creams were to assist with my adrenal and pill - I wanted legs due to standing all day to swollen legs from sitting all hormonal imbalances. I applied them to the tops of my feet, night. I developed an annoying digestive issue, too. to know how my throat or the undersides of my forearms, where my skin I didn’t want a pill - I wanted to know how to prevent the to prevent the was thinnest. Not only was I less tired, but didn’t feel the problems in the first place. That decision started my threetwo o’clock crash where I wanted to slip into the restroom phase health quest, with the goal of improving my overall problems in the at work and take a nap. well-being as naturally as possible with as much education and first place. I started off taking a digestion pill before every meal, hands-on experience as I could accumulate. then weaned it down to only before a heavy starch meal. In this column, I’ll discuss Phase 1: My pilgrimage into the I also discovered that red food, red sauces and red drinks world of naturopathy. At my first appointment with the group I met at a wellness expo, I filled out were the triggers for my digestion malaise. After three months of my naturopathy regime, I no longer have the midseveral pages of information designed to elicit an accurate mental and physical assessment. The doctor spent a good deal of time going over each and every afternoon drag. I hardly need the digestion aids at all now, but I occasionally take question. She also did the usual weigh in and blood pressure check. The readings one if I eat a few heavy meals in the same day. I wasn’t able to lower my blood taken during the appointment and the one afterward registered in the Stage 1 pressure consistently, so I went to my family doctor. A small dosage of traditional Hypertension level. A second and third reading was taken at my request because blood pressure medicine now keeps it under control. My bodily conversions of fats, proteins and carbohydrates are in sync. My I was sure their equipment was faulty! How could my blood pressure be what it was and I couldn’t feel it? I added hypertension to my list of ailments to improve adrenal glands are functioning well and my hormones are secreting as much as they should. Absorptions, releases, stimulations and suppressions are happening with natural medicine. The appointment lasted about one and a half hours, and included a saliva test like fine-tuned mechanisms. Now that my glands, tracts, hormones and I are one big happy family, it’s time which measured my body’s acidity and alkalinity (that’s pH level in common to take on the next phase of my journey to well-being. Next column, Phase 2: My terms) and another electrodermal screening. With the tests and assessments over, the doctor then recommended I begin month with a personal trainer (good times!) Stay tuned.
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MY SUCCESS STORY by Krystlemarie Pena
Failure is not an option Hello my name is Krystlemarie but most people who know me call me Krystle. I currently reside in Hummelstown PA and I’m an active, single mother of two handsome young boys. I am currently working to get my associate degree as a registered nurse in a neonatal unit. When I was eighteen I moved from PA to New York and was working two jobs. I worked as a waitress in the evenings, and during the day I worked at an eyewear company that distributed name brand frames, all over the world. Krystle Pena While living in New York, I found myself in several abusive relationships. I endured physical, mental, and emotional abuse from my partners, and because of the abuse I had a miscarriage. When I became pregnant with my oldest son I left the waitress position in fear of having another miscarriage; my pregnancy was very sensitive, and the job itself was physically demanding. A few years later the eye wear company merged with another company. Because of the merger, I was let go and found myself out of work. I was pregnant with my second child, and I realized that I needed to provide a better life for my children, so I moved back to PA. My self-esteem was very low, and I became depressed. I was living
under my parents’ roof, and was trying to find myself as an individual. I felt like I was drowning and was struggling to keep my head above water, fearing that I couldn’t be the provider my children needed me to be. I kept thinking, “Where do I go from here? What do I do next?” I knew I had to get my life back on track. It was during this time that I realized that my oldest son wasn’t developing, nor reaching his milestones the way that he should have been. So I reached out to early intervention and had him tested. When his three-year-old evaluation came around it was at that moment my heart dropped, because he was diagnosed with Autism. I first took care of my son in terms of his education and what he needed in terms of services. I then begin inquiring about school. I chose to major in nursing because of my personal experiences with my children, and because I appreciate how brave registered nurses truly are. After completing my associates degree, I want to pursue my bachelor’s degree, and eventually go for my doctorate so that I can provide an affordable clinic for children within my community. A year after I started school, I applied for the school’s work-study program. Since I was putting in applications for the work-study program, my school provided me with a referral to Dress for Success South Central PA to obtain an interview suit. I learned that DFS was looking for an intern. I went in to receive my suit, and soon after, I interviewed with DFS and got the internship. While working as an intern I’ve learned about the programs available to me and other clients. I took the computer class, and had the opportunity to attend a Professional Women’s Group meeting, which I found to be insightful, and educational. I have faced my fair share of struggles, trials, and tribulations as a partner, woman, and parent. However, when I had children, I knew failing was not an option. My hope would be that one day my children will realize that even though their mommy struggled, they will be able to say that their mommy never gave up. As long as they apply a little hard work and determination the skies are truly the limit.
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by deb baer becker
My friends say I have no filter. Maybe they’re right. I ’d like to think my words are true. Let me first say that I was classically trained in etiquette by Boscov’s department store’s charm school; six-weeks of summer Saturdays spent acquiring politesse. Among polite company, I finesse my words. But within my circle of good friends, the decorous white gloves come off. The first time my dear friend Pam said, “You’re funny! Ha ha—no filter—you know?” Ha ha—I didn’t know. In the moment I was too ferhoodled to ask her exactly how she meant those words. What exactly does unfiltered mean when you apply it to me? Am I the truthsayer I like to think I am, or have I become an insensitive bitch? Thoughtless nonsense fruit loop? At the time, Pam and I were sitting by the glimmering waters of Ruby’s swimming pool. The sun beamed its rays on us from a pure and unclouded blue sky. Ruby had gone to get us more ice for our sweet tea—okay, it was wine. You know it’s hot when you need ice for your wine. Pam’s younger than Ruby and me. Let’s just say Pam’s perimenopausal, and Ruby and I have recently moved beyond all of that fuss, and we’ll leave it at that. Pam’s black bikini barely contained her abundantly blessed
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boobage, and bottoms so spare she calls them “cheeky shorts.” I wore a one-piece tank suit, the turtleneck of swimwear. “Pam, I think you’re sweating estrogen, you lucky girl,” I said. Ruby had returned with ice in a pink plastic bucket with matching scoop, which complimented the peony flowers print of her swimsuit. “Ice! My savior!” Pam said. She held her glass out to Ruby. “Yes Ma’am,” Ruby said as she bent to scoop frosty cubes into Pam’s wine glass. Ruby was raised in the genteel South; her good manners are ironclad. “Ruby, I’d like some ice, and some of Pam’s estrogen,” I said, and raised my glass to the sky. Ruby looked up at the sky and said, “I miss my estrogen.” Just for an instant, Ruby and I, were lost somewhere between wistful and rueful. I think Ruby sighed. “Let’s take this moment to remember our estrogen-filled youth,” I said, and pretended misty eyes. “Here, Here!” Ruby said, from her chaise, her broadbrimmed hat covered her blond bob, and maybe a tear. Maybe. Just then Pam dove into the pool water, and then swam to the steps. Ruby and I watched her as she walked out, sun glistening off her lovely curves, long hair streaming water down her back. “She could be a trucker’s mudflap girl,” I said to Ruby. “Debby! That’s awful!” Ruby said, and got up and headed toward the pool.
I quickly followed. “What? I’m just sayin’.” I said and sat poolside while Ruby told Pam what I’d just said. Ruby, aka Miss Manners, said, “You could have said something more polite, Deb, like Greek goddess or Rubenesque.” “Since I’m choosing my words, I like them to be precise and true,” I huffed. “Though lovely, Greek goddesses have almost no waistline, and Rubens’ ladies were, um, let’s just say pleasantly plump. Even Botticelli’s Venus on the half-shell didn’t have Pam’s curves.” We all laughed and laughed. “Thank you. I’ll take all of your words as a compliment,” Pam said. “It’s the truth,” I said while I applied more broad-spectrum46spf sunscreen to my face and neck. Pam said, “Thank you, Deb. Like I always say, you’re fun.” “Yeah,” Ruby said, “Here’s to no filter!” “Cheers,” we said, in unison, and clinked glasses.
Here’s to all of the gals who speak their mind, and especially to the few who can do it with the magic of great wit and joy, like one special lady, named Judy; someone I knew only by her firecracker reputation. And let’s keep on marching to CURE breast cancer. Cheers!
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It has long been said that sweating out toxins, including heavy metals, is beneficial for your body. Saunas have helped with this detox process since their origin in Finland some 2000+ years ago.. As long as you maintain proper hydration, the more you safely sweat, the more toxins you’ll expel from your body. Over the years saunas have evolved from underground sweat lodges, with temperatures upwards to 200°, to exquisite indoor chambers that allow the heat to be more controlled, ranging around 120° but not more than 140°. A traditional sauna uses heat to warm the air, which in turn warms your body. An infrared (IFR) sauna heats your body directly without warming the air around you. In a far-infrared sauna (“far” describes where the infrared waves fall on the light
“I do” but wish “I didn’t” - the impact of divorce by deborah pajak
Divorce is a difficult situation and the reality is that a dream is ending and the process is usually a messy junction of emotional, social, and economic upheaval. The financial implications Deborah Pajak, CFP, CLTC, , CDFA areChFC usually not given the priority they deserve 5001resulting Louise Drive in one spouse ending up with a Mechanicsburg, PA 17055 717-791-3383 financial outcome and lifestyle much different depajak@financialguide.com than what was expected. The challenge in a divorce settlement is to make sure the assets you realize at the end of the process provide sufficient income now and in your later years. Making ends meet in the short run does not answer the larger question of how you reach your goals for retirement. One frequently asked question is whether the house should be retained for the children and primary caregiver. The answer is “it depends”. Many times the home is one of the most expensive pieces of marital property in terms of the value and the upkeep. Taxes, maintenance, insurance, and other costs all equal a potentially expensive proposition. If you need assets that provide immediate cashflow, the house may not provide the necessary ®
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spectrum) the heat waves penetrate the body to effectively heat the body and raise the body core temperature inducing a detoxifying sweat. IFR saunas come in two different styles; carbon and ceramic. A ceramic IFR sauna is a more intense, high temperature(140°) to promote sweating for relaxation at the end of a long, hard day and may help with muscle aches, pains and soreness. A carbon IFR sauna is a gentler, more soothing sauna experience with the heat not being as intense (120°) but still producing the same results. Saunas have been used for skin rejuvenation and cellulite relief, improved immune system, blood pressure reduction, improved circulation and over all wellness. Sauna treatments range from 20 to 40 minutes in length. It is recommended to wear a bathing suit or towel in your session as you will be sweating. Remember to keep hydrated and drink plenty of water before, during and after your session. Hygea Wellness offers both ceramic and carbon IRF saunas. Call 717-412-0447 for additional questions or concerns.
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Cosmetic injectables by laurel bailey, m.d.
Much of the portrayal of patients treated with Botox and cosmetic filler in the media demonstrate extreme and grossly overdone results. Most of these are a result of people who can afford more products and procedures than are actually needed. They end up looking unnatural and giving us a misperception of what these products can really offer. These products, if used by experienced medical professional injectors , can give us a less fatigued, more youthful and more pleasant, calm and happy appearance. What is Botox? It is a chemical injected into the select muscles of the face, typically the forehead, brows and crows feet to lessen or eliminate the actions of the facial muscles in these area. With less muscle contractions the skin will naturally flatten out and lines soften. The more Botox that is injected, the stiffer the look so in many patients , less is best. The injections are tiny and minimally painful and complications of eyelid droop is rare. Botox lasts about 4 months and newer Dysport lasts about 5. Botox has been used for over two decades now and without any long-term negative effects. The dermal fillers are marketed as Juvederm, Restylane and Voluma . These
products are made of hyaluronic acid molecules which are naturally found in our bodies in joint fluids and are very safe and effective to inject into the folds of skin in our smile lines, chin, cheeks and lips. As with Botox, a little looks great but too much can result in extreme lips and cheeks. However, if done slowly and evenly into the depressions in the skin then it can be so remarkable and pleasing to the patient. Many patients who get injections around the mouth can go from looking sad and upset to looking pleased and relaxed. The discomfort is minimal due to lidocaine in the filler itself and use of tiny needles. The final result can take 20 to 30 min and with 2 to 3 ml vials of the filler, 8 to 10 years are absolutely erased from your face! Typically, patients are thrilled with the results and the effects can last one year or more. Most patients report friends say they look well rested and more relaxed after these injectable procedures are performed. There is no downtime and minor bruising can occur on fair skin individuals or those taking aspirin or NSAID medications. The results from these products are most definitely injector-dependent, better results come with experience and proper technique. I have been extensively trained and experienced a wide range of patient types over the past 14 years giving patients the exact results they are looking for. I feel that with a consultation, I can determine what will give you the natural but better look you are wanting. Please call my office or nurse phone line today.
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Fashion trends you’ll actually love to wear by kathy mccauslin-cadieux, owner, creative elegance boutique
The biggest names in fashion the world over descended upon the Big Apple recently to show off their new collections for NY Fashion Week. Here are the takeaway trends you’ll look great in this season! Fabulous Fringe - Fringed details got a refreshing twist for spring. This time the look is less bohemian and more modern, captivating and sensual. Think the ends of a classic scarf rather than western-style fringe. And we aren’t talking just accessories; designers have employed fringe to adorn skirts, dresses and jackets. Cold Shoulder - The off-the-shoulder trend has been gaining traction for several seasons. Designers have taken the look a step further with cutouts meant to highlight just the shoulder. These beautiful tops accentuate the feminine frame perfectly, and our shoulders never age! To balance bare shoulders, add an overstated necklace or carry a denim jacket to slip on in case you feel a chill. Classic Contrast - The tried and true combination of black & white or navy & white
are powerful, versatile and foolproof. Keep it simple with breathe-easy pull on capris, no-fuss tanks and cardigans. Or take it up a notch with one of the pretty summer dresses featuring these classic colors in stripes, patterns or solids. Signature Bling - Think bib necklaces, cuff bracelets, chandelier earrings to up that wow factor with any outfit! Gorgeous Dresses - Spring dresses are a musthave and are prettier (and more comfortable!) this year than in ages. Classic florals, bright geometric designs and body-beautiful cuts dominate the fashion scene this season. There’s no better way to freshen up your post-winter wardrobe than with colorful on-trend midi dresses, classic maxi lengths, and new and improved shifts. Statement Handbag - Accessories can make or break an outfit—and none speak louder than a statement handbag. A fabulous bag can transform your style, taking your ensemble from bland to bold with one shoulder toss. Not only does your bag carry the contents you need to get through the day, but it also shows you care about how you present yourself. The most important trend this spring is projecting confidence through your style. As long as you’re poised in the look you’re wearing, that’s all that matters.
GET THE SKINNY ON SHOWERING HABITS OF WOMEN vs MEN QUALITY VS. QUANTITY More women than men do some of their biggest thinking in the shower, either reflecting on their day or running through to-do lists.
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Hints for Tackling Tough Household Chores A long to-do list can seem daunting. But it doesn' have to. A few strategies can help you be more productive and get tough household chores tackled in record time.
The Italian family restaurant • Organize As You Go The longer you leave certain organizational chores to build up, the more overwhelming they can be to complete. A few key organizational systems can help you stay on top of things. For example, try getting yourself in the habit of sorting mail as soon as you walk through the door. It's satisfying to check off an item on your to-do list and this is low hanging fruit. Streamline mail received by signing up for paperless electronic banking and removing your name from unwanted mailing lists. Reduce clutter by spending just five minutes each evening before bed putting things back where they belong. A shoe rack by the foyer, a big bin for kids' toys -- simple solutions such as these can help you consolidate mess and make the entire home feel cleaner.
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• Simplify Laundry Stained clothing should be pre-treated. Rub in pretreatment gently and wait three to five minutes. Don't allow it to dry on the fabric. While it's working its magic, multitask -fold laundry, iron a garment or complete another simple chore. If a garment needs a longer treatment, add the solution to water and soak it in a bucket. Then wash as usual.
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• Cooking and Clean-Up It's takeout time...again. If you're ordering that pizza pie for the third time this week, consider why. Is it because the thought of cooking and cleaning sounds too tiring at the end of a long, stressful day? Save energy by preparing one large meal at the beginning of the week that can be eaten as leftovers for a few days. Soups and stews age well as the spices really infuse the dish. Also, you can get creative. For example, if you roast a chicken on day one, shred it and use it in tacos on day two and in a chicken salad on day three. A watched pot never boils. So while the pasta cooks or the cake bakes, use the time wisely. Unload the dishwasher to make way for new items. Set the table. Answer an email. Don't let chores get you down. Apply time-saving strategies to make these necessary tasks a cinch. Source: StatePoint
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Eve Ensler: Twenty years ago, when I wrote The Vagina Monologues, it was very difficult to say the word vagina anywhere.
It’s likely that we don’t think about it. Nearly all women have it, but we never talk about it. And many of us are ashamed of having it or are otherwise afraid to bring it up in conversation. What could it be? It’s the vagina. In a play written by Eve Ensler, The Vagina Monologues premiered in 1996 as a celebration of the vagina and has been performed in over 81 countries and translated into several languages. But does its message still hold up today? Is it just as powerful as it was twenty years ago? The Vagina Monologues was revolutionary when it was first released. The play is unabashed in its open discussion of menstruation, sex work, lesbianism, domestic abuse, rape, and of course, the vagina itself. Women who have seen the play have said that they felt more liberated to discuss taboo topics like masturbation or orgasms and some felt more proud or empowered about having a vagina. In preparation for the play, Ensler interviewed two hundred women, asking them serious questions as well as asking: “If your vagina got dressed, what would it wear?” and “What would your vagina say if it could talk?” Since she wrote the original monologues, Ensler has added a new monologue each year. Her rules for performing the play are strict - once the rights to the play are acquired, no content can be altered, and many of the monologues are mandatory and cannot be omitted. The Vagina Monologues is often performed as a benefit, with the proceeds from admissions donated to shelters for women in an effort to end domestic violence. This movement is called
V-Day and was started by Ensler in 1998. Despite what it has done to open up discussion about sex, sexual violence, and vaginas, The Vagina Monologues has not escaped criticism. Its critics claim that it offers a narrow, ethnocentric, and American perspective of what it is like to own a vagina and to be a woman. Not all women have vaginas, and not everyone who has a vagina identifies as a woman; therefore, critics of the Monologues charge it as non-inclusive of trans-identities. The Vagina Monologues has also been said to portray poor dynamics both in heterosexual and in lesbian relationships. It also is not inclusive of bisexual or asexual women, and does not discuss women who are celibate. The play’s racial diversity is additionally very low, and the racial representation that it has is claimed to be stereotypical. Lebanon Valley College students hoped to make everyone think more about these issues when they performed the play The Vagina Monologues last March. When junior participant Kate O’Boyle was asked if she believed the play was problematic, she said she disagreed with those claims. According to O’Boyle, the group staging the Monologues will perform one of the monologues called “They Beat the Girl out of My Boy…or So They Tried,” which is delivered from a trans-woman’s perspective. “This is in particular just looking at women, or people who are identifying as female. People who identify as women can participate in the play [no matter what].” This is O’Boyle’s second year of participating in the play, which is student-directed and facilitated by Director of Multicultural Affairs, Venus Ricks. The cast is diverse, and alumni
and faculty even participate. “[It] touches on a lot of issues that every female experiences,” O’Boyle said. “It’s kind of a secret or private thing that doesn’t have to be private.” O’Boyle hopes that the message taken away from the play will be “that it’s not just for females. It’s not just an important topic for us. It’s important for everybody.” Although The Vagina Monologues is performed annually at many other colleges nationwide, students attending the all-women’s Mount Holyoke College in South Hadley, MA, refused to perform Ensler’s play because they believed it to be transphobic. In response, Ensler said, The Vagina Monologues is a play. It’s one play. It was never meant to speak for all women and it was never a play about what it means to be a woman. It was a play about what it means to have a vagina.” She wishes “the play [were] irrelevant” and that women were safe and liberated, but “we’re [not] close.” Ensler is currently on tour in the Philippines and was not available for comment. Despite the limits of The Vagina Monologues, its true power - and Ensler and O’Boyle would surely agree - is that it sparks a conversation among women and other people with vaginas about sexuality and what it means to have a vagina. Therefore, although almost twenty years have passed since it was written, and its limited perspectives are hard to ignore, The Vagina Monologues still has the power to help us think about sexuality and vaginas in a different way. Julie Wiker is a student at Lebanon Valley College.
THE VAGINA MONOLOGUES STILL SPARKING CONTROVERSEY
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The cargo of the Millersburg Ferry by jack dillman, retired pride of the susquehanna captain
The Millersburg Ferry is the oldest transportation system in Pennsylvania. According to the U. S. Coast Guard, “Falcon” and “Roaring Bull” are the only two remaining all-wooden, double-paddle stern wheel ferry boats of their type remaining in the U.S. If you look at a 1918 price list of what was once hauled in abundance by the Millersburg Ferry, it becomes easy to see what a vital connection it was between the eastern shore and the all important railroad station, the farmers, the merchants and everything else on the western shore of the Susquehanna River. What would it cost to get a four-ton tractor engine across the river at Millersburg? A whopping $8.00! In 1918 that was a lot of money. Records show the steam traction engines were much disliked because of their enormous weight. Worst of all, this weight was not evenly distributed but pressed against the wooden surface of the barge at just four spots. Over the years, fares covered the cost of transporting teams of horses, cattle, grain of every variety, lumber and eventually those two newcomers on the scene; autos and trucks. In the 1940’s when I became a ferry man,
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much of this unusual cargo had disappeared. The ferryboats hauled cars and trucks and many foot passengers, but that was pretty much it. Freight was next to nothing and was carried only sporadically on board. In the 1970’s because of their increased weight, the bigger trucks began to be phased out from the ferry service only to be replaced by fleets of unusual or antique modes of transportation whose owners wished to experience the novelty of seeing them resting on the decks of authentic stern wheelers. In 1990, Community Banks, N.A. of Millersburg purchased the ferry and gave it to the Millersburg Area Chamber of Commerce. The Chamber then formed the Millersburg Ferry Boat Association which oversees the seasonal operation of the boats while preserving this historical value for future generations.
Jack Dillman served as a captain of the Millersburg Ferry for 24 years. In 1988, the Harrisburg Area Riverboat Society launched the Pride of the Susquehanna Riverboat and invited him to become a captain in 1989. To learn about The Pride of the Susquehanna and to schedule events or purchase tickets, please visit us at www.HarrisburgRiverboat. com or call use at 717.234.6500 to schedule.
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