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How DOES your GARDEN Grow?

Tips to help you grow the best flowers and vegetables!

ach year with the first smells of Spring we look at our yards, and see what Winter has taken away.

We long for the colors of spring and summer to get us back to all that we enjoy.

Here are some flowers that make up the Annual family and are perfect to grow in the northeast; Pansies, Geraniums, Marigolds, Snapdragons & Impatiens.

They are useful for filling areas of your lawn and look great!

Many of us want to have the vibrant colors and the great variety of fruits and vegetables we so much enjoy.

Some annuals need full sun, some do not. Before you buy ask, and we will

Great gardens begin with a lot of love, patience, sunshine, good soil, water and more.

• Orient your bed northsouth for maximum sun

Raised beds or in the ground?

• Never water at night

Raised beds require a kit or just building one yourself.

• Weed regularly • Get soil tested

A raised bed makes gardening easy.

Filled with soil mix, they provide the excellent drainage needed to grow your picture-perfect vegetables and flowers.

Whether you choose to plant flowers or vegetables, you need to decide what you are looking to grow.

Annual plants will live for one growing season and then die.

Perennials regrow every spring.

Nothing is more rewarding than picking a fresh juicy tomato from your garden.

So lets get planting! Find a flat area that gets plenty of full sun all day. Then you will need to turn the soil. Rototillers work great, if not you will need to break up and turn the soil with a shovel. Compost is good to incorporate in the soil.

Great spring vegetables are Snap peas, lettuce, broccoli. As it begins to stay warm, tomatoes, cucumbers, eggplant, squash. Remember plants that naturally

If you are ready to begin a project of planting, you might want to do it right the first time. Decisions, decisions!

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The American Diet Paradox T

By Linda Quinn, MS, RD

o live in America is to be anxious about food. Whether at the gym, park or mall, I often overhear people talking about their weight, their children’s eating habits or their inability to resist one food or another. It is a national obsession.

But, what make us so different compared to other people in the world? I got a glimpse one year, while we were on a hiking trip to the Grand Canyon. While dining in the lodge, I began observing two families. At one table sat the European family with their two-year-old Julia. While at another table was the American family with little Sarah.

The American family brought a cornucopia of supplies: diaper bag, toys, booster chair, Tupperware containers with Cheerios, juice and other Gerber treats, an assortment of rattles, games and books. The European Family brought….Julia. The Europeans were given a booster seat where they placed little Julia. They ordered their dinner with little fanfare and began talking and laughing in adult conversation. The Americans spent their time entertaining little Sarah, while waiting for the waitress to take their order.

When dinner arrived at the European table, they received their food and began to eat.

As they did, they put little pieces of what they were eating in front of Julia. She played with the food, explored it by putting a baby carrot in her mouth and then pulling it out, next a green bean. She touched the different foods and placed them in her mouth. She made different faces and continued in her slow act of food exploration. All the while, the Europeans were laughing, talking and enjoying their meal, while Julia enjoyed hers.

They did not interfere, mouth wipe, fuss or cajole.

The American family? They put out the cheerios, juice, and other goodies. The mother was busy picking up food dropped

by Sarah. It seemed that after picking all the pieces up, Sarah thought it was a game and then dropped more onto the floor.

When their food arrived, they attempted to anxiously choke down their meals while worrying if Sarah was eating enough, drinking her juice and staying entertained.

As she dribbled juice down her chin, her mother quickly reached for a wet-wipe to clean it up. They attempted to give her a piece of their food but she made a face. Her

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mother quickly surmised that she must not like it and gave her more Cheerios. After playing airplane games to get Sarah to finish the containers of juice, cereal and treats, the Americans gathered all their supplies and left the dining room looking exhausted.

The Europeans were laughing and talking as they cleaned up Julia with a dampened napkin and headed out the door.

The differences in these two scenarios show some of the differences researchers Paul Rozin and Claude Fischler found when they collaborated on a series of cross-cultural surveys of food attitudes. When they asked the four populations, US, French, Flemish and Japanese what word they associated with food, Americans said “health.” The French said “pleasure.” When asked what comes to mind when they hear the word, chocolate cake, Americans said “guilt” while the French said “celebration.”

It seems that the American obsession with what we perceive as “healthy” can cause us to miss the boat on food enjoyment. I have talked to so many people who choke down measured, packaged meals they perceive as healthy and then suffer from guilt because they end up snacking on chips and ice cream late at night. They think they lack will power but all that is really lacking are good tasting, nutritious meals that leave them satisfied and nourished. As we move from one food fad to the next, low carb, low fat, or whatever, we move further and further away from a stable culinary tradition.

Although our food supply is more abundant than ever, we are confused and easily lead. Michael Pollen once wrote, “What is striking is just how little it takes to set off one of those applecart-toppling nutritional swings in America; a scientific study, a new government guideline, a lone crackpot with a medical degree can alter this nation’s diet overnight…new scientific research comes along to challenge the prevailing nutritional orthodoxy; some nutrient that Americans have been happily chomping on for years suddenly found to be lethal; another nutrient is elevated to the status of health food; the industry throws its marketing weight behind it; and the American way of dietary life undergoes yet another revolution.”

As a Nutritionist, I think “healthy” means

a food that is as close to its natural state as possible. That is because, the more we learn about the vitamins, minerals and other substances in our food, the more we realize that nature had an excellent plan. Each whole plant food is a perfect package designed to combine nutrients and other substances in such a way that it is more protective than the nutrients are on their own. And when these foods are eaten in a meal, they work synergistically. Meaning, well balanced meals with a protein, starch, fruits and vegetables all on one plate can actually protect your family better than when you eat the foods alone. This has been the tradition for hundreds of years and now scientific researchers agree.

Besides the food itself, good nutritional health also has to do with the act of eating.

Sitting down to a fragrant, tastefully presented well-rounded meal actually helps the nutrients to be better absorbed. Eating in a relaxed and social atmosphere can encourage and teach acceptance and enjoyment.

Eating slowly and chewing thoroughly can promote better digestion. Family Meals are one of the most important aspects of our lives. A time to learn, grow and enjoy our loved ones and celebrate with healthy nutritious food.

We can learn a lot from other cultures that have been eating, more or less, the same way for generations. This cultural viewpoint, called Old Ways, is where people have used taste and tradition along with seasonal and local availability to guide their eating decisions. The people of the Mediterranean are one excellent example. There are also great traditions in Asia, Africa and Latin America. All these traditions can add a historic prospective and a sense of home to what we eat. It’s not about restriction or counting calories, it is about learning to cook and enjoy simple food.

To learn more about traditional diets go to www.oldwayspt.org. You will find some simple tools to help you eat more enjoyably, while maintaining a better state of health.

Food is meant to nourish and sustain, learn to truly enjoy it. No guilt, just pleasure.

Linda Quinn, MS, RDN is a Registered Dietitian, Stott Pilates and TRX Instructor. You can email her at lindajquinn@gmail.com.

Mediterranean Diet Basics • Include a fruit and/or vegetable at every eating experience • Serve two vegetables with dinner • Eat a fresh salad (the darker greens, the better) with homemade oil and vinegar dressing every day • Cook regularly with tomato, garlic and/or onion • 2-3 fresh whole fruits daily • 3 servings of legumes/beans per week

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Paris, Je t’aime.

By Amy Benson Jarvis

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The Glass Pyramid in front of the Louvre Museum, which is one of the world’s largest museums. Nearly 35,000 objects are on exhibit.

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h, Paris, the city of love and lights.

Paris has much to offer everyone.

When you first arrive at Charles de Gaulle airport it is a 45 minute drive to Paris. You want to be sure to include either a shared or private transfer in your package.

When staying in Paris, The Left Bank, Rive Gauche, which includes the Latin Quarter is the hot spot to stay for night life, restaurants and traditional Parisian architecture. It also houses the century old Le Sorbonne University where some of the world’s most important philosophers, artists and writers have visited.

It is not uncommon at night to have many establishments offer live entertainment with

“There’s no better way to relax than taking a leisurely Siene River Cruise. It’s a great way to see Paris.” indoor and outdoor seating. Outdoor seating is all the rage in Paris even in the cooler months. You will find most places offer outdoor heaters to keep the patrons warm.

Getting around Paris is easy. Simply purchase a metro pass. You pick the amount of days you will be using transportation around Paris. It works for all the buses and subway. There are maps in each station to assist you in finding where you want to go.

In addition to the metro pass there is also the Paris Pass which has access not only to the metro, buses and light rail but over 60 museums and attractions. It allows you to skip the lines, saving hours of waiting in the queue.

Some of the must-see museums are the Louvre, The Cen-

Montmartre, a hill and surrounding district in North Paris with its famous steps, has been the location for several hit movies.

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tre Pompidu, Musée d’Orsay, and Galeries Nationales du Grand Palais to name a few.

Interested in Architecture? Notre Dame Cathedral is amazing, Mountparnasse Tower and, of course, The Eiffel Tower.

No visit to Paris is complete without a trip up the Eiffel Tower. Make sure to get your tickets in advance, as the wait can be several hours if you do not have an appointed time.

You can get first, second or third floor tickets. The views of all of Paris are unrivaled day or night. Thousands of engagements happen at the Eiffel Tower every year.

Wandering the streets of Paris is a treat in itself. You must walk the Champs-Élysées.

It is one of the most famous streets in the world. Don’t forget to stop, while strolling along the Champs-Élysées, for a beverage and people watching. Then off to the Arc de Triomphe at the top of the ChampsÉlysées to see the amazing monument up close. It links Old and New Paris together.

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A gargoyle perches atop the roof of the Cathédrale Notre Dame de Paris.

There is no better way to relax than taking a leisurely Siene River Cruise. It is a great way to see the heart of Paris. You will pass by the Louvre, Notre Dame, the Eiffel Tower and more. They also offer lunch and dinner cruises.

While in Paris you must go to shopping!

There is everything from Louis Vuitton to H&M, so there is shopping for every taste and budget. This is the fashion capital of the world after all. The heart of the international designer shops can be found on the Right Bank. Head to Rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré or Avenue Montaigne.

Looking for something more on the international fashion chain like H&M or Sephora? Head to the subterranean mall of

Les Halles or Rue de Rivioli.

Finally, for boutique lovers, just north of the Louvre is Palais Royal, one of the best kept secrets for shopping.

If you would like a little entertainment, try the Moulin Rouge for dinner and a show. It was co-founded by Charles Zidler and Joseph Oller in 1889. This is a cabaret experience you will tell your friends about for years.

No one should visit Paris without a day trip to Versailles Palace where Kings Louis XIV, IV, and XVI lived. It covers over 2,000 acres with 230 acres of meticulously manicured grounds and 721,000 square feet of living space. This is the world’s largest palace. It

features amazing tapestries, original furniture, and many original paintings.

After visiting Versailles, make a stop in Giverny, home to Claude Monet and the Museum of Impressionism. Claude Monet painted many of his most famous works while living in Giverny.

Whether you make a weekend visit or plan a longer vacation, Paris is one destination you will forever remember.

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Connie Carroll

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he text of my book, Margaux and Tessa in Paris was written around four, full-color paintings I first created. It seems like a backward process, but I’d rather have the text yield to the art, rather than vice versa, initially, at least. It allows the art to be all that it wants to be.

The rest of the illustrations I created fit to the story.

There are several messages being delivered in the book. First, all forms of art are valuable and that art can be a perceived water ballet by whales, a ballet in the sky with birds, sculptures in cheese, pastry painting, dance or poetry. Second, that artists populate the entire world and they influence, respect and critique one another. Artists from everywhere in the world speak the same language in regard to art. Third, and so important, is the message that your own style as an artist is personal and valid and the artist should not fear the audience or let its opinion censor their work. When Tessa criticizes Margaux’s dance and says that she has, “French fried the ballet,” Margaux maintains her unusual choreography and even calls it, “The French Fry!” Fourth, I am telling the young reader that to have a career in art is a good aspiration. Today, many parents would still be more pleased

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to hear that their child will pursue a career in law or medicine as opposed to one in art.

The phrase, “starving artist” is not necessarily the case today. Imagine a large hospital and compare the number of job opportunities for doctors there compared with the number of jobs involving artists. I will make a random guess of 500 for the doctor’s jobs.

Now try to calculate the number of artists it took to create and or design the following: interior designer, who choose the work of more artists, who create paint colors for walls, carpets, upholstery, art on the walls, art in the magazines you read while you wait, clocks, desks, furniture, fabric on hospital gowns, architecture of the building, scrubs, lighting, business cards for staff, labels on everything, telephone colors, outfit the doctor is wearing, including his watch and eye glasses, the credit cards in his wallet and the car he drove to work. It might be impossible to count all of the things that an artist will have had a hand in there.

I am not saying that the career in art is better than in medicine, I am simply making the point that the choice of a career in art is at least as promising. Finally, I let the reader know that it is okay to be impulsive, follow your dreams and to count on the fact that

you have the ability to make everything work out in your life.

At the end of the book Claude, the French poodle poet tells them not to worry about getting home because he has faith in them and the power of their imaginations.

As a society we need to pay more attention to the art education that our children receive. We all know this and think that it is futile in the school systems because of budgets. There are other ways to let children know that art is valuable. I have a series of paintings I call, “Serious Art for Children.”

My objective was to create original art that a child would appreciate and that would grow with them. For example, you probably wouldn’t put your childhood poster of Barney in your corporate office as an adult but if the painting were a serious piece of art that you grew up with, you might.

A wonderful gift idea for a baby shower, birthday or a bat mitzvah could be a serious piece of art to start or add to their collection. I remember paintings in relatives’ houses growing up and it brings a nostalgic feeling to me to think of them. I don’t recall however the cartoon or other imagery in my environment the same way.

My day job is at Cazenovia Jewelry in Fayetteville, where the owner, Ralph Monforte has literally turned the store into a gallery for me. This has been an artist’s dream come true. The space is perfectly lit and I have room for about a dozen good size paintings at a time. I am there all day, so I can hear uncensored comments about my work and talk about the work if the customer is interested.

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Finding answers through grief

By Molly Lizzio, MA, LPMFT

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y now most people know about the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. The stages have made their way into casual conversation and pop culture.

I’m thrilled that the population outside the mental health community understands that grief is a process, as opposed to a singular emotion.

It’s wonderful that information has traveled so far so fast, and yet, in this expansive communication to the masses a little has been lost in translation. What most people don’t necessarily know or realize is that these stages aren’t linear or fixed. These stages are fluid. Meaning, you can jump around in any order, and flow back and forth in and out of a stage several times.

I’ve studied these concepts in school years before I started guiding my clients through their grief and bereavement, but it wasn’t until this past year that I got a real education on the subject. April 16, 2013 is

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the day I lost my father to cancer.

Grief is an incredibly individualized experience. As a professional, I know the general landscape well, but I wasn’t exempt from the pitfalls and crushing blows that accompany it. I got snagged at completely unexpected places, made mistakes, and found great areas of strength. My hope is that someone can learn from my successes, and avoid my stumbles.

The anticipatory grief after my father’s February diagnosis was worse than the bereavement process after his death. In today’s day and age when you hear the words “stage four,” you have a pretty good idea of what they could mean. In my case, the overwhelming grief manifested physically. I felt like I had been in a severe car accident. Every muscle and bone in my body ached. No amount of baths or massages seemed to help. It wasn’t until I allowed myself a good cry that the pain lessened slightly.

Of course once I started to allow myself to cry I couldn’t stop. Anything could set me off: watching a wedding show and knowing I’d never have my father walk me down the aisle, seeing my nephews play and wondering if they’d remember him, or even a simple question such as, “How are you?” from a co worker. This sensitivity led me into what would become my biggest and most frequently visited stage.

“Denial is all about fear.”

“It’s like being in a dark room and every person you allow in that room enters with a candle.”

For me denial wasn’t about pretending my father wasn’t sick, it wasn’t that simple. It was about keeping his illness and eventually even his death somewhat a secret.

I told myself that I’m merely a private person, and while that’s true, it wasn’t the full reason I was being secretive. I couldn’t handle the condolences I was receiving.

My job and training had until this point defined me as the person who gives the support, not receives it. So I made no posts on social media, and only told my closest friends about his illness and asked that they not bring it up very often. I could sense their eagerness to help, but I couldn’t manage it along with the pharmacy runs, doctor’s visits, and other errands.

I found myself holding on to spare pieces of paper with his writing, or mismatched socks, I had a custom piece of jewelry made that I could wear every day and still be reminded of him. None of these fixes alone would be enough to see me through.

They worked together to help bring me to a better place.

Throughout the past year, I’ve bounced around the stages, and I’ve also traveled through emotions not constricted to the big five. Some fixes were simple. After a slight weight gain due to emotional eating I joined a gym and hired a personal trainer.

The physiological benefits to a healthy diet and exercise regime are undeniable. When

I’ve learned the heart breaking truth that acceptance is a gift not everyone experiences.

I’ve been fortunate enough to catch glimpses of it from time to time, and it’s nothing like I thought it would be. For me acceptance hasn’t been about moving on without him, but rather moving on with him in a way I’d never experienced.

My greatest hope is that I can collect more and more of these glimpses and start to string them together as I continue to build my life.

This Christmas my wonderful Aunt Michelle was diagnosed with cancer, and immediately she began talking about it with everyone she was close to.

Friends and family rallied to organize a benefit to help with costs and provide love and support. This March, I watched over 500 people pour in and spend thousands of dollars at this benefit. I looked around and saw the desperation in their eyes. They felt helpless in the wake of her struggle and this made them feel useful. It made me wonder what I had been so private for.

Denial is all about fear. When you let people in to get a good look at the things that scare you, it’s like being in a dark room; and every person you allow in that room enters with a candle. Pretty soon it’s not so dark anymore, and you’re no longer alone. I sold myself short by blocking the support that I so desperately needed a year ago.

As I said before, grief is completely unique to every individual. While I had help from the few people I did allow into my grief, my experience was completely my own.

My final lesson as the one-year anniversary approaches is about the stage of acceptance.

Acceptance has been about becoming comfortable with my new experience of our relationship. Due to my faith, I have a solid grasp on my beliefs of life after death. This is often a sticking point when it comes to healing. Some people have a very hard time knowing what has become of their loved ones.

One of my stints in the anger stage involved my meager attempts to make my father’s meatballs for Thanksgiving dinner.

I was enraged with myself for not paying closer attention every time he had showed me in the past, and even more enraged with him for not being there to taste the mix and tell me what it needed. It wasn’t until after Thanksgiving that I realized replicating his exact meatballs would never make me closer to him now, but being in the kitchen experimenting with food and flavors did capture his essence along with my own.

Some find answers in religion, while others require more tangible evidence. The key is to find answers that you can sit with and feel at peace about.

So if you need to scour the scriptures, seek out your pastor, a psychic medium, or dive into medical and scientific research to find answers, then that is exactly what you should do. Whatever answer you come up with will be the right one for you.

For more information, contact Molly Lizzio, MA, LPMFT of Harvest House Marriage and Family Therapy at: www.harvesthousecounseling.com

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Kaitlyn Jackson

Dreaming Big

By Christine Vickers • Photography by Kimberly Cook

From Norwich, NY to Hollywood - Kaitlyn Jackson’s American Idol Adventure.

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omen of Upstate New York Magazine caught up with 16 year-old singer/songwriter Kaitlyn Jackson recently, during study hall at Norwich High School, where she is currently a sophomore. We planned on chatting with Kaitlyn about her exciting experience on American Idol, but quickly realized that her performance on FOX’s hit reality show is just a small part of what makes this young woman so remarkable.

“I started singing as soon as I could talk and performed in my first talent show with my Dad when I was 5,” Kaitlyn said. “My Dad is a musician and was always singing around the house and he encouraged me to sing in public. I loved sharing the stage with him and we still do shows together.”

When Kaitlyn was 11, she won a singing competition in Endicott, NY. A local producer heard her singing and wanted to work with her. From there, things just took off. The very next year, at age 12,

she decided to work on making a CD. Primarily a pop country vocalist, Kaitlyn headed to Nashville for an artist development program that she was recommended for by Cassidy Lynn. Cassidy, who now lives in Nashville, is another young country singer with local roots, hailing from the Sherburne area. While in Nashville, Kaitlyn had the opportunity to work with several songwriters. Her songwriting career began as she cowrote seven of the tracks on her debut CD, “CRUSH.” The remaining single on her CD, “Another Angel,” was written in New York State and was the song she sang during her Idol audition in Boston.

Dedicated to Kaitlyn’s grandfather, she shared the story behind the song prior to her audition. When Kaitlyn was 11 years old, she was performing at the Chenango County Fair and her grandfather had a heart attack in the stands. Another audience member was able to save him, but sadly he passed away a day later. The song

tells the story of a young girl processing her loss.

“I have always wanted to write and perform music that inspired and touched people,” she said. “It is crazy how a short two-minute clip on TV has already allowed me to do that.

I have received tons of positive feedback on this song and my story. It’s awesome.”

“Another Angel” clearly moved the three celebrity judges ( Jennifer Lopez, Harry Connick Jr., and Keith Urban), along with the millions of people across the country watching at home.

Kaitlyn said she was extremely excited and nervous to audition for the judges. “It’s different than what you saw on TV. I was in there for about 15 minutes and they

Connect with Kaitlyn Jackson Connect with Kaitlyn: On Facebook: Kaitlyn Jackson Musician/Band On Twitter: @Kjaxx_ Email: KaitlynJacksonMusic@ gmail.com Purchase her debut CD “Crush” on iTunes.

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Kaitlyn and her parents. Photo by Kimberly Cook.

really put me at ease before I started. ‘Another Angel’ was actually the third song that I sang. The other two were edited out. The first song that I sang was “Cowboy Sweetheart”

by LeeAnn Rimes. The judges then asked me to sing something more current, so I sang “Baggage Claim” by Miranda Lambert.

Keith Urban was the one who asked to hear

my original song and that is what you saw on the show,” Kaitlyn explained.

After her audition, Kaitlyn was awarded the coveted gold ticket to go to Hollywood and continue to compete for a spot in the show.

Hollywood Week was very similar to what the viewers saw on TV, Kaitlyn said. “I got about 10 hours of sleep total for the entire week. We were so busy! And all the suspense that they show… it’s very true! We were strictly on a need-to-know basis about almost everything. We never knew what was going on until like five minutes before it was going to happen. Kaitlyn kept her positive attitude throughout though, even during the challenging and often dreaded group round.

“It was so great to be able to work and collaborate with other talented people.

You could say that it was a long night though,” she jokes. “My Mom actually made up a T-shirt for me

that said, I survived Hollywood Week group round. She also made shirts for my two best friends who came to support me at my Boston audition.”

Kaitlyn’s journey with the show this year unfortunately ended after Hollywood week.

She feels that her age may have impeded her a bit from continuing on as she was just 15 and one of the youngest contestants during the audition process. “I’m really proud of all my performances and just getting as far as I did has already opened all kinds of doors.

I’m thinking that if I audition again in the future the judges will remember me and who knows? I never thought I would get as far as I did and I feel very fortunate.”

What about those Judges?

The question that everyone wants to ask is… what were the judges really like? When asked about her thoughts on the Big 3, Kaitlyn is effusive with her comments. “I felt like they all were very encouraging and supportive.”

Out of the three, Kaitlyn felt she connected most with Harry Connick Jr. “ I just felt that he was really pulling for me. A lot of people thought that he was mean. But, I didn’t at all. He tended to stress technique as opposed

to performance and I really appreciated that about him.”

While Kaitlyn’s burgeoning music career keeps her extremely busy, she is also an outstanding student and enrolled in all honors classes.

“I push myself very hard in school,” she said.

“I finish school every day at 2:15 and right now I have play practice from 2:30 to 8 p.m.

3-4 times a week I have dance class from 4 to 9 p.m. It can be challenging and sometimes I don’t get much sleep,” Kaitlyn laughs. “But, I love everything I am doing.”

KJ: Well, American Idol, of course! (Laughing) For movie, 17 Again was a great movie.

I’m a diehard Zac Efron fan. Oh and I love Taylor Lautner. I’m a Lauty for life! In terms of books, I have read the entire Hunger Games series and I really liked them. I’ve read the first Divergent book and hope to read more of them.

Where do you like to shop?

KJ: I like Charlotte Ruess and it seems like the majority of my wardrobe is from Express.

The closest mall though to here is probably Binghamton.

Much of Kaitlyn’s time on the weekend is spent practicing and performing. She is often up late doing homework and part of her time management strategy is to make very good use of her study halls. Kaitlyn’s future plans naturally include pursuing her music career.

KJ: I obviously would like to be performing, singing, dancing, acting but as I said earlier, I hope to get a degree in something practical… to have that back up. Whatever that may be, I’ll give it my all.

What advice would you give to young people that look up to you and want to be just like you?

Kaitlyn says she’s not sure at this point what degree she would pursue, but television broadcasting has become an additional interest of hers.

“My philosophy is that I want to hone in on what I want to study and then identify some the schools that have strong programs in that area,” she said.

More with Kaitlyn Who or what has been your biggest musical influence?

Who are some of your favorite artists?

KJ: I don’t have any favorite artists per se…

I tend to focus on specific songs that I like. I listen to a little bit of everything though, not just country. Neon Trees is one band I like a lot.

What is your favorite TV show, movie and book?

KJ: Well, (laughing) I live in a really small town. It is really beautiful here and my community is awesome. They have been so supportive; I could not ask for a better place to be from. There is this cute little theater in the center of town called the Colonial Theater and they get new release movies. So my friends and I will go to Denny’s and then movies and make a girl’s night out of it. Also, we like to go to the Bowling Alley they have glow in the dark bowling and that’s pretty fun.

Where would you like to be in 10 years?

“I dance, sing, and love to act, so ideally someday, I would love to be doing something that incorporates all aspects of performance. I know, though that this field is a risky business and it’s one-in-a-million to actually ‘make it.’

I’m a very Type-A person, so I want to go to college and get a degree in something practical. I will definitely have a back-up plan.

KJ: Personally, it has definitely been my Dad. I love performing with him and feeding off of each other on stage. Professionally, I like Taylor Swift. She always gives a quality performance and she seems like she really has fun up there and gets the crowd engaged.

Vocally, I love Carrie Underwood. She sounds just as good live as she does in her recordings and that is extremely rare.

What do you and your friends like to do together?

Do you have a favorite vacation spot?

KJ: I’ve been going to Disney World with my family every spring break since I was 6. I love going there! My Aunt is a high school softball coach and brings her team down there to compete. We tag along and it is just fun being together….part of my childhood, going every year.

KJ: I’m actually already doing this program for school districts around the state. It’s called Dream Big and it’s mostly geared toward middle school students. I basically go into the school and do a presentation where I explain how I have been working towards my dream, my entire life. Then I give them some guidelines on how they can achieve their dreams. First, I tell them to find their niche and work really hard at what they are good at. Second, I encourage them to be confident and positive towards others. To really put yourself out there and support other people because they in turn will support you. And lastly, to commit to it…whatever the dream is.

Knowing that things won’t always be easy, but if you are committed to a goal and stick with it, you can achieve it. After doing these talks, I’ve received so many letters saying that I’ve inspired people and helped them and that’s just the best. I didn’t really do any research for these presentations. My parents and I sat down and came up with what I was going to share. My family is amazing and I get great advice from them. I just wanted to be really honest with people and make the program come from my heart.

Kaitlyn Jackson, clearly the pride of Norwich, is well on her way to achieving the goals she set for herself long ago. No doubt her family, community, and thanks to American Idol, thousands of others will enjoy watching her journey, making those dreams come true.

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increased by 50% between 1980-2004. To state this differently, the lifetime incidence of developing an invasive melanoma is 1 case per 57 Americans, a 2,000% increase since 1930. If melanoma in situ (non invasive melanoma) is included in the total statistics, the figures are 1 case per 33 Americans. While these numbers are sobering, there is good news. The number of deaths from melanoma has not risen in the same proportion as the incidence. This indicates that we are diagnosing melanomas at earlier stages when the disease is still curable. Furthermore, improved treatments in recent years have made a difference for some patients with advanced disease.

In young women, the increasing incidence has been primarily attributed to ultraviolet radiation exposure through the use of tanning beds. This is an entirely preventable risk factor. Contrary to the claims by the tanning industry UVA radiation is not safe and does not synthesize vitamin D. Vitamin D synthesis in the skin requires UVB radiation. The bottom line is do not use tanning beds for any reason. Fortunately, many states have instituted tougher laws regulating tanning salons and not allowing access to minors without parental consent. Also, the FDA is now requiring visible warning to be placed on all tanning devices. Of note, the World Health Organization has placed tanning beds on their list of carcinogens.

What are some of the warning sings of a melanoma? A new or changing mole is the most common sign of melanoma. Changes in color, increase in size or height or asymmetry of color or border of a lesion are often noted. The general criteria to look for are summarized nicely by the ABCDE criteria for a changing or new mole: • Asymmetry: half the lesion does not

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• Diameter: greater than 6 mm or any growth in a mole • Evolution: any changes over time in a lesion such as itching, bleeding or development of satellite (surrounding) lesions.

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(SNLB) may be necessary. Basically this involves tracing the drainage of the area of the melanoma to the closest lymph node, then removing the node and examining it under the microscope to detect metastasis.

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THE HEALING POWER OF

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ife these days is busy, stressful, and maybe even painful. A hot tub at home provides a relaxing escape and adds the soothing effects of warm, streaming water to our everyday lives. The benefits of heat, buoyancy of water, and massage from the hot tub jets provide much more than just a calming soak.

The healing properties of warm water immersion and massage have been celebrated and practiced for centuries.

Relax... Relaxation may be one of the first reasons why people want to experience a hot tub. The effects of hydrotherapy are enhanced when used on a regular basis. Stress is reduced naturally when the body is stimulated through massage, exercise and other means.

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pleasure and relieving stress. Headaches can be reduced as water jets in hot tubs and whirlpools help to dilate blood vessels, increasing blood flow.

The deep, relaxing sensation you get from time spent soaking in a hot tub helps release tension and starts you on the path to a restful slumber.

Scientific studies have also shown a balance between the autonomic nervous system and warm water therapy. This can lead to a strong sense of wellbeing and the ability to focus.

Once you’re immersed in warm water, your body’s temperature is raised, which increases blood circulation. When you leave the hot tub, your core temperature lowers slowly, signaling to the body that it’s time to sleep.

Additionally, hot tub therapy may alleviate mental anxiety. By taking time out to breathe deeply and refocus your mind while you soak, you may yield an energizing effect that will build from within and you will better be able to face the mental and physical challenges of the day.

Sleep may come faster and longer to those who take advantage of hydrotherapy.

The National Sleep Foundation reports that soaking in a hot tub before bed can ease the transition into deeper, more comfortable sleep.

Rejuvenate... If you have been in an accident, or had recent surgery, recovery time can be improved in a hot tub. Soaking, floating and using buoyancy to practice mobility exercises, along with stretching affected area(s) will allow skin and muscles to loosen and relax.

The human body naturally heals damaged areas through improved blood flow to injuries.

Increased blood flow and oxygen will also speed the healing process.

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Relax • Rejuvenate • Reinvigorate with soothing jets, helps increase circulation so the blood can supply nutrients to help cells and tissues regenerate.

According to the textbook Comprehensive Aquatic Therapy by Drs. Bruce Becker and Andrew Cole, “immersion in warm water can lead to a faster and longer-lasting recovery.

An environment which is less prone to cause pain, and is even pleasurable, makes immersion in warm water a unique healing environment.”

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According to the Arthritis Foundation, time in a hot tub creates a helpful environment for relieving arthritis pain and stiffness.

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When jets are used, the warm water massage relaxes muscles, ligaments and tendons and stimulates the release of endorphins-the body’s natural pain relief mechanism.

Heated water raises body temperature and increases blood circulation, while water’s buoyancy relieves stress on joints and muscles to encourage better range of motion, flexibility and movement.

Heated water raises body temperature and increases blood circulation, while water’s buoyancy relieves stress on joints and muscles to encourage better range of motion, flexibility and movement.

An Arthritis Foundation publication related to spas, pools and arthritis states, “Regular sessions in your hot tub keep joints moving. It restores and preserves strength and flexibility, and also protects your joints from

further damage.”

For those who live with daily pain, hot water immersion can reduce pressure on joints and nerves by reducing inflammation and lowering blood pressure.

For the millions of Americans with Arthritis and other joint problems, hot tubs provide relief by loosening muscles and reducing stiffness. Areas of the body which have suffered stress or trauma also respond well to hot water and massage jets.

Hot Tubs reduce pain for sore athletes or those injured in accidents. Those with chronic pain from Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue syndrome are also finding hot tubs to reduce their symptoms. Migraines, tendonitis, back and neck pain – all can be helped with regular use of your hot tub.

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There is a lot of information in the media and over the neighbor’s fence about trusts. It is not uncommon to know someone who has created a trust or is the beneficiary of a trust, but many people are still not quite sure how a trust works or more importantly, how a trust could work for them in achieving their financial goals or passing their assets to loved ones.

Trusts are used for many different purposes in estate planning. There is not one type of trust that fits every situation.

To understand the benefits of using trusts, it is important to know some vocabulary. A trust can be created during your life time – referred to as a “living trust”; or created at death in your will - known as a “testamentary trust”. Trusts can be “revocable” meaning the terms can be amended or revoked; or “irrevocable” meaning that the terms are permanent and unchangeable.

The type of trust that is used depends on the goal you want to achieve.

Some common reasons for using a trust are to name a trustee for asset management or bill paying or to title all your assets under one entity to avoid having to probate your will at your death. Trusts are also very commonly used to protect assets from long term care cost in the future or to allow special needs individuals to benefit from assets and still qualify for government programs.

In deciding whether a trust works into your estate plan, it is important to narrow down your concerns and also your expectations for what a trust can achieve. An open discussion with your advisor reviewing all of the possible options will help to determine if a trust is right for you.

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