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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
How to Appear Desperate When Dating date may come off as an attempt to buy their time and affection. If you think you need to use your money to keep someone's attention, you might not have good self-esteem. The person you're dating might feel guilted or pressured into continuing to see you if you shower them with gifts. It's also easy for someone who isn't interested in you to take advantage if they see you're willing to give endlessly.
BY CHRIS TOBIAS 311DIVORCE.COM
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ne of the quickest ways to scare someone off is to appear desperate and needy. No matter how much you like someone, there are certain things you must hold yourself back from doing. Here are five ways you can appear desperate when dating. 1. Text them constantly When you text someone constantly, you make it appear that you have no life. No matter how much you like someone, you don't want to text them all the time. It's a good idea to leave some mystery and allow them to miss you. If you're always telling them where you are (especially when they haven't asked), you are going to seem desperate to be in a relationship. If you don't allow the person to respond before you are texting them again, you are going to seem needy. 2. Pressure them to move too fast If you have been on a few dates with someone and you suggest meeting each other's families, going on a weekend trip together, or moving in together this might make you look desperate. Also,
avoid asking them to accompany you to your cousin's wedding in six months if you've only known them one month. It's important to take things at a comfortable pace when dating. Moving too fast when you barely know each other is a recipe for disaster. Even if the person agrees to what you suggest, it doesn't mean things will work out. 3. Discuss marriage and kids often One of the most obvious signs of desperation in the dating world is when someone discusses marriage and kids early on
in the relationship. If you are talking about these things within the first few dates, even to gauge where your date stands on them, you will come off as desiring them in an unhealthy way. It is important to know if your date has the same goals, but you don't need to find out on the first or second date exactly how many kids they want and if they want a summer wedding. 4. Shower them with gifts Showering the person you're dating with gifts or insisting on paying for every
5. Profess your love quickly If you tell someone you love them too soon, this makes you appear desperate. You can't know you love someone after the first date or a week into a relationship. It takes a few months to know someone enough to express these kinds of feelings. You will likely scare off someone you attempt to admit deep feelings for too early on. When you're seeing someone, you might have the urge express to them just how much you like them, but it's a better idea to hold back a little instead of coming off as desperate. If the relationship is meant to be, it doesn't need to be rushed.l
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