LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
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Stop Chasing Your Romantic Partners Do Not Ask If They Love You When someone loves you, they will want you to know it and find a way of making it clear. They will say they love you and show it through their actions, too. If someone loves you, you won't need to ask them about it because you will already know. If your partner does not show you much affection or declare their feelings for you, the odds are that they do not love you. Chasing your partner or trying to impress them will not change that fact. The sad reality is that you cannot make someone love you, regardless of how much you wish they did.
BY MARY CAMPBELL
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o you ever wonder why none of the romantic interests that you have sincerely cared for seemed to match your enthusiasm? Have you ever noticed that when you are not that interested in someone romantically, they always seem to be super keen on you? Have you ever wondered why this happens? If you struggle to keep your romantic partners interested, you might be acting too keen. Here is how you stop doing that: Put The Shoe on the Other Foot How can you tell if you are chasing your partner and giving them too much of your attention? To determine whether you are being too intense, imagine being your partner. If someone behaved as you behave, would it put you off them? If what you are doing to your partner could potentially repel you, then odds are that you need to back off a bit. Stop Constantly Calling and Texting How do you feel when someone you have been dating calls and texts you several times a day? Is it sexy, or does it quickly become nauseating? Receiving a call or text or two each day from a love
interest is pleasing. Receiving so many calls or texts from someone that you cannot get on with your daily business is not. There is no fixed rule concerning how many calls or texts are too many. However, you should probably try not to text or call someone more than you would like to be texted or called. Furthermore, you need not always be the first to text or make a call. Nor should you keep texting or calling if the other person ignores your attempts at communicating with them. Let Them Ask to See You Are you constantly the one who calls to
arrange a date? Do you always have to commute to your partner's place when you want to relax and spend time together? Do they avoid coming to your home? If someone wants to spend time with you, they will tell you. They will sometimes arrange to meet up for dates and ask to come to your place. If you are always the one asking where dates are concerned, stop. See if your partner is willing to try to arrange to see you. If your partner does not want to see you, you know where you stand. In relationships, the endeavor should not all be one-sided. There should be compromise and effort from both parties involved.
Reciprocate Their Efforts Ideally, both partners should love and care for each other equally. Each person in a relationship needs to make an effort for the other person. If someone treats you with indifference and does nothing for you, it is a mistake to make considerable efforts on their behalf. Romantic relationships are about giving and taking. Be wary of anyone who takes from you far more than they ever give to you. Do Not Be Unpleasant You should avoid running after anyone who is not matching your efforts in a continued on page 20
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