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ctive seniors want as much as they can from life, if the stories in this month’s issue are to tell us anything. Take a peak in the Vital Life Center in Plainville, and you’ll get a glimpse of folks getting to know themselves, what they can do in mind and body, at whatever age they are. Just this simple effort makes them more limber and allows them to do things they thought were put away years ago. Then there’s the focus groups and interviews that Central Connecticut State University students did at the New Britain Senior Center. The seniors there said they were interested in exercise programs, travel, cards games, book clubs and square dancing (this certainly surprised me!). They wanted “practical” programs they could afford (and who doesn’t?) And they weren’t afraid to speak up, adding their suggestions for more day trips and exercise programs. (There’s that e-word again!) Take a look at the response we received to Erica Schmitt’s column last month – “Living in the Phone.” Here’s a woman who finds technology helpful, and allows her to keep up with her family, though miles away. She watches her great-grand-

son do everything from dance to throwing a ball, all courtesy of Skype, and share the lives of her grandchildren through Facebook. If you want to stay fit, you have to watch what you eat. Columnist Kimberly DiBattista has a number of suggestions to dispose of a few of those extra pounds leftover from the holidays realistically. I’ve even tried a few of them, and they really do work. But what’s important is that they work for you and your lifestyle. My challenge: Pick one and stick with it for a month. I’d love to hear the results (mschroeder@ centralctcommunications.com or One Court St., New Britain 06051). Finally, there’s Benedetta “Benny” Boccaccio at Newington Health Care Center – all 106 years of her. She still shares memories with her children, especially her nearby son, Tom – who’s only 70. Her humor is infectious for the staff, and she offers up wisdom, too. We all could have a little richer lives by heeding her advice: “I live day to day. I don’t plan. When it’s my time, I go. No problem.” Have a great month – and keep warm!

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Voices heard CCSU students conduct surveys, interviews to learn what active adults want in a senior center By Erica Schmitt

Students in Dr. John Mitrano’s sociology course at CCSU conduct focus groups with New Britain seniors to determine their interest in the city’s senior center.

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lder adults would like more opportunities for exercise, affordable day trips and lifelong learning, according to a recent study performed locally. Sociology students from Central Connecticut State University assisted the New Britain Senior Center in shedding light on these desires. Dr. John Mitrano, sociology professor, partnered with Mike Karwan, director of the senior center, to facilitate a project over the fall semester.

income,” Karwan reported. “We have to factor that in when it comes to planning. We’re certainly going to explore all the possibilities but it’s not going to be easy; there’s limited funding out there.” Resident seniors who don’t belong to the senior center were also surveyed to determine barriers to their participation. This group perceived programming to be “uninteresting” and said they would prefer it to be more “practical.” Center services that appealed to this group included Dial-A-Ride, tax preparation, health check-ups advice. “We have some ideas and“Itlegal appears that those activities with a focus on health, mobility and about our longfinances are of most interest to nonterm goals, and they member seniors,” the summary read. “Recreational and cultural activities include programs appear to hold much less interest.” One area that peaked participants’ indicated by folks interest was going back to school. that participated.” Not necessarily for a degree, but instead, for the knowledge. MIKE KERWAN Director Lifelong learning keeps the brain sharp, experts say. Seniors have Students conducted focus groups, an opportunity to surveys and interviews to gauge attend college levels of satisfaction with current courses free center offerings, and also to identify of charge areas of future interest and barriat local ers to greater participation. They community presented a comprehensive report colleges and of findings to senior center staff, to oftentimes, be used to make improvements to state activities. “We have some ideas about our long-term goals, and they include programs indicated by folks that participated,” Karwan said. “We’d like to expand our exercise program, and there is significant interest in affordable day trips.” One obstacle standing in the way, however, is money. “One of the things we learned from the survey was that a lot of our Dr. John Mitrano, CCSU professor folks are on limited

universities like CCSU. “If there’s room, they can participate in a class as a non-matriculated student and be able to benefit from it,” Karwan said. If their experiences with CCSU students over the course of this project was any indication, seniors will intermingle with the college crowd just fine. “The students seemed very sensitive and well-oriented to social issues and concerns,” Karwan commented. “They did a marvelous job getting along with our folks.” The study’s benefits were actually twofold. Students gained from conducting the research, since it allowed them to practice hands-on learning. “I am a huge proponent of community engagement and experiential learning,” Mitrano said. “Mike and his staff received valuable information on their clientele, and my students received valuable experience doing real-world research,” he added, calling the partnership “a win-win situation for all.” Study results aside — one definitive outcome from this project is that “bridging the gap” isn’t that difficult after all.

SURVEY RESULTS OF SENIOR CENTER MEMBERS

The survey consisted of questions assessing senior center member satisfaction with 15 specific programs, as well as interest in an additional 22 proposed activities. At least two-thirds of respondents were “very satisfied” or “somewhat satisfied” with the following activities:

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The activities in which less than half of the respondents were “very satisfied” or “somewhat satisfied” included: ∎Travel Trips

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∎Book

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41%

∎ Square

Dancing

30%

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HE SPIRIT never fades. That’s what the 100-plus children and grandchildren of Benedetta Boccaccio remind themselves when she seems distant. Benedetta (“Benny” for short) just turned 106 years old and doctors say she’s in perfect health — aside from a dementia diagnosis she received around three months ago. A resident of the Newington Health Care Center, Benny still has her blunt sense of humor. Her son Tom, 70, is the only of her four children who lives in Newington yearround, so he visits his mother at least every other day. She still recognizes him, since her long-term memory is intact. It’s the short-term that’s worsening. “She’ll ask me, ‘are you married yet?’ and I’ll say ‘no, mom’ and she says, ‘well you better find somebody before it’s too late!” says Tom,

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who lost his wife several years back. Nurses who refer to her as “grandma” painted her nails a rosy pink for her birthday Jan. 5. A few relatives brought her a cake to celebrate, and she made sure staff and fellow patients were all offered a piece. The oldest of 12 children and one of three still living, Benny always cared for others more than herself. Raised during the Great Depression, she was pulled out of school at age 13 to go to go to work in a factory. She can still recall a lamplighter igniting the street lamps every evening back then, and the city’s parade to mark the end of World War I. When this particular memory arises, Benny always relays how much more people respected their country than they do now. “She’s been through a lot,” Tom says. “Talking to her is like a history lesson. You hear these things and it makes you realize how we take things for granted now.” She and her late husband, Gaetano, raised their family in public housing in the north end of Hartford, later moving to the south end. Since they were both full Sicilian, there was never any shortage of fresh bread, pizza and cookies around the house. Neighborhood kids would hang around the family’s back porch waiting for Benny’s handouts. “She used to can everything so we’d have fresh vegetables all winter long, and she even made her own beer,” Tom says. Once she turned down a chance to open her own pizza shop, saying she was happy simply feeding her family. Nowadays, Benny is the oldest resident in the nursing home. She likes to relax in her room and has a few favorite daytime television shows. “Why a 106-year-old woman would want to watch Jerry Springer

beats me,” Tom says. “She enjoys a good laugh.” When she’s not surprising people with her sprightly humor, Benny is an endless source of wisdom. It doesn’t matter that she didn’t go through school, her son says — because strong character is not learned in books. “When I was young I went to work in the tobacco fields and I’d come home and give her my paycheck,” he remembers. “Then the day I got married, she handed me that money. It was only a couple hundred dollars, but she saved it all for me.” Fairness, honesty and kindness comprised the moral foundation Benny instilled in her children. Now in her old age, all they can do is try to somehow return the favor. “Give back everything you got,” says Tom, who urges others who discover a parent has dementia to make them as comfortable as possible. “Find out all you can about it,” he continued. “Don’t argue with them, just agree. Just be kind and understanding.” Even when they’re not saying a word, people with dementia can often understand those speaking around them. Having visitors to sit and hold their hand is sometimes just enough. For Benny, that’s usually her son Tom. “I think it’s nice for people to know you can still have this quality of life no matter how old you are,” he says. Doctors say her blood pressure and heart are good and she’s not on any medication, but no one can really say if Benny will be around for her 107th birthday. Her faith in God is strong, and when she turned 105, Benny made it clear she had no fear of the future. “I live day to day,” she said. “I don’t plan. When it’s my time, I go. No problem.”

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Seniors discovering benefit of new-age exercises By Erica Schmitt

ut of every form of exercise, there’s one in particular that keeps the body especially agile, preventing injury and making movement fluid and natural. Local residents are finding yoga to be very beneficial to their daily 12

lives — in more ways than just one. About a dozen older adults meet every Wednesday morning at the Vital Life Center on West Main Street for Gentle Yoga class. Instructor Sharon Smith guides the group through poses and

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stretches, and some even return one or two more times weekly for the same class. “It has a lot of benefits for everybody, but for seniors in particular,” said the 65-year-old Smith, who started practicing yoga at age 53.

It was after the second class she started noticing how much more in tune she was with her body and the beauty of the world around her. Two years later, Smith retired from her corporate career of 33 years to become a certified

Kripalu yoga instructor. “Our minds constantly go between the past and the future; yoga brings you right here,” she explained. “I feel like I’ve lived more thoroughly since I started.” Students in her class echo that very same sentiment, both in body and in spirit. “You feel healthier throughout,” said John Pavelchak, 59, of Bristol. “I find it cleanses not just my body, but my mind.” Farmington resident Eleanor Vendetti’s blood pressure has decreased significantly since she began practicing six years ago. And at age 73, she’s not even the oldest participant in the class to see such dramatic physical benefits. Carolyn Seward, 78, recalled being the first to join the center when owner Jayaprabha Mare DiBenigno opened six years ago. “I live nearby so I was able to walk right over,” said Seward, who now comes in three times a week. “I’m able to go on hikes with my daughter now; we just spent last weekend walking around New York City,” she continued. “I feel much better physically, and I like that I’m not a couch potato. It’s just part of my life now; I’m going to do it until I can’t anymore.” She also enjoys the social aspect of the class, since the group has become more familiar with each other over the years. But once you learn yoga basics, you can also practice from the comfort of your own home. “You don’t have to be in a formal setting all the time to get the benefits,” said Wanda Nestico, 70. “It’s thinking and doing I can bring home with me.” DiBenigno’s mother, Pearl, used to be a regular in class,

help prevent falling but also reduce its impact, as well as that of other accidents that usually lead to injury. “My mom tripped over a rock a little while back and was able to catch herself in a way that she didn’t even get hurt,” DeBenigno recalled. According to Smith, yoga wakes up a life force inside of you known as prana or to the Chinese, chi. The breathing exercises that accompany poses (known as pranayama) get oxygen flowing through the blood, revive air in the lungs and help the digestive system work more efficiently. But most importantly, the practice of yoga unites body, mind and spirit. “Negative self-talk does bad until she was diagnosed with things to us,” Smith said. “The breast cancer. Now undergoing benefits are immense when you chemotherapy treatment, Pearl, learn the body is the most pre70, returned recently for the cious thing we have.” first time in three months. The Vital Life Center is locatHer friends fought tears upon ed at 100 W. Main St., Plainville. her arrival, greeting her with Classes are offered in several hugs and congratulations. different types of yoga and Pearl demonstrated for them meditation. how she could lift her arms up Owner Jayaprabha Mare in the air – quite a feat after just DiBenigno also hosts having a mastectomy. special events and offers Is that the result of yoga or massage and spiritual, self-determination, you might wellness and life coachwonder? Probably a lot of both. ing. “For the elderly, yoga helps For a schedule of improve their sense of balclasses or to learn more, ance and lubricates the joints,” visit vitallifecenter.org Smith said. “There are a lot or call (860) 479-0466. of changes that happen in the body as it ages, but when you learn to relax and get intimate about what goes on — instead of fighting or resenting those changes — we can work with you to accept them.” When muscles and joints are stiff, injuries are much worse. Regular yoga can

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respect, a congratulatory prize for your time on this earth. It’s the country’s way of honoring citizens who watched “I Love Lucy” in awe on prime time television and grew up with the brand of American pride that President Kennedy fostered. Take his famous words, “Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.” Forty-plus years of labor is an ample contribution. Consider immersing yourself in a lifelong curiosity at the University of Connecticut, Eastern, Western, Southern or Central Connecticut State University, or at any of the state’s community technical colleges. All offer people over the age of 62 free tuition, as long as there is space remaining in classes. The only cost? Books and materials. This is while millions of young people struggle under a mountain of debt with hefty student loans. You’re also now eligible for state and federally subsidized senior housing if money is tight. Some resorts and cruise lines offer discounts to seniors, but grasp an opportunity to see America the Beautiful free of charge. After 62 you can purchase a lifetime pass for admission into most U.S. national parks, forests, monuments and recreation areas. The one-time fee for this pass is $10 – a bargain for avid travelers and outdoor enthusiasts who frequent such destinations. The America the Beautiful

National Parks and Federal Recreational Lands Pass works for your travel companions, too – at least those in tow at sites that charge a per-vehicle fee. It also awards seniors a 50 percent discount on federal use fees charged for camping, boat launching, parking and tours. Ride horses through the Great Sand Dunes of Colorado, go cliff-diving on the Channel Islands of California or camp in Acadia National Park, on Maine’s Mount Desert Island. But there’s more! As you traverse your community on a daily basis, take notice of small signs advertising senior discounts — they’re everywhere. Even if you color your hair and still live in the fast lane, embrace these compliments from the government, restaurants and businesses doling them out. Do it because the American Association of Retired Persons advocates for lower energy bills and strengthening Social Security and Medicare. Do it because we live in a capitalist country and you are well-treasured to receive such savings. Do it because you lived through at least seven wars, the civil rights movement and the psychedelic era. But mostly just do it because you’ve probably raised a family while working for decades. You are a stitch on this country’s fabric. That merits more special treatment than any discount can provide.

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ing kisses. It is magical. For my age group, cell phones are a blessing giving us the power to connect in case of emergency without being tethered to the house. Of course, we grew up when courtesy, good manners, and respect were taught. Most of us still adhere to those rules. Rudeness seems to be the bane of the younger generations now. There is no danger in us older folks being tied to our phones. Half the time we forget to charge them and the rest of the time we misplace them somewhere. I don’t text, tweet, or call anyone constantly with updates on where I am, which sometimes frustrates my offspring. Because I am a photographer, I do not use my cell phone as a camera because of the quality. (How vain it is to take “selfies” everywhere). Although I will use my phone if the situation is inconvenient for me to use my camera. Facebook, I believe, has made life less lonely for older people especially those who are homebound for whatever reason — illness, no longer able to drive, weather, etc. It’s a personal connection to the world. And, it’s free. My grandchildren initially got me onto Facebook and now I can share in their activities and lives. Consequently, I am closer to them than my grandmother was to me. Several of my friends are homebound now or have moved to warmer climates. Facebook makes it possible to keep up those friendships, offer encouragement, or share a joke. I visit with different friends

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generation might have been the last to experience early childhood without personal cell phones and all of the hard-wired devices that kids nowadays can’t seem to detach from. Most people my age are very well connected — and I don’t mean with organized crime. I, however, am an enigma. My cell phone isn’t “smart” — at least not enough to have “apps” or even access to the internet. I don’t have a Facebook account, and don’t belong to any other social network — at least online. Ever since these platforms surfaced, I’ve had an aversion to joining the masses of my technology-dependent peers. Kevin and Carolyn, my father and mother, were born in 1953 and 1954, respectively. They are high-school sweethearts. My dad has an iPhone, a tablet, one desktop computer for home and another for work, two printers and one of those things that resembles a phone but pretends to

for a few minutes each day. Would I live without these devices? No way. When I was first married my husband was in the Air Force. We moved from the East Coast to the south to the West Coast. We could not afford a telephone so we were isolated from family and friends back home. What the constant tweeters and browsers of the “me generation” need to learn is moderation and courtesy. Just as phones have to be turned off in movie theaters and concert halls, they should be turned

be a book. He has profiles on Facebook, LinkedIn and maybe some other social networks I am unfamiliar with.

While I still intend to keep my own feet planted in the stone age, (not the phone age) I admire his ability to jump right into this Brave New World. From my perspective as an outsider, it’s just as scary as the futuristic dystopia prophesized by Aldous Huxley in his 1932 novel of the same name. People now resemble scavengers: their heads buried in the contents of a tiny screen, desperately searching for something usually unknown to those in their physical presence. To me, the need for this constant web browsing equates to fears of real human interaction, solitude and transcendence. Family dinners, nights out with friends, first dates… they don’t feel as alive when the attendees are interacting with their phones rather than the people they came to be with. I could preach all day about this subject, but that would just make me a stubborn nonconformist. The truth of the matter is

that all this texting, tweeting, blogging and “friending” helps reconnect old pals, bridge gaps between strangers and makes life pretty darn convenient. But like a rebellious teenager, I still refuse to follow the rules, heed my dad’s advice and “get with the picture.” So I salute you, older adults who haven’t jumped on the e-living bandwagon. Some might tell you that the easiest way to feel young as you grow older is to get in with the new technology. I say, return to your youth by

living free of devices you didn’t even dream of then. Or maybe just limit yourself a little, at least at the dinner table. John Lennon’s song “Power to the People” was released in 1971. Now in 2015, power off, people.

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DATEBOOK 3 | Tuesday Blood pressure screening Central Connecticut Senior Health Services will offer free blood pressure screenings at the following locations during February: ∎ Tuesday, Feb. 3, 9:30 to 10:30 a.m., Southington YMCA, 29 High St., Southington ∎ Thursday, Feb. 5, 11 a.m. to noon, Calendar House, 388 Pleasant St., Southington ∎ Tuesday, Feb. 10, 11 a.m. to noon, ShopRite, 750 Queen St., Southington ∎ Thursday, Feb. 12, 1 to 2 p.m., Plainville Senior Center, 200 East St., Plainville ∎ NEW TIME Tuesday, Feb. 24, 10 to 11 a.m., Calendar House, 388 Pleasant St., Southington ∎ NEW TIME Tuesday, Feb. 24, noon to 1 p.m., Cheshire YMCA, 967 S. Main St., Cheshire

4 | Wednesday Information session The Good Life fitness center at Jerome Home is hosting informational sessions on Wednesdays, Feb. 4 and March 4 to give the

Let us know what’s going on Prime Time wants to tell our readers about your coming events. It’s easy — just send us the details and a picture if you like. Our email is primetime@ centralctcommunications.com. You can also fax your announcement to (860) 225-2611 or mail it to CT Prime Time, One Court St, New Britain, 06051. Deadline for the next issue is February 15. public the opportunity to learn about the specialized fitness program which is geared toward older adults. Exercise physiologists will be available to talk about the program and give tours of the gym. Light appetizers will also be served. These information sessions will be held at Jerome Home, 975 Corbin Ave. Reservations are preferred. To RSVP or for more information, call (860) 2293707.

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be served. Cedar Mountain Commons is located at 3 John H. Stewart Drive. For Open house more information or to RSVP, An open house at Cedar call Marie Pugliese, (860) Mountain Commons, a not- 665-7901. for-profit independent and assisted living community, Sunday will be held from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Marie Pugliese, retirement counselor, will facilitate Open house The Orchards at Southington, the event. Refreshments will

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DATEBOOK 9 | Monday Information session The Good Life fitness center at Southington Care Center is hosting an informational session on Monday, Feb. 9 (new date), 5 to 6 p.m. to give the public the opportunity to learn about the specialized fitness program that is geared toward older adults. Exercise physiologists will be available to talk about the program and give tours of the gym. Light appetizers will also be served. This information session will be held at Southington Care Center, 45 Meriden Ave. Reservations are preferred. To RSVP or for more information, call (860) 621-9559.

10 | Tuesday Information sessions Hartford HealthCare affiliates MidState Medical Center and The Hospital of Central Connecticut are hosting free bariatric weight loss information sessions in area towns. The sessions are presented through Hartford HealthCare Medical Group Centers for Surgical Weight Loss. At each bariatric information session,

∎ Wednesday, Feb. 11, MidState Family Health Center, 6 p.m. ∎ Wednesday, Feb. 18, HOCC Family Health Center, Bristol, 6 p.m. ∎ Monday, Feb. 23, MidState Family Health Center, noon ∎ Tuesday, Feb. 24, Center for Metabolic Health, 6 p.m. For more information, visit www.thocc.org; for a physician referral, call 1-800-321-6244.

a bariatric surgeon will discuss surgical procedures performed, surgery eligibility, patient education and life style changes necessary for surgery success. The bariatric program offered through MidState Medical Center and HOCC entails physician consultations, classes and support groups. Bariatric surgery options offered include minimally invasive gastric bypass, sleeve gastrectomy, gastric banding and revisional procedures. Among Hartford HealthCare Medical Group bariatric surgeons are Dr. Aziz Benbrahim, Dr. Edward Hannoush and Dr. Nicholas Verdura. Session addresses are MidState Family Health Center, 61 Pomeroy Ave, East Meriden; Center for Metabolic Health, 11 South Road, Suite 130, Farmington; The Hospital of Central Connecticut Family Health Center, 22 Pine St., Bristol; The Hospital of Central Connecticut New Britain General campus, 100 Grand St., Dining Room B, New Britain. To register for a bariatric informational session, please call 1-866668-5070. Bariatric weight loss sessions are: ∎ Tuesday, Feb. 10, HOCC New Britain General campus, 6 p.m.

Friendship club The Mulberry Gardens at Marian Heights Friendship Club is giving adults the opportunity to make new friends. The club meets at Mulberry Gardens at Marian Heights Adult Day Center, located at 314 Osgood Ave. The next gathering will be held Tuesday, Feb. 10. The Friendship Club provides transportation, activities, meals, exercise and more. The mission of the Mulberry Gardens at Marian Heights

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gency services at HOCC, Bradley Memorial campus, will be the guest speaker. Seating is limited and RSVPs are requested. For more information or to reserve a spot, call the Connecticut Center for Healthy Aging at (877) 424-4641.

23 | Monday Maximizing quality of life A program focusing on resources and assessment services available through the Connecticut Center for Healthy Aging will be presented from 10:45 to 11:30 a.m. Marc Levesque, MS, senior resource case manager for the Connecticut Center for Healthy Aging at MidState Medical Center, will present this program that focuses on improving and maximizing the quality of life using specific resources and services targeted to the older population. “Know Your Resources: Case Studies in Healthy Aging” will be held at Meriden Senior Center, 22 W. Main St. Light refreshments will be served. This program is open to the public. RSVPs are requested. For more information or to reserve a seat, call the senior center at (203) 237-0066.

Computer classes In Course I participants will expand on the knowledge they gained in the free beginners’ course. Learn more about Windows 7, how to edit, save and use documents on a hard drive or flash drive. This class runs for two sessions, Tuesday, Feb. 9, and Tuesday, Feb. 23, from 1 to 3 p.m. The cost for this course is $25, which includes a Windows 7 book for each student to keep. Registration has begun. Call the Plainville Senior Center for registration information, (860) 747-5728.

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