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AN EASY NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION N ow that we are into the New Year, we may all be fudging a bit on those earnest promises to ourselves. I of miss STEPHEN sort the full set ALLAIRE of exercises I vow to do each morning, but I have a good reason.

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You don’t have to do it every day, or every week, or even once a month.

Unless personal circumstances change, once is enough.

The documents everyone needs are a will, a power of attorney, a living will with designation of health care representative, and a HIPAA release so medical people will talk with your family. A living trust may be advisable in some circumstances.

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people make: “My wife and I only have a house with a mortgage and very little money so we don’t need a will.”

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Young couples with minor children especially need wills so they can decide who will raise those kids as their guardian if the terrible circumstance arises where both should die. The same goes for who will handle the money for the children.

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for contingencies if you outlive your primary beneficiary.

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There is no such thing as too early, but there is most assuredly a too late.

The power of attorney allows your spouse or your child or other trusted person to handle your legal and financial affairs if you cannot.

This is most important between elderly spouses, because if one becomes sick and needs significant

care, the power of attorney is the document that will allow the healthy spouse to move assets in accordance with the Medicaid (Title 19) rules so that assets can be protected.

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Get ready for a great new year We’re into a new year, full hope and optimism that this will be better than the last one. Or at least that’s where I am as of this writing.

Let’s look at what we can expect: No matter what you think of President Obama, we will have a new leader. The bad news is that we’re going to have sit through months of debates, primaries, caucuses and conventions to get there. And that doesn’t include the actual one-onone, down-the-stretch campaign.

Let’s pray for civility, although that may require a miracle. But miracles do happen.

It looks like the beginnings of a recovery. They tell me Connecticut lags when it comes to economic improvements, so the tiny gains forward may just be the tip of the iceberg for the state. When the economy improves, there’s more jobs. With more jobs, there’s less unemployment. Less unemployment means fewer people that need a helping hand. It also means more tax dollars. More tax dollars means fewer tax increases. Less tax increases means more money in your pocket – and that should make us all happier.

We’re also getting used to healthcare in the world after the Affordable Healthcare Act. Whether you like it or not, we probably won’t see great upheavals in its execution this year. Here’s hoping for less stress in dealing with the myriad of issues we are

lucky to live long enough to deal with.

Social Security seems to be stabilized – haven’t heard much about its demise lately.

Let’s hope that factors beyond our control will keep things going indefinitely. As I tell anyone that will listen, if we ever get to the point where Social Security checks (or should I say, direct deposits) don’t clear, we’ll have much bigger problems than that.

We’ve got an incredible amount of opportunities in our area – everything from outstanding senior centers to first-class organizations (like the Plainville AARP profiled this month) with interesting facilities and things to do. The libraries and museums in our area can’t be beat, and there’s plenty of educational opportunities at Tunxis and CCSU, along with the high school extensions.

And if volunteering is in your future, just look back at the last year’s issues of Prime Time to see the varied options you have. It’s hard to find an organization, program or project that doesn’t need interested help. Which means they need you.

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Taking a breather

Hartford Healthcare holistic nurse Ann Minor talks with Andy Brown, 94, a resident at the Arbor Rose assisted living facility in New Britain.

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ot enough can be said about the power of kindness – towards others and ourselves.

A group of residents at Arbor Rose, an independent and assisting living facility on Corbin Avenue in New Britain, are reminded of this every Monday. Their week begins with Hartford Healthcare Holistic Nurse Ann Minor, whose teachings focus on improving wellness through meditation and 6

relaxation, all circling back to kindness.

“Mondays with Ann” began in June with a session that focused on the healing power of chocolate. In the time since, the group has grown to an average of a dozen people every week and sometimes as many as 18.

Their discussion topics have evolved from therapeutic touch to using the senses, minimizing stress around the holidays, and recently, meditation.

The latter was particularly special. Participants

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underwent five weeks of training that culminated with a certificate of completion.

Meditation has proven physical benefits for the digestive, cardiovascular and nervous systems, and the potential to relieve muscle tension, migraines and insomnia. But its mental and spiritual yield is even deeper, generating optimism, confidence and focus.

Those who participated in the recent training are evidence.

“It gave me a whole

new lifestyle,” says Barbara Slysz, who has experienced lower blood pressure since she began practicing.

“It helps the body, spirit and mind,” she added.

Minor chose to teach the group evidence-based meditation because it is based on five linear steps.

The first is “establishing the seat” – aligning the head, neck and spine to stabilize the body and mind. Next, participants learned about diaphragmatic breathing through the abdomen and ribcage.

This delivers more oxygen to cells and restores vital energy.

Relaxation, the third step, is accomplished by imagining a beam of light connect different points across the body.

The fourth step, mindful breathing, leads into meditation, which can be practiced multiple times per day.

Minor’s other sessions have gone on to include literature to complement the meditations. Group participants recently reviewed “The Five

Silences” by Mother Teresa.

“We must learn not only the silence of the mouth but also the silence of the heart, of the eyes, of the ears and of the mind, which I call the Five Silences,” the celebrated Roman Catholic leader once said.

These can all be summarized through the simple act of kindness, according to Minor.

“When you’re feeling an emotion — like sadness or anger be silent for a moment to find the right words,” she urges.

In addition to speech, being a good listener and looking at someone with eyes that are kind instead of judgmental can make all the difference. Since Minor also works as a hospice nurse, her eyes have learned to see everyone with an open heart.

“When we meditate it brings us to that point of peace and when we are at peace, we want to be kind to other people and to ourselves,” she says.

Among those to notice a change in their outlook since joining Minor’s group was Arbor Rose resident Mary Roch.

“I think it was important to be here for this learning process,” she explains. “When I came here I thought I would just sit around as people waited on me and let my mind go to mush, but Ann has turned the mind on again.”

A massage therapist visits Arbor Rose monthly, and residents are also offered pet therapy and fitness classes.

Residents at Arbor Rose assisted living facility in New Britain, who learned meditation recently.

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Prime Time is definitely here — we have a I inwardly cringe when I hear “I growing group of older people in our society, wouldn’t put my family and I prepare those who care for in one of those places.” them a nurse aide JESSICA educator.

The folks I You don’t know what LEWIS problems will befall a Older people encountered family member, or your and their famiduring that availability to care for lies face complex experience were them. Can some peosituations. They ple be at home? Sure, must often choose nothing short at least for a while. between long-term of angels. They Homecare agencies can care versus home cared for their provide physical and care versus assistresidents like occupational therapy, ed living. This population needs social work and nurssupport. family. ing services.

About 15 years ago I transiDuring a short stint tioned from the cardiac unit of working for a homecare agency, I a hospital to long term care/rehabilitation. saw some good intervention. Some It was a major culture shock, to be sure. The folks needed extra support after folks I encountered during that experience were nothing short of angels. They cared for Continued on, Page 23 Nurse aide educator Jessica Lewis essica Lewis is a registered nurse and nurse aide certification instructor at Capitol Community College in Hartford and Middlesex Community College in Middletown.

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ow that the New Year is here, it is good to take an inventory of what documents you should keep and what documents can be thrown away.

A lot of people want to get rid of old bank statements DANIEL O. in order to declutTULLY ter their home.

However, if you or a loved one needs to go into a nursing home for long term care, this could become a problem.

I will be addressing documents as they relate to what is needed in order to apply for Title 19 (Medicaid).

If a married couple applies for Medicaid because one’s spouse is in a nursing home, they will have to provide the state with five years’

worth of documentation on all of can get it (when needed) from the assessor’s office of your town. their assets, not just bank stateThe Medicaid process is a thorments. The state Department of ough and exhausting process. The Social Services has to review all financial documents and transac- important thing to remember is tions for the past five years. This to keep at least five years’ worth includes all checking and all sav- of all of your statements and financial records. ings accounts, This will help to insurance poliThe important streamline the cies which have thing to remember process. a cash value, It is important stocks, bonds, is to keep at least for you to keep IRAs, 401Ks, five years’ worth accurate and CDs, annuities of all of your thorough records. and real estate.

Make a New The state will statements and Year’s resolution look at the financial records. to be more specific assessed value of on check entries if your home, not you are not already doing that. If the appraised value. You can get you need to apply for Medicaid, this information from your tax the state will be asking you to jusbill, so do not throw that out. If you cannot find your tax bill, you tify any income and expenditures

over a certain amount. The more thorough you are in your recording-keeping now, the easier it will be to go back and review these entries when the state asks for this information. The goal is to take steps now to make your life easier should you find yourself in the very stressful situation of having to place a loved one in a nursing home.

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‘Medicaid process is a thorough and exhausting process’ spouse is in a nursing home, they will have to provide five years’ worth of documentation on all of their assets, not just bank statements. The important thing to remember is to keep at least five years’ worth of all of your statements and financial records.

Your second question is a common one. Can someone make a gift if their loved one is entering a nursing home? In most cases the answer is no, if you are applying for Medicaid. People often hear of the federal gift tax

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Care for caregivers Group shares their struggles and triumphs

Bristol resident Liza Zaherovich, founder of a support group for caregivers in Bristol, offers useful information and personal anecdotes at the group’s weekly meetings.

Helpful information handed out to members

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ou arrive home from work and the sink’s been on in the kitchen for who knows how long.

Broken glass litters the floor and a person you love dearly is in the bathroom, trying to clean

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a wound with laundry detergent. It seems only logical a nurse should be there when you can’t be, but it’s hard to find trustworthy help. The responsibility — and the guilt — always falls back on you.

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It sounds like a nightmare to anyone who has never been the sole caregiver of an adult loved one, but situations like this unfold every day.

The details vary – but the worry and frustration are consistent.

Sometimes it’s caring full-time for the wonderful parents who raised you, other times it’s caring for a husband, sister or grandparent.

Relief has come. It doesn’t cost anything except empathy – a trait

someone living this lifestyle usually has in abundance.

A half a dozen caregivers meet every Tuesday evening at the Bristol Senior Center to share in each other’s struggles and triumphs.

This is indicative of being a caregiver, instead of a caretaker – the subject of a handout Zaherovich gave group members on a recent evening.

“Caretaking crosses boundaries; caregiving honors them,” it reads, suggesting one trust another’s ability to solve problems on their own, only stepping in when asked. Tips like these give Brian and other group members a little bit of solace.

Sometimes Zaherovich brings in goodies, like cookies or miniature snowglobes they can shake furiously anytime stress overwhelms them.

“The silver ribbon attached is to remind you that life is precious,” she adds.

Group members pass around ideas, like names of elder law attorneys and reliable in-home nursing assistance. But informaSometimes stress relief is as simple as shaking a snowglobe. tion only goes so far.

What they cherish most about problems that require his live-in during the week and worries Bristol resident Lisa their time together is the supcare. about her husband at home Zaherovich lives with her parport.

A kind ear to listen; a joke “Before I leave the house I alone. ents and provides constant care One issue is that he forgets the make sure everything’s in order; to brighten even the darkest tale. to her mother, who suffers from “For me it hurt so bad when Parkinson ’s disease. She founded doctors have advised him not to if you need me, call me immediI came here for the first time,” ately,” Gregory says. drive. the Caregiver Support Group Brian says.

“Then it gave me so Upon arriving home a whole “It’s extremely frustrating to in November so she and other much relief.” have to say the same things over new set of tasks present themarea residents who take care of “When I leave from this meetselves. He can’t relax until both their elderly parents might have and over again,” Morin points ing I feel uplifted,” Gregory a place to share the trials adds. of daily life, along with For Morin, there’s one resources for home care, day a week and one group finances and professional of people she can always services. What she found count on. was unexpected and com“I can roll along because forting.

I know Tuesday’s com“I soon realized there ing,” she says. “We all are all kinds of caregivare prepared for bed, just in case have slightly different issues but out. ers,” Zaherovich says. they fall asleep while watching But she is met with underwe all share a common bond.”

Group member Anne Morin television. His pajamas remain in standing from Zaherovich, who At times the group explodes cares for her husband, who has also constantly repeats important their drawer for most of the eve- into laughter listening to each a traumatic brain injury. After pieces of information her parents ning, since he can never be sure other’s stories; other times there’s being diagnosed with a brain when emergencies might arise. forget. not a dry eye in the room. tumor in 1995, he underwent Brian lives with his mother, “I just try and remember it’s “It’s great to get together and seven surgeries, and his brain who has dementia. When she’s not about me, it’s about them,” know you’re not alone,” Lisa says. became infected. Since then, his she offers. in the bathroom, he worries “We can laugh and cry at the short-term memory and daily Gregory, a group member who she’ll fall or not be able to vocal- same time.” functioning have declined sigize a need. chooses not to divulge his last The group meets every Tuesday nificantly.

“I want to give her the respect from 6:30 to 7:30 p.m. at the name, takes care of both of his “My husband doesn’t believe parents as well. Ages 80 and 81, and dignity to wait and not ask, Bristol Senior Center. It is free he has a problem; he refuses ‘are you OK?’ right away,” Brian of charge and drop-ins are welthey have been married for 60 to accept any weakness,” says explains. years and have serious health come.

Morin, who works part-time

Group members pass around ideas, like names of elder law attorneys and reliable in-home nursing assistance. But information only goes so far.

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A show that hasn’t lost its humor

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lighthearted salute. off,” Sophia told her. ity. But it’s only a moment before Like when Blanche dreams her The girls call each other every Blanche pipes up, circling the tale husband faked his death and has name in the book, but before each back to a risqué rendezvous she come back for her, or when Rose episode wraps up, this disjointed once had in a barn. suffers a heart episode and This is the only makes the girls agree to show lighthearted have their heads frozen so enough to quiet No way is The Walking Dead or Breaking they can live forever and racing late-night Bad, or even something funny like The Big be attached to young bodthoughts – at Bang Theory, going to calm me to sleep. ies someday. least mine. But it Or when Sophia is sad can also deliver because her childhood peace during the group of friends always reconciles. friend has passed and Dorothy says, busy morning hours while rushing When any of them gets close to “I’m so sorry, Ma. What happened?” to get to work on time. No way is marrying one of their many suit“She was fighting an oil rig fire The Walking Dead or Breaking ors, it forces the girls to ponder in the Gulf of Mexico,” Sophia jabs Bad, or even something funny like life apart but then never ends up The Big Bang Theory, going to working out. They are content with back sarcastically. “She was 88!”

A quick pause before Rose calm me to sleep or start my day the thought of living and dying responds, “Well, it’s great that she off as carefree. I don’t have anything together – such is the strength of was able to work right up until the against these shows, but my kind of their bond.

TV is the kind where I don’t have Death happens to be a reappear- end.”

I hope generations to come, disto think too hard or be fighting for ing theme on the show as the group cover The Golden Girls and find life in a zombie apocalypse. grows older. It surfaces as a drathat it’s still just as good.

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y four favorite girlfriends range in age from 55 to 86 and live in Miami. I may be 30 years younger than the youngest of them but they keep me entertained, make me laugh and sometimes even cry.

If you haven’t already guessed it’s The Golden Girls – the man-crazy Southern belle Blanche Devereaux, played by Rue McClanahan, sweet, simple-minded Rose Nylund, played

by Betty White, ERICA Dorothy SCHMITT sobering Zbornak – actress Bea Arthur, and her 80-year-old mother, the sharp but slaughtering Sophia Petrillo, played by Estelle Getty.

NBC first aired the show in 1985 and it ran for seven seasons before wrapping up in 1992. Over the course of that time the “Girls” were nominated for 68 Emmy Awards, of which they won 11. They also earned four Golden Globes. The show became a hit in 60 countries and was even remade in England, Greece and Russia.

The syndicated, edited version I’ve watched for what feels like my whole life is really the only television I seriously ever loved. TVland and The Hallmark Channel are nice enough to keep it running, although these days usually only after 11 p.m. through the early morning hours.

But that’s when it feels the most relevant. The girls are up late too, sitting around their tiny round table eating cheesecake, listening to which cow won a beauty pageant in St. Olaf, Minnesota, where Rose grew up. Sophia’s sarcastic blow about Rose being a donkey has us all shaking with laughter before Dorothy’s wise voice of reason chimes in and we breathe in real-

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I am honored to tend to patients’ and families’ needs at the most crucial time in their lives. I am honored to be welcomed into their homes and watch them tend to their loved ones, making them comfortable, in their last days on this earth.

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the air when a patient and their family are at peace with their end-oflife decisions.

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Being honored Plainville AARP selected as Chapter of the Year

By Erica Schmitt | Photos by Amy Parlier

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eople ages 50 and up are wellserved by their local chapter of AARP in Plainville.

So much so, that Chapter 4146 was just honored as AARP Connecticut’s Chapter of the Year. At a recent awards ceremony held at the Faith Bible Church in Plainville, the volunteer organization’s many contributions to the community were put in the spotlight.

“One thing we all have is the nature to go above and beyond our problems to help somebody else get through the day,” member and State Rep. Betty Boukus, D-Plainville, said during the ceremony.

Members made the holiday season a little bit brighter for seniors who didn’t have any family members to celebrate with this year by delivering them Christmas gifts. Homeless veterans received toiletries and the local

Dial-A-Ride received a monetary gift.

But Plainville AARP doesn’t just focus its efforts on the older population; they give to people of all ages.

At each one of its regular meetings the chapter donates four to six large boxes of food to the Plainville Food Pantry and funds to the town’s fuel bank.

“We do a lot of good for the community,” President Sally Miller explained. “Our mission is to really support and encompass the community we live in.”

Miller was thrilled to hear the chapter would be honored this year.

“I was very surprised but very happy that we won,” she said.

While many chapters across the state are losing members, Miller pointed out, Plainville’s has increased its membership significantly in the

State Senator Henri Martin congratulates Plainville’s chapter of AARP on winning “Chapter of the Year.”

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last year. Founded in 1987, it has now grown to over 300 members.

In a proclamation issued by CT Governor Dannel Malloy, the chapter was congratulated for its win.

“The recognition is a testament to your outstanding service and commitment to excellence,” the Governor said.

Local dignitaries who celebrated the honor with members included State Sen. Henri Martin, R-Plainville, and Plainville Town Manager Robert Lee. “I’m not surprised, but I’m very happy to hear you have attained this award,” Lee said. “Thank you for all that you do for the community.”

Town Council Chairperson Katherine Pugliese pointed out that the town’s senior center is also a valuable resource.

“We all know Plainville has the best senior center in the state of Connecticut,” she said. “But it’s about time the AARP Chapter in Plainville got the same recognition. You are the reason this

organization is such a success,” she told members. “I know it takes a lot of your time and dedication.”

Plainville Senior Center Director Shaun Cohen also congratulated the group.

“This is such a well-deserved honor,” Cohen said. “All of the programs you’ve provided volunteer support to is incredible.”

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9|Saturday Open house An open house at Cedar Mountain Commons, a notfor-profit independent and assisted living community in Newington, will be from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Marie Pugliese, retirement counselor, will lead the event.

Light refreshments will be served. Cedar Mountain Commons is located at 3 John H. Stewart Drive.

People are welcome to just stop by. For more information, call Marie Pugliese, (860) 665-7901.

Open house Mulberry Gardens of Southington, an assisted living, adult day and mem20

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Deadline the next issue is Jan. 15. ory care community, will host an open house from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Marie Terzak, retirement counselor, will lead the event.

Light refreshments will be served. Mulberry Gardens is located at 58 Mulberry St. People are welcome to just stop by. For more information, call Mulberry Gardens at (860) 2761020.

12|Tuesday Friendship Club for seniors Mulberry Gardens at Marian Heights Adult Day Center will offer a free Friendship Club trial day from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m., to give adults the opportunity to make new friends.

Transportation, activities, meals, exercise and more are provided at the Friendship Club.

13|Wednesday Open house Mulberry Gardens at Marian Heights Adult Day Center, 314 Osgood Ave., is inviting the public to an open house from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m., where they can learn more about this program for older adults, including those with socialization and cognitive needs.

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14|Thursday Lunch & Learn Taking multiple medications can be confusing for any person, especially those who are older. The Connecticut Center for Healthy Aging will present a Lunch & Learn program from noon to 1 p.m., examining this topic and the

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by Sean Jeffery, PharmD, CGP, FASCP, FNAP, AGSF, director of clinical pharmacy services for Integrated Care Partners at Hartford HealthCare and a clinical professor, Department of Pharmacy Practice, University of Connecticut.

The event will be held at The Hospital of Central Connecticut, New Britain campus, 100 Grand St. A complimentary lunch will be served. Seating is limited and reservations are required. To RSVP, call Connecticut Center ofHealthy Aging, 1-877-4AGING1 1 (877) 424-4641.

Best approaches to communication Michelle Wyman, LSW, dementia specialist with the Connecticut Center for Healthy Aging, will present “Best Communication: A New Approach” from 1:30 to 2:30 p.m. This free event will be held at the Calendar House, 388 Pleasant St.,

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RSVP to Meriden Senior Center at (203) 237-0066.

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Live Well: Chronic Disease Self-Management will be introduced at an informational session from 10 to 11 a.m., at the Hospital of Central Connecticut, Bradley Memorial campus, 81 Meriden Ave., Southington, in conference room A. To fully benefit, it is suggested that participants attend all sessions. The program is built upon three underlying assumptions: 1.)

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Free memory screenings As a result of increased interest and requests, Hartford Hospital Senior Primary Care at Duncaster now offers free, confidential memory screenings at 30 Loeffler Road, Bloomfield. Those who are interested can call Hartford Hospital Senior Primary Care at Duncaster at (860) 380-5150 to schedule a 15-minute appointment. Qualified health care professionals will conduct the memory screenings and provide educational materials about memory concerns, brain health and caregiving. The one-on-one screenings include a

series of questions and tasks, and take 10 to 15 minutes to complete. Upon completion, individuals will receive a summary of their personal screening, their score and an explanation. The Alzheimer’s Foundation of America recommends memory screenings for anyone who wants to measure their memory now for future comparison; has concerns about memory loss or is experiencing warning signs; whose family or friends have noticed changes in them; or who believes they are at risk due to a family history. Warning signs of memory loss illnesses include forgetting people’s names and events, asking repetitive questions, loss of verbal or written skills, confusion and personality changes. For more info or to schedule a free memory screening, call Hartford Hospital Senior Primary Care at Duncaster at (860) 380-5150.

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desires to the doctor treating you.

Like the power of attorney, it’s too late once you are incapable.

And you need to tell the people you appoint what your wishes are and that you have named them.

Be sure they feel the same way about those decisions. And that they have the emotional ability to make that decision. Some children could never bring themselves to make the decision to terminate a parent’s life support, so that is not the child you want to burden with the decision. Medical science keeps advancing, as do the situations that might call for difficult decisions.

And last, “What’s a

HIPAA, anyway?” Well, that stands for Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act.

Like the power of attorney, it’s too late once you are incapable. And you need to tell the people you appoint what your wishes are and that you have named them.

When Congress passed it in 1996, it set out severe monetary penalties if medical people disclosed your private medical information to anyone.

That is the reason you have to sign a so called “HIPAA” release when you go to your doctor.

The reason you should have a HIPAA is so that you can allow any medical person to speak with the family members you name on the HIPAA. So to paraphrase Dr. Seuss, today is your day. Your resolution is waiting. So get on your way. Dial up that phone and call an attorney to get those documents done. New Year’s Resolutions don’t get easier than that.

Attorney Stephen O. Allaire is a partner in the law f irm of Allaire Elder Law, LLC, a member of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, Inc., with off ices at 271 Farmington Avenue, Bristol, (860) 5842384), or on the web at www. allaireelderlaw.com. If you have a question, send a written note to Attorney Allaire at Allaire Elder Law, LLC, 271 Farmington Avenue, Bristol, CT, 06010, and he may use your question in a future column.

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dizziness, falls, and other adverse effects.

Blood pressure. While it is important to maintain your blood pressure at a certain goal number, it is as important to ensure that your blood pressure does not fall when you go from a lying to a standing position.

before going to bed and scheduled during the day will decrease the amount of times you need to get up at night to go.

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caring, family, spirituality and commitment. When I get home, I hug my loved ones a little tighter.

I appreciate every minute of every day.

I do not do this alone.

This is a total team effort that includes hospice nurses, social workers, our hospice medical director, our volunteers, a bereavement coordinator, our chaplain and administrative support.

We also have yearly remembrance ceremonies and other functions to remember our patients. If you ask my co-workers,

I’m sure they’ll agree: They are meant to heal us as well as the families.

Our connections with patients and families can run deep and be painful.

It is not just a job to any of us that is a guarantee.

Hospice is a beautiful thing. Families and patients with terminal illnesses deserve the care and attention that hospice can give them. I have benefited from hospice care with two of my loved ones. I have chosen my path because of the exceptional care my family received. But as a hospice nurse, I can also

tell you that I have grown and learned from every encounter I’ve had. I have the best job on earth. I am a hospice nurse.

Jill Lincoln, RN, BSN, is a hospice and home care nurse with Bristol Hospital Homecare and Hospice, which is in the midst of its 2015 Lights of Love campaign.

The campaign raises money to help those in need when facing life-threatening illness. Your generosity helps provide patients f inancial assistance with essential needs or for services not covered by insurance. To donate to Lights of Love, call the Bristol Hospital Development Foundation, (860) 585-3365. For more information on Bristol Hospital Homecare and Hospice, call (860) 585-4752 or visit bristolhospital.org.

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