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The little eatery might be called diner, but it’s a far cry from what you might envision. TRADE STREET DINER was the venue for the latest Chef’s Table.

It’s always fun when the owner picks a “slow night” for the event, and then the place gets packed with us and walk-in patrons who get into the fun a little as plates of surprise courses whirled by.

10 Thirty-five years later and now at 2150 Lawndale Dr., ACME has become one of the most successful comic book shops in North America. Free Comic Book Day, which is held on the first Saturday in May and started the same weekend as the opening of 2002’s Spider-Man, is in its 16th year.

11 For the next installment in its ongoing series of special events, Winston-Salem’s International LGBT Film Festival “OUT AT THE MOVIES” will present a special sneak peek of writer/director Andrew Fleming’s comedy Ideal Home, starring Steve Coogan and Paul Rudd...

12 MORGAN GEER, who performs and records under the name Drunken Prayer, used to draw pictures of Elvis when he was 5 or 6 years old. Music is a part of his earliest

recollections, such as a memory of sitting at the feet of his mother, a folk singer, as she performed on Louisiana public television.

13 The path walked by the iconic hard rock band KING’S X has been a series of “almosts” and “how can that be?’ Scenarios fraught with close calls and “if only” all wrapped up in a pack of assumptions that at the end of the day had nothing to do with the band’s music whatsoever.

18 Death be not proud in AVENGERS: INFINITY WAR, but it certainly is loud.

This 19th entry in the Marvel Cinematic Universe — a hermetically sealed franchise that began with Iron Man back in 2008 and most recently added February’s Black Panther to its ranks...

24 Hillary Norman, creator of SAY IT WITH OLIVEOIL clothing line and Jenn Hensel, co-designer and Norman’s business associate were among the millions of people who heard Oprah’s call to action.

Now, they are using their designs to help support the initiative and offer humourous and empowering attire for women in the Triad and beyond.

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EVENTS YOU DON’T WANT TO MISS | BY AUSTIN KINDLEY

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WHAT: Shakori Hills GrassRoots Festival of Music & Dance will be celebrating its 16th Anniversary this Spring. Steve Earle and the Dukes, Rising Appalachia, Donna the Buffalo and more than 50 other performers will share four stages over four days in rural Chatham County. Shakori Hills GrassRoots Festival is known for bringing some of the best world music to North Carolina.

WHEN: All day Thurs, Fri & Sat. WHERE: Shakori Hills Farm.

1439 Henderson Tanyard Rd. Pittsboro.

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WHAT: The High Point CVBs upcoming PrimeTime on Main event on May 4th will have complimentary beer and BBQ from local business from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m.! This will be just one more place to visit when your strolling Uptowne High Point! Hope to see you in May! WHEN: 5 p.m.

WHERE: High Point Convention & Visitors Bureau. 1634 N. Main St., Suite 102 High Point.

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WHAT: Join us for the opening reception of Beauty of the Beast with live music by Blake Walters from 7:00-8:00 PM. Painting, printmaking, drawing and sculpture inspired by animals from aardvarks to zebras will transform the gallery into a wild space. This thematic group exhibition explores dualities of wild and tame, human and animal as well as addressing the loss of animal habitats.

WHEN: 6 p.m.

WHERE: GreenHill.

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FIRST COMES LOVE. THEN COMES MARRIAGE. THEN COMES MURDER. Triad Stage returns to Hawboro, this time to the wrong side of the tracks.

A young woman beleaguered by her husband and terrorized by her mother-in-law nds comfort in the arms of another man. They carry out a plot meant to free Teresa, but the repercussions of their actions haunt them and threaten to drive them to madness. For mature audiences.

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WHISKEY DE MAYO CRUISE IN WHAT: What is better than Cinco de Mayo? What about Whiskey de Mayo? Join us at The Old Nick Williams Co. Farm and Distillery as we come together to celebrate our loves of whiskey, cars, and charity! We will be raising money to benefit our friends at the Petty Family Foundation. Bring your car to show off, bring your friends, or just come to have fun.

WHEN: 11 a.m.

WHERE: Old Nick Williams Farm and Distillery. 2675 Williams Rd, Lewisville.

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SATURDAY ART JAM KID’S PAINT PROJECT WHAT: Calling ALL creative kids! We will be set up outside painting mini-mural masterpieces that you can take home to enjoy — alongside with The AFAS Group’s Annual Concrete Mural Fest! Food trucks, artists demonstrations, live music, free kid’s ART paint project plus artists from all over NC will be painting all new colorful murals on the long concrete wall.

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RICE PAPER RESTAURANT FEATURES VIETNAMESE CUISINE

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After months of anticipation, the new restaurant Rice Paper opened for business April 9. Located at 906 Greensboro Rd. in High Point, the restaurant specializes in Vietnamese cuisine. It takes over the former Village Café location.

“We own a nail salon in High Point, but have a heart for the restaurant business as well,” said Tuan Truong, who, along with his fiancée, Myy Hoang, owns the establishment.

“My family has several restaurants in the United States and I have lots of experience as a restaurant manager. Myy and I have wanted to open one in this area for a long time. We wanted a place that served healthy food from the Vietnamese culture.”

Although open for only a month, according to Truong Rice Paper has received a good response, gleaning five-star reviews on Google and Facebook.

“All our food is fresh and healthy,” Truong said. “We buy locally when we can and use original Vietnamese recipes.

Everything is homemade. We even simmer chicken and beef for 14 hours to make our own broths.

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“In my country, people buy fresh vegetables and meat every day. We do something similar. We avoid canned and processed products. Fresh means good and honey is better than sugar.”

Desserts include milkshakes made with tropical Asian fruits. The menu also features such items as avocado shakes and red bean ice cream.

“They are good for your body,” Truong said with a smile.

Soft Vietnamese background music adds a touch of authenticity. The décor is simple yet elegant, from the style of the chairs to the light fixtures to oil lamps on each table. Baskets placed on the tables provide a choice of chopsticks or regular utensils to fit the desire of any customer.

Outdoor seating is also available.

“We put cameras inside and outside to help customers feel safe,” Truong said.

“Every day I pray for safety in my business.

“As we continue, we will be adding new food to the menu and making some changes in what we offer.”

Rice Paper is open daily from 11 a.m.-10 p.m. A grand opening is planned for the future. !

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A Chef’s Table dines at Trade Street Diner

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he little eatery might be called diner, but it’s a far cry from what you might envision.

Trade Street Diner was the venue for the latest Chef’s Kristi Maier Table. It’s always @triadfoodies fun when the owner picks a “slow night” for the event, and Contributor then the place gets packed with us and walk-in patrons who get into the fun a little as plates of surprise courses whirled by.

Trade Street Diner opened last fall in Sweet Potatoes’ former residence at 529 N. Trade St. by two well-respected chefs and businessmen, John Tharp and Freddy Lee. Chef Lee has been in the restaurant industry for years and opened the beloved Bernardin’s with his brother in the

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‘90s and since then a second Bernardin’s location in Charlotte, Bleu Restaurant & Bar and Cowboy Brazilian Steakhouse.

Tharp was the chef at Bleu for 10 years after relocating from New York. After some years working together, they

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partnered up to buy Town Centre Diner in Wallburg and last year decided to go a little higher end when the space in the Arts District came along. Tharp said both are diners, but the word “diner” is about all they share in common.

“It’s a modern take on a diner,” he said.

“We give people a little more than what they expect. Town Centre is a family concept, breakfast, lunch and dinner. More homestyle choices and priced accordingly, with meat and two or three. Whereas Trade Street is a little more eclectic and higher end but simplistic in its approach.”

Chef Tharp said they took the concept and inspiration from Poole’s Diner in Raleigh.

“We felt like Winston-Salem needed something like that,” he said. “Something very approachable with mid-range prices.

You can come two or three times a week, have a glass of wine, have a salad or mac and cheese, or share an appetizer, hang with friends or have a nice date.”

What the diners experienced at Trade Street Diner was something of a departure from the regular menu. This fully showed how Chef Tharp was intent on celebrating the flavors of the season but also demonstrated his creative side. Attendees of Chef’s Table know that there’s never a menu ahead of time (and often none at all, which is encouraged) and the guests are sort of at the chef’s whim.

It does no good to cheat and check out the restaurant’s online menu. You may or may not see that item in front of you at the tasting. It was last week, but that doesn’t mean you won’t see these dishes in some form when you choose to visit this inviting diner.

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Amuse Bouche We love getting a little palate teaser before the rest of the courses rolled out.

This was Asian-inspired and had a nice little kick of wasabi oil. Enough that our table mate, Melissa, felt the need to alert us. But the wasabi walloped us a bit in the very best way.

Course 1 Ceviche A selection of fresh fish sautéed scallops. It was a beauty. Fresh seafood lovers, this dish is for you.

Course 2 House-made Goat Cheese Ravioli with Pea Puree and Tomato Fondue This light little ravioli was a true hit at my table. Chef Tharp is a big believer in making his own pasta, and though it’s not on the menu very often at the diner, the flavors of spring in this little dish made us wish we could go back for some more. Plus the look of it just said “spring.”

Course 3 Seared Scallops with Crispy Potatoes The course is pretty self-explanatory with seared scallops and potatoes with a bit of mushroom. The creamy sauce was a perfect consistency and added a lovely richness and coziness to the seafood component.

Course 4 Filet with Red Pepper Sauce and Parsnip Puree The filet lets you catch a glimpse of the steak you might order at Trade Street on any given night. The red pepper sauce

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was bright and flavorful and added a bright pop of color.

Dessert - Course 5 Triple Berry Cake with Dark Chocolate Mousse If the mousse is ever on the menu at Trade Street Diner, we suggest you order it. It’s perfectly creamy and rich, and this dessert paired ever so perfectly with the diner’s freshly brewed coffee.

Chef Tharp has been in the restaurant industry since he was 14 years old, working his way up from bussing tables to attending culinary school at Johnston & Wales. “I’ve never wanted to do anything else,” he said. After working in Charleston, Chef Tharp decided to broaden his view of restaurants and moved to New York, where he was a sous chef at Tribeca Grill.

“It really opened my mind because every plate had to be correct. There’s no room for error, which is typical of New York,” he said laid the groundwork for his focus today. “We have to make sure it’s the best at all times. We try for every dish to be as perfect as it can be.”

The menu at Trade Street Diner is set up to change often “We want the menu to be special enough that the customer keeps coming back,” Chef Tharp said. “It’s great concept to live by because it keeps me and it keeps the kitchen pushing to be better. We want to elevate the common food like a hushpuppy, and that reinforces what we’re really trying to do here. We want our guest to think, ‘Wow, what’s coming next because this is exceeding our expectations.’”

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this chef has some very interesting ideas for the dining scene in Winston-Salem.

He also has goals to travel more to add breadth to his culinary skills.

“Some chefs are fortunate to travel to Asia and Europe to learn about spices and concepts and that’s something I’d like to do in the next five years or so, to travel often and learn about cultures and the food and put my own interpretation on it,” he said. “Food is food the world around typically it’s all been thought of. So new flavor combinations or ways to invoke a memory are what makes a restaurant different.”

May marks the two-year anniversary of Chef’s Table. What started out as a small group of local food-lovers gathering together for an evening of surprise plates has continued with larger gatherings, new friendships and sell-out foodie events where we get to learn more about that chef and be surprised by what he or she is working on. Cheers to supporting our area chefs and restaurants and the local goodness they embrace.

To hear my podcast featuring Chef John Tharp, listen to “At the Table with Triadfoodies” on the Triad Podcast Network, www.triadpodcast.com !

KRISTI MAIER is a food writer, blogger and cheerleader for all things local who even enjoys cooking in her kitchen, though her kidlets seldom appreciate her efforts.

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Acme Comics celebrates its 35th birthday, Free Comic Book Day and local talent

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hen Acme Comics opened in downtown Greensboro in 1983, superheroes hadn’t conquered pop culture. Superman III, the second sequel to the first big-budget Ian McDowell superhero spectacle in Hollywood history, was such a financial Contributor disappointment that its producer Alexander Salkind sold the character to Cannon Films, the lowbudget home of Chuck Norris, ninjas and horny teenagers. Marvel’s only live-action success had been the Incredible Hulk T.V. series that ended the year before. And the first Free Comic Book Day was two decades away.

Thirty-five years later and now at 2150 Lawndale Dr., Acme has become one of the most successful comic book shops in North America. Free Comic Book Day, which is held on the first Saturday in May and started the same weekend as the opening of 2002’s Spider-Man, is in its 16th year. Both birthdays can be celebrated May 5 when Acme honors the community that’s supported it for over three decades by spotlighting local talent.

“There are incredible creative artists

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Acme Comics general manager Jermaine Exum right here in Greensboro, and we want to make them visible on this most important of days,” said Acme’s general manager Jermaine Exum, who has worked there for 22 years. “When a person wants graphic design work, specialized art, or tutorials for the young artist in their families, we want Greensboro to know who is right here that can help with those needs.”

The local talent that Acme is spotlighting includes Chris Gunter, Rickie Hopkins, Merryn Kepchar, Kev Lyerly, Jody Merriman, Jordan Morris, Griff Person, Brian Richardson, Dora Salinas, Brian Shearer, Shayla Simons, Barrett Stanley, Riley Till,

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Rodney Traynham, Sara Winans and Colby Ziglar. These artists will be displaying their work and doing sketches for fans at The Free Comic Book Day Local Heroes Event hosted inside of Smallcakes Cupcakery & Creamery in Lawndale Shopping Center at 2138 Lawndale Dr. Ste. B. “Acme has been a mainstay throughout my life,” wrote artist Jordan Morris, who designed the new version of Acme’s logo, in a recent email. Morris, who described himself as a faithful customer since he was 9 and when Acme was on High Point Road, said he’s recently begun doing illustration and event work for the store. “It’s surreal to go from going there as a kid to an adult, and now actually working with them doing what I love. These are great humans and don’t get near the amount of credit they deserve for the job they do.”

Acme has also been a mainstay of Exum’s life. Exum told me he discovered the store two years after I did when his family moved to Greensboro in 1985. “It wasn’t as easy to get to as Bessemer Curb Market or other convenience stores, so I couldn’t go all the time, but it was a destination for sure.” He said he remembers seeing the comics that I was buying in the ‘80s, such as Watchmen and The Dark Knight Returns, but passing them over for GI Joe or Star Wars or some other series that had my young attention.”

Exum said he was first hired as a sales clerk at Acme in 1996, after volunteering there upon graduating from Grimsley in 1994. His sales expertise eventually earned him a management position

and the nickname of Lord Retail, a title bestowed on him by longtime Acme customer and award-winning science fiction writer M. A. Foster. “I tell people that I didn’t just start calling myself that one day, but I don’t think anyone believes me.”

I asked him if Free Comic Book Day has changed much over the past 16 years.

“The shape and scope of it have, but the goal is the same, and FCBD remains a day when we can say thanks to the public that has kept us a part of their routines since 1983.” He said he wants to thank all the people who have made Acme Comics a destination location that they visit whenever they come to Greensboro, no matter where they live in the United States or abroad. “When you’re a part of a community like that, you know you’re in the right place.”

In past years, fans celebrating “Nerd Christmas in May” have camped out all night outside of Acme. This year, the store will open its doors at 12:01 a.m., although the Acme website cautions that “this special FCBD launch will end promptly at 2 a.m. regardless of how many people remain in line or how close they are to entry.” The doors will then re-open at 10 a.m. and remain open until 7 p.m. More information can be found at www.acmecomics.com. !

IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.

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An ‘Ideal’ event for OUT at the Movies For the next installment in its ongoing series of special events, Winston-Salem’s International LGBT Film Festival “OUT at the Movies” will present a special sneak peek of writer/ Mark Burger director Andrew Fleming’s comedy Contributing Ideal Home, starring Steve Coogan and columnist Paul Rudd, at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts ACE Theatre Complex in Winston-Salem on May 12.

Coogan plays Erasmus, the host of a popular reality-T.V. culinary series, and Rudd plays Paul, his long-suffering producer and life partner. Their comfortable, if combustible, relationship is thrown into chaos when Erasmus’s estranged son Beau (Jake McDorman) turns up with his son Angel (Jack Gore) in tow, essentially leaving the lad on their doorstep. Erasmus was never anyone’s idea of a perfect father, and he’s certainly unprepared to be a grandfather.

When it comes to dysfunctional families, this one’s about as dysfunctional – and uproarious – as they come. Yet maybe, just maybe, they can come to a better understanding of each other and of the responsibilities they must face as adults.

Rex Welton, co-founder and director of

the OUT at the Movies screening series and annual film festival, calls Ideal Home “a really funny yet touching movie.”

Coogan and Rudd previously appeared together in A Night at the Museum (2006) and Our Idiot Brother (2011), and Coogan and Fleming earlier collaborated on the high-school send-up Hamlet 2.

Fleming made his feature debut with the cult horror hit Bad Dreams (1988) – which hinted at his penchant for dark humor – and followed with such popular films as The Craft (1996), Nancy Drew (2007), and the inspired Watergate spoof Dick (1999).

In his review for the website Gay Essential, reviewer Matt Micucci praised Ideal Home. “While the film generates many laughs, they are neither at the expense of its lead characters nor reliant on gay stereotypes. The film also works thanks to the balanced lead performances by Coogan and Rudd, (who) share great

chemistry as both a comedy duo and as an on-screen long-term couple who feel like they don’t have to try so hard anymore. Fleming’s film is a warm and fuzzy light-hearted comedy that successfully updates conventional depictions of queerness and family in a comedy film.”

Reviewing the film for SWITCH. when it played at the Melbourne (Australia) Queer Film Festival, Charlie David Page wrote that Steve Coogan is “obviously having a ball in this role.”

“His flamboyant and childish Erasmus certainly has the temperament of a spoilt T.V. personality,” Page wrote. “Paul Rudd, on the other hand, is marvelous as his better half, the solid rock and responsible adult. Surprisingly, these two do make a convincing couple, both in the frequently heated arguments and in the more tender moments of the film. Ideal Home is a huge amount of fun, with some dark, real

moments peppered throughout for a real kick. With just enough sweetness to balance the mixture out, this is a surprisingly endearing film – albeit with a healthy serving of vulgarity.”

This year marks the 15th year of the OUT at the Movies screening series, and “the series has been doing really well,” said Welton, noting the solid attendance at such earlier screenings as The Fabulous Allan Carr and Rebels On Pointe earlier in 2018.

“BB&T, the presenting sponsor of our festival for the last three years, just stepped up to the plate to become the presenting sponsor of our series as well.

We are thrilled with this partnership!”

The fifth annual OUT at the Movies International LGBT Film Fest is scheduled for Oct. 4-7. Sponsorships are available beginning at $100, and festival passes are already available for $75. All the details regarding the upcoming festival can be found at www.outatthemovieswinston. org. !

See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2018, Mark Burger.

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The “sneak preview” of Ideal Home will take place 7 p.m. May 12 at the ACE Exhibition Complex on the main campus of UNCSA School of Filmmaking, 1533 S. Main St., Winston-Salem. Tickets are $8 (advance) or $9 (at the door). For advance tickets or more information, call 336.918.0902 or visit the official OUT at the Movies website: https://outatthemovieswinston.org/.

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organ Geer, who performs and records under the name Drunken Prayer, used to draw pictures of Elvis when he was 5 or 6 years old. Music is a part of his earliest recollections, such as a memory of sitting at the feet of his mother, a folk singer, as she performed on Louisiana public

television.

“My first performance was singing ‘Hounddog’ a cappella in a talent show in Pittsburgh when I was in 4th grade,” Geer said. (He won.) Another early hobby indicating his future direction: Geer made cardboard cutouts of Fender Stratocasters,

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“It was an extension of playing a tennis racquet,” he said.

Now based in Asheville, Geer had been living in Winston-Salem for a few years until last fall. (His mother, Bebe Kern, lives in town and still records and performs spooky, spectral outsider-folk with the Dixie Al-Rites.) Geer returns to the area to play Monstercade on May 4. The show comes not long after a run of touring overseas, the successful conclusion of a $6,000 Kickstarter campaign to fund the recording and pressing of a new record, and work on that record, which is now about halfway completed.

“I hate what they did to my town, so I moved to another town,” sings Geer on “Cordelia Elsewhere,” the relentlessly hooky title track from the record he’s assembling. It’s a song about restlessness, resignation and about houses that seem to want to be haunted by past that’s otherwise up and gone.

Geer, 47, was born in San Francisco. His parents had left the South (Florida and Alabama) and moved out West in the late ‘60s. They eventually ended up on a commune in Oregon. Geer lived all over as a kid -- Mobile, Pittsburg, Western Massachusetts, Black Mountain and Asheville. He knows a little bit about restlessness.

I should mention that I’ve known Geer for about 30 years. We met in college. He lived across the hall from me and introduced me, upon its release, to the Beastie Boys’ Paul’s Boutique. We were housemates for a year or so in the ‘90s. I’ve joined him on stage a few times to provide minimal drumming behind him. He’s someone whose intelligence, wit, charm, drive and talent have seemed like they’d propel him to bigger arenas and wider audiences. And they have. Geer’s been touring and recording as a guitarist with the band Freakwater for the past four years, opening many of their shows with Drunken Prayer solo sets.

This year, Drunken Prayer toured the United Kingdom for the month of March, opening for the Handsome Family.

After the years of cardboard guitar cutouts, Geer sort of soaked up the roots of rock ‘n’ roll. He was into Jerry Lee Lewis, Fats Domino and the early pre-LSD Beatles. He started out playing drums but moved to guitar since it could be practiced in a small apartment without irritating neighbors.

“I taught myself how to play by listening to the Stone’s Get Yer Ya-Ya’s Out,” Geer said.

All of that early listening gave Geer a baked-in taste for the blues, not necessarily limited to the genre, but embracing the form and the aesthetic in all its manifestations, as blues harmonies, blue notes, and blues structure worked their way through gospel, rockabilly, jazz, country, rock and even punk and new wave.

“Anything that had a remotely bluesy edge to it, or R&B, or where you throw in a 7-chord, made my ears perk up,” Geer said.

After playing in bands around Asheville in the ‘90s, Geer went to Nashville for a year to sharpen his guitar chops. Then he headed out to Sonoma County, California, playing every blues open-mic he could find. Eventually he ended up in Portland, Oregon, releasing the first Drunken Prayer record in 2009.

Geer’s songs have a big American sweep to it, with displaced characters, God, flowing rivers, hellraisers, fate, loss, grace and wandering. You can hear country, early rock, Bakersfield twang, the blues and old-time all sifted through the music, but there’s also a delicate songwriting sophistication, with jazzy turnarounds, surprise modulated bridges and sudden stops.

Drunken Prayer will likely bring to mind the Band for a lot of listeners, with the sense of history and tradition. But Geer’s songs and his singing often suggest a kinship with artists like Bobby Charles or Doug Sahm, musicians with Southern roots, with a yip and break to their voices, and notes of sad-

ness offset by a sense of humor.

These days, Geer’s sense of humor might serve as a coping mechanism. Geer said that many of the most recent batch of songs were written in a state of anxiety about finding a new home and about the political climate in America. Moving back to Asheville and grappling with how to contend with the Trump era “shook a few things loose,” Geer said.

Geer said that much of the spirit of the last 18 months has been one of “waiting for the other boot to drop.” The treatment of undocumented immigrants is just one of many developments that stood out and hit close to home.

“We had 11 families here in my neighborhood that have been picked up by ICE,” Geer said.

Geer doesn’t really make gloomy music though. He’s more of a play-on-throughthe-apocalypse kind of guy.

If one is inclined to suggest that there’s hope to be found in the idea that the world hasn’t ended, Geer says this: “It kind of has [ended], but just not with a mushroom cloud.” !

JOHN ADAMIAN lives in Winston-Salem, and his writing has appeared in Wired, The Believer, Relix, Arthur, Modern Farmer, the Hartford Courant and numerous other publications.

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King’s X are the ‘pastors in the church of rock’n’roll’ The path walked by the iconic hard rock band King’s X has been a series of “almosts” and “how can that be?’ Scenarios fraught with close calls and “if only” all wrapped up Dr. Jon Epstein in a pack of assumptions that at the Contributor end of the day had nothing to do with the band’s music whatsoever. Who would think that simply being true to yourself could be so difficult, especially when all you really want to do is play rock ‘n’ roll?

Throughout its 30 year-career, King’s X has not shied away from their deeply spiritual and self-reflective orientation which was on full display with the release of their debut album “Out of the Silent Planet,” whose title was lifted from the first book of C.S. Lewis’s The Space Trilogy.

Lewis, best known for his most enduring work “The Chronicles of Narnia,” has been labeled a “Christian apologist” due to his commitment to exploring an objective and reasoned approach to Christian theology and belief, a point of view that has informed King’s X since being formed in the mid-1980s.

The three members of King’s X, bassist and vocalist Doug Pinnick (dUg), guitarist Ty Tabor and drummer Jerry Gaskill, first met while working as sidemen in the Christian rock genre that first emerged in the early 1980s. They produced many well-known artists including guitarist Phil Keagy and the hard rock band Petra. That fact alone goes a long way to explaining why the band was initially labeled a Christian rock band, and although the band has always rejected that label, their unflappable commitment to exploring their spirituality, and the fact that they never once wavered from that commitment all but cemented that label and resulted in the band having to explain themselves repeatedly in pretty much every early article written about the band in the music press.

Despite their best efforts to reject the Christian rock label, by the early 1990s, it seemed to have stuck. This resulted in a situation in which King’s X music became available in Christian bookstores nationwide, and a rejection of the band by a large number of hard rock fans which was only reinforced by the release of their third album, the deeply spiritual “Faith Hope Love” in 1990. (The album title drawn from 1 Corinthians made that connection WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

clear.) Despite the conflict between what the band claimed to be, and what their audience claimed they were “Faith Hope Love” remains the band’s best-selling album.

To further complicate an already complicated public perception problem Pinnick came out as a proud gay man in 1998, which immediately destroyed their reputation among the Christian rock community and the band scrambled to defend themselves once again.

Regardless of the ridiculous public relations nightmares that King’s X seems to find themselves perpetually at the center of, the band has remained true to their vision, and have attracted a “who’s who” of fans among the hard rock community.

Most notably Pearl Jam bassist Jeff Ament who has asserted that “King’s X invented grunge,” and Living Colour guitarist Vernon Reid, who has been an outspoken champion of the band for decades. This attention resulted in the band being named among the 100 best hard rock bands of all time

by VH1, which a simple listen to the band’s work makes absolutely clear.

King’s X’s music is very difficult to categorize, and at the risk of being cliché, is singular and unique. Musically the band draws on shades of Metallica, Hendrix, Trower and Jethro Tull, with a groove that is highly reminiscent of classic funk and R&B, and a lead vocal style that draws from a gospel “call and response” format, and a deeply introspective lyrical content.

Perhaps the best description I have heard is that King’s X is “beautifully weird and extremely compelling.”

The past decade has been both a difficult one for King’s X and a testament to both the band, and it’s extremely committed fan base. A number of health-related

scares, specifically some near-fatal heart attacks suffered by Gaskill slowed the band down significantly for many years and resulted in a greatly reduced recording and touring schedule. Although, the most recent album “XV” (2008) was widely heralded as their best work in years, which for a band of this caliber is saying a lot.

King’s X will play at the Ramkat in Winston-Salem on June 9. Tickets are available via the Ramkat website (www. theramkat.com/)and www.kingsxonline. com !

DR. JON EPSTEIN is a writer, artist, and musician living in Winston-Salem.

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eath be not proud in Avengers: Infinity War ( ), but it certainly is loud.

This 19th entry in the Marvel Cinematic Universe — a hermetically sealed franchise that began with Iron Man back in 2008 and most recently added February’s Black Panther to its ranks — is full of sound and fury and Dolby-enhanced CGI battles. But only the haters would claim that it signifies nothing — instead, it’s the semi-culmination of all the pictures that have preceded it (I say semi because it’s only the first half of a two-parter that will conclude next summer). It’s also the darkest, the grimmest, and the most downbeat of all Marvel movies, with countless websites anticipating its solemnity by laying odds on which characters would meet their maker (be it God or Stan Lee) over the course of its 150-minute running time.

So it’s not really a spoiler to note that a few characters die permanently, some die temporarily, and some live to fight another day.

The war being waged is against Thanos (Josh Brolin), a powerful being who has been collecting the Infinity Stones (see previous pictures for the scoop) with the same myopic determination as someone participating in the Pokemon GO phenomenon. Once he has accumulated all six baubles, Thanos will be able to rule the universe in any way he sees fit, and his way basically involves intergalactic genocide. Seeking to prevent him from obtaining all the stones are the Avengers and the Guardians of the Galaxy, with an occasional outlier thrown in for good measure. There are the three Chrises — Evans as Captain America, Hemsworth as Thor, and Pratt as Peter Quill — and the two Sherlocks — Robert Downey Jr. as Iron Man and Benedict Cumberbatch as Dr. Strange. Black Widow (Scarlett Johansson) and Black Panther (Chadwick Boseman) are also on-hand. Even your

friendly neighborhood Spider-Man (Tom Holland) takes part in the melee.

Clearly, heroes aren’t hard to find in Avengers: Infinity War — indeed, there are over two dozen protagonists jockeying for sizable screen time. While past Marvel team-ups have been exemplary at allowing everyone a moment in the spotlight — the first Avengers film back in 2012 was particularly a thing of beauty when it came to significant time-shares — this one doesn’t fare nearly as well, with many favorites ultimately lost in the perpetual whirl of motion. This is the It’s a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World of Marvel movies, with Thanos subbing for Spencer Tracy.

Much of the enjoyment comes in the cross-pollination occurring when these heroes split up for various missions. Thor finds himself palling around with Rocket (Bradley Cooper), and it never grows old hearing the God of Thunder refer to the raccoon as “rabbit.” Iron Man and Dr. Strange make for an antagonistic pair, with Spider-Man occasionally interrupting their bickering with amusing popculture references. The dollops of humor found in these interludes are a welcome respite from the heavy drama, alleviating the mood without ever breaking it.

The same, however, can’t be said for the more strained and stretched bits of comedy, most of which — naturally enough — come courtesy of the Guardians (particularly Drax, again played by Dave Bautista). This brand of humor worked well within the confines of their own films but feels tonally jarring in this picture.

Overall, though, Avengers: Infinity War is rousing entertainment — it’s both thrilling and chilling, marked with pockets of genuine pathos. If some pacing issues (the visit to Peter Dinklage’s place of employment could easily have been truncated) and the occasional bloat prevent it from quite reaching the upper echelons of the MCU, there’s still more than enough here to keep viewers sated, saturated, and salivating over what’s certain to be a poignant and potent Part Deux. !

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iedmont Opera and the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus announced today that the Youth Chorus will merge with the Piedmont Opera as of July 1, 2018.

Darren Chiott and Ashley Rusher, CoChairs of the Board of Directors for the Youth Chorus, said The Youth Chorus Board could not be more excited about the new opportunities this integration brings to its singers. “Our organizations have been strategically aligned for many years due to the shared vision, mission and goals of the Piedmont Opera and the Youth Chorus. Taking this next step toward merger is the natural progression of our ongoing collaboration,” said Mr. Chiott. Ms. Rusher added, “Each of our organizations is recognized as a premier arts and cultural asset in the Winston Salem community, and we have so much to offer each other. Our integration will ensure that our common mission continues to enhance the artistic and educational opportunities available in our community.”

This coming together of two of Winston-Salem’s historic and innovative arts institutions offers a rare opportunity,” said James Allbritten, General Director of Piedmont Opera. “Our organizations are excited to lead the way in preserving and celebrating our extraordinary histories while creating a future that will create even more exciting possibilities through shared resources.”

Together, Piedmont Opera and the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus share a 65-year legacy of enriching the community through music – 40 and 25 years respectively. The merging of the two historic organizations brings together two institutions that have shared a common mission for over six decades. This shared mission will now become a common foundation to help both organizations reach an expanded audience while both continue to deliver excellence in their areas of expertise.

The merger will dissolve The WinstonSalem Youth Chorus’s 501-C status on

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June 30, 2018, bringing the chorus under the umbrella of Piedmont Opera and conferring onto the opera’s tax-exempt charitable status. The Youth Chorus programming, staff, and daily operations will remain unchanged but will be relocated to the Opera House on 636 Holly Avenue.

About Piedmont Opera Piedmont Opera raised the curtain on its first production, Verdi’s Rigoletto, in September 1978. With support from the National Endowment for the Arts, this production and the four subsequent years were produced in conjunction with other regional opera companies. In 1983, Piedmont Opera Theatre was able to produce Puccini’s La Boheme on its own. Founded by the late Norman Johnson (1928-1996), Piedmont Opera is now in its 40th year of continuous operation. The company strives to remain a nationally recognized and acclaimed regional opera company and a leader in the classical arts community.

About The Winston-Salem Youth Chorus Founded in 1993 by Artistic Director, Barbara C. Beattie, the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus has positively impacted the lives of hundreds of children and youth through music education and performance experiences for 25 years.

The WSYC began as the Stevens Center Children’s Chorus, with children age eight to 13 making up the membership. The WSYC has over 100 members in four ensembles, ranging in age from eight to 18 and representing more than 40 schools in Forsyth and surrounding counties.

Open to any child who passes a standard audition, WSYC singers learn proper vocal technique, music theory, performance and sight-singing skills, music culture, and songs in other languages. The WSYC brings together children from a variety of backgrounds to learn teamwork and tolerance while building lasting friendships based on the universal language of music. !

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In a perhaps unintentional bid for the worst criminal disguise of 2018, Kerry Hammond Jr., 22, broke into a GameStop store in St. Marys, Georgia, at 1:19 a.m. on April 13, where he was captured on camera wearing a clear plastic wrapper (of the sort that holds bundles of bottled water) over his head. Even with the plastic “mask,” WJXT reported, Hammond’s face is clearly visible in surveillance video, and St. Marys police quickly identified him and captured him on April 17. Hammond already had two active felony warrants for his arrest for burglary and second-degree criminal damage to property.

TECHNO-WEIRD

In Tokyo, women who have qualms about living alone may soon have a new security option. “Man on the Curtain” is a prototype smartphone app that connects to a projector and throws a moving shadow of a man onto a closed window curtain. The shadow man can be doing any of several different activities, such as boxing, karate, vacuuming, playing guitar or getting dressed. Keiichi Nakamura, advertising manager of Leopalace21 Corp., an apartment management company where the idea originated, told Reuters that eventually his company would like to “commercialize it once we add variety, such as releasing a new video every day.”

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— Resorting to a low-tech, but possibly offensive strategy, Largo, Florida, detectives visited a dead man at Sylvan Abbey Funeral Home in Clearwater and attempted to use his finger to unlock his smartphone. Linus F. Phillip, 30, was shot and killed by Largo police March 23 after he tried to drive away from an officer wanting to search him. As part of their investigation, police said they needed to access and preserve data on Phillip’s phone. Legal experts generally agreed the detectives had not broken any laws, but Phillip’s girlfriend, Victoria Armstrong, 28, was less forgiving: “Nobody even calling us ... to let us know detectives were coming there at all is very disturbing,” she told the Tampa Bay Times. “I’m very skeptical of all funeral homes now.”

— United Press International reports that in Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan, the mayor has employed a clever way to keep his finger on the pulse of the city. When he goes out, he wears a fake beard so he’ll blend in and not be recognized as the capital city’s leader. Mayor Albek Ibraimov told Fergana, a Russian news agency: “I dress in old clothes ... take off my tie and I go and look, and see how things actually are.”

ENTREPRENEURIAL SPIRIT

Over the last two years, Cameron County employee Gilberto Escamilla, 53, of Brownsville, Texas, has been accepting shipments of fajitas worth a total of $1.2 million at the Darrell B. Hester Juvenile Detention Center in Brownsville. The only trouble is, the inmates there aren’t served fajitas. Escamilla had been ordering the meat from Labatt Food Service in Harlingen and intercepting it to resell. “It started small and got bigger and out of control,” Escamilla told the court, according to The Brownsville Herald. On April 20, he was sentenced to 50 years in prison after pleading guilty to theft by a public servant.

OOPS

The Washington State Department of Transportation had to issue a mea culpa on the afternoon of April 17 after an electronic highway sign displayed the message “U SUCK” above Interstate 5 near Jovita. WSDOT called the sign “an inappropriate message” that appeared due to a training error and was “clearly a mistake,” according to KCPQ TV. !

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A space of their own: Women-centric collaborative collective space coming to Winston-Salem

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Shine Theory is the simple premise that ‘I don’t shine if you don’t shine.’ It’s a term I coined with Aminatou Sow to describe a commitment to collaboratKatie Murawski ing with rather than competing against other people—espeEditor cially other women,” wrote freelance journalist Ann Friedman on her website (www.annfriedman. com/shine-theory/). This premise has inspired one Winston-Salem woman to pass along the shine in an ambitious endeavor to bring local women together for community and collaboration.

Jen Oleniczak Brown, 35, is the founder and director of the company The Engaging Educator. Oleniczak Brown said the 5 ½-year-old company started out as her “side hustle” when she lived in New York City performing Off-Broadway with her improv troupe. Now, she said EE has grown to serve over 30,000 students.

Oleniczak Brown said EE seeks to empower women with their public speaking, communication skills, and social skills through an improv-based education.

Oleniczak Brown brought EE to Winston-Salem when she moved here two and a half years ago. She also works as a member of women in tech initiatives, as a mentor at the Forsyth Technical Community College’s Small Business Center within the Launch Program and as a coach for progressive women running for office. However, she wanted to find more ways she could help serve local women in the area. When she saw a “for lease” sign in a window on the corner of Burke Street and Brookstown Avenue (above the tattoo parlor and beside Camel City Goods), she knew it would be the future site of Fearless (1002 Brookstown Ave.), a collaborative space for women.

“I realized there was no space that women could just go and be comfortable in,” she said. “With this space, it all kind of fell into place pretty neatly. I want to have a space for women to share their skills and crowdsource classes, empower one another and up their confidence by learning skills, so in that sense, it is

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Jen Oleniczak Brown looking out the window of Fearless, located at 1002 Brookstown Ave. in Winston-Salem everything from coding, gardening, to how to do your eyebrows. Everyone is welcome in a space no matter if you value how your eyebrows are done or if you value construction tools. It is a little bit of everything.”

The name of the space is called Fearless because Oleniczak Brown wants the name to reflect a place where women are not afraid to try things, or go and be themselves.

“The idea of Fearless, [is] I want that second guess to go away,” Oleniczak Brown said.

The space will host classes, programs, events, speakers and will build toward membership.

“With membership, what that looks like is probably going to end up being a conglomerate of usage of space,” she said. “I’m planning on keeping it as local, as Triad, as possible. I want it to be elevating and empowering to local women.”

Oleniczak Brown also plans for there to be a craft space where women can work with their hands, a library “full of female authors,” a cafe with The Sweet Truth’s (Oleniczak Brown’s former mentee Faith McKnight’s business) baked goods available for purchase and a seating area.

There will also be a projector and screen installed for presentations and movie nights.

“Where we get a caterer who comes in (who is woman-owned and operated), and we have food, (maybe cupcakes and wine) and we all watch a movie together,” she said. “Just to have a collective

female experience, I think it is so necessary and needed right now. Especially with how the world feels.”

Dana Publicover is a partner at Fearless and a design thinking consultant who runs design sprints and conducts empathy studies. Publicover will also co-host a podcast with Oleniczak Brown called “Don’t Tap the Glass Ceiling,” (launching in three weeks) that “focuses on the unique issues and challenges of working while woman.” Publicover wrote in an email that women-centric spaces such as The Wing (New York City) and The Pink Ceiling (Raleigh) had contributed so much for women to work, learn and grow together.

“We are so used to fighting an uphill battle out in the world that sometimes

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The Fearless logo and the Facebook group’s cover photo we don’t know when to stop fighting, and we compete with each other,” she wrote.

“But women, as a tribe, have an amazing capacity to support and elevate one another. We share these common experiences, and we fight the same fights, but we seem to have a little trouble joining together for a common cause. We hope that by bringing tons of talented women together, we can create an environment of support, collaboration and coexistence.”

Publicover wrote that she has met “many brilliant powerhouse women” in the area but they do not all know each other. She thinks Fearless is the ideal spot to get them all together.

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its head by creating a space where women feel supported, comfortable and confident,” Publicover wrote. “If men were to come into the space and feel like the deck is stacked against them, maybe that moment could inspire a little empathy. We’re not trying to exclude anyone—but we are trying to elevate an underserved population.”

Publicover would like to see Fearless provide resources and information for women business owners to take charge of their own success. She hopes Fearless will foster a sense of belonging, confidence and “focused help without competition.”

Publicover plans on teaching classes on empathy, design thinking, negotiating,

sales, pitching, investor relations and business development.

“I am so excited to be a part of this space, and so honored to be able to share what I’ve learned as a woman in business over the last 10 years,” she wrote. “I hope I can help people grow even better and greater than I have ever been able, and I hope I can help them to avoid making the mistakes I had to make to learn what I learned.”

Bobbie Shrivastav is the co-founder of the digital transformation companies Docsmore and Benekiva. She will be teaching some classes on startups, commercialization of products, project management and hosting women in tech at the Fearless space.

Shrivastav wrote in an email that Fearless is an important asset for Winston-Salem because the city is growing in terms of startups and investments. She is excited to see a variety of activities and collaboration opportunities in the space.

“Studies have shown that though women overtime have ‘earned’ a seat at the table, it has been slow and in some studies, there is a decline of women executives or leaders,” she wrote. “There is a lot of work that needs to happen for funding disparity for women startups.

Having this type of space is especially important in cities like ours to continue to

foster and empower women. I’m part of many groups like Cupcakes, Coffee, Connection and partner with Venture Cafe and Flywheel for tech-related programming - we need more spaces like Fearless- a place where women are supported and heard.”

So far, Oleniczak Brown said over 30 local women have reached out and want to teach classes (myself included), over the span of this summer and beyond. Oleniczak Brown said the pre-opening event for Fearless is May 11 and is called Cupcakes & Creatives (a monthly meet-up for “creative female entrepreneurs”) from 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. It is hosted by One Crafty Miss and sponsored by Dewey’s Bakery and Fearless. Oleniczak Brown said on May 30 there will be an official opening party from 5 p.m. to 9 p.m. and classes start on June 4.

Some of the classes that are in the works include “How to Say No,” “Scoring Your Dream Job,” “Inbound Marketing Strategies,” “Yoga and Aerial Yoga,” “Coding,” “Interior Decorating,” “How to Buy a House,” “Personal Finance and Investments,” “Child Support and Custody,” “Improv and Public Speaking” (taught by Oleniczak Brown), “Reproductive Care,” “Sewing,” “How to be Politically Active,” and much more.

Oleniczak Brown said Fearless is a forprofit space where the cost of the classes (rentals, events and eventually membership) will generate the revenue for Fearless. She said she believes that everyone should get paid for teaching classes, and the cost of classes will be decided upon by the teachers. It will be split 60-40, where 60 percent of the total cost will go to the teachers and 40 percent will go toward Fearless. She said, of course, donations are always welcomed, “because if we build this together, everyone is going to feel ownership of it.”

On May 3, Oleniczak Brown is having a cleaning party to put the finishing touches on the space. Anyone who is curious can stop by, lend a hand or donate books by female authors.

If you are interested in being apart of Fearless, keep an eye out for the website (still in production), which will be housed under EE’s website (www.theengagingeducator.com/ ), the umbrella company of Fearless. Join the Facebook group by searching “Fearless Winston-Salem” for more updates. To contact Oleniczak Brown with any questions or to sign up for classes, email her at jen@theengagingeducator.com. !

KATIE MURAWSKI is the editor of YES! Weekly. She is from Mooresville, North Carolina and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in journalism with a minor in film studies from Appalachian State University in 2017.

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Saying ‘time’s up’ with Oliveoil Oprah Winfrey’s speech at the 2018 Golden Globes was the shot heard around the world.

After receiving the Cecil B. DeMille Award for Lifetime Achievement, she announced “their Katie Murawski time is up” referring to powerful men in the entertainment Editor industry and beyond that have used their stature to sexually abuse and discredit women speaking out against them. Hillary Norman, creator of Say It With Oliveoil clothing line and Jenn Hensel, co-designer and Norman’s business associate were among the millions of people who heard Oprah’s call to action.

Now, they are using their ideas and designs to help support the initiative while offering humorous and empowering attire for women in the Triad and beyond.

Norman said Say It With Oliveoil’s suggestiveness is supposed to be ironic and over exaggerated to make a point about how it feels for women to be objectified, and the brand strives to turn objectification into education. The brand’s name comes from the character Olive Oyl in the cartoon “Popeye.” Norman said this “downtrodden, anti-heroine” relied heavily on Popeye to save her from the villain Bluto (who repeatedly harasses her throughout the show).

“So I just wanted to take a character like that and sort of use it as a touchstone, or totem to remind us of how women saw themselves for a long time,” she said. “They saw themselves as relying on men for everything. I like taking a name reversing it, interpreting it differently and reinventing it.”

Norman said her designs are unapologetically feminist and humorous.

“It’s supposed to dredge up those urges to make people think,” Norman wrote in a text message.

Norman started another business and was doing custom designs and T-shirts for artists and musicians before she created Say It With Oliveoil.

“The immediacy of the design process was something I thought could be an interesting medium to explore as it pertained to things socially,” Norman said. “Especially with what is going on the #MeToo movement as well as the Time’s Up initiative.”

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From left to right: Mannequin-killer Fadia Perez-Cruz, Nefertete King and cupcake devourers Brie Goumaz and Susel Depinoy, hair and makeup by Fire Salon Norman said these two social movements involving women speaking out against sexual harassment in the public eye inspired her. She said she went to Savannah College of Art and Design and was educated to work out her feelings on things through design.

“It is a nice way to use art to make a point,” she said. “It is fun to be able to use it for something that resonates in society right now and affecting so many women.”

Norman said she is using her clothing line to raise money for the Time’s Up initiative, which according to its website (www.timesupnow.com/) is a legal defense fund (housed and administered through the National Women’s Law Center) and a “unified call for change from women in entertainment for women everywhere.” The initiative is powered by women and addresses the “systemic inequality and injustice in the workplace.”

According to the Say It With Oliveoil website, 5 percent of sales will be donated to the initiative.

Norman thinks it is an impactful way people can donate their money and raise awareness for women fighting against sexual discrimination and harassment in the workplace.

“Because it is those court cases [that are] setting a new precedent and will change the way the law is interpreted,” she said.

Norman also believes that instilling the fear of consequence in people is important to this movement and why it’s important to donate a percentage of sales to the initiative.

“You wear something that takes back a term that people throw at you for being a strong woman and remind them in a funny way of ‘yeah, I’m a ball buster. But I am proud of it and happy that I am a strong woman,’” she said. “I want it to be something that coexists with men, that invites them into the dialogue.”

Norman believes that having a sense of humor about this subject doesn’t condone or dismiss objectification, but rather combats and calls attention to it.

For instance, the brand features a bright green T-shirt with a tiger on it that reads “no catcalls.” Most of the designs come in bright “highlighter” colors that direct the attention of the gaze and forces people to reckon with objectification.

Norman asked me to be apart of her photoshoot for modeling the designs this past Sunday. Several local women came together at Fire Salon on Elm, to get hair and makeup done for the shoot at HQ in downtown Greensboro. I chose to model the “Year of the B*tch” design because I thought it was clever to reclaim a word describing bossy and powerful women while emphasizing that 2018 is (according to Chinese Zodiac) the year of the

dog. Hensel said her favorite design of the brand is the “objectify this” shirt that has a brain on the chest of the shirt.

“The project speaks to me because it allows women to express themselves all along the spectrum that modern feminism encompasses,” Hensel wrote in a text message. “Our core values of inclusivity, being responsive to trends in women’s lives and a focus on helping change the narrative.”

Norman said most of her merchandise is sustainably sourced because it is madeon-demand and with vegan leathers.

“Feminists are much less than a caricature that people make them out to be,” she said. “They care about the environment, they care about social justice issues, they care about animal rights, and if possible, I would like the brand to encompass all of that and not make it a question of sacrificing on one value or another when you shop.”

To learn more about Say It With Oliveoil, check out the website (www. sayitwitholiveoil.com) and social media pages (Instagram @oliveoilbrand and Facebook @sayitwitholiveoil). !

KATIE MURAWSKI is the editor of YES! Weekly. She is from Mooresville, North Carolina and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in journalism with a minor in film studies from Appalachian State University in 2017.

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[LEO (July 23 to August 22) Be careful not to let that Leonine pride keep you from seeking wise, experienced counsel before making an important decision.

A family member once again seeks your help.

[VIRGO (August 23 to September 22)

That surge of Virgo energy drives you to take on more work assignments. Be careful you don’t overdo it, or you might find yourself overdone: i.e., burned out.

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Your decision to be upfront with colleagues on a touchy matter causes some consternation at first. But in the end, your honesty wins their trust and admiration.

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21) As in the past, someone again wants to share a secret with you, knowing it will be safe. But do you really want to be this person’s confidante? Think about it.

[SAGITTARIUS (November 22 to December 21) As one of nature’s straight shooters, you seek to correct misconceptions about a project. Do so, of course, but without giving away too much too soon.

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[AQUARIUS (January 20 to February 18) Resolve lingering grumblings over your way of doing things by keeping your mind open to suggestions while continuing to show how your plans will work.

[PISCES (February 19 to March 20) The perceptive Piscean might find that changing course in midstream isn’t as workable as it would seem. Explore this option carefully before making a decision.

[ARIES (March 21 to April 19) Taking advice isn’t always easy for self-assured Rams and Ewes who think they know what’s best. But it wouldn’t hurt to listen to what close colleagues have to say.

[TAURUS (April 20 to May 20) You know how to balance life’s practical aspects with the poetic. This gives you a special edge this week in both your professional endeavors and your personal life.

[GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) Focus on keeping a balance between your homerelated activities and your workplace responsibilities. Be mindful of both without obsessing over one or the other.

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* You’ve almost certainly heard of narcolepsy, a medical condition that causes sufferers to sleep excessively, sometimes up to 18 hours a day. You’re probably not familiar with philagrypnia, though. People with this condition — I won’t call them “sufferers” — require only three or four hours of sleep a day. What would you do with all that extra time? * While at a Turkish bath in San Francisco, Samuel Clemens — better known to

us as Mark Twain — got involved in a chat with a local fireman. This may not seem at all interesting until you learn the name of that long-ago firefighter: Tom Sawyer.

The author liked the name so much that today, American schoolkids all know it. * Ever had to make a large claim to your insurance company? If you thought it was a pain to fill out all the paperwork and explain what happened, consider the plight of the poor soul who had to handle the claim in 2006 when a guard dog mauled a teddy bear that once belonged to Elvis Presley — the stuffed animal was valued at $80,000.

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A BRIEF HISTORY OF TAME

I’m a 45-year-old single guy seeking a long-term relationship. My problem is that when I’m interacting with a woman I’m attracted to, my abilAmy Alkon ity to read whether she’s interested in Advice me goes out the Goddess window. I suspect I’ve missed out on some great women because I couldn’t read their signals quickly enough. — Disappointed

Where you go wrong is in taking the hesitant approach to asking a woman out — waiting for her to give you some unambiguous indication of interest (ideally, in large red letters on a lighted billboard pulled by a pair of rented elephants).

That said, you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. The psychological operating system now driving you (and all of us) evolved to solve ancestral mating and survival problems, and what was adaptive back then can be maladaptive today.

Take how we evolved to be deeply concerned about safeguarding our reputation. Reputation is essentially our social report card — others’ evaluation of the sort of person we are. It matters today, of course, but not in the life-or-death way it often did in an ancestral environment, where — per anthropologist Irven De-

Vore’s estimate — many people were with the same band of about 25 others for much of their life. Back then, if a guy got snubbed by a girl, it would be front-cave news; everybody would know and be laughing behind his back in short order.

Flash-forward to today. You’re in a bar. Some woman you hit on spurns you.

Well, that stinks — and more so if there are witnesses. But there are countless other bars — which means you can erase the embarrassing stain on your social rap sheet simply by trotting down the block to the next happy hour.

Ultimately, recognizing the mismatch between our evolved emotions and modern life helps you understand when the emotions driving you are counterproductively outdated — and basically stupid. In short, assuming that a woman you’re chatting up isn’t giving you a hate glare, ask her out. If she isn’t interested, she’ll let you know — either right then, with some brushoff like “Actually, I have a boyfriend...” or later, when you phone her and hear: “Home Depot, lumber department. How may I direct your call?”

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I just accompanied my best friend on this extremely stressful trip to put her mom into assisted living. My friend vapes, and I started vaping, too, after being off nicotine for years. I bought a vape, but I’m hiding it from my wife because she’s so judgmental about it. I’m not ready to stop yet, but I feel awful hiding it. — Hooked What’s worse than the crime? The cover-up — when your wife asks “How

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was your day, honey?” and you just nod as vape smoke leaks out of your nostrils.

Your hiding your vaping is an “instrumental lie.” This kind of deceit, explains deception researcher Bella DePaulo, is a self-serving lie used as an “instrument” to unfairly influence other people’s behavior — allowing the liar to get what they want, do what they want, or avoid punishment.

Chances are, the “punishment” you’re avoiding is the rotten feelings you’d have in the wake of your wife’s dismay that your old BFF, nicotine, is back. However, DePaulo’s research on people duped by those close to them suggests that covering up the truth is ultimately more costly — leading to far more and far longerlasting feelbad.

It makes sense that the betrayal is the bigger deal because it socks the duped person right in the ego, telling them they were a sucker for being so trusting. In romantic situations, a duped person’s notion of the relationship as a safe space — a place where they can let their guard down — gets shaken or shattered when reality turns out to be “reality” in a fake nose and glasses.

Telling the truth, on the other hand — leaving your wife feeling disappointed, but not deceived — sets the stage for a discussion instead of a prosecution. This allows your wife the emotional space to see the real you — the you who broke down and started vaping while doing this emotionally grueling very kind deed.

(What?! You aren’t made of titanium?!)

Compassion from your wife should mean more leeway for you to set the behavioral agenda — to tell her that you want to stop but ask that she let you do it on your own timetable.

This isn’t to say you should always be perfectly or immediately honest. For example, if you prefer your wife with longer hair, that’s something she needs to know — eventually. But at that moment when she walks in with an “edgy” new haircut, “Helloo, beautiful!” is actually the best policy — as opposed to the more honest “Whoa! Stevie Wonder attack you with a pair of garden shears?” !

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