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The poster for MOSUL: MOTHER OF TWO SPRINGS, the documentary produced, co-written, and co-directed by international scholar and peace activist Noor Ghazi, features the subtitle “The story of Nineveh’s dark age, narrated by the ones who lived it.”

5 Philadelphia is the City of Brotherly Love, and it was there I met a brother I never had, DEAN GALANIS. On May 4th, the Dean Machine passed away in Los Angeles at the too-young age of 53.

6 At Wake Forest University’s Truist Field, the May 21 stop on his highly-anticipated 13city “GOT BACK” Tour, PAUL MCCARTNEY got back to where he belongs: on-stage to a crowd of nearly 32,000 adoring fans.

8 ...last week it was revealed that the city of Greensboro has agreed to pay gun show promoter Rodney Sorrell, almost $400,000 NOT TO HOLD HIS GUN SHOW at the Coliseum (or anywhere else within the city limits) for the next five years.

9 The events of these desperate (48) hours have been expertly encapsulated in the feature documentary Hold Your Fire. In the capable hands of multi-talented, multihyphenate filmmaker STEFAN FORBES

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11 36TH ANNUAL CAROLINA BLUES FESTIVAL 18 On May 17, Yvette Boulware, a court watcher for the Triad Abolition Project, was forcibly arrested by bailiff Terry Whitaker in Forsyth County Courthouse. The incident began with Whitaker ordering Boulware to remove the sunglasses atop her head.

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20 Part horror convention, part metal fest, the CAROLINA CHAINSAW MASSACRE FEST rips through the Triad, over two days and two cities; starting June 3 in Winston-Salem, followed by the main event in Greensboro on June 4.

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Noor Ghazi and Mosul: Mother of Two Springs

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he poster for Mosul: Mother of Two Springs, the documentary produced, co-written, and co-directed by international scholar and peace activist Noor Ian McDowell Ghazi, features the subtitle “The story of Nineveh’s dark age, Contributor narrated by the ones who lived it.”

Ghazi, a professor who lectures in Arabic at UNC-Greensboro and is a research scholar for UNC-Chapel Hill’s Conflict Management Initiative and visiting lecturer at the University of Mosul, recently told YES! Weekly why the central image of that poster is a headless statue of a winged bull, standing above a burning battle-ravaged city.

The statue represents a Lamassu, a celestial being in the religion of ancient Mesopotamia, often portrayed as a winged bull with a human head. In Nineveh, which in 600 BC was the largest city in the world, such monumental figures guarded the city’s walls, temples, and palaces.

The ancient ruins of Nineveh are across the Tigris River from the modern-day major city of Mosul, whose own devastation is of a far more recent vintage.

“Mosul is the center of the ancient Iraqi province of Nineveh, and has long been described as a melting pot of different religions and ethnic groups,” said Ghazi via email. “They lived together peacefully for thousands of years. Mosul housed many great civilizations, including the Assyrians, whose symbol of the winged bull stood at one of the many gates along Nineveh’s city walls, as a protective spirit and a symbol of the power of the Assyrian King.

Thus, it’s considered the face of the city.”

In 2014, ISIS militants seized Mosul and its museum, which contained the second largest collection of antiques in Iraq, and defaced or decapitated the Lamassu monuments with jackhammers.

“They targeted many archaeological sites and destroyed the majority of the ancient ruins. Thus, our documentary sheds light on how ISIS dealt with Christians and Yazidi people, and the genocide they committed against the peaceful Yazidi. And from there, with how social life changed under ISIS.” The Yazidi are an ethnic and religious YES! WEEKLY

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minority now living primarily in the Iraqi provinces of Nineveh and Duhok. During the genocide conducted by ISIS in 2014, 5,000 Yazidi civilians were killed and thousands of Yazidi women and girls were forced into sexual slavery.

Ghazi said she and Naire Emad Bahjat, the film’s editor and other director, had lengthy discussions about the title of their film.

“We agreed the name of ISIS shouldn’t appear on the poster, as we didn’t want to give them this publicity. Instead, we thought of the city because those are the stories of its people. Since Mosul is known as The Mother of Two Springs, we thought this might be more suitable to have as a title, to give publicity to the peaceful city instead of the invaders.”

When asked how she met Bahjat and co-writers Marwan Yaseen and Dr. Hijran al-Salihi, Ghazi explained a mutual friend online introduced her to them during Iraq’s October Revolution of 2019 when the country’s central government blocked all social media.

“Many of us were posting heavily on what was happening on the ground after the internet blockage. I was already working on a project with a team in Iraq, but in 2020, we weren’t doing as much work as I expected, especially with the editing process. So, I reached out to Naire and asked her to work with me on directing the movie, as she has a background in directing and editing.”

Ghazi said the idea for the film was one she had been developing for some time

Noor Ghazi overlooking Mosul before she met the camera crew while in Iraq on a peacemaking project. “I was invited for an interview on Iraq national TV, in which we talked about the liberation of Mosul. The cameraman was from the city and was interested in working with me after I shared the idea.”

Ghazi had previously met her line producer while visiting Iraq on an earlier peace mission in 2018. “The conference I attended was regarding conflict mapping in Iraq and many professors from different universities in Iraq were invited, including Dr. Hijran Ahmed from Mosul University, who was also interviewed in the documentary. Since he has connections in Mosul, I reached out to him after I returned to the USA to conduct more interviews.”

The premiere of Mosul: Mother of Two Springs was hosted by the UNC Center for Middle East and Islamic Studies and the North Carolina Consortium for Middle East Studies at Chapel Hill’s Nelson Mandela Auditorium last month, and was also shown at UNCG.

“The main plan for the documentary was education firsthand. For next semester, the documentary will tour other universities to reach more audiences, especially students who need to be educated on those international topics.”

This summer, Mosul: Mother of Two Springs will have its Iraq premiere at the Grand University Theater in Mosul University.

“I feel like this is the reward. The true victory for the people of Mosul who suffered under ISIS,” said Ghazi. “A few years ago, the theater was severely damaged by ISIS and turned into a pile of rubble and ashes. Today, it is back to life to show ISIS atrocity. The theater is the biggest hall in Iraq’s Nineveh governorate, with about 1,500 seats. There’s no better way for a place to tell a story.” !

IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.

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Dean Galanis (1969-2020): Filmmaker. Friend. Hero.

Philadelphia is the City of Brotherly Love, and it was there I met a brother I never had, Dean Galanis.

On May 4th, the Dean Machine passed away in Los Angeles at the too-young age of 53.

Mark Burger We were both students at Temple UniContributor versity. We instantly bonded over movies (of course). He was going to be the Great Director and I the Great Critic. We were also competing for the favors of the same girl.

What happened next? Six months later, Dean and I moved in together. We were roommates for two years.

As it turned out, we never vied for the same girl ever again. We simply had different tastes in women.

His favorite actor was Jeff Bridges, mine is Gene Hackman. By the time we met, we were already well-versed in Blake Edwards, John Carpenter, David Cronenberg, Martin Scorsese, Brian De Palma, Cannon Films, Hammer Films, James Bond, Charles Bronson, Star Trek, Star Wars, SCTV, Kolchak: The Night Stalker, Sharky’s Machine, The Wild Geese …

There were also the bad movies we revered: Orca, Slaughter High, and the Neil Diamond version of The Jazz Singer.

I turned him on to This is Spinal Tap, Twilight’s Last Gleaming, Columbo, and It’s a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World (we both thought Jonathan Winters was maybe the funniest human being on Earth). He turned me on to Sergio Leone, ELO (Electric Light Orchestra), John Waters (which took some time) and, most importantly, tolerance.

For reasons I cannot fathom, I was not a particularly nice person at that time. (Hard to believe, I know.) My sense of humor, admittedly caustic and cynical, was then corrosive and even cruel. It was Dean and another college roommate, Rich Krygiel, who convinced me to lighten up, take things as they come, not make presuppositions, and enjoy myself. They could not have been more correct.

In pop-culture terms, Dean and I were The Odd Couple. Reruns of the Tony Randall/Jack Klugman were inescapable back in the day, and there always seemed to be an episode on television. He was a less-fussy Felix and I a less-messy Oscar, but in every episode there would be a line or a look that mirrored our friendship. I don’t think I’ve ever laughed more WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

than I did with Dean. One time I made an off-handed (and undoubtedly obnoxious) quip, he looked at me and deadpanned “You are a horrible human being.” “Thank you,” I replied — and we both cracked up.

Dean served two tours of duty with the Marine Corps in Kuwait during the Gulf War. As far as I’m concerned, that makes him a true-blue American hero, and few things rankled Dean more than certain politicians who had never served a day in any service disparaging the military. During his stint in Kuwait, I even sent him “care packages” which usually included cheap cigars, a recent issue of Playboy (the ones featuring interviews with Martin Scorsese and the Coen Brothers), and audio cassettes of Howard Stern’s radio show and bad ‘70s music. Hey, it was the least I could do.

We were able to gift each other with our respective “holy grails”: Mine was an early ‘80s Jaws rip-off called Great White, which was considered such a blatant copy that Universal Pictures had it pulled from theaters. His was a mid-‘70s Bob Hope murder/mystery comedy special called Joys, which if nothing else has the distinction of being Groucho Marx’s final appearance.

Neither of these could be considered “holy” in any way. Embarrassing, yes. Holy, no.

Over the years, our insults and putdowns never abated, but were always in fun, and we almost never argued seriously — aside from movies, of course.

After I moved, first to Florida and then North Carolina, I would periodically visit Dean in Philadelphia (little coaxing required) and we’d attend the inevitable Phillies game. How we loved our beleaguered and frequently bedeviled Philadelphia sports teams. Dean leaned more toward the Eagles and Flyers, I more toward the Phillies. It was nice to sit back, first at Veterans Stadium and then Citizens Bank Park, and enjoy a ballgame … even when they lost. We did, however, see some wins.

In 2008, I e-mailed Dean a litany of selfpitying excuses and reasons why the Phillies would not win the 2008 World Series and how Philadelphia is a cursed sports town. His response was simple, direct, and (thank God) accurate: “This time it’s different. This time we’re going to win.”

It was in 2018 that I last saw Dean, when he and my friend Matt Holly summoned me to Los Angeles following the death of my mother to watch Super Bowl LII. It was there that we witnessed something I never thought I’d see in my lifetime: We watched

the Philadelphia Eagles win their first Super Bowl.

Perhaps Dean should have headed to California earlier to pursue his filmmaking career, but he was doing well at TLA Video in Philadelphia and, besides, he might not have met Emily Eggan, who would become his wife. Appropriately enough, they met on set. Isn’t that how it works in Hollywood?

Emily’s a doll and a tough cookie. She and Dean shared an intense, even ferocious, loyalty — whether to friends or family or each other. It’s a shame that Dean and I won’t “grow old together” as friends, but it’s worse that he and Emily don’t get to grow old together because theirs was a relationship to behold.

My life will be a little emptier without Dean Galanis, but it’s a lot fuller that he was in it.

To paraphrase a line from one of our favorite movies, Brian De Palma’s The Fury: “Dean was my friend. Maybe the best friend I’ll ever have.” !

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Harmonious Ring: Past and Present meet during Paul McCartney’s visit At Wake Forest University’s Truist Field, the May 21 stop on his highly-anticipated 13-city “GOT BACK” Tour, Paul McCartney got back to where he belongs: on-stage to a crowd of nearly 32,000 Katei Cranford adoring fans. Charisma reverberated across the audience, Contributor for whom McCartney paid tribute and bestowed gratitude through the evening — clocking 36 songs over roughly 2.5 hours of nonstop hits and story time banter.

Mixing material throughout the ages, “Can’t Buy Me Love” kicked things off with a Beatles-Wings sandwich: “Junior’s Farm” and “Letting Go,” followed by “Got to Get You Into My Life;” chased with the McCartney single, “Come On to Me,” before Wings’ “Let Me Roll It” meshed with a “Foxy Lady” jam amongst memories of Jimi Hendrix’s response to Sgt. Pepper.

“He broke out in London, you know,” McCartney said, recalling Hendrix having learned the record over the weekend it came out, and laying into “Getting Better.”

With a move to the piano — one of the many effortless instrument switches over the evening — McCartney plucked away a rousing “Let ‘Em In,” followed by “My Valentine,” a dedication to his wife, and “Nineteen Hundred and Eighty-Five.”

Tender moments continued with a photo backdrop of a younger Paul swaddling an infant Stella McCartney during “Maybe I’m Amazed.” “The baby on the screen in my jacket now has four babies of her own,” he said. “One just graduated college.”

“Where does the time go?” he mused for about a half-a-second — moving into “We Can Work it Out,” extolling history lessons during the arguably historic moment. The

show itself was his first time in WinstonSalem; and, as he relayed later in the evening, the set list featured songs (like “You Never Give Me Your Money,”) never played live before this tour.

But first, McCartney took the crowd “back through the mists of time,” to “a little port in the North of England called Liverpool.” The era of the Quarrymen, a group of guys who “got together, formed a band and did ok,” he said, playing humble, and recalling the five-members pooling a pound a piece to cut a single.

The single being “In Spite of All the Danger,” which in spite of all the traffic headache folks encountered, whoa-ohoh’s soared through the stadium in unison — hitting a full swell during the following, “Love Me Do.” “And to this day, if I listen to the record, I can hear the wobble in my voice,” McCartney relayed during the biographical prelude — tales of hitting London and hooking up with George Martin.

In the flurry of the Beatles, it’s easy to forget they were once a group of guys from the north of England. “Terrified,” as McCartney referenced, in the face of big cities and big studios. Though any insecurities have long since been drowned out by generations of “Beatles screams,” which rang that night in North Carolina.

Rising above the crowd, the band took a backseat, with McCartney solo and acoustic: illuminated against cool blue tones as melodies of “Blackbird” flew into the darkening night.

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a bit of personal satisfaction for himself — McCartney enjoys hearing from those who’ve attempted to learn the song for themselves. “Anybody here try to learn Blackbird?” he asked amusedly. “Well. You got it wrong.”

“But thanks for trying anyway,” he added, shifting back into stories and sage advice around “Here Today,” which he wrote after the death of John Lennon. “If you got something to tell someone, tell them.”

Taking his own advice, McCartney toyed with the crowd and existence in his own shadow. Against an appropriately galactic backdrop, “when we play a Beatles song, the place lights up with your phones. And it’s like a galaxy of stars,” he said with whimsy, adding the playful punch: “but when we do a new song, it’s like a black hole.”

Eschewing concern, “but we don’t care, we’re going to do them anyway,” McCartney descended, rejoining the band for “New;” and a few tourism board jokes into “Lady Madonna,” “Fuh You,” and “Being for the Benefit of Mr. Kite!”

With a career spanning six decades, McCartney understands audience connection with a flair for rhetorical back-and-forth that lands intimately, even in a packed football stadium. Reading signs in the audience — tossing zingers about signing butts — he remained cheeky, polite and full of adoration for his former cohorts.

“Not many people know that George Harrison’s a really good ukulele player,” McCartney said, knocking on the instrument in hand. “He actually gave me this

one. It’s a Gibson,” he said, with a casual “pretty cool,” and relaying an exchange between the two Beatle buds like it’s no big deal.

“I was around at his house one day, and we were just jamming together on two ukuleles,” he continued, “and I said to him, ‘I’ve learned one of your songs on ukulele.’ So we played it together that day. And I’d like to play it for you now.”

Strumming sweetly into “Something,” he was soon supported by the soft whoos and sing-alongs in the audience — to whom he thanked. “And thank you, George,” he added, “for writing that beautiful song.”

Sing-alongs continued, by official invitation, into “Ob-La-Di, Ob-La-Da.” “Ok. This next one here, we’re going to ask you

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BY JOSHUA RIDLEY Marketing & Communications Manager Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) month is observed in the United States during the month of May and recognizes the contributions and influence of Asian Americans and Pacific Islander Americans to the history, culture, and achievements of the United States. Arts Council of Winston-Salem & Forsyth County recognizes our AAPI artists and their contributions to theatre, music, dance, visual art, and much more.

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to sing along, ok?” McCartney instructed, “in the middle somewhere, I will shout ‘now you’ and you will sing most gloriously.

A glorious “Life goes on” echoed across the field, followed by “You Never Give Me Your Money” and “She Came in Through the Bathroom Window.” With a wink, McCartney kicked into “Get Back.” “I won’t ask if you’re having a good time,” McCartney said. “I can tell you are.”

Serving interlude into “Let It Be,” a sea of phone lights set the stadium aglow.

“Thank you for those brilliant lights,” he said — rolling right into an explosive “Live and Let Die,” with a pyrotechnics extravaganza and McCartney at the flaming piano like the Killer on his throne.

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quil experience — an exciting precursor to the exalted “Hey Jude.” Cool winds wafted amongst the jubilee of a stadium crowd singing the chorus. McCartney remarked on the sweet sounds of the audience, voices melting together in the muggy piedmont night. Phones like fireflies. Smiles, a stadium-wide.

McCartney exited the stage with a soft “thank you” — returning promptly for a six-song encore — ensconced with flags (including those for the U.K., U.S., N.C., Rainbow and Ukraine). Starting with a special, virtual, duet for “I’ve Got A Feeling,” the track featured Lennon’s vocals, isolated from “The Beatles: Get Back” series. “How about that?” McCartney mused. “We were together again.”

A cheeky “Birthday” dedication to “anyone having a birthday within the next year” lightened the mood — a ripping space-aged “Helter Skelter” followed, along with “Golden Slumbers” and a chorus for “Carry That Weight” carried by a cacophony of 30-some thousand people.

“The End,” a favored closer, culminated the historic show with fireworks and a fond farewell.

If “the love you take is equal to the love you make,” it’s clear: McCartney has made good. “I said at the end of the last tour that I’d see you next time,” he explained of the tour’s title. “I said I was going to get back to you. Well, I got back!”

McCartney got back, all right. And it felt like we all belonged. !

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Thao Nguyen is an actor, singer, songwriter, and vocal coach based in Winston-Salem, NC. Nguyen has worked with The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem and Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance as an actor, and wig and makeup artist. Nguyen graduated with a degree in Vocal Performance from the University of North Carolina School of the Arts in 2013. Nguyen and his family immigrated to the United States from Vietnam in 1992 to Hartford, CT. When asked what his favorite part of working as a full-time artist is, Nguyen responded, “Its life giving.

I am so grateful to be in a position in life where the work I do gives me life. I love being an artist.”

Nguyen has been a full-time artist since graduating from UNCSA in 2013. In addition to acting, wigs and makeup, Thao Nguyen has directed, choreographed, and has served as music director in various productions. Most recently, Thao Nguyen played the role of Mickey Marcus in The Little Theatre of WinstonSalem’s production of The Normal Heart.

“I try to be as well-rounded as I can so I can fit into different puzzle pieces,” Nguyen expressed. He shared that he often does not feel seen as an Asian American. “I have to insist myself upon different roles because otherwise I am not seen in them.” He added the anecdote of different directors thanking him for allowing them to see Nguyen in such roles.

“My hope for the future is to see more minority people on stage,” Nguyen shared. “I don’t want it to feel novel. I want the stage to reflect the life that we live every day.” Thao Nguyen added, “Winston-Salem is awesome. They have seen me and have embraced who I am.”

RUAN WALKER

Ruan Walker fell in love with theatre at a young age. Her first theatrical experience was when she was in the 7th grade at a WS/FCS summer enrichment program.

Walker recalls falling in love with the opportunity to become someone new and being able to tell new stories.

Walker has acted in different productions at Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance. She says that dancing in ensembles is where her passion lies. She values community theatre because everyone who comes together goes by choice. It’s people with busy lives who have careers, but they come to theatre because it is where their passions lie.

Ruan Walker was adopted from China at age three. “It wasn’t until I came into theatre that I realized I was Asian,” expressed Walker. “I was not raised in Asian culture because I have white parents.”

Because of theatre, Ruan Walker was able to discover parts of herself and tell her story through art. During the pandemic, Walker recalls feeling isolated. She shared that during the lockdown she reached out to other Chinese adoptees to share stories and relate to each other.

“I am Chinese-American,” stated Walker. “America is a melting pot. We are not just one thing. We are made up of different, beautiful parts of ourselves.”

When asked what her hope for the future was, Walker said, “I want more stories written through the Asian perspective. Not just stories written about Asian people . . . more stories about Asian -Americans, Asian-British, and so on.”

Ruan Walk can be seen on stage in Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance’s production of Cabaret which opens Friday, May 27.

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uring the final battle in “Star Trek, the Undiscovered Country,” Klingon General Chang incessantly quotes Shakespeare while Spock and Dr. Jim Longworth McCoy try frantically to prepare a torpedo that will put the Longworth chatty villain out at Large of his misery. “I’d give real money if he’d shut up,” said McCoy. And so, even centuries into the future, we humans are willing to pay for someone not to do something. In Dr. McCoy’s case, he was willing to pay Chang not to talk. This kind of selfinflicted, or reverse extortion is nothing new.

During World War II, the federal government provided support to America’s farmers to help them ramp up crop production. After all, an army travels on its

Gun shows paid not to show stomach. But, according to farmingbase. com, patriotic growing soon exceeded demand and, by war’s end, we were left with an “oversupply for basic crops such as corn, cotton, tobacco, rice, peanuts, and wheat.” Soon, the government found itself paying farmers NOT to grow certain crops. Eventually price support became a political hot potato (pardon the pun), and folks who struggled to make ends meet, weren’t too happy about their tax dollars paying farmers (including large conglomerates) not to farm. That’s when the Feds started putting a spin on the compensation program. According to PBS News Hour’s Robert Frank, the justification was that retiring acreage would reduce fertilizer and pesticide run-off into the nation’s water supply. Said Frank, “The Federal government described the price support program as an environmental program rather than an ‘income maintenance scheme.’”

But agriculture wasn’t the only industry affected by the “pay not to play” system. For decades now, it has been common practice for top executives, TV

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anchorpersons, and others to be paid huge salaries in return for signing a noncompete contract. In other words, “we’ll compensate you extremely well now, so that whenever you leave, you can’t work for the competition.” And then there’s the more recent “catch and kill” scheme in which a newspaper or media outlet is paid to sit on a story that it owns, to the benefit of the person who paid them not to publish that story. The thought of an editor being paid not to publish something is offensive, but then, so is a city government paying a vendor not to vend, and that brings me to the Greensboro gun show saga.

For as long as I can remember, gun and knife shows have been held at the Greensboro Coliseum. But, given the rise in mass shootings and a growing feeling among many on the left that gun manufacturers and ineffective laws are to blame for the carnage, some venues across the country are being pressured not to book these weapons extravaganzas. To that end, last week it was revealed that the city of Greensboro has agreed to pay gun show promoter Rodney Sorrell, almost $400,000 NOT to hold his gun show at the Coliseum (or anywhere else within the city limits) for the next five years.

Just as the Feds once put a spin on price supports, a Coliseum spokesperson did his part by telling the News & Record that not having gun shows would free up the facility for holding “youth sporting events.” Meanwhile, managing director Matt Brown says that the city

can make more money from hosting other types of events. But invoking youth and new revenue streams amounts to nothing less than gaslighting the public, who was left out of the loop on the decision to pay a gun show not to show up.

It’s also ironic and runs counter to local efforts to curb gun violence because in 2018, city council voted to designate gun show revenues to a program that rewards citizens for reporting illegal guns.

Paying someone NOT to do something is always problematic for one reason or another. It’s also self-inflicted extortion.

In this case, the City of Greensboro isn’t being extorted by the gun promoter.

Rather, the city voluntarily offered Sorrell a fat paycheck when Matt Brown pointed a gun at his own head and said, “Please take our money.” Yes, our gun laws need to be more comprehensive, but we also need to be careful about canceling legal events, much less paying them not to occur. True, Mr. Brown has sole authority to deal with contracts, but he is still a City employee.

Moreover, he is the City’s highest-paid employee, yet doesn’t seem to answer to anyone, including the taxpayers.

Perhaps as we re-evaluate the way we regulate guns, we also need to reevaluate the parameters of Mr. Brown’s autonomy before he pulls the trigger on any more deals. !

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n a frigid January night in 1973, four African-American men attempted to rob guns from a sporting goods shop in Brooklyn. That Mark Burger none of the perpetrators had ever attempted anything Contributor like this before quickly became evident when the heist went wrong and was followed by the longest hostage siege in the history of the New York City Police Department.

The events of these desperate (48) hours have been expertly encapsulated in the feature documentary Hold Your Fire.

In the capable hands of multi-talented, multi-hyphenate filmmaker Stefan Forbes (writer/producer/ cinematographer/editor/director), the film is absorbing from beginning to end, a timely exploration of an incident described as “the birthplace of hostage negotiation.”

The botched heist came on the heels of the Attica prison riots in 1971 and the subsequent bank robbery in Brooklyn in 1972 immortalized in the classic 1975 film Dog Day Afternoon, at a time when relations between the police and the community, particularly minorities, did not enjoy a particularly cordial or supportive relationship. Alas, the same could be said of current relations between police and minorities, unfortunately.

Yet, the situation could have been far worse. True, one of the robbers was wounded and a police officer killed during the siege, but the police refrained from storming the shop with guns blazing.

Instead, they turned to Harvey Schlossberg, a police officer with a degree in psychology, who attempted to negotiate with the robbers. Schlossberg, who died in 2021, is described as a “genius, oddball, psycho-babble kind of guy,” but his methods had merit. Knowing all along WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

that if the situation exploded in his face that he would likely be the fall guy, it was his sincere belief that by appealing to the robbers’ humanity — to say nothing of their fear — could conceivably prevent further violence.

Many of the surviving participants in the siege are interviewed, including Shu’aib Raheem and Dawud Rohman, two of the four gunmen. The media identified the robbers as being members of the Black Liberation Army, although their ties to that organization appear rather sketchy.

Raheem, the leader of the gang, admits without hesitation that the decision to rob the store was a stupid one. It was poorly planned (obviously) and they were in no way prepared for what followed.

They were operating in full panic mode, which did not bode well for a positive, peaceful outcome.

Arguably the most compelling interview is the one with Jerry Riccio, the owner of the store, who managed — against considerable odds — to keep his cool and would eventually emerge as the most heroic figure of the entire ordeal. He details the behavior of the robbers and the hostages, as well as the police outside, and he’s not unsympathetic to his captors, although he does question some of the tactics employed by the police before Schlossberg (who is also interviewed) arrived on the scene.

During the siege, there was the inevitable media circus, which became crazier and more dangerous as the hours ticked away and the tensions increased. Forbes keeps the suspense simmering throughout, augmented by vintage news footage and radio bulletins. Even better, he humanizes the participants — both cops and robbers — to allow a better understanding of the circumstances surrounding the robbery, the siege, and its aftermath. There would be traumatic consequences for some, but there would also be lessons learned that had a positive impact — and would continue to do so to the present day. !

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“When he discovered that the money had been frozen, he attempted to have it released by producing a fabricated pardon purportedly signed by former President Donald Trump,” the U.S. Attorney’s Office said in a news release. One of Leszczynski’s fake charities was trying to seize control of two properties that belonged to Jeffrey Epstein, the disgraced financier who died in prison while awaiting trial on sex-trafficking charges. Leszczynski is being held without bail at the Pinellas County Jail.

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During a preliminary hearing on May 16 in Saginaw County (Michigan) District Court, a 32-year-old unidentified woman testified that her “friend with benefits,” 29-year-old Cortez L. Gill, accidentally shot her once on Nov. 11 — but then proceeded to shoot her eight more times as she and her child struggled to escape him. MLive.com reported that the victim explained that she and Gill “tussled” over some car keys and he pulled out a gun, which he lowered to the ground. “The gun goes off and the bullet hit me ... in my abdomen. ... I was like, ‘Cortez, I got hit. You have to call the police or get me in the car and take me to the hospital immediately.’” Instead, she said, Gill replied, “You see what you made me do?” and fired again at her, hitting her in the chest.

She and her daughter ran outside, where she collapsed in a neighbor’s yard. The next thing she remembers is waking up in a hospital on the day before Thanksgiving, where she learned that she had been shot nine times in total. Gill was bound over for trial.

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of Stephen Sharp, a night manager at an Arby’s restaurant there. On May 10, Fox11-TV reported, Sharp admitted that he had downloaded and distributed child pornography. After conducting a search of his digital devices, police also found a video of him urinating into a container of milkshake mix from Arby’s. He confessed that he had done so at least twice for sexual gratification. Sharp said it would have been added to another bag of mix and used during the next shift to make shakes for customers. Officers are seeking people who might have ordered a shake on Oct. 30 or 31, 2021, and still have a receipt; Sharp is facing multiple charges and eating institutional food at the Clark County jail.

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Kingsland, Arkansas, about 70 miles south of Little Rock, is the birthplace of Johnny Cash, and the town has honored him with a silhouette of the Man in Black on its water tower, The Wichita Eagle reported. But when Betty Graham, water office manager, arrived at her office early on May 11, she noticed what she first thought was a leak from the tower. Later she realized a sharpshooter had hit the tank right at Cash’s sweet spot, creating the illusion that the famous singer is relieving himself. Graham said it could take at least a week to repair the damage; in the meantime, comments on a local Facebook page ranged from “would be a better tourist attraction than Old Faithful” to “Someone here knows who did this. I hope they’ll come forward and turn the vandal in.” “People think it’s funny, but a lot of hard work and effort went into getting the grant to get this painted,” Graham said.

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Students at Johns Hopkins University are putting their expensive education to good use. Whiting School of Engineering students have invented Tastee Tape for their school’s Engineering Design Day, United Press International reported. The chemical and biomolecular engineering students hope their invention will help themselves and others make their favorite foods less messy by taping burritos, tacos and other dishes closed, keeping the fillings inside. “All its ingredients are safe to consume, are food-grade, and are common food and dietary additives,” said team member Tyler Guarino. They are in the process of obtaining a patent. !

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Young, Black, & Blues played into Blues & Foods Market for a sweet sounding weekend

Greensboro, NC – Last weekend was the fantastic ending of NC Blues Week curated by Piedmont Blues Preservation Society. From farmer’s markets to libraries to clubs, there have been events for most of the last two weeks! The 36th Annual Carolina Blues Festival and Blues & Foods Market were definitely the cherry on top. The 8 hour music festival lineup was full of both celebrated and emerging talent. The theme Young, Black, and Blues was a rousing call for equity from Blues originators and if you were there you could easily understand how all these artists came to be on this stage.

Vanessa Collier’s explosive vocals and horn playing had an urgency and power that delightfully resounded through the park.

Jontavious Willis surprised everyone with a trio! While Willis played electric guitar, Richmond-based Andrew Alli blew a mean harp joined

by Big John’s impressive bass thumping. Jayy Hopp,, who played earlier, got behind the drum kit.

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Vanessa Collier (above) played the golden hour set and as the night cooled, things started to heat up!

The lovely Blues Music Award’s Female Contemporary Artist of the Year had fun spending time with the audience and vendors.

PBPS 2022 Lifetime Achievement Award went to Arnett Diggs, Sr known for his band, AJ & Company, as well as playing with House of Dues & Roy Roberts

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AJ & Company (above) and Row Cook played a nostalgic set of soul and funk during Sunday’s Blues & Foods oods Market at Center City Park. Photo Credit: Martha Powell

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On behalf of the Board of Trustees of Piedmont Blue Preservation Society (PBPS), I would like to not only thank but also congratulate our community and sponsors on a successful cultural presentation of NC Blues Week, including the 36th Annual Carolina Blues Festival: Young, Black, & Blues. Our volunteers are dedicated and creative. Tourists often comment on our friendly fanbase and the comfort level of the experience. That is the greatest compliment to all who share their time to make our festival and our community great. The talent level of the artists we book has consistently met expectations and, by all accounts this year, exceeded them. Our artists travelled from Wisconsin, Texas, Georgia, Tennessee, Virginia, & Mississippi. There was laughter and liquor, ribs and ruminations….reunions with neighbors and remembrances of those not present. This is our tradition. Thirty-six years of song and dance and we have decided, like we do every year, that we still want more.

In my role as Board President and acting Executive Director I have learned so much about the Blues community, and about myself. The intentional work we do around equity inside and outside the organization has transformed my relationships with community members and now impacts other institutions. Piedmont Blues Preservation Society has found a new path. That path is Building Blues Futures and a new model for how a 21st century Blues organization functions. To that end, we are developing a strategic plan that learns from the 20th century while it accelerates towards the future.

On February 16th, 2021, we read the words of three young, celebrated Black musicians as they shared their experiences with the world in an open letter on Facebook. Marquise Knox (age 31 , National Endowment of the Arts, Heritage Fellowship recipient), Jontavious Willis (age 26, Grammy Nominee, Blues Music Award Winner), & Christone “Kingfish” Ingram (age 23, Grammy Winner, Blue Music Award Winner) were honest and vulnerable. They want their culture to be acknowledged properly and to dispel the myth that Black people and especially Black youth have abandoned our Folk art, the Blues. We are grateful to these artists for using their voice and for trusting us to curate content that could amplify their ideas. The Blues Foundation partnered with us so we could reach a national audience for Young, Black, & Blues: A Virtual Discussion that took place on May 15th, 2022.

Our 37-year-old volunteer run organization has been consistently moved by the dedication and commitment of members & volunteers that gets us by each year. It remains a privilege and an honor to share the joy and perspectives of Blues, a culture and legacy of Black American families, with many other cultures and people of different communities. It is responsibility. We encourage our community to continue to engage in not only the fandom of the Blues music but in the depth of Blues as culture & American history. That culture includes foods, literature, dance, visual art, and, most importantly, education. We are grateful to programming partners including NC Music Hall of Fame, Historic Magnolia House, Greensboro Bound, Greensboro Farmer’s Curb Market, The Flat Iron, The Ramkat, The Blind Tiger, North Carolina Folk Festival, and others who have made space for us, opened arms to embrace our work and mission in symphony with their own.

It’s only right that Piedmont Blues Preservation Society, which can always work towards doing more, keep trying. To that end, we need your help. Donations (all tax deductible) are the only thing that can match & multiply the time and energy supplied by our volunteers. Give to our organization knowing that your funds bring culture to classrooms, smiles to the community, and dancing to our parks! You will also be supporting a cultural legacy of self-love and empathy. We appreciate you!

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tephanie Miles didn’t know how the Triad would receive the concept of Intravenous (IV) Hydration but she knew it was something that she wanted to try.

Chanel Davis Having seen it in other places, the Winston-Salem naEditor tive and Carver High School graduate was eager to bring it to the city and share its benefits.

“I had heard about IV hydration many, many years ago but I only saw it with celebrities, on reality TV shows, and in larger cities and states like California,” Miles explained. “It was very popular there but it wasn’t well known around here, and still isn’t, so I kind of dismissed the idea.”

IV SMiles Hydration and Wellness, located at 2200 Silas Creek Parkway Suite 6B, offers different types of IV therapy designed to the clients’ needs. Intravenous (IV) hydration is the administration of vitamins and fluids directly into the bloodstream, which allows the recipient to absorb 100 percent of the vitamins and nutrients given by bypassing the digestive system. The alternative wellness service can be used for everything from boosting one’s metabolism, helping to get rid of a migraine, boosting your immune system, fitness recovery, or simply fighting dehydration.

Miles opened the center in March 2021, after finally settling on the idea in January, filing for her LLC, and taking a business class on the subject.

“I just kept seeing it and thinking about it, so I started doing some research. I had worked in the emergency room for nine years, so I can start an IV in my sleep but I’d never been an entrepreneur or a business owner before,” she said. “You know when something is on your mind really, really heavy, that’s usually God. It’s usually a push. I just jumped out there and opened it up.”

The gamble has paid off in a big way for Miles. Her business has taken off in a big way. So much so that she ended up quitting her full-time job as a nurse practitioner at an internal medicine and pain management office in Lexington.

While her family and friends were the first to support her, her business has grown beyond that.

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on TV so that’s making them Google and search it again,” Miles said. “The feedback has been awesome. At first, I was worried because I knew I was introducing something to the area that people weren’t familiar with. So at first, I was like ‘Lord, I’m having to educate people.’ It’s a lot of trust that goes along with it. But I’ve been in Winston my entire life, been a nurse for many years, and now a nurse practitioner for three years. So people trust and believe what I say and know that I have their best interest at heart.”

The proof is in the testimonials, listed on the website and social media platforms of IV SMiles Hydration and Wellness, next to smiling customers. If you have time, Miles can tell you a few stories of satisfied customers. She said that she often gets messages from people telling her how good they feel or how much energy they have.

“They’ll text me that they cleaned out

the whole garage or closet the next day or two days later. They just get this energy that they didn’t have before and they talk about how good they felt.”

Miles said she even has clients that feel the effects of the IV therapy when the drip is going or right after they finish treatment.

“They are like ‘man is this a placebo effect’ because they feel good.”

She said that she sees a major response in those who come in for migraine and hangover treatment.

“Clients come in here with headaches that are eight or nine out of 10 on the pain scale. By the time the drip is halfway done, they’re down to two out of 10. The next day the migraine is gone,” Miles said.

“This is after suffering from a migraine for three days, trying all of their prescribed medications, and nothing seems to work.

Then they come and get the migraine remedy, and it takes care of it.”

Miles said that the instant relief is because she’s sending vitamins directly into the bloodstream versus through the digestive tract, as one would if one took the vitamins orally. While vitamins are great, Miles also said that hydration is also key.

“Most of us don’t drink enough water as we should anyway so the fluid alone helps because it helps to rehydrate you and then adding the vitamins is like icing on the cake,” she said. “You can get all the different benefits of boosting your immune system, your energy, helping your hair, skin and nails with the biotin, improving metabolism, performance and recovery.”

Offering services like the Plain Jane, basic fluid to keep you hydrated; Immune Bounce Back, a blend of IV fluids, vitamins and antioxidants to help one recover from post-cold/flu/COVID/illness symptoms faster; a Migraine Cocktail, a blend of

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Miles’ set-up allows for group appointments

Stephanie Miles and Josh Howard IV fluids with B vitamins, Magnesium, Toradol and Zofran that helps with headaches; The Glow, a blend of IV fluids with B-complex, Biotin, Glutathione, and Vitamin C to help with hair, skin and nail growth, collagen building and anti-aging.

Drips like the G.O.A.T. Athlete aid in post and pre-workouts and treatments, Slim Goodie in weight loss, the Myer’s Cocktail for allergies, acute and chronic pain, and the Energizer to combat fatigue. Miles also offers D3, B12, and Lipo C injections.

Miles said that the demand for a particular drip depends on the season.

“When I first started the Energizer was the most popular. Everybody was fatigued and wanted that energy and the B12. Then COVID hit and got worse, so the immune drip became the most popular,” she said. “Right now, because it’s allergy season, the Myers Cocktail is the most popular. Throughout the year, everyone is usually getting the Slim Goodie, which helps boost your metabolism and burn fat.”

Miles tries to sneak a drip in herself at least once a month, admitting that she’s not the biggest water drinker.

“I know that I need the basic hydration.

It is hard sticking myself, which I have done before, but now I try to utilize one of my nursing friends. When they come, I’ll have them start me a line so I can get my drips in, too. When I feel run down, I can add B12 to it to help with my energy.”

Ever the nurse practitioner, Miles points out that there are no side effects but she does work to rule out certain health conditions where “it may not be safe or be contraindicated.” Those looking to receive treatment must sign a consent form and fill out a medical history form. She said, unlike a spa, she asks about current medicines, allergies, chronic conditions, and pregnancy. She will not do IV hydration on those with congestive heart failure or chronic kidney failure.

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tioning properly with the chronic kidney disease. I don’t want to cause their kidneys to worsen or make them feel worse,” she explained. “With congestive heart failure, you can end up putting too much fluid on their body which will strain their lungs and heart.”

While you can’t file services on your insurance, IV SMiles Hydration and Wellness is listed as a health care service.

“So I can take the flex spending or Health Savings Account card. It’s alternative, concierge, holistic type medicine.”

Which just sets Miles up for her next business venture. Her goal has always been to own a primary care practice.

IV SMiles Hydration and Wellness just helped her do that.

“IV hydration was low risk, low cost, low overhead, and with me never having been an entrepreneur or having done anything in the business world, I went ahead and started it. That helped me fund and get ready for my primary care. IV SMiles has helped start Smith Primary Care and Wellness.”

Based in the same location, Smith Primary Care and Wellness is a joint venture with Miles’ sister that focuses on direct primary care on a membership-based model. Miles plans to hire nurses and paramedics to help out at IV SMiles so she can dedicate more time to building up the primary care practice.

“Being that it’s a membership-based service, I don’t bill any insurance. For example, the patients would pay $65 or $75 a month, like a gym membership but they have direct access to me whenever they need me. No copays. unlimited visits. Significantly discounted labs, and discounted prescriptions and I would even dispense some of the prescriptions to them to avoid them having to go to the pharmacy when they don’t have to.

Simple procedures,” she said. “It’s kind of like taking medicine to back in the day to what it used to be before we had all the hurdles with insurance companies and big organizations and all of that. And then my sister would be coming in 2023 to do

Mental Health counseling. So a one-stopshop. IV drip and primary care, counseling — all in one place.”

While Miles wants to help the community, she also wants to make sure her patients are getting the care they deserve and need.

“When I saw the perks of it (direct-care) and where it puts the patients first, where you’re working for the patient and not for the big companies, I love that. I love that my patients can see me the same day or the next day. Where I’m not rushed with quick 15-minute visits or having to schedule you months, and months out. It’s like you get to form this good, direct relation-

ship with my patients and that’s what I like,” she explained. “I get that anyway with my IV clients. These are strangers and they become friends and family, just by sitting with them for an hour, talking to them, getting to know them, learning about them and they’re getting to learn more about me. I love that one-on-one time and getting to know whom you’re dealing with. Now I get to do that as well with primary care so it’s a win-win.” !

CHANEL DAVIS is the current editor of YES! Weekly and graduated from N.C. A&T S.U. in 2011 with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. She’s worked at daily and weekly newspapers in the Triad region.

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Tackled & Shackled: TAP alleges senior court watcher assaulted by bailiffs On May 17, Yvette Boulware, a court watcher for the Triad Abolition Project, was forcibly arrested by bailiff Terry Whitaker in Forsyth County Courthouse. The incident began with Ian McDowell Whitaker ordering Boulware to remove the sunglasses atop Contributor her head. It ended with the diminutive 62-year-old Black woman tackled, shackled and jailed.

According to the Triad Abolition Project (TAP), Boulware is a veteran activist mentored by the late congressman John Lewis, whom she met in the 1980s while in Atlanta working with the Southern Christian Leadership Conference.

In 2020, Boulware participated in protests by TAP over the 2019 death of John Neville in Forsyth County Jail. Neville died from asphyxia after being forcibly restrained in a “hogtie” position by five detention officers at the request of a nurse.

Last month, a Forsyth County grand jury indicted nurse Michelle Heughins for involuntary manslaughter but dropped charges against officers Lavette Williams, Edward Roussel, Sarah Poole, Antonio Woodley Jr., and Christopher Stamper.

Boulware was in court on May 17 for the hearing of Sarah Carney and Carew Henry, TAP members arrested for obstructing traffic during 2020 protests over Neville’s death. The session ended with Judge Lawrence Fine dropping charges against Carney and Henry, but charging Boulware with contempt of court and felony assault with a deadly weapon.

Christina Howell, Public Relations Manager for the Forsyth County Sheriff ’s Department, stated that Boulware stabbed a bailiff with the pen she’d been using to take notes. The Sheriff ’s office has not named the injured bailiff but has described the injury as minor.

Boulware and TAP contend that any injury to a bailiff with the pen was accidental and occurred while Whitaker and five other bailiffs piled on top of her after Whitaker threw her to the floor.

Activists have made Whitaker a controversial figure on social media. In Sept.

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TAP has distributed screenshots of public Facebook posts by Whitaker. In one, he shared a meme supporting Darrin Wilson, the officer who shot and killed Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri.

He also shared a meme calling Castro, Hitler, Stalin and Obama “dictators” who supported gun control (in reality, Obama never pushed for gun control and Hitler loosened Weimar-era restrictions on gun ownership).

According to Carney and Henry, the May 17 incident began when Whitaker approached Boulware and told her to remove the sunglasses atop her head.

Boulware allegedly asked Whitaker which statute she was violating.

When asked that same question

by YES! Weekly, Howell replied, “Judges set rules for the general decorum of the courtrooms they preside over. Deputies assigned to courtrooms enforce the rules of the direction of the presiding judge.”

Scholar-activist Dr. Brittany Battle, the Wake Forrest sociology professor who cofounded TAP in 2019, responded to Howell’s statement via email.

“Christina is correct that judges can set any rules in their courtroom, including not chewing gum and having tucked-in shirts.

However, the judge appears to have set no such rule and the bailiff acted on his own to instruct Ms. Boulware to remove her sunglasses. When she questioned the statute, he could have explained it was a judge’s order. However, he did no such thing, because the judge had not in-

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structed him to police sunglasses in court that day.”

Battle, Henry and Carney all allege that Boulware wore the sunglasses on her head the entire day, with no intervention from any bailiff until the charges against Henry and Carney were dismissed and Boulware started to exit the chamber with them and attorney James Quander.

“Bailiff Whitaker told Ms. Yvette to come back,” wrote Battle. “Ms. Yvette said she couldn’t stay because she had an appointment, to which Judge Lawrence Fine replied ‘No you don’t.’ Whitaker grabbed Ms. Yvette, slinging her coffee out of her hands, and threw her to the ground.”

After Henry used their phone to record the altercation, Judge Fine ordered bailiffs to seize it.

“Fine had Henry hand over their phone,” wrote Battle, “saying it’s not legal to record in a courtroom. Five more bailiffs joined the attack on Ms. Yvette. Henry explained to the judge they were unaware of this rule, and they had been trained to record aggressive encounters with the police. The judge ultimately did not charge Henry with contempt of court, but kept their phone.”

According to Carney and Henry, after Carney protested that six bailiffs piling on top of a tiny elderly woman was “ridiculous,” another bailiff loudly ordered the TAP members not to speak, and attorney Quander advised them to leave the building, which they did.

When contacted, Quander told YES! Weekly, “I don’t think I can speak about that yet, as it looks like I may be a witness.”

Howell disputed media reports that Whitaker threw Boulware to the floor. “As I know you are committed to journalistic integrity, please note that the use of the term ‘threw’ is inaccurate.”

Battle alleged that Boulware, Carney, Henry and Quander all describe Boulware

as “thrown.” “Whitaker tackled her and fell on top of her with his full body weight.

‘Thrown to the ground’ is actually a mild description of his brutal assault, and I think it is well within the scope of journalistic integrity to report what happened as it happened, not the narrative provided by a department attempting to save face after once again brutally assaulting Black people.”

When asked why bailiffs escalated the situation by laying hands on Boulware rather than allowing her to exit, Howell replied, “Ms. Boulware had the option to remove her sunglasses at any point after being directed to do so.”

When asked about the claim that Boulware was shackled, Howell stated the detained court watcher “did not spend the entire time she was in the Detention Center in full restraints” and “was subject to the same procedures as the other residents.”

To Howell’s statement, Battle replied that Boulware was strip-searched and held in the maximum-security section of the detention center and “was shackled anytime she was outside her cell.” Battle described the sight of Boulware at her first court appearance, “62 years and less than five feet tall, in leg shackles and her hands shackled to her waist,” as evidence “of the brutal violence of the police and the carceral state.”

Boulware was released Wednesday night after spending 31 hours in jail. According to Battle, “at this time, Ms. Yvette is not available for a phone or email interview,” as “she is in the hospital recovering from injuries she received in the assault.”

According to Howell, the released activist and court watcher is facing charges of felony assault with a deadly weapon on a government officer, misdemeanor resisting a public officer, and contempt of court.

Battle alleges that Boulware was targeted as a TAP court watcher, and for asking what statute she violated by wearing her sunglasses atop her head.

“Bailiffs determined to make an example of Ms. Yvette in an attempt to intimidate TAP as a whole. She was celebrating the dismissal of the Occupy WSNC arrest cases with Sarah Carney and Carew Henry when she was ordered to go before the judge without due process.” !

IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.

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Girl Power!: Local teen empowerment group takes on national issue Period Poverty has taken center stage over the past few years but that spotlight has now hit the Triad centering on a group of young women.

Thankfully, with a solution to a naChanel Davis tional problem.

The Queen Arise Leadership Program, Editor a program that is part of the I Am A Queen nonprofit, will do a final collection for its The Queen Period Project, a teen-led community service project that focuses on collecting feminine products and making feminine hygiene packs for girls in middle and high schools in Guilford County Schools. The collection will take place on Saturday, June 4, 2022, from noon to 3 p.m. at the Windsor Recreation Center, located at 1601 E. Gate City Boulevard in Greensboro, where the young ladies will sort through donations and assemble packages.

The initiative came about when one of the young ladies in the group questioned why young ladies didn’t have access to free feminine products at school.

“We have a young lady who has been in the program for two years and one day she said ‘I don’t understand why condoms are given out for free at school but I have to pay for feminine hygiene products?’

And I was like ‘Whoa!’ I didn’t know that happened,” said Alana V. Allen, founder and executive director of I Am A Queen.

“She was telling me about the times she didn’t have access to pads or tampons and every time that she would have accidents.”

After hearing an article on NPR about legislation being passed for feminine hygiene products to be free in schools and following continued conversations, an idea sparked for the group. Instead of holding its winter drive for the homeless, it could focus on an initiative that would leave another type of mark. All pun intended.

“I said what if we do a Period Project, make it a youth-led initiative and we can do it in the summer with all of the girls. That’s how it came up. Because she shared insight about free condoms but no free feminine hygiene care. She’s at Eastern Guilford and she was telling me that even when she was in middle school she never had access to free feminine care.

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she could trust to get a pad,” Allen said.

With the help of advisor Bridley Jenkins, a psychology/pre-med student at North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University, a committee was put together and the group has been meeting every other week.

“I’ve enjoyed working with them. They have all been willing to do what this project is intended to do and help the girls in the community,” Jenkins said. “It’s definitely taught me a lot about leadership and what it means to be a leader, a role model, and an example of what you want to see out of those you lead.”

They’ve contacted the schools to see who would be interested and what they could bring in to help. Allen said that the feedback they’ve received from the principals of the 14 schools in the district confirmed to take their donations has been one of gratitude. These included middle and high schools in High Point, Greensboro, and Whitsett.

“What we were told from the schools is that if they want to purchase feminine hygiene products they almost have to raise money or that’s not something that’s in their budget to do. So when we reached out to the schools, they were grateful,” Allen explained. “They were like ‘great, we don’t have to figure out how we’re going to spend money on these items.’”

For Anniya Henry, a 16-year-old sophomore at Southwest Guilford High School, the encouraging messages in the packages are a way for her and her fellow

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committee members to show others that someone else is thinking about them and that they are not forgotten.

“We want to make sure young women know that they are cared about, they are appreciated, and to know, of course, their purpose and worth within life. People need to know their worth and not based on what other people tell them.”

Henry said that her school has products for students in need in an open area of the office.

“You can just go to the office, go behind the desk and just grab what you need. It’s kind of weird if you don’t have pockets and it’s just in your hand. But for people who need it, you have to do what you have to do.”

Henry said that another reason she is participating on the committee is to act as a voice for those students who don’t have access to supplies.

“Schools will complain about them not being at school but some of the main reasons some students end up leaving school

are because of accidents or not having supplies that they need when students are on their cycles,” Henry said.

A sentiment that is felt and currently being addressed through states’ legislators, including in North Carolina.

Just this week it was announced that more than 60 school districts and charter schools received grants to purchase feminine hygiene products for students, according to the Department of Public Instruction.

DPI’s report states that the $250,000 appropriated from the state budget was “claimed in less than a week and fewer than half of the 134 applicants were funded.” The grants ranged from $500 to $5,000.

Since May 1, the organization has been collecting donations of feminine pads, wipes, tampons, and travel-size hand sanitizer to help build the packages.

A project that Allen doesn’t think will go away anytime soon.

“I would love to see this expand. I would love to see what kind of change we could make in the community,” she said.

“We’re just being the change we want to see in the world,” Bridley echoed.

For a donation list, drop-off locations, or an Amazon Wish List, visit https://www. iamaqueen.org/queensperiodproject. !

CHANEL DAVIS is the current editor of YES! Weekly and graduated from N.C. A&T S.U. in 2011 with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. She’s worked at daily and weekly newspapers in the Triad region.

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art horror convention, part metal fest, the Carolina Chainsaw Massacre Fest rips through the Triad, over two days and two cities; starting June 3 in Katei Cranford Winston-Salem, followed by the main event in Greensboro Contributor on June 4.

“The saw is family,” as organizers (or any fans of the Texas Chainsaw Massacre franchise) can attest. The first incarnation of the Carolina Chainsaw Massacre is very much a family affair: bringing major metal acts and special guests from the horror world to the Triad, along with highlighting local shredders and filmmakers in-kind.

The festival itself, a product of married couple Yoyo and John McEntee, will serve as a sort of anniversary party — a sequel to their mini-fest wedding down in Bastrop, TX (at the Gas Station seen in the original Texas Chainsaw Massacre), which was officiated by Bill Johnson (aka Leatherface from TCM2) and attended by Allen Danzinger (Jerry from the first TCM). The reception featured performances from Ascended Dead, False Prophet, Morbosidad and Flesh Hoarder.

“It was a dream come true for metalheads and horror fanatics like us,” said Yoyo. “Metal and horror both play a significant part in our lives and relationship,” she explained, noting the genre’s impact on her choice to study film in college, and referencing John’s storied career as founder of Ibex Moon Records and frontman for the American death metal stalwart, Incantation.

“We wanted to do something that we know we’ll love and enjoy as fans,” she continued, expressing their initial intentions to host CCM where their relationship began: a metal show at the Blind Tiger.

But the response demanded more, so the Saturday main show moved to Arizona Pete’s in Greensboro, with an added Friday event at Break Time Billiards in Winston-Salem. “We figured that since we are doing a ‘Carolina’ fest, we might as well try to get more NC locations involved,” she said.

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closing the night — followed by a metal jam to, as John McEntee noted, “keep the party going after the main show.

Celebrity guest, John Dugan (Grandpa from the original TCM) will appear at both events. “He’s been great to work with,” McEntee said. “And of course, we’re honored to have him.”

On Saturday, the horror convention, metal-show rips through Arizona Pete’s, starting at noon; and celebrating the merge of two distinct — yet friendly — mediums. “Metal and horror have intertwined and influenced each other over the years,” Yoyo noted, “and the two scenes often overlap big time, but it wasn’t until our wedding we realized how close they really are.”

Gene Palubicki (from Perdition Temples) will shift from the stage to the guest-seat, for his acting appearances in

American Guinea Pig: The Song of Solomon, and various Unearthed Films.

Marc Price and Ari Lehman will join Palubicki in pulling double duty. Price (aka Skippy from Family Ties and Eddie in the 1986 horror-metal flick Trick or Treat) is a scheduled special guest in addition to showcasing his comedy routine. Lehman (Jason Vorhees in the original Friday the 13) will perform with his aptly named punk outfit, “First Jason.” Fans of the franchise can also meet Daryl Hammer from Friday the 13th Part VIII: Jason Takes Manhattan.

Special guests shine along with North Carolina filmmakers Bobby Canipe Jr (Shark Exorcist 2, Intinction, and Mom n’ Pop) and Michael Strider (Lake Norman.)

“An important part of the fest is to support a local music and horror scene,” John explained. “We also wanted bands that

haven’t played the area in a long time, to make it special.”

On the music end, CCM will host one of Nuclear Assault’s final shows — the NYC thrashers bidding farewell amongst a lineup with Incantation, Demolition Hammer, Nasty Savage, False Prophet, Shed the Skin, and Eldritch Horror.

Metal reigns through the evening, onstage and off, with “the Chainsaw Girls” ripping up the crowd; and special guests from the metal world: Rick Rozz (Death and Massacre) and Reed St Mark (Celtic Frost) appearing for signings.

“We want to create an event, an atmosphere where everyone gets to celebrate what we love and have a good time,” Yoyo said. “It sounds cheesy but we want to say that we can’t appreciate the Triad enough. Neither of us are originally from here, but it’s where we’ve found peace and happiness,” she added, with equal-parts gush and gore. “We want to give back some of the love and support to the local community, and hopefully, build something really cool for the place we call home.”

The Carolina Chainsaw Massacre Fest goes down at Break Time Billiards in Winston-Salem on June 3, and on June 4 at Arizona Pete’s in Greensboro. !

KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who enjoys spotlighting artists and events.

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I was roommates with a girl five years ago. I was a spoiled brat for many years, but I’ve worked very hard to change. She, on the other hand, is still supported by her father, has no Amy Alkon job or interests, and just wants to get Advice married. Whenever she calls, she wants Goddess advice on the same boy drama. I just don’t have the time or patience for this anymore. I tried not responding to her, but she keeps calling and texting, “I need to come over right now!” — Drama-Weary “I need to come over right now!” What are you, a day spa for her emotions crossed with the Burger King drive-thru?

It’s easy to confuse the chunk of time a friend has been in your life with reason for them to continue being there. It helps to unpack the mystique about how friendships form. Social science research finds that a major driver of friendship is similarity — shared values and attitudes, for example. But demographic similarity is part of it, too — like both being 30-year-old single female zoo workers who went to a crappy college.

And though we want to believe we carefully choose the friends in our lives, personality psychologist Mitja Back and his colleagues are among the researchers who’ve found that “mere proxim-

ity” seems to play a big role in who our friends are. This means, for example, living in the apartment next door, working in the same department, or, in Back’s study, being randomly assigned to “neighboring seats” in a college class.

In other words, you probably became friends with this woman because she was sleeping in the next room, not because you conducted a nationwide search for the best possible buddy for you.

Now’s the time to choose whether she stays in your life — and you don’t do that by hoping she’ll hear your vigorous eyerolling over the phone and take the hint.

Breaking up with a friend — if that’s what you want to do — should work like breaking up with a romantic partner. Don’t just wordlessly cut off contact; that’s cruel — and likely to backfire. Tell her that you need to end the friendship, explaining the problem in broad terms: You’ve “grown apart” or you’re “in different places” in your lives. Even if she presses you, keep it kind by keeping it vague. The point is telling her it’s over, not informing her that she’s got all the emotional depth of a goldfish and then ducking out forever via call waiting: “Sorry — gotta go. Important robocall from Rachel from Card Services on the other line!”

menial job, but my other friends are really supportive and happy for me. She claims she is, too, but her behavior says otherwise. It really hurts my feelings. — Disappointed We often do crazy things simply to keep up with our peers who are doing those things — not, say, because we were bored on a Saturday afternoon and had a little brainstorm: “I know! I’ll pay some total stranger $55 to spread molten wax on my labia and rip out all my pubic hair!”

We evolved to be creatures of “social comparison” — judging how well we’re doing personally and professionally by how we stack up to others. As I often explain, our emotions are not just for mental decoration; they’re motivational tools. When we’re lagging behind our peers, envy often rises up — as it seems to be in your friend. Envy is mistakenly assumed to be ugly and shameful, but evolutionary social psychologist Bram Buunk and his colleagues explain that the feelbad we get from envy pushes us to get on the stick and narrow the “status gap” between ourselves and others.

Understanding the underpinnings of envy can help you have compassion for your friend, which might help you avoid taking it personally when she fails to celebrate your achievements by pulling out confetti and a kazoo. Try to accept that she probably can’t express the excitement you’d like her to because every success you rack up sneers, “Hey, loser!

How come she’s up there and you’re down here?”

If you do tell her about some win, consider pairing the news with mention of the years of grubby work and daily failures that went into it. This might help her view the success you’ve achieved as something attainable — as opposed to some magical gift: “OMG, I was just sitting on my porch drinking a beer, when my boss called and said, ‘You often cut work and smoke a lot of pot. Let’s give you the VP job.’” !

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