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Last week, MAGNOLIA HOUSE began dinner service. My wife and I were the first customers. I wrote about takeout box lunches here a year ago. These are still available, along with Brunch items, on Saturday and Sunday. The addition of Chef Scott Leard for evening meals on Thursday and Friday elevates this property significantly, in a culinary context. 6 Flash forward some 45+ years and I am dialing her phone number to talk to her about her upcoming show, ALWAYS… PATSY CLINE at the Carolina Theatre in Greensboro on Mother’s Day, May 8, 2022, at 3:30 p.m. As she picks up her phone at her home in Bluffton, SC, I hear the familiar voice and for a brief moment, I am that little boy again. 8 Mothers are special. They give us life. They nurture us. And, they shape the way we think and act. TV MOMS are special too. They are our imaginary surrogates, and they remain a fixture in our childhood memories. In May of 2008, I paid tribute to some of those small screen surrogates when I produced and moderated “A Mother’s Day Salute to TV Moms”...
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ast week, Magnolia House began dinner service. My wife and I were the first customers. I wrote about takeout box lunches here a year ago. These are still available, along with Brunch items, on Saturday and Sunday. The addition of Chef Scott Leard for evening meals on Thursday and Friday elevates this property significantly, in a culinary context. Additional evening and lunch hours are planned for the future. I have been following Chef Leard’s work for decades since the original Southern Roots in High Point. He left the Triad about ten years ago, relocating to Durham, where he worked with Ben Barker, and Charleston, where he worked with Sean Brock. He was out of the kitchen during the depths of COVID. I, for one, welcome his return! Magnolia House is one of the Triad’s most significant historic properties. Originally constructed as a private home in 1889, ownership passed through several families until the mid-1900s. The Gist family began providing lodging around 1949 as an inn for Black travelers, who were not allowed by law to stay in the South’s segregated lodgings. The Magnolia House was listed in the Green Book, a “Guide for Negro motorists.” Musicians Louis Armstrong, Joe Tex, Ike and Tina Turner, Ray Charles, James Brown, members of the Duke Ellington Orchestra, Sam Cooke, and Lionel Hamp-
ton, as well as sports figures Satchel Paige, Jackie Robinson, and Ezzard Charles are numbered among the guests who stayed here. The inn also served families of students who were attending (what is now) A&T State University and Bennett College. Placed on the National Register of Historic Places under its formal name, the Daniel D. DeButts House, the property is located in the South Greensboro Historic District. Members of the Gist family became well known for their political and social accomplishments, often in the forefront of desegregation initiatives in the 1950s-1970s. After the death of Herman Gist in the early 1990s, the house went
unoccupied for several years. Sam Pass acquired it in 1996. He developed a plan for historic restoration and the establishment of a museum. His daughter, Natalie Pass Miller, is now proprietor-manager of the facility. A full history can be accessed on the Preservation Greensboro website (preservationgreensboro.org/ the-magnolia-house-a-pivotal-point-ofgreensboro-history). The restoration has produced a beautiful historic structure. Polished original wood floors lead to a staircase, anchored by a carved base. A wood mantel hosts a magnolia flower painting. Lovely peach and lime walls and original art create an unusually peaceful ambiance. In
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JOHN BATCHELOR has been writing about eating and drinking since 1981. Over a thousand of his articles have been published. He is also author of two travel/ cookbooks: Chefs of the Coast: Restaurants and Recipes from the North Carolina Coast, and Chefs of the Mountains: Restaurants and Recipes from Western North Carolina. Contact him at john.e.batchelor@gmail.com or see his blog, johnbatchelordiningandtravel.blogspot.com.
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Misty Rowe: Star of TV, Screen and a Hee Haw Honey to perform in Always...Patsy Cline this weekend
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s young boys, one of the fondest memories I shared with my late, little brother, Patrick, were sleepovers at my grandmother, Bobbie, and great-grandmother, Pauline’s house in Danville, Va. They lived together and it was a very special place and magical time. There was so much laughter, storytelling, great food, games of backyard badminton, and an all-around feeling of love. After all the festivities and we were worn out, popcorn was usually popped and the TV was cut on for late-night enjoyment. If it was a Friday, we watched The Brady Bunch and The Patridge Family. If it was Sunday, Mutual of Omaha’s Wild Kingdom and the Wonderful World of Disney. If it was Saturday, my brother and I usually snickered and looked at each other. Along with keeping our eyes in our heads
and pretending we were not very pleased or excited to see, the Hee Haw Honeys during the 7 p.m. run of Hee Haw. For those unfamiliar, Hee Haw was a country music comedy/variety show set in rural “Kornfield Kounty.” It first aired on CBS from 1969 to 1971, in syndication from 1971 to 1993, and on TNN from 1996 to 1997. The Hee Haw Honey’s were a group of beautiful women dressed in country attire such as Daisy Duke shorts, halter tops, low cut dresses, tight t-shirts, and jeans. Each of the HH Honeys would have their own role in a skit on the show, and my brother and I thought they were wonderful. One, in particular, Misty Rowe, was our favorite. The cute, bubbly blonde with a heart of gold and a sense of humor stole our very young hearts. We tuned in every week, each giving the other a nudge or knowing smile anytime she came on the screen. Flash forward some 45+ years and I am
dialing her phone number to talk to her about her upcoming show, Always… Patsy Cline at the Carolina Theatre in Greensboro on Mother’s Day, May 8, 2022, at 3:30 p.m. As she picks up her phone at her home in Bluffton, SC, I hear the familiar voice and for a brief moment, I am that little boy again. I smile and think what a great story this would be to tell my little brother if he were still here. But I know he knows and is jealous, of course. Rowe and I exchange formal greetings and in an instant, she has filled me in on so many things. “My daddy is from the Missouri, Ozarks. I grew up in California and then when I was really young, I got Hee Haw. And I went to Nashville and I’d go back and forth,” she said of her early career. “I’ve done five TV series. But of course, Hee Haw was the longest-running and I was on that for 19 years. I was the BR549 girl.” Asking about her co-star in the skit,
Junior Samples, I tell her about the family connection to Greensboro and Cook-Out that I am part of a small circle to know about. Kathy Samples Reaves, daughter of Junior Samples, is married to Maurice Reaves, founder of Cook-Out. She seems excited to hear about the families successes and mentions another of Junior Samples’ children she remembers. Our conversation moves off to her time on the TV show Happy Days and she tells me about a recent get-together with Don Most — Ralph Malph on the TV series. “I just saw Donny in January in Florida,” Rowe says. “I was Windy the car hop girl on Happy Days. That was one of the five TV Series I did and I was on it for a year. I hadn’t seen Donny since Happy Days. I’ve seen Ron Howard and I’ve seen Henry Winkler, but I hadn’t seen Donny and we became friends on Facebook.” Rowe said Most was appearing with his Big Band in North Carolina and he asked her to sing with him. Hesitant at first,
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admitting she was known more for funny songs and her squeaky voice, Rowe pulled her Marilyn Monroe copy dress from the closet and graced the stage in style. “I was the first person to play Marilyn Monroe in a movie and I still had the dress from the Diamonds are a Girls Best Friend scene,” said Rowe. “The movie was dreadful though. I wore that pink dress and I came out and he introduced me. And when people found out I was on Hee Haw, there was so much reaction and applause everybody was so kind.” According to her website, Rowe’s career has spanned more than 50 years with experience that includes “more than 200 TV shows, thousands of stage performances, five series, ten films, and over a decade of directing and writing.” Rowe’s website includes some of those moments to be “the year she spent on Happy Days as Wendy, the carhop, where Ron Howard made his directing debut as well as auditioning for Mel Brooks and winning the role of Maid Marion, on the series, When Things Were Rotten, where she would play opposite Sid Caesar one week and Dudley Moore the next.” It also cites another of her favorite memories as “starring opposite Joe Namath in L’il Abner” on a national tour where she played Daisy Mae. Rowe was “the hit of the Cannes Film Festival for three different years, and on the cover of numerous European magazines, she would meet Robin Leach, who guest-starred 12 years later on Hee Haw, and sent her to Quebec to stay in a castle on Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous.” During her last year on Hee Haw, Rowe lost a child and her drama coach Stella Adler, prompting her to move to the East Coast to be with her husband and their daughter. While the marriage ended in divorce, Rowe obtained the role of Louise in Always... Patsy Cline, which she performed in Branson, Missouri, Albany, New York, Morgantown, West Virginia, and La WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
Mirada, California, her home state, and Bridgeport Downtown Cabaret, according to her website. The website goes on to say that Rowe has “written a stand-up comedy act which she has performed at numerous clubs in New York City, including the world-famous Caroline’s, Don’t Tell Mama and Stand-Up New York. She also made her Off-Broadway debut at the Tribeca Playhouse in the play, Imagining Brad. She has put together her own one-woman show, A Misty Christmas…Finally, A Fruitcake You’ll Like, which premiered at the Claridge Casino Hotel in Atlantic City.” Rowe said the Always… Patsy Cline show is going to several cities including Charleston and Savannah, GA. The Carolina Theatre’s website describes the show as “a true Valentine musical of a show” based on “a true story of a fan and a country star and the night they met at a concert in Houston, Texas.” “When they asked me about North Carolina and asked what day would I would like to do it, I told them I’d like to do Mother’s Day since the show was my mother’s favorite. She saw me do Always… Patsy Cline so many times, and now I can’t be with my mother on Mother’s Day anymore because she’s passed. I thought, wouldn’t it be great to get to be with other people’s mothers? They could take their mother to the show and take her to dinner, and we’ll all be together. I’m just really, really excited about it.” Rowe has also just completed an autobiography, with the assistance of Scot England, about her life and career titled Misty Memories. The 350-page hardcover book is filled with 225 rare, never-before-seen photos from her personal collection. Copies of her book and more information can be found on her website, www.mistyrowe.com. Tickets for Sunday’s show range from $29.50 to $59.50, depending on location, and can be purchased at www.carolinatheater.com. !
Since 1949, the United States has recognized May as national Mental Health Awareness Month. This national recognition was started by the Mental Health America organization. Each year, millions of Americans face the realJoshua Ridley ity of living with mental illness. The purpose of Marketing & Mental Health AwareCommunications ness month is to “fight Manager stigma, provide support, educate the public and advocate for policies that support people with mental illness and their families.” In addition, to mental health, there is a focus on health and wellness. The arts tie into these focus areas around promoting health and wellness, and many initiatives are taking place in WinstonSalem and Forsyth County. John Beck, principal percussionist of the Winston-Salem Symphony and a professor at University of North Carolina School of the Arts and Wake Forest University is part of a core group of people who are leading the integration of arts and healthcare. Since 2020, Beck has been immersed in the community introducing students, community members, and patients to Comfort Sound® Drumming, an adaption of HealthRHYTHMS Protocol. This protocol was developed during a research study at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist where stem cell transplant recipient patients participated in small interactive drum groups to improve energy, mood, and relaxation, and reduce stress, anxiety, and pain. Comfort Sound® Drumming is a 30-minute musical experience combined with other drumming activities designed for each person according to their musical preferences and background. It is essentially a small interactive drum group (drum circle) created with a minimum of three people using Remo Versa® Tubanos® with Comfort Sound Technology®. Beck conducted a study, Interactive Group Drumming (IGD) that analyzed how a 30-minute musical experience affected participants in six categories: energy, mood, relaxation, stress, anxiety, and pain. Over 80% of participants reported increased energy, mood, and relaxation, over 60% had decreased anxiety, and the majority felt less distress and pain after drumming. 100% of the
patients who completed surveys reported that the drumming sessions increased their satisfaction with their hospital stay and would recommend drumming to others receiving stem cell transplants. The study report is published in Music & Medicine, 2022, Volume 14, Issue 1, pages 39-46 in the Journal of the International Association for Music & Medicine. Beck provides the community with Comfort Sound® Drumming solely on a volunteer basis. His first session conducting group drumming since the onset of the pandemic was on April 11, 2022 with patients at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist. In addition to the drum circles at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist, Beck conducts drum circles during exam season and freshman orientations at UNCSA and WFU. Beck shared stories of seeing freshman at these universities make new friends and spark new connections during drum circles. Students, who often carry the load of stress and anxiety, also reported feeling better after a 30-minute drum group. Beck credits Christina Soriano, Associate Provost for the Arts and Interdisciplinary Programs at Wake Forest University for her support of this program and the integration of Comfort Sound® Drumming and student life on campus. Beck has also conducted drum groups with the YWCA of Winston-Salem, Leadership Winston-Salem, The Little Red School House, and other local organizations in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County. Beck hopes to see Comfort Sound® Drumming grow and lead the integration of art in healthcare. “I want to see Winston-Salem live up to its byline as the City of Arts and Innovation,” Beck expressed. “Winston-Salem needs to integrate arts and healthcare.” The hope for Beck and others is to see a rise of music therapy programs in our hospitals and universities. The arts are proven to have a positive impact on people’s health and wellbeing. ARTS COUNCIL is the chief advocate of the arts and cultural sector in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County. Our goal is to serve as a leader in lifting up, creating awareness and providing support to grow and sustain artistic, cultural and creative offerings throughout our region. We acknowledge that it takes every voice, every talent, and every story to make our community a great place to live, work, and play. Arts Council is committed to serving as a facilitator, organizer, and promoter of conversations that are authentic, inclusive, and forward-thinking. There are over 800,000 art experiences taking place in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County annually. To learn more about upcoming arts and culture events happening in our community please visit www.cityofthearts.com. MAY 4-10, 2022
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others are special. They give us life. They nurture us. And, they shape the way we think and act. TV Moms are special too. They are our imaginary Jim Longworth surrogates, and they remain a fixture in our childhood Longworth memories. In May of at Large 2008, I paid tribute to some of those small screen surrogates when I produced and moderated “A Mother’s Day Salute to TV Moms” for the Television Academy. In attendance that night were: Cloris Leachman who was the original Mom on “Lassie” (and later played Ellen DeGeneres’ mother on “The Ellen Show”); Diahann Carroll who played a single mother on “Julia”; Marion Ross, the matriarch from “Happy Days”; Tichina Arnold from “Everybody Hates Chris”; Holland Taylor from “Two and a Half Men”; Bonnie Franklin from “One Day at a Time”;
Catherine Hicks from “Seventh Heaven”; Marjorie Lord from “The Danny Thomas Show”; and, Meredith Baxter, who played Michael J. Fox’s mom on “Family Ties.” Also appearing at the event were real-life children of those TV Moms, as well as actors and actresses who played their on-screen offspring. In celebration of this Mother’s Day, here are some highlights from that special evening, beginning with recollections from those TV Moms about their own Mothers. Meredith: My Mom, Whitney Blake, was an actress (“Hazel”), but she did not push me to acting. I actually wanted to be a singer and I even sang with Mom for a while. Then I went into acting just to get out of the house. Bonnie: Mom made sure that all five of us kids had singing and dancing lessons. She wanted me to have poise and grace, even at age four. Tichina: My Mom was a stage Mom. My first acting role was as a doll in a children’s play, and while all the other moms were waiting off stage, saying how great their kids did, my Mom said, “Oh my God. That was awful!” Mom is my best critic (laughs).
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Jim Longworth and the actresses who took part in the “TV Moms” interviews. Left to right: Holland Taylor (“Two and a Half Men”), Catherine Hicks (“7th Heaven”), Marion Ross (“Happy Days”), Marjorie Lord (“Make Room For Daddy”), Bonnie Franklin (“One Day At A Time”), Diahann Carroll (“Julia”), Tichina Arnold (“Everybody Hates Chris”), Meredith Baxter (“Family Ties”). Not pictured: Cloris Leachman Holland: My Mother was a reserved woman, and did not interfere in her children’s affairs, and did not heap praise on the kids. Mom died just before I started “Two and a Half Men,” and a few months after she passed away, I took a hike up in the Hollywood canyon, and I heard my Mother’s voice. I saw a pale hologram of my Mother’s face on the sky, and it was an image of her at her best, around age 37. And she said, “Hi Honey.” Marion: My Mother was Canadian, and she and my Father had that immigrant spirit, believing that you can be anything. My Mom died when I was 40, and as soon as she died, I became her. Diahann: My Mom was very middle class and very old-fashioned. She and my Father thought anything having to do with show business was out of the question, because show business was for “racy ladies.” Cloris: My Mother was quite magical, and a darling little woman, standing only five feet, one inch tall. We never had any extra money because Daddy was always putting all of the money back into the Leachman lumber company, so Mamma had to be creative with money. I learned that from her. She also told funny stories and I learned that from her too. Later in the evening, the TV Moms’ on-screen and real-life kids praised their respective role models. Jasmine Guy, who played Diahann Carroll’s daughter in “It’s a Different World,” told Diahann, “You taught me a lot about growing up as a woman, a woman in this business, a mother, and an actress. Thank you for having my back in so many ways.”
George Englund, the son of Cloris Leachman, said, “How would I describe Cloris? An unusual mother (laughs). She’s great.” Academy Award nominee Anne Archer (“Fatal Attraction”), said of her Mom, Marjorie Lord, “I was always proud that my Mother was so elegant. There was a beauty about her, an inner beauty that radiated in everything she did, and it’s something I carried with me.” The late Erin Moran (Joanie from “Happy Days”), said of Marion Ross, “This woman was such a mentor to me. I was able to do my first play only because of her. You’re my best friend and my second Mom.” Commenting on Holland Taylor’s character in “Two and a Half Men,” Jon Cryer said, “I don’t think there’s enough representations of sociopathic mothers on television, so thank you Holland (laughs).” Charlie Sheen followed Cryer, saying, “I have an amazing Mom in real life, but if I had to have a substitute, it would be you. I love you.” Tyler James Williams paid tribute to Tichina Arnold, his Mom on “Everybody Hates Chris,” by saying, “Any part of comedy that you will ever see me do is because of Tichina. She challenged me to become a better actor and a better comedian.” Tichina herself added, “Once you become a Mom on TV, that’s it, you’re always a Mom.” Truer words were never spoken, and they also apply to our real-life Moms. Happy Mother’s Day! ! JIM LONGWORTH is the host of Triad Today, airing on Saturdays at 7:30 a.m. on ABC45 (cable channel 7) and Sundays at 11 a.m. on WMYV (cable channel 15).
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hen it comes to expressive eyes, Adrien Brody’s got ‘em. Without moving a muscle, without saying a word, in closeup those peepers Mark Burger speak volumes. It’s as if the weight of the world once rested on Contributor his shoulders, then came crashing down. Although the actor has proven his versatility in light roles, he’s most at home — typecast, if you will — playing soulful, troubled characters. He does so again in Clean, a grim and gritty character study set in Utica, NY, where the streets are mean and some of its inhabitants even meaner. In addition to playing the title character, Brody composed the film’s effective score, is one of its producers and co-wrote the screenplay with producer/director Paul Solet, with whom he previously collaborated in Bullet Head (2017).
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It’s not entirely clear if Clean is the character’s name or nickname (he is called “Randall” in an early scene), but it’s an appropriate moniker all the same. He drives a garbage truck by night, spends his days as a handyman and repairing outdated appliances, attends rehab meetings with best bud and local barber Travis (Mykelti Williamson), and dispenses compassionate wisdom to Dianda (Chandler Ari DuPont), the bright teenager who lives nearby. Clean is something of a good Samaritan, and — as his voiceover narration indicates — he is haunted by a past that won’t stay buried. He’s done some bad things, made some terrible mistakes, and now he’s just trying to stay “clean.” Circumstances, of course, will intrude, and they come in the form of Michael (Glenn Fleshler), the proprietor of the local fish fry and the resident drug lord. In a film packed with solid performances
(everyone’s good), Fleshler is the standout. Appropriately sleazy and sadistic, he is nevertheless human. He’s abusive to his son Mikey (Richie Merritt), whom he wants to follow in his footsteps, because he wants him to be what he perceives to be a success. He attends mass, makes confession, and donates the proceeds of his ill-gotten gains to the church. (He also donates regularly to the more corrupt members of the local police, which most certainly comes into play, plot-wise.) When Clean rescues Dianda from a sexual assault in which Mikey is present, all hell breaks loose, and that’s where Clean makes its inevitable move into action territory. In an effort to protect Dianda and her grandmother (Michelle Wilson), Clean must resort to desperate measures — and revert to an animalistic, primitive deliverer of vengeance. As Michael and his minions will soon discover,
their single, solitary foe is one to be reckoned with. Although the film’s overtures to Taxi Driver (1976) are apparent, Clean owes as much to the films directed by Paul Schrader (who penned Taxi Driver) and Abel Ferrara as it does the Scorsese oeuvre. It’s redemption through revenge, a theme common to Schrader, Ferrara and, to an extent, Scorsese. This is hardly unfamiliar territory in the world of contemporary film noir, but for all its familiar trappings — and there are many — a very respectable, even laudable, effort had been made to elevate the proceedings. The characters have dimension, the locations have a distinctive flavor, the action is rendered in (very) strong terms, and these have the cumulative effect of raising Clean out of the norm. — For a complete list of platforms Clean is available on, visit the official website: https://www.clean.movie/. The film will be released May 10th on DVD ($27.97 retail) and Blu-ray ($28.96 retail) from RLJE Films. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2022, Mark Burger.
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On April 25, the Oklahoma Election Board ruled that state Rep. Sean Roberts, who is running for labor commissioner, cannot be listed on the ballot Chuck Shepherd as “The Patriot,” as he had hoped to be, KFOR-TV reported. “I’m not surprised they ruled I had to change my name,” Roberts said. “Back in my area, in the grassroots, I’m generally known as The Patriot.” He claimed between 200 and 600 people know him by that name. Roberts’ opponent and current labor commissioner Leslie Osborn said Roberts has appeared on seven previous ballots as Kevin Sean Roberts or Sean Roberts, and that he is not generally known as The Patriot. Roberts is considering appealing the decision.
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Everyone needs a hobby. Christina Warren is a busy software developer, but in her free time, she collects the swag of epic corporate failure: from Enron to Fyre Festival to her latest acquisition, a PopSocket branded with the CNN+ logo. NPR reported that Warren isn’t interested in milquetoast meltdowns. She wants stuff from the companies that made a big splash and then sank to the bottom of the barrel. “I’m looking at the ones that were flying high, too close to the sun,” she said, which “makes it funnier to be out someplace wearing a shirt from one of those things.” But she doesn’t want to spend more than $75 on any one item. She avoids counterfeit merchandise, and said her “white whale, the thing I haven’t been able to obtain yet, is something officially from Theranos. I would even take a pen, you know, like a ballpoint pen.”
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A 78-year-old man in Slidell, Louisiana, was unable to get a good grip on a squirrel that was attacking him on April 26, possibly because the squirrel was “eating his hand,” according to Slidell police. KATC-TV News reported that the man was trying to choke the squirrel, who inflicted “significant injuries” on the victim. (He is expected to make a full recovery.) Police said the man was walking around outside when the varmint came at him from the direction of the roof without any provocation. In a prescient pre-scold, police said while the story might sound funny, the incident was serious. So stop laughing.
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April 18 was a tough day for Franklin County (Florida) Sheriff A.J. Smith, the Miami Herald reported. His deputies conducted a “controlled buy” that day involving Smith’s 38-year-old daughter, Kristen Kent, who was charged with trafficking methamphetamine. The sheriff, whose office features a sign saying “We don’t meth around,” admitted that this case “hit him in the face.” When his deputies arrested a different woman for trafficking, she told them she had gotten the drugs from Kent. “My daughter?” he asked. “Yes, sir,” she answered. He called it “gut-wrenching.” Still, he said Kent would receive the same treatment he recommends for others who are caught up in meth’s effects. “Methamphetamine does not discriminate and neither do we,” he said.
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Deborah Hodge, 49, of the Sidcup area of London, has been forced to rehome three pets because previous landlords wouldn’t allow them, but she couldn’t bear the thought of being separated from her current cat, India, Metro News reported. So Hodge came up with a plan: She would marry India, making it more difficult for a landlord to separate them. India wore gold lame and Hodge donned a tuxedo for the big event, where a friend presided over the wedding vows in a London park. “We cannot be separated under any circumstances, as she is as important to me as the children,” Hodge said. “I refuse to be parted with her.”
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Erik and Athina Tenczar bought their home abutting the Indian Pond Country Club golf course in Kingston, Massachusetts, for the beautiful views. However, they ended up suing the club over the 600+ golf balls that have left dents and shattered windows in their home over five years, NBC News reported. The couple said they’ve long since stopped repairing shattered windows, instead covering them with plastic. “When it hits, it sounds like a gunshot,” Athina said. “We’re always on edge,” Erik added. A Plymouth County Superior Court jury sympathized and awarded them $4.93 million. The club is now launching an appeal and has worked with the course’s architect to find solutions for the errant projectiles. !
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his upcoming Sunday, May 8, 2022, is a nod to mothers, in all aspects. In this week’s edition of YES! Weekly, we highlight some local mothers Chanel Davis who not only show us that they can handle motherhood but Editor some of the toughest jobs around. The following ladies have dominated the industry in their maledominated fields while taking care of their children, husbands, and homes. The Ladies of Tattoo Therapy Winston-Salem Crystal Doss never dreamed that she’d own an all-women tattoo studio but she’s glad that she does. “After COVID, we all kind of met and most of my guys decided they wanted to do other things or their own things, so I decided to do a studio with just all females,” she said. “We have the only all-female studio in Winston. I really didn’t expect it to be this big. I just knew that going into it, it was something that I thought would help women in general, especially in this predominantly male business. The ladies have been able to feel more comfortable along with being in business.” Doss calls the experience phenomenal. “I’m loving every second of it. Working with a group of girls, you got coworkers but you also have friends and you’ve got mentors. There’s always somebody that’s been there and done that,” she said. The feedback from clients and other tattooists in the Triad has also been positive. “A lot of our female clientele feel more comfortable,” Doss said. “I’ve heard nothing but great feedback from both males and females.” While she’s not a tattoo artist herself, the owner of Tattoo Therapy, located at 300 Jonestown Road in Winston-Salem, wouldn’t trade any of her staff members, four tattooists and one piercer, who she now considers family. “Most of us are mamas so it was an easy decision. We understand one another and we understand that our kids have YES! WEEKLY
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L to R: Alexis Mullens, Sarah Lacy, Anna-Walker Reed, Karen Peraza, and Heather Shaw , Crystal Doss (center) needs, so we have to work around each other’s schedules and still play mom and whatever else,” Doss said. “We have to balance it all.” Doss, who has two children of her own, said it was important for her staff to feel comfortable enough to express whatever needs they have as a mother. The majority of her staff are mothers to humans with the exception of a fur parent or two. Doss has a 21-year-old son enlisted in the
Air Force and a 16-year-old daughter but considers her staff her children as well. “I understand when they have to be off, have a sick child, or whatnot. I think they’re all my children, even though they’re grown.” Heather Shaw, piercer and general manager at Tattoo Therapy, doesn’t mind the title. “She’s definitely my second mother. Or probably the closest thing that I have to a
Sarah Lacy mother,” she said. Shaw grew up in foster care, not having a relationship with her birth mothers and aging out of her foster parents’ home at 19-years-old. She’s worked for Doss for the past six years. “She’s basically my mom. Anything I need or any advice that I need, I call her. Any help I need with home projects, I call her,” Shaw explained. “She’s basically my first call for anything. That’s how I figured
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Monique Austin out she’s my number one ally.” Shaw said that even though Doss is only four or six years older than her, she’s probably the best person she could have in her life. “Getting this job was the best thing that could ever happen to me because it is not just a job. I actually have a network of people that I consider to be family.” It’s an opportunity that Shaw is hoping to pay forward. She often finds herself mothering the staff at Tattoo Therapy, even though they are closer to her age. “I guess that happens when you manage people sometimes,” she said. “If you’re a mom, that just comes out. It’s a very nurturing environment.” WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
Monique Austin of Smile Logistical Services Greensboro The plan was always for Monique Austin to dominate the logistics industry and she’s been working on doing that, from the bottom up, for the past 20 years. Austin has made her bones in the logistics industry but has just recently put on the hat of a business owner in August 2021 when she started Smile Logistical Services. The trucking company focuses on moving commercial freight for different companies. “I’ve been in logistics for almost 20 years. During that time I’ve worked in all different areas of logistics. Anywhere
from driving all the way to up to warehouse management. I wanted to learn all aspects of the industry so that I could apply that and eventually open my own company,” she explained. For Austin, the fact that most women, especially those of Black/Korean mixed descent, don’t own trucking companies was a personal challenge for her. “I’m not afraid of a challenge. I think the challenge excites and motivates me. This is a white, male-driven field and I think my working in this industry has allowed me to see that there aren’t many people like me and I think there needs to be,” she said. The divorced, single mother of two is preparing her 16-year-old son and 14-yearold daughter to work in the family business. She said they’ve been with her every step of the way in her business journey. “My children clean the unit, they sweep the truck out, I’m teaching my daughter about payroll and bookkeeping. They are directly involved,” Austin said. “When I first got my truck they went with me to pick it up, we get them checked out, they help put the letters on the door, and they go with me to get everything registered and inspected. I want them to see it, learn it, learn from it, and teach me.” Austin extends that same sense of teaching and instruction to her employees. She has a driver and subcontracts for dispatchers and other roles she needs to be filled. She said that she believes in the transfer of information because “we are only as strong as our weakest link.” “I try to teach them as much about the industry as I know. At the same time that I am teaching them, they are teaching me. I believe that the job that I’m offering this person, is a stepping stone for them to go on to bigger and greater things,” Austin said. “I hope that from the experience
they get from being with me, they will take the initiative to go off and work on their own instead of going and working for someone else. I definitely would love to influence or educate as many people as I can because it’s attainable, you just have to be disciplined.” Austin said that the information freeway goes both ways and that drivers would in return relay information to her. “I have not physically been in a truck and traveled over the road. So they are teaching me about road life, what happens to them, what obstacles they come across, what dohickey or what procedure would make their life on the road a little bit easier,” she explained. “Every day you learn something different. Some of those things are not in a book. You can’t look it up. Somebody has to physically go through something, learn, and adapt themselves in order to be able to educate you.” With an undergrad degree in political science and two masters, one in business management and one in international business, it won’t be long before Austin grows her enterprise. “My vision is to go from box trucks up to the commercial level (CDL) trucks and eventually I want to have an entire logistics enterprise. I want to do everything from dispatching, load planning, supplying and owning trucks, and eventually open my own trucking school.” While Austin models and is active in at least five community service organizations, she’s coming up on a year of being in business and hopes to be able to work her business full-time by the first of the year. “My slogan is if you’re tired of driving for the man, come drive for the woman.”
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Shauna Greene and Anointed Cutz Barbershop High Point Shauna Greene is all about serving her community and she does it with her clippers in hand. If you ask her she’ll just say she’s happy to be a blessing to her community and if reciprocating the love. “I simply love what I do and I’m honored to be able to be a blessing to so many people in the community as well as I’m grateful the community is able to be a blessing to me because without them I wouldn’t have what I have and I wouldn’t be able to do what I do,” she said. Greene’s journey barbershop journey began because she was looking for something that would allow her the freedom she needed as a single parent and to operate her mime ministry. She began to “check out” the hairlines of young boys and men. “I would say ‘I could do this.’ Next thing you know, I went and got some trimmers/ clippers and started shaping people up started messing up some head on the side,” Greene said, laughing. In 2011, she enrolled in barber school, and in she just hit nine years in the only female-owned barbershop in High Point, Anointed Cutz Barbershop, located at 2716 Westchester Drive. While Greene may be a mother to a 20-year-old daughter and grandmother to a fur baby, she takes on a “mothering” role for many children in the community. “I have a lot of kids that I cut and I am sort of a mother figure to them. I show up at schools, I go to birthday parties, and I show up at graduations,” she said. “I’m more than a barber. I’m like an auntie or a big sister. I’m a lot too many different people.” To her employees, she’s more of a big sister and to her colleagues at other shops, she’s well-respected. “To my employees, I’m more of a big sister. Someone who they can look up to,” she explained. “Some of these shop owners have been in business much longer than me. It just goes to show it doesn’t
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Shauna Greene matter how long you’ve been in business. People know what I stand for and people know what I have to offer. I don’t play games in the barbershop. I’m here to render a service, I’m here to give you a service. I am the same person in the shop as I am out of the shop. Professional all day, every day. That’s how I roll.” Greene said that she loves what she
does and said that giving back to the community is part of her job. “We bring the community into us by offering them a service and then we’re hoping and praying that they’ll go out and tell others about Anointed Cutz and what we have to offer. It’s also good when you can go out into the community and they see you outside of the barbershop,” she
explained. “It causes them to respect you more like ‘hey, that’s my barber.’ I go to basketball games and football games. I show up. I do sponsorships for some of my kids. All of that.” She’s also started a nonprofit, Ronald’s Village, for young boys between the ages of 10 and 18 years old in an effort to continue reaching out. It’s designed to “provide an environment to help guide young men by teaching them how to make informed and responsible decisions in their youth and early adulthood years,” according to the website’s mission statement. “I love what I do. My goal is to do whatever it takes to keep them off the streets. Trying to bridge the gap between the world, home, and what we have to offer.” Just like these women, we salute all the women in the Triad who work diligently to conquer motherhood, not just wear the T-shirt. Happy Mother’s Day. ! CHANEL DAVIS is the current editor of YES! Weekly and graduated from N.C. A&T S.U. in 2011 with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. She’s worked at daily and weekly newspapers in the Triad region.
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SCOTUS poised to overturn Roe v Wade “Roe was egregiously wrong from the start,” wrote U.S. Supreme Court Justice Samuel Alito in a draft majority opinion leaked by Politico on Monday. In the 98-page document, the Ian McDowell conservative Roman Catholic justice, who was successfully Contributor named by George W. Bush in 2005, repeatedly denounced Roe v. Wade, the landmark 1973 decision that constitutionally protects a woman’s right to abortion. “We hold that Roe and Casey must be overruled,” wrote Alito, also referring to Planned Parenthood v. Casey, another landmark abortion case that established the undue burden standard. That 1992 ruling not only upheld Roe, but decreed that a state legislature cannot make a law too burdensome or restrictive of fundamental rights. “None of these rights has any claim to being deeply rooted in history,” wrote Alito, stating that “appeals to a broader right to autonomy” outlined in Casey “could license fundamental rights to illicit drug use, prostitution, and the like.” While taking a swipe at Casey, Alito made clear his disdain for Roe, which he called “exceptionally weak” and accused of “damaging consequences.” Therefore, Alito declared, “it is time to heed the Constitution.” Mary-Rose Papandrea, Distinguished Professor of Constitutional Law at the University of North Carolina School of Law in Chapel Hill, told YES! Weekly that Alito is voicing an originalist interpretation of the Constitution. “In his view, you have to show that, at the time of the ratification of the Constitution, or in this case, of the 14th amendment in 1868, the right to have an abortion was recognized in this country.” Papandrea noted that Alito attempts to distinguish abortion rights from other rights the court has recognized. “He calls the right to an abortion a far cry from that of parents to raise their children the way that they wish, citing Meyer v Nebraska, which struck down that state’s law forbidding teaching any language but English. So, you can see we’re already past anything that’s expressly provided in the Constitution. “ According to Papandrea, Alito also distinguishes Roe from what the justice describes as “a handful of cases having WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
something to do with marriage.” In his argument, Alito cites Loving v Virginia, which protected interracial marriage. “It’s hard to see that was a right that was recognized at the founding,” said Papandrea. “At times, the court will define a right or issue on a higher level, to avoid the messy historical problem. So, rather than defining the right upheld in Loving, Alito reduces it to what he calls the right to marry.” She also pointed out Alito’s citation of Griswold v Connecticut, which set the stage for Roe V Wade by protecting the right of married people to use contraception. “It looks like Alito is trying to distinguish the right to have an abortion from the right to contraception. He’s trying to define any right to abortion as the right to end a potential life, which I think is a very narrow way of thinking about it, as opposed to the right to bodily autonomy, the right to control procreation, the right to control your family size. Those are other ways you could frame it and find much historical support.” When asked about Alito’s claim that continuing to uphold abortion rights could “license fundamental rights to illicit drug use, prostitution, and the like,” she called that both a scare tactic and slippery slope argument. “He interprets the claim of a right to abortion as claiming the liberty to do whatever you wish. But that, of course, is not what those defending abortion argue. And, of course, there have been scholars who argued that prostitution should be a fundamental right, along with a fundamental right to engage in polygamy..” What does the future hold? “For me, the only question is whether it will be a 6-3 or 5-4 decision, and on which side Justice Roberts will come down. There was a path the court could have taken to preserve Casey via a more limited decision to uphold a right to abortion in the first trimester, but the court did not do that, and I don’t think that a surprise.” “It’s possible but highly unlikely that the court will change this opinion or change the result in any meaningful way. It does look like Roe and Casey will be overturned. This opinion does not ban abortion, it just does not constitutionally protect the right to it, so that states that want it banned will be free to do so.” Which doesn’t mean it won’t be explicitly banned at the federal level. “The supreme court will not just reach out and make a pronouncement, but wait for a case to come before it. I expect pro-life advocates are preparing a litigation strategy in favor of banning abortion in all fifty states.” ! MAY 4-10, 2022
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rincess Johnson, founder of Royal Expressions Contemporary Ballet, is a dancer, advocate and mother, who holds court across the arts Katei Cranford community. As a child of that community, the Contributor Greensboro native’s decision to become a professional dancer was made in the halls and fields of James B. Dudley High School, where Johnson danced for both the marching band and as part of the Dudley Modern Dance Company. “My experience in both of those really unlocked my passion for dance,” she said of the experience that carried her through Dance and Business degrees at UNC-Greensboro. And across an internship with the NC Arts Council, and as part of the Richmond Ballet — aspects of which she folded into the Royal Expressions Contemporary Ballet, a dance company and school she formed in 2009 after moving back to the Triad. Certified with the American Ballet Theatre, Johnson’s company focuses on three areas: “professional dance production and performance, professional dance training, and outreach dance programs for the community,” she explained, with particular regard for the latter. Describing the symbiotic connection between herself, the arts and the general community-at-large, “the arts
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advocacy work impacts how much Royal Expressions and me as a dancer will thrive,” she noted. “And the work that I do at Royal Expressions, and as a dance artist, impacts the life my daughter will have,” she added, shifting focus to her baby girl, Naomi, who recently celebrated their first birthday. It’s a milestone Johnson receives with adoration and reverence. “This first year has gone by entirely too fast, but to celebrate our little girl is unbelievable, to say the least,” she said. “To be this up close and personal to a human life from conception and onward is one of the most rewarding, tiring, exhilarating, and difficult experiences I’ve ever had.”
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Espousing gratitude, Johnson considers motherhood a true blessing following a 7- and-a-half-year journey to fertility. “I don’t take a single moment with her for granted,” she said, “I know so many are still out there struggling to conceive and my heart aches for them all the more.” Recalling the emotions she and her husband experienced along that journey, “we kind of didn’t know what to do next mostly because of fear, shame, and even hope — hope that the diagnosis was wrong, but it wasn’t.” Finding solace in her art, she translated their experience with infertility into purpose, choreographing “(MIS)CONCEPTION,” a performance inspired by her story (along with others) and accompanied by a panel of experts discussing issues around fertility, gestation, foster care, adoption, and mental health. The show served as a testament to the power of artistic expression. Not only inspiring members of the audience—but also pointing Johnson toward paths to make IVF a possibility. “I spent much of my pregnancy holding my breath and praying we would make it,” she said, “and on April 16, 2021, at 1 p.m., I delivered a healthy, beautiful baby girl.”
A year later, Johnson revisited “(MIS) CONCEPTION,” as a new mom, during the Royal Expressions “REVIVALUTION” residency at the Stephen Hyers Theater. “It’s interesting retelling this story through dance and being on the other side,” she said. “All the feelings are still there, but it’s now mixed in with hope rather than hopelessness. This dance sparked my healing process. I thank God for this gift. It’s my prayer language. My healing remedy.” Healing beyond herself, the “revolution” components within the REVIVALUTION series offered workshops, master dance classes, and performances — from dance to poetry — aimed at advocacy for “equitable pay, funding, and opportunities for Black artists.” Though advocacy wasn’t Johnson’s intention at the start of her career, it became an element she couldn’t ignore. “I never wanted to be an organizer,” she explained. “I actually tried to steer clear and just be a ‘good little Black girl’, but after taking a step back and realizing the impact systemic racism was having on the Black community, specifically the arts community I decided to start speaking up for systematic changes.” In 2014, Johnson led a team that
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brought Misty Copeland (the first African American Female Principal Dancer with the American Ballet Theatre) to Greensboro. The next year, she helped bring Alicia Graf Mack, current Dean of Dance at Julliard (and first African American to hold the position) to town. “It’s always been important to me to connect our Black dancers with other Black dancers by bringing artists into our studios who have highly successful careers,” she said, referencing ways that pursuit has shifted gears in recent years. “Black arts organizations are severely underfunded; and the students we train don’t always have access or even knowledge of Black artists,” she noted. “It’s important to me to make sure I constantly educate my community on who our Black artists and arts organizations are locally, statewide, and nationally as well as be an advocate for arts equity funding.” Referencing the duality of resistance and support she’s seen, “I’ve focused on those who’ve taken time to hear me and see me,” Johnson continued. “I look forward to seeing changes happen, not only in the arts world, but our community as a whole. The arts are so connected to culture that it’s important that we’re WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
showing up and sharing our perspective when it comes to racial equity and inclusion across the board.” With that spirit, Johnson reaches across boards, forming the Juneteenth Greensboro executive committee with Lavinia Jackson, Dr. Zithobile Nxumalo, April Parker, Joi Stewart, Nicole J. Walker, and Joseph A. Wilkerson III, to bring large-scale Juneteenth events to the city. In 2021, their efforts helped push the Greensboro City Council to approve Juneteenth as a paid holiday for city employees. Announced festivities for Juneteenth GSO 2022 include the SiStars of Juneteenth event at the Van Dyke Performance Space on June 16, the Uptown FRESH Sneakerball at Khalif Event Center on June 17, and the Juneteenth Black Food Truck Festival at Lebauer Park on June 18. As a mom, advocate and dancer, Johnson is a matron on the move. Royal Expressions School of Dance is currently accepting students for summer camps and classes. More information can be found at RoyalExpressions.org. ! KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who enjoys spotlighting artists and events.
Raleigh Ringers
SUNDAY, MAY 15, 2022 DOORS OPEN @ 1PM // SHOW STARTS @ 2PM Since its founding in 1990, the Raleigh Ringers handbell choir has been dazzling audience with its unique interpretations of sacred, secular and popular music. Under the direction of David M. Harris, the ensemble has performed in 39 U.S. states and the District of Columbia, in several cities in France, in Canada, and on the Hour of Power at the Crystal Cathedral in California.
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Four Saints Brewing
218 South Fayetteville St. | 336.610.3722 www.foursaintsbrewing.com Thursdays: Taproom Trivia Fridays: Music Bingo May 7: Tim Wolf May 14: Caeland Garner May 15: Honky Tonk Jam w/ Mark Dillon & Friends May 21: Creatio
Charlotte
Bojangles Coliseum
2700 E Independence Blvd | 704.372.3600 www.boplex.com May 6: KEM & Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds May 8: Ricardo Arjona May 15: Kountry Wayne May 29: Dean Cole
CMCU Amphitheatre former Uptown Amphitheatre 820 Hamilton St | 704.549.5555 www.livenation.com May 16: Leon Bridges
The Fillmore
1000 NC Music Factory Blvd | 704.916.8970 www.livenation.com May 4: Mariah The Scientist May 5: Young M.A. May 5: Snog Aalegra May 6: Heather Land May 6: Hayden James May 7: Nardo Wick May 7: LP May 11: The Carousel tour ft Anthony Green, Laura Jane Grance, and Tim Kasher May 14: The Dead South May 14: Dean Lewis May 15: NLE Choppa May 18: Clutch
PNC Music Pavilion
707 Pavilion Blvd | 704.549.1292 www.livenation.com May 8: AJR & Gayle May 12: Tim McGraw May 20: Dave Matthews Band
Spectrum Center
333 E Trade St | 704.688.9000 www.spectrumcentercharlotte.com May 4: Casting Crowns and We The Kingdom May 8: Mount Westmore May 18: J Balvin YES! WEEKLY
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Village Square Tap House
6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct | 336.448.5330 www.vstaphouse.com | www.facebook. com/vstaphouse May 5: JVC and Anna Mertson May 13: Whiskey Mic
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Carolina Theatre
309 W Morgan St | 919.560.3030 www.carolinatheatre.org May 5: Beth Hart May 6: The Steeldrivers May 7: Rissi Palmer May 7: Stay Prayed Up May 11: Joe Jackson May 14: Leonid & Friends
DPAC
123 Vivian St | 919.680.2787 www.dpacnc.com May 3-8: My Fair Lady May 11: Triangle Rising Stars May 12: Get The Led Out
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Reeves Theater
129 W Main St | 336.258.8240 www.reevestheater.com Fourth Thursdays: Old-Time Jam May 6: Phatt City May 13: Bill & The Belles May 27: Jeff Little Trio May 28: Reeves House Band
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Arizona Pete’s
2900 Patterson St #A | 336.632.9889 www.arizonapetes.com May 24: After The Burial & Thy Art Is Murder w/ Currents & Brand Of Sacrifice
Barn Dinner Theatre 120 Stage Coach Tr. | 336.292.2211 www.barndinner.com Apr 9-May 7: Crowns Mar 14-Jun 25: Groovin’
Carolina Theatre
310 S. Greene Street | 336.333.2605 www.carolinatheatre.com May 4: Future Fund 10 May 8: Always... Patsy Cline
May 15: Dori Freeman May 19: Chelcie Lynn May 20: Drew Shamir: The CLRTHRY
Comedy Zone
1126 S Holden Rd | 336.333.1034 www.thecomedyzone.com May 5: Shayne Smith May 6-7: Shaun Jones May 12: Ca$h-Out Comedy May 13-15: Comedian CP
Flat Iron
221 Summit Ave | 336.501.3967 www.flatirongso.com May 5: Jack Marion & Pearl Snap Prophets May 6: Unheard Project - Shane Wheeler May 8: Jeff Plankenhorn and Scrappy Jud May 14: Royal Jelly May 20: Justin Cody Fox
Greensboro Coliseum 1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com May 21: Banda MS May 27: Erykah Badu & Friends
Little Brother Brewing
348 South Elm St | 336.510.9678 www.facebook.com/littlebrotherbrew May 20: Stray Local
Piedmont Hall
2411 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com May 21: Asking Alexandria w/ Atreyu
Rody’s Tavern
5105 Michaux Rd | 336.282.0950 www.rodystavern.com May 25: SoundKraft
South End Brewing Co. 117B W Lewis St | 336.285.6406 www.southendbrewing.com Tuesdays: Trivia Night May 12: Tony & Katy
Steven Tanger Center 300 N Elm Street | 336.333.6500 www.tangercenter.com May 5: KEM & Babyface May 7: A String Spectacular May 10: Steve Martin May 17: Rita Moreno May 20: Chicago May 21: Kenny G
The Idiot Box Comedy Club
503 N. Greene St | 336.274.2699 www.idiotboxers.com May 21: Mo Alexander
White Oak Ampitheatre
1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com May 25: The Smashing Pumpkins
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Goofy Foot Taproom 2762 NC-68 #109 | 336.307.2567 www.goofyfoottaproom.com May 21: The Williamsons May 28: Michael Chaney Music
High Point Theatre
220 E Commerce Ave | 336.883.3401 www.highpointtheatre.com May 6-8: Cinderella May 13-14: Celtic Legends May 15: Raleigh Ringers May 21-28: Recital 2022
Sweet Old Bill’s
1232 N Main St | 336.807.1476 www.sweetoldbills.com May 5: JB and Company May 12: Chris Sheppard May 19: Banjo Earth May 26: Michael and the Pentecost
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The Deck
118 E Main St | 336.207.1999 www.thedeckatrivertwist.com May 6: Retro Vinyl May 7: Decarlo May 12: Ethan Smith May 13: Patrick Rock May 14: Stereo Doll May 20: Big City May 21: Radio Revolver May 26: Renae Paige May 27: 7 Roads May 28: Jill Goodson
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Breathe Cocktail Lounge
221 N Main St. | 336.497.4822 www.facebook.com/BreatheCocktailLounge Wednesdays: Karaoke Fridays: DJ
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KERNERSVILLE BREWING COMPANY 221 N Main St. | 336.816.7283 kernersvillebrewing.com Thursdays: Trivia May 22: Brews-A-Palooza
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OLD NICK’S PUB
191 Lowes Foods Dr | 336.747.3059 www.OldNicksPubNC.com Fridays: Karaoke Jun 18: Carolina Pines
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CCU MUSIC PARK AT WALNUT CREEK
3801 Rock Quarry Rd | 919.821.4111 www.livenation.com May 17: KISS May 21: Tim McGraw
LINCOLN THEATRE
126 E. Cabarrus St | 919.831.6400 www.lincolntheatre.com May 6: Town Mountain May 8: Freddie Gibbs May 11: Lucius w/ Celisse May 12: Jantsen w/ Space Wizard, Superave May 13: Aly & AJ May 14: Nightrain - Guns N’ Roses Tribute May 15: Tray Wellington Band w/ Sunny Miles (Solo)
RED HAT AMPHITHEATER 500 S McDowell St | 919.996.8800 www.redhatamphitheater.com May 7: AJR May 10: The Offspring May 16: Rex Orange County
PNC ARENA
1400 Edwards Mill Rd | 919.861.2300 www.thepncarena.com May 16: Casting Crowns, We The Kingdom Mar 22: John Mulaney
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BULL’S TAVERN
408 West 4th St | 336.331.3431 www.bullswsnc.com Wednesdays: Karaoke May 20: Sun Dried Vibes May 28: Pure Fiyah
EARL’S
121 West 9th Street | 336.448.0018 www.earlsws.com May 5: Wild Goose Chase May 6: River Ridge Band WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
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FIDDLIN’ FISH BREWING COMPANY 772 Trade St | 336.999.8945 www.fiddlinfish.com May 12: Jessie Dunks May 27: Camel City Blues
FOOTHILLS BREWING 638 W 4th St | 336.777.3348 www.foothillsbrewing.com May 1: Sunday Jazz May 8: Sunday Jazz
MIDWAY MUSIC HALL
11141 Old US Hwy 52, Suite 10 | 336.793.4218 www.facebook.com/midwaymusichallandeventcenter Mondays: Line Dancing w/ Denise May 6: Sidekix May 13: Brett Tolley and Friends May 14: Lacey Key May 14: Jimmy Shirley Jr. & The 8 Track 45 Band May 20: Jimmy Shirley Jr. & The 8 Track 45 Band
MUDDY CREEK CAFE & MUSIC HALL
137 West St | 336.201.5182 www.muddycreekcafeandmusichall.com Thursdays: Open Mic Night w/ Country Dan Collins Jun 18: Muddy Creek Band
THE RAMKAT
170 W 9th St | 336.754.9714 www.theramkat.com May 5: Mauve Angeles, Earl May 7: Tribute to Chris Garges May 12: Spirit System, Irata, Petrov May 13: Tyler Nail, His & Hers May 14: Stryper, The Fifth May 17: Five Tone Faces, Secret Monkey Weekend May 18: John 5, Written in Gray May 19: Dai Cheri, Toothsome May 21: American Aquarium, Time Sawyer, Sam Foster & The Obsolete
Make An Impact for the School Bond and Sales Tax for Schools Most Guilford County schools were built for the freshman Class of 1967, not the graduating Class of 2022. School bond funding will support modernized classrooms and wireless technology, providing students and teachers with the tools for a quality education in today’s high-tech world. The 2022 bond will also deliver safety upgrades to 100 percent of schools across the county, including ones with immediate safety and security concerns by installing things such as security cameras, digital locks, classroom phones, intercoms, and safe entry points.
Vote YES: School Bond • 34 schools across the county to be rebuilt, renovated and constructed. • Upgrade technology and safety measures at every school in Guilford County. • Expand in-demand programs such as STEM, Career & Technical Education and Early/Middle College to schools across the county.
Vote YES: Sales Tax for schools • Applies to visitors who spend $1.6 billion in Guilford County annually. • Only 5 extra pennies on every $20 spent, and does NOT apply to groceries, vehicles, gas and RX drugs. • Ensures property tax rates are not raised. County Commissioners have even voted to lower property tax rates if the sales tax is passed.
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WINSTON-SALEM FAIRGROUND
421 W 27th St | 336.727.2236 www.wsfairgrounds.com May 19-20: Classic Country Concert
WISE MAN BREWING
826 Angelo Bros Ave | 336.725.0008 www.wisemanbrewing.com Thursdays: Music Bingo
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I’m a 45-year-old single guy seeking a long-term relationship. My problem is that when I’m interacting with a woman I’m attracted to, my ability to read Amy Alkon whether she’s interested in me goes out Advice the window. I suspect Goddess I’ve missed out on some great women because I couldn’t read their signals quickly enough. — Disappointed Where you go wrong is in taking the hesitant approach to asking a woman out — waiting for her to give you some unambiguous indication of interest (ideally, in large red letters on a lighted billboard pulled by a pair of rented elephants). That said, you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. The psychological operating system now driving you (and all of us) evolved to solve ancestral mating and survival
problems, and what was adaptive back then can be maladaptive today. Take how we evolved to be deeply concerned about safeguarding our reputation. Reputation is essentially our social report card — others’ evaluation of the sort of person we are. It matters today, of course, but not in the life-or-death way it often did in an ancestral environment, where — per anthropologist Irven DeVore’s estimate — many people were with the same band of about 25 others for much of their life. Back then, if a guy got snubbed by a girl, it would be front-cave news; everybody would know and be laughing behind his back in short order. Flash-forward to today. You’re in a bar. Some woman you hit on spurns you. Well, that stinks — and more so if there are witnesses. But there are countless other bars — which means you can erase the embarrassing stain on your social rap sheet simply by trotting down the block to the next happy hour. Ultimately, recognizing the mismatch between our evolved emotions and modern life helps you understand when the emotions driving you are counterproductively outdated — and basically stupid.
In short, assuming that a woman you’re chatting up isn’t giving you a hate glare, ask her out. If she isn’t interested, she’ll let you know — either right then, with some brushoff like “Actually, I have a boyfriend...” or later, when you phone her and hear: “Home Depot, lumber department. How may I direct your call?”
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I just accompanied my best friend on this extremely stressful trip to put her mom into assisted living. My friend vapes, and I started vaping, too, after being off nicotine for years. I bought a vape, but I’m hiding it from my wife because she’s so judgmental about it. I’m not ready to stop yet, but I feel awful hiding it. — Hooked What’s worse than the crime? The cover-up — when your wife asks “How was your day, honey?” and you just nod as vape smoke leaks out of your nostrils. Your hiding your vaping is an “instrumental lie.” This kind of deceit, explains deception researcher Bella DePaulo, is a self-serving lie used as an “instrument” to unfairly influence other people’s behavior — allowing the liar to get what they want,
do what they want, or avoid punishment. Chances are, the “punishment” you’re avoiding is the rotten feelings you’d have in the wake of your wife’s dismay that your old BFF, nicotine, is back. However, DePaulo’s research on people duped by those close to them suggests that covering up the truth is ultimately more costly — leading to far more and far longer-lasting feelbad. It makes sense that the betrayal is the bigger deal because it socks the duped person right in the ego, telling them they were a sucker for being so trusting. In romantic situations, a duped person’s notion of the relationship as a safe space — a place where they can let their guard down — gets shaken or shattered when reality turns out to be “reality” in a fake nose and glasses. Telling the truth, on the other hand — leaving your wife feeling disappointed, but not deceived — sets the stage for a discussion instead of a prosecution. This allows your wife the emotional space to see the real you — the you who broke down and started vaping while doing this emotionally grueling very kind deed. (What?! You aren’t made of titanium?!) Compassion from your wife should mean more leeway for you to set the behavioral agenda — to tell her
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that you want to stop but ask that she let you do it on your own timetable. This isn’t to say you should always be perfectly or immediately honest. For example, if you prefer your wife with longer hair, that’s something she needs to know — eventually. But at that moment when she walks in with an “edgy” new haircut, “Helloo, beautiful!” is actually the best policy — as opposed to the more honest “Whoa! Stevie Wonder attack you with a pair of garden shears?” ! GOT A PROBLEM? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com). Follow her on Twitter @amyalkon. Order her latest “science-help” book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence. ©2022 Amy Alkon. Distributed by Creators.Com.
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