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The Steven Tanger Center for Performing Arts has kicked off its inaugural Broadway season with sold-out performances, a packed house, and bigname plays coming to the Triad. The first of many successfully promising performances is the Broadway musical, WICKED, which is expected to christen the stage next month.

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Beginning Friday, “OUT AT THE MOVIES,” Winston-Salem’s popular LGBTQ+ festival and screening series, will commence its eighth annual International Film Fest at venues in downtown Winston-Salem and the ACE Exhibition Complex on the UNCSA main campus, 1533 S. Main Street, Winston-Salem.

6 Artists around the state now have an opportunity to WIN FUNDS for their creative projects as many agencies return to earmarking funds for artists in need.

8 Instant cult status is assured for CENSOR, which marks an auspicious (albeit uneven) feature debut for co-writer/director Prano Bailey-Bond, as well as a strong showcase for leading lady Niamh Algar, who holds everything together – no mean feat – with an intense and affecting performance.

9 If there was a competition for the “Most Enthusiastic CEO,” Jennifer Wilcox would be a finalist for sure. Though still new to the job of Chief Executive Officer (she was hired in late July), Jennifer is both leader and cheerleader for GIRL SCOUTS Carolinas Peaks to Piedmont,

an organization that stretches across 40 counties in North Carolina, and serves nearly 7,000 Girl Scouts.

14 “How do you want us to trust y’all after you just beat his ass like that?” yelled an onlooker at the white High Point police lieutenant who REPEATEDLY STRUCK a Black man with a steel baton while the subject was held down, pepper-sprayed, and punched by three other white officers.

The incident, captured in a live video that has received over 7K views on Facebook, took place at 111 Chestnut Drive shortly before 4 p.m. on Thursday, Sept. 16.

19 As the seasons’ turn, WinstonSalem’s Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA) will turn out a season of song with expanded musical offerings, including two new music series and a 65th birthday bash with the band Bowerbirds.

Continuing to celebrate “the Art of Now,” SECCA will launch NIGHT MOODS, a “nocturnal concert series exploring the electronic and hypnotic at the historic Hanes House,” with Flower in Bloom and Body Games on Sept. 25.

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FROM LA TO THE 336: SELFIE MUSEUMS BY A&T ALUMNA TAKE OVER THE TRIAD

BY HABIN HWANG

In what many call the beginning of a contact-free age, social media apps such as Instagram and Tik Tok have exponentially increased in popularity. With our increasing proximity to one another through the photos that we take, selfie museums have opened across the country to encourage self-expression in one “Instagrammable” shot. Unlike traditional museums, a selfie museum displays various backdrops for photos, where patrons can interact with the scene and space to create the shot of their choice. Two of these photo locations have recently entered the Triad — The Selfie Spot and The Rich Girls Museum.

THE RICH GIRLS MUSEUM

The idea for the Rich Girls Museum was born in Los Angeles, where North Carolina A&T graduate MarTeekia Sweat and fiancé Joshua White were inspired by the plethora of selfie museums during her time residing in the area. With the combination of her graphic design degree and love for being creative, Sweat brought her brainchild back home to Greensboro with the concept of bringing a part of L.A. to the Triad. Though the Rich Girls Museum began as an empty, available room next to Sweat and White’s music studio, it quickly grew into a social media phenomenon that came to define the Triad. After years of brainstorming, building, and detail-oriented work, the Rich Girls Museum opened in late 2020, becoming the first Blackowned selfie museum in the nation.

“We started blowing up on Tik Tok,” Sweat recalled. “People started coming from across the country.”

Tik Tok creator Junebug and a lineup of Soundcloud creators were few of the many to visit the selfie spot. The Rich Girls Museum Instagram also began rapidly increasing in popularity.

Located off of Spring Garden Street, the museum is incredibly accessible due to its proximity to many restaurants and cafes. Featuring many rooms with various themes, the Rich Girls Museum offers an array of backdrop choices so each person can take the shot perfect for them.

Including a hot pink airplane room, tub room filled with balls, and a lip-themed room with a lip couch, among many other scenes to choose from, Sweat designed each room to accommodate each individual’s desired aesthetic. “[The museum is accessible for] definitely all ages in the same way,” Sweat commented. “Greensboro is pretty small, so people want to go out to eat and come WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

The Rich Girls Museum to the Rich Girls Museum afterward or before.”

The Rich Girls Museum is meant to be enjoyed with a partner, small parties, or larger ones — as long as visitors have a camera, a photographer, and a model, this photo location is an incredible experience for anyone.

Sweat aspires to franchise the location, and plans on opening branches of The Rich Girls Museum in Myrtle Beach and Charlotte in the upcoming years.

The Selfie Spot GSO Griffin and her two daughters want the world to be a happier place, both in and out of their selfies.

“Our motto is for you to ‘Believe in Your Selfie,’” Griffin commented. “With that being said, we have a lot in store for the future. We have plans to feed the homeless during Thanksgiving [and] give away toys for Christmas. We recently gave out

book bags and school supplies to children in the community to prepare them to go back to school.”

Griffin’s kindness stems from a place of surviving and understanding hardship.

On Sept. 6, she shared her story on social media of surviving domestic violence and growing up in a home with her parents.

However, instead of limiting herself to what she had experienced throughout her lifetime, she became inspired to build something out of it — especially a project that could not only be shared with her daughters as a legacy project but also empower others through her success journey. Griffin hopes to expand to other cities in different states in the coming years to spread both the joy of the selfie and her unconditional kindness across the nation. !

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The Selfie Spot was the product of A&T alumni Antonia L. Griffin’s creativity, located in Downtown Greensboro. Bringing more than just photos to the table, Griffin strives to not only make Instagram a more beautiful place but to use her kindness and inspirational journey to make the Triad a happier place.

“Being that we live in a social media world, we bring a safe and happy space for people to come and take selfies to post on Instagram,” Griffin said. “They can come and do Tik Toks, create lots of content for their social media page, or just come and simply have fun.”

On March 2, 2021, Griffin began her journey to open the Selfie Spot with her two daughters, Kyizhay and Kyijha.

“I had the keys in my hands for The Selfie Spot,” Griffin stated. “[After meeting] with Vivid Interior Designs, construction [began in] May 2021.”

With 14 custom vignettes to take selfies, The Selfie Spot offers unique scenes and backdrops that any age can enjoy. Scenes include a flower wall, black-and-white striped wall, phone booth, and laundry room with money. However, this business wants to do more than just offer a photo location for local social media gurus — SEPTEMBER 22-28, 2021 YES! WEEKLY

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“OUT at the Movies”: Make a date for eight

eginning Friday, “OUT at the Movies,” Winston-Salem’s popular LGBTQ+ festival and screening series, will commence its eighth annual International Film Fest at venues in downtown Winston-Salem and the ACE Exhibition Complex on the UNCSA main campus, 1533 S. Main Street, Winston-Salem.

The festival, which runs through Sunday, features 16 feature films and 17 shorts, including the world premiere of the short film The Grey Area, and a number of North Carolina and Southeastern premieres. In addition, the films being shown will also be available virtually beginning Friday for those who prefer to watch them at home.

Tickets are $10 per screening or $100 for a festival pass, which offers unlimited in-person and online screenings. For a complete schedule of screenings and events, visit https://outatthemovies. org/2021-film-festival/.

For those planning to attend festival events in person, proof of COVID-19 vaccination or a recent negative COVID-19 PRC test (within 72 hours) is required for all filmmakers, actors, documentary subjects, audience members, party guests, and “OUT at the Movies” volunteers. In addition, masks will be required inside all areas of the ACE Exhibition Complex.

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are required in all indoor areas, except when eating or drinking.

“I am really happy with this year’s programming,” said Rex Welton, the co-founder of the “OUT at the Movies” screening series and director of both the series and the festival. “We have a number of North Carolina and Southeastern U.S. premieres and one world premiere, The Grey Area. It is the first world premiere in the history of ‘OUT at the Movies.’”

The festival kicks off Friday with a pair of opening-night screenings: Director Angela Washko’s feature documentary Workhorse Queen at 7 p.m. and co-directors Julian Dabien and Cristina Tamagnini’s acclaimed Argentinian drama The Teacher (El Maestro) at 7:10 p.m. The former film will conclude with a post-screening Q&A session featuring Mrs. Kasha Davis and Steven Lewins, moderated by Shelita Bonet Hoyle and Alyson Williams.

Saturday at 11:30 a.m., Randy “R.J. Jones” (the “cowboy” from The Village People) will be on hand for a special retrospective screening of the infamous 1980 disco musical Can’t Stop the Music, which showcased The Village People and has since become a camp classic. He will participate in a post-screening Q&A with Ron Stacker Thompson, professor and chair of screenwriting at the UNCSA School of Filmmaking.

In addition, Jones, a 1975 graduate of the UNCSA School of Dance, will be performing live in concert Saturday night at The Ramkat, 170 W. Ninth Street, Winston-Salem. The Ramkat will host filmmaker receptions the first two evenings of the festival at 9:30 p.m., with the final reception and awards ceremony to be held at Sweet Potatoes, 607 Trade Street NW, Winston-Salem.

Although, as the name of the festival indicates, “OUT at the Movies” showcases films that feature LGBTQ+ characters

or address LGBTQ+ issues, its appeal is certainly not limited to any one segment of the community, which Welton believes is a key element to the enduring success of the screenings and the annual festival. “‘OUT at the Movies’ definitely appeals to the entire community,” he said. “At our August ‘Key West in Winston-Salem’ party, we sold out and hosted more than 250 guests outdoors. Many, if not most, of our guests, appeared to be members of the straight community.”

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Swan Song | Sunday, Septebmer 26, 7 p.m. been a worldwide concern, and made planning and implementing many public events — including film festivals — that much more difficult, yet, said Welton, it hasn’t compromised his enthusiasm.

“As long as folks continue to enjoy our movies and parties, it is still well worth it,” he said. “In addition, we are so proud of our scholarship at the UNCSA School of Filmmaking. UNCSA’s ACE Complex has been our primary ‘home’ since our first screening in 2004. Matt Jones and Eric Self of the School of Filmmaking have always had our backs and have been huge advocates for ‘OUT at the Movies.’ We are thrilled with the collaboration!”

In addition, “we are so thankful that the majority of our sponsors and donors have continued to support us during the pandemic. Their support has allowed us to continue funding the ‘OUT at the Movies’ Scholarship at the UNCSA School of Filmmaking and assisted us in continuing to provide one of the best festival experiences in America for our filmmakers, actors, documentary subjects, audience members, party attendees, and volunteers.”

Regarding those volunteers, Welton makes no secret of his appreciation.

“If it weren’t for ‘our people’ — a lot of very dedicated, creative, and talented volunteers — ‘OUT at the Movies’ would not happen.”

Incidentally, should anyone be interested in volunteering for this year’s festival as a driver, they will receive a festival pass good for unlimited in-person movies at UNCSA. The “OUT at the Movies” festival is, of course, meant to be a fun-filled celebration of cinema and community, but a number of films address more serious issues. One of these is Park View, the award-winning documentary which marks the feature debut of Wilmingtonbased editor/producer/director Tab Ballis.

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The film, which will be screened Saturday at 7:10 p.m, delves into the appalling 1990 murder of 32-year-old lesbian Talana Kreeger in Wilmington, a case often compared to that of the murder of Matthew Shepard in Wyoming in 1998.

Ballis will participate in a post-screening Q&A along with fellow guests Kristen Dempsey and Lynette Miller.

“In seeking a North Carolina-based film festival for Park View’s statewide premiere, we were drawn to the focused aesthetic and attention to detail that has been epitomized by Rex Welton and his team in the ‘OUT at the Movies’ International Film Festival in Winston-Salem,” Ballis explained. “With an obvious wealth of creative talent in the (Piedmont) Triad to draw from, Rex has curated an impressive line-up of films that span a broad spectrum of LGBTQ+-lived experience, and we are grateful that ‘OUT at the Movies’ was willing to hold the space for a film of Park View’s intensity, which will be both challenging and inspiring to in-person and virtual audiences.”

If the film arouses controversy and debate, so much the better.

“Like the stark image of Matthew Shepard’s final resting place on a Wyoming split-rail fence after his violent murder, the honest telling of Talana Kreeger’s story is difficult to witness, but the redemptive power of illuminating her humanity, and the resilience of the queer community in Wilmington, has been empowering to those who do.” !

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Application process opens for 2022 Artists Grants/Funds across NC plicant workshops, and assist applicants.

For more information and application, check out: https://www.artsgreensboro. org/.

Artists around the state now have an opportunity to win funds for their creative projects as many agencies return to earmarking funds for artists in need.

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North Carolina Arts Council’s Region #10 Grant Contributor The North Carolina Arts Council reopens its application process for its 2022 Artists Grant. The grant is divided into two separate applications depending on your county. Artists in all disciplines are eligible to apply for grants to support their professional and artistic development. Emerging, mid-career, and established artists can apply to support a range of professional and artistic development, including creating work, improving business operations, or expanding capacity to bring work to new audiences. Artist fees are also allowable expenses.

The first application for the Artist Support Grants will be distributed to North Carolina Arts Council’s Region #10, which includes Caswell, Rockingham, Stokes, Surry, and Yadkin Counties. The final day for application acceptance is Sept. 30, 2021.

The Artist Support Grant was created to provide direct support to individual artists during and following the COVID-19 pandemic. The initiative funds professional and artistic development for emerging and established artists to enhance their skills and abilities to create work or to improve their business operations and capacity to bring their work to new audiences. “As an arts agency based in a rural community, the Yadkin Arts Council is grateful for this opportunity to be able to help our local artists by serving as the administrator of the North Carolina Arts Council’s Artist Support Grants for our region,” Sarah Smith said, Executive Director of Yadkin Arts Council. “Being able to support and encourage emerging and established artists to apply as well as setting up a panel that is composed of knowledgeable professionals from our field is fulfilling to us as an organization and it is our honor to play a role in the process.”

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offered through a partnership of the North Carolina Arts Council, Caswell Council for the Arts, Rockingham County Arts Council, Surry Arts Council, Stokes County Arts Council, and Yadkin Arts Council.

For more information and application, check out: https://www.yadkinarts.org/ artist-support-grant/.

North Carolina’s Arts Council’s Grant by ArtsGreenbsoro The second Artists Support Grant will be distributed to awarded applicants by ArtsGreensboro in the five-county region; Davidson, Davie, Forsyth, Guilford, and Randolph County.

The application deadline is Sunday, Oct. 18, 2021, by 11:59 p.m. Grants range in awards from $500 to $2,000.

“The Artist Support Grant is an amazing opportunity for artists of all ethnicities and artistic disciplines to support their art careers. As an artist and Grants Program Manager, I know how necessary it is for artists to receive funding to support their art professions,” Darlene McClinton said, Grants Program Manager for ArtsGreenbsoro. “The ArtsGreensboro team is committed to ensuring that all people have access to funding and an equitable grant process. We believe the arts are meant for everyone. To this point, I have hosted a series of outreach and advocacy informational workshops for various cultures and genders to increase the diversity of the application pool.”

The lead arts councils, ArtsGreensboro, and The Arts Council of Winston-Salem & Forsyth County administer the grant process and conduct a review panel to determine awardees. Other regional partners include Arts Davidson County, Davie County Arts Council, and Randolph Arts Guild. All partners will work together to provide marketing and outreach, host ap-

Pivotal Fund Artist Support Grant Opportunities for artists to expand with the Pivotal Fund, which is offering $5,000 grants to five artist-organized projects that serve artists and communities in nine North Carolina counties: Alamance, Chatham, Davidson, Durham, Forsyth, Guilford, Orange, Randolph, and Wake.

Pivotal Fund is dedicating $25,000 in this cycle to project grants that directly support artist-organized projects. “Although we are based out of Raleigh, we wanted to find a way where we could bridge the gap between the triad and the triangle, and provide funding opportunities to those who need it,” Yvonna Johnson said, Director of Programs at VAE. The application deadline is 11:59 p.m. on Oct. 25, 2021. Applicants should expect to be notified by the end of the day on Dec. 1, 2021.

A virtual town hall will be held Oct. 6, 2021, from 6 to 7 p.m., to provide more insight into why the grant was created and what they are looking to fund.

All of the artist grants are intended to support a broad range of talented visual, performing, literary, and interdisciplinary artists. Eligible candidates may be either emerging or established artists.

Applicants should demonstrate a commitment to spending a significant portion of their time on their work as artists. The Artist Support Grants will support new or ongoing projects that take place between Jan. 1, 2022, and Dec. 31, 2022. All grant funding must be spent by June 30, 2022.

Awards may range from $500-$1000.

Applicants may receive full or partial funding.

All completed Artist Support Grant applications will be judged by a multicounty panel of established artists, arts professionals, and arts educators and administrators who will review and evaluate the applications and allocate funds for selected projects.

These grants are open to resident North Carolina artists in all disciplines, from traditional to contemporary and established to emerging. Applicants should demonstrate a commitment to spending a significant portion of their time on their work as artists. The grant can also be used to support a range of professional

and artistic development, creation of new work, improvement of business operations, marketing/expanding capacity to reach new audiences, and artist fees.

Small, unincorporated groups of collaborating artists are also eligible to apply. All members of a collaborating team must be North Carolina residents, live in the region where they are applying, and meet the other eligibility requirements.

The Pivotal Fund is a partnership between VAE Raleigh and Elsewhere Museum, with financial support provided

by The Andy Warhol Foundation for Visual Arts.

For more information and application, check out: https://www.pivotalfund.org/ project-grants?mc_cid=e56d9f7445&mc_ eid=515968e717.

30th Annual NC New Play Project (2023) sponsored

by Creative Greensboro In addition to artist grants, North Carolina has opened an opportunity specifically for residential playwrights.

The New Play Project has been presented for 29 years with support from the Mark Gilbert estate – annually awarding a $500 cash prize to a selected playwright along with a workshop production of the selected play. Creative Greensboro, the City of Greensboro’s office for arts and culture, continues to offer this opportunity to advance innovation and support the playwriting community. “It’s not a grant at all, but a funded opportunity for an NC playwright to see their work on stage and in turn hopefully see that work continue to receive productions around the country.” Todd Fisher said, Performing Arts Coordinator. “Creative Greensboro remains in the forefront of providing playwrights the opportunity to see their plays go from paper to stage.”

The deadline for submissions is Nov. 12, 2021. The announcement of the selected play(s) will be Jan. 16, 2022. A committee appointed by Creative Greensboro will select which play(s) is produced. The selection committee will score each script based on the following elements: Story, Character, Dialogue, Production Value, and Production Readiness.

For more information and application, check out: https://www.greensboro-nc. gov/departments/creative-greensboro. !

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nstant cult status is assured for Censor, which marks an auspicious (albeit uneven) feature debut for co-writer/director Prano Bailey-Bond, Mark Burger as well as a strong showcase for leading lady Niamh Algar, Contributor who holds everything together – no mean feat – with an intense and affecting performance.

This award-winning shocker is set in Britain during the heyday of the ‘80s-era “video nasties” period, when the government cracked down on violent horror films to such an extent that retailers were sometimes arrested and fined for renting and selling them.

Some of these films (The Evil Dead, The Hills Have Eyes) are acknowledged as genre classics, others (Faces of Death, Night of the Bloody Apes, Snuff) most definitely are not, but unsurprisingly the

notoriety boosted their profile, whether deserved or not. (No such thing as bad publicity!)

The official censors of these films were frequently the objects of media scrutiny, and one of them is Enid Baines (Algar), a severe and withdrawn young woman who takes her job very seriously. She dutifully watches the films, taking notes which scenes are to be censored, then goes home alone, having no life beyond her work.

One (major) reason is that she still nurses guilt over the disappearance of her younger sister years before. The emotional wounds never healed, but are soon reopened when she watches a slasher film in which the leading actress, Alice Lee (Sophia La Porta), bears a remarkable resemblance to her sister.

Thus begins Enid’s inevitable descent into madness, as she becomes obsessed with Alice. When she is surreptitiously photographed obtaining one of Alice’s earlier films at a local video store – essentially blackmailing the clerk because it’s a “video nasty” – the resulting scandal thrusts Enid into the public eye, which further shakes her grip on sanity.

Whatever the film’s drawbacks, Algar’s performance is not among them. It’s a fearful tour-de-force. As demented as Enid becomes, the character remains

sympathetic, even when she becomes dangerous.

About a third of the way into the narrative, Censor forsakes its early satire almost entirely and shifts into the psychologicalthriller territory. It’s almost as if BaileyBond opted not to juggle both elements simultaneously. The remainder of the film is effective, and at its best recalls Polanski’s classic Repulsion (1965), yet the black comedy is missed.

Horror fans will appreciate the in-jokes and nostalgic references, to say nothing of the resulting carnage, and there’s excellent cinematography by Annika Summerson and a terrific score by Emilie Levienaise-Arrouch that, at various points, fondly recalls Tangerine Dream.

The people associated with Censor are undeniably talented. We’ll be hearing from them again.

– Censor is available on-demand, on digital, and on DVD ($26.98 retail) from Magnet Releasing/Magnolia Home Entertainment, the latter replete with bonus features. !

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f there was a competition for the “Most Enthusiastic CEO,” Jennifer Wilcox would be a finalist for sure. Though still new to the job of Chief Executive Officer (she was hired Jim Longworth in late July), Jennifer is both leader and cheerleader for Girl Longworth Scouts Carolinas at Large Peaks to Piedmont, an organization that stretches across 40 counties in North Carolina, and serves nearly 7,000 Girl Scouts. Jennifer comes by her enthusiasm for Girl Scouts honestly, as she told me during a recent segment of “Triad Today.”

JL: You might be new to Girl Scouts in this area, but you’re not new to Girl Scouts.

JW: That’s right. I grew up in southern Indiana, and I was a Girl Scout in Jeffersonville, which is right across the river from Louisville, Kentucky. I was a Girl Scout Brownie and Junior, and I stayed in Girl Scouts until I got to middle school.

After graduating from the University of Evansville, and obtaining a Masters from Webster University, Jennifer served as the Associate Economic Development director for her hometown of Jeffersonville, then started her own non-profit agency to promote community development throughout Indiana and Kentucky. Before long, Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana came calling and hired Jennifer as Chief Operating Officer. Most recently she served as Senior Director of National Events at Girl Scouts of the USA, where she created the first-ever virtual National Council Session during the 2020 pandemic.

JL: You had great success at the national level, so what attracted you to this job?

JW: The attraction to come to North Carolina and to be a part of the Peaks to Piedmont team was really about coming home. I had a fantastic opportunity with Girl Scouts USA and got to see the global reach that we have, but I had a longing to get back to the basics of our organization, and back to the basics of our mission.

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Jennifer Wilcox girls, so how would you describe the value of being a Girl Scout?

JW: There are so many wonderful things that girls get to take away from Girl Scouts. You get to make new friends, and you get to have fun. You also have fantastic role models and mentoring.

Above all, Girl Scouts is a safe space that gives girls an opportunity to try new things that they may never have otherwise tried, and you have leaders around you, and sisters around you to support you in that space.

JL: You mentioned leaders and role models. How many adult volunteers do you have now, and do you need more?

JW: We have 4,000 volunteers employed across the forty counties, but we still need more. In fact, we’re in the middle of our recruitment season, and we’re looking for both girls and adult members, so this is the perfect time to become a Girl Scout.

To learn more about becoming a Girl Scout or an adult volunteer, visit www. girlscoutsp2p.org or call 1-800 672-2148. !

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It was 1928 when Virginia Oliver, age 8, started trapping lobsters, and she hasn’t stopped working the harvest yet. Oliver, now 101 years old, is a sternman on her 78-year-old son’s boat, which bears

her name. In that role, she measures and bands lobsters, but Oliver, of Rockland, Maine, also loads traps with small fish to attract lobsters and gets up before dawn to head out to sea. The Associated Press reported that a couple of years ago, a crab nipped her finger and she had to have seven stitches. When the doctor asked Oliver why she was still lobstering, she snapped back, “Well, that’s ‘cause I want to do it.” Oliver has no plans to retire. “I like being along the water. And

so I’m going to keep on doing it just as long as I can.”

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Animal behavioral scientists at the University of Auckland in New Zealand, responding to the critical problem of livestock waste, have trained calves to urinate in a MooLoo — a special pen with an AstroTurf surface, the Associated Press reported. Perhaps you didn’t know that urine mixed with feces makes ammonia, which is an issue for the environment, or that cows produce an impressive amount of urine in a day: about 8 gallons. About the potty-training endeavor, the study’s senior author, Lindsay Matthews, said, “The cows are at least as good as children, age 2 to 4 years, at least as quick.” Researchers lured the cows into the pen with a sweet treat and then rewarded them when they urinated. If, after training, they went outside the MooLoo, they got a squirt of cold water. Next up: No. 2.

UNDIGNIFIED DEATH

Timothy Satterlee, 71, of St. Tammany Parish, Louisiana, was attacked on Aug. 30 by a 12-foot-long, 504-pound alligator during flooding following Hurricane Ida, the Daily Beast reported. His wife told police she was able to free him from the gator and pull him onto the front steps of their home, but while she went to get help, Satterlee disappeared.

The parish sheriff’s office said on Sept.

13 that it had captured the gator with “what appears to be human remains” in its stomach. The coroner’s office was confirming that the remains were Satterlee’s. “This is a horrible tragedy and my sincere condolences and sympathy goes to the Satterlee family,” Sheriff Randy Smith said.

OH, CANADA

In the small town of Durham in Ontario, Canada, an unidentified driver sealed his fate on Sept. 15 when, at about 1:45 a.m., he began driving a red Cadillac in slow circles around the parking lot of the Durham Regional Police station, CTV News reported. An officer inside the building noticed the car and went outside, asking the driver to stop. “The driver did not comply and continued to drive slowly in and around the parked police vehicles while flashing his headlights,” police said. Finally, two cruisers boxed him in and stopped the car. The driver was arrested for driving while impaired.

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LEAST COMPETENT CRIMINAL

A 17-year-old driver in Youngstown, Ohio, was pulled over by police after he ran a stop sign and drove at high speeds on Sept. 15, WKBN-TV reported. When police spoke to the nervous young man, they smelled what they thought was marijuana, and in the car they found a device that is used to load ammunition into a semi-automatic firearm. They also noticed that his belt was unbuckled. The teenager explained to police that the device belonged to his sister, and regarding his belt, he said, “I ain’t gonna lie, I was trying to take a s—t.” But police also searched the area where he had been driving and found a 9mm handgun in a yard. Finally, the suspect admitted that the gun was his and, presumably, he had been trying to hide it in his waistband.

He was charged with improper handling of a firearm in a motor vehicle.

IRONY

Philip Morris International, maker of Marlboro and Parliament cigarettes, has sealed a deal with Vectura, a U.K.based company that makes medicines — including inhalers for respiratory conditions — with a $1.1 billion bid. The BBC reported on Sept. 16 that PMI’s CEO, Jacek Olczak, is “excited” to expand the company’s product lines, but medical organizations and charities are less than thrilled about the purchase. “It creates perverse incentives for PMI to sell more of its harmful products so they might then profit again through treating smoking-related diseases,” said Sarah Woolnough, CEO of Asthma UK and the British Lung Foundation. The agreement is set to be final on Sept. 30.

FINE POINTS OF THE LAW

On Sept. 13, a road rage incident in Amarillo, Texas, all started when Car No. 1 tried to pass Car Nos. 2 and 3. No. 1 got past the first car, but No. 3 sped up to prevent the pass. As Car No. 1 passed No. 3, someone in No. 1 fired shots into No. 3.

“The victim in this case did have a handgun in their vehicle and returned fire at the suspect,” Amarillo police Cpl. Jeb Hilton told KVII-TV. And here’s where Texas’ tricky law comes in: While it is against Texas law to shoot a firearm from a moving or stationary vehicle on a roadway, if you’re shooting in self-defense, you’re off the hook. The person in Car No. 3 will not face any charges. There were no injuries reported in the incident. !

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A Wicked-ly Good Season: Tanger Center kicks off its Broadway shows

he Steven Tanger Center for Performing Arts has kicked off its inaugural Broadway season with sold-out performances, a packed house, and big-name Chanel Davis plays coming to the Triad.

The first of many Editor successfully promising performances is the Broadway musical, WICKED, which is expected to christen the stage next month.

“It’s a huge deal and an honor. I have never opened a brand new theater before,” said Allison Bailey, who plays Glenda in WICKED. “We have definitely brought WICKED to new cities but not a new theater so it’s a complete honor. It’s not only exciting for us but it’s exciting for the city.”

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October 24 with tickets beginning at $33. The musical, which was originally scheduled for November 18- December 6, 2020, was postponed due to COVID-19.

The play stopped touring in March 2020 and resumed this past August.

The Broadway play looks at what happened in the Land of Oz from a different angle and before Dorothy arrived.

It explores the friendship of two women - one with emerald-green skin, described as smart, fiery, misunderstood, and possessing extraordinary talent, and the other a bubbly blonde who is exceptionally popular. All is well until the world decides to call one “good” and the other one “wicked.”

Bailey, a Pensacola, Florida native and graduate of The Boston Conservatory, has appeared in the New London Barn Playhouse’s Les Misérables, The Music Man, Singin’ in the Rain; and A Proper Place (Goodspeed Opera House). She’s been acting in the role of Glenda full-time since September 2019, having previously held the role as the understudy for Glenda and as part of the ensemble for three

years and eight months, and since the tour resumed in August. In November, she will have been with the show for six years.

“The show continues to have the same quality and caliber since I started.

Obviously, you have new cast members and new cast changes, but it’s still the same quality of people which is so great about this show,” Bailey said. “I have loved, personally, traveling because I have met so many incredible people from not only the show but in the audience. I have

loved meeting fans that have turned into friends, and there are just good people who love this show just as much as I do.”

The play focuses on standing up for what you believe in and speaking up for values you know are right and wrong, no matter the consequences, and not judging a book by its cover.

“There’s so much heart to the show.

There are so many awesome scenes that resonate. It touches on bullying and what it’s like to be isolated and to feel alone,”

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Bailey said. “I think everyone can identify with a character that they see onstage at some point in their life which I think is so wonderful. It really resonates for ages eight to 80.”

Bailey said that she feels the play is still relevant 18 years later, especially when it comes to bullying.

“It’s (bullying) a huge deal right now whether it be with social media or at school, for so many ages. It’s also important to not judge a book by its cover and to accept people for being different. I think that’s a huge theme of the show,” Bailey explained. “That’s what’s so great about the show. Even though WICKED started 18 years ago, it still carries the same message now, and it could not be more relevant.”

The Steven Tanger Center for the PerSharon Sachs as Madame Morrible

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forming Arts, which opened at the beginning of this month, was scheduled to open in March 2020 but was postponed due to the pandemic. The estimated $93 million state-of-the-art facility has a seating capacity of more than 3,000 seats, and is located in downtown Greensboro at One Abe Brenner Place on a site bounded by North Elm and East Lindsay Streets and Summit Avenue.

The center is projected to host approximately 150 events per year and will be managed by the staff of the Greensboro Coliseum Complex. The variety of those events may include but are not limited to concerts, Guilford College’s Bryan Series, Greensboro Symphony Orchestra and Greensboro Opera performances, comedy shows, regional and local productions, and

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all types of family entertainment, including national touring Broadway shows and other live theatrical productions.

“Hosting an annual Broadway series featuring the very best touring productions will be a cornerstone of the Tanger Center’s success and its impact on our community,” said Matt Brown, Managing Director at the Greensboro Coliseum Complex. “With over 17,000 season tickets sold, the public’s response to the spectacular lineup of shows that our Broadway partners Nederlander and PFM have provided has been nothing short of phenomenal. We can’t wait for WICKED to begin an incredible, record-setting first season.”

The center will also offer a Ring of Light structure that will consist of 60 three-foot by 12-foot illuminated pieces that will provide a timed countdown to the start of every Tanger Center performance and a ballroom on the third floor. The ballroom will host a variety of pre-show functions, including receptions, artist lectures, and other special events.

Planning for the Tanger Center first took shape in 2012 when the Community Foundation convened an unprecedented 82-person task force to examine what type of performance space was needed to meet a diverse range of community needs.

The task force included community members, local businesses, and arts groups,

as well as top-performing arts consulting firms and performing arts center promoters. In addition, the Community Foundation sponsored public design workshops and meetings as part of the process.

Based on the input and direction from the task force and the public, the Community Foundation then helped spearhead a campaign to raise $38.5 million in private funding to match the City’s investment of $39.6 million to build the Tanger Center.

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“WHY ARE YOU BEATING HIM?”: Viral video of High Point arrest draws criticism “How do you want us to trust y’all after you just beat his ass like that?” yelled an onlooker at the white High Point police lieutenant who repeatedly struck a Black man with a steel baton Ian McDowell while the subject was held down, pepper-sprayed, and Contributor punched by three other white officers.

The incident, captured in a live video that has received over 7K views on Facebook, took place at 111 Chestnut Drive shortly before 4 p.m. on Thursday, Sept. 16.

The 22-minute video begins with the arrestee, since identified as Shawnqueze “Shawn” Ingram, being restrained by three white officers beside a silver Hyundai Elantra that has pulled into the front yard of a residence. Ingram lies on his back in a position suggesting that he has fallen or been pulled out of the passenger side of the vehicle.

The officer who repeatedly strikes Ingram with a steel baton has been identified as Lt. Jeffery Crouse. When the video begins, Crouse appears to be sitting on Ingram, while the other officers kneel beside or on Ingram restraining his arms.

“You’re sitting on him!” yells a woman from off-camera. “Why are you sitting on him?”

“Because he’s resisting arrest, that’s why,” replies an officer. “Stand back!”

The brown-haired officer crouching at Ingram’s left leans over him and punches him. After striking Ingram, that officer stands and walks around to Ingram’s right.

A fourth officer comes into view at the left side of the frame. A handcuffed Black man, who appears to be in this officer’s custody, is seen standing against the rear of the car. This officer kneels and peppersprays Ingram.

Standing, Crouse pulls an ASP from a holster on his belt. This is a collapsible steel baton sold by Armament Systems & Procedures, which lists the weapon as “the preferred choice for law enforcement for over 40 years.” The other officers move aside and Crouse rapidly strikes Ingram seven times.

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A 20 minute video of High Point Police officers beating Shawnqueze “Shawn” Ingram has garnered more than 7K views and raised more than a few questions strikes Ingram four more times, making a total of 11 strikes in the space of a few seconds.

“WHY ARE YOU BEATING HIM?” shout multiple onlookers.

“Put your hands behind your back!” yells an officer. At every moment in which Ingram can be seen in this sequence, he appears to be lying on his back. He later told YES! Weekly “I couldn’t put my hands behind my back while they held me like that.”

“Pull him out!” says an officer. Taking Ingram’s arms, two officers drag him away from the car, off the grass, and onto the sidewalk. Onlookers yell in anger, but Ingram told YES! Weekly that he believes this action saved him from being beaten more by Crouse.

Crouse sheaths his baton and joins the other officers in rolling Ingram over onto his back and handcuffing him, as Ingram screams in apparent pain. Other officers start arriving on the scene.

All of this happens in the first two

minutes of the 20-minute video. There is more anger expressed by the onlookers and more officers arrive.

“My hand came out of the cuff, please sir!” shouts Ingram, who writhes on the sidewalk. “I want to get up, I just want to get up.” His voice sounds like he is crying.

“Why won’t y’all leave me alone?”

The officers attempt to haul Ingram to his feet. “Oh, my leg,” he yells, and they let him drop back to the sidewalk, where he continues to groan about injuries to his legs.

“Please let me just lay right here,” he says, but they haul him to his feet again.

“He’s telling y’all his leg is fucked up!” yells the videographer. “The man sat there and beat him in his leg with the goddam baton!”

“Sit on your butt” orders an officer, as Ingram is lowered back to the sidewalk.

Ingram sits on the ground, apparently weeping, as the officers stand around him. An officer bends over him and asks him his name.

Six minutes of the video have passed.

Ingram continues to gasp and sob. An officer tells the crowd to calm down. Two officers kneel by Ingram and collect items from the grass and pavement. “You’re under arrest,” says Crouse, standing over him.

“You already did that, and I’m not under arrest,” says Ingram.

“Well, you are now,” replies Crouse.

“What are you all doing all this for?” asks Ingram. “That’s all I’m asking. I can’t even feel my legs.”

Crouse says something inaudible.

“You should know,” says Ingram. “You the one who was beating on me.”

Most of the rest of the video consists of waiting for the ambulance. It arrives 12 and a half minutes into the video. After some discussion, Crouse tells Ingram that he will need to stand up and walk to the ambulance. “No, she needs to bring that bed,” says Ingram.

After an inaudible discussion with other officers, Crouse pulls Ingram into

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Lt. Crouse explaining he didn’t feel excessive force was used. He can be heard saying “That’s not excessive force. Excessive force would have been if we had shot him.” a standing position. Ingram groans, his legs buckling. A gurney is brought from the ambulance. Officers continue to hold Ingram upright, and he groans again, then yells “aww, my wrist, why y’all hurting me?”

“Put him on the damn stretcher!” yells an onlooker. “Y’all beat his ankles,” yells another, in apparent protest over the way Ingram is forced to stand. “You beat a man and ask him to walk?”

Seventeen minutes into the video, Ingram is placed on the gurney and taken aboard the ambulance. A man who identifies himself as Ingram’s uncle (and who on Saturday told YES! Weekly his name is Alfonso Hairston) has by this time arrived on the scene, and is speaking to multiple officers. After interjections from angry onlookers, the video ends with Hairston talking to Crouse.

“About an hour or hour and a half ago, an officer tried to stop this car,” Crouse can be heard saying off-camera, “and it ran on them. That’s the reason we stopped it.” He then offers a description of what happened next.

“We were wanting to deal with the driver [Inaudible] So, really, we had no reason to talk to him [Ingram] when we stopped the car [inaudible] smelled marijuana in it. Which gives us the right to pull people out. When the officers pulled him out, he immediately took his hands, which we were trying to put them behind his back, and shoved them straight down the front of his pants. There’s two meanings of that. Number one, you either got dope down the front of your pants, or you got a gun. We aren’t really worried about dope, because dope can’t hurt us, but we are worried about a gun. He was told multiple times to stop and put his hands behind his back, and he kept doing it. Whenever we tried to put his hands behind his back even harder, he fell down on the ground and pulled them up underneath him.”

As noted above, Ingram can be seen on his back in the majority of the video.

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are allowed to do that by our [inaudible].

We can issue body strikes. He was not struck in the face; he was struck in the arms and legs, which we are allowed to do. We struck him four or five times and eventually got his hands behind his back.

He continued to fight with us the entire time. Once cuffs were put on, he was not touched again.”

“I understand that cops have to do their job,” says Hairston, “but excessive force. . .”

“That’s not excessive force,” interrupts Crouse. “Excessive would have been if we had shot him.”

“You really think that?” says Hairston.

“I’m not talking about every scenario,” replies Crouse. “He was struck with an ASP. He was struck with a fist.” What Crouse says immediately after that is drowned out by the outraged onlookers.

Hairston then describes a previous incident where an officer allegedly let a K9 bite his grandson. Crouse says “there was no dog in this incident.” Hairston explains that the dog incident “occurred a while back.”

“We’re not talking about a while back,” says Crouse. “We’re talking about this.”

“We’re still dealing with the same shit,” says Hairston, at which point the video ends.

When reached by YES! Weekly on Saturday, Shawn Ingram stated that he had been treated in the hospital, held overnight, and released Friday on a $10,000 bond. He described his condition as “sore all over the left side of my body, and I’ve got a limp.”

He said he was struck “on pretty much my whole body, but mainly on the left shin, the back of my left leg, my left knee, my left forearm and shoulder, and my ribs — mostly from the baton, but also a few punches and kicks.” He also said his head was bruised and scraped from the pavement.

The incident report lists him as 29 years old and 5”6’ and 160 lbs. Ingram, his mother Andrea Parker, and his uncle

Alfonso Hairston, all described him to YES! Weekly as 5’5” and 150 lbs. “I’m five-six and my son is shorter than me,” said Parker.

Ingram gave YES! Weekly the following account of what happened: Soon as the police got behind us, we were already talking a left towards my family’s house. As we were parking, he blue-lighted us. I immediately took my seat belt off because I, of course, don’t want to reach or anything while the officers come to the window.

So, he goes to the other side of the car and asks us for everything and we were cooperative. As he went back to his car, a lot of other police cars started pulling up.

They came to get the driver out and immediately put him in handcuffs. Then they came to my side of the car. The window was down a little bit so I could talk to them. The officer told me he was going to detain me and search me, and I said that was fine. But when he opened the door, the scenario changed.

He said he wanted to put me in handcuffs. I told him, “Sir, I’m not in the wrong, I didn’t do anything. You can search me. I don’t have anything. But I don’t want to be put in handcuffs.”

He then grabbed me. I immediately tensed up because I didn’t want to faceforward onto the rocks. That’s why I pulled back, but it just got worse from there.

Ingram said that everything “became all blurred” after that, and he was not conscious of anything either the officers or his family and neighbors said to him, “as I had several people beating on me.”

The incident report shows that Ingram was charged with Possess Control Substance Schedule VI, Possess With M/s/d Control Substance Schedule II, and Resist Delay Obstruct Public Officer. The report lists “drugs at arrest” as 1.81 grams of marijuana and 31 DUs of “other depressant.”

Also arrested at the scene was Patrick Montreze Brand, the man shown in the video already handcuffed and in custody

as Crouse is striking Ingram. Brand’s arrest report notes that he was taken into custody “without incident” and charged with Possession of Controlled Substance Schedule VI, due to the .85 grams of marijuana allegedly found in his possession.

In Crouse’s conversation with Hairston, Crouse described Brand as the initial person of interest in the traffic stop. While Ingram was held overnight and released on a $10,000 secured bond, Brand was released on a $2,000 unsecured bond 45 minutes after his arrest.

“I don’t know where it came from,” said Ingram on Saturday. “I had nothing on me. But after searching me, they said I had marijuana and some other controlled substance. I think they’re trying to justify what they did.” Ingram denied resisting arrest, but also said “if I didn’t protect myself to the best of my ability, I would have broken bones.”

On Monday, Lt. Matthew Truitt, Public Information Officer for the High Point Police Department, confirmed that Lt. Jeffery Crouse of the Traffic Department was the officer who struck Ingram with his baton. Truitt gave YES! Weekly the following statement: “Any action where a use of force takes place is required to be reviewed through department policy. This incident will undergo a thorough review through the chain of command, with a final review being done by the Chief of Police. This review will include all aspects of the incident to include the reason for the citizen contact, any relevant camera footage, including bodycam or dashcam video if applicable. A determination will be made on the legality of the stop, officer actions in accordance with departmental policy, officer actions in accordance with their training, and overall reasonableness.” !

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s the seasons’ turn, Winston-Salem’s Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA) will turn out a season of song with expanded musical offerings, including two new music series and a 65th birthday bash with the band Bowerbirds.

Continuing to celebrate “the Art of Now,” SECCA will launch Night Katei Cranford Moods, a “nocturnal concert series exploring the electronic and hypnotic at the historic Hanes House,” Contributor with Flower in Bloom and Body Games on Sept. 25.

“I’m really interested in contrasting the stately environment with something really cutting edge and technologyforward,” said Philip Pledger, Marketing Director for SECCA. “The Hanes House has a really cool European villa vibe,” he added of the venue, a Georgian Revival built in 1929—the grounds of which ultimately became SECCA’s home. Weather permitting, Night Moods shows will take place outdoors on the terrace.

“Electronic music is a vast genre with all kinds of unique sub-genres and artist communities,” Pledger explained.

“We’re hoping to explore all corners of electronic music with the series, and even present some artists that bend definitions.”

Flower in Bloom, an alternative rapper from the Winston-Salem Steady Hype Collective, prides herself on bending those definitions. “My music has versatility that transcends into all different genres of music for people who listen to different kinds of music,” she said. “It’s also really nice to have such a beautiful place as my last show for a while.”

At 38 weeks pregnant, Night Moods will be Flower in Bloom’s final performance before blossoming into motherhood. “It feels like I’m playing Russian roulette with my baby’s arrival,” she said. “But I’m really excited. SECCA’s scenery is absolutely magical. It’s going to be special.”

On the flipside, Night Moods will be Body Game’s first show in more than a year. “We’re thrilled,” said the trio of Carrboro-based audiovisual wizards. Known for making “club bangers for introverts,” the group incorporates visual elements and projection art from member Adam Graetz, aka thefacesblur.

“Graetz’s digital art experience in our Main Gallery this past April was a big hit,” Pledger said. He’s banking on folks enjoying the blurred lines between audio and visual art. “Music can be a really welcoming art form,” he said.

“We’re taking an expansive view of what ‘the art of our time” means, and hoping that music can introduce SECCA to members of our community who may not typically visit. Ideally, they’ll discover something in our galleries that really speaks to them.”

No stranger to hosting shows, Pledger officially joined the SECCA fold in a marketing role in early 2020, with the added task of increasing a musical presence. “When we announced the end of Phuzz Phest in 2016, we promised to continue exploring ways to keep Winston-Salem weird and wonderful,” he said, reflecting on the Pine State Holiday festival he hosted on SECCA’s grounds in 2017.

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“When you stop and look at all of the artists who have played Crossroads over the past 10 years, it’s staggering,” Pledger noted of the series, founded and curated by Andy Tennille (of the Ramkat) that made its recent return (and 23rd show) with Bill Frisell; and has hosted the likes of Lucinda Williams, Gillian Welch, Béla Fleck, Abigail Washburn, Leon Russell, and The South Memphis String Band over its ten-year run. “Crossroads has been a boon for SECCA and has laid a strong foundation for what’s possible when it comes to musical programming at the museum.”

Pledger is both looking back and looking forward as SECCA prepares its 65th birthday bash with Bowerbirds on Oct. 2. “We’re really excited to celebrate this milestone,” he said, reflecting on the museum’s “ups and downs” over the decades. “There’s a lot of really good energy at SECCA right now. So we’re ready to celebrate, and help prepare for an even better 65 years ahead.”

With that, SECCA looks to engage new audiences—and blur the lines between “high and low” art, while highlighting the contemporary culture of the Southeast. “A lot of this comes down to access, and removing barriers for people to enjoy art, both traditionally defined and more broadly,” Pledger explained. “It’s why our galleries are always free to visit, and it’s why we’re working to expand what ‘the art of our time’ really means.”

One result involves expanding the Southern Idiom exhibition into a recurrent concert series showcasing WinstonSalem artists. “The expansion into adopting concerts grew out of conversations between myself and Wendy Earle, SECCA’s Curator of Contemporary Art,” Pledger explained. “We’re really starting to think of Southern Idiom as SECCA’s vehicle for our support of the WinstonSalem art community as a whole.”

While visual exhibitions of Southern Idiom have showcased nearly two-dozen artists since its 2017 inception, the inaugural concert will feature Victoria Victoria on Oct. 23. “Coincidentally, they played SECCA almost a year ago to the date,” Pledger noted of the group, who performed during the 2020 Gala Week. “It was amazing, but being a fundraiser, tickets were higher,” he added. “This year, admission is $10, so I’m excited for more of their fans to see them at our scenic lake stage. It’s a magical spot to see live music.”

The concert and exhibition aren’t thematically related but are instead linked through an overall mission.

“Southern Idiom has always featured a wide variety of visual artists, spanning all art forms, from veterans with accomplished careers to young artists just starting to forge their creative path,” Pledger said. “I hope to take the same approach to our musical programming, not really being bound by musical genre or wherever musicians are in their career.”

SECCA continues meshing boundaries with Screen Oddities, a monthly cult film series co-curated by Alex Brown (SECCA’s Director of Programs) and Lawren Desai (from a/perture cinema). Aimed to “delight, frighten, and fascinate” audiences, “it’s an unpredictable series and I think that’s part of what makes it so fun,” Pledger said.

Music and action will entwine for El Mariachi on Sept 30.

While things get a little gory with Jame Gunn’s creature feature, Slither, on October 28.

Music and movies mix further for Night Moods Vol. 2 with Sengoko and Mauve Angeles on Nov. 13. The latest incarnation from electro-pop artist Derek Torres (T0W3RS,) Sengoko offers a soundtrack for a fictional post-apocalyptic film of 1980s proportions. With Eric Gilstrap’s Mauve Angeles opening an ambient ambiance to match Sengoko’s “John Carpenter meets John Hughes” vibe.

Autumn winds will blow big techno beats around a big ol’ house as SECCA’S Night Moods series kicks off with Flower in Bloom and Body Games on Sept. 25. !

KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who enjoys spotlighting artists and events.

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Four Saints Brewing

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Charlotte

Bojangles Coliseum

2700 E Independence Blvd | 704.372.3600 www.boplex.com Oct 8: Katt Williams Oct 9: Bert Kreischer Oct 15: Playboi Carti Oct 16: Little Big Town - Nightfall Oct 22: Steely Dan Oct 24: Los Tigers del Norte

CMCU Amphitheatre

former Uptown Amphitheatre 820 Hamilton St | 704.549.5555 www.livenation.com Sep 24: Jelly Roll Sep 25: Trey Anastasio Band Sep 28: The Killers Oct 1: Good Vibes Summer Tour 2021: Rebelution + Special Guests Oct 7: Alice Cooper

The Fillmore

1000 NC Music Factory Blvd | 704.916.8970 www.livenation.com Sep 22: State Champs Sep 22: Motionless In White Sep 23: Anberlin Sep 23: Adelitas Way Sep 24: Candlebox Sep 26: Band of Horses Sep 26: Mod Sun Oct 1: Sub Urban & Bella Poarch

PNC Music Pavilion

707 Pavilion Blvd | 704.549.1292 www.livenation.com Sep 30: Brooks & Dunn Oct 8: Thomas Rhett & Cole Swindell Oct 9: Pitbull & Iggy Azalea Oct 10: Nate Feuerstein Oct 11: Dead & Company Oct 12: Jonas Brothers Oct 16: Zac Brown Band Oct 17: Knotfest Roadshow: Slipknot, Killswitch Engage, Fever333 & Code Orange YES! WEEKLY

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Spectrum Center

333 E Trade St | 704.688.9000 www.spectrumcentercharlotte.com Sep 25: LIT AF Tour hosted by Martin Lawrence Sep 30-Oct 3: Disney On Ice Oct 14: MercyMe Oct 17: The Millennium Tour 2021: Omarion, Bow Wow, Ashanti, Ying Yang Twins, Lloyd, Sammie, Pretty Ricky, Soulja Boy

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Village Square Tap House

6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct | 336.448.5330 www.vstaphouse.com | www.facebook. com/vstaphouse Oct 7: Anna Mertson Oct 16: Jill Goodson Band Oct 28: James Vincent Carroll

durham

Carolina Theatre

309 W Morgan St | 919.560.3030 www.carolinatheatre.org Sep 22: Gregory Porter Sep 23: Amy Grant Sep 25-26: Theo Von Sep 27: Blues Traveler Sep 28: Bruce Hornsby & The Noisemakers Oct 1: Patton Oswalt Oct 2: The Monti GrandSLAM Oct 14: The Marshall Tucker Band Oct 15: Nikki Glaser Oct 21: The Mavericks

DPAC

123 Vivian St | 919.680.2787 www.dpacnc.com Sep 24: Jeff Foxworthy Sep 25: Indigo Girls Oct 3: Charlie Wilson Oct 5-10: The Band’s Visit Oct 15-16: RAIN: A Tribute To The Beatles Oct 17: America

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Reeves Theater

129 W Main St | 336.258.8240 www.reevestheater.com Fourth Thursdays: Old-Time Jam Aug 19-Oct 21: The Martha Bassett Show Sep 24: Big Daddy Love

Sep 30: Heather Maloney Oct 2: Memphis Thunder feat. Taylor Vaden Oct 8: David LaMotte Oct 16: Terry Baucom’s Dukes of Drive Oct 29: Chance McCoy

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Arizona Pete’s

2900 Patterson St #A | 336.632.9889 www.arizonapetes.com Sep 29: The Black Dahlia Murder Oct 30: Dying Fetus w/ Terror, Brand of Sacrifice, Vitriol

Barn Dinner Theatre

120 Stage Coach Tr. | 336.292.2211 www.barndinner.com Aug 7-Sep 25: The Color Purple Oct 2-Nov 6: Love Machine The Musical

Cone Denim

117 S Elm St | 336.378.9646 www.cdecgreensboro.com Oct 1: Blue Traveler Oct 2-10: Stars and Guitars

Flat Iron

221 Summit Ave | 336.501.3967 www.flatirongso.com Sep 23: Maia Kamil and Friends Sep 24: Victoria Victoria

Garage Tavern

5211 A West Market St | 336.763.2020 www.garagetaverngso.com Sep 23: Megan Doss Duo Sep 24: Michael Chaney Sep 25: Second Glance Band

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Baxter’s Tavern

536 Farragut St | 336.808.5837 www.baxterstavern.com Fridays: Karaoke Sep 25: Möstley Crüe

1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com Sep 28: J. Cole w/ 21 Savage Oct 2: Feed The Streetz Tour: Rick Ross, Jeezy, Gucci Mane, 2Chainz, Fabolous, Lil Kim, Boosie Badazz, DJ Drama Oct 3: Papi Juancho Maluma World Tour

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Piedmont Hall

1819 Spring Garden St | 336.272.9888 www.theblindtiger.com Sep 22: Signs Of The Swarm w/ Worm Shepherd Sep 23: Flatland Calvary Sep 24: Steely Dead Sep 27: Thursday w/ Piebald Sep 28: Animals As Leaders w/ Veil of Maya & Krosis Sep 30: Scary Kids Scaring Kids ft.

Cove Rever Oct 1: Shoot To Thrill - Girls Rockin’ AC/DC Oct 2: Dogbane, Alias and Steelwolf

Carolina Theatre

310 S. Greene Street | 336.333.2605 www.carolinatheatre.com Sep 30: The Pinkerton Raid Oct 8: Carly Burruss Oct 17: The Drifters, The Platters & Cornell Gunter’s Coasters

Comedy Zone

1126 S Holden Rd | 336.333.1034 www.thecomedyzone.com Sep 24-25: Renny Oct 1-3: April Macie Oct 8-9: Brad Stine Oct 21: Marvin Hunter Oct 22-23: Kerwin Claiborne

2411 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com Nov 14: Chevelle Nov 17: In This Moment, Black Veil Brides

South End Brewing Co. 5105 Michaux Road | 336.282.0950 www.southendbrewing.com Tuesdays: Trivia Night Wednesdays: Music Bingo

The Idiot Box Comedy Club

503 N. Greene St | 336.274.2699 www.idiotboxers.com Sep 25: Ryan Bender Sep 25: Jordan Jensen & Mike Rowland Oct 15: Damon Sumner

White Oak Ampitheatre

1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com Sep 24: Trevor Noah Sep 28: Counting Crows Sep 29: Earth, Wind & Fire Oct 12: Stone Temple Pilots, Bush, Devora

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1614 N Main St | 336.883.4113 www.facebook.com/AfterHoursTavernHighPoint Sep 25: Black Glass

500 S McDowell St | 919.996.8800 www.redhatamphitheater.com Sep 22: coheed And cambria Sep 23: Quinn Xcii & chelsea cutler Sep 24: tlc w/ Bone thugs-n-Harmony

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HiGH Point tHEAtrE

220 E Commerce Ave | 336.883.3401 www.highpointtheatre.com Sep 25: mike Super oct 01: monty Python’s Spamalot oct 23: Best of the Eagles tribute

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tHE dEck

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lewisville

old nick’S PuB

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liberty

tHE liBErtY SHowcASE tHEAtEr

101 S. Fayetteville St | 336.622.3844 www.TheLibertyShowcase.com Sep 25: the kentucky Headhunters oct 2: ricky Skaggs oct 9: the malpass Brothers

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3801 Rock Quarry Rd | 919.821.4111 www.livenation.com oct 1: Brooks and dunn oct 3: nf - nate feuerstein oct 9: thomas rhett & cole Swindell oct 13: the Jonas Brothers oct 15: Zac Brown Band

lincoln tHEAtrE

126 E. Cabarrus St | 919.831.6400 www.lincolntheatre.com Sep 23: the Steel woods w/ Jive mother mary Sep 25: cherub www.yesweekly.com

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Bull’S tAvErn

408 West 4th St | 336.331.3431 www.bullswsnc.com wednesdays: karaoke

BurkE StrEEt PuB 1110 Burke St | 336.750.0097 www.burkestreetpub.com tuesdays: trivia

fiddlin’ fiSH BrEwinG comPAnY 772 Trade St | 336.999.8945 www.fiddlinfish.com oct 3: lisa & the Saints

footHillS BrEwinG

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midwAY muSic HAll

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tHE rAmkAt

170 W 9th St | 336.754.9714 www.theramkat.com Sep 22: volz & friends, Zachmccraw, worldsss Sep 23: drat the luck, come clean, Hey revolver Sep 30: colorful Sounds - marlow rosado & His latin Jazz Ensemble

winSton-SAlEm fAirGround 421 W 27th St | 336.727.2236 www.wsfairgrounds.com oct 1-10: carolina classic fair

wiSE mAn BrEwinG

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I really like the girl I’m dating, except for one thing. On every date, she asks me to take photos of her for Instagram.

Afterward, she consults me repeatAmy Alkon edly on which will “get the most likes.”

Advice I’m starting to get Goddess really annoyed, and I find it cuts into my enjoyment of our time together. She even did this on my birthday! —Irritated Psychologist Erich Fromm wrote, “Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.’” He died in 1980, 30-some years before Instagram-infused love: “I need you, love, because my telescoping selfie stick won’t fit in my cute purse.”

This girl’s far from alone in turning every occasion short of stints on the toilet into a photo op. Social media (and Instagram especially) transformed fishing

for compliments into a business model. #admirationvampires Some young women — especially 20-somethings with a still-murky sense of identity — might feel they don’t exist in any meaningful way if they don’t post pix and videos of themselves to score likes and gain followers. #KeepingUpWithTheInstadashians There’s also the lure of easy money for those who can rack up an audience: potentially making big “influencer” bucks just by showing up to events in some popup shop’s dress and striking a bunch of poses they copied off Beyonce.

Chances are you went on Tinder or Hinge or whatever in hopes of landing a girlfriend, not unpaid work as a photographer. Saying yes to taking this girl’s pic the first time — before you realized it would be an every-date thing — probably seemed like a one-off request and thus not a big deal. But now you’re annoyed that you’re constantly being pressed into photo slavehood. Even your birthday got co-opted into a #MeMeMeMe #takemypicture celebration of her personal “brand.”

The problem is not that she’s ask-

ing but that you keep going along with photographing her. There’s a way out of this — and a way to get women to respect you instead of seeing you as a chump they can use and eventually lose — and it’s assertiveness.

Social psychologist Daniel Ames and his colleagues define assertiveness as “the degree to which someone stands up” for their own needs and interests “when they are faced with someone else who does not want the same outcomes.”

Assertiveness allows you to be in charge of your life instead of becoming the tool of anyone who wants to use you: basically living like an insect that gets batted around by a cat. People who default to a passive approach — just doing whatever’s asked of them, no matter how they dread it — often have a deep fear of rejection. They act on the mistaken belief that “the way to be accepted and appreciated by others is to give and give,” explains clinical psychologist Randy Paterson.

This isn’t to say you should live like an accountant, calculating to the penny or the calorie whether the give and take between you and another person is exactly

50/50 at all times. What matters is your motivation: giving to a woman because it feels good to make her happy or, say, safer (like if you install burglar-frustrating thingies on her windows).

That’s healthy giving — in contrast with emotionally indentured Boy Scout-hood: fulfilling the terms of a contract that exists only in your head, in which you re-sod a woman’s lawn, rotate her tires, and/or become her pro bono “palace photographer” so she won’t kick you to the curb.

This “chore-bribe your way to love ‘n’ sex” model tends to work about as well as my attempt, as a lonely, picked-on little kid, to geek my way into having friends. In second grade, two girls approached me, worksheets in hand, and said they’d be my friend if I did their math homework during recess. I got to work with my thick No. 2 pencil. Maybe 10 minutes later, I finished — and they immediately succumbed to childhood amnesia.

Neither girl even spoke to me again — all the way through the end of 12th grade.

The willingness to assert yourself is a reflection of self-respect: the belief that you have value and have a right to be treated as if you and your needs matter.

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But say your current level of self-respect is on the low side. You can still act like a person with strong self-respect: Explain what you want — in this case, to retire from fashion photography and post-date photo selection.

Be prepared. It’s possible she’ll ditch you for expressing the inconvenient need to quit as her Instagram documentarian.

But if your needs and feelings are of little interest to her, maybe you can view getting yourself dumped by her not as a tragedy but as a point of pride: the first day of the rest of your living with self-respect.

Carpe diem! (By way of carpe scrotum!) !

GOT A PROBLEM? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com). Follow her on Twitter @amyalkon. Order her latest “science-help” book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence. ©2021 Amy Alkon. Distributed by Creators.Com.

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