A PRAISE A DAY KEEPS THE DOCTOR AWAY A large number of doctors insist on medicinal effect of accentuation the positive that helps you to avoid many illnesses.
How often we praise ourselves for the work we have done or say something pleasant and positive to our children or people around us? During the day we used to notice only bad things that happens to us – traffic jams, rude shop assistants, passers-by who elbowed us or stepped on our foot, angry bosses, demanding to work 24 hours a day… And it happens day by day, week by week and month by month. Stress accumulates, the tension grows, we got insomnia, indigestion and a splitting headache, and we try to stand it until one day – BOOM! – we explode with cries and tears and blame everybody for all the sins in the world. Psychologists have long called us to learn to pay more attention to the favorable sides of our life, even if it is something small. Look for the positive, even if it seems not to exist, they say “Every cloud has a silver lining”. And praise, and praise yourself. Praise has truly a healing effect. So, let yourself to be a doctor. Soon you realize your life is not so miserable and terrible as you have imagined. And the most marvelous thing in it is you! Praise yourself and give a treat – forget about a diet and buy your favorite ice-cream. Postpone everything – the world won’t crash down if you dedicate yourself one day to prepare bubble bath or to go for a walk – just to lounge around the city and you will see so many things that were invisible for you in the turmoil of days. The moment you begin to do it your cheerful mood and good night’s sleep will come back, you will rarely get sick and lose your temper by trifles. Repose yourself and organism thanks you.
And what even more important is praise your children. They are the same persons as you only they are more sensitive and their mentality is more vulnerable. Children must be praised. It increases their self-esteem and makes them feel good about life. Your child should know that whatever happens in the world he always has his home where nobody will judge him, where he is waited, and where he can find love and peace. A good emotional contact will help you to avoid many problems (especially when he becomes a teenager) and bring up a happy child. But you hardly could know that before to praise your child you should know how to do it. In one article they give some tips about how to praise children. Here they are: 1. Focus your statements on the child's actions and efforts rather than characteristics. It's better to say something like, "I can tell you worked really hard on that," instead of, "You're so smart." Studies have shown that when children are praised for their efforts and later encountered difficult problems where they faced the possibility of failure they tended to work harder and kept trying. 2. Try to engage in discussion rather than use evaluative praise. A good example is children's art work. Rather than just say a picture is pretty, ask the child to tell you about it. Rather than having a brief interaction, you're now spending some quality time with your child. You're also fostering important brain development by having your child describe things to you. Whether the child is 3 or 13, this type of interaction is meaningful. You're building your child's self esteem when you show them they're important enough to listen to. 3. Praise good behavior. When a child does something you like, acknowledge it. "I really appreciate how you made your bed today." 4. Praise small improvements. Everyone learns by trial and error. Sometimes you may be working on improving a behavior. Praising steps in the right direction gives encouragement to keep trying.
So, you see what meaning has praise for us and our children – it can support, it can give forces, it can treat. And it is so simple to praise. And so cheap. Don’t be stingy. Смирнова Елизавета Sex education Helps or Spoils Sex education is a system of medical and educational measures to educate parents, children, adolescents and young people the right attitude to gender. As a part of an individual's education Sex education is one of the types of content. The aim of sex education contributes to the harmonious development of the younger generation, increase sexological knowledge, the full formation of fertility was seen in a future wife (husband), create a sense of responsibility for the health and well-being of the future of his wife (husband), children, that is, to strengthen marriage and the family. Sex education is associated with complex medical, educational and social problems. It is closely intertwined physiological-hygienic, educational, moral, ethical, and aesthetic aspects. Головырских Алёна
Talking to your children about materialism Most children have two instincts: greediness and simple sense of justice. They love beautiful things and interesting toys, and they want to have them all. Of course, children at different ages have various feelings that they need to be in possession of something, and first of all, it depends on how much attention to materialism is given at home. Parents should be an example to follow for children in everything. Because your child is a clean state. Children see in the book only a number of sheets with black spots, and the picture for them is just a piece of fabric covered with paint. We must teach children to strive for beauty. And finally, if you want to learn your child to cope with an insatiable desire to acquire things, let him see
how restrained and wise you are. Everything depends only on you, dear parents!!!
Озорнина Ольга, 204 group
Every culture, country, and generation has been plagued with the need for material goods. The insatiable lust to have more, or to have the best, has driven mankind to kill or lust for material things. Materialism can be controlled by parents who are willing to explain to their children the importance of necessity — the difference between things that are necessary to daily survival and those things that are not. Parents need to illuminate children to the fact that what they watch on T.V. isn't necessarily "reality." The ability of parents to discuss with their children financial responsibility is paramount.
Мирсаяпова Эльвира group 204
Why Sex Education Also Belongs in the Home Imagine the one day your child comes home and asks you, pointblank, what intercourse means. What do you say? Well, there's always the avoidance reaction: "Go ask your father (mother)" or "We'll tell you when you're old enough to understand." Of course, "Where did you get that from?" is a possibility. Or, difficult as it may sound, you could sit down with your child and explain what intercourse is. This way you'll be the one who tells him, not the kid down the block. Everyone agrees that parents should be "open and frank" when they talk to their children about sex, but no one is willing to tell parents how. After centuries of silence and secrecy, parents today are suddenly asked to "liberate" themselves. How can this transformation be started? How carried out?
First, parents should recognize that before they can communicate freely with their children, they must be able to talk freely with each other and to develop sensitivity to their own feelings. Parents can start by asking themselves such questions as, "Am I satisfied with my own relationship?" "How has our relationship changed since we were married or together?" "Are we able to express the affection we feel for each other?" In my professional experience, I find that parents are very often "out of touch" with their own feelings. Such talks can make them aware of their own "selves," and more open to their partner's needs. At times parents have simply forgotten that before they were parents they were lovers. Taking on the responsibility of parenthood shouldn't lessen one's sexuality or love for each other. Through these open talks, as each partner becomes aware of and confident about his or her own needs and desires, parents will become better prepared to deal with their child's developing sexuality.
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If you have a bad mood, you are fired from your job, challenges await you at every turn, and you think that the whole world is against you - don't blame everybody in your misfortunes and failures, and even more so - don't pluck your anger out on children!!! Just control yourself. Your kids mustn't have to think that you are a loser. Explain to them that you had to leave your job to open new perspectives in career development. It is not the end of your life. Let dismissal to improve and harden your character!!! Носферату Ольга
Children are beautiful, innocent little beings. They are precious and each unique. All children have parents. All children deserve to have great parents. But what to do if parents were dismissed? First of all, parents should not despair, sooner or later, they’ll find good, well-paid job and their relevance to the work should not be reflected on their children. They have to
do all the things that they used to do before they were dismissed - get up with their children each morning to get them ready for school, help them with their homework and with their problems and solve them together. Parents should be responsive, kindhearted and outstanding. They should raise their children honest, even if they have done something wrong, well-mannered persons despite this fact that the parents themselves have problems in their lives. Only in family there is a foundation of the personality of the child and the future of the children mostly depends on parents. Мирсаяпова Эльвира group 204
Be the closest friend to your child!
Does your child become a teenager? Do you think about our conversation about sex? We help you!!! Sex: pleasure or destruction? Or how to create a conversation with your teen Does your child become a teenager? Do you think about our conversation about sex? We help you!!! Firstly, tune yourselves and your teen on the positive wave: eat sweets, ice-creams, watch the best movie, visit park of entertainments or make your favourite activity‌ in the end of what both of you will have raised mood. Secondly, you should comfortable space and atmosphere where you can make serious conversation easier. Thirdly, you need the conversation. Try to speak quietly and confidently. Use examples from your own experience. Be more convincing, patient and sympathetic. In the end of your discussion say that you help, support and give some advice in any case. Be the closest friend to your child!
Firstly, tune yourselves and your teen on the positive wave: eat sweets, ice-creams, watch the best movie, visit park of entertainments or make your favourite activity… in the end of what both of you will have raised mood. Secondly, you should comfortable space and atmosphere where you can make serious conversation easier. Thirdly, you need the conversation. Try to speak quietly and confidently. Use examples from your own experience. Be more convincing, patient and sympathetic. In the end of your discussion say that you help, support and give some advice in any case. Мария Ширяева
Your chief's a freak? Friends are betrayers? And children're ungrateful addle-head? And your life is crap? Is everything really so? Or it's only because you're locked out? OK, you've lost your job, but you haven't lost yourself! You have your family and your children. So, don't make THEM pay for YOUR failure! Be loving, affectionate, attentive and sympathetic parent. And your children'll help you open the door to bright and happy future!
To tell or not to tell? Once I’ve found a magazine article where a woman complained that her daughter was upset finding out that her parents earned less than parents of her friend. And then I thought over the necessity of discussing the financial position of the family with children. Is it good when your child knows about your salary and how much money you spend on food, clothes, entertainment etc. or will it better not to stuff his little head with this “adult things” ? After search in the Internet it turned out that opinions were divided, some parents claimed that it is necessary to talk with children about money because: a. It helps your kids to understand where/how your family earns income. Older children can learn about the income linked to various types of work or occupations. b. It helps kids to learn terms and the language of money management. c. It helps them to be financial responsible and have a good command of spending money.
But on the other hand, there are parents who were loud against of any conversations concerning money with their kids believing that: a. It can jaundice between them and therefore quarrel, resentment, indignation can arouse b. Children are still too small to understand and appreciate the value of money Well, of course, it’s up to you to discuss such a controversial question with your kids or not, but to my mind it’s necessary to make it clear that any job is important and it doesn’t matter whether it is well-paid or not. It goes without saying that people should be anxious for success and take pains to accomplish more than they have. But there are different circumstances and different situations and children should respect any work. But the situation becomes more difficult when parents are fired and lost their jobs. How explain to the kids the situation and not to do harm to their mentality. First, I think you will have to tell the truth and make it clear that now some difficulties may come, for example your family will have to move to a smaller flat or even to sell some things, or that you won’t be able to buy expensive presents for Christmas and so on. Anyway your kids will notice some changes in their life, so let them get the news from you yourself than from other people or their friend’s gossips. You should be ready to see your children upset and miserable but don’t let them feel defective. But be positive and look forward with a smile to show that everything will be ok and mom and dad will do their best to establish business
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