The Solution News Summertime 2011
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The Solution News Contents Page 4 - Dave’s Page: A Challenge
Page 14 - Cape Cod Symposium
Page 5 - PTSD and Alcohol
Page 17 - Books:Without Faith
Page 6 - Dick B.: Quiet Time
Page 18 - 50 Amazing Facts
Page 7 - Rebecca B.: A Thief’s Heart
Page 20 - Rule 62 Page
Page 8 - Hotlines and Helplines
Page 22 - Detaching With Love
Page 9 - Watershed Page
Page 24 & 25 - Homeless Vets Coalition
Page 10 & 11 - Events
Page 26 - 2 New 12 Step Programs
Page 12 - 8th Grade Test 1895
Page 27 - Demographics
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A Challenge to the Recovery Industry Dave’s Page
Addiction Treatment Needed for Traumatized Returning War Veterans Many veterans suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder and other combat-related trauma self-medicate with alcohol and other drugs, so therapists need to be aware of the need to treat both addiction and trauma simultaneously, addiction specialists say. The Newport News Daily Press reported March 31 that self-medication is especially prevalent among active military because soldiers are reluctant to seek mental-health counseling, fearing the it could hurt their careers. Addiction specialist Larry Ashley, a Vietnam War veteran, said that combat veterans have unique needs that civilian counselors often are unequipped to deal with. Veterans "give out the trauma, by the very nature of what they do, and receive the trauma," said Ashley at a recent meeting of the Virginia Association of Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Counselors. "In combat, your job is to kill. Knowing you've inflicted trauma, or killed someone, can be just as damaging as facing a life-threatening event."
Association of Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Counselors, warned Congress about the problem in recent testimony. "Some experts estimate that about 40 percent of veterans who have served in Iraq or Afghanistan will experience a mental I recently had the opportunity to hear a young health problem and that of those ... 60 percent man who was a Iraq War veterans speak. I was deeply affected by his moving and alarming tale will have a substance use disorder," she said. of his experiences in Iraq. It occurred to me that Doctors Warn of Mental although there is a great deal of controversy, politics and opinion regarding the Iraq and Health Problems Among Iraq Afghanistan Wars, all Americans are united in the opinion that our returning soldiers need the Soldiers very best of care, appreciation and respect. The articles above represent a small look at the Military doctors, as well as veterans' advocates, enormity of the problems facing our existing said that as many as 100,000 soldiers returning and returning veterans. Sadly in my lifetime it from Iraq will need mental-health treatment as a has almost been a tradition to place flags and result of the stress and carnage of war, the New support the troops ribbons on our cars as our York Times reported Dec. 16. Vietnam, Bosnia, and Gulf War Veterans strugAccording to an Army study, one in six soldiers gle to get the care our government has promised in Iraq have reported symptoms of major them. If we as a recovery industry can lessen depression, serious anxiety, or post-traumatic their burden and show our gratitude for their stress disorder. With hundreds of thousands of service by lending a hand it is our moral obligatroops serving in conflicts in Iraq and tion to do so. We who have profited so greatly Afghanistan, the sheer number of soldiers from this wonderful caring industry can give returning with serious mental health problems back to those men and women who have could challenge the nation's already hard- ensured our freedom to do so. Now more than pressed healthcare system for veterans. ever they need our help. This being said the "I have a very strong sense that the mental summer issue of The Solution Newspaper will health consequences are going to be the medical be dedicated to the needs of our veterans. We story of this war," said Dr. Stephen Joseph, who will also attempt to spearhead a campaign to served as the assistant secretary of defense for solicit pro-bono therapy, and scholarships in treatment centers and halfway houses for those health affairs from 1994 to 1997. brave men and women. Join us in this effort and Although Military and Department of Veterans pray for and thank a veteran. Affairs officials said soldiers in Iraq are receiving mental-health support, doctors at veteran hospitals throughout the country are concerned about having adequate resources to address the expected caseload.
Our Challenge
"We're seeing an increasing number of guys with classic post-traumatic stress symptoms," said Dr. Evan Kanter, a psychiatrist at the Puget Sound veterans hospital in Seattle. Wash. "We're all anxiously waiting for a flood that we expect is coming. And I feel stretched right now."
A Government Accountability Office (GAO) report released in September found that six of seven Veterans Affairs medical facilities "may Community-based addiction specialists expect not be able to meet" increased demand for treatto encounter more war veterans in their work; ment of post-traumatic stress disorder. Newport News Drug Court administrator John "During the war, they don't have the leisure to Haywood said it typically takes about two years focus on how they're feeling," said Sonja Batten, before returning veterans seek help dealing with a psychologist at the Baltimore veterans hospitrauma, either by choice or because they are tal. "It's when they get back and find that their forced to do so. relationships are suffering and they can't hold down a job that they realize they have a probPatricia Greer, president of the National lem."
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PTSD and Problems with Alcohol Use PTSD and alcohol use problems are often found together. This pairing can be big trouble for the trauma survivor and his or her family. People with PTSD are more likely than others with the same sort of background to have drinking problems. By the same token, people with drinking problems often have PTSD. Those with PTSD have more problems with alcohol both before and after getting PTSD. Having PTSD increases the risk that you will develop a drinking problem. Women who go through trauma have more risk for drinking problems. They are at risk for drinking problems even if they do not have PTSD. Women with drinking problems are more likely than other women to have been sexually abused at some time in their lives. Both men and women who have been sexually abused have higher rates of alcohol and drug use problems than others. Up to three quarters of those who have survived abusive or violent trauma report drinking problems. Up to a third of those who survive traumatic accidents, illness, or disasters report drinking problems. Alcohol problems are more common for survivors who have ongoing health problems or pain. Sixty to eighty percent of Vietnam Veterans seeking PTSD treatment have alcohol use problems. War Veterans with PTSD and alcohol problems tend to be binge drinkers. Binges may be in response to memories of trauma. Veterans over the age of 65 with PTSD are at higher risk for a suicide attempt if they also have drinking problems or depression. Alcohol use problems often lead to trauma and problems in relationships. If you have a drinking problem, you are more likely than others with your same sort of background to go through a psychological trauma. You may also have problems getting close to others. You may have more conflicts with those people to whom you are close. Problems with alcohol are linked to a confused and disorderly life. This kind of life leads to less closeness and more conflict within a family. The confusion of a life with a drinking problem makes it harder to be a good parent.Alcohol can make PTSD symptoms worse You may drink because using alcohol can distract you from your problems for a short time. You should know, though, that drinking makes
it harder to concentrate, be productive, and enjoy all parts of your life. Using too much alcohol makes it harder to cope with stress and your trauma memories. Alcohol use and intoxication (getting drunk) can increase some PTSD symptoms. Examples of symptoms that can get worse are numbing of your feelings, being cut off from others, anger and irritability, depression, and the feeling of being on guard. If you have PTSD, you may have trouble falling asleep or problems with waking up during the night. You may "medicate" yourself with alcohol because you think it's helping your sleep. In fact, using too much alcohol can get in the way of restful sleep. Alcohol changes the quality of your sleep and makes it less refreshing. If you have PTSD, you may have bad dreams or nightmares. You may drink because you think using alcohol will decrease the number of bad dreams or how scary they are. Yet drinking just continues the cycle of avoidance found in PTSD. Avoiding the bad memories and dreams actually prolongs the PTSD. You cannot make as much progress in treatment if you avoid your problems. Alcohol use problems make PTSD treatment less effective. When you suddenly stop drinking, the nightmares often get worse. Working with your doctor on the best way to reduce or stop your drinking makes cutting back on alcohol easier. You will be more likely to have success in your efforts. Other Mental Health Issues If you have both PTSD and drinking problems, you are likely to have other mental or physical health problems. Up to half of adults with both drinking problems and PTSD also have one or more of the following serious problems: Panic attacks, extreme fears or worries, or compulsions (being driven to do things like checking the door locks over and over) Mood problems such as depression Attention problems or behaving in ways that harm others Addiction to or abuse of street or prescription drugs Long-term physical illness such as diabetes, heart disease, or liver disease Ongoing physical pain
What are the most effective treatment patterns? Having both PTSD and a drinking problem can make both problems worse. For this reason, alcohol use problems often must be part of the PTSD treatment. If you have PTSD, plus you have, or have had, a problem with alcohol, try to find a therapist who has experience treating both issues. In any PTSD treatment, several points related to alcohol should be stressed: When planning your treatment, you should discuss with your therapist the possible effects of drinking on your PTSD symptoms. As noted above, alcohol can affect sleep, anger and irritability, anxiety, depression, and work or relationship problems. Treatment should include education, therapy, and support groups that help you with your drinking problems in a way you can accept. Treatment for PTSD and alcohol use problems should be planned in a way that gets at both problems together. You may have to go to separate meetings on each issue, or see providers who work mostly with PTSD or mostly with alcohol problems. In general, though, PTSD issues should be included in alcohol treatment, and alcohol use issues should be included in PTSD treatment. Once you become sober (stop drinking entirely), you must learn to cope with your PTSD symptoms in order to prevent relapse (return to drinking). This is important because sometimes the PTSD symptoms seem to get worse or you notice them more right after you stop drinking. Remember that after you have stopped drinking, you have a better chance of making progress in your PTSD treatment. In the long run, you are more likely to have success with both problems.
Sources Evans, K. & Sullivan, J. M. (1995). Treating addicted survivors of trauma. New York: Guilford Press. Kofoed, L., Friedman, M.J., & Peck, R. (Summer 1993). Alcoholism and drug abuse in patients with PTSD. Psychiatric Quarterly, 64(2), 151-171. Matsakis, A. (1992). I can't get over it: A handbook for trauma survivors. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
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Dick B.
The Spiritual Roots of AA – Quiet Time
There is a second thing that has passed from existence. And it is in Pass It On, where Bill says, “I always sort of thought we lost something when we lost meditation.” Do you know that our trustee, Frank Amos, said that meditation was a must in early A.A. What did meditation mean?
try to invent their own program. A.A. is not a self- made religion. A.A. was something that came from this rock that I am talking about. They used The Upper Room, My Utmost for His Highest, The Runner’s Bible, Fosdick’s The Meaning of
It was called “Quiet Time.” It meant studying the Bible first, to get in tune with God’s general will. It meant praying. It meant quiet time, listening for God’s voice. And then it meant sometimes consulting things like The Upper Room, The Runner’s Bible, and My Utmost for His Highest for inspiration as to what would be discussed at the meetings. What was going on is, some people were being taught by some very able teachers back there in Akron; and, in New York, by a very able teacher–Sam Shoemaker and his circle of friends. So prayers were regular fare in early A.A., as was listening to God. And it has gotten a bad rap, again by laying it on the Oxford Group. But Quiet Time was something that, whenever Anne was stressed out, she would go upstairs to have what she called “quiet time.” Why? To get peace. To get peace. To get out of the ring-a-ding that goes on. And you will see that at the end of your Eleventh Step.
up. And it will knock you dead when you see how much of our program has come from those books. And it begins to make certain expressions in A.A. meaningful. Quiet Time, in other words, doesn’t get its full due, unless you believe as I do, that those early people consulted God for guidance as to what to do in the program. With the speakers. I firmly believe that the residue of it in our [Twelve] Traditions is the ultimate authority as a loving God as He may express himself in our group conscience. That is an attempt to describe the old steering committee meetings that were held at the beginning. Monday night they prayed. Later on, just before the meeting, they would pray and ask God to guide them as to what could be helpful. Also, Bill reportedly consulted God when he was writing the Big Book and particularly the 12 Steps.
Anne Ripley Smith Prayer, Drummond’s The Greatest Thing In The World, to help them.
So there was a reliance upon God and His guidance at the beginning of this program. Not only taking ideas from the Bible, His Word, but also seeking what the Oxford groupers called His “particular will” through prayer and listening. So the Quiet Time! Bible, number one, Quiet Time, number two. Why number two? Because it was a must. No drunk-a-logs. . . . Just consulting God.
I am happy to say that now the archives back there that they have worked so hard to assemble, Ray G., in particular, that I know, and his wife, Ginny. You can see those books. It is my dream and hope FIND DICK B AT: The helpful books, what were they? We that you can do more than see them http://www.dickb.com/ will get into that shortly. They did not before very long. That you can open them
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Rebecca B.
A Thief’s Heart
The secrets that lie in the heart of a man are known only to him and his The truth be told though, for that smoker or drinker – as the consequences Creator…but it is only the Creator who truly knows the motives behind of their actions begin to worsen, most of them actually do realize what is them ~ Rebecca Balko. happening and also realize that it is their own behavior causing it. But sadly by the time this realization occurs, they find themselves beyond the Do you remember ever getting busted by your mom or dad when you place of being able to change or quit on their own. They face the dilemwere a kid with your hand in the preverbal cookie jar? Most likely the ma that upon becoming truly ready to change – their desire is often looked question posed to you was something along the lines of, “Do you know upon with cynicism and met with sarcasm from those who have toiled that you are not supposed to be doing this?” And likewise the probable with them for so long. response was, “No”. Why in the world would we say “no” and why would we EVER think that this answer would suffice? Well in the words of the During the Easter holiday I watched a movie, (one I’ve seen various vergreat Jimmy Buffett, because “That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!” It sions of before), depicting the Easter story. Towards the end of the movie seems that human nature dictates that when we mere mortals find our- it portrayed Jesus on the cross with one man on either side of him. There selves in a predicament ~ well….we have an affinity for lying. Sure, we were on-lookers and Roman soldiers on the ground and high above them don’t want to call it that and if you just approached a person and asked were these three men on crosses, serving out their death sentences. While “Are you a liar?”, you could be fairly certain that their answer would be everyone stood below, there was a conversation going on between the “No”…which of course in and of it’s self… would also be a lie. Most three. One of the men was angry with Jesus and was taunting him. The often we might prefer to reference the lie as being an “explanation”. other man was scolding the first and was taking ownership for his own crimes. Then he said to Jesus, “Lord remember me when you come into A few examples of this are: (1) I’m not fat – I’m just big boned; (2) I your Kingdom” (Luke 23:42) What struck me for the first time, was that wasn’t sleeping – I was just resting my eyes; (3) I wasn’t lying – I must no one on the ground could know what was going on in this man’s heart. have just been mistaken. They only saw a criminal worthy of death. A criminal, (I’m certain), they As humans we also have yet another incredible skill ~ one that’s baffling would have been convinced could never change. But what they couldn’t to us and even more so to those who know us. That is the ability to lie to see was the heart of this man. They couldn’t see that he had come to terms ourselves. The best con artist in the world is the one that believes their with his responsibility for his crime(s); they couldn’t see his remorse; own story. You see if I can allow myself consciously or subconsciously They couldn’t know he was stepping up and defending another man’s to believe the words coming out of my mouth and rationalize to myself innocence; they couldn’t know that in his heart he had come to believe. what I am doing ~ I will often be quite convincing…at least in my own All they knew was what they could see and what they had known from eyes. Some humorous examples of this are: the past. What they could not know – was the condition of this man’s Scenario: Cop pulls you over for running through a yield sign - You heart. That in this brief passing of time, circumstances lead this convictthen begin to explain, “No officer, I’m not questioning if you’re telling me ed criminal to have an awakening that had caused him to behave and the truth, but this time of the day the sun makes me blink a lot and I just speak in a manner different from what had lead him to beplaced there to begin with. However, his heart was only known to the one he spoke up for didn’t see it.” (Truth: The sun really does make you blink.) and spoke to – Jesus. Scenario: It was YOUR turn to do the dishes and your house mate points out they’ve not been done. You say something like, “Are there As I watched this it struck such a chord in me – how had I never seen it dishes in the sink? I didn’t know.” (Truth: I didn’t know – because I just before? It could only be that things don’t happen in my timing – because as I watched I thought, “WOW that is exactly how it was in my addicavoided the kitchen all together) tion.” (It’s most likely been that way for plenty of others besides me.) This problem however can be far from humorous when it comes to more Everything about my life and my behavior screamed “I don’t care about serious problems in our lives and the lies that we tell ourselves and that anything!!” I was drinking and using myself to death. I had treated everywe tell those who care about us. For instance: one who ever loved me with disdain and rejection. I shoved everyone (1) The person who has been diagnosed with emphysema and has been away until I was isolated and tied to a monster that I couldn’t get away told that they MUST quit smoking if they are to have any notable length from. In the midst of that circumstance and pain, one part of me was or quality of life. But for this individual a crazy insanity will often set in screaming out in anger, blaming God, circumstances and outside forces and they will become convinced that they could smoke a “light” cigarette for my predicament and feeling that someone else should be responsible. - after all, (they think), it isn’t the brand I “used” to smoke. The belief is BUT…the other part of me was soon completely overcome with an all consuming awareness that indeed it was “I” who had done this to myself that THEN it will be OK…but it won’t. and “I” who would have to face the consequences of my actions. (2) Then you have the alcoholic who has been told that they have now Realizing that all along God had in fact, never left me…but it was “I” who developed cirrhosis of the liver and MUST quit drinking if they are to had walked away. Facing what seemed an impossible set of circumstances have any quality of life or to even continue living. But this same person to be overcome ~ I had simply cried out to God that I knew what I had will also have a strange insanity set in and become convinced that as long done, I knew that I could not fix myself, I knew that I was not Him and as they don’t drink “hard liquor” and just stick to beer or wine – THEN it that whatever would become of me – I knew I needed Him and I didn’t will be ok….but it won’t. want to be apart again - and thankfully… I never had to be. To the family, friends and employers – this is aggravating, frustrating, No one else can know the condition of our hearts, often including ourfrightening and dumbfounding. They will wonder initially, “What are they selves…but thankfully God knows our own hearts better than we do. thinking?” But as time passes and the condition worsens anger will usu- Discovering that with a simple heart felt request ~ freedom can be found ally step in and their thoughts will be, “They don’t even care about them- and our lives forever changed. selves or anyone else!” -- Rebecca B. (BeccainBham@aol.com)
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Hotlines and Helplines
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Therapists
Behavioral Health Techs
Are you looking for a place where the concept of "team" has deeper meaning? We are looking for caring, insightful therapists who are committed to the highest quality care for our patients and who have the desire to support those who are struggling with addiction. Our facilities offer our patients comfortable and safe surroundings to begin their journey of recovery. The Watershed is Joint Commission accredited and fully licensed by the State of Florida. Our therapists provide individual and group counseling to patients in our inpatient treatment program. The therapist is able to develop a relationship with the patient that begins in detox and lasts throughout the entire length of stay. The therapist functions within the limits of their licensure, registration and/or certification. Graduation from an accredited college or university with a Masters Degree in a health-related discipline; licensed and/or accredited applicants preferred. Experience with chemical dependency and/or dual diagnosis programs preferred. The Watershed welcomes recovering individuals to apply! Recovering individuals must have a minimum of 1 full year of abstinence from drugs/alcohol to eligible for employment.
Are you a caring, compassionate individual? Are you able to provide supervision and support for others in a thoughtful, respectful manner? If you have these qualities we encourage you to apply for a position as a Behavioral Health Technician, (BHT). Our BHT's are directly involved in providing quality care for patients as part of the overall team and are responsible for conducting meetings and providing structure for our patients during their treatment experience. As a BHT you are the frontline staff member, having frequent interactions with the patients throughout their stay. As a result you are in a position to have a positive impact on the patient's view toward recovery. The average day for a BHT involves a variety of activities; there isn't a lot of time spent in one place since our patient's care is conducted in different areas of the facility. The BHT should have a clear sense of personal boundaries and be able to enforce clearly established guidelines. People with their own personal recovery experience are encouraged to apply! Must have a minimum of 12 months of sobriety.
Alumni Liaison
We are currently seeking hard working, customer service oriented individuals with excellent communication skills to become members of our team. The Call-Back Representatives will work collaboratively with the Admissions Coordinators in order to admit new patients into our treatment facilities. This position involves making follow-up calls to individuals who have previously called The Watershed seeking treatment but were never admitted into our facility. Our goal is to reach out to those who may have avoided treatment in the past and assist them with their struggles of addiction, by offering our treatment services. This position is full-time with some weekends involved & located in our Delray Beach, corporate building.A year or more of 12step recovery experience is very beneficial to anyone working in this position. Prior call-center and/or healthcare experience are a plus!
The Watershed is seeking an Alumni Liaison for our structured sober living program! The Alumni Liaison will plan and coordinate all alumni events and activities for the sober living program. He/She will coordinate 12-step and recovery meetings for several of Watershed's facilities. The Alumni Liaison will support Watershed's tenants in their continued recovery process, offering guidance for available resources and encouraging movement through the continuum of Watershed's sober living program.The Alumni Liaison will motivate the tenants and promote the benefits of living a sober lifestyle to tenants in early recovery. The Alumni Liaison will also be responsible for facilitating groups on topics such as Relapse Prevention, Alumni Support, Sponsorship, etc.
Call-Back Representatives
The Watershed is a Drug Free Workplace and an Equal Opportunity Employer. For more information, please visit: www.thewatershed.com. To apply, please go to www.thewatershed.jobs. Watershed alumni – you don’t want to miss this!!!! Are you a graduate of The Watershed Treatment Programs? Do you have an interest in personal growth in your recovery? Would you like to be able to help others, even as you were helped? If the answer to any or all of these questions is “YES”, then we want to hear from you! The Watershed has a unique one of a kind ALUMNI PROGRAM that is quite literally filled with events, activities & services for you!! It is a place to find support, fellowship and numerous ways for you to be able to reach out and help others. We currently have almost 4,100 registered alumni members around the country and we want YOU to be a part of this community! We also have an Alumni Family Outreach Program for YOUR family members to offer them the same connection and support with each other that now numbers 4,400!!!We hope that whether you are an alumni or a family member of an alumni, that you will join our social web site called Lives in Recovery. To register just go to www.livesinrecovery.com today! You will find a place to register under “ALUMNI” and a place to register under “FAMILY”. On this site, you will be able to chat, create groups and meetings, upload videos, create photo albums, find local meetings, be up to date on events, access the Alumni or Family Magazines, the monthly Alumni or Family Newsletter, the Life Saver’s Club Newsletter, and SO MUCH MORE! We hope that you will get involved with alumni if you aren’t already. (YOUR VOICE IS NEEDED!!) We have the Alumni Speaker Meetings EVERY SATURDAY from 10:30am to 12 noon at BOTH the BOCA and BOYNTON facilities. If you are a new alumnus with less than 90 days in recovery, we have special support meeting just for you and we WANT YOU TO COME! It is called the ALUMNI SUPPORT meeting and is held at THE WATERSHED APARTMENTS in Lake Worth, FL on THURSDAY nights, from 5:30 to 6:45pm under the tent by the pool. There, you can gain important information related to your early recovery and upon reaching 90 days get your MEDALLION on Anniversary Saturday the last Saturday of the month! (IF YOU ATTEND ALUMNI SUPPORT MEETINGS YOU MAY ATTEND SATURDAY SPEAKER MEETINGS) For directions or further information or questions, contact Rebecca Balko at the contact information listed below. Last but not least…if you are an alumnus and have in interest in working in the field of Addiction Recovery and/or in our Alumni Department, The Watershed wants to hear from you! If you are interested in seeking employment you can either contact Rebecca Balko or go directly to our web site at www.thewatershed.com. Just go to Human Resources & place an “on line” application. *You need to have 1yr. clean and sober for most positions* We look forward to hearing from you! You can contact Rebecca Balko at: Rbalko@thewatershed.com (or write) 200 Congress Park Dr. Suite 101 Delray Beach, FL 33445 (PHONE: 877-416-9566 ext.88204)
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Could You Pass The EXAMINATION GRADUATION QUESTIONS OF SALINE COUNTY, KANSAS, April 13, 1895?Y Reading and Penmanship. - The Examination will be oral, and the Penmanship of Applicants will be graded from the manuscripts Grammar (Time, one hour) 1. Give nine rules for the use of Capital Letters. 2. Name the Parts of Speech and define those that have no modifications. 3. Define Verse, Stanza and Paragraph. 4. What are the Principal Parts of a verb? Give Principal Parts of do, lie, lay and run. 5. Define Case, Illustrate each Case. 6. What is Punctuation? Give rules for principal marks of Punctuation. 7-10. Write a composition of about 150 words and show therein that you understand the practical use of the rules of grammar. Arithmetic (Time, 1.25 hours) 1. Name and define the Fundamental Rules of Arithmetic. 2. A wagon box is 2 ft. deep, 10 feet long, and 3 ft. wide. How many bushels of wheat will it hold? 3. If a load of wheat weighs 3942 lbs., what is it worth at 50 cts. per bu, deducting 1050 lbs. for tare? 4. District No. 33 has a valuation of $35,000. What is the necessary levy to carry on a school seven months at $50 per month, and have $104 for incidentals? 5. Find cost of 6720 lbs. coal at $6.00 per ton. 6. Find the interest of $512.60 for 8 months and 18 days at 7 percent. 7. What is the cost of 40 boards 12 inches wide and 16 ft. long at $.20 per inch? 8. Find bank discount on $300 for 90 days (no grace) at 10 percent. 9. What is the cost of a square farm at $15 per acre, the distance around which is 640 rods? 10. Write a Bank Check, a Promissory Note, and a Receipt. U.S. History (Time, 45 minutes) 1. Give the epochs into which U.S. History is divided. 2. Give an account of the discovery of America by Columbus. 3. Relate the causes and results of the Revolutionary War. 4. Show the territorial growth of the United States. 5. Tell what you can of the history of Kansas. 6. Describe three of the most prominent battles of the Rebellion. 7. Who were the following: Morse, Whitney, Fulton, Bell, Lincoln, Penn, and Howe? 8. Name events connected with the following dates: 1607, 1620, 1800, 1849, and 1865? Orthography (Time, one hour) 1. What is meant by the following: Alphabet, phonetic orthography, etymology, syllabication? 2. What are elementary sounds? How classified? 3. What are the following, and give examples of each: Trigraph, subvocals, diphthong, cognate letters, linguals? 4. Give four substitutes for caret 'u'. 5. Give two rules for spelling words with final 'e'. Name two exceptions under each rule.
6. Give two uses of silent letters in spelling. Illustrate each. 7. Define the following prefixes and use in connection with a word: Bi, dis, mis, pre, semi, post, non, inter, mono, super. 8. Mark diacritically and divide into syllables the following, and name the sign that indicates the sound: Card, ball, mercy, sir, odd, cell, rise, blood, fare, last. 9. Use the following correctly in sentences, Cite, site, sight, fane, fain, feign, vane, vain, vein, raze, raise, rays. 10. Write 10 words frequently mispronounced and indicate pronunciation by use of diacritical marks and by syllabication. Geography (Time, one hour) 1. What is climate? Upon what does climate depend? 2. How do you account for the extremes of climate in Kansas? 3. Of what use are rivers? Of what use is the ocean? 4. Describe the mountains of N.A. 5. Name and describe the following: Monrovia, Odessa, Denver, Manitoba, Hecla, Yukon, St. Helena, Juan Fernandez, Aspinwall and Orinoco. 6. Name and locate the principal trade centers of the U.S. 7. Name all the republics of Europe and give capital of each. 8. Why is the Atlantic Coast colder than the Pacific in the same latitude? 9. Describe the process by which the water of the ocean returns to the sources of rivers. 10. Describe the movements of the earth. Give inclination of the earth. Health (Time, 45 minutes) 1. Where are the saliva, gastric juice, and bile secreted? What is the use of each in digestion? 2. How does nutrition reach the circulation? 3. What is the function of the liver? Of the kidneys? 4. How would you stop the flow of blood from an artery in the case of laceration? 5. Give some general directions that you think would be beneficial to preserve the human body in a state of health. Imagine a college student who went to public school at the end of the 20th Century trying to pass this test, even if the few outdated questions were modernized. Imagine their professors even being able to pass the 8th Grade. Can Americans, student and professor alike, get back up to the 8th Grade level of 1895? ED-U-CA'-TION, n. [L. educatio.] The bringing up, as of a child, instruction; formation of manners. Education comprehends all that series of instruction and discipline which is intended to enlighten the understanding, correct the temper, and form the manners and habits of youth, and fit them for usefulness in their future stations. To give children a good education in manners, arts and science, is important; to give them a religious education is indispensable; and an immense responsibility rests on parents and guardians who neglect these duties. -- Noah Webster's American Dictionary of the English Language (1828) --
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Without Faith
A Motherless Child Redeemed by a Determined Spirit by Doreen Birdsell On a path that was leading to destruction, Doreen and “This letter was framed by my sister, Donna, and preher friends drive to a suburban nightclub. When asking direc- sented to me as her gift. Little did either one of us know that tions of an old man he points the way and tells them, “You see it would be the last time we would celebrate my birthday that road. You take that road ‘til you can’t together. Nine months later, at age 58, she take it anymore….” suffered a fatal heart attack. Without Faith takes that road, reck"May you be blessed with serenity of calm less and naïve, Doreen follows wherever the waters soothing your soul. impulse leads, threatening life on every turn, There are many gifts OUR FATHER has racing alongside Harleys on the Belt Parkway given you; such as the GIFT OF SERENITY. in Brooklyn, through AA meetings, struggles You freely give this gift to others as GOD with sexuality and finally to finding an has given to you to ease their troubled minds unshakeable faith with a partner, Lisa, whom and hearts. You give with scriptures, your Doreen met at a Bible study in Manhattan. experience and your time. So many times I do Commitment to their faith and their love for remember that gleam in your eyes which one another causes severe and painful opporeflects the JOY IN YOUR SPIRIT. I can’t sition but eventually leads them to an even count the times you have lifted me up with stronger conviction of God’s love for all. JOY AND SPIRIT; when I was down and out Without Faith will help anyone who and didn’t believe that I was loved by anyone has suffered abandonment, sexual abuse, especially GOD. I am so thankful for this and and separation from God, or knows someone so grateful that we have been reunited as siswho has. Doreen’s story will also convince the ters in the flesh and spirit. You are so BEAUreader of the power of God in his or her life and what an amaz- TIFUL! I love you and cherish you my SISTER." ing journey it can be. For Information Visit: withoutfaith.com
About Doreen Doreen Birdsell was born in Hollywood, Florida, and raised in Queens, New York. Since 1980, she has been a highly acclaimed photographer and founder of Doreen Birdsell Studios, of New York City, Westport, Connecticut, and Provincetown, Massachusetts. Doreen and her life partner Lisa, chaperoned four Youth Mission Trips with the Saugatuck Congregational Church, Westport, Connecticut, and produced a video to promote future mission trips to underserved areas in the U.S. In addition, from 2005, Doreen has been the owner/partner of the Inn at Cook Street, Provincetown, MA, an award-winning bed and breakfast inn. Last but not least, Doreen is a survivor of sexual abuse suffered as a child, and of drug and alcohol abuse as a young adult. She credits her recovery and success to the grace of her Higher Power, the wisdom of 12-step programs, and individual therapy. A committed Christian and outspoken leader, Doreen is a living testimony to persistence, hard work and faith. These characteristics helped bring her to the finish line in four New York City marathons. Reminiscent of Anne Lamott, Doreen’s voice is raw, yet compassionate – gritty, yet imbued with gratitude. As a spokesperson for her journey, Doreen is a passionate speaker and mentor, guiding others to healing and sobriety by her inspired example.
Editors Note Doreen and I met about five years ago in Florida and she and her partner Lisa have become my wife Maura and my dearest friends. Doreen is one of those people who has an unmistakeable quality of peace and joy that is contagious. Several years ago at a particularly low point in my financial life I had an opportunity to attend the Cape Cod Symposium on a business trip. Although Provincetown was a three hour drive round trip from Hyannis where the conference was being held I drove out to see Doreen and Lisa. Although we only spent a half hour together we talked and prayed together for prosperity and abundance and over the weekend not only had the best week of sales ever but made connections with people who have become not only business associates but dear friends. Two years ago I was invited by Doreen and Jessica Bram the founder of The Westport Writer’s Workshop to attend a Workshop in Provincetown which was attended by 12 gifted writers. I had the opportunity to critique Doreen’s book and receive input from her and the others on my own writing. I feel proud to be a part of the creative process that resulted in Doreen’s powerful memoir. My old sponsor David DeOreo used to always tell me Our past is our greatest asset”. If there ever was an illustration of this fact it is to be found between the covers of Without Faith. ----------- Dave F. Publisher of The Solution News
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50 Amazing Facts 1. If you are right handed, you will tend to chew your food on your right side. If you are left handed, you will tend to chew your food on your left side. 2. If you stop getting thirsty, you need to drink more water. For when a human body is dehydrated, its thirst mechanism shuts off.
27. Switching letters is cal led spoonerism. For example, saying jag of Flapan, instead of flag of Japan. 28. It cost 7 million dollars to build the Titanic and 200 million to make a film about it.
3. Chewing gum while peeling onions will keep you from crying.
29. The attachment of the human skin to muscles is what causes dimples.
4. Your tongue is germ free only if it is pink. If it is white there is a thin film of bacteria on it.
30. There are 1,792 steps to the top of the Eiffel Tower.
5. The Mercedes-Benz motto is “Das Beste oder Nichts” meaning “the best or nothing”.
31. The sound you hear when you crack your knuckles is actually the sound of nitrogen gas bubbles bursting.
6. The Titanic was the first ship to use the SOS signal.
32. Human hair and fingernails continue to grow after death.
7. The pupil of the eye expands as much as 45 percent when a person looks at something pleasing.
33. It takes about 20 seconds for a red blood cell to circle the whole body.
8. The average person who stops smoking requires one hour less sleep a night.
34. The plastic things on the end of shoelaces are called aglets.
9. Laughing lowers levels of stress hormones and strengthens the immune system. Six-year-olds laugh an average of 300 times a day. Adults only laugh 15 to 100 times a day. 10. The roar that we hear when we place a seashell next to our ear is not the ocean, but rather the sound of blood surging through the veins in the ear. 11. Dalmatians are born without spots. 12. Bats always turn left when exiting a cave. 13. The ‘v’ in the name of a court case does not stand for ‘versus’, but for ‘and’ (in civil proceedings) or ‘against’ (in criminal proceedings). 14. Men’s shirts have the buttons on the right, but women’s shirts have the buttons on the left.
35. Most soccer players run 7 miles in a game. 36. The only part of the body that has no blood supply is the cornea in the eye. It takes in oxygen directly from the air. 37. Every day 200 million couples make love, 400,000 babies are born, and 140,000 people die. 38. In most watch advertisements the time displayed on the watch is 10:10 because then the arms frame the brand of the watch (and make it look like it is smiling). 39. Colgate faced big obstacle marketing toothpaste in Spanish speaking countries. Colgate translates into the command “go hang yourself.” 40. The only 2 animals that can see behind itself without turning its head are the rabbit and the parrot. 41. Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.
15. The owl is the only bird to drop its upper eyelid to wink. All other birds raise their lower eyelids.
42. The average person laughs 13 times a day.
16. The reason honey is so easy to digest is that it’s already been digested by a bee.
43. Do you know the names of the three wise monkeys? They are:Mizar (See no evil), Mikazaru (Hear no evil), and Mazaru(Speak no evil)
17. Roosters cannot crow if they cannot extend their necks. 18. The color blue has a calming effect.It causes the brain to release calming hormones. 19. Every time you sneeze some of your brain cells die. 20. Your left lung is smaller than your right lung to make room for your heart. 21. The verb “cleave” is the only English word with two synonyms which are antonyms of each other: adhere and separate. 22. When you blush, the lining of your stomach also turns red. 23. When hippos are upset, their sweat turns red. 24. The first Harley Davidson motorcycle was built in 1903, and used a tomato can for a carburetor. 25. The lion that roars in the MGM logo is named Volney. 26. Google is actually the common name for a number with a million zeros.
44. Women blink nearly twice as much as men. 45. German Shepherds bite humans more than any other breed of dog. 46. Large kangaroos cover more than 30 feet with each jump. 47. Whip makes a cracking sound because its tip moves faster than the speed of sound. 48. Two animal rights protesters were protesting at the cruelty of sending pigs to a slaughterhouse in Bonn.Suddenly the pigs, all two thousand of them, escaped through a broken fence and stampeded, trampling the two hapless protesters to death. 49. If a statue in the park of a person on a horse has both front legs in the air, the person died in battle; if the horse has one front leg in the air, the person died as a result of wounds received in battle; if the horse has all four legs on the ground, the person died of natural cause. 50. The human heart creates enough pressure while pumping to squirt blood 30 feet!!
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Do you want to help those people in your life currently caught in the grips of the progressive and fatal disease of addiction…to get the very life saving help that they need? Do you want to spread the message that WE DO RECOVER? To make an impact on YOUR community one person at a time? The Life Saver’s Club is a recovery resource offered by The Watershed Addiction Treatment Programs and is unique in that we don’t simply offer help to those who are going to come HERE. We have a department of full time Resource Specialists, who are trained and experienced in throwing out a life line to those who are suffering with facilities and services in their area that will fit whatever budget or financial situation that they may have. By joining and becoming a member, you can have the peace of mind in knowing that the person you refer to call us will receive prompt attention and that NO REFERRAL goes unassisted. Becoming a member is fast and easy! Simply go to our new web site: www.LivesinRecovery.com and register or give us a call at 877-416-9566 Ext.88426 and start the process of healing for those around you needing help! Membership benefits include: Acknowledgements, Recognition Gifts, Intervention Materials, Life Saver’s Club Cards and soon Educational Packets that will enable you to be an educator about addiction and recovery for your community and more! The Watershed’s Support Team is available 24/7 for any questions or support you may need along the way.
We look forward to hearing from YOU soon!!! Rebecca Balko, C.A.C. Alumni Department Manager # 877-416-9566 (Ext.88204) Rbalko@thewatershed.com
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Rule 62 Page Things My Mother Taught Me
22. My mother taught me GENETICS. "You're just like your father." 1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL 23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS. DONE. "Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a "If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finbarn?" ished cleaning." 24. My mother taught me WISDOM. 2. My mother taught me RELIGION. "When you get to be my age, you'll understand." "You better pray that will come out of the carpet." 25. And my favorite: My mother taught me about JUSTICE. 3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.. "One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like "If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the you.� middle of next week!" 4. My mother taught me LOGIC. KITCHEN SIGNS " Because I said so, that's why." 5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC. "If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not Here are a list of signs found in kitchens across the United States: going to the store with me." 6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT. So this isn't Home Sweet Home ... Adjust! "Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident." Martha Stewart doesn't live here!! 7.My mother taught me IRONY. Ring bell for maid service. If no answer, do it yourself! "Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about." 8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS. I clean house every other day. Today is the other day. "Shut your mouth and eat your supper." 9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM. If you write in the dust, please don't date it! "Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!" 10. My mother taught me about STAMINA. I would cook dinner but I can't find the can opener! "You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone." 11. My mother taught me about WEATHER. My house was clean last week, too bad you missed it! "This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it." I came, I saw, I decided to order take out. 12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY. "If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exagIf you don't like my standards of cooking ...lower your stangerate!" dards. 13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE. "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out." Although you'll find our house a mess, Come in, sit down, con14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION. verse. It doesn't always look like this: Some days it's even "Stop acting like your father!" worse. 15. My mother taught me about ENVY. "There are millions of less fortunate children in this world A messy kitchen is a happy kitchen, and this kitchen is deliriwho don't have wonderful parents like you do." ous. 16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION. A balanced diet is a cookie in each hand! "Just wait until we get home." 17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING. Thou shalt not weigh more than thy refrigerator. "You are going to get it when you get home!" 18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE. "If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves for they shall never cease to be amused. stuck that way." 19. My mother taught me ESP. "Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?" 20. My mother taught me HUMOR. "When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me." 21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT. "If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."
Countless number of people have eaten in this kitchen and gone on to lead normal lives. My next house will have no kitchen ... just vending machines. I'd live life in the fast lane, but I am married to a speed bump.
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Debbie Strand
Detaching With Love
As I was bleeding out my eyes trying to help a girlfriend get sober, jamming my sobriety and all I had learned to her cold, dark, seemingly dead eyes, I began to think she was never going to get it. As I shared in meetings how I didn't understand how someone so wonderful with so much to live for could not get it, I was told by an old timer that when their drinking bothered me more than it bothered them; it was time to let them go. When we want recovery, we go for it like we are drowning, swimming with all we have to grab a life preserver. Doing 12 step work we are told to treat the afflicted like a drowning man. But when they are swimming away from the life preserver, we have to let the line go otherwise it will get tangled in their turmoil pulling us in with them and drowning ourselves.
see it as getting in their way and we can and just downright uncomfortable. Plus I possibly cause more harm than good. find nothing about drunkenness appealing, I have been taught detachment with love it is just going to quickly become a situameaning if they fall out of bed instead of tion that will rot my soul from the inside helping them back in night after night or out and I will go down with them or have the opposite, to just step over their bod- to remove myself from that situation. ies, to instead maybe just put a blanket The pain endured to be away from my loved one not knowing if they made it home, in the house or have gotten hurt in some way is torture. Leaving them to find their own way I think is the only way no matter how great my personal torment and pain. Our odds as addicted are bad enough but to be enabled the odds of not making it rise.
over them and let them sleep. I don't know if this is something I could continue Never is this work harder than when it is to do. After a time being I have the same a spouse or family member. Seems in disease, disease, meaning not at ease these situations it is even harder as the (dis-ease), I will become not at ease and loved one can begin to resent our help and become unreasonable, perhaps demanding
To leave, to save myself, may be the most selfless act I can do for my loved ones. Everyone has the ability to make good decisions, whether they do or not is up to them...yet again, I am powerless, sad and scared. Debbie Strand (561)222-1982 Cell junobeachdeb@yahoo.com Freedom From Addiction Foundation, Inc.
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National Coalition for Homeless Veterans (NCHV): Th
The National Coalition for Homeless Veterans (NCHV) will end homelessness among veterans by shaping public policy, promoting collaboration, and building the capacity of service providers. The National Coalition for Homeless Veterans (NCHV) — a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization governed by a 17-member board of directors — is the resource and technical assistance center for a national network of community-based service providers and local, state and federal agencies that provide emergency and supportive housing, food, health services, job training and placement assistance, legal aid and case management support for hundreds of thousands of homeless veterans each year.
and 15.4 percent of the U.S. population respectively.
abuse, which are compounded by a lack of family and social support networks.
About 1.5 million other veterans, meanwhile, are considered at risk of homelessness due to poverty, lack of support networks, and dismal living conditions in overcrowded or substandard housing.
A top priority for homeless veterans is secure, safe, clean housing that offers a supportive environment free of drugs and alcohol. Although “most homeless people are single, unaffiliated men… most housing money in existing federal homelessness programs, in contrast, is devoted to helping homeless families or homeless women with dependant children,” as is stated in the study “Is Homelessness a Housing Problem?” (Understanding Homelessness: New Policy and Research Perspectives, Fannie Mae Foundation, 1997).
Doesn’t VA take care of homeless veterans?
NCHV also serves as the primary liaison between the nation’s care providers, Congress and the executive branch agencies charged with helping them succeed in their work. NCHV’s advocacy has strengthened and increased funding for virtually every federal homeless veteran assistance program in existence today.
Who are homeless veterans? The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) states the nation’s homeless veterans are predominantly male, with roughly five percent being female. The majority of them are single; come from urban areas; and suffer from mental illness, alcohol and/or substance abuse, or co-occurring disorders. About one-third of the adult homeless population are veterans. America’s homeless veterans have served in World War II, the Korean War, Cold War, Vietnam War, Grenada, Panama, Lebanon, Afghanistan and Iraq (OEF/OIF), and the military’s anti-drug cultivation efforts in South America. Nearly half of homeless veterans served during the Vietnam era. Twothirds served our country for at least three years, and one-third were stationed in a war zone. Roughly 56 percent of all homeless veterans are African American or Hispanic, despite only accounting for 12.8 percent
How many homeless veterans are there? Although flawless counts are impossible to come by – the transient nature of homeless populations presents a major difficulty – VA estimates that 107,000 veterans are homeless on any given night. Over the course of a year, approximately twice that many experience homelessness. Only eight percent of the general population can claim veteran status, but nearly one-fifth of the homeless population are veterans.
Why are veterans homeless? In addition to the complex set of factors influencing all homelessness – extreme shortage of affordable housing, livable income and access to health care – a large number of displaced and at-risk veterans live with lingering effects of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and substance
To a certain extent, yes. VA’s specialized homeless programs served more than 92,000 veterans in 2009, which is highly commendable. This still leaves well over 100,000 more veterans, however, who experience homelessness annually and must seek assistance from local government agencies and community- and faith-based service organizations. In its November 2007 "Vital Mission" report, the National Alliance to End Homelessness estimated that up to about half a million veterans have characteristics that put them in danger of homelessness. These veterans may require supportive services outside the scope of most VA homeless programs. Since 1987, VA’s programs for homeless veterans have emphasized collaboration with such community service providers to help expand services to more veterans in crisis. These partnerships are credited with reducing the number of homeless veterans by more than half over the past six years. More information about VA homeless programs and initiatives can be found here.
What services do veterans need? Veterans need a coordinated effort that provides secure housing, nutritional meals, basic physical health care, substance abuse care and aftercare, mental health
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counseling, personal development and empowerment. Additionally, veterans need job assessment, training and placement assistance. NCHV strongly believes that all programs to assist homeless veterans must focus on helping them obtain and sustain employment.
What seems to work best? The most effective programs for homeless and at-risk veterans are community-based, nonprofit, “veterans helping veterans” groups. Programs that seem to work best feature transitional housing with the camaraderie of living in structured, substancefree environments with fellow veterans who are succeeding at bettering themselves. Government money, while important, is currently limited, and available services are often at capacity. It is critical, therefore, that community groups reach out to help provide the support, resources and opportunities most Americans take for granted: housing, employment and health care. Veterans who participate in collaborative programs are afforded more services and have higher chances of becoming tax-paying, productive citizens again.
What is the definition of home- released Dec. 8, 1999, by the U.S. Interagency Council on the Homeless less? The United States Code contains the official federal definition of homelessness, which is commonly used because it controls federal funding streams. In Title 42, Chapter 119, Subchapter 1, "homeless" is defined as: §11302. General definition of homeless individual ( a) In general For purposes of this chapter, the term "homeless" or "homeless individual or homeless person" includes–– 1. an individual who lacks a fixed, regular, and adequate nighttime residence; and 2. an individual who has a primary nighttime residence that is–– A. a supervised publicly or privately operated shelter designed to provide temporary living accommodations (including welfare hotels, congregate shelters, and transitional housing for the mentally ill); B. an institution that provides a temporary residence for individuals intended to be institutionalized; or
What can I do? Determine the need in your community. Visit with homeless veteran providers. Contact your mayor’s office for a list of providers, or search the NCHV database. Involve others. If you are not already part of an organization, align yourself with a few other people who are interested in attacking this issue. Participate in local homeless coalitions. Chances are, there is one in your community. If not, this could be the time to bring people together around this critical need. Make a donation to your local homeless veteran provider. Contact your elected officials. Discuss what is being done in your community for homeless veterans.
Homeless Veterans Facts DEFINITIONS, DEMOGRAPHICS AND ESTIMATED NUMBERS
C. a public or private place not designed for, or ordinarily used as, a regular sleeping accommodation for human beings."
(USICH) – is the National Survey of Homeless Assistance Providers and Clients (NSHAPC), which was completed in 1996 and updated three years later. You can download the NSHAPC reports at www.huduser.org. Veteran-specific highlights from the USICH report include: 23% of the homeless population are veterans 33% of the male homeless population are veterans 47% served Vietnam-era 17% served post-Vietnam 15% served pre-Vietnam 67% served three or more years 33% were stationed in war zone 25% have used VA homeless services 85% completed high school/GED, compared to 56% of non-veterans 89% received an honorable discharge 79% reside in central cities 16% reside in suburban areas 5% reside in rural areas 76% experience alcohol, drug or mental health problems 46% are white males, compared to 34% of non-veterans 46% are age 45 or older, compared to 20% non-veterans Service needs cited include: 45% need help finding a job 37% need help finding housing
Who is a veteran?
How many homeless veterans are In general, most organizations use the U.S. there? Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) eligibility criteria to determine which veterans can access services. Eligibility for VA benefits is based upon discharge from active military service under other than dishonorable conditions. Benefits vary according to factors connected with the type and length of military service. To see details of eligibility criteria for VA compensation and benefits, view the current benefits manual here.
Demographics of homeless veterans "The Forgotten Americans-Homelessness: Programs and the People They Serve" –
Accurate numbers community-by-community are not available. Some communities do annual counts; others do an estimate based on a variety of factors. Contact the closest VA medical center's homeless coordinator, the office of your mayor, or another presiding official to get local information.: A wonderful place for The Solution News readers to help is right here in Lake Worth:
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A Couple New 12 Step Programs Over-Serious Anonymous 12-Step Program 1. We admitted that we were powerless over seriousness — that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that only by lightening up could we achieve a state of non-seriousness. 3. Made a decision to turn our constant self-criticism over to our sense of humor and learn to “lovingly and wholeheartedly” laugh at ourselves.
12 Steps of Pre-Program 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing- that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was no power greater than ourselves and the rest of the world was insane. 3. Made a decision to have our loved ones and friends turn their wills and lives over to our care even though they couldn't understand us at all.
4. Decided to give ourselves a break once in a while, instead of constantly doing searching and fearless moral inventories of ourselves.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral and immoral inventory of everyone we knew.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being that our wrongs were often in our heads.
5. Admitted to the whole world at large the exact nature of everyone else's wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to accept that our characters were as good as anybody else’s and possibly better than most.
6. Were entirely ready to make others straighten up and do right.
7. Quit harping on our shortcomings.
7. Demanded others to either "shape up or ship out."
8. Made of list of all persons we thought we had harmed and saw that they’d forgotten all the crap we’d blown out of proportion.
8. Made a list of all persons who had harmed us and became willing to go to any lengths to get even with them all.
9. Quit making amends for breathing air and taking up a few square feet of the planet’s surface. 10. Resigned ourselves to the fact we were going to criticize ourselves at times, but would try to stick to our guns when we knew we were right.
9. Got direct revenge wherever possible. Except when to do so would cost us our own lives or at least a stiff jail sentence. 10. Continued to take the inventory of others and when they were wrong promptly and repeatedly told them about it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to calm down and realize we’re not responsible for everything.
11. Sought through bitching, complaining, and nagging to improve our relations with others as we couldn't understand them at all, asking only that they knuckle under and do things our way.
12. Having experienced immense relief from these steps, we would try to carry this message to other over-serious people and to practice these principles in all of our affairs.
12. Having had a complete physical, emotional and spiritual breakdown as a result of these steps, we tried to blame others and to get sympathy and pity in all our affairs.
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Demographics Let us not be stopped by that which divides us but look for that which unites us. If we could reduce the world’s population to a village of precisely 100 people–with all existing ratios remaining the same–demographics would look something like this:
5 would control 32% of the entire world’s wealth, and all of them would be US citizens 80 would live in substandard housing 24 would not have any electricity
12 Europeans
(And of the 76% that do have electricity, most would only use it for light at night.)
5 U.S. Americans and Canadians
67 would be unable to read
8 Latin Americans
1 (only one) would have a college education
60 Asians
14 Africans
50 would be malnourished and 1 dying of starvation
49 would be female
33 would be without access to a safe water supply
51 would be male 82 would be non-white
1 would have HIV
18 white
1 near death, 2 would be near birth
89 heterosexual
7 people would have access to the Internet
11 homosexual 33 would be Christian 67 would be non-Christian
If take time to take a look at the world from this condensed perspective, the need for acceptance, understanding and education becomes evident.