someone may look at you as if you a parasite, but you are not.

Love and compassion can only be a telling story and all good things can never be discovered in our society if we only decide to be exposed to the distorted fact of human beings. Actually, human beings are much friendlier than you ever think if you truly understand the reason why they turn out to be so mean and cruel. As we are human beings, we have to learn to understand ourselves clearly before we carry on ruining each other.

We are constantly bombarded by our instinct, with the waste of information flowing from its warning. It makes us feel depressed unconsciously almost all the time and, as a result, we have to hide our awareness away in a headlong rush so that the gloomy warning will not be recognized. To make sure that we can be safe from such distraction, we need to have something interesting and enjoyable to do and be with, making it a shelter of our awareness to avoid the perception of our constantly bombarding instinct. That why what make fun, make us happy.Make us calm from frustration.

In fact, everybody needs a friend. It is a friend who can be more interesting or enjoyable than other creature comforts in life can ever fulfill. (television,movies,radio,computer game,books, newspaper ect.)

Deep in our consciousness, we really need to have a friend. It is exactly a feeling of humiliation caused by our inner fear. Meanwhile, we always feel ashamed of ourselves for having such fear and embarrassment that we are not good enough for others to be friend with. As human beings, we have to reach out for something perceived as a helping hand, which is therefore resulted in the need of esteem, the attempt to increase personal value or even the boasting with exaggeration.

Admittedly, we seem to be happier to stick to such needs and actions as they can help relieve our fear and embarrassment, making our lives livable with love, peace and happiness.

Jealousy is almost the same . It is a consequence of fear that we are not good enough for others to be friend with anymore, resulted from the falling value in ourselves compared with the rising reputation of others. We basically fall victim to

fear, especially when we recognize others’ enviable reputation. It therefore seems that jealousy is not harmful or unacceptable, but it is just another means of expressing fear. And It has wrongly made us stick to hatred and fear ever since, which looks like there is no way for us to live peacefully and happily together.

Nowadays, we are like blind people in dealing with a feeling of depression caused by our instinct. Its warning tortures us viciously and keeps threatening us silently inside our brain while we are extremely distressed with large amounts of money spent for getting away from it. In addition, it can simply be said that enjoyment is greatly expensive and even invaluable if we blindly follow our feeling without knowing what we actually want and try to be less enslaved to the power of money.

If we open our mind fully, we will understand that we need each other to be friends and we can no more be embarrassed by tiny matters or jealous of others. We will also see that the exact feeling created in our mind is nothing but a dreadful fear.

We will be more aware of this suffering and will be more careful trying not to hurt others(modesty,humbleness), encouraging each other to live happily without embarrassment or jealousy. This is the greatest thing we wish to offer to each other as it can foster sincere friendliness, everlasting love, unbounded harmony, desirable relationship and sustainable enjoyment for our society. Admittedly, social friendship and unbiased understanding will lead us to a better quality of life and society.

If we need no friend, we may not have to be embarrassed. If we need no friend, we will not feel jealous of others. If we need no friend, we may never need any reputation. If we need no friend, we will not need others to respect us. If we need no friend, we will never have to be exposed to an extravagant life. If we need no friend, we can live our lives without greed and selfishness. All of these explanations are driven from the problem of instinct, forcing us to seek a friend and enjoyment in life. For better or worse, we are committed to maintaining our friendship in order to get rid of the mentioned problems. We are bound to love, understand and forgive each other. More importantly, we must give ourselves a chance to create a small society full of understanding, peace and harmony. We will finally see that all great reputations and appreciations we desire are absolutely

nothing comparing to the happy society and enjoyment we have created together (the society can variously provide fun-filled activities concerning with sport, music, art, religion or other knowledgeable programs. However, everybody is suggested to full-heartedly participate in a certain activity).

However, no matter how clear your understanding can perceive or how desirable your attitude can change, you and I are still lonely people who always have to rely on something enjoyable and cannot escape the fact that we are still part of the society. It is the society of materialism, indifference, rivalry, daydreaming and extravagance that never secures financial peace for anybody. It can even continue to be like this if the fact of today’s human beings still remains untold.

If we help each other in promoting the aforementioned ideas to other people, a remarkable change will certainly exist in our society. Our society will be full of compassion and empathy as people have become more caring, with generosity and goodwill to be given to one another all the time. There will be no embarrassment or jealousy anymore, but a true happiness with invaluable friendliness of surrounding people and nature.

PS. Instinct is inherent in our brains. It haphazardly forces us to have a pressure resulted from its warning that seems to be more troublesome than beneficial. The pressure is, in other words, known as boredom or despair. Certainly, it cannot cause death to us like hunger or illness, but it is a real torture that makes us depressed at any time. Such pressure even has a strong influence on human beings, particularly when it is recognized by no one. Remember one thing , happiness is gained in every end of suffering . therefore to end the sufferring is the same thing to gaining the happiness.