How to set boundaries and make it work?

Making it work!

Give yourself, your children and your former partner time to readjust. Try to strike a reasonable balance between time for yourself and time for your children. And although it may be difficult from a practical point of view, it is better not to upset your children’s routine too abruptly.

Regardless of your parenting style, you’ll want to work to reduce level of conflict, trying to move from a more conflicted style to a less conflicted one. Finally, regardless of your exposure, you’ll want to do the best job of parenting possible, always taking the high road for the benefit of your child.

04 Legal Framework This section talks about Pakistani Law for child custody, parental alienation and court proceedings

How to move forward with the legal proceedings?

In Pakistan, family law is a bit different in each province and territory. That’s why this booklet can only cover very general information. Family law issues can be complex. When you are developing a plan on what happens with your kid after the divorce, it’s always a good idea to speak with a family law lawyer to make sure you understand • your legal rights and responsibilities • options for resolving differences between eachother • how the court system works.

Until parents separate, both the mother and the father of the born child have an equal right and equal responsibility to raise their child and to make decisions about their child’s care and upbringing. After separation, arrangements to share their parenting rights and responsibilities become imperative

How to reach to an agreement on child custody?

They are mainly two options for reaching an agreement.

Personal negotiation

It involves discussions between you and the other parent to try and come up with a compromise or agreement about parenting issues. You can use negotiation to settle issues at any time—even if you’ve started a court case. It’s important for each of you to show the draft of the agreement to your own lawyers before you sign it. As you will need an affidavit with terms and signatures of both parents to show in court that both parties approve the agreement. Whereas, another option is to go to court which means that you’re asking a judge to decide for you. The judge will hold a hearing or a trial, and then make a court order. You must then do what the court order says.

Going to court

This means that you’re asking a judge to decide for you. There are many steps in the court process. Even if you have to go to court, the court will encourage you and the other parent to come to an agreement, if possible. You should not expect the court to give you a court order right away. It can take a long time. When judges decide on parenting arrangements, they base their decisions on the best interests of each child, based on the evidence at the hearing or trial. In court, each parent has to build their case to try to get the outcome they want. This may have a negative long-term affect on your ability