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the given moment are rather intense yet are things one has to endure to evolve and thereby learning and growing. Interviews with two wonderful spiritual healers as well as an interview with Tom Fulton the ‘’new’’ kid on the block with regards to publishing his first book. The review is also in this issue so if you are a keen and avid reader definitely well worth a read. Greetings, So we officially have welcomed in the Autumn period here in the Southern Hemisphere. Not my most favourite time of the year as I know we head toward winter and the cold months. However, as with all things in life this cycle too has to be travelled. I hope that you in the Northern Hemisphere have a beautiful Spring and of course that the summer months are clear and bright with sunshine.

Unfortunately there is no reading from the Archangels this month as Michelle is busy moving and Aneis de Vida wishes her great happiness in her new home.

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The beautiful cover photo taken by Anela has been manipulated colour wise, but the original is on the last page of the magazine for all to see its beauty. A big thank you to Anela for all the wonderful photos she always sends in to Aneis de Vida.

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE: Content

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Humour is the Name of the Game

Healing Hands—The Untold Story of Jolanda Venter

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My Shamanic Awakenings—Mara Clear Spring

The “New” Kid on the Block — Tom Fulton

7 Limiting Beliefs That May Be Holding You Back Today — Paul Smit

Chakra & Chakra Stones — Enchanted Earth

The Power of Leading an Expanded Life — Deborah Sutherland

Vegan Recipes

Stroke — Nicolette Henderson

Natural Remedy for Aching Muscles

Walking Through the Waters of Grief — Bea Potgieter

Aries— “I am Thinking” — Beryl Broekman

The Phenomenon of Telepathy - Jimmy Henderson

Messages from the Master Atenar

Rune Reading by Amethyst Moon Dancer

3 Card Tarot Reading

Teen Tarot Reading

Travel Patagonia

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HUMOUR Psychiatrist vs. Bartender

'Well, Eighty bucks a visit, three times a week for a year, is $12,480.00. A bartender cured Ever since I was a child, I've al- me for $10.00. I was so happy ways had a fear of someone to have saved all that money under my bed at night. that I went and bought me a new pickup truck.'

covered, what was the highest mountain in the world? Answer: Mt. Everest; it just wasn't discovered yet.

How much do you charge?'

9. If you were running a race, and you passed the person in 2nd place, what place would you be in now? Answer: You would be in 2nd. Well, you passed the person in second place, not first.

4. How much dirt is there in a hole that measures two feet by three feet by four feet? Answer: There is no dirt in a So I went to a shrink and told him: 'Is that so?' With a bit of an atti- hole. 'I've got problems. Every time I tude he said, 'and how, may I 5. What word in the English lango to bed I think there's some- ask, did a bartender cure guage is always spelled incoryou?' body under it. rectly? I'm scared. I think I'm going Answer: Incorrectly crazy.' 'He told me to cut the legs off 6. Billy was born on December the bed. Ain't nobody under 'Just put yourself in my hands 28th, yet his birthday is always there now.' for one year, said the shrink. in the summer. How is this posCome talk to me three times a sible? It's always better to get a secweek and we should be Answer: Billy lives in the Southond opinion . ern Hemisphere able to get rid of those fears.' ——————————————

'Eighty dollars per visit,' replied the doctor. 'I'll sleep on it,' I said.

Six months later the doctor met me on the street. 'Why didn't you come to see me about those fears you were having?' He asked.

1. Johnny 's mother had three children.. The first child was named April The second child was named May. What was the third child 's name? Answer: Johnny of course 2. There is a clerk at the butcher shop, he is five feet ten inches tall, and he wears size 13 sneakers. What does he weigh? Answer: Meat.

10. Which is correct to say, "The yolk of the egg are white" or "The yolk of the egg is white"? Answer: Neither, the yolk of the egg is yellow [Duh!]

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the answers to what she knew was out there and that oft spoken , down which she was looking for. to earth, Jolanda She felt like a sponge soaking Venter found what she up the information as she was searching for but it found. There were those who took some years, and it of course tried to change her was not always an easy mind but she was deterjourney for her. mined and completely dedicated to her own life journey and finding the answers that She grew up in a very Afriwould resonate and propel kaans home with the norms of a good Christian upbring- her forward on her soul jouring. So where did her journey ney of life. As Jolanda put it, she was following her inner into her true self begin? compass not truly knowing Jolanda feels that her story how the dots and markers does not have all the bells would eventually add up. and whistles of knowing this She learnt to trust her inner was who she was or that she self allowing the moments to was born with some special unfold before her very eyes. gift that made her just She points out that our earth‘’know’’. ly self does not always comShe does say though, she prehend nor understand the was always very sensitive to divine purpose. There is a what was happening around purpose for everything that her, such as certain condihappens to us. tions of families, churches So let us back track someand society in general and what, well more like 20+ many of these did not sit well years. As mentioned she with her. ‘’We have all been came from a very staunch brought up in a certain way. Afrikaans family and religious I questioned so much of what background. Whilst she was I was taught, and once I finin high school she was very ished with my high school edinvolved with the church but ucation I started breaking felt there was something away from that ‘’norm’’ to lacking and deep inside of forge and find the answers I her there was this pull that was searching for. Going on she couldn't quite undermy own spiritual awakening stand. She did realise that and an expedition of sorts’’. whatever it was she was not Once she embarked on her going to find it in the church journey, she did not leave because no matter what one brick unturned to find there was always something Aneis de Vida

missing from the message she was getting there. Her families views eventually did not matter to her enough nor that of what others said. Yolanda maintains she is pretty lucky in that she is a very independent person and rarely needs some sort of validation from someone else. She does admit though that the beginning after her ‘’break-away’‘ from the norm was not that easy, but with time it became easier. Jolanda says in terms of people accepting their journeys and being able to accept their spiritual side in terms of their religious backgrounds is not easy and one that she does understand because they are scared not only from the fearfulness of what they may find, but fearing the reaction of family and friends . And it can be a lonely journey which is not always acceptable to people. When going through shifts and evolutions her body underwent big changes. No doctor could tell her what was happening, and even though she had an inkling of what it could be her physical mind wanted some kind of affirmation. It all started around 2008/9 when her body went absolutely haywire. It took a few years to actually comprehend all that was taking April 2016

place. This was the hardest period for her. As she said previously in the back of her mind she had an inkling but the human side of her wanted to hear what the doctor had to say. This led to numerous visits to the doctor with countless tubes of blood being taken and no logical answer. Her inner self knew it was DNA activation that was causing all her problems and her body was taking a hard knock upgrading. She could not explain to people what was happening, or in reality what she was feeling. Words seemed inappropriate or missing from the vocabulary as it sounded insane and she felt like she was loosing her mind in some ways. Jolanda describes her ‘’ailments’’ like this. She started picking up weight at an alarming rate, and with no reason as she ate a healthy balanced diet. She exercised but suddenly a brisk walk was inconceivable, her heart would go racing with heart palpitations, the palpitations happened with the slightest exertion. More perplexing were the pains in her body for which there was no reason. So she went from being a very healthy human being to hardly being able to get out of bed. What she did notice was that Aneis de Vida

every time there was some kind of solar flare she would feel as though she had stuck her finger in a plug or live wire. She learnt to manage the physical side of her being. Though she kept trying to find some form of relief. One day she went to an acupuncturist and thought that due to his profession he would understand or be more open to what she was trying to say about her body. Well unfortunately he lifted his eyebrow as if to say ‘’another mad person has entered my sphere’’. Resulting in her realising this was one journey she would be loathed to share with people, even those who she thought were open enough to understand clearly were not.

itual healing will be a quick fix. This is not the case it is a journey where healing takes place from within, working on yourself with the help and guidance of a light worker. When asked what her greatest wish is for our mother earth she replies: ‘’I am a dreamer so I wish for oneness and unity to become the order of the day. To be able to live in harmony with the animals, trees, plants and one another. To breakaway from the negative conditions that have and still do hold us captive. We are all going through different processes, but to be able to accept and love one another for who and what we are.

It ways heavily on me to see what is happening in our There was one women though who brought Jolanda world, but I believes that if to the point of managing her we, each and everyone of us health issues. Helping her to does something small to assist stem the panic that was rising by giving out love, acceptance and consideration and to deal with her fear. for all, it will cause a major And for this she will be eterripple effect across the nally grateful. globe. So she decided to share her Big changes have taken experience with you in the place, even if we are unable hope that any of you going to see them in our daily lives. through similar experiences will benefit from her journey. We are so used to seeing only the negative but we need Jolanda says that clients that to look at the positive for a go to her or any other light change. In doing this we will worker have more often than generate a more loving envinot hit absolute rock bottom. ronment all round.’’ And they think that the spir14

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do an interview knowing the person she is talking to is sitting on the other side of the y Shamanic world.

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As Mara was a very sensitive child she would pick up on ‘’things’‘ as she puts it. Meaning emotions, vibrations Here is a free spirit who loves etc, resulting in her becoming life and it comes through with very reclusive as she was unaa distinctness whilst speaking ble to discuss this with anyone she feared she was actually with her. A definite playfulgoing insane, worse still she ness and approach to life. Yet there is a deep and pro- was sure were she to utter any of this to anyone she found spirit that comes would be branded through. ‘’insane’’ . Her mother and Mara Clear Spring has always sister were vastly different in had a close connection with their approach and thought nature and her start into this to life. life and growing up would be So the natural question to folthe footprint by which she would grow and live her life. low was ‘’how have they reacted to your life choices?’’ Her childhood was rather unsupervised as she puts it and Interesting that the conversation is going this way says Main such she would even perra. form fire ceremonies in her bedroom at a very young The reality is that she has no age (can you imagine allow- contact with her family and ing your child to do this?). feels a tad embarrassed reWell she was good at hiding lating this story. At one point the evidence as she puts it— debt collectors were trying to but there was this deep root- get in contact with her in ed called and she followed view of contacting her family. her instinct allowing herself She pointed out to them that the freedom to perform her were she interested in conrituals even then. necting with her family she She definitely did not grow up would hire a private detective and suggested they perin a spiritual household and haps try going that route they did not attend church. However, at one point or ra- themselves.

As a child I found myself talking to the animals, plants, the mountains and the wind. If I was upset and inconsolable, I’d climb a tree and tell it my woes, even in the rain. I remember running up and down the street, trailing a stick with a piece of yarn in the rain gutters, singing to the rainbows. This was normal for me but regarded as fanciful and perhaps even weird by my family. Later in my life I discovered I was doing something quite natural and sane, just not typical for someone raised in a twentieth century American family. Indigenous peoples throughout the world have held our Earth Mother, the Stars, the Elements and all living things in great reverence ther two points in time Mara’s She does not feel that she is as a part of daily life. mother was convinced to have her children attend church. This as you will by An amazing interview that now have realised did not took place via skype. Mara said she thinks it is such fun to last and it petered out. Aneis de Vida

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replay them continuously adding fear to the ‘’brewing For many people family is a ‘’must’‘, but it does not have pot’’. to. People feel that it is a There does run a parallel line principle in their lives, the root between spiritual and reliof their life. In some Shaman- gious folk namely that all ic societies it is said that you people have a deep desire come to a time and a place to know why they are here. where your parents are your There is some form of ego tribal members, your fellow satisfaction to define who we clan, but your true mother is are. So there will be those the earth and your father is who will find comfort in the the sky. Mara thinks without religious dogma where as the knowingly she went to this spiritual minded person will path on her own. She truly not enjoy the distinct boundfeels loved by mother earth aries set by religious instituand father sky (or another tions but on both sides of the being father sun). spectrum there are still many Discussing boundaries, Mara who are seeking definition. In an example Mara quotes says that boundary busting saying if we look at astrology, does not have to be a bad people are more likely to look thing. It is the way we grow and learn. How we expand up their own birth sign, someour souls whilst being in a hu- thing like a shopper test man body. It is, if you allow it where the person will go with to be, a beautiful experience the colour of personal preferof being locked into a body ence. A bit like the reflection of mirrors. Spirituality versus and yet having your soul religion is more free. Religion grow. is connecting with someone We touched on the subject else’s interpretation of what of fear and here Mara states spirit is wanting to say. Mara that we humans are in anidoes find however that she mal mode. Meaning that our has many people who mansurvival is paramount no dif- age to connect and marry ferent to how animals survive their religious ideologies with out in nature. And yet on shamanism by finding the many levels animals have less middle ground. This perhaps fear purely because they do being due to the fact that not sit and ponder situations. shamanism invites them to There instinct is pure fight or step in and take any or all flight, which in certain scethat feels good to them and narios we too have. Yet we then discard that which will revisit these scenes and does not. Aneis de Vida

There are also those who will believe that shamanism is demonic. A friend and client was confronted with family who felt and believed she had become possessed. And was pretty surprised to confronted with the fact that an intervention had been called upon to save her soul from being possessed. Thankfully Mara’s friend/ client was able to stand up to her family and tell them they were sorely mistaken— thankfully she was not burn’t at the stake for her belief. Mara’s greatest wish for our mother earth and its inhabitants is that we let go of trying to control others, by letting go of the power struggle of control. And to concentrate on feeding the hungry, and that we can stop cutting down our wonderful trees. That people across the earth learn to evolve into their greatness.

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What happens when we lose soul parts?

as they are attracted to your growing integrity. I will also Soul Retrieval can be a lifeOur life force energy is dimin- retrieve at least one Power Animal for you and connect changing experience and I ished and we become vuladvise anyone considering nerable, literally feeling that you with a higher being, Soul Retrieval to be aware “hole in our soul.” We may try whom I call Star Beings. Both that when we undertake this to fill that hole with other en- provide extra protection and the opportunity for you to bepath of self change and dis- ergy, such as food or sex or covery, our jobs, relationships mind-altering substances, ad- come a master of your own destiny. and living circumstances dictive relationships or beWhat will you feel? may alter accordingly haviors, or other people’s soul parts. Any or all of these I have had people report tinFrom the moment we are born we are exposed to situ- ways we try to regain our lost gling, pulling, see visions of energy can drive a selfations that can bring about their own, and more. For perpetuating downward spisoul loss. In speaking of the most the process is deeply ral as more stress creates soul I am referring to that esrelaxing. Many people expemore soul loss. Healing at the sential life force energy we rience emotional release in energetic level begins with incarnate with, all that is our tears or other profound feelreturning you to wholeness, personal being in spirit now ings in the weeks that follow. your missing soul parts reanchored in a physical body. This is a natural result of the turned to you. Soul Retrieval reclamation process – the How do we lose pieces of our complements any other selffeelings are coming through. soul? healing program you may I advise my clients to simply Parts can leave when we ex- choose. sit with them, let them flow perience situations where our How does it work? through, not make themsoul feels death is imminent, selves wrong or bad, and alor preferable, such as trauma What I do is journey into sha- low the integration to be a manic reality and find those at birth, accidents, illness, parts for you and ask them to sacred process. near death experiences, come back. There will be You can schedule your First death of a loved one, diSession, which includes Soul vorce, miscarriage/abortion, some significant parts, and Retrieval, below: repeated emotional/physical many smaller ones. I may bring you the story of each abuse, molestation, rape, http://maraclearspring.com/ part, or not, as is appropriate. sudden shocks or witnessing scheduleyoursession/ If you have “privacy shields” events such as these. Soul up, which means something Website: parts separate as a survival http://maraclearspring.com mechanism in the face such is not for me to view, that’s stress, and generally the big fine as the Guides do the Newsletter: work behind the scenes and parts don’t come back withhttp:eepurl.com/mwsfn out assistance. In the Western the parts are still restored. I world you may draw a paral- bring back as many parts as Daily Sharmanic Weather: lel to this experience with dis- will come in the First Session. http://maraclearspring.com/ Additional parts return sponsociation. newsletter-signup-sharmanictaneously after your session weather Aneis de Vida

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possibly young to fathom out the implications of this Unilateral Declaration of Independence. National Service was already a ‘fact of life’ and we were perfectly resigned to the fact that all ‘men’ did it. Although abolished before we were old enough, there was a system in our schools called “Cadets” and this was like a preparation for what would come in our National Service. We were ‘duty bound’ and accepted it as a simple fact of life.

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Tom Fulton Interview: You were born before the bush war in Rhodesia (Zimbabwe), what was life like for you growing up prior to the war? I was actually born 10 years before the Ian Smith Government declared our unilateral Aneis de Vida

independence. We were all told to go home from school to listen to the declaration on the 11th of November 1965. (Some years before, the same thing happened at the break-up of the Federation of Northern Rhodesia (Zambia), Southern Rhodesia (Rhodesia) and Nyasaland (Malawi)). I grew up in the shadow of a very right wing orientated father and a more reasonably moderate mother. This gave me a look at ‘both sides of the coin’ and we (my brother and I) were largely left to make our own decisions. Remember, we were both im24

As the book clearly depicts, we had an enormous amount of freedom and it was commonplace to be dropped off in the bush on one weekend and picked up the next. We honed our own bush-craft skills as a result of this freedom and it prepared us for the war. This made us perfectly at home in the bush and embued us with a confidence that eventually made us amongst the best counterinsurgency soldiers in the world – more than a match for the Communist Terrorists who started pouring over our borders. (Not all Rhodesian boys had this privilege – it wasn’t necessarily planned; but we were later thankful for the invaluable experience we were able to assimilate – the better for our later soldiering skills.)

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Then came the bush war – invariably this must have changed you as a person. So who were you before the war versus who you are now?

civilian counterparts. I had trouble trying to guard against arrogance – not easy for a 25 year old army Major who commanded more men than a Roman Centurion and I think this question is partially had the magnificent Victoria Falls Bridge prepared for answered in 1. above. My brother and I were drawn incomplete demolition at a to the inexorable vortex and simple ‘nod’. What was it that you learnt basically accepted it was about yourself whilst fighting everyone’s duty. We went into puberty with this as a re- in the war? signed fact of life. Before the I learned that I was a natural war? I was a little boy but I leader of men. It gave me believe I was born to be a supreme confidence. In the soldier and therefore took it long run, this saved a lot of up as a career. My younger lives. (Perhaps a quantum of brother, I would hazard (and ‘luck’ is involved here, but, as he would disagree), was not a famous golfer once said, really ‘cut out’ for soldiery but “The more I practice, the nevertheless followed in my luckier I get.”) Answering the footsteps. (Mimicry is, after question? I established the all, the highest compliment fact that I lead better than I anybody can pay). follow.

sonal and there was so much I wanted to say, but couldn’t. (Bronnie knows all this). I made a small change to my name and started it – DELETING the first 50 000 words – and it flowed with a rush once I impersonalised it and wrote in the 3rd person.

Into the Vortex is your life – and in some ways a biogAfter? I was moulded into a raphy of your life. Did you confident leader of men, feel that by writing this book it had little problem applying the skills to civilian manageri- would give the public a better insight into the war and al jobs and have always what it meant and did to been in management as a result. It had made me fastidi- those who fought it? Or was it in a way a purging mechaous to a point and I had nism for you? If neither what learned to pay attention to was the reason for your writdetail in every respect. (It is ing this book and using this worth mentioning that through a career in the infan- genre? try, I never, ever buried a sol- The book was an expunging dier under my direct comof a compendium of differmand – not one.) This made ent emotions. I wrote the first me supremely confident and 50 000 words in the first perfrequently disdainful of my son...it became painfully per-

Tell the public a little bit more about who Tom Fulton really is, how your passion for writing started, the importance of your family and where you are in your journey of life today?

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It is, in every respect a personal expose` and I wanted firstly to give the readers a look at those halcyon days. An idea of what our lives were before and during the war. Believe it or not, even a professional soldier has moments of introspection when one considers ending lives. (Anybody who tells you otherwise is either a sociopath or a liar.) The genre? Hahaha – that found its own way.

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start somewhere. My writing has always been a hidden passion – I was an adequate English student and was always entered in the annual Rhodes Trustee Essay Competition, with occasional success.

it left on your very soul to this day?

Having been through the army, would you say it is or should be re-instated as a compulsory for the younger generation (male and female) to learn about their strengths and weaknesses. If yes why and if no, why do you feel this way?

durance are perhaps the best lessons I learned – oh, got say I don’t accept everything I hear but, I suppose that’s pragmatism?

I am the CEO of the Sweet Banana Fund which helps former members of my regiment and I (thanks to Facebook) still have contact with a good number of my old miliThe journey? Well, I’m martary friends. Soldiery isn’t necried to the girl of my dreams – essary a ‘guy thing’ – altan emotional and intellectual hough it’s paradoxically reequal who, with my beloved ferred to as a Brotherhood. mother, coaxed me through The camaraderie is impossithe first hiccup, but gave me ble to explain to an enough rope to make my ‘outsider’. Suffice it to say, it’s own decisions. My second the sharing of triumph and book was far less like having disaster, being in situations of a tooth pulled because it mortal danger, bleeding, was fiction and I enjoyed sweating. writing it much more. Impact? Pragmatism and en-

War is a nasty business, but also a money making business in many ways – what are your views on this? Candidly? Whilst nobody can deny the support that SA gave us, they made a f*cking fortune out of our war. They then took a hard grasp on our genitalia when they wanted a political settlement – withdrew their pilots, helicopters and charged a fortune for their ammunition. Fuel was their ‘trump’ – nobody else was going to help.

What has it taken to get to this point of writing and printing your very first book, and how does it feel to be on the I don’t think this question was verge of a brand new experience? intentionally “loaded” but you have to realise that alI have been ‘pushed’ to lowing someone like Mugabe write, and now that we face to enforce conscription the challenge of marketing would make any former soland selling, it’s just the begindier suspicious. ning. (I have made a start on Whilst being in the army, you the sequel to “His Brother’s forged many strong bonds Shoes” but the work seems with your fellow soldiers, how to have just begun!) did you cope with loosing people who you had strong bond with during the war, and what kind of impact has Aneis de Vida

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colleagues. It all comes through and one feels the depth of feelings stage by stage. Recounting the shenanigans during boarding school days and into conscription, all bring smiles and a gurgle of laughter. Even though one would suspect that mainly people connected to that time would want to read Into The Vortex, donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be fooled. It is a book that can be enjoyed by all. Definitely well worth a read so keep an eye out for Into the Vortex by Tom Fulton coming out soon world wide. To follow Tom: www.tomfulton-author.com

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Definitely not the run of the mill recount of the bush war in Zimbabwe (Rhodesia). An interesting personal account from a boys perspective and apart from giving the reader glimpses into a life then lived. One feels a certain amount of understanding for parts of this boyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s childhood. The loss of a father, the closeness of a family all laid foundations for the future. Heartache and sadness, fun and laughter, genuine love and admiration for friends and Aneis de Vida

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hen you think a thought again and again, you make that thought your belief.â&#x20AC;? Today is a good day to take stock of the beliefs you have formed over your life. Look carefully and deliberately to find which are limiting you and which are serving you. Throughout your life you have repeated many thoughts time and time again. The contrast of your life caused you to do this. With each thought that you repeated over and over, you formed a belief about the topic of your attention and any practiced thought became your unique belief. This clutter of beliefs needs very much to be looked at as many of the beliefs you hold will keep you from having what you desire. Here are some examples that often come up:

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have imposed the idea that you can be and achieve only so much. If you try to break out of the mould of this idea, you encounter negative reactions so you remain clinging to limitations because it is easier than dealing with the inconveniences of disapproval around you.

You Feel Your Goals and Desires Require Immense Physical Action to Materialize

This belief is far from universal truth as you are not required to perform any action unless inspiration fuels it. Your ability to think your life into a new reality can make anything possible from wherever you are and no action is necesYou Have Been Taught to sary.

React So That You Can Be Heard

Your job is merely to reach the vibration of your dream This belief entangles you in and this task can be done situations rather than allows without any action until you you to free yourself. A reachave a burst of inspiration tion causes you to place that causes you to WANT to more attention on the very take action. It is that spark of thing you do not like, where- inspiration that fuels approprias not reacting will create ate action and gives it mothe space to place your atmentum as well as direction. tention on a desired solution. It is an illusion that immense Being heard does not require physical action is what brings you to verbalize because an idea into reality. your actions speak so much If you feel that more effort will louder than words. So often bring about your intention the clutter of reactionary diayou are more likely to burn logue only holds you back out if you hold no spark befrom taking the necessary accause you are not designed tion based on a clear, decito run on empty. The universe sive plan. Solutions do not responds to that frequency make themselves available in that only inspiration can offer. the heat of the moment. You are more likely to beThey are only available to come discouraged and give you when you are willing to up than to thrive on effort take a step back and not realone. Inspired, calculated act. If you want your voice to action based on your Core matter, slow down and acIntention is what your life calls tion solutions based on what for. matters most.

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You Hold the Belief that What You See is What You Get

add a vibration that will empower you. Compensation is your way of blinding yourself to the truths that surround This belief is very limiting as it you, truths you were suponly encompasses what you posed to look at and make see, not what you want, nor choices about. Compensawhat is possible. The more tion simply creates a delay or you just look at what you see, postponement and often the the more of what you see negative realities have comyou will get. When you step pounded and gotten worse out of this mind-set and begin while you were getting a fix. imagining a better picture of Solution and relief always self, you will vibrate that and come from WITHIN, not from change what it is you see. WE outside yourself. encourage you to reach far beyond what is in front of you to what is POSSIBLE in order to grow. You always want to appreciate your life but constantly build on it. SETTLING is one of the most lethal, limiting habits you can practice in life. Every cell in your body is reaching to grow and expand, and your life is designed the same way. Expect MORE of your experiences and you will receive more.

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you will find that you spent the predominance of your time looking at the lack, and you got more of that lack in your life, only demonstrating to you that vibrating works very well.

You Believe That Others Caused You to Feel the Way You Do

This belief has nothing to do with those around you. If you examine your life closely, you will find that you placed yourself in relationships with other You Believe That Imagining people, places and things. Outcomes Is a Waste of Time You are the captain of your and Energ ship and can choose which The reason you hold this be- way to steer it. The direction lief so strongly is because you of your life is always up to have seen some evidence YOU unless you give another suggesting this in your life. At your freedom to choose by some point you held a desire. agreeing they can do so. In You imagined it and felt real- other words, you allow them ly good about it and after all to have your power. that effort that you put in, it did not appear. The reason it Every truth you hold can be did not appear is because looked at in regard to your you did not STAY IN ALIGNdesires and if the belief shows MENT with the desire. You to you that it offers resistance perhaps started to focus on to what you want, you then the LACK of the dream more have the opportunity to redeand began to vibrate that fine and modify the belief so lack, pushing the desire away that you can keep the desire, from you instead of calling it knowing you offer it little reto you. sistance. Call your desired life to you. In truth, you let go of the desires you had and formed a Paul Smit Author and Speaker belief that this â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;vibrating de- for "ONE" sires into beingâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; does not work. Yet if you look closely, 34

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Before we begin we

need to confirm what exactly chakras are.

Chakras are energy vortices that exist within the etheric body and transmit life force energy to the body. Each chakra governs specific bodily functions of the organs in the body close to the area where the chakra is located. Each chakra has a specific colour that can be used for healing. Further to this each chakra also respond to specific sound vibrations.

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Root or Base: Red (main SACRAL CHAKRA colour) or black Represents your sexuality & (secondary colour) creativity as well as your feelSacral : Orange ings and emotions . Solar plexus : Yellow Heart : Green (main colour) or pink (secondary colour)

Orange Calcite

Throat: Blue

Third eye: Indigo Crown : Violet (main colour) or white (secondary colour)

Carnelian

The following list gives examples of which stone to use for Normally only seven chakras healing a specific chakra. SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA Please note that this is not an are mentioned. These seven exhaustive list but merely ex- Represents your wisdom & are the main chakras but centre of power. This is where amples. there are lots more minor we hold our “gut feelings”. chakras in the human energy Also representative of your field. ROOT CHAKRA self-worth and life purpose . Most stones of a specific colThis represents your basic our will be the stone to treat trust. It also involves your a particular chakra. Some major human needs, as stones may be used to treat Yellow shelter, food clothing and more than one chakra. Jasper desire to live. Here a list of the seven main chakras and associate colours: Citrine

Red Jasper

HEART CHAKRA Garnet

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Rose Quartz

Appart from our physical eyes, we have an inner eye which is your third eye or the Pineal gland. It connects us with our inner world as it is considered the â&#x20AC;&#x153;Seat of the soulâ&#x20AC;?.

Lapis lazuli Green tourmaline Sodalite

Green aventurine

Amethyst

Chakras from the heart up are closely associated with the spiritual area in the etheric body and may be treated with high vibration stones. Stones that are a mixture of two colours often can be used to treat both corresponding chakras. An example would be the use of Peridot or Prehnite on both the solar plexus and the heart chakra. Clear quartz as an all-round stone can be used on all chakras.

THROAT CHAKRA Represents communication and self expression. It is also our gateway to our inner and outer worlds.

Turquoise

Blue lace agate

There are a number of ways to use your chakra stones. Angelite Cary them with you, meditate with each one in turn or CROWN CHAKRA lay the stones on each corresponding chakra point on the Represents your spirituality body. You can work with all and absolute wisdom. Our spirit and our connection with the chakras, or a few or just the universe and unity with all with one. that exists. Also represents self Chakra kits are available -respect, self-improvement from Enchanted Earth. and inner wisdom, which is a vital aspect of self-healing . Contact Details: E-Mail:

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read this statement“People want to lose weight but are not prepared to diet and exercise”. I gave this some thought. It is a blanket statement and in some cases not necessarily true. Yet the statement does allow the consideration of complexities pertaining to the concept of change in order to bring about a desired outcome. How prepared are we when faced with the need for change? How far are we willing to go in implementing the necessary changes in our lives? How strong is our comfort zone that keeps us fixed in our unwillingness to participate in our changes? All questions and many more that may be answered by students studying the mind. Yet how does it appear to the lay person who would like to understand in simple terms, ‘Why do we find the idea and implementation of change, challenging?’

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I certainly do not have the answer but in my observations, it is clearly apparent that we are very attached to ‘Our Story’. Which is quite natural considering this is the life we created and it holds great meaning to us, the individual. We work hard at creating our life story. There may be aspects that work very well, and others that don’t. Generally I think people would like to get on with their daily life, do what they think works for them and along the way, experience whatever the individual deems as an important outcome feeling.

prepared’, ‘I could never have been prepared’, ‘it came as such a shock.’

How can we better prepare ourselves? A little “My Story” moment; I was in my teens and managing some health challenges that put me in a position of dealing with medical related personnel. I remember feeling overlooked, not heard, not considered and somebody else was going to determine my life, health outcome. I projected my life 30, 40 and 50 years down the line. This did not look like a life outcome that was worth considering. In Why would we want to bring that moment I knew that if I events into our conscious was going to live my life in a mind for consideration that healthy body, I was going to would bring doom and be reliant in myself to find the gloom? Mostly, we would be- answers to my healing. I lieve that ‘those things’ only would be implementing them happen to other people. Yet, and I would be answerable if we were to observe the na- to myself. It has been a life ture of living on this planet, time of navigation in listening we would see that life outto my body and learning comes are diverse and eve- what works and doesn’t ryone at some time is affect- work. I experienced more tried. als than successes and yet if I never pushed through those trials, I would not have experiPossibly, is it that we are not enced the successes. I learnt prepared for change as that facing and dealing with change would require us to life challenges, took me to consider something that greater depths of empathy would bring discomfort into and understanding of myself our life. The idea around this and others. My acceptance is,” I will think about it when of self-responsibility opened and if it happens.” However the door to a life I never imreality brings in, ‘I was not 42

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self better than you do. Take some time out, and observe your life. Expand this observation into a life of someone close to you. Expand this to a Our life experiences life of someone you can be expanded have no idea about. when we face our Expand this into life in obstacles. We perceive these challeng- general. Allow the es as life threatening ideas, concepts to and yet they are of- filter through your mind without any atten the doorway to something else. Loss tachment to an outcome or a judgeof a permanent job opens you to turning ment. It simply is what it is in this moment. It your hobby into an income opportunity â&#x20AC;&#x201C; is from this place that the idea pops into Loss of a loved one your mind and you allows you to conthen initiate the steps. nect with people in Change is Your Exways that are more appreciative of oth- pansion- however big ers, health crisis allows or small- it is All you to make chang- Youâ&#x20AC;Ś.. es to your life style that has not been working for you.

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One of my favourite savoury snacks is baked kale. It’s healthy, has a wonderful chewy texture and it’s quite filling. This recipe has no measurements and 4. is all based on taste. 5. INGREDIENTS: Curly leaf kale, washed and despined. Lemon juice Salt 6. Coconut Oil Garlic METHOD: 1. Wash and despine your kale and t ear the curly leaves in to rough, big chunks. 2. Put the prepared kale leaves in a bowl. 3. Lightly drizzle some coconut oil over the leaves. Be careful not to add too much – you don’t want oily sloppy kale. Just enough to Aneis de Vida

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This is another one of my firm favourites. It very much continues the flavour of the kale recipe, using lemon juice and garlic. I love simple food which packs a flavourful punch and which doesn’t require a degree in home economics to prepare. Again this recipe doesn’t call for measurements as different people might like more or less of any specific ingredient. For example – I don’t like too much tomato in my barley salad, but I do like more onion. I am also not a huge fan of coriander, so when I add my coriander, I just add enough to marry the ingredients together. It is important to play with your food while creating it. It allows for you to develop your own unique flavour profile for any dish you’re making. INGREDIENTS: Finely chopped cherry tomatoes Finely chopped red onion Finely chopped coriander (washed) Barley Vegetable stock Salt Lemon juice Aneis de Vida

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artery in the brain. Bleeding normally occurs at the site of Also known as cerebrovascu- arteriosclesoris (hardening of lar accidents, strokes are an artery). The diseased arcaused by damage to the tery may weaken and form arteries which supply oxygen- an aneurysm which ruptures. ated blood to the brain and Blood then escapes into the are characterised by a sud- brain tissue and the pressure den loss of neurological func- destroys the surrounding tion. This loss of neurological brain tissue. This type of stroke function is caused by cereis accompanied by a sudden bral infarction (death of the and severe headache and brain tissue). Brain tissue dies sensitivity to light. when it is deprived of oxySigns and symptoms gen. When a stroke damages the motor part of the cerebral cortex often the opposite half of the body becomes paralysed. A stroke in the brain stem results on a coma or death because the vital centres of the body are controlled by this area, such as breathing and blood circulation.

These very according to the part of the brain affected and may occur suddenly or gradually, fluctuating in severity.

treatment is received the better will be the outcome. A brain scan is done to rule out bleeding and other lesions and to define the location and extent of injury. If there is bleeding or a clot, surgery is performed. Thereafter treatment is focused on rehabilitation. Speech therapy, physiotherapy, OT and other therapies are used to re-train the brain to take over lost functions. Risk factors that canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be changed Age: The older a person gets the higher risk there is.

Sex: Men are more likely to Symptoms can include a loss get a stroke but after menoof movement (paralysis), pause a womanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s risk rises weakness, decreased sensa- significantly. tion, numbness, loss of coFamily history: If anyone in ordination, vision problems your family has had a stroke and difficulty in speaking. this increases your risk. Types of strokes Identifying a stroke Heart attack: Having a heart Cerebral thrombosis: A blood Ask the individual to smile attack makes one more clot forms in one of the carot- the mouth will be skew. prone to a stroke. id arteries and obstructs Ask them to speak a simple Migraines: If there is a history blood flow to the brain. The sentence and check for co- of migraines then the risk is clot forms in a section of the herency. higher. artery damaged by artherioAsk them to raise both arms - Sickle cell anemia: People sclerosis (hardening of the the affected side will be low- with this condition are at risk arteries due to artheromafrom a young age. tous plaque). A clot may al- er. so form in the carotid arteries, Ask them to stick out their dislodge and travel to the tongue - it will be off-centre. brain where it cuts off blood supply.

A prior stroke makes you more at risk.

Berry aneurysms: These are small sac-like areas within the Managing a stroke Cerebral haemorrhage: This is wall of an artery with which Hospitilisation as soon as pos- some people are born. These less common and is caused by bleeding from a diseased sible is crucial. The quicker rupture without cause and Aneis de Vida

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Risk factors that can be controlled: -

High blood pressure and cholesterol

Heart diseases that can be treated with medication.

Diabetes type 2

Blood clotting disorders.

Sleep apnoea. People with this condi tion are 3 times more at risk for a stroke. It is treated by weight management and devices can be used (CPAP ma chine).

Smoking

Alcohol consumption.

Smoking combined with birth control pills is a recipe for a stroke.

Obesity

Lack of exercise

Stress

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Lavender Excellent relaxation oil can be added as a few drops to the hot water soak or used as a massage oil into the painful area.

Turmeric/ Cayenne Pepper Potent pain reliever. Mix some either in warm water and drink or warm some milk and add to taste. Drink this twice a day.

Apple Cider Vinegar Can be used either in the hot soak water or drunk with some warm water and honey. Either way an excellent pain reliever.

Hot Water Soak Will provide relaxation and some pain relief. It will aid in the promotion of blood flow to speed up the healing process.

Coarse Salt/Bicarb Add to the hot water soak, it will draw out the pain and bring relief.

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oss is part of the Circle of Life and inevitably each and every one will experience it during their lifetime. Yet, these experiences are difficult for everyone, regardless of the form loss takes: ♥

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Sorrow rise Yet, everyone will find their from the depths below way and move through their and she allows it to flow own grief process. It is very into the reflected glow difficult to determine how of the waters of grief this long such a process will take, evening but one is assured of finding a This is now new balance or a new nortomorrow it may be so mal if one feels oneself as every evening through all the emotions that the waters of grief surface. There is no around or come visiting over such a process (or any assisting with the lifting process for that matter). The of the pain only way is through the diffiLoss of a loved one in life’s parting cult and painful emotions. (animal and human) with death We have to walk through the through death in her waking every morning waters of grief. Divorce Every evening as she walks through the waJob loss ters of grief “We cannont selectively Loss of role her hand extends into the unnumb emotions, when we (motherhood) and defi seen world numb the painful emotions, A hand is extended in return nition of identity we also numb the positive touching the visible world Loss of your good health emotions.” – Brene Brown when you are diag So they walk Hand in Life nosed with a disease Hand in Death Loss of a body part joined in mourning through accident or sur the waters of grief a silent witness to new begingery nings Loss of an ability, such as in waiting blindness Every evening she walks through the slow Loss of a friend who has and patient waters of healing moved closer and closer to a new day dawning Loss of everything famil with the love in her heart iar when you move of remembrance that will away never part with the living

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Grief is a reaction of distress and intense sorrow in response to the experience of loss of someone or something to which one is strongly attached (Oxford Dictionary of Psychology). The Grief Process is the way we move through the different stages towards healing. Each and every individual experiences grief and move through the grief process in their own unique way. Although Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified various stages of the grief process to assist people to understand their own experiences, there is just no way one can prepare or predict how such processes will unfold for everyone.

personhood); no time to say goodbye and often being left with many unanswered questions, which leads to a sense of incompletion or lack of closure. The corresponding grief reaction is then also often accompanied with feelings of regret, anger and guilt. Sometimes if left unattended, these emotions can get stuck into a state of complicated grief or incomplete grief, which hampers a person’s full functioning in life. Grieving is a process of release and vital to the restoration of psychological and physiological balance.

Kübler-Ross said that the grieving process involves experiencing all five stages, although not always in this order. She also said that people often cycle back and forth through a number of the stages before coming to the stage of acceptance.

For me, the grief process is like the season of autumn. Life is forever evolving and with every ending there is a promise of life in a new form. Autumn promises that the life that is changing, dying, shifting, transitioning, will be returned to us in a new way when it has completed its full Elisabeth Kübler-Ross outcycle. From a spiritual perlined five stages of grieving: spective it is said that nothing is ever lost as it takes on a “Grief is so painful because Shock and Denial: new energy form. However anything that takes form – a The first reaction to loss is of- true this may be, we are relationship, a method, a life- ten the inability to feel any- earthlings living in a physical style, a business, a human thing. This may include feel- world. In our physical form, body – solidifies to the point ing numb, weak, overloss is very real and the pain of resisting change. When it whelmed, anxious, not your- can be immense. I have no finally breaks apart, or fails to self, or withdrawn. doubt that these experiences function, grief arises in direct deepen and expand our way proportion to how attached Anger: of being. Loss and grief we had become to it.” – Lin- Blaming oneself or others for moves us deeply and we are da Kohanov, The Way of the the loss. transformed through those Horse experiences. However, we The grief response also deBargaining: have to acknowledge the pends on how the loss oc“If you’ll just let him live, I’ll pain we feel in correspondcurred. Impending loss acpromise to go to church eve- ence to the physical abcompanied with a process of ry Sunday for the rest of my sence, gap and void that is preparation and letting go, life.” left when loss has occurred. allows a person some grace. This however does not make Depression: the loss any less painful. It Feeling deep sadness, disgives some form of closure in turbed sleep and eating patthat it allows a sense of com- terns, thoughts of suicide, expletion. Loss that occurs sudcessive crying. denly, unexpected, tragic Acceptance: and traumatic are often very difficult to deal with as there Beginning to look for the leswas trauma (injured; in a cosons of the experience. ma; psychological trauma as a result of a threat to one’s Aneis de Vida

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Some guidelines to assist you avoid talking about the loss in moving through the proas a denial mechanism. Howcess: ever, this prolongs denial and the grieving process.

help is a way of staying connected.

Write about your feelings and experiences during the grief You are responsible for your Take time to be alone. In the process. Writing about your days and weeks following the feelings helps you express own grief process. No one loss of especially a loved one, them, rather than keeping can tell you how to grieve there is often a flurry of activi- them inside. It also gives you and no one can do your something to remember and grieving for you. It is difficult, ty with many visitors and phone calls. Added to the review in the future, which painful and uncomfortable work and you must manage stress of your loss, this can be you will appreciate. Writing completely exhausting. Peo- about your feelings helps you the process by yourself. express them, rather than Someone, like a professional ple will understand if you don’t answer the phone for keeping them inside. may assist you in facilitating Avoid making extreme life and holding a safe space for an afternoon or go to your room and close the door for changes after a major loss. your process. a while. Don’t make any im- Don’t make any important The grief process has a purportant decisions until your decisions until your life feels pose. It is to help you learn to life feels more balanced. It more balanced. It can be accept the reality of the loss can be tempting to make tempting to make some imand to learn from the experi- some important changes portant changes right after a ence. right after a major loss as an major loss as an effort to feel Remind yourself that your effort to feel more in control. more in control. If you can, grief will end. You will not feel Maintain a normal routine if put off such changes and like this forever. You will heal. you can. You have enough decisions until later. Take care of your health. Grief is extremely stressful, and it requires energy to manage the stress. Be careful with food and drink. While it may be tempting to numb the pain with food and drink, this can lead to the additional problems of alcohol dependence and other health problems. Also, numbing the pain means you are prolonging denial. This will make your grieving process longer.

changes in your life right now. Try to get up in the morning, go to bed at night, and take your meals at the same times you usually do. Ask for help. You will need it. If you don’t want to be alone, or if you want someone to take you somewhere, it is okay to ask. People don’t expect you to be selfsufficient right now.

Don’t hurry your grief process. People sometimes want to put their feelings and memories behind them because they are painful. But grieving takes time, and there are no shortcuts.

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Create a ritual/ceremony to say goodbye. This helps to honour the relationship and ♥ to reach some form of closure. It is to assist you in letting go. Here tributes, letters, poems and objects of remembrance can be read and constructed. Planting a tree or placing a bench with a name plaque on is good ideas to consider. Expect to regress in your recovery process from time to time. This is normal. It may happen unexpectedly, but it probably won’t last long. Acknowledge the anniversary of your loss by taking the day off or doing something ♥ special. Have supportive people ready to be with you. it It could be a difficult day and it’s better not to be alone . Holding a Space for Someone Who Is Grieving We can only create a safe space for another being to experience their grief. Creating a space means being open to whatever may arise for that person, checking our own reactions and discomfort with emotions, being non -judgmental, not imposing our own beliefs unto another, being loving, kind and compassionate and often just being present in silence together. Aneis de Vida

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Allow them to feel or be in the dark. When darkness anything but what they cloaks us, we can only walk are. in blind faith, moving forward slowly. The light will eventually It is invalidating of their experience and unhelp find us. For those souls walkful tot reward them for acting cheerful or “like your old self.” This teach es them to suppress their feelings around you. In any case the old self is gone as each experience transforms us. We are never who we were yesterday and tomorrow is a mystery. The essence of who we are continues on, but we become more dimensional through our experiences.

ing through the waters of grief, I send love, light and blessings for your difficult journey…

The Sun People often avoid other who are in pain as The Sun is a symbol reminding stirs something us of our collective purpose uncomfortable within united in birthing and transthem. Connect with forming hearts into a new them. They need your way of Life through Love support. Sun Let them tell you about set the loss again and again, if they need to. on the day

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our hearts wept On that day he never slept never really left the heart of the grieving Sun rose April 2016

in his kingly pose

over every path unfolding

in another corner of our earth host

The Light

soil

Found its way

which can break through a darkened sky

Sun

through and into everything

and turn the eager face

rises and sets

even a humble rose

of the ocean goddess

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countlessly throughout our earthly quest

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source and symbol

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his ultimate task

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am thinking:

Not too deeply of course, but just enough To measure the amount of energy I have to expend To get the results I need with the minimum of effort. Please understand â&#x20AC;&#x201C; I am not lazy and I am not afraid of hard work,

Beryl Broekman Director of Powatheta. One of the most highly qualified Theta Healing practitioners in Africa at present. Author, blogger and speaker.

But I am very sensitive to the fact that we live in a finite world. Everything comes to an end at some stage,

Therefore it is prudent to not wear out resources unnecessarily.

You might see me as mean and miserly. I can understand that. To you it may seem that spending a lot of money Is a sign of plenty and abundance. To you it may seem unkind and unloving That I continually count my pennies Or discuss the value in each and every item that I buy. But the truth is, I care not for waste.

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relationships

Preferring to be well placed should lack and But, in line with my nature, need I find the energy of conflict draining and Be the order of the day. wasteful.

It is true that I can be obsessive And it is true that my head mostly rules my heart.

Therefore I stick with others who either match my temperament Or are understanding of my outlook.

However, since I am as hard on myself

Thus I can be who I am

As I am on others, if not more so,

And allow everyone around me

Perhaps this rigidity in my nature

To take care of themselves.

Can be forgiven a little for this.

But, besides my relationship with material effects, I have a buoyant and courageous nature. If I am content that I can control my belongings Then I feel no need to control you. I am lax in discipline in dealing with people for the most part, And have no qualms about letting my children run riot Regardless of what is good for them. I am not invested in social mores And care not what the neighbours say.

[The person born under the Aries star sign has a unique sense of the world around them. They carry a deep imprint of past suffering that extends to the generations that have gone before. Thus, steeped in the energies of the past, they seek to limit the tragedies in their own lives. It is difficult for them to let go of history but when they do they are able to see life for what it is, live in the moment of the day and accept others with an unprecedented sense of abandon giving scant regard to social class.]

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According to the world famous psychologist Carl Jung we are all connected at a deep subconscious level of the mind, which he called the 'collective unconscious'. This interconnectedness of all minds can explain various phenomena such as telepathy and absent healing, as the mental barriers separating individuals do not exist at these very deep levels. The normal boundaries of consciousness are created by each personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s subconscious mind as a protective mechanism to prevent a sensory overload, as one can well imagine what it would be like to continuously hear the thoughts of others, even when not present. However, whilst in a subjective meditative state, one is able to bypass these mechanisms, allowing the extension and projection of both consciousness and intent. In this way, thoughts, messages, feelings or even uplifting, healing or harmonious energies can be communicated between persons.

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Normally , if one wishes to connect to another sentient being via his or her subconscious, it is necessary to first enter a very subjective altered state such as meditation, allowing one's own subconscious mind to open. Second, it is necessary to set a suitable intention and formulate an image of the person in the mind from memory or by focusing on a photograph. One can also simply state his or her name or that of a third-party family member or friend who has a prior relationship with this person. This allows one to 'dial up' the correct 'psychic address' of the person. Finally, one has to wait for a connection to be established, which can be felt either intuitively, or using a gesture such as the raised palm of the right hand. A connection will be felt as a slight bump or pressure on the palm. 66

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and attention. However, as in the case of someone hearing his or her name in a noisy crowded room, we can become aware of a message which has personal relevance, in this case, a comment on my book. However, in most cases such communications are simply ignored or drowned out by the caThis phenomenon of telepathy and the con- cophony of the thinking mind. ditions required for it are best illustrated by a case study in which I was personally involved. This was rather an amusing incident that took place a few years ago when I had given a short talk on my recently published book at a local bookshop. I had just finished my talk, when clear as a bell, I picked up a female voice in my mind and the words â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;sounds like a lot of work!!â&#x20AC;&#x2122; I immediately glanced in front of me and saw a young woman looking down. At that time I got the distinct impression that it was her thoughts into which I had inadvertently tuned, but being concerned that a verbal reply may disturb her, I did not respond at all. What is interesting about this case is that the telepathic contact took place spontaneously, without my setting an intention or any obvious change in my state of mind. I do, however, recall that at the time, my mind was quite clear and unencumbered, and I could very well have momentarily entered a receptive state of mind. The fact that I was in the womanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s immediate vicinity could also have played a role, as she obviously had the book and its author in mind when she entertained that thought. This suggests that we are continually faced with a barrage of the thoughts of others, which could flood and overcome our sensory processes if it were not for the protective barriers imposed by selective perception Aneis de Vida

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time to go through all the filters in your mind, take yourselves back to childhood and remember the happy times, remember the magical times, remember playing hopscotch, skipping with a rope, running and laughing playing hide and seek … The only way to bring the peace needed, the true essence of who you are is to go back as so many have wandered so far off their path and can not see in front of them anymore to see where they are walking. They are stumbling around in the dark fog of their minds, and the more they stumble around looking for a foot hold, a branch of hope the more they stumble. Go back, go way back, take you focus to your magical childhood times, even the hardest upbringing had laughter tucked in somewhere, even if it was something simple like watching a leaf dancing on a breeze or a butterfly landing on a flower, a single flowering weed in a barren ground …. This is the branch you need to hold on to , to bring magic and peace and understand back to this world, everyone needs to take a step back , or a large leap back . If it is in your mind, you can re create it and Messages from the Master, are channelled bring it to life … this is your mission for this conversations with Atenar, a Master Healer, Spirit month, every day, bring a memory to mind a Guide, my personal Gate Keeper, SoulMate, Best magical one …. Search long and hard, focus on finding those moments… especially when Friend and Advisor life has clouded your view and you ae feelI greet you all and thank you for allowing me ing negative, hateful, depressed. Every time to stand with you in the circle of light . a negative emotion surfaces due to circumMy wish is for you to read, absorb what is stances out of your control, take your mind meant for you and help the circle grow and to those special places and know you can shine with more light. make a difference simply by starting to believe in the pure happy memories, you CAN bring them back to life, The focus for APRIL is learning to remember. With love and light always So many in the world, your earth, have forAtenar gotten so much, it is time to remember, it is Aneis de Vida

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To navigate the new energies this month, you have got to be prepared to face some serious changes in your life. What is the good and bad you are attracting to yourself, without giving it any thought as to why your life is going the way it does? Have a good look at all thought patterns, and focus on changing negative thoughts into positives. Don't give in to letting things happen by default anymore. Get up, take action, and start anew. Start living from a place of love and see everything through this filter of love. Before you know it you will see things changing for the better.

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April 3 Card Reading 1—10 April This is a period of making synchronistic connections that will serve and honour you. Be on the lookout for helpful assistance (could even pertain to the possibility of a new love or friendship) connected to a women of wealth or in business.

11— 20 April Now is where you are able to receive insights from your soul’s point of view. Your intuition is at a high. Take time to listen to this intuition and when you do, get ready for the amazing inspiration that you will feel within yourself.

21— 30 April A time where the culmination of your personal and spiritual power comes to the fore. You are the magician of your life and within your grasp are the amazing forces of earth and spirit. This is an important and powerful time for you. You are the power force to transform your difficulties into great blessings for yourself in each and every area of your life. Claim your power and direct your destiny into a brilliant reality.

Tarot Reading Done with: Energy Oracle Cards By Sandra Anne Taylor

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Healing energy surrounds you. Whatever it is that you have prayed or asked about has been heard and healing is taking place within the spirit realm. Release and believe and see the results. You are also being called into the healing arena. Your energy is that to assist those who are in need. Remember it does not necessarily mean that you are being called upon to be a doctor or nurse but your essence itself brings consolation and healing to many you encounter and will continue to encounter.

The Fairies Oracle Cards Doreen Virtue

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rgentine Patagonia is for the most part a region of steppe like plains, rising in a succession of 13 abrupt terraces of about 100m at a time. In the hollows of the plains you will find ponds or lakes of fresh and/or brackish water. The Patagonia region encompasses the vast southernmost tip of South America, shared by Argentina and Chile, with the Andes as its dividing line.

The most southern landmark on the coast is Puerto San Juliรกn. It was here that the Portuguese explorer Ferdinand Magellan encountered a tall Tehuelche tribesman who he proceeded to name Patagones, which is a mythical character in a tale thus leading to the region being named Patagonia.

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nia is during the summer months (December to February). Although the temperatures are around the 15째C mark, it is also a time when the winds blow strongest.

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These winds can reach +- 190km/hour. Travelling during the winter you will find Patagonia to be the most picturesque, but due to heavy snowfalls, some of the hiking trails may very well be closed. Are you ready for your adventure to Patagonia to begin?

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Open Mindedness Exhibition to be held with bodypainting day Joburg

ernment and the society pur- Golub sue. interaction with Andy Golub Open-Mindedness appreci- and bodypainting models of ates the beauty, sensuality, the days and creativity of the nude art Live Performances New York Artist and form. It combines an excepBodypainting day founder Andy Golud will be in Johan- tional art collection, photog27 April 16 from 10:00 to 22:00 nesburg in April to paint us- raphy, films, sculptures , ing human bodies as canvas- paintings with interactive per- Bodypainting day Joburg formance arts that includes es. Exhibition items such as themed live drawing, body paintings, po- Live drawing by local artists and public etry sessions and monoOpen-mindedness is about logues. bringing the extreme, the Live Body painting by Andy tangents, the outcasts, the The exhibition will showcase Golub , Supporting local artawkward, the taboo together good arts that display the ists and public. and stylistically presenting best creativity in the nude art Monologues , Poetry Sessions, them to the public in a reagenre and celebrate the ar- Discussion forums and Live sonable, beautiful, accepta- tistic, humorous, and sensual Performances ble and artistic manner, so aspects of creative nude art the audience can realize both in visual and perfortheir previous bias & lack of mance arts. It will accommo- 28 April 16 from 16:00 to 22:00 understanding towards these date various social communiExhibition subjects which actually inties, It will address the issue of Live drawing by local Artists volve them a lot more than prostitution , human traffickthey realize. ing and sexuality with people Live Body painting by Andy The exhibition aims at creating awareness and making social, economic and political statements using visual and performing arts.

with disability through arts. It will talk against sex slavery. It will will speak about HIV, virginity and sexual desires.

The bodypainting day Joburg will take place on We see the Openfreedom day as symbol of Mindedness becoming synonymous with high art events freedom of expression and association. that attract the intellectual and artistic sides of nudity and sexuality. The exhibition Activities : and performances are a great platform of generally 26 April 16 from 16:00 to 20:00 thinkers of rebellious works of Exhibition the erotic category, without leaving out the social respon- Live drawing by local Artists sibility part that NGO's, gov- Live Body painting by Andy Aneis de Vida

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