Welcome HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!! Oh yes so we have another year ahead of us to do the best that we can, that is such an amazing concept don’t you think? And what are your resolutions for the coming year? I know that Di and I want to make ADV a household name, and make no mistake we are well on our way and we will achieve our goals so here is ‘’moi’’ doing a happy dance for the new year ahead. From my own experience in life I have learnt to look at the glass half full instead of half empty. In this way you achieve two things, a) you keep yourself inspired to carry on and b) you manage to send out good feelings into the world. Don’t get sucked into the doom and gloom, spread the light and the love. It is always easy to bemoan one’s lot in life, but think how fantastic it is to actually put a smile on your face and be grateful you have another day to be the best you there is. We all have set backs but they are just there to say ‘’hey listen up – there is a better road to travel’’. An inspiring 2015 message from Michelle Bell which I know for me personally was an amazing validation of what to expect in the coming year, and if we can all be willing to let go of the old so that you can make space for the new to creep in, then there is so much to look forward to. The articles will again bring you inspira-
tion and give you something positive to hold on to when the rain clouds are creeping in – when they do remember the earth and how that too needs to be fed to bring about the glorious shrubs and trees we so enjoy and often take for granted. Don’t forget to keep note of the answers to win our two day get away prize to the lodge and thanks to MetaVarsity for sponsoring an amazing course to be won, good luck to all who enter.
Love, Light and Blessings Tilanie January 2015
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humanity. To achieve the best that we can be, bringing forth the new and rising to a new level of caring and understanding. A year to shine your beautiful self, to have grace, and courage and most importantly to give and receive love.
By Michelle Bell
Many, many changes on a global level as well as a personal level will be experienced and seen by all. There will be a definite shift in feelings and emotions to bring about greater harmony to life on the planet.
(Her true and amazing life story will be in our February Issue – so don’t miss out on her miracle of Life – so As the angels have looked on in horror inspiring) over the years at the abuse of our The last 7 years have been all about shedding the old, and polishing the rough diamond of life. 2015 is a New Year heralding in a major milestone for
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animal kingdom and have wept, 2015 will here too bring many changes, more compassion and understanding for their betterment.
Contents General: Competition— Calendar— Tarot— Oracle — Health and Environment: — Emotional Health— Natural Remedies— Animal Communication— Stories and Reviews:
Fun: Crossword— Humour— Recipe—
Children and Teens: Teens Tarot—
Men:
Women:
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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF / DIRECTOR Tilanie Meierhans tilanie@aneisdevida.co.za
CREATIVE DIRECTOR Di Kendall dianne@aneisdevida.co.za
ON LINE Aneisdevida.co.za
DISCLAIMER The views expressed in this publication are those of the authors and not necessarily those of the editor, sponsors, advertisers or publisher. While every effort has been made to ensure that the contents of this publication are both accurate and truthful, the publisher and editor accept no responsibility for inaccurate or misleading information that may be contained herein. The publisher and editor do not promote or endorse any of the products or services advertised in this publication. Advertisers are responsible for their own advertisements. Be sure to consult your medical practitioner before you embark on any self-medication programme. Holistic remedies can be potent. COPYRIGHT Aneis de Vida is protected under the Copyright Act. All rights reserved. No publication maybe reproduced by any means without permission in writing from the publisher. MISSION STATEMENT Aneis de Vida aims to enlighten and bring hope, love and light to all.
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WIN
How to enter: 1.
Find cryptic words hidden in first 3 issues of the magazine
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Email all 3 answers with your name and contact details to: competitions@aneisdevida.co.za
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Closing date – 28 February 2015
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Draw will take place on 6 March 2015 and winner will be notified by 8 March 2015
Prize includes the following 2 night midweek stay for 2 people at Elephant Rock Private Safari Lodge Including 3 meals a day and 2 game drives per day T&C’s apply Elephant Rock Private Safari Lodge is situated in the big 5, malaria free, Nambiti Private Game Reserve near Ladysmith, Kwa Zulu Natal. It is a 10 bed lodge with 5 luxury chalets which over -look a very active watering hole. Delicious meals are prepared by our in –house chef and can be enjoyed in the open boma, under the stars on the viewing deck, or in the comfort of the main lodge. Wind down from the day’s activities with an after dinner drink in the lounge with a warm log fire *T&C*: Prize is not exchangeable for cash, excludes transfers to and from reserve, excludes bar services and gratuities, excludes personal purchases and additional activities offered by the lodge, prize valid between March and September 2015 excluding Easter Holidays www.elephantrocklodge.co.za January 2015
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J ANUARY 2015 Mon
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4 India Moulud Nabi
5 Guru Govind Singh Jayanti
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14 India (regional) Pongal
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16 India (regional) Thiruvalluyor
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’HEAVEN’S SPECIAL CHILD’’
A meeting was held quite far from earth It’s time again for another birth, Said the Angels to the Lord above This special child will need much love. Her Progress may seem very slow Accomplishments she may not know, And she’ll require extra care From the folk she meets down there. She may not run and laugh or play Her thoughts may seem quite far away, In many ways she won’t adapt And she’ll be known as handicapped. So let’s be careful where she’s sent We want her life to be content, Please Lord find the parents who, Will do a special job for You. The will not realise right away The leading role they have to play, But with this child sent from God Comes stronger faith and richer love. And soon they’ll know the privilege given In caring for this gift from Heaven, Their precious charge, so meek and mild Is ‘’Heaven’s Very Special Child’’. Much love always: Erica, Tiffany and Demi 07/10/2006
to see her for the first time, to hold her, to love her! But something was wrong. She was delivered with legs wide open they said. Everything was so confusing. Everyone was talking, but not to us. What on earth was the matter with her legs? Still, no-one answered me or even looked at us. We were given a brief moment to hold her, only a moment, because she was whisked off to ICU, and still we were none the wiser. ApparBy Erica Engelbrecht Niepage ently, when a baby is delivered with their legs open, the possibility of DS is high. (This we were told much later). While stitching me closed, my gynae leaned calmly over the screen and said there's It all happened so fast! The birth. The a possibility of Down's. Well!! My world doctors, the nurses, whispering… shattered into a million pieces in a matter of seconds. A million thoughts were racing through my head, "This The 29th of July 1998 at 08:48am, Demi can’t be happening to us". This was was born. We had waited 9 long months definitely not part of any plan we had January 2015
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for our lives! Demi was born with Trisomy 21. She has an extra chromosome. She also has a heart defect and while still in the womb, her Oesophagus had grown, but had not joined her stomach, and the same with the Intestines, so the stomach was suspended. Anything given to her via the mouth would never reach her stomach and her bowels would never be able to function either. She was wheeled into theatre that same afternoon at 5pm - they needed to join the bowel (intestines) to the stomach. My head was still swimming, how was I going to cope, what would I tell her when she asked me why Tiffany (my 5 year old) was getting married and she couldn’t? So many questions, no answers. 7 hours later, her Paediatric Surgeon completed the operation successfully. He had managed to join the bowel to the stomach and the oesophagus was rerouted to a small hole in the base of her neck – her saliva would come out of this little hole. He had also made an incision directly into her stomach and inserted a tube through which we would feed her. She was in ICU and was doing fine he said. I was eventually allowed to see her the next morning. To say that I was devastated, was an understatement! Drips in her head. Tubes in the arms, legs and both hands, the only place I could give her a kiss was on her knee. My heart melted and I fell completely in love with this little Angel that was given to me for a reason. Why, I did not know, but she
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was mine and she needed me! We would travel this road together, hand in hand and we would conquer the world. Our family was complete and we were going to be just fine - or so I thought. She was allowed home the day she turned a month old. Financial constraints and medical payments due forced me to go back to work after only 4 weeks maternity leave and Mark (my husband) too. But I was blessed with a "Super Mom" who has looked after Demi since then - she did the dayshift, while I worked and I did the nightshift. In November, when Demi was almost 4 months old, she went back into theatre for the repair of the Oesophagus. Another 6 hour successful operation! In the 4 months since her birth, the Oesophagus had grown and they were able to stretch it to join the stomach. They were not able to construct the stomach valve during this operation, which would have to be another trip to theatre a few months later. In the meantime, Demi had to be slightly elevated at all times, in order to keep the stomach contents where they should be! There are no words to describe the feelings and thoughts that are whirling in your head and your heart while your baby is in theatre. Through all of this, she was given no pain medication. Unbelievable! The doctors only told me after they had done each repair. My little Angel earned the nickname of "GI Jane", she endured more than the average adult would endure at the hands of these surgeons
and she graduated with honours. I was a bit worse for wear! The whole episode this far had taken a deadly toll on my marriage and my husband left when Demi was 7 months old. Having a child with a disability is a lifelong commitment and one he felt he could not cope with. It would just be Tiffany, Demi and I‌
her friends and many a sleepover was postponed indefinitely. But we were in this together.
Demi took her first steps at the age of 2 years and was fully toilet trained at the age of 5. Yes, later than the average child, but not impossible. She also attended a main stream school for The stomach valve was also successfully about 5 years and learnt more than just repaired. In between all of this, there the ability to read and write. She learnt have been annual trips to Cape Town to how to behave socially and more see her Paediatric Cardiologist. Initially importantly, how to make friends. the hole in her heart was about 7mm in Unfortunately, as the grades got more diameter - thankfully it has shrunk to difficult and she realised the others were 2mm. moving ahead far quicker than she was, she started having panic attacks and Down Syndrome children are born with we were advised to continue with her little or no immune system and that in schooling in a quieter, less competitive itself presents many challenges: My environment. My Mom has been friends with toddlers had to refrain from home-schooling her since and she has visiting while their little ones were sick as blossomed. She is able to read, write as any slight infection could put Demi back well as conquer a subject she detests: into hospital. Tiffany also bore the brunt Mathematics! We are equipping her of this when it came to sleepovers with with Life Skills - she needs to be able to January 2015
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handle "everyday" tasks that you and I take for granted. She now makes the weekly grocery list and we do the shopping together. She has her own cell phone and is quite competent making calls as well as receiving calls telephone etiquette is extremely important.
to what the world terms "normal", but they are still our children. Each child is a gift and one that is not guaranteed forever, they are but loaned to us. It is up to each parent to raise their child/ children in the best possible way and by this I don’t mean financially, I am talking about raising our children with compassion, with empathy and About 3 years ago, we were sitting in tolerance. Heart and soul! I have been Church one Sunday morning and the blessed with an amazing support system, Minister was conducting a Baptismal both family and friends and because of Service. Just before the end of the this, I, in turn, have been able to give my service, he called on the congregation Demi the best possible chance in life, and asked if there was anyone who felt which she so deserves. She has been the call of the Lord to be baptised. subjected to people from all walks of Demi had been sitting quietly next me, life, some compassionate, others not so deeply concentrating on the sermon, much, but she was born with when all of a sudden, her hand shot up - determination, a fighting spirit and a I tried to put her hand down and quietly heart full of love tried to explain what the Minister had I would like to challenge each reader of just asked. She looked at me with a quiet this article today. When next you are out seriousness I had never seen on her face and about and you perhaps pass a before and said: "Jesus said so Mom". family with a disabled child, please take She was baptised that morning and a moment to reflect on the unthinkable there was not a dry eye in the room. challenges that family may have In July this year, she turned 16 and what endured to ensure that their God given a celebration it was! Because of all the miracle also has a future with endless complications at birth (the Oesophagus possibilities. As you have with your etc.), they told me that most DS children children. born with all of these rare defects, there 16 years ago, I was humbled. Humbled was a possibility that she would be that I was given the precious Angel I diagnosed with Leukaemia before the have today, that I was even considered age of 14. Those few words have been good enough to be entrusted with her embedded in the back of my mind for life! Our whole world revolves around the last 16 years and we have the Demi and we wouldn’t have it any other required blood tests every January. So way. far so good!! Our children with DS might be different
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WIN By Tilanie Meierhans
The hardest work on any person’s journey is mastering self, and yet it is more rewarding than any other job on the planet.
I was quite astonished to find out about MetaVarsity, in that I had never heard of its existence till only a little over a month ago. It is however wonderful news, knowing that in South Africa we have a And for those of you who are looking to school open to students of all ages to become more enlightened or to find learn and grow in the metaphysical more meaning in your lives or even just realm. There are many who offer to find a deeper spiritual connection to courses, however, these are often area God or Spirit – MetaVaristy has offered a based, which makes it rather difficult for wonderful prize to be won through Aneis those who are not in travelling distance de Vida Magazine – an Introduction of the offered course. And with Course to the value of R2250-00 and it MetaVarsity you can do on-line/ can be attended on ‘’campus’’ or done distance learning courses as well – and via their on-line course. More information again not the conventional way of to follow at the end of the article. January 2015
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downloading information and learning, but having virtual inter-class interaction.
Robert today heads MetaVarsity, and interestingly enough it is as if this was a position he was being groomed for I managed to catch up with Robert through the various stages of his life. First Daguiar, head of MetaVarsity to find out starting off as a student, becoming a a little bit more as to what they offer and facilitator and then taking on the about him as a person and how he got administrative department to becoming involved in MetaVarsity. the leading figure of MetaVarsity. The MetaVarsity was founded in 2004 by energy echoing from MetaVarsity is Karen Barensche and Belinda Doveston. enormous, and even before Robert took In some ways it was a long time in the over the helm, an astrological chart was making – thinking, dreaming and drawn up for MegaVarsity and the implementing, but these two ladies had information that came from that is that it a vision and a passion and brought will always be run on youthful energy. In something that they felt would inspire Roberts own words, there will never be a many and allow people to grow and real owner as it will always be passed learn. Of course at that point in time it down to younger and more energetic was a bit more frowned upon persons who will keep the vibrancy alive. compared to where we stand today. Robert himself has always been spiritual There has been a gradual awakening, in nature (not that there are any of us not only in South Africa, but globally too who are not – perhaps just more prone and it is gaining momentum, particularly than others to exploring and developing under the younger generation who are the gifts we all possess). He grew up in a enquiring more and searching for truths home where his parents were not that have, in some instances, been religious in the manner of attending hidden due to various cultural or church as they could not see the religious beliefs. A shift in consciousness difference between sitting in a building does not occur on a specific day/date versus being out in nature and feeling or time – it is a gradual evolution, a the presence of spirit and God. They change in mind set and the processing always encouraged their sons to take of information and thought patterns. As the road that made the most sense to Robert mentioned, if we take into them and it would not matter if they account the number of people across chose conventional religious belief the globe who have become systems for themselves, they would be vegetarians or vegans due to the supported and encouraged. Robert is thought of not slaughtering another quick to point out that there is absolutely sentient being. It has taken time which nothing wrong with traditional religious today continues to grow worldwide due beliefs. There is no difference at the to a conscious change in thought foundation to any religion, all believe in patterns. God and the spirit within. After finishing
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school, Robert took a two year gap year and travelled to the UK between the ages of 18-20. There Robert started with Reiki and learning more about crystals. Returning to South Africa he tried several avenues, but somehow nothing quite worked the way it should or the way he wanted it to. He then realised that it was because he had sacrificed his spiritual side and life’s work. That was when he enrolled with MetaVarsity and started the courses. From there on out his life started to fall into place, resulting in him being where he is today, living a life that brings him joy and fulfilment.
course is a 1 year course – slow baby steps taken to help and encourage you on your new found journey of self-discovery while implanting what is being learnt into your life.
Take up the fantastic opportunity to win and partake in the
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If you are considering taking any of the Redeemable Worldwide courses offered by MetaVarsity and you are still not sure, seek advice from Robert To win you will need to answer two himself. We all interact with our inner self questions – one in this issue and one on a daily basis, often being totally in next month’s issue of Aneis de Vida Magazine. unaware as we have forgotten to listen. However, if you take away all the Winners will be announced early in analysis of why or wherefore and you March, giving the winner time to just feel the pull toward enriching connect with Robert and gain all the yourself or learning a bit more about the information necessary. metaphysical realm, then just do it for Good luck – it is a wonderful yourself.
opportunity and Aneis de Vida takes
this opportunity to thank Robert and You will find a campus in Cape Town, MegaVarsity for Johannesburg and the Garden Route, sponsoring this wonderful prize. Durban will unfortunately have to wait till January Issue Question: Who founded 2016 before a campus will be MetaVarsity? established. However, not too much of a Register for physical classes, online problem due to the wonderful distance classes or distance learning, both learning programmes available to all national and international. worldwide. Most modules are 3-4 months Tel/Fax: 0861 116 126 and +27-44long and are part time studies of 3-4 696-5180 (for international calls) Email: info@metavarsity.com hours a week to facilitate all wanting to further their studies, with the age groups PO BOX 55, Little Brak River, 6530, varying from 18-55. The foundation South Africa www.metavarsity.com January 2015
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Gardening
“Here we are! Christmas has come and gone, and a new year has begun. Let me take this opportunity to wish you and yours a very prosperous 2015. May your life gardens bloom with joy, happiness, and love. Believe it or not but before we know it we will be going into autumn, and we can already start preparing our gardens for it. Here are a few pointers that you can start with right away. I have chosen all the favourite that most of us have in our gardens. If you have any other questions please send via letters@aneisdevida.co.za and I will gladly answer you.
By Andre Duif
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Pelargoniums (geraniums): Feed with 2:3:2 once a month. Give plants growing in the open about a tablespoon scattered over the root area and those in pots a teaspoon scattered over the soil. Water in immediately. Agapanthus: Water abundantly in dry weather. Although they have just finished flowering the process of developing new flower buds for the coming year has begun. Amaryllis belladonna: If the plant shaves become overcrowded, lift, divide and replant the bulbs, with the neck of the bulb just below the surface of the soil. In the winter rainfall areas, wait until April and lift after flowering. Cannas: Water during dry weather, and scatter a handful of 2:3:2 round each clump once a month. Water in after application. Remove old flower stems by gripping them firmly at the base and giving them a sharp twist.
Hydrangeas: Remove faded flowers unless they are required for flower arrangements. Give each bush 30g of 2:3:2 and mulch with compost or peat. Water two or three times a week, hosing down the foliage. Watch for red spider. Roses: Continue preventive spraying against black spot, rusts and mildew. Give each bush a tablespoon of 2:3:2 scattered over the root area. Renew the mulch of compost on the beds, and water well once a week if the weather is dry.
Dahlias: Water during dry weather, and feed every two weeks with a soluble fertiliser. Disbud by removing all but one bud on each stem. Tie the plants to Lawns: Feed with 2:3:2 , or L.A.N with a stakes and watch for red spider. handful scattered per square metre. Irises: Lift, divide and transplant the Scatter this over the grass when it is dry, clumps this month. and water in immediately after White evergreen arum lilies: If the plants application. Mow regularly and water are overcrowded and the flowers during dry weather, doing this in the deteriorating they can be lifted and morning. divided this month. Cut some of the Above all: Enjoy your garden with all its older leaves off, then replant the t beauty. Make a point of it to walk in it uber-like rhizomes in the soil enriched every morning, bare feet, to “earth with compost and handful of superyou”. Smell, look, breathe. phosphate. Thought for the month: “Gardening has Azaleas: Water regularly and hose taught me patience, and the reward down the foliage. Take half-ripe cuttings for it is spectacular” of the new growth that was sent out in spring. Till next month, Happy gardening folks. Camellias: Mulch the ground under the Andre” bushes with acid compost and/or bark (obtainable from your nursery) and, from now on, water once a week if the weather is dry. This is important for bud development. It is the ideal time to take half-ripe cuttings of the new wood that was sent out in spring. January 2015 Aneis de Vida 25
Crystals
Garnets are found all over the world and most commonly are known for their red colour. However, they do come in various colours and each with Starting the new year off with the their own spiritual and healing Garnet – the birthstone for all born in the month of January under the sign properties. The name comes from the Latin word of Capricorn. Granatum (pomegranate) because it resembles the seeds of the Associated with the zodiac signs of: pomegranate fruit. In former Aries, Leo and Virgo Czechoslovakia (Czech Republic/ Slovenia) the garnets origins can be The planet association is: Mars traced as far back as the bronze-age. In Egypt more than 5 thousand years ago. And during the crusades garnets Element is: Fire were used as talisman for both Christians and Muslims alike. And it is said By Tilanie Meierhans to have been one of the 12 stones
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used in the breastplate of the High Priests, a sacred stone to American Indians, South American Indians, Aztecs, Mayans and African Tribal Chiefs.
stones that increase commitment, hope, faith and honesty. Bringing about positive thought patterns and can also be useful against depression, often used to council when dealing with those Garnets are known for many healing trying to overcome crisis and trauma in properties but most commonly is their life. Assisting the person in the recognised for its ability to bring order, feelings and emotions of helplessness or vitality and regenerating energy. It can victimisation, bringing about the and is used for protection and wards off courage to move forward. bad dreams and is said to assist with releasing bad karma. Garnets are stones of love and passion. It is primarily a root chakra stone but is They help in the realisation of earthly also associated with the heart chakra, pleasures, enhancing sensuality, and is used for manifestation purposes, sexuality and the balancing of intimacy. also used for grounding ones dreams The physical assistance that garnets into reality, bringing about abundance. bring is aiding in acid reflux, anaemia Garnets build self-confidence therefore and some blood related illnesses, heart ensuring greater success in business. regulating issues, immune system They bring out the creative side and healing and the building up of, assisting inspire one to better oneself and to map in lung functionality, physical strength, out one’s life purpose, also accessing skin related issues, spinal health and rapancient memories and thus often used id healing and regenerative processes as a tool for past life regression. all round. From the emotional point, garnets are January 2015
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correct amount to be added, however, the more severe the burn it would stand to reason to add more bicarbonate. The effect is that it draws the burning and stinging out of the skin and will reduce the redness as well. Vinegar Another one that most of you have in your cupboards and so useful on many levels. It helps to heal a sunburn or mildly burned tissue in general. 1 Cup of apple cider vinegar Spray bottle (not a must) Cotton wool or soft sponge First have a luke-warm shower or bath and then spray or dab onto the sunburnt areas and let it dry naturally on the skin.
remedies The glorious feeling of sun on your skin makes you come alive. The not so wonderful aspect is getting sunburn, here are some natural remedies for those times when you are out there too long or have forgotten to use some preventative measure (best advice, is short periods of time and especially if your skin has not been exposed to the sun for many months, do not overdo things). Sun is excellent for you, but please do take care. Bicarbonate of Soda/Baking Soda/Corn Starch This is something that most households have in the cupboard. Run a bath of water and add to the water. There is no
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Cucumber Who would have thought that a plain old cucumber could be so versatile! It cools the skin and also has healing properties that bring relief to your scorching skin soon. 1-2 cucumbers cooled in the fridge (freezer for no more than 10 min). There are two ways in which to use them : Slice the cumber and put onto the burnt areas and keep turning them or Slice the cucumbers and add them to the blender and use as a cream here you can add some bicarbonate of soda/baking soda/corn starch and even some aloe vera to make it slightly thicker to spread easier.
Tree hugging is great, it works, in fact: In a recently published book, Blinded by Science, the author Matthew Silverstone, proves scientifically that trees improve many health issues such as; mental illnesses, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), concentration levels,
Consciousness—our actions cause reactions. By Di Kendall
reaction times, depression and the ability to alleviate headaches. Countless studies have shown that
children show significant psychological and physiological effects in terms of their health and well-being when they interact with plants. They demonstrate I’ve noticed a lot of people talking about grounding themselves – Tree hugging and I find it important to convey a message about this subject..
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that children function better cognitively and emotionally in green environments and have more creative play in green areas.
A large public health report that investigated the association between
green spaces and mental health
Feel its strength. Look at its roots and feel
concluded that “access to nature can
how deep the roots are into the ground.
significantly contribute to our mental
Feel the tree's strength and imagine
capital and wellbeing”.
how it has weathered storms. Imagine
One report concluded with the following: “safe, green spaces may be as effective as prescription drugs in treating some forms of mental illnesses”.
how the tree has avoided the lightning strikes; imagine how the tree continued to grow and how it is reaching for the sky. Now pretend that you are that tree. Feel your strength. Grow those roots and
but there is a down side if we aren’t
reach for the sky. Start each day
conscious that our actions cause
deciding to be grounded. You will
reactions.
weather the storms. You will avoid the
So for those who don’t know.
lightning strikes. You will grow. You will
What exactly is tree hugging?
be strong
Well, when we are not grounded we
Now what is important here; and I mean
lose our focus, our sight, and our
vitally important!! Our actions cause
beliefs or views to taint our beliefs. We
to return the favour. If you don’t you are
dreams. We start to doubt or not believe reactions. In other words when you take energy from a tree you should be willing in ourselves. We allow other peoples tend to shift our focus and give up on the 'dream' that we have been working so hard to achieve. Grounding keeps you in place. Grounding takes the earth’s energy and keeps you energised; it keeps your feet
in place so that you can stand your
simply an energy vampire and the tree you chose will begin to die. So remember to share your energy. Feed the tree, send her pink light for love and thank the tree for sharing!
Hugging human companions is just as
ground and look forward to visualise the good for you… outcome. So why do we tend not to stay grounded? Many people do not
A famous quote by psychotherapist know that they should be grounded and Virginia Satir goes, some people forget to be grounded. “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We Many people don't feel they deserve it need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. or simply forget to do it. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Here is a Grounding Exercise: Go outside and wrap your arms around Whether those exact numbers have a tree. Make it a big one, don't be shy. January 2015
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been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact.
Hugging induces Oxytocin in the body: Oxytocin is a powerful hormone, one that not only fortifies bonds with our loved ones, but also has the capability to stimulate solidarity between total
Researchers at the University of North
strangers.
Carolina found that even a brief hug—
Hugging lowers blood pressure:
as little as twenty seconds—from a partner can help reduce cortisol levels that contribute towards stress.
The next time you hold someone close, take a deep breath and let it go. Unless it’s someone you’d rather not be
Too much cortisol is bad news – for our
hugging, chances are you’ll notice your
moods. Our weight and our hearts.
heart rate and your breathing slow
While stress hormones like cortisol are a
down a bit. As the oxytocin levels rise,
good thing when we need to react in a
they affect the hormones that keep us
hurry, poor stress management can
at the ready for action and allow our
keep cortisol levels high even when we
blood pressure to drop.
don't need it.
Protects against inflammation and
In addition to lowering stress levels, hugs are good for you in many other ways:
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oxidative stress:
We hear all the time that inflammation is unhealthy and increases the aging
process. Instead of reaching for another
cere hug is given, it has the potential to
bowl of ice cream, consider a little extra completely alter one’s day. How simple cuddle time before falling asleep.
of a good deed is that? Just wrap your
Relieves pain and raises our pain
arms around me, and hug!
threshold: Ever have that feeling that nothing can hurt you because you’re so in love? Well, it was probably the oxytocin. This
Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.
effect of oxytocin is particularly helpful
So...
for women in labour, but has
Hug your friends:
implications for the rest of us too. What’s the first thing we do after jamming a finger? We rub it with our other hand. Even this self-stimulation triggers a
We associate cuddling and physical affection with romantic relationships, but something as simple as a hug will also
release of oxytocin and helps us deal
increase oxytocin levels.
with the pain.
Play with your pet:
Reduces social anxiety:
When our brains release oxytocin, we
Studies show that snuggling doesn’t
are more likely to have an optimistic
have to be with our fellow humans to
outlook about connecting with others,
increase oxytocin. Any positive touch
better self-esteem and an easier time
will elicit a release of oxytocin.
trusting those around us. Newer studies are exploring the usefulness of oxytocin (and even supplemental oxytocin) for
Take a warm bath:
both post-traumatic stress disorder and autism. Hugging builds stronger bonds with the people you see every day:
The physical sensations of warmth can help increase oxytocin flow.
Hugging nurtures human relationships, cultivates trust, increases confidence,
Get a massage:
and frankly, makes us happier people. Hugging is a reciprocal good deed:
Massages don’t just help stretch out sore
One never knows what is going on in
muscles; they’re also a great way to
another person’s life. When a good, sin-
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Humour Bert feared his wife Peg wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss. 'Here's what you do,' said the Doctor, 'stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.' That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he is in the den. He says to himself, 'I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens.' Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?' No response. So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, 'Peg, what's for dinner?' Still no response. Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his Wife and asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?' Again he gets no response. So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. 'Honey, what's for dinner?' Again there is no response. So he walks right up behind her. 'Peg, what's for dinner?'
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school as well as how significant others in the child’s life manage the change for them. Children with certain temperaments and personalities may find change problematic. These are the children who By Vicky Downing prefer the status quo and for things to Educational Psychologist (M.Ed, B.A. remain the same. For example, children who are used to change or who have Hons, HDE) The start of the new school year can more self-confidence may find it easier pose significant challenges for chil- to adapt to new circumstances than dren. Some children adjust well to a those with social difficulties new school, new class and classor low self-esteem.
mates or new teacher. However, certain children find it difficult to cope with these changes.
There are various reasons why a number of children manage the changed circumstances and why others find it challenging which include: the child’s individual temperament and personality, whether the change was desirable to the child or not, other changes in the child’s life at the time of the changed
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Certain children find it challenging to cope with changed routines which are associated with changes in schools or classes such as having to leave for school earlier in the morning or eating lunch at school at a different time. If the change has been planned in advance and the child is prepared well for this change (such as when starting high school), she has a better chance of
coping and even thriving with the change. If the child has been part of the decisions leading to the change, chances are he will cope better with it.
So what can parents and caregivers do to minimise the impact of the new circumstances? The first thing you, as a parent or caregiver, can do is to prepare your child for the change as If the child anticipates the change best as possible. This can include making positively, it should be easier for him to him part of the decision-making manage it. For example, a child who (bearing in mind his age and maturity moves schools due to being bullied in a level) and talking about the change well previous school or to take a subject he before it happens. For example, if your prefers which was not offered by his child is in pre-school, let her choose a previous school may cope better with new blanket to take with on her first day this change than a child who was of school, or allow her to take her happy at his previous school and has familiar blanket if she prefers. With changed schools due to financial children of school-going age, allow constraints. them to choose what sport activities to Another factor which may impact the participate in if possible or let them child’s adjustment is whether other decide on what school lunch to take on changes have occurred in the child’s life the first few days. With older children, recently. For example, a child who has allow them to choose between suitable to change schools because his parents schools if it is possible or allow them to have divorced and moved may find it choose their own school bags or more problematic as he is coping with stationery if not advocated by the his feelings around the divorce and school. move as well as the new school and Highlight the positive points associated friends. January 2015
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with the change honestly, but avoid over-exaggerating the good points of the school as your child may feel lied to when he discovers the school isn’t as perfect as it was described. Talk about the school, its routine, ethos, history, activities and events before your child starts there. If your child is old enough, allow him to visit the school’s website to get a “feel” for the school. If it is possible, take her to see the school and meet the principal in advance. Some schools hold an orientation day for this purpose before all the learners return on the first day. If it is possible, allow your child to participate in school activities such as sports and cultural events. This may help her make friends, gain confidence and learn the culture of the school in a more relaxed environment than in the classroom. Certain pre-schools will allow you to bring your child for a few hours at a time per day for a week at the start of the year. In this manner, she may
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become more familiar with the school before she actually starts. Some schools allow a child to spend a day with the prospective class and other learners before starting officially.
Let your child know he can talk to you about the change and how he is coping. As a caregiver, keep in contact with your child’s teacher to see how well he is adjusting. Ask your child if she is making friends and be mindful of changes in her attitude and behaviour. And finally, the most important thing you can do is to be understanding and available for your child to talk to. Show your child that you are confident in his ability to adjust to the new environment by being calm and encouraging. However, if he is not adjusting after about 3 months, make an appointment to speak to his teacher at school about this. Play therapy or counselling may also be beneficial, especially if other changes have occurred in the child’s life recently.
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summertime and of course, it also rains quite a bit in our country. Well, that is what my story is all about this time. Ollie and Annie Owl had produced three baby owlets, gorgeous little birds with a bit of fluff here and there, and oh, they were such caring and proud parents. They lived high up in an old eucalyptus tree and they had made the nest very comfortable and safe for the little ones. However, one Sunday afternoon, at around 5 o’clock, very dark and ominous clouds started building up on the horizon. A cheeky wind whipped the leaves of the trees and the sun disappeared behind the clouds, without any warning. It quickly became dark. Hello Children Another month has flown past like the wind and yes, it is SUMMER. I waited so long, well it certainly felt so long, until the winter would pass and the new beautiful green season would visit us again. Now summer is a lovely time, as one can spend time outside without being dressed so that you can hardly bend your elbows and knees. Lots of people like to swim and go on holiday to the beach and of course, the other important things, like the trees become full of fresh green leaves, flowers bloom everywhere and gardens are lush.
What also happens is that most animals and birds have babies in the
Annie Owl wasn’t too concerned at that point as she had fed her babies and she really believed that the nest was strong enough and very sheltered against the rains which might come. The little ones were becoming a bit cold and she softly and gently hooted a little lullaby to them to calm them as she moved closer to keep them warm.
A sudden very bright flash of lightning brightened everything for a second or two, which, almost immediately, was followed by deafening thunder. This meant that he storm was right there, not miles away. A minute later, another flash of lightning and the thunder was so loud, it almost felt as if one’s eardrums would burst.
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The Owl family realized this was no ordinary shower, but a dreadful storm and that they, as well as the lives of their young ones, could be in grave danger. Panicking, they tried to think of a plan. They could not rescue all three their babies. Oh dear, this was a terrible situation. Now, my friend Sally Stork, had decided to make an urgent delivery to a family not far from where the owls lived, and because she had quite a list of deliveries for Monday, decided she would do this one on Sunday evening, to save a bit of time. She was flying along, holding in her beak a pretty baby blanket, embroidered with the words “Baby on Board”, when ahead she suddenly realized there was trouble. A tree was on fire – could that possibly be one that had been struck by the lightning? With an awful shock, she recognized the tree as the one where her friends, Ollie and Annie Owl lived.
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She increased her flying speed a bit and was saying a silent prayer that the Owls would be safe. She looked for a place to land safely as the tree was already burning on the tips. She managed to land on the same branch where the nest was and by now Annie was beside herself, pleading for help, hooting at the top of her voice, her eyes wide with fear. Ollie had flown to try and find help somewhere. Sally Stork quickly helped arrange the little owlets in her special blanket, picked them up in her beak, and ready for take-off, with Annie right behind her, when Ollie also appeared with Peter Plover. Such joy filled their hearts to take their babies to safety. Always remember the saying “One good deed deserves another” – if you can, always help another who might be in need, especially an animal or bird.Bless you all and enjoy the lovely summer.
TeensDoreenMagical Messages Virtue – Fairies Oracle Cards WALK AWAY
yourself, it is the strongest and wisest thing for you to do. Being a teen is and Leave the unhealthy situation and enjoy always be rather difficult. It is so natural the new doors that open as a result. to want to belong and be accepted – Are you struggling with the notion of what especially by your friends. And it is a truly to do with this given situation? You know natural human occurrence – it is the love in your heart the time has come to walk factor and who does not want to be loved? away – don’t fear that change, it is well We all do – unfortunately friends can also worth your while to move on. New doors lead one astray but in your heart of hearts will open for you as you leave behind this you will know this. Listen to your beautiful which has caused you so much turmoil. soul and hear what is being said to you. Make sure that you explain yourself and And then make your choices. Your instincts how you are feeling. Make a commitment are not wrong – learn to listen and act to yourself, you are special and you are the accordingly. Do not fall into the trap of one who manages your change from ignoring what your inner voice is saying to within. To enhance how you feel about you, that is your compass to being you and yourself, go for vigorous walks out in knowing what is best for you. nature and soak up that And remember you are special, and will energy and beauty. grow to become someone truly unique – love yourself always. It is so difficult sometimes to make those choices regarding friends and groups you are part of. The most important point here though is: How does a specific person or friend make you feel? Is the group that you are part of involved in things which are not resonating with you? And yes, you want to be a part of special people, perhaps to be loved by them – but at the end of the day, as hard as it may be at this point to break away and stand up for January 2015
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The Oracle If you would like to consult with The Oracle please drop us an email with your question oracle@aneisdevida.co.za selected questions with answers will be published in our next issue. Does Aura Colour reading mean the same as Chakra’s that I read in your December Issue?
I have been practicing trying to read my cat the way you have suggested. It is not working – what am I doing wrong?
Lee Ann—South Africa
Teresa—Brazil
Dear Lee Ann,
Dear Teresa,
Thank you for your question as many people actually think that the two are the same. There is a definite difference. Each human being has an Aura – this is something specific to the individual giving off their unique energy field – perhaps you have come across the following as an example. You are introduced to someone, and suddenly you have the distinct feeling that there is not enough space between you and you feel you need to move away? That is your energy field (your aura) being invaded by this persons energy field which could either be extremely strong and vibrant or does not make you feel easy as if there is something which does not resonate with your own energy field. As for Chakra’s those are distinct energy fields working within definite parts of the body with distinct functions for example the heart chakra or the throat chakra. Of course on a whole they are interlinked and yet have separate roles within our or for our bodies.
There could be a few things. Firstly practice is important because it will help you and your cat connect to one another – through your thought patterns.
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You may be a little stressed and sending mixed messages. Try relaxing before you try to communicate as a clear relaxed mind gets your message across. Maybe try the steps after a bath or on the weekends when you have less on your mind. Do keep me updated so I can help you further.
This months issue is filled with what is in store for 2015. Is there a subject you are perhaps interested in?
Recipes
This soup can be served hot or cold
INGREDIENTS: 3 Tablespoons unsalted butter 4 leeks, trimmed of all but 2 inches of the green part, well rinsed 3 potatoes, peeled and cubed 6 cups chicken or vegetable stock 1/2-3/4 cup cream juice of 1 lemon 3-4 Tablespoons chopped dill salt and white pepper PREPARATION: 1. Slice the cleaned leeks. Cube the potatoes. 2. Melt the butter in a large casserole. Add the leeks and the potatoes. 3. Season the leeks and potatoes with
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salt and pepper and toss the vegetables to coat with the melted butter. Cook for about 3 minutes. 4. Add the stock and bring to a boil. Cover and cook for 45 minutes. 5. Mix the cream and the lemon juice together in a small bowl. 6. Using a stick blender or a food processor, puree the soup. 7. Stir in the cream/lemon juice and minced dill. TO SERVE: Ladle the soup into 6 bowls. Garnish with a dill sprig and serve hot or once cooled
as happened to Richard.
.Astrology - Interview with Richard Alwin Fidler – Astrologer working and residing in Cape Town South Africa Website: www.richardfidler.com E-mail: astrofit@yahoo.com
The first question I asked Richard was how he came onto the path of astrology purely because we tend to think that people are spiritual from birth – which yes we are but due to circumstances we ‘’forget our spiritual side’’. Richard in some way stumbled across his ‘’calling’’ for a lack of a better word via a friend. Friends are absolutely wonderful to have, especially when they lead you into a direction which is to your highest good
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Richard was presented with many books to read, resulting in him delving deeper and deeper into the science of astrology. And catapulting him onto a life journey – as the journey of life never ends, it is a continuous fluid evolving motion. He has found astrology to give reliable insight into a person’s character, and charts out what the years ahead can bring forth. Astrology is useful in many ways, based on the relationship between the planets and human behaviour within the greater scheme of things in the world. Many cultures and religions have placed great importance to events that have taken place on our planet and are yet to take place in the future. Astrology is used to define a person’s characteristics, and predict future events in their life based on the positions of the sun, moon and stars at the time of their birth. Knowing these
factors, can influence the path taken in future, give more of an insight why certain events have taken place, or to assist in the future with certain insight and knowledge as to what may or may not be in store for a year or life ahead. It also assist people in understanding certain characteristics that can be burdensome to an individual, through working out sun, moon and planets at birth, it can bring about further understanding leading to a freedom of expression for those individuals. Richard explains that it can be used to fill in the gaps that were ever widening for some, bring more of a closure to certain events that have happened prior to an astrological reading or mapping.
Sun The sun represents the person’s inner self, general vitality and how a person is able to assert themselves. Star sign relating to the sun: Leo
Moon The moon represents feelings, emotions and dreams. The moon also effects the adaptability to change and the versatility of a person. Star sign relating to the moon: Cancer Mercury
Mercury represents reason. It stands for the spoken and written word, weighing In Richards own words, everything from and evaluating, the process of learning spirit to earthly planet to the vast galaxy and skills. is a living ‘’breathing’’ amazing and an Star signs relating to mercury: Gemini inconceivable synchronisation of and Virgo ‘’bodies’’ inter-relating. There is no Venus entity that is a lone life form. For those who know very little about astrology, here is a bit of an introduction.
Venus gives us a sense of beauty, the enjoyment of pleasure, love and harmony
It has been a fascinating topic since the beginning of time. Through history, it has been marked as one area which has had politicians, academics, scientists in awe and who have been known to ask for guidance from various astrologers of the given time for assistance. It dates back to the 2nd millennium. And here are some explanations surrounding the various planets.
Star signs relating to Venus: Libra and Taurus Mars Mars represents the energy of a person, their courage, determination and the freedom of reactions. Star sign relating to Mars: Aries Jupiter Jupiter represents the searching for January 2015
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individual meaning and purpose, optimism, faith, the striving for spiritual growth and expansion. Star sign relating to Jupiter: Sagittarius
have a brilliant imagination. Fire signs: Aries, Leo and Sagittarius Air Airy people are quick. Their energies are diverse in many ways.
Saturn Saturn represents how we experience our individual "reality", our resistance and our limitations. Star sign relating to Saturn: Capricorn Uranus Uranus represents our intuition, inspiration and lightning insights. Star sign relating to Uranus: Aquarius Neptune
Air signs: Libra, Aquarius, Gemini Water People with a strongly water element are very sensitive and emotional. Their imagination and emotional lives are deep and thoughtful. Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces Earth
Neptune gives us the supersensory, opens doors to mystical experience.
Earthy people are slowly to react. They are in life for the long hall. Emotionally they are slow to change.
Star sign representing Neptune: Pisces
Earth signs: Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo
Pluto
There is a fifth element which is referred to in western traditional sources namely Pluto represents how we deal with ‘’quinta essentia’’ which describes the power, personal and other. soul or spirit of the being. It is separate from the other 4 elements mentioned Star sign representing Pluto: Scorpio above and is not referred to in horoThese are but the planets that influence scopes, and therefore often overlooked. It goes over and above the factors in our lives. Traditionally seen classical held perspectives of the 4 the universe consists of four elements – elements and hints at the freedom of earth, fire, water and air. When these man and an eternal mystique that is to elements are applied to human elebe discovered. ments they represent some basic traits in temperament. Fire People with a fire element are spontaneous and impulsive. Their emotional response is fast and they
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- Those opinions that have stealthily made their home in your head uninvited, unquestioned, unnoticed. Look again!
by Beryl Broekman, personal energy field consultant, visionary healer and author.
See with new eyes the thoughts that you have thoughtlessly been harbouring. Question them.
Hear me when I speak to you on the soft Interrogate their purpose. winds of change. Hold them to the light. Open your hearts to the sound of new beginnings. Let your mind clear itself of all preconceived notions, and discover once more the delight of rediscovery.
Revisit all the old concepts, folded neatly away in the cupboard of your mind. In the cold light of day, with cobwebs and dust shaken from them,
Look around.
Do they still serve?
Inspect the familiar:
A new year, a new beginning,
-Those things that are hidden by their constancy.
An opportunity to re-invent your own direction.
-Those old friends that accompany you day in and day out,
We demarcate the minutes, the hours, the days, the weeks.
-Those habits that you wear, unaware.
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We compartmentalize the year into months and quarters,
no longer serve you or hold relevance to your life ahead.
And we red flag the birthdays, the anniversaries and milestones.
Revisit your ideals and your ethos,
And all this order attempts to reign in the fleetingness of life‌ But in truth, each year flies by faster than the one before, And the hurtling of time unnerves us and leaves us bewildered and anxious in the wake of its illusion. We cannot hold a minute in our hand,
Re-evaluate your customs and codes of conduct. Re-assess all that is familiar and comfortable and convenient. Leave no stone unturned, move house if you must. Do not drag with you the decay of familiarity.
We cannot turn back the clock,
Life is fleeting, life is short, life is gifted in mystery.
We cannot replay our regrets and fashion them into achievement.
Do whatever it takes to live in cognizance of your own uniqueness
We are carried helplessly on the crest of And do not allow the stifling restrictions a wave only to crash, inevitably, on the of inherited conventions shore of death. To blind you and confine you to actions Therefore, do not waste your time that undermine holding on to old, worn out ideas that The worth of who you really are. January 2015
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Energy Oracle Cards – Sandra Anne Taylor
Capricorn 22 Dec - 20 Jan
There could well be someone who is not acting in your best interest this month Capricorns. Your spirit is longing to serve and you are not heeding the call. Some of you are fearful regarding new adventures, don’t be, be willing to learn new things this month. 2015: People around you will definitely be enjoying your generous and kind nature. Just make sure to keep all things in balance in 2015. Don’t allow your moods to spoil the good things coming to you this year. Not a year to commit in relationships or love, they will be short and sweet.
Aquarius 21 Jan - 19 Feb Be careful not to miss new possibilities due to being stubborn. Shake up those old out dated thought patterns and beliefs. This month it is time to decide if you are going to let worry and fear hold you back. And no matter how stuck you are feeling, there are always options available to you. 2015: A year of working hard and finding inner balance. Some may find their jobs tedious and it is not a bad year to start your own business if you have been contemplating just this. Your patience is definitely going to be tested a few times during this year. The love of adventure is perhaps not the best of ideas in 2015.
Pisces 20 Feb - 20 Mar New beginnings – and a new year – how exciting for you. Whether you are single and looking for romance or just wanting to infuse some extra love in your given relationship, this is the month for you, just make sure you are projecting the love that you are wanting in return. 2015: Seems it will be an enthusiastic year for you, just keep your head on your shoulders and not up in the clouds. Be organised and methodical in all areas of your life. Excellent year for finances looking up and if you are wondering, yes it could very well lead to a year of love.
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Aries 21 Mar - 20 Apr There could be some delays in those dreams you are hoping to see come true. This is not a set-back however, look at it as a learning curve something better may just pop out of the woodwork. Take the time to re-evaluate and re-structure some aspects of your life this month. 2015: What a hectic year this is going to be, busy, busy, busy. Aries this is not the best of years to go and fall in love so rather keep to the home front. Great year to prepare for the future financially. And because it is going to be such a whirlwind year on the home and career front, remember to make time for moi – you are important to you.
Taurus 21 Apr - 21 May
It is time to be more logical in your approach to situations. When you do this then also make sure you have applied it correctly resulting in new avenues opening up for you. 2015: Looks like this could be a very profitable year financially for most Taurus’s so keep up the good work where this is concerned. Excellent career and business opportunities coming your way. And love is in the air for those of you looking for that special person in your lives. All round a good year ahead.
Gemini 22 May - 21 Jun You need to open up a bit more to let people see the real you this month. By allowing this you will be astounded at the amount of wonderful people who will surround you. There are definitely new situations and people coming into your life this month. 2015: Hope you are feeling energetic, if not prepare yourself as this is going to be a fast paced year ahead. You will have loads of courage to get to that which you are aspiring, especially regarding work and career. Make those choices and take those chances which are being offered. If you are single there could be the chance of meeting the right person this year.
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Cancer 22 Jun - 23 Jul
You seem to be missing some important points this January. Your sense of gratitude needs to return in order for you to see the wonders that surround you. Let go of the negative and embrace the positive and you will see how things change for you. 2015: - This is a year of celebrations. Career and business prospects are going to be looking up, so don’t give up just yet – keep on and keep going as you don’t know what is just around the next corner. No need to go in search of love Cancer’s it will come knocking at your door.
Leo 24 Jul - 23 Aug
Keep a close watch on your finances Leo’s – over spending could result in a few unforeseen problems arising. Take action steps to plant the good seed this month – what you sow you reap. A month of evaluating yourself and your attitude to life. 2015: There seems to be loads of movement around you this year, just take care not to surround yourself with negativity or fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself. Make sure to control those emotions this year as it could land you in hot water if you don’t. Take it a day at a time and keep going, there is organised chaos that will turn out better than you thought.
Virgo 24 Aug - 23 Sept Feeling stuck in a situation or location? This is a month to be honest with yourself and dig deep and find what it is you are wanting or needing. Get rid of unhealthy patterns and new and exciting options will present themselves. 2015: What an absolutely fantastic year this is going to be for you Virgo’s, be that business, career and your love lives. It is going to be a year of prospering on all fronts, no chance of things going wrong for you. Let your hair down and have a blast – all systems go.
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Libra 24 Sept - 23 Oct There could be an end to previous connections – be that relationships or careers. Some delays or disappointments in the sale of a house or job offer not coming through – this is however a blessing in disguise. Don’t think you have lost, when there is something better on the way. 2015: Get more organised. If you are looking to be more successful, make sure you are completely balanced in your approach to life and all things you are looking for. Give your time to sort out those areas you know are not as they should be. By the looks of things, if you are in search of love, it may not quite materialise the way you wish this year.
Scorpio 24 Oct - 22 Nov Peaceful redirection. The universe is smiling down on you sending you help and paving your outcome. When you allow your imagination free rein, there are the most amazing answers that come your way. 2015: - Focus and analysis seem to be the key words for you in 2015. Being silent and secretive will definitely not help you in any areas of your life. Money seems to be on the up and up this year. Relationships could get to being serious this year, provided you refrain from being all secretive or in hiding.
Sagittarius 23 Nov - 21 Dec
Helpful assistance is offered to you this month from someone who has a financial background. A new love or friendship is on the cards for January and remember to honour yourself and pay attention to your inner voice. 2015: A romantic year seems in store for you. Learn to be a little more flexible and understanding – something to work on if you have not already started. Its not a bad idea to take your job or career a bit more serious as it could pan out to bigger and better things. 2015 is definitely a good year to take up new challenges.
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wise man once advised that I should be my own best friend, as eventually most of my loved ones will unzip their skin suits and I will be left with only myself. I went through a time of thinking deeply about what that means, being a friend to yourself. A friend is someone who encourages me, and listens to the same break-up story twenty times even when it becomes really boring. A friend By Stefani Clark – doesn’t care how much I weigh or if my bedroom is tidy. A friend sees the awesomeness in me, even if I haven’t This year I am lighting my third Advent brushed my hair properly or ironed my candle in Siem Reap in Cambodia. It is a dress. A friend likes to be silly sometimes mad tourist hub, famous for the and believes I deserve the best of magnificent circa 1000-year old carved everything. A friend will drag me to yotemples, set in the beautiful ancient ga when I am tired and eat a huge jungle. This has been a good spot to ice-cream with me after. A true friend is contemplate the New Year just kind, loyal and gentle and loves me for beginning. Another year’s cycle done! who I am, warts and all. It is a good time to sit under a gigantic So, I am becoming gradually kinder to tree to reflect and set a few intentions. I myself and learning to catch myself have realised that I need to be realistic when I start with the negative self-talk. I when it comes to setting goals, as I tend have learnt to look in the mirror and foto get over-enthusiastic and end up cus on my gifts, and I have taken a lot of putting mental pressure on myself. A self-induced pressure off myself in the
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the same. I believed that I needed to make huge changes to see a difference manifest in my life. However, the truth is that the smallest change influences the result and that adjustment causes further dominoes to fall. I began by just removing one word, “quickly” and by consciously changing my habit concerning that word. Over a year, it has had great ripple effects. I also posted a reminder by my front door to be a GOOD friend to myself, and already I am attracting more people who are kind to me and to themselves.
last year. As I look back, I have not done The one thing I do know about change less as a result, but have been more though, is that you have to be willing. My productive. mother’s voice reached me across the I also started to examine my vocabulary. veil here saying, “And you have to be I have become more aware that desperate!” No change is going to thoughts and spoken words have great happen unless you are really passionate power and are largely how we form our about it. In my healing work I come physical reality. I was often using words across people who would like help, but like “quickly” and “in a rush”. I have actually their aches and pains serve managed to eliminate them from my life them well, get them love, sympathy, almost completely. I use them very and attention. consciously now. Kahlil Gibran’s quote, I am reminded of Jesus healing the “the tortoise sees more of the road than lame man at the pool of Bethesda. Jesus the hare” has always been one of my favourites. I reflect on the past year and doesn’t just go ahead and heal the realise that it has been a lot calmer, less man. He asks first, “Do you want to be made well?” frenetic and that my breathing and quality of sleep has been much better. Many people ask me, “But Stefani, do you think people really change, is it possible?” Can a leopard ever change its spots? A huge realisation for me was truly getting the fact that if I keep doing the same thing, the result will always be
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life. It is said that looking at inspiring words and pictures regularly, stimulates the subconscious, creates positive, high vibrations and facilitates the law of attraction to work in a big way. Sounds good to me! This brings to mind planting papaya trees in my new garden. When I moved in, my landlord gifted me three baby papaya trees which I planted with care. The one just died, insects ate the roots of another and the third got washed away in a rainstorm. A few weeks later I tried again, planting three more papaya trees. Once again bad news, they just change quietly inside.” didn’t take. I gave up, had a busy spell So if you are looking to change anything at work and didn’t give the garden about your life, I suggest first examining much attention. Wow! One of the three your willingness to let go of the things I thought was dead, has taken root and that are keeping you from that which is growing well, plus, another papaya you really want. tree has come up completely randomly. I took this as a real lesson in life. Firstly, Although only thinking without any kind of action will probably get you nowhere, sometimes your visions do come true, but just “differently” to what you imagI do firmly believe in having a vision, hence the title of this piece. Visions need ined, and secondly, it is important to take divine timing into account. not be huge life-changing bolts of Sometimes the time just isn’t right. It is lightning. You can have visions about important however, not to give up. small things- having tidier kitchen drawers, a more organised desk, being Since my teens, I have had a dream of better at keeping the car serviced, or learning to ride a motorbike and to trying a new yoga or dance form. explore the world in that way. It has not yet come to fruition, but I regularly look Since I was fourteen, I have been at the pictures I have collected and decorating my journals with inspiring sayings and images. Vision boarding has imagine myself blasting down a coastal road with my heart singing with joy. I am become very popular lately and I can SURE it will come true in my lifetime. I highly recommend it. It is a really have vivid visions for different facets of enjoyable and fun process, and is a my life. Sometimes I become powerful tool in helping a person to disappointed that these dreams have visualise the changes they want in their
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that I move closer to myself and to the Creator. I aim to be more peaceful this year, to live more prayerfully, and to allow myself to be much more joyful. So, may a beautiful vision for 2015 catch you unawares and blossom into something beautiful:
May a good vision catch me
not realised, but then I remember the words of Charles Spurgeon, “Had any condition been better for you than the one in which you are, divine love would have put you there.”
Now I am once again in that mind space to take a few steps to moving towards a happier and more contented me. I have decided that I do not want to make a “to do” list, but rather a “to be” list this year. Who was it that said we are all human beings, not human doings? Just being truly ourselves is enough to be a good cog in this universal machine. We all have our roles to play, and we were born knowing the part to perfection. The world we live in and our life’s conditioning are just very good at making us numb to our true path; we forget what it is that really brings us joy. I am enjoying making time to just “BE”. I have realised for myself resting is important. I enjoy taking naps. I have found that it is in the periods of quiet
May a benevolent vision take hold of me, and move me May a deep and full vision come over me, and burst open around me, May a luminous vision inform me, enfold me. May I awaken into the story that surrounds, May I awaken into the beautiful story. May the wondrous story find me; May the wildness that makes beauty arise between two lovers
arise beautifully between my body and the body of this land, between my flesh and the flesh of this earth, here and now, on this day, May I taste something sacred. ~ David Abram
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Why Choose the Dogmatters Natural Raw Food Diet?
Alleviates itchy skin conditions Stabilizes weight Increased mobility in arthritic dogs Reduces tartar build-up and improves breath Significantly reduces stool volume and odour An all-round strengthened immune system More environmentally friendly
Deborah SutherlandHealth, Eco and Life Style facilitator founder of Sprout It.
The festive season is known for encouraging less than healthy eating practices. We begin another year with promises of changing our ways. Instead, why not begin by losing the old programing of making promises that you know you will not be able to sustain. Rather begin by reminding yourself of simple practices that you know but tend to forget. This year you are going to go about it differently because you want long term ben72 Aneis de Vida ď Ź January 2015
efits. This is the year when you are going to look inwards to your health solutions based on what is good for your body and not rely solely on other peoples interpretation. This is the year that you are going to get to know your body and what sustains it, nurtures and nourishes it . By following a few simple guide lines, you will enjoy what you eat:
Don’t eat on the run. It impairs the digestion process SOLUTION: Sit down at a table, in a harmonious setting and enjoy the food that has been prepared. There is a frenetic pace that occurs at this time of the year. Don’t let that affect the way you eat. SOLUTION: Eat slowly, mindfully and with appreciation. Savor each mouthful. Breathe. This is something we tend to forget when we are rushing around. SOLUTION: take time for quiet reflection. Five minutes in a quiet space to regroup is better than no minutes. Eating too many food groups at one sitting places enormous strain on the digestive process. SOLUTION: Eat simple meals. Example, a large leafy green salad filled with herbs, sprouts and inseason veggies plus one protein. Lightly steamed veg on a bed of brown basmati rice that has gourmet sprouts (broccoli, onion, purple kohlrabi), finely chopped onion and herbs served with delicious Sesame and Cucumber dressing.
Drinking liquids with a meal dilutes the powerful stomach chemicals and makes the stomach less able to digest your food. SOLUTION: Drink liquids no less than 30 minutes before a meal and 30 minutes after. The imbalance of intestinal flora and not enough pancreatic and liver enzymes creates unpleasant symptoms of gas, bloating, stomach and intestinal cramps, smelly bowel movements, constipation and/ or diarrhea. SOLUTION: Top up on your Living Probiotics as in Kombucha Tea, Kefir yogurt, Kefir Water, Kefir cottage cheese, fermented foods as in fermented sauerkraut- not the vinegar type, miso, kimchi. Eat raw veggies preferably home grown or from a natural source. Make veggie juices and veggie super smoothies. All those living enzymes will support your digestive process, cell rejuvenation which in turn give you glowing skin, shining eyes, energy, loss of excess weight, a restful sleep and a happy body and mind.
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By Tilanie Meierhans
The heading alone has had many of you sitting up! Good as it is a topic which too often is brushed under the carpet, and made fun of in a degrading fashion. Frowned upon for religious reasons or belief systems. All these reactions are by products of a world that has not allowed for individuality. Such a broad topic and so many topics within the topic it could take months to write, and have a book in the making. Let us take this a step at a time shall we. Sex is natural, it is part of life, something
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which should be seen as beautiful, and should therefore be enjoyed not frowned upon or made to seem dirty. And let us face facts here, without sex we would not be here now, now would we? I am by no means advocating that everyone go on a sex rampage – that would be rather immature and inconsiderate. I would like to think that as a whole we have evolved into being able to think rationally about this topic, it is not a taboo subject like it used to be, however, it is also not a topic to be taken lightly. Speaking from my very own experience in life, I grew up with parents who were in so many aspects like chalk and cheese and yet very similar. My mom would go scarlet faced if she had to speak to me about sex, in this I remember her trying to explain the birds and the bees to me, my being the tender age of 11, it took her a whole of 5 minutes with a lot of stumbling and fumbling for words, which in itself was nerve wrecking for me. Mom was always extremely good at putting words together, and with her stumbling over her words, all I wanted to do was run outside and play again – never mind the fact that I had absolutely no clue what she was on about. Thank goodness in those days schools still provided sex education, so some relevant information was passed on. The downside of course was listening to friends, and in some ways getting a rather warped amount of information. This article does not purely revolve around sex, but sex defines who we are
– in the sense of male and female, how we perceive our roles to be in life – men in general terms, being those who are the bread winners, the hunters in eons gone by. The strong one, the ones who do not show their true emotions. Women, the nurturers, the home keepers and the individuals who give on an emotional level. Here is where it once again goes a bit whacky – if we take these two species into account and the way in which we have ‘’evolved’’ into our roles, we notice that the way in which we regard sex is also extremely different. Veering away from the human aspect, and we look at nature – male and female roles are not so well defined, male animals show their emotions, as do female animals, and the difference only coming into play with regards to rearing and having young. Taking all the above into account, I have to ask the questions, who decided a) who could or could not show emotions? b) who was to be the home maker c) why we have such low self-esteem (men suffer as much from lack of worth as do women).
If we go according to so called scientific research, we will notice that it stipulates that men and women are wired differently. How on earth can anyone even contemplate such? It is my humble belief that yes we are different but not in such a very large degree that we are wired differently. That in itself suggests we are two totally different species does it not? In all reality would it not be just as easy to then say, like I am going to do – January 2015
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we have been taught to think and act differently. Not wired differently but taught differently. Men are not allowed to cry – why are men not allowed to cry? What is so very wrong with a man showing that he is strong enough to show his emotions? Women for decades were not allowed into certain areas of the work place, and in many cultures still today are not afforded equal opportunities. Again the question why – this can be interpreted as men being afraid of what women are capable of, but no in all reality it was a taught difference and in some instances still is, ruling people by their perceived differences.
dispel the scientific version to our difference, but that in itself would not be such a bad thing if we could come back to basics and realise we are only different in appearance and that we need to celebrate our differences but also know we are strong in our sameness. Celebrate the fact that we are unique in how we react but carry the same fears of being laughed at or ridiculed. As a man you are strong even if you show weakness, as a women, even if you are ruled by your emotions, this is not something to be ashamed of, but rather enjoyed, as you bring a different perspective to any given situation.
I am not trying to prove or disprove science, but I am wanting you to think about these aspects and wonder, start enquiring within yourself whether that which I have made mention of is not perhaps true. Of course it would then
In the months to come we will look at the topic of sex, perceptions, ideas, and what makes this subject such a contentious one.
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We as human-beings share an inseparable and reciprocal bond with the natural world. We have an enduring effect on EARTH and are dependent on EARTH’s survival. Our natural environment in turn has an enduring effect on us and requires us to treat it with respect to share in its natural treasures for our own survival and growth. “The biosphere of this planet is threatened by just one of its inhabitant species as never before. Our impact on local and global ecosystems has reached potentially catastrophic scope and intensity as the industrial revolution spreads through our rising population. Industrialisation has increased per capita impacts by many orders of magnitude, severed our sense of reciprocity with the very world in which we are embedded, alienated us from one another, and profoundly affected our psychic and somatic well-being. We may choose to use science and technology to monitor, model and ameliorate our harmful ecological impacts, but they also fuel our addiction to a way of life that exacerbates these impacts. Conversely, conventional psychology By Bea Potgieter – Registered Clinical Psychologist in treats us as if the rest of the world Independent Practice (especially the other-than-human world) Children’s Book Author, Professional does not exist and living sustainably in Speaker & Poet harmonious balance with it does not matter. It therefore perpetuates our sevB.Soc.Sc.; B.Soc.Sc.Hon.Psych.; erance and alienation by failing to recM.Soc.Sc.Clin.Psych.(UFS) 2002 ognise these individual and collective PS 0080128; PR. No.: 0108375 pathologies for what they are.” – Andrew Thomas Fellows So many people have lost connection Continuation from our December Issue with nature, themselves and others. So many people these days are filled with
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Theodore Rozak in his book: The Voice of the Earth. An exploration of Ecopscyhology, believes that we cannot ignore “the greater ecological realities that surround the psyche – as if the soul might be saved while the biosphere crumbles.” He speaks of the ‘anguish of what I will call the “ecological unconscious” has emerged in our time as a deeper imbalance.’ Dis-ease flourishes on the alienation of humans from nature. The more artificial our living, the more our health and natuuncertainty, despair and hopelessness. ral world suffer. Nature’s energy is unmisThe human race shares a larger, beyond takably more powerful and impactful on the personal, universal loss as inhabitants our being than anything else we use as of this planet. Slowly over time, modernisubstitutes. Nature holds healing sation, industrialisation, technological (restoring balance) and inspirational advancement and corruption severed (unlocking creativity) propensities that the connection between humans, anisurpasses anything we attempt to replimals and nature as well as our internal cate. Being surrounded by natural beaunatural flow. The same natural rhythm, ty and to be engaged with it isn’t just an order and authenticity found in nature. Wasn’t there once a time when we lived add-on, a nice-to-have or ‘something in harmony with nature? What is the im- that can wait’ but a crucial key to wellbeing and growth. It is important to unpact of that disconnection on physical derstand that our natural environment/ & psychological health? The research the places we live in have a strong imsuggests that they are interconnected. pact on our health. We are interconThis separation or illusion of separation nected with the environment we live in. from nature and the natural, has led to great suffering for both the environment The spaces surrounding us ‘speak’ to the (as ecological devastation) and for huspaces within us. “…our bodies reflect or mans (as grief, despair and alienation). participate in the world’s body, so that if “The state of the environment is a funcwe harm that outer body, our own bodtion of the spiritual tone of humanity.” – ies will feel the Callum Coates. Can we honestly live a effects. Essentially there is no distinction fulfilling, meaningful, purposeful life, at between the world’s body and the huthe cost of Earth? Can we live wholly man body.” – Thomas Moore separate from Earth? If we are to heal As much as inner peace & harmony our planet we have to heal ourselves consists of self-acceptance, integration first. and connection within, it isn’t all we need to sustain internal harmony. The January 2015
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world and finds its health in that intimacy.” – Thomas Moore
flow between us and the natural world has a deep impact on our physical and psychological well- being. As there is a connection between our inner being and our natural surroundings (i.e. Nature), there is a constant flow of energy between us. We are deeply bonded to the Earth and the life energy contained in all beings. Honouring that bond is Living in Harmony with Nature. The brain has amazing neuroplasticity/ways of being in this world. Sensorial rich experiences, such as in true Nature activates capacity. There is a relationship between environmental, physical & psychological wellbeing. The more disconnected we are from Nature=more decay in Soul. Nature will reflect this… Is it purely co-incidental that the incidence of depression and anxiety has increased proportionate to the increase in urbanization? We are beings of Nature…Nature resides within us…we are Nature…Nature is us…we are a small part of the web. “The ensouled body is in communion with the body of the
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As a psychotherapist, I believe that humans are far too complex to be compartmentalized or labeled and that without addressing the core wounds and origins of one’s distress in an integrative and experiential process which incorporates the WHOLE PERSON (spirit, soul, body, mind and Earth), sustainable growth will not be achieved and is merely symptom relief. It requires commitment, responsibility and patience as the process can be uncomfortable and challenging. Psychotherapy is not a quick fix, but a unique process which is different for every person. My preferred therapeutic modality is SHIP®: www.ship.org.za “Human skin is porous; the world flows through you. Your senses are large pores that let the world in. By being attuned to the wisdom of your senses, you will never become an exile in your own life, an outsider lost in an external spiritual place that your will and intellect, have constructed.” ― John O’Donohue, Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom There are many, many pathways to healing. There is no right, no wrong, as each person’s journey is their own. I believe there is no prescription as to which path should be followed as long as it: a) is not a quick-fix. Psychotherapy originally means the restoration of Soul. It is a sacred process of returning to Home. Not a quick-fix, but a journey to Soul.
f) remains dynamic and open to change. Establishes trust in one’s internal capacity to heal. Provides a space for one’s soul’s voice to guide the process. Discomfort is a necessary portal in the process and the body is the conduit. g) deepens a person’s relationship to self and the greater context. h) is integrative: Ecology-PsychologyBody- Soul is interconnected. The body will speak on behalf of the soul. Healing is an ancient artform. The blueprint is b) it resonates with a person. It speaks to already pre-existing in the bodily form. what they need. c) one owns the process and does not relinquish autonomy. Patriarchal structures have created a system where people surrender their autonomy in health to ‘experts’. The body and soul knows what it needs to heal. Therapists aren’t healers, super- beings, they are very real people travelling the journey too. They act as facilitators, empathetic containers. d) the process uncovers and activates internal resources and energy. Humans have become paralyzed, immobilized, disempowered, disconnected by and over-emphasis on external source of information. Intuition remains the powerful source. e) empowers and creates no dependency on an external person/ methodology/ ideology/ construct. Psychotherapy is essentially about holding a compassionate, non-judgmental space for a soul to journey inwards. Providing a witness to suffering and pain.
I have explored many pathways over the years and I can conclude that we can incorporate/integrate many techniques, methodologies, mediums from different sources on the journey. Many choose psychotherapy as their facilitated medium. This is by no means the only way and I do believe that my own profession needs to seriously consider reframing the work to include the Earth and ecology and the body in their methodologies as I consider any compartmentalizing as not helpful. Let’s look at psychotherapy. Consider this: Should a person attend 1 (hour/ session per week) x 12 (months) = 48 hours/sessions over a year. That means they would spend roughly in effect 0.0156% of life-energy on such a process. Follow the formula: A 35 year old is in effect 306 600 hours old (24 x 365 x 35). So 48 hours over a 12 month period is equivalent to 0.0156% of a 35-year old person’s life. One hour per day over a 12
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nies it in the name of the spirit.” – C.G.Jung from “The Spiritual Problem of Modern Man, CW, vol.10 Self-help ways to heal INTEGRATIVELY:
month period equals 0.1190% of lifeenergy.
a) We must allow ourselves to deeply experience an emotion, even if it is perceived by others as not acceptable. By deeply experiencing an emotion and accepting it we give ourselves permission to be who we are fully. It is an act of self- respect, kindness and love. That which we resist will persist.
b) Every time we face our worst fears Forgive me if my calculations are wrong. and fully experience and accept them, Now, this does not mean a person only we reduce the hold it has on us. spends one hour a week or a day on such a process, nor should there be any c) Listen to the language of your prescription or judgment if they don’t. body. Physical symptoms can make excellent clues to buried emotions. These In any case a process activated contincan sometimes be your only clue to a ues (unconsciously or sub-consciously) buried emotion. A buried or avoided outside the contained hour and unfolds emotion may result in a physical sympduring the life-course should there be tom or condition even when you feel commitment and engagement on an and express other emotions. What is the ongoing basis. I do wonder though if the message the soul of an illness/condition/ world wouldn’t be a better place should state/complex is trying to communicate we spend more life-energy on such prothrough the body to you? Whatever is in cesses. a state of disequilibrium/disharmony will If we can reconcile ourselves to the mys- seek to restore itself to a natural state… terious truth that the spirit is the life of the spontaneous flow of energy. I have witnessed the body’s remarkable wisdom. It body seen from within, and the body knows exactly what needs to be exthe outward manifestation of the life of the spirit–the two being really one–then pressed for it to heal. Trust yours. we can understand why the striving to transcend the present level of consciousness through the acceptance of the unconscious must give the body its due, and why recognition of the body cannot tolerate a philosophy that de-
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d) Mind your Body it is your Soul’s most trusted advisor and Nature’s deepest symbolic expression, seeking connection to the WHOLE. Ecology-PsycheBody should be treated as a whole.
tices such as yoga, pilates, meditation. Get outdoors, out of the city and into places of nature. Find a creative outlet that you possibly can combine with exercise. Have fun consciously and responsibly! Laugh…. Dance…. Sing…..! g) Engage with Nature and naturebased healing/ psychological practices (bringing the natural world into psychotherapy); nature-based soul work (nature as mirror). Spend time in Nature, collaborating with nature as a facilitator of healing. Explore the mental health benefits of nature experiences. It is an There ought to be no split in a healing process, as this propels further dis-ease, – optimal space for reconnecting and healing. connection. The body provides an access-point for soul uncovering. Symph) Love and own your journey. Comtoms speak on behalf of soul. It asks for a mit to your own growth and recovering shift in alignment in service of soul. a conscious, authentic relationship with yourself. e) What we don’t deal with may be projected onto other people. Look for recurring patterns in relationships for clues of what may be unresolved.
“If we become addicted to the external, our interiority will haunt us. We will become hungry with a hunger no image, person, or deed can still. To be wholef) Take care of your physical wellsome, we must remain truthful to our being. Your body is precious, it carries vulnerable complexity. In order to keep you, it protects you and it guides you with its wisdom. It knows what it needs. It our balance, we need to hold the interior and exterior, visible and invisible, needs known and unknown, temporal and nurturance, respect and care. So listen eternal, ancient and new, together. No to it. Exercise at least 20-30 minutes a one else can undertake this task for you. day. Eat healthily. Be conscious of where You are the one and only threshold of you get your food. How was it farmed, an inner world. This wholesomeness is harvested, prepared etc. This is imholiness. To be holy is to be natural, to portant as food is energy that sustains us. befriend the worlds that come to balMake sure your diet includes all the base ance in you.” ― John O’Donohue, Anam -line nutrients, vitamins, minerals, and Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom essential oils your body needs. Go for regular check-ups. Get involved in pracJanuary 2015
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game ranger was not even considered as firstly there was a war going on and secondly it was a career that women just didn’t entertain! The only other way to get my Chipingali was to become a vet or marry one a vet or a game ranger! Now I wasn’t clever enough to become a Vet and marriage was certainly not on my mind at 17yrs old. My mother threatened me with secretarial college unless I decided on a career path! Having an artistic streak I opted for a career along that line and found myself an entry position in an advertising agency. By Bronwyn Grey – That path changed the course of my life and for many years I was addicted to the ad world to the extent that I was offered employ in South Africa which then led to my partner and I owning our advertising agenAs a child growing up in the 60’s in what cy for 14years. Then one day in the early was then Rhodesia, we were the 1st country 90’s a prospective client who happened to of southern Africa to have TV, all be it black hail from our mother country, suggested his and white. One of the home grown protour operation needed a marketing video of grams that always fascinated me was one their offering. The agency was abuzz as to called “Arm chair Safari”, presented by a the prospects this avenue would open up. man called Viv Wilson who owned the Little did I know it would take me back to Wildlife Sanctuary called Chipingali ( today my 1st love! his legacy lives on with his son Kevin) It was during those formative years that I We met the tour operator at a guest house thought to myself I want a Chipingali! I on the Berea of Durban where he would be could see myself raising orphaned baby collecting his clients (we would need to animals and nursing injured and sick anihave guests to film) and off we went. We mals… it never occurred to me that I would weren’t given an itinerary just a basic idea one day have to release them into the wild! of what we would be doing. It was exciting As time went on as it does, I went on to for my partner and I, he was filming and I high school with no idea what I would do directing, as we had not been further north with my life thereafter, Rhodesia in the of Durban, save for Hulhluwe a 2 hour drive 70’s had a raging bush war, becoming a where we had visited friends who lived in January 2015
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the Game reserve there. We were to meet the ground operator in a sleepy little coastal town called St Lucia (now a world Heritage site). We were dropped off in front of the guest house this operator ran, introduced and left to fend for ourselves. Our arrival was apparently earlier than anticipated as there was no provision for us for lunch. The operator, who we will call Anton, suggested we find our way to town and grab something to eat there. We asked before we lead our intrepid little group off (consisting of one east German - non English speaking, one semi English speaking west German and a full English speaking Norwegian) what the plan was for the next few days so we could further prepare ourselves. Here began the 1st lesson of guest liaison and management of how to treat your clients or rather not. As it turned out we had a wonderful time in St Lucia, Anton relaxed with the group and we went sightseeing on the estuary by boat, enjoyed a post turtle walk evening braai (barbeque) on the beach. Logger head and leather back turtles start nesting along this part of Southern Africa’s eastern coastline from November until the last babies hatch at the end of February. We then drove along the coast on the beach to Sodwana Bay, picnicked lunched there on the beach and it was here the defining change of my career happened. I was sitting in the waves back to back with Anton enjoying a bitterly cold beer when he said “so how do you like my office?” Now this was a mind breaking realisation to me, I had designed hundreds 88 Aneis de Vida
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of ads and campaigns for travel agents and airlines in my ad career but I certainly had never left the confines of my drawing board let alone been to any of the destinations The guests enjoyed their trip to KwaZulu Natal, we had great footage in the can and I more than grasped the idea of becoming a tour operator myself. Camera Africa was born in July of 1995, ostensibly as a fly fishing ground operator taking groups to Kosi Bay 2hours north of Sodwana Bay, on the border of South Africa and Mozambique. We had by now befriended Anton, and he was building a lodge in this magnificent wilderness area of Maputaland called Kosi Bay. We bought the people carrying vehicle and designed a couple of fishing packages, however, its not a business where clients will suddenly just arrive , so in the launching of my business and getting to know the Kosi Bay area Anton very cleverly suggested that I become his marketing arm and assist with reservations, well, Camera Africa didn’t sell one fishing trip, but did manage the marketing and reservations , became a long distance lodge management team for Kosi Bay Lodge for a period of 7 years! We also ran educationals for press and overseas operators and became very involved in marketing the entire region as a whole to the extent of serving for 2 years on the tourism association committee as proxy chair for the region. From attending all the tourism shows as an exhibitor Camera Africa became known for
her stable of self-catering destinations until one day a prospective Client asked for an itinerary of the Maputaland region, we have never looked back since. One localised itinerary grew to planning itineraries for the whole country and then into Botswana and other neighbouring countries. However our burgeoning American middle-market came to an abrupt end when the markets crashed in the early part of the new millennium and we were now left with selling to the South African domestic market. However that became an entirely different challenge, the name Camera Africa did not gel locally, we received calls from people asking for their speeding fine photos, if we hired out lights for photographic shoots and many more inane queries, after much deliberation we selected a new name for the business, something that would leave no question as to what we are all about and the type of business we wanted to conduct, hence Exceptional African Safaris (EAS) was born. We have designed and executed itineraries for the owner of Coroner beer in Mexico, one of the Coke Cola heirs, international mid-market travellers from the United States and Britain and providing a booking service for our home grown domestic holiday makers. However, there are some challenges as there are some that relate the word safaris to the hunting industry, make no error, EAS is not in favour of trophy hunting at all; nor do we condone elephant back riding and walking with lions. We provide an exceptional tailor made safari service to high and middle market
guests. We ask many questions with reference to the client’s wish list and available budget to achieve his aims. EAS will travel with the guests if required. Being an entity who is passionately orientated to conservation and wildlife activism in trying to find a way to stop the scourge of poaching of our iconic African species, products that follow a sustainable tourism ethic are chosen for the guests. Recently EAS has assisted in: the conception and business planning of a proposed (w)holistic retreat in Zimbabwe; designing an eco-educational family safari incorporating children from 12years of age for the international schools of the Far East. The latter is to educate our future generations about Africa, its animals and its people and to instil in these young minds the reason to conserve Africa’s animals for future generations in the very environment we are trying to protect so as to gain an insight of why these animals need to be saved from extinction. EAS identified the need to bring the younger children into this arena for up until now there were only courses for the school leaver providing a gap year experience. Our children are the key and education of these minds will unlock the path to success in making a stand for our wildlife. A child’s voice can be extremely persuasive to a parent. As I go now into a new year full of hope, perhaps the vet /ranger or the Chipingali will be attainable, who knows what the future holds, as long as I’m in the African bush I will be most content! January 2015
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managed to get an interview done. First impression was that of a person who is genuinely interested in people, and life – and most importantly who has experienced life on many levels. Jovial and interesting are two words that come to mind and yet a deep thinker. And the deep thinking part came to the fore as we discussed his ‘’colourful’’ background. Born and raised in a Catholic home, which of course sent me into hysterics, and why you may very well ask. The answer is quite simple really, free thinking does not allow for people to be put into a box, one takes that which resonates from each part of life to make you the unique entity that you are. And this is very much how Stephan has grown to become the person he is today. To understand what he believes, read his book “So You Are Alive”, he has managed to help many through his very own life’s experience and has written a few books (links below). Apart from the fact of how he was raised in a faith filled home, he has Do you ever look at a person’s face – you also spent time in Japan practising Karate. don’t know them but you have this thought His work background was sales and marat the back of your mind ‘’what makes this keting which comes through in the fact that person tick?’’ – that is what went through he is not afraid to talk about himself – or is my mind with regards to Stephan van it a bit of a mix? From my view it is a mix, Basten. Seeing snippets on Facebook and the fact that he is good at expressing himshared ideas or quotes, and then I decided, self aids in the message that he is bringing I need to find out who and what he is. across but it is his sense of humour and his Of course one must rather not always rely ability to make you feel comfortable that really makes you sit and listen and take on technology to play its part – however, notice of what he is saying. eventually in a very roundabout way we MARRIAGE COUNCELLOR, OFFICIATOR AT WEDDINGS AND FUNERALS who is the man?
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An extract of one of his books ‘’So you are Alive’’, (what he terms his passion book), he writes the following: Someone once said, “Ask and you shall receive.” I have consistently asked questions and I have consistently received answers. Some of the answers have been surprising indeed! What I share here is the culmination of a lifetime of searching, and yet it will not even scrape the brim of truth. As we all know, truth is elusive, perceived differently by everyone, ever changing and yet always the same. And to be honest, it is really only MY truth. Like the Buddha, I have seen poverty, disease, old age, suffering and death. And like the Buddha, I wish to make some sense of it all. And like most of you, I wish to find a way to make it all more fulfilling; for myself, for my family, for my friends, for my fellow human beings. www.stephenvanbasten.co.za/author.html
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