SE21 November 2023

Issue 204 - November 2023 In this issue The only Community Magazine for Dulwich Village & West Dulwich Established 2006

What’s On Garden Talk Dulwich Hamlet FC Fitness Tips Education News Financial Matters Children’s Activities Pets Corner

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Welcome to SE21 Where has this year gone too! It amazes me that I can be writing about Bonfire Night and Christmas already! Speaking of Bonfire Night, the wonderful display at Dulwich Sports Club (Saturday 4 November) has already sold out! Definitely one to plan in advance for.

As usual I have rounded up all the great events taking place in and around Dulwich. The events pages start on page 6. November is another packed month for events, so we have a fabulous seven pages of online and in person events happening in and around Dulwich.

Remember to check out www.arounddulwich.co.uk for a full list of events, as there are too many to put in the magazine this monthl. Also events get added after I have gone to print. You can often find out more details online too.

The Dulwich Hamlet FC Update mentions Goals! All thanks to the Women’s First XI and their rip-roaring autumn cup exploits. See page 14.

In Education News find out tips for choosing a secondary school. See page 20 for details.

Remember the magazine depends on all the wondeful local advertisers, so please do let them know if you saw them in this magazine!

Until next time.

Angela Angela Burgess Head of All Things Community SE Magazines/Around Dulwich

Contents Welcome ..................................................................... 3 Events Calendar.......................................................... 4 What’s On................................6, 8, 9, 24, 25, 26 & 28 Garden Talk ............................................................. 12 Dulwich Hamlet FC.................................................... 14 Fitness Tips............................................................... 16

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Events Calendar - November Monday

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Friday

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Saturday

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Inspired: A Solo Exhibition by Ania Pieniazek p6. parkrun, see p8.

Half Term Tennis Camps, see p6.

Dulwich Players present Macbeth, see p6.

6th

7th

Inspired: A Solo Exhibition by Ania Pieniazek p6.

An Evening with Monty Don, see p9.

13th

Dulwich WI, see p25.

20th

Dulwich Park Runners see p9.

History Talk: The River Effra, p9.

Honor Oak WI, see p9.

14th

28th

Dulwich Concert Series at Alleyn’s , see p28.

Bach to Baby Festive Family Concert, p28.

Dulwich Park Runners see p9.

Wine Tasting with Oz Clarke, see p28.

Weekly Horniman Market see p9.

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parkrun, see p8.

Junior parkruns, see p8.

Goose Green Coffee Dulwich Folk Dance Louise Ward - Lastest, an exhibition, see p24.

Morning: Opal Club see p6. enSEmble26 Music Festival, see p25.

Flutes, p8.

Through a Glass Junior parkruns, parkrun, see p8.

Dulwich & District Darkly, p24. see p8.

U3A Meeting p24.

Vintage Bunting Supporting Dyslexic Lewisham Weekly Horniman Making, see p25.

The Chocolate Learner, see p24.

Underwater Market see p9.

Detective - EDWI Hockey, see p8.

Choir Concert, see Singaround, p25.

Farrow & Ball: How see p9. p25. to Decorate p24.

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Louise Ward - Lastest, an exhibition, see p24.

Supporting Dyslexic Learner, see p24.

The Illusioneeer Lewisham Presents, see p25.

Underwater Meet M. G .

Hockey, see p8.

Leonard, see p26.

Seventh Son by Sebastian Faulks p26.

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23rd Gin Tasting Event with Anthony Gladman see p26.

Supporting Dyslexic Learner, see p24.

24th Lewisham Underwater Hockey, see p8.

The Brothers Gillespie, Joanie Bones & Caroline Dulwich Folk Dance Stupnicka @ The Club see p6.

Ivy House, see p26.

Dulwich Park Runners see p9.

27th

Junior parkruns, see p8.

Lewisham Underwater Hockey, see p8.

Louise Ward - Lastest, an exhibition, see p24.

Bach to Baby Festive Family Concert, p26.

5th

Goose Green Coffee Morning, see p6. Dulwich Folk Dance Club see p6.

EDWI Craft Club p6.

Dulwich Park Runners see p9.

21st

Open Garden @ Bell House, p8.

Sunday

29th

30th

1st

Garthorne Road Nature Reserve Open Day, p26.

Weekly Horniman Market see p9.

MidCentury Modern, see p26.

25th

26th

parkrun, see p8.

Junior parkruns, see p8.

Weekly Horniman Market see p9.

Ceilidh, see p28.

Jess Blandford & Marina Beard, see p28.

The Arches Studio Winter Sale, see p28.

2nd

3rd

Jess Blandford & Marina Beard, an exhibition, see p28.

Coco Chanel: The Legend & the Life Dulwich Folk Dance

by Justine Picardie Club see p6. see p28.

Forthcoming Events Further details where available can be found in the News and Events pages 6, 8, 9, 24, 25, 26 & 28.

Please read as not all the events can fit on the calendar!

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What's On - November Wednesday 1 – Tuesday 7 November: Inspired

Wednesday 1 November: EDWI Craft Club 7:30pm – 9:30pm The EDWI Craft club meets to make Christmas cards. Our craft club meets every two to three months and we enjoy exploring new or existing crafts together. We welcome guests as it is an opportunity to learn a new skill and meet EDWI members and maybe join us. £5 including materials. Email: join@eastdulwichwi.co.uk The Castle Pub. Upstairs Function Room, 280 Crystal Palace Road, SE22 9JH.

Wednesday 1 – Saturday 4 November: Dulwich Players Present Macbeth 12pm – 5pm. You are invited to the opening of the Solo Exhibition of Paintings by Ania Pieniazek.

Opening times: Thursdays-Sundays from 125pm. Mondays and Tuesdays by appointment, Wednesdays closed.

Jeannie Avent Gallery, 14 North Cross Road, East Dulwich, SE22 9EU. www.jeannieavent.com

Wednesday 1 – Friday 3 November: Half Term Tennis Camps 9am – 3:30pm At our tennis camps your children have the perfect mix of tennis, fun games, healthy competitions, drills and a lot more! Location: Dulwich Lawn Tennis Club, Giant Arches Road, Burbage Road, Herne Hill SE24 9HP. www.clubspark.lta.org.uk

Wednesday 1 November: Goose Green Coffee Morning, The Singing Geese 11am -12:30pm. Come and sing with The Singing Geese at Goose Green Coffee Morning. All are welcome, even if you think you can't sing! We are open from 11 o'clock for coffee, tea and cake, with the singing beginning at 11:30. FREE! St John the Evangelist East Dulwich, 62A East Dulwich Road, SE22 9AT. For listings contact Angela angela@semagazines.co.uk 6 | SE21 - November 2023

8pm-11pm (Saturday 3.30pm & 7.30pm). How does a war hero become a tyrant? Shakespeare’s powerful drama charts the rise and fall of a couple, who, driven by a prophecy, become intoxicated by the possibilities of power, and find themselves crossing a line from which there is no turning back.

Tickets available via Ticketsource (fee payable) – www.ticketsource.co.uk/dulwichplayers

Thursdays 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30 November: Country Dance – Dulwich Folk Dance Group 8pm-10pm. We welcome experienced or totally inexperienced dancers, partnered or not. Country dancing is very inclusive and everyone can join in the dancing immediately and benefit fully in the joy of the evening. There's no need to "sit out". This is because all dances are first practised and then the moves "called" as a reminder while we are dancing to the music. And there are many people happy to partner you and show you how it's done, should you need them to.

2 November: Caller Sue Hastings.

9 November: Variety is the key to this week. We have a number of people, each with different styles and dances, calling.

16 November: Caller Philip.

23 November: Caller Les. 30 November: Caller Jane. https://e-voice.org.uk/dulwichfolkdancing/ Entrance on door £5 (£4 Club members) 8

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What's On - November Fridays 3, 10, 17 & 24 November: Lewisham Underwater Hockey Club

7.45pm – 9pm. Try out underwater hockey at Forest Hill pools every Friday evening. We’re a mixed ability club who play for fun and exercise.

Complete beginners welcome - we’ll ease you in gently and have kit you can borrow. See the link to our website to learn more.

Forest Hill Pools, Dartmouth Road, SE23 3HZ. www.luwhc.org.uk

Saturday 4 November: Open Garden at Bell House.

Saturdays 4, 11, 18 & 25 November: Dulwich Parkrun Dulwich 9am - 10am. Free, weekly timed 5k run, jog or walk in Dulwich Park. Every Saturday at 9am promptly starting from Queen Mary’s Gate. Register once and bring your printed barcode (can be used at any parkrun across the world). First-timers briefing at 08.50am.

Peckham Rye 9am -10am. A 3 lap anti clockwise course, entirely on tarmac is mainly flat and therefore a potential PB course. The start & finish are located close to the Colyton Road entrance of the park. This scenic course takes you over 2 bridges along the pond keeping the black metal fence on your left before turning right running past the bowling green and around the oval gardens. Peckham Rye Park, Colyton Road, SE22 0NE. Also in Brockwell and Crystal Palace parks. See their event websites for details. https://www.parkrun.org.uk/dulwich/ https://www.parkrun.org.uk/peckhamrye/

Saturday 4 November: Dulwich Firework Display Please note this event is sold out and no tickets are available on the day. Definitely one to book early next year! https://dulwichsports.co.uk.

Sundays 5, 12, 19 & 26 November: Junior Park Runs Peckham Rye - 9am - 9:30am

A free, weekly, timed run for 4-14 year olds, to get fit, stay healthy and have fun! We run 2km every Sunday morning at 9am, through rain and shine. The course is visible, well-marshalled, and all held on the paths around the sports pitches.

Peckham Rye Park, Colyton Road SE22 0NE.

Brockwell Park - 9am - 9:30am 11:30am-1pm. Bell House is opening its garden for visitors to explore. Set behind the Georgian manor house, visitors can explore the peaceful two-acre garden. Tea and coffee will be available.

We are encouraging a £5 donation that will go towards garden maintenance and activities.

Bell House Dulwich, 27 College Road, SE21 5BG. More information at: www.eventbrite.co.uk 8 | SE21 - November 2023

A free 2km fun run for 4-14 year olds every Sunday in Brockwell Park. Just register on parkrun.com to get a barcode and meet behind the lido at 8:55 for a briefing. Come rain or shine, Easter or Christmas we meet every week.

Brockwell Park, Dulwich Road, London SE24 0PA For listings contact Angela angela@semagazines.co.uk

What's On - November Monday 6 November: An Evening with Monty Don

Tuesdays 7, 14, 21 & 28 November: DPR Social Runs 7:30pm – 8:30pm. Fantastic local running club.

Social runs every Tuesday 7.30pm at Trevor Bailey Sports Ground on the south circular. Plus runs every Sunday morning; coached sessions on Thursdays; cross country races; competitions; weekends away; frequent social activities. Come along on a Tuesday to try us out! Trevor Bailey Clubhouse, Dulwich Common, Dulwich. www.dulwichparkrunners.co.uk enquiries@dulwichparkrunners.com

7:30pm – 8:30pm. The nation’s favourite gardener, Monty Don, is coming to Dulwich! Monty will be visiting us at James Allen’s Girls School to discuss his new book The Gardening Book. ‘Think of your garden like a meal. When you select a recipe, you’re choosing it based on inclination, experience and circumstance. Making a garden, big or small, uses exactly the same process.’

A Village Books / James Allen's Girls' School event.

Book tickets on: www.trybooking.com/ Vaughan Williams Auditorium, James Allen's Girls' School, 144 East Dulwich Grove, SE22 8TE.

Sundays 5, 12, 19 & 26 November: Horniman Market 10am – 3pm. Located on the Bandstand Terrace, you will find stalls selling seasonal fruit and vegetables, artisan bread and cheese, organic meat and delicious street food. We also have regular guest traders specialising in treats such as luxury chocolates, delightful drinks, irresistible cakes, and tasty pickles and preserves.

100 London Road, Forest Hill, SE23 3PQ www.horniman.ac.uk.

Tuesday 7 November: Honor Oak WI We meet on the first Tuesday of each month at Stanstead Lodge Cafe SE23 1DD at 7:30pm. honoroakwi@gmail.com Honoroak_WI For listings contact Angela angela@semagazines.co.uk

Tuesday 7 November: History talk: The River Effra - A South London Vanishing Act. 8-9pm The River Effra imbues South London. Descending from high points along the ridge of hills at Crystal Palace, Norwood and Sydenham, it comes together as a single stream at Thurlow Park, idles eastward through Dulwich and Herne Hill, heads north through Brixton, circumnavigates Kennington Oval and drops into the Thames at Vauxhall, covering a huge amount of territory in what is little more than an eight-mile course.

Tickets: www.bellhouse.co.uk/events Bell House Dulwich, 27 College Road, SE21 7BG

Wednesday 8 November: EDWI welcomes The Chocolate Detective 7:30pm - 9:30pm We are delighted to welcome Chantal Coady, OBE, The Chocolate Detective! The Chocolate Detective takes her magnifying glass and examines every piece of Chocolate.

With her years of knowledge and experience, she can guide the way between the most ethical and delectable chocolate with utmost transparency. Chantal is a sustainable chocolate expert, founder of Roccoco Chocolates and lifelong chocolate activist.

For information email join@eastdulwichwi.co.uk The Castle Pub - Upstairs Function room, 280 Crystal Palace Road, SE22 9JH SE21 - November 2023 | 9

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Herne Hill School

Latest review just published Since 2013, Herne Hill School has been selected to feature continuously in the Good Schools Guide. The latest review has just been published and is once again highly favourable, concluding with the following ‘last word’ summary: “It’s a treat to see a pre-prep school doing what they have always done best for early years’ pupils, something of a treasured rarity nowadays as many have been swallowed up by larger organisations. Herne Hill School is a place where childhood is celebrated, with chatty, cheerful, children learning and enjoying life.”

Herne Hill School, the perfect setting for early schooling } Focusing exclusively on cutting edge Early Childhood Education (age 2+ to 7+), the most crucial period in a child’s life } Embedding key values and developing ‘the whole child’ through a unique, continuous five-year curriculum } Transitioning seamlessly from play-based to more structured learning, preparing the children to move on at 7+ with that special Herne Hill School spark } Expert staff operating under the ethos of Love · Care · Excellence in which children excel and learn with fun and enthusiasm

What our parents commented to the Good Schools Guide...

“So knowledgeable and experienced about child development.”

“We feel it’s a very special school, founded with real love, and it genuinely nurtures very happy children.”

“You can see and feel your child will be happy and well looked after.”

“There is a real emphasis on nurturing each individual child and promoting kindness and respect for each other.”

“My five year old lives for forest school whether he is pootling about on his own making mud pies or in a small group learning how to build a wigwam.”

“The team create a wonderful atmosphere for young children, whose childhood is extended somehow by experiencing school in such a supportive and friendly environment.”

Apply now for autumn 2024 admission

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Fabulous Ferns Garden Talk with Janine Winlaw | Instagram @janinewinlaw

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ith their elegant green, textural fronds, ferns are fantastic plants for adding a lushness to planting schemes, working particularly well in shady areas. They tend to fall into the following groups.

The Dryopteris genus, or woodland ferns, are handsome ferns, tolerant of dryish shade.

Dryopteris erythrosora is an attractive fern with semi-evergreen lime green, bronze-tinged leaves, while Dryopteris affinis ‘Cristata’ has upright fresh green leaves for most of the year. For height, look out for Dryopteris wallichiana which has upright bright green fronds of up to 90cm high, while Dryopteris filix femina is another nice large fern.

The fronds on these two tend to break up over winter, but cutting them back will reveal fresh green growth for spring.

Polystichum ferns have more intricate fronds. Polystichum setiferum is a useful and attractive evergreen fern that grows to around a metre high and is able to tolerate some sun. P. ‘Herrenhausen’ is slightly more delicate and lower growing. P. braunnii has lovely bright green leaves, while Polystichum munitum is a tall upright fern

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that will make a statement throughout the year and grow in sun or shade.

For more glossy texture, Asplenium scolopendrium, or hart’s tongue ferns, are useful evergreen ferns with large leathery leaves. These are happiest in deep shade.

Polypodium vulgare is a tough little fern with shiny mid green leaves. A native of Britain, it tolerates most conditions, moist or dry, sun or shade and looks good colonising under deciduous trees. For something smaller still, try Blechnum spicant.

At the other end of the spectrum, Osmunda regalis is a giant (2m) fern with bright green fronds in spring – it likes moisture so would be ideal in a bog garden. Finally, Dicksonia Antarctica, or tree fern, is great to add drama or a bit of exotic to your garden – but tends to need some winter protection.

Ferns look wonderful en masse with other shade-tolerant perennials such as white astrantia, eurybia and anemones, creating a lush woodland feel. They also look when mixed up together so that you get a variety of different leaves.

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Dulwich Hamlet FC www.pitchero.com/clubs/dulwichhamlet | https://linktr.ee/dulwichhamletfc | info@dhst.org.uk | 07951 640099

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hile results for The Hamlet as a whole remain hit and miss, there have at least been goals! Goals! And more goals! All thanks to the Women’s First XI and their rip-roaring autumn cup exploits. Over an eight-day period at the turn of last month Ryan Dempsey’s side beat Aylesford 6-1 away, before putting another six past Barking in the FA Cup. In between was a 9-1 drubbing of Cheshunt, away in the Isthmian League Cup. That’s 21 spicy goals - scored by ten different players - and quite some harvest! Hats off to the scorers and to the whole squad.

Recent winning form, and a thrilling late penalty winner against Saltdean, has also seen our women’s side climb up the league, so hopes are high for November. First up, though, is more cup action as we host Eastbourne United on Sunday 5th in the League Cup. After that it’s Millwall Lionesses away in the league on the 19th. Progress on three cup fronts means the women may have other fixtures coming up, so keep an eye out for those and don’t miss more glorious goal action.

Meanwhile the men’s home November schedule sees the visit of Margate on the 11th and Folkestone Invicta on the 18th, giving us tantalising thoughts of seaside returns to come. On the road, there’s a trip to Kingstonian on Wednesday 1st for the third round of the League Cup; then on to Haringey Borough on the 4th and Cray

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Wanderers on the 25th. For all fixture news check: pitchero.com/clubs/dulwichhamlet By mid-October the men’s side remain in a lowly league position, but there’s still plenty to celebrate around Champion Hill. In fact it’s party time as fans’ favourite, legendary goalkeeper Preston Edwards is back at the club. On his delight at returning to Dulwich, Preston said “It’s not just about the football. It’s the camaraderie, the community and the shared passion for the game with the supporters.” Cue a chorus of No Preston, no party!

October also saw a milestone for our 100 Club, the monthly lottery run by the Supporters’ Trust.

Since the 100 Club started we have now passed £60,000 in funds raised to invest in the future of Dulwich Hamlet. Hats off, once more! Talking of hats, for all your pink ‘n’ blue merchandise needs head to the Champion Hill Mega Container on matchday.

This season’s replica shirts are still available, as well as plenty of hats, and what’s more we have not one but two new scarves to keep you wrapped up and stylish as the nights draw in. There’s the ‘hipster’ or the ‘Pepper Army’ to choose from. If you can’t get to the ground, you can shop online at dhst.org. uk - where you can also join the Supporters’ Trust or sign up to volunteer. The Trust is the voice of our supporters, and our volunteers are the heart and soul of our club. Up the Hamlet!

Part-time Administrator

The Mark Evison Foundation is a local charity promoting the personal development of young people through challenge. We work directly with London state schools, encouraging non-academic proposals for challenge from 16 year olds. It is exciting work, bringing out the best in young people.

To read more, visit www.markevisonfoundation.org.

Due to expansion we are seeking a gifted part-time administrator (up to .6 WTE, very flexible hours) for a key role within a lovely team, based in Court Lane. The work is varied and very interesting. We are very flexible about time, happy to accommodate short days and time off during school holidays.

The successful candidate should be enthusiastic and well-organised, with excellent interpersonal and communication skills, able to work independently, manage priorities, work to deadlines, and take initiative. They will be able to deal efficiently and accurately with most administration requirements, and have excellent PC skills – Word, Excel and Outlook. The post involves general office duties, filing, complex diary management, handling emails, accurate data input, spreadsheets, research, wordprocessing, managing office supplies etc. We would train you to deal with our systems.

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Social Relationships

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Strong Social Relationships: The New Frontier Of Wellbeing In the last few months, I have been thinking a lot about the power of social connectedness for health span. And I wanted to share my own story with you about how I came to recognise its importance of building strong social relationships.

Moments Of Connection A couple of years ago I had everything dialled in. I slept over 8 hours almost every night; I only ate sweet treats 3 times a week. I did a daily 10 min meditation and exercised 5 times a week.

My recovery was spot-on, and I had a fortnightly massage. I was crushing it. And yet something felt off. I just wasn’t feeling as happy as I thought I should.

One morning I was walking in my local woods with my dog, Kami. We walked past a family, with two toddlers, who approached Kami wanting to stroke her. Having checked with their parents, I asked the kids if they’d like to give Kami a treat.

I showed them how to feed her by holding out my flat palm to her mouth, and then placed little chicken treats in their hands. One by one they both held out their little hands and she gently took the treat. The kids looked up at me and joy flooded their faces, and they stroked Kami again before rushing back to tell their parents what they’d done.

The look of joy on their faces stayed with me for the rest of the walk. Seeing their expressions and the brief eye contact was a warming feeling.

That little spark of connection between me and them, and them and Kami was a beautiful moment. That chance meeting was an epiphany of sorts for me.

I realised this is what was missing; moments of connection like this one. As a result, I vowed to myself to notice and appreciate these opportunities more. The rest of the stuff is important, but real human connection is what matters.

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How To Cultivate Strong Social Relationships Here are a few tips to get you started – and feel free to share this with anyone who is interested.

Examine Your Values Values in this context are the code you live by. My value statement is to ‘live truthfully, considerately and to suck the marrow out of life’ (to paraphrase the poet, Thoreau). What about you – what are your values?

Uphold Your Integrity Having integrity is doing what you say you’re going to do and above all, honour your values over other people’s expectations of you. This is critical. How will you demonstrate your integrity?

Determine Your Priorities Prioritisation is determining where your time and energy will go. Does this match up with your values? When we focus on values, integrity and our priorities, we are in a better position to connect with others and develop better social relationships. Better social relationships, both in a professional and personal sense, enhance feelings of belonging, connection, and psychological safety, and they can be life-extending.

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FAC OMNIA AD DEI GLORIAM

Take advantage of the chance to visit Kingsdale Foundation School: An Ofsted rated exceptionally Outstanding School

Alleyn Park, Dulwich, SE21 8SQ Tel: 020 8670 7575

Specialist 11-19 College in Mathematics & Performing Arts Headteacher Mr S H Morrison

Come and Visit One of the Most Outstanding and Popular Schools in the Country!

For information on admission to our Sixth Form for 2024 and to receive a Sixth Form prospectus please visit our website or contact the school by email at: sixthform@kingsdale.southwark.sch.uk

*By prior appointment only. Virtual tours will also take place during events above.

• Wednesday 8th November 1.30pm – 6.30pm • Wednesday 29th November 1.30pm – 6.30pm

*Sixth Form Open Days 2023

First Class & Top of the Class!

‘The school’s work to promote pupils’ personal development and welfare is outstanding’ Ofsted 2017

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www.kingsdalefoundationschool.org.uk | info@kingsdale.southwark.sch.uk

Kingsdale offers private tours of the school during normal working hours throughout the academic year. Tours are arranged for prospective parents at a time that best suits them!

Kingsdale is extremely proud of its special reputation and heritage in Music and Mathematics. We offer scholarships for new entrants to the school who show musical, mathematical, artistic or sporting talent. Scholars receive free individual or small group tuition provided by expert professionals, to the value of £1,000 per annum.There is equality of access for admission places irrespective of distance from the school or home locality.

We invite you to come to West Dulwich in South London to discover just how we get the best out of our students and harness top talent within an ethos characterised by warmth, culture and care.The amazing popularity of the school is a reflection of our renowned academic achievements, inspirational award-winning learning environment and the unusually rare opportunities we provide.

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do it? Is there a brilliant swimming pool, a lightfilled art studio or a lunchroom you can imagine filled with the laughter of you and your friends?

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f you are 10 or 11, it is likely that you’ve already started to think about where you want to go to school when you leave Year 6. As Registrar at Alleyn’s, my job is to help hundreds of 10and 11-year-olds find their way through our admissions process, from their first time looking round the school through to applying, attending our assessment days, and considering whether to accept an offer.

Choosing your secondary school can be difficult, especially because deciding where to spend the next seven years of your life (and such an important seven years!) is a big deal. Here are my top tips for choosing what school to attend.

Ask yourself what type of school is right for you?

Not every secondary school is the same, in fact there are a lot of different ones out there. Do you want to go to a co-educational (mixed) school or one with only boys or girls? Would a specialist school be a good choice – there are a number of schools that specialise in sport or music, or would you even consider boarding? Go online, do a bit of research, have a browse around the school website and read their prospectuses.

What makes a school special?

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It might seem obvious, but could you get to and from the school quickly and easily? Would you have to rely on your parents to drop you off or is there an easy public transport route? In an ideal world, your perfect school would be just around the corner but don’t panic if it’s not.

If it’s got the facilities, clubs and activities to do your after-school dance, drama or piano... you can see your potential school as a one stop shop, which means it can cut down on dashing about from place to place.

Will they look after you?

What is the school’s pastoral provision? In other words, how will they look after your wellbeing and help you navigate your teenage years, so that you can still enjoy learning, making friends and dealing with anything else the world throws at you? How you’re feeling at school is really important – as important as what work you are doing or clubs you plan to join.

Customer satisfaction Look at how many pupils stay on at the sixth form, that is an indication of their overall experience – see that as a customer satisfaction survey. Word of mouth is also useful – do you know anyone who goes there? Ask them what they think.

Look around!

Make sure you go and look around, speak to pupils, ask questions! Don’t be shy. Observe interactions between teachers and pupils, their relationship can be a good indication of whether the vibe will be right for you.

And finally..

Don’t be put off by the number of applications, the entrance criteria, application process – if anything concerns you get in touch with the school. They will be happy to answer any questions.

Louise Mawer, Alleyn’s School.

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Financial Matters

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Tax Free Childcare Despite the UK Tax Free Childcare scheme being over six years old, not all eligible parents are participating with the scheme. Non-participants can be separated into three groups.

The first group are the parents who for whatever reason are allegedly unaware of the scheme’s existence. Secondly, there are the subscribers of it’s too good to be true mindset.

Finally, the “we earn too much and never qualify for anything” group.

However, all three groups can abandon their position because the scheme’s existence is being publicised and secondly it is not too good to be true. The third group may be correct if either partner earns or expects to earn over £100,000 in the year. This may reduce our third group to near zero members.

Tax Free Childcare scheme is a UK wide scheme and operates via an online childcare account. This is an account that parents will deposit money for the payment of their child care fees with a registered childcare provider. To avoid exclusion from the online world, there is an option for those who cannot use the online service. The online or off line account is for the sole purpose of paying childcare where the main reason for it is to enable parents to work.

Each eligible child is required to have their own Tax Free Childcare account. If families have more than one eligible child, they will need to register an account for each child. The government top-up is then applied to deposits made for each child.

The scheme provides working families with a maximum of £2,000 per year per child until they are 11 years old. Parents with a disabled child can receive a maximum of £4,000 per year per child until they are 16 years old. Each child stops being eligible on 1st September after their 11thbirthday. A disabled child stops being eligible on 1st September after their 16thbirthday.

For every £8 paid into a Tax Free Childcare account, families automatically receive a top up from the government of £2. Using the tax-free top up, families can save up to £500 every 3 months for each child or £1,000 if their child is disabled Myrtle Lloyd, HMRC’s Director General for 22 | SE21 - November 2023

Customer Services, said: “Families need plenty of childcare options when the weather turns cold and wet and days get shorter. We would urge parents to ensure they’re taking advantage of all opportunities available – whether it’s sending their child to wraparound school club or a holiday club during the half term break. Tax Free Childcare provides financial help that fits your family - to support your childcare needs and save you money.”

Qualification for the Tax Free Childcare scheme is based upon a minimum income threshold. Each parent will need to have earnings of at least an average of £166.72 per week.

Registration for the Tax-free childcare scheme is via the GOV.UK website. Parents without online access should contact the Tax Free Childcare helpline. Parents who are not eligible are those in receipt of tax credits, Universal Credit or childcare vouchers; and those earning £100,000 or more per year. In addition to continue receiving their government top-up, account holders are required to confirm their details are current every three months.

Opening an account takes less than half an hour and money can be deposited at any time.

Therefore, those eligible parents who are not yet taking advantage of the Tax Free Childcare scheme no longer have an excuse for not receiving a government payment of £2,000 or £4,000 per child per year.

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Our Early Years site is home to our Nursery and Reception classes. They are housed in an award-winning building with five acres of woodland and playing fields.

We are now offering tours for 2024 entry at 9.15am every Thursday (term-time).

We look forward to meeting you soon.

Contact our Admissions team to book a tour on 020 8766 5525 or email admissions@dulwichpreplondon.org

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What's On - November Wednesday 8 November: Dulwich & District u3a Monthly Meeting 2pm - 4pm Anwar Akhtar, from Brixton-based Samosa Media, will speak about Diversity in the Arts and Education, with a focus on plays, films and arts organisations he has been involved in. Nonmembers of Dulwich & District u3a welcome. NO BOOKING REQUIRED. Herne Hill Baptist Church, Half Moon Lane, Dulwich, SE24 9HU. https://u3asites.org.uk/dulwich/events.

Thursday 9 November: Through a Glass Darkly: Vermeer & the Camera Obscura with Rupert Dickens 8pm -9pm. The tranquil and meditative paintings of Johannes Vermeer are among the best-loved artworks in the world. Relatively little is known about the master from Delft, but that has not deterred a torrent of publications about him, both fictional and scholarly. One of the most hotly debated topics is his supposed use of the camera obscura. We will tackle this controversy head on by investigating the history of optical devices in art and examining the latest theories on Vermeer’s technique.

James Allen's Girls' School Sixth Form Centre, Green Dale, Dulwich, SE22 8TG.

Thursday 9 November: Farrow & Ball: How to Redecorate 7:30pm – 8:30pm. Following in the footsteps of the bestselling How to Decorate, and a sellout event in Dulwich in 2019, Joa Studholme, Charlotte Cosby and the Farrow & Ball creative team are back with How to Redecorate. With more than 340 photographs and illustrations and packed with down-to-earth decorating advice on everything from which white to use with which colour, how to select a neutral palette and easyto-follow ways to build schemes for any room, this is set to become the definitive interior design sourcebook no matter what size your house is. www.alleyns.org.uk/live/live-events A Village Books and Alleyn's School Enterprises event. The Junior School Hall at Alleyn's School, Townley Road, East Dulwich, SE22 8SU.

Thursday 9 – Tuesday 21 November: Louise Ward – Latest 11am – 4pm

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Thursdays 9, 16 & 23 November: Supporting the Dyslexic Learner 7pm - 8pm Children with dyslexia may learn differently from you. This course has been designed to help you understand how you can best support a child at home and at school. We will cover how to recognise different learning profiles, multisensory learning, age-appropriate reading matter and tools, note taking, mind mapping, making numeracy more visual and how to gather evidence that a child needs help and support.

Each session costs £20. You can also book the whole six sessions for a special price of £100.

Bell House Dulwich, 27 College Road SE21 7BG Tickets: www.bellhouse.co.uk/events 24 | SE21 - November 2023

Local Artist Louise will be back at the Jeannie Avent Gallery, with an exhibition of her latest work. Alongside her iconic Still Life Photography she will be showcasing a selection of new charcoal drawings and mixed media landscapes on copper. Louise currently has work on display in various exhibitions including the Trinity Buoy Wharf Drawing Prize Exhibition which is touring the country, and in The ING Discerning Eye Exhibition at the Mall Galleries in London. Earlier this year she was a finalist in the Gemini Art Prize at the Zari Gallery, Newman Street, W1. Jeannie Avent Gallery, 14 North Cross Road, SE22 9EU.

What's On - November Friday 10 November- Sunday 12 November: enSEmble26 Music Festival! 7:30pm - 9:30pm We are celebrating 5 years of world-class classical concerts together in our local community. Get swept away by the glorious Saint-Saëns Piano Quartet at St Bartholomew's Church, Sydenham on Friday 10th at 7.30, two concerts at St Bart's on Saturday 11th: Music from the Movies with the sensational Icon Strings at 12.30pm and the joyful Dvorak Piano Quintet at 7.30pm. On Sunday 12th at Sydenham Community Garden there is a community sing-along which is also dementia - friendly and Sunday evening at 7.30pm we have an exciting mystery guest joining us at the Ignition Brewery, Sydenham High Street.

LOCATION: St Bartholomew's Church, Ignition Brewery (on Sydenham High Street) and Sydenham Community Garden (Wynell Road), 4 Westwood Hill, SE26 6QR. Tickets: www.ensemble26.com/events

Saturday 11 November: Choir Concert 6:30pm – 9:30pm St John's East Dulwich is very pleased to host this joint concert by Beckenham Youth Voices, The Elm Singers and St John's Choir. The evening will include Gabriel Faure's Requiem plus a variety of other music for choirs. Refreshments will be served during the interval.

Free event with retiring collection. All welcome.

St John The Evangelist, 62A East Dulwich Road, SE22 9AT.

Saturday 11 November: Vintage Bunting Making 2:00pm - 5pm. Join Simon Trewin to handmake a bespoke string of glorious festive bunting to celebrate a birthday, a special family occasion or even Christmas! Using vintage presses including our 1860’s giant Albion Press and original wooden type and illustration blocks print onto fabric and card and then assemble a 4 ft length of gorgeous bias-binding bunting to take home at the end of the three-hour session in a handprinted linen pouch! Only TEN PLACES available on this course.

Tickets are £65 per person to include all materials for this three-hour course and the added bonus of a free Bell House print goody bag with some handprinted treats… www.bellhouse.co.uk/events/ Bell House Dulwich, 27 College Road, SE21 7BG.

Monday 13 November: Dulwich WI Monthly Meeting 7:30pm – 9:30pm. We meet on the second Monday of each month at Vits+Kicks, 57 North Cross Road, East Dulwich, SE22. www.dulwichwi.com

Thursday 16 November: The Illusioneer Presents

Sunday 12 November: Singaround 7pm - 10:30pm Everybody is welcome to our Singaround, to sing or to listen! We don't use the stage and we don't use mics. Accompanied or unaccompanied, solo or duo or more, any language, any genre! It's different every time, depending on who comes!

First come first to sing, just sign up any time during the evening at the list on the ticket table.

One song each, then if there is time we go round again (with a short break in the middle!) Door 7pm, singing starts 7.15pm prompt. £5 on the door. Cash or BACS only, sorry! www.thegooseisout.com The Ivy House, 40 Stuart Road, Nunhead SE15 3BE.

4:30pm-10pm. Enjoy an evening of magic, illusion and wonder, while taking in the beautiful surroundings of this impressive venue. Best of all, the show is in support of "Breathe", a charity that helps young people with hemiplegia by combining magic with physical therapy. All profits will go to this fantastic charity. See an amazing magic show and help raise money for this brilliant cause!

Restaurant opens 5pm, show starts at 7:30pm.

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What's On - November Saturday 18 November: Garthorne Road Nature Reserve Open Day 2pm - 5pm. More information can be found on www.garthorneroadnaturereserve.com

Thursday 16 November: Seventh Son by Sebastian Faulks 7:30pm - 8:30pm When a young American academic Talissa Adam offers to carry another woman’s child, she has no idea of the life-changing consequences. Behind the doors of the Parn Institute, a billionaire entrepreneur plans to stretch the boundaries of ethics as never before. Through a series of IVF treatments, which they hope to keep secret, they propose an experiment that will upend the human race as we know it. www.alleyns.org.uk The Great Hall, Alleyn's School, Townley Road, East Dulwich, SE22 8SU.

Thursday 16 November: Meet M. G. Leonard:

Monday 20 November: Bach to Baby Festive Family Concert 10:30am - 11:15am

Grab your family, harness up your fastest reindeer and meet us at a Bach to Baby concert for the perfect prelude to the holiday season!

St. Barnabas Church, 40 Calton Avenue SE21 7DG. Tickets: www.bachtobaby.com/

Thursday 23 November: Gin Tasting Event with Anthony Gladman 7:30pm - 8:30pm Explore some craft gin and enjoy an evening of tasting with award winning writer and gin expert Anthony Gladman. A Village Books event Bell House, 27 College Road, Dulwich, SE21 7BG. Tickets: www.trybooking.com

Friday 24 November: The Brothers Gillespie

Bestselling author of 'Adventures on Trains' series & 'Twitch' 4pm – 5:30pm. M. G. Leonard, the award-winning bestselling author of the Adventures on Trains series and Twitch, dazzles in The Ice Children, a future classic with a powerful message at its core. M.G.Leonard will be at Village Books signing copies of The Ice Children. No tickets required!

Village Books, 1d Calton Avenue SE21 7DE.

Sunday 19 November: Midcentury Modern 10am - 4pm. The Modernist refectory and Victorian cloisters will be chockfull of everything from a rare Hans Wegner chair to an original Polish 60s movie poster plus a mix of stunning contemporary design. Expect to see architects, developers, celebrities, influencers, collectors as well as people who love shopping sustainably and thoughtfully for their home haggling for Britain with a few well-known faces manning some of the stands. Dulwich College, Dulwich Common, Dulwich, SE21 7LD. Tickets: www.modernshows.com/shows/dulwich/ 26 | SE21 - November 2023

7pm -11pm. The Brothers Gillespie are a duo from Hexham who we are delighted to be finally welcoming to the Goose! Their songs and performances have a rare intimate energy that is both earthy and ethereal, romantic and radical.

Joanie Bones has a background spanning a deep love of British folk, Persian and Jewish ancestry and a strong connection to the land of these islands.

Caroline Stupnicka has a powerful voice and is a previous winner of Islington Folk Club's Trad to Mad competition.

Advance tickets are £12 from www.wegottickets.com/thegooseisout Tickets on the door (if any left) will be £14 (cash or BACS only, sorry!)

Door 7pm. Live music starts 8pm.

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What's On - November Saturday 25 November – Sunday 3 December: Jess Blandford & Marina Beard

Monday 27 November: Dulwich Concert Series at Alleyn's: Natalie Clein in Recital

Contemporary art exhibition bringing recent abstract paintings by Jess Blandford into conversation with Marina Beard’s latest skyscapes. Marina & Jess are both resident artists at the Mansion in Beckenham Place Park. jessblandford.com / marinanasso-beard.com JeannieAventGallery,14NorthCrossRoad,SE229EU.

7:30pm – 9pm. Natalie will be performing an exhilarating programme, including works by Bach and Kodály. Recently rebranded from ‘Alleyn’s International Concert Series’, ‘Dulwich Concert Series at Alleyn’s’ continues to attract some of the world’s finest soloists and chamber musicians.

MCT Theatre, Alleyn's School, Townley Road, East Dulwich, SE22 8SU. Tickets: www.alleyns.org.uk/

Saturday 25 & Sunday 26 November: The Arches Studio Winter Sale 10:30am 5:30pm

Tuesday 28 November: Bach to Baby Festive Family Concert in East Dulwich 10:30am -11:15. Grab your family, harness up your fastest reindeer and meet us at a Bach to Baby concert for the perfect prelude to the holiday season! St. John the Evangelist, 62A East Dulwich Road, SE22 9AT. Tickets: www.bachtobaby.com

Tucked between the railway lines behind Peckham Rye Station is a hidden gem of a courtyard which has been home to the studios of artists, craftspeople and artisans for over 30 years. The Winter Sale is an opportunity to purchase work direct from the makers, see work in progress for exhibitions, and talk to the artists about their practice. The Arches Studios: 48-50, Blenheim Grove, Peckham SE15 4QL. www.thearchesstudios.co.uk

Saturday 25 November: Ceilidh 6pm – 9pm All are welcome to come and enjoy this Ceilidh at St John's East Dulwich. Taking place just a few days before St Andrew's Day, this will be a thoroughly enjoyable evening of fun for people of all ages. St John's are thrilled to have Wraggle Taggle Ceilidh Band playing for us and leading us through the dancing. There will be an interval for supper and a licensed bar. Tickets are available online via Eventbrite tinyurl.com/STJCH Please note a booking fee applies. Tickets may also be purchased after 10am Mass on Sundays at St John the Evangelist, East Dulwich, 62A East Dulwich Road, Dulwich, SE22 9AT. 28 | SE21 - November 2023

Tuesday 28 November: Wine Tasting with Oz Clarke 7:30pm – 8:30pm. Join Village Books for a wine tasting evening with Oz Clarke, one of the world’s leading wine experts. There will be four wines to taste: a sparkling wine, two white wines, and one red wine, all chosen by Oz. Oz Clarke is one of the world’s leading wine experts, known for his phenomenal palate, irreverent style, accurate predictions, and enthusiasm for life in general and wine in particular. Auditorium, Dulwich College, Dulwich Common, SE21 7LD. Tickets: www.trybooking.com

Wednesday 29 November: Coco Chanel: The Legend and the Life by Justine Picardie 7:30pm -8:30pm. Published to coincide with a major new V&A exhibition, Coco Chanel: The Legend and the Life contains never-seen-before images from the Chanel archives and recently discovered portraits of Coco Chanel. A Village Books and Alleyn's Schools Enterprises event.

The Great Hall, Alleyn's School, Townley Road, London SE22 8SX.Tickets: www.alleyns.org.uk

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Boppin Bunnies Interactive Music class for under 5’s led by professional musicians. Monday mornings 9:30am, 10:15am & 11am. Punk Me Up Ceramics Cafe. 34 East Dulwich Road, SE22 9AX www.boppinbunnies.co.uk.

HartBeeps Mondays at Christ Church, 263 Barry Road, East Dulwich, SE22 0JT. Mondays 10am Happy House, 11.15am Baby Beeps & 12.30pm Baby Bells.. http://hartbeeps.com

Little Superhero Training Practice your Superhero moves! Discover Superhero fun facts!

Any Little Heroes, Boys and Girls aged 2 - 5, Come along for a FREE taster session. Mondays & Fridays (term time only) St Barnabas Parish Hall, 23 Dulwich Village, SE21 7BT. Contact Lucy 07813 791757 | lucy@littleherocompany.com www.littleherocompany.com

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Mini Athletics (SE London) Winning the gold medal for children’s sports classes! Start your child’s fantastic journey in athletic development, designed for toddlers up to children of 7 years old. All through a fun play-based format. To try us out, contact Sam: 07811787153 | smcdermott@miniathletics.com www.miniathletics.com

Sunday Spot Free, artist-led workshops for families at South London Gallery, 65-67 Peckham Road SE5, on the last Sunday of every month. For children aged 5–12 years with their parents & carers. Pre-booking advisable. www.southlondongallery.org

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Help My Dog Goes Crazy At The Door!

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ogs have been developed over thousands of years to alert us to potential intruders or threats to our territory. In the modern age this most often translates as the dog reacting to any activity at the front door. Many owners have a dog that will bark and excitedly jump all over visitors, others have the sort of dog that goes ballistic when they so much as hear the gate squeak and get so worked up there is a danger they may bite. These are the dogs that may intimidate the postman and shred letters as they emerge through the letterbox.

The majority of dogs will always bark to let you know someone is there, the key lies in limiting the duration of the barking and teach the dog what to do next. Most dogs only bark when their owner or caretaker is home. Some dogs are genuinely territorial and will bark, even if home alone, to warn potential intruders they are prepared to take action. Most pet dogs are not truly territorial and dogs that bark when home alone should be screened for separation issues.

At one end of the spectrum you have guard breeds (often territorial) and there is a good argument to say such types of dogs are high risk in a densely populated urban environment. These dogs are hardwired to monitor differences in the environment and to take action, should they feel it necessary. True guard breeds can be a tall order and a huge responsibility if you live in the city.

Many pet dogs are of the aloof, watch-dog variety. They are not true guard dogs but may not instantly warm to strangers and are more sensitive to environmental changes and quick to sound the alarm. Dogs like this need to be trained early around the front door, to understand what is normal (non-threatening) and what to do when a visitor arrives.

At the other end of the spectrum, breeds like the Labrador tend to be super social. They can get worked up at the prospect of visitor arrival because they love meeting everyone. However, having a large Labrador jumping and clawing at you, even if they are simply happy to see you, is not fun and may still result in injury. Excitable nipping and mouthing of the “I love you so much I could eat you”variety is also something I see.

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understanding the type of dog you have; overfriendly, aloof watchdog or slightly fearful, guard dog or territorial? Of course, there are variations and I see Labradors that dislike new people as well as German Shepherds that are not ‘guardy’ at all.

If you own an aloof or fearful dog then I generally suggest you spend some time desensitising them to various front door activity sounds, so they begin to accept them as normal and non-threatening. I also advise screening windows, so the dog cannot see comings and goings in the street. These are the dogs I teach to move away from the door and to go to a spot and remain there while the owner handles visitors or deliveries. Obviously, this takes time and I would recommend the help of a professional trainer or behaviourist, to devise a plan that is tailored for you.

Where dogs are sociable but get too excitable on hearing front door activity, I also suggest desensitisation and counter-conditioning.

However, very often these dogs can also be taught to recall to you, after they start barking.

They learn to calmly accompany you to the door and hold a sit or down, while the door is opened, and visitor invited in. In all cases a strong ‘leave’ cue is desirable. I also recommend the help of a behaviourist if your dog seems fearful or aggressive.

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