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Why He Left by Tiffany Kameni
You are a beautiful woman of GOD because you are made in the image of your FATHER in heaven. There is so much to you that you know your husband will one day love and appreciate. Maybe it's your sense of humor, or how you throw down in the kitchen. Maybe it is your willingness to stand by and fight for your man or maybe it is your willingness to be the submissive woman he needs. Whatever qualities you possess are extensions of the love that GOD has placed in you. (Knowing how to seduce a man is not a quality, for even the snakes charm one another.) Understand this: Love is a root. Whatever you love, you are rooted in and your behaviors and characteristics stem from that root. For example, the love of money is the root of all evil. GOD is Love, therefore, if GOD be your root, the blessings will stem up and from your life and flourish in all types of weather. But, something happened. A man that you loved, left you. And you didn't deserve it. You were a good girlfriend. You cooked, sexed and took care of him and all of a sudden, one day, this wasn't enough. Or maybe, you were his wife. And no matter how far to the ends of the earth you have went for this man and how far you were willing to go, he still left and now, you're hurt. It could have been 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years ago, but no matter the time frame, you are still dealing with that heartache. And let me say this, before we go on. If you weren't a wife, you should not have sexed him. He left because an orgasm lasts but for a moment, but a life with you isn't as tingly. Why did he leave? Are all men dogs? Should you become the next 'player of the year' to ensure that you don't have to deal with this heartache again? Beware, it's about to get offensive because the truth does not apologize for being true. Some women were called as women and others are chosen as wives. Some men are called as men and others are chosen as husbands. The difference? The spirit that dwells therein. It's simple, everyone is not GOD's son or daughter. Some men, and women alike are the children of Satan. “Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.” (John 8:44) And what about the men who do belong to the LORD? The ones that got married and gave their wives Page 2 of 5 © 2010 - 2011 Anointed Fire Magazine- AnointedFire.com All Rights Reserved
a treadmill of a headache? Many people do not understand that they can be a child of GOD and still marry the wrong child of GOD or marry in the wrong season. He may be much learned in the WORD, mature and living his life in fear and trembling of the LORD and love for the LORD, while she may still be struggling with perversion, fornication, backbiting and fighting. But, he saw her at church. Squealing and screaming all up and down the pews. She dances for the LORD every Sunday and she's not ashamed to praise HIM. And she caught his eye and now, he wants her to wear his ring. Boy, does he have one migraine ahead of him, if he does not pray about her and let the LORD lead him in his decision. The eyes lie, our understanding yields only what we have in our hearts, therefore, we are easily deceived, as a people. There is a distinction between a woman and a woman of GOD. There is a difference between a man and a man of GOD. There is also a difference between a simple man and a husband, and a simple woman and a wife. If a husband marries a simple woman, he's in trouble and if a wife marries a simple man, her prayer life is about to become stronger. If you are a woman of GOD, chances are, he left you because he was a man, but not a man of GOD. A man goes after the desires of his flesh. He's attracted by what he sees, turn on by what he smells, appeased by what he touches, swept away by what he hears and fascinated by what he tastes. In other words, he is led by his 5 senses. His flesh is in the lead. Sure, he may move in with you, and in rare cases, marry you, but that does not change what he is led by. He wasn't chosen to be your husband, or anyone's husband, for that matter. But, because he had big eyes and curly hair, a 32 teeth, you couldn't get past his external physique. He's formed right and his voice has the power of bass, but his words are as soothing as a violin. And you believed every note he played, not paying attention to the devil pulling his strings. And when you saw the evil that was him, you thought you could change him. Devil fooled you, didn't he? Years and babies later, he's off in the wind, blowing into the lives of every woman that fits his 'type.' While, you are off with the next man like him, trying to figure out how to change him and just angry with him and every man that came in your life and well, acted like a man. Because you refuse to understand that GOD is not in fornication, GOD does not reserve devils for saints, GOD is not a GOD of lies, HE is the FATHER of Truth. Don't feel bad, sister, almost every woman has shared your plight at one time or another. But, today is the day that you decide you want to pass the lessons and graduate from being a woman to being a wife. Give up fornication. Stop allowing insults to become compliments. A man calling you sexy or talking about the form of your body is not a compliment. A husband calling you wife is! Let today be your day that you throw away every lingerie you have used in fornication, every gift the devil gave you for your sin, and any and everything that is tied to a man that is not your husband. It's simple, you have to be free before you can become a wife. You have to be consecrated. You have to forgive the 'men' that have hurt you so you can be loving and fair with the man of GOD that FATHER has reserved for you. You have to stop looking for a man and learn how to be found, this is the first step to submission in relation to a man. And above all, you have to submit to the WORD and be obedient to the LORD, thy GOD so that you will know how to be a wife. Because being a wife isn't the same thing as being a girlfriend. There were no girlfriends in the bible. A girlfriend is only an illegal wife, a setup by Satan to snare men and women of GOD into ungodly relationships with the promise that one day it will be Godly. And even if they do marry, which is rare, the marriage is scheduled for destruction because the two came into it through the backdoor, which is sin, instead of allowing GOD into their lives and their decisions. Whatever instruments Satan plays, he continues to play until it is taken from his hands and placed in the hands of the FATHER. Never ever think that just because you have married yourself out Page 3 of 5 Š 2010 - 2011 Anointed Fire Magazine- AnointedFire.com All Rights Reserved
of fornication, that you are home free. No. You have just entered into the 'big-boys' of trouble, since marriage is an institution setup by GOD. Because you came in with Satan as your third fold, you will see and deal with a lot of what you would not have had to see or deal with should you have waited on the LORD and did it HIS way, instead of creating your own way and expecting him to bless your disobedience. When you fornicated, you gave Satan the legal right to divide you because what is between you is not of GOD. And, woman of GOD, never think your beauty makes you exempt. I say that because I have met and ministered to so many sisters who are beautiful externally, who ask me why is it that the men that they have been with, shared parts of their life with and even had children with, have left them, never wanted to marry them, but when they hear through the grapevine who he's marrying or see his new fiance or bride, they are taken away. She's average or in many cases, by the world's standards, or externally unattractive. This baffles so many women, but truth is, a man is attracted, initially, to a woman's beauty and physique. That's it. Once she opens her mouth, he decides if he likes her mind or not, but nevertheless, if he doesn't like her mind, he still wants to bed her if he's wrestling with his flesh. Now, in all accounts, he could be in search of his wife, a man after GOD's own heart, with an issue like that of Samson's. He is a man still battling with the desires of his flesh and when he finds a woman, he quickly and easily decides whether she is a wife or a overnighter. Yes, ladies, a man can look at you and place you in a mental file, just like that, and it's hard, if not impossible to come out of that file, once he has decided that you are a 'sexy' piece of meat or a wife. But, when he finds a wife, he finds a good thing and no matter how you believe she isn't as pretty as you, he finds her more intriguing and attractive than you because she left a mystery at his feet and she keeps him searching even the more for a complete knowledge of her. She doesn't give in to his seductive looks and talks, as a matter of fact, she has put him in his place. “You either like me enough to want to know and marry me one day or you'd better stop wasting your time and mine and go find a woman for the moment. Because, that's not me.” In finding her out, he hasn't found her out. There is so much to her to be discovered and it delights him to be considered worthy by her for this adventure. She's a wife, even though the ceremony hasn't been performed, she's a mother, even though she may or may not already have children, she's a rare jewel, hiding in plain sight, a woman of GOD, someone to be honored amongst all women. She's a Proverbs 31 woman, the kind that even men of the world want (but, of course, a man of the world wouldn't know how to treat her, he'd default back to having rendezvous with women of the world.) And you're, well, you're not ready yet. Your season is coming, if you only wait on the LORD, be patient with the LORD and obey the LORD. You too, will be that woman that when a husband finds, he cherishes. He will know how to uplift you and display you, no matter how you may feel inferior in beauty to the other women he's dated. After all, you're not a date. Abraham didn't date Sarah, he married her. Joshua didn't date Leah and Rachel. He married them, even though Rachel was his objective. A husband considers his wife beautiful and of course, sexy...but, he respects her enough to marry her before he uses that word or displays his thoughts, but a husband, when he's not married and comes in contact with a 'sexy' woman that he can call 'sexy' and demonstrate to her why he think she's sexy, in most cases, will not marry this woman, no matter how beautiful she is. Don't continue to be a woman tossed from man to man, babies from the north, east, south and west. Instead, be obedient and seek the face of the LORD. Stop trying to be in every man's face that looks like a winner. How many times have you lost to this? And you keep telling yourself this lie, “I didn't lose! He lost out on a good thing!” Says who? You? You rate yourself in conceit, but reality is calling you a liar. If you want to be a wife, you must begin to act like a wife today and stop allowing some man to call you his girlfriend or the norm these days, “friend.” And that's how you stop becoming Page 4 of 5 © 2010 - 2011 Anointed Fire Magazine- AnointedFire.com All Rights Reserved
another man's ex. I'll leave you with this truth. I know women, who are single, but they are somebody's wife and every time a man tries to get to know them, he brings it! He understands that she is a wife and she is not to be disrespected, but of course, he may turn out to be a simple man with enough knowledge to identify a wife from a whoremonger. You've seen these type of women! They are primped and treasured by any man that tries to get to know them. Because even though wife is not stamped on her forehead, it is written all over her being. While the word 'whore' is written all over a woman who tries to sex a man into marrying her. Keep this truth and decide who you are, because these labels are the ONLY labels find for women, in the bible. You are either a: Virgin...Wife...Widow...Or a whoremonger..... There are no girlfriend's in the bible. And, if you are waiting for your Boaz, but you have slipped up in the past, when you didn't know any better and you're no virgin, once the LORD consecrates you, you are a virgin, in soul and spirit because GOD has severed the soul ties. Therefore, you are no longer a whoremonger, you are a woman of GOD, changed, a virgin yet again. Stay that way until the right man comes along and calls you wife.
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