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OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
Thanks for taking the time to answer my question. I am 24 years old and starting to date. The reason I started “late” is because I spent my post-sem years in recovery for an eating disorder that took up my entire life literally and
figuratively. I can honestly say I am in a very healthy good place right now, and excited, and ready for marriage. I want to put myself out there but here is my dilemma: Recovery from my ED is a huge part of my life, and I can’t imagine starting a relationship
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without talking about it to the guys I meet. From what I have been told though, in order to get good guys to go out with me, I should keep the ED quiet and only discuss it on a 3rd or 4th date. I really do not want to hide something that has impacted me in such a huge way. In a way, I want to put something about it on my shidduch resume just so I do not get hurt by someone for it. This way, they will just read it and reject it if they are not interested. What do you think? Lauren*
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