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OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
We would like to hear your perspective on how to deal with our daughter. She has been in shidduchim for seven years, and nobody she dates is ever good enough for her. We obviously want what is best for her, as her parents, but we walk a fine line between frustration and sensitivity. We think
she is too picky with her standards of looks, personality, hashkafa and profession. We pretty much leave her alone since she is very headstrong and independent; our “words of wisdom” would probably not even penetrate. Over the years, we have tried talking sense into her about
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the way she dates, for instance: not going out with a guy unless she REALLY likes his picture, saying no after one date if a guy’s nose is too big. Every time I send an idea for a shidduch, she nixes it right away by saying she either knows of him already or a friend dated him and is “not for me.” How can we effectively handle this situation? All the best, Frustrated Mom
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