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Queen Elizabeth, who just passed away, touched many people throughout her lifetime, including one woman thousands of miles away who shared her birthday.
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Hankey doesn’t know how many letters she wrote to the queen, but she does say she’ll miss their correspondence.
for us, we have a King to whom we can correspond with each and every year on the birthday of the world. We can admire His reign and ask Him for anything. As we’re His beloved “pen pal,” we’ll always get a response. Sometimes we’ll get what we asked for, sometimes we’ll receive even more, and sometimes we’ll receive something unexpected.
Rosh Hashanah is the day we have an open line of communication with our King. We’ll dress our best and eat lavishly in His honor, but most importantly we’ll have an opportunity to reach out and draw the full attention of our Creator. And He’ll always respond with love.
Dear Readers,
Like the Queen, Adele Hankey, 96, of Park River, North Dakota, was born April 21, 1926. That bond served as the basis for their unlikely relationship when they became pen pals. The correspondence began when Hankey wrote the Queen a letter when she was crowned in 1953, prompting the queen to send back a birthday card. The response from the queen, understandably, caused her “to jump out of her shoes.”
Once she had Queen Elizabeth’s attention, Hankey tried to get one of her trademark accessories. “I asked her for a hat,” she said. “I was hoping she would send me one, but she sent a lovely picture.”
This started a relationship between them where they exchanged handwritten letters on their birthdays, with Hankey writing to her, and always receiving a note back. Although they never actually met, she always made sure to write in her finest handwriting.
Wishing you all a Kesiva V’Chasima Tova and the very best in the coming year!
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“As a global leader in children’s health support and trauma response, it is critical for us to regularly evaluate and assess the current landscape, and strategize for the future of the organi zation,” said Rabbi Simcha Scholar, CEO of Chai Lifeline. “This confer ence is an opportunity for our talent ed team of directors to connect, share ideas, and explore new ways to broad en Chai Lifeline’s reach, strengthen its impact, and improve services for our families.”Participants heard from a variety of speakers, including Rabbi Scholar, National Director of Client Services Rabbi Mordechai Gobioff, CFO Es
Participating regional directors
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Sandhaus, Southeast; Yaacov Blan shay, Montreal; Rabbi Mordy Roth man, Toronto; Neville Goldschneider, UK; Avi Maier, Belgium; and Elad Maimon, Israel.
Others for Chai Lifeline Global Conference
Chai Lifeline is an international children’s health support network pro viding social, emotional, and financial ening or lifelong illnesses and their
icated to helping our children, fami lies, and communities. It was great to be able to meet with our colleagues from around the world and work to gether to advance the mission of Chai Lifeline and improve the important work we all do,” said Rabbi Gobioff.
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cluding organizational values and vision, programs and services, mar keting and development, staff and vol unteer training, community engage ment, case management, and more.
hai Lifeline directors from across the United States and around the world gathered in Eatontown, NJ, September 13-14 for Chai Lifeline’s Annual Regional Directors Conference. The two-day program convened directors from New York, New Jersey/Pennsylvania, Mid-Atlantic, Southeast, Midwest, and West Coast, as well as Toronto, Montreal, Israel, Belgium, and the UnitedChaiKingdom.Lifeline Mid-Atlantic Direc tor Racheli Daniel noted, “These two days were critical in our intentional planning for the future of the organiza tion and for moving forward in recog nizing the basic tenets of our mission: crisis management, family stability,
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Fresh off their dominating per formance vs. Park Heights Roofing, Shimz Cars hit the ground running with leadoff singles by Hillel Stutman and Walt Johnson. Nadav Spiegler fol lowed by lining a scorcher to center, scoring Stutman. Long time JCNSL/ JCSL pitching ace Aharon Adler quickly settled down, mentioned something about “enough of this,” and extracted a pop-up and 2 strike-outs to limit the damage and severely dimin ish the noise level emanating from the Shimz Cars bench.
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The momentum shifted in the bot tom of the 4th, thanks to a leadoff walk to Mendy Rauh, and singles by Avi Donaty, Mordy Goldberger, Jason Re itberger, AJ Esral, and Avi Friedman, giving the Campers their first lead of the game.
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The Mailman Law, LLC Playoff MVP: Awarded to Jason Reitberger who finished the night with 4 hits and 3 RBI’s.
pop-up to end the inning.
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tan, followed by RBI singles by Men dy Rauh and Moti Bendet.
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A leadoff triple by Hillel Stutman followed up by some solid hitting from the Meister brothers and Nadav Spiegler, put two more runs on the board for Shimz Cars.
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With the game on the line and one out in the top half of the inning , Levi Akkerman hit a clutch single and then advanced to 2nd by a fielder’s choice. With 2 outs, Walt Johnson scorched a single to center. Attempting to score from 2nd, pinch runner Hillel Stutman was dramatically nailed at the plate by a perfect throw from Avi Friedman, giving JDC the win and the 2022 title.
Jewish Day Camp wins “Mailman Law, LLC Trophy” & Championship Title of 2022 “JCNSL by Tripping Kosher” season
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JDC added some insurance runs with a leadoff double by Jeromy Bit
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ith a final score of 7-6, Jewish Day Camp (JDC) defeated Shimz Cars in highly dramatic fashion to claim the 2022 Mailman Law, LLC Championship Title. On the final play of the game, it took a perfect throw from JDC outfielder Avi Friedman to nail the would-havebeen, tying run, enabling JDC to close out the game (and season).
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BOTTOM 5th– JDC at bat
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Congratulation to JDC team members: Aharon Adler, Moti Bendet, Jeromy Bittan, Avi Donaty, AJ Esral, Avi Friedman, Mordy Goldberger, Meir Jakubowicz, Mendy Rauh, Jason Reitberger, Meir Samberg, and Yanky Scheinfeld.Readon for a detailed re cap of the game’s events:
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The Tripping Kosher Playoff Cy Young Award: Awarded to Aharon Adler in recognition of his 7 playoff strikeouts and unflinching leadership on and off the field.
Leadoff singles by Yacov Ben zaquen and Ari Elman, followed by an RBI single by Rocky Caine sent the Shimz Cars bench right back to enthralling noise levels which imme diately induced another strike-out and
Shimz responded with a leadoff single by Aron Meister, and RBI sin gles from Yacov Benzaquen and Ari Elman, making it a one-run game. But the Campers remained un-fazed by the drama and noise.
Thanks to some clutch hitting by Avi Donaty, Mordy Goldberger, and Jason Reitberger, JDC got on the board with their first run of the game.
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attended and where some of my rela tives are buried. Going from Budapest to Israel with a group of diverse Jew ish young professionals reinforced my Jewish pride and reminded me that as Jews we have not just survived, but prospered.”RAJEalso helps students get high level internships in their field in Israel and the U.S. This summer Nick Kar akulko, a college student originally from Pikesville, landed an amazing internship working for a Manhat tan hedge fund. On the weekends he enjoyed Shabbatons and learning in BMG with Lakewood Fellowships. “Having grown up in a secular Russian family I knew a little bit about Jewish holidays – very little – but I had never done Shabbos before in my life,” he said. “It was amazing to connect to Jews who were deeply committed to Judaism. The Jewish learning filled a gap within that I didn’t even know was there. I plan on continuing to learn Torah back in Baltimore.” Nick has already made up to learn Derech Hashem with RAJE Maryland staff eachOnweek.Thursday, September 29th, RAJE Maryland is launching their third annual BE CouRAJEous Chesed fund Matching Campaign –– 1 day to $180k. Help RAJE continue to share the beauty and depth of Judaism with many more Jews this upcoming year by visiting www.RAJEMaryland.com
born in the Ukraine and still have rela tives there. On a national level, RAJE raised thousands of dollars to help Jewish orphans in Ukraine, helped run a therapeutic support hotline for those suffering from trauma, and con ducted an Ulpan and RAJE fellowship for new Russian and Ukranian olim in Jerusalem. Another special event was a talk by Rabbi Dr. Yitzchak Breit owitz Esq, about the Torah approach to Roe v Wade and the implications of the recent Supreme Court ruling. Rabbi Breitowitz, a senior lecturer in Ohr Somayach Yeshiva in Jerusalem, is the former Rav of the Woodside Shul in Silver Spring, and is a gradu ate of Harvard Law School and former tenured professor at the University of Maryland School of Law.
sanel Kostelitz, shlita, Rav of Kehal Machzikei Torah.
which the kehilla started dancing with a great simchas hatorah. After dav ening, a gala Kiddush was served in honor of the event, where the chashu veh yungerman that donated the Sefer Torah spoke with emotion thanking Hashem for the zechus he had to be mekayem this great Mitzvah.
Each semester of RAJE program ming culminates in a subsidized trip to Israel or Poland, with optional in tensive tours of Jewish sites in various
European cities. “It was an amazing opportunity to connect with Russian Jews from all over the country, as well as meet other Russian Jews living in Israel,” participant, Gil Plaks, said. Gil is a graduate student and professional graphic designer. “The trip was a per fect blend of action packed activities, delicious Israeli food, and impactful Jewish learning.” Gil Is hoping to return next summer again to Israel to further explore and learn. The trip had a stopover in Vienna where the group visited Jewish historical sites in Budapest, Bratislava, and Vienna, as well as a moving visit to the Mau thausen Concentration Camp. “One especially meaningful part of the trip was traveling to Budapest, where I got to visit the Jewish quarter,” Naomi Hoch, a second year student at dental Maryland School of Dentistry, said. “I was able to see the apartment where my grandfather was raised, which lat er become a part of the ghetto. I also toured the synagogue that my family
RAJE Concludes a Full Year of Programming for Russian Jews
It began on Thursday night (parsh es Shoftim) when the final letters of the Torah were written by the mem bers of the Kehilla and the chasidishe kollel, including the Rosh Kolel and newly appointed Rav, Rabbi Am rom Jungreis, Shlita, and Rabbi Ne
On Shabbos morning before Krias Hatorah, all Bnei Hakehilla, young and old, gathered together for this momentous, unique event which will be indelibly etched in the hearts of all in attendance, when the Sefer Torah was brought in by the Rav, shlita, to
brating with the members’ collective passion and simcha shel mitzvah.
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beautiful and unique Hachnuseas Sefer Torah took place this Chodesh Elul in the Chassidish Shul Kedushas Yisroel on Park Heights Avenue.TheTorah was written by one of the Choshive yungerleit of the Kollel Kehal chasidim, who has saved up over the last years specifically to be able to be mekayem this special Mitz vah. What made it unique was the dis creet manner in which it was presented in an event that was, although modest, very uplifting and inspiring, the air vi
also ran a special panel ses sion to discuss the war in Ukraine that was moderated by RAJE students, David Pasmanik and Nicole Finkel. Nicole holds a BA in Political Science from George Washington Universi ty and MA in Global Security from Johns Hopkins and David holds a B.S. in Diplomacy & International Affairs & a minor in Russian language. The program featured presentations by Mr. Eli Gold - the President of the Gold Institute for International Strategy and founder of a leading foreign policy and national security think tank, and Rabbi Shimon Brooks - the Director of Menora, an organization that pro vides spiritual support for the Jews of Ukraine, Belarus, Latvia & Moldova. The war is of great concern for many RAJE students, many of whom were
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ehilas Tiferes Yisroel, fondly known as Rabbi Goldberger’s shul, was zocheh to celebrate the dedication of a new Sefer Torah, as we approach the Yommim Noraaim. The Sefer Torah, sponsored by the shul and the community at large, was dedicated in honor of Rabbi Menachem and Rebbitzen Bracha Goldberger’s 36 years of devoted service to our wonderful community. This momentous occasion of the Hachnosas Sefer Torah was the culmination of a number events held over the summer, as part of the Tiferes Yisroel Celebration of Torah, featuring shiurim from Rabbi Yosef Berger, Rabbi Dovid Heber, Rabbi Daniel Rose, Rabbi Elie Levi, Rabbi Yehoshua Nissan, & Rabbi Yehuda Leib
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AGodberger.vastswath of the Baltimore com munity joined together as the Sefer Torah was escorted with ebullient song and dance down Park Heights Ave., thanks to the assistance of the Baltimore Police Department and Shomrim of Baltimore, from the Goldberger home to the front lawn of Kehilas Tiferes Yisroel, accompanied by the uplifting music of Nossi Gross and the Zemer Orchestra. The dancing continued in the shul, as all the Sifrei Torah welcomed the new Sefer To rah, amidst tremendous joy and hon or. The singing and dancing came to a crescendo with Divrei Pesicha from Rabbi Shlomo Goldberger, and mag nificent Divrei Torah and Hissorirus,
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Rabbi Yaakov Hopfer. To conclude the festivities, a Gala Seuda befitting of such a glorious event was held out side the shul in a marvelously decorat ed tent, with a delicious spread from the Knish Shop, magnificently pre pared and presented by Mrs. Sarah Beck. At the close of the seuda, beau tiful Divrei Bracha were offered by Rabbi Boruch Neuberger and Rabbi Menachem Goldberger, further ele vating the already heightened kedu shas and simchas hayom. May Ke hilas Tiferes Yisroel, and the entire Baltimore community, merit to share in many more inspiring occasions to celebrate and honor Toraseinu HaKe dosha.
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of Elul. We hope and pray that the kid dush Hashem and united communal goals at this expo be a zechus for Bal timore and bring yeshuos and refuos to Klal Yisroel and the Geula very soon.
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n September 11th, TAG Baltimore arranged a Kosher Tech Expo and Filtering Event and it was a tremendous success. The Shaarei Zion hall was packed with people from the Baltimore community looking to live higher. Over 500 hundred men and women from the community came to the expo, hundreds installing filters on their devices, many more having comprehensive consultations to better understand their devices and the available resources, and others purchasing kosher music devices and taking home inspirational resources. Many organizations and chizuk programs offered resources on how to connect with likeminded individuals and receive continued inspiration in the struggle to balance our hashkafos with our use of technology in the 21st Century.
Techloq, another vendor, debuted their top-of-the-line filtering system for computers that is a true asset to the world of filtering. SafeTelecom, a ko sher smartphone vendor, showcased an innovative option of a high-end smartphone device with hundreds of safe, useful apps and no browser. Ye shivaNet came to share their technol ogy as well, providing email options without browsers, helping families get only what they need without regular internet. KPhones613, our own Bal timore flip phone vendor showcased his products as well, offering a local option for customers. The vendors and TAG NY and NJ staff who came were blown away by the crowds and the genuine ratzon to live higher by every person they met!
The Baltimore kehilla brought tremendous kavod shamayim at this monumental event during the month
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Congratulations to Rabbi and Mrs. Naftoli Hexter on winning the Kosher Tech Expo raffle!
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From 11 am to 10 pm there was an unending stream of visitors, including members of each Shul and corner of town, walking through the door, to learn how to better control their use of technology. Each person’s needs are unique and specific to their life and job, but we all have the same goal, to make sure that we control our technol ogy and not vice versa. The dedicated TAG volunteers filtered over 220 de vices (nearly as many devices as get filtered in two months)!
TAG Baltimore is available to help with all of your technology needs. Please do not hesitate to reach out to them at 410-449-1824 or email help@ tagbaltimore.org. The office is open five nights a week, please visit tagbal timore.org to schedule an appoint ment.
abbi Chesky Tenenbaum, Jewish Uniformed Service Association of Maryland director and Police Chaplain, officiated today at the Shomrim Society of Maryland 30 year memorial service for the late Baltimore Police officer Ira Weiner, z’l, who was killed in the line of duty in 1992. The presentation of colors was presented by the Baltimore Police Honor Guard.
There were several vendors from New York and New Jersey who par ticipated in the expo. SafeCell, who sold kosher smartphones and flip phones, gave advice and assistance to a constant crowd of customers. Green touch Kosher Devices, a popular ven dor selling high quality kosher MP3 devices had an array of options for great prices and significant discounts.
Shomrim Society of Maryland 30 year Memorial Service for the Late Baltimore Police officer
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With the upcoming High Holi days approaching, what is the police department doing to keep people safe?
What made you decide to be come a police officer?
What is the most rewarding thing
things for us as an agency. In addi tion to adjusting our daily operations, our police officers provided support at food sites, testing sites and later, vaccination sites. We also had to ad just how we traditionally engaged with members of the community. All
Since becoming Chief in 2019, we identified several areas where a more robust and intentional deployment would increase the safety and security of the community during the high hol idays. This includes increasing patrols and bringing in additional resources.
Tell us about your career and how you ended up as Chief?
enjoyed this new role and learned a lot, but I missed police work. When I heard about the opportunity to become Chief of Police in the county where I grew up, I jumped at the opportunity and a little more than three years later, here I am.
Melissa Hyatt, Baltimore
about your role as police chief?
I joined the Baltimore City Police Department after graduating from the University of Delaware. I retired as a Colonel after a more than 20-year ca reer. I then went to work in the private sector as the Vice President of Secu rity for Johns Hopkins Medicine and Johns Hopkins University. I really
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My father was a police officer in the Baltimore City Police Department for 31 years. I can remember as a young child, watching him in his uni form getting ready to leave the house for work. I was always interested in law enforcement and knew that was the career path I wanted to follow.
We are very fortunate that in our region, law enforcement works collab oratively throughout the course of the year with our local, state, and federal law enforcement partners. In addition to our deployment, we will continue to share information and work closely with our public safety partners within the community.
I am incredibly proud of the work our police officers do on a daily ba sis. What is most rewarding to me is seeing their efforts paying off in such positive ways throughout all of Balti more County. Whether it’s crime pre
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I help synagogues, day schools and Jewish organizations with security assessments, and emergency planning. I also assist them with their applications for security grants from MEMA (Maryland Emergency Management Agency) and FEMA (Federal Emergency Management Agency).
This year, we met with local law enforcement to discuss the best ways to ensure our community’s safety during the High Holidays. We work with them on their deployment plans, which include bringing in foot patrols. I’m also available during the high holidays, if there are questions or concerns that need to be addressed immediately.
It’s High Holiday time again, and for the past month, Keith Tiedemann, The Associated’s Director of Security, has closely collaborated with local police departments to make sure our synagogues remain safe. Yet, although this is a busy period, his work doesn’t end here. For Tiedemann, protecting the Jewish community is a year-round job. A former major with the Baltimore Police Department, Tiedemann talks about how The Associated, through the Baltimore Jewish Council (BJC), is protecting our Jewish organizations.
What is the BJC’s role during the High Holidays?
Anything else?
We are fortunate to have great relationships with the law enforcement community. They are true partners, who respond quicky and effectively to any concerns we have. I cannot thank them enough for their role in keeping the Jewish community safe and secure.
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(JFNA) partners with the Department of Homeland Security and the Secure Community Network (SCN) to ensure the safety of Jewish organizations in the U.S. They will alert us if they hear of a threat. I then have more than 300 people on my emergency response list – a list that includes synagogues, schools, organizations like the Northwest Citizen’s Patrol and Shomrim Baltimore and local law enforcement – and I make sure everyone is aware of what is going on.
Part of my job involves overseeing security and setting up trainings for the security professionals throughout The Associated system, which includes both JCCs (Park Heights and Owings Mills), CHAI and the Myerberg Center. The bulk of what I do is providing security assessments and trainings to synagogues, day schools and other Jewish organizations across the state. Last year, I worked with nearly 200 Jewish organizations.
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Through BJC’s advocacy work, we secured significant security funding to combat terror. This year we received a big increase in grants to help our Jewish organizations. FEMA and MEMA awarded more than $8 million in federal and state grants to religious institutions, schools and childcare centers at risk of hate crimes. I’m always available to consult with organizations to help them secure this funding.
What happens if there is a threat in our community? The Jewish Federations of North America
Yet the Jewish community’s safety doesn’t end with the holidays.
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Speaking with U.S. reporter Lesley Stahl on CBS’s “60 Min utes,” Raisi also said he couldn’t trust the United States in the nu clear talks and called Washing ton’s sanctions “tyrannical,” days before he headed to New York to take part in the UN General As sembly.The interview with Raisi, who took power last year, was conduct ed last Tuesday at the presidential compound in Tehran.
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In response to Raisi’s re marks, Israel’s President Isaac Herzog tweeted a photograph he said he keeps on his desk of Ho locaust survivor Dora Dreiblatt Eisenberg’s forearm, tattooed with her prisoner identification
In an interview that was aired on Sunday, Iranian President Ebrahim Raisi raised eyebrows when he doubted the Holocaust.
Throughout the year, 177,000 babies were born in Israel.
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“I was told how to dress, not to sit before he did, and not to inter rupt him,” she Additionally,said.at the end of the hour-long interview, the U.S. net work’s team was surprised when “a member of Raisi’s staff reached up and blocked one of our cam eramen from shooting our good byes.” CBS added that “another one of our cameramen’s phone was confiscated and held by Pres ident Raisi’s security team for two and a half Duringhours.”theinterview, Stahl asked Raisi: “Do you believe the Holocaust happened? That 6 mil lion Jews were slaughtered?”
Asked about the difference between the Biden and Trump administrations, Raisi said, “The new administration in the U.S., they claim that they are different from the Trump administration. They have said it in their messag es to us. But we haven’t witnessed any changes in reality.”
“That’s the type of the actions that the Americans and Zionist regimes are doing in the world — we are not going to carry out the same actions,” he claimed, even though the U.S. government has charged a Revolutionary Guard member with planning such an assassination.
Asked whether he supports Israel’s right to exist, Raisi said, “You see, the people of Palestine are the reality. This is the right of the people of Palestine who were forced to leave their houses and motherland. The Americans are supporting this false regime there to take root and to be established there.”Asked about the Abraham Ac cords, which have seen multiple Arab nations normalize their ties with Jerusalem, the Iranian pres ident replied, “If a state shakes hands with the Zionist regime, then they are also an accomplice to their crimes. And they are stab bing the very idea of Palestine in the Elsewhereback.” during the inter view, Raisi said that while his country wants “justice to be served” for the killing of its Quds Force terror chief Qassem Solei mani in a U.S. airstrike in 2020, it won’t retaliate by assassinating officials in former U.S. president Donald Trump’s administration.
Ahead of Rosh Hashana, Isra el’s population stands at just over 9.5 million residents, the Central Bureau of Statistics (CBS) said in data released on Tuesday.
Stahl was prepped on how to conduct himself. He had to wear a headscarf when meeting with the Iranian leader
Raisi answered that “historical events should be investigated by researchers and historians. There are some signs that it happened. If so, they should allow it to be in
Among Jews aged 20 and over in Israel, 45.3 percent define themselves as secular, 19.2% tra ditional but not very observant, 13.9% are traditional-religious, 10.7% are religious, and 10.5% are charedi.Thepopulation of Israel grew by around 187,000 people since Rosh Hashana 2021, at a rate of 1.8%, a slight increase on last year.
According to the statistics, 9.593 million people live in the country. Of those, 7.069 million (74 percent) are Jewish, 2.026 million (21%) are Arab, and 498,000 (5%) are neither.
The population is expected to reach 10 million by the end of 2024, around 15 million by 2048, and 20 million by the end of 2065.
Stahl then said: “So you’re not sure; I’m getting that you’re not sure.” Raisi didn’t challenge that conclusion.Iranian leaders have a long history of Holocaust denial and Holocaust revisionism.
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vestigated and researched.”
Life expectancy for men in Israel stood at 80.5 years and for women 84.6 years.
The past year also saw the ar rival of around 59,000 new im migrants to Israel — a jump com pared to previous years, fueled by Russia’s invasion of Ukraine.
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In 1948, when the Jewish state was established, the population of Israel numbered 806,000 peo ple. Since then, 3.3 million people have immigrated to the country, the CBS said.
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“We are going into proper, positive bilateral relations that have a wide range of activities, but we know that there are points we don’t agree on,” she said. “We know we are not going
Lapid visited Ankara as foreign minister in June, where he met with his Turkish counterpart Mevlut Cavusoglu. After the high-level talks aimed at cementing the countries’ rapprochement, Lapid hailed security cooperation with Turkey in helping foil an Iranian plot to kidnap or kill Israeli nationals in Istanbul.
number. Dreiblatt Eisenberg’s arm is shown being held by that of her in fant great-granddaughter Daniella Har-Tzvi, against a background of the Israeli national flag.
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Israel was a long-time regional ally of Turkey, before a 2010 commando raid on the Gaza-bound Mavi Marma ra, part of a blockade-busting flotilla, left 10 Turkish activists dead in a vio
Irit Lillian, a senior diplomat who has played a key role in Israel-Turkey reconciliation, will serve as the next ambassador to Turkey, the Foreign Ministry announced this week.
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“Whoeverbeing. lies and denies the pain ful and solid truth of history easily lies today, and will naturally lie in the fu ture,” Kohavi added. “This is another reminder that such people should not be allowed to possess any capacity of any kind for development of weapons of mass destruction.”
“From the beginning, it was clear that we were building a process in which we agree to disagree,” Lillian – who was previously Israel’s am bassador to Bulgaria and also served as acting ambassador in Australia told The Times of Israel during an August interview.
Yair Lapid is slat ed to meet with Turkish leader Recep Tayyip Erdogan on the sidelines of the United Nations General Assembly in New York on Tuesday. He is set to speak at the assembly on Thursday.
Lillian has been Israel’s charge d’affaires in Ankara since February 2021, during which time both sides have moved slowly to restore full dip
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In 2018, Turkey recalled its am bassador and asked Israel’s to leave in protest of Israel’s response to rioting on the Gaza border, in which dozens of Palestinians were killed.
“The numbers speak for them selves,” Herzog posted with the pho tograph.Military chief Aviv Kohavi added, during a visit to the Nazi death camp Auschwitz in Poland, saying, “You don’t have to be a historian or a re searcher to understand the horrors of the Holocaust — you have to be a hu man
Since 2018, the slot for ambassa dor to Turkey has been vacant. This week, the post is being filled.
Last month, the two sides announced that they would be restoring full diplomatic ties after two years of gradual rapprochement, which picked up pace noticeably this year with mutual visits by senior officials.
Lillian’s appointment must now be approved by the government, and – because the country is being run by a caretaker government – Israel’s at torneyPrimegeneral.Minister
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Jewish worshipers at Joseph’s Tomb in Nablus.Inthe wake of the arrests, terror groups warned the Palestinian Au thority of the consequences of the op eration, and demanded the immediate release of the men.
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The two men detained by Palestin ian security services were named as Musab Shtayyeh and Ameed Tbaileh — members of Hamas wanted by Is rael.The two were said to have been top targets in the wake of the killing of AlAqsa Martyrs Brigades commander Ibrahim Nabulsi by Israeli troops during an operation last month.
53-year-old Firas Yaish was the person killed. According to Palestin ian reports, the Palestinian was a by stander and was shot in the head.
Shtayyeh was part of an armed squad called the Nablus Battalion or Nablus Lions, the Haaretz daily re ported. The report said he was sus pected of involvement in recent shoot ing attacks against Israeli forces and
into Long Beach, CA, one of the major ports in the Unit ed States, have now fallen for two months. Similarly, the port of Los Angeles registered the biggest decline
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“The authority has positioned it self as an exclusive agent of the occu pation (Israel) in the face of our Pales tinian people,” the statement said.
Israeli security officials have warned in recent months that the PA is losing control of the northern West Bank, including Nablus.
Hamas issued a statement warning the PA security services against carry ing out actions on behalf of Israel.
of two members of the Hamas terror group in the West Bank city of Nablus.
Some of the protesters had report edly set fire to tires and fired into the air. The unrest persisted through the morning, with hundreds of youths hurling rocks at PA armored vehicles and the sound of gunfire ringing out across the Nablus city center.
“This is a new stain on the [Pales tinian] Authority and the black record of its security coordination,” the ter ror group said in a statement.
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U.S. ports are beginning to see relief from the backlog that they ex perienced during the pandemic and beyond.Imports
With Israel seemingly deadlocked politically and entering its fifth elec tion in under four years, potential prime ministers have pinned hopes on pushing smaller parties to unite, keeping likely supporters from falling below the Netanyahu,hump. who is gunning to regain the premiership after being knocked out of power in June 2021, is currently polling more strongly than Lapid, but neither has been seen to have a clear-cut path to power.
One person was killed on Tuesday when protesters clashed with Pales tinian security services over the arrest
A PA official told The Times of Is rael that the chances Ramallah’s se curity forces will be able to continue carrying them out without the ad vancement of a diplomatic initiative to end the conflict with Israel “get small er by the day.”
Overall, grocery prices jumped 13.5%. Eating out? Restaurant menu prices increased 8%.
Meat and poultry also grew cost lier. Chicken prices jumped 16.6%, while meats rose 6.7%. Fruits and veg etables were up 9.4%.
Bexar County Sheriff Javier Sala zar is attempting to take on Florida Governor Ron DeSantis. The Demo crat from Texas says he is opening an investigation into the two flights of migrants sent to Martha’s Vineyard this week by the Republican governor. It’s unclear, though, what laws could have been broken by putting 48 Ven ezuelans on private planes from San
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The most recent data show U.S. consumer spending and retail sales rising at a sluggish pace, a sign that the highest inflation numbers in al most four decades are starting to take its toll on the economy. Ports had for months been overwhelmed by an influx of goods that triggered sup ply-chain logjams and delivery delays, but that is showing signs of abating due to logistics improvements and as interest-rate increases are starting to coolLongdemand.Beach is among 29 ports on the U.S. West Coast awaiting the out come of labor talks between the Inter national Longshore and Warehouse
Food Prices Soar
Food prices are hard for consum ers to grapple with because everyone needs to eat. Still, people are trying to shop smarter. Sales of frozen dinners and entrees have fallen about 11% by volume in August compared to the year prior. Cookie volumes and vol umes of refrigerated juices fell nearly 9% and about 8%, respectively, in that period. Lower-income households in particular are skipping items like juice, snacks and candy.
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leased last Tuesday by the Bureau of LaborAmericansStatistics.browsing the super market aisle will notice most food items are far more expensive than they were a year ago. Egg prices soared 39.8%, while flour got 23.3% more expensive. Milk rose 17%, and the price of bread jumped 16.2%.
The employees have been working without a contract since their pre vious pact expired July 1. Both sides have vowed to avoid a repeat of the 2014 negotiations, which resulted in the U.S. facing nine months of disrup tions and shipping delays that only ended after the Obama administra tionLongintervened.Beach Mayor Robert Gar cia said he’s “hopeful and optimistic” there won’t be major work stoppages stemming from the ongoing labor ne gotiations.
Union – which represents 22,000 dockworkers – and the Pacific Mari time Association, negotiating on be half of more than 70 employers.
Food costs spiked 11.4% over the past year, the largest annual increase since May 1979, according to data re
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in inbound cargo since the early days of the Covid-19 pandemic in August. Together, the twin operations handle about 40% of containerized trade with Asia.“You’re going to start seeing the economy cool down a little bit,” Port of Long Beach Executive Director Mario Cordero said in an interview on Bloomberg Television on Monday. “We expect some diminishment in what we’ve seen in this consumer de mand in the last year and a half.”
Your grocery bill is now way higher than it was last year – way, way high er.
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there is some criminal activity involved here,” Salazar said. “But at present we are trying to keep an open mind and we are going to in
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“Nobody wants them, so no deal, no negotiations and more sanc tions against government,” she said. Sheila is one of 16 plaintiffs who have brought a lawsuit against Rai si for his involvement in the “death commission.”
The migrants were in Martha’s Vineyard for 44 hours before they were whisked away by authorities. Residents of the exclusive enclave said there was no place to shelter them.
Thousands of people – perhaps even 30,000 people – were slaugh tered by the Iranian regime in 1988 during the “death commission,” a five month period of executions of political
week despite his alleged involve ment in the commission.
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The lawsuit, filed in the Southern District of New York, charges Raisi with genocide, crimes against human
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Sheila, a survivor, told Fox News, that the U.S. should not try to make any kind of deal with Iran, which she said is “killing people in the streets.”
vestigate to find out what exact laws were broken if that does turn out to be the case.”
He said a Latina woman ap proached migrants at a city-run shel ter in San Antonio and put them up at a nearby La Quinta Inn, where she visited daily with food and gift cards.
Some Democrats have urged the Justice Department to investigate the flights, including California Gov. Gavin Newsom and U.S. Rep. Joaquin Castro, whose district includes San Antonio.Fornow, it’s hard to say that there is a case in court for migrants who boarded the buses willingly.
As the U.N. proceedings begin, the Organization of Iranian Ameri can Communities (OIAC) filled Dag Hammarskjold Park, which sits just across the street from the United Nations building in New York City, with 2,000 photos of victims of the commission. Amnesty International cited between 4,500 and 5,000 men, women and children killed in pris ons across Iran, but a former depu ty of the Ayatollah later claimed as many as 30,000 may have died.
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DeSantis’ office responded with a statement that said the migrants had been given more options to succeed in Massachusetts.“Immigrants have been more than willing to leave Bexar County af ter being abandoned, homeless, and ‘left to fend for themselves,’” DeSan tis spokesperson Taryn Fenske said. “Florida gave them an opportunity to seek greener pastures in a sanctuary jurisdiction that offered greater re sources for them, as we expected.”
prisoners. Many were tortured before their deaths, which have been called a political purge. Because so many peo ple were killed, people were lifted up by forklifts to be hanged by cranes in groups of six. The Iranian regime has consistently denied the killings.
Now, the survivors of the death wave are speaking out and express ing their outrage over witnessing Iranian President Ebrahim Raisi attend and speak to the U.N. this
She promised jobs and three months of housing in Washington, New York, Philadelphia and Boston, according to Henriquez.Salazar said the migrants had been “preyed upon” and “hoodwinked.”
The Venezuelan migrants who were flown to the wealthy Massachusetts is land from San Antonio on Wednesday said they were told they were going to Boston. Julio Henriquez, an attorney who met with several migrants, said they “had no idea of where they were going or where they were.”
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He added, “The display shows he was involved in killing 30,000 prisoners, many of them members of MEK and other groups. He was involved in suppressing Iranian peo ple for years and years, so we tell the world he does not represent the Ira nian people. The people want regime change,” he continued.
Swarms of the invasive insect first appeared in the U.S. in 2014 in Penn sylvania. But now, the bugs have in fested 14 states on the East Coast and in the Midwest: Pennsylvania, Con necticut, Delaware, Indiana, Mary land, Massachusetts, Michigan, New
“Ourresponsible.message is that Raisi is a murder,” Nasser Sharif, president of the California Society for Democracy in Iran, said. “He does not belong in the United Nations. He doesn’t repre sent Iranian people.”
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ity, extrajudicial killings and torture, among other crimes. The lawsuit relies on the Alien Tort Statute and Torture Victim Protection Act to try holding Raisi
“You saw the picture of Masha Amini, she was killed three days ago by Iranian security forces. There’s an outcry inside Iran as we speak. People are demonstrating against the gov ernment as we speak… saying ‘Death to Raisi,’” he said. “We are just echo ing Iranian people’s desires, as far as regime change and a having a demo cratic, non-nuclear Iran.”
The spotted lanternfly, originating from China, is now appearing across the United States.
The letter went on to detail a num ber of new directives Starbucks was implementing to ensure the safety of employees, such as “robust safe ty training,” “modifying operations,” like closing restrooms, and benefits to support employees’ mental health.
Prior to the closure of the shop, Starbucks sent out a letter to store owners discussing safety.
“You’ve been open and honest with us about your experience – from what you need to feel your best at work, to the many inspirational and heart felt examples of how you are creating memorable moments for one another and our customers,” the letter said. “With stores in thousands of com munities across the country, we know these challenges can, at times, play out within our stores too. We read ev ery incident report you file – it’s a lot.”
being infected could cost the country millions of dollars: in New York alone, the wine and grape industry is worth $6.65 billion.
Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Rhode Island, Virginia, and West Virginia.
America, and every day, our part ners witness the challenges facing our communities – challenges to personal safety and security, racism, a growing mental health crisis, and issues mag nified by COVID. These challenges play out within our stores – affecting our partners, our communities, and our customers alike,” Jeffries said.
“Our stores are windows into
Murders Spike in New Orleans
The closure of the store comes as New Orleans has faced an increase in the number of homicides, making it the murder capital of the U.S. Ac cording to data from the Major Cities Chiefs Association (MCCA), homi cides have risen in a number of U.S. cities, including New Orleans, over the past year.
New Orleans is now the murder capital of the nation – and Starbucks doesn’t want to be there.
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If allowed to spread across the U.S., they could decimate important trees from over 70 species, including almond, grapes, apple, peach, maple, oak, willow, and pine. When the in sects infest a tree, they suck the flu ids from the plant tissue, which can eventually kill the plant. These trees
Some states, including Delaware and New York, are encouraging resi dents to stomp on and kill the bugs if they spot them.
“I’ve seen lanternflies build to pop ulations where you can’t even see the bark of the tree through the insect bodies,” Emilie Swackhamer, a plant science expert at Penn State Exten sion in Collegeville, Pennsylvania, said. “It’s unnerving because you won der what that’s doing to the health of the tree.”
Sam Jeffries, a spokesperson for Starbucks, told WWL-TV in New Orleans that the popular coffee chain location on Canal Street was deter mined to be a “high incident store” and closed recently.
The spotted lanternfly only mea sures around 1 inch. It has character istic gray forewings with black spots, and red hindwings also with black spots. They feed on a wide range of fruit, ornamental and woody trees, according to the U.S. Department of Agriculture Animal and Plant Health Inspection Service (APHIS).
In addition to data from the MCCA, the New Orleans Metropolitan Crime Commission reported a rise in homicides.“Homicides are now up 44% com pared with 2021,” the commission said in a crime data report ending on September 18. It also said in a previ ous report that as of September 11, the city had at least 205 homicides, which is “an increase of 141% compared with
2019 and 46% compared with last year to date.”According to an analysis of data from the Wall Street Journal, New Orleans has the highest homicide of any city in the U.S. There are 41 homi cides per 100,000 residents in the city.
Signs a tree that has been affected by the lanternflies include oozing or weeping, a fermented odor, a buildup of sticky honeydew, and sooty mold visible on the plant.
ras olam, today is the birthday of the world.” However, as we know, the world was actually created on the 25th of Elul. (Midrash Rabbah , Devarim) Rosh Hashana was the day not of creation’s genesis, but of the origin of Man, as well as his swift failure to align with the ideal for which he was created – the sin of the Eitz HaDaas. The tzaddikim teach that the way in which the first man and woman were created holds a deep secret that touches on the very premise of their existence and the emanation of the physical realm.
On the surface, this event seems tragic, perhaps even barbaric. What a heart-wrenching scene! Can you imag ine how Adam and Chava, conscious of their sudden sep arateness, must have felt in their new state of disunity?
As the summer comes to a close and we approach the threshold of a new year, we are gifted a pe riod of reflection, a unique time of introspection. The very name “Rosh Hashana” implies that this special day is bound up with the “rosh,” the head, and its capacity for meaningful cognition. More broadly, Tosafos (Rosh Ha shana 27a) synthesize the contrasting opinions of Rebbe Eliezer and Rebbe Yehoshua regarding the date of the world’s creation by teaching that although the world was created in Nissan, Tishrei captures the energy of the mo ment the Primordial Thought arose in Hashem’s Mind to create the world; the formative spark that preceded the creative action. Before launching into the next 12-month cycle with which our all-too-brief time on this earth are marked, Rosh Hashana grants us the opportunity to pause, to think deeply about the purpose of our pas sionate pursuits, to turn inward and assess the degree of our alignment with the underlying ideals upon which our lives are founded. In this essay, with Hashem’s help, we will endeavor to explore a foundational perspective on some of life’s most important questions through the lens of the glorious day of Rosh Hashana itself. In the Rosh Hashana davening, we say, “Hayom ha
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As troubling as this problem is, it becomes magnified when we understand the wider significance of this event. In addition to the historical reality of Adam and Cha va’s existence, the first man and woman are interpreted as symbols for all masculine and feminine energies in their manifold expressions throughout the entirety of existence. Chief among these expressions, of course, is the relationship between Hashem and His nation, Am Yisrael, who are compared to lovers throughout Shir HaShirim and as bride and groom in the context of Matan Torah (see Rashi to Devarim 33:2, and Taanis 26b). Looking back at the “nesirah,” the sundering apart, that produced the separate beings of Adam and Chava through this new, more expansive lens (see Zohar Vol. 3, 132b), we naturally grow all the more confused. For what purpose did Hashem choose to create the illusion in
How much they must have yearned for the total oneness they previously experienced? Can you imagine the sense of loss and incompleteness they must have experienced as only half a picture when they had had previously re flected the image in all of its glory? The question begs: How could the infinitely compassionate Creator be so cruel to the crowning jewel of his creation?
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Chazal reveal (Berachos 61a, Bereishis Rabbah 8a, Zohar Shemos 55a) that, originally, Adam and Chava were created as a single being, unified at the back and facing away from one another. After breathing life into this human, named “Adam,” Hashem placed it in a deep slumber (the “tardeimah,” described in Bereishis 2:21) and proceeded to saw the halves apart in a process re ferred to as the “nesirah,” producing two separate beings – the male “Adam” and the female “Chava.”
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and begin to seek personal gain, “varied calculations” instead of the joy of “straightness,” “Ul’yishrei lev, sim cha.” (Tehillim 97:11)
The progression of events during the sixth day of Cre ation and the speed with which Adam and Chava failed seem quite discouraging. Reflecting upon this almost immediate descent into spiritual ruin causes us to won der. Is it possible that the opportunity to live in align ment with the purpose of Creation and relate to Hashem face to face is eclipsed by the challenge of our illusory independence? Is it possible that we are simply unable to leverage our situation as individual beings outfitted with a separate consciousness and freedom of choice in order to grow close to Hashem? Perhaps the draw toward egotistic pursuits and physical gratification is simply too powerful!
We are all familiar with the various mnemonics for which the word “Elul ” may be seen to represent. “Ani L’Dodi V’Dodi Li ” and “Es Levovcha V’es Levav ” are among the more famous of these rashei teivos, but there are many others as well. One of the most unique, which I heard from my father, shlita, is found in an unlikely place: the bracha of Asher Yatzar.
In Asher Yatzer, we say, “Im yipasei’ach echad mei’hem, oh yisaseim echad meihem, ee efshar l’hiska yeim v’laamod lifanecha afilu sha’ah achas – if one of them (the bodily cavities) were to be punctured, or if one of them were to be sealed, it would be impossible for us to exist and to stand before You.” Now, if we drop the word “ ee,” and select only the words “Efshar l’hiskayeim v’laa mod lifanecha, It is indeed possible to exist and to stand before You!” we find another set of four words whose opening letters spell “Elul”.
The days of Elul, which culminate in the recalibration and existential clarity of Rosh Hashana, echo with this foundational message: “Efshar l’hiskayeim” – despite the challenges involved, it is indeed possible to exist with a separate consciousness, having been sawed away from your essence in Hashem and placed within a physical universe seemingly detached from the spiritual realm, and yet “v’laamod lifanecha” – to stand before You, Hashem, using all of life an opportunity to encounter You, face to face.
which a part of Himself, a “cheilek Eloka m’maal,” would perceive itself as a separate consciousness – existing as an autonomous being experiencing life in an indepen dent realm? Wouldn’t it have been better for our collec tive national soul, “Knesses Yisrael,” which manifests within each Jewish individual (represented by Chava), to have remained part and parcel of the infinite light of Hashem (represented by Adam), subsumed within His Being? In more direct terms, what is the ultimate pur pose of Creation and Am Yisrael’s role within it?
around and engaging with Hashem, we soon begin pur suing a variety of different goals, making calculations that do not align with our grand mission. This funda mental error is encapsulated within every cheit, every sin, which involves man prioritizing his own will over the Will of Hashem, choosing to face the world instead of using the human condition as a tool which enables him to turn around to face his Creator. Indeed, the word “cheit ” literally means “to miss” – to turn away from the “yashrus” with which Hashem created us and veer off our charted path into the labyrinth of “varied calcu lations.”
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granted us the gift of recalibration, an opportunity to recapture the sense of “yashrus ” with which we were created. Before launching into a new year with all the facets of experience the future holds, we pause to re connect with the premise of all, the prayer with which all of our pursuits in the physical realm are intended to reverberate: “Our G-d and the G-d of our forefathers, reign over the entire universe in Your Glory, be exalted over the entire world in Your Splendor… let everything that has been made know that You are its Maker, let ev erything that has been molded understand that You are its Molder, and let everything with a life’s breath in its nostrils exclaim: ‘Hashem, G-d of am Yisrael, is King, and His Kingship rules over everything!’” (Shemoneh Esrei for Rosh Hashana)
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As a result of the ostensibly tragic concealment of Hashem’s Presence and distancing from us, we are grant ed the opportunity to engage with the created world in accordance with the guidelines and perspectives of the Torah, encountering Hashem and forging an even deeper level of unity. This, then, is perhaps the underpinning of the entire Jewish enterprise: it is our task, duty, and privilege to use our apparent independence for the pur pose of willfully and joyously “turning ourselves around” to construct a deep and direct relationship with our Cre ator.Unfortunately, the circumstances that afford us this great opportunity also present a grave challenge. Ironi cally, should we so choose, the independence of our in dividual consciousness can enable us to connect with Hashem in a way that is face to face; it also makes it possible for a Jew to fall prey to the illusion and continue marching in the opposite direction. Freedom to choose, the benchmark of our individuality, can quickly become slavery to egotistic gratification, the deification of our sense of self. Indeed, the pasuk tells us that while “G-d created Man straight, they sought our varied calcula tions.” (Koheles 7:29) Formed for the purpose of using our independence for the singular purpose of turning
The tzaddikim explain that the same is true about the relationship between the Jewish nation and their Source, the Infinite One. In their pre-creation state, Am Yisrael were one with Hashem, “kudsha b’rich hu v’Yisrael kulo chad.” However, this ultimate unity produced a state of annihilating nullification so great that the Jewish soul was bereft of the capacity to perceive Hashem. Absorbed within Him, we were so entirely overwhelmed by His Presence that we couldn’t possibly grasp His Glory. When Hashem constricted His Essence and made room for a seemingly separate creation within which human beings with an apparently independent consciousness could abide, this “sawing apart” afforded the Jewish soul with the remarkable ability to turn themselves around and gaze into the eyes of Hashem like the two keruvim atop the Aron who capture this relationship, meeting face to face. (See Zohar, Vol. 3, 44b.)
On Rosh Hashana, we are permeated by an infusion of Hashem’s belief in our ability to fulfill the purpose of Creation. As the cry of “HaMelech” fills our souls, we find ourselves repositioned on the path of our essential holiness, our wanderings a thing of the past. Looking up from our siddur with tear-filled eyes, we find our selves enveloped by the majesty of Hashem’s Presence, the depth of His Desire to bond with us, to express His Love for us face-to-face. And we, too, are reminded that no matter the odds, and come what may, we can suc ceed, we shall succeed – “netzach Yisrael lo yeshakeir.” (Shmuel I, 15:29)
Wishing all of Am Yisrael a kesiva v’chasimcha tova and a gut gebentchte yohr!
The answer to this existential question is as fun damental as it is deep. It is certainly true that as a single conjoined being, Adam and Chava en joyed an incredible degree of closeness. But as close as they were, this level of intimacy was limited and could bear no fruit; connected at the back, Adam and Chava could never see each other face to face. Paradoxically, it was their physical detachment that allowed for a far deeper connection to be forged, that opened vistas of depth, passion, and understanding that could have never otherwise been achieved.
As the introduction of sin into creation, Adam and Chava’s eating from the Eitz HaDaas Tov V’Ra is the root of all subsequent deviations from the will of Hashem. Only a few hours after their creation and emblematic separation from one another, Adam and Chava are un able to maximize on the opportunity afforded them by their circumstances. Instead of collectively serving as an “eizer k’negdo,” “helping” Hashem to reveal His G-dli ness in the lower realms and thus perceiving, relating to, and achieving intimacy with Him in the deepest possible way, they stumble over the challenge inherent to the ego
Rosh Hashana is the shining re sponse to this bleak sentiment.
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On the very day of both Chava’s creation and humani ty’s first disastrous encounter with the ego, Hashem has
Looking up from our siddur with tear-filled eyes, we find ourselves enveloped by the majesty of Hashem’s Presence, the depth of His Desire to bond with us, to express His Love for us face-to-face.
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In choosing this course of deceit, Yehuda failed the test of leadership causing himself to “go down” (Bereishis 38:1) in the eyes of his brothers and es sentially become the first member of the family to be sent into “galus.”
With this willingness to acknowl edge the truth, Yehuda, the first Jew to enter galus, was declared to become the father of the Moshiach, the final, ulti mate heralder of geulah.
hy is it that emes is consid ered one of Hashem’s 13 fa mous characteristics of com passion? After all, it would seem that truth might often lead to precisely the opposite. Truth can often reveal individ uals’ darkest motivations and actions, generating harsh judgment and criti cism from those around them. And yet, we find truth front and center in Jewish law and liturgy, dotted throughout the Yamim Noraim davening, detailed and codified down to minutia in Jewish law. Bnei Yisrael’s identity is interwoven in the fabric of peace and truth.
When analyzing why Yehuda didn’t suggest lifting Yosef out of the pit and returning him to their father unharmed,
It is being truthful to others – and even more importantly, to ourselves –that will unlock our ability to under stand, empathize, and offer compassion for others. However, we all know that the lofty idea of emes is challenging to practice, especially once we have been negligent, spiteful, and committed wrongdoing.Evenone of the originators of the twelve Shevatim of Israel, the great Yehuda, found himself in a truth quan dary. Bereishis 38:1 says, “And it was at that time, that Yehuda went down from his brothers…” Rashi comments there that the idea that Yehuda “went down” is that his prestige declined in his brother’s eyes after Yehuda told them to sell their brother Yosef. This decline oc curred when they realized it would have been better to just come clean to their father Yaakov and tell him the truth about what had transpired between them and their brother.
huda” because “this time, I will thank (modeh) G-d.” But perhaps we now have a complementary insight to the name of Yehuda. The word “modeh” can mean “to thank,” but it can also mean “to ad mit” or “to acknowledge.” By acknowl edging that he is the father of Tamar’s unborn child, he performs an act of “ac knowledgment” or “admission.”
Jews are called “Yehudim,” Jews. We are named after Yehuda. Collectively, it is incumbent upon us to live up to our name. Surely, we should be thankful (“modeh ”) to Hashem for the many blessings we have. That is easy. But let us not forget that sometimes, no matter how painful or difficult, no matter what the ramifications, we should be willing to face up to our own truths.
On the Yamim Noraim, we strive to identify what choices have fostered truth in our lives over the past year and what choices have not. We seek out be haviors that will bring us closer to our true purpose in the world and the bar riers in our way, what caused us to hurt others and do wrong, and what has im proved our relationships and aided us in doing good. Truth can act as a beacon of light and thereby bring compassion, but only if we choose to view it as a purify ing element.
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Sparks of Light
Bringing the Truest You to the Yamim Noraim
This revelation sheds new light on Yehuda’s name. The Torah tells us that Leah gave her fourth son the name “Ye
it’s possible that Yehuda was afraid to face the truth. He was scared that if Yo sef would return to his father, he would undoubtedly tell Yaakov the entire grue some story of the pit and the maltreat ment at the hand of his close kin, thus damning the brothers and especially Yehuda in the process. Better to cover up the story by silencing Yosef, by mak ing him disappear before he could turn the other brothers in for their misdeeds.
Emes has the power to heal if we let it transform us and elevate our lives, thus changing us and helping us emu late Hashem in His compassion.
And yet, this is not the end of Ye huda’s story, since we all know he lat er became the leader of the tribe, the progenitor of our nation’s kings, and the namesake of our religion, our iden
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In the uncomfortable episode with his widowed daughter-in-law Tamar, he doesn’t take the easy way out this time by lying. Instead, Yehuda emerges as the leader of the family, a person wor thy of rule, because he admits the truth to others and to himself. “She is more righteous than I,” he famously declares (Bereishis 38:26).
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tity! How does he accomplish this re markable turnaround? The answer, the hidden gemstone of the story, is that he does teshuva precisely in the area in which he sinned.
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70-year-old woman, half-conscious and not breathing. Relatives explained she had choked on a piece of chicken.
Yehuda Neikrug reflected after the incident: “As United Hatzalah volun teers, we never know when we’re going to need to respond to a medical emer gency, and we are always ready for it. This holds true even when we’re busy spending quality time with our families. There is actually no greater father and son bonding time than responding to emergencies together. Sagiv, in addition to volunteering with United Hatzalah, is an EMT in the army, and it is obvious to all that he is an extremely talented
ast weekend, a woman choked while having dinner with her fam ily in a well-known restaurant in Modi’in. Her relatives immediately alerted emergency services and were re lieved to see two United Hatzalah EMTs arrive at the scene within mere seconds.
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practitioner. Having him by my side while responding to an emergency is both moving as a father and reassuring as anDr.EMT.”Katzman explained what had brought him to volunteer with United Hatzalah: “I immigrated to Israel from Skokie, Illinois, in 2019, and for vari ous reasons I initially could only work remotely, treating American patients through telemedicine. But it was un imaginable for me to move to the coun try without contributing my know-how to Israel’s society and being part of the medical community in Israel. As a child growing up in New York, I was part of the local Hatzolah organization, and I have been involved with emergency medical services my whole life. Thus, it was obvious to me that volunteering with United Hatzalah was the perfect solution. After I started volunteering, it became clear to me that there is a great need for faster emergency medical ser vices in Modi’in. I am glad that, in this case, we were able to save this woman’s life.”
Yehuda Neikrug and his son Sagiv had been having their own Friday night dinner together when they received the alert on their communications device and were astounded to see the name of the restaurant they were sitting in as the location of the emergency. After glanc ing around, the volunteer EMTs initially thought they had received the wrong ad dress as no one seemed to be choking in the restaurant. After making themselves known to the staff of the restaurant as United Hatzalah EMTs, they were di rected to a separate room on the first floor. They quickly made their way to the room after grabbing their medical gear from the car. In the room, Yehuda and Sagiv met the woman’s panicked rel atives, who rushed them to the entrance of the bathrooms, where they found the
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The pair immediately started per forming the Heimlich maneuver, but after two unsuccessful applications of pressure on the woman’s abdomen, the septuage narian lost consciousness fully. Yehuda and Sagiv decided to initiate CPR.
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Dr Dani Katzman (right) attending to a Ukrainian refugee during one of United Hatzalah's emergency rescue flights to Israel
try while the ambulance crew was as signed the task of sedating the patient. Dr. Katzman moved the patient out of the small bathroom in order to get better access to her throat, and using special forceps, he was successful in pulling out three pieces of schnitzel that had been lodged there. He proceeded to intubate the woman’s throat while the ambulance crew provided a sedative through an in travenous line. The patient, now stable and able to inhale, was then transferred to the ambulance and evacuated to the hospital for further treatment.
Yehuda and Sagiv Neikrog
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Intensive care specialist and Unit ed Hatzalah volunteer doctor Dr. Dani Katzman was having Friday night din ner at his house with his family when he was alerted to the incident. A religious Jew, he did not hesitate to get into his car on Shabbat as the description of the case indicated that it was a life-threat ening emergency. Upon arriving at the scene, Dr. Katzman was told that the woman’s pulse had been restored thanks to the combined efforts of Ye huda, Sagiv, and other first responders, who had performed CPR. A doctor from an ambulance crew which was also at the scene was struggling to dislodge the piece of food that was stuck in the woman’s throat. Dr. Katzman took a
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“I’ve got two things to say,” I told him. “The first is that I should learn to listen to my wife,” to which he readily agreed.
I started to worry. We were flying out to New York to visit our kids, and I want ed the appointment penciled in before we left. I tried emailing, but he didn’t answer. I tried calling the hospital he worked in but got the same result.
The following morning, I took off the bandages, and within a day I was amazed at how clear the world looked. I had a fol low-up call that afternoon.
Upon entering the clinic at the Check
The Israeli health experience can of tentimes feel like a game of unnecessary risk. Why is it that the roll-out of the Covid vaccine was run like a military op eration and yet dealing with a specialist
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After he’d finished the procedure, I asked him when I could do the right eye (it was worse than the left). He told me he’d speak to me the following day when I came for a checkup. I did just that, but he wasn’t certain and asked me to contact
The point isn’t my eye. In fact, it has nothing to do with me. It’s the cavalier
Doctor Zvi was in a jovial mood. He asked me what I thought after he proudly announced I now had 20/20 vision.
“I’m here for a hair transplant. Make me Heblond.”replied almost instantly, “I’m sor ry, but if I’m taking the hair off your chest, it’s all white.”
It took me a moment to register. When I did and asked him when we could re schedule, he replied nonchalantly, “End of November.” That took me longer to register.“How do I arrange that?” I asked him.
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way business is regularly done in Israel that oftentimes has me questioning the efficacy of the system. In New York or Melbourne, the point person, the secre tary, acts as a barrier between doctors and their patients. They direct traffic. They keep calendars clutter-free. They maintain order.
He was in the middle of telling me that I had his email address when he caught himself and told me, “I’ll call you.” That had a sound of non-believability about it.
Before I knew it, I was back on the same operating table.
should have listened to my wife. A year ago, I told her about my increas ing difficulties seeing long distanc es. For months, I dismissed her pleas to make an appointment with the eye doctor in Nahariya.ItwasJune by the time I saw Doctor Zvi. He informed me I needed cataract surgery in both eyes. He initially told me he wouldn’t be able to operate until August unless there was a cancellation, which there was the following day. He called me to tell me. I was surprised to hear his voice, as I was in the naive belief his secretary would call instead.
“Ah, the drops have worked well,” said Doctor Zvi as he prepped for the opera tion. Then he went through his checklist; I was asked my name, then my personal identity number, then he asked me why I was there. I couldn’t resist.
Seeing Clearly in the Holy Land
Before I had a chance to gather my thoughts, I was lying on a bed in an op erating theater in a medical center at the Check Post in Haifa.
There are doctors in Israel who do have efficient gatekeepers, but there are those who enjoy being autonomous, and when they do, the inevitable clutter and discombobulation occurs. My eye doctor uses the occasional post-it notes to keep his appointment diary orderly, but once I left the medical center, I realized that I’d have to initiate the process of reschedul ing myself, and I recalled the day he had called me months before when he com mented, “Who are you? I don’t remember you because I have so many patients.”
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I was wearing a cloak, lying on the table. Marked above my right eye was a black cross, I was covered by a heavy sheet, they were swabbing my eye with alcohol, when the doctor walked in. He took a look at my already operated eye and said, “You’ve got an infection. I’m not operating. I’ll give you drops.”
can often boil down to a hit or miss series of negotiations?Thisallhappened on a Tuesday. I wasn’t a happy camper through the fol lowing day. Then, on Thursday morn ing, my former student WhatsApped me saying there’d been a cancellation and “would next week be okay?”
I then discovered his secretary was an ex-student of mine. I WhatsApped her. She immediately replied. It took her a couple of days to coordinate with him, but she eventually got back to me with the happy news that my second cataract pro cedure would take place a week after my return from New York, some two months after the first.
I laughed aloud. Walking outside, I caught the smell of the Mediterranean a short block away. I looked around at the tree-lined street. Nature had nev er looked so beautiful and so clear.
“The second is that she thinks I look quite handsome without glasses.”
Post in Haifa on the given date, I told the doctor that he was impossible to contact directly. When he reminded me he’d given me his email, I pointed out that were he to check his inbox, he’d find three emails from me.
him.The number he gave me took me on a circuitous route back to his recorded announcements. I tried another number, and it did the same thing. I tried calling from the private number he’d called me from, but that also went unanswered.
Doctor Zvi lifted his head and looked at me with a glint in his eye. “She thinks you look quite handsome without glass es? Tell her she ought to see me as soon as possible. She might be having trouble with her vision.”
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• Finally, one must look towards the future and resolve to never commit this same mistake again.
In essence, your job in this world is not to create yourself, but rather to rec reate yourself; to re-attain your original state of perfection, as you were shown by the malach. This time, however, it must be done through free will, by choosing to become great. Only by overcoming chal lenge and difficulty, only by asserting your willpower, can you fulfill your true potential. In essence, our entire life is a story of teshuva – returning to our origi nal, higher, and true self.
• One must then transition into the present and strongly feel the pain of their mistake, regretting it wholeheartedly;
he birth of a new year is a time of reflection and resolution, when hope and inspiration fill the air. We dream about what this upcoming year holds in store for us, how we can make the rest of our life the best of our life. We all have ideas, ambitions, and aspirations that we yearn to bring to fruition, and the new year gives us “permission” to revis it these goals and breathe new life into them. For a brief moment, everything is crystal clear, we see our purpose and our path with vivid clarity. However, there is an underlying frustration that accompa nies this time period as well. If we reflect honestly, we often realize that our new year’s resolutions are awfully similar to those of last year, and the year before, and the year before…
Rosh Hashana: The Three Stages of Teshuva
from this transcendent realm, you were birthed into the physical world with the mission to actualize everything you were shown in the womb, while in your perfect, primordial state.
We have brief moments of inspiration, but they soon fade into oblivion, only to be resuscitated for a few more days the next year in the hopes that somehow this year might be different. However, there is another option, a way to actually make this year different. By truly understand ing this time of year and fully tapping into powerful themes, we can we can turn what was previously fleeting inspiration into lasting, eternal change.
The shofar is a wake-up blast, meant to shake us from our stupor and return us to our true self. When we hear the shofar’s piercing cry, we yearn to re turn to our source, to our higher selves. The word “shofar” shares a root with “l’shaper,” to perfect and beautify. Strik ingly, it also shares a root with “mei sha fir,” the amniotic fluid which surrounds the fetus while in the womb. When we blow the shofar, we are reminded to im prove and perfect ourselves, to return to our fetal state of perfection we once knew, to return to our true selves.
turning to? The Gemara (Kiddushin 39b) explains that Hashem created teshuva before creating the world itself. What is the meaning of this enigmatic statement, and what lessons and implications does it have for us as we proceed through the teshuva process?
The Deeper Themes of Teshuva Elul and Rosh Hashanah center around the concept of teshuva, and Par shas Nitzavim is clearly linked to this theme as well. The pesukim in Nitza vim discuss the theme of teshuva, the importance of choosing life – choosing what is right and connecting ourselves back to Hashem. As Parshas Nitzavim is connected to the transition from Elul into Rosh Hashana, let us delve into the idea of Teshuvateshuva.literally means “return” –but whom, or perhaps what, are we re
The Rambam, in discussing the laws of teshuva, states that someone who re moves himself from the Jewish commu nity has no share in Olam Habah (the
This three-step guide is the practical process of teshuva. However, the essence of teshuva is the deep foundation for these three steps and understanding this essence is the key to truly transforming ourselves through these three steps.
The Rambam (Hilchos Teshuva 1:1) discusses the three-step process of te shuva:•First, one must reflect on their past and acknowledge that a problem exists;
Genuine teshuva is not just about selftransformation; it’s about self-expression, returning to your true and higher self. As the Gemara (Niddah 30b) states, while we were in the womb, we were in a perfect and transcendent state of being, and a malach teaches us kol ha’Torah kulah As the Vilna Gaon explains, this refers to the deepest realms of Torah, a transcen dent Torah that lies far beyond this world, beyond the confines of space and time. This Torah is the very root of reality, and you were granted complete understand ing of its every detail. Not only were you shown this level of Torah, but you also learned your specific share of Torah –you were shown your unique purpose in the world and how your unique role fits into the larger scheme of the human sto ry as a whole. You were given a taste of your own perfection, of what you could, should, and hopefully will become. And
There are three stages of genuine te shuva:The first is individual teshuva, where by we return to our higher selves, our fe tal selves, our true selves.
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The second stage of teshuva goes be yond the limited self, turning the focus from individual to community.
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The third stage of teshuva is return ing to our absolute root and source, to the Source of all sources, to Hashem Himself. The Nefesh Ha’Chaim refers to Hashem as the “Neshama shel nesha mos ,” the Soul of all souls. Hashem is the root of existence, the absolute root of all our souls. Our entire journey through life is about sourcing our existence back to Hashem – this is the ultimate teshuva.
Jewish history and Hashem’s covenant with the Jewish People, and Malchuyos is the process by which we crown Hash em TheKingshofar represents one’s individ ual spiritual yearning. It is a haunting, wordless cry that returns us to our high er self, our fetal self. Zichronos refers to the concept of memory, building upon this same theme. Memory represents tracing something from the present back into the past. It is an exercise in sourc ing something back to its root. On Rosh Hashana, as we discuss the Akeidah and other seminal moments in Jewish his tory, we connect back to our collective self, the root soul of all of Klal Yisrael. Malchuyos is where we crown Hashem as our Melech, our King. We declare Hashem to be the source of everything, our ultimate root.
While all three of these themes are connected to all three forms of teshuva, Shofros most deeply reflects our indi vidual teshuva, Zichronos most deeply reflects our collective teshuva back to our collective self, and Malchuyos most deeply reflects our ultimate teshuva, sourcing ourselves back to Hashem
all three forms of teshuva this Rosh Ha shana and seal ourselves in the Book of Life, the book of true existence.
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AfterTorah.obtaining his BA from Yeshiva Uni versity, he received Semicha from Yeshiva University’s RIETS, a master’s degree in ed ucation from Azrieli Graduate School, and a master’s degree in Jewish Thought from Ber nard Revel Graduate School. He then spent a year studying at Harvard as an Ivy Plus Scholar. He currently lives in Chicago with his wife and son where he is pursuing a PhD at the University of Chicago.
The three themes of the Rosh Ha shana davening are Shofros, Zichronos, and Malchuyos. Shofros relates to the blowing of the shofar, Zichronos relates to remembering seminal events from
World to Come). In other words, even if this person keeps all of Torah and mitzvos and is an upstanding Jew, if he disconnects himself from the commu nity, he loses his eternal existence. This requires explanation. After all, this per son didn’t commit a heinous or evil act; he merely chose a life of isolation. Why should this warrant such extreme pun ishment?Theanswer is profound. As human beings, we begin our lives as complete ly self-centered creatures, perceiving ourselves as isolated, separate, and dis connected from everyone else. As we progress through life, we learn to break down those walls and psychological barriers, recognizing that we are part of a bigger self, a collective self, a higher consciousness. At root, all of Klal Yis rael is one, an interconnected self. Each of our individual neshamos are part of a bigger whole, like individual cells that make up a single human body. A central aspect of the experience of Olam Habah is experiencing yourself as part of Klal Yisrael, as part of your true, collective reality. If, however, one disconnects themselves from Klal Yisrael, they have uprooted themselves from reality itself and simply cannot exist. Just as if you
We can now explain the Gemara which states that teshuva preceded Cre ation. This not merely a chronological phenomenon; this is a fundamental prin ciple: teshuva is the root of this world, all of existence is created with the purpose of returning to its source, to fully reflect its absolute root, Hashem Himself.
unplug a light bulb from its electric cir cuit, the light extinguishes, if a soul is disconnected from its root, it ceases to exist. This is not a punishment, merely a consequence.Thisisthesecond stage of teshuva, returning to our collective self, to the single soul of Klal Yisrael.
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Torah Thought
Haven’t we proven ourselves lack ing in the commitment to no longer sin by the very fact that from year to year we seem to be in the same place?
facing our personal de ficiencies, frustrated with our paltry and insincere regrets, disappointed in ourselves, leading us to hopelessness in our ability to ever repair our rela tionship between ourselves, our fellow man and Hashem.
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On Yom Kippur we make a lastditch effort at meaningful change, yet, the moment Yom Kippur is over we are right back to our old habits.
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n one of the last pre-covid community-wide events, I had the privilege of serving on a panel of Rabbonim, dear friends, in a public forum entitled ‘Considering Teshuva’.Twoof
TeshuvaConsidering
הטרח, can more aptly be translat ed as sensing a deep sense of loss, a feeling of emptiness that is “etched” into our consciousness. Only when one fathoms the relationship properly can one first fully appreciate the sense of failure.Butwe can emote a deep yearning to get closer, and a healthy ‘regret’ that we are not there yet. This passionate expression of a desire for closeness
the questions I was asked to address regarded the issues of dealing with the inevitable slumps one faces in this yearly, most daunting task of achieving repentance, and the meth ods to making lasting and meaningful kabbolos - resolutions.
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Dread, frustration, disappoint ment and despondency are just some of the emotions that begin to erupt as we face the reality and implications of YomWeKippur.dread
Perhaps our error lies in our per spective. When we view our lives on Yom Kippur as a checklist of failures and seek to undo them entirely, we are doomed. We don’t possess yet enough understanding of sin to give us a true sense of regret. That takes a lifetime of avodas Hashem.
Is it really within our ‘choice’ to change abruptly from all that we have done wrong? Some things are simply beyond our unique level of free will. Even those areas that are in our reach, have become distant from us because of our poor choices, and can’t be un done in an instant.
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There are three components to do ing הבושת, repentance: , regret, , abandoning the sin, and דיתעה , accepting to change in the Canfuture.we
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sincerely state we have regretted our sins when we consis tently return to them time and again? Regretting what we know we will in evitably continue to do compound our frustration with ourselves.
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Lastly, another ten years down the pike, I like many would receive daily the newspaper, and read up on all the ‘vital’ sections of the paper that pos sessed critical inconsequential infor mation, especially the ‘funnies’ and their story lines.
who today is a Rosh Kollel, Rav and author of sefarim, living in Israel, and made a pact to never enter a movie theater again. We never did. Although we subsequently still listened to, and saw, many things we shouldn’t have, but that ‘small’ kabbola, transformed us and sent us on a trajectory to an in spired and healthy path in life.
Once again, the echoes from my past encouragingly whispered to me, wondering how I could have become ‘hooked’ on such purposeless non sense, I quickly resolved to quit cold turkey, restoring my mind to mental sanity once again. One small step for a man, one giant leap for Hashem!
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and CD players, and for that matter cassette decks in cars, hadn’t been invented yet, and all we had was the radio for mindless entertainment. Inevitably, each time I picked him up the radio would be playing tuned to either 1010 WINS or WCBS, two news stations. Whenever he would enter the car, he would won der aloud why I had the need for the constant stream of distraction, when I didn’t seem to be attentive to it, and allowing it to play even while we con versed. Then and there, I resolved to never be tethered to mind numbing background noise and committed to become more mindful of who I was, permitting myself to think. A small kabbola with great repercussions.
Furthermore, if the resolution relates to an area, we particularly struggle with, how much more so that choice to restrain, reflects on our altered state. Reb Tzadok taught that those aspects of our life we battle with, are the targets Hashem wants us to aim at.
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There is one caveat however with this approach. In the past when we un dertook a sweeping repentance it was unrealistic and thus not fully account able. When we promise to make small pragmatic change however, we will be held fully responsible to maintain it. It is within our reach!
I do not aver to having achieved greatness, but certainly recognize how even small steps can bring you to the most remarkable destinations.
Instead of desperately trying to fo cus on undoing our ‘misdeeds’ entirely, we can try to undertake a plan to get ever closer. By taking upon ourselves to improve an area that is within our reach and doable, we begin to convey our striving for closeness with tangi ble evidence of our goal. This will en courage us rather than defeat us.
Ten years later, that same friend would visit during bein hazmanim from Israel to spend time with his fam ily in New York. I’d pick him up each day in my car and drive together to a local Bais Midrash, relishing the opportunity to once again learn with each
I remember vividly at the age of thirteen, standing in front of a movie theater together with a dear friend,
is more easily ‘etched’ into our being and provides a much healthier power of ‘regret’. The critical difference be tween the two is that this second one leaves us hopeful. It stems not from failure but rather from aspiration.
I added, that in order to make an effective commitment it is important to select something that represents our not merely being ‘better’ but that exhibits before Hashem that we have changed. Rav Hutner explains that the judgment we undergo on Rosh Ha shana determines the sum of who we are and where we are heading. It is for that reason the Rambam says its not enough to simply add credits during the Ten days of Repentance but one must do teshuva, for only a sincere desire to change the course of our life that reflects on our being transformed from the individual who stood before Hashem on Rosh Hashana, is deserv ing of reconsideration on Yom Kippur.
When I was a young teenager, I was fortunate to have inspiring role models in my life. Growing up in the early sixties, I was exposed to televi sion, movies, and a rapidly changing set of world values, that was stunning ly fresh and alluring.
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School of Thought
While many are excited, like your neighbors, some children are uneasy. Is your child enter ing a transition year (Pre1A, middle school, junior high school?) Is your child going to a new school? Is there a chance the classes will be mixed, and she is worried about not being with her friends?
6. Write or draw a story with your child about the experience coming up. You do not have to be an artist to have your child call you one! If you really can’t draw, cut pictures out of magazines, newspapers, or find pic tures online, and make your own Social Story!
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Here are some tips:
1. Don’t project your anxiety. Are you feeling anxious, and your child is picking up on those vibes? There is stress when beginning the school year. The return to routine; the expectations on the parents for supplies, snacks, lunch, and uniforms in some schools can be a lot to deal with. Anxiety can be contagious!
Dear Etti,
- Mom of an anxious child
ting the child on the spot. I used to find that time in the car was a great chance to have my child share, be cause I was not focusing on her and therefore she felt less judged and could talk freely. Washing dishes was another time that I had a different fo cus, so a younger child might stand near me or sit on the counter near me and talk and an older child might choose to dry dishes and share.
4. Do what you can to make the unfamiliar more familiar. Try to introduce your child to some other children who will be in her class, if possible. Don’t be shy; do this for your child. Chances are that the other parents will be happy you reached out! Take your child to see the school; your child might be intimidated by the new situation (preschool, junior high, high school) and just being familiar with the building will help alleviate the fear of the unknown.
8. Help your child fit in during learning time. It is hard for your child when she does not have her homework done, or he does not have the permission slip filled in. Being different than the class in this way causes anxiety. Check that your child has his/her sup plies. Supplies will need replenishing.
Mrs. Etti Siegel holds an MS in Teaching and Learning/Educational Leadership and brings sound teaching advice to her audiences culled from her over 35 years of teaching and administrative experience. She is an Adjunct at the College of Mount Saint Vincent/Sara Shenirer. She is a coach and educational consultant for Catapult Learning, is a sought-after mentor and workshop presenter around the country, and a popular presenter for Sayan (a teacher-mentoring program), Hidden Sparks, and the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools. She is a frequent contributor to Hamechanech Magazine and The Journal for Jewish Day School leaders. She will be answering your education-based questions and writing articles weekly for The Jewish Home. Mrs. Siegel can be reached at ettisiegel@gmail.com.
I couldn’t wait for school to start! The kids were home with out a schedule, and it was so hard. Now, my daughter is suddenly hav ing stomachaches, and I can’t deny that she is probably anxious about school. My neighbor can’t stop telling me how excited her kids are, but even school supply shop ping didn’t help get my daughter in the mood. How can I help her look forward to going back?
Let’s work together, home and school, to make it a stress-free school year!
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Dr. Rachel Busman, a clinical psychologist who spe cializes in anxiety, says that for most children, this ner vousness will pass. Parents should be supportive without making the anxiety worse.
2. Just listen. Find ways your children can share their thoughts and don’t dismiss their concerns or try to fix the issue they are bringing up. Often, children just want to work it out for themselves, which they do out loud with a trusted adult. You can guide them in a neutral way by repeating information back and asking them if they have any ideas on what they could do about it. Show confidence in your children’s ability to think it through. Don’t add to their anxiety with leading ques tions. “Are you worried about the lunchroom? About having Mrs. Bellings?” They might not have thought about those issues…and now they will!
3. Pick times to talk/listen that are not put
Dear Mom, You don’t say what grade your daughter is in, but being anxious for school is common for all age children!
“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.”
7. Be a partner to the teacher. If your child has an issue that the school can help with, tell the teacher when he/she calls, or con tact the school. Teachers are grateful to know of issues your child struggles within advance. This helps them understand your child quickly, instead of wasting pre cious months as he/she figures the matter out for them selves. Present the issue neutrally so the teacher does not subconsciously label your child. The teacher is doing an amazing job, teaching your child and trying to make a difference; make sure they are not working in the dark.
Jane D. Hull, Governor of Arizona (1997–2003), Sec retary of State of Arizona (1995–1997), famously said: “At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.”
5. Read some stories about starting school with your anxious preschooler. I Go to School by Rikki Benefield is an example of a “social story” that is calming for children. Social Stories are stories that help a child know what a situation will look like, feel like, and helps children understand what is expected of them in the situation. Though it was developed by Carol Gray in the late 1980’s for autistic children, parents and teachers all over find that such stories help children with anxiety. You can find books about going to the dentist, going to shul, going to a zoo, and going to a wedding in your local Judaica store.
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was soon dubbed “Princess Auto Me chanic.”Queen Elizabeth became the Brit ish monarch in 1952 and by the time of her death was the colonel-in-chief of 16 British regiments and corps. Never before had a female of the royal family been an active member of the military. She was last surviving head of state to have served during World War II.
Other British royals served during the war as well. Prince Henry, Duke of Gloucester, was the fourth son of King George V and uncle of Elizabeth. Prince Henry had joined the army and spent a lot of the early war months in France boosting the morale of the troops and acting as a chief liaison officer for the commanding officer. He had been very close to the action and several times had witnessed the Nazi bombings. In one air raid in Belgium, Henry needed medical attention after being wounded when the car he was in caught fire.
Princess Elizabeth in her ATS uniform
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boat. The destroyer rammed her headon and cut her in half, which caused an explosion which killed two sailors. JFK then rallied his sailors to hang on to the remaining pieces of the boat. Then he told them to paddle towards an island, while he swam three miles to shore with the straps of the life jacket of one of his badly burned sailors in his mouth. There, they made contact with native coastwatchers and several days later were rescued by PT-157
Politicians and heads of state have to make critical military decisions while in office. Being in charge of military deci sions meant a great deal to those who knew what it meant to serve in the mil itary. While they may be known for their later careers, their military background often goes unnoticed by the public and is history that is to be remembered.
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Several American presidents served during World War II, with John F. Ken nedy and George H.W. Bush having close calls during their time in the Pa cific. Kennedy was the skipper of PT-109 on the night of August 2, 1943 while pa trolling near the Solomon Islands. The boat was approached by the Japanese destroyer Amagiri, which apparently did not see the small PT (patrol torpedo)
Special Night Squads. In 1941, Dayan was part of a unit that was attached to the Australian 7 th Division, which was part of the British Army. The division was fighting in Syria against the Vichy French (part of France that collaborat ed with the Nazis), and Dayan was ap pointed as the commander of Company B of Palmach soldiers that went to assist the British Army. A French sniper hit Dayan’s binoculars as he was holding them up to look for the enemy. The glass on the binoculars shattered, and he lost his eyesight in his left eye. Dayan cov ered his eye with a black eye patch that he became famous for wearing while he was the defense minister during the Six Day War and the Yom Kippur War.
edia coverage of the recent passing of Queen Elizabeth II of England had brought forth memories of her service during World War II. Although she was discouraged by her father from entering the service, she nevertheless joined the Auxiliary Territorial Service (ATS) in 1945. Queen Elizabeth was just one of many famous celebrities to have served with the Al lies. Presidents, politicians, and other famous people served in the armed forc es, and some have incredible stories of courage of their service.
When Great Britain entered World War II in September 1939, then-Prin cess Elizabeth and her mother refused to be evacuated to Canada for their safety. Elizabeth was just 14 years old in 1940 when she made a speech on the BBC, addressing the children that had been evacuated. Her message was filled with hope and courage. In 1942, she was appointed as honorary colonel of the Grenadier Guards, and in 1945, she entered the service with the ATS. There, she trained as a mechanic and truck driver and was not given a special rank despite being the king’s daughter. Hundreds of thousands of British wom en joined the ATS, filling roles such as cooks, telephone operators, drivers, postal workers, searchlight operators and ammunition inspectors. Elizabeth
Before Israel became a country in 1948, it was under British rule, and as such, many Jews from Mandate Pales tine served and fought with the British Army during World War II. Future Is raeli military leader Moshe Dayan suf fered an injury that cost him his left eye while fighting with the British Army. Dayan was born in 1915 on a kibbutz when Eretz Yisrael was still under the Ottoman Empire. In his teens, he had joined the Haganah and then served under British General Orde Wingate’s
George H. W. Bush was a pilot of a Grumman TBF Avenger torpedo bomb er on the light carrier USS San Jacinto (CVL-30). On September 2, 1944, Bush’s plane was hit, and the engine caught fire, filling the cockpit with smoke. The future president managed to parachute out of the stricken plane and was later rescued by the submarine USS Finback.
JFK, center, in training at the US Navy PT training facility Moshe Dayan with his trademark black eye patch
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I love watching the Today Show. It was my fa vorite thing to do in the mornings. After my kids went to school, relaxing with a cup of coffee and my phone, I would watch my favorite show and catch a break before the next part of my day began. At some point, I started to click on the pop culture stories floating by on the bottom screen that piqued my interest. One day, I saw something seriously vile and inappropriate at the bottom of the page. I was upset at myself for allowing myself to be exposed to sights like those.
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I decided then and there to stop watching my show. Even though I would really miss it, I decided it wasn’t worth exposing myself to whatever crazy stories and images popped up on my screen. Since then, I feel more in control of my choices, more in control of what I chose to see and be exposed to, and more in control of my interactions with my technol ogy.
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On July 10, the Jewish Telegraphic Agency (JTA) published a dispatch from London, reporting that recent escapees from Auschwitz were urging: “The cre matoria in Oswiecim [Auschwitz] and Birkenau, easily recognisable [sic] by their chimneys and watch-towers, as well as the main railway lines connection Slovakia and Carpatho-Ruthenia with Poland, especially the bridge at Cop, should be bombed.”
The truth, however, was that no “diver sion” would have been necessary, because American bombers were already preparing to strike German oil factories located in the Auschwitz industrial zone. On July 8 – two days before the first of the three JTA arti cles was published – Allied planes carried out their fourth reconnaissance mission over the oil factories.
Despite the efforts of the JTA and others to publicize the issue, despite the behind-the-scenes pleas by Jewish lead ers, and despite the fervent prayers of Elie Wiesel, David Blitzer, and other pris oners, the die had been cast long before. The Roosevelt administration had decided it would not bomb Auschwitz or the rail ways, and it never wavered from that trag ic decision.
by Rafael Medoff
On the day the JTA article appeared, and during the several days before and after that date, eight trainloads of Jew ish deportees from Hungary arrived in Auschwitz. More than 30,000 Jews were gassed in that four-day span. Those were the last trains to come from Hungary, but
Usually, such pleas were made behind closed doors. On occasion, however, the bombing idea spilled out into public view.
On July 20, 1944, the JTA raised the bombing issue again. This time, it report ed that “liberal circles [in London] are de manding that Britain and the United States act to save the Jews of Hungary by, first, bombing the extermination camps of Os wiecim and Birkenau in Poland…”
Some other Jewish publications picked up the cry. Editorials or columns calling for bombing Auschwitz or the railways and bridges appeared in the National Jewish Ledger (in Washington, D.C.), the nation al Jewish magazine Opinion , the New York City Yiddish-language daily Morgen Zhurnal, the Independent Jewish Press Service, and Jewish Frontier, the monthly published by the Labor Zionists of America.
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The Jewish Telegraphic Agency and the Bombing of Auschwitz
In memoranda and policy meetings in early February 1944, senior officials of the War Department (today the Defense Department) decided that as a matter of principle, the U.S. would not use military resources “for rescuing victims of enemy oppression.” The officials claimed, “The most effective relief which can be given victims of enemy persecution is to insure the speedy defeat of the Axis.”
Unbeknownst to the American Jewish community, however, the Roosevelt ad ministration had already made the fateful decision that would shape U.S. policy on bombing Auschwitz.
Nahum Goldmann, head of the World Jewish Congress, and Rabbi Jacob Rosen heim, president of the Orthodox advocacy group Agudath Israel, were particularly active in pressing the Roosevelt adminis tration on the bombing proposals.
Four months later, when Jewish lead ers first began urging the administration to bomb the railways to Auschwitz, Assis tant Secretary of War John J. McCloy used language directly from the February deci sion. “The most effective relief to victims of enemy persecution is the early defat of the Axis,” McCloy wrote. Bombing the rail ways to Auschwitz was “impracticable,” he claimed, because it would require “diver sion of considerable air support essential to the success of our forces now engaged in decisive operations.”
In his book Night, Elie Wiesel described how he and other Jewish slave laborers in the oil factories were “filled with joy” when U.S. bombers struck on August 20, 1944. Even though the prisoners’ lives were en dangered, they were ecstatic at the possibil ity that the mass-murder machinery nearby would be destroyed.
hile most of the American news media looked away, the Jew ish Telegraphic Agency – the leading Jewish news service – repeatedly publicized appeals to the Allies to bomb Auschwitz and the railways leading to it in 1944.The Roosevelt administration’s refusal to strike Auschwitz was among the issues raised in Wolf Blitzer’s recent CNN special about the Holocaust and will be discussed in Ken Burns’s upcoming documentary film on America’s response to the Holocaust.
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The JTA’s mention of “the bridge at Cop” is significant because some contem porary pundits have argued that the Ger mans were capable of quickly repairing damaged railways. But bridges that were bombed could take days, even weeks, to repair – which is why the Allies frequently bombed bridges throughout Europe.
Dr. Medoff is founding director of The David S. Wyman Institute for Holocaust Studies and author of more than 20 books about Jewish his tory and the Holocaust. His latest is America and the Holocaust: A Documentary History, published by the Jewish Publication Society & University of Nebraska Press.
Four days later, the JTA again high lighted the issue of the railways leading to Auschwitz. It reported that in a radio broadcast to Europe, a leader of the Inter national Federation of Transport Workers had urged railway workers in Hungary, Po land, and Czechoslovakia “to prevent the deportation of Hungarian Jews to [Nazi] death camps [in Poland] by sabotaging rail equipment being used to transport the WolfJews.”Blitzer’s late father David, who was a prisoner in Auschwitz, remarked on the railways issue in excerpts from his 1983 oral history interview, which were aired in CNN’s August 26 program. “Ev ery day, thousands of people were burned and gassed in the camps, only because [the Germans] had the possibility to bring those trainloads of people,” the elder Blitzer re called. “If those rails had been bombarded, they couldn’t have done it so perfectly.”
deportations of Jews to Auschwitz from other countries continued.
During the spring and summer of 1944, as hundreds of thousands of Hungarian Jews were being deported to Auschwitz, at least thirty officials of Jewish organiza tions or institutions urged the Roosevelt administration to carry out air strikes on the railways and bridges over which the de portations were taking place, or to under take precision strikes on the gas chambers and crematoria themselves.
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Chazal teach us (Taanis 20a) that a person should be as flexible as a reed that when strong winds blow the reed sways back and forth until the winds subside and the reed remains stand ing. Flexibility can be applied to many areas of our lives, and more specifi cally the trait of psychological flexi bility can often be the key to mental wellness. Indeed, there is a treatment modality for depression and anxiety that has psychological flexibility as its core intervention. We are referring to Acceptance and Commitment Thera py, also known as ACT.
Committed Action – Defining the actions and goals that one needs to focus on in order to live according to one’s values is the final step in psy chological flexibility. If you accept your circumstances, disconnect your self from counterproductive thought and feelings, live in the present mo ment, and have clearly defined val ues, then the door is open for a rich and meaningful life as you engage in committed action. You will face life’s challenges with flexibility that allows you to remain on track.
human being, and to either change or persist when doing so serves valued ends”. That might sound like psy cho-babble, so let us put it in simpler terms. In life, we are often challenged with thoughts and feelings that can be intrusive or disturbing. Rather than focusing on what is important and valuable in our lives, we get caught up in trying to control our thoughts and feelings. This is usually ineffec tive and unnecessary and very often significantly compromises our mental wellness. Psychological flexibility is, therefore, the ability to not be flus tered by uncomfortable thoughts and feelings and instead focus your energy on what is meaningful to you and is consistent with your values.
Self as Context – We often try to define ourselves by attaching labels to ourselves. If you have high self-es teem, you will have positive labels for yourself, such as special, smart, or kind. The problem is that if you need
We have tried in this article to present you a very brief overview of a popular intervention that many clinicians utilize in treatment and to broaden our perspective on our rela tionship to ourselves and our emo tions. Whether or not you ever study ACT or experience it in therapy, it is worthwhile to contemplate the con cept of psychological flexibility and how you can you apply it to your life.
The definition of psychological flexibility according to this modality is “the ability to contact the present moment more fully as a conscious
Psychological Flexibility and ACT
This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Balti more branch of Relief. He can be con tacted at 410-448-8356 or at yslansky@ reliefhelp.org
By Rabbi Azriel Hauptman
Achieving psychological flexibil ity is very different from achieving happiness. It is our “pursuit of happi ness” (to quote Thomas Jefferson) that is often the source of our depression and misery. In order to attain happi ness, we fall into the trap of trying to control those thoughts and feelings that we think are compromising our happiness. The result? More unhap piness. When we instead focus on flexibility, we are keeping our eyes on the ball and trying to live our lives ac cording to our values rather than con cerning ourselves with uncomfortable thoughts or feelings.
Being Present – We spend so much of our cognitive energy on the past or the future. The past cannot be changed, and the future cannot be predicted. The only moment that we are ever living is the present moment. Learning how to be in contact with the present allows us to enrich ourselves with all that life has to offer. This is also known as mindfulness.
Values – If you are not fully in touch with what really matters to you, then you may spend your life dedicat ing yourself to goals and objectives that do not enrich your life or give it any meaning. Acceptance, defusion, and being present are not an end unto themselves. They free you to live ac cording to your values. But, you first need to know what those values are.
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Acceptance – We often struggle and expend energy in controlling our circumstances. This is analogous to being caught in quicksand that the more you struggle, the more you be come entrapped. Accept your situation and embrace it.
ACT recognizes six core processes that are the foundation for psycholog ical flexibility.
Defusion – We often view our thoughts as part of ourselves. Hence, when those thoughts are unpleasant or intrusive, we try to excise them from our system. When we defuse ourselves from our thoughts, we reach the understanding that we are not our thoughts. With defusion, we can let those thoughts drift by like gray clouds passing by in the wind.
to attach a label, then our minds can switch those labels to negative ones. When we are the context of our expe rience, then we are simply observing ourselves without the need to attach any labels. Now, you don’t need to say to yourself, “I am special,” you can simply say, “I am.”
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The reign of Queen Elizabeth II came to an end as she passed away in her home in Scotland. The longest reigning monarch in British history, she was one of the most recognizable faces in the world, as well as the Queen for tens of millions of subjects. Rabbi Aron White, who grew up in London and now lives in Israel, reflects on her legacy both for the world and the Jewish people.
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The Unlikely Queen
Additionally, in a world that speaks about individ ual rights, the Queen would always speak about re sponsibility and duty. One of the Queen’s most famous speeches was given when she was still a princess, on her 21st birthday in 1947: “I declare before you all that my whole life, whether it be long or short, shall be de voted to your service and the service of our great im perial family to which we all belong.”
I want to analyze the reign of Queen Elizabeth in two ways: in terms of what she modeled for peo ple, and in terms of what she meant to people. Both through her actions, and through the unique role she served, she made a deep impact on the lives of mil lions of people and leaves a significant legacy both to the world and for the Jewish people.
The Queen’s Meaning
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Throughout its over-one-thousand years of histo ry, the role of the monarch has evolved and changed, and by the time Queen Elizabeth came to the throne, the monarchy was a more symbolic role rather than being a ruler with the wide-ranging powers of mon archs from previous centuries.
The Queen’s Values
She may have modeled a duty driven life and conducted herself with refinement, but what did she achieve as the monarch? If she doesn’t make laws or make the decisions that affect policy, what is the mean ing of seventy years of such a reign?
In Hebrew, every letter also has a numerical value, and you can add up the values of individual letters to get the value of a word. In one of those coincidences which perhaps are not, the numeri cal value of the Hebrew word tzav, the root of the word mitzvah, is 96: 96 years of tzav, of duty, and also of mitzvah, of doing the right thing because that is your duty.
I have never been a royal, but in certain ways, it ac tually seems to be somewhat similar to being an Ortho dox Jew! Just like Jews, the royal family are part of an ancient tradition that goes back for generations, with each new person being a link in the chain. There are numerous laws and customs that guide the royal fam ily’s behavior, ranging from the big questions of whom one can marry to minutiae like with which hand to hold one’s knife and fork. (There are lots of rules for guests, too – when eating at the Royal table, if the Queen fin ished eating, everyone had to stop eating, too!) A core value of the Queen was living as part of a traditional community, with the lifestyle and strictures that come along with that, something we are very familiar with from our own Jewish and halachic contexts.
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This commitment to a life of duty, working hard to serve her people, framed her life – she saw her life as a series of obligations, and she worked tirelessly to serve her people. The Queen would receive daily updates of what was going on in Parliament that she would me ticulously read every day and would have weekly meet ings with the prime minister to hear about the latest updates in her kingdom. She was always punctual, and the prime ministers she met with all said she was al ways well prepared. She rarely took a day off work – in 2017, when she was a 91-year-old woman, she attended 292 royal engagements such as dinners and receptions. This sense of duty was seen by the Queen as a divine obligation, that this was her calling from G-d.
The Queen and her family also serve as remark able models of tziniut and refinement. She would speak with “the Queen’s English,” not only with its distinctive accent but in a style in which each word is measured and refined. Her style of dress would always be mod est, and this is true of all of the royal family. In the age of social media, where words and pictures are shared with the world with fewer and fewer barriers, the Queen and her family are profoundly counter-culture models. “Kol kvuda bat melech pnima” is a source for the idea of tziniut, and Queen Elizabeth represented a living example of the kavod with which a bat melech conducted herself.
I believe that there was great significance to Queen Elizabeth’s reign, because it gave the British public three tremendous gifts – two of which applied to all her subjects, and one that was particularly relevant for the Jewish people.
Thus, Queen Elizabeth reigned for seven decades in what was largely a ceremonial role. If she just held a symbolic role, what did she achieve during her reign and what is the legacy she leaves behind?
One of the great ironies of Queen Elizabeth’s life was that although she died the longest serving mon arch in British history, when she was born in 1926, she wasn’t supposed to be Queen at all. Her uncle King Edward VIII became King in 1936, and his fu ture children would have been heir to the throne. However, once he abdicated in order to marry a di vorcee (something then not allowed for kings), his brother became King George VI and King George’s ten-year-old daughter Elizabeth became heir to the throne. King George died young at the age of 56, and thus in 1952, aged just 25, Queen Elizabeth II be came Queen of the United Kingdom.
ueen Elizabeth the Second seemed like a permanent feature of the global landscape – France has the Eiffel Tower, New York has the Statue of Liberty, and the United Kingdom has the Queen. For most of us alive today, she is the only monarch of Britain we have known of, and even though there are queens who reign in various countries, when one says the Queen, it is invariably Queen Elizabeth to whom they are refer ring. As one English journalist said, the death of a 96-year-old woman is not a surprise, but the death of the Queen is still a shock; and as a moment in his tory, it allows us to reflect on her life, the values that she modeled, and what her reign meant for British society and the Jews.
The Hebrew root of the word mitzvah, its basic etymology, is the word “tzav,” which means “com mandment,” “order,” or “duty.” You do a mitzvah not just because it is a good deed and not just be
This was the theme of a tribute to the Queen given by Lord David Wolfson of Tredegar, a Jewish British Lord (who attended Yeshivat Hakotel), in what must be the greatest drasha ever heard in the British House of Lords:
cause you feel like doing it; you do a mitzvah because it is your duty. Her late Majesty spent her whole life doing the right thing and not just be cause she felt like it or because the mood took her. She spent her 96 years doing the right thing, day in, day out, out of a sense of duty. It was a life, if I may respectfully say, of mitzvah, of acting out of a profound sense of personal duty and under the sol emn oath to G-d which she took at her Coronation.
While I cannot confirm this, I am confident that this is the first time a Gematria has been used in the House of Lords, and it holds a powerful message. In a world that celebrates entitlement and individuality, Queen Elizabeth modeled a life of divinely inspired service to others.
With Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, zt"l
While it is true that the Queen was warm and wel coming towards the Jews, she does seem to have been more neutral when it came to Israel. In a move that
King Charles meeting with a Holocaust survivor whose portrait he commissioned, when he was prince
possibly was the choice of the British Foreign Office, but that was nonetheless painful, the Queen never vis ited Israel. Charles III, however, does seem to be closer to the Jewish state than his mother – for one thing, he has visited Israel three times; twice for the funerals of Yitzchak Rabin and Shimon Peres, and then on an official royal visit in January 2020. Charles III was also very close to the late Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, giving him great honor and praise both during his life and af ter his passing. There is reason for optimism that King Charles III will be a friend of both the Jewish people and of Israel.
The Future
Rabbi Aron White grew up in London and now lives in Arno na, Yerushalayim. He has semicha from Yeshiva University and serves as the Associate Editor of HaMizrachi Magazine.
Prince William at the Kotel
The second gift she gave to British society was iden tity. Even without holding executive power, the Queen is actually entwined into British identity and the fab ric of British society in a way that makes her part and parcel of the life of all British people. She is literally everywhere – her face is on the money and stamps, the national anthem is a prayer for her well-being, and the parliament and government are officially in service of the queen. Senior lawyers are called Queen’s Counsels (or now King’s Counsels), and the leading individuals in their field are organized in the Royal Academy of Arts, the Royal Academy of Music and tens of other such in stitutions, all of which are denoted as Royal. She is the official head of the armed forces, and soldiers fighting for Britain in Afghanistan and the Falkland Islands would go to battle to fight for “Crown and Country.” If a company services the Queen, the Queen can provide them a Royal Warrant, which is then displayed on their products; British people literally eat their Weetabix breakfast cereal in their morning from a box with a royal stamp printed on it, knowing that this company is one the 686 companies that has provided the Queen with the product they are receiving.
For the generation who arrived in Britain as im migrants in the middle of the 20th century, the royal family held a very special place. The Queen’s embrace of the Jewish community was the greatest symbol to this group of immigrants that they had found a safe haven. My grandparents were refugees from Hungary – to them, the Queen was a symbol of all that was good about Britain, and on a deep, maybe even subconscious level, it was understood that she was the one setting the tone of acceptance of Jews in the country. When the Queen would meet the chief rabbi or send a letter to the Jewish community to mark a significant milestone, the deeper message it sent was that you are welcome and Britain.
British Jews are also well aware that they are part of the second chapter of Anglo Jewry, which began with Jews being allowed back into England in 1656. The first chapter of Anglo Jewry, which took place starting one thousand years ago, featured kings such as Richard the Lionheart, who was an open anti-Semite who took part in the Crusades, and was a chapter that ended with being expelled in 1290 by King Edward I. In the 20th century, as centuries of Jewish life in Russia, Poland and Germany began at first to unravel and then to be engulfed in an inferno, Jews were searching for a haven and for stability. As tens of thousands of Jews arrived on British shores, nothing symbolized that they had found a new home than the Queen, heir to a one-thou sand-year tradition, who accepted the Jews as equal British subjects. The long reign of Queen Elizabeth marked a long period of stability and security for hun dreds of thousands of British Jews.
Queen Elizabeth was simply everywhere and part of everything, and in a deep way, the monarchy in Britain is part of what it means to be British. The loss of Queen Elizabeth means a loss of a part of their identity for the
British people.
So, as the Elizabethan Era ends, what does the fu ture hold for the Royal Family, Britain, and Jews in En gland? There obviously is no way of seeing the future, but I want to focus on two positives that relate to the new King of England, Charles III, and the new heir to the throne, Prince William.
In today’s polarized era, we can see how important this was. The divisions between right and left, liberal and conservative, have become so deeply entrenched that modern America can feel like two societies bat tling each other. For the UK, the Queen was always a unifying force above and apart from politics. (To some extent, in Israel’s polarized climate, President Herzog is playing a similar role.) For seventy years, Queen Eliz abeth served as a uniting force in British public life.
The first gift she provided Britain with was a sense of unity. She was the sovereign and symbolic leader of the British people and stood above the divides of party politics. She did not get involved in the issues of the day; even regarding recent issues like Brexit or Scottish Independence, she did not share her views. Her role was to be above politics, attending chari ty events, visiting the sites of national tragedies and leading national celebrations, comforting those who are suffering, and honoring national heroes.
I would argue that Prince William has already had a majorly positive impact on British society in another realm. As mentioned above, the royal family guides the tone of many parts of British society. One trait of the royals for generations is the tendency to suppress one’s feelings and emotions, what is known in England as “keeping a stiff upper lip.” While this has a place, this could lead to being emotionally stifled and many mental health issues. The past decade has seen a major change in attitudes and awareness in the UK towards mental health, and I believe a lot of this has been led by Prince William. He has spoken openly about dealing with the death of his mother, Princess Diana, and has openly challenged the idea of always “keeping a stiff up per lip,” saying that looking after one’s mental health is more important. This is an incredibly impactful change and hopefully is a sign of more positive things to come.
For the past seventy years, Jews in the UK prayed on Shabbat that Hashem protect the Queen and all her family. As King Charles III takes the throne, let us join in their tefillos, “May He put a spirit of wisdom and understanding into his heart and into the hearts of all his counsellors, that they may uphold the peace of the realm, advance the welfare of the nation, and deal kindly and justly with all the House of Israel. In his days and in ours, may our Heavenly Father spread the tabernacle of peace over all the dwellers on earth; and may the redeemer come to Zion; and let us say Amen.”
But for Jews, maybe the most important gift the Queen gave us was the gift of security.
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Flosstitution - v. Using anything other than real floss to clean between your teeth.
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Aqualibrium (ak wa lib’re um) - n. The point where the stream of drinking fountain water is at its perfect height, thus relieving the drinker from (a) having to suck the nozzle, or (b) squirting himself in the eye.
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Intaxication - n. Euphoria at getting a tax refund, even though it was your money to start with.
Bowlikinetics (boh lih kih neh’ tiks) - n. The act of trying to control a released bowling ball by twisting one’s body in the direction one wants it to go.
Chipfault (chip’ fawlt) - n. The stress point on a potato chip where it breaks off and stays behind in the dip.
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Cheeriomagnetism – n. The quality of cereal that causes the last five Cheerios in the bowl to clump together.
Carcreak - n. Those crackling, tinkling, creaky noises your car makes after you park and turn it off.
Ellacelleration - n. The mistaken belief that buttonpressingrepeatedlytheelevatorwillmakeitgo faster.
Phonesia (fo nee’ zhuh) - n. The affliction of dialing a phone number and forgetting whom you were calling just as they answer.
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Destinesia (des tin e sha) - n. When you go somewhere, and then upon arrival you forget why you went there.
“I had a weird dream recently,” he said. “I saw my mother but then I noticed she had your face. I found this so worrying that I immediately awoke and couldn’t get back to sleep. I just stayed there thinking about it until 8 AM. I got up, made myself a slice of toast and some coffee, and came straight
here. Can you please help me explain the meaning of my
Memnents - n. The small broken pieces at the bottom of an M&M bag
Flopcorn (flop’ korn) - n. The un-popped kernels at the bottom of the cooker.
was silent for a moment, and then said, “What? One slice of toast and coffee? Do you really call that a breakfast?!”
Mittsquinter - n. The guy who looks into his baseball glove after dropping the fly ball, as if he dropped the ball because something was wrong with his glove.
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a. 2 to 3 years b. 4 to 5 years c. 6 to 8 years d. 10 to 12 years
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3. Apples are made up of 25 percent of which substance?
1. What is contained in an apple seed?
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a. Fulvic acid b. Copper c. Lycopene, which is a cancerpreventative phytonutrient d. Vitamin B17, which is a cyanide-containing molecule
annually.6)B7)A-The average American eats 19 pounds of apples per year. That comes out to approximately 65 apples. So, you have your work cut out for you, my friend!
4) C
7. How many pounds of apples does the average American eat annually?
3) A - Apples float because they are 25% air.
5) D - China not only makes the most Apple Inc. products, it also produces 43 million tons of edible apples a year; the U.S. produces 41 million tons of apples
a. Air b. Oil Vitamin C Acid
8. What is the most grown apple?
5. The U.S produces the secondmost apples in the world. Which company produces the most apples annually?
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a. Apiology b. Pomology c. Atmology Onomasiology
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a. 250 b. 600 c. 2,000 d. 7,500
a. 19 pounds b. 23 pounds c. 47 pounds d. 52 pounds
6-8 correct: Crunch…crunch. You really know your apples from your oranges!3-5correct: You are not exactly a pomologist but not bad.
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4. How old is an apple tree when it begins to bear fruit?
b. Mexico c. Vietnam d. China
- Sen. John Kennedy (R-LA)
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Our democracy is at stake. There’s millions and millions of dollars from outside our region and outside our state that are coming here to try to steal our elections.
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My name is John Fetterwoman.
And when – across the entire world – when slavery was taking place, which was the first nation in the world that abolished slavery? It was started by William Wilberforce – it was the British. In Great Britain, they abolished slavery. Two thousand naval men died on the high seas trying to stop slavery. Why? Because the African kings were rounding up their own people. They had them on cages, waiting in the beaches. No one was running to Africa to get them.
We already had a plan to repay student debt. It’s called a job, and it was working just fine before President Biden decided to transfer debt from coastal elites who chose to take out loans to hardworking Americans who didn’t.
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You aren’t allowed to compare vaccine passports to the leadup to the Holocaust, but Ken Burns can compare sending illegal immigrants to a vacation island to the Holocaust.
There were more …corporate journalists in Martha’s Vineyard today than have ever gone down to the Southern border to look at what’s going on. Why don’t you go down there and look at what those communities have to deal with every day?
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- Jamelle Bouie, The New York Times
- Ibid.
A reminder that what @GovRonDeSantis did wasn’t a “stunt.” It was kidnapping and human trafficking. These are federal crimes. The sentence is five years – per victim.
The Democrats did not think it was a humanitarian crisis when we pulled over 50 bodies in body bags out of a truck in Texas of illegal immigrants who died because the smugglers let them die of heat exposure. And yet, suddenly, 50 illegal immigrants show up in lily-white Martha’s Vineyard, where rich liberals and billionaires sip Chardonnay, and it is World War III, they lose their stuff all over the place, and it just shows what utter nonsense it was.
It’s like me taking my trash out and just driving to different areas where I live and just throwing my trash there.
- Greg Gutfeld, Fox News
– Radical leftist Keith Olbermann, convicting and sentencing Gov. DeSantis on Twitter
I think his hair gel is interfering with his brain function.
I thought Martha’s Vineyard was a “sanctuary city”? I thought they declared themselves a “haven” for illegal immigrants?? Just 50 arrive, and the socialist billionaires send them away – to a military base, no less – in JUST 24 hours.
-Tweet by Sen. Ted Cruz (R-TX) after the illegals were quickly bussed off of Martha’s Vineyard by over 100 National Guard troops
- Tweet in response to filmmaker Ken Burns comparing Gov. DeSantis to the Nazis
- Founder of a group that helps refugees, quoted in an NBC article about Gov. DeSantis’s action
Martha’s Vineyard might be the most racist place in America. They called the national guard over 50 non-white people. Gross.
– Gov. DeSantis
– Sen Ted Cruz (R-TX) on Fox News commenting on liberal outrage caused by Gov. Ron DeSantis sending a plane of illegal aliens to Martha’s Vineyard
– Tweet by Jon Fitch
I think when Democrats realize there’s a new formidable Republican, you know, out there, suddenly you have a new Hitler. Then the old Hitler, well, maybe he’s not so bad. Suddenly, The New York Times is saying how Trump is kinder and gentler, and is funny, and he never took himself seriously, and charming. That’s…so now, the guy they called Hitler is now not Hitler, because DeSantis — you can’t — you can’t — not everybody can be Hitler at once, right?
- Ibid., responding to criticism from California Governor Gavin Newsom, who seems very proud of his coiffed hair
This is obviously what happened when they demonized Romney, and then when Trump came along, then Romney became a statesman. When it was Romney, he was evil before McCain became a moderate. So they do this all the time.
Ron DeSantis…may be a more competent Trump in terms of his ability to use the levers of state to amass power, but he’s also meaner and more rigid, without the soft edges and eccentricity of the actual Donald Trump.
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I feel like I’m tainted by my family. My father is socially awkward, and my siblings are what most people would call “weird.” I had to beg my parents to send me to the mainstream school because that’s where most of my neighborhood sends.
Navidaters,Dear
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
Since I was little, I have always wanted to fit in, but as much as I try to, it backfires (if I get too close to a friend and she’d come over, she’d see my family, realize I don’t have a life like everyone else’s normal lives). I went to sem in Israel for a year, and it was the most amazing experience. I could just make friends and be myself without having to worry about people knowing my family. I’m going back to Israel for shana bet, but as I try to think about shidduchim, I shut down. Thinking about all the potential rejection because of my family is enough to make me want to stay single forever. Is there anything I can do that could help me? Thanks in advance.
Dating Dialogue WouldWhat You Do If…
- Rivka
Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
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The Shadchan Michelle Mond
Instead of viewing your father’s so cial awkwardness with embarrassment, how about viewing it with affection and amusement? Instead of thinking of your self as tainted by your unusual family background, how about viewing yourself as exceptional and remarkable for becom ing such an incredible young lady, in spite of your family background?
ivka, I feel bad that you feel that your family is “weird” and that this is harm ing you in shidduchim. Your family may be dysfunctional, out of the box, living a life different than your community’s norms, and some members may have serious is sues. They may simply wear the wrong clothes. I don’t know. You are using very loose terminology.
How many times do you hear stories of couples with incredibly colorful back grounds describing their path to finding their bashert? If you haven’t heard these
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(I feel certain that at least one of my fellow columnists will recommend that you see a therapist. If you choose to do so, subsequently, when a young man wants to date you and asks, “So, are you seeing someone?” you’ll be able to answer, “Yes, a therapist.”)
The Single Tzipora Grodko
ews flash to Rivka: Every family has some eccentricities, or some weird family members, or some embarrassing skeletons in their closets.
When you are truly ready, you will feel confident to start dating without your fam ily feeling like shackles holding you down.
I suggest that you go to someone expe rienced in your school and/or shul commu nity who knows your family. This could be a teacher, principal, rav, or school guidance counselor. Ask them for a recommenda tion for a therapist to help you deal with shidduchim and more. It will be helpful to you to understand your family better and to understand your own reaction to them. Then, together with the support of
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There are so many topics I want to ad dress here. Firstly, it sounds like you feel trapped by your family reputation. The best way to learn happiness and self-con fidence is through acceptance of what life has given you. I know it’s not easy, but it is truly life changing. To learn how to develop a positive relationship with the things that make you “different” or are “challenging” and find a way for them to fit comfortably in yourSecondly,life. a true friend should not be ditching you if your family is simply awk ward or comes with an unconventional flavor. A true friend will only respect you more and appreciate who you are despite your differences. The same works for a life partner as well (which brings me to my third topic).
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stories, go out and ask couples you meet what their backstory is. You will be very surprised! Rivka, Hashem takes care of singles with all types of families and back grounds, not just run-of-the-mill stereo typicals.Myadvice to you is soak up shana bet! Dating should not be on your radar before you’re emotionally ready for it. In addition to growing in your Yiddishkeit, work through your relationship with your family and your relationship with yourself. Nurture your self-worth and build your self-confidence. You will come to realize that your family is a mere puzzle piece within the masterful grand plan your life has yet to become.
the therapist, you will be able to choose some strategies for dealing with your own shidduchim. Invest in yourself first so that you are in a strong position to deal with shidduchim.
Lastly, it sounds like there is probably a lot more going on than you feel comfort able sharing. I always recommend a good cup of therapy as it can help facilitate all these goals that are important towards life enhancement and discovery.
Let me reassure you that people from time. marriedfamilies“weird”getallthe
eeling limited from opportunities be cause of circumstances out of your con trol can feel very painful.
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Yes, of course, some families can seem more bizarre than others. But, what wor ries me is that you, personally, might be so insecure about your family that it affects how you present yourself to others. Please don’t be insulted, but it’s very possible that your difficulty making friends has more to do with your own insecurities than with your family’s weirdness.
Further, consider the following: You seem to have made some wonderful friendships while living abroad, in Israel. When these new friends eventually meet
Relying on society or nature to “meet your bashert” is discrediting G-d’s influ ence in your life. The same G-d Who gave you your family is the same G-d Who will get you married. It’s not “harder” for Him because of your package. HE gave YOU that package. Nobody else can interfere with His plan.
our question reminded me of one of my favorite quotes: “Everybody is some one else’s weirdo.” How true?! Your family might be weirder than some, but that does not make you unmarriageable! Chances are there is someone out there waiting for an amazing, worked-through young wom an like yourself.
it’s worth, let me reassure you that people from “weird” families get married all the time. Your work is to work through this “shut down” and to love yourself... hard! And also, to accept your family.
P.S. Wishing the readership a shana tovah u’metukah! Every now and again, when I introduce myself in varying so cial settings, I will get a “You’re Jennifer Mann? The one who writes the column? We love reading your column on Shabbos!” I can’t tell you how much this means to me to be let into your homes every Shabbos. I love that I have this platform to bring at tention and awareness to different dating and relationship issues and to spread my message which is twofold and always the same: Trust your intuition! And, you are worthy!
I can feel the shame you’re carrying around. When I feel shame, I often rec ommend the book The Gifts of Imperfec tion by Brene Brown. It’s an oldie but a goodie. Brene Brown is a shame research er. You may find the book helpful. I’d also like to recommend Love Warrior by Glen non Doyle Melton. Glennon is a person. An amazing person who has lived and ex perienced and feels deeply, and she shares her story to help others feel better about theirs. I just reread her book for the ump teenth time last Shabbos, and she always helps me get myself in emotional order.
JenniferSincerely,
your family, they won’t stop being your friend. Instead, these new friends are like ly to think, “Wow, it’s incredible how my amazing, good friend, Rivka, turned out so great, in spite of her unusual family.”
Heed the advice of George Burns, who suggested, “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in anoth er city.”
I am wondering how many people reading this right now at their Shabbos tables or on their couches are thinking, I feel the same way as Rivka. Rivka, I be lieve so many people relate to you in their own ways. So many people have the same
We live in a society of trying to “fit in.” In many Orthodox circles (I think it’s worse in NY than anywhere else, but feel free to let me know of other places where it’s this bad), people spend their lives try ing to fit into the box and removing them selves from anyone who does not fit into the box. For what it’s worth, so many of us can’t stand the box. So much nonsense
Jennifer Mann, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and certified trauma healing life coach, as well as a dating and relationship coach working with individuals, couples, and families in pri vate practice at 123 Maple Avenue in Cedarhurst, NY. She also teaches a psychology course at Touro College. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 718-908-0512. Visit www. thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email JenniferMannLCSW@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.
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is going on inside of these boxes that at this point in my life, you couldn’t pay me to get anywhere near that box! That box is stifling. And believe me, there is a lot of suffering going on inside of these boxes!
or very similar fears as they look toward dating.They are wondering, Will anyone love me? Am I even worthy? Am I loveable? Do not hide. Love yourself so hard solely for yourself. And also, to attract someone who will love all the parts of you. And be there for you, to help you when your family is getting you down; when life is getting you down. Love yourself so much and know your inherent worth so you at tract someone who will feel the same way about you.
And, once they
Dear ThankRivka, you for writing! I really like your question at the end of your email. Is there anything I can do that could help me? While you are away and individuat ing from your family, creating your own identity and looking at the very adult next chapters of your life, shidduchim and mar riage, I suggest being in therapy for the en tire year, as a gift to yourself. In therapy, you will process your experience of your family, your role in your family, how you differ from your family, what it has been like for you to be a member of your fami ly; you will process all the rejection you’ve experienced as a result of your family, and you will learn to love yourself so much that your focus naturally shifts from Oh no! How am I going to get married with my weird family in tow? to: I deserve a man who is going to love me and my weird family! And I will not settle for anything less! (And journal... journaling is one of the greatest ways of working through our thoughts and feelings.)
So, when you return after your second seminary year, perhaps you should consid er not living at home. Instead, think about renting an apartment with a couple of your girlfriends. Then, when you start dating, young men will have met you, dated you a few times, and gotten to know and admire you before actually meeting your family.
get to know and appreciate you, it won’t really matter when they eventually meet yourPleasefamily.take to heart William Shake speare’s sonnet (#116), “Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impedi ments.” Professor David Ginsberg explains what that means: When two friends feel a strong kinship or attraction to each oth er (“Marriage of true minds”), they won’t allow minor impediments or drawbacks (like unusual family backgrounds) hin der that closeness.
Every family has eccentricities,some or some weird family members, or closets.skeletonsembarrassingsomeintheir
Have a wonderful shana bet! I think that may be the best thing you could have done for yourself; giving yourself the op portunity to work on yourself in your own space. Enjoy every second, and please feel free to write back and update us as you move along on your journey!
When you stop trying to fit into that box (and that box is different for all of us), and you work toward acceptance of your self and surrender to the realities of the life and the path Hashem has put you on, you breathe. You inhale. Deeply. And you lift your head up and look around. And you see others who for their own reasons have either given up trying to get in, or who had no interest in it at all, from the beginning. And let me tell you… those are some of the wisest, kindest, most accepting, most beautiful souls on Hashem’s earth. They have no agenda other than to love you and accept you. (There are so many agendas inside some of these boxes, I hear they’ve hired secretaries to take notes and keep a log!) And P.S., some of them are very much accepted in the box’s tightknit circle, and have access, and come and go as they please, but they know the truth: one’s val ue is not determined by the people in the box and G-d certainly does not live in that box. G-d is everywhere. The people in that box don’t have the exclusive rights to G-d. Because Hashem is outside the box, too!
The Navidaters
I believe you may have some trauma around all the rejection you’ve experi enced in your life, and understandably so. And so, when you think about dating, you are shutting down because you go into somewhat of a “freeze” state. For what
Teen Talk
Answered by arotating roster of teachers, rebbeim,clinicians, and peers (!), teens will behearing answers to many questionsthey had percolating in their mindsand wished they had the answers for.
ear Chani and Avigayil, I appreciate the importance you place on proper tefillah. The Yomim Noraim, The Days of Awe, are a time of serious introspection. This is the time where we aim to do our due diligence in making the most out of our connection to the Ribbono Shel Olam.
I remember clearly the days when we were homebound due to COVID restrictions.
In Parshas Terumah, Hakadosh Baruch Hu says to Klal Yisroel, “V’asu li mikdash v’shachan ti b’socham, And let them make Me a sanctuary, that I may dwell among them.” Hashem told us that He would like for us to build houses of worship, so that He can rest His Shechina upon
Even though it was a very difficult pe riod, I do have some special memories, specifically congregating together in my dining room to daven. I also remember how sad it was not to be exposed to the complete te fillah that normally takes place only when gath ering in shul. There was no leining (reading of the Torah out loud) to listen to. The beautiful melodies of Chazaras Hashatz (repetition of the prayers by the chazzan) were absent. Duchening by the kohanim (recitation of the priestly bless
us. When we assemble all together in a building designated for praying to our Creator, we elevate ourselves. One of the reasons why Hashem’s Shechina settles on those who gather in shul to daven is because of the achdus (togetherness) of the congregants, as it says in Sefer Mishlei, “B’rov am hadras melech, In multitudes, there is the glorification of Hashem.” When we assemble together to serve Hashem, the impact it has on Him is so great. We are the chosen nation gath ering in scores, in groups across the universe; of course, Hashem’s glory is revealed, then!
Teen Talk, a new column in TJH, is intowardsgearedtheteensourcommunity.
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ings) was missing, as well as hearing the recita tion of the kaddish by mourners. The feeling of detachment from our brethren being unable to congregate together in a mikdash me’at was real. We longed for the day when we could gath er together again and proclaim our allegiance to Hashem in unison.
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We know our parents will be disappointed with us if we decline their offer. In addition, our grandmother will be with us for yom tov. We know she loves to go to shul and will likely be upset with us if we don’t join her. As these days are fast approaching, time is of the essence and we would like some hadracha for this situation.
By Mrs. C. Isbee
Let’s give you some background as to why we feel this way. Two years ago, due to COVID restrictions, we davened at home for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur for the first time. We found that we had more kavanah and were able to get through all the tefilos without getting sidetracked. The fancy clothes, crying kids, and people talking incessantly are the distractions that we have been able to avoid. Furthermore, as much as we know it’s holy, we found ourselves spacing out, at times, over the few hours we were there. Last year, even though our shul was offering seating, we opted to daven at home. Once again, it was a very fulfilling experience.
It’s understandable why you believe your davening is more potent at home versus at shul. Your desire to concentrate without any interfer ence is commendable. Since the unfortunate vi rus erupted, it sounds as though you have made peace with davening at home and have reached great heights in doing so.
My father, Harav Yonasan Binyomin Jun
Men rush to daven with a minyan three times a day, even though davening b’yechidus is allowed. Surrounded by ehrliche Yidden in talleisim, hearing the “kolos” (voices) of tefillah, answering “Amen,” listening to the rav’s speech, and even noticing the majestic aron kodesh are all part of the spiritual experience of shul.
We are two sisters writing. We would be very grateful if you gave us some insight on how to resolve our predicament.
-Chani and Avigayil R.
Now that the Yomim Noraim are almost here, we are faced with a dilem ma. Our parents would like to buy shul seats for us for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, however, for various reasons, we are more comfortable with davening at home.
Dear Teen Talk,
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1. Being in the presence of Hashem’s Shechina in His dwelling place
how exciting it was to learn parshas hashavua every week in my alma ma ter, Prospect Park Yeshiva, knowing that I would eventually be hearing the corresponding leining while at shul in its melodious tune on Shabbos.
7. Taking in the duchening
simply cannot be attained by davening at home.
And so much more….
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12. The opportunity to observe others’ ka vanah and learn from them
9. Listening to the leining
I find myself singing the sweet songs of my youth as I prepare for the yomim tovim. Hum ming “K’vakaras Edro” or “V’chol Maaminim,” or “Ochila La’Kel” as I cook, bake, and set the table transports me to the mikdash me’at on 8101 Avenue K. Even though, the building is no longer our family shul, and it’s been many years since I davened there, the tefillos are alive within me. The appreciation I have for the Yo mim Noraim is so very strong because of my ex periences davening at shul. This cherishment
14. Building a repertoire of the holy tunes of the many tefillos
Chani and Avigayil, I want to wish you a kes ivah v’chasima tova. Your desire to do the right thing is definitely appreciated by Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Hashem will surely listen to your heartfelt tefillos and grant you a sweet year.
As important as it to go to shul on Shabbos, how much more worthwhile and significant it is for you girls to attend on the Yomim Noraim! Listening to the haunting melodies of the chaz zan, especially during U’nesaneh Tokef, Kol Ni drei, and of course during the Kaddish at the outset of the Shemona Esrei stirs the soul. The sounds of the shofar awaken us to do teshuva. Is there a better way to have the kavanah that you desire than by observing elderly women, espe cially the Holocaust survivors, wiping the tears from their red-rimmed eyes?
8. Gleaning the messages of the rav’s speech first-hand
As the rabbi’s daughter, my job every Yom Kippur was to give the Yizkor cards out to the women. The memories of observing them with tears in their eyes is something that will forever be etched in my memory. Being grate ful that I had my beloved parents while leaving during Yizkor is a deep emotion that I remember vividly. I would return to my seat in shul, re newed and ready to daven with more sentiment andIfervor.alsoremember
How fortunate you both are to have your grandmother staying with you for yom tov! What a nachas it would be for her to have you both sitting beside her during davening. As she is older, and I’m sure wiser than you, there is so much you can learn from her. Even walking to shul together can jumpstart the experience into something memorable. It’s a time where you can ask her to share her early memories of going to shul as a young girl.
greis, zt”l, was the rav of the shul, Yeshiva Ateres Yisroel, in the Canarsie section of Brooklyn, NY. We were fortunate to live on the block of our shul. My experiences of davening in shul as a child till I married and moved away are precious and shaped who I am today. I fondly remember my friend, Jennifer, knocking on my door every Shabbos and yom tov morning to get me out of bed to go to shul with her. Sure, we could have davened at home, but the feeling of kedusha that came from being part of a group serving Hashem together gave greater strength and meaning to our tefillos
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Be”H, you both will marry and have families. During the times of raising young children, you will probably not be able to venture out to dav
10. A greater appreciation for what you learn in limudei kodesh at school, such as Chu mash and Navi as you hear the Baal Korei lein
As illustrated above, the experience of dav ening in shul is incomparable to that of davening at home. Only the Bais Haknesses experience can provide you with:
13. Noticing the klei kodesh and structural beauty of this mikdash me’at
Yo will be at home. I can tell you, though, that your davening at that time will be much more significant and meaningful if you have the background and foundation of shul davening.
3. Valuing koach hatefilla of the tzibbur (group)4.Hearing the voices of the congregants as they ask Hashem for rachamim (mercy) and praise Him for all that He has done
5. Listening to the chazzan repeat over the davening6.Answering Amen Yehai Shmai Rabbah to the kaddish
Mrs. Chayala Isbee is a long-time educator and school counselor at Bais Yaakov of Baltimore.
2. Assembling as one group all doing the same thing at once: serving Hashem
11. Understanding what Yizkor is all about; thus appreciating your loved ones
Mrs.Sincerely,Chayala Isbee
As far as the distractions you may have in shul, I get it. Yes, there are people wearing fancy clothes. Sometimes, there could be crying ba bies. And unfortunately, sometimes, there may be people talking in shul. Truth be told, we are supposed to wear our finest to shul as our King is being exalted there. Most people who go to shul, go there to daven. If there is talking, you can always move to another side. If you feel it’s excessive and poses a problem, perhaps you can speak to the rav or the gabbai about addressing the Asissue.you both indicated, you’ve encountered times when you zoned out, and it was hard for you to keep up nor be in sync with the daven ing. Certainly, the more consistently you attend shul services, the greater your ability to keep pace will be. Davening with a minyan at shul is a most glorious experience! There is so much more than enunciating the words of the tefilos that takes place there. Once your attendance is more consistent, instead of drifting off, you will “be in the moment” as you appreciate all that is happening. There is a “seder” throughout the davening. You will surely heed to maintain proper attention as you listen to the Chazzan saying over the tefilos. You will be aware when to say “Zos HaTorah” as they hold up the Torah at Hagbah. You will take in, not just the lein ing, but the haftorah and the recitation of the brachos of the haftorah, as well. And, you will treasure Birkas Kohanim as you notice the Levi yim lining up to wash the Kohanim’s hands.
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mographic and methods to improve your customer acquisition and retention. Are you in retail? Do you capture emails via your POS system? Is your business mostly fueled by social media, and if so, have you compared campaigns to determine which generate more leads and sales?
This is the related corollary to the tip above. It seems obvious, but many businesses were devastated during the pandemic because they were one slow month away from closing. Restaurants and retail were hit particularly hard. Restaurants churn through cash rapidly and often operate month to month, while some retail is cash flow intensive and many retail stores have to forecast and
Many businesses pursue topline rev enue while forgetting that net profits are the goal. Doing $1 million in sales with $900k expenses is more work for less re ward than emphasizing healthy margins and achieving $600k in sales against $400k in expenses. So, aim to grow stra tegically and remember that it is always easy to grow your costs – the challenge is growing your profits.
any small businesses were walloped by the pandemic era, whereas others survived or even thrived. The shutdowns proved disastrous for businesses that subsisted month to month, while other companies found ways to pivot successfully or to weather the storm and recover when the world reopened. Of course, supply chain crises and inflation woes have presented new challenges for companies to sur mount.Consequently, most entrepreneurs are more cautious and deliberate now than they were two years ago. It is more vital than ever to be strategic and tactical with your business and its success. Here are some tips to help your business flourish!
This seems obvious but often it is overlooked by business owners. In most industries, there is rampant competi tion. Standing out in a crowded business climate requires determining your core competencies or unique product or ser vice that provides genuine value to your customer. Elon Musk has asserted that a company exists to provide a superior product or service. If you have an inferi or product or service, you aren’t going to succeed long-term. Constantly seek ways to innovate and generate value for your consumer.
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Efficiency is how you accomplish suc cessful growth. There is a well-known 80/20 rule, and it manifests in a variety of ways within a company. The theory posits something like this: 80% of the work gets done by 20% of your employ ees. 80% of your profit/success comes from 20% of your customers. Figure out where your best results are coming from
The next step, once you identify your potential clientele demographic, is reach ing them. This is another tip that seems obvious. But there is a reason why this quote from wealthy retailer and pioneer of advertising John Wanamaker still res onates 100 years after he said it: “Half my advertising spend is wasted; the trouble
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That quote is advertising in a nutshell. Determine what the appropriate adver tising budget is for your business and then consider ways to hit your target de
There are so many small business owners who don’t even know what their business is earning (or losing). If num bers aren’t your thing, make sure you have real systems in place or people who understand your business’ finances. You may need a good bookkeeper or accoun tant or both, but make sure you know the ins and outs of your business backend and your own financial structure. Can you af ford that capital investment or a more expensive lease or are you overloaded with debt? Knowing your numbers will also come in handy if you ever decide to sell your business or pursue investment. Investors need balance sheets and P & L statements, not your hastily scribbled guesstimates.
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When it comes to small businesses (and big businesses), there are no hard rules. There are innumerable ways to earn money or even to become fabulous ly wealthy. So, with no set formulas, the best you can do is utilize some of the ap proaches above to aim for efficiency and professionalism and hopefully that will help you navigate your way through the challenging financial climate we face cur rently.
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purchase a season ahead. Analyze your business and stay ahead of your cash flow requirements. You don’t want to end up in a position where your business should be making money but your cash flow is negative and you end up over-leveraged and taking on bad debt at bad interest rates just to fund operations or because you are draining your company’s coffers too quickly for personal needs.
business owners feel swamped by their workload and find themselves constantly preoccupied by the myriad small details requisite for keeping the business afloat and operational. But stepping back and assessing your business at a macro level is vital to ensure your business remains healthy and efficient. Take time out to an alyze your numbers or your operations, then follow up to improve areas of con cern or try new things. Never lose sight of the big picture!
“ In both of my businesses, I have learned that customer service has to be your primary concern. The service you provide or the way you communicate with customers is what will make or break your business. It is also how you differentiate yourself from the competition. ”
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The Queen held another £500 million in her own name: her personal jewelry, art, and lesser residences, including Bal moral and Sandringham. (You can rent parts of Sandringham on Airbnb!) That would still be a lot for His Majesty’s Trea sury to tax. However, in 1993 – when the Queen agreed to pay tax on her person
The lesson here is that while the Queen’s passing opens the door to a new vision of the British empire, it won’t, for the most part, be a taxable event. And isn’t that what you want for yourself? We’re here to help you plan for it, down to your crown and scepter!
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By Allan Rolnick, CPA
grandchildren. That contrasts with a far-more-generous $12,060,000 here. Anything above that is taxed at 40%, with exemptions for money passing to sur viving spouses, certain business assets, farmland, and charitable gifts.
Finally, dog lovers worldwide have wondered what will become of the roy al canines: two corgis, a cocker spaniel, and a dorgi (wiener dog-corgi mix). The Queen has owned corgis since age seven and bred 14 generations of the ridiculous ly-engineered beasts. They’ve loved her unconditionally and never embarrassed her by palling around with the wrong crowd or giving tell-all interviews to Oprah. The corgis, at least, are headed to live with Andrew and Sarah, Duke and Duchess of York. But will the pampered pooches still sleep in elevated wicker beds and dine on fresh rabbit?
al income – Prime Minister John Major agreed that sovereign-to-sovereign inher itances would remain tax-exempt.
Forbes pegs the royal family’s overall holdings at 28 $ billion. The Crown Estate, which generates income to pay the royals’ allowance, is a business entity
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Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.
Benjamin Franklin once said, “Noth ing can be said to be certain except death and taxes.” (Ironic, considering Franklin cemented his legacy rebelling against taxes levied by the Queen’s 3rd-great grandfather, George III.) It’s especially true when it comes to estate taxes that governments levy on the privilege of dy ing. Naturally, we wondered what role taxes might play as her heir ascends to his grown-up job at an age when most of us have long since retired.
he death of Queen Elizabeth II at age 96 last week is truly one of those moments that marks the passing of an era. The longest-serving Queen’s reign lasted through 14 prime ministers and fully 30% of our own coun try’s entire history. She was best-known for keeping calm and carrying on with a typically British stiff upper lip. Yet her subjects also loved seeing her sly wit, like when “she” parachuted into the 2012 Olympics opening ceremony with James Bond or shared marmalade sandwiches with Paddington Bear.
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established by Parliament to manage land and seabeds around England, Wales, and Ireland. The Duchy of Lancaster, which belongs to the monarch, includes farmland and commercial properties throughout the Kingdom. And the Duchy of Cornwall, which belongs to the monarch’s heir, includes properties in 20 counties of England and Wales, along with the right to any unclaimed shipwrecks on Cornish shores and all the treasure buried in Cornwall. Royal
assets also include Buckingham Palace, Kensington Palace, and the Crown Estate of Scotland.Together, those portfolios generat ed £134.3 million last year. That’s a lot of crumpets! But while family members share much of that income, they can’t sell the underlying assets. That means they aren’t subject to the usual transfer tax at the monarch’s death. In that sense, they
Forbes pegs the royal family’s overall holdings at $28 billion.
resemble so-called “dynasty trusts” that some Americans with royal pretensions are using to shield family assets from tax at any particular member’s death.
England’s steep estate tax makes ours look like afternoon tea. The base exemption is a stingy £325,000 (about $377,000), growing to £500,000 for as sets passing to surviving children and
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Bring to a boil and then lower to a simmer. Cook for on low for 3 hours.
◦ 1 teaspoons kosher salt
Remove from heat and set aside.
In a small bowl mix sumac, cinnamon, salt, and cumin and then rub the mixture all over the brisket.
◦ 2 pounds second cut brisket or strips of flanken on the bone
Ingredients
The soup makes a large quantity, so you can set some aside to freeze for Sukkot.
◦ 3 sweet potatoes, small cubed
Heat the canola oil in a large soup pot over a high flame. When the oil is hot, sear the brisket for a few minutes on each side until it forms a nice brown crust.
◦ 3 large loose carrots, sliced
Enjoy!
Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.
◦ 1 teaspoon cumin
In The K tchen
Preparation
By Naomi Nachman
I developed this recipe a couple months ago in preparation for the upcoming chagim. I am so excited that I can finally reveal this recipe. It’s a great twist on the traditional tzimmes by making it into a soup. I am sure you will want to add this to your menu repertoire.
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◦ 2 cups crushed tomatoes
◦ Salt and pepper to taste
Add the briskest back to the pot along with crushed tomatoes and 8 cups of broth.
Tzimmes Soup
◦ 2 medium onions, cut into half-moon rings
◦ 1 cup dried prunes, pitted
◦ 2 tablespoon canola oil, plus 1 tablespoon
◦ 1 tablespoon cinnamon
◦ 1 tablespoon sumac
◦ 8 cups broth
Remove meat from pot and shred it with two forks. Add the meat back to the pot and bring back to boil.
In the same pot, lower heat to medium and add 1 tablespoon oil; sauté onions until translucent.Addcarrots, sweet potatoes, and dried prunes and sauté for five minutes.
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◦ 2 teaspoons kosher salt, divided
◦ 3 10 oz. bags shredded carrots
◦ 8 pieces chicken leg quarters
Sautee the carrots and onions for several minutes on low until carrots are soft. Add in the dates, wine and honey. Mix well and cover and let simmer on low for 10 minutes. This process will plump up the dates and release their flavor.
◦ 1/3 cup honey
After 40 minutes, baste the chicken and finish cooking for another 30 minutes uncovered.
Place 4 pieces of chicken per pan and season with spices.Rub with small amount of oil and drizzle with honey, smearing all over each piece of chicken. Cover each pan with foil and bake for 40 minutes.
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In The K tchen
Add 1 teaspoon kosher salt followed by the carrots.
◦ Honey
Ingredients
Carrot mixture
◦ 2 medium onions, sliced into ½ moon rings
◦ 2 tablespoons canola oil
◦ 1 ½ cups dried dates pitted and quartered
◦ 2 cups white wine
◦ Cumin
Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.
◦ Kosher salt
◦ Garlic powder
◦ Olive oil
◦ ½ teaspoon cinnamon
After 10 minutes, divide the carrot mixture into the 2 prepared pans.
Preparation
◦ Smoked paprika
For the first evening meal of Rosh Hashana, I am serving a variety of dishes – each featuring one of the simanim (i.e., symbolic foods that one eats on Rosh Hashana which we hope will bring about a prosperous and healthy new year). This chicken recipe is a combo of the traditional tzimmus, which includes chicken, carrots, honey and dates (all of which are simanim), making it a perfect simanim dish to serve on Rosh Hashana.
Simanim Chicken
By Naomi Nachman
Preheat oven to 400°F. Prepare two 9x13 pans and set Inasideasauté pan on medium heat, add oil until it gets hot, then add onions and cook until they are translucent.
◦ 1 teaspoon cumin
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