KEHILAS TIFERES YISROEL HACHNOSAS SEFER TORAH 36DOUB L E CBHAI•DOULEC•IAH 36 YEARS OF DEDICATED SERVICE TO THE BALTIMORE COMMUNITY Rabbi & Rebbetzin Goldberger IN HONOR OFSunday, Sept 18th CELEBRATION OFTORAHALL COMMUNITY MEMBERS ARE INVITED TO JOIN IN OUR CELEBRATION Sefer Torah Procession From the home of Rabbi & Rebbetzin Goldberger 5905 Park Heights Ave. Dancing Sifrei Torah into the shul Kehilas Tiferes Yisroel, 6201 Park Heights Ave light refreshments will be served Divrei Torah & Hissorirus at Kehilas Tiferes Yisroel, 6201 Park Heights Ave 1:30 PM 2:30 PM 3:30 PM ב״פשת לולא ו״כ-ב״יVol. 8 Issue #18 | September 8 - 22, 2022 | 1214 A Summer Like No Other Susie Fishbein is Back!36 58 Over 5,000 Issues Printed | Over 10,000 Readers | www.thebjh.com VISIT US ON THE WEB! WWW.THEBJH.COM Baltimore Goes Back To School!
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Dear Readers, The start of the school signals a fresh new beginning for students and parents. It’s ironic that the schools launch in Elul, during a time when we’re all beginning the process of starting anew. There's excitement as the children are introduced to new teachers, new classmates, new curriculum, and new carpools. For those that may have had a difficult journey, there’s a restored sense of motivation as the energy of school opening kicks-in. It’s a time where most kids are motivated to do their best, and where parents are overcome with the prayers for the success of their kids. The clothing is new, the floors are shining, and the hopes and expectations are lofty. Of course, it’s a new beginning for the Rabbeim, Morah’s and teachers as well. They’ve also faced the ups and downs of the previous year and are excited to approach the new year with vigor. They are the real heroes. These are some of the most talented individuals that easily could have been tremendously successful within the professional and business world. Instead they’ve dedicated their lives to educating our children. They’ve accepted less money and less recognition, in exchange for the opportunity to impact lives. This week, as we enter the halls of our schools for orientation, know that the teacher or Rebbe, or Morah, or Principal, is there, because they believe that there’s nothing more important than the education and chinuch of our youngsters. They’re our partners who deserve the utmost appreciation. We’re privileged to have such idealistic people in our community caring for the future of Judiasim!
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With the final regular season game about to start, Donny Ankri Architects and KD Gold & Coin Exchange had their eye on the standings. Both teams needed a win to make the playoffs. KD jumped on top first with a huge 4 run 1st inning. But DAA didn’t get flus tered as they answered with 4 runs of their own. Each team tacked on one run in the ensuing innings to keep the game tied. In the 3rd inning, DAA blew the game wide open scoring 6 runs thanks to a monster 3-run dou ble by Howie Friedman. DAA never looked back, as they added 2 runs in the 4th and then another 4 runs in the 5th to end the game early by “mercy rule” as they cruised to a 17-5 victory, clinching a spot in the playoffs where they look to defend their champion ship victory from the prior season.
Being down 7 players and com ing into a must-win performance is never easy. But Scott Leder got the Park Heights Roofing team fired up for this one. He led the team with his work from the mound and the rest of the team followed from the plate. Being down 5-2 after 4 innings, it took only a couple of singles to get PHR started. Those initial hits were then followed by a 2-run triple from Koby Leder, who had 4 hits on the evening and a few highlight reel catches in CF.
Coming off its first loss of the sea son the prior week, PHR was zoned in. PHR started with a bang, plating 5 runs in the first, capped by a 2-run double by Eli Englander. They didn’t need much more than that as Scott Leder only gave up 5 runs the rest of the game. Koby Leder was solid on defense and had a multi-hit performance, as did Binyamin Guttman. Game ball went to Rafi Strum who went 4 for 4, including a 2-run blast in the 4th. Shia Swiatycki and Avi Safren had 3 hits each while Brain Ponczak played stellar defense and reached base two times, as did newcomer Yehuda Leib Katz. Shmuel Beck, the heart and soul of the team, made sure Park Heights Roofing never looked back and helped the team cruise to a 10-5 victory.
Binyanim Guttman had multiple hits and RBIs and played really well in the OF while Shia Swiatycki was superb on defense and had two hits.
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Shmuel Beck reached base 3 times, showing patience at the plate and Shlomo Rosenstein had multiple hits as well, helping PHR finish the game with a 10-5 victory. The win sealed the first-place seed for PHR, elating team owner Avi Mandel who provided divrei bracha both before and after the game.
Team Won Lost Tied Park Heights Roofing 5 2 0 Jewish Day Camp 5 2 0 Donny Ankri Architects 5 2 0 Shimz Cars 4 3 0 KD Gold & Coin Exchange 4 3 0 Clothier 2 4 1 Fired Up Promotions 2 5 0 Diamond Medical Laboratories 0 6 1
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Around the Community JCNSL by “Tripping Kosher” ends regular season; Enters “Mailman Law, LLC Postseason” On Sunday evening, September 4th, the JCNSL ended its regular season in dramatic fashion, with every game presenting a playoff implication of some sort. Multitudes of fans ventured out to the beautiful Reisterstown Regional Fields - by Web Interactive Technologies to take in the excitement. And though many were distracted by the unusually dapper and debonair players (thanks to their fashionable team jerseys sponsored by Sushi Sakura), the fans were not let down. When it was over, the standings were as follows:Thetop 4 teams now enter the Postseason (scheduled for Sunday, September 11th) where all teams will vie for a shot at the highly cov eted, Mailman Law, LLC trophy. Read on for some of the highlights from the past few weeks of the season: Week 3 Fired Up Promotions 14 KD Gold & Coin Exchange 11 In an epic battle, the game was tied at six with Fired Up Promotions batting in the top of the sixth. All it took was an error, scoring one run for Fired Up, to then open the floodgates. Fired Up would send 15 hitters to the plate scor ing 9 runs to take a commanding 14-6 lead.KD made things interesting in the bottom of the sixth, scoring four runs, but Fired Up clamped down on de fense and closed the game out, 14-11. Fired Up Promotions racked up 22 hits on the day. Navid Raoofian, Kivi Gross, Jeremy Kramer, Yoni Strauss, Shimmy Messing, David Addi, and Benyomin Goldenberg all collected multiple hits for Fired Up. Gross and Raoofian each collected four hits to lead Fired Up Promotions.
Week 4 Donny Ankri Architects 7 Shimz Cars 5 With major playoff implications on the line, Donny Ankri Architects battled Shimz Cars in a pivotal game. Shimz got on the board first with a run in the opening inning. DAA answered with a run of their own. The bats went cold for both teams with multiple 3 and outs for the next 2 innings, thanks to stellar pitching by Yacov Ben zaquen and Howie Friedman. But Shimz then broke the stalemate, scor ing 2 runs in the 4th to take a 3-1 lead. With their season on the line, DAA had to find a way to score runs. Their bats awakened in the 5th as DAA scored 4 runs, aided by a 3-run double to RF by Menachem Rubenstein. Shimz had one last chance in the 7th, down only 2 runs. Shimz got 2 runners in scoring position to put pressure on the DAA defense, but thanks to a solid defensive play by Donny Ankri and a couple big outfield catches, DAA secured the win to move a step closer to a playoff berth.
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Rabbi Chesky Tenenbaum salutes the Veterans Rabbi Chesky Tenenbaum dances with the Veteran Torah Rabbi Chesky Tenenbaum and his son Yitzy with Baltimore County Police Commander of Pikesville Precinct, Captain Andrea Bylen
Around the Community Veterans Sefer Torah dedicated in Baltimore in memory of World War II Veteran
Aspecial and unique Hachnosos Sefer Torah Parade and celebration took place in Baltimore, Maryland. The Jewish Uniformed Service Association of Maryland-Chabad (JUSA), under the directorship of Rabbi Chesky and Chani Tenenbaum welcomed the Veterans Torah with a festive parade headed from Blue Stone Park to the headquarters of JUSA. The Torah was dedicated in memory of World War II Veteran Ernie and his wife Beatrice Fass to the JUSA Center by their daughter Regina and her husband Habib Srour and coordinated through the Torah Gemach and Rabbi Bentzion Chanowitz. Ernie Fass enlisted in the Navy at 18 years old and was deployed on The Destroyer Escort fighting against Ja pan in WWII. Due to his bravery, he was decorated with a Bronze Star for the Empire Raids and Bombardment of July-August 1945. Together with his wife Beatrice he built a warm and welcoming home, raising 6 children, and hosting guests. In the 1960s he be came a patrolman for the NYPD So cial Service Dept, working his way up to Lieutenant. Their daughter Regina sought an opportunity to commemo rate their special parents. Upon hear ing about JUSA and the support that they provide Veterans and men and women in uniform on a regular basis, they were excited to designate the or ganization as the recipients of this spe cialToTorah.welcome the Veteran Sefer To rah, many Veterans, whose military careers expand over many decades, joined in the festivities, holding close their new Torah while parading un derneath a Chupa through Baltimore County streets. Over 250 people at tended as the Torah was celebrated with live music and dancing. The pa rade was led by the Baltimore County Police Department and two vintage Maryland State Police cars. Once reaching the JUSA Center, a special Salute was awarded to all of the Veter ans in attendance, in partnership with
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RAJE Maryland Director, Rabbi Gavriel Horan, met Joe Bernstein in UMBC back in 2017. Joe attended an introductory Torah class on campus at the behest of a friend. Rabbi Horan recalls that he was impressed by Joe’s intelligence, good manners, and curly “Jew-fro.” At a subsequent meeting with Rabbi “G,” Joe explained that although he had attended Baltimore’s Kreiger Shechter Jewish Day School most of his life, he had little interest in continuing his Jewish education or engagement on campus. The meeting ended amicably with Joe agreeing to consider coming back to the weekly classes on campus. He never did… For the next several years, Joe avoided Rabbi Horan’s every attempt to make conversation either with a polite excuse, or by walking the oth er way. After a Birthright trip to Is rael, Joe mentioned in passing that he didn’t find it particularly inspiring and had no interest in going back. Although Rabbi Horan attempted to reach out to Joe every few months, it was never successful. That’s why he was surprised when Joe suddenly tex ted him out of nowhere in the Fall of 2018 asking for a meeting. “That was one of the first times in my 10 year ki ruv career that a student I hardly knew actually requested to meet with me,” he recalled. “I wasn’t sure what to ex pect.” At the meeting, Joe dropped a bombshell: “Rabbi, I’ve found God,” he said.“This wasn’t the first time a student told me that he found God,” Rabbi Horan recalled. “There were only two explanations – either a hallucinogenic drug experience or Christianity. It was the latter.” Joe confessed to having be come affiliated with a Christian club on campus and found it very inspira tional. “After all my years in Jewish schools, I never learned that God loves me,” he said. “For the first time in my life I became exposed to spirituality and it filled a void within that I didn’t even know was there.” Despite his at traction to Christianity he had some reservations about the whole Messi ah thing and his mother suggested he meet with the Rabbi on campus. “Before you can decide what you think about Christian spirituality, you first have to learn a little bit about Jewish spirituality,” Rabbi Horan said. Joe agreed to meet with Rabbi Horan a few times a week and they began learning about the basics of Jewish philosophy and mysticism, eventual ly discussion the core problems with Christianity. After a few sessions Joe had been convinced that he had a lot to learn. “Not only was Judaism a lot more intellectually compelling than Christianity,” he recalled, “but every thing I liked about Christianity – and more - was actually originally found in Judaism.”Afterafew weeks of learning Joe decided he was done with Christianity and signed up for Rabbi Horan’s trip to Poland with an extension to Israel to learn in Aish for a few weeks. He loved the experience in yeshiva and upon returning to the U.S. began to slowly start taking on mitzvah obser vance. During COVID, Joe used to walk to Rabbi Horan’s house every single Shabbos afternoon and learn, ask questions, or just schmooze for hours at a time. After graduation Joe landed a great job as a programmer at a big company. After a year on the job, however, he decided that although he was making a very good salary, it was time to quit to go to yeshiva in Ma chon Shlomo in Israel. During that time Joe began partic ipating in Etz Chaim’s online J-Care Fellowship where he met a nice girl named Arielle Messafi, also original ly from Baltimore. Although his plan was to attend yeshiva in Israel in Elul, he asked Rabbi Horan if he thought it was a good idea to consider dating Ari elle. Rabbi Horan replied that it didn’t make much sense since she wasn’t headed to seminary and it would only distract him in yeshiva. “What if she’s the right one?” Joe asked. “If she’s the right one, she will wait for you,” Rab bi Horan replied. Joe grew immensely in yeshi va and signed up for a second year. Half way through the second year, he found out that Arielle had decided to go to seminary in Israel. They ended up dating and soon got engaged. Joe celebrating his ufruf in Rabbi Eichen stein’s shul and the two were married over the summer in Ateres Elka. They decided to spend shana rishona in Is rael and were accepted into a special couple’s scholarship program. This year, Joe will be learning in Shappels and Arielle will be learning in Mid reshet Rachel. “If not for all the amazing people along the way, I would likely have ended up another statistic,” Joe re called. “Imagine what might have hap pened if Rabbi Horan hadn’t been so persistent in reaching out to me!” Help support Rabbi Horan and RAJE in touching many more Jews just like Joe in the upcoming year. Stay tuned for details about the up coming Be CouRAJEous campaign, 9/29/22!
A Success Story - From Christianity on Campus to Yeshiva in Yerushalayim
Around the Community Rosh Chodesh Elul for Women at Ner Tamid
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Over 120 women gathered at Ner Tamid Congregation to celebrate Rosh Chodesh Elul (1 Elul). Sponsored by the Ner Tamid Sisterhood and Robin Karlin, the program included singing Hallel together, led by Mrs. Lisa Aronson Friedman on guitar, breakfast, and a performance by Lisa’s choir, Kol Zimrah Baltimore Women’s Choir. The Ner Tamid Women’s Hallel program was started by Rabbetzin Hindy Motzen before the pandemic, but now the program has returned. It provides an uplifting experience, giving women a musical way to celebrate Rosh Chodesh. Kol Zimrah was founded in 2019 and gives adult women the opportuni ty to sing Jewish music together. Much of the choir’s music is Lisa’s original music, set to psalms and other prayers. The choir sang songs with lyrics from Psalm 104 and 117, a Dveykus med ley, Katonti by Yonatan Razel, and Brit Olam (original by Lisa and re corded by Ayelet HaShachar, www. ayeletmusic.org). For more informa tion about Kol Zimrah, contact Lisa at kzbchoir@gmail.com. The program ended with a beautiful performance by the world-renown singer, Elena Tal.
11 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM In My Story, kids share their stories in their own words. You’ll find boys and girls who face their fears, fight for what’s right, and figure out how the world works. You may evenfind yourself. Because Every Kid Has a Story. NEW! From Children’sPopularAuthor ZIVIA REISCHER of Mishpacha Magazine I was just standing there, watching all the action in that huge echoing room, and my stomach started hurting again. I turned to my father and blurted, “What if the plane crashes?” Moshe, age 10 Mordy never does what he’s supposed to do, and he gets all this nosh and prizes. Maybe I should stop doing my homeworkandthenthey’llgivemeasodacantoo. Shloimy,age10 I friendhappened.howfigurecouldn’toutthishadWhydidn’tTziporawanttobemyanymore?Ihadn’tdoneanythingwrongto her. Why did she drop me like that? Adina, age 12 Fallstaff Shopping Center 6830 Reisterstown Rd Baltimore Maryland 21215 Phone: (410) 358-2200
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The 28th annual Tour de Court was played on Sunday, Sept. 4. Tour de Court (TDC) is an annual Pikesville basketball tournament where players are required to ride bicycles to the various outdoor backyard courts. The champions names are tran scribed on the cherished Golden Hel met. Most importantly, TDC has be come a major fundraiser in memory of Rachel Minkove, a’h. For many years, the group has raised awareness and funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society (LLS). It also now supports other local organizations such as The Jewish Caring Network and The Ul man Foundation. You can support the cause by visiting Tourdecourt.org
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BJH: Any final words? Rabbi Goldberger: My father, Rab bi Daniel Goldberger, z”l, who was a rabbi in Denver, would often say, “Chazak v’ematz, be strong and of good courage”. Please join us at our Hachnosas Sefer Torah celebration, September 18, beginning at 1:30 at our home, so we can come together and strengthen each other.
BJH: What does it mean to you for the shul you established to be welcoming this Sefer Torah? Rabbi and Rebbetzin Goldberger: Our lives have been built through Torah, b’ezras Hashem, and our com mitment and pursuit to hold onto it as best as we can at every turn. There is no accomplishment we have achieved and seen flourish, if there are any, without its being rooted in Torah, to the best of our ability. There’s no way to celebrate any success or any en durance without Torah. It is the true source of our celebration.
BJH: Aside from leading Tiferes Yisroel, you both teach, and are and have been involved with numerous community organizations, including WITS, WIT, Shoresh, Bais Yaakov, T.A., CHANA, the Associated, and the Chevra Kadisha. What have been some of the biggest rewards you’ve seen from your engagement with the community?
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Rabbi and Rebbetzin Goldberger: The biggest surprise is that 36 years have passed since our arrival! Being given the opportunity to begin from scratch, there were many challenges. Nothing was in place. No infrastruc ture. At the same time, it allowed us to be creative and to be ourselves in de veloping a derech of growth and joy ful commitment to Hashem and Torah through community, and to provide a place where one would feel comfort able in earnestly pursuing the personal relevance of Torah life.
BJH: Looking back on 36 years of shul leadership, what have been some of the biggest surprises? Chal lenges? Gifts?
Rabbi and Rebbetzin Goldberger: It is extremely meaningful to feel like you have made a difference in some body’s life. Drawing on the wisdom of Torah allows one, b’ezras Hashem, to apply its timeless lessons through out the vast expanse of human life-cy cle experiences. This is the unifying theme for us in all these venues.
BJH: Do you have a favorite po suk in the Torah? What and why? Rabbi Goldberger: “Alo Na’aleh v’yarashnu osah, ki yachol nuchal la”
Rebbetzin Goldberger: “Bil’adi” “It is not due to me” (Parshas Mikeitz, Bereishis 41, 16). I experience this as the ultimate response of humility, when Yosef HaTzadik’s immediate response to being asked to interpret the emper or’s dreams was to deny any personal ability, and define all salvation as the work of Hashem alone.
Rabbi and Rebbetzin Goldberger, Hachnosas Sefer Torah
BJH: The Hachnosas Sefer To rah coincides with the 36th anniver sary of your arrival in Baltimore. What brought you to Baltimore from Denver? Rabbi and Rebbetzin Goldberger: Our Rebbe was HaRav Shloime Twer ski, ztz’l, of Denver, Colorado. He was the central figure in our lives. He was niftar on Simchas Torah of 5742, 1981. Rabbi Goldberger received smicha in 1984 from HaRav Pinchas Hirczprung, ztz’l. In the spring of 1986, Rabbi Michel Twerski, shlita, of Milwaukee, had notified us of a group he was involved with in Bal timore, who were looking to begin a shul. Rabbi Michel Twerski thought we might be the right Rabbi and Reb betzin for them. We came to Balti more in June of 1986 for an interview/ Shabbaton. BH, it went well for us. In Elul of 1986, we came here and started our shul, Tiferes Yisroel, with twelve dedicated families.
Rabbi and Rebbetzin Goldberger: Our context in Denver, prior to our Rebbe’s petira, was full participation in his home and shul, which was ab solutely unique. We were nurtured in an environment of love, acceptance, and compassion, and a compelling charge to challenge any preconceived notion we had as Jews. Striving for Torah-based truth was a proactive en deavor, and one that demanded ener gy and focus. We were stunned and stilled at losing all of that in 1981. We endeavored to incorporate these ideals and goals in building our kehilla here in Baltimore. We found Baltimore re ceptive and our shul flourished, BH.
“We shall surely rise up and take it as our heritage for we are able and capa ble of doing this” (Parshas Shalach, Bamidbar 13;30: Calev’s response to the other ten spies.) My bar mitzvah parsha, Sh’lach. I appreciate this posuk because it de scribes the positive attitude of a Jew as he strives to conquer the challenges of the horizon ahead, b’ezras Hashem.
BJH: What was your context like in Denver, what did you find to be different in Baltimore, and how have you bridged the two?
Last month, shots were fired at an Israeli bus traveling along Route 60, the West Bank’s main north-south highway, near the Ofra settlement.
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On Sunday afternoon, a pickup truck overtook a bus carrying Israe li troops in the Jordan Valley and opened fire, wounding the driver and six soldiers. The three gunmen also tried to pour flammable liquid on the bus to light it on fire. The three terrorists, who the IDF said are relatives – a father, a son, and a nephew – tried to flee after sol diers opened fire on them. Their car caught on fire. The son and nephew, Muhammed and Walid Turkman, of Jenin, jumped out of the vehicle and were arrested. Their father, who is married to an Israeli and holds an Is raeli citizenship, is still at large.
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2 Killed in Lod Manar Hajaj and her 14-year-old daughter, Khadra, were killed this week late Monday night in Lod while unpacking bags from their vehicle. Khadra’s twin was injured in the at tack. Although police have launched an investigation in the murders, Lod’s mayor, Yair Revivo, asserts that had the victims been Jewish the investi gation would receive more attention from police. But authorities are dealing with a surging crime wave gripping Israel’s Arab communities. Investigators said the shooting could be linked to a dis agreement involving Hajaj’s husband.
In efforts to locate the third sus pect in Sunday’s attack, security forc es are conducting intensive operations in the northern West Bank, Tubas, Jenin, and Qabatiya. One Palestinian who shot at soldiers during the opera tions has been killed. The incidents came amid rising violence in the West Bank. On Fri day, a soldier was stabbed in He bron, and there have been numerous stone-throwing attacks on Israeli ci vilians driving in the West Bank in recent days.
Col. Meir Biderman, the com mander of the 417th territorial bri gade, said IDF forces were continuing to hunt for the additional member of the cell. “We won’t rest until we catch all of them,” he said.
“There continues to be a crazy wave of violence raging in this coun try, especially in the Arab communi ty, and I am sorry to say this, but the country is not waking up,” Revivo told Ynet. “If this number of murders were in the Jewish community, the country would come to a standstill,” he said. “This is a violation of the securi ty of all the residents of the country — Jews and Arabs alike — and what infuriates and makes my blood boil is that these vile killers have no inhi bitions. It is not about criminals who kill criminals, but people who are helpless and incapable of defending
The bus was full at the time of the attack and at least eight bullet holes were found on the bus’s windows and body, but thankfully no injuries were incurred.
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WWW.THEBJH.COM themselves, and it is simply terrible,” Revivo said. Lod city council member Fida She hada said the situation in the city was out of control, with the women having been attacked not far from the police station. “They were quiet neighbors who never harmed anyone. We are living in the Wild West, where in the middle of the city of Lod — near the police sta tion and city hall — women are mur dered,” Shehada said. On Tuesday morning, Prime Min ister Yair Lapid held talks with secu rity officials on the murders, as well as the general problem of rising crime in the Arab community, according to a statement from the premier’s office. “The acts of violence and murder harm the citizens’ sense of security and their daily routine,” the state ment read, adding that police would be working in Lod “to prevent acts of revenge” as well as increasing their presence in other so-called “mixed cities.”Police chief Kobi Shabtai said in a statement that the probe into the Lod murders was a “top priority” for the force, and that law enforcement pres ence in the city would be bolstered. According to the Abraham Initia tives, a group campaigning against vi olence in the Arab community, at least 75 Arabs have been killed in violent crimes in Israel so far this year, 71 of whom were citizens of the country. Lod is a “mixed” city, where Jews and Arabs alike both live.
Get Refuser Can’t Be Buried in Israel In an effort to get Meir Kin to give his wife Lonna Ralbag a get, the Chief Rabbinate has ruled that Kin’s fami ly cannot be buried in Israel. He has refused to give his wife, who lives in Monsey, NY, a get for the past 19 years. “This shows that the State of Isra el, as the state of the Jewish people, will do everything with every tool at its disposal, even unconventional ones, to help chained women,” Mori ya Dayan, an attorney for Yad La’Isha, told The Times of Israel. Although Kin has not granted Ral bag a Jewish divorce, he filed for a civ il divorce from Ralbag in California. He got remarried in 2014 after receiv ing approval from a beit din, although many do not agree with the beit din’s approval.Rabbinic authorities in the United States have attempted to pressure Kin into granting Ralbag a get by excom municating him, preventing him from being counted in a prayer quorum and otherwise taking part in religious life. Another such measure, which is exceedingly rare and used only in ex treme cases, is to bar the family of a recalcitrant husband from receiving a Jewish burial. The Rabbinical Coun cil of California utilized the measure against Kin in 2010 — nearly a decade after he was first ordered to give Ral bag a divorce — preventing his mother from receiving a Jewish burial in the United States when she died in 2019. Instead, the Kin family brought his mother’s body to Israel to have her interred here. Ashkenazi Chief Rabbi David Lau, who was made aware of the case, attempted to block the funer al in Israel, leading to a legal dispute. However, as the remains were already in the country awaiting burial and af ter Kin’s family made certain pledg es to advance the divorce, Rabbi Lau ultimately relented, and the funeral went ahead as planned. Kin’s father is still alive, but the 89-year-old is in poor health. It is for this reason that Ralbag’s attorney went to Israel’s High Court, hoping to get a ruling in advance of any burial. Ralbag hailed the court’s deci sion. “I am deeply thankful to the Chief Rabbinate for this miraculous decision, which proves that I am not alone and that the people of Israel are with me. I very much hope and pray that this decision will help set me free after nearly two decades, even if the only motivation behind these actions are his desire to properly respect his parents and family and to spare them from the potential consequences of this decision. I also hope that this de
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On Monday, the presidents of Is rael and Germany marked 50 years since the murders of 11 Israeli athletes who were slaughtered by Palestinian terrorists at the 1972 Munich Olym pics. During the commemorations, Berlin asked for forgiveness from the families of the victims and admitted responsibility for a litany of failings. “We cannot make up for what has happened, not even for what you have experienced and suffered in terms of
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Last year, the house cleaner at De fense Minister Benny Gantz’s private residence was caught stealing secrets and documents and passing them along to Iran. Now, Omri Goren, 38, will be serving three years in jail as part of a plea deal reached with the prosecution. He was found guilty of attempting to pass on information to an enemy entity. Under the plea deal, the es pionage charges that were original ly included in the indictment were dropped. “[Goren] is not a spy, and this isn’t a spying scandal,” said attorneys Gal Wolf and Anat Yaari, Goren’s repre sentatives from the public defender’s office, after his sentencing. “This is about a man who found himself en tangled in debt and identified a secu rityGorenbreach.”largely admitted to the al legations against him throughout the investigation but repeatedly denied that he knowingly offered to help Iran. “Who says it was the Iranians? It was hackers on Telegram,” Goren told reporters while appearing in court via video link in December. However, his interrogation sug gested that he was well aware of the hackers’ Iranian affiliation, saying he had planned to trick them by collect ing their money without providing them with anything. “If they would have waited a few days before arresting me, they’d see that I’m not a spy. I wanted to trick the Iranians and take their money with out sending them any photo or docu ments,” Goren said during his interro gation, according to Channel 12. Goren was arrested in November last year. According to the indictment, he had contacted hackers from the Iranian-affiliated group Black Shadow on Telegram and offered to provide them with information about Gantz in exchange for money. He also reportedly offered to plant a bug on Gantz’s computer in ex change for money, asking for $7,000 in return. The indictment detailed how Goren took photographs of Gantz’s desk, computer, phone and tablet; a closed safe and a shredder; pictures of Gantz and his family; and a copy of the minister’s local property tax pay ments. After his arrest, it was discovered that Goren had an extensive crimi nal history, with five convictions and four prison sentences for a variety of crimes, including two bank robberies. This prompted the Shin Bet to launch an internal probe to determine how Goren, who was hired before Gantz entered politics, had been permitted to continue working for him once he became defense minister. In its findings, the agency acknowl edged “procedural failures in the way that Omri Goren’s security check was conducted,” citing issues with work flow procedures, professional activi ties and oversight mechanisms that it said “should have discovered the mis take after it happened.”
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Herzog noted that the Israelis ath letes “were brutally murdered in cold blood by a Palestinian terror organiza tion just because they were Jews; just because they were Israelis. “For us, as a people and as a coun try, this massacre has always been a national disaster,” he said, adding that the Olympics would “never be the same again” for Israelis. Herzog added, “This was not a Jewish and Israeli tragedy, it was a global tragedy,” he said. “The world must never forget: the war on ter ror, everywhere and always, must be fought with unity, determination, and assertiveness. The future of human society depends on us sanctifying the good and at the same time, repudiat ing and vanquishing evil. Antisemi tism, hatred, terror.” After the murders of the Israeli athletes, the Games were initially sus pended. Shortly after, the Internation al Olympic Committee decided that the “Games must go on,” a decision that has been widely criticized for its callousness. Ankie Spitzer’s husband was killed 50 years ago. “I came home with the coffins after the massacre,” Ankie said. “You don’t know what we’ve gone through for the past 50 years.”
“Even 50 years after the murder of 11 Israeli athletes here… There is still pain and the pain is unending,” he said, referring to the families.
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Recently, Israel released guidelines for those coming into the West Bank, requiring foreign nationals to notify them if any of them start a relationship with a Palestinian in the West Bank.
28 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM defensiveness, ignorance and injus tice. I am ashamed of that,” said Ger man President Frank-Walter Stein meier.“As head of state of this country and in the name of the Federal Repub lic of Germany, I ask your forgiveness for the inadequate protection afforded to the Israeli athletes at the Olympic Games at Munich and the woeful in vestigation afterward. That it was pos sible for what happened to happen.” Steinmeier’s apology came after a bitter fight by bereaved relatives for Berlin to own up to mistakes that en abled the massacre and for appropri ate compensation. Last Wednesday, a deal was finally reached with the victims’ families and the German government. In the agree ment, Berlin is to provide 28 million euros ($28 million) in compensation. It also – for the first time – saw the German state acknowledge its “re sponsibility” in failings that led to the deaths of the Israelis. Opening his remarks, Steinmeier read out the names of the murdered Israeli athletes, who he said came with hope to compete in the Games. “All hope ended in a nightmare,” he continued. Steinmeier also acknowl edged the “catastrophic” German res cue operation, in which some hostages and a German policeman were killed, along with five of the hostage-takers. “Today, 50 years on, many ques tions, far too many questions, remain unanswered… The attack was followed by years of decades of silence and blocking out… that too is a failure,” he said, calling for a continued “search for answers” about the attack and its aftermath. President of Israel Isaac Herzog spoke after his German counterpart.
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On Monday, the Israel military said there was a “high probability” an Is raeli soldier accidentally killed veter an Al Jazeera journalist Shireen Abu Akleh during an operation in Jenin nearly four months ago, based on its investigation into the incident.
Abu Akleh was highly respected in the Arab world for her decades cover ing Palestinians and other Arab com munities.
The new draft also allows for the extension of foreigners’ visas from 90 days to 180 days. In addition, COGAT removed quotas on visiting lecturers and students at Palestinian universi ties, originally set at 100 teachers and 150 students. Despite the changes, and the re lease of the revised guidelines, U.S. Ambassador Tom Nides says the U.S. continues to “have concerns with the published protocols.”
Initially the IDF thought that Pal estinian gunmen were responsible for the shooting. Later, it acknowledged that a stray bullet coming from an Is raeli soldier may have killed her.
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The updated document removed a requirement that a foreigner who starts a relationship with a West Bank resident after entering the territory must notify Israeli authorities within 30 days of their engagement, wedding, or living together.
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“It is important to ensure all of these regulations are developed in coordination with key stakeholders, including the Palestinian Authority,” he said. “I fully expect the Govern ment of Israel to make necessary ad justments during the pilot period to ensure transparency as well as the fair and equal treatment of all US citizens and other foreign nationals traveling to the West Bank.”
The 51-year-old Palestinian-Amer ican journalist, who was wearing a vest marked “Press” and a helmet, was killed during clashes between Israeli troops and Palestinian gunmen while covering an Israeli military operation in the refugee camp in the northern West Bank on May 11.
On Monday, a military official told reporters that a soldier had been iden tified who had “with very high likeli hood” shot the journalist by mistake. “He misidentified her. His reports in real-time point to a misidentifica tion,” the officer said, speaking on con dition of anonymity.
Based on the final findings of its probe, the IDF said it was still “not possible to unequivocally determine the source of the gunfire” that killed Abu Akleh, but that “there is a high probability that Abu Akleh was acci dentally hit by IDF gunfire fired to ward suspects identified as armed Pal estinian gunmen during an exchange of fire in which life-threatening, wide spread and indiscriminate shots were fired toward IDF soldiers.”
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“A foreigner married to a resident of the Area, or forming a couple with one, must proceed to make arrange ments… before arriving at the Area. If the relationship starts after the for eigner arrived at the Area, then the authorized COGAT official must be informed in writing within 30 days of the relationship’s start. At the same time, an application must be submit ted to the Palestinian Authority for formalizing the status,” the original draft had stated.
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This week, due to pushback from the Biden administration and European governments, Israel has revised those guidelines.TheCoordinator of Government Activities in the Territories (COGAT), the Defense Ministry body responsible for Palestinian civil affairs, originally published a draft of “Procedure for en try and residence of foreigners in the Judea and Samaria area” in February. The rules were set to take effect in July but were delayed by petitions to the Supreme Court.
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32 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM Her family criticized the investiga tion, saying on Monday that the army “tried to obscure the truth and avoid responsibility” for the killing. “Our family is not surprised by this outcome since it’s obvious to any one that Israeli war criminals cannot investigate their own crimes. Howev er, we remain deeply hurt, frustrated and disappointed,” the family said in a statement. It also reiterated its call for an independent U.S. investigation and a probe by the International Criminal Court.
Romualdo Macedo Rodrigues, a fisherman, was fishing in a boat in Au gust when the boat developed cracks and started taking on water. Even tually, the boat sank off the coast of northern Brazil. Rodrigues managed to jump inside a floating cooler before it floated away. That cooler was his res cue buoy for 11 days, until a group of fishermen found him and took him to shore. After he was rescued, Rodrigues was taken to a hospital in Suriname and was kept for a few days because he didn’t have proper documentation. Now, he’s back in Brazil. “I was born again. I thought I wouldn’t be telling this story, but I’m back here,” he said. “I was desperate. I thought my end was coming. But thanks G-d, G-d gave me one more chance,” Rodrigues told Record TV. “I saw it (the freezer) wasn’t sinking. I jumped (inside it), it fell to one side and kept normal.” Rodrigues, ironically, doesn’t know how to “Sharksswim. were surrounding the freezer, but they went away. I thought (I would be attacked). I stayed on the top (of the freezer), I didn’t sleep – I didn’t sleep. I saw the dawn, the dusk, asking G-d to send someone to rescue me.” Eventually water started to creep inside the freezer, and he said he used his hand to scoop it out. Rodrigues didn’t have food or water to keep him alive. “I was thinking about my kids, my wife. Every day, I was thinking about my mother, my father, all my family. It gave me strength and hope ... but at the moment I thought there was no other way,” he told Record TV.
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Finally, after 11 days at sea, Ro drigues heard sounds of salvation. “I heard a noise, and there was a boat on top of the freezer. Only they (the other fishermen_ thought there was no one there. Then they slowly pulled over, my vision was already fading, then I said, ‘My G-d, the boat.’ I raised my arms and asked for help.” He is grateful to be alive. “That freezer was G-d in my life. The only thing I had was the freezer. It was a miracle.”
Cold Comfort A Brazilian man has a freezer to thank for keeping him alive.
Chichi, the chimpanzee, managed to escape from her enclosure at a Ukrainian zoo last week. Thankfully, zookeepers were able to bring the ape back to the zoo at Kharkiv after she was found in a park. But Chichi got to ride home in style. Zookeepers had followed the pri mate, and Chichi approached one of the workers when it started to rain. The zookeeper put a yellow raincoat on the chimp and wheeled her back to the zoo on the seat of a bicycle. Chichi was one of numerous ani mals evacuated earlier in the Russian invasion from Feldman Ecopark, an outdoor zoo in the Kharkiv region that was determined to be dangerous ly close to targets of Russian shelling. Despite the war, Chichi is still mon keying around.
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The staff, led by 24-year-old Avraham (Avromy) Ble ich, had a formidable task in front of them.
Over the years, other communities were established throughout Ukraine, including Chabad and Olami/Ner
But then, in 1991, Communism fell, and Ukraine became an independent country. Rabbi Bleich real ized the time had come. On the advice of the Stoliner Rebbe, he returned once more to Kiev, along with his wife, for three months. Those three months have now turned into 30 years. Rabbi Bleich took on the mam moth task of rebuilding Yiddishkeit in Ukraine, a young man alone. He received government recognition and was appointed chief rabbi. In the early years, the Bleich family lived in Kiev throughout the year, with many of their children be ing raised and educated there. Eventually, the family moved back to the U.S., and now Rabbi Bleich and his children shuttle back and forth between the two coun tries.
Yaakov politely declined their offer. Moving from the free United States to communist Ukraine was incon ceivable. But as the trip continued, the theme repeated itself. Amazingly, seemingly at random, another man and yet another approached him, singling him out from the others, and begged him to join and lead their com munity. Yaakov couldn’t ignore the phenomenon and took it as a sign from Heaven. But still, becoming a rabbi under communism was out of the question.
t was a bittersweet occasion. The beautiful and stately building which had once housed the world-renowned Yeshivas Chachmei Lublin, built by the blood, sweat, and tears of its founder Harav Meir Shapiro, zt”l, was coming to life again, after sitting forlornly for over three quarters of a century. Its hallowed halls, quietly attesting to a glory that was lost, were to be filled once more with the sweet sounds of Torah and love of Yid dishkeit, albeit on a temporary basis. Its soon-to-be inhabitants, however, were far from the place they called home. The sweet, innocent faces of Camp Shuva campers betrayed genuine fear. Just a few months ago, the children lived happy “normal” lives. They enjoyed sports and games, dreaded doing home work, worried about their report cards, fought with their sisters, and looked forward to summer camp. In the past few months, though, the lives they knew have been destroyed, and cold fear has taken up residence in the pits of their stomachs. Many of the children arrived at camp without their fathers, who are not allowed to leave Ukraine. Countless fathers have already been drafted and sent to the brutal front lines. The children didn’t know if they would ever see them again.
The old men were fascinated by the group of chassidim, not believing such Jews still existed. They began phys ically touching them, feeling them, to make sure they were real and not a figment of the imagination.
In the ensuing years, Rabbi Bleich facilitated the complete rebuilding of the community and a net work of support. In the early years, he received fi nancial help from Moshe Reichmann, who did a tre mendous amount for Russian and Ukrainian kiruv at that time, and that got Rabbi Bleich off the ground.
How It All Began The year was 1987. At the time, the Communist government still ruled the USSR with an iron fist. A small group of men from the Stoliner community of Borough Park were on a trip to visit Kiev. Among them was a recently married young man by the name of Yaakov Bleich. Yiddishkeit in Ukraine, like in the rest of USSR, was nearly extinct. There was a grand total of one shul in all of Kiev, known as the Podol syna gogue, or the Rosenberg synagogue. On Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur and Simchas Torah, the shul would house 33,000 people, who would come to shul for the High Holidays. The streets nearby were blocked off for the occasion. However, there was nary a young person to be seen. Due to fear of the government and their agents, the shul was attended by elderly people almost exclusively. They knew if the young generation attend ed shul, the Communists would close the shul entirely.
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Recruiting volunteers, they built schools, kosher in frastructure, yeshivos, an orphanage, and shuls. As the community matured, its members assisted in the efforts. Rabbi Bleich’s network of volunteers and sup porters grew as well. And a spiritual wasteland began to bloom once more.
A Summer Like No Other The Story of Ukraine’s Camp Shuva
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Yaakov was inspired by the trip and returned again a month later. Not long after, he returned yet a third time. During this third trip, one of the locals pulled at the sleeve of the young Yaakov Bleich and enjoined him to join the community and become their rabbi. They were desperate for young fresh blood, a dynamic leader who could breathe new life into the dried bones of a community withered by the ravages of communism.
The religious community of Rabbi Bleich grew to a few hundred families who were complete members, beside thousands more throughout Ukraine who were impacted. In addition, he raised many protégés who eventually moved out of the country, settling in big ger Jewish centers and raising frum families. Many of his students went on to become rabbis and roshei yeshivos and other prominent members of the Jew ish community. At the time that the recent war in Ukraine broke out, there were ten shuls, three differ ent boys schools, a Bais Yaakov, a yeshiva and a kol lel and an orphanage for boys and for girls, kosher grocery stores and restaurants, an old-age home, and different community programs for the Jews in Ukraine. Besides for the core community, many more are in the process of joining and coming closer.
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Rabbi Bleich’s son, Avromy, runs the boys division of Camp Shuva. Avromy tells of a boy who came to camp year after year, who was very proud of his Jewish roots but consistently had zero interest in Torah and mitz vos. Avromy enjoined him to come to the Bleichs for Shabbos, but the boy kept pushing him off. Avromy was persistent, inviting him again and again. Finally, the boy agreed, just to get Avromy off his back. He came that Shabbos to the Bleich home and loved it. It blew him away. It was the first time in his life he had experi enced a real Shabbos. He came back, again and again. This boy used to visit local pubs in Kiev and rap, mak ing some money and building a network of “buddies.” But he began to embrace Judaism and that turned his buddies away. They were not interested in some reli gious “fanatic.” The boy committed himself fully to Yid dishkeit, becoming, in Avromy’s words, not just frum but “very frum.” Avromy recently asked the boy if he misses his old life. The boy confided to Avromy that while he used to rap in the bars and pubs, he really felt empty and depressed inside; behind the gaiety and fun, he really felt he had nothing to look forward to. Only since he began keeping Shabbos and kosher does he feel true inner happiness.
Sparks of Yiddishkeit
Excited beyond words, the boy kept his end of the deal faithfully. When Rabbi Bleich hand ed him his computer as per their deal, the boy’s hands were literally shaking with emotion. Eventually, the boy went on to be one of the founders of PayPal. Sadly, he moved to California and did not remain committed to Torah. He does still fast on Yom
Only since he began keeping Shabbos and kosher does he feel true inner happiness.
The Bleich children are very much involved, too. They grew up understanding they were part of a vi tal mission, and from a very young age, they each took part. Rabbi Bleich’s son Avromy recalls learning with men old enough to be his grandfather, when he was still a young boy. He would involve neighborhood children in various programs, too. Camp Shuva Perhaps the crown jewel of Rabbi Bleich’s kiruv empire is his summer camp, Camp Shuva, which includes a boys’ camp, a girls’ camp and then a family camp. Each program runs for three weeks. When the camp first started, Rabbi Bleich led Camp Shuva himself, assisted by volunteers he recruit ed from the United States. As the Bleich children grew older, they filled in with running the camp. Currently, his son Avromy runs the boys’ camp, and his daughter Hindy runs the girls’ division. Up until the recent war, the camps were situated in sce nic Piskivka, outside Kiev, on large, beautiful grounds, surrounded by a forest, with numerous playing fields and amenities. There, lives are transformed. So many children who have previously known little to nothing about Yiddishkeit, never heard of a yarmulka or tzitzis, are exposed to Judaism’s full beauty. Many of them are convinced to switch to religious schools, with the en couragement of the staff. For those who cannot make the switch, the camp staff keeps up with them as best as they can throughout the year. They have a Sunday program, they invite them for Shabbosim and yomim tovim, and send them emails and newsletters to keep the flame of Yiddishkeit alive in their hearts. Many of them eventually do enroll in religious schools full-time.
Avromy recalls the boy who was fascinated by com puters, but his family was too poor to buy one. Real izing that the boy had a hard time with settling down with learning and davening, Rabbi Bleich offered him as an incentive a computer of his own. In return, the boy had to learn, daven, and put on tefillin for a month.
L’elef. All these communities and organization work to gether for the good of the Jews in Ukraine.
Rabbi Bleich has had some notable stories involv ing his “products” over the years. One child who had attended the camp in Ukraine eventually moved to the U.S. in a hick-town far from Jewish life. The boy’s family had little interest in religion, and it seemed all Rabbi Bleich’s efforts with the boy had been for naught. However, the family had one frum neighbor, who hap pened to invite the boy for a Shabbos meal. That frum family had a custom to bench together with the wellknown “benching song.” To their astonishment, they heard the boy, whom they assumed knew nothing about Yiddishkeit, sing along with the entire song, which he had learned in Camp Shuva! After a bit of probing, the family got the “backstory,” and they soon put the boy back in touch with Rabbi Bleich, who helped him switch over to a Jewish school.
More recently, as the heat of the battle waned some what, and shifted away from the Kiev area, some people began moving back. After all, they don’t have much else to fall back on. Avromy spoke to an individ ual who returned to Kiev from Israel. He explained that in Kiev he had a business, owned an apartment, and had a beautiful life. In Israel, he had no job and no money, he was running from apartment to apart
He was crying because he was trying hard to memorize kriyas Shema, but it wasn’t working.
38 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM Kippur, though, and keeps up his connection with Rab bi Bleich.Another boy had been in camp for a few years but was never turned on to anything spiritual. Two years ago, on the last Shabbos of camp, Avromy noticed the boy alone in the camp shul, putting on tefillin. Mys tified, Avromy approached the boy and gently asked him what he was up to. Breaking down in tears, the boy explained that his parents are against religion. Be fore going to camp each year, his parents would exhort him to have a good time but forget all “the religious stuff” which to them was crazy and backwards. Up un til now, he was influenced by their pressure but after being surrounded by the intense beauty of Yiddishkeit, he felt he couldn’t anymore. His neshama was calling. Unaware that Shabbos is not a day for tefillin, he sim ply felt he needed to connect somehow to his Creator. After the summer, Avromy explained to him that al though we don’t put on tefillin on Shabbos, Hashem had tremendous pleasure from his tefillin. The boy began to come to shul on Shabbos and yom tov and became active in the community.
Rabbi Bleich also runs constant events, speeches, trips, and the like to keep the people, especially the chil dren, inspired and preoccupied and to take their minds off their troubles as much as possible. Among other trips, the Bleichs took the children of the community on a tour of Vienna; others were given a trip to Israel.
This effort is ongoing; many families are still scat tered, literally around the globe. Their support system took a hit, as they had been relying to an extent on the affluent members of their own community, who now are quite preoccupied saving their own skins and can’t afford what they could in the past. At the same time, costs increased exponentially. An entire community has lost their possessions and their self-sufficiency and need material and financial support, added to the fact that their multiple locations require three sets of infrastructure.
Rabbi Bleich’s first priority was housing. Families were living in dysfunctional situations. Some were in hotel rooms, some simply sleeping in office buildings on mattresses, in random towns in Germany and else where. Rabbi Bleich rented apartments in Budapest for all “his” families, at enormous cost. A shul was set up for the Ukrainian Jews, and the community tried to piece itself together once more.
Rabbi Bleich quickly swung into action, mobilizing practically the entire community, along with the net work of support he had built up over the years. It was all hands on deck. Bus after bus was arranged to trans port families to safety. Through this, many families who were previously unaffiliated with Jewish life were now drawn into the community and began developing a connection to Yiddishkeit. The Jewish community formed into three branch es, all overseen by Rabbi Bleich simultaneously. One branch remained in Kiev, diminished but still func tioning. Another relocated to the Carpathian Moun tains, in Ukraine, but far from the war zone. And the third branch settled in Budapest, Hungary. Many more Ukrainian Jews are still all over the world, though, in Germany, Switzerland, Poland, America, Portugal, Israel, and Australia.
In the Shadow of War With the outbreak of war in Ukraine, the communi ty, and their lives, have been turned upside down. You might think of Ukraine as a backwards country, but, in fact, many areas are pretty Westernized. Ukraine is divided into regions similar to states, known as oblasts, and those oblasts with big cities like Kiev or Odessa are rich and developed. Families that lived there were settled comfortably, earning a respectable living and leading stable lives – not dreaming of the nightmare about to befall their nation. Once the war broke out, they lost everything. Many ran away from the country with a few suitcases and the shirts on their backs. Nothing else. Still, a large portion of Ukrainian men are not allowed to leave the country and rejoin their families; many are fighting on the frontlines. The communities scattered, their members fleeing in all directions. Families simply drove to the border and crossed it, ending up in remote towns in Germany with no home, no friends, and no support.
39 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM ment, and could not get his children into school. An effort was made to restart school in Kiev, but the Ukrainian government (understandably) will not allow a school to reopen without it having an adequate bomb shelter. Finding a building in Kiev which meets the requirement is so far out of reach. But in Dnipro, they are reopening Jewish schools and possibly in Odes sa, too. And the yeshiva in Kiev is functioning to a degree, as well. At this time, Avromy estimates that there are three shuls that are currently functioning to some degree, out of the original ten. But people are trying to have hope. They would like to think the war will soon wind down, though, of course, there is no way to really know.
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The building of Chachmei Lublin officially belongs to the Jewish community of Poland but is administered by a non-Jewish company, which runs a hotel there.
Avromy tell of a woman who had been a camper at Camp Shuva and steady guest at Rabbi Bleich’s table about 20 years ago. At one point, she stopped coming, and the Bleichs lost contact with her. Once the war broke out, she suddenly reconnected with the Bleich family. Her husband was stuck in Ukraine, and she was alone in Budapest, desperate for support. She called the Bleichs crying and yet feeling terrible that it had to come to this for her to return. Rabbi Bleich invited her over to his apartment in Budapest. They made a bar mitzvah for her son, and he too attended the camp this summer. The boy is now due to begin this September in the Jewish school in Budapest.TheBleichs are also reestablishing an infrastructure in Budapest, including a yeshiva, a kollel, and all the rest, which will probably become permanent.
At the same time, there is an influx of new people in the community who were inspired by the war to stick together with other Jews and return to their roots.
nfortunately, many of the families who scattered due to the war’s tremors are now in cities and towns with no Jewish schools and are in dan ger of ending up in local public schools. The Bleichs are working hard to bring them back and arrange for them to join the community school’s new location in Budapest.
Lublin, while not quite New York City, is still a rel atively modern city, and the urban atmosphere doesn’t naturally lend itself to a campy kind of feel. Avromy had to quickly put up a soccer field and basketball court behind the building and improvise as much as possible to give the children the best camp experience the circumstances would allow. And so…the three week summer program was kicked off. On staff, there was a team of thera pists, to help the children deal with their anxiet ies and fears. The counselors realized they needed to exercise extra sensitivity with the children and do their best to uplift them. The children spoke with their fathers via video call and try to keep up hope they will yet meet in person soon. Many boys would cry at night to return to their homes. Since the grounds were not ideal for a camp, this year Avromy arranged for more field trips than usual, as well as simply walking around the area so the campers didn’t feel confined by the small grounds. The campers enjoyed laser tag, paintball, and an amusement park.
This year more than every year, due to all the up heaval, many children who previously had no connec tion to the Jewish community came to Camp Shuva. The staff hoped to maximize the opportunity to draw them close. The Bleichs worked arduously, and with Hashem’s help, they were able to breathe life into the children’s traumatized souls. Many children will be signing up to join a Jewish school for the first time in their lives. Avromy recounts an episode of a boy who was far from Yiddishkeit. His father is not Jewish, and though he’s been coming to camp for some time, he has made little progress spiritually. This year, just after the scores of color war were announced, Avro my noticed the boy crying profusely. After the com motion of color war died down, he approached the boy, inquiring whether he was crying because his team had lost color war. The boy explained that it had nothing to do with color war. He was crying because he was trying hard to memorize kriyas Shema, but it wasn’t working. He couldn’t remember the words.
All of this requires a bank to run. Rabbi Bleich re ceives support from the Ronald Lauder Foundation, Lazer Scheiner, Ralph Herzka, and other frum donors, as well as the World Jewish Congress and the European Conference of Jewish Rabbis. Still, much more is need ed, and the opportunity is open for more people to help inspire the sparks of the neshamos of our fellow brothers and sisters and bring them back to Yiddishkeit.
As the summer neared, the Bleichs scrambled to find a new venue to replace the campgrounds back in Ukraine. This year, camp was needed more than ever, to give the children some much needed relief and a spiritual boost to lift them somewhat from their sor ry state. Due to the precarious situation, they didn’t know for sure where they will be until about two weeks before camp began. Finally, with few available options, they found the building of the former Yeshiva Chachmei Lublin for the boys’ division, and a location in Dinev, Poland, for the girls.
The Bleichs reached out to the chief rabbi of Poland, who gave them permission and arranged for them to use the historic and nostalgic building for the camp.
In contrast to other nations whom during times of war permit a loosen ing of proper protocol, a Jewish sol dier would not only have to leave the camp to find an appropriate spot to re lieve himself, but must also be careful to cover his waste. This notion was evidently so sig nificant that the ‘spade’ must be given equal status with the mighty sword be ing situated directly beside it. Not only was this important, the entire success of conquering our ene mies was contingent on it. )וט םש( תתלו ךליצהל — to rescue you and to deliver, ךינפל ךיביא — your ene mies before you. It has been observed that embed ded within this verse is a reference to the month of Elul, as the first letters of each word in this sentiment spell out ל-ו-ל-אEven. more intriguing than this random reference to Elul, is the Baal HaTurim’s observation that the word used to describe this ‘instrument of war’; דתיו, and a spade, is numerically equivalent to תובאהו, and The Patri archs! (420) In what way are we to understand this parallel between the very mun dane and ‘practical’ spade and our holy and noble Patriarchs? It is reported in the mystical tra ditions of Kabbalah that Yaakov and Esav split the twelve months of the year between themselves. Yaakov took Tishrei, Chesvan and Kislev, while Esav took Teves, Shevat and Adar. Yaakov took Nissan, Iyar and Sivan, while Esav took Tamuz, Av and Elul. Eventually Yaakov wrested from Esav the months of Adar, which became a time of rejoicing, and Elul, which became the month of Divine mercy and repentance. This is possi bly alluded to in Esav’s complaint to his father Yitzchok when he reported that Yaakov ‘outwitted him twice’, re ferring mystically to these two months that he snatched from him. Every year during the month of Elul, this battle between Yaakov and Esav is pitted once again. Esav seeks to retrieve his rightful due of this the month for himself. He attempts to pre vent us from knowing of the sweetness of repentance. He tries to paint for us a picture of a troublesome month, one that we long to be done with. שב שאר( )ן"רהמ יטוקיל ש"ע םימ The Tzror HaMor points out that immediately prior to this paragraph the Torah refers to our ‘brother’ Esav. He is the enemy the Torah is speak ing about in these subsequent verses, that we hope to overpower perforce our maintaining this שודק הנחמ, a holy camp.The very first directive when go ing out to battle is: )י םש םש( תרמשנו — You shall guard,ער רבד לכמ — against anything evil. The Talmud says that the vigilance required here is to avoid viewing in appropriate images during the day that may bring one to impurities by night. If one experiences impurity he must leave the camp until he purifies him self.The Torah then segues to instruct ing how to tend to our bodily needs with modesty, even during wartime. It concludes with the charge to keep the camp holy in making sure, ךב הארי אלו )וט םש םש( רבד תורע — ‘that He will not see seeing anything lascivious among you.’ The Jerusalem Talmud expands the term 'רבד תורע', which lit erally means ‘naked speech’, to imply the need to refrain from uttering pro fanities.)א"פ תומורת( We are all familiar with remark able work of the Ramchal, the Me silas Yeshorim. The entire book is premised on a famous teaching of the great Tanna, Rabbi Pinchas ben Yair, who taught famously: Torah leads to Watchfulness; Watchfulness leads to Zeal; Zeal leads to Cleanliness; Cleanliness leads to Separation; Sep aration leads to Purity; Purity leads to Holiness; Holiness leads to Hu mility; Humility leads to Fear of Sin; Fear of Sin leads to Holiness; Holi ness leads to Divine inspiration, and Divine inspiration leads to the Revival of the Dead. We are taught that the catalyst for Rabbi Pinchas ben Yair’s ascent up the ladder of spiritual growth was this very first verse that prods us to ‘guard against anything evil’ and avoid gaz ing at arousing images. )כ ז"ע( Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch dis covers that nearly all the steps in this process are alluded to in these terse verses: ‘You shall Guard’/ Watch fulness; ‘Keep a spade’/ Zeal; ‘You By Rabbi Zvi Teichman
When going out in battle against their enemies there is a vital tool that must not only accompany the soldiers at all times, but must also be placed in the exact location on their belts, the left side, where their swords were suspended from. )בוט חקל ,ןתנוהי םוגרת( )די גכ םירבד( היהת דתיו — You must also keep a spade, ךנזא לע — with your weapons. The Torah explains that this was necessary ‘so that when you have to sit down to relieve yourself, you will first dig a hole with it, and then sit down, and finally, cover your waste. For G-d your Lord, walks in the midst of your camp to rescue you and to de liver your enemies before you.’
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What is going on here? We are talking about soldiers getting ‘down and dirty’ in the heat of battle, trying to avoid the temptation to let things simply ‘hang loose’, attempting to not be lured toward the easier path and natural tendency to discard inhibition in these most vulnerable moments. Is this a time for Mussar seder, to open a Mesilas Yeshorim and aspire for Di vineClearlyinspiration?itis!
42 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM shall... cover’/ Cleanliness; ‘He ( one who is impure) shall go outside the camp’/ Purity; ‘Your camp shall be holy’/ Holiness; ‘That He will not see seeing anything lascivious among you’/ Humility and Fear of Sin; ‘For G-d your Lord, walks in the midst of your camp’/ Divine Inspiration.
Perhaps the Torah is teaching us that if one is ready to ‘guard against anything evil’ by sitting under the ‘shade’ of G-d, one will merit to identi fy and face those enemies more clearly and defiantly. When we stand tall and proud living the credo of the Patriarchs and Matriarchs our foes succumb eas ily and fall away, without the need to raise even a sword. It is the ‘spade’ the legacy of our Patriarchs, which have endowed us with the ability to bury the negative influences of this world that is our most potent weapon. It is high time to call a ‘spade a spade’ and be honest with ourselves in assessing how entrenched we are by the culture we are exposed to constant ly. Be it Facebook or other social me dia that allows for venomous, vulgar, and uninhibited expressions to destroy others and ourselves in the process, we must fight the battle in finally burying this waste. Rav Shimshon Pincus re ferred to the internet as the largest cesspool in the world. It’s Elul and merely two weeks before Rosh Hashana when we will beg G-d for his loving protection and blessings. Let us create a ‘holy camp’ by ridding ourselves from the evils that seek to destroy us.
Let us call a spade a spade and once and for all bury this shamefulness so that we may merit that G-d walk in our midst.
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The ability to hone our pure souls to develop the ability to maintain our dignity in the most un dignified settings; to train ourselves to control and monitor even our most in stinctive body functions and maintain our poise; to withhold from our lips the vulgarities that so easily pour forth when we are strained, tired, anxious and in mortal danger, is the hallmark of our Patriarchs that we so strive to emulate.Thisis the ultimate battle between Yaakov and Esav, the forces of those who claim mastery over their strongest urges against those who allow instinct and reflex to govern their lives and de fine their relationship to it. Yaakov mastered his instincts; meriting to proclaim that he never ex perienced an unintentional impurity having never lapsed in his vigilance to be exposed to images that might affect him.Esav, the beast of instinct who de spite moments of inspiration simply can’t creep out of the grasp of his urg es, plunging headfirst into the inviting red porridge, discarding every value for the pleasure and comfort of the moment.When Yaakov finally confronts Esav, displaying before him his ra diant family that reflects the greatest attributes and aspirations of the Patri archs, he places beautiful Rachel at the end of the procession so as to prevent Esav’s lecherous and wandering eyes from falling upon her countenance. This is the ultimate showdown. If we really want to claim rights to this marvelous month of Elul and G-d’s promise to draw close to all who seek Him, we must start at the very be ginning of this ladder. We live in a world influenced and permeated with the philosophy of Esav.Have we given up? Social media, the internet, movies, entertainment, music, assault us incessantly with its powerful lure to our most base in stincts. Yet we continue to expose not only our already tainted eyes and ears but the pure eyes and ears of our chil dren with images, sounds and ideas that stain their souls. It all starts out as merely a glimpse, but fester beneath the surface until it consumes them completely in a bear hug that is impos sible to break out of. Our problem is that we rationalize our behavior claiming to be ‘normal’ and not ‘farfrumt’, overly zealous. But we are only fooling ourselves. We of ten wonder why we aren’t successful, yet the Torah clearly states that if we indulge in seeing inappropriate images and speaking vulgarly, םש( ךירחאמ בשו )וט םש, He will turn away from behind you, removing His protective and lov ing Theembrace.verse assures us that if we sanctify our camp G-d promises ־יצהל ךל, to rescue you. The Midrash sees in this word the root לצ, shade, intimat ing that this relationship begins by our willingness to sit in His shade, to forfeit our fleeting desires for a greater pleasure, to bask in His presence. The verse goes on to say that G-d assures, ךיביא תתלו — to also deliver your enemies, ךינפל — before you. This is an odd phrase, shouldn’t it have said to deliver your enemies ‘into your hands’? What does it mean to place them before you?
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Etti Siegel holds a MS in Teaching and Learning/Educational Leadership and brings sound teaching advice to her audiences culled from her over 35 years of teaching and ad ministrative experience. Etti was an Adjunct Professor at Aspen University and at Concor dia College of NY and is now an Adjunct at the College of Mount Saint Vincent/Sara Shenir er. She is a coach and educational consultant for Catapult Learning and HigherSchools/ FACTS Education Solutions, is a sought-after mentor and workshop presenter around the country, and a popular presenter for Sayan (a teacher-mentoring program), Yachad/OU, Hidden Sparks, and the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools. She is a frequent contributor to Hamechanech Magazine and The Journal of Jewish School Leadership. She will be writing weekly for The Jewish Home. Mrs. Siegel can be reached at ettisiegel@gmail.com. is a theme here, and it is Being Proactive.
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There is a theme here, and it is Being Proactive It might sound overwhelming, but the truth is, once you get the hang of it, it makes life so much easier. Set the timer, even if it is the oven tim er. Have it ring ten minutes before every body needs to out to the school bus. Have a meeting before school with your older children and have them make a list of what they need to get done in the morning. Pretty paper and laminating will make the list feel even more important! Here is a great system to help your ear ly childhood child (through 2nd grade) own the morning routine (and if it works, make a night one, too!). Using a non-pocket folder, make a flip book with your child that allows your child to see what needs to be done, and then flip the folder closed after complet ing that item. You can find images online or draw them and have your child color them in. You can use magnetic tape or VelcroOnedots.ofmy daughters used the concept in her special ed classroom, and another used the idea in her home with her chil dren.Her is a great sample fea tured on https://mamapapabubba. com/2019/07/25/morning-routine-flipchart/The more involved your children are with planning, the more they will own the issue and take responsibility where they can.
Children will feel less frazzled and hectic mornings will be a thing of the past.And the teachers will thank you for the calmer child you will send to school. Enjoy the rest of the summer, and hap py planning!
46 HOMEJEWISHBALTIMORETHE 20228,SEPTEMBER WWW.THEBJH.COM Dear Etti, I am a little nervous about school. It’s been pretty relaxed in my home, and everyone is in va cation mode. How to I make sure we begin school on the right foot? I cringe as I remember last year and the hectic mornings we faced day after day. I asked the bus driv er to wait a little too often, and then I had to drive kids to school on some days. I would appreciate your help and-Anxiousguidance.Mom DearYouMom,arenot alone! It is a big transition to move from the summer no-schedule to the school schedule. Here are some tips that might help: Have breakfast/lunch/snack planned the night before, as much as you can. The decision factor is a time waster for most children. Does your fam ily do yogurt? Cereal and milk? Eggs? Put out the bowls and cereal on the table the night before. Put the frying pan and spat ula on the counter, ready to be used. Have children enter the kitchen with breakfast ready to eat. The most important part, all teachers will tell you, is that your child eats break fast, even if it is breakfast-to-go (bag of cereal and a yogurt with a straw to eat on the way). Teachers cannot expect to teach hungry students, and hungry students are like cars without fuel. Do you pack lunches? Prepare snacks? Think of how you can streamline the process. Snacks can be chosen the night before. Many lunches can be made the night before, or on Sunday for the week! But please, pack what your child will eat. Teachers know how vital food is to your child’s healthy development, but they do not want to be busy trying to convince your son/daughter to eat when they must supervise the rest of the class as well. Have clothing laid out the night before. Your children can do this them selves. Even children who struggle with organization can follow a list (or drawing) of what should be laid out in the desig nated place. Put shoes on the floor near the clothing and precious minutes will be saved in the early morning rush. Have a designated homework spot (even if it is the dining room table). This will allow your child, and you, to no tice if something was not put back in the knapsack to bring back to school. (Have a dumping place for school stuff. This way, if a child is missing a folder, you all know where to look. If a booklet is there for a while, you know you can prob ably toss it; just ask your child first.)
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The Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit is an eis ratzon. There is perhaps no one in recent generations who did so much to help and enrich Klal Yisrael – both in sur mei’rah and asei tov. Wheth er it is the sefer Chofetz Chaim that brought to the forefront of Klal Yis rael’s agenda the importance of being careful with one’s speech, or Ahavas Chessed that codified all the halachos of chessed or, of course, the Chofetz Chaim’s magnum opus sefer Mishnah Berurah that continues to be the foun dational daily halacha sefer in Klal Yisrael, we are still today being spiri tually enriched by the Chofetz Chaim. Certainly, the Chofetz Chaim, through his sefer Likutei Halachos on hilchos korbanos in the Beis Hamikdosh also brought the concept of tzipisa l’yesh ua, longing for the yeshua to the fore front of public consciousness. Thus, there is no doubt that the day of his yahrtzeit is a tremendous eis ratzon, an opportune time for tefilla and for invoking rachmei shomayim on behalf of allIndeed,Jews.if there was ever a time that Klal Yisrael needed to unite in a mas sive outpouring of tefilla and achdus; if there was ever a time when tens of thousands of tinokos shel beis rabban needed to come together to invoke rachmei shomayim, that time is now! That is why Dirshu’s 8th Annual In ternational Yom Limud and Tefilla, to be held on 24 Elul/September 20, the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit, can’t come sooner.This year’s Yom Limud and Tefilla will showcase a special videocast with divrei chizuk by leading Gedolei Yis rael including, HaGaon HaRav Moshe Shternbuch, shlita, Raavad of the Ei dah Hachareidis; HaGaon HaRav Shi mon Galei, shlita, well-known mash pia and Rosh Kollel; HaGaon HaRav Reuven Elbaz, shlita, Rosh Yeshivat Ohr Hachaim; and HaGaon HaRav Nissan Kaplan, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Daas Aharon. The event, that will be launched on motzoei Shabbos Parshas Ki Savo, September 17, will also fea ture inspiring words by Dirshu’s Nasi, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita. The videocast will be chaired by Rav Zev Smith, shlita One of the highlights of the vid eocast promises to be the never-be fore-seen historical footage of Rav Michel Yehuda Lefkowitz, the un forgettable Rosh Yeshia of Yeshiva Ponovezh L’Tzeirim, addressing a group of Acheinu students during the month of Elul. Acheinu is the kiruv arm of Dirshu and the boys had come to Rav Michel for chizuk in advance of Rosh Hashanah. The video cast will be available to hear on a dedicated au dio-line and a USB will also be avail able for viewing by contacting Dir shu’s offices. It will also be available on a number of other platforms.
Undoubtedly, the video and divrei chizuk from the Gedolim in honor of the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit and in advance of the upcoming Yomim Noraim will serve as an ideal way to prepare and derive chizuk for the Yom Hadin Organizers of the Yom Limud and Tefilla clearly tapped into the innate feeling of every Jewish neshama in these extraordinary times when Klal Yisrael is facing unprecedented chal lenges. This concentrated effort in tefilla and achdus was designed to arouse heavenly mercy in the zechus of the heiligeh Chofetz Chaim who was so moser nefesh to promote these ideals amongst Klal Yisrael.
By Chaim Gold Dirshu
Leading Gedolei Yisrael to Address Dirshu’s 8th International Yom Limud and Tefilla
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Hundreds of Thousands Throughout the World To Unite In Learning and Tefilla On Behalf of Klal Yisrael
School Programs Learning from the Way of Chofetz Chaim the World-Over
Simultaneous ly, a unique pro gram will take place in more than 300 cities across the world with many hun dreds of yeshivos, chadorim and Bais Yaakovs participating. The remarkable, school-age pro gram designed by Dirshu is sure to have a tremendous impact on tens of thousands of children both in ma jor Jewish centers and in places far from Yiddishkeit hubs. Created with the singular goal of connecting chil dren to the teachings and life of the Chofetz Chaim, the program offers some hilchos Rosh Hashanah togeth er with hashkafa and mussar as taught by the Chofetz Chaim and compiled into an age-appropriate, user-friend ly, easy-to-understand booklet replete with magnificent illustrations, rare stories of the Chofetz Chaim and a brief history of the Chofetz Chaim’s yeshiva.Dirshu has made these extremely compelling, artfully designed booklets in both English and Yiddish for three different age groups: grades 1-3, 4-5 andThe6-8.captivating stories and graph ics are sure to motivate the children in each age group to read and be inspired. In addition, the combination of rivet ing graphics and clarity of the lessons has been hailed by leading menahelim and mechanchim as a tremendously successful way of bringing alive the lessons of the Chofetz Chaim. In their effort to reach tinokos shel beis rabban from across the spectrum, Dirshu has designed a vivid Yiddish version of the booklet for Chassidishe chadorim with tailormade illustra tions.Along with the booklet, all children will be gifted with a professionally produced CD replete with remarkable lessons and stories about the Chofetz Chaim. The English-speaking students will receive a CD by Rabbi Yoel Fer ber while the Yiddish speakers will be entertained by Rav Leibish Lish. Throughout the diverse commu nities across the United States and Canada, a wide range of more than 150 boys’ and girls’ schools, chadorim and Bais Yaakovs that truly represent the entire panoply of Orthodox Jew ry, has signed up for the Yom Limud and Tefilla school programs. They include schools from communities such as Monsey, NY; Lakewood, NJ; Brooklyn, NY; Manhattan, NY; Toron to, Canada; Houston, TX; Baltimore, MD; Cleveland, OH; Waterbury, CN; Phoenix, AZ; Passaic, NJ; Denver, CO; Boston, MA; Los Angeles, CA; and Providence, RI as well as count less Chassidishe schools in Brooklyn, Lakewood and Monsey. With Rosh Hashanah nearly upon us, we realize what a monumental Yom Hadin we are facing. The world is an extremely unstable place. Klal Yisra el needs you to daven together with hundreds of thousands throughout the world on Dirshu’s Yom Limud and Tefilla, and you need the words of the Gedolim broadcast on the videocast for guidance and chizuk in advance of the New Don’tYear.miss it!
Yom Limud and Tefilla participants at Yeshiva Emet LeYaacov, France, 2021Yeshiva Ketana boys participating in a previous Dirshu Yom Limud and Tefilla, Waterbury, Connecticut
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“He should meet friends from the neighborhood.” This is actually a very valid reason. Although it may not be thought of as such, shul is one of the few officially sanctioned social outlets for the frum man. Expanding your son’s social circles to include people in his neighborhood in a communal environ ment sets the stage for a future of social interactions in the same setting.
“W hen should I start mak ing my kid come to shul?” This is a question that comes up a lot, usually between the ages of seven and ten. There are certain aspects of being a therapist that can shed some light on how to come to an answer and how to make it happen smoothly and successfully when it is time to bring your son along with you. Keep in mind that there are halachic guidelines to consider as well. Before discussing anything else, consider why you want your son to come to shul. Speaking with different fathers will yield a bunch of different answers, including, “Well, he’s old enough and he should be going,” to “I want him to start getting used to it.” Each of these answers deserve discussion by them selves, and we’ll try to give some atten tion to a “Well,few.he’s old enough, and he should be going.” Any answer that includes the word “should” needs a little extra intro spection. What makes you think this is what your son “should” be doing? Is this the age you were when your father started bringing you? Are other boys his age going? Ask yourself the proper ques tions, and you may discover that the an swer of “he should be going” is a smoke screen for other, potentially deeper, an swers. This is not to say that the answer isn’t valid, but you won’t know that until you get past the smoke screen. “I’d like him to learn what it’s like to be in shul for davening.” If this is your reason, you may want to consid er whether he’s old enough to daven for an extended period of time and what he might be doing in shul if he’s not. Un less your shul has youth groups, he may find himself roaming the halls/grounds unsupervised, or inside disturbing the davening. Consider bringing him to a shorter tefilla. He may have patience for that and won’t run the risk of having to keep himself occupied. This also keeps him away from the impression that “davening is long and shul is boring.”
“All the other boys his age come to shul.” The problem with this answer is that it’s missing a “therefore.” Others do it, and then we need to see a logi cal jump to your son specifically. Yes, there is what to be said about the idea of doing what others are doing, but this is not about the other boys. It’s about your son, and what’s best for him in his development.
Yeshaya Kraus, LCSW is a writer, speaker, and therapist working with parents, men with relationship challenges, and couples. He is based in Far Rockaway and can be reached at yykraus@gmail.com.
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“He just bothers everyone at home.”
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This is, not surprisingly, very common, especially with older boys. It may be a reason to start bringing him along with you on Shabbos morning, even if he himself isn’t ready to sit and dav en. Make sure you bring things to keep him occupied. If he ends up hanging out with other boys in the same boat, check in on him periodically. This way, he knows you’re watching, and you’ll feel more secure in knowing what he’s up to and who he’s with. If he’s not ready for that, you may be able to help things out by changing the dynamic at home. Easier said than done and certainly not for this discussion. Your son may be capable of sitting through davening, or coming to shul nicely, davening a bit, and not disturb ing for the rest. You may have decided it’s a good idea to bring him. The one catch is that he’s not interested. In situ ations like these, a little incentivization works very well. When coming up with an incentive, it’s important to choose something together that isn’t huge, is finite, and will help your son acclimate to the point where he doesn’t need the incentive to continue the behavior. One father I worked with arranged for his son to earn a piece of a shtender (side panels, top panel, molding, etc.) for each time he came to shul. After about ten times, the boy had earned a shtender and was happy to come to shul. No fur ther incentivization was needed. Part of our role as fathers is to help our sons develop a healthy relationship with their sense of ruchniyus, with the parts of our day that help us to connect to Hashem. It’s important to do it care fully and in a way which makes them feel enthused and ambitious, not resent ful, and ambivalent. If we truly consid er what’s best for them and what their needs are, we will, b’ezras Hashem, be successful.
It’s about your son, and what’s best for him in his development.
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We spend a lot of time and resourc es protecting ourselves from fear ful occurrences. We wear seat belts, alarm our homes, take vaccines, set up Hatzalah organizations, etc. Real life is scary and prudence would dic tate taking whatever measures we can to avoid frightening situations. Then, why do people actively seek out terri fying experiences such as roller coast ers and scary plays?
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Let us analyze this a little deeper. Imagine a family with two children, Moshe and Menachem. One beau tiful summer day, the family visited an amusement park, which was fa mous for its upside-down multi-loop roller coaster. Moshe anticipated the ride with excitement, but Menachem strongly refused to go on the ride. This common scenario raises the question, why did the same exact situation elic it two very different reactions from Moshe and Menachem? The answer lies in understanding the psychology of roller coasters. We have discussed many times in this col umn the fact that logical thought and the fear response are located in differ ent parts of the brain. The prefrontal cortex in the front of the brain controls logical thought and the amygdala and neighboring sections in the back of the brain controls the fear response. For this reason, the knowledge that a seemingly scary activity is not actual ly dangerous will not necessarily ex tinguish the fear response since these two parts of your brain do not always communicate with each other. When Moshe and Menachem stood by the roller coaster, both of their brains were sending them mixed messages. Their prefrontal cortex told them that hundreds of thousands of people have ridden this roller coast er before and no one was injured, but their amygdala was sounding the alarm since it looked very scary. Moshe was able to ignore his amygda la’s false alarm and use the knowledge and understanding of his prefrontal cortex to board the roller coaster with out hesitation, but Menachem was unable to block out the fear response that was imparted by his amygdala. Now we understand why, unlike Me nachem, Moshe was not afraid of the roller coaster. What we still do not un derstand is why Moshe was so excit ed and enthusiastic to ride this iconic attraction.Thisrequires delving a little bit deeper into the fear reaction. When we are frightened, our brains acti vate the fight-or-flight system. Many changes occur in our bodies in an in stant, including directing the blood to the muscles, heart, brain, and internal organs in order to give us some extra strength in a threatening situation. These changes come about because of a rush of adrenaline and a release of endorphins and dopamine. We feel energized and, on a certain level, eu phoric.Thus, the roller coaster triggers two distinct feelings. On the one hand, you experience fear. But on the other hand, you are “getting high” on the endorphins and dopamine. Basical ly, these are drug-induced reactions! You did not ingest these substances, but rather they were produced by the greatest pharmacy in the world – our very own bodies. Does it now surprise you that people will travel for hours and then stand in line for another two hours, just to experience a forty-five second roller coaster ride? Anything in life that is both fright ening and very safe has the potential to draw our interest and attention as we anticipate the arousal and excite ment that we feel when faced with “safe” danger. However, there are individuals who have a predisposi tion to anxiety who have brains that have a hard time differentiating be tween a fear that is real and one that is make-believe.Itisthistendency for anxiety that is at the heart of many phobias. Cer tain phobias can interfere with regular functioning, such as fear of elevators or bridges. There are forms of therapy that are very effective in helping indi viduals manage their phobias. Howev er, if your only phobia is “coasterpho bia”, then you can probably get through life without much difficulty by simply avoiding roller coasters. However, if you are very eager to ride a roller coaster, there is a cognitive-behavior therapy program called “The Coaster phobia Stress Management Program” that was designed to treat this rela tively common issue. I kid you not. This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Balti more branch of Relief. He can be con tacted at 410-448-8356 or at yslansky@ reliefhelp.org
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sary Edition — and why every kosher kitchen needs a copy.
Once we had that that initial investment, generous school supporters got on board and underwrote the rest, so that we had the ability to produce the groundbreaking edition that was the original Kosher Palette. It was part chutzpah, part mazal, and being in the right place at the right time.
SF: The project was supposed to be a community cookbook, like so many before it. My co-editor, Sandra Blank, and I had a feeling that what was missing for us personally in the kosher cookbook market could also speak to the larger public. We wanted a modern, elegant, healthful, and beautifully photographed book that represented the way we cooked and entertained. Martha Stewart and Ina Garten ran that table in the non-ko sher world, and we wanted to see it happen for the kosher community. We believed in the project and raised the seed money to fund it from com panies like Nabisco and M & M Mars that had recently become kosher.
Tell us more about The Kosher Palette Revised Anniver
Most people’s copies are so used and loved that they are food-splat tered, tattered, and falling out of their bindings. Seeing this gorgeous, larger size (read: bigger font for older eyes), wipeable, padded cover will mean many will want this modern-looking reboot. More importantly, people from the generation that grew up on this food will want it for their own adult tables. Parents will want to gift it to their children and in-law children so they can continue making the food that has become their beloved family staples.
By Mi M i Zakon
Twenty-two years ago, the Jewish world went through an extraordinary — and de licious — revolution with the publication of The Kosher Palette, coordinated by Susie Fishbein and Sandra Blank. The Kosher Palette sold over 80,000 copies, and Susie went on to become the bestselling author of the Kosher By Design series, changing the way we cook and the way we eat.
More than 200 cooks, from eight different communities, contributed recipes to the book. How did you decide which recipes to include?
As we sifted out the ones that we knew had no possible potential, the recipes went through a rigorous testing process. This is where the fun began for the community. Dozens of volunteers came together to reproduce the recipes and offer them at tasting parties, where they were evaluated and selected based on the overall response. These parties were lots of work and lots of fun.
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There’s only one thing better than eating a Susie Fishbein dish — and that’s talking to Susie about kosher gourmet food, her cookbooks, and this week’s release of the Kosher Palette Anniversary Edition.
MZ: Wow, it’s been more than twenty years since The Ko sher Palette revolutionized the way we cook — and the way we eat. Let’s take a look back: how did this incredibly suc cessful project come to be?
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The recipes are just that good. They have stood the test of time and have become beloved parts of people’s family history and lore. Your amazing culinary journey began with The Kosher Palette and took you to so many different venues, so many varied food and entertaining ideas. Please share a few sto ries about your culinary adventures. This book showed me that I loved the world of cookbooks. It gave me a fork in the road from the path I was on as a 4th grade public school teacher and launched me into my career. ArtScroll and I went on to produce the best-selling Kosher by Design series. Half a million copies later, and having given a road map to so many young talented chefs who came after me, it is a source of personal endless joy. It also allowed me to be a guest in hundreds of homes across the country, where I gave cooking demos and got to enjoy meeting fans and hear ing their stories I got to hear what they loved or were looking for in future books. My craving for more varied tastes took me across the world, where I now lead culinary tours a few times a year to Israel and Italy. I was an invited guest to the White House, appeared at Epcot at Disney, and launched a cooking school for kids — really so many new and exciting opportunities. This career has been a living dream, and I am so grateful for the opportunities it has presented to me.
This is always a tough question for cookbook authors — what are your favorite recipes in The Kosher Palette?
O u r t e a m i s p r o f i c i e n t i n a l l a r c h i t e c t u r a l s t y l e s , f r o m f r e n c h c o u n t r y t o u l t r a m o d e r n a n d e v e r y t h i n g i n b e t w e e n .
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Were you surprised by the overwhelming response to The Kosher Palette? I mean, selling more than 80,000 copies, in the days before food bloggers and with minimal promotion, was quite an achievement. Why do you think it was so incredibly well received? I think it was received by the tens of thousands who purchased it because just like Sandra and I were looking for this book, which answered the need for how we cooked and entertained, so were so many others. The recipes were tested to the point of being foolproof, so reliability helped people feel confident in the recipes. They were just a delicious collection that became the talk of every town. Once you tasted that Strawberry Mango Salad, you had to have the recipe! As the introduction to the Anniversary Edition men tions, this is more than “just a cookbook. It’s a celebration of kosher hospitality, an enduring hallmark of Jewish life.” There are anecdotes and tips about hosting, table settings, home entertaining, complementary wines, and spectacular centerpieces and table settings. When The Kosher Palette was originally published, taking such care with presen tation was almost unheard of. How did you get so many amazing ideas to share with others? It may have been unheard of in print, but Jewish people love to set a beautiful table, and we do so every week for Shabbat and holidays. Parties in those days were often made in your own home, be it kids’ birthdays or other life milestones, so home entertaining ideas spoke to people as well. How do you explain the fact that though it was pub lished in 2001, The Kosher Palette is still so remarkably contemporary?
The Rosemary London Broil (great on the BBQ or stovetop, so it’s an all-year winner), Creme Brulé French Toast (the requested breakfast in bed for each of my kid’s birthdays), Dairy Noodle Ring (my mother-in-law’s), and Bok Choy and Strawberry Mango Salad, always stars on any buffet. I could keep going but I bet we are out of space.
Preparation Remove seasoning packets from ramen and set noo dles aside. Combine seasoning, sugar, oil, vinegar, and soy sauce in a cruet or jar. Cover tightly and shake vigor ously. (Dressing may be prepared in advance.)
Slice bok choy into bite-size pieces, including the stems. Combine bok choy, scallions, sunflower kernels, and almonds in a large bowl. Toss gently with dressing. Add ramen noodles just before serving to prevent them from becoming soggy. Yield: 8 to 12 servings.
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A Taste of The Kosher Palette
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Bok Choy Salad Parve ◊ 2 (3-ounce) packages ramen noodles, Oriental flavor ◊ ¾ cup sugar ◊ ¾ cup extra virgin olive oil ◊ 1/3 cup white vinegar ◊ 2 teaspoons soy sauce ◊ 3 heads bok choy ◊ 2 bunches scallions, chopped ◊ 1 (7.25-ounce) jar sunflower kernels ◊ 3 cups sliced almonds
Mushroom and Wild Rice Soup Meat or Parve
◊ 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil ◊ 4 onions, peeled and sliced ◊ 3 cloves fresh garlic, chopped ◊ 4-6 pounds beef brisket ◊ 1½ cups red wine ◊ 2 tablespoons dry onion soup mix ◊ 2 tablespoons tomato paste ◊ 2 tablespoons brown sugar ◊ ¼ cup water ◊ 2 carrots, peeled and cut into 1½-inch pieces ◊ 2 parsnips, peeled and cut into 1½-inch pieces ◊ ½ cup dried apricots ◊ ½ cup dried pitted prunes ◊ ¼ cup chopped fresh parsley
Preheat oven to 500°F. Heat oil in a skillet over medium-high heat. Add onions and garlic; sauté for 15 minutes or until lightly browned.Spoon onions into a large roasting pan; add brisket, fat-side up. Pour wine over meat, cover, and bake for 30 minutes.Combine soup mix, tomato paste, brown sugar, and water in a small bowl; pour over meat. Arrange carrots, parsnips, apricots, and prunes around meat. Reduce oven temperature to 325°F. Bake for 2½ to 3 hours, covered, or until brisket is veryRemovetender. from oven and let stand for 20 minutes. Re move brisket from pan and slice thinly across the grain. Arrange meat slices on a platter; spoon fruit and vege tables around brisket. Skim fat from pan drippings; discard fat. Spoon pan sauce over meat; sprinkle with parsley. Brisket may be prepared 2 days ahead. Cover and refrigerate unsliced brisket, vegetables, fruit, and sauce. To serve, slice meat thinly and place into a roasting pan. Remove and discard solid fat from sauce; spoon sauce, vegetables, and fruit over slices. Cover and bake at 325°F for 30 minutes or until meal is thoroughly heated. Yield: 8 servings.
While serving this soup at a dinner party, I actually lost one of my guests. He was later found in the kitchen scraping the bottom of the soup pot. So, by all means, make this delicious soup recipe just keep a running head count of all your guests.” ◊ ½ cup wild rice, uncooked ◊ 1¼ cups cold water ◊ 4 tablespoons canola oil ◊ 2 medium onions, peeled and chopped ◊ 3 cloves fresh garlic, minced ◊ 1 pound mushrooms, sliced ◊ 1/3 cup all-purpose flour ◊ 5 cups warm chicken stock or vegetable stock ◊ 1 cup nondairy creamer or nondairy milk of choice ◊ Freshly grated nutmeg ◊ Kosher Salt ◊ Freshly ground black pepper ◊ Garnish: chopped fresh parsley Preparation
Rinse rice under cold running water. Combine rice and water in a medium pot over medium-high heat. Bring to a boil, reduce heat, and simmer, covered, for 30 to 40 minutes, or until tender. Drain and set aside. Heat oil in a large, heavy pot over medium heat un til melted. Add onions and sauté until translucent. Add garlic and mushrooms; sauté for 3 minutes. Add flour, whisking until smooth. Cook for 2 minutes, whisking constantly. Gradually add stock; cook over me dium heat for 10 minutes, whisking constantly, or until mixture is thickened and bubbly. Stir in wild rice, creamer, and nutmeg. Season to taste with salt and pepper. Cook over medium heat for 5 minutes. Adjust seasonings, if desired. To serve, sprinkle with chopped parsley. Yield: 6 servings.
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Son: Hey, Mom, I got a hundred in school today. Mom: That’s wonderful! What did you get a hundred in?
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Chasing Chaos
Time to brush up on your English pronunciations
Query does not rhyme with very, Nor does fury sound like bury. Dost, lost, post and doth, cloth, loth. Job, nob, transom, oath.
Though the differences seem little, We say actual but victual. Refer does not rhyme with deafer.
Now I surely will not plague you With such words as plaque and ague. But be careful how you speak: Say break and steak, but bleak and streak; Cloven, oven, how and low, Script, receipt, show, poem, and toe. Hear me say, devoid of trickery, Daughter, laughter, and Terpsichore, Typhoid, measles, topsails, aisles, Exiles, similes, and reviles; Scholar, vicar, and cigar, Solar, mica, war and far; One, anemone, Balmoral, Kitchen, lichen, laundry, laurel; Gertrude, German, wind and mind, Scene, Melpomene, mankind. Billet does not rhyme with ballet, Bouquet, wallet, mallet, chalet. Blood and flood are not like food, Nor is mold like should and would. Viscous, viscount, load and broad, Toward, to forward, to reward. And your pronunciation’s OK When you correctly say croquet, Rounded, wounded, grieve and sieve, Friend and fiend, alive and live. Ivy, privy, famous; clamor And enamor rhyme with hammer. River, rival, tomb, bomb, comb, Doll and roll and some and Strangerhome. does not rhyme with Neitheranger,does devour with Soulsclangor.butfoul, haunt but aunt, Font, front, wont, want, grand, and grant, Shoes, goes, does. Now first say finger, And then singer, ginger, linger, Real, zeal, mauve, gauze, gouge and gauge, Marriage, foliage, mirage, and age.
Foeffer does, and zephyr, heifer. Mint, pint, senate and sedate; Dull, bull, and George ate late. Scenic, Arabic, Pacific, Science, conscience, scientific. Liberty, library, heave and heaven, Rachel, ache, moustache, eleven. We say hallowed, but allowed, People, leopard, towed, but vowed. Mark the differences, moreover, Between mover, cover, clover; Leeches, breeches, wise, precise, Chalice, but police and lice; Camel, constable, unstable, Principle, disciple, label.
Youth, south, southern, cleanse and clean. Doctrine, turpentine, Comparemarine.alien with Italian, Dandelion and battalion.
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Sally with ally, yea, ye, Eye, I, ay, aye, whey, and key. Say aver, but ever, fever, Neither, leisure, skein, deceiver. Heron, granary, canary. Crevice and device and aerie. Face, but preface, not efface. Phlegm, phlegmatic, glass, bass. Ought, out, joust and scour, scourging. Ear, but earn and wear and tear Do not rhyme with here but ere. Seven is right, but so is even, Hyphen, roughen, nephew Stephen, Monkey, donkey, Turk and jerk, Ask, grasp, wasp, and cork and work.
Dearest creature in creation, Study English pronunciation. I will teach you in my verse Sounds like corpse, corps, horse, and worse. I will keep you, Suzy, busy, Make your head with heat grow dizzy. Tear in eye, your dress will tear. So shall I! Oh hear my prayer. Just compare heart, beard, and heard, Dies and diet, lord and word, Sword and sward, retain and Britain. (Mind the latter, how it’s written.)
Petal, panel, and canal, Wait, surprise, plait, promise, pal. Worm and storm, chaise, chaos, chair, Senator, spectator, mayor. Tour, but our and succor, four. Gas, alas, and Arkansas. Sea, idea, Korea, area, Psalm, Maria, but malaria.
It’s a dark abyss or tunnel: Strewn with stones, stowed, solace, Islingtongunwale,andIsle of Wight, Housewife, verdict and indict. Finally, which rhymes with enough, Though, through, plough, or dough, or Hiccoughcough?has the sound of cup. My advice is to give up! “The Chaos” is a poem which demonstrates the irregularity of English spelling and pronunciation, written by Gerard Nolst Trenité (1870-1946), also known under the pseudonym Charivarius. It first appeared in an appendix to the author’s 1920 textbook Drop Your Foreign Accent
Pronunciation (think of psyche!) Is a paling stout and spikey? Won’t it make you lose your wits, Writing groats and saying grits?
Recognizing this reality, when we an ticipate we won’t agree, it’s better to have that discussion before answering a child. This allows the parents to present their answer as a strong, united front and not a disorganized, uncertain one. Often, it’s better for this discussion to take place behind closed doors. While ideally parents shouldn’t argue, they cer tainly need to avoid doing so in front of their children. If you anticipate it’s going to get heated, then excuse yourselves for the discussion. In addition, stay away from smaller ears if the discussion will involve information they shouldn’t be privy to. There can be many conversa tions that are important to have yet are not appropriate for your child to hear. It’s wise to pick your talking space carefully. It’s amazing how powerful a child’s hearing can be when they really want to find out information; adults call it eavesdropping. Also, if chas v’shalom parents are yelling, then kids can’t help but Thisnotice.paragraph is just my humble ad vice based on personal experience. Most issues that parents will be presented with aren’t that important in the long run. It’s the exception – rather than the norm – that parents are faced with truly life-altering verdicts. When these day-today questions come up, it’s often better to lovingly yield to your spouse than it is to make everything a major discussion. Save those brownie points for when it truly matters to you. This is all easier said than done as emotions can quickly cause conversa tions to get heated. Additionally, when parents are having shalom bayis issues, then even the tiniest of issues becomes the biggest debates. It may be a prudent decision to call in a third party or pro fessional to help parents learn to com municate effectively and make decisions.
Our children learn from us. We can be the model of what they should emulate or what they should avoid, chas v’sha lom. Every day they interact with their siblings, peers, and neighbors. Know ing how to solve conflicts and come to a mutually beneficial decision is a skill they can use now and in their future re lationships.Mayour homes continue to be a place of comfort and security for our youth as they navigate their way through child hood and a new school year. Have a peaceful Shabbos!
Adults are entitled to their feelings, but children can’t become korbanos. We love our children and would never want to hurt them. Making an effort to stick to the problem at hand and stand united before our children is one way to show our children we care about them. Ultimately, once a decision is made, we need to stand together when present ing it to our children. It doesn’t matter if we fully got our way or are completely happy, our kids don’t need to know that.
By Sara Rayvych, MSEd
Sara Rayvych, MSEd, has her master’s in general and special education. She has been homeschooling for over 10 years in Far Rock away. She can be contacted at RayvychHo meschool@gmail.com.
CommunicationTeaching Skills
Importance of Guidelines Rules and regulations may not be popular, but they prevent mayhem and create a sense of comfort. Your child may be upset that you don’t let them bike three miles for a slice of pizza at mid night, but parents are given the unpop ular task of ensuring their child’s safety. In addition to preventing children from engaging in dangerous behaviors, having clear guidelines creates a sense of security for our youth. They learn what they can do, can’t do, and that someone older and more responsible is taking care of them. Knowing there is someone they can rely on as they cluelessly navigate this world gives them a sense of security in their lives.
Parenting Pearls Creating a United Front
Importance of Unity Whenever there is more than one per son in a room, there is naturally more than one opinion. Mothers and fathers are very different people, and we view the world from very different perspectives. There is a clear benefit from more than one way of seeing an issue, in addition to the natural strengths each parent brings to theWhenequation.parents come to an agreement about an issue before answering their child, they are providing a united front and a sense of security. When parents disagree, bicker, or give conflicting re sponses, it creates confusion in a child. Now they don’t know which parent to listen to and they are unsure of what is expected of them. It need not be a big issue; even some thing small like whether they can go to a friend on Shabbos afternoon can become a big issue when there is parental con flict. Disagreement not only wastes time and energy, it also creates bad feelings for everyone and creates an emotionally unhealthy environment for a child. When children see parents can’t agree, it diminishes some of the respect they have for the adults in their life. Tak ing a step back, we can readily see how a child could view adults that squabble.
D ad says one thing, Mom says an other, and their child is caught in the middle. It can be confusing and upsetting for children when their parents give conflicting answers. Alter natively, some children take advantage of the situation and manipulate it. Neither of these situations are ideal. As parents, we have the obligation of creating a stable environment for our children. Part of physical and emotional stability is knowing a parent is present and in charge. They may not always like our rules and regulations, but they do like the safety of knowing we’re watch ing over them and taking responsibility. When parents present conflicting an swers, it erodes the feelings of comfort we’re trying to encourage.
When Parents Don’t Agree Parents don’t always agree, and that is completely normal. We are two differ ent people and are intended to have two different opinions. Rather than expect parents to think similarly, we should as sume the default will be conflicting ideas.
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- Sen. John Kennedy (R-LA)
It’s a perfect back-up. You can never forget it, it never breaks – something that won’t fail you. - Ibid. People like Fauci saying that his lockdowns didn’t cause any permanent damage to any young kids… I got news for you: it did, and we are going to reap those rewards across the whole country for years and years and years because they treated kids so poorly.
The widely respected statistician, Nate Silver, claims that liberal public health elites pressured Pfizer to delay fast track approval of its Covid vaccine until after the 2020 election to deny Trump a win before the public got to the polls. Whatever you think about the vaccines, we are talking about people who believed that the vaccines would work, yet they still wanted them withheld from the public. Now, who’s worse than Hitler? Come again? That means that they were willing to sacrifice lives to keep Trump from looking good.
So after that was inserted and the swelling went down, I’m able to open up the front and back door of my house. I can walk up to people and have them tap their phone to my hand and instantly transfer my contact information in my portfolio, my Covid vaccine card.
– Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis
“Say What?!”
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– Greg Gutfeld, Fox News Nate Silver is no Trump fan, but he points out that Trump’s action likely saved hundreds of thousands of lives and the delay would have killed tons. Those people’s names still probably would have ended up on the Dems’ voting rolls. – Ibid. But if you think that Trump is Hitler, what’s a few thousand deaths to keep him from killing millions? – Ibid.
Notable Quotes
- Ibid. Unless Dr. Fauci, retirement or not, decides to seek asylum in some remote, obscure foreign country whose Powerball jackpot is 287 chickens and a goat, and therefore will not enforce a subpoena from the United States Congress, then Dr. Fauci, retirement or not, is going to be spending a lot of time in front of congressional committees.
- Brandon Dalaly of Detroit who had chips placed under his skin to automatically open his house door and Tesla
And I’m just sick of seeing him. I know he says he’s going to retire. Someone needs to grab that little elf and chuck him across the Potomac.
– Editorial by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette criticizing Pres. Biden’s divisive speech last Thursday night
A narrative has taken hold, driven by Democratic successes in special elections, most recently in Alaska, and by marginally rising poll numbers, that Biden and the Democrats are recovering. This alleged recovery correlates in the minds of Biden and his team with their decision to abandon efforts to win over swing voters in favor of mobilizing their own base, especially on divisive issues like abortion. As a result, the Biden White House has adopted a strategy of deliberate polarization.
- President Joe Biden during a primetime speech outside Independence Hall in Philadelphia last Thursday night I don’t consider any Trump supporter to be a threat to the country.
- President Joe Biden the morning after he read a speech on a teleprompter in which he declared that Trump and his supporters were a threat to democracy, when asked by reporters about that declaration In a primetime speech Thursday, delivered in front of Philadelphia’s Independence Hall lit in ghostly red, President Joe Biden cast the most strident opponents of his administration as enemies of American democracy. In doing so, Mr. Biden pushed an already perilously divided and intolerant society closer to the brink, using rhetoric similar to the very people he was calling out.
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This whole concept that a good guy with a gun will stop the bad guys with a gun — it doesn’t hold up… We don’t need guns on our streets. We don’t need people carrying guns in our subways. We don’t need people carrying guns in our schools. We don’t need people carrying in our places of worship. We don’t need them carrying them into bars or restaurants. Because that only makes people less safe.
So here are 5 coal miners pushing a battery car to the coal mine to charge up. This just shows you coal miners are good people and will go out of their way to help anyone, friend or foe.
-Daniel Berman, AMAC
– NY Gov. Kathy Hochul announcing new tougher gun measures
- Republican state Sen. Randy Smith on Facebook writing about five West Virginia coal miners who pushed an electric vehicle that ran out of power near their coal mine We must be honest with each other and with ourselves. Too much of what’s happening in our country today is not normal. Donald Trump and the MAGA Republicans represent an extremism that threatens the very foundations of our republic.
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I’m dating now and my prospects are, to say it nicely, not my caliber. I’m being set up with BTs (I’m an FFB) and other types of guys I wasn’t looking for before getting divorced. This is not the type I’m looking for. Why start now? But I am feeling pressure from friends and family to be more open.
Dating Dialogue WouldWhat You Do If…
I feel like it’s not fair. This was never the plan. I feel I should be able to find what I was looking for originally before I got married. Isn’t that valid?
I got engaged during the corona shutdowns. The guy I met seemed to be like an incredible, deep, thoughtful guy, and our dating was limited to outdoor lounges. Fast forward to now. I am divorced, and I can’t even believe I’m in this position.
After we got married, I noticed almost immediately he has severe social anxiety and OCD. We tried working through it, but it was way too much for me. The fact that he hid it from me added to everything as I could not respect him.
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
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Think about a senior in high school named Leah who is studying for her math exam. Mistakenly, Leah studies the wrong notes that had been given to her by a friend, and she fails. She keeps harping on the fact that she would have aced the test had she been given the proper studying materials by her friend. The teacher gives the option to re-take the test over summer vacation but she won’t take the teacher up on it be cause it will ruin her summer plans. She’s in denial! She won’t graduate if she does not change things around, yet she sticks her feet in the ground. You would right ly say, News flash: your summer plans weren’t supposed to happen if this is the situation you are in! Leah’s number one priority should be retaking the test during the summer and changing around her plans.
Pulling It All Together
settling.does“openminded”Beingnotmean
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The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. Please reread your query. You come across as not having processed your experience.Itisnormal to grieve the loss of one’s dreams. Coming to terms with your new reality is another part of the journey. De veloping your own identity and strengths will happen if you invest in yourself with professional support. You can come out of this episode stronger, deeper, and more mature. You will then be more successful at making independent decisions. Grow and become yourself with help. The Shadchan Michelle Mond Iam so sorry for the difficulties you have gone through and continue to go through due to this divorce. I know you feel this was never part of the plan and one big mistake. I assure you, though, Hashem does not make any mistakes. I have heard countless times from happily married second-time-arounders that it took a failed first marriage to amend pri orities to be open to the kind of person they married the second time. In this lifetime, you will never under stand why you had to go through this diffi cult stage of life. I urge you to resolve the feelings that are saying, “It’s not fair” and “things should have turned out differently.” Things are how they are because of a won derful ending you’re not privy to see yet. Just the fact that you look down upon BT suggestions as “not my caliber” shows me that you have not learned a crucial lesson.
First, instead of depending upon being “set up,” why not go out and meet eligi ble, appropriate men on your own? Con sider bypassing our antiquated shidduch system and become a visible presence at synagogue, educational, charitable, and work-related events; or sign-up for singles’ weekends, like those sponsored by YUCo nnects. Second, when dating your first hus band, you completely missed his rather se vere, hidden negatives. When you are now dating guys that you feel are “not the type you’re looking for,” is it possible that you are completely missing their wonderful, hidden positives? A baal teshuva didn’t choose his for mer life. He is the product of his birth and upbringing. Some of my dearest friends could be categorized as BTs, and they are wonderful husbands, fathers, and friends. Imagine the strength of character, pas sion, and dedication it takes to completely change one’s lifestyle and become Ortho dox. To my way of thinking, that sounds like great marriage material. Good luck, and I really hope that you will soon find true, lasting happiness.
Forgoing good suggestions from differ ent backgrounds on the premise that it’s not what you wanted in the beginning of your dating journey is not an appropriate excuse. Meet someone be cause they are an amazing person and have fantastic husband potential. If you would like to remarry, you must work through the denial and become more accepting of potential suitors. The Single Tzipora Grodko What an extremely difficult challenge you have been given. It takes brav ery, tremendous courage, and an incredible amount of hard work to move forward. You deserve the best, and Hashem has someone specific that will be delivered into your life the moment the expiration date has passed for this extremely challenging life test. I can hear your pain and understand your desire in trying to protect yourself as best as you can. Being “openminded” does not mean settling. Openminded sim ply means suspending assumptions and judgements on your suspicions, in order to determine if this person has the values you’re looking for, regardless of the package it comes in. The Zaidy Dr. Jeffrey Galler Your letter saddened me. You’ve gone through a very rough time, and the painful af termath continues to affect your prospects.Dr.Samuel Johnson wittily remarked that seeking to mar ry for the second time after a disastrous first marriage represents the “triumph of hope over experience.” (James Boswell’s Life of Samuel Johnson, 1791) However, you are hurting, and it’s in appropriate for me to joke about it. At this point, you don’t need humor; you need compassion and advice, so here goes:
Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists Thank you for writing into the panel. I am deeply sorry for your pain. To have been deceived in the way you were is what is not fair. When you mar ried your ex-husband, you did not know that he had severe social anxiety and OCD. Most men and women who entered a mar riage with a critical piece of information withheld feel anger, rage, and ultimately distance from their partners. Sometimes this can be worked through and the marriage can be saved, and sometimes it can not. Feeling that this is “unfair” is com pletely natural and understandable. You’re right. Your choice in life partner was made based on his lie. He took something precious away from you: your decision. And he manipulated you into marrying him. Being led to the biggest decision of your life based on lies and manipulation is significant, and if you aren’t already in therapy to process this and all you have been through in such a short amount of time, I suggest you go now. (A word to everyone dating. Though many may disagree with me, and that is fair because this is a free country, in my humble opinion, honesty is the best policy. I know it’s hard to reveal something that feels embarrassing or shameful, especial ly in light of the pressure and stigmas in the frum shidduch world and how so many of us are taught that our humanness is shameful (which it isn’t! Big lie! That’s the big lie!), tell the truth about yourself. Tell it fairly early on. The person who is meant for you is going to love you not despite it, but because of it! Lying creates distance. Honesty creates intimacy. The big lie being
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1. Make a list of all the concerns and advice your family and friends are giving you right now. For example, Meira told me I’m too picky. Dad said I need to be more openminded. Josh told me to really get to know someone for who he is on the inside See if you notice any patterns or similari ties in the concerns and advice. Sometimes we can’t see ourselves but the people who love us can. If you trust these people, you may want to consider working on this. 2. Go for therapy to process what you’ve been through. Unpack it. 3. In therapy, or on your own, explore the idea of taking a break from dating while you process your dating, marriage, and di vorce and consider what you are looking for this time around. Though I was duped by my ex-husband, is there anything I am re sponsible for? What was my outlook going into the marriage? What have I learned about myself from this experience? How will I grow from this? 4. Make a list of the qualities you are looking for in the man you will marry and visualize and write about the kind of marriage you want. This is not a list about hashkafah and the kind of job he has and what he looks like. This is a list about his character and the way he will treat you and the kind of relationship you want to be in. For example, he is honest, he is easygoing and kind. He is the kind of person who will be my teammate. He will hold my hand when I have a cold and talk with me when I get into a fight with my best friend. He and I will be best friends. Wishing you all the best, Jennifer
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You deserve the opportunity to be loved completely sans hiding. told is that your secret makes you unlove able and therefore in order to be loved you must hide. The truth is that you can love all the parts of yourself, and you not only don’t have to hide, but the right person is going to celebrate you! And you deserve the oppor tunity to be loved completely sans hiding. And lying is so unfair to the other person. It justI’mis.)going to be very real with you. Looking for a “type” did not pan out so well for you. Sometimes, when we are looking for a “type,” we are wearing some pretty strong blinders and may not see something incredible standing right before us. If you are wearing the same blinders (using the same lens) to date this time around that you used last time, you may want to con sider getting a new pair. You are allowed to want to marry an FFB (frum from birth). We cannot help what we naturally want. It is the way you speak about FFBs and baalei teshuva that is somewhat concerning and may benefit from a re-evaluation on your part. A baal teshuva makes a decision to become religious on his/her own. The path a baal teshuva walks is often a hard one –going against their parents, keeping Shab bos alone, enduring their familial relation ships and friendships changing because of their choice. Your feeling that someone like this is beneath you is of concern.
A few practical suggestions for you:
My IsraelHome Money Can’t Buy Me Love
Today, Mishkenot Sha’ananim is part of the charming Yemin Moshe neighborhood, named after Sir Moses, and contains a guest house, convention center, and music center – and the famous windmill has been converted into a museum. Touro’s sizable donation was revolutionary, as it launched the establishment of modern Jerusalem. With a surprising touch of romantic flair, Touro’s will included a bequest to his cousin Catherine Hays, “as an expression of the kind remembrance in which that es teemed friend is held by me.” Heartbreak ingly, Catherine passed away – also unmar ried – just a few days before Touro’s death. The epitaph on Touro’s tombstone ac curately and succinctly summed up his achievements: “By righteousness and integ rity he collected his wealth. In charity and for salvation he dispensed it. The last of his name, he inscribed it in the Book of Philan thropy, to be remembered forever.”
Born in 1775 in Newport, Rhode Island, Judah was the son of Isaac Touro, the spiri tual leader and cantor of the Newport Jew ish community. The famous Touro Syna gogue was built in 1763 and is the oldest synagogue in the United States.
The will disposed of over half a million dollars in charity, a huge sum in those days, and provided funds for nearly every synagogue that existed in the U.S.
We recently sold a lovely apart ment on Judah Touro Street, in Jerusalem’s Yemin Moshe sec tion. This led to a lively WhatsApp group conversation about the life of Judah Touro.
Touro lived an extremely modest life and resided in a small apartment despite his staggering financial success. However, his frugality did not extend to charity, as he generously donated large sums of money to a diverse array of causes. In the 1840s, Touro befriended Ger shom Kursheedt, who helped Tour rekindle his long-dormant spirituality and return to religious observance. Furthermore, toward the end of his life, Touro often correspond ed with the scholarly Rabbi Isaac Leeser of Philadelphia. As Touro never married, Kursheedt and Leeser encouraged him to create a lasting legacy by leaving signifi cant funds in his will to support Jewish causes. When Touro died in 1854, his will set the benchmark for Jewish philanthro py. The will disposed of over half a million dollars in charity, a huge sum in those days, and provided funds for nearly every synagogue that existed in the U.S. Further more, substantial bequests were granted to a wide range of charitable institutions that supported people of all races and religions. In addition, the will bequeathed a major gift to aid the Jews in the land of Israel, and Touro’s friend Sir Moses Mon tefiore was appointed as executor to over see the project. Montefiore bought ten acres of land and established Mishkenot Sha’ananim (literally “tranquil dwellings,” from Isaiah 32:18), the first Jewish neigh borhood built outside the walls of Jerusa lem’s Old City. The complex included res idences, a windmill, plus communal and religious facilities.
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Following Isaac Touro’s death in 1783, Judah’s mother, Reyna, moved the family to Boston to live with her brother Moses Michael Hays. Hays was a prominent civ ic leader and a successful merchant who founded Boston’s first bank. After Reyna died in 1787, Moses and his wife Rachel raised the Touro children and mentored them in Judahbusiness.wanted to marry his cousin Catherine Hays, but Uncle Moses – de spite admiring Touro’s integrity and tal ent – forbade the marriage. In 1798, Mo ses attempted to snuff out the romance by sending Judah on a lengthy trading voyage to the Mediterranean, hoping that their relationship would dissipate. However, absence made the heart grow fonder, and their love only deepened. Determined to end the relationship, Hays dismissed Tou ro from the family business and prohibited his daughter from ever speaking with him again.
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In 1802, an embittered but determined Judah Touro settled in New Orleans and opened a store where he sold food and oth er items from New England. His business blossomed, thanks to the tremendous re gional growth powered by the 1803 Loui siana Purchase (in which the U.S. doubled its size), and he became a prominent mer chant, shipowner, and real estate mogul.
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Esther Arditi, the Angel in White Amos Yarkoni, a Bedouin who risked his life for the Jewish state
Citations for military medals can be quite informative, and the stories they tell are quite compel ling. Looking at these citations, however, doesn’t always tell the full picture as they are just the tip of the iceberg of the full narrative of the acts of these servicemen and women. The Medal of Distinguished Service is Israel’s third most important medal given out by the Israeli military and is awarded for courageous actions and exemplary service. Over 600 medals have been given out to date. Here are a few of the incredible stories behind some of theSganrecipients.Aluf(Lieutenant Colonel) Amos Yarkoni had a very unique background and helped many non-Jews pave a path to success in the IDF. Yarkoni was actually born as Abd el-Majid Hidr from the Bed ouin village of Na’ura in 1920. His fami ly was part of the Muslim Bedouin tribe of the Mazarib tribe, and he had joined a band of youths that had sabotaged the Trans-Arabian Pipeline. At the age of 16, he was working as a shepherd and be came friendly with Jews from the nearby moshav of Nahalal. He heard about the hostilities that the Arabs had brought upon the local Jewish population and had disagreements with his own tribesmen. He had been captured by other Arabs and sentenced to death for helping the Jew ish population. After managing to escape with two other friends, Abd decided to leave his community.
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Abd changed his name to the more Israeli name of Amos Yarkoni and soon made contacts within the Haganah. In the years leading up to the Israeli War of In dependence, Yarkoni kept up with Moshe Dayan and in late 1947 decided to join the Jewish fighting forces. After spending time in other units, Yarkoni was assigned to the Minorities Unit in late 1948. Known for his tracking and patrolling skills, he was sent to the border where he used to capture infiltrators from the neighboring Arab countries. Twice wounded, Yarkoni lost his left hand and injured his leg in separate incidents. In 1953, he passed the officers course and became the commanding officer of the Minorities Unit. Two years later, the IDF was looking for an officer to create a force to combat the attacks on communities that were be ing attacked from the Gaze Strip and the lower part of the West Bank. Yarkoni was recommended by the senior commander of the Southern Command, and he set up the Shaked Unit. He was able to take a rel atively small unit and with good tactical skill was able to patrol a large amount of border land. It was during a 1959 opera tion when he lost his hand while pursuing a band of terrorists nears Ashkelon. He stayed with the unit for several years and began recruiting members for the count er-terrorism unit from the paratroopers. They were tasked with capturing spies, terrorists, saboteurs, guerillas, and any others who tried crossing the border with nefarious intentions. Many soldiers did not know that Yar koni wasn’t Jewish. In 1969, he was pro moted to lieutenant colonel and retired soon afterwards. For his invaluable ser vice to the IDF, he was awarded the Medal of Distinguished Service. The only woman to be awarded the medal was paramedic Esther Arditi. Born in Bulgaria in 1937, she spent World War II in Italy and immigrated to Israel in 1951. She first went to a kibbutz with a group of immigrants but soon the group broke up and she decided to enter the IDF. In 1954, Arditi completed the Israeli Air Force medic course and was sent to Hazor Air ABase.week into her assignment she was on night duty during a dark and rainy night. The runway lights were turned off due to the bad weather damaging base’s electri cal system. This spelled disaster for the Mosquito squadron stationed at the base that had taken off on a night training mis sion. Pilot Yaakov Salomon and navigator Shlomo Hertzman had no other choice but to attempt a landing without seeing the runway. The plane lost control as it missed the runway and veered into a field. It burst into fire, and the base’s emergen cy teams sprung into actions. Arditi was driving an ambulance but abandoned it when it got stuck in the mud. Instead, she ran towards the burning plane despite the danger of exploding fuel and ammunition. She first located Hertzman who, despite his wounds, was conscious and pulled him to the safety of a nearby canal. Arditi then ran back to the plane to rescue the uncon scious pilot. She found him in his seat and pulled him to the safety of the canal. Her actions saved the pilot’s life, as a few sec onds later the fuel tanks exploded. The two airmen were taken to a hospital, but the navigator succumbed to his wounds. For her heroic actions that night, Arditi was awarded a medal which later was converted into the Medal of Distin guished Service by Chief of Staff Moshe Dayan. During the Six Day War in 1967, she accompanied the paratrooper bri gade as a medic on their mission to re capture the Kosel. Six years later, she again volunteered as a medic in a field hospital. She was given the nickname the Angel in White for her achievements while in the IDF. These are just two of the stories of the heroism shown by the servicemen and women serving in the IDF. Their actions under pressure saved many lives, and their bravery in harsh conditions make them forgotten heroes.
Forgotten Her es Two Stories of Bravery By Avi Heiligman
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This summer, though, for different reasons, we didn’t go to camp together. I stayed home and worked in a day camp. My friend went to sleepaway camp. We kept up – talked on the phone and texted – but since she’s gotten back, I feel like it’s not the same.
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With all that being said, I completely understand how frustrating this situation must be. Not only did you not see this coming, but now you are afraid you’re going to lose your best friend and so of course all you want is for it to go back to the way it was before, because it was so good.
As much as you want to go back to the way things were before, I want you to try to let that idea go. The way you described your friend ship, it’s hard for me to believe she would
I’m very stressed. We’ve been best friends for years, but now she seems to have less time to get together and is on the phone and texting her camp friends a lot when we’re together.
ShiraThanks,
Answered by arotating roster of teachers, rebbeim,clinicians, and peers (!), teens will behearing answers to many questionsthey had percolating in their mindsand wished they had the answers for.
As situations in life change, it’s so important that you take it and make the best of it.
Whether in middle school, high school, or even after, our friendships can go through manyThechanges.thingis, we tend to view change as something bad when it doesn’t have to be. The big thing about change is that it’s scary, it’s unexpected, and it can make us feel out of control, things none of us like to feel. However, change is unavoidable, and as crazy as it sounds, it’s a constant in our lives. Think about it. The shift from one grade to the next, making new friends, switching schools, and even going from school to camp. All of these are examples of events, big and small, that change who we are. Even if the change isn’t noticeable, it’s still there and it makes a major impact in shaping who we are.
My best friend and I have been best friends since third grade. (We are now going into eighth grade.) We walk to school together and study together after school most days. On Shabbos, we get together with other friends, but everyone knows that when they invite one of us, they should invite both of us to any event – we are always together.
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walk away from you that easily. The two of you have been friends for years, and that’s not something either of you should just give up. At the same time, comparing the friendship to what it was is only going to hurt it more. As situations in life change, it’s so important that you take it and make the best of it. Yes, your friendship now may be dif ferent but different does not have to be a bad thing. It’s important to remember that a friendship is made up of individuals, mean ing that at the end of the day you are both your own people. When one person changes, so to speak, the friendship changes, and I’m going to say this as many times as I can: it’s not a bad thing! It sounds like your friend had an amazing summer, and I’m sure, all stressed feelings aside, you are so happy for her. I want you to imag ine if you were in her shoes. She just came back from camp, and she is on such a high. She made new friends, new memories, and that is so special for her. You, too, would be on this high had you been in her place. It may feel like she doesn’t have room for you in her life right now, but it’s hard for me to believe that that is the case. I think that it’s very possible that she just misses camp and the experiences she had, and she is trying to connect to it as much as she can. She would love to talk to you about her summer, and I think it would mean the world to her if you asked about it.
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Ofer Lewin, head of the chapter, add ed: “Tamar Grunebaum Ben Ari has been a volunteer EMT with United Hatzalah for over five years and despite her busy life responds to medical emergencies at any hour of the day or night and no mat ter the circumstances. This time the life she saved belonged to one of her neigh bors in her own building. The story could have ended differently if she hadn’t been there.”
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ast week, Tamar Grunebaum Ben Ari, a United Hatzalah volunteer in Kfar Saba, was at her home when she received a call about a suffocation vic tim. What would normally be a routine event for a woman who has been an EMT for the past five years turned out to be something a bit out of the ordinary.
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“My noble neighbor, thank you for saving my husband,” read the note. “I want to wish you that your family only Eran Ego, the regional paramedic and deputy head of United Hatzalah’s Kfar Saba chapter, praised Tamar’s actions: “When I heard about this story, I wasn’t surprised that it was Tamar. She truly embodies the values of United Hatzalah – of giving to others without asking for anything in return and dedicating one’s time to help those in their hour of need. Tamar arrived as soon as possible at the scene and identified the right course of action in order to save the patient’s life.”
When Tamar looked at her communi cations device after receiving the alert, she was astounded to see just how close “There is something chilling about reading your own address as the scene of an emergency. It took me a few seconds to process what was happening,” she re Tamar grabbed her emergency medi cal kit and ran down two flights of stairs to an apartment below hers where she found her neighbor, a man in his 70s, who was suffering from an obstructed airway and had already begun to turn blue. She immediately initiated the Heim lich maneuver and after several attempts succeeded in dislodging a piece of water melon that had been stuck in the man’s throat. “It was just like in the movies,” she A day later, Tamar received a cake from the wife of the man that she had saved with a note attached to it.
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Governments have love-hate rela tionships with the activities they hit with so-called “sin taxes.” These include drinking, smoking, and the stuff that’s just been legalized in some states –weed. On the one hand, none of it is re ally good for you. On the other, cigarettes and alcohol are genuinely addictive, and we all have that one Falstaffian friend who truly believes that Moon Pies, Ring Dings, and Ho Hos are an official food group. Take alcohol, for example. Americans spend about $250 billion per year on the stuff, and it generates 4 million jobs. It also kills 93,000 of us every year. The CDC estimated (back in 2010!) that it cost the economy $249 billion annually in lost workplace productivity, healthcare spending, vehicle collision costs, and law enforcement. If you showed up on Shark Tank with a new product for relaxing after work, gave it a clever name like “booz” or “hüch,” and asked for a million dollars to get it FDA-approved, the sharks would laugh in your face. What do we do about it? Prohibition doesn’t work, so we tax it. The federal tax on hard liquor is $13.50 per proof gal lon. Wines typically pay $1.07 per gallon. (Sparkling wine pays $3.40/gallon – it turns out that if you’ve got something to celebrate, so does Uncle Sam.) Beer taxes range from $18 per barrel for the mac ro-swill that comes from vats the size of Rhode Island down to 3.40$ per barrel for the smaller brewpubs popping up in the gentrifying urban neighborhoods where hipsters hang out. Those taxes raise about 10$ billion/year. State and local governments raise another 8$ billion in alcohol taxes, with billions more in regular salesAttaxes.thesame time, governments try to discourage the sort of binging that leads to blackouts and regrettable mug shots. The Department of Health & Human Services finances campaigns reminding parents that their kids overhear them, and your state Department of Transportation uses roadside signs to discourage drinking and driving on holiday weekends. At least, that’s how we roll. But Japan is taking a different approach. As the country’s population ages, her citizens are drinking less. Gone are the glory days when The Economist wrote that drunken salarymen tottering home after a night’s karaoke were as much a feature of the country as sushi and bullet trains. COVID work-from-home policies accelerated the trend as young people discovered they could trade “hangovers” for something called “mornings.” Overall consumption has dropped by %25. That, in turn, means that alcohol taxes have dropped from %5 of the government’s total revenue to just %1.7 That’s a big drop. But surely the govern ment wouldn’t encourage people to drink more just to scare up a few yen in taxes. WouldRecently,they?
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Japan’s National Tax Agency launched a campaign dubbed “Sake Viva!” to encourage young people to . . . drink more. The contest invites teams of up to three people, ages 20-39, to submit a busi ness plan to revive the drinking culture. These could include marketing campaigns targeting young people or even tapping artificial intelligence and the metaverse. (Does virtual drinking lead to virtual hangovers?) Not surprisingly, there’s been a backlash on social media, and none of the country’s alcohol producers have jumped in to support the campaign. There’s actually a hidden lesson here. (There always is.) Alcohol taxes are easy to avoid – just don’t drink. (Or mooch off your friends.) But lots of bigger tax bills – like taxes on capital gains from selling appreci ated assets – can also be easy to avoid. So call us before you make any big financial moves, and we’ll give you a reason to lift a glass for a (moderate) toast!
But surely the government wouldn’t encourage people to drink more just to scare up a few yen in taxes. Would they?
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