50, SINGLE &
Blessed I’m blessed I was invited back as a contributor to write my second article for Be Well for Women Magazine.
I dedicate this second article, to my single sisters 40 and up that have never been married and my sisters without children like myself! This is a subject that’s near and dear to my heart as well as a subject I can speak to based on MY OWN personal experience and journey of singleness. For far too long society has judged a woman’s success by her marital status and if she’s had a child. Perhaps they even chose to start a career over starting a family. Whatever the reason, many have looked down upon or even shamed women of a certain age if they’re not married or do not have children by a certain age. I have come to dispel this false narrative. By the time this article is released, I will have celebrated my 50th birthday, praise God! My hope and prayer as you read this article, is that you are reminded and encouraged regardless of your age, marital or motherhood status, you
RACHEL WALLACE
are a success and still winning! One of my favorite sitcoms was “Girlfriends”. This popular show starred Tracee Ellis Ross and featured a group of four educated black women— Joan, Toni, Lynn & Maya. These four ladies were the best of friends and went through life’s challenges—relationships, breakups and makeups, marriages, divorces, and having children. My college girlfriends & I joke that this sitcom (in some respects) mirrored us in our younger days. I won’t call out their names, but they know who they are and which characters they could have played. 😊 Let’s just say I mostly identify with the character “Joan” in my circle of girlfriends. Joan was the fixer and caretaker of the bunch; a successful career woman with a beautiful home and always dreamed of becoming a wife & mother. Joan was always looking at her biological clock ticking. It wasn’t until the show’s finale that Joan found the love of her life
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait patiently for it. Romans 8:25
and became engaged. If Joan had it her way, this would have happened many years earlier…….
……BUT GOD. When I was a little girl playing with my Barbie dolls (and Ken), my Barbie playhouse and my Easy Bake oven, like Joan in Girlfriends I always dreamed of being a wife, a mother (with 2 kids), and a successful career woman who owned and lived in a nice home with the white picket fence and a dog.
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