Bibi Magazine Bridal Annual

2013

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Big Bang Theory’s

Kunal Nayyar his biggest role yet defining your

bridal style first year of

marriage

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Inspired: Defining Your Bridal Style Explore unique wedding ideas for your distinctive bridal style

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Lilly’s Lessons Makeup artist and esthetician Lilly Rivera divulges her secrets for flawless skin

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Big Day Beauty Eyes, lips, hair, nails... Bibi reveals our top beauty picks for a beautiful bridal look

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Groom-ing!

Grooms discover their signature look and the products to help them get there

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Defining Your Veil Style Discover the best veil drape for your bridal style, face and body shape

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Wedding Traditions Learn the story behind some age-old South Asian wedding traditions

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Kunal Nayyar’s Big Bang Marriage The Big Bang Theory star talks about his wedding and his first year of marriage to former Miss India, Neha Kapoor

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The First Year of Marriage Three real-life couples talk candidly about their first year of marriage

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Lookbook: Bridesmaid Dresses Bridesmaid dresses that complement any bridal style and season

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AMI SHETH: Actress and model Ami Sheth is busy planning her own destination wedding set for May, 2013 in the beautiful Mayan Riviera.

On the cover, she wears a brocade lehnga accented with crystals, antique zardosi work and a wide sequined border by Lashkara Couture. Her Urban bridal look has been created with brightly hued M.A.C makeup by Kanwal Batool.

Photographed at Hotel BPM in Brooklyn, NY by Amish Thakkar of Fine Art Productions.

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A Photo Finish House of Talent studios gives you the inside scoop on what to look for when choosing a wedding photographer and videographer

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Proposal: Meeta and Ravi, McAllen, TX A traveling, career-oriented couple makes time for love

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Proposal: Asha and Faisal, Houston A simple and intimate wedding, but with a houseful of guests

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Ladies of Legend Three leading ladies are poised for the role of their life in modern styles by Lashkara Couture and Mitan Ghosh

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Being Neelu Actress Neelu Sodhi discusses her style dressed in couture by Jorge Vega Umana and jewelry by Jyoti Kapoor

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Choosing Your Just-Right Venue Design your way to a fresh look with your chosen wedding venue

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The Entertainers Entertain your guests with ideas that extend your bridal style

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The Style-Vite Stylish wedding invitation ideas

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The Final Foodtier Design takes over your cuisine as presentation makes your wedding day dinner spectacular

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Cake Bosses Spice it up with sweets that test the boundaries

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The Weddings of South Asia Explore the traditions and rituals of Nepali and Tamil cultures

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Wedding Directory Bridal resources for the modern couple

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Wedding Planning Workbook Budgets, timeline, checklists; it’s all here to get you on your way to a perfect wedding

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Choosing your wedding style should be the first decision you make when it comes to planning your perfect day. With bridal options open to whatever you want them to be, defining your style helps you navigate the wide world of wedding options. Hence, we have designed this issue of Bibi Bridal to inspire you to do just that. Start with Inspired, page16, to find which style ideal you most relate with, and then follow that through the articles to define your perfect wedding.

If you are a Classic bride, your style ideal is most like Madhuri Dixit and you have a penchant for the traditional. The Glam bride follows someone like Kareena Kapoor, complete with sparkle and drama. The Boho bride finds her eclectic style similar to the Olsen Twins and of course, the Urban bride relates most with fashion forward Sarah Jessica Parker. Finally, the more offbeat Hipster bride finds inspiration in Chloe Sevigny’s curated look. Or perhaps you’re a combination of a few styles, and that, too, is perfectly fine.

Tina Sugandh and her husband Tarz, last year’s cover couple, are both glamorous and very close to their respective families. Their wedding last year was an exact reflection of their life as a couple. Why do I bring this up? Because starting the first week of May, you will be able to get a personal look at their wedding and first year of marriage with the premiere of Bravo’s newest show, “Newlyweds: The First Year.” Directed by Emmy Award-winning and Oscarnominated documentarian Lauren Lazin, the show follows Tina and Tarz, along with three other couples, as they navigate life as a married couple. It’s sure to be an entertaining and informative journey. You may also see us Bibi girls in the show as the magazine hosted the couple’s NYC wedding reception at the launch party of our 2012 issue.

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The first year of marriage is a heady time for any couple, as it sets the tone for your future years. We asked Kunal Nayyar, star of the television show The Big Bang Theory, himself a newlywed, to give insight on how he and his wife, former Miss India Neha Kapoor, build their marital foundation, particularly in the public eye. “It’s all about compromise,” he says, and we couldn’t agree more, page 36.

We have also featured three New York couples – actress and cover model Ami Sheth and Miraj Patel, actress and TV host Shetal Sheth and artist Vittorio Ottaviani, and singer Biba Singh and Harbir Singh – to show how these celebrity women inspire their men through their creative life and style, page 52.

Living in New York City means that we see trends emerge here before anywhere else. One such trend that really excites me is the attire women attending a wedding are choosing. Although lehngas, suits and saris remain constant, western dresses and gowns are making a chic entrance. Actress Neelu Sodhi of English Vinglish fame takes couture to a new level dressed in designer Jorge Vega Umana’s latest collection straight from his FW2013 fashion show.

Jorge, Nicaraguan by heritage, NYC by lease, is an emerging designer who delivers western cuts accented with beading that appeals to a South Asian sensibility. Paired with one-of-a-kind jewelry by Jyoti Kapoor, the look is sublime, page 64.

When it comes to wedding design, another hot trend this year is cuisine presentation. In The Final Foodtier, page 76, we offer a look at some of NYC’s top wedding caterers and dessert chefs. From the Michelin-starred Chef Hemant of Tulsi, to the fusion cuisine of Devi and the regional flavors of Chand Palace, we show you how these leaders are redefining wedding fare.

With so many brides and their fabulous vendors crafting such inspired weddings, defining your personal style through your wedding is just a matter of creativity. Now that you are a bonafide style maven, find Bibi Magazine on Facebook and upload your photos; we’d love to see your look. Who knows, maybe we’ll feature your wedding in the next issue of Bibi Bridal!

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Inspired

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Your wedding style is found in the details of the choices you make.

From favours and gifts, florals and dĂŠcor or entertainment and cuisine, your style ethos should reverberate within each element.

Whether you are a Classic Bride or one that sees herself as more of a Hipster, Bibi has sifted through a pastiche of options to present ideas most fitted to your particular style.

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Classic Madhuri Dixit

Glam

Kareena Kapoor

Boho

The Olsen Twins

Urban

Sarah Jessica Parker

Hipster Chloe Sevigny

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Classic THE CLASSIC BRIDE NEEDS NO INTRODUCTION. YOU HONOR RITUALS AND CUSTOMS, AND YOUR WEDDING WILL REFLECT THE THOUSANDS OF YEARS OF TRADITION BEHIND IT. THERE’S A REASON IT’S BEEN DONE THIS WAY FOR SO LONG, AND YOU, TOO, WILL CONTINUE THINGS JUST THE WAY YOUR MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER DID YEARS AGO.

Carry the classic look of a traditional red lehnga with this hand-painted cake topper.

Made of fine porcelain and about 5.5-inches tall, the bride is rich in detail, complete with henna and a bindi. The groom is dressed in a dapper sherwani, but you can mix-n-match this set with others in the collection (including him in a suit and her in sari) for the perfect fit, $48.95.

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Pillow Talk Ring Around the Rosy That flowers are an integral part of a classic bride’s ensemble is not new, but what is new are the floral rings designed by Treschelle Brown, creative director and owner of Houston’s Tres’ Bloom Floral Studios. Custom-designed with your colors and theme and made with fresh flowers and sparkly ornaments, these rings can last for many years when properly cared for. TresBloom.com

Celebrate your surroundings with home décor that reflects your classic taste. Transform your couch into a maharani’s paradise with these silk pillow covers by Casa Omyaa. Made with fabrics such as rich brocade, raw silk, lamé or jute and lined with luxurious cotton silk, these standard-sized pillows add regality to your surroundings, $24-$32. Aniika.com

Book of Love Capture the intimacy of a hand-written note with this book of quotes designed to hold each guest’s special message.

Unbreak my Bangles Bangles are accessories of tradition and matching your bangles to your many outfits is a necessity. Transport them safely in this Shanghai Bangle Case by Amrita Singh. Made of a richly patterned silk and 12-inches long, simply slide your bangles onto the cylindrical cushion and zip up the pouch. The case is also a great gift for presenting bangles to your bridesmaids, $50. Reema Bangle Set, $100 AmritaSingh.com

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Cardstock. Fabric. Ribbon. Archival

Cut four pieces of cardstock and several pieces of paper to 5”x7”. Take two of the cardstock and trim them down by an additional ¼-inch all the way around, so that they measure 4.5”x6.5”. Cut two pieces of fabric to 6.5”x8.5” and wrap around both of the larger pieces of cardstock. Fold over the edges and glue down with the rubber cement. Next, completely cover one side of each of the smaller pieces of cardstock with rubber cement. Place sticky side down over the folded-edge side of the larger cardstock so that it covers the glued fabric edges. This will make the “cover” of your book. Cut a length of ribbon, mark its half and glue to the outside of one of the covers. Once your guests have filled out their messages on the archival paper, place them within the covers of your book and tie with the ribbon for a stack of lovely memories to be relived anytime.

paper. Rubber cement. Scissors.

Swarovski Served

Glam THE GLAM BRIDE HAS LUXURIOUS TASTES BEST DEFINED BY THE OVER-THE-TOP, SPARKLY WORLD YOU CALL HOME. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH GLITTER OR TOO MUCH EXTRAVAGANCE. YOU THRIVE ON BEING HIGH-MAINTENANCE, FROM YOUR PERFECTLY MANICURED NAILS TO THE ABSOLUTE PERFECT FLORAL ARRANGEMENTS AT YOUR RECEPTION. SHINE ON, YOU PRETTY THING…SHINE ON!

If the Shoe Fits!

Every diva knows that the more unique a piece, the more coveted it will be. The ladies at Hourglass Footwear let you custom-design a pair of heels to match the patterns and colors of your outfits. First, choose your shoe style from varying heights, ranging from platform to stiletto, to mid-heel or flats. Then, send them a photo of your lehnga or a swatch of fabric. Within weeks, they will send you back one-of-akind bridal shoes. The finish is long-lasting and, in some cases, guaranteed. Rates start at $150.

HourglassFootwear.com

Bring your inner sparkle to your table with the Prouna Persia dinner set, with Swarovski® crystals handembedded into fine bone china.

Prouna Persia features 24k gold paisley prints surrounded by a floral design and accented with amber, gold, red and clear Swarovski® crystals. Dishwashersafe and remarkably beautiful, this dinner set is a reflection of your refined sensibilities, One setting, $575. ProunaUSA.com

Solerno & Sparkling Your glam wedding should have a glam drink. Solerno & Sparkling is a perfect combination of color and sophisticated taste. Made with Solerno Blood Orange Liqueur, comprised of native Sicilian Sanguinello blood oranges married with Italian lemon and natural sugar, this luscious liquid is then packaged in a beautifully designed, Murano-inspired glass bottle. 750ml, 40% Alc./Vol, $37.39. WineChateau.com • 1oz Solerno Blood Orange Liqueur • 5oz chilled dry sparkling wine • Pinch of chaat masala Blend liqueur and wine in a glass. Finish with a pinch of chaat masala.

Special Moments Make your flower girl feel even more special with a flower basket that matches her outfit. This easyto-make craft comes together in under 15 minutes and provides a lifetime of memories. Cut fabric to wrap the diameter of your box, Embellished material. Open box. 1.5-inch wire-edged wrap around the box and gluegun into place. For a decorative ribbon. Glue gun. Scissors. Small rubber band. element, let the fabric rise above the edge of the box. Gather the fabric at the bottom of the box, twist and tightly secure with a rubber band and glue-gun into place. Cut a length of ribbon to your desired height and securely glue to the bottom of the box. Tie the two ends of the ribbon into a decorative bow at the top. Fill with petals.

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Wines of Passion

Boho THE BOHO BRIDE IS THAT FREESPIRITED WOMAN WHO DOESN’T FOLLOW THE RULES, AND YOUR WEDDING WILL NOD TO ALL THINGS ECLECTIC AND UNCONVENTIONAL. STEP BAREFOOT AWAY FROM THE ORDINARY AND SHOW OFF YOUR HIPPIE-CHIC APPROACH WITH YOUR UNIQUE SENSE OF STYLE.

Bring paradise to your entire divan with wines tailor-made exclusively to pair with South Asian cuisine. Mirza Ghalib wine, named after the prolific Urdu poet, has been crafted from French wines into three flavors, Cabernet Sauvignon (red mature fruits and spices with smooth tannins), Voignier (aromatic, dry, with touch of vanilla) and a soon-to-be-released Rosé Syrah (fruity and floral with black currant, cherry and violet).

The wine’s acidity boosts complex South Asian spices while the fruits soften the heat. As Ghalib would say, “A wise man tastes the entire Tigris in every sip,” $15-$20. Sufiwines.com

Brew Up a Spicy Marriage

The Way I Are Raise your table’s Boho quotient with LeSutra Sparkling Liquors. Infused with premium vodka and a hint of sparkling white wine, LeSutra comes in four juicy and blendable flavors: Grape, Strawberry, Blueberry and Peach. Co-founded by music producer Timbaland, LeSutra’s bottle design is the perfect accessory for your eclectic tabletops. Drink it straight like champagne or mix it up; either way, your guests will be impressed with your Grammy-winning style, 15% Alc./Vol. 750ml, $29.99. CrownWineandSpirits.com

Want to attract more passion to your marriage or create more harmony with your in-laws? Motherdaughter team and well-known authors, Denise Linn and Meadow Linn believe that the secret alchemy of foods can do just that. Their new book, The Mystic Cookbook, is filled with recipes and guidance from all over the world, including India, that harness the hidden dimension of food. Did you know that tulsi, or holy basil, is said to encourage love? This cookbook teaches you more savory secrets, $20.

TheMysticCookbook.com.

Into the Looking Glass The beauty of mercury glass reflects your more ethereal taste, but using real mercury glass can be cost-prohibitive when it comes to a wedding. Create your own inexpensive versions and use them as centerpieces in groups of three.

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Glass vases. Krylon® Looking Glass spray paint. Paper. Masking tape. Water bottle.

Wrap the outside of the vases with the paper and secure in place with the tape. Spray the inside of the vases with water (for a mottled effect) and follow with a light coat of the Looking Glass paint. Turn upside down on a drying rack so air can circulate inside, and let dry about 15 minutes. Repeat until you get good coverage of silver, about five coats.

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Chicocity Central Show your chicocity with these ever-cool Wayfarerstyle sunglasses imprinted with a design of your choice.

Choose from their ready-toship styles or, better yet, create your own with their online software.

Customize the look with a frame color from your color scheme and add your own photos and text to the lens. Not only do they make a great keepsake, they can be ordered in both small and large quantities and be delivered in just a few days. Nightlife’s top brands have used them at their high-end events; now make them a part of your celebrations! Prices range depending on quantity ordered, average, $7.50 each. CrystalCustom.com

God Save the McQueen!

You’re guest-listed every FNO, you’re on the inside track at sample sales and you stood in line for the McQueen exhibit at the Met – you are a true Fashionista! Draw inspiration for your wedding with the Alexander McQueen Evolution coffee table book by Katherine A. Gleason. The book is the captivating story of the designer’s thirty-five runway shows and his genius behind them. It is bursting with stunning photography paired with quotes from the people who knew him best. Whether you find ideas for your wedding or you give this as a gift to your bridesmaids, Alexander McQueen Evolution is a must-have for every urban bride! $35. Race Point Publishing.

Urban

THE URBAN BRIDE IS AHEAD OF THE TIMES. MODERN, CHIC AND CULTURALLY AWARE, YOU’RE KNOWN FOR STEPPING OUT IN STILETTO STYLE, WHETHER IT’S THE HOTTEST ROOFTOP FOR DRINKS ON TUESDAY, OR DANCING TILL DAWN AT SOME HIP AND HIDDEN LATIN CLUB ON THURSDAY. YOUR WEDDING WILL REFLECT THE GO-GETTER VIBE OF YOUR HAPPENING LIFESTYLE.

Armed Amour A defining trait of cityfolk is their need for conversation-worthy spins on the ordinary.

Rosena Sammi, a jewelry designer whose Indian-inspired styles are a favorite among stylish celebrities like Rihanna, Blake Lively and Jessica Alba, has captured this spirit in her Harem Bhangra Bangles – wrapped with silken thread and finished with golden accents. They are 2.5-inches in diameter and come in pairs of matching colors, $66.

RosenaSammi.com

Bright Lights, Big Mehndi You’re anything but traditional, and your Mehndi night should also reflect your city vibe. Present your mehndi in these LED-lit trays. With a simple switch, turn the tray lights on to illuminate a dazzling, steady glow in jade green, red, blue or even multicolored, $19.99. Add some rechargeable LED candles with flickering flames, dust on the glitter and gota and wow the in-laws with your creativity. Afterwards, recharge the candles and use them again for your cocktail hour. Set of six rechargeable LED candles, $34.99.

Flashingblinkylights.com

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Outside of the Box

Hipster THE HIPSTER BRIDE IS A SELF-PROCLAIMED NERD WITH QUIRKY CHARM. YOU PREFER VINTAGE TO DESIGNER, ONE-OF-A-KIND TO MASS-PRODUCED, AND IF YOU CAN BUY IT ONLINE, EVEN BETTER; YOUR FACEBOOK FRIENDS JUST HAVE TO SEE YOUR STYLISH STATUS UPDATE. YOUR WEDDING WILL BE CELEBRATED BOTH ONLINE AND OFF AS A FLAWLESS MIX OF YOUR STYLE AND SMARTS.

Celebrate your individuality with these photo favour boxes. It’s as easy as printing out your favorite couple picture onto a sticky label and applying it to a favour box. We chose Avery labels because their website offers an online design program that makes printing labels super easy. This 2.75”x1.75 x 2” Onda Avana Favor Chest also caught our eye with its texturized feel and customizable nature. Decorate them with ribbons from your color theme, $13.98/ten pack. Weddingstar.com, Avery.com

Bag Speak A bag that makes a bold statement by a designer with global influence is exactly the statement piece you have been looking for.

NYC-based Lebanese designer Dareen Hakim has made a name for herself with her iconic clutches. Made of luxurious leathers and topped with an inscribed Arabic plate, these bags can be customized to really “speak” to you! Shown here, La Capri in Chartreuse, $265, and Le Icon in Bronze Python with the phrase, “Live and Laugh,” $355. DareenHakim.com

The Hipster’s Guide to Getting Your Wedding From Here to There ALTHOUGH PLANNING YOUR WEDDING CAN SOMETIMES FEEL OVERWHELMING, MANAGE THE DETAILS AND YOUR STRESS WITH SOME ONLINE HELP. FROM INTERNET PLANNERS TO ONLINE REGISTRIES, WE FOUND A NICE LITTLE ROUNDUP OF WED-SITES. BrideBuggy.com: From to-do lists to budget sheets, RSVPs, table seatings and more, this online organizer helps South Asian brides manage it all in one place. Bridebuggy is not “wedding planning” per se; instead, they provide advice, step-by-step guidance and tips gathered from top wedding planners, industry experts and most importantly, hundreds of former brides, so future brides can benefit from their experiences; fee: $29.95.

ShaadiBelles.com: South Asian bridal information searchable by color theme or subject, ShaadiBelles provide all kinds of inspirational ideas through photographs of real-life weddings. Free.

MyTab.co/Weddings: Plan the honeymoon of your dreams and let your guests gift it to you through MyTab.co. The site lets you calculate costs and provides social media links as well as widgets for your website so you can let your guests know to shop for you here. Free Gifts.Betterment.com: For the gifts that keep on giving, Betterment.com has started its sister site, Betterment Gifts, that allows couples to register for a portfolio of stocks, bonds and other investments, all of which are designed to help save for major life purchases. Guests can then log in and gift through the portfolio. Free.

Ritani.com: Design your own dream diamond ring with Ritani’s user-friendly online design program.

With the various options of settings and a vast array of diamonds, you can get the ring of your dreams and rest easy in the knowledge that it is truly one-of-a-kind. Pay for purchase.

Google.com/Weddings: And finally, the granddaddy of them all… Google! Their wedding website section shows you how to maximize their products to help make planning your wedding organized and efficient. From one-click websites, to shareable online spreadsheets, documents, photos and content, Google can be a list-person’s best friend! Free.

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Lilly’s Lessons

LILLY RIVERA, FOUNDER OF BRIDALGAL IN NYC, IS A SENIOR PRO AIRBRUSH MAKEUP ARTIST, LICENSED ESTHETICIAN AND EDUCATOR FOR OVER 35 YEARS. SHE SPECIALIZES IN MULTICULTURAL SKIN AND CLIENTS OF VARIOUS ETHNICITIES. LILLY’S WORK CAN BE SEEN IN PUBLICATIONS SUCH AS MANHATTAN BRIDE, OPRAH MAGAZINE, BRIDES, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, SPA MAGAZINE AND PEOPLE IN ESPANOL. SHE HAS BEEN FEATURED IN NUMEROUS TV SHOWS, SUCH AS “MY FAIR WEDDING” WITH DAVID TUTERA, “WHOSE WEDDING IS IT ANYWAY?”, “LATINATION” AND OTHERS.

AS A MAKEUP ARTIST AND LICENSED ESTHETICIAN, MY GOAL IS TO ACHIEVE A LOOK THAT OPTIMIZES EACH CLIENT’S UNIQUE BEAUTY. BUT THE TRUTH IS NO AMOUNT OF MAKEUP CAN COVER UP BAD SKIN, AND TOO MUCH MAKEUP WILL END UP LOOKING HEAVY, OVERDONE AND FAKE. NATURALLY RADIANT SKIN REQUIRES ONLY A LITTLE MAKEUP TO LOOK BEAUTIFUL. The first step to achieving great results is for skin to be properly cared for. When we get our skin in good shape, a professional makeup application will turn Photoshop into a thing of the past. Below are a few of my favorite skincare products that will help you smooth out that wedding day canvas for flawless photos.

For Dry, Tired Skin For me, the fewer steps to achieving great results, the better. Babor Gel and Tonic 2 in 1 Cleanser, $36, simplifies my skincare routine while still delivering results. It cleanses and tones in one simple step, making skin feel clean, fresh and soft. The salicylic acid and pansy extract help with any existing blemishes and prevent new ones from forming.

The Babor Rose Toning Lotion, $30, a refreshing toner that smells like a bouquet of roses and is alcohol-free, is a must for dehydrated skin. I love using this toner right before applying moisturizer or makeup and also as a skin refresher during the day. It makes the skin more radiant and supple and is suitable for anyone who wants to pamper their skin, regardless of skin type.

Moisture is an essential element for healthier and younger-looking skin and Babor Fluids FP Moist and Lipid is like a waterfall of moisture. I tried these ampoules during the winter and immediately noticed smoother, firmer skin.

After just one use, the skin looks younger and more radiant, and with regular use, I noticed a great improvement in the health and texture of my skin. This is great for use prior to a makeup application as it helps the makeup glide on for a more even-toned and flawless appearance. Babor.com

Botanical Beauty Secrets from Bali Exfoliation is an essential part of achieving healthy skin, as it removes dead and dull cells that accumulate on the surface of the skin and cover up the more resilient cells underneath. Containing rice protein, an excellent softening ingredient, the Juara Rice Facial Scrub, $29, is not only a very effective exfoliant for even the most sensitive skin, it also deep cleanses the pores, leaving the skin soft without stripping it of its natural protective layer. My dehydration lines were visibly smoother, my pores were minimized and my skin glowed after just one use. For even more pampering hydration, I use the Juara Avocado Banana Moisture Mask, a creamy leave-on mask that is a great moisture boost for parched skin, leaving it supple, moist and radiant with regular use. The avocado oil nourishes and helps heal the natural moisture barrier essential for healthy, soft and resilient skin, while the banana puree softens and maintains moisture balance. For optimal results, use after an exfoliation treatment. JuaraSkinCare.com

Emergency Repair When your skin needs an immediate boost, the emerginC line of products offers a quick remedy. Vitamin C is essential for skin repair and to protect skin cells from free-radical damage caused by UVA/UVB rays and other environmental elements that subject our skin to premature aging. With one use of the emerginC Hydrarepair ampoules, my skin came alive with a healthy, radiant glow. It is potent yet non-irritating, and perfect for all skin types, including very sensitive skin. The emerginC vitality mask, $49, is a creamy nourishing mask packed with coenzyme Q10 and alpha-lipoic acid that soothes, hydrates, calms and reduces redness. For oily skin, the emerginC deglazing mask, $42.50, is a clay-based therapeutic facial mask that helps with breakouts, excess oil and exfoliation. EmerginC.com ø 24

Big Day Beauty TRUE, YOUR HAPPINESS IS FUELING THAT MEGA-WATT GLOW YOU’RE BOASTING THESE DAYS, BUT A FEW ESSENTIAL BRIDAL BEAUTY PRODUCTS WILL TAKE YOUR LOOK OVER THE TOP. FOR YOUR UPCOMING NUPTIALS, HERE ARE PRODUCTS THAT ENSURE LONG-LASTING RESULTS FOR THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECTS OF YOUR BRIDAL BEAUTY: SKIN, EYES, LIPS, CHEEKS, NAILS, HAIR AND BODY.

Live in Your Own Skin Your skin is the canvas on which you will build your perfect bridal face. Prep your canvas with the Miracle Skin Transformer SPF 20 Face, $48, a 5-in-1 skin enhancer designed to hydrate, prime, smooth, matte and protect your skin. Apply the translucent lotion alone or under makeup to minimize shine and pore size while softening fine lines.

Follow up with Miracle Skin Transformer Treat & Conceal Eye & Face, $36, for hydrating makeup that leaves a flawless, air-brushed complexion in one easy stroke. Both products are enriched with botanicals that treat your skin from the inside. BeautyBar.com There is no doubt that mineral makeup is best for your skin, and Advanced Mineral (AM) makeup has the added benefit of being 100% vegan. Start with the AM Liquid Mineral Foundation, $44, a longlasting and transfer-proof formula with a range of South Asian-friendly colors. The all-natural formula infused with vitamins also stimulates cell growth to rejuvenate tiredlooking skin. To hide dark circles and other discolorations, use the AM Perfecting Concealer, $24.

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concealers in the market, this silky formula resists settling into lines and creases while imparting a light-reflecting luminescence to make your eyes look younger and more hydrated. Maintain your look throughout the day with the AM Pressed Compact Powder, $38.50, or use it alone as an SPF-infused foundation/powder.

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All Eyes on You The perfect eye makeup is deep in pigmentation, has a high shimmer content and lasts through all the laughing and crying you will experience on your wedding day. Cailyn Gel Liner with Built-in Brush, $21, offers colors that are waterand smudge-proof for up to 24 hours. Apply with the included precision brush and let dry. It’s that easy! And with five colors to choose from, it’s also very versatile.

Pair the liner with the range of Cailyn Mineral Shimmers – highintensity shadows that deliver glamorous iridescence to your lids.

You can also blend the shimmers into the gel liner for a more opalescent eyeliner. Try the Mineral Loose Eye Shadow 6-Stack, a matched collection of shadows to mix for your perfect eye look, (shown here) Diva, $45. Makeup artists swear by this eye makeup system. CailynCosmetics.com Another eyeshadow line that delivers punch is the Sephora Outrageous Prisma Chrome Metallic Eyeshadow, $20. With gorgeous shades of brushed metals like Golden Taupe, Taupe Silver and Metallic Beige (shown here), this luminous shadow provides a highly polished finish. Sephora.com

Lipstick Love!

You’ll eat, you’ll drink, you’ll laugh and you’ll kiss! Make sure your lip color lasts through it all by building it up.

Start with the e.l.f.

Studio Lip Stain, $3.

Enhanced with vitamins, the stain side of this duo dries to a silky matte while the gloss side adds shine.

Colors range from the soft beige of Mysterious to the deep red of Red Carpet (shown here). EyesLipsFace.com.

Define your lips with the Susan Posnick ColorDuo Double-sided Lip Pencil in Nude/Rouge, $24, that plumps up lips with its patent-pending formula. The two-tone/one-pencil packaging makes this a perfect addition to any bridal beauty bag. Pair the Lip Pencil with the Susan Posnick ColorEssential Lipstick in London, a bronzed berry color hydrated with pure olive oil that keeps your lips looking luscious all day, $19.

SusanPosnick.com Finish off your lip look with the Giorgio Armani Lip Shimmer Lip Gloss in Cranberry, $27. An iridescent gloss that makes your lips look full, you can use it alone for tint or layer it over lipstick for deep, intense color. GiorgioArmaniBeauty-USA.com

Nail-Vana Muslim women rejoice – you can now wear nail polish without worrying about missing your prayers!

European brand Inglot Cosmetics has created a line of breathable enamel that allows water and oxygen to pass through to the nail, making these longwearing nail polishes halal! For all ladies, the breathable properties of the Ingot O2M line keeps nails in optimal condition with no yellowing. When worn with the O2M base and top coat, the enamel lasts up to one week without dulling, $14. Bridal

colors from left to right, 628, 629, 640, Base Coat and Top Coat. For their full line of colors, visit InglotUSA.com If you prefer more glitter in your life, the Ciate Sequined Manicure System is an innovative three-step kit that delivers major sparkle to your nails. Simply apply a coat of Glitter Grip, roll your nail in the pot of sequins, and finish with another coat of Glitter Grip. Comes in three colors to match your whole wardrobe: Harlequin (multicolored), Tutu (pink, red, champagne) and Super Duper (black, silver, gold), $13. Sephora.com

Body Basics Before you put your clothes on, you need to first make sure your foundations flatter and enhance your body. Lift and separate without bulky underwires with Warner’s Unbelievable UnWire bra. Made of revolutionary new technology, this bra provides maximum support while maintaining comfort throughout the day.

Comes in a pretty array of colors, $27. Warners.com Harness the power of attraction with the Limited Edition X and Y fragrances by Emeshel. These handcrafted fragrances are said to encourage and enhance magnetism between the sexes. Her “X” perfume is described as a balance between femininity and power with top notes of neroli, petitgrain and peach, and warmer aromas of rose, jasmine, orange blossom and osmanthas. His “Y” scent is modern with notes of lavender, sandalwood and vanilla layered over bergamot and Mandarin forest with pink pepper and white coriander for spice. Worn separately, the effect is palpable; worn together, the effect is sublime, $150 each. Emeshel.com

Hair So Healthy Healthy shiny hair instantly ups your attraction level. Tibolli hair products give you that boost with their patented signature ingredient Trioxxy, a synergy of keratin proteins. Tibolli’s Desired Hair Oil, $23, and Moisture Lust, $27, work together to create sleek styles without heavy build-up.

Apply the Hair Oil to damp/dry hair and work mid-length to end. Then, while blowdrying, spritz the Moisture Lust on the areas that need it the most: the ends. The result?

Super-hydrated and sexy hair that shines.

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Groom-ing!

CHOOSING A WEDDING STYLE IS NOT JUST FOR WOMEN. WHEN IT COMES TO A LOOK, MEN CAN CHOOSE THE STYLE OF GROOM THEY WANT TO BE AND WALK CONFIDENTLY DOWN THE AISLE KNOWING THEY’RE AS POLISHED AS THEIR BRIDE. FIND YOUR STYLE MATCH BELOW BY IDENTIFYING YOURSELF WITH THE CELEBRITY WHO BEST EMBODIES THAT STYLE. THEN, FOLLOW BIBI’S PRODUCT GUIDE. IT’S THAT SIMPLE.

The Urban Groom STYLE IDEAL: BRADLEY COOPER

Walk the Line

Bang da Style

Cityfolk swear by their shoes, and while you may not completely feel Fifth Avenue in a bright red kurta, you can still exude your urban edge with Alexander McQueen leather slippers in colors that work with South Asian attire.

The blue patent leather Sapphire Blue Skull Slipper, $615, is embroidered with the signature McQueen skull and finished with grosgrain ribbon piping at the tab and heel. The rich brown Indian Gable Skull Leather Slipper, $650, is embossed with the iconic skull.

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THE LOOK: The Glam Groom isn’t afraid of the spotlight. Draw all eyes on you with this Virtues woven gold and cream sherwani with off-centered clasps.

Comes with fitted bronze-gold trousers, $655. Angarkh.com

Whether your hairstyle looks like James Franco or Benicio del Toro, you need max-action products.

Bangstyle, a no-nonsense range of professional hair products, delivers results at affordable prices. The Hydrating Shampoo, $15, and Conditioner, $16, will leave your hair nourished, and the Thickening Fibre Gel, $17, will infuse invisible rayon fibers to increase volume and thickness. For a more styled look, Firm Matte Clay, $17, with Bentonite and Kaolin clay, adds a “matte” texture to hair, allowing you to bend and move it as desired. Style it into a windblown adventure knowing that after hours of dancing, at least your hair will still look fresh. Bangstyle.com THE LOOK: A short, velvet Virtues sherwani over fitted trousers retains your urban look with its slim-tailored elegance, $664. Angarkh.com

The Glam Groom STYLE IDEAL: SHAHRUKH KHAN

Wherever, Whenever

The glam groom knows that fresh breath is just as important as polished style. EatWhatever is a revolutionary breath control system that ensures confident, fresh breath in two quick steps: swallow the gel cap and suck on the mint. Unlike other breath fresheners, EatWhatever works in both your mouth and stomach simultaneously with organic peppermint and parsley seed oils. Best of all, it’s vegan and gluten-free, 3 packs, $7.50. Eatwhatever.com

Circle No More Send your circles packing with Jeffrey James Eye Cream. Created by a former football player who was voted “Most Inspirational Player” by his team, The Huskies, this all-organic, proprietary blend of aloe vera, green tea, licorice, eyebright, vitamins C and E and grape culminates in a deeply hydrating eye cream that smoothes out fine lines and brightens the eye area. Go to the website to find out exactly what these ingredients do and read about Jeffrey’s inspirational journey, $39. JeffreyJamesOrganics.com 28

The Classic Groom

THE LOOK: Nothing says Classic more than a regal red silk Virtues sherwani worn over churidar pajamas.

Bring out your inner maharaja with subtle zari and embroidery work, $507. Angarkh.com

STYLE IDEAL: ABHISHEK BACHCHAN

The Gentleman The true gentleman knows how to treat others as well as himself. The Gentlemen’s Set from R. Cooper is the ideal comprehensive men’s grooming kit that includes everything you’ll need to look dapper on your wedding day. The R. Cooper company was founded by a professional matchmaker who took his expertise of men’s grooming and attraction to create products that appeal to the male aesthetic. R. Cooper products are not only formulated with the finest ingredients, organics and botanicals, but are crafted with the latest technology, resulting in products that quite simply… really work. The Gentlemen’s Set includes All-Over Wash: Body, Face & Hair, Active Rx Face Toner, Daily Shave Cream, Face Scrub, Mend Skin: Glycolic 10%, Daily Face Moisturizer with SPF 30 and Chosen, an Eau de Toilette cologne, $282.60. Treat yourself and your groomsmen as the gentlemen you really are. GetRCooper.com

The Boho Groom STYLE IDEAL: EMILE HIRSCH

Hair-Vana You’d rather spend time organizing your recycle bin than worrying about your hair, but there’s no need to forgo healthy hair when maintenance is as easy as you are. Paraben-free, MensGroom products are formulated for men by men with simple-to-use and affordable products.

Daily Washout 2 in 1 Shampoo/Conditioner contains Barley Protein, Vitamin B5, Zinc PCA and Eucalyptus extract to leave hair and scalp moisturized and manageable, $7, 8.5 fl.oz. For guys needing a little extra love, Feed Your Hair Scalp Treatment is a daily-use serum that combats scalp and hair aging by improving follicle health. Made with a unique complex of sugar cane and fruit extracts, and with alphahydroxy acid that clears follicles of dead skin cells, the serum helps reduce hair loss and scalp aging by restoring hair to a normal growth cycle, $9.99, 3.4 fl.oz. Once you’ve uncovered a canvas of healthy hair, style it with Iron Grip Strong Hold Gel that conditions while providing superior flake-free and grease-free control, $5.99, 5 fl.oz.

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THE LOOK: Show your Boho style with an embroidered Virtues sherwani with crystal pinpoint accents. Worn over fitted trousers, and with a bold neckpiece, this style appeals to a more free-spirited soul, $950. Angarkh.com 30

More Than Just Time Tell time, look stylish and help the environment with this lightweight, natural wood WeWood Date Army watch, engineered with a conscience. With Miyota Japanese precision movement, this timepiece is a statement in both manner and ideology; for each watch sold, WeWood plants one tree in its honor.

The watch is hypoallergenic and chemical-free and unique in that each piece has its own distinct hue and texture. This watch is made from the Guaiaco tree native to South America and known for its powerful healing properties, $120. Wewood.us

The Hipster Groom STYLE IDEAL: JOHNNY DEPP

Man of Substance Channel back to the 50s when men were men and shaving was a proper ritual. Drop the aerosol can and reach into the deep, luxurious lather that is Jack Black Supreme Cream Triple Cushion Shave Lather with macadamia nut oil and soy, $23, 8 oz. jar. Formulated with moisture-rich ingredients such as certified organic sea kelp and sunflower seed extract, Jack Black Supreme Cream can be applied by fingertips or, the ideal way, with a brush.

Most quality shave brushes are made with badger hair, but Jack Black Pure Performance Shave Brush with travel case is formulated with cruelty-free Pure-Tech synthetic hair bristles that are more luxurious than the original. Treated with an antimicrobial agent to prevent harmful bacteria, the shape of the bristles allows for lathering-up precision while the weighted base fits your hand with substance, $85. Trust us, you will love this.

GetJackBlack.com THE LOOK: The right accessories transform this Virtues short sherwani into hipster heaven. Subtle embroidery on the cuffs is perfectly in tune with vintage wingtip shoes, $701. Angarkh.com

Keep Your Cred Face it: the bride’s family will present you with “jewelry.” After you’ve nabbed the watch of your dreams, live up to your hipster style with these limited-production, one-of-a-kind, handmade leather and precious metal bracelets. Made in the Blue Ridge Mountains by artisan Lynn Kemp, these bracelets can be custom-ordered in the color and metal of your choice or bought off the rack at stores nationwide. Now that’s deck! Gawdybobbles.com

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Defining Your

Veil Style

BEFORE CHOOSING AN ENSEMBLE FOR YOUR WEDDING DAY, YOU FIRST NEED TO CONSIDER HOW YOU WANT TO WEAR YOUR VEIL. YOUR STYLE INFLUENCE, FACE AND BODY SHAPE WILL DICTATE THE MOST FLATTERING VEIL SHAPES FOR YOU. WORK WITH YOUR STYLIST TO ADJUST THE VOLUME OF THE VEIL ACCORDING TO YOUR FRAME AND YOUR OUTFIT’S SILHOUETTE. TO DEMONSTRATE HOW PROFOUND THE RIGHT STYLING CAN BE, WE HAVE USED THE SAME MODEL HERE IN DIFFERENT LOOKS. FIND THE LOOK THE FITS BEST WITH YOUR PERSONALITY. Photography by Bennett Cobliner Hair and makeup by Jaswinder Kaur, LooksByJassi.com Clothes and accessories by Shehnaai Couture, ShehnaaiUSA.com

Classic The Look: This look works best with a dupatta that has a heavy, lined border. Drape the veil on the head, bring one edge under the arm and pin on the shoulder. The other side is worn straight or pleated. Adjust the border to frame the face. The hair is pulled back higher on the crown to create an anchor for the veil.

The Style: This kundan-work veil is by Vikram Phadnis. A jhumar and teeka add to this classic style.

The Makeup: Rich, shimmery eyes with a medium lip keep this look in balance.

Urban The Look: Your fashion-forward style is evident in this side updo.

The veil is attached under the hair and is supported by the shoulders. Crystal hair clips add sparkle.

The Style: The modern cut and vibrant color of this bold lehnga underscores the urban vibe. This bustier lehnga is by Saa.n.she and is subtly accented with tone-on-tone resham work and quartz-colored crystals.

The Makeup: Brightly shaded eyes and lips bring this vibrant look together.

Hipster The Look: This veil style should reflect your statement style.

Instead of a typical veil worn on your head, choose a headpiece instead, and drape the veil around the shoulders.

The Style: Vintage-inspired lehngas work best for this look. Think 1950s Americana. This scoop neck, sequined blouse with mango colored lehnga with zardosi peeta work is by Saa.n.she.

The Makeup: Follow the vintage theme through with strong cat eyes and neon lips.

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Glam The Look: Lots of crystals and sparkle define this look. This veil has a matha pathee, or heavy work on the crown. Lift the hair high on the crown to create dramatic appeal.

The Style: Choose crystal-embellished cholis that tastefully bare more skin, like this one by Geetanjali Singh for Khubsoorat Collection. Crystal or diamond jewelry add to the glamour.

The Makeup: Dark, dramatic, and lots of shine and shimmer.

Boho The Look: This veil style is the least structured of all the bridal styles. Choose a veil, preferably in easy-to-style net, with light work along the borders. Hair should be sleek to offset the free-flowing veil. Choose antique jewelry.

The Style: Boho looks favor natural fabrics like silk jamevar with moghul-inspired zari work and kundan stones. This lehnga and jacket ensemble are by Vikram Phadnis.

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Wedding Traditions

Even if you did find some of the customs puzzling as they were piling up, who has time to really question the meaning when you’re so busy booking the hall, deciding on which relatives to include and which to leave out and doing everything in between?

As I let my family take over the ceremonial aspects of my own wedding, I didn’t really stop to think about any of it until I overheard a conversation between my mother and the priest. They were discussing who would bring a list of items including betel nuts, rice and a coconut to the ceremony. It was then that I decided to take a little time to understand what I would be expected to be a part of and, in the process, learn about many interesting customs followed by South Asians.

It turns out that the pre-wedding ceremony being discussed is called the Navagraha prayer. It is commonly practiced by both North and South Indians and involves worshipping the nine planets.

Each celestial body is said to have a profound effect on a person’s life, so the gods associated with these planets are asked to bless the couple, particularly if the planets are not in favor of the bride or groom.

The items used in the ceremony are equally steeped with symbolic meaning. The betel nut represents the nine planets. However, betel nuts also have different meanings in different cultures.

For instance, in Maharashtra, a wife’s presence is imperative during religious rituals, but if she isn’t able to attend, a betel nut wrapped in a cloth can be used in her place. In Bengal, betel nuts are believed to carry magical properties and are placed under the pillow at night so that a person can dream of his or her future.

In South Asian weddings, brides use various embellishments to enhance their beauty. In the Phoolon Ka Gehna ceremony in some Arya Samaj communities, a bride turns to the beauty in nature and adorns herself with jewelry made of flowers.

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Also, on the day of her wedding, in a ceremony called Choodha and Nath, the bride’s maternal uncle will give her gifts of a nose ring and adorn her arms with 21 red and ivory bangles, as the number 21 and the color red are considered auspicious. She will wear these decorations in preparation of her new life.

Sikh ceremonies are quite different from Hindu ceremonies in that they don’t incorporate astrology.

In fact, Sikhs are generally discouraged from using astrology. They don’t believe that horoscopes should be relied upon as long as a person has faith in God. The Sikh wedding ceremony is quite simple and includes readings and hymns from the Guru Granth Sahib (holy scriptures) as well as walking around the holy scriptures four times. As the couple prepare to take their vows, the friends of the bride

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WHEN IT COMES TO WEDDINGS, EVERYONE’S SUPERSTITIOUS, EVEN IF YOU’RE THE PERSON WHO WALKS UNDER AN OPEN LADDER ON PURPOSE OR DOESN’T GET A LITTLE SHIVER WHEN YOU SEE FRIDAY THE 13TH LOOMING ON THE CALENDAR. YOU CAN BET THAT WHEN YOUR WEDDING DAY DAWNS, YOU’LL BE LESS LIKELY TO TEMPT THE GODS, AND WHEN YOU’RE HANDED A KNIFE WITH THE PROMISE THAT IT WILL THWART ANY EVIL FORCES IF YOU KEEP IT WITH YOU UNTIL THE CEREMONY, YOU PROBABLY WON’T QUESTION IT. THAT’S JUST FOR STARTERS. WHEN YOUR MAKEUP ARTIST DRAWS A LITTLE BLACK DOT WITH EYELINER BEHIND YOUR EAR TO WARD OFF THE EVIL EYE, I DOUBT YOU’LL WASH IT OFF. By Anju Krishnakumar

have some preparing of their own to do. It is their job to steal the groom’s shoes, also known as Joota Chupai, as soon as he takes them off for the ceremony. The groom’s friends, in return, try to prevent this from happening. If the groom’s shoes are stolen, he can only get them back when he agrees to give the bride’s friends the sum of money they demand. This lighthearted tradition, which happens across South Asian cultures, gives both sides an opportunity to interact and get to know each other better as they will now be a part of each others’ lives.

In traditional arranged Muslim weddings, it was common for the bride to be in purdah and for the couple sometimes never to have met until after the nikah, or wedding ceremony. This makes the first time they see each other particularly special, and this first meeting is marked with a romantic tradition called the Arsi Mushaf. A veil is spread over the head of the bride and the groom. The groom is given an arsi, or mirror, and sees his new wife for the first time in this reflection, blessed by the presence of the Quran. The groom is then asked to use his right

index finger, known as the kalmey-ki-ungli, to write the protective holy verse from the Quran, Surah-al-Ikhlas, on his wife’s forehead.

As I read about various wedding traditions, it seemed like many ended with a ritual to welcome the bride into her new family. Sindhi weddings end with the Datar, or salt ceremony. When the bride and groom have finished their rounds around the fire in the traditional Hindu fashion, the bride sits down beside her husband with a tray of salt in the middle. She picks up salt by cupping both hands and places it in the hands of her husband, who then passes the salt back to her without spilling any. This is repeated three times, and the bride then passes the salt to her new father-in-law, mother-in-law and each person from the groom’s family. Exchanging salt symbolizes that the bride will blend in with her new family just as salt blends in with food.

The list of South Asian wedding traditions are endless because of all the religions, ethnicities and cultures that exist in the region. But one thing they all have in common is that the ceremonies are filled with rituals and celebration and remain one of the most important events in life. ø

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Kunal Nayyar’s

Big Bang Marriage WHEN KUNAL NAYYAR FIRST MET MODEL AND FORMER MISS INDIA NEHA KAPOOR AT THE OPENING OF A FRIEND’S BAR IN NEW DELHI IN 2008, HE KNEW AT FIRST SIGHT THAT HE WOULD MARRY THE TALL BEAUTY. “I MEAN SHE IS HOT, AND I WANTED HER PHONE NUMBER… THAT WAS THAT,” HE SAYS. By Ayesha Hakki

The Big Bang Theory is an incredible success. How has that been for you? It’s unbelievable – six-and-ahalf years for the show, 20 million viewers – it’s a dream. As an actor, you can be very pessimistic just trying to get your next 36

job. But to be on the show, not only for one, or two, or three, but six-and-a-half seasons, it’s unbelievable. This will probably be the most important event of my life in terms of my acting career. It always will be. It feels like it is happening to someone else. It is difficult to believe it is happening to me.

Sometimes, it is a very difficult thing to be in the moment when something so huge is happening around you. And I know when it’s over, I will go back and say, ‘Wow, what a journey.’ But right now, it’s all about the work – waking up in the morning and showing up for work, doing the best I can, nailing every take, making sure I am there for my cast mates.

Are you a nerd in real life? You must get asked this question quite often. There are things that I am nerdy about just like there are things everyone is nerdy about: like a jock in high school who plays fantasy football – he’s a nerd about fantasy football.

If you’re playing video games all day, I mean you’re nerdy about video games. There are things I love: Lord of the Rings, Game of Thrones… I love Star Wars, things like that. I am also nerdy about sports and sport statistics. I like cricket and basketball and now I am obsessed with American football. I love looking at stats, reading about all that stuff. I never got into comic books, except Archie comics, Archie comics are so cool. I was never into Sci-Fi stuff. I love music; I am a big nerd about music, so, yeah.

You got married over a year ago, how has the first year been for you guys? It has been pretty good, you know. Every marriage is different and there is no secret formula. When you are married, you have to compromise things that you didn’t have to compromise when you were single or even when you are dating. If you understand that you are willing to compromise with certain things, then you

Wedding photos by Snigdha Sheel and Vinayak Das for Photo Tantra

Sure enough, three years of a long-distance relationship later, she in India and he in Los Angeles, the couple wed on December 22, 2011 in New Delhi in a six-day celebration attended by over 1000 guests. Both Kunal and Neha are Hindu Punjabi and held a traditional Punjabi wedding that included the Sangeet and Mehndi nights, as well as the actual ceremony and a lavish reception. The Londonborn, Delhi-raised and US-educated star even arrived atop a white horse with his baraat, a fact, he says, terrified him.

Today, the couple share a home in Los Angeles, where Kunal continues his work with one of the nation’s most watched shows, The Big Bang Theory, as astrophysicist Rajesh Koothrappali. This role is his first as a regular on a television series and most recently, he played the voice of Gupta in Ice Age: Continental Drift.

Adjusting to married life, Kunal admits he’s had some learning to do, but with the obvious love he has for his wife, he says it’s the happiest he’s ever been. Here, he shares his life and his marital advice.

will always be happy! You know what I mean. If you are the kind of person who wants all things your own way, then you are not going to be happy.

So it’s about compromise? Yes. I think we found a very good balance and when we continue to find a good balance, then I think that’s what good marriages are about. I had to learn how to communicate in a way that I never understood. I had to learn to tell my wife everything that happened at the end of the day or when I come home, in a sense.

If someone calls me on the phone and I am talking about something that she would like to know about, I may forget because I am not used to bouncing every single thing that happens off her. It is something I am still learning.

You guys were in a long distance relationship? Yes, for three years on different continents, from India to America. The beauty of that was falling in love over the telephone. It was really fun and it was quite intimate. There is nothing like sitting there, iPad to iPad, or TV, watching a movie; you literally have to talk everything over the phone. It was a lovely way to get to know my wife because you get to know someone very intimately.

Tell us about the wedding? It was a huge affair, six days, over 1000 people. I wish I could go back to my wedding as a guest. I would have had more fun. In the sense that when we were getting married, there was no more than a second to breathe. And I was so sober during my own wedding… I didn’t have time even to have a drink. All my cousins and friends were dancing, having a great time, and I was like, ‘Hello auntie, Namaste,’ you know what I mean. But it was wonderful. I couldn’t have asked for any better. When Neha came out in that dress, I will never forget that moment.

She looked like a vision. I live with her and so I see her when she wakes up in the morning, when she goes to sleep, I see her when she’s sick, but when she dresses up… it is something I’ve never seen before, she is the most beautiful girl.

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How has it been for both of you, her adjusting to being in the States and both of you in your marriage? It is not like it’s been easy, but it’s not like it’s been difficult. We have a very good life, we have everything we need, we have great friends, all those things have come easily, but other things like missing your family, missing your friends. It is the longest that she has been away from her family at one given time in her life, almost a year. So little things that you take for granted when you leave home that you remember, like it’s 3pm and you are sitting at home and think, ‘I’d like to go to my best friend’s home for coffee,’ but that person is in India.

Is she working? She is beginning to work. She is doing a bunch of things. She is going to get back into modeling and she is designing a label, a fashion label for western clothes.

When you are a normal married couple, the first year of adjustment is challenging, but when you are in the spotlight, it must be difficult just being who you are, being so recognized walking down the street? We both love it. It’s amazing obviously when you love someone and see them doing something they love to do, then they get recognition for it, you love it too. When she gets recognized in India, I love it. We are very good supporters of each other, and I don’t think that she minds at all. Our fans have been amazing, whenever, wherever I go, people love the show, so it’s amazing for both of us. Ø

The First Year

of Marriage

THE WEDDING TAKES A LOT OF PLANNING, BUT THE MARRIAGE IS WHERE THE HARD WORK BEGINS. AFTER THE LAST PRESENT IS UNWRAPPED AND THE FINAL THANK YOU NOTE IS SENT, THE REAL BUSINESS OF BUILDING A LIFE TOGETHER BEGINS. ALTHOUGH THE TIME IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE WEDDING IS CONSIDERED THE “HONEYMOON” PERIOD, LEARNING TO DEAL WITH CONFLICT AND ADJUSTMENT EARLY CAN LEAD TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. STUDIES HAVE SHOWN THAT THE PATTERNS SET IN THE FIRST YEAR DICTATE THE COURSE OF THE YEARS TO COME. By Amruta Gadgil

Merging Families and Expectations One of the first things that changes after the wedding is the size of your family. Hollywood hasn’t always depicted in-laws in the best of light – think Jane Fonda in Monster-In-Law – but in reality, in-laws and extended family can be a boon.

When Rekha and Neil were engaged, it was clear she would be moving to his hometown. He is a doctor with an established profession and it was easier for her to relocate her job as assistant high school principal.

However, in a new town with few friends, the young wife found herself stressed out, clouding over the excitement of their new marriage. She struggled with finding a job and building a new life.

Moving within three miles of her in-laws made her transition easier and she was grateful for their support. “They knew the transition was difficult and were patient as I settled in. This Rekha and Neil was huge as they let our relationship grow naturally. As a result, we have a close relationship [with each other],” she says.

“Expectations can play a big part in changes after marriage, and if not discussed, these thoughts and feelings will fester and come out in some way, typically negatively,” says Tanvi Patel, a Texas-based Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in working with couples and family therapy.

Rekha was fortunate that her in-laws were supportive, but this may not be the case in every marriage. Add in extended family and the potential challenges grow.

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In every family, there are defined roles and ways of doing things, so finding where you fit in and how to manage expectations is key.

A common issue among South Asian couples stems from “a difference in roles from one spouse’s family of origin to the family they married into. For example, if one spouse is accustomed to speaking up for themselves, a couple may encounter discord if that spouse is not given [this] opportunity after marriage. Being able to calmly share your point of view without placing blame, how being excluded makes you feel and solutions that keep your partner’s point of view in mind, is an effective way to resolve the conflict,” explains Patel.

South Asian couples have the added responsibility of trying to balance the role of being ‘Indian’ and also ‘American,’ which can be draining. “It’s almost like ‘I am this person at home and I am this person at work,’” she says.

“Expectations can increase dramatically from immediate to extended family. This sometimes unforeseen factor can add stress on a new couple still barely adjusting to each other. Discussing how to manage each family’s expectations and working together as a team can vastly change the outcome of this discussion,” says Patel. Finding a solution that satisfies both individuals is essential.

Sharing Spaces and Finances When Anita, a writer and actress in Chicago, and Neil, an Air Force Officer in North Carolina, were introduced at a wedding, his cousin was sure they would make a great couple. Soon after the event, the two began emailing and after their first phone call, lasting over six hours, Neil knew Anita was the one. They dated for four years, shuttling between the two cities, and then between New York City and Washington, DC respectively, after they moved.

After the wedding, Neil relocated to Manhattan,

listen to each other and value each other’s opinions and that’s how we make it work,” adds Anita.

Communicating through Distances

Anita and Neil and after an entire relationship spent in different cities, the couple faced the challenge of sharing a space for the first time. Anita and Neil also didn’t realize how hard it would be to find a home together that would fit the ideals of both, and then create a space in which both of their likes and dislikes were taken into consideration.

“It was certainly a challenge to find the perfect home for both of us in Manhattan,” says Anita. “Once we overcame that challenge came things like the décor [and] furniture. This took a lot of collaboration as we wanted to ensure that it reflected both of us.”

Patel suggests dealing with moving in by “giving yourselves time to adjust to each other. Take time to effectively live in a shared space, to make mistakes and to learn to work past those mistakes. It’s helpful to review what you’ve gotten used to while living away from your spouse and how you will readjust when you reunite.”

And after the challenge of moving in, Anita and Neil also had to learn to make financial decisions together. “Now that we are a couple, we obviously share the same investments, and we make financial decisions together. That was the change. We were both financially stable going into the marriage and we truly believe that’s important for every couple.”

And this is a major truth after marriage: Couples must learn to manage their assets together. Whether it’s joint accounts or separate investments, both spouses need to feel comfortable. “We make sure to

As a newlywed, the natural inclination is to spend as much time with each other as possible. But for some couples, living apart, even just temporarily, is sometimes the hand they are dealt.

After a rough start for Kevin Rego, a Television Sales and Marketing Executive at B4U in London, in which his friend’s sister, unaware of a matchmaking attempt by her brother, shot Kevin down when he called her for her friend’s number.

Kevin wanted nothing to do with the girl, but on his friend’s insistence, Kevin tried calling once more, months later, and was introduced to Sonali Vaidya, an IT professional in New York City. As soon as they met, they knew immediately they were going to marry.

Kevin returned to London but couldn’t be away from Sonali, so he moved to New York for a few months, until they tied the knot in August, 2012. On a temporary visa to the US, however, Kevin had to return to London after the wedding, and the two have since spent their married life living on two different continents, with plans for him to move to New York City as soon as possible. They have made a strong effort to communicate as much as possible, but it’s been challenging to not be together during this phase of their life.

Patel acknowledges the challenge in long distance marriages, “Being far apart can leave a lot to the imagination and the relationship vulnerable.

Not only is it easier to fill in the blanks incorrectly, but it can create emotional distance as well.” She suggests bridging these distances and focusing on healthy and regular communication.

However difficult the temporary separation, Kevin, ironically, feels their relationship has grown due to their commitment to regular communication.

“The long gaps were terrible, but the distance has helped in an odd way. In the eight months we’ve been together, the spark is very much alive. We grab every minute of our time together.”

Patel suggests that in situations in which spouses cannot be together, they make a point to have their feelings heard in an open environment. “If one spouse is feeling lonely, talk about what can help ahead of time, so the other spouse has options ready to use to reconnect. The best way to maintain and strengthen your relationship is to continue to have genuine discussions about how you feel, what isn’t working and what you need.”

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financial, work, childrelated or family-related responsibilities, with little or no coping skills for these stressors can exacerbate the couple’s relationship,” says Patel.

Each relationship is unique, but there are guidelines she believes all couples should follow.

• Avoid misunderstandings by clarifying expectations, not only in everyday issues like housework, but also in finances, marital roles and childcare.

• Share life goals honestly, especially in the early days. “Many of these conversations, left unspoken, can cause heated debates. If you have a difference of opinion, take a balanced approach to dealing with conflict. Try to avoid blaming statements like, ‘You always do this.’ Instead say, ‘I feel’ or ‘I think’.”

• Open up to your spouse’s perspective and take even a small portion of responsibility for the issue you are accountable for.

• If things get too heated, take a 20-minute break by doing an unrelated activity like watching television. But, “be sure to revisit the conflict and continue the discussion,” advises Patel.

“What can help are open discussions, maintaining trust and commitment, nurturing a positive view of your spouse, accepting their interactions and the ability to repair conflicts.”

The first year of marriage for Anita and Neil flew by so quickly that the couple wishes they had documented all the special times in a diary. Their advice for married couples is to realize that “you are each other’s biggest support and your companion will be the only one by your side till the end.”

Asked if she would do anything differently, Rekha only wishes she had spent less time worrying about her move to a new city, “I was so stressed about [finding a job and settling in], our first months were clouded by it.”

Kevin also feels he wouldn’t do anything differently. His only advice is that if you meet someone that doesn’t fit your relationship criteria, but you feel they’re the right person, go with your gut. Despite the challenges in their situation, Kevin feels he and Sonali continue to find so many things in common as they build their life together.

In tough times, these common grounds are the threads that unite and keep the relationship strong.

Taking the time to nurture the first year of your marriage can lead to a lifetime of success. ø

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A Photo Finish THE WEDDING MAY LAST ONLY A FEW DAYS, BUT WITH THE RIGHT PHOTOGRAPHER AND VIDEOGRAPHER, THE MEMORIES WILL LAST FOREVER. WHEN CHOOSING THE TEAM TO DOCUMENT YOUR WEDDING, IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT, WHAT YOU’RE BEING OFFERED AND WHAT YOU SHOULD BE GETTING. There’s nothing better than meeting your photographer in person. If that’s not possible, a conference or video call is the best way to do this. Couples should consider it as a consultation and friendly chat with their potential wedding experts. As you talk to the photographer, you will likely pick up new ideas and go over the things that may or may not work on your wedding day. This is also a good time to discuss the photography style you are looking for. The photojournalistic approach is trending these days, along with more fashion-themed, editorial portrait photo shoots. Photojournalistic photography is a more candid style of shooting where photographers and videographers are able to capture candid moments instead of interfering and drawing attention toward themselves during events. For editorial portrait sessions, it’s a good idea to have a planned photo shoot either before or after the wedding so you can take your time to capture your shots.

What to Expect All weddings are unique, and South Asian weddings often vary in the number of events, days and hours needed to be captured, so it’s important to find a photographer who can customize their packages. You should visit the photographer and go over your day in detail with them. If, for some reason, this is not possible, you should send them as much information as possible so they are aware of the schedule and flow of your events. Also, consider sending headshots of your closest friends and family so the photo/video team will be able to spot them right away at the festivities.

Before you book a photographer, it is important to ask which individual will be there on the wedding day. Some companies will have sample books to show you their capabilities, but it’s important to know the talents of the person who will actually be covering your event. This is why you may want to insist on meeting with the photographer and seeing samples of their work before signing them for your wedding. Once you decide on a photographer, make sure the contract states his or her name clearly on it. And make sure that the individuals you choose carry back-up equipment, including cameras, batteries and extra memory cards.

It is highly recommended to have two photographers and two videographers. An additional photographer and videographer offer not only another perspective, but more comprehensive coverage.

This gives you more options when it comes to selecting images for your wedding album. The same goes for the videographer, as the editor will have more options to play with while putting everything together. And be sure to find out who will be the main photographer, so you know who should be at the forefront at all events.

Proposed Timeline Pre-wedding or engagement shoots can help a couple through the photography process prior to their wedding. This helps you understand and create a rapport with your photographer and makes it easier for you to have your pictures taken on the wedding day. You can use these pre-wedding photos on your wedding or social networking sites, print

All images by House of Talent

SUDEEP KANWAL AND SUMDARASH KANWAL STARTED IN THE WEDDING INDUSTRY IN 2003. SUDEEP HAS A MASTERS IN FILM PRODUCTION AND SUMDARASH TOOK SEVERAL ADVANCED PHOTOGRAPHY COURSES, INCLUDING PORTRAIT PHOTOGRAPHY, FROM THE SCHOOL OF VISUAL ARTS IN NEW YORK. AFTER GAINING MUCH EXPERIENCE AS FREELANCERS, THEY STARTED HOUSE OF TALENT STUDIO IN 2006, A COMPLETE PHOTO AND VIDEO STUDIO OFFERING EVERYTHING FROM SHOOTING THE EVENT TO PRODUCING THE FINAL ALBUMS AND BLU-RAY DISCS. ALTHOUGH THEY SPECIALIZE IN SOUTH ASIAN AND DESTINATION WEDDINGS, THEY ARE ALSO KNOWN FOR THEIR AWARD-WINNING SHORT FILMS, FASHION PHOTOGRAPHY AND MUSIC VIDEOS. MOST OF THEIR STAFF HAS A FILM BACKGROUND, AND THIS DUO ARE MEMBERS OF THE PPA (PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHERS OF AMERICA) AND THE WPPI (WEDDING & PORTRAIT PHOTOGRAPHERS INTERNATIONAL). HOUSE OF TALENT HAS OFFICES IN BOTH NEW YORK AND NEW JERSEY.

them for display at the wedding and use them to create personalized products such as a guest book.

On the day of the wedding, almost all couples have their photographer present while they are getting ready, generally when the bride’s hair and makeup are almost done. Most couples don’t have an issue seeing each other before the wedding, so the portrait session may be the next thing on the list.

This would be followed by a few journalistic and portrait-style shots with the bridal party. The planned photo shoot can end with pictures with the immediate family. The next thing is usually the baraat. From this point onwards, until a second portrait shoot that covers the couple and their immediate family in their reception outfits, everything is captured in the moment, unless the couple wants some posed photos with extended family after the ceremony. After the reception shoot, candid coverage is generally done for the rest of the night. At any point, the bride and groom should be able to request pictures with their friends, colleagues or extended family.

the type of image, various kinds of enhancements are made to the selected pictures. We also do custom-designed storybook albums (made in the US) and our staff works closely with brides to ensure their vision is integrated in the design of the album.

Finally and most importantly, when choosing a photography and videography team, you should always feel comfortable with the individuals you will be dealing with and the package you are getting. You should feel enough at ease to express what you are looking for and any concerns, and you should always speak up if you feel something is not right. After all, there are no retakes when it comes to weddings, and you should rest easy in knowing that the team you have chosen respects you, knows your style and has your best interest in mind. ø

Retouching and Albums Since a printed image always looks better than something on a computer screen, brides should make sure they are getting at least one album in their package, as these books get expensive to add à la carte. Most photographers push for quantity and promise thousands of digital images, but very few talk about the quality of the photos that go into the album. In a few years, when you want to revisit your day, you will do this by looking at your wedding album instead of browsing through thousands of images on a computer.

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Resources: Electric Karma International; Photos by Kumari Photography; Décor One; Prime DJs; Makeup by Kristen Sustaita; Hairstylists: Janette and Eduardo Diaz; The Heartbeats Band; Cynthia’s Cakes; Pyrotechnico; Valencia Event Center; Sai Ram Indian Cuisine; Narin’s Bombay Brasserie; Prashe.

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Ravi, a tank commander for the US Army, and Meeta, a global management consultant for a Houston-based company, met through Ravi’s parents – who happened to know Meeta’s aunt and uncle. At their initial meeting, organized by the families, Meeta had said “no” to the arrangement, but with enough advocacy from friends and family, she began to change her mind.

After Ravi returned from his thirteen-month stint in Afghanistan, he got down on one knee in front of everyone to ask for Meeta’s hand in marriage. She was overwhelmed with joy and surprise, so much so that Ravi had to ask her twice, because she was crying so much. The proposal came as an absolute shock to Meeta, who didn’t think Ravi would propose so quickly, but nonetheless, her answer was certainly yes!

The couple had envisioned a destination wedding, however with Meeta being the first grandchild on her father’s side to get married, the wedding had to take place in her hometown of McAllen, Texas. The couple had no specific theme in mind, however both desired simplicity and elegance for their wedding festivities. Also, due to their busy work schedules, the couple was unable to travel abroad for their wedding necessities, so they opted for everything to be as local as possible.

Their three-day wedding celebration started off with a Pithi and Mehndi (on the same night), from Meeta’s side of the family. The next day, a Sathak and welcome dinner, held at Valencia Event Center in McAllen hosted a Mediterranean theme brimming with colorful lanterns and sofas. The welcome dinner was such a significant event for Ravi and Meeta, as it was one of the few moments they had to mingle informally with one another. During the welcome dinner, crisp and refreshing beverages, ranging from coconuts (with straws in them) and sugar-cane juice, were served to guests. The Heartbeats, a Houston-based band, regaled guests

by playing all the latest hits, and some oldies for the music-loving Meeta.

The wedding festivities closed with a simple and elegant ceremony and reception, which was just what the couple had dreamed of. As a personal touch, Ravi had pre-recorded his vows to Meeta, which were played during the entrance of Meeta’s brothers and bridesmaids. Meeta’s pre-recorded vows to Ravi played as she walked into the mandap, wearing a custom-designed outfit by Dallas-based designer Prashe.

Meeta had mentioned she wanted sparklers at the wedding and her brother went one better with full fireworks at the reception following the ceremony. As the couple walked onto their outdoor platform, music reverberated and fireworks burst in the air.

“It was the most amazing thing Ravi and I experienced,” says Meeta. Afterward, everyone went inside to a pre-planned program, delineated by the couple, followed by dancing.

“Ravi and I were so happy that all of our friends and family were there to celebrate our special day with us,” says Meeta. Ravi looked debonair in a Hugo Boss suit for the reception – a change from his customary army attire. Meeta made sure to pay homage to his service in the US army with a cake topper that was personalized with Ravi’s military outfit including his exact rank with all his medals and cords,” as well as a replica of Meeta’s reception outfit (MilitaryCakeToppers.com).

Their wedding guestbook was engaging, to say the least—as guests were prompted to write endearing messages on Jenga blocks. Additionally, Meeta’s dad took many of their engagement photos and added an amazing, personal touch by creating diminutive posters that were pasted onto light poles and elevators at each hotel in which wedding guests were staying.

Due to their careers, Ravi and Meeta have yet to go on their honeymoon, but they intend to go to Thailand together in December 2013. – Elvia Francis

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Asha Dhuka and Faisal Momin Houston, April 6, 2012 Phil Collins once sang, “You Can’t Hurry Love,” and that’s exactly what Asha Dhuka and Faisal Momin believed when they met while working together on a service project in Houston. Soon after, a romance blossomed and they started exclusively dating one another. After about six years, however, they finally took the leap forward into matrimony.

The couple initially debated between a small, intimate wedding and a larger-than-life, exorbitant one… eventually deciding on a large wedding with an Arabian theme, but with an intimate ambiance.

Their three-day celebration took place with a Mehndi the first night, Sangeet the second and concluded with a reception. The Mehndi and Sangeet were celebrated with close friends and family and included dance performances from family members. On a side note, their respective families began rehearsing the performances several weeks prior to the wedding festivities, with family members traveling to Houston to celebrate with the couple. The colorful festivities included multicolored draping and coordinated costumes. Asha wore an elaborately designed ensemble that was handmade in Pakistan. She worked closely with the designer on the intricate patterns and woven work.

Her jewelry consisted of a jhumar, teeka, jhumka hoop earrings and bangles.

For the wedding both Asha and Faisal chose to dress in more subdued and elegant outfits. He wore a dark suit while she complimented him in an all

white crochet sari worn with a three-strand pearl set.

Similarly, their wedding décor included deep colors from dark blues to purples, accented by pink and orange, synonymous with the Arabian theme while billowing white drapings converted the grand space into the intimacy of a circular, tent-like enclosure.

Large centerpieces of Moroccan lanterns and palm trees where accented with larger palm trees stationed throughout the venue hall. The stage was filled with Moroccan artifacts and drapings.

The couple’s grand reception, which was held inside Bayou City Event Center’s Lakeview Room boasted a traditional South Asian menu served buffet style with separate food stations interspersed in between. During the cocktail hour, guests enjoyed finger foods and fresh juice, and the astounding dessert bar at the end of the meal featured over 50 desserts, ranging from milk and cookie shooters, to fondue, to fresh fruit sculptures, to gulab jamun pops.

The wedding reception was very intimate, especially the cake-cutting ceremony, which consisted of only close family and friends. The couple spent the evening mingling with guests and enjoying their special day.

Asha and Faisal live in Jersey City, NJ, where Asha works as a doctor, and Faisal as a health administrator in New York City. Their careers took them up north shortly after their wedding, though they intend to return to Houston in the near future, where both their families remain. – Elvia Francis

Resources: CloudNine Event Planning and Services; Photos by SB Image Studios; Aventography; Rustika Café & Bakery; Kings Chicken Restaurant and FullService Catering; DJ Scoop; Bayou City Event Center; Décor One

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THAT MATCHES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN AND WOMEN INSPIRE THEIR MEN ARE THE CORNERSTONES OF SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGES. MEET THREE ARTISTS – EACH WELL-KNOWN IN HER OWN RIGHT – WHO ARE ALSO REAL-LIFE BRIDES: ACTRESS AND MODEL AMI SHETH AND HER FIANCE MIRAJ PATEL; ACTRESS AND TV HOST SHETAL SHAH AND HER PARTNER, INTERNATIONAL FINE ARTIST VITTORIO OTTAVIANI; AND PUNJABI POP SINGER BIBA SINGH AND HER BETROTHED HARBIR SINGH. THESE WOMEN KNOW HOW TO INSPIRE THEIR MEN AND ARE REWARDED IN RETURN WITH THE LOVE OF A PERFECT MATCH.

Produced by Ayesha Hakki Photography by Amish Thakkar for Fine Art Productions Lehngas and sherwanis by Lashkara Couture LashkaraCouture.com Saris by Mitan Ghosh Facebook: Mitan.Ghoshrc Hair and makeup by Kanwal Batool Location: Hotel BPM, Brooklyn HotelBPM.com

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Pink Ladies: Ami wears a Mitan Ghosh digital gold print georgette sari with fine hand-embroidery with pearl, stones and sequins. Biba is in an Anarkali multi-layer net and brocade lehnga with jacket by Lashkara Couture. Shetal also wears a Lashkara Couture net lehnga with shimmer lining and accented with crystals, pearls and resham with silver zari.

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ADAM and EVE: (Opposite page) Ami gets lost in reverie in a blended Mitan Ghosh two-tone silk net sari with a red Maheshwari silk anchal with large leaf motifs. The blouse is silk velvet accented with golden appliquĂŠ. (This page) Ami tempts Miraj in a Swiss net flair lehnga with a lace corset accented with crystal and pearl embroidery

by Lashkara Couture. Miraj is enchanted in a modern gray brocade sherwani with paisleys and black velvet cutwork worn with black silk pants, also by Lashkara Couture.

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The ARTIST and his MUSE: Shetal inspires in a velvet lehnga embellished with antique gold zardosi work with crystal stones. Vittorio captures her spirit in a royal cream brocade sherwani with zari and crystal stone work worn with silk pants, all by Lashkara Couture.

The Artist and the Muse

Shetal and Vittorio BW images: Gianna Leo Falcon; Ami and Miraj BW images: Ben Shaul

SHETAL AND VITTORIO Shetal Shah is an actress and a TV host who has been seen on stage, in movies like Loins of Punjab Presents and Arya and has hosted shows for ARY and AVS. Vittorio Ottaviani is an internationally renowned fine-arts painter with a focus on socio-realistic themes like racism, corporate greed and homelessness. In fact, one of his paintings was chosen to represent the Occupy Wall St. movement in NYC. Of course, when two artists meet, the result is a mélange of unconventional happenings, so when Vittorio asked Shetal if she wanted to take a trip from the dinosaurs to the moon for their first date, she had no choice but to find out what he had in store. The two spent a starry-eyed day at the Museum of Natural History and walked about the city, but when they discovered they shared a love for the food at Café Mogador, they knew it was meant to be. That day, after Vittorio dropped Shetal to her theatre rehearsal, she watched him walk away and knew she couldn’t wait for him to return.

The two artists felt they complemented each other in all the right ways and continued to go for long walks and share their love for the arts together. After a Russell Peters show at the Barclays Center in Brooklyn, Vittorio surprised Shetal with a ring and a question.

They decided on a small, quiet civil ceremony on 12/12/12, but as luck would have it, they said their “I dos” at exactly 12:12pm, which landed them in the NY Post and The Daily News! In the summer of 2013, they plan to celebrate with their family and friends with a traditional Indian wedding ceremony and lavish reception where the two hope to have a few tiger cubs running free around the venue.

Each of them comes from a distinct culture—he is Italian, she is Indian—where food is a big deal. As a result, the two share a passion for cooking and they spend hours trying to discover the perfect masala ravioli or linguini kadhi together. Aside from their love for food and cooking, the artists inspire each other with their talks of social issues, politics and the art world. She serves as his muse while he provides her with a very New York-defined, artistic lifestyle.

Adam and Eve

AMI AND MIRAJ Model and actress Ami Sheth has played many roles in her career, including being seen in TV shows like Blue Bloods and One Life to Live and in commercials for wellknown brands such as Ethan Allen and Subway.

But her biggest role is yet to come as wife to Hedge Fund Analyst Miraj Patel. When the two met at a wedding held in New Jersey on opposite sides of the wedding party, they could never fathom that their mothers had grown up together in Anand, Gujarat, and had not seen each other since high school. This chance meeting of their mothers after so many years, and the closeness of their two families across many generations in Gujarat, could not help but create an immediate bond between the two, and a short time later, they began dating.

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The Siren and the Sailor

BIBA AND HARBIR Punjabi pop singer Biba Singh has been performing since she was a child. When she grew up, Daler Mehndi, a family friend, suggested to her parents that it was time for the young singer to record her first pop album. So, in 2009, with the help of Mika Singh, Biba released “Biba” and two short years later, Bappi Lahiri launched her second album, “Biba for You.” Her music career has had her traveling regularly between India and New York and it was on one of these trans-Atlantic flights that Biba would come face-to-face with her destiny.

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by one day. Not pleased with his seat near the cockpit, Harbir asked to be moved to a seat further back. As fate and an overbooked flight would have it, Biba ended up being upgraded to First Class and was assigned the seat next to Harbir. When the two began talking, they learned they were both Punjabi Sikhs from New York, and were surprised they had never met before. A 15-hour conversation passed like the blink of an eye, and when the plane landed in Mumbai, they exchanged contact information and went their separate ways. But this connection was different, and neither of them could forget the ease with which they had spent such a long flight together. For two months, though the two sent only sparse emails and neither thought anything would happen between them, they simply could not forget each other. Biba told her friends about this beautiful chance meeting, and when Harbir told his mom he thought he was in love, she told him to go back to New York and get the girl of his dreams. So he did.

And thus began a beautiful courtship.

One New Year’s Eve 2012, Biba’s family was hosting their annual “Singh Family Home New Year’s Bash.” The sly Harbir had already asked Biba’s parents for permission to ask for her hand, and at the stroke of midnight, while everyone was welcoming the new year, Biba noticed a circle being formed around her and Harbir. Sure enough, he proposed with the most heartfelt words and beautiful diamond ring, and the normally gregarious singer could only reply with one word… yes!

Today, the couple enjoys traveling, an interest in international cuisine and of course, a love of music.

They are planning an intimate June 2013 wedding ceremony on solid ground to continue what began serendipitously in midair. ø

Biba and Harbir BW images: Rameet Singh

on a July evening, she accepted the contract. Ami arrived to a stylist and photographer, who dressed and prepped her for the photo session. But 30 minutes into the shoot, music began blaring from the sound system and Miraj appeared on deck, on one knee. Ami says, “After my initial shocked reaction of: ‘What are you doing here, I am working!’, it hit me – something, THE something is happening!” The whole thing had been part of Miraj’s elaborate plan!

After docking on dry land, a car awaited to whisk them to a private five-course dinner and wine pairing for two in a wine cellar filled with hundreds of roses. But the surprises were not over – Miraj sent Ami home to pack because they were leaving the next day on a four-day trip to Costa Rica!

The couple’s destination wedding is slated for Memorial Day 2013 in the Mayan Riviera, Mexico, with a second reception to be held in New Jersey, where Ami’s family lives.

Ami and Miraj share a love of travel, theatre and spending time with friends and family. They recently moved to an apartment together in Manhattan’s Soho and are busy planning the wedding and furnishing their new home. They are excited to carry on in New York the relationship their families have shared for generations in Gujarat.

The SIREN and the SAILOR: Biba seduces in an amrapali-style net stitched sari with a lime green and gold thread brocade lining. The blouse is velvet with gold and crystal beading. Harbir scouts in a silk brocade kurta with an embellished raised collar, all by Lashkara Couture.

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WOMAN of LOVE: Shetal rouses in a white and red blended Mitan Ghosh sari made of pure georgette and lace. The sari has three borders: white and gold Benarsi brocade, red georgette with floral zari work and silver zari lace at the edge.

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Produced by Ayesha Hakki; Photography by Aaron Pachesa Couture by Jorge Vega Umana, JorgeVegaUmana.com Jewelry by Jyoti Kapoor, JyotiKapoor.com Makeup by Lilly Rivera for BridalGal Hair by Petra Muriel for BridalGal Makeup/hair and styling for male model Rishi Agnani, Tracey Grantham’ Dworkis for BridalGal Location: Devi Restaurant, Manhattan DeviNYC.com

Being Neelu IGNORING HER CHILDHOOD DESIRE, ACTRESS NEELU SODHI FOUND HERSELF WORKING IN FINANCE FOR MANY YEARS, BUT THE ACTING BUG KEPT BECKONING HER TO ITS DREAM WORLD. SOON, THE ASPIRING THESPIAN ENROLLED IN CLASSES AT THE LEE STRASBERG THEATRE AND FILM INSTITUTE, THE NEW YORK FILM ACADEMY AND THE PRESTIGIOUS WYNN HANDMAN STUDIO. AND IT WAS A GOOD THING SHE DID, BECAUSE A SHORT TIME LATER, SHE WAS CAST ALONGSIDE SRIDEVI IN THE SURPRISE HIT, ENGLISH VINGLISH. SINCE THEN, THERE HAS BEEN NO LOOKING BACK. NEELU HAS BEEN FEATURED IN PRINT ADS AND COMMERCIALS FOR BRANDS SUCH AS L’OREAL, LANCÔME, BLOOMBERG, AMAZON KINDLE, GE, BUDWEISER, AT&T AND FOOTLOCKER, TO NAME A FEW. WE CAUGHT UP WITH NEELU AT DEVI IN NEW YORK CITY ON HER HEADY RIDE TO FAME. When did you decide to be an actor? It’s something I’ve always wanted to do. My diaries as a child and essays I wrote for school projects all reveal how I wanted to be an actress when I grew up! I didn’t decide to be one till much later in life though. I find the art of acting truly fascinating and admire people who have achieved success in such a difficult field.

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I wouldn’t say I have one particular style, but I do relate to Glam the most.

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know what clothes fit your body type the best and flatter you the most. And the most important thing to remember is to accessorize! Wear your clothes with confidence and don’t let the clothes wear you!

Who is your style icon? I can’t say I have one particular style icon. There are so many people who have outstanding fashion sense! The first name that pops up is of course Coco Chanel, who clearly paved the way for fashion. Lately, I just love Rihanna’s style. It’s funky, edgy, sexy and most importantly, it’s her own.

I like Kate Moss’ style, as well.

Who would be your ideal man? My ideal man would be someone who is family-oriented, wellread, well-traveled and knows how to keep things light and positive!

Where would your ideal wedding be held? Barcelona!

I recently hosted for a wedding show out there and I had the opportunity to visit many different venues and absolutely fell in love with that city! The restaurants are amazing, I love the beaches and the nightlife, music and culture – not to mention the people are so friendly. It’s really the perfect mix for a wedding destination! ø

Boho Style: Neelu is enchanting in this Jorge Vega Umana black lace column dress with ruffled collar and cuffs lined in nude silk charmeuse.

The look is complete with Jyoti Kapoor’s ‘Night Out’ polka studs.

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Classic Touch: Reinterpret the traditional in this Jorge Vega Umana crimson, four-ply silk bodice cocktail dress with sari-inspired beading and a knee-length, gathered, two-layer, silk chiffon circle skirt. Her maang teeka is ruby and diamond, the necklace is a polki, ruby and pearl ‘Malika’ necklace and the ‘Geometric’ rings are of diamond and gold, all by Jyoti Kapoor.

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Hipster Hangout: Neelu moves in a Jorge Vega Umana strapless cocktail dress of wheat lace over black silk satin with a hand-pleated silk satin flounce. Her Jyoti Kapoor jewelry is an emerald, diamond and pearl ‘Downtown’ necklace, bracelet and earrings set highlighted with a diamond ‘Wave’ bangle. Rishi is in a Vera Wang Black Tuxedo.

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Going Glam: Neelu’s Jorge Vega Umana high/low gown is of white beaded Chantilly lace with a triple layered silk gazar skirt edged in beaded lace. Her Jyoti Kapoor jewelry is a pearl and diamond ‘Abstract’ maang teeka with matching pearl and diamond ‘Chandelier’ earrings and a pearl and diamond ‘Downtown’ ring.

Rishi wears a Saran Kohli for Shehnaai Couture sherwani.

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Urban Edge: Bring out your city vibe with this Jorge Vega Umana grape silk crepe gown with an asymmetrical bodice and double layer, silk chiffon flyaway skirt. Accessorize with a long and bold Jyoti Kapoor ‘City’ South Sea pearl necklace balanced with a polki and emerald cabochon drop. Her ‘Malika’ bracelet is polki, diamond and gold and her ‘Cocktail’ ring is gold with meenakari. Neelu is holding a vintage Whiting & Davis clutch.

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YOU’RE ENGAGED! AFTER SETTING THE DATE, YOUR NEXT QUEST IS TO FIND THE PERFECT VENUE. BEFORE YOU START THE SEARCH, IT IS IMPORTANT TO COMPOSE A GUEST LIST FOR EACH EVENT. THEN, REVIEW THE LIST AND DETERMINE THE ESTIMATED NUMBER OF GUESTS THAT WILL ATTEND. THIS IS THE NUMBER YOU WILL BE WORKING WITH THROUGHOUT THE PLANNING PROCESS. OTHER THINGS TO DISCUSS ARE ELEMENTS THAT WILL IMPACT YOUR SPACE REQUIREMENTS, SUCH AS BUFFETS, FOOD STATIONS, TABLE SIZES, BAR SERVICE, DESSERT AREAS AND DANCE FLOOR. Will the event be casual or formal; will you need seating for all guests and a separate cocktail hour space? Being an educated consumer can save you a lot of work and money. Understanding the proper size of space for your events is next. Knowing how many square feet your events require will help narrow your search. You will make a lot of wasted trips to venues if you are only looking at websites that state the number of guests they can accommodate. These numbers don’t account for dance floor size, stages, aisles or other elements. Often, clients say, “They told me it could hold 500 guests,” as we see guests squeezing between tables with plates of food. Asking the square footage of the room will provide a guideline of the workable space.

How Will Thy Dine?

Knowing the size of the dining tables is important.

To ensure comfort, test out the seating. Are you comfortable? A general rule: measure the table and add four feet to account for the movement of chairs.

Getting creative with table arrangements is a money-saving way to add visual interest to a venue.

Depending on the style of chairs, a 72”-round table will seat 10 guests, with a maximum of 12.

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per table. If using a plate charger and full place setting, a table will only accommodate 10 places.

Sixty-inch round dining tables seat 8 guests comfortably, with a maximum of 10. Square footage required is 9’x9’ minimum space.

Long tables have become the new rage. Common banquet tables, either 6’- or 8’- long, are usually 30” wide, which is not wide enough for a standard place setting (minimum of 12-14 inches deep) to be placed across from each other and to still accommodate a centerpiece. The option is to make it double or 1.5 times wide with the use of a classroom table (usually 6’x18”). With these options, you can comfortably seat 3 guests per side on a 6-foot table and 4 guests per side on an 8-foot table, without chairs on the ends. When choosing these options, be sure the legs of the table will not hit your guests’ knees.

Dance Floor Dilemma Dance floor space is important. First, consider that a number of guests will leave after dinner and base the dance floor size on the number of remaining dancing guests. It is important to the success of your event to have the right size dance floor, which will be a big determinant in choosing the correct venue.

The rule of thumb is 3 sq.ft. of dance floor per guest.

Most dance floors are interlocking 3’ squares. So an 18’x18’ dance floor will be enough for 100 guests, and a 21’x21’, for 150-200. Be sure to observe the condition of the floor. What color is it; what material is it made of; is it clean, scratched, slippery and are the edges finished? You may need to add a budget item for a replacement dance floor.

A great way to use your dance floor as part of your design is by changing the color, adding vinyl embellishments, installing LEDs to light it up or even

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THERESE COLE-HUBBS OF HOUSTON’S ELECTRIC KARMA, A SPECIALIZED WEDDING DIVISION OF HER 25-YEAR-OLD EVENT FIRM, ASC EVENT SERVICES, IS A SEASONED COORDINATOR OF HIGH-END SOUTH ASIAN WEDDINGS. SHE HAS PRODUCED LITERALLY HUNDREDS OF THESE EVENTS ACROSS THE COUNTRY WITH HER CREATIVITY AND PASSION.

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changing the shape! The dance floor covers a lot of space in the room and can be a key design element.

The World is a Stage Whether it is for the mandap, the couple to sit on, a cake area or DJ, this space needs to be allotted when choosing the venue. If using the stage for your ceremony, take a measuring tape to your site visit to ensure the positioning of the stage allows for your dream entrance. Most mandaps require at least 12’x12’. Standard stage pieces are 4’x 6’ or 6’x 8’, so the stage will often be larger than the mandap, allowing extra walking room. Be sure to find out details about the stage: will you need carpet to cover it; will it have skirting and what colors are available; what heights are available (most common is 24” for a ceremony); do you need stairs and will the railings need to be covered; and if the stage will be used for performances, is the surface smooth?

Be sure to know the venue’s policies and share them with your wedding professionals. Usually, the policies will lay out rules, such as no stapling or adhering to surfaces, move-in and move-out times, permit requirements, limitations of preferred vendors, outside catering allowances, noise or décor restrictions – such as the use of candles, confetti or pyrotechnics, to name a few. Don’t assume! Ask questions and have it in writing. Once you sign a contract, you are bound by it. It is for your protection to have all the terms you agree to in writing.

Often, the personnel you have contracted with can change, rules are updated and prices can increase.

Finding the perfect venue is hard. Hiring a wedding coordinator to assist in this process will give you a wealth of insight. Be sure to review and negotiate the terms of the contract that are unique to your events. It is often a misconception that you need less décor if a venue is already pretty. You may still need a centerpiece and linens to bring the room to life and create your signature event. A good coordinator and décor designer can suggest options for overused venues. Rely on your professionals to tell you what works and doesn’t in a space. Be sure you understand your total budget before selecting a venue, as it will often be your single largest budget line item. A final word of advice: work with a plan, know your needs, stay with your budget and find your perfect venue! Ø

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YOU’VE PLANNED, YOU’VE PREPPED, YOU’VE PREPARED… NOW IT’S TIME TO PAR-TAY. SURE, YOUR WEDDING DAY IS THE BIGGEST DAY IN YOUR LIFE, BUT WHAT ABOUT YOUR GUESTS? FORGET THE SLIDESHOWS, THE FAMILY DANCES, THE TYPICAL BAND OR DJ—IT’S TIME TO SHAKE THINGS UP! HERE ARE SOME SURE-FIRE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR WEDDING DAY MEMORABLE AND KEEP YOUR GUESTS FULLY ENTERTAINED.

The Hipster Bride: Modern, Cutting-Edge Instead of paper menu cards, rent digital tablets at each table to place your dinner or drink orders! They are already so popular at most restaurants and can be altered to create a unique look and feel for each event. One tablet rental per table needs to be accounted for in your budget, but the wow factor is so worth it!

Are you a big texter? Have your guests text their well-wishes onto a large projector during the reception. I strongly encourage a “screening” process before the messages go “live” because open bar plus texting equals dangerous hilarity.

Big on social media? Set up a Twitter or Facebook account with your wedding name and have your guests send messages to it. Just imagine the hashtags! #fifthdrinkfail, #openbarrocks. You can go to your private page at any time, and copy and paste your favorite messages to your own guest book.

Entertain your guests with an interactive dance floor that lights up with the beat of the music.

Couple the effect with plasmas playing the latest videos so guests will know exactly how to do the Gangnam style!

The Boho Bride: Earthy, Chic, Whimsical For your wedding reception, consider having your guests plant seeds in a small pot, then write a note with permanent marker on a pre-cut plastic tag that can be inserted into the pot. You can plant the small pots in your backyard and surround the seedlings with the tags. Watching the tree or flower, fruit or herb grow throughout the years will remind you of that interactive love your guests shared with you on your big day.

Bring out your inner gypsy by having costumed fortune tellers or tarot card readers in the corners of the room giving your guests some entertainment, amusement or advice. You can even house them under colorful mini tents to add to the mystical appeal.

The Urban Bride: Edgy, Chic, Progressive Start your cocktail hour with a mix… a mixologist that is. Imagine a hot mixologist throwing bottles in the air. Have a few specialty drinks on the menu and watch him or her entertain the guests. Don’t forget the sparklers, dry ice and LED ice cubes!

Most tourists’ fondest memories of Times Square are visiting the caricaturist to see what funny image they will create. Better than a photobooth, caricatures are the ultimate keepsake to preserve the magic of your big day. Just make sure you have plenty of artists on hand for your guest count.

What do most people crave after leaving a party, or nightclub? FOOD! Keep your party going afterhours with city-style food trucks parked outside of your venue or authentic food carts stationed inside.

Chicken and rice platters, sliders, biryani carts, kati rolls or even pizza! For a “sweet dreams” send off, set up an ice cream truck or a DIY sundae bar.

The Classic Bride: Historic, Time-Honored Just because your wedding is traditional, you can still add a lot of unexpected pizzazz by changing up a few time-honored traditions. Instead of a band, hire a string quartet and slip them some Bollywood

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PREETI EXCLUSIVE CREATIONS IS A BOUTIQUE EVENT PLANNING, COORDINATION AND DESIGN COMPANY PLANNING EVENTS BOTH NATIONALLY AND INTERNATIONALLY. PREETI VASUDEVA, A DESIGN SPECIALIST AND CERTIFIED PROFESSIONAL WEDDING AND EVENT PLANNER FOUNDED THE COMPANY IN 2004. IN 2009, PREETI EXCLUSIVE CREATIONS WAS NOMINATED FOR TWO COVETED INTERNATIONAL SPECIAL EVENTS SOCIETY (ISES) BIG APPLE AWARDS AS WELL AS BEING RECOGNIZED BY WEDDINGCHANNEL.COM FOR PRODUCING AN EVENT THAT MADE THEIR “TOP 13 WEDDINGS OF THE YEAR.” PREETI HAS BEEN FEATURED IN MAGAZINES, TV SHOWS, RADIO INTERVIEWS, VENDOR BLOGS AND PODCASTS. SHE ALSO CONDUCTS REGULAR SEMINARS AND COURSES.

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sheet music. Imagine your guests’ delight when they hear songs like “Mehndi Laga ke Rakhna” or “Khajara Re” coming from cellos, harps and strolling violinists. Or how about having a dhol player, but add in a bongo player… a real drum-on-drum battle-off with Cuban and Indian flavor!

Nothing says old-world glamour more than a Cigar and Cordial bar surrounded by cushioned leather chairs. Serve aged brandy, a variety of ports and top-shelf scotch. For the ultimate full-service experience, have a professional cigar roller on site, not only to roll the cigars, but to have them cut and lit as well. Serve both fat, male-friendly cigars and more demure, flavored ones for the females. Keep small cellophane bags embellished with your monogram on hand for those who want a keepsake of your fabulous wedding to enjoy at home.

On the same theme, a hookah area complete with Moroccan-inspired décor lends a more “Haveli” feel to your traditional wedding. Imagine your guests partaking in tall, regal, glass hookahs in flavors like vanilla, watermelon and apple while being entertained by Umrao Jaan-style dancers.

Keep your guests rolling in laughter by hiring a comedian or comedy troupe. Whether they will be doing a stand-up routine or emceeing the evening, it will surely be a crowd-pleaser with appropriate content for the occasion.

The Glam Bride: Magical, Sparkly With the rise in gourmet cuisine as both entertainment and sustenance, pair each course of your meal with matched beers or wines. You can place printed menus with a description of the pairings on the table or hire a sommelier to teach your guests how to cleanse their palate between courses.

You don’t need to go to Vegas, bring Cirque de Soleil-style entertainment to your wedding! With contortionists, fire dancers, aerialists and much more, your guests will be captivated by the grace and costumes of these artists. Imagine how delighted your guests will be with a wedding, dinner and a show all at once.

Check with your venue on specifications and safety, and may I specify, employ professionals… not your friend’s cousin!

To really take guests on an interactive ride, rent blackjack, Texas hold ‘em and roulette casino tables. Give your guests “funny money” to gamble with throughout the night to win prizes in the end. Many places will rent you a gambling suite complete with uniformed dealers and servers.

Nothing keeps a party going stronger than a high-stakes game of roulette. ø

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KUNAL LAMBA COMES FROM A FAMILY WITH A LONG HISTORY IN FOOD AND BEVERAGE HOSPITALITY. AS THE SON OF A NEW DELHI RESTAURATEUR, KUNAL CAME TO NEW YORK FROM HIS HOMETOWN VIA A STINT IN LONDON. HE HAS A BACHELORS IN HOTEL MANAGEMENT AND HAS WORKED WITH ONE OF THE TOP HOTELS IN SOUTH ASIA, THE ITC MAURYA (THREE US PRESIDENTS HAVE STAYED THERE IN THE LAST 10 YEARS, INCLUDING OBAMA). SINCE THEN, HE HAS MANAGED THE GAYLORD IN LONDON, THE DOUBLETREE HOTEL IN NEW YORK AND TODAY, IS AT NEW YORK CITY’S DEVI RESTAURANT. KUNAL IS ALSO GUEST FACULTY FOR THE HOSPITALITY MANAGEMENT PROGRAM AT LA GUARDIA COMMUNITY COLLEGE.

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ASIDE FROM JOINING YOU IN CELEBRATING THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF YOUR LIFE, THE MAJORITY OF YOUR GUESTS ARE MOST EXCITED ABOUT THE FOOD. FOOD IS SOMETHING THAT IS NOT INCIDENTAL; IT IS SOMETHING YOUR BODY RESPONDS TO, AND THOSE PLEASURES (OR DISPLEASURES) ARE VERY PERSONAL TO YOUR GUESTS. In South Asian weddings worldwide, food has been an important element, but something that the parents usually took care of. Brides have often been too busy with outfits and décor details and grooms are happy to simply show up on the day. Over the past few years, however, food is playing an increasing role in our social life, our entertainment (how many food shows on TV can you count?) and our daily conversations. Food has become a form of art and weddings are a great platform to showcase a family’s or couple’s culture and creativity.

Been There, Done That!

Wedding food is predictable. We all love dal makhani, chicken tikka masala and samosas, and why not? These dishes are the foundation of our world-renowned cuisine, and delivering consistently good samosas is no joke. No one knows this better than me, as I run restaurants for a living! But why should we all be subjected to this repetitive charade of samosa-eating to the point where we don’t find these samosas interesting anymore?

There may be an unwritten rule that we serve South Asian fare at our weddings, however, this fare can be presented in a worldly way with brides

embracing the concept of fusion (without turning it into confusion). A lot of caterers are becoming aware of this and are starting to deliver our classics in new avatars. Sometimes, it’s merely the presentation that makes it different and sometimes, American, European or Asian elements are entwined with our good ol’ desi fare.

Choosing a Caterer Dividing assignments between different caterers according to their strengths makes a lot of sense. If you have three events, why should the same caterer do the food for all of them, unless economy of scale is your mantra. I suggest working with two different caterers, in some cases even for the same event!

One can be in charge of the appetizers, while the other handles the main course. And if you have a wedding planner or coordinator, leave it to them to handle the transition and logistics.

If your venue is a hotel, consider ordering some food items from there while interspersing those with an ethnic caterer to achieve a more out-of-the-box experience. Another option is to hire a caterer who is known for their creativity and can singlehandedly execute this fusion experience. Such caterers are

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Devi: Vegan Harvest stir fry

Chand Palace: Falafel bite

Devi: Coconut shrimp bruschetta

Devi: Ragda pattice chaat

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easier to find in large cities like New York and Chicago, and many of them are willing to travel, so don’t rule that option out by restricting yourself to local caterers.

The Cocktail Hour Begins Experienced caterers are not only knowledgeable about the latest trends in food menus, but are also seasoned in presentation creativity. For instance, the cocktail hour is a great window to showcase creativity with minimum risk. Food stations beyond chaat and kebabs are the way to go. For example, if you are doing chicken tikka, why not add a little guacamole, wrap it in a tortilla (or a mini phulka) and serve a chicken tikka taco? Or if you are doing a curried shrimp, take it out of the curry and place it on a small round toast and serve it as a shrimp bruschetta. If you are planning to serve chaat, serve individual portions in either bamboo boats or in molded form. Try a falafel bite, filled with tabouleh and hummus in a mini pita. The point is to present the traditional in an unexpected way.

Tulsi: Upma tower with crispy okra

Main Course: Buffet, Plated or Family-Style?

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This is the million-dollar question I am asked anytime I am in a catering meeting.

Buffets are good for very large crowds (over 400 guests), but plated food will give you the most opportunity to be creative. I see people doing plated food just for the sake of it, but if your caterer is simply going to dump curry over rice on a plate, you might as well do a buffet.

Plated meals should be photographable. The only ethnic presentation for Indian food is a thaali, but with all the bowls and special thaalis required, this is usually quickly ruled out. This is when couples should think of following American or European food presentation techniques to serve food in an artistic way. This involves having a balance of color, thinking about the size of food on the plate and adding height to give an aesthetically pleasing, three-dimensional look.

It’s always a great idea to limit plated food to a main protein with some sauce and garnish, with all other accompaniments served family-style in the center of the table. Even vegetarians can follow this rule in substituting the main protein with a main focal point such as banana dumplings laced in a spicy curry sauce. However, if you do insist on serving biryani, serve it as individual portions in a mound or pretty container. A great service team is obviously instrumental to delivering the correct meal to the correct guest in a timely fashion, so it is important to ensure the venue or caterer can handle

Tulsi: Individual dum biryani

Tulsi: Shrimp and crab pappadum

Chand Palace: Pashto kebab Tulsi: Banana dumplings this approach and has had experience doing it before. When choosing a caterer, ask for references, see where they have served in the past and most importantly, make sure you have at least one, if not two tastings of your items before your event.

And the Dessert?

Gone are the days when only very traditional gulab jamun and gajar ka halva would mark the culmination of a meal. A combination of South Asian mithai with western confections is the new way to go. For this, you would need to involve either your cake designer or another pastry caterer to do something like a South Asian version of a Venetian dessert table. Companies like Bittersweet NYC are serving up mini desserts with dishes like coconut lemongrass falooda and shrikhand so beautiful you won’t recognize it as yogurt. How do dal halwa truffles sound? Bittersweet NYC has a version.

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Sweet Silk: Date and pistachio truffle tree

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Chocal8kiss chocolate photos by Raj Balani

Bittersweet NYC: Dal halwa truffle with pistachios and Valrhona chocolate

The smaller the desserts, the better. The more creative... you get the idea. One innovator in this field is Sweet Silk who has taken traditional mithai and designed it to look like a petit four but with a fusion of ethnic and western flavors, like fig roasted cashew and vanilla chai spice. I have also come across some chocolate confectioners like Chocal8Kiss from New Jersey using Indian spices.

Cakes, of course, are the originator in wedding food presentation. Today, however, cakes are being viewed as art and the more creative the cake, the better. From cupcakes, to cake pops to a multitiered cake, you now have a choice in cake styles and you should take advantage of that.

Break out of your mindset and explore the vast options of fusion cuisine from your cocktail hour all the way through to your dessert table. Your food choices while help you create a truly memorable culinary experience for your guests, and one that they will remember long after the wedding is over. ø

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EXTEND YOUR PERSONAL STYLE TO YOUR CAKE BY DESIGNING A CONFECTION WITH ATTITUDE. MAKE SURE YOU WORK WITH A CAKE CHEF WHO HAS BOTH THE CREATIVITY AND THE SKILLS TO TURN YOUR IDEA INTO REALITY. SURBHI SAHNI OF BITTERSWEET, NYC HAS BEEN FEATURED IN OPRAH MAGAZINE, THE NEW YORK TIMES AND NEW YORK MAGAZINE, TO NAME A FEW. SONAM SONDHI, FORMER À LA CARTE PASTRY CHEF AT THE MANOR, NJ, AND TRAINED UNDER CHEF THADEOUS DUBOIS, PASTRY CHEF OF THE BORGATA, ATLANTIC CITY, ARE TWO SUCH CAKE CHEFS. NOT ONLY DO THEY EXCEL IN TASTE, THEIR ARTISTIC PRESENTATION HAS THEIR BRIDAL CLIENTS COMING BACK FOR THEIR FIRST ANNIVERSARY!

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Weddings of Nepal

Arranged marriages are common in Nepal, and often take place in the teens or early 20s.

Couples are matched according to caste, religion, lineage and compatibility. In Sherpa culture, marriages can be held between children, but celebrated years later.

If two families are interested, the prospective couple is asked to meet.

Once they agree to wed, their astrological birth charts are taken to the Seer, or priest, who selects auspicious dates.

Once the initial arrangements are made, the wedding begins with a gathering at the groom’s home, complete with food and drink.

They prepare to travel to the bride’s home in a Janti, or procession, with a traditional band made up of young men playing large drums. They are first led to a temple, where friends and family seek blessings.

With much fanfare, the band then leads the party to the bride’s home – the usual marriage venue – which is often heavily decorated with lights, flowers and colorful papers. Upon the procession’s arrival, a small group of people, called the Bhatkhaure, is sent forward with message of the Janti’s arrival to ensure preparations are up to expectations. They are mockingly treated badly, given tea laced with hot chillis and made to sit on pillows stuffed with thorns. Everyone has a good laugh

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and the Bhatkhaures see through the farce as the Janti arrives and is welcomed with garlands and gifts.

Depending on the religion, the groom is led to a mandap, where the bride joins him, or the couple is led to an area surrounded by a barrier of grass and sticks. The area is considered secure and no one is allowed to enter unless granted permission. Here, the couple will take an oath to be partners for life.

The first ceremony is the Swayamvar, where the bride “chooses” her husband by circling him three times while letting water drip from an omkhara vessel. The couple exchanges floral garlands and traditional grass garlands called dubo ko mala and at this time, rings may also be exchanged. A white khatta, or prayer scarf, may also be placed on their shoulders as the Seer continues the ceremony.

Perhaps the most sacred part of a Nepalese wedding is the Sindoor, in which a white sheet is stretched out with one end held at the bride’s forehead. The groom uses a red powder called sindoor, and spreads it from the beginning of the sheet into the part of her hair. This is done three times and confirms they are now officially married.

After the wedding, it is tradition for Nepalese brides to wear sindoor in their hair for the rest of their married life.

A Nepalese bride will dress in an ornate red sari on her wedding day, and will often have gold beads above her eyebrows and colorful, heavy jewelry and bangles. A large teeka, delicately crafted earrings and intricate henna on her arms and feet complete her look. A traditional groom will wear a Daura Suruwal, a long Nepalese tunic made of a fabric called dhaka. The suit comes with a matching hat and is worn with a belt into which some grooms tuck a Khukuri, or Nepalese knife. After the wedding rituals are preformed, the bride changes into a new sari given to her by her husband. She returns to sit next to the groom, and the celebration continues with the exchange of gifts and an elaborate feast.

Nepalese weddings are colourful occasions filled with the light of spirituality and the love of family, and are truly a sight to be seen. Ø

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NEPALESE WEDDINGS ARE KNOWN FOR THEIR ATTENTION TO COLOR, ELABORATE DECORATIONS AND ADHERENCE TO CUSTOM. THE WEDDING, USUALLY PLANNED YEARS AHEAD, IS A SPECTACULAR OCCASION AND ONE THAT IS HELD IN HIGH REGARD IN NEPALESE SOCIETY. OF COURSE, THE PARTICULAR RITUALS OF THE WEDDING DIFFER FROM RELIGION TO RELIGION, BUT HERE, WE TRY TO IMPART THE FEEL OF THESE COLORFUL OCCASIONS. By Mahiyn Qureshi

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TAMIL WEDDINGS ARE A CELEBRATION OF LOVE, SPIRITUALITY AND FAMILY. TRADITIONAL FAMILIES VALUE SIMPLICITY AND KEEP THEIR WEDDINGS MODEST. THOUGH THE CEREMONY MAY BE MINIMALISTIC, THE RITUALS LEADING UP TO IT ARE FULL OF GLITZ, MUSIC AND DANCING. LIKE MOST HINDU WEDDINGS, TAMIL CELEBRATIONS TYPICALLY LAST A FEW DAYS. FAMILIES RELY HEAVILY ON ASTROLOGY AND HOROSCOPES AND IF THE COUPLE IS FOUND ASTRONOMICALLY COMPATIBLE, A PRIEST WILL DECIDE AN AUSPICIOUS WEDDING DATE. By Mahiyn Qureshi The Panda Kaal Muhurtham is held a day before the wedding and is the first blessing sought to ensure the festivities run hassle-free. On that day, the families join together in front of a Hindu priest for the Vratham Tellichal to pray for blessings.

Following this is the Pallikai Tellichal, in which married women pour grains of rice into clay pots while singing traditional hymns. Once the grains sprout, they are poured into a body of water where fish devour them and the couple is blessed.

On the dawn of the wedding day, the couple takes a Mangala Snaanam, or holy bath, in which they apply oils and herbs to beautify themselves.

Traditionally, the bride wears a heavy Kanjeevaram sari with seven threads in each weave. The sari border usually has temple designs woven into the fabric, while the pallu displays scenes from Hindu mythology.

Figures of Hindu deities and birds, such as swans and peacocks, may also be seen in the weave.

Brides may change their sari up to five times during the wedding, and will be adorned in gold jewelry, such as anklets, toe rings and bangles. She will also pin white flowers to her hair to emphasize her beauty. A traditional groom dresses in a veshti or dhoti draped in the panchakacham (five folds) style.

He may also wear a Thalaip Pahai on his head and Kadukkan, single-stone earrings, in his ears.

Historically, grooms would be shirtless, but today, many choose to wear a tunic or western suit.

The wedding takes place under a mandap, where the groom is welcomed by his father-in-law, who washes his feet while his mother-in-law decorates his eyes with kohl. He is now considered to be an incarnation of a deity. The bride is brought to the mandap during the Kanyadaanam and will sit in her father’s lap with a coconut in her hand.

They hand the coconut to the groom as her mother pours water over it, which signifies handing over their daughter to her new family. The groom’s family then gives the bride a nine-yard sari to change into.

The wedding then continues with the most symbolic ritual in which the groom puts the mangalsutra, or marriage necklace, on his bride and wraps a sacred thread around her neck and ties three knots to signify the union of mind, body and spirit.

During the Saptapadi, the couple holds hands and walks around the sacred fire seven times, vowing to stand as one during their journey through life. In another ceremony, the couple playfully exchanges garlands three times.

After the rituals are complete, the families partake in Sammandhi Mariyathai, in which they exchange clothes and gifts in celebration. Toward the end of the wedding, the bride is welcomed to her new home in the Grihapravesham ceremony.

Finally, a feast is served in a lavish reception.

The spirituality and simplicity of a Tamil wedding boasts its culture to the world. The ceremonies demonstrate the importance of family, union and religion in the Tamilian culture. Ø 85

BIBI WEDDING DIRECTORY Resources for the modern couple Banquets/ Reception Venues Embassy Suites 281.531.7300 Houston, Texas Embassysuiteshouston.com Hilton Houston Post Oak 713.961.9300 Houston, Texas Houstonpostoak.hilton.com Hyatt Regency Houston - Downtown 713.654.1234 Houston, Texas Hyattregencyhouston.com La Torretta Lake Resort & Spa 936.448.4400 Montgomery, Texas Weddings@latorrettalakeresort.com Latorrettalakeresort.com Marriott Houston Energy Corridor 281.829.5525 Houston, Texas Houstonmarriottenergycorridor.com Beauty/ Hair/ Makeup/ Mehndi BridalGal 973.330.1913 New York Bridalgal@aol.com Bridalgal.com Kanwal Batool Makeup Artist 347.575.1695 New York Kanwalbatool.com Pure Sugar Scrub 646.710.0125 New York Pure.scrub.@gmail Puresugarscrub.com Boutique/ Fashion Bibi Bazaar Nationwide Bibibazaar.com Jorge Vega Umana 212.730.7722 New York Emir@jorgevegaumana.com Jorgevegaumana.com Lashkara Couture 609.273.1932 New Jersey Dipali@lashkaracouture.com Lashkaracouture.com 86

Mitan Ghosh 703.509.7606 New Jersey Naqashi2012@gmail.com Shehnaai Couture 212.684.3161 New York Info@shehnaaiusa.com Shehnaaiusa.com Cakes / Confections Bittersweet 646.515.9959 New York Surbhi@bittersweetnyc.com Bittersweetnyc.com Chocal8Kiss 1.888.YUM.CAKE New Jersey Sonam@chocal8kiss.com Chocal8kiss.com Caterers Chand Palace 973.334.5444 New Jersey Cuisine@chandpalace.com Chandpalace.com Dhoom 217 Route 3 East Secaucus, New Jersey Dhoomnj.com Events by Devi 212.691.1300 New York Info@devinyc.com Devinyc.com Tulsi 212.888.0820 New York Info@tulsinyc.com Tulsinyc.com.com DJ/ Entertainment/ Live Band Desi Sound Crew 516.808.0160 Tristate Info@dscdjs.com Dscdjs.com Raaz Entertainment, LLC 732.397.1925 New Jersey Jay@raazlive.com Raazlive.com

Invitations Love on Paper 778.859.1768 Nationwide Loveonpaper.com My Kreative Style 281.773.8009 Houston, Texas Namita@Mykreativestyle.com Mykreativestyle.com Jewelry Jyoti Kapoor Fine Jewelry 862.588.6064 New York Jyoti@jyotikapoor.com Jyotikapoor.com Photographers/ Videographers Dreams Innovations Photography & Videography 713.256.2394 SugarLand, TX Info@dreamsinnovations.com Dreamsinnovations.com Fine Art Productions 407.979.4749 - Florida 732.662.5555 - New Jersey 917.421.9815 - New York Info@fineartproductions.net Fineartproductions.net House of Talent 516.644.5454 New York Hotphotovideo@yahoo.com Houseoftalentstudio.com Joey T Photography 713.299.9752 SugarLand, Texas Joeytphoto@gmail.com Joeytphotography.com SB Image Studios 281.639.5434 Houston, Texas Info@stephaniebehrens.com Sbimagestudios.com Wedding Consultants Electric Karma International 281.705.9929 Houston, Texas Info@electric-karma.com Electric-karma.com

Preeti Exclusive Creations 718.275.5690 New York Info@preetiexclusive.com Preetiexclusive.com Wedding Decor/ Florist Taj Tents 855.368.TENT Nationwide Tajtents.com Wedding Favours Sweet Silk (Mithai / Confections) 973.930.3939 Ships Nationwide Info@savorsweetsilk.com Savorsweetsilk.com Miscellaneous Stingray Fitness 646.490.0601 New York / New Jersey Info@stingrayfitness.net Stingrayfitness.net

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Wedding Timeline ONE YEAR OR MORE AHEAD

m Set a tentative budget m Determine the size and type of wedding m Make tentative guest lists m Have an astrologer find your auspicious wedding date

TWO TO THREE MONTHS

NINE MONTHS

m Address and mail invitations m Book guest accommodations

m Book a licensed officiant

m Finalize honeymoon plans

m Book venue for ceremony and reception

m Book your makeup and mehndi artist

m Book Mehndi/Sangeet/Garba halls

m Check passports and other travel documentation m Inform newspapers of your engagement

m Register your preferences at a bridal registry

ONE MONTH

m Select a caterer, photographer, videographer and florist

m Finalize all venues m Finalize all other vendors

m Reserve any rental supplies

m Finalize all rental details

m Select accommodations for out-of-town guests

m Buy thank-you notes and begin writing them for all gifts received so far

m Commission formal engagement photographs

SIX MONTHS

m Get final dress fittings for both bride and groom

m Order mithai

m Select groom’s clothing

TO

m Get blood test (if needed) and marriage license

m Pack trousseau for both the bride and groom

m Book the entertainment, mandap rental and transportation (including the horse for the groom)

FOUR

m Complete bride and groom’s trousseau m Begin practicing songs and dances

m Begin preparing both the bride and groom’s trousseau

TO

m Complete all jewelry shopping

m Select a wedding consultant to help you plan the wedding

m Select the bride’s dress

SIX

m Check your state’s marriage license requirements

m If the bride is going to change her name, begin documentation

m Complete guest list with all addresses m Order invitations for all ceremonies m Order wedding cake

TWO WEEKS

m Contact non-responding guests m Pick up wedding rings

m Order wedding favours

m Confirm and finalize with officiant

m Order any special jewelry

m Buy all decorations needed for Sangeet or Mehndi

m Book your hair stylist m Begin researching honeymoon destinations

m Order garlands m Hire baby-sitter to watch children during the events m Have a final wedding attire fitting for both the bride and groom and bridal party

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- Gift Lists ONE WEEK

m Provide exact guest count to caterer and reception hall

Mother of Bride:

______________________________________

m Review details and timelines with all vendors

Father of Bride:

______________________________________

m Plan seating arrangements m Confirm honeymoon plans, pick up tickets and travelers’ checks

Mother of Groom: ______________________________________

m Pack luggage for the honeymoon

Father of Groom:

______________________________________

m Finalize transportation, cake and floral details

Bride’s Siblings:

______________________________________

m Make final payments for all services and vendors

Bride’s Siblings:

______________________________________

Bride’s Siblings:

______________________________________

Groom’s Siblings:

______________________________________

m Iron/steam and hang bride and groom’s wedding clothes

Groom’s Siblings:

______________________________________

m Pack bride’s handbag for the reception

Groom’s Siblings:

______________________________________

m Organize all things that you will need to take for the wedding ceremony. i.e., hand garlands, sindoor, mangalsutra, pens, flower baskets, bag of rice, holy books, mirror for the arsi ceremony, etc

Maid of Honor:

______________________________________

Best Man:

______________________________________

Bridesmaid 1:

______________________________________

Bridesmaid 2:

______________________________________

Bridesmaid 3:

______________________________________

Bridesmaid 4:

______________________________________

Bridesmaid 5:

______________________________________

Groomsman 1:

______________________________________

Groomsman 2:

______________________________________

Groomsman 3:

______________________________________

Groomsman 4:

______________________________________

Groomsman 5:

______________________________________

m Assign tasks to members of your family to handle during the wedding

m Have bride’s belongings moved to her new home

DAY BEFORE

m Organize honeymoon luggage, overnight bag if necessary, hand bag and other things needed for the day and night of the wedding m Delegate who will be responsible for what to transport to the reception halls in advance

DAY OF WEDDING

m Take a few close friends and family members to the spa for a massage to prepare for the day ahead m Find some quiet time for yourself to reflect on the holy vows you are about to take m Relax and enjoy your very special day

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mehndi/sangeet

Budget Planner ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Site Fee Music/Entertainment Equipment Rental Floral Arrangements Floral Garlands/Etc. Meals/Catering Beverages/Coffee/Tea Mithai/Sweets Tables/Chairs Decorations/Party Favours China Rental Crystal & Glassware Silverware Linens Transportation Waiters/Waitresses Gratuities Miscellaneous

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Ceremony Site Fee Officiating Authority’s Fee Officiating Authority’s Gratuity Floral Garlands/Etc. Meals/Catering Beverages/Coffee/Tea Mithai/Sweets Tables/Chairs Decorations/Mandap Miscellaneous

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

Total

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Reception Hall Rental Equipment Rental Music/Entertainment Meals/Catering Beverages/Coffee/Tea China Rental Crystal & Glassware Silverware Linens/Chair Covers Waiters/Waitresses Tables/Chairs Decorations/Party Favours Gift Attendant Special Food/Services Valet/ Coat Check Transportation Horse Rental Gratuities Reception Arrangements Centerpiece Arrangements Delivery & Setup Wedding Cake Mithai/Sweets Delivery Cake Knife Miscellaneous

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

reception

ceremony

Total

Total

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AMOUNT OVER/UNDER ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

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________________

stationary

jewelry

trousseau

Budget Planner ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Bride’s Mehndi/Sangeet Bride’s Ceremony Bride’s Reception Bride’s Trousseau Groom’s Mehndi/Sangeet Groom’s Ceremony Groom’s Reception Groom’s Trousseau Accessories

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Bride’s Ring Groom’s Ring Bride’s Jewelry Sets Groom’s Jewelry/Watch

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Announcements/Envelopes Invitations/Envelopes Thank-You Cards/Envelopes Seating Placement Cards Bridal Stationery/Envelopes Mehndi/Sangeet Cards Ceremony Cards Reception Cards RSVP Response Cards Wedding Programs Postage

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Wedding Photographs Formal Engagement Photographs Formal Bridal Photographs Extra Prints Thank You Cards Albums

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Wedding Video DVD Duplicates

________________ ________________

________________ ________________

________________

________________

Total

Total

photo/video

Total

Total

Total

AMOUNT OVER/UNDER ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

AMOUNT OVER/UNDER ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

AMOUNT OVER/UNDER ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

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________________

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additionals

Budget Planner ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Wedding Consultant Limousine Decorations Rose Petals Dance Floor Marriage License Bridal Suite Accommodations Wedding Guest Book & Pen Medical Exams & Blood Tests Legal/Financial Insurance–Floater Policy Rental Items Taxes

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

ACTIVITY/ITEM

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

Facials Mehndi Application Hair Stylist Makeup Artist Manicure/Pedicure Hair Cut/Color

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

________________

BUDGET AMOUNT

AMOUNT SPENT

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

Total

________________

________________

________________

beauty

Total

Total

miscellaneous

ACTIVITY/ITEM

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AMOUNT OVER/UNDER ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

AMOUNT OVER/UNDER ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________ ________________

________________

AMOUNT OVER/UNDER

- Tasks for Friends and Family BRIDE AND PARENTS OF THE BRIDE

GROOM AND PARENTS OF THE GROOM

The parents (especially if financing the wedding) are, along with the bride, the main organizers of the wedding. In consultation with the groom and his family, they:

The groom’s parents, along with the groom, are usually responsible for their own guests. They:

m Decide on all logistics for the wedding ceremony and reception

m May host a reception for the couple after the wedding. If so, they are responsible for the invitations and the guest list for that event

m Help the bride choose her clothes and jewelry m Plan various ceremonies

m Prepare their guest list and help with travel and accommodations

m Buy gifts for the bride’s family m Select and purchase the bride’s attire and jewelry in some cultures

m Help prepare the guest list m Act as hosts for the events they are coordinating

m Purchase the wedding and engagement rings

m Order and mail the invitations as the hosts

m Arrange for the marriage license

m If the groom’s family is from out-of-town, they may help with travel arrangements and accommodations

m Host one Mehndi and/or Sangeet

m Select and purchase the groom’s attire and jewelry in some cultures

m Make the honeymoon arrangements

m Arrange for transportation after the bidai or rukhsati

m Host Mehndi and/or Sangeet m Host the bridal luncheon after the reception

MAID OR MATRON OF HONOR

BEST MAN

BRIDESMAIDS

She may be the sister, relative or best friend of the bride. In South Asian traditions she is in charge of all the minor details related to the bride and is her primary support system during this life-changing event. She:

He is the one who stands by the groom through the wedding ceremony. In South Asian culture, he may be a brother, relative or best friend. He:

Bridesmaids assist the bride throughout the wedding, taking instructions from the maid of honor. They escort the bride to the ceremony and other events prior to the ceremony.

Bridesmaids are also responsible for purchasing their own dresses and accessories.

m Helps pick the groom’s attire

m Helps the bride shop for her wedding trousseau

m May host a bachelor party

m May host the bridal shower and/or bachelorette party

m Is in charge of decorating the wedding car

m Is usually in charge of organizing the Mehndi and/or Sangeet and finding a mehndi artist

m Is in charge of arranging the hotel for the wedding night

m Takes the bride to all beauty appointments on the day of the wedding

m May be the ring-bearer in some cultures

m Stays with the bride throughout the festivities m Helps the bride pack for her honeymoon

m Manages all other groomsmen

GROOMSMEN Groomsmen assist the groom throughout the wedding, taking instructions from the best man.

They also escort the groom prior to the ceremony. Groomsmen are responsible for purchasing or renting their own attire.

m Manages all other bridesmaids

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Vendor Selection -------------- [ wedding planner ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ venue ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ caterer ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ decorator / florist ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ photographer / videographer ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

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Vendor Selection -------------- [ entertainment ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ hair and makeup ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ invitations ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ transportation ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

-------------- [ _______________ ] -------------Choice 1: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 2: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________ Choice 3: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Contact: ____________________________________ Phone Number: _________________________

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Notes

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“A lifetime without Love is of no account Love is the Water of Life Drink it down with heart and soul!”

—Rumi

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