b3 Caribbean Magazine Issue 3

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NURSERY "SCHOOL"

101: A Lesson in

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All About

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> Your Best Pregnancy Ever! with Doula to the stars

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12 MAMA GLOW

Your Best Pregnancy Ever with Doula to the stars, Latham Thomas

18 THE ABC’S OF PRENATAL NUTRITION

Supplement your supplements with these Caribbean favourites

20 GLAMA MAMA

T is for Twins! Glam styling by Fidge Fab

22 MOCKTAIL MOMENTS

Another great island drink perfect for the mom-to-be

24 NURSERY “SCHOOL” 101

Creating a safe & stylish space for baby .

38 b3 FIT

Pregnant and Fit with our Mountain Spring Mummy

42 FABULOUS & FERTILE

Calling all ‘Mature Moms’ – it’s your time to shine!

{Baby> 46 BUILDING YOUR FAMILY’S WEALTH

Learning how to protect your financial future

48 YOUR BABY’S DEVELOPMENTAL MILESTONES A step by step look at your growing baby

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All About

Baby & Child

60 TO SNIP OR NOT TO SNIP

Circumspect Circumcision

62 b3 BEEP BEEP

Discover the Land Rover Discovery

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We’re doing Family Time with

Ziggy Marley!

{Beyond> 74 b3 PICKS

With Celeb Stylist Fidge Fab

76 b3 EXPLORE

Now here’s a sweet way to keep cool!

78 b3 ESCAPES

Who doesn’t love a great vacay? We’re escaping to Antigua…it’s Travel Time!

82 STYLISH NEW MUMMY

How to do post-pregnancy styling just right!

84 MEMORY BANKING

Picture-perfect with Photographer extraordinaire Dwayne Watkins

90 THE GODMOTHER

She’s got a role to play, and she’s loving it.

92 b3 EATS

Caribbean Culinary Creations with Chris de la Rosa

94 b3 ISLAN’DAD

He’s singing his own sweet songs… meet Jr. Pinchers

96 BAMBOOZLED

Tricked by a 2-yr-old? Hah! I think not!

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100 b3 MD

Our resident Doctor answers your questions

Calling all Dads! This page is JUST FOR YOU!

102 NIGHT WAKING How to keep your children sleeping…

ALL night long.

104 b3 COMMUNITY

Soles 4 Souls, changing lives one shoe at a time.

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ON THE COVER Cover Girl: 15 Month-Old Lauren Campbell Photography: Dwayne Watkins Wardrobe: Kaiya Eve Couture Pettiskirt Shot in Studio: Dwayne Watkins Photography, Kingston, Jamaica

Editor's NOTE

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Michelle has an ‘open in-box’ policy!

Please write in with your comments, questions and suggestions to

editor@b3caribbeanmagazine.com

ith the start of each New Year comes the opportunity to reflect

and renew. Many of us take some time to assess the past year, and plan for the one ahead. And though for some, resolutions

are simply just too cliché, it’s as great a time as any to evaluate our roles as parents and care-givers.

I’ve never been particularly successful at resolution-keeping much past March. The heart

really is willing, but then life happens, the Mommy brains kicks in, and then before you

know it, another New Year approaches. So a few years ago, I decided that in lieu of annual resolutions, I’d shorten the designated time frame and attempt monthly resolutions. Well, to

cut a long story short, I’m now down to making daily decisions! But you know what? These

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work for me. I set goals that are reachable. And if I fail to reach them, I don’t feel like I have

to wait an eternity to try again. My ‘New Year’ comes with each tomorrow; and thankfully, those come every day.

As parents, we all want to see our children grow well, and forge their own paths in the world. I encourage you to take each step on your

parenting journey as it comes. Our best intentions need renewal each day as those little ones often “lick us for six”, forcing us to re-evaluate

those ’perfect’ plans on a daily basis. Let’s be forgiving of ourselves, roll with the punches and trust our instincts. No matter how many guides you have, sift through the information and make your own ‘resolutions’ based on what works best for you and your family – and renew as you deem fit.

I’m sure the late, great Bob Marley is beaming with pride as he sees his first born raise his own children. In this issue, we spend some

‘family time’ with a son of Jamaica’s soil, Ziggy Marley. He’s insightful, witty and real, and we’re “loving the life” out of his new album

which gives us cause to reflect on some of the incredible melodies our region has produced. We’re blessed to have the wise words of celebrity Doula Latham Thomas grace our pages. Latham may be the busiest lady in the baby business, but she made the time to give us some quick tips on achieving ‘your best pregnancy ever’!

We’re proud to present our own “go-to-guide” for your latest addition – stages and safety, and so much in between. We’re chock full of

information, from learning your baby’s milestones, to how to prepare them for the first day of pre-school. It is incredible how time flies and

how quickly our babies grow, so our own Director of Photography shares how to “Memory Bank”, and capture precious moments for posterity.

Great advice for taking great pictures!

We were captivated by Lauren, our little cover girl, who, paralleled in an adult world, would certainly have branded us as groupies. Lauren

had us wrapped around her little finger, [imagine the song playing in the background], “…cause she’s got personality, [Walk!] personality, [Talk!] personality, [Smile!] personality, [Charm!] personality…”

Thank you to all our readers near and far who are affirming our role as the Caribbean’s premier parenting publication. Thank you for inviting

us into your homes and families. Our online readership now spans more than 21 Caribbean islands, the United States, Canada and the UK, and reaches as far as Abu Dhabi and Qatar in the Middle East, Australia and Asia! We’re excited as we grow, and look forward to widening our reach across the region and beyond. Read on folks. We’ve got so much in store, and an incredible year planned ahead. Here’s to 2013!

Editor-in-Chief

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Who we

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MICHELLE GORDON

Editor-in-Chief & Creative Director

A

lover of life and family, Michelle

brings authenticity of all aspects

of the parent-child bond to the page with diamond-studded style. With

28 years of combined experience in service, entrepreneurship and

motherhood, she adds to that a passion that gave birth to b3. Michelle is mother to 8 year old Christian and 4 year old Amanda.

ARLENE L. MARTIN

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Asst. Editor

rlene L. Martin has had a

passion for design and sewing

since childhood. With skills that

were self-taught when she actively took up the craft as a hobby in her

late teens, she has since blossomed and turned the passion into something

extraordinary - drennaLUNA. Arlene is aunt to 5 nieces and nephews.

ANGELIE SPENCER

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CLAIRE HARRISINGH

Fashion Editor

Assoc. Creative Director & Features Editor

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8-year-old Anna and 2-year-old Luke.

Responsibilit y) Special Projects

Cloth in Saturday’s Under the Dryer

London Media Group; from Editorial

Martin). Angelie is a mother of two

Jamaica, after serving as (Corporate Manager, Claire is now Principal of Strand Creative. Claire is mother to 2 year old Levi.

DWAYNE WATKINS Photography Director

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s a child, Dwayne Watkins

remembers being amazed by

a photographer's ability to capture things in a way that evoked incredible

emotion. These days you can catch

Dwayne around Jamaica and beyond,

capturing couples as they say, "I do".

Dwayne's portfolio also includes

fashion and commercial work.

Dwayne is godfather to 4 year old Skyler. Visit dwaynewatkins.com/blog J A N UA R Y - M A R C H 2 0 1 3

DWAYNE JUREIDINI

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Art Director & Layout Artist

wayne's love affair with design

began as an assistant to his

dad, himself, a graphic designer. Two

decades later, armed with his Dad’s priceless tutelage & the constant desire for creating artwork of an

international standard, the love affair continues. DJ's fingerprint can be seen on pieces ranging from invitations to

recognised international publications.

Dwayne is father to 5 year old Sarai.

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• Contributing Writers Abigail Edwards Arlene Martin Chris de la Rosa Claire Harrisingh Dr. Thea Davis Dr. Nadine Johnson Elena Diedrich-Lynch Fidge Fab Gillian Whyte-Roseway Latham Thomas Mary Bauer Michelle Gordon Natalie Graham Sara Conner

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Mama Glow

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Your Best Pegnancy EVER ! with Latham Thomas

ello, I'm Latham

Thomas, founder of Mama Glow- I use a holistic approach to

pregnancy which I

have used to educate,

empower, and inspire

clients to look and

feel their most radiant. I have touched the lives of hundreds

of women who want to experience a healthy, balanced, and fabulous pregnancy. Mama Glow is a comprehensive wellness

plan containing dietary and lifestyle advice that helps optimize

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your glow power. Using plant-based nutrition (or “Glow

Foods”), education, yoga, and other tools, Mama Glow offers

a unique system to help you develop an authentic relationship

with your changing body, boost energy levels and lift moods,

combat common ailments like morning sickness, prepare for an easier delivery, and achieve radiant skin, nails, hair, and a vibrant overall aura. On your marks, Get Set, let's GLOW!

LATHAM'S TOP 10 TIPS FOR THE HEALTHY MAMA GLOW!

1.

Take 400 micrograms of Folic Acid before pregnancy and during the first 3 months to promote healthy development of the brain and spine of the fetus.

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Practice Flexibility

Exercises. Joining a prenatal yoga class

is a great way to stretch and tone the muscles that will be used in labour. Gentle

stretches provide you with

more f lexibility in the

muscles and joints, which

will promote an easier labour.

3.

Eat Your Greens for

calcium and phytonutrients. Greens help

stabilize the blood sugar levels and give

you the bulk fiber needed to promote glowing skin

and intestinal health. Try callaloo, pak choi, mesclun, kale, collards,

chard, & arugula. Buy organic whenever possible.

4. .

Massage your growing belly daily from the beginning of your pregnancy with a quality

8 8.

Just Say No. Set healthy boundaries

around your personal space and

only do what feels good. When

you strain or force yourself to do something you don't want to do- you end up feeling

depleted. Start delegating tasks.

You must preserve your energy and allow your body the adequate

rest it needs to

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massage oil like Mama Mio’s Omega Oil or

support you

Tummy Rub butter, or Sanctuary Spa's stretch mark oil

and

to prevent or reduce the appearance of stretch marks.

5.

baby.

Pack a Mobile Pantry. Eating small meals

9.

throughout the day will keep you energized

and feeling good. Pack snacks to take with

you on the go, some healthy options: fresh seasonal

6 7 fruit, nuts, seeds, yogurt, veggies & hummus, granola bar.

6.

Get Support.

Build a team of

Engage in physical activity during pregnancy to

practitioners, your

improve sleep patterns, decreases water retention and

midwife or OB/GYN,

the associated varicose veins and leg cramps. Exercise

acupuncturist, massage

helps keep prenatal weight gain within a healthy

range, and decreases likelihood of developing gestational diabetes. Try swimming, brisk walking, yoga, Pilates, or dance.

7.

St ay

Hyd r ated .

Dehydration

can

induce abdominal

contractions,

your

growing

inducing

preterm labour. During pregnancy the body requires

therapist, labor support coach or

doula: to be a part of your birth team. All of

these people have a function during pregnancy

and some at your labour. You want to feel

comfortable with who is around you so do your research. Also make sure you designate a good

friend or two for your sister circle- who can

help with cooking, laundry, errands in those

first weeks postpartum.

more water to conduct

metabolic functions. Grab

your water bottle and drink

away, be sure to drink eight

tall glasses of water daily.

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It's GLOW Time! Make a regular practice of shutting off your phone, computer, and other distractions and

carving out some time to bask in your glow. Relax

BUMP

and take care of yourself, try a nice soak in the bath with herbs

and essential oils, light some candles, cuddle up with a good book,

go see a film, take a hike, bake a dessert, whatever feels good. Just be present and enjoy the moment- doing what you love.

Your Blissful Birth Birth is a dance. Along the way a cocktail of

hormones will cascade into your bloodstream and produce an effect

that is masterfully designed to make you and your baby fall in love.

Our culture views birth as a violent, painful, and disempowering experience. For generations women have taken a back seat when it

comes to childbirth, allowing modern obstetrics to push a technocratic

birth model that has little respect for the power of the female body,

and now it’s time to reclaim our bodies as sacred sites and to trust

our inner divas who know exactly how to give birth. I know birth to

be a potent experience that reshaped my life, that gave me a power

"It wasn't until I was pregnant that I became overly conscious of how much I only wanted to have positive things around me; people, food and energy! I also saw how easy it is to think of birth as a series of decisions that someone else is making for us. But we women are powerful and almighty and Mama Glow helps show us just how empowered we can be all the way throughout this glorious time in our lives!"

center that I still stand from today.

--Alicia Keys

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Grammy award winning recording Artiste

STAND AND DELIVER A baby learns whether the earth is a safe place within the first day of life. How you are born is very important. Much attention should be

placed on how a baby comes into the world and how a mother is born

navigate your pelvis. When an epidural is introduced, that feedback

mechanism is lost and you are no longer aware of what is happening below your waist. When you are upright in a squat, your pelvis is 30

into the role of caretaker. She should be respected and treated as a client, percent more open. Hello! That is major, considering what you are not a patient—there is a difference. How do we establish a normal

birth process? It starts with knowing your birth options and knowing

what is the normal course of labour and believing in it—standing up

for what you want and deserve, and delivering on your terms.

about to push through, honey. To avoid the supine, lying-on-your-back

position, try the following: •

and birth center this is encouraged, but not as much in hospitals. If a

woman is in bed during her labour, she loses the advantage of having

your spine nice and tall, sitting cross-legged, or squatting.

•

gravity on her side. And two common birthing strategies, continuous

•

Request intermittent monitoring versus continuous—it’s

•

Try all noninvasive pain management strategies first: a in position, pressure points.

•

you immobile, and enlist a skilled birth coach/doula for

positions.

•

fine as long as you’re not high risk.

massage, counter-pressure, shower or bath, vibrator, changes

Avoid an epidural or other interventions that would render your support team to help you try to find more comfortable

electronic fetal monitoring (EFM) and epidural anesthesia, keep you

lying on your back. To get moving while in labour, try the following:

position itself correctly. These include Child’s Pose, hands

and knees (Cat and Cow), sitting forward in a chair with

FREE TO BE! MOVEMENT DURING LABOUR A woman has to be given the right to move instinctively. In a home birth

During pregnancy, spend time in positions that help the baby

Ask for a squat bar, which fits right onto your bed and helps women to assume a more upright position during the

pushing stage.

•

Try the side-lying squat position. This is a favorable way to rest and try the first few pushes when it’s time to deliver.

Use a birthing ball to move and swivel your hips and try walking to increase the contractions if they slow down.

OPTIMAL POSITIONS FOR BIRTH Pain is purposeful. It guides you instinctively into the movements

and positions that make you more comfortable and help the baby

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No matter what your birth outcome, feeling empowered, supported, and

informed is essential. My experience

of pregnancy and birth was blissful

and one that inspired me to write my book, Mama Glow: A Hip Guide to

Your Fabulous Abundant Pregnancy , foreword by Dr. Christiane Northrup,

which is an essential guide for an empowered pregnancy. For more

glow tips check out my book and website www.MamaGlow.com

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LATHAM THOMAS: MAMA GLOW Latham Thomas

is a maternity

lifestyle maven,

wellness & birth

coach, and yoga teacher on the v a n g u a rd

of

transforming the maternal & women's wellness

movement. g r a d u at e

A

of

Columbia University & The Institute for Integrative Nutrition,

Latham is the founder of Mama Glow a holistic lifestyle hub for women to explore their creative edge through wellbeing. She

is co-founder of the Mama Glow Film Festival- a platform for

maternal advocacy through film and philanthropy, and recently

launched the Mama Glow Salon Series- a platform for birthing

conversations around cocktails, panels, and discussions. . She lives in New York City with her son Fulano and their turtle

Climby. Latham will publish her first book- "Mama Glow: A

Hip Guide to Your Fabulous Abundant Pregnancy", foreword

by Christiane Northrup, M.D. in November of 2012 with Hay

House. Latham is helping to green the planet one belly at a time. www.mamaglow.com Twitter: GlowMaven

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's of Prenatal Nutrition Religiously taking your (or making sure your

partner is taking her) pre-natal vitamins?

Kudos Mamas and Papas! We’ve rounded up some of our favourite Caribbean treats which are full of nutrients (some of which

we’ve “hand-picked” below) that can help

boost your baby’s (and your!) healthy growth.

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'A' IS FOR...AVOCADO • Folic Acid

• Magnesium

• Vitamin C FACT: In your first trimester it’s especially important to top

up your folic acid - to help your baby’s central nervous system

form. It’s been shown to lower risk of birth defects. Spruce up your daily salads with some avocado chunks. Your baby (and body) will love you for it!

'B' IS FOR...BREADFRUIT .

• Omega 3’s & 6’s • Vitamin C • Zinc

FACT: Omega 3 deficiencies have been shown to contribute to postpartum depression. Getting enough

of these healthy fats may prevent pre-term labor and reduce

your risk of pre eclampsia. Omega 3’s are also great for after birth - contributing to breast milk production. Breadfruit is also high in fiber, and can help ‘get things moving’! Grab some breadfruit chips for a guilt free snack.

'C' IS FOR...CALLALOO • Folic acid

• Iron

• Calcium FACT: Let’s help get those strong bones built! Calcium is vital for that. Iron is essential for red blood cell production, and a healthy supply of oxygen for energy

and growth to cells. Callaloo is a Caribbean favourite with incredible benefits

helping to prevent that pesky anaemia which sometimes haunts pregnant women.

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Glama Mama B Bradlee-Ann Powell

Bradlee's Photos: Dwayne Jureidini Shot on Location: Foot Candy Couture, 8 Hillcrest Ave. Kingston 6

usiness Executive and Mummy to 2 year old Morgan is in full bloom as she 'doubles up' and prepares to welcome her twins. Still early in her pregnancy, b3 joined our Glama Mama as she went in search of high fashion - without doing the traditional maternity wear. We're going into

fashion overload (on the double!) with this issue’s Glama Mama Bradlee Powell.

She's styled by the absolutely on-point Fidge Fab - the Jamaican NY based stylist

who's making, shall we say, major "ruffles" in the fashion industry with her eye for current and future trends. According to Bradlee: “Juggling being a Mummy, with chic and comfortable style WHILE pregnant with twins is sometimes challenging. Comfort is priority number one!”. We took Bradlee a 'toops' (as we say in Jamaica) out of her comfort zone, raised her hemline a bit, and stepped out in sweet, sweet [Foot] Candy style!

What's your normal style? Are you a conservative, highly stylish, or in between?

I’m definitely in between. I tend to go for pieces that will be in style for years, not the latest trend of the season.

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How is your maternity style with this pregnancy?

This knee-length dress is different for me. It's short but I love it! I try to find pieces that are in style and that flatter my pregnant figure.

Maxi dresses are a staple for me.

What are your top three Mummy must haves?

A great diaper bag- I still use my Petunia

Pickle Bottom. A cute pair of flats or sandals for when I’m on the run, and wet wipes!

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What style item can you NOT do without?

Mascara - great eyelashes make a world of difference!

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WHILE PREGNANT WITH TWINS... COMFORT IS PRIORITY NUMBER ONE!

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Mocktail Moments

Photo: Dwayne Watkins

Peanut Punch

It’s a Caribbean favourite, said to be good for a variety of ailments and, shall we say, ‘enhancements’. Well, courtesy of Chris De La Rosa of CaribbeanPot.com, b3 is sharing this super easy recipe - it’s a simple solution to a sudden craving, sans the heavy blending the ‘traditional’ ingredients require! Try this out, it’s perfect for two and rich in protein and calcium to boot!

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INGREDIENTS 8-10 cubes of ice

2 tablespoons peanut butter

(smooth or chunky – your choice) 1 cup milk (whole)

1 tablespoon condensed milk

DIRECTIONS Use a blender or a magic bullet. Place the ice in first.

This way the condensed milk and peanut butter will not

settle on the bottom where the blades can’t reach. After

the ice, put in the peanut butter, followed by the milk

and condensed milk. Blend for about 30 to 40 seconds

until everything breaks down and is incorporated

evenly. There you have it! A filling, delicious, creamy and frothy drink. Serve immediately to make use of that ice you crushed!

CARIBBEAN POT’S TIP: Experiment a bit by adding some of these ingredients.

- dash vanilla essence - ripe banana

- dash nutmeg

- honey

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NURSERY "SCHOOL" 101: .

Creating a safe and stylish space for your little one.

Nesting ('nεstịŋ) — n

a ritual performed by pregnant women in ridding the house, the "nest", from anything potentially harmful to the soon to be born child.

[Urban Dictionary 2012]

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our little one is about to join the real world after being

safely tucked away for the better part of 9 months.

Our experts weigh in as we learn about paint and

style in "Nursery School". Celebrity nursery stylist

Mary Bauer of bespoke children’s furniture company Bratt Décor,

shares with us her thoughts on creating the perfect haven. Give your baby the best start in a nursery which exudes style and class… and no toxic fumes.

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SAFE PAINTING 101: with Lullaby Paints W W W. LU L L A B Y PA I N T S . C O M

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e all want and pray for healthy, happy babies. We do everything

possible while pregnant to ensure that we’re not harming

our unborn babies. So why would we stop when they arrive? We don’t, do we?

A lifelong commitment to

keeping our children safe starts here. We all know that paint contains chemicals.

But did you know that paint can contain highly toxic chemicals, such as phthalates,

solvents, texanol, and formaldehydes which are released into the air for up to five years??? Yup, five years! So much for placing that bucket of water in the room to absorb the smell.

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paint brand, next to consider will be your choice of nursery

theme, colours and accessories. Your baby’s nursery is a haven.

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habits for your baby with dark nights and bright days.

6. Select your accessories: lighting, decals etc.

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CHIC NURSERY STYLE 101: Images courtesy of Bratt Decor

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C

reating your baby’s

nursery is an exciting time in your nesting

stage. Here is where your

inner

artist

can come to life,

manifesting itself in a beautiful, peaceful space for your new baby-with your own unique touches. Mary Bauer (of Bratt Décor) shares

some incredible inspiration rooms on the next few pages. The nursery is where you’ll spend

a lot of time together, at least for the first few weeks of baby’s life. Sleeping will be the

activity highest on baby’s list of things to do, followed closely by nursing. It suits you well

to make the space as comfortable as possible.

Forget the typical fads and cartoon characters

that people traditionally go for. Open yourself

up to the incredible options that will give your baby a strong and stylish start.

Choose a focal point, something that stands

out for you, or something that holds great

sentimental meaning for you. Are you going traditional, modern or vintage? Whether it’s

an heirloom piece, baby’s crib, your design

elements or even baby’s bedding…your focal point will help you to focus on your ultimate

goal and set the tone for the entire décor

palette. Decide whether you’re going genderspecific or gender-neutral. A gender-neutral

base is very easy to accessorise, and makes any

unforeseen changes easy to execute.

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CONSIDER OUR FIVE KEY POINTS WHEN PUTTING TOGETHER YOUR IDEAL NURSERY:

Sleeping – Your baby’s crib must be certified. To be sure that your crib has been tested, and passed

industry standards, look for the Juvenile Products

Manufacturing Association certification. Most cribs sold and used in the Caribbean, are products

imported from the USA or Canada and the JPMA is the governing body for these regions. Be cautious when using ‘hand-me down’ cribs as safety standards

have changed, and most certainly improved with the keen attention of regulatory bodies. If you're

repainting or staining a 'hand-me-down' or heirloom

piece, ensure that the products used are safe. (check

out our paint guide on page 26). To prevent your

baby's head from slipping through or getting stuck,

the slats on your crib should be no more than 2 3/8

.

inches. Crib sheets must fit snugly on the mattress.

Invest in at least 2 great mattress pads to protect the

surface of the mattress - accidents will happen, and

this makes cleaning up as easy as tossing it along with your sheets in the machine.

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Feeding – Wherever you choose to nurse or bottle-feed your baby, Changing – You'll be changing your newborn at least every 2 -3 should be ultra-comfortable for you. If you’re not comfortable, baby’s

hours in the first few months. Be kind to your back by making sure

Rocking chairs and gliders are great seating choices. Most today are

inches), and outfitted with a secure and comfortable changing pad for

feeding time will likely reflect that. Happy Mummy = Happy Baby!

ergonomically designed for lumbar support, which is critical for mom’s

your changing table is at the right height for you – (standard is 36 baby's comfort. Your baby will be twisting, turning and moving all

comfort during the feeding process. Consider using a nursing pillow, over the place before you know it. Never leave your baby unattended which can be covered in some great fabric options to go with your

décor, and suit your style.

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on the changing table. This cannot be over-stated!

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Storage – You’ll be surprised by how quickly you can accumulate edges and outlets that can potentially harm him. If you’re going with so much ‘stuff ’. And as time goes by, some of that ‘stuff ’ will become

a rug, choose one that is made of natural fibres to reduce introducing

choose storage that fits your overall theme and helps to accentuate

with safe to chew on textures or fibres, and no parts which could be

less important to you. For anything you're not willing to part with, allergens. All toys at this (and every) stage should be age appropriate,

your design concept.

swallowed or choked on. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.

and playing with everything within reach. Select a soft, safe area

come together much easier than you could ever imagine! Enjoy the

Activity – Soon enough, your baby will be coo-ing, goo-goo-gaaing, where baby can play freely without the threat of hard surfaces, sharp

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Having a designated area for each of these, makes your nursery

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THE WONDER OF WHITE

by Mary Bauer of Bratt Decor w w w. b r a t td e c o r. c o m

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here’s something so pure and .

innocent about the colour white.

It’s a wonderful choice for a

nursery. It’s gender neutral, soft,

and creates a perfect palette for your unique

style. When creating an all-white space, texture and varying shades are key to create

interest. The hues should be compatible, and

not more than a shade different. The walls will

embrace the space, so decide if you want quiet

space or an active space. For a quieter space,

opt for a linen white or ivory. For a bolder look,

choose white furnishings that bring the style

you want to the room. Minimal lines will add

a more modern look, and curves will give your space timeless appeal.

Every great nursery needs a fantastic rocker,

and with so many available, you can add real

designer style. Custom fabric choices can

add exciting texture to your space. Even in an all-white space, some pop of colour will

bring the whites to life. Here we opted for

rich browns, both in the floor and the frames.

Contrast adds interest without detracting from the purity of the space. The overall affect is

sublime sophistication. It’s a space that will nurture not only baby, but mummy as well.

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It’s been a longtime hot spot for fitness fanatics and ‘freshers’ alike. Mountain Spring; a scenic incline nestled in the hills of Barbican, St. Andrew, Jamaica.

It’s Kingston’s natural elliptical machine, complete with woodpecker’s pecking, cool mountain breeze, and the gentle rush of water cascading down the rocks below.

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Mountain Spring

Mummy

by Michelle Gordon • Photos Dwayne Watkins

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Walking is the easiest way to “ introduce increased activity to a pregnant woman’s routine.”

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his issue, b3 Fit

goes outdoors for some fresh air

and great exercise

with Attorney-

at-Law and soonto-be mother of

3 boys, Andrea

Scarlett-Lozer. “Baby K” will join big brothers

Kaheem (8 yr old) and Kemario (yr old) this

January – a lovely start to the New Year.

Staying active during your pregnancy has so

many benefits ranging from a reduced chance

of experiencing Postpartum Depression (PPD), to bouncing back to your pre-pregnancy size

sooner than later. Many experts recommend

at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most

days of the week. But it’s important to know

your fitness level before starting. (see sidebar).

“Walking is the easiest way to introduce

PREGNANCY EXERCISE WARNINGS • ALWAYS check with your Doctor before starting this, or any exercise programme • Never hold your breath while exercising

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• Avoid close-contact sports and activities where falling is likely • Avoid deep knee bends, full sit-ups, and double leg raises • Avoid waist-twisting movements while standing

increased activity to a pregnant woman’s

routine. It’s simple and very effective. You

can pace yourself according to what you can

manage, and results are almost guaranteed.” says Dr. Nadine Johnson, ObGyn and

Maternal Fetal Specialist at The University

Hospital of the West Indies.

Andrea is, by our Fitness Level Chart a

‘Big Kid’ (see page 41). She’s no stranger to

exercising, and certainly not to Mountain

Spring. She’s definitely one lucky mama, who managed to escape any form of morning

sickness! Here she gives us a quick look into

her pregnancy fitness profile and then we

go ‘up the hill’ with this Mountain Spring

Mummy.

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How often do you exercise An average of 5 times per week.

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What is your maternity exercise routine No routine during pregnancy #1. At that time I yielded to the

popular view that it’s safer not to exercise during pregnancy.

For pregnancy # 2, I did 1 hour swimming sessions about 3 – 4

times per week. I often described those sessions as amazingly therapeutic for both mind and body. With this pregnancy

(# 3), I took to walking. I pretty much continued my prepregnancy exercise routine with a few modifications. I even surprised myself with by continuing with the rigorous routine

of one hour interval sprint training on the steep inclines of

Mountain Spring. I did this for 7 months and then slowed

things down by training on a treadmill and on a gym cycle,

as well as training with my dumb bells. For month 9, I did light outdoor walking with dumb bells in hand.

Any special eating habits? .

I do get sugar and carb cravings sometimes. I usually take

those cravings as a sign that I need to top up on my vitamins.

During pregnancy #2, I had anemia and when I found out

I realized that must have accounted for all the extra cookies, chocolates and fried plantains I was eating. So, now as soon as I feel that almost uncontrollable desire for cookies or bread

I check myself to see whether I have missed a dose or two of

my vitamins and that’s usually the case. This time around I

find I don’t really like chicken or raw vegetables; not quite an aversion but my taste buds just don’t fancy them.

What would you say is your fitness level (a) beginner (b) moderate (c) advanced I’m definitely advanced. I absolutely love the fitness lifestyle.

Thankfully, my husband and children are also like-minded and

so it’s always fun when we’re able to do “fit” things together,

even on vacations.

Your best trimester, and why?

The second trimester was my best. Funny enough, when I became pregnant this time around I was still trying to lose the

“baby fat” from the last pregnancy so I was on a pretty intense

exercise program (running and weight lifting) that I continued

into this pregnancy. By the time I got to second trimester

I had peaked in terms of fitness level. The high endorphin levels from exercise combined with what is often described as

“2nd trimester boost in energy” made me feel very happy and energetic most of the times. I felt “high”. I felt blessed to be

pregnant, healthy and fit. I want every woman to know that

exercise can exponentially improve their pregnancy experience.

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BEFORE STARTING THE HILL... KNOW YOUR FITNESS LEVEL Newborn (Beginner) You very rarely or never exercise Toddler (Intermediate) You’re not new to exercising, but do so infrequently

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Big Kid (Advanced) You exercise often and are considered fit. b3 TOP TIPS: • Get permission from your Ob Gyn before starting any exercise programme • Make sure your running shoes fit well and are comfortable • Don’t wear tight clothing • Watch for any unusual signs. Stop immediately if you experience pain, dizziness, faintness or extreme fatigue • Don’t over-do it

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Fabulous & Fertile

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by GIllian White-Roseway, Jamaica

In a time not so long ago, women were bombarded by ideas of a ticking time bomb; more commonly referred to as, the biological clock. The biological clock is literally the New Year’s Eve countdown to motherhood, where you ring in a new chapter of your life. Today, “the clock” still ticks, but there are women delaying becoming mothers. For some, this is due to circumstances outside of their control, while others are making a conscious decision to wait until a little later in life to start a family.

M

otherhood has evolved

looking into focusing on themselves first before

so. No longer do you have

partner. Ladies are now more focused on

over the past decade or

to be a twenty- or thirty-

something-year-old homemaker (although

that's still ok); today you can be a fortysomething mother and CEO.

There has been a paradigm shift and women

furthering their education and establishing

a career before child-rearing, ensuring that they have set up a life for themselves prior to being responsible for another.

Forty is the new twenty. Well maybe not.

are at the helm. Statistics show that for the

But, forty is a new fabulous time to be a mom.

in women getting pregnant closer to and after

career women with not only an MBA and

last few years there has been a steady increase the age of forty.

This can be attributed to a change in priority

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And fabulous these moms are; successful

SUV, but a designer diaper bag and car seat to complete the ensemble. So for all you almost

forty-year-olds worried that your kid’s diaper bag will ruin your corporate attire, think

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accessories. Maternity clothes are no longer

pregnant later in life. However, science has also

fashion-forward attire.

significantly decline the older a women gets,

oversized yards of fabric, but cute well-fitted Mothers in their forties are not only more

fashionably fabulous; they are more mature, grounded women often times in a better

position financially to care for children. Older

proven that the chances of getting pregnant so one must take into consideration that

motherhood can be put off for so long and no more.

Regardless of whether you became a mom

moms have more life experience which often

at or after forty, by choice or chance, excellent

forty would have spent enough time investing

are making it happen. So take note, having

contributes to better parenting. Moms over in their own development of self and character,

which enable them to impart this wealth of knowledge and experience to their child.

While maturity and financial stability are

the pros to delaying motherhood to forty or older, the cons do exist. Science has made

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fertility, or adoption, forty-something moms the career and the baby is possible, but to each his own. It all comes down to what your priorities are for your own life. Just remember,

you can be fabulous in mommyhood regardless of the age that the journey with your little one begins.

“

MOTHERS IN THEIR FORTIES ARE NOT ONLY MORE FASHIONABLY FABULOUS; THEY ARE MORE MATURE, GROUNDED WOMEN OFTEN TIMES IN A BETTER POSITION FINANCIALLY TO CARE FOR

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CHILDREN.

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OVER 40 AND CONSIDERING PREGNANCY? THINGS TO CONSIDER…

By Dr. Nadine Johnson [Maternal - Fetal Medicine Specialist (High Risk Pregnancy Specialist) Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology University Hospital of the West Indies]

THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN OVER AGE 40 HAVE NORMAL PREGNANCIES AND ARE IN GOOD HEALTH. HOWEVER, THERE IS AN INCREASED RISK OF: • Fertility problems (Fertility

Quick Question?

We caught up with some of our Caribbean Mamas who took the time out to answer our hot topic quick question.

“What was your biggest challenge becoming a mother after 40?”

decreases with aging resulting in difficulty conceiving) .

• Miscarriage

• Gestational diabetes

TEREASA W, PREGNANT AT 41, ST. LUCIA

• High blood pressure • Twin pregnancy

• Antepartum and Postpartum • Bleeding

Age is nothing but a number. I may be delusional, but I feel the same as I did when I was 31. My major challenge was remembering stuff. I forgot everything!

• Caesarean section

• Premature delivery • Stillbirth

Genetic disorders eg. Downs syndrome.

AVIONNE, PREGNANT AT 45, TRINIDAD

(Optional prenatal screening blood

Jihann was born in December 2003 when I was ONLY forty-five. The most

amniocentesis are available for parents

of having to go into the whole baby scenario all over again after EIGHT

tests and diagnostic tests such as

difficult aspect of my pregnancy was having to deal with the mental anguish

who choose to have testing after genetic

YEARS… AND AT MY AGE! Truthfully the event turned my life upside

counselling)

It is important to see your health care

provider for assessment before trying to get pregnant. This is especially important

if you have a chronic medical condition

down and the relationship I had with her father suffered but only up until the

day she was born. Since that day, he says his life has changed forever and he

loves her totally. I must say that for me, once getting past delivery, I embraced my daughter so easily it seemed as if I never had any misgivings. She is full of life and so loving that I often now thank God every day for her existence.

such as; diabetes, kidney disease, systemic lupus, seizures, hypertension

and if you are on long- term medication.

Medical conditions, if not well

FERN, PREGNANT AT 42, JAMAICA

increased

Being an over 40 new mother has been a blessing. I think being over 40 helped

Uterine fibroids are also common in

struggled with had I been younger and less experienced with life in general.

controlled

can

cause

complications for you and your baby.

me overcome some of the challenges I've had to face. Some of which I may have

black women over 40 and can complicate

My pregnancy was amazing - zero problems over the nine months, baby's birth

pregnancy.

Good prenatal care and healthy habits

are important and can further help to reduce complications.

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was all natural and pretty decent, I was/am physically fit and active before, during pregnancy and after birth, and was mentally and emotionally prepared to take it all on with a more mature outlook. I believe I was better equipped

to sift and filter through the huge amount of options, opinions and general bombardment of info out there in order to make empowered decisions.

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Building Your Family’s Wealth

G

Photos: Dwayne Jureidini • Make-up: Kelli-Ann Bingham • Stylist: Norma Williams ood parents will do their

currently abound, they may be tempted to spend all

prov ide

their family’s future.

very best to adequately for

their

children’s needs, and

requirements of the household should take priority,

invest for their future

for the family’s upcoming demands. If you only think

sacrifices to save and

dedicated mothers and fathers will go, in their quest to see their loved ones succeed.

However, it can sometimes be difficult for parents

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Some persons think that the immediate spending

they will make many

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their funds on basic necessities instead of saving for

but it is unwise to ignore the importance of planning

of today, you could be putting your children’s future in financial jeopardy for many years to come.

As you take care of your family’s current needs,

make a commitment to also focus on building their

future wealth. Here are some of the crucial steps you need to take:

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PREPARE A BUDGET FUND Unplanned spending is one of the main reasons why people find it difficult to make ends meet

and create wealth. Make a detailed budget that outlines all your bills over the course of

a year, and put aside funds to cover irregular

expenses such as car insurance, property taxes and holiday shopping.

CREATE AN EMERGENCY FUND What if your car needed major repairs? What if you lost your job? Life is uncertain and it can present many ‘what if ’ situations. One

of your first wealth-building goals should be

to save enough money in an account to cover about three to six months’ living expenses in case of an unforeseen event.

BUILD AN EDUCATION FUND One of the best ways to help your children

to progress in life and build wealth is to

provide them with the best education that

money can buy. In addition to saving for their current school needs, open a long term account that will provide for their tertiary

may seem astronomical, the amount required would be easier to amass if you had started putting aside money from the birth of your

children. Small savings amounts will grow

over time, once you start early and consistently make contributions. At Scotia Insurance, our Heritage International Savings Plan is

designed to help you to save over the long term for your child’s tertiary education.

For a long-term education fund, it is best

to get advice to ensure that you are saving

adequately to meet your objectives. A financial

advisor can help you to identify the right investment options and to review the growth of your fund over time.

DEVELOP AN OPPORTUNITY FUND It has been said that ‘cash is king,’ as having

.

ready funds on hand can allow you to take advantage of prospective deals. When you

choose to defer immediate gratification by saving as much as possible, you will give your family the ability to profit from investment opportunities that may arise in the future.

training requirements. Although college costs

ESTABLISH AN INSURANCE FUND One part of your wealth-building plan that should never be disregarded is

investing in insurance. Policies that provide coverage for critical illness and death benefits can help you to insure against the financial loss that can come from the unexpected illness or passing of the family’s breadwinner.

When you have considered all the various elements of building your family’s

wealth, you will be more purposeful in planning for their future. With clear

objectives and a practical action plan, you can be confident that you can successfully provide for all their financial needs.

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Your Baby’s Developmental Milestones

Your new baby is a joy to watch as he grows miraculously before your eyes. He’ll change daily and surprise you each step along the way. Here we highlight some of the milestones to look for. Remember, your Pediatrician is always the best person to advise you of your baby’s actual progress.

AGE

MILESTONES

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0 – 1 MONTH

MOVEMENT

VISUAL

Brings hands within range of eyes and mouth Head flops backward if unsupported

Eyes wander and sometimes cross Loves black and white (or high contrast) patterns

HEARING/SPEECH Recognises some sounds May turn to familiar voice (especially mother’s)

SMELL/TOUCH

SOCIAL

COGNITIVE

Recognizes scent of mother’s breast milk Prefers soft to coarse sensations

Keeps hands in tight fist

4 – 7 MONTHS

1-3 MONTHS

Jerky, quivering arm thrusts Supports upper body with arms when lying on stomach Opens and shuts hands

Begins using hands and eyes in coordination

Rolls front to back and vice versa Transfers objects from one hand to the other

Develops a social smile

Starts ‘babbling’

Enjoys playing and may cry when playing stops

Turns head toward direction of sound

Imitates some facial expressions

Tracks moving objects

Responds to own name

Loves mirror images

Full colour vision matures

Can respond to word NO

Loves interactive social play

Uses raking grasp as opposed to pincer grasp

Creeps on hands and knees

Smiles at the sound of mother’s voice

Starts imitating sounds

Pushes down on legs when feet placed on firm surface

Crawls on belly by pulling arms and pushing legs

8-12 MONTHS

Follows moving objects

Babble full sentences

Explores with hands and mouth

Recognizes emotions by tone of voice

Uses eyes together Able to judge distances

Responds to some verbal requests Responds to NO Says Dada and Mama

Cries when leaving mother or father

Pulls self up to stand

Shy or anxious around strangers

Walks holding on to furniture

Finger feed’s self

Stands momentarily

Prefers regular care-giver to others

May walk a few steps unsupported

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Imitiates gestures Identifies correct picture when named Starts using appropriate objects (comb for hair instead of banging…)

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All About Baby&Child

Photography: Dwayne Watkins • Wardrobe and Accessories: Hugbug Jamaica, Babeelicious and Wonderboy Collection

We develop a bond with them long before our first meeting. For so many of us, the moment we discover we’re expecting, the dreams begin. Will it be a boy or girl? Who will he or she look like? And by the time they arrive 9 months later, we’re already madly in love. The proverbial ‘ten fingers and toes’ checked off, a plethora of praise sent heaven-ward, and armed with lots of wise words of ‘what to expect’, we now prepare for each stage of development. We’re sharing some tips as you embark on that great parental journey;raising your little angels. .

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Playtime

There’s nothing sweeter than a happy baby.

And happy babies love to play! Hold off on

the toys for your newborn though, at least until

he or she is a few months old. Having a few objects

around for her to look at, touch and be intrigued

by is perfectly acceptable, but at this stage, baby is

completely enamored and perfectly satisfied with you! A mirror and your singing voice are more

than enough in the beginning. As your baby gets

older and more interactive, he’ll require greater

stimulation. Play dates are still a long way off,

since your under-two baby still thinks the world

is his/her oyster. For now, from about 11 months

he’ll be a pro at parallel play, (playing alongside,

but not engaging with another toddler), and will

graduate to interactive play date status between

24-36 months.

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Personality

The development of your baby’s personality started long

before she was born. Although still soft and pliable, her

personality is a delicate combination of genetics, parenting

and social conditioning. But don’t think that because babies

are born with certain personality traits, that their development

can’t be influenced. Are you Mummy or Daddy to a budding type ‘A’ or type ‘B’ personality? What’s important is getting

familiar with your baby’s personality type, encouraging

its authentic development and parenting him or her

accordingly.

This information is a guide. Children develop at different paces and stages. If you are concerned about your baby’s progress, please see your doctor.

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Peek-A-Boo, I See You!

Did you know that your newborn baby can’t decipher colour? This, like many

skills, develops gradually. Between 2 to 4

months, your baby will start to distinguish bright shades and complicated shapes and

patterns. The contrast of black and white is

dramatic and will definitely capture baby’s attention much earlier. Engage baby with

brightly coloured pictures, books and toys.

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Eating

Your baby can begin eating solids between 4 – 6 months of

age. If exclusively breast-fed, you may want to wait until she’s

6 months old to start solids. Most pediatricians recommend starting with a basic cereal – rice being the most popular. Be

patient, and get ready for a bit of mess! Allow them to explore and discover, don’t be too worried about the little spills and inevitable splats which will come! Enjoy watching your little one enter this new phase and remember to be

gentle with any ‘hardware’ on their delicate gums.

When moving from purees to ‘chunks’, introduce new textures slowly, and keep it at one ingredient

for about 3-4 days before trying another to gauge their reaction. Remember that when your baby is

full, he’ll stop eating. Never force a baby to eat. .

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Seating

Set a solid foundation for future

mealtimes. If your baby is able to sit up with his head held upright (between 4

and 6 months), let him have all his

meals while seated in a high chair.

He’ll make an early association with meals and his chair, and it will save

you in the long run from chasing baby

to convince him to eat! Consider

giving your baby a few “test drives” in the high chair to get him used to it before that first mealtime –

one less battle on the actual day of feeding number 1! Now is

also a good time to multi task by making a fun game out of

‘buckling up’. ‘Seat safety’ can start here and it will make

your seat belt battles in the

car so much easier.

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Hand-Eye Coordination

During your baby’s first year of life, the combination of looking and touching, aka; hand-eye co-ordination, is a critical foundation

laid for future skills. Between one and three months of age, you’ll

notice those jerky newborn movements becoming smoother as your

little one gains more control. Be sure to give your baby toys that will

contribute to success in activities that require physical interaction.

Encourage them to reach for special toys, and try out a baby gym

in the early months. By six months old you’ll really see their skills develop as they pass objects back and forth between

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hands, and then to you! Get ready for the age old game

of baby dropping items for you to pick up, and all the repetition that it brings!

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Chat ‘bout!

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Mummies, don’t get upset… chances are, your baby will say Dada before he says Mama. Not

to worry though… it’s just because ‘D’ rolls off

the tongue waaaay easier than ‘M’ (wink wink).

Listen out for baby’s first words, which will come

along around 10 to 12 months of age. Talk to your baby

in order to stimulate his own vocabulary building.

Your singing, reading and regular banter will captivate, entertain and educate baby.

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Creep ‘n’ Crawl

Everyone loves a crawler, whether they’re

going forward or backward! There really is no

correct way to crawl. This stage is baby’s first step

(pun intended) on the road to independence, as he

learns to use his body to move around. Baby will start crawling between 6 to 9 months, and

then before you know it…you’ll be in

pursuit of your big walking baby!

Get ready to run, and research child proofing for your home

well before your tot reaches

this stage.

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Walk This Way

Your newborn will make her first attempts to

stand as early as 4 months and she’ll start

bouncing somewhere around the halfyear mark. Her first independent step

is still to come but expect her to start

‘cruising’ (holding on for supported

walking) as she nears one year. She

may stand without support, then begin

to walk. Some babies may start as early

as 7 or 8 months, but the norm is closer to

one year. If your baby is not walking by 18

months, you should consult your pediatrician.

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Nap Time

Your newborn will sleep for about 16 to 18 hours a day. As your baby gets older, by

about 6 – 9 months, he will still be sleeping around 14 in every 24 hours, with daytime naps getting shorter. When your toddler

hits between 12 – 18 months, he should be averaging 11 – 11½ hours nighttime

sleep, and up to 2 ½ hours daytime napping.

Babies like and need structure. Every

parenting publication will tell you! So get

your sleep rhythm going early and you and your baby will 'sing' happily ever after.

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Sitting Up

By the time baby is about nine months of age, he’ll be able to stay upright, sitting on the floor, for several

minutes. It’s interesting to note that at this stage, unless your baby falls, he can’t get himself down, but if he topples over, he will likely get himself back into a seated position. Start looking out

for him being able to hold himself seated

independently from about 5-6 months old.

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To Snip or Not to Snip

Circumspect Circumcision

by Abigail M. Edwards, Trinidad

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t y pical

ever yday

conversation, the matter

of circumcision is unlikely

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Caribbean the procedure

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to arise, although in the

is fairly commonplace.

Therefore, because of the

relative

silence

surrounding the practice, I decided to do a

mini poll simply to gauge what the men in my circle thought of it. (Thank God for BBM & WhatsApp)

Question: What are your thoughts on

male circumcision and would you consider circumcision for your son?

Simple enough right? NOPE! The responses

were so diverse; I didn’t realise my male

friends were so in touch with the medical

have a choice in the matter…DUH

to discuss the findings of tests done which

“’No sah! Nah do it. Plus it must be

and male circumcision. Information such as

lol” (Brite!) painful”

“I don’t mind helping out…sure if you want; names remain anonymous?”

(What’s up Daryl?!)

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ulture and religious beliefs

highlighted the link between HIV prevention this, if known to parents, I suppose would

encourage them to circumcise their newborn sons to lower their risk of infection later-on in life.

What about those who see nothing wrong

play an important role in

with remaining uncircumcised? Those who do

son circumcised. Surgeon, Dr.

my friend who insisted that boys should be

parents’ decision to have their

Mansoor Ibrahim, in an interview with the

Trinidad Guardian identified that Muslim

children are circumcised regularly in Trinidad

and Tobago. They account for 90% of his clientele. In the said article, Dr. Ibrahim is quoted as supporting the circumcision of

newborn boys as research points to the link

not agree that this affects hygiene? Persons like taught from a young age how to properly clean

their penis. This perspective took me back to my primary school days where my Standard

2 teacher did hygiene sessions with the class (yes…boys and girls together). I distinctly

remember her telling the boys that they must

“roll back and wash or else dirt will build up .

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I DIDN’T REALISE MY MALE FRIENDS WERE SO IN TOUCH WITH THE MEDICAL ADVANTAGES AND BENEFITS OF CIRCUMCISION

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advantages and benefits of circumcision. Some

between this and lowered risk of genital

and you’ll get sick”. Thing is, the foreskin does

while others were mainly concerned about

arise such as Phimosis condition (foreskin

usually separate before the boy is 5 years old.

were extremely passionate about the topic, confidentially. I decided to compile some of the responses for your amusement:

disease and other complications which may retraction is impossible).

But what is circumcision all about and why

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“Honestly, I don’t feel any way about

are some people so ardent on having it done

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“Yea, I’m circumcised. I feel it should

Although it may very well be one of the oldest

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it. I’m circumcised and I’m fine.”

be left up to parents to choose and not feel pressured by religion.”

“Hmmm….it’s usually acclaimed as a

healthy way of avoiding bacterial build

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procedures in medical history, many parents today are still ignorant of the health benefits derived by it.

Simply put, circumcision is the removal of

up on the glans of the penis, however I

foreskin, leaving the end (head) of the penis

practices proper hygiene…” (He won

aids in the reduction of chance of exposure to

don’t think it’s needed once the person

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to their sons while for others it’s a non issue?

the prize for best answer btw)

“Abi gyul! Fire fuh dat!” (OKAY

Rasta!)

“Wen yuh do dem tings, yuh penis doe

get like rell sensitive?” (I would know right? Ok then)

“Yea, I’m circumcised. Didn’t really

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exposed. Research has shown that circumcision

not retract for the first few years. It does not Until this happens, it should not be forced back as this will lead to bleeding and intense pain as the skin tears (OUCH!).

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or parents who choose the route of

keeping their boy uncircumcised,

teach your son from young how to

clean his penis thoroughly. While

the foreskin is still in-tact, gently wash the area while bathing. Treat it as any other part

of his body; regular soap will do. No need to probe with cotton swabs or the like.

At the end of the day, parents, the choice

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). The

you make will have an effect on your son.

website has well over twenty articles on male

or not will have an impact later on in life.

World Health Organisation (WHO), on their circumcision

In 2007, WHO and the Joint United Nations

Programme on HIV/AIDS (UNAIDS) held meetings with international stakeholders

Whether you choose to have them circumcised Do your research (I’m not just talking

BBM or Whatsapp polls!), talk to multiple pediatricians, and then make an informed decision.

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Beep,Beep...

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t’s BOLD. It’s LUXURIOUS. It’s unmistakably Land Rover. It boasts a refined, modern presence onroad and off-road and a progressive, contemporary exterior. Think ‘Tough Luxury” with a meticulous

attention to design and detail and premium materials. It’s an incredible ride for everyone from drivers to the tiniest passengers and most precious cargo, with stadium seating and three rows of seats which

make sure everyone has the best views. The award winning Terrain Response® system allows you to take on almost any surface - with confidence.

b3 visited ATL Autohaus in Kingston with Kevin Bourke, Co-Founder of Kingston Live Entertainment,

to have a look at this distinctive vehicle. We wanted to have it tested out by a genuine Dad-on-the-go, to see

if the D4 really does redefine the way we look at the ‘Family Car’. Bottom line: we’d trust it with our little ones in a heartbeat...and look incredible on (or off!) the road to boot.

We've chosen some 'Specs to Drive For' - our picks for the D4's standout features. Read it and get your

engines started.

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“I think it’s just pure class. Down to all the details you’d need, it’s a very refined car. They obviously take their time with the craftsmanship and it’s seen in the final product. It’s a sturdy safe car for the roads here in Jamaica.

I think any Father would still think he had his swag putting the baby seat in the back of this!”

- Kevin Bourke

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SPECS "TO DRIVE FOR" b3's Top Picks in the categories you need to know. Lets get familiar with the D4.

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3.0L SDV6, 245 hp, 600 Nm, 30.4 mpg, 1072 km per tank

Command Shift 6-speed Adaptive Automatic Transmission

Steptronic Manual Selection in low or high range

Electronically controlled centre locking differential

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Adjustable Air Suspension

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Power, Folding Mirrors

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Tilt/Slide Sunroof 19" Alloy Wheels

Xenon Headlights

Signature LED Daytime Running Lights

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Load Space Cover

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Interior Mood Lighting

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Teloscopic Steering Wheel Interior Leather (Seats, Steering Wheel, Armrest, Gearshift Knob)

Interior Lighting Package

Illuminated Vanity Mirrors Gloss Black Trim

Dual Automatic Air Condition with Rear AC Vents Three Rows of Seats (7 seater)

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{SAFETY}

{TECHNOLOGY}

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Acoustic Parking Aid - Front and Rear

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7" Touch Screen Display

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4 Wheel Electronic Traction Control

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Bluetooth Connectivity

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Dynamic Stability Control Hill Descent Control

Emergency Brake Assist

Four channel all terrain Anti-Lock Brake System Electric Park Brake

Electronic Brake Force Distribution

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Roll Stability Control

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Gradient Acceleration Control

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Active Roll Mitigation

6 air bags (driver, front passenger, side and curtain)

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Alarm System - Perimetric

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Light and Rain Sensor

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Automatic Headlights

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Auxiliary Input Cruise Control DVD player

FM/AM/CD/MP3 Player

Harmon/Kardon 11 Speaker Sound System including Subwoofer Ipod Connectivity Push Button Start

Smart Key - Remote lock/unlock/lights on/tailgate open and window operation Trip Computer with message centre USB port

Voice Control System

Visit ATL Automotive Ltd. for further details.

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His music speaks volumes, and his messages resonate long after the last notes have faded. The eldest son of Bob and Rita Marley, it wouldn't surprise you to hear we at b3 have been huge fans of David Nesta “Ziggy” Marley for (a collective) lifetime; who hasn’t been? To say we admire him even more now, and with a more personal respect as not only an artiste but as a father and a family man, would be an understatement.

Married to his beautiful wife Orly for 8 years, and father to 6 children (ranging in age from 23 years to 23 months), he’s profound, humble and someone we don’t hesitate to call, quite simply, ‘wise’. He strikes us as one to take things in his stride.

Imagine a smooth reggae beat as you read this. Reflect on some of his tunes (we could never fit all our favorites here!) while you dive a little deeper into the melody that is the life of the one and only, Ziggy Marley.

We’re sharing our conversation with Mr. Marley, "Discography - Style", in:

Ziggy Marley Family Time

by Claire Harrisingh, Jamaica

Photo: Kii Arens

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“The donkey wah water, hold him Joe... Spring round de corner, hold him Joe...”

Hold Him Joe Album_ Family Time Release_ May 5, 2009

What’s your earliest musical memory?

Involving music...one of the earliest memories is my father doing a song called ‘Hold Him Joe’.

Your father is such an icon. Is it even possible to describe what it feels like to be the son of a legend? I can imagine pride, maybe a little pressure in the early days as an artiste - but to you was he just ‘Dad’?

Yeah I mean Dad, and ‘Teacher’. The icon thing nuh happen until a lot after he passed away.

I mean, mi love mi father icon or not, yu know? So I mean .

the iconic thing really don't have nothing to do with how I feel bout my father.

Give us a little insight as to what he was like as a father?

As a father? Discipline and respect, and manners, were important to him. School education, school was a must. He

just wanted our life better than his life - as parents you want your children’s life to be better than the life you had and that is what he wanted for us.

Your Mother is such a big activist and philanthropist herself. What was one of her biggest “no no’s” growing up?

Always, if you don't listen you get a nice spanking or something. Mummy was always a strong woman, even as a child, I remember me running away from her with her chasing me around the outside of our yard...throwing shoes

at me! [laughs] She was tough and demanded respect from all of her children.

“So for you, so for all of I Love must live, hate must die Don't draw no line, don't you be so blind”

Photo: Yoshihiro Makino

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...YOU HAFFI SHOW THEM, YOU CAN’T JUST TELL THEM. LEAD BY EXAMPLE IS THE MAIN THING. AND BE THERE. BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILDREN

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Brothers and Sisters Ziggy Marley & The Melody Makers Album_ Joy & Blues Release_1993

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One of the images which stands out for b3 of your father is him playing football - I saw similar scenes in your Family Time video...so football is definitely in the Marley genes!

Do you see echoes of how you were raised in how you are bringing up your own children?

Yeah man, football ah di number one sport for us as a family...

up, my mother and father were away. She took care of us and she was

Speaking of those ‘genes’ - the Marleys are synonymous with excellence in music. Do you think music and creativity is a gift your family has been blessed with?

I think so, I mean, same values we try to instill - discipline, manners…

respect. Yeah, I mean my Grand Aunt had a lot to do with bringing us another disciplinarian too. The discipline thing and having manners and showing respect is something that I learned from I was little bit, so I teach my children that.

Yeah, I mean, yeah, everything, all the good things in life, are a

Your nickname, Ziggy, really stuck! Any good nicknames for your children?

and perseverance play a part. Practice so you try get better and better.

Danny-Bam, Gids-Son, Zuzu...

blessing...but it’s something you have to work at, still. I think discipline

It don't just happen. The gift is just the beginning of it – it’s the hard work and the practice and the time you put in place that makes the

excellence, and the acknowledgement of the music. So, sure it’s a gift but you have to put in the practice to make that gift, you know, SHINE. Mek it look good and feel right, yu know?

“Tomorrow People, where is your past... Tomorrow People, how long will you last...”

Tomorrow People LIVE Album_ Ziggy Marley in Concert Release_ January 15, 2013

Ammmm... I have some nicknames for them yeah.

Do they have any favourite songs of yours?

I don't know, I never asked them!

You’ve spoken before about Jamaica’s culture being ‘ diluted’, the loss of traditions. What is one culture gem you keep alive with your kids seeing as how you’re based between Florida, Jamaica and California?

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Let me see...my kids them, I mean, the way I talk. Them understand me when mi talk jus RAW “Jamaican”, RAW patois! Mi keep dat.

Just my lifestyle is much different.

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AS PARENTS YOU WANT YOUR CHILDREN’S LIFE TO BE BETTER THAN THE LIFE YOU HAD

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“So don't let nobody stop us Free spirits have to soar With you, I share the gift The gift that we now know...”

Love is My Religion Ziggy Marley Album_ Love is My Religion Release_ July 2, 2006

What’s special time for you and your wife to keep connected? Do you do the ‘ date night’ thing?

Yeah man we do date night, I mean, cause it takes a lot to raise the

children them and your work so you have to find the time for love life and date life and all them life deh you know. You have to make some special time to just keep that together you know, because that is an integral part of the whole family structure

You’re a father of 6. So, you must have some advice for our Caribbean Dad readers. One piece of advice; what would it be?

The advice is... be a good example, yuh know. Lead by example, lead by your actions...you haffi show them you can’t just tell them. Lead by

example is the main thing and to be there. Be there for your children, be responsible.

Is love really your religion? How do you communicate about spirituality with your kids?

Well by living it, you know. By living it. We say prayers and thing

at night time. But mostly by just living life according to the idea of loving nature, loving other people, manners, respect and things like

that. A little bit of praying, a little bit of reading the bible and things like that thrown in there. But most of all is the example that we leave,

and the kids them see that love is that spirituality; and every now and then mi shout out “Jah, Rastafari”!

“And if your choice is reggae, you don't need nuh dancing shoes Suh listen to the message, and you know you won't lose Look who come, come dancing pon we dancing floor again...”

Look Who’s Dancing Ziggy Marley and the Melody Makers Album_One Bright Day Release_ July 25, 1989

I have to say, you have one of the BEST smiles! What do you do that’s guaranteed to make your children smile - everybody has a go-to move whether it’s "peekaboo" or "this little piggy"....

Ahhhhh (laughs)

Me? I dance! (laughs)

Oh you’re a big dancer!

No I’m not a big dancer! That’s why them laugh! (Laughs)

I can’t even imagine you looking vex...what brings that out in you as a Daddy?

Vex? Mi nuh really get vex. But I can act like I’m vex to get them

straighten up certain time. But sometimes you have to put it on yu know.

“Now the world gets busy But its not hard to see Family means the most to me...”

Family Time Ziggy Marley with Judah Marley Album_ Family Time Release_ May 5, 2009

5 Grammys! The last one for your ‘Family Time’ children’s album - which we LOVE! What brought that project about?

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The children's album, well it was just as Judah was about 2 years old, and I think I just wanted to speak to children directly and use

music as that vehicle. If my intention is to have some effect on people through music, the idea was that children are the most open minded

beings, they’re not yet conditioned. So if you want to use music as an influence, you haffi speak to children, so that’s the reason why we did that record yu know?

What’s your idea of family time?

Well family time is just staying home, you know? We play football outside, run up and down, watch a movie. Doing anything, just being TOGETHER, that is my idea.

“Who got the power, I do Who got the say, I do (yeah) Who got the play, I do I will find a way”

Personal Revolution Live Ziggy Marley in Concert January 15, 2012

The world is SO close to seeing the end of polio, such a crippling disease. You’ve donated Personal Revolution to the End Polio Now CD and joined forces with Rotary in this fight to make sure every child is vaccinated. Talk to me a little about why this was a project you wanted to get involved with.

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goodness to try engage and help in whatever way we can help.

You lend your voice to several philanthropic ventures which involve children and healthy living...What’s your biggest hope for our own Caribbean children who are growing up in a world with so many... influences?

I think that education has to be the priority, not just education but education to things in our culture, in our history. We need to

understand our past more and celebrate, you know, our culture - so I think it’s important. Education is the key for our children. That’s the

only way for a better future, to have more emphasis on getting EVERY child good basic education primarily, and then higher education later on. It has to be a priority.

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“Day in day out I've asked many questions, I say only to find the truth it never changes, I say...”

True to Myself LIVE Album_Ziggy Marley in Concert Release_ January 15, 2013

What is a life lesson you’ve learnt that you want to pass on to your own children?

Life lesson? Well, ‘do unto others as you’d have them do unto you’ I think is a good life lesson yuh know...It’s something that may have been said before, but it’s true you know. And I tell them that.

If you don’t want somebody do something to you, mustn’t do it to

them. If somebody don’t want you do something to them they mustn’t do it to you eitha’. It goes both ways, so it’s a very important.

The first three ways to describe being a father that come to mind: Love is the first, leading by example is a close second and patience, have to say patience.

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Ziggy Marley’s new live album “Ziggy Marley in Concert” is available in physical release worldwide from January 15, 2013. His track, Personal Revolution, was donated to the benefit CD “End Polio Now”; support the movement by visiting: www.endpolio.org.

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Picks by Fidge Fab! Photos: Dwayne Jureidini

Accessorisng and dressing for your body type is important during pregnancy because it helps to maintain confidence and youthfulness. This is a great way to ‘preserve your sexy!. "Once your Physician gives you the go-ahead… heels are a quite fine. Opt for flats in the day, and rock those heels at night. You’ll be in them for a shorter period, reducing excess pressure on your lower back and legs”, says Fidge Fab. “Just don’t overdo it.

Listen to your body, and be sure to have a cute pair of flats on hand as a back-up plan!”

‘Yvette’ Cross-Body Clutch by Inge Christopher Dress up or down!

A must-have in your wardrobe. .

Turkish Gold Necklace with Precious Gems Get the look and feel of royalty with this statement piece.

Kendra Scott Turquoise Cocktail Ring Make your hands GLOW with this standout ring.

Waverly Black Peep-Toe Suede Booties

by Pelle Moda Super soft and comfortable for your feet. Almost feels like you’re wearing flats!

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Orange and Red HandBeaded Clutch by Santi Introduce a gorgeous POP of colour to your wardrobe!

Sergio Zelcer Nude Pump Pregnant or not!!!

Your wardrobe is incomplete without a pair of nude pumps.

Fidge Fab is a Celebrity Fashion Stylist who began her training in Jamaica with Maxine Walters Productions and completed her Masters in Fashion Design in Milan, under the apprenticeship of Roberto Cavalli. Based in the world’s fashion capital, Fidge’s New York City style resume includes working alongside Laura Ferrara, Keegan Singh, Jen Kao and being Head Visual Stylist at Club Monaco. Her client list names Kerry Washington, Amanda Seyfried, Cee Lo Green, Coco Rocha and Andersen Cooper.

Follow Fidge Fab on Twitter @Fidgefab Foot Candy is located at 8 Hillcrest Avenue, Kingston 6. Unit #3. Tel. 876-927-7062

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BRUSTER’S GUYANA

hen you live in the

Caribbean it can

be hard to beat

the heat all year

round. Lucky

for you b3 is on the case, and we’ve got

the ‘scoop’ on three of the ‘coolest’ spots to enjoy ice

cream with the family across the region! Talk about a sweet treat! Here are our top picks for

b3 Explore

Ice Cream DEVON HOUSE ‘I SCREAM’

Kingston, Jamaica

Rated the 4th best place in the world

to enjoy ice cream by National Geographic, we have to agree that there is something

special about this tiny treasure of a shoppe.

Each delicious, mouth watering scoop of Devon House ‘I Scream’ is packed with

a little piece of Jamaica. Made in Jamaica,

by Jamaicans, scoop after scoop captures

the natural richness of Jamaican Soursop,

Mango, Coffee, Pineapple, Guava and much more. With the introduction of ‘Peanut’ and

the ‘Jamaica 50th’, their listing has increased

to 29 delectable flavours, with Rum and Raisin,

Grapenut and Devon Stout being popular favorites!

Devon House ‘I Scream’ is open 11am to 10pm Monday to Sunday. 26 Hope Rd, Kingston 10, Jamaica.

Contact them at: 876-929-7028 or 876-920-8666

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Georgetown, Guyana

Bruster’s Guyana is proud to be the first international location

for Bruster’s Real Ice Cream. They have over 200 flavours of

ice cream on offer, 24 of which are available and made fresh

every day, right inside the store with only the finest ingredients.

Look out for their waffle cones and bowls - their ‘signature

products’ - freshly made every day too! Bruster’s believes

that ‘ice cream is one of life’s great, simple pleasures’ - and we certainly have to agree! Local faves include: White Turtle, Chocolate Lover’s Trash and New York Cheesecake.

Bruster’s is open Monday to Saturday 10:00am to 10:00pm and Sunday 11am to 10pm. Find them at: 32-33 Regent & Hinck Streets, Robbstown, Georgetown.

For more information call: 592-225-3060

AUSTRALIAN HOMEMADE

Redcliffe Quay, St. John’s Antigua

Australian Homemade Ice Cream

celebrated its sixth anniversary

in March 2012 and is a popular spot for families to enjoy the

natural ice cream and sorbet

flavours offered - freshly made daily in Antigua using only natural

ingredients with no preservatives

or artificial flavours. The secret of

their success is the taste – ice cream

that is creamy and sorbets alive with

fruit flavours. Local favourites include Vanilla, Belgium Chocolate and

Crunchie Macadamia Ice Cream

and Coconut, Mango and Raspberry

Sorbets

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Our stylish diaper bags keep moms feeling chic and organized, and can be used as their favorite handbag long after diapers.

For more info visit timiandleslie.com

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We’re featuring an Escape which caters for all b3 readers - whether you’re Bump-in’, Baby-in’ or Beyond-in’!. Couples looking for a romantic babymoon getaway AND families looking to get away and enjoy each other’s company are sure to be kept as entertained (or relaxed) as they like. Visit the beautiful Antigua with us, as we check in at:

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Curtain Bluff

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C .

urtain

Bluff

e s c ap e

for

is the perfect

couples on a babymoon and

families alike

and is without

a doubt one of the Caribbean's finest resorts, boasting: a picture-perfect location between

two beaches, friendly atmosphere, gourmet

reserve the spa’s relaxation deck where they

cuisine and a host of outstanding activities

can enjoy chocolate-covered strawberries and

All this is incorporated in a fully inclusive rate

THE FAMILY VACATION noun [fam-uh-lee vey-key-shuhn]

(including scuba diving and deep sea fishing). peer out at the island of Montserrat. that is truly one of the best values in the region.

Every room at the resort offers a gorgeous

ocean-view. This winning formula has proven

so successful with visitors that the Resort

enjoys one of the highest return-guest rates in the Caribbean.

THE BABYMOON noun [ba-be-mün] Curtain Bluff Resort in Antigua provides the

perfect backdrop for a romantic Caribbean

Families can enjoy quality fun and relaxation

time with their young or grown children at the luxury all-inclusive Curtain Bluff in

Antigua, surrounded by two beautiful sandy beaches. With everything included in the

room rate, parents can truly relax knowing

everything is already taken care of - no charge

for an extra drink and the boutique resort can

accommodate special meal requests for choosy

getaway. The boutique resort can accommodate

eaters. Families can reconnect and enjoy some

private dinner on the beach or a wine tasting

from the internet, and can instead spend the

exclusive romantic experiences, such as a

So, let’s see...largest wine cellar in the

Caribbean (yum), Spa (ahhhh), Relaxation

quality time bonding without TVs and away

Deck with Jacuzzi (ohmm), TWO beaches

(for Daddy!) at Curtain Bluff's wine cellar – day snorkeling together, playing bocce and

PLUS catering to picky eaters (phew...)?? See.

the largest in the Caribbean! Couples can also

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(zzzzz) AND activities (wheeeeee!) included

shuffleboard, or simply relaxing on the beach. You. There!

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Stylish New Mummy Styling: Arlene L. Martin for drennaLUNA.com Photography: Marc Evans, marcevansimages.com

Make-up: Angelie Martin-Spencer Model: Gillian Zacca, mother of a ten-month old baby boy and entrepreneur.

I

f you’ve just recently given birth and are ready to re-enter

the world, I’m sure you still want to do so stylishly. A

challenge is that you’re dressing a new body and you may also have a new lifestyle.

Dressing the new body does not mean you can’t be as

stylish as before, or even more so, and no one has to be able

to tell at first glance you’re “a beautiful new mom” rather than “a beautiful woman”. There are a few dress types and

looks I’d suggest trying to achieve that look.

The Tunic: The tunic hangs loose from the bust to the hem, sometimes

skimming the hips, but very importantly does not highlight the tummy

area at all. Unlike a muumuu it is not very wide and very unlikely to leave

people wondering if you’re pregnant instead of being a new mom. The tunic is especially stylish in your most flattering short length to show great legs

accented with lovely heels or a sandals. For this period, it can be a great wardrobe basic for casual days to even cocktail pieces.

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[on opposite page] The look: A longsleeved mini option in a print for a daytime meeting. Gillian carries the Charlie Bag by Timi&Leslie, serving on this occasion for her hand bag.

The Wrap dress: One of the most flattering styles is a wrap dress, and it covers even more when made of a print fabric or in a knit, jersey or other fluid fabric (but not too light in weight). The wrap does a good job of concealing any tummy bulge.

And the typically flattering neckline allows you to accessorise and bring eyes towards your face and not the body – if you so desire.

The look: A long knit wrap dress with detail at the neckline keeps focus higher, but the wrap does well to conceal as well.

Draping: Soft draping, especially if done diagonally from the shoulder is perfect for concealing.

The look: (Tangerine dress) The added drape detail of this dress falls over the front of the body completely, so while otherwise form-fitting so you still feel beautiful, you do without being conscious of any flaws.

(Yellow dress) Draping at the shoulder and neckline bring the eyes to these details, although they do add some flow over an otherwise form-fitting dress.

A bold necklace further brings attention to the face.

Structured items: A garment made of a firm medium – heavy weight may be constructed with some structure and is great for creating and holding curves.

The Look: a structured skirt works well for a great evening out.

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MEMORY BANKING through the lens...

Interview: Claire Harrisingh • Photos: Dwayne Watkins Photography Location Shots: Building Blocks Nursery School, Kingston Jamaica

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Dwayne Watkins has already established himself as one of the regions most sought after wedding and lifestyle photographers. Now, with his latest offering, 'Family by Dwayne Watkins Photography', he's capturing memories for Caribbean families in his own inimitable style. Dwayne, b3's own Director of Photography and a proud Godfather of 2, shares with us on how to make sure those memories really do last a lifetime.

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BETWEEN YOUR WEDDING, LIFESTYLE AND CORPORATE CLIENTS, NOT TO MENTION YOUR WORK WITH B3, YOU'RE ALREADY A BUSY MAN! WHY INTRODUCE 'FAMILY' TO YOUR BRANDS’ OFFERINGS? People get engaged, contact you, and you

do their engagement photos. The wedding comes around, you do those photos. When

you’re a wedding photographer specifically

“

WHAT'S THE MOST CHALLENGING PART OF PHOTOGRAPHING CHILDREN? Being that we’re not full time ‘kid

photographers’ we definitely have to switch

gears on Family shoots! You’re on their time,

having to shoot between naps, playtime,

different moods, being unable to confine kids

to a particular time slot...shooting kids you

really have to block out enough time to really

your relationship stops there. We wanted to

get the shot which will make parents happy.

and ensure that for all their photography needs

picture three kids under seven, one of them

getting bombarded with requests for family

his own thing! Wasn't interested in taking

continue a lifelong relationship with our clients

they can call on us. In addition to that we were

photos! [laughs]

SO IT’S ABOUT CAPTURING LIFE AFTER THE WEDDING? Definitely. We introduced Family by DWP because we know life really starts after the

wedding. They have newborns, there are

birthday parties...we wanted to be able to

harness all those memories, be responsible

for capturing all that based off the great

relationship we’d already developed. So rather than having clients start a new relationship

with another photographer we decided

WE INTRODUCED FAMILY BY DWP BECAUSE WE KNOW LIFE REALLY STARTS AFTER THE WEDDING

Shooting a family the other day, just

.

”

just came with an attitude - wanted to do

pictures; so getting that shot for the Mother who just wanted one great happy image of the

three of them was definitely a process - lots

of distractions and making every attempt to

keep his attention and keep a happy dynamic!

But, I have a weakness for kids, I love children, absolutely adore them..so they can get away

with pretty much anything on set [laughs].

Even when they’re ‘challenging’ and parents

are threatening with ‘time outs’, how can you

get frustrated with a cute face looking at you through the lens!

to stick with them throughout their

journey as their family life grows.

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WHAT MOMENTS YOU THINK FAMILIES SHOULD GO FOR TO BUILD A GREAT MEMORY BANK OF IMAGES? I’m not a parent myself, but I have God children, my friends have kids, and I talk to

them and say “guys, just take pictures every

day!”. Looking back at my own childhood I barely have any pictures growing up - so it’s

important for me to make sure other people do.

For me it’s not about specific moments - it's

about creating a ‘memory bank’. Capture a

smile, the love, that relationship you have with

a child because those images become infinitely

more important when they themselves are adults with children of their own.

“

WHEN I SHOOT MY FOCUS IS MORE ON THE EMOTIONS.

”

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WITHOUT GIVING AWAY YOUR "MAGIC FORMULA", CAN YOU SHARE SOME TIPS FOR PARENTS WHO NEED TO "SNAP" ON THEIR OWN? The truth is this (and I want to be very clear here), my style of photography, whether it's

Snapshots from DWP •

weddings or any other client, I NEVER

favourite toys and activities...even

aspect of photography. I don't shoot FOR

fast asleep. Get them at every

photographers, I don’t recommend that parents shoot FOR photographers. When

stage.

•

You can google how to take a good picture

a professional grade camera, get

look at my images and say they’re technically

outside. Good lighting is critical

wrong but I guarantee you that clients look

allowing, get a camera which

moment that’s been immortalised. There’s

allows you to get good low light

really no formula beyond getting the emotion

shots indoors.

•

“

”

.

to getting a good shot. Budget

at them and feel something. They FEEL the

...THOSE IMAGES BECOME INFINITELY MORE IMPORTANT WHEN THEY THEMSELVES ARE ADULTS WITH CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN.

know the features you have and

‘auto’ settings. If you don’t have

million other examples. Photographers may

capture a moment that’ll last forever.

Use the camera you have. Get to experiment - don’t just stick to

and they’ll give you the “rule of thirds” and a

that’s happening. That’s how you REALLY

PICTURES! Everyday, doing

everyday things. Bathtime, dinner,

try to be completely true to the technical

I shoot my focus is more on the emotions.

My number 1 tip - just TAKE

Be interactive with the child,

make him/her smile - make a fool of yourself! Anything to get that priceless smile. Again, VERY

little about technical emphasis,

more about emotions - so do what you have to do to bring that out.

•

Be PATIENT. Kids have a mind of their own, so just try to work

with them - I find everyone stays happy that way!

•

Get down to their level, don’t

be afraid to lie on the ground so you get a great angle from their perspective.

• Focus on the eyes, they’re the window to the soul after all

and best reveal the emotion behind a shot.

Visit Dwayne’s blog to see more of his work at: www.dwaynewatkins.com/blog

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The GoDmOtheR

by Kamille Jackson,

Jamaica

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A

t an early age I was

diagnosed with

Wanderlust. It is a condition of

curiosity and intrigue, which has

held me captive for as long as I can

remember, and being a Godmother

has added a new dynamic to this state in which I find myself; delighted by the cross cultural transfer of my

roles and duties.

I could relate tales of which

movies are made. Some of which are

not made for “Disney”, of my Canadian

Godchildren, Norwegian newborns and

my Trini two year old who all challenged my Godmother skills across cultures, ages, languages

and time zones. But this remains the same: Hugs are universal. Tantrums are multilingual, and treats may

vary... but what these small people teach us is vast

in pulling us out of our adult shells that protect us from the very world we bring these children into. If

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not but for a reminder, for it is written: "Unless you

become like one of these,

you will not inherit the

kingdom of God."

My most recent stint

came whilst I succumbed

to my state of lust in Wander; and I realized

that “Doubles” in

Jamaica has been Jamaicanized. Maybe

because we think "we

nice", that delicious Trini

staple is, in Kingston

Jamaica, wrapped up in

a Mexican looking fajita

– incognito style. No yum lost, but I was at a loss as we pulled up to our ‘doubles

man’ on the corner little east of Port of Spain and was

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handed a flat dough with chick peas

was rewarded when he fell asleep on

and all sorts of spices and sauces on

my chest after playing drums on my

to eat this in my nice, nice dress-up

again for the first time in his second

to wear my white frilly blouse and

If we cannot be like these

top. How, pray tell was I supposed

clothes?! On the single day I choose

a fancy pashmina, no less! With no

previous training, I looked to the two

back, only four days after meeting me

year.

youngsters, we will not enter into

the Kingdom... It chorused through

year old who effortlessly knew which

my mind to a Parang rhythm and I

grab, grasp and scoop the tasty treat

old teacher's lessons were.

looking and then mimicking to my

more like a child? Can we, as adults,

Having fancied the neighbouring

children? To be more persistent, more

introduced me to “Tiny Whiny” before

minded and goal oriented and trusting.

fingers to place where to effectively into its destination. I felt like a child,

goals end. Hurrah!

island's accent since my Aunty Patsy

I could walk, I delighted in hearing

thought how impressive this two year In this New Year can I become

be strong enough to learn from our

discerning, quicker to forgive, singleAs I watched him curled up on me

banter around the house, and never

sleeping, wrapped up in trust of me

translating baby talk across accents

I thought of how I needed to take

did I let them know that my skills in was not up to par. But repetition is

the best teacher I have learned, and

can effectively credit my improved

.

that resounded in his peacefulness,

a page out of his book, wide spaced

large print and ready to receive colour

as I would issue it, from God. I need

“HUGS ARE UNIVERSAL. ” TANTRUMS ARE MULTILINGUAL linguistic abilities to his persistence.

'Copta’ rang in my ears like a Sparrow song to a juvenile beat and my two

to be sure to trust like Zacky, to be at

peace like him, to persistently forge ahead against all odds (or when the

year old and I now have a new bond. adult does not understand his words).

His single-mindedness in getting me to understand what he wanted to

Back on the Rock now, having

perfected the art of Doubles

communicate to me was fascinating. manipulation and the pleasant sing-

His persistence was never ceasing. song intonation , I look forward

Two year old Zacky had a goal, and

I had learned the lesson. We spent quality time bonding over YouTube

videos of helicopters, and my heart

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to implementing my lessons and

reminders that Zacky taught me. And

I won't protest about our wrapped up

Doubles!!

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b3 Eats!

Chris De La Rosa’s love of Caribbean cooking has taken him from a small village in Trinidad and Tobago to millions of kitchens around the world, thanks to his website CaribbeanPot.com. From the time Chris was just five-years-old, he was already comfortable in the kitchen. Gathering cooking tips from other family members along the way, Chris was well equipped, by the time he moved to Canada in 1989, to fend for himself among the pots and pans. .

A

BANANA FRITTERS lthough the self-

A Caribbean Favourite

Keep in touch with Chris De La Rosa:

www.CaribbeanPot.com Youtube.com/caribbeanpot facebook.com/pages/CaribbeanPot/160863714535 twitter.com/obzokee Instagram: “caribbeanpot” Download a copy of “The Vibrant Caribbean Pot” ebook for some amazing Caribbean recipes sure to bring back AND make brand new memories for your family. Available at www.

CaribbeanPot.com and on Kindle (Amazon.com)

taught Chef has

also

mastered

North American

fare, his heart belongs to the

Caribbean

recipes on which he was raised and which

are documented and shared via CaribbeanPot.

com, Facebook, his newsletter and YouTube.

Imagine, this began with him documenting recipes for his daughters (he has three with wife Caron - Kieana 19, Tehya 18 and India

16). We’re hooked on his delivery style and the

incredible recipes he shares with unmistakable

pride in his region’s cuisine. He’s truly bringing

the ‘Caribbean Pot’ to the World - and back “Growing up on the islands it’s not uncommon to have banana trees around your home, so

again. He shares two great recipes from his

ebook: ‘The Vibrant Caribbean Pot’ with b3.

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we always had ripe bananas to snack on. I recall my mom making this treat for us when the

bananas were going a bit too ripe -but back then there was no confectionery sugar topping!”

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YOU’LL NEED . . .

3 ripe bananas 1 egg 1/2 cup of sugar 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract 1/2 teaspoon of ground cinnamon 2 cups of all-purpose flour 1 tablespoon of baking powder 3 cups of vegetable oil for frying confectioner sugar (optional, but nice finishing touch)

DIRECTIONS

1.

In a fairly large bowl, peel and cut the bananas into chunks. Mash to a smooth consistency, using a fork or potato masher. It will have the consistency of baby food . . . parents will know what I mean.

2.

In a separate bowl whip the egg, then add sugar, vanilla and cinnamon. Whip again until the sugar breaks down. Now add that to the bowl of mashed bananas. You can certainly use an electric mixer if you wish, but I much prefer a wire whisk (burn some calories before replacing them with tasty ones).

3.

The f inal step in preparing the batter is to slowly start adding in the flour and baking powder. Mix until you have a smooth batter, without any lumps.

4.

Heat the oil on a medium/high flame and add spoonfuls (tablespoons) of batter to it. It will take about 1 minute to get golden brown.

Flip and cook for another minute until the other side is golden brown. They will float when they’re cooked.

5.

6.

Remove and drain on paper towels.

Final step before eating is to dust with the confectionery sugar. Serve warm. Good with vanilla ice cream on the side.

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ISLAND STYLE CHICKEN STRIPS

“Following on the technique we’d use for making fried chicken when I was a kid on the islands (still remember pounding the crackers in a tea towel to make the crumbs), these could easily be the best chicken strips you’ll ever have”. -Chris De La Rosa .

YOU’LL NEED . . . salted crackers (about 1.5 cups crumbs)

2 eggs 1/4 teaspoon sea salt 1/4 teaspoon black pepper 2-3 cups oil for frying (vegetable oil) 3/4 cup all purpose flour * sea salt (optional)

2 scallions

1 tablespoon thyme

1 tablespoon parsley

2 chicken breast (split) about 1 lb

DIRECTIONS

1.

5.

2.

6.

Place the crackers in a zip lock bag or in a tea towel and then using a rolling pin or wine bottle, crush until you have the consistency of bread crumbs. I like texture, so I try to leave some of it a bit chunky. Set aside in a bowl.

Chop the scallions, thyme and parsley finely.

Then add it to the bowl with the cracker crumbs and give it a good stir. (I know this step is a bit strange to my Caribbean readers as we’re seasoning the bread crumbs and not the chicken as we would traditionally do.)

3.

Cut the chicken into 1/4 inch strips (don’t fuss with being even), wash, drain and set aside. Crack both eggs into another bowl and toss in the black pepper and salt then give it a whisk.

4.

We now have the chicken cut into pieces, the seasoned crumbs and eggs. It’s time to set up a batter and frying station. We’ll need the vegetable oil in a deep pan (I used a small wok so the oil doesn’t splatter onto the stove while frying) on med/high heat. Plates with the flour, the seasoned crumbs, the chicken strips, egg wash and a paper towel-lined plate (or basket) to drain the excess oil when the chicken strips are done.

Take a piece of chicken and dust it in the flour, then into the eggs and drain off the excess egg . Next roll in the seasoned bread crumbs. Do about 4-5 of these chicken pieces so once you start adding to the hot oil, you’ll have a few to go in at the same time.

Your oil should be hot by now, so gently place each strip in. Flip after a couple minutes and keep an eye on them. If you find that they’re browning too fast, turn your heat down a bit. It takes about 5-7 minutes to fully cook and have that lovely golden brown colour. Drain on the paper towels and continue until all the chicken strips are cooked. Sprinkle (while hot) with a little sea salt if you wish.

7.

These chicken strips will look stunning when they come out of the fryer, with the golden colour and specs of green herbs. And honestly . . . they will be absolutely delicious. With a wonderful crunch from the seasoned cracker crumbs (airy as if you used Panko crumbs), tender and very moist (fully cooked) on the inside. You’ll be a superhero to your kids after you serve up a batch of these. But be warned, they won’t want you to go back to the stuff you used to get them at those fast food spots!

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b3 Islan’dad

Jr. Pinchers

by Claire Harrisingh, Jamaica Photos: Amanda Edelson Photography

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0-year-old Kemar Thompson a.k.a. Jr. Pinchers, has been on the music scene

since he began performing at age 7 at school functions and talent shows. Yes, you made the correct connection, his Dad is the one and only reggae great, Pinchers.

Married for 2 and a half years to Christy, and father to 2 year old Aydon, the

family may reside in Miami but Kemar is absolutely resolute in calling Jamaica ‘Home

Base’! Jr. Pinchers was warm and friendly, the conversation flowed well beyond our brief

interview which was interspersed with a lot of laughs and talk of his island home. He asked us to: “make sure that everybody know, Jr.P love every nation!” We caught up with him on a quick break from his busy schedule building his own legacy in the industry and setting the stage for his 2 year old son.

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We love your Dad’s music - Bandelero is such a classic!

That’s the way I look at it. I think it’s definitely a positive having a

He’s very involved, even more so recently since I’ve been involved in

How do you keep your son connected to his Caribbean (Jamaican) roots?

How involved is he as a Grandfather?

a lot of projects - reaching out and trying to get really in depth with

me on finding out how things are going and how he can help. It’s his first Grandson so he’s happy being very much involved!

What has been his best advice since you became a Dad yourself?

Put your family first. He told me that in this world, in the entertainment

world especially, you can carried away in a lot of things and neglect your family. You know what I mean? That’s where your roots are so you have to keep that close and put your roots first. So that’s what

I’m doing. And that I’ll always be successful, always be a focused person, if I do that.

Artists do tend to get a bad rap when it comes to family - you’re a married man, with a beautiful son. How do you prioritize and put family first like your dad advises?

Take the time out to be there for them, you know what I mean? It’s very hectic being an entertainer but there are times when you just

have to lay your business aside and put in the family work. Because

without a family, there’s no you really. That’s how I look at it. Coming up I never thought I’d be at the age I am, married and having a child.

Now that it’s happened, it’s life changing. Everybody thinks that being an artist and having a family life takes away from you being a good

artist. I realise that’s a lie. It gives you the opportunity to realise the

family life and being an artist or anybody who aims towards success.

A lot of things, you know what I mean. We try to keep home Jamaican

oriented, and we do have a lot of family where we are in Miami so he’s taken around them a lot. We talk to him about Jamaica to let him

know where he’s coming from. I’m planning too to take him home to Jamaica to get him hands on with his Caribbean culture before he turns 3 so we’ll be going soon with him.

What is special father/son time for you and Aydon?

Basically my thing with him is going to the park, running around and daily chores. It’s a warm feeling. It’s good to know I can be the

kind of father to take the time out to instill in him what I feel are

real values. I have an obligation to take him to Jamaica soon-he hasn’t been yet! His grandparents are dying to have that time with him and show him around...

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Take him for a patty... [laughs] Exactly! Hellshire beach, all the thing dem! Him nuh get that yet, him need to get it!

Three words to describe being a Dad: Fun [laughs], energising and I would say definitely life-changing.

Listen to and look out for Jr. Pinchers latest single & video: Japanese Girl. Check him out at http://www.jrpinchers.com

impact of your music by just setting the example at home. It makes

you a more focused person on what you’re doing, a more rooted person.

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BAM BOO ZLED! .

by Sara Conner, Arlington, TX

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amboozled”. That’s what we call it in Jamaica

whine and employ tricks that can put a Magician out of business. I

where I am from. In the US where I currently

remember seeing this play out in my own life. My Mom as vivacious

In my little world of parenting I call it an

aggressive would be an understatement. While my Dad’s was the

live they say “pulling the wool over my eyes”. as she was she was equally stern. To say her method of discipline was

invitation for a discipline encounter. I’m

polar opposite; he yelled, but I never received a spanking from him.

talking about the little game of manipulation.

This was made real clear one day when in my innovation, I decided

year-old to take his shoes from the stairs to his room. There was no

of the fantastic way its unevenness jutted out all around my face. I

eyes and that ‘you had better do what I say and NOW!’ tone. In a

from the Flinstones – mission accomplished. I mean, who couldn’t

can you take my shoes upstairs for me?” No way! This little boy did

up the stairs screaming for my Dad.

him – oh yes he did. Cuddles and all he almost got away with it.

my Mom’s belt tried to find its way to connect.

speech “Landon, go pick up your shoes like Mommy asked”. Pakow

is a price to pay when parents are not unified. It’s called respect.

On this evening in question, I had specifically told my three- to cut my own hair. I just knew I was glamorous and I was so proud

miscommunication – I said it with a pointing finger, beady, squinted

was about five so hey, I was beyond cute. I looked just like Bam Bam

swift movement, he bee-lined to my husband and whispered: “Daddy, see that? My fabulousity? My Mom. She raced for the belt and I ran not just try to undermine me and get someone else to do his job for But (trumpets blaring now) he didn’t. Instead he got the same

– Bam – Shazam – Parent Power Activate! Unwillingly, huffing and puffing but surely as the sun is hot, that little boy took his shoes up the stairs.

This act of Bamboozlement could have gone different ways. It

Hiding me behind himself, he switched me from side to side while That day, I knew. There was a way out – manipulate. See, there

Children, especially toddlers in their formative years, need to know the boundaries. If you are a Single Parent the principle is still the

same. Consistency. Preschoolers need a reliable environment, clear

boundaries and clear consequences or rewards. This is how life works.

could have erupted with an argument between my husband and me, We make a choice and receive a reward or a consequence. Some of saying the “you should have…, why didn’t you…, you always…, you never…,” or with one of us going ahead and picking up his shoes

resentfully. However that didn’t happen.

the things my husband and I had to do were:

1.

Define the major rules – agree on the acceptable behavior. Is it okay to handle knives, throw tantrums, respect others etc. Based

One of the greatest contributors to parental stress is disunity. on each person’s experience those personal convictions may vary so

Children want what they want right now. They will cry, stomp, get on the same page.

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PAKOW – BAM – SHAZAM PARENT POWER ACTIVATE!...

THEY WILL CRY, STOMP, WHINE AND EMPLOY TRICKS THAT CAN PUT A MAGICIAN OUT OF BUSINESS

2.

Define the system – ours was LASOO

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everything they do must operate out of

these five filters: being Loving, Asking before doing, Sharing, being Obedient

and being Orderly i.e put your things back up.

3.

Define the rewards

and consequences –

toddlers understand. For us, then and now, watching TV

is a reward not a right and

responding to an approved

adult is not an option it is required.

4.

Define the roles – both

parents should support each

other. My husband will support what I

mete out to our kids and if he disagrees he

discusses it in private. There is no US versus

THEM it’s just us, all of us.

5.

Depend on wisdom – we poured over the Bible and got our parental

plan there first. On other things we

went to other parents and simply asked

how they dealt with particular issues.

In the end, you have to be fully convinced

that regardless of the circumstance that

brought your child and you together, you

are fully equipped to take care of them.

Whether you are a grandparent taking

care of your grandchild, a divorcee, widow or married, Dad or Mom, begin

to take note of those fluttery eyelashes that seek to butter you up. Keep the

line drawn in the sand and beware of

the Preschool swindlers that move

mountains with their screams, and

hearts with their tears. Be bamboozled no more! Yep. Like that’s gonna

happen - lol!

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uilding Blocks Pre School in Kingston, Jamaica, has been setting the stage for young minds to grow for 17 years. Led by Principal Jodie Williams, the

school has an incredible Team of qualified and nurturing educators on hand

to start your little ones’ journey in education - with “Learning through Play”

as their (lived up to!) motto and a great programme which mixes academics with physical and artistic activities. With students ranging in age from 18 months to 4 years old, they’re the perfect ‘teachers’ to share with b3 readers on:

Preparing Your Child for School • Have your child visit the school, once you have decided on one so he or she can meet the • teachers and see the surroundings before school officially starts.

• Talk about going to school in a positive and exciting light. Try emphasising that they will

• meet new friends and play with new toys or talking about whether the school has something • specific which will pique their interest, like animals.

• Explain the schedule; Mummy and/or Daddy will drop off and will be back after playground • time. .

BUILDING BLOCKS PRE SCHOOL 82 LADY MUSGR AVE ROAD KINGSTON 5 TEL: 876.927.7004 / 876.978.8150 EMAIL: buildingblocksja@hotmail.com WEB: www.buildingblocksja.com FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/ buildingblockspreschoolJA

• Remember to say ‘goodbye’ when leaving. It is important that your child knows you are • leaving for a while but will be back, and that you didn’t just disappear.

• It’s also advisable to send any comfort item that the child may have. Eg. Pacifier, blanket • or stuffed animal.

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Here’s to happy school days!

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by Dr. Thea-Nicole Davis MBBS, DM (OB-GYN), Jamaica Dr. Thea-Nicole Davis is our Consultant Obstetrician and Gynecologist who answers your questions and addresses your concerns on medical matters

pertaining to bumps, babies and beyond. Dr. Davis is mother to 3 yr old Imani. She is an avid reader who, like all our contributing writers, has a passion for children and parenting. Dr. Davis lives in Mandeville, and practices in both Kingston and Mandeville, Jamaica.

Send your questions to info@b3caribbeanmagazine.com

Dear Doc. I had the most gorgeous hair while pregnant. Thick, glossy. Really healthy looking. My baby is now 2 months old and my hair is shedding faster than the baby weight. It's dry, brittle, breaking, and I swear I'm developing bald patches. Please tell me what's going on, and what I can do to stop this!

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What you are experiencing is not unusual after giving birth and there is no need to panic.

Unfortunately this process of the post partum period cannot be stopped but like most

changes during pregnancy, it is only temporary. Everyone’s hair has what is called a hair cycle.

Approximately 90% of our hair is growing at any one time, while the other 10% enters a resting

phase. Every two to three months the resting hair falls out and allows new hair to grow in its place. During

pregnancy as a result of the increased levels of the hormone oestrogen, the hair cycle remains in the growing

phase stimulating hair growth giving the appearance of a full luxurious head of hair. After delivery, oestrogen returns to normal levels allowing the hair that remained in the growth phase to fall out and return to the normal

cycle. Some experience this in stages while others experience it all at once resulting in bald patches. The most

common period of hair loss occurs approximately 2-3 months after delivery and resolves within 15 months. A

few tips to help you during this time include: A diet high in fruits and vegetables, which contain flavonoids and

antioxidants that may provide protection for the hair follicles and encourage hair growth, continue your antenatal supplements/ vitamins that contain vitamin B complex, A and E, Use shampoos and conditioners that contain biotin and silica and Avoid

hair styles that cause tension to the hair roots.

Dear Doctor Thea: I have an awkward question. My 20 month old son has begun to masturbate, and I don't know how to deal with this. My Mother-In-Law says to slap him, and stop him. Is it normal? What do I do?

Firstly, please do not use such a harsh means of punishment for this act. Masturbation is a common childhood habit that both girls and boys engage in. It is a behaviour used to explore his or hers external genitalia and is perfectly normal and a

part of the developmental process. If you “slap” him what you are doing is labelling this act as bad, or dirty. This will create

a sense of guilt and secrecy that can have major effects on his self-esteem and may be unhealthy for his sexual development.

Therefore this is one advice that you can comfortably ignore from your Mother-In-Law.

With that aside you need to set limits. Begin by explaining to your child that it is a private activity, much like toileting,

and should be limited to the bedroom or bathroom. Try distracting your child by getting him interested in another activity with his hands. Increase the amount of parental affection as children usually perform this act for comfort.

If masturbation becomes compulsive and interferes with his normal activities or if he cannot be distracted easily from this

activity then it may indicate a more serious psychological or personal problem and consultation with a pediatrician is necessary.

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Dear Jude QUICK TIP:

diaries

Exposed to mosquitoes???

Invest in a mosquito racket!

Quick, inexpensive and highly effective!!!

Warning: Be sure to keep out of the reach of children!

Check your mosquito net periodically to ensure that it is free of tears.

by Natalie Graham, Jamaica If this does not pertain to your child presently be patient with him, there is

no need to worry, or to react with embarrassment or anger. Instead take it

in stride and recognize it is a part of the normal human sexual experience.

Dear Doc: With the recent dengue scare in my community, I can't help but worry about my 3 children. Is there anything I can do in addition to mosquito nets and screening to keep them safe? How will I know if they DO get dengue? What are the first symptoms to look for?

Follow her blog at napalilli.wordpress.com

AUGUST 22, 2012 Dear Jude, there are things in this life that

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will scare you senseless; they may scare you

so much that you turn away from them, turn against them, insist you despise them. In

some cases, you may turn out to be quite

right to hate them. But all I ask is that at the moment you face the fear at its height, when it’s asking you to choose your response, stop

and think for a minute. Is it fear of the thing, or fear of failing at the thing that

scares you most? Never let garden variety

fear block you from what might become your dearest achievement. You are greater than that.

OCTOBER 22, 2012 Dengue fever is one of the most common mosquito-borne diseases. The

Aedes aegypti mosquito transmits the dengue virus therefore, control of breeding sites is essential in reducing the risk of becoming infected. These

mosquitoes like warm, humid weather and breeds where there is stagnant water.

Therefore ensure that after the rain places where water has collected without any drainage is emptied e.g. flower pots and old tires. In addition to the use of

mosquito nets and screens you can prevent mosquito bites by wearing clothing

that fully covers the skin and the application of insect repellent when outdoors.

Symptoms generally appear 3—14 days after the infective bite. Dengue in infants and toddlers usually starts with the symptoms of a viral illness which

includes high fever, runny nose, cough and a mild skin rash may be present.

In older children symptom may include, a high fever, pain behind the eyes and

in the joints, backaches and headaches. Please consult with your pediatrician if your child experiences any of the above symptoms.

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Dear Jude, you are who you truly are whoever you are when Facebook (or whatever else

may come) isn’t looking. Statuses can be backspaced and modified, photos can be

edited, friends Photoshopped, added or deleted, and events attended just for the timely photo-op. Anyone can cut and paste

“deep thoughts and wise words”. You are

better than that. Live a life of deep meaning,

one with meaningful relationships, and the confidence of a man who knows his value, even when no one is looking. People may

pursue your profile; I’m counting on your character.

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NIGHT WAKING

by Elena Diedrick-Lynch

Elena is owner of blissfulmummy.com, a blog, advice and local resource site.

Write to her at elena@blissfulmummy.com

Interrupted sleep can be the hardest part of parenting to get accustomed to. It’s the one tidbit experienced parents love to enlighten expectant parents with! When I was pregnant it was one of the biggest hurdles with which I had to come to terms.

Someone actually said to me “Hah, you’ll never sleep again!” instead of "Congratulations!" .

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arents of troubled sleepers are often left

wondering why it’s happening to them.

regularly during the night for feedings and unconsciously it becomes

a habit and part of their routine. This is what we call “Habitual

Today’s society can leave parents

Wakers”. If this sounds like your reality, regardless of how long it’s

when they don’t have all the answers.

The Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, otherwise known as my

feeling like failures or inadequate

Don’t worry, you’re not alone and you’re certainly not a failure! Here

are a few detailed tips and tactics to

help you back to a “normal” rested life.

The truth is night waking happens for a few reasons. During infancy

been happening, it can be fixed!!

parenting bible, gives great detail on the “Wake to Sleep” method.

Basically, you would go into your child’s nursery one hour before the

scheduled wake up and gently jostle the child out of their existing sleep cycle forcing them to start a new one. This causes your to child sleep through their scheduled wake up. The method hinges on a couple

newborns wake because they simply don’t have the fat stores on their

elements; it must be done one hour prior to the habitual wake up and

night. During baby-hood, many babies become accustomed to waking

their child generally has multiple wake-ups – especially if you have

little bodies to give them enough calories to sleep through an entire

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to be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed a few hours later when your newborn

starts his or her day all over again.

Many factors contribute to night time wakings including developmental

leaps, growth spurts and teething. They’re actually an expected side effect

of all of those periods of baby’s life and they’ll disrupt their sleep cycles – so expect it! Each of those periods should disappear within a week; if they

seem to stay put after that period, again, you might have a habitual waker

on your hands.

Another reason babies might wake at night is when they haven’t had an

opportunity to fully exert their energy during the day - they’re under tired.

Most commonly they’ll wake up shortly after they’ve been put to bed (usually about 45 minutes into bedtime) upset and unwilling to go back down. For this grumpy infant, The Baby Whisperer suggests a method called Pick

Up/ Put Down. Walk in to your child’s room – you’ll most likely find her

standing hanging on to the crib for dear life and begging to be picked up.

You’re to reassure her without any conversation that you’re there for her and

as soon as she’s calm, lay her back down in her crib with her blanket, lovie,

etc and walk out. I like to rest my hand on my baby’s back for just a moment

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do not fall into the trap of

“I’ll just pick him up this once and that’s it…” it won’t end there to ensure they’re calm and give them further reassurance before I walk out

quietly. You may need to repeat this, but each time is an opportunity to teach your child to calm herself and sleep independently.

When a child hasn’t been taught to be an independent sleeper he is

likely to wake up in a crib and not where he fell asleep, i.e. Mummy’s

arms. Remember, do not fall into the trap of “I’ll just pick him up this

once and that’s it…” it won’t end there and ultimately you’re teaching him

inconsistency by resorting to different tactics. Stick to one method and

don’t deviate. Ensure everyone who deals with baby supports your method or you’ll have an outright revolt on your hands the next time wake-up falls in your lap.

During toddlerhood you might find your little one waking up with

Night Terrors. A Night Terror will start with a high-pitched scream, your child seems to wake up in complete distress and cries inconsolably. From

a physiological perspective it’s similar to sleep walking. Instead of making the transition from a deep sleep to a REM sleep your child got caught

somewhere in between. Your little one might not recognize you or react to

anything you’re saying. So what should you do if it happens? Keep them

from hurting themselves, just be reassuring and hold them if they’ll let you.

How do you avoid this? Try to ensure their routine is consistent and avoid

getting them overtired. If it persists for an extended period consult your pediatrician or a sleep specialist.

Regardless of your sleep issue, rest assured you’re not alone in your

situation and just remember to be consistent with your routine.

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Soles4Souls, Inc. (S4S) Images courtesy of Soles4Souls. Jamaica, December 5-9 2012

oles 4 Souls was

Clothes4Souls that leads trips

2004 as a project to

Honduras, and Jamaica.

launched in December collect shoes for the

to Tanzania, Costa Rica, Haiti,

Soles4Souls receives large

Asian tsunami disaster, and then

donations from footwear companies,

August 2005. It has since grown to

ministries, civic groups, schools, and

for Hurricane Katrina victims in include, Soles4Souls, Clothes4Souls, Hope4Souls, Travel4Souls.

With an estimated 300 million

retailers,

churches,

nonprof it

individuals. It has been that simple: changing the world one pair at a time.

Interested in helping? Individuals

children worldwide lacking a pair of

can register to participate in

is to collect new and like-new shoes

clothing in these countries. Several

adequate shoes, Soles 4 Souls’ mission to give to victims of poverty, and to

collect used shoes to support micro business efforts to eradicate poverty.

Clothes4Souls and Hope4Souls provide the same relief and support

with clothing and other necessities.

Travel4Souls’ mission is to create

lifelong ambassadors of change by providing opportunities for people to travel and distribute shoes in

distributing shoes and sometimes distribution centres are organised at schools, churches and orphanages.

Participants get the opportunity to size the children/adults for their

shoes, wash their feet in buckets of water, and place brand new shoes on

them. The trip also includes a day to relax and learn about the culture of the country visited.

December 5-9 2012, saw the

developing countries.

Soles4Souls team visiting Montego

Humanitarian Travel Program

shoes were distributed.

Travel4Souls is an International

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