Baton Rouge Parents Magazine September 2020

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CONTENTS SEPTEMBER 2020 ▪ ISSUE 362

FEATURES 24

MYTHS VERSUS FACTS: TALKING TO KIDS ABOUT SUICIDE Debunking myths and discovering the truth

ON THE COVER

2019-20 Cover Kid Harmony W. felt like a model during her first ever photo shoot. She didn’t want it to end! Harmony hopes to continue modeling, but right now, she’s excited to be back in school so she can make new friends.

At only five years old, Harmony is super bubbly, outgoing, and she loves to talk. She enjoys dancing and singing around the house; playing with her Barbie dolls; watching The Lorax and Jessie; and playing outside with her puppy, Santiago. Her favorite color is rainbow.

HOW TO FOSTER A 32 LOVE OF MUSIC IN CHILDREN Building a love of music in your family’s lives

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CAPTURING YOUR CHILD’S CREATIVITY Dancing to becoming a well-rounded child

MEET THE COVER KIDS

Announcing the 2020-21 Cover Kids

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MY TWEEN ISN’T INTERESTED IN ANYTHING! Encouraging tweens to find their interests

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IN EVERY ISSUE

12 A MOTHER’S VOICE 14 LAGNIAPPE 48 CALENDAR 55 MARKETPLACE 56 THE LAST WORD 58 SNAPSHOTS

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16 COMMUNITY 20 EDUCATION 21 ONE AMAZING KID

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26 MOM NEXT DOOR 28 EXCEPTIONAL LIVES 30 FAITH

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40 A DAY IN THE LIFE OF DAD 42 GET OUT OF TOWN 44 THINGS WE LOVE

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ASK THE EXPERT Q. IS WEARING A MASK NECESSARY? DOES IT PREVENT THE SPREAD OF COVID-19?

A. The short answer is: Yes! In addition to hand washing and social distancing, wearing a mask in public is one of the most effective tools we can use to reduce the spread of COVID-19.

Some studies have shown that up to 40% of individuals with COVID-19 can have minimal or no symptoms, which can lead to unknowingly transmitting the virus to others. Also, because of their minimal symptoms, they may not feel ill and be more inclined to venture out into public areas. This is the main rationale for all individuals (regardless of symptoms) to wear a mask or face covering in public.

Face masks prevent transmission from infected individuals, including those who have asymptomatic or pre-symptomatic infection. When you talk, cough, or sneeze, large respiratory droplets containing the COVID-19 virus can be expelled into the air. Face masks trap these larger droplets and prevent the spread of the virus from infected individuals. Face masks also protect the wearer's nose and mouth from contact with droplets, splashes, and sprays that may contain germs including the COVID-19 virus.

Q. SHOULD I GET A FLU SHOT? A. Although there is not a vaccine for COVID-19, there is a vaccine to protect yourself from the flu. This year, more than ever, it will be important to protect yourself from the flu. Each year, millions of people get the flu, tens of thousands are hospitalized, and thousands die from it. Last year alone there were 185 deaths in children attributed to the flu.

The CDC recommends a yearly flu vaccine for everyone over 6 months of age as the first, and most important step, in protecting against this serious disease.

This year we are recommending you receive your flu shot as soon as it becomes available. Visit our website and social media for

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IN EVERY ISSUE A MOTHER’S VOICE

An Encore to Stage and Song

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here’s just something special about seeing a live performance.

The music, the people, the atmosphere as a whole has a tendency to leave a lasting impression on all of us. Attending local performances has been put on hold for many months now due to COVID-19. However, performers from around the city have taken their talents to a virtual stage, giving us a front row seat to their talents from the comfort of our own couches.

While how we take in these shows has changed for the safety of all for now, the benefits of the performing arts remain the same, and there’s really no better time than now to get your children involved. Yes, even if it’s virtual.

Mounting research has shown the role of performing arts in not only educating the “whole” child, but in raising scores across the board in virtually every field. Music, art, theatre, and dance from a scientific standpoint rewire and stimulate the brain in amazing ways.

But getting down to earth, the performing arts provide a venue that taps into our children’s creativity, expression, and their humanity.

Most of us just didn’t know what scientists are now excitedly proving in emerging research every day: The play really is the thing. And so are all the other forms of art your child may discover, whether he splashes paint on a canvas or plucks the strings of a guitar.

Through the arts, children can tell stories in ballet, tap, and hip hop.

Genres don’t matter; improvisation becomes genius; it’s the singing, not the song from the child’s voice that matters.

For me, it was the flute–and it’s still my favorite pastime, though I’m long away from school bands–with grandchildren who have taken my place. But I still play every now and then, no matter if I’m any good or not.

It’s a passion I had. Perhaps your children will find their own in the arts.

Amy Foreman-Plaisance Publisher/Editor in Chief

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IN EVERY ISSUE LAGNIAPPE ALLOWANCES FOR KIDS

It’s sometimes impossible to go through the store with your child in tow and not hear, “Can I have this?” To navigate through this common question, parents reward their children with allowances, so they can make the purchase with their own money. However, parents don’t want to just “give” their child an allowance. When it comes to earning money for going above and beyond at home, many parents are happy with doling out a few dollars to their kiddos for a job well done. Here’s what our readers had to say.

Should children be given allowances?

30% No

70% Yes

“They should earn their money. I don’t want my kids thinking I’m a bank and they can get money whenever they want.

Earning the money teaches them how to save for what they want.”

—Amy F. “Our thoughts are that you have responsibilities as a member of the family that don’t warrant payment. We plan to make decisions as a family on things that we’ll spend on and things that we won’t. Once they’re old enough to have a job, then they can earn money for things that we wouldn’t necessarily agree to purchase as a family.”

—Meagan J. “We don’t reward our children with money unless they go over and beyond normal expectations. We consider being part of a family working together is reward enough by teaching teamwork as best we can, and that not everything you do needs to be rewarded monetarily.”

—Adrienne V.

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What age should they start receiving an allowance?

0-4 9%

5-9 66%

10-14 25%

“We prefer our children to earn their ‘allowance.’ We have a chart of simple, kidfriendly jobs that they would be expected to do anyway.

The girls track their chores and their earnings. This leads to them having ownership of their hard work and earnings as well as teaching money skills!”

—Jannean D.

“In our home, we don’t necessarily call this an ‘allowance.’ This is money earned for being kind and helpful. Our kids work hard at school and in our home, as we think they should, and we feel it’s only fair to compensate them for their hard work, just as they would be if they had a job.”

—Amanda H.

“Kids need to learn that things they are responsible for have to be done with the reward of self accomplishment and feeling proud of themselves.”

—Amber L.

“Yes. It teaches them money management, and they need to earn the money not let it just be given to them.”

—Sam P.

“Everyone should do what needs to be done regardless.”

—Karla M. “Yes, it teaches them to save and shop within their means.”

—Kee Kee J. “Chores are very important, but putting them on an allowance that is earned by doing tasks shows the importance of hard work.”

—Stephanie C.

“Children should receive the appropriate amount they deserve. If the child has been helping around the house or doing chores, they should receive whatever the parents can afford.”

—Madelyn B. “Yes. Depends on the age and their chores. My daughter does the laundry with our sheets; vacuums the bedrooms; and mops the bathroom, laundry room, office and hallway every week. She’s 11. I give her $25/week.”

—Lakeshia S.

It’s so funny being a parent during this pandemic. It’s not like I can go to my parents and be like, ‘Hey mom and dad, what did you do during the great pandemic of 1975?’ No one has been through this. We’re all going through this for the first time and we’re doing it together.”

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CONNECT COMMUNITY CELEBRATE GRANDPARENTS DAY SEPTEMBER 13

Young and old can unite to celebrate the love between grandparents and their grandchildren. If your littles are lucky enough to have a relationship with their grandparents, make it a point to celebrate National Grandparents Day on September 13. The holiday is observed every year on the first Sunday after Labor Day, and about four million cards are sent to mark the occasion. The first National Grandparents Day was in 1979, making this the 41st year of celebration. Break out the art supplies and make a custom card or send a heartfelt video message. We know grandparents enjoy hearing from their families on any day, but it’s always nice to hear from loved ones on a holiday.

COLORFUL SOAP HELPS GET HANDS CLEAN

Although we should all be experts on handwashing by now, keeping our little one’s hands spotless and free of germs during this pandemic requires constant vigilance. A fun way to make sure that all of our scrubbers are getting their hands thoroughly washed is made a little easier with Color Clean Soap. The delayed color-fading hand soap was created by dad Michael Raymond during COVID-19 stay-at-home orders. The soap was created to help his own kids get their hands clean and help take the guesswork out of washing. The patentpending, one-of-a-kind non-staining formula makes it easy to see which parts of the hands are clean and highlights unwashed areas of the hands. The soap and color will fade away once hands have been scrubbed for an adequate amount of time during their wash.

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SEPTEMBER IS LIBRARY CARD SIGN-UP MONTH

The days of leisurely browsing the stacks or attending a packed toddler storytime at the local library are gone for now, but online library resources and picking up reserved books are available even during the COVID-19 pandemic. September is Library Card Sign-up Month, and there’s no better time that now to gain access to all the resources our public libraries provide, especially with school back in session. DC’s Wonder Woman is the 2020 program’s honorary chair to champion the power of a library card. The campaign began in 1987 as a national effort between the American Library Association and local libraries to ensure every child signs up for their own library card.

Right now, certain libraries in our area even have access to signing up members online.

Before you head to your local library, give them a call to discover their procedure.

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TRACK YOUR CHILD’S SYMPTOMS WITH KIDSDOC APP

These days, we’re more attuned to our little ones’ every sniffle, cough and ache. An app created by the American Academy of Pediatrics may help you navigate and track those symptoms before calling your child’s pediatrician or making a trip to urgent care. The KidsDoc app, available in the iTunes and Google Play stores, provides a searchable index of symptoms. By tapping on the symptom your child may be experiencing, you can get more detail and advice for what to do next, and the first aid section keeps common treatments you can try close at hand. You can also make profiles for each one of your kiddos to help keep medications, dosages and other information straight.

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BREASTFEEDING RATES UP DURING PANDEMIC

Becoming a parent during a pandemic comes with challenges, but there has been a positive outcome. Breastfeeding rates at Woman’s have increased by 10 percent, likely due to limiting visitation. “In normal times, parents are often anxious to allow visitors to meet the newest addition, but we’re finding that moms and newborns benefit more without immediate visitors. With the limited visitation policy, pressures to host family and friends are erased.

This allows mom and baby to enjoy extended skin-to-skin contact that fosters successful breastfeeding,” says Dana Vidrine, director of mother/baby, lactation, and transition.

HEAD AND SHOULDERS KNEES AND TOES, AND EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN.

ONLINE EVENT PLANNED FOR MAMMOGRAM FUNDING

Although unable to hold its annual runway event to raise breast cancer awareness and funds, the Woman’s Hospital Foundation is taking its BUST Breast Cancer event virtual. Traditionally, the fundraiser includes models and breast cancer survivors showing off custom-designed bras, but because large groups of people cannot safely gather, this year will be a little different. Local artists will still design one-of-a-kind works of art in the form of bras, and between September 24 and October 31, the foundation will raise funds to help provide mammograms to underserved women throughout our region. ■ womans.org

At Magnolia Pediatrics, our doctors do way more than treat coughs and bandage scrapes.

We specialize in whole-kid care, from the tops of busy heads to the tips of tiny (and not-so-tiny) toes.

Call 225.744.4484 to join the Magnolia Pediatrics family today.

Andi Ocmond, M.D. Ashli West, M.D. Samantha Gulino, M.D. Abby Andrews, CPNP

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U.S. COIN SHORTAGE CALLS FOR BUSTING OPEN PIGGY BANKS

Break out the kiddos’ piggy banks! A side effect to a spring and summer that saw most Americans staying home is a nationwide coin shortage. As in-person retail sales plummeted, so did the pace of coin circulation, and some businesses simply don’t have access to change and require shoppers to pay with cards or use exact change.

The U.S. Mint says the coin shortage may be one part of the pandemic we can tackle, and children can help by putting their spare change to use.

The mint is asking the public to spend their coins, deposit them, or exchange them for paper money at the bank or a coin redemption kiosk.

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CONNECT COMMUNITY 2020 LOUISIANA ARTS SUMMIT GOES VIRTUAL

Like so many events during the global pandemic, this year’s Louisiana Arts Summit will take place in a hybrid fashion that includes an online, virtual component. The Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge, in partnership with the Louisiana Division for the Arts, will host the fourth annual summit Monday, September 28 through Friday, October 2. Small, in-person gatherings will take place at regional arts councils across the state, including in New Orleans, Baton Rouge, Houma, Lafayette, Alexandria, Shreveport, Lake Charles, Ruston/Monroe, and Covington. All content will be livestreamed to participants statewide. The virtual nature of the summit should provide a more inclusive experience.

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LASM RECEIVES EMERGENCY FUNDING GRANT

Sustaining a museum during COVID-19 has proven to be impossible without help. LASM received a $15,000 Louisiana Culture Cares Fund Grant from the Louisiana Endowment for the Humanities. The emergency funding helps offset the loss of canceled events, programs, and admissions; purchases personal protective equipment and cleaning supplies; and supports the museum’s free-access virtual content. “Despite the challenges of working with significantly reduced human and financial resources, we responded promptly to the public health crisis, quickly pivoting our operations toward providing virtual museum experiences and developing a multigenerational digital learning platform,” says LASM President & Executive Director Serena Pandos. ■ lasm.org

HELP SAVE MONARCH BUTTERFLIES BY GARDENING

Beautiful, orange-and-black winged butterflies are mesmerizing to watch, but they are also important pollinators and a food source for birds and other insects.

Due to deforestation, climate change and habitat loss, monarch butterflies may soon be added to the endangered species list by the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service. There are steps we can take to help reverse the population’s decline, specifically fun, kid-friendly gardening projects. The FWS recommends planting milkweed and nectar plants and offers ways to monitor monarchs as a citizen scientist.

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NEW ARTS CENTER UNDER CONSTRUCTION

KNOCK KNOCK CHILDREN’S MUSEUM NAMED REGIONAL HUB FOR MAKING

Children learn by making, and the folks at Knock Knock Children’s Museum know that well. The museum has been selected as a regional hub for Making Spaces: Expanding Maker Education Across the Nation Initiative to integrate making and tinkering into schools and other learning environments across the United States. Knock Knock Children’s Museum will provide support to nine sites to help jump start making for PreK through third grade. “We know that STEM starts early and that there is a gap in professional development for early childhood educators,” says Cate Heroman, Education Chair for Knock Knock. “Through this initiative, we hope to build regional capacity to sustain, grow, and deepen the impact of maker-centered learning–an approach that fosters creative thinking and problem-solving.”

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A new accessible, multi-story artist workspace will become reality in downtown Baton Rouge next summer. The Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge’s new Cary Saurage Community Arts Center will feature artist studios, a black box theater, sound studio, multi-use spaces, and the Shell Gallery. The Capital Area Finance Authority is providing financing to the Arts Council, and Shell has invested $300,000 in the center, which will be housed in the renovated building at 233 St. Ferdinand Street. “Shell understands the vital role that arts and culture play in creating an appealing place to live and work,” says Renee Chatelain, Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge president and CEO. ■ artsbr.org 18

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GIRL SCOUTS ANNOUNCE 24 NEW LEADERSHIP BADGES

Our world needs more strong, broad-minded, decisive and ambitious leaders, and Girl Scouts Louisiana East and Girl Scouts of the USA are working to help its scouts rise to the occasion with the announcement of 24 new badges. Girl Scouts can now earn badges in the traditionally male-dominated areas of automotive engineering, STEM career exploration, entrepreneurship, and civics. Much of the work can be done online through the Girl Scouts at Home program. “Girl Scouts equips girls with the leadership skills, entrepreneurial minds, and self-confidence to tackle any challenge they are faced with, including a national pandemic,” says Rebecca Pennington, CEO of Girl Scouts Louisiana East. ■ girlscouts.org

LOCAL BALLET AVAILABLE ON DEMAND

When Baton Rouge Ballet Theatre took the stage at Manship Theatre, the dancers did so to an empty house. The audience came later when the video of the performance was made available online for purchase. BRBT’s first virtual on-stage performance features three excerpts from the canceled spring concert, She Moves… “The feedback from the audience really is what makes dancing so exciting, so it did feel a little quiet out there on the stage,” says dancer Leah Cox. “Even so, we are just so happy to be able to perform these new works and have them on record for BRBT’s repertoire.” ■ batonrougeballet.org SEP T E MB ER 2020 |

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CONNECT EDUCATION BURGER KING GIVES STUDENT SCHOLARSHIPS

Three students from Baton Rouge have received $1,000 scholarships from GPS Hospitality. Cole Birdsong, Central Private School; Ella Otken, Denham Springs High School; and Nicholas Tillotson, East Ascension High School, were honored with the Burger King McLamore Foundation scholarships. Awarded to 247 students in 13 states, the awards are based on GPA and student impact through volunteerism and work experience. “These scholarships are a testament not only to the determination of these deserving students but also the generosity of our guests and the hard work by our team members, who executed successful in-restaurant campaigns to fund the awards,” says Tom Garrett, CEO of GPS Hospitality.

DUPLESSIS PRIMARY RECEIVES $50,000 AWARD

Duplessis Primary School in Ascension Parish has been honored for making educational excellence its framework for student success with the 2020 NIET Founder’s Award, which comes with a $50,000 grand prize. The award will be used to support further development of the school’s leaders and teachers. “Duplessis Primary School has built an infrastructure of support for teachers that has produced powerful results for students,” NIET Chairman and Founder Lowell Milken says. “Strong and stable leadership, a capable and dedicated staff, and a sharp focus on achievement growth for all have made continuous improvement a daily reality.” ■ niet.org

THE PARKVIEW BAPTIST SCHOOL JUNIOR STEPPERS ARE KEEPING BUSY

The Parkview Baptist Junior Steppers have had a very interesting year so far! Like many of the students in the area, the Steppers have had to make adjustments to a virtual world. Due to the coronavirus pandemic, the Steppers had to try out for the team virtually. However, the girls who made the team were still able to attend dance camp this summer, although the camp was not held at the school this year and masks were required for all to wear! As a yearly tradition, the girls recently served breakfast to all the teachers and administrators at Parkview Baptist School to welcome them back for the 2020-21 school year. Best of all, this year’s team is the largest yet for the school with 31 girls on the team in total, all ranging in grades 5-8. This year, the team will be coached by Londyn Atkinson, an LSU Golden Girl.

MAYFAIR LABORATORY SCHOOL’S GARDEN GETS INCREDIBLE MAKEOVER

How does the garden grow at Mayfair Laboratory School? Although it’s not silver bells, cockleshells, or pretty maids all in a row, the courtyard garden has received an incredible makeover, thanks to Boy Scout Troop 103. As part of his Eagle Scout project, Nathan Caillouet led his troop in the design and construction of new garden beds. Volunteers from the parent-teacher association and the school’s new principal, Kyle Fontenette, planted a variety of seedlings for the garden, including peppers, cucumbers, and eggplant, all of which will taste much better than flowers. When students return to campus, they will continue learning to garden, tend to the plants, and even taste the produce.

YOUTH COUNCIL PARTNERS WITH FACEBOOK

Although teens know how to use social media, they can still learn best practices from experts. Students who are part of Mayor-President Sharon Weston Broome’s Youth Advisory Council have received training directly from Facebook’s Youth Councils Program.

The partnership provides resources to promote civic engagement and dialogue on social media. “Our partnership with Facebook provides a wonderful opportunity for our youth to leverage the power of social media to facilitate meaningful dialogue, promote engagement, and empower our community,” Broome says. “The coronavirus pandemic has people across the world relying on social media more than ever, and our youth have an opportunity to learn and capitalize from this experience.” ■ myacbr.com 20

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When Thomas O’Connor participated in Young Entrepreneurs Academy of Baton Rouge, he didn’t know just how useful his business would be during the global pandemic and its disruptions to learning.

As part of the academy, Thomas, a 16-yearold sophomore at Episcopal School of Baton Rouge, launched Face Tutor, an app that connects students with tutors in real time. “It will allow a student to talk to a tutor and see a tutor,” Thomas says. Most other tutoring apps are text-based, which can be harder for students to grasp concepts.

Even before Zoom became a household word, Thomas realized its video chat feature could help student understanding. Providing 24/7 access, meaning students can get help at night using tutors in different time zones, is also a goal for Thomas.

Face Tutor won the academy’s investor panel competition, and Thomas received $5,000 to invest in developing the app. Thomas’ mentor, Kasra Khalili, helped him develop and perfect his presentation for the panel.

“The investor panel was my favorite thing about the program,” Thomas says. “I came in knowing barely anything about running a business. I have a binder full of notes that probably has everything under the sun about starting a small business.”

Before COVID-19 disrupted extracurricular activities, Thomas was part of the Nu Alpha Theta math competition team, in select choir, on the quiz bowl team, and in the spring play.

Thomas runs track and does high jump and pole vault, and is a pianist.

Follow Face Tutor on Instagram at instagram.com/facetutorofficial.

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CONNECT EDUCATION OUR LADY OF MERCY CATHOLIC SCHOOL RECEIVES DONATION FOR COVID-19 SUPPLIES

Essential supplies to keep students, faculty and staff safe and healthy are critical for schools to have in order to resume in-person instruction this semester.

Gulf Coast Bank & Trust provided a generous donation to Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School to purchase COVID-19 supplies such as hand sanitizer, thermometers and disinfecting supplies. Adhering to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s best practices will allow the school to continue its mission of excellence in Catholic education in the Baton Rouge community. The co-ed school educates students from ages three years through eighth grade.

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ART KITS SPARK CREATIVITY

High school volunteers helped create art making kits for the LSU Museum of Art’s community arts education program, Neighborhood Arts Project. Morgan Gallegos, St. Joseph’s Academy senior, and Key Club students from Baton Rouge Magnet High School helped with the project that shifted from in-person art experiences at pop-up sites in North Baton Rouge, Gardere, and Eden Park neighborhoods to all-inclusive art activity kits that could be safely distributed directly to children this summer. The project is supported by Office of Mayor-President Sharon Weston Broome, Art Bridges, LA CAT, and BREC in partnership with the Interfaith Federation, Gardere Initiative, Village Resource Center, and HYPE. ■ lsumoa.org

BR HIGH STUDENT ATTENDS VIRTUAL RESEARCH SCIENCE INSTITUTE

EBR NAMES NEW SUPERINTENDENT

At the start of an upside-down semester with virtual learning for all students in August, the EBR Parish School System welcomed a new superintendent following Warren Drake’s retirement. Leslie Marks Brown came to Baton Rouge from Broward County Public Schools in Florida where she was chief portfolio services officer, supporting the instructional, operational and financial aspects of that school system. EBR serves more than 40,000 students in 80 schools and employs 5,000 people full-time. Brown begins her tenure seeking to bring together teams, families and community to make improvements for all students.

Top high school students from around the US and the world convened virtually for a prestigious sixweek summer academic research program. Jay Iyer, a student at Baton Rouge Magnet High School, was one of 84 students from 35 states and 16 countries who participated in the 37th annual Research Science Institute. Jointly sponsored by the Center for Excellence in Education and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, the program gives students the opportunity to conduct original, cutting-edge research. “We are so pleased to make innovative use of technology to deliver this,” says Joann P. DiGennaro, CEE president.

LIVINGSTON LEADERS WORK TOGETHER TO ENSURE ADEQUATE DIGITAL ACCESS FOR ALL LIVINGSTON STUDENTS

Learning in the time of coronavirus presents unique challenges, and a big one for many families is adequate access to online resources. Carlos Williams, school technology director for Livingston Parish Public School System (LPPS), detailed the system’s needs to state Sen. J. Rogers Pope and state representatives Buddy Mincey, Jr. and Daryl Deshotel and asked for long-term solution assistance. LPPS has had some short-term progress. “The school system has partnered with other governmental entities, local churches and some private businesses to add external access points across the parish, boosting Internet access in certain areas,” says LPPS Superintendent Joe Murphy. “At the same time, we have invested in some personal hotspot devices for some students. But more help is needed.”

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CHESS PLAYERS NAMED STATE CHAMPIONS

Although the 2019-2020 Louisiana State Scholastic Chess Championship tournament had to be moved online this year, as so many things were this summer, it was still a great success. Nearly 50 student players from around the state participated on the website, lichess.org.

Lichess is one of the most popular chess websites in the world that has remained 100 percent free for its users. After the tournament, a four-way tie was declared in the kindergarten through sixth grade division. John Michael Maristany, Freyr Wang, Nguyen Tran, and Matteo Runge are co-champions of the state. Matteo is a sixth grader at Baton Rouge International School.

More online scholastic chess tournaments will be scheduled throughout this school year.

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U-HIGH SIXTH GRADER TOPS STATE ART CONTEST

Students were invited to create art around the theme, “Take it Outside! Explore Nature’s Classroom,” as part of the Louisiana Department of Education and Louisiana Environmental Education Commission Art and Language Arts Contest. Larissa Bolder, sixth grader at University Lab School, was the first place winner for the 11-13 age group. The competition seeks to cultivate citizens who feel connected to and are inspired to protect, preserve and restore the environment for present use and future sustainability. Larissa received $200 and her story, “The Legend of the Pine Tree,” will be featured in the 2021 Environmental Awareness Student Art and Language Arts Calendar.

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Myths Versus Facts: Talking to Kids About

e d i c i u S

By Christa Melnyk Hines

How we talk about suicide with kids is fraught with misconceptions. But as difficult as these conversations might be, our willingness to listen and be direct with our kids can mean the difference between life and death.

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According to The Jason Foundation, suicide is the third leading cause of death among 10 to 14 year olds and has increased among this age group by more than 150 percent since 1981. For middle school and high school students, it’s the second leading cause of death.

Here are six common myths about discussing suicide with kids of all ages.

Myth: Talking about suicide gives

children ideas.

Fact: Talking to kids about suicide is one of the best ways to prevent it. If you’re concerned that your adolescent might be contemplating suicide, ask the question point-blank: “Are you thinking about killing yourself?”

“Many are relieved that someone finally asked this question,” says high school counselor Kimberly Urenda.

“After asking, listen. Don’t judge. Don’t act shocked.”

Avoid minimizing their feelings by saying things like “Oh, you don’t really feel that way” or “You’re just sad.”

Urenda advises, “Tell them you care about them. You love them and you will get them help.” Seek support from a school counselor or another mental health professional in the community.

Myth: Suicide is something you shouldn’t talk about with younger children.

Fact: While the subject isn’t an easy one to discuss, “I believe you should always be honest and open with any age,” says school counselor Carl Crabtree.

If a suicide occurs or is attempted by someone in your family and your youngster only overhears bits and pieces, you’ll miss a teachable moment.

“The child constructs what happened silently without support and a family secret is born,” Crabtree says.

Keep the conversation simple and hopeful with younger children. Answer questions and listen. “In our answers, we should avoid blame and guilt, avoid cliches and focus on the feelings,” Crabtree says.

For example, describe someone who attempts or completes suicide as “sick in their feeling.”

He explains, “Sick is a word children can understand. Also, it opens the door of thinking for children, knowing when we are sick, we go to a doctor to get well.”

During the conversation, discuss what we can do and who we can specifically talk to if we’re feeling sad, angry, anxious or unhappy.

Myth: Suicide only happens to depressed kids.

Fact: There is no single cause for suicide. Usually, suicide is the result of a combination of issues that can range from stress and bullying, isolation, abuse, social media, puberty and family genetics to drug and alcohol abuse.

“The level of an individual’s impulsivity is another risk factor, especially in teens,” Crabtree says.

LGBTQ kids are particularly at risk.

According to The Trevor Project, the rate of suicide attempts is four times greater

for LGB youth than that of youth who are straight.

“One of the reasons is a lack of acceptance and support by others, sometimes including their families,” says Deb Woodard, associate adjunct teaching professor and school counseling coordinator for the University of Missouri-Kansas City. “The best thing that families can do is to educate themselves and then have honest and supportive conversations with their children.”

Myth: I can’t prevent suicide by

talking to my child. Suicide happens without warning.

Fact: Suicide is preventable. Knowing the signs and keeping the lines of communication open with your child is important. Encourage your adolescent to let an adult know if she notices a peer posting messages on social media that indicate she might end her life.

Take time to connect as a family and with your kids individually. Play video or board games together, bike ride, walk or shop. Conversation and worries often pour out during less intense, companionable moments.

Keep an eye on your teen if a close friend or a classmate commits suicide.

Seek professional grief counseling or mental health support for your child to help her process the death.

“Many times, people are searching for a ‘why’ and often lash out at others or blame them. This can be difficult if your child feels they are the ‘cause’ of the suicide,” Urenda says.

Sometimes the outpouring of grief and attention on the victim can spark copycat suicides. Monitor your child’s eating, sleep and self-care patterns, her social media posts and ask her if she is contemplating suicide.

Myth: I shouldn’t take it too seriously

when my child comes home from school and says she wishes she was dead. All kids say stuff like that, right?

Fact: Maybe. Maybe not. While your initial reaction might be to say, “Don’t talk like that,” Crabtree recommends pursuing the conversation.

“Say, ‘tell me why’ and then listen,” he advises. “This would be an excellent example of a chance to teach your child coping skills.”

Visit a licensed counselor or psychologist if this pattern of behavior continues.

Myth: I’ve talked to my child about

suicide. I think he gets it.

Fact: The truth is, these aren’t onetime conversations. Use books, movies and TV shows to highlight individuals who persevere even under unimaginable conditions. Share your own stories and challenges. Remind your kids that you love and support them. And, even though life can sometimes seem unbearable, it always gets better. ■

Factors that can strengthen a child’s resiliency to suicide include: ■ Peer support and close social networks ■ School and community connectedness ■ Cultural or religious beliefs that

discourage suicide and promote living a healthy lifestyle ■ Adaptive coping and problem-solving skills, including conflict-resolution ■ General life satisfaction, good selfesteem, sense of purpose ■ Easy access to effective medical and mental health resources Source: National Association of School Psychologists

Suicide Warning Signs ■ Often talks about suicide ■ Has a preoccupation with death ■ Often takes unnecessary risks in his or

her life ■ Exhibits behavior that is selfdestructive ■ Deepening depression ■ Makes statements about feeling hopeless, helpless or worthless Source: The Jason Foundation

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LIVE MOM NEXT DOOR

Norisha Kirts Glover

By Amanda Miller

OCCUPATION ▪ Owner of NRK Construction HUSBAND ▪ Carlos DAUGHTER ▪ Kennedy, 21 months HOBBIES ▪ Traveling, reading, wine tasting, and volunteering

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s a wife, mother, business owner, and president of the Junior League of Baton

Rouge, Norisha Kirts Glover wears a lot of hats. For her, finding the perfect balance between being a working mom and volunteering is challenging, but it’s also rewarding.

Norisha is authentic and transparent, and she has a heart for people. With everyone she meets, she provides a space for them to be who they are. Norisha’s a real mom who isn’t afraid to admit to loving a good binge-watching session of her favorite television show every now and then, which is something we can all relate to.

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How would you describe raising your daughter?

Kennedy, and to see a reflection of yourself–both

clients asked, and to do that on schedule and on

N: One of the most challenging and rewarding

the good and the bad–that’s awesome.

budget, those are big wins for me.

because I want to do all the right things. I’m a

What was your latest mom win?

What has your job taught you about parenting?

working mom and a lot of my time is dedicated to

N: We have a bedtime routine and we’ll read and

N: It’s okay to make mistakes because it builds

working, and I’m the president of Junior League

say our prayers. It cracks me up because she’ll

character. You have to be flexible and adjust

and a lot of my time in the evening is dedicated to

get on her knees, put her hands together, and

because you want to parent based on the child,

Junior League, so finding that balance is tough,

say, “Our Father, our Father, our Father. Amen.”

and the same thing works in business. You don’t

but I think that balance is what every mother tries

I love that she’s trying to say the Lord’s Prayer.

approach every employee the same way. You

things that I have ever done. It’s challenging

to make.

have to meet them where they are.

How has parenthood changed you?

What are things you like to do as a family?

N: I’m more sympathetic. I think that’s

How do you make time to relax?

N: We like to drive around, walk our

important, especially being a leader of an

N: Sometimes it comes in the evening or on the

neighborhood, and go to the zoo. We like to cook

organization that is dedicated to women. We

weekends and it’s either because I am walking

out in our yard. Carlos is a phenomenal griller, so

need to recognize that everyone balances

in my neighborhood or binge-watching the

we enjoy just hanging out with people at home.

everything differently.

Hallmark channel.

What’s the greatest thing about being a mom?

What do you love most about your job?

What’s your favorite date night?

N: Ever since she was a baby, I saw myself in

N: I really like being able to deliver what my

N: Stab’s in Central, sitting on their second

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floor. We haven’t done that as much, but I will tell you, he can be a romantic guy. He loves experimenting with recipes and we have different palates, but he will randomly cook for my palate as opposed to his palate and that’s really sweet.

What kind of mom are you?

N: It’s very important to me to make sure that I raise an independent daughter. I want my daughter to have a better life than I have, so often my thoughts are about the things that I need to be doing to set her up for success without being overbearing.

What’s something you hope to instill in her?

N: I want her to be confident in who she is and not swayed by the rest of the world. I want her to be an independent thinker and I want her to be kind. I want her to be someone whose spirituality helps guide her life.

Best parenting advice you have received?

N: Mothers have to do what works for them.

Who cares how someone else is doing? They have to do what works for their family, you have to do what works for you.

Do you have any advice for other parents?

N: Tell your children that you love them and don’t assume they know. Cultivate their interests , not yours. Allow them to build character through learning from their mistakes when they fail. ■

Q&A

The parenting item I couldn’t live without…Nosefrida.

In my fridge, you will always find…bottled water.

Favorite movie growing up…The Little Mermaid.

My guilty pleasure is…sitting on my couch, eating all the worst snacks, and watching Hallmark movies.

Music I’m loving…I get really excited when “Savage” comes on.

I feel my best when I…have had enough sleep.

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Different, Not Less: A Mother’s Advocacy for Her Son with Autism

By Mari Walker

A diagnosis of autism can turn a family upside down, and that was the case for William Spiller IV when he was diagnosed at age two. Because he didn’t speak or respond, doctors first thought his hearing was the problem, but an auditory brainstem response test proved his hearing was fine.

The school system where they lived at the time wanted to label William as having mild mental retardation, which didn’t sit well with his mother Naisha Brignac. Another parent suggested she have him tested for Fragile X, or mutated chromosome. That test was negative as well and helped doctors determine William does not have a mental disability but instead has autism.

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“After I got the diagnosis, I was devastated,” Naisha says. “I just wanted him to be healed and cured from autism.”

As time went on, Naisha has come to embrace William’s differences and celebrate milestones, even if they come later. Now 13, William was potty trained at five and started speaking in full sentences around age six.

William has two younger sisters, Wynter is nine and Chloe is five, and Naisha has seen how school systems treat children with disabilities differently.

Over the years, Naisha has had to learn how to advocate for William and stand up for his rights. “It’s been a journey,” she says. “I just want the best for my son, for him to have a free, appropriate education just like his nondisabled peers.”

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The lessons from advocating for William have spilled over into Naisha’s life beyond parenting. “My son has taught me to be resilient and strong and to endure anything that comes my way,” she says. “I understand after 13 years why God gave me William: to advocate for him and other children with disabilities. I want to help others because somebody helped me and taught me the law.”

The family moved from New Orleans to Baton Rouge in 2015 for a fresh start, and the nonprofit organization Families Helping Families of Greater Baton Rouge helped make the transition easier.

FHF supports families with members who have physical, cognitive, mental, emotional or behavioral disabilities.

“I just thank God for Families Helping Families,” Naisha says. “I can call them any time if I have a problem. I’ve got somebody in my corner who can help me, teach me, guide me.”

William is starting virtual learning as an eighth grader at McKinley Middle School. He’s a visual learner and enjoys working on cars with his stepdad, Cornell Matthews. William enjoys video games, especially Minecraft, and one of his favorite TV shows is The Golden Girls.

He’s also great with computers “If you need to be educated on a computer, he will show you and train you thoroughly,” Naisha says.

Thinking about the future, Naisha worries about William being manipulated or coerced as an adult. “I want William to be as self sufficient as possible,” she says.

“You never know what’s going to happen in life; this could happen to anyone,” Naisha says. “I’m going to keep fighting. I’m learning each day. My son teaches me each day.” ■

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LIVE FAITH

The Power of Prayer

By Rev. Pattye Hewitt, Lead Pastor of Blackwater United Methodist Church

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n the scriptures we read: “The prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective.”

James 5:16. The founder of Methodism, John Wesley, said, “Prayer is the grand means of drawing near to God.” Both of these statements are true. My heart knows it. I believe it. And while sometimes it’s easy to bring my whole self to God in prayer, other times it’s just the opposite. On occasion, I feel like my prayers aren’t reaching God–when my motivations aren’t convincing enough for God to give my petitions a second glance.

And yet, I’ve had experiences while praying when I get lost in wonder and praise. The hands of the clock stop, the world seems to stand still, and I know without a shadow of doubt that I am in the Lord’s presence.

What is it about prayer that both draws us in and at the same time, makes us want to recoil? What is it about prayer that rouses our hearts to run toward it, and at the same time, tiptoe toward it–around it–and sometimes don’t make it there at all?

The more I seek to deepen my life with God, the more questions I have about prayer. Is this true for you?

There are many things I can say about prayer and what it does in the lives of those who engage in the practice of it, however, I believe the most life-giving things for us to know and believe is: Prayer is the path of love for the strong and the weak; the wise and the simple; the ‘has’ and the ‘has-nots’. Prayer isn’t about beating ourselves up, telling God over & over how bad we are, but rather drawing close to the One who created us and loves us unconditionally. And most importantly, prayer is relationship; it is a means of grace that helps us cultivate a deeper, wider, more loving relationship with our Father in Heaven.

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How to Foster a Love of Music in Children

By Ashley Lanvin

Music enriches people’s lives in myriad ways. Age is of no consideration when it comes to benefitting from and appreciating music, but it seems that young people in particular have a lot to gain from music education.

Dr. Rebecca Bellelo, owner of Piano Pathways, explains that music lessons, piano lessons specifically, foster many wonderful non-musical characteristics.

She explains, “In fact, these non-musical skills are important for musicians when practicing: time management skills, goal setting, memorization, delayed gratification, fine muscle coordination, listening skills, self-assessment skills, and so many more.”

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and reading comprehension skills. In addition, the National Association for Music Education says that research has found a significant relationship between participating in the arts at school and a child’s academic success.

Parents who want their children to reap the benefits of being involved with music can try the following strategies aimed at fostering a love of music in young people.

■ Turn the television off and turn music on. Exposing youngsters to music is one of the simplest and most effective ways

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to get them to embrace it. For example, in lieu of turning on the television while preparing meals, parents can play music instead. Let youngsters pick their own songs or mix it up by including some of mom and dad’s favorites as well.

“Many orchestras and bands are offering online concerts right now, so it’s the perfect time to watch these performances together at home,” says Dr. Bellelo. “Even if you aren’t a musician yourself, just being supportive of music in the home and sitting down with them to engage in music can stimulate their interest. Watching music concerts together, or listening to music together at home can peak their interest in wanting more formal instruction.”

Such exposure can be incredibly valuable for youngsters. In fact, a 2016 study from researchers at the University of Southern California found that musical

experiences in childhood accelerate brain development. Music is especially effective at helping children in language acquisition and reading.

■ Replay kids’ favorite songs. Another way to build kids’ enthusiasm for music is to replay some of their favorite songs.

While mom and dad may cringe at the prospect of hearing “Baby Shark” several times in a row, they should take note of how enthusiastic their kids become when hearing a favorite song. And, that enthusiasm can benefit their language skills as they listen closely to the lyrics in an effort to memorize the words.

Youngsters may not be so receptive if they don’t like what they’re hearing. So, listen to “Baby Shark” just one more time, it really benefits them.

■ Dance to music. Kids are bundles of

energy, and dancing is a fun way for them to expend some of that energy. Dancing also provides a great reason to play music.

While you’re making dinner, turn on some of your favorite music (or their favorite music) and dance it out. Everyone loves an impromptu dance party.

Physical activity set to music can help kids burn off some extra energy as they develop their brains, making dance sessions a win-win for both parents and children.

■ Embrace opportunities to see live

music. Kids are often captivated by seeing musicians perform in person.

When possible, take youngsters to concerts, local music festivals and/or restaurants that showcase local musicians.

Such excursions may prompt youngsters to want to learn how to play, which can provide a host of additional benefits, especially for young children. In fact, a 1996 study published in Nature found that first grade students who took part in music classes during art study programs experienced marked improvement in reading and math proficiency.

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Capturing your Child’s

Creativity

By Kimberly Fortner

2019-20 Cover Kid Harmony W. Photo Credit:Kleinpeter Photography

As parents, we witness many indescribable moments because of our children. It doesn’t get much better than watching your own beautiful ballerina pirouette across the stage for the first time, or the way your heart swells when you witness a near perfect musical performance by your child who can’t even reach the bathroom sink.

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Children need to be challenged and presented with opportunities to fine tune their creative attributes. They have innate abilities and respond to music; they are innovative and expressive. The performing arts are a natural fit for them, and providing artistic experiences early on will not only benefit them now, but will also provide enjoyment for a lifetime.

Performing arts benefit the whole child, not just one area. For instance, researchers link the study of performing arts to higher academic achievement.

Music education also trains children for higher order thinking and utilizes the right and left side of the brain simultaneously. Additionally, research continually proves that music enhances brain development and dance, of course, promotes strength, poise and endurance.

According to Americans for the Arts, students with an education rich in the arts have higher GPAs, higher standardized test scores, lower dropout rates and even better attitudes about community service than those without. Not to mention, the added benefits of self-

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confidence, discipline, goal-setting, perception of the world around them and artistic and emotional expression.

An appreciation for the arts begins in the home with you, the parent, setting the example and nudging them along. You may have two left feet and can’t carry a tune in a bucket, but there are things you can do to help your child discover a love for the performing arts.

Tune In From the very beginning, babies respond to your voice, so use it. Sing to them, talk to them. Be expressive, use different voices and inflections. As soon as they’re big enough, bounce them on your knee and sway to the music—all kinds of music. Many local businesses and performing arts centers offer some type of mommy and baby classes as well.

Kris Cangelosi of Cangelosi Dance Project adds, “By playing music in the home, your child will react by moving, singing, pounding on the chair or organizing their siblings. This behavior lends distinguished indication of dance, voice, drums or direction. Dance is physical movement that expresses many feelings of joy or interpretation of a theme.” Everyone has some response to music and can benefit from it.

Tiny Dancer Get your children signed up for classes as soon as they are eligible. Most of the time, you can start your children in dance

once they are potty trained. Many local dance studios will have lessons for those as young as two years old. You may realize that your child is not ready to separate from you for an hour to dance, but until then, stick to the classes where you can accompany her. Read those cues and don’t force a child into an activity, which may keep him or her from trying the activity again when they’ve matured.

Piano lessons are best once your child can count to five and his hands are large enough to play the keys without a struggle. Because of the required dexterity, children may not be able to play until they’re a little older.

Ear to the Ground It’s not a good idea to force your children into an activity, but you don’t want to be absent either. After parents give their children the tools they need to figure out their interests, parents can step aside and assume the role of cheerleader. For younger children (under age 10), parents can sometimes sit in on the lessons so that they can easily help their children at

home. Ask for take-home materials, so you can stay involved.

Take it to the Streets By all means, get out of the house. Step outside of regular lessons and audition for a play or find a community arts project to devote your time to. Support live music and go to as many concerts, performances, musicals and plays as you can. Give your little ones the opportunity to see what’s possible with dedication.

Sure, it’s glamorous to be onstage, but it takes hard work to get there.

By experiencing new things, aspiring performers can learn about goal setting and the discipline and structure required in reaching their goals. You never know what’s inspirational to a child—what can plant a seed that will lead to their passion. Maybe you don’t want to go see Annie again, but what about that future Broadway star on your hands?

Don’t Think Twice Even if you don’t have a background in music, refrain from trying to contain

your child’s enthusiasm because of your unfamiliarity. So what if she wants to play the spoons or didgeridoo instead of the violin? What’s that—you don’t know what a bassoon is? It’s time to learn! Everybody has their own way of connecting to music and exploring that is invaluable for children. Trying a variety of instruments is always best.

“Imagination and creation bring enthusiasm to one’s personality,” says Cangelosi. She describes those young ones involved in the performing arts as “the new inventors of the future.” Help your child find the right outlet.

In the end, even if your child does not pursue music or dance as a career in the future, there is still so much to gain from his or her experiences while pursuing the arts during his or her time during the school years, even after the tutus are stowed away and the trophies are forgotten. What remains is art’s lasting impression, which can be awakened by your little one at any time. Who knows?

Your child might just discover his very first love. ■

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Announcing The 2020-21

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2-3 YEARS

Our judges have done it again!

Baton Rouge Parents Magazine is happy to introduce you to the 2020-21 Cover Kids.

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Brooks C.

Ella Rose J.

Evangeline P.

Gideon S.

James E.

Cahri W.

Cassie W.

Erin J.

Jackie B.

Kingston W.

Jacques S.

Joshua H.

Kate D.

Noah T.

Rylan K.

Marquell B.

Rhys J.

Ryder P-W.

Sophia C.

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Avery M.

Addyson M.

Bella W.

Cason C.

Arabella P.

Bryson A.

Christian S.

Kristion B.

Estrella V.

Kennith W.

Maya V.

Sydni W.

Maricela H.

Ra V.

Sage H.

9-11 YEARS

Lola B.

6-8 YEARS

Audria S.

Levi B.

12-17 YEARS

Tripp M.

Anya S.

4-5 YEARS

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Meet the s e g d u J Choosing the Cover Kids isn’t an easy task. We are thankful that we had some incredible women who were up for the challenge.

Kris Cangelosi

Renita Williams Thomas, MSN, RN

Carrie Godbold

Celeste Gill

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Stephanie Crawford Blair Hancock Blair Hancock is a graphic designer and a wedding and lifestyle photographer. She lives in Baton Rouge in a cozy studio apartment with her husband, Haigan, and their dog, Ziggy. She has lived in Baton Rouge her whole life and still falls in love with the city even more as the years go by.

She graduated from Southeastern Louisiana University with a bachelor’s degree in graphic design. She was given her first camera when she was 16 and hasn’t stopped taking pictures since. She loves expressing herself through her creativity and the beauty she is able to make through graphic design and capture through photography.

Carrie Godbold Carrie Godbold is a native of Akron, Ohio.

She graduated from LSU with a bachelor’s in finance, and she’s a multi award-winning realtor. Carrie is also the Chairman of the Board of Directors at the YMCA Americana, Founding Member and President of the Zachary Charity League. She’s also on the Board of Directors of ZEPTO, Northwestern Middle School PTO Board, and the Board of Directors at Must Luv Dogs Rescue. She’s the co-owner of Whimsical Alley, in addition to being a full-time realtor and owner of the Godbold Group Real Estate Company and coowner of Magnolia Real Estate Group. She’s married to her husband, Jamie, and she’s the mother of three.

Celeste Gill At age 11, Detroit native Chef Celeste fell in love with Louisiana cuisine when she discovered Justin Wilson on public broadcasting. Determined to follow her early calling to become a chef, she earned her culinary training in Hawaii. Her dedication and inventive culinary style have earned her several accolades that include Chef of the Year from the American Culinary Federation, the Seafood Award from Capital Chefs’ Showcase, and first place in the Fall Heat

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Melissa Folse Oubre

Blair Hancock

Cooking Competition. Due to demand from her rising popularity, Chef Celeste has begun packaging and selling her own Louisiana Honey Mustard and proprietary spice blends, which are available in stores across the Baton Rouge area. Chef Celeste is the owner/ operator of Chef Celeste’s Bistro in downtown Baton Rouge. She also has Chef Celeste Bistro in The NeuroMedical Center, and 520 Spain, an event venue in downtown Baton Rouge.

Crystal Stutes Crystal Stutes is the Executive Director of the Louisiana Health Care Commission (LHCC) under the LA Department of Insurance. When not working full time with the LHCC, you can find her at home creating new products for her custom gift shop, Sunny Belle, which she founded in 2011, and her stationery shop, Seaux Noted, which launched in 2019.

Crystal has always enjoyed being around children, which prompted her to serve as a catechist for St. John the Baptist Catholic Church, teaching kindergarten CCD for 10 years.

Crystal resides in Addis, Louisiana with her husband, Brian, and two children, Graham and Taylor. The couple has two older children, Alyssa and Brennan, who live in Houston and Baton Rouge, respectively.

Kathy Ellison Smith Kathy Ellison Smith has been in sales and marketing for over 20 years. Currently, she is the property manager for her family’s agricultural farms in Louisiana and Mississippi. She has been a member of several professional organizations over the years, but right now, she is enjoying life as a semiretired businesswoman, while also working closely with her father and brothers to learn the timber, pine straw, and tree businesses.

Kathy resides in Baton Rouge. She is married to her wonderful husband, Tony, and she has two children and two grandbabies, who are her inspiration for living a long, fun, and healthy life.

Namisha Patel-Vasanji

Kathy Ellison Smith

Kris Cangelosi Kris Cangelosi is the Artistic Director of the Cangelosi Dance Project School and Company. Kris has received the following awards and appointment: 2019-20 Chair for the Women United Capital Area United Way and Cabinet member, past Chair for Prevent Child Abuse LA, 2017 Ball Captain: Karnival Krewe de Louisiane, 2016 Queen of Artemis: Krewe of Artemis, and 2015 Duchess for Karnival Krewe de Louisiane. She has received the LSU’s Women Center “Esprit de Femme” award; the Power of 9 award; 2014 Most Influential Woman in Business; and the 2014 Arts Leadership Award.

She graduated from LSU, majoring with a BFA in dance/choreography, and is a certified member of Dance Masters of America Texas Chapter #3. She has performed, choreographed and taught professionally in Europe, NYC, Chicago, and Atlanta, and she continues to perform locally for Dancing for Big Buddy, Dancing for a Cause and other charity events in Baton Rouge.

Liz Laurent Liz Laurent has enjoyed working with the Ascension business community over the last 10 years as Vice President of Operations for the Ascension Chamber of Commerce and facilitator of the Chamber’s esteemed Leadership Ascension Program. In her role with the chamber, she works with numerous nonprofits where she often volunteers. She is currently the treasurer of the Gonzales Committee on Cultural Affairs and serves as the Program Chair for the Rotary Club of East Ascension, where she was recently recognized as the 2020 Rotarian of the Year.

Liz is a graduate of LSU and is married to Dave Laurent. They have two boys and reside in Gonzales, LA where they attend St. Theresa of Avila Catholic Church.

Melissa Folse Oubre Melissa Folse Oubre is the Director of Legal and Labor Affairs at Associated Grocers,

Sarah Miller

Crystal Stutes

Inc., in Baton Rouge. Prior to working for Associated Grocers, she was the Executive Counsel for the Port of South Louisiana. In 2015, she opened Louisiana’s first Java Mama Indoor Play & Cafe in Baton Rouge. Java Mama is a child-friendly coffee shop and cafe with an indoor play space for children. When she’s not working, you can find her on the golf course with her three amazing sons.

Namisha Patel-Vasanji Namisha is licensed to practice law in California and Louisiana. She is a member of the American Bar Association, California State Bar Association, the Louisiana Bar Association and the Baton Rouge Bar Association. Namisha has been at The Maughan Law Firm since the beginning of her career. As an attorney at the firm, Namisha not only practices law, but is also the firm’s operating manager.

Namisha serves as a board of trustee member at St. Luke’s Episcopal School, was elected as the Board’s Secretary, and is a member of its Executive Committee and Development Committee. Namisha is also a board member for the BREC Foundation, and has been the chair of the Membership/ Charting A New Course committee for two years. She has also served on the board of directors for the Hindu Samaj of Baton Rouge, Inc and as the President of the Junior League of Baton Rouge.

Renita Williams Thomas, MSN, RN Renita Williams Thomas is the Chief Executive Officer of In Loving Arms Pediatric Day Health Center. Prior to this position, she served as Clinical Adjunct Instructor at Southern University School of Nursing, Early Phase Infrastructure Development Manager at Mary Bird Perkins Cancer Center, Program Manager at Early Childhood Supports & Services at Department of Health & Hospitals and Director of Health Services/Employee Health at the Louisiana School for the

Liz Laurent

Visually Impaired. Williams Thomas is a pediatric nurse specialist who works to bring awareness to the impact on families who care for medically fragile children. She became interested in medically fragile children after adopting a child from foster care who had health care deviations. Through successful strategies, she built a daycare center that meets the medical, therapeutic, social, and psychological needs of these children.

Williams Thomas earned her Bachelor of Science in Nursing from Southern University in 1997 and returned to earn her Masters from the same institution in 2012. She is the wife of Oliver “Chuck” Thomas, III and the mother of six children.

Sarah Miller Sarah is currently enrolled at Southeastern Louisiana University where she is studying Psychology. While most of her time is spent studying, she also works at CC’s Coffee House. In her spare time, Sarah enjoys volunteering, supporting her community, caring for animals, and reading. She resides in Baton Rouge.

Stephanie Crawford Stephanie Crawford started her career in education over 16 years ago. After five years, she embarked on a more one-on-one experience of education by working with students with specialized needs. In 2008, she joined the LSU Academic Center for StudentAthletes where she eventually became the Tutorial Coordinator. Here, she mentored and tutored student-athletes, hired and trained tutors, and ran hundreds of appointments a week. When she married and eventually had children, she decided to stay home and start her own private tutoring company.

Today, Best in Class Professional Tutoring is the premier “go-to” program for all ages.

Stephanie is also an ACT Certified Educator and has helped thousands of students get into their first choice college and receive millions in scholarships.

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PLAY A DAY IN THE LIFE OF DAD STAY CONNECTED If you would like to read more of Brandon’s adventures from A Day in the Life of Dad, visit us online at brparents.com.

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Alexa Has Manners. Why Don’t My Kids?

By Brandon Foreman

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o this just happened. As my wife gets ready in the bathroom, she talks to Alexa to find out the time and weather. And yes, an Alexa is in the bathroom. If you have not done this life hack yet, you really need to try it. Anyway, I listen to this every morning, and she always talks back to her like a person. One of the things she says is, “Thank you,” and the most amazing thing happened today. Alexa replied back with, “You’re welcome.” My first thought was, “OMG, if Alexa can have manners, why don’t my children?”

So, I have been thinking about this more and more, and it comes down to it’s not their fault, it’s mine. As parents, we have to take the time to teach these things to our children and force this behavior and not accept anything but the best from them.

It seems that manners and basic actions of kindness are getting fewer these days.

When I grew up, I was taught to not put your elbows on the table (Thanks, Mr. Tom), hold the door open for the person behind you, and when you borrow the car, always return it with a full tank. I think these things are basic and make a big difference even more so in the days we are in.

You never know how someone’s day is going and how holding the door for them or complimenting them on their outfit can make a huge difference. I believe we can make a huge difference in our communities by these simple things. Just imagine if everywhere you went for the next 48 hours, everyone held the door open for the next person and everyone asked how your day was and really cared about the answer, and said please and thank you. It would feel like you were in a movie, but it should be that way in real life.

So, I leave you with this thought. Why are we coding/programming our devices to have manners and say thank you, but we don’t do it or teach it ourselves?

Thank you, and have a great day.

Ps. Don’t forget to hold that door!

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FROM THE MOUTHS OF DADS “Fatherhood has made me more sensitive and probably more caring, in a way.”

—Ben Affleck

FROM THE MOUTHS OF DADS

Doug P. poses for a photo with his daughter, Zoey.

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PLAY GET OUT OF TOWN

GALVESTON, TEXAS

By Julie Engelhardt Coordinates: 29.300129° N, -94.795845° E Distance from Baton Rouge to Galveston: 278.6 miles Flying Time: 1 hour, 12 minutes Driving Time: 4 hours, 30 minutes Why Galveston? When we think about escaping on an island vacation, our thoughts turn towards Hawaii, the Bahamas, or the Caribbean, yet little thought may be given to this island that’s just a day’s drive from Baton Rouge. That’s right–Galveston is an island located in the warm waters of the Gulf of Mexico, an hour from Houston. Fishing, surfing, boating, cruising, great dining–there’s so many ways to play here, so let’s plunge right in to see what adventures we can find.

WHERE TO STAY If you’re seeking an all-inclusive destination that offers lodging, attractions, dining, and a water park, Moody Gardens Resort definitely fits the bill. Spacious overnight accommodations include rooms with queen and king-sized beds, pull-out sleepers, Wifi, mini refrigerators–the works. The hotel is surrounded by 242 acres of luscious tropical gardens.

You’ll never want to leave.

WHERE TO EAT Fish Tales Ocean-view dining is always a treat, so experience the sun and surf at Fish Tales. Start your meal with their hot shrimp kisses, bursting with pepper jack cheese, fried to perfection and wrapped in bacon. After your starter, it’s time to reel in one of their main selections, such as the seafood gumbo with fish, shrimp, oysters and andouille sausage or the Galveston Bay Fried Oysters. Fresh fish lovers will want to dive into their mahi-mahi, grilled salmon, or Caribbean tuna. End your meal with chocolate mousse cake, homemade pecan pie, or key lime pie, oh, my!

Jimmy’s on the Pier Take a stroll along Galveston’s famous fishing spot and head to Jimmy’s on the Pier, where you’ll find a boat-load of fine food prepared with the utmost attention. Jimmy’s is known for fine southern and seafood cuisine.

If you love tacos, Jimmy’s has a wide variety–including Gulf Redfish Filet, Jumbo Shrimp, fajita beef, and chicken. Fresh fish selections include gulf snapper, gulf shrimp, crab, and a seafood basket.

Hey Mikey’s Ice Cream If you want to skip dinner and dig right into dessert, then head to Hey Mikey’s Ice Cream. They serve up Texas-sized scoops of caramel crunch, salted caramel, chocolate peanut butter–well, you get the idea.

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Museum. This delightful spot is economically priced, with tickets ranging from $5-10. Permanent exhibits include locomotives, freight cars, the incredible Santa Fe War Bonnets and the Gallery of Rail History. If you time your trip just right, you can experience some of their fun events that they host throughout the year, such as their Polar Express Train Rides during the holiday season.

There’s water, water everywhere–so take advantage of the fun offered through Galveston Water Adventures. Galveston Water Adventures offers two-hour sunset tours of the harbor, dolphin sightseeing tours, and an awesome 25-minute jet boat thrill ride that will have your whole crew dipping and spinning through the waters.

Take a day and kick back with your family on Galveston’s Stewart Beach.

There are great activities and amenities available–helicopter tours, volleyball courts, and a playground. During their summer Sandcastle Days, you can learn how to build your own sandcastle. If you’re really looking to relax, then just dig your toes in the sand and take it all in.

Have you ever wanted to surf, or paddleboard, but just couldn’t find the time? SUP Gulf Coast is here to help, where you can rent a board and participate in mini or private lessons. Early risers can participate in twohour sunrise paddle excursions where you can view dolphins and catch a glimpse of other sea life.

The entire family will have a blast on the historic Pleasure Pier. You can spend the entire day twirling on rides like the Cyclone or Galaxy Wheel.

Experience their 5D movie adventure, The Mysterious Underworld and Shark Attack, and shop for sweet souvenirs. Lots of restaurants and amusements await you on the Pier.

If you need another excuse to find a place to cool off, then your gang will really love heading to Schlitterbahn Waterpark Galveston. This humongous park features the most exciting collection of rides in Texas.

There are wave rivers, water coasters, water slides, a heated pool, zip lines, and even a splash pool for the tiny tikes, and a white water beach. Splish splash–let’s go! ■

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My Tween Isn’t

Interested in

Anything!

By Melanie Forstall Lemoine, Ph.D.

“Currently, my tween’s activities and hobbies include bingewatching Fuller House.” If this sounds familiar, you may very well be in good company. In some cases, young children and tweens discover interests and hobbies early on; keeping them very occupied with a very full schedule. However, that’s not always the case for all children.

Sometimes children and tweens do not develop specific interests in certain activities or cultivate hobbies, leaving parents to wonder if this is simply a stage of development, or a reason to be concerned.

When it comes to childhood development, it is important to remember that each tween is going to be different. According to Jonathan Breaux, LMSW, Clinical Director of Genesis/Holistic Solutions Center of Baton Rouge, “Every child is unique and will have their own developmental trajectory.” Essentially, just as physical development differs from child to child, development of interests will differ as well. He continues, “Some children may display a smaller number of interests and develop a focal interest very early on in life. Other children may show 46

a generalized interest in several areas but not develop a focal interest until later in their development.”

Local mom, Jennifer Harland says that her tween currently does not have any interests or activities. “Around five years old, she started cheerleading/tumbling and that was clearly her ‘thing,’ as she excelled at it, progressing very quickly.”

But a serious physical condition requiring surgery forced her to stop. “In preparation for her not being able to continue competitive cheerleading, we tried to get her interested in other sports like tennis,

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swimming, volleyball,” says Harland.

“We even bought her a ukulele at her request, hoping it might spark a musical interest, but nothing has stuck.”

For parents of a tween with few interests, it’s important to remember that each child is unique, and there is generally no need to fix the situation.

According to Breaux, “I believe it is a good idea for parents to encourage interests that they notice their child gravitating towards.” It’s more important for parents to support the interests they see in their children rather than force

them to have an interest. For example, a child who has a lot of energy and is physically active can be encouraged to play sports or engage in physical activity, whereas, a child who is interested in colors or expresses an interest in sounds could be introduced to art or music. “In my experience, it is important for the parent to provide guidance and support to the intrinsic interests that their child expresses,” says Breaux.

While it is important for parents to serve as a support for their children, Tanya Stuart, LCSW-BACS, LAC, Owner of Genesis/Holistic Solutions Center of Baton Rouge, encourages parents to let their tweens take the lead. “I would encourage parents to let tweens and teens identify their own interests, as teens need a sense of control in their life.”

She suggests parents can give directions but let the tween make his/her own decision about what activity to explore.

She continues, “You can tell your child that you would really like for them to be involved in some sort of activity and encourage them to do research on options.

to advance his learning

Give them a time frame to come up with something.” Of course, she reminds families to always be supportive of the child’s choices.

Whatever activities or hobbies your tween becomes interested in, Stuart reminds parents to make sure there is balance. “It is important that teens learn how to find balance between family, friends, activities/hobbies.”

She continues, “Academic and physical health are important for a tween/teen’s development. Learning this skill while they are young can help them as adults to have a balanced, healthy life.”

When to Worry A lack of interest in activities can be a source of concern under certain circumstances. If parents notice a significant change in a tween or teen’s interest in something that they had previously enjoyed doing, Stuart encourages parents to look at other aspects of the child’s life. “If a tween seems less interested in their activities or hobbies than normal, the usual culprit

to unleash his confidence

is a need to socialize and connect with their peers, which is totally normal.” It is a typical part of childhood development around the ages of 12-13 for children to want to spend more time with their peers.

However, explains Stuart, it is important to pay attention to the tween or teen’s overall emotional health. “If they seem disconnected, exhibiting mood changes, (taking into consideration normal mood changes with adolescents) grades dropping, and a lack of interest in extracurricular activities, there may be a need for assessment.” If a tween or teen exhibits these kinds of behaviors, Stuart recommends assessing for depression, anxiety, or substance abuse. She continues, “Start by having a conversation with your teen or seeking out the assistance of a professional.”

Jennifer Harland says that she continues to support her daughter’s current lack of interest and feels positive that the right thing will eventually come. “I know when she does find her ‘thing’ she’ll be unstoppable–that’s her personality which is why I don’t worry.” ■

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IN EVERY ISSUE CALENDAR

September BYRDE’S DANCERS SCHOLARSHIP LUNCHEON

Old Governor’s Mansion or through Zoom at noon on Thursday, September 17. Byrde’s Dancers Scholarship Luncheon will host both a virtual and in-person venue experience. The luncheon is an effort that brings life-changing arts opportunities to children. Tickets start at $30.

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1 TUESDAY COMMUNITY PRAYER BREAKFAST. Interfaith Federation of Greater Baton Rouge virtual Zoom gathering at 8 a.m. Grab your breakfast, settle into your favorite chair, be inspired by local interfaith religious leaders, and light a candle to pray for our community. Registration required. ifedgbr.com MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social 48

distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com

2 WEDNESDAY

WOMAN’S IDEAL WEIGHT LOSS SEMINAR. Woman’s Zoom meeting at 5:30 p.m. The power to lose weight and reset your health exists inside you right now.

Woman’s Hospital has the coaches and ketogenic weight loss science to ignite it. Learn about the Ideal Protein weight loss program. womans.org or (225) 215-7982

3 THURSDAY

HELPING HANDS SUPPORT GROUP. Zoom call with Families Helping Families of Greater Baton Rouge from 10-11:30 a.m. Parents,

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guardians, self-advocates, and family members of individuals with autism and related disorders are invited to meet others walking in your shoes. They will share support, resources, compassion, and empathy.

Support group lead by Kara Shupe, RCASD Specialist.

(225) 216-7474 MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com WE NEED OUR SPACE:

LIVE. LASM at 7 p.m. Join LASM for live-streamed explorations of outer space.

Launch into the digital universe on Facebook Live, YouTube Live, and Twitch. lasm.org WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY: WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 6-7 p.m.

Join Dr. Mark Hausmann to learn more about the different types of weight loss surgeries and get your questions answered. womans.org

4 FRIDAY

NATIONAL LAZY MOM’S DAY BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT GROUP. Woman’s

Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 9:30-11 a.m.

This breastfeeding support group helps mothers and babies learn about successes and challenges with breastfeeding. womans.org CAFÉ FRANÇAIS. West Baton Rouge Museum from 1-3 p.m. Led by Director of Education, Gwenn Laviolette, Café Français is a great way for students of all levels to brush up on their French. westbatonrougemuseum.org GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP. Lane Regional Medical Center from 2-3 p.m. Monthly support group that provides companionship, understanding, and support with others who have experienced loss and are experiencing the

CALENDAR IN EVERY ISSUE

BODY BASICS FOR BOYS. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 9:30-11 a.m. Preteens will learn how their bodies grow, what changes to expect during puberty, and how to take care of themselves. womans.org STARGAZING IN THE IRENE W. PENNINGTON PLANETARIUM. LASM on Saturdays at 10 a.m. Explore the local nighttime sky during socially-distant stargazing.

Learn about the stars and constellations in the local nighttime sky during the interactive presentation, then sit back for a featured show for all ages. Collect a new constellation trading card each Saturday. lasm.org

6 SUNDAY

NATIONAL READ A BOOK DAY LASM’S 35TH ANNUAL GALA: H2O. Virtual through Facebook at 8 p.m. Includes Facebook live auction. facebook.com/ lasm35thannualgalah20

7 MONDAY LABOR DAY

PREGNANCY 101. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 6:30-8 p.m.

Learn how to provide your

MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com

9 WEDNESDAY

BODY BASICS FOR GIRLS. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 6:30-8 p.m. Preteens will learn how their bodies grow, what changes to expect during puberty, and how to take care of themselves. womans.org

10 THURSDAY

MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com PAJAMA STORYTIME AT ASCENSION PARISH LIBRARY. Ascension Parish Library’s Facebook page at 6:30 p.m. Put on some cozy PJs, snuggle up with your favorite stuffed animal, and join the library

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PATRIOT DAY AND NATIONAL DAY OF SERVICE AND REMEMBRANCE BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT GROUP. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 9:30-11 a.m.

This breastfeeding support group helps mothers and babies learn about successes and challenges with breastfeeding. womans.org JUMANJI ESCAPE ROOM. Livingston libraries virtual escape room from 10-11 a.m. Work through puzzles and solve riddles to outsmart and escape. Join

every Friday for the next part of the puzzle. Ages 12 and up. mylpl.info

12 SATURDAY

NATIONAL CHOCOLATE MILKSHAKE DAY LAMAZE: A LABOR OF LOVE. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 9 a.m.-3:30 p.m. Class is recommended for couples wanting to learn how to apply Lamaze techniques for coping with pain in labor and birth who plan to deliver without anesthesia. womans.org STARGAZING IN THE IRENE W. PENNINGTON PLANETARIUM. LASM on Saturdays at 10 a.m. Explore the local nighttime sky during socially-distant stargazing.

Learn about the stars and constellations in the local nighttime sky during the interactive presentation, then sit back for a featured show for all ages. Collect a new constellation trading card each Saturday. lasm.org

13 SUNDAY

NATIONAL GRANDPARENTS DAY AFTER BABY COMES (ABC): BABY CARE AND PARENT CARE. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 12:30-5:30 p.m. Learn how to bathe, feed, diaper, dress and hold a baby with a lifelike doll; baby blues and recovery from childbirth; and recovering from a vaginal or cesarean birth. womans.org LASM’S 35TH ANNUAL GALA: H2O. Virtual through Facebook at 8 p.m. Includes Facebook live auction. facebook.com/ lasm35thannualgalah20

14 MONDAY

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for storytime. View the video to hear a story and sing along to fun songs from the comfort of your home.

You can even pick up a craft packet on the day of the storytime, while supplies last, and follow along with them to create something fun. main.ascension.lib.la.us THE YEAR OF NO AZALEAS SOCIALLY-DISTANCED OPENING RECEPTION. Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge’s Firehouse Gallery from 4-6 p.m. artsbr.org WE NEED OUR SPACE: LIVE. LASM at 7 p.m. Join LASM for live-streamed explorations of outer space.

Launch into the digital universe on Facebook Live, YouTube Live, and Twitch. lasm.org

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baby with the best possible environment for growth and development. This class highlights nutrition, exercise and normal physical discomforts throughout pregnancy. Registration required. womans.org

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similar challenges that living with grief brings. lanermc.org JUMANJI ESCAPE ROOM. Livingston libraries virtual escape room from 10-11 a.m. Work through puzzles and solve riddles to outsmart and escape. Join every Friday for the next part of the puzzle. Ages 12 and up. mylpl.info

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AN EVENING OF ART AND INTRIGUE: COUNTERFEIT CLEMENTINE HUNTER PAINTINGS INVESTIGATION. West Baton Rouge Museum from 6:30-8:30 p.m. Join FBI Special Agent, Randolph Deaton, as he dives into the world of counterfeit art and forgeries. westbatonrougemuseum.org BABY FOOD BASICS. Baton Rouge General virtual class from 11:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Class for new and seasoned parents preparing to introduce their infant to solid foods (puree or table food). Instructed by speech-language pathologist/feeding specialists and registered dietitians. brgeneral.org HELPING HANDS SUPPORT GROUP. Zoom call with Families Helping Families of Greater Baton Rouge from 6-7:30 a.m. Parents, guardians, self-advocates, and family members of individuals with autism and

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IN EVERY ISSUE CALENDAR related disorders are invited to meet others walking in your shoes. They will share support, resources, compassion, and empathy.

Support group lead by Kara Shupe, RCASD Specialist.

(225) 216-7474 MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com PARENTS/CAREGIVERS NETWORKING MEETINGS. Families Helping Families of Greater Baton Rouge Conference Call at 10 a.m. Are you a parent/ caregiver with behavioral health concerns for your child? These networking meetings provide parents/ caregivers an opportunity to share information and resources to help others increase their support

networks. (605) 313-4819 Access number: 546755#

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LITTLES & ME SIGN LANGUAGE CLASS. Baton Rouge General virtual class from 9:30-10:30 a.m.

Interactive, virtual sign language class for caregivers and their little ones.

Families are welcome to join in the speech-language pathologist led class that explores early sign language development through song, play, and storybooks. brgeneral.org WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY: WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 11:45 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Join Dr. Kenneth Kleinpeter Jr. to learn more about the different types of weight loss surgeries. There will also be time to get all of your questions answered. womans.org

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NATIONAL PAWPAW DAY BYRDE’S DANCERS SCHOLARSHIP LUNCHEON. Old Governor’s Mansion or through Zoom at noon. Byrde’s Dancers Scholarship Luncheon will host both a virtual and in-person venue experience. The luncheon is an effort that brings life-changing arts opportunities to children. Tickets start at $30. ofmovingcolors.org/byrdes MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com WE NEED OUR SPACE: LIVE. LASM at 7 p.m. Join LASM for live-streamed explorations of outer space.

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A WALK THROUGH THE DECADES. Gonzales Library from 9 a.m.-5 p.m.

Experience the different eras with popular candy, toys, and music during these specific time periods.

This engaging and interactive experience is open to one family or group at a time. The room and all toys are cleaned between time slots. Registration required.

(225) 647-3955 BIRTHING AND WELLNESS PAST AND PRESENT: CARING FOR WOMEN CREATING LIFE RETREAT. West Baton Rouge Museum through September 19. Nanette McCann of A Caring Season Doula and Dr. Sears Certified L.E.A.N. Coach presents a two-part program for expectant mothers. McCann will share information and lead exercises and discussions to help moms-to-be prepare for pregnancy during COVID times. McCann will also offer ways to prepare for changes at work and when baby comes home. $65. acaringseasondoula.com BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT GROUP. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 9:30-11 a.m.

This breastfeeding support group helps mothers and babies learn about successes and challenges with breastfeeding. womans.org JUMANJI ESCAPE ROOM. Livingston libraries virtual escape room from 10-11 a.m. Work through puzzles and solve riddles to outsmart and escape. Join every Friday for the next part of the puzzle. Ages 12

and up. mylpl.info

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NATIONAL TALK LIKE A PIRATE DAY A WALK THROUGH THE DECADES. Gonzales Library from 9 a.m.-5 p.m.

Experience the different eras with popular candy, toys, and music during these specific time periods.

This engaging and interactive experience is open to one family or group at a time. The room and all toys are cleaned between time slots. Registration required.

(225) 647-3955 BEACH SWEEP 2020.

Pontchartrain Basin from 8 a.m.-3 p.m. Beach Sweep is the biggest community cleanup in Southeastern Louisiana. All throughout the region, you can care for the neighborhoods and areas that drain into the Pontchartrain Basin.

Groups will clean curbs, ditches, and storm drains on city streets and rural roadways. Registration required. scienceforourcoast.org/ beachsweep BIRTHING AND WELLNESS PAST AND PRESENT: CARING FOR WOMEN CREATING LIFE RETREAT. West Baton Rouge Museum. Nanette McCann of A Caring Season Doula and Dr. Sears Certified L.E.A.N. Coach presents part two of this program for expectant mothers. McCann will share information and lead exercises and discussions to help moms-to-be prepare for pregnancy during COVID times. McCann will also offer ways to prepare for changes at work and when baby comes home. $65. acaringseasondoula.com HANKIES2HOPE

WEEKLY EVENTS A YARDMAN’S ART: THE INSPIRATION OF STEELE BURDEN. LSU Rural Life Museum from September 18-November 20. Exhibit explores Steele Burden’s sculptures, paintings, and use of art. ■ lsu.edu/rurallife AMERICAN SON. Theatre Baton Rouge from September 25-October 4. American Son is a gripping tale about who we are as a nation. ■ theatrebr.org ANIMALS IN ART EXHIBIT. Arts Council of Livingston Parish through October. It’s time to put man’s best friend in the spotlight. ■ (225) 664-1168 LETITIA HUCKABY: THIS SAME DUSTY ROAD. LSU Museum of Arts from September 17-March 14. Exhibit features quilted photographic works. ■ lsumoa.org NATIONAL LIBRARY CARD SIGN-UP MONTH. Ascension Parish Libraries through September. Children who sign up for their first card will be invited to add their name to the knowledge tree and choose a prize. ■ main.ascension.lib.la.us THE YEAR OF NO AZALEAS. Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge’s Firehouse Gallery from September 10-28. A photographic show by Randy Roussel. ■ artsbr.org UNDERSTANDING BIRTH E-CLASS. Woman’s Hospital virtual class. Program uses videos, personal birth stories, animations, and games to teach information parents need. ■ womans.org UNDERSTANDING BREASTFEEDING E-CLASS. Woman’s Hospital virtual class. Lets you know when to call for help and includes partner tips. ■ womans.org UNDERSTANDING MULTIPLES E-CLASS. Woman’s Hospital virtual class. Covers what to expect from a vaginal or cesarean birth, breastfeeding, and life at home with multiples. ■ womans.org UNDERSTANDING YOUR NEWBORN E-CLASS. Woman’s Hospital virtual class. Covers bathing, feeding and diapering, and lets you know when to call the doctor. ■ womans.org VIRTUAL SUNSHINE INTERACTIVE DAYS. BREC virtual event through December 18. Participants will engage in themed activities, take virtual field trips and finish the week with karaoke. ■ brec.org WOMAN’S IDEAL WEIGHT LOSS SEMINAR. Woman’s Hospital webinar every Wednesday at 5:30 p.m. Learn about the Ideal Protein program. ■ womans.org

CALENDAR IN EVERY ISSUE CONFERENCE. Fellowship Church from 8 a.m.-3 p.m. A one-day conference for mothers who have lost a child/children. Maria Williams will lead worship and Susan LeBauve will be the special guest speaker. eventbrite.com SECURE YOUR ID DAY: SHRED FEST. Baton Rouge Police Department Parking Lot in the morning. People can safely shred important documents, so they do not fall victim to scammers or identity theft. They will also be accepting donations for the Greater Baton Rouge Food Bank. Everyone will be wearing masks, and people will not have to leave their cars for the documents to be shredded. Hosted by the Better Business Bureau of South Central Louisiana.

(225) 346-5091 STARGAZING IN THE IRENE W. PENNINGTON PLANETARIUM. LASM on Saturdays at 10 a.m. Explore the local nighttime sky during socially-distant stargazing. Learn about the stars and constellations in the local nighttime sky during the interactive presentation, then sit back for a featured show for all ages. Collect a new constellation trading card each Saturday. lasm.org THE BEST OF THE IONE E. BURDEN SYMPOSIUM. LSU Rural Life Museum from 8 a.m.-3 p.m.

Distinguished speakers will present highlights from the Symposium’s 26-year history in the areas of history, gardening, architecture, and decorative arts. Cost is $40 per person. Registration required. (225) 765-2437 THE PREGNANCY WORKSHOP & BABY CARE BASICS. Lane Regional Medical Center from 10 a.m.-noon. A free prena-

tal and newborn baby care class. Registration required.

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WIFE APPRECIATION DAY A WALK THROUGH THE DECADES. Gonzales Library from 2-5:30 p.m.

Experience the different eras with popular candy, toys, and music during these specific time periods. This engaging and interactive experience is open to one family or group at a time.

The room and all toys are cleaned between time slots.

Registration required.

(225) 647-3955 BOYS TO MEN. Baton Rouge General–Bluebonnet from 2-3:30 p.m. Led by family physician, Dr. Jacob Wood, this class is tailored for boys ages 10-13 and a parent or trusted adult that focuses on how a boy transitions through puberty, including topics like proper hygiene, skin, and body changes. Space is limited. brgeneral.org BRACELET MAKING WORKSHOP. West Baton Rouge Museum from 2-3 p.m. Workshop with Pamela Smith of Wristful Thinking.

Space is limited. Registration required. westbatonrougemuseum.org LASM’S 35TH ANNUAL GALA: H2O. Virtual through Facebook at 8 p.m. Includes Facebook live auction, and the silent auction opens for live bidding. facebook.com/lasm35thannualgalah20

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A WALK THROUGH THE DECADES. Gonzales Library from 9 a.m.-5 p.m.

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NATIONAL VOTER REGISTRATION DAY MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com

23 WEDNESDAY NATIONAL GREAT AMERICAN POT PIE DAY

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MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will be held Tuesdays and Thursdays, in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams. While participants may choose which method to attend, in-person space is limited because of social distancing. Registration required. eventbrite.com WE NEED OUR SPACE: 52

LIVE. LASM at 7 p.m. Join LASM for live-streamed explorations of outer space.

Launch into the digital universe on Facebook Live, YouTube Live, and Twitch. lasm.org

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NATIONAL BRAVE DAY ALZHEIMER’S CAREGIVER SUPPORT GROUP. Lane Regional Medical Center from 2-3 p.m. Monthly support group to provide a place for caregivers of persons with dementia to develop a mutual support system and to exchange practical information on caregiving challenges and ways of coping. lanermc.org BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT GROUP. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 9:30-11 a.m.

This breastfeeding support group helps mothers and babies learn about successes and challenges with breastfeeding. womans.org LASM’S 35TH ANNUAL GALA: H2O. Virtual through Facebook. Includes live gala and auction, and the silent auction closes.

The winning raffle ticket will be drawn. All proceeds directly contribute to LASM’s financial recovery from the COVID-19 crisis and help to ensure the continued success of their educational programming, now offered both virtually and in-person. facebook. com/lasm35thannualgalah20

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NATIONAL PANCAKE DAY BODY BASICS FOR GIRLS. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from

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9:30-11 a.m. Preteens will learn how their bodies grow, what changes to expect during puberty, and how to take care of themselves. womans.org BREASTFEEDING BASICS. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 1:30-5 p.m. Learn about the benefits of breastfeeding, how to prepare for breastfeeding, how to get the baby on the breast properly, the father’s role, breastfeeding pumps and supplies, and how to avoid common problems. womans.org LSU VS. MISSISSIPPI STATE. Tiger Stadium.

Time TBD. Kickoff for the 2020 football season. lsusports.net RYAN’S RUN/WALK FOR SICKLE CELL DISEASE. Virtual. Participants can run or walk from any location. Former Super Bowl Champion Ryan Clark will be the honorary chair of the event. The Sickle Cell Association of Louisiana strives to promote education and awareness for those living with SCD. Once runners finish their run/walk, they can capture a screenshot of their time and distance on their smartphones or fitness watches and submit them to be included in the results and be eligible for age group awards. runsignup.com STARGAZING IN THE IRENE W. PENNINGTON PLANETARIUM. LASM on Saturdays at 10 a.m. Explore the local nighttime sky during socially-distant stargazing.

Learn about the stars and constellations in the local nighttime sky during the interactive presentation, then sit back for a featured show for all ages. Collect a new constellation trading card

each Saturday. lasm.org

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PREPARING FOR DELIVERY. Woman’s Hospital Zoom virtual meeting from 1-5 p.m. Class will cover signs of labor, when to go to the hospital, what to expect when you arrive, indications of cesarean birth, dealing with labor and birth pain, and the importance of your support persons. womans.org

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NATIONAL FAMILY DAY 2020 LOUISIANA ARTS SUMMIT: ART AT WORK. Zoom with the Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge from 10 a.m.6 p.m. This five-day virtual event offers artists, arts organizations, educators, and community members opportunities for discussion, networking, and professional development. Keynote speaker is Marty Pottenger, an award-winning playwright, performance artist and theatre director based out of Portland, Maine. artsbr.org

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NATIONAL COFFEE DAY 2020 LOUISIANA ARTS SUMMIT: ART AT WORK. Zoom with the Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge from 10:40 a.m.-4 p.m. This fiveday virtual event offers artists, arts organizations, educators, and community members opportunities for discussion, networking, and professional development. artsbr.org MASTER GARDENER CLASS. LSU AgCenter Botanic Gardens at Burden

from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Classes will in person and by livestream via Microsoft Teams.

Registration required. eventbrite.com MOMS GROUP. Whimsical Alley at 10:30 a.m.-noon. Join the Mom’s Group on the patio and the kids are welcome to play. whimsicalalley.com

30 WEDNESDAY NATIONAL WOMEN’S HEALTH & FITNESS DAY

2020 LOUISIANA ARTS SUMMIT: ART AT WORK. Zoom with the Arts Council of Greater Baton Rouge from 10 a.m.4 p.m. This virtual event offers artists and organizations networking opportunities. artsbr.org

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SEPTEMBER

BREC OUT THIS MONTH Night Hikes

Dog Day at the Swamp

Kayaks + Coffee

H.O.R.S.E. Tournament

IPT’s Virtual Commercial Audition: Intensive (Master Class)

Boat Rentals

Hooper Road Park Sept. 4 + 11 | 6-8 p.m.

Bluebonnet Swamp Nature Center Sept. 19 | 9 a.m.- 4 p.m.

Milford Wampold Memorial Park Sept. 8 | 10 a.m.-noon

North Sherwood Forest Community Park Sept. 19 | 10 a.m.-3 p.m.

Milford Wampold Memorial Park Sept. 23 | 3- 5 p.m.

Sept. 9 + 11 | 5:30-7 p.m. theparktheatre.com

Sunset Paddle

Milford Wampold Memorial Park Sept. 23 | 6:30-8 p.m.

Sunset Paddle

Milford Wampold Memorial Park Sept. 10 | 6:30-8 p.m.

Virtual Art unWINEd: Starry, Starry Night Sept. 25 | 6-8:30 p.m. brec.org/brecart

Saturday Morning Studio: Talk Like a Pirate Day Milton J. Womack Sept. 12 | 10:30-noon

E-Sports Tournament - Madden NFL

Sept. 26 | noon Registration Deadline: Sept. 25 | noon mckinley.williams@brec.org

Brunch + Bows

Milton J. Womack Sept. 15 | 10 a.m.-noon

Plus Night

Virtual Sunshine Social: Safari

Sept. 18 | 6-8 p.m.

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IN EVERY ISSUE THE LAST WORD

every day of a toddler’s life is sponsored by the word “no.” Asking a two year old whether she pooped is like asking the Trump administration if climate change is really a thing. Skip your lame attempts to get a confession, grab the child, and change the diaper.

5. Aren’t you hungry?

Never in the history of man has this question inspired a child to eat the meal his loving caregiver carefully prepared (or frantically threw together). If your child had an attorney, she’d accuse you of leading the witness and request the question be overruled. Kids don’t care how you’ll feel at the crack of ridiculous o’clock tomorrow morning when they’re starving. For miniature, enlightened yogis (aka children), the only moment is right now. And right now, they’re not hungry.

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6. Do you want to go to the store?

Things You Need to Stop Saying to Your Kids Right Now

By Pam Moore

They say there are no dumb questions. They are wrong. There are, in fact, many dumb questions. I know because I ask them more often than Kim Kardashian posts a selfie. In the spirit of conscious parenting and minimizing the urge to stab myself with a Lego, I’ve composed a list of dumb questions to stop asking my kids.

1. Are you ready to go?

Before asking this question, assess the situation.

Are the child’s shoes on? Has the child gone to the bathroom? (Alternatively: Is her diaper smuggling a wrecking ball?) Is the child already holding whatever toy, doll, or tchotchke she needs to bring? If not, save your breath and some aggravation. The child is not ready to go.

2. Can you wait a minute?

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small voice will ask, “Has it been a minute?” approximately every 15 seconds until you lose your mind. Multiply the number of uninterrupted minutes required to complete whatever you were doing by 7,832. Plan to finish sometime next year.

Next time, try saying, “Not right now,” and then placing either the child or yourself in a locked, soundproof chamber where you or she will remain until your task is complete.

3. Do you have to go to the bathroom?

She might be emulating Michael Jackson the way she’s holding herself, but if your child is like mine, unless she’s actually on the toilet, the answer to this question is a big, fat “no.”

You might think you’re being responsible when you ask this question. In fact, you are wasting your time. Your kid will go when she’s good and ready and not a second before…hopefully.

4. Did you poop? (toddler exclusive!)

You saw her disappear into the other room.

She smells like a dumpster. And you know that

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Unless your child dictates your agenda (in which case, we will never be friends), this question is Russian Roulette. When you go down this road, you’re being as shortsighted as your children.

Save your time and just tell your kids where they are going today. If they like the plan, consider it a bonus.

7. Why did you push your sister?

All kids do stuff we don’t understand. They bite siblings, TP the bathroom, or wear footie pajamas in July. And we want to know why. Repeat after me: They do not know. (Also: they get this from your partner.) When our kids behave, we credit our stellar parenting. When they don’t, we remember children are just animals, acting on instinct. They probably have no clue why they did what they did.

8. Do you know how late it is!?

If, like me, you’re asking this question of someone who uses a Tot Clock to tell time, stop asking this question. If you have the kind of child who, when told she must leave the park in five minutes, counters with “No, three minutes!” stop asking this question.

You are talking to an overtired, undersized human whose life goals include becoming a ballerina or maybe an astronaut and staying up all night, every night. Letting them know exactly how long they’ve been winning the war on fatigue will only embolden them to keep pushing through as if they are going to win a medal.

Life’s too short for dumb questions, so I pledge to stop asking them. I don’t know about you, but I would rather spend my precious time asking the important questions, like, “How long until bedtime?,” and, “Will they expect me to pay for their therapy when they get older?” ■

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