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On the cover: Top: Local writer and historian Ed Adamczyk discusses how his life changed after retirement. Photo by Nicholas Vitello Bottom middle: Tony Zambito with his band, My Cousin Tone, at the Lewiston Jazz Festival. Photo courtesy Tony Zambito Bottom right: An authentic Philly cheesesteak Photo by Jennifer Merrick

Life & Leisure

Cover: Inspiring Stories

Crossword: The 1950s ..........................................StatePoint Media

24 This Town Is My Town............................................ Ed Adamczyk

Diamonds Are Forever ........................................................Ted Rickard

20 Strengthening Body and Spirit...................... Wendy Guild Swearingen 22 Life Redux............................................................... Judith A. Rucki

Food 10 Pumpkin Dishes......................................................... Hilary Diodato

Getaways

Home & Garden

26 Philadelphia Foodie............................................... Jennifer Merrick

Scented Plants..................................................................Carol Ann Harlos

Arts

Lets’ Talk About 28 The Emotional Affair............................................. Judith A. Rucki

12 November Theater Review........................................Donna Hoke 14 Jazz Series............................................................. Anthony Chabala

Being Well 30 Cancer Fighting Foods.......................................... Catherine Stack 31 Eye Lifts.....................................................Samuel Shatkin Jr., MD

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From the Editor

Before you get too caught up in shopping, cleaning, and cooking in anticipation of the upcoming holidays, take a moment to yourself to relax and read through this edition of Forever Young. I’m proud to share the stories of Judith, “Cheech,” and Ed– three smart, strong people who created fulfilling lives for themselves through sheer hard work and determination. It’s good to know you don’t have to be young and just starting out to step onto the path to happiness. I hope their stories will inspire you to learn new things and meet new people. Other highlights in this issue include some fascinating scented plants, an article on a series of jazz concerts you won’t want to miss, and a gourmand’s take on a trip to Philadelphia. Now that you’re ready to think about planning holiday meals, why not include some cancer-

fighting foods on the menu, as found in “Being Well,” or try a savory take on pumpkin from recipes in the “Food” section? Have a happy Thanksgiving; we sure are grateful to have readers like you.

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FOREVER YOUNG NOVEMBER CALENDAR 1+ Erie County STAY FIT DINING PROGRAM offers a hot noon meal at 45 locations in Erie County. Menus and site list at erie.gov/stayfit or 858-7639.

Tonawanda T.O.P.S. CLUB, weekly meetings on Tuesdays, 9:30 a.m. at Blessed Sacrament Parish, Claremont Avenue. For information, call 836-7255.

1+ Niagara Falls T.O.P.S. CLUB, Enjoy light sitting and standing yoga at 5:30 p.m. before weigh in 6 p.m., and a brief interactive educational program at 7 p.m. Facebook: TOPS #173 Niagara Falls, NY. or call 550-1232. Meets Tuesdays at Riverside Presbyterian Church, 815 - 84th St., Niagara Falls 1+, 3+

WNY IDEAL WEIGHT CLASSES taught by Ida Shapiro are offered every Tues. at 6:15 p.m. at Zion United Church of Christ (Koening and Parker, Tonawanda) and every Thurs. at 6:15 p.m. at St. Gregory the Great (Maple Rd., Williamsville). Over 40 years experience. 636-3698.

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for those with Alzheimer’s and related dementia on first Tuesday, 5:30 p.m. in Williamsville, and third Saturday, 11 a.m. in Amherst. Location info: (800) 2723900.

Amherst WILLIAMSVILLE ART SOCIETY Holiday Show Original art works, basket auction, refreshments. Open to the public through Dec. 27. Amherst Center for Senior Services. 370 John James Audubon Pkwy. Show continues through Dec. 27.

1+ Niagara Falls SENIOR C O M PA N I O N / F O S T E R GRANDPARENT PROGRAM Looking for seniors who enjoy working with their peers or children. Volunteers receive a tax-free stipend, transportation assistance and supplemental insurance coverage while volunteering. If you are 55+, have a minimum of 15 hours per week to give and want to make a difference, contact Nora Aloian (SCP) at 285-8224 ext. 217or Jennifer Britton (FGP) at 285-8224 ext. 228

West Seneca UNITED CHURCH MANOR’S LUNCH PROGRAM is looking for volunteers in the West Seneca/Cheektowaga area. Information: 668-5804.

Buffalo TAI CHI: MOVING FOR BETTER BALANCE 10:30 a.m. every Tuesday, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. For more information, contact monicazucco@ gmail.com.

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Buffalo HEADWAY SUPPORT GROUPS, 2635 Delaware Ave. For individuals who have sustained brain injuries as well as their families and caregivers; exchange information and resources, and find mutual support and encouragement. Peer Support (enter at Suite B), first and third Tuesday, 6:30 to 8 p.m.; Caregivers Support (enter at Suite B), first Tuesday, 6:30 to 8 p.m.; Women’s Survivors Support (enter at Suite E), first Tuesday, 1 to 2:30 p.m. Info: 408-3100 or headwayofwny.org

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SPRINGVILLE CONCORD ELDER NETWORK (SCENE) invites the public ages 50+ to any of their scheduled activities. Visit communityalliance.org for an updated schedule or more details. Concord Senior Center, 40 Commerce Dr., Springville

Farnham T.O.P.S. CLUB (TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY) weekly meetings held Tuesdays at Holy Cross Lutheran Church, 10633 Church St., starting at 9 a.m. Call 934-9619.

2+ Amherst HISTORY OF BUFFALO 5+ Lockport T.O.P.S. CLUB, weekly MUSIC & ENTERTAINMENT Audiovisual presentation on Buffalo’s rich entertainment heritage covering Canal Street, Christy’s Minstrels, early theaters, vaudeville, burlesque, big band music, area songwriters, and more, 7 p.m. at Audubon Library, 350 John James Audubon Pwky., Amherst

Amherst FREE RESPITE CARE PROGRAM, 10:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m., Trinity Old Lutheran Church 3445 Sheridan Drive. Held first Wednesday of the month, for those caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s or any form of dementia. A morning snack and nutritious lunch are provided. For more information on registering for the program, call 836-4868.

Williamsville WOMEN’S LYMPHEDEMA SUPPORT GROUP, 5:45 p.m. the first Wednesday of each month. Sheridan Surgical room, 4510 Bailey Ave., Williamsville. Call 908-4149

3+ Buffalo GENTLE YOGA, 11 a.m. Thursdays, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. Bring a yoga mat. Info: 828-1093

3+ Cheektowaga T.O.P.S. MEETING, Thursdays at 9 a.m., St. Luke’s Lutheran Church, 900 Maryvale Drive (corner of Union Road). Come for the love, support and friendship. For information, call Karen at 247-2334 3+

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Scout House, Rochester Rd., Middleport. Wednesday weigh-in: 3:15-4 p.m.; meeting: 4-5 p.m. Contact Terry at 735-7666

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Buffalo MEDITATION, 2:30 p.m., El Buen Amigo, 114 Elmwood Ave. Free every Sunday. Meditation unites with creative arts and pain management. Practitioner Sondra Holland welcomes people of all ages. Wear comfortable clothes. For information, Sondra: 9475092; store: 885-6343.

3+ Springiville SCENE Springville Concord Eldernetwork events (open to the public age 50+, no residency requirements) are held at the Concord Senior Center, 40 Commerce Drive (off Waverly) in Springville; for schedule visit communityalliance.org; 592-2768 or sceldernetwork@gmail.com 8 Hamburg ALZHEIMER’S CARE-GIVER SUPPORT GROUP for males at Wesleyan Church, 4999 McKinley Pkwy. 2nd Tues. 626-0600, alz. org/wnyc 8

Depew BREAST CANCER NETWORK OF WNY Monthly meeting second Tuesday, 6 p.m., Bella Moglie Bldg., 3297 Walden Ave. Call 7060060 or visit bcnwny.org. Professional support group will be held at 8 p.m.

8 Orchard Park ALIENATED G R A N D P A R E N T S ANONYMOUS, INC., meetings 1 p.m. the second Tuesday of month, 4295 S. Buffalo St.

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East Aurora WORDS AND PICTURES In this 2014 Australian dramedy, an art instructor (Juliette Binoche) and an English teacher (Clive Owen) form a rivalry that ends up with a competition at their school in which students decide whether words or pictures are more important. 4 p.m., Roycroft Film Society Parkdale School Auditorium, 141 Girard Ave., East Aurora, 14052. Please stay for the post-film discussion $6 members, $8 nonmembers, roycroftcampuscorporation.com

Williamsville MCGUIRE GROUP MEMORY CARE SUPPORT GROUPS: General Support Group is second Wednesday, 3 p.m. at Harris Hill Nursing Facility, 2699 Wehrle Dr., Williamsville; Daughters’ Support Group is also second Weds., 5 p.m. at Harris Hill Monthly support groups coordinated in conjunction with the Alzheimer’s Association, with caregiving tips and coping mechanisms. For more information, call 632-3700 or visit mcguiregroup.com

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ANNUAL HOLIDAY BAZAAR: Browse over 50 vendors at both GreenField Manor and GreenField Health & Rehabilitation Center at 5949 Broadway in Lancaster, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., shuttle service between the two buildings. Library committee book sale; other vendors include home parties, crafts, home décor, jewelry, holiday treats, quilts and more! 684-8400.

West Seneca FREE BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT SESSION, hosted by The McGuire Group for anyone coping with grief, sadness or loss at 5 pm at Seneca Health Care Center, 2987 Seneca St. Held third Wednesday of the month. Those interested in attending can call 828-0500.

WNY NATIONAL ALLIANCE ON MENTAL ILLNESS (NAMI) held third Wednesday of the month at 7 p.m. in two locations for families of people living with mental illness: St. Paul’s Evangelical Lutheran Church, 4007 Main St., Amherst. Southtowns: Lake Shore Behavioral Health, 3176 Abbott Rd., Orchard Park.

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active 50-plus crowd. Dances on the third Friday every month at 7pm at the Buff Social Club, 2565 Young St,. Niagara Falls, NY. Cost: $6 (Members $4) Door prize and 50/50 raffle. Monthly activities include game nights, restaurants, picnics and holiday parties. Check Facebook: Singles Social Club for events and photos or call 550-1232.

DANCE CALENDAR MONDAYS W. Seneca BALLROOM DANCING BY CAROL is a 6-week class @ St. David’s Church, 3951 Seneca St. 7:30– 9:30 p.m. Info: 824-0504. Sloan CLOGGING LESSONS by Kickin’ Rhythm Cloggers, 6:30 p.m. @ St. Andrew’s Parish Hall, 111 Crocker St., Bldg. 1. kickinrhythmcloggers.com, (585) 457-4455. TUESDAYS Buffalo LINDY FIX 8–10 p.m. @ Polish Cadets Hall, 927 Grant St. lindyfix.com, swingbuffalo.com. WEDNESDAYS N. Ton. DANCING WITH DOTTIE AND FRIENDS country-style line lessons, 7:30 p.m. @ Pendleton Center Meth. Church, 6864 Campbell Blvd. 688-6026 or 625-8306. 6

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THURSDAYS Kenmore JACKIE’S THURSDAY NIGHT DANCES @ Brounshidle Post, 3354 Delaware Ave. Lessons: 7 p.m. Open dancing: 8 p.m. 691-8654. Ongoing WNY BELLYDANCE CLASSES 560-1891, nadiaibrahim.com. Kenmore JACKIE’S DANCE Monthly dance. Call 691-8654 for details. WNY BALLROOM SOCIAL DANCE, Argentine tango and belly dance instruction with Carol Allen; N. Collins and Amherst. 337-3092 or callen8801@aol.com. West Seneca BALLROOM DANCE classes @ 1761 Orchard Park Rd., 771-3110, ballroomiliana.com. WNY DANCE W/ ERIN BAHN 997-7190 or erinbahn.com. ARGENTINE TANGO IN BUFFALO Dancing & Classes www.traviswidricktango.com Contact Travis @ 716.517.7047

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LIFE & LEISURE

Diamonds Are Forever, Aren’t They? BY TED RICKARD

ou’d think the newspapers would have better things to do than stir things up during breakfast. But just the other morning, across the kitchen table from the woman who is my lifetime holder of a companion ticket, I read an article about manufacturing diamonds from the cremated remains of a loved one. A company named LifeGem will do this for you. And I guess they’ll do it for anyone who just happens to want to turn somebody into a diamond. Apparently, human remains contain enough carbon to be heated and compressed into an actual, albeit synthetic, diamond. I read some of the news story details aloud. This was probably not a good idea. “Can they actually make diamonds?” she interrupted. “I thought they mined them or something in Africa.” “They can also manufacture them.” I tried to tone down any note of

superior knowledge in my voice as I glanced at the newspaper article for details. “They’ve been synthesizing diamonds for years. They compress pure graphite under tremendous heat and pressure, and what comes out is the real thing. Only an expert can tell a natural diamond from a manufactured one. The difference here is that instead of graphite in the process, they use the carbon from cremated remains.”

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More coffee splashed into my cup—a bit carelessly, I thought. “I don’t think I like the idea of you turning me into a pinkie ring,” she said. “Besides, I never did like men who wore a lot of jewelry. They tend to be the kind of guys who have hairy chests and leave their shirts unbuttoned.” “I was thinking maybe a pair of earrings.” I was beginning to wonder if it had been a good idea to bring this up in the first place. “And they can be made into different colors: red, blue, green, yellow.” “I don’t think I’d be really comfortable with you hanging from my ear lobes, dear. Especially in Technicolor.” I was becoming more and more sure that this subject had not been a good idea. “And I suppose Cousin Maude,” she went on, referring to a distant relative who has had two unfortunate but highly lucrative marriages, “would end up with two pairs of earrings, sort of a pair and pair thing, double drops, maybe?” She almost giggled. “I was thinking of something you might like to have,” I managed what I thought was a touch of serious drama and then added an appropriate pause, “after I’m gone.” “Why wait, dear?” she asked. “There’s a Tiffany ad in the current issue of Vanity Fair.” Obviously, my wife had been to either the dentist or the beauty parlor where the upscale life was detailed in full color on slick paper for the edification of patients or customers. “It’s not the same thing,” I hastened. “This would be to provide a permanent memorial—a remembrance that will last forever.”

“That’s sweet, but I think the children will last long enough,” she answered. “And I wouldn’t get married again, anyway.” It was hard to tell if the add-on opinion was because our longstanding union was without possible peer, or simply that she’d rather not repeat the experience. It seemed like a better idea to simply assume the former. Some things are best left unclarified, I’ve learned. “Marmalade or strawberry preserves?” she asked as the toast popped up in punctuation. But at least part of the information had caught her attention. “Do the colors have something to do with the mood you’re in? Red for angry, blue for sad, green for envious, yellow for frightened, maybe?” I hadn’t thought of that, but the article came to the rescue. “It depends on trace elements in the remains,” I sounded authoritative. “It’s boron that causes the blue coloring.” “Speaking of minerals, have you been taking the vitamins I got for you?” “Of course,” I said, lying about it without thinking. “I’ll take them now.” “Here,” she said putting the jar down on the breakfast table—rather firmly, in fact. “The pills are pink. They don’t come in any other colors. FY Ted Rickard’s book, Anything Worth Knowing I Learned from the Grandkids, is available from Amazon. com.

FOOD

Pumpkins: Not Just for Pie BY HILARY DIODATO

New York upbringing assumptions about pumpkin seeds: leftover from pumpkin carving, big white shells, baked and salted within an inch of their lives. Introduce yourself to the small interior kernels that Mexican cooks know as “pepitas.” With a multitude of Buffalo-area stores having well-stocked Mexican and Latin foods sections, you will be relieved to know that pepitas come preshelled and are inexpensive when compared to nuts usually found in salads. Pumpkin Cheese Bites Yield: about 2 dozen

y the time November rolls around, you may be feeling pumpkin fatigue… before the leaves even have their first blush of fall colors, it seems that everyone is hawking pumpkin flavored something. However, I’m here to show you how to take advantage of pumpkin in some new ways—not pumpkin pie, and not just for dessert. You may think that the pumpkin has no business being part of anything but a sweet application, but think of its sweetness as being versatile as a yam or carrot. Sweet and salty is a classic flavor combination, and I am pairing one of those ubiquitous cans of pumpkin puree with lightly salty cheese and a dash of sage for a fun appetizer that is equally at home at a holiday soiree as it is on a table of game day snacks. COME HOME TO

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Ingredients ¼ cup ricotta cheese ¼ cup crumbled cotija cheese 3 tablespoons canned pumpkin puree ½ teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon ground black pepper Large pinch of ground or dried crumbled sage 1-lb box phyllo sheets, thawed ¼ cup butter, melted Special equipment: pastry brush* Directions 1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Grease a sheet pan. 2. Ensure your phyllo is completely thawed according to package directions—there’s no quick thaw in the microwave with delicate phyllo! Unroll the phyllo on a work surface and cover it with a damp paper towel. 3. In a small bowl, blend together the ricotta, cotija, pumpkin, salt, pepper, and sage. 4. Lay out one sheet of phyllo. Brush it with melted butter and place a second sheet of phyllo on top. Cut into four strips the long way. 5. Put a teaspoon of filling (resist the urge to overfill or you’ll have a mess on your hands!) on one end of a strip of dough. Fold over an edge to cover the filling with a folded triangle of dough, then keep folding the triangular pocket down over itself in triangle shapes until you’ve reached the end of the dough strip. Brush the finished pocket with more butter and place on the prepared

sheet pan. Repeat until all of the dough and filling have been used. 6. Bake for 20 minutes; the pockets will be golden brown. Serve. *If you don’t have a pastry brush, and don’t want to purchase one just for this recipe: rip off an 18-inch length of waxed paper. From the bottom, make vertical cuts 2 inches deep and half an inch apart along one of the long edges like fringe. Roll up the paper tightly and twist the non-cut end together. Voila! A disposable pastry brush. Double Pumpkin Salad Yield: 2 meal salads or 4 side dish salads Ingredients 2 tablespoons mustard (any kind but yellow: Dijon, grainy, spicy brown) 6 tablespoons olive oil, divided 1 tablespoon maple syrup ¾ pound pumpkin flesh, cut into ¾ inch cubes ¼ cup pepitas (unsalted, roasted**) ¼ small red onion, sliced thin 5 ounces spring mix salad Salt and pepper to taste Directions 1. Preheat the oven to 400 degrees. Toss the pumpkin cubes with 3 tablespoons of the oil and large pinches of salt and pepper. Spread in a single layer on the sheet pan and roast for 20–25 minutes until tender. Set aside to cool. 2. Whisk together the mustard, remaining 3 tablespoons oil, maple syrup, and salt and pepper together. 3. Toss the spring mix, cooled pumpkin, onions, pepitas, and dressing together. Serve immediately. **If you can’t find roasted pepitas, roast them in the oven for a couple of minutes after you roast the pumpkin. Stir every 15 seconds and take off the hot pan as soon as they smell toasty; since pepitas are small, they can burn very quickly! FY Hilary Diodato writes a bimonthly food column for Forever Young.

HOME & GARDEN

Scented Plants from the Summer Porch T

his summer, scented plants thrived on our front porch. They received a lot of light, so they grew vigorously. People who walked by them, and especially those who touched them, were treated to an incredible array of different scents.

CAROL ANN HARLOS Think of lemons, oranges, roses, and strawberries. These were the scented geraniums. Scented geraniums do produce flowers similar in structure to common garden geraniums, but they are smaller and not notable. The interest lies in their leaves. Scented geraniums originated in South Africa. Now there are many cultivars. Here, in Western New York State, they are called “tender perennials,” meaning they will die if left outdoors over winter. I like to grow them in pots so I can move them around during the growing season, then bring them indoors in late September. By that time they are usually big and somewhat

Lemon Sculpture Vim Geranium Photos by Carol Ann Harlos

ungainly. Great! I make cuttings and propagate the plants for next spring’s garden sales or to give to friends. I have included a picture of some of my favorite scented geraniums from this past season and a new one for me—a Lemon Sculpture Vim Geranium. The leaves are curled and the plant looks “architectural.” Although it will spend most of its winter in the basement under grow lights, I like to bring it upstairs and place it on the kitchen table where visitors can’t miss it. I cannot propagate this plant because it is patented by Richters Herbs, a Canadian company. This means the Canadian government has granted the company ownership in the reproduction of the plant. I respect this—how would you feel if you developed a new plant and everyone made cuttings and didn’t pay you? Other porch plants included the Vick’s plant. This amazing plant is actually a plectranthus, which means it is related to coleus plants. The stems are square; it must have flowers that resemble the strap-shaped flowers of the mints and bee balms, but I have yet to see my Vick’s plant flower. The name describes the fragrance. It smells of camphor, eucalyptus oil, and menthol like the commercial vapor rub. You can even squeeze the leaves onto a warm damp cloth and inhale if you have a cold! Plus Vick’s plant is delightful to look at and indestructible. (Did someone just take that as a challenge?) Another delightful indestructible scented plant from the porch is Cuban oregano. This close relative of the Vick’s plant actually grows all over the world. I love the hairy leaves, which

have a kind of frosted look. They are oval-shaped and very thick. The taste of this leaf is rather refreshing. It is used extensively in Indian cooking. Cuban oregano has flowered for me. The flowers were purplish and clustered together—quite lovely really. I also grew another relative of the Vick’s plant and Cuban oregano: broadleaf thyme. Broadleaf thyme has a rather pungent flavor and smell. It is nothing like the thyme you may be growing in your garden, as the leaves are fleshy, like a succulent. Truthfully,

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I grow it because it is unique; I really don’t like its taste. It is often used when cooking black beans or fish— just not at my house! Some people make an herbal tea (called a tisane) from broadleaf thyme. FY Take a minute and send me a note about some unique plants that you are growing. I would love to hear from you: caharlos@verizon.net or herbgardener. net

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November Theater Preview BY DONNA HOKE

Crimes of the Heart Second Generation Theatre (at Lancaster Opera House) By Beth Henley Director: Greg Natale Cast: Bethany Burrows, Charmagne Chi, Jessica Wegrzyn, Jacob Albarella, Ben Michael Moran

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rimes of the Heart is a dark comedy dealing with something we can all relate to—family, the good, the bad, and the slightly

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but Copps says it still works. “The relationships are strong and palpable and stand the test of time easily,” she says. “With only two shows per season to make our mark on the theater community, we look for something that we think is going to speak to the audience and get them excited about SGT as a company. Often this means a regional premiere like Dirty Rotten Scoundrels or The Light in the Piazza, but, sometimes, it is something as simple as Crimes of the Heart, a wellloved story that speaks to the audience on a personal level.” While there is a wealth of female talent in town, Copps knew SGT would have to act quickly to get the “ladies we needed to carry this show. Charmagne [Chi] and Jessica [Wegrzyn] were asked by [director] Greg [Natale], but we were a little stuck on Babe, so we had auditions and were lucky enough to have Bethany [Burrows, who played Little Sally in Urinetown at Subversive in September] show up and fit the role to a tee. The three of them are so different, but all have really beautiful range as actresses.”

That said, Copps admits that some of the best moments in the show belong to Barnette, played by Jacob Albarella. “Jake has been one of SGT’s most wonderful and reliable assets since he played Rapunzel’s Prince in Into the Woods in 2013. He is charming, vulnerable, silly, and an all-around fine actor. We’ve been lucky enough to see him in such a variety of roles throughout our short history. His character is one of the smaller roles, but his attraction to Babe and his quixotic desire to help her no matter the cost is something I’m looking forward to seeing Jacob tackle.” Second Generation Theatre presents Crimes of the Heart at Lancaster Opera House from November 4-20 (secondgenerationtheatre.com; 716-508SGT0 lancopera.org, 683-1776). Tenderly: The Rosemary Clooney Musical MusicalFare By Janet Yates Vogt and Mark Friedman Director/choreographer: Doug Weyand Music Director: Theresa Quinn Cast: Debbie Pappas, Louis Colaiacovo

he iconic singer and star of White Christmas comes to life in this fresh, remarkably personal and poignant bio-musical. And if you’re thinking “not another jukebox musical,” think again: this show has been billed as “not your typical jukebox musical,” and director Doug Weyand stands by the claim. “With few exceptions, many

ARTS jukebox musicals gloss over the low points, scandals, etc., that may have affected the title character,” Weyand says. “This show uses one of Rosemary Clooney’s low points—having herself be voluntarily committed to a psychiatric hospital after suffering a breakdown and prescription drug addiction—and uses it as the centerpiece for the storytelling.” To play Rosemary, a performer needs to have an impressive vocal range and the ability to sing standards, jazz, and show tunes equally well; be the right age range, and also be a formidable actress, “because of the nature of the storyline,” says Weyand. “It’s not just a musical revue; it’s a pretty meaty exploration of her life. Debbie Pappas was the first person I thought of and, luckily, she was available. She more than fulfills the criteria.” Tenderly is a relatively new musical—it world premiered in 2012—and Weyand had caught wind of its development, and kept his eye on it, going so far as to suggest it to MusicalFare artistic director Randy Kramer as a good project for the company. And it most certainly is, though patrons may be surprised to find it only has a cast of two. “The show is set up in a way that we see Rosemary in therapy with her psychiatrist, revealing her life story to him—and the audience,” Weyand previews. “The actor playing the

psychiatrist—the supremely talented Louis Colaiacovo—becomes all of the characters in Clooney’s life, from her mother to her husbands, from celebrity friends to your average Joe on the street. [Louis and I] experimented to choose which characters are voicedriven, which are more delineated by a costume piece or a prop, and which might be specified by posture/gesture.” Though Weyand is choreographer on the show, he notes that Clooney was not a dancer, so he wore that hat minimally. Instead, he enjoyed a rare opportunity to work with a small cast (most musicals are much larger), and dive into character work. “With only two actors, you can be far more specific,” he explains. “But you have to be careful of overloading the actors’ brains in rehearsal. You have to parse out the work gradually, because it’s two actors doing all of the work. There’s no ensemble to come onstage and do a number while an actor takes a break or changes a costume.” The result is sure to be an engrossing and intimate affair. MusicalFare presents Tenderly: The Rosemary Clooney Musical beginning November 2 (musicalfare.com, 8398540). FY Playwright Donna Hoke writes about theater for Buffalo Spree and Forever Young.

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Jazz in Buffalo BY ANTHONY CHABALA

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Husband and wife jazz team Vincent and Carina Mastrantonio Photo courteys Music City Buffalo

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Tony Zambito with his band, My Cousin Tone, at the Lewiston Jazz Festival Photo courtesy Tony Zambito

Jazz, just like Buffalo, has recently had a major shot of adrenaline. I asked both Mastrantonio and Zambito why this was, and both had excellent insights. According to Mastrantonio, “Jazz is maybe the only truly American art form. So much has been done with it, yet it is still so untapped. People hear pop and blues for so many years that the ear seems to mature and want something more interesting and harmonically complex, which is jazz.” According to Zambito, “Jazz is becoming more popular for so many reasons. We have a great influx of young talent coming out of jazz programs at the local colleges and universities. There is an ongoing resurgence of both the Historic Colored Musicians Club and The Pappy Martin Legacy Jazz Society. We have new, exciting jazz venues like Pausa Art House and 189 Public House, and so many of our artists are entirely focused on performing for the audience.” Zambito has been around jazz long enough to know what makes

an amazing performance, and he believes that great jazz players not only have the technical ability, but also connect with the audience and evoke emotion. Whatever the reason, jazz is on the rise, and it is a great time to be a jazz fan or a jazz musician. Between Zambito’s dedication to the growth of the jazz community and the talent of jazz musicians like Mastrantonio, jazz’s stock is sure to rise. After almost two decades of rock guitar, I am proud to say that I have just about taken up jazz full time, and the experience could not be more fulfilling. There is an old saying, “A rock guy plays three chords to thousands of people while a jazz guy plays thousands of chords to three people.” I am hopeful that someday soon jazz’s audience size will equal its chords. FY Anthony Chabala is a dedicated musician, golfer, and freelance writer.

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Strengthening Body and Spirit STORY AND PHOTOS BY WENDY GUILD SWEARINGEN

usan Violante, known as “Cheech” to friends and family, lost her beloved husband Martin to brain cancer just over a decade ago. As the future they’d planned together came to an abrupt end, she and their three daughters were left to care for each other as best they could. Violante’s faith and support from loved ones sustained her those first few years after his death, but then she felt stuck. She needed something to focus on and help her grow through the pain of loss. That’s when she heard about Chris Tybor and his gym, ChrisFit, named Best Gym gym by the Niagara Gazette two years running. friendship with Tybor, who was Violante is now stronger in both recognized in Niagara’s class of 2016 body and spirit, helped along in 12 under 40 leadership awards. We sat large part by her training and deep

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Susan “Cheech” Violante, and Chris Tybor, owner of ChrisFit gym in Lewiston

down with them recently to talk about the transformation. Forever Young: How have you changed since you started here? What has the experience been like? Violante: It’s been unlike probably anything I’ve ever experienced before. I came at a time when I was on a plateau, as far as the grief process went. I knew that I needed to do something different that I hadn’t done before to make me stronger—physically and mentally. But, that wasn’t what was going on in my head. This is going to sound ridiculous—I was having problems with dinnertime, with waiting for a car to pull up. It was still, after two and a half years, just a difficult time. So a friend said, “I’ve been training

at this gym in Lewiston and there’s a trainer there. His name is Chris Tybor; you would love him. So, I thought about it. And after the holidays I said, “I really have to do something.” All the girls and I joined. Because everyone was either in school at the time or working, we all went at dinnertime. So, that fixed the whole problem with the dinner hour. And after a couple of months, we really got to know him. I would always look in at Chris’s kettle bell class and think, never am I ever going to be able to do anything like that. Eventually we started taking his class and it was hard. But, when I think about what I do now, as opposed to what I did then, it’s amazing.

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COVER FY: How has your body changed over these eight years? Violante: Oh, lord. Well, I’ll never forget the first time he took my body fat and I thought, you know, this is gonna be a breeze. He gave me the number, which was 30-31 percent, and I was like, “Whaaat?” He said, “Yeah, that’s it. That’s your number.” It totally changed the way I felt about myself. I don’t think I was ever lacking self-confidence. I was always—we refer to it as “skinny fat.” I always thought I looked good; it really didn’t matter what the scale said. But I can see such a big change over the years, from one year to the next. The nice thing is, he changes thing up as you’re going along, so you do always see a change. I think the biggest change was probably right before I turned sixty, I said to him, “I really need to step this up a little bit.” Just to prove something to myself. It was three and a half years ago. He said, “You’re finally going to have to start counting your macros.” FY: And macros are? Violante: Protein, fat, and carbohydrates. He scales it to your weight and what you’re working toward. That was a big change. The latest big change has been working out with Chris on Saturdays. I’ve seen a tremendous difference in strength and changes in my body. Tybor: Not just training; we’re workout partners. There are days that I don’t feel like working out, or I don’t feel like getting an extra rep, so it’s nice to have a friendly rivalry. I see her busting her butt and it makes me want to get an extra rep or two in.

FY: I think a lot of people, once they turn fifty, feel like it’s too late for them to get healthy. Was it hard for you to start? Violante: I don’t think so. Because I knew I needed something different. There is, quite frankly, just something about Chris that makes you not only want to succeed for yourself, but you kind of want to make him proud, too. I would venture to say that most of his clients would tell you that exact same thing. Because we know he cares about us, too. Another thing is the type of clientele he seems to attract. They’re all very real, kind, motivating people. FY: What would your advice be to somebody who was going through the same thing—the grieving process? Violante: I was definitely at a point where I knew I was strong enough to get through this, because I had gone through it for two and a half years. I had great support from family. I believe in God, so I knew I was going to see him again. That was motivating; faith is important. As you go along, you need different things to get you through different stages. This was the absolute best thing that happened to me at that time. And still, almost eight years later, I’m usually here five to six days a week. If I miss one of those days, I just don’t feel right. You wake up; the first thing you think of is getting to the gym. FY: You’re planning to do this for the rest of your life? Violante: They’ll probably have to take me out in a body bag. [Laughs] I really hope that’s not the case.

FY: What would you say was the most challenging part of starting working out? Violante: Whenever we had to run. And for me, it’s still the most challenging part. When I’m running, everyone else is faster than me and is back to the gym way before I am. The way I look at it is, eventually I’m going to get here. And they get a little break while I’m working my way back here. Tybor: She holds her own, don’t let her kid you. FY: What’s your favorite part about ChrisFit? Violante: If I’m honest, my favorite part about ChrisFit is Chris. Tybor: I thought you were going to say “deadlifts.” Violante: It’s not. It’s just him. I think everyone would tell you that. He’s a motivator. He has found the perfect place for him. He touches people’s lives and motivates them every single day. No wonder he likes to get up so early in the morning. Tybor: We’re lucky. We’ve got a lot of good people. A lot of friendships, a lot of members hang out together. Violante: It really is like a family. Tybor: There are a lot of people interacting with each other. It’s cool there’s so many people from different backgrounds and ages who may not be in your inner circle if it weren’t for them becoming friends or workout partners at the gym. In the classes, misery loves company.

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Violante: It’s definitely what gets us here at six in the morning. Tybor: She works her ass off. She’s very modest. Never complains. Once in a while I get the middle finger— or two. [Laughs]. I wish more people had the mindset she does. She wants to learn but doesn’t question anything; just puts a lot of trust and faith in me and is really easy to train. Violante: Trust is a big factor. I don’t think he would ever ask me to do anything that he didn’t think I was capable of. It makes it easier to do what he says, because there is no doubt there. FY Wendy Guild Swearingen is editor of Forever Young.

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Life Redux STORY AND PHOTO BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

recently saw this post on Facebook: Quote of the Day: “Don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it.” – Unknown

How I wish I had heard, and understood, what “Unknown” was talking about long before I spent too many years of my young life circling the proverbial drain. The story begins when I was a high school freshman, filled with fantasies of young love, romance, and happily ever after. I met my high school sweetheart when I was a mere fourteen. At eighteen, he appeared to be a dashing “older man.” Who wanted to date boys with bad

complexions when someone with his own car was showing interest? Obvious to everyone but me, I got involved too seriously, too young, and too soon. On the surface, we appeared to be on the same page with a life plan. Actually, we were embroiled in a relationship that was doomed from the beginning. When I was in my senior year of high school, “sweetheart” was drafted. Clinging to the idea of forever after, I decided to forgo college and went to work with the idea of saving enough

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money to start a life when he returned stateside. By the time he returned, we were two totally different people. I was no longer a wide-eyed child. He was trying to find his way back into a world that had changed significantly while he was abroad. Still, we forged ahead. In retrospect, both of us were most likely feeling obligated to continue what we had started. After all, we already had invested a lot of time and effort into each other. Foolishly, I thought being married would help us settle down, just like all of our friends were doing. Four years into the marriage, it was painfully obvious nothing was working. Our goals were different, we were different, and a major change was necessary if either of us were ever going to become who we were meant to be. Divorce is not an enjoyable experience. For some people, it is extremely painful. While I don’t want to sound flippant, I felt unburdened more than anything. For the first time in more than ten years, I was going to make decisions that concerned only

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me. It was liberating. Fortunately, I held a secretarial job that paid living wages and offered good benefits. Having your own money makes a huge difference when starting over. I began doing things I never felt able to do while trying to maintain a household, not to mention a failing marriage, after working all day. I did volunteer work, began practicing yoga, and took a variety of classes in subjects that interested me, like creative writing. I was starting to feel alive for the first time in years. While I enjoyed working, there was nothing fulfilling about typing all day. I decided to go back to school part time and finish the degree I should have earned after high school. It took five years, but I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in business administration. Two weeks later, I was laid off; my employer was going out of business. I had a new degree in one hand and a pink slip in the other. I took a secretarial job at another

COVER company. Before long, I was asked if I were interested in helping start a public relations and advertising department. I was inexperienced, but I accepted the challenge. Shortly thereafter, I was named director of the department. I happily worked long hours, traveled extensively, and was excited about going to work every day. That lasted until the company went bankrupt. The time was right to earn a master’s degree. I also landed another job and served as an adjunct professor at a local college. By then I had met the man who was to become my current husband. After nearly twenty-five years of being on my own, entering into married life finally felt comfortable and right. When my last employer eliminated my position, I began a new job search. Frankly, it’s not easy when you are close to sixty. So, I did something else I had always thought about. I became a public relations consultant and freelance writer. I have one rule—I

work exclusively with nice people. I also published a book of poetry– another project to cross off the bucket list. After being happily married for the past seventeen years, I can attest that love really is better the second time around. I still practice yoga, enjoy having time to spend with friends, and serve as a caregiver to my ninetythree-year-old mother. Reinventing ourselves isn’t always easy. No one has a perfect life. But, if we don’t overcome adversity, including our own foolish choices, we’ll never live the lives we deserve. FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer. Readers may contact her via the editor at wswearingen@buffalospree.com with ideas for making the golden years sparkle, sizzle, and shine.

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This Town Is My Town BY ED ADAMCZYK

Local writer and historian Ed Adamczyk Photo by Nicholas Vitello

started out in Black Rock, grew up in North Buffalo, graduated from School 64, Riverside High, and Buffalo State College, had a career and a retirement from the General Motors Corporation in Tonawanda, and now live in Kenmore, a suburb adjacent to the city line. A reasonably healthy person could walk from any of those places to any other of those places.

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So, now I’m a writer and an historian, two of those professions I daydreamed about as an autoworker, and I tell anyone who cares that I’m happier now than ever. It was a late start, but retirement has provided many of those “do whatever you want to do” experiences. Of course, I am limited by time, energy, health, and finances, but I could have said the same thing at twenty, thirty, and forty. Thus, I am Buffalo born and raised. I was beleaguered for a number of years, and wondering where the good times went, but now rising, optimistic, confident, just like my hometown. Hometown is where you’re from, and somehow where I’m from and where I am now is the same place. “Survivor” is too intense a word to describe getting to age sixty-five and finally realizing a few of your dreams, just as my city blooms into its potential. Let’s just say I didn’t surrender. I am reminded of a song, “My Town,” recorded in the 1980s by the Michael Stanley Band. They were singing about Cleveland, actually, but they describe a city where they learned to love, they learned to hate, that “This town taught me it’s never too late.” It’s never too late, and I am Exhibit A. 532,579. It’s a number seared into my brain by Mrs. Rosenblatt, sixth-grade teacher who told us our “minds were like sieves.” We looked it up; it means porous. The number is the population of Buffalo in the 1960 census. As of the 2010 census it’s 261,310. Buffalo is not the only city with numbers like that, merely one with numbers that are among the most severe. Through it all there were some of us who trod to work and back, or to the unemployment office and back, and wondered what would become of us. Some escaped, to what I don’t know and it may have been worse, but friends now in Denver and Tampa and elsewhere seem to enjoy coming back, to see relatives and marvel at all the cool stuff we’ve

COVER somehow developed. The National Trust for Historic Preservation held its annual convention here in 2010 and visitors were ecstatic, observing all those brick warehouses we never got around to demolishing. We are on the cusp of something here, and the out-of-town reviews prove it. Those of us who remained were present for the decline and are now experiencing the joy of rising, and that describes me. I’ll be the first to admit I did it backward— do not advise your children and grandchildren to follow my life plan. Buffalo neighborhoods are not all elevating at the same speed. It occurs to me, though, that I enter my late innings in a place that has shared my despairs and is now sharing my joys. Hertel Avenue these days resembles certain streets in Toronto, except when soccer mania takes hold and it looks like Barcelona. I have sat in chairs locally and looked at vistas that remind me of

Edinburgh and London, except the beer is colder and chicken wings are available. Someday you’ll tell people you remember when Canalside was a parking lot for the Aud, and the Medical Corridor didn’t exist and neither did whatever they do in there. Retirement should mean different things to different people. If yours involves beer, bathrobes, and television cartoons, so be it, and best wishes to you. For others it’s an opportunity to be like that arrow, stretched on a bowstring for so long, prepared to fly. I feel a sense of breaking through to what I’ve always wanted for myself; my city seems to feel that way, too. FY

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Cheesesteaks, Markets, and Brews Where to Eat in Philly

I even dare to try it with Cheez Whiz? Maybe provolone would be better? Locals are born knowing the rules of ordering this classic at Pat’s, but for the rest of us, here are the basics: With or without (properly pronounced wit or wit-out) refers to onions. The three choices for cheese are Whiz, American, or provolone. To say cheese when ordering would be redundant; to say something along the lines of “I’ll have a Philly cheesesteak sandwich with provolone and onions,” for example, would be particularly dense, considering that you are in Philadelphia, and it’s just far too many words when volume is this high. “Provolone with” means the same thing and ensures the line moves quickly. Have your cash ready. “Do all your borrowing in line,” the sign above the counter says. The stakes, or should I say steaks, are high. “Don’t panic if you get it wrong,” the sign reads, “just go to the back of the line and start over.” It’s a long line. “I’ve actually never seen anyone sent to the back of the line,” says Carolyn Wyman, author of the Great Philly Cheesesteak Book. “What I have seen are customers getting basically two pieces of bread

with only the tiniest bit of steak as ‘punishment.’” Isn’t this a bit harsh? “Tough love,” shrugs Wyman. Hmmm. City of Brotherly Tough Love doesn’t have quite the same ring to it. My anxiety level rises with every booming, “NEXT!”, and we move closer and closer. In no time, we’re at the window. “One American with, one without, and a Provolone with,” I say quite pleased that the words I rehearsed in my head for the last fifteen minutes come off without a hitch. “Thirty dollars,” says the man at the counter, and the sandwiches slide toward me. Then panic sets in. Where’s my money? My wallet’s gone! In my worry over getting the order right, I had forgotten rule #3. I rummage in my bag, a bag referred to by my kids as “The Bag of Doom” or alternatively the “Black Hole” because of its ability to swallow objects whole, never to be seen again. I stop breathing, my heart races as I rummage and rummage. Ten minutes later (actually more like ten seconds) I remember that my wallet is in the hotel safe and the cash was in my pocket. I avoid eye contact as I quickly hand over the money and grab the sandwiches. Who knew ordering a sandwich

STORY AND PHOTOS BY JENNIFER MERRICK Pat’s King of Steaks, a Philadelphia landmark

hile we were in Philly, we stayed at the Windsor Suites and enjoyed its central location and the views of the Benjamin Franklin Parkway. The newly renovated kitchen was lovely, though we didn’t end up using it. And here’s why. worried as I stand in line at the Pat’s King of Steaks iconic cheesesteak establishment, which has been operating since 1237 East Passyunk Avenue, 1932. Philadelphia Should I order, “American with” Two words. Apparently that’s all it takes to order Philly’s most or “with American”? Do I just say famous sandwich. But I’m still “Whiz” or “Cheez Whiz”? Do 26

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An authentic Philly cheesesteak

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could be so stressful? You may wonder if a sandwich is worth all this bother. In a word— yes. The Philly cheesesteak lives up to its hype. Simple. Perfect. Why? There are a lot of theories as to why the steak sandwich in its birthplace is so much better than anywhere else. A particular bakery, the right cut, or even “there’s something in the water” are some of the ideas put forward. But Wyman asserts that it’s simply the freshness of the bread that makes the difference. “It’s not only baked fresh daily, but baked fresh three or even four times a day.” That does makes sense, but I’m wondering if it’s the effort of ordering that improves the taste. Reading Terminal Market As good as the cheesesteaks are, it’s not the only culinary fare that has roots in Philadelphia. Turtle soup, scrapple (a spam-like pressed meat), butter cake, and Hershey Kisses, as well as more traditional favorites like commercial ice cream, hoagies, and pretzels have their lineage here, as we find out on Wyman’s Taste of Philadelphia Food Tour at Reading Terminal Market. Established in 1892, this railway station market is one of the oldest in the United States, and has served all walks of life from Grace Kelly’s family to the city’s workers.

It remains a microcosm of Philly society. “The market sells the most expensive cheese in the city, but also accepts the most food stamps anywhere,” says Wyman. “Everybody comes here,” says local Veronica Blue. “I tell everybody that visits—they gotta go to the market.” So, even if you don’t come for the food (though you’d be crazy not to), the people watching is just as good. And everybody, it seems has their favorites. When I ask for directions to the market, a friendly passerby not only points us in the right direction, but also adds that we have to try Beiler’s doughnuts. “They make them right in front of you. I have six in my backpack right now.” The Travel Channel voted DiNic’s roast pork sandwiches the best sandwich in the country. Then there’s butter cake at Flying Monkey, soft made-onthe-premises Amish pretzels at Miller’s Twist, chocolate-covered pretzels at Mueller Chocolate Co., pastrami sandwiches at Hershel’s, hoagies at Carmen’s, and we can’t forget ice-cream at Bassetts.’ This creamery’s history spans 155 years and is credited with being the first to commercially produce the cool dessert we now eat 1.4 billion quarts of a year in North America. Still run by the same family six generations later, it’s worth saving room for. Of course, it may be easier just to come back to Philly.

cannelloni and linguini and clams. We wander through the Italian Market on 9th Street, and stop in for an espresso and chocolate pickme-up at Anthony’s Chocolate House (don’t leave without trying the chocolate-covered figs with almonds). Philly earned the nickname “Cradle of Libation,” in the nineteenth century–before craft brews became popular. Modern-day beer lovers can try their favorite pale ale, IPA, or saison at any number of establishments, including 2nd Story, Philadelphia Brewing Company, Yards’, Saint Benjamin, Bar Hygge, and Manayunk’s. True beer connoisseurs shouldn’t miss a chance to dine at Monk’s Café, where a Beer Bible awaits with an encyclopedia of suds to choose from. Go early to avoid long lines. Iron Chef Jose Garces restaurant Amada, with an extensive menu of traditional and original small dishes, is credited for starting the

tapas movement. Garces now owns six more eateries, including Tintos, featuring Basque Country cuisine, and Distrito, a lively and colorful Mexican cantina. But whatever you try, don’t skip the humble cheesesteak sandwich. “It’s blue collar; it’s our heritage,” says Wyman. Just be sure to learn the rules of ordering! For more information about what to eat in Philly go to visitphilly. com. FY Jennifer Merrick is a freelance writer and avid traveler based in Toronto.

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The Emotional Affair BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

n emotional affair is something like pillow talk without the pillow. The people involved aren’t in a sexual relationship, but emotions can be running hot and heavy. Both parties may maintain that if there is no physical contact, then there is nothing wrong with the interactions. If one or both of the parties are married, they are likely to insist their spouses have no reason to feel threatened. So how does an emotional affair begin? Men and women spend time working and socializing together. It’s easy to stay in contact via phone, text, or instant message. Over time, close bonds can be formed. Wendy Lustbader, M.S.W., writes in Life Gets Better: The Unexpected Pleasures of Growing Older that the internet makes it possible to find long lost loves. Or sometimes e-mail exchanges are “workplace relationships or casual acquaintances that have become something more.” Former lovers may begin with updates about what has transpired in their lives since they were an item. For workplace friends and other acquaintances, the messages may turn into a way of learning more about each other. While most of the time this is as far as it goes, Lustbader says, “In some instances, the email exchanges grow in frequency and intensity.” Before long, the exchanges may become intimate as the couple discusses what is missing from their respective marriages. They begin to feel like the other person “gets it” as their exchanges turn into what Lustbader describes as “a special and private treat.”

What started as an entertaining exchange begins to feel like something that should be kept hidden from a spouse. If a spouse uncovers evidence of a partner’s involvement with a “special friend,” he or she is not likely to shrug it off. Lustbader explains, “Someone has stepped into emotional territory previously reserved for them … now there are sections of this sphere that belong to someone else.” A spouse engaged in an emotional affair may feel his or her right to have friends outside the marriage is being challenged. “It’s just a friendship.” Rather than feeling reassured, the spouse questioning the relationship is likely to be hurt. No matter if the “friend” lives next door or on the other side of the world, the partner has a problem with the idea that an intimate relationship has been developed with someone outside the marriage. Lustbader tells us, “The chief motivation for giving up such a recurring and expansive pleasure would be to protect one’s marriage, but this motivation gets replaced by the much more palatable conceptual frame

of standing up for one’s freedom and one’s rights as an individual.” The person involved in the emotional affair may see the involvement as something to look forward to. He or she may be feeling understood, perhaps even wonderfully alive. No wonder the spouse feels threatened. It may come as a surprise to someone that he or she is actually involved in an emotional affair, especially if cheating is the last thing on his or her mind. Dr. Gail Saltz, author of Emotional Affairs 101 – Are You Having an Emotional Affair? suggests an emotional affair is underway if participants are: Avoiding telling a spouse how much time they are spending with, or speaking with, another person; Telling the other person about marital dissatisfaction; Taking pains with their appearance before seeing the object of their attention; Experiencing sexual attraction; Feeling guilty if their partner sees them with the other person. Saltz says if two or more of these statements ring true, “Get out of there. You are cheating!”

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Rather than trying to extricate oneself from an emotional affair, it’s easier to avoid having one in the first place. Saltz has a few recommendations for staying safe. These include not flirting, being aware when at work or on the internet, paying attention to the state of one’s marriage, not going out with an old lover, and not being around others who cheat. If that ship has sailed, a marriage can still be salvaged, even though it may not be easily done. First, end the affair. “No halfway. No kind of. No just being friends.” It’s the only way to build back a partner’s trust. She also says anyone involved in an emotional affair needs to take responsibility, own it, and figure out why it happened. A relationship cannot be repaired, or another affair avoided, if someone does not understand what drove his or her behavior. When all is said and done, anyone who has had an affair has to be trustworthy, open, and honorable in order to repair the damage. Finally, Saltz says, “Rebuilding trust after betrayal takes time. You will have to be patient. Don’t expect your partner to just bounce back.” FY Judith Rucki writes a bimonthly column for Forever Young and is a frequent contributor.

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Foods that Prevent and Fight Cancer BY CATHI STACK

here is a tremendous amount of research out there showing that certain foods along with some tasty spices can help you prevent and even beat cancer. I have found some research that suggests that one out of every 2.4 people will be diagnosed with cancer during their lifetime. Yikes. So I’m here to tell you how to eat to prevent or even beat down cancer in your body. First of all, you need to eliminate all the junk and artificial food in your life. Sugar helps to create an acidic environment in which cancer thrives. The obvious advice is to eat living foods (fruits and vegetables), and lots of them! Cruciferous vegetableslike broccoli, cauliflower, kale, Brussels sprouts, and cabbage contain two antioxidants,

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lutein and zeaxanthin that may help decrease prostate and other cancers. They also have a chemical component called indole -3- carbinol that can combat breast cancer by converting a cancer promoting estrogen into a more protective variety. Cooking, preferably steaming, does not alter these benefits. Flax seedcontains lignans, which may have an antioxidant effect and block or suppress cancerous changes. Flax is also high in omega-3 fatty acids, which are thought to protect against colon cancer and heart disease. Make sure you buy your flax seed whole and grind it fresh in an inexpensive coffee grinder. You can grind up a week’s worth and put it in an air tight container and keep in the fridge. Whole flax seed has a shelf life of about a year, but once it is ground, it will last about a week. Work up to taking two tablespoons per day. This will also improve digestion and elimination. I just take it by the spoonful, but many people sprinkle it onto oatmeal, salads, or yogurt or blend it in a smoothie. Red grapescontain bioflavonoids, powerful antioxidants that work as cancer preventives. Grapes are also a rich source of resveratrol, which inhibits the enzymes that can stimulate cancer cell growth and suppress immune response. There are some very effective resveratrol supplements on the market. Several types of mushrooms appear to help the body fight cancer and build the immune system: shiitake, maitake, reishi, and more. These mushrooms contain polysaccharides, notably

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lentinan, powerful compounds that help build immunity. They are a source of beta glucan, a scientifically proven biological defense modifier (BDM) that nutritionally potentiates and modulates the immune response. Nutscontain the antioxidants quercetin and campferol that may suppress the growth of cancers. A Brazil nut contains 80 micrograms of selenium, which is important for those with prostate cancer. Seaweed and other sea vegetables contain beta carotene, protein, vitamin B12, fiber, and chlorophyll, as well as chlorophylones—important fatty acids that may help in the fight against breast cancer. Many sea vegetables also have high concentrations of the minerals potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron, and iodine. Iodine supplementation has been shown to prevent recurrence of breast cancer. Green tea and black and white tea contain certain antioxidants known as polyphenols (catechins), which appear to prevent cancer cells from dividing. Green and white are best, followed by our more common black tea. Herbal teas do not show this benefit, with the exception of essiac tea, which is a blend of burdock root, sheep sorrel herb, slippery elm bark, and Turkish rhubarb root. This is a famous formula that has helped many individuals suffering from cancer. This is worth looking up online. Turmeric, a member of the ginger family, is believed to have medicinal properties because it inhibits production of the inflammationrelated

enzyme cyclo oxygenase 2 (COX 2), levels of which are abnormally high in certain inflammatory diseases and cancers, especially bowel and colon cancer. Turmeric is also very helpful in relieving pain related to inflammation. If you are going to make your own capsules, I recommend you use an organic, nonradiated form of the spice such as Frontier Spice brand. Cancer prevention is easier than you think, and thinking plays a role as well. Watch your thoughts, as they can be toxic. Do not hang on to anger or guilt as negative feelings—and related stress—can suppress the ability to fight cancer. For those of you with cancer or who have family members with cancer, I highly recommend the book, Love Medicine and Miracles: Lessons Learned about Self-Healing from a Surgeon’s Experience with Exceptional Patients, by Bernie S. Siegel, MD. With a few simple lifestyle changes, you can signigicantly reduce your risk of many types of cancer. FY Catherine Stack (RN, ND) is the author of the “Natural Health” column for the Niagara Gazette. She is also a practicing Doctor of Naturopathy, Certified Nurse Midwife, and the founder and CEO of Journey II Health Center for Rejuvenation. Her book, Free Yourself from a CONSTIPATED Life, is available on Amazon. Visit her website at journeyiihealth.com or email cath626@gmail.com.

BEING WELL

The Eye of the Beholder I

am often asked what’s my favorite aesthetic procedure to perform. The eyes have it! Personally, I feel that when people look at someone, they look at the eyes first. The eyes hint at one’s emotions and feelings. They can portray a sense of happiness and excitement or sadness and tiredness. Most patients who come to a plastic surgeon for services want to look refreshed and youthful. The blepharoplasty or eyelift can do just that. And because the eyes are the first things we see when communicating with someone, we make first impressions about attitude, health, and vitality from the appearance of the eyes.

SAMUEL SHATKIN JR., MD As we age, the eyes seem to develop early changes. This is mostly because of the thin nature of the skin in this area and the fact that there is constant movement of the eyes with animation and blinking, a setup for premature wrinkles. The good news is, since this is a relatively localized area, the plastic surgeon can focus on this area with surgery, laser, or a combination of the two and easily turn back the clock. To correct the hooding of the upper eyelids, the plastic surgeon will take a small sliver of excess skin away. The goal is to take just the right amount of skin to improve the appearance and leave a nicely curved youthful shape. The lower eyelids often require skin and some fat removal to eliminate the puffiness of the bags in this area. Stitches are placed in such a way to minimize scarring after the healing. I place my stitches under the surface in a pullout stitch, which requires nothing more than a light tug to remove. Stitches come out usually in three to five days, allowing a patient to return to his or her usual light activity or work with only a short convalescence.

If bruising occurs, makeup can be applied immediately after the stitches are removed. When surgery is not an option, eye rejuvenation can be achieved with nonsurgical techniques, including laser smoothing and resurfacing, or the use of Botox to relax the muscles around the eyes that create lines and wrinkles. Often, a combination of various techniques can help improve people’s look and outlook on how they feel.

When it comes to facial appearance, many patients’ first reason for coming to the plastic surgeon is their eyes. It is not only their window to the world, but also the window to their emotions and soul. With only minor adjustments or changes to the eyes, a youthful, relaxed, and inviting appearance can be achieved. So, when you look in the mirror, if you are tired of looking tired, seek out the services of a board certified plastic

surgeon. They can help to transform your look to reflect the way you feel with either surgical or nonsurgical treatments. Until next time, be well Buffalo! FY Dr. Shatkin is a board certified plastic surgeon at Aesthetic Associates Centre and columnist for Forever Young.

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7:30 p.m. at Performing Arts Center at Rockwell Hall (Buffalo State College, 1300 Elmwood Ave.; buffalostatepac.org or 878-3005) November 12 Nature’s Gathering This benefit for Friends of Reinstein Woods features regional wineries and breweries, cheeses, nature-themed artwork, live music, and an artisan market.

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November 5 4th Annual Tribute to the Edmund Fitzgerald Artist Tom Asklar gives a multimedia presentation covering the ship’s history, timeline of the tragedy, and theories of the destruction of the American Great Lakes freighter that sank during a storm on Lake Superior on November 10, 1975.

7 p.m. at Water Street Landing (115 S. Water St., Lewiston; artcouncil.org or 754-0166) November 17 The Queen City of Entertainment Two lectures include “A Night out on the Town,” remembering the excitement of the entertainment community in Buffalo, and “Buffalo’s Sporting Life,” the history of the Bills, Bisons, Braves, Sabres, and more.

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November 25 Train Day! The impressive train display includes 1900s replica model trains running on more than 200 feet of track, as well as a scale Erie Canal lock, and 100 miniature buildings portraying 19th century Buffalo and Western New York.

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