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Torah PHOTOS

ACCEPT NOT EXPECT

By Rabbi Moshe Shmiel Rottenberg

â&#x20AC;&#x153;Vayakam Avraham meâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;al pâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;nei meso.â&#x20AC;?

Avraham Avinu came home from $NHLGDV <LW]FKDN WR Ă&#x20AC;QG WKDW KLV beloved wife Sarah was niftar. The Medrash tells us that the Malach Hamaves approached Avraham and told him, â&#x20AC;&#x153;You are the cause of Sarahâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s death. If you would not have brought Yitzchak to the Akeida, she would still be alive.â&#x20AC;? Heartbreak over the loss of her son is what killed her.

We learn two very important points from this incident, which the Meforshim bring out.

Lesson 1: One would think that after Avraham Avinu withstood all ten QLV\RQRV KH ZRXOG Ă&#x20AC;QDOO\ JHW D break. After he came shining through each challenge and persevered brilliantly through each test, one would expect the Yetser Hara to Ă&#x20AC;QDOO\ OHDYH $YUDKDP $YLQX DORQH Didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t he deserve a break? Let the Satan go pick on someone weaker, who hadnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t yet proven his worth in Hashemâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s eyes!

But that is not the way of the Yetser Hara. He is always on our case, even when we do mitzvos and behave well. The Satan never lets up.

Even after Avraham reached such a high madreiga, the evil inclination still tried his best to ensnare him.

We all have tests that the Yetser Hara puts us through. Many times,

we do manage to stand up to him and win the battle over evil. But then, when we overcome a nisayon, we expect to get a vacation. We expect that once we withstand the urge to sleep late and instead get up in time

One would expect the Yetser Hara to ďŹ nally leave Avraham Avinu alone.

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for minyan, the Yetser Hara will leave us alone. We expect that if we overcome the impulse to cheat, steal, gamble or get drunk, the Yetser Hara will turn on someone else. We expect that if we have a desire to see unclean images but instead shield our eyes from impurity, the Yetser Hara will try his luck elsewhere. Because of that expectation, we get depressed and disheartened when that same nisayon comes right back to us the next day. We thought we already conquered that taava, so why doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t the Satan cut us some slack?

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to automatically withdraw the challenge. We sometimes erroneously feel that if we are good, we ‘have a right’ to receive goodness in return.

But Hashem’s cheshbonos don’t

There are no spiritual vacations in this world. necessarily match our own. We get very disappointed when we do teshuva for our bad deeds, and not only doesn’t our situation change for the better, sometimes it even gets worse. We feel like that’s unfair. If I’m behaving, why isn’t Hashem compensating me?!

But the same thing happened to Avraham Avinu. He came home from WKH $NHLGD IHHOLQJ KDSS\ DQG IXOÀOOHG He’d just withstood the greatest nisoyon ever! He deserved a party, but instead he was greeted with tragedy. Still, we know that it never entered Avraham’s mind to have any doubts about the ways of Hashem.

Avraham unhesitatingly accepted his lot, because he understood that only Hashem knew what was best for him. Avraham Avinu never asked for a reward or a reprieve. He accepted that Hashem’s cheshbonos are beyond the understanding of man. And like Avraham Avinu, we too should never expect. We should only accept.

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LET’S DISCUSS IT

THE PLIGHT OF AGUNOS

By Malky Schwartz

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he plight of agunos is one of many great problems facing Jewry today. Technically - an Agunah is a married woman whose husband has disappeared and who does not know if her husband is alive or dead. She thus retains her presumption of being a married woman and is not allowed to get remarried.

Proof of her husband’s death is required. If an Agunah does remarry, she technically and thus violates one of the three cardinal sins of the Torah.

The term Agunah as commonly used today refers to a married woman who knows her husband is alive. The relationship with him has been terminated but they remain Halachically married to each other because of his refusal to give her a Get – a religious divorce.

She too may not remarry. In both cases (i.e. a woman who does not know if her husband is alive, and in this one) doing so would violate the cardinal principle of violates the cardinal sin and their children would be Mamzerim.

A man in the same situation has a way out. If his wife refuses to accept the Get, he can remarry under certain

circumstances. On a biblical level, a woman may not have more than one husband, but a man may have more

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Beating the husband with a rod will get him to realize the error of his ways and do the right thing by willingly giving a Get than one wife. Although there is over a millennia-old rabbinic prohibition

on a man doing so (called Cherim D’Rabbenu Gershom) exceptions are made under some circumstances.

100 rabbis can technically permit a married man to marry another woman.

This is called a Heter Meah Rabbanim. Women do not have this option. Thus, they end up in dire straits with no recourse if their husbands refuse to give a Get. Batei Din (Jewish courts) who understand the legitimate plight of the Agunah have tried various ways to help these women by trying to convince the recalcitrant husband to change his mind. These husbands are strongly pressured via being ostracized from their community - or even by being jailed. Sometimes that works. But in far too many cases there are men who are so vengeful about their wives leaving the marriage that they refuse to give a Get out of spite.

In order to hurt their wives, they are willing to suffer.

There is nothing that can be done at this point. Halacha tells us that a husband must willingly give a Get. If he is somehow forced to do so against his will, the Get is invalid. This is called a Get Meusa (forced Get).

They remain married – thus leaving

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the wife an Agunah.

What constitutes force is a matter of debate. The Rambam (Nashim 2:20) states that if a man refuses to give his wife a Get, Beis Din should beat him with a rod until he says ‘I want to give it!’

That formulation is very important.

Because the husband must want to give the Get. He may not say “I don’t want to give the Get but I am being forced to.” The resulting Get would be invalid.

The idea behind the Rambam is that beating the husband with a rod will get him to realize the error of his ways and do the right thing by willingly giving a Get. The question in our day is, how we can possibly know whether he has really changed his mind or is simply trying to avoid further punishment?

Unfortunately, this rather unfair situation has some unscrupulous people taking advantage of it. Agunos have no way out and therefore EHFRPH MXVWLÀDEO\ GHVSHUDWH WR change their unmarriageable status.

And this has once again led to another tremendous Chilul Hashem involving a respected Rosh Yeshiva.

NY Times: An FBI raid on a yeshiva late Wednesday resulted in four arrests, including three rabbis who are charged with pressuring Orthodox Jewish men into granting religious divorces to their wives in exchange for money. A source close to the investigation said that the ring involved Orthodox wives seeking divorce making payments to the rabbis—-in some cases up to $100,000—-who then facilitated the divorce, often through violent means, with the rabbis hiring thugs to beat the Orthodox Jewish husbands into agreement.

A Get Meusa is invalid. If descriptions in the media are accurate, this Rosh Yeshiva not only committed a Chilul HaShem, but is responsible for the Mamzer status of all children that are products of it. 20 years’ worth of them, it appears.

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MIRACLES

BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

By Malky Schwartz

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ost people are so out of touch with life in this world that they think it’s crazy to speak of life on the Other Side. But it isn’t.

There’s life in this world and the next.

According to mesora, while Heaven is more pure, life in this world is the central focus. Men come here to be À[HG DQG PDGH ZKROH :RUG KDV LW that the Tzaddikim run both worlds.

Essentially, they run the whole show.

The Heavenly Court is governed by Tzaddikim who have died recently.

They replace other righteous men, Tzaddikim who’ve been in Heaven too long to remember the reality of struggle in this world.

Once Rav Michel Zlotchever passed away, he was called to judge on the Heavenly Court. As soon as he took his place, he came down harshly on all those he had to review. “How could you do such wrong?” he yelled at them.

Finally, one of the Tzaddikim on earth realized what was happening and began to complain: “You can’t appoint, as a judge, a man who has never sinned! What does the Zlotchever know of the hardships of Moishe the Water Carrier? He comes from a family that for thirteen generations made no mistakes. “ The worldly Tzaddikim protested his severity so much that it was ÀQDOO\ GHFUHHG WKDW WKH =ORWFKHYHU

would be retired and the Tzaddik ZKR KDG ÀUVW FRPSODLQHG VKRXOG take his place. The decree went out just before Shabbos. The Tzaddik on earth barely had enough time to say good-bye to his wife.

A soul who needs fixing has to come back into the world and look for a Tzaddik to help him.

Judging is done in Heaven , but À[LQJ WDNHV SODFH LQ WKLV ZRUOG sometimes before the Judgment, sometimes after. We are speaking KHUH RI À[LQJ WKH VRXOV RI WKRVH ZKR have left this world. Judging will determine whether you go to Gan Eden or Gehinnom, whether you are permitted to come back to life. But if

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the merchandise is damaged, it’s not a question of Paradise or reincarnation.

The vessels are broken. They need to be mended and made whole again.

This kind of repair doesn’t take place in Heaven. Nor can we do it ourselves. $ VRXO ZKR QHHGV À[LQJ KDV WR come back into the world and look for a Tzaddik to help him. Naturally, if he was close to one while he was alive he will have no problem, because his soul is still attached to that Tzaddik. But what happens to a person who was never attached to a Tzaddik during his lifetime? This story illustrates how his ‘mending’ takes place.

Everybody knows that the Trisker Maggid, Rav Avromole, was one of the eight sons of Reb Motele Chernobyl who was mamash a Tzaddik gadol. Rav Motele was the center of all the Tzaddikim. He took care of the living and the dead and was the master of the lamed-vav Tzaddikim, the Thirty-Six Righteous Men who hold up the world.

Before he passed away, Reb Motele divided his kingdom among his children and put the Trisker Maggid in charge of the people from the Other Side.

Rav Avromole lived like this.

Eight o’clock in the morning he’d get up, go to the mikveh, and daven.

Two o’clock in the afternoon, he would start to yawn. “I’m so tired; I’ve got to lie down a little bit.” He’d

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MIRACLES go to his room until three, then pray both afternoon and evening prayers.

Ten oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;clock at night he might start yawning again. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m so tired. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve got to go back to my room.â&#x20AC;?

The fact of the matter is that the Trisker Maggid never ate and never slept. He also never kept any books in his room, because - as everybody knows - when he closed the door to his room he was dealing with souls from the Other World who needed Ă&#x20AC;[LQJ People from the Other Side are not able to read Torah. In order to avoid making them feel bad, the Trisker Maggid never permitted books in his room. If he found one, he put it out.

The Trisker Maggid once came to a village where only one yidele had enough room in his house to accommodate the Rebbe and his chasidim. But this man was a real misnagid. He had heard many stories from his fellow misnagdim and was suspicious of the rumor that the Trisker Maggid never slept and never ate. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Eating I can believe. He may not need to eat. But he doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even keep a sefer in his room, so you canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t tell me he isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t up there napping!â&#x20AC;?

This wealthy yidele was more than happy to have the Trisker Maggid as his guest, because it would give him a chance to prove what Rav Avromole was doing behind closed doors. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s snoring, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m sure. â&#x20AC;&#x153; While the Trisker Maggid was davening Maariv, the yidele managed to get into Rav Avromoleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s room and to hide under the bed. At ten oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;clock, the Trisker Maggid said to his chasidim, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I have to go back to my room.â&#x20AC;?

The rich yidele heard Rav Avromole come into the chamber and felt him sit down on the bed.

No sooner had the chasidim closed the door to give the Rebbe a little privacy when it seemed to open again. A crowd pushed their way

into the room. The man could hear WKH VKXIĂ H RI IHHW WKH PXUPXULQJ RI appeals.

During the day, the host had already witnessed the Trisker Maggidâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s audiences with ten, maybe even thirty people, at a time. But this sounded like thousands. What was happening? Where were all these people coming from? How could there even be a place for them in this little bedroom?

During the day, people would complain: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Rabbi! Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m sick. Please cure my back.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;I need money for my EXVLQHVV Âľ ´3OHDVH Ă&#x20AC;QG D ZLIH IRU P\ son.â&#x20AC;?

But by night, the people were saying, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Rebbe! Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m so broken! They wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t let me into Gan Eden. They wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t let me into Gehinnom. All I can GR LV ZDQGHU 5HEEH SOHDVH Ă&#x20AC;[ P\ soul.â&#x20AC;?

The worst was that the misnagid heard so many voices in the room. But when he peeked out from underneath the bed, he couldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t see any feet. The yidele was so frightened that he was shaking and had to do his best to keep his teeth from chattering.

Suddenly, he heard another, different voice cry out: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Rebbe!

Have compassion on my tormented neshamah. Fix me! Fix my soul!â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;What can I do for you?â&#x20AC;? the Trisker Maggid asked. â&#x20AC;&#x153;While you were alive, you never bothered to come to me. You didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even give me one penny tzedakah, one penny for charity, to connect yourself to me. So how can I help you now?â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;There must be a way!â&#x20AC;? The poor soul pleaded with the Rebbe, from a place of deep anguish. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Actually, there is one way. Your neighbor, Shmuelik, was one of my chasidim. Shmuelik gave me a great deal of charity during his lifetime. If he were to tell me now that one penny of the riches he gave as tzedakah was IRU \RX WKHQ , FRXOG Ă&#x20AC;QG D ZD\ WR

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help you.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Shmuelik would do that for me, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m sure.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Fine! Then I want you to go and ask him!â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;How can I do that? He wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t believe that I come from you.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Then Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll send somebody along to act as your witness.â&#x20AC;? At this point, the Trisker Maggid gave a strong, swift kick under the bed and said to the yidele: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Come out!â&#x20AC;?

When the yidele realized that the Trisker Maggid was about to send him into the Other World as witness to an exchange between two souls, he began pleading from under the bed. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Please, Rebbe! Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t do this to me! I promise I wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t tell anybody what I saw!â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Come out!â&#x20AC;?

The yidele came out, crawling on his stomach. He was crying, screaming, clinging to the Rebbeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s feet. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Please, Rebbe! Youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve seen! I have a wife and three children. I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to die yet. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m not ready to die!â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;G-d forbid you should die. But if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re going to spy on me, you must go as my witness. Take my stick and walk with the soul of this man to the cemetery.â&#x20AC;?

The yidele looked around. The greatest nightmare of all was that there was absolutely no one else in the room, only himself and the Trisker Maggid. ´.QRFN RQ WKH Ă&#x20AC;UVW JUDYH LQ WKH second row and say that Avrohom ben Channah orders Shmuel ben 5LYNDK WR JLYH RQH SHQQ\ WR Ă&#x20AC;[ WKH neshamah of this Yid - Yosele, his neighbor.â&#x20AC;?

And so it was that the yidele procured a tikkun for the neshama of Yosele. And he gleaned a precious insight into the workings of the Other World.

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Giuliani has currently endorsed his candidacy.

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RGD\ LV P\ WKLUW\ Ă&#x20AC;IWK wedding anniversary. I really love Dan, and I am proud of how awesome our marriage is. We certainly havenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t killed each other yet. In fact, we havenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even maimed each other. We have not always been perfect, but we have six cool kids. For two people as different and disparate as Dan and I are, staying together this long is a big accomplishment.

When Dan and I got married, we were 20 years old. Now, weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re staring down the barrel of 60. Looking back, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m sometimes surprised we didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t self-destruct. Now that we are older, we are perhaps also wiser. Here are the things we have learned over the years that helped us stay married and even happy for 35 years. Our list does QRW UHVHPEOH WKH RQHV \RX¡OO Ă&#x20AC;QG LQ standard shalom bayis classes. We have never had a regular date night, nor do we prioritize â&#x20AC;&#x153;communicationâ&#x20AC;? or play games or see a therapist. +H GRHVQ¡W EULQJ PH Ă RZHUV HYHU\ Thursday and I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t cook his favorite food very often. But we do have some other ideas.

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GO TO BED MAD. The old maxim that you shouldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go to bed mad doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t work in every case. Sometimes you need to just go to bed! Whoever interpreted that phrase to mean you should stay up after midnight, tear-stained and petulant, trying to iron out some kind of overtired peeve- was wrong. Stop talking, go to bed, let your husband get some sleep. In the morning, eat some pancakes. Everything will seem better, I can assure you.

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or because youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re just reacting, then \RX EH WKH RQH WR GHĂ HFW )LJKWV DUH EDG 'HĂ HFWLQJ D Ă&#x20AC;JKW ZKHQHYHU possible is a good idea. When youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re the one whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s being stubborn and the other person helps you get out of it and brings about peace, that feels fantastic. This was a hard lesson for PH WR OHDUQ /HWWLQJ 'DQ GHĂ HFW D Ă&#x20AC;JKW LV WKH EHVW WKLQJ QRZ +H GRHV it really well.

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DONâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;T CRITICIZE EVER Here is a fact: Whatever critical thing you are about to say to your wife is already being loudly articulated in her head. And if itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s true, she already feels terrible about it. Assuming you married someone intelligent enough to like you and sane enough to let you SXW D ULQJ RQ KHU Ă&#x20AC;QJHU WUXVW WKDW VKH is self-aware enough to know when she messed up. It may feel good to you in that moment to say the critical thing, let it go ringing through the air in all its sonorous correctness, but it will feel awful to hear it. The RQO\ RQO\ ZD\ LW¡V EHQHĂ&#x20AC;FLDO WR JLYH your wife criticism of any kind is

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if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re absolutely positive she is completely unaware. And you better Ă&#x20AC;QG WKH QLFHVW NLQGHVW ZD\ SRVVLEOH to tell her. And even then, good luck convincing her. The recognition of the thing you are helpfully trying to point out will be INHIBITED, not facilitated, by your criticism. So be careful.

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BE THE MIRROR. Your husband is the mirror in which you see yourself. And the things you say to him give him an image of himself too, which he will believe. You want him to believe it, so PDNH LW JRRG %H D PLUURU WKDW UHĂ HFWV something positive: youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re smart, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re successful, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re fantastic, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re a great provider, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re the best. Can you MAKE him any of these things just by telling him he is?

I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know, but consider this: the alternative is really bad. The things my husband says to me are 1,000 times more convincing than anyone elseâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s opinion on earth. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t think he wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t believe you because youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re married and youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re contractually obligated to say nice things. Heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll believe the ugly, insulting things you say and the gloriously positive things. So praise him!

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BE PROUD AND BRAG. Let your spouse hear you talking about him in glowing terms to other people. Be foolish. Be obvious. It will mean everything. You will stay married forever.

THE OLD MAXIM THAT YOU SHOULDNâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;T GO TO BED MAD DOESNâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;T WORK IN EVERY CASE. SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO JUST GO TO BED! nor does he even read the books that I write. Seriously. And I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t care.

My opinion is that heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the fastest, coolest, most awesome bike racer ever.

His opinion is that Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m the bestest, coolest writer ever. We donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to know all about cycling or writing in order to form these opinions -- in fact, knowledge of literature or actually reading my book might damage Danâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s opinion of me as â&#x20AC;&#x153;the best writer since the dawn of time.â&#x20AC;? We can still support each other without being all up in the other personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s stuff. Doing your own thing, having your own friends, being completely insanely passionate about something that the other person has no idea, really, about, is awesome. It allows your spouse to be your cheerleader, uncomplicated by knowledge or personal investment.

And it means youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll always have stuff to talk about, because youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re not overlapping all the time. You donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to read the same books either.

You donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to have the same friends.

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LET KIDS CHANGE YOU FOR THE BETTER.

Dan races bicycles. I write books. I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t race bicycles or have any desire to race bicycles. He doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t write books,

Kids stop you from being as crazy as you want to be. Because when you have kids, you canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be that reckless.

For example, when I had kids, I actually had to start brushing up

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on some history, math, Chumash, science, etc in order to help them out with homework. I could no longer be the party-going, irresponsible ignoramus Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d always been.

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BE LOVING AND CARING. You should make it your lifeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s mission to become the most kind and caring spouse for him. And he for you. Your spouse is the other half of your neshama, so what you do for him, you are ultimately doing for yourself.

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MOVE. Live in different houses. In different parts of the country. Travel. Make it so that you can look back and divide up your life into the years you spent in different cities, or different houses.

If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re feeling stuck geographically or physically, you can confuse yourself into thinking youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re stuck in your marriage. See your husband in different places, in different contexts, in different countries even. Try it. Take him to a mountaintop and give him another look. Take him to a new city DQG FKHFN RXW KLV SURĂ&#x20AC;OH $ORQJ WKH same lines, donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be afraid to change personally, or let your wife change as a person. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t worry about â&#x20AC;&#x153;growing apart.â&#x20AC;? Be brave and evolve. Become completely different. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t gather moss. Stagnation is unattractive.

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STOP THINKING TEMPORARILY. Marriage is not conditional. It is permanent. Your husband will be with you until you die. That is a given. It sounds obvious, but really making it a given is hard. You tend to think in â&#x20AC;&#x153;ifsâ&#x20AC;? and â&#x20AC;&#x153;thensâ&#x20AC;? even when youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve publicly committed to forever. If he does this, I

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wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t tolerate it. If I do this, heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll leave me. If I get fat. If I change jobs. If he says mean things. If he doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t pay more attention. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s natural, especially in the beginning of your marriage, to keep those doubts in your head. But the sooner you can let go of the idea that marriage is temporary -- and will end if certain awful conditions are met -- the sooner you will let go of all kinds RI FRQĂ LFW DQG VWUHVV <HV \RX PD\ Ă&#x20AC;QG \RXUVHOI LQ D KRUULEOH VLWXDWLRQ where itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s absolutely necessary to get a divorce. But going into it with divorce in the back of your mind, even in the way way way back of your mind, is going to cause a lot of unnecessary angst. Accept that youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re going to stay with him. Heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s going to stay with you. ,QKDELW WKDW DQG Ă&#x20AC;JXUH RXW KRZ WR make THAT work, instead of living with the â&#x20AC;&#x153;what ifâ&#x20AC;?s and â&#x20AC;&#x153;in case ofâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s.â&#x20AC;?

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DO NOT PUT YOURSELF IN TROUBLEâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S WAY Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t test your marriage by speaking to your friends about your spouse. Your husband and your marriage are more valuable than any friendship. Any friendship that troubles the marriage should be over immediately. Protect it with knives and teeth, not because itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s fragile but because itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s precious. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t ever badmouth the one person who should mean the most to you. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t put your feet on a path that could lead

someplace bad.

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COMPLAIN TO HIS MOTHER, NOT YOURS.

This is one I did read somewhere in a magazine, and itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s totally true. His mother will forgive him. Yours never will.

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BE LOYAL. Everything youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve heard about honesty, sense of humor, communication, sensitivity, date nights, blah blah blah can be trumped by one word: loyalty. You and your spouse are a team of two. It is you against the world. No one else is allowed on the team, and no one else will ever understand the teamâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rules. This is okay. The team is not adversarial, the team does not tear its members down, the team does not sabotage the teamâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s success. Teammates work constantly to help and better their teammates.

Loyalty means you put the other SHUVRQ LQ \RXU PDUULDJH Ă&#x20AC;UVW DOO WKH WLPH DQG \RX OHW WKHP SXW \RX Ă&#x20AC;UVW Loyalty means subverting your whims or desires of the moment to better meet your spouseâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s whims or desires, with the full understanding and expectation that they will be doing the same. This is the heart of everything, and it is a tricky balance. Sometimes it sways one way and sometimes the other. Sometimes he gets to be crazy, sometimes itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s your turn. Sometimes

sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s in the spotlight, sometimes you. Ups and downs ultimately donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t matter, because the team endures.

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TRUST THE PERSON YOU MARRIED.

For two people who are trying to help each other, it can almost be harder to let the other person help you than it is to be the one whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s helping.

It can be harder to let the other person GHĂ HFW WKH Ă&#x20AC;JKW WKDQ WR EH WKH RQH GHĂ HFWLQJ ,W FDQ EH KDUGHU WR EHOLHYH that your husband is fully committed to a lifetime of marriage than to commit yourself. Harder to change yourself than to let the other person change. Harder to be loved than to love. Weird, but true. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m saying this to everyone whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s newly married, and to myself: trust that person. Love them completely and let them love you. If it all goes to seed, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s going to hurt either way. Better to have gone into it full throttle. Full throttle marriage is a thrilling ride.

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DAVEN. Last, but certainly most important, is to include Hashem in your marriage.

Always. The shechina dwells in a home where there is peace and harmony, so if you follow these rules, Hashem will be an integral part of your heart and home.

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afraid that the funding for vouchers would come at the expense of public schools, which is not based in fact. So our HOHFWHG RIĂ&#x20AC;FLDOV NHHS playing this game in which they claim to care deeply about vouchers, but they are powerless to change the situation.

In the state of New York, 70% of people support school vouchers.

Not only Jews but virtually every demographic comprising New York City. Just look at the recent rally for charter schools as proof! Democrats have always taken orders from the teachers union, but I believe that any bill thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s worth passing is ZRUWK Ă&#x20AC;JKWLQJ IRU , ZLOO FRQWLQXH WR Ă&#x20AC;JKW IRU RXU FRPPXQLW\¡V VFKRROV DV councilman. In fact, when meeting with Roshei Yeshivah and students, I discovered that some yeshivos are on the verge of bankruptcy due to burdensome government regulations. The government needs to add funding for our schools. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s only fair that every child should get a subsidy for education, regardless of which school they attend. Everyone VKRXOG UHDS WKH EHQHĂ&#x20AC;WV RI WKH WD[HV we pay. And if the government wants to add a regulation, they should be solely responsible for helping pay for it.â&#x20AC;?

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David Storobin wants the government to work for the people, not against them. as well as someone who knows they can be held accountable. This is true for stock boys, waiters, lawyers and, of course, politicians. Brooklyn Democrats have always known that so long as they have the backing of their party boss to get the nomination, they would never lose.

But David Storobin already won as a Republican in Brooklyn. With the exception of a few blocks, this Council district is almost completely inside his old Senate district, in which he received about 70% of the vote. This district is the single most Republicanvoting district in New York City. No other Council, Assembly, State Senate or Congressional district has such a strong record of voting Republican, so Storobin actually has a great chance at victory.

All this sounds great in theory, but what happens to all our funding?

This is the same question people had when our Republican State Senator Marty Golden originally ran for

City Council. Senator Golden was responsible for bringing the most funding back to his City Council district.

Being a Republican in NYC sometimes has its advantages.

A little on Mr. Storobinâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s background: David came to the United States from the Soviet Union with his single mother at the age of 12.

He didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t speak a word of English ZKHQ KH Ă&#x20AC;UVW VHWWOHG LQ WKH 86 EXW he quickly made his own education a top priority. Before he had any RIĂ&#x20AC;FLDO MREV DW WKH DJH RI KH would collect soda cans to get a 5 cent refund for them. Then he had a list of typical teenage jobs: dishwasher, delivery boy, stock boy.

He held those through high school and college. His mother found herself in the same circumstances many experience today - needing to solely provide for her son. She began by cleaning houses for people in Borough Park. After a while, she learned the language and was able to Ă&#x20AC;QG D MRE DV D VRFLDO ZRUNHU David learned much from the strong work ethic of his youth. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s what gives him his drive. Watching his mother climb the ladder of success, often with help from neighbors and friends in the form of job opportunities, David UHDOL]HG WKDW WKH Ă&#x20AC;UVW OLQH RI DVVLVWDQFH comes not from government, but from community. Government should be there for a hand up, but a hand out never really helps anybody.

After graduating from Brooklyn College, David went to Rutgers University School of Law. Despite being the youngest student in his class, he became the President of the Jewish Law Students Association.

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contributing to what is expected to be an especially uplifting Shabbos experience, the Rebbe and the Rosh Yeshiva will join the Novominsker Rebbe and Rav Ephraim Wachsman at the Motzoei Shabbos keynote session in addressing the unprecedented assault against the Torah community and Torah values in Eretz Yisroel. They will give a deeper understanding of the many issues that face the community in Eretz Yisroel and provide guidance as to how the American Torah tzibbur should respond.

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Storobinâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s oftrepeated mantra is â&#x20AC;&#x153;The Only Candidate Who Fights for Us.â&#x20AC;? their plan.

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values of entrepreneurship he grew up loving so much. By the time David was elected to the New York State Senate, KH KDG WZR IXOO\ VWDIIHG ODZ RIĂ&#x20AC;FHV Currently, David is on the Board of Directors of the American Jewish Committee. As an active member of the AJC, he recently spoke to an audience of 1,300 business and community leaders at their Global Forum. David understands that only in America can a penniless immigrant grow up to stand on the same stage and speak in immediate succession to the Foreign Minister of Germany and the President of Panama. This to an audience of some of the most successful people in the country! David got up and spoke about everything the Jewish Community, and the United

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One of the bills Storobin sponsored increased education funding for our special needs children, and for seniors.

In our district, many people need this kind of help, and Storobin believes that every child, and every senior, should get all the help that he or she deserves. If a child has a different kind of educational need than most, that doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mean he can be left out in the cold. Because of Davidâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s dedication, IRU WKH Ă&#x20AC;UVW WLPH LQ RXU VWDWH¡V KLVWRU\ parents in our community will be able to receive state assistance in sending their children to yeshiva or a child with special needs to be sent to a specialized school. With religious and parochial education constantly getting more expensive, Storobin strove to take action for parents. Making schooling affordable for parents is WKH Ă&#x20AC;UVW DQG PRVW LPSRUWDQW VWHS WR making an excellent education for all a reality in New York.

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Leftists want to teach our children in Ă&#x20AC;UVW JUDGH DERXW DOWHUQDWLYH OLIHVW\OHV under the guise of acceptance. But this is not acceptance. This is a violation of our morality. The government has thrust upon the people of this state D GHĂ&#x20AC;QLWLRQ RI PDUULDJH WKDW YLRODWHV their religious and personal moral EHOLHIV DQG , ZLOO FRQWLQXH WR Ă&#x20AC;JKW against it.â&#x20AC;?

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many customers whose insurance companies refused to honor their claims. In certain instances, he paid for their needs out of his own pocket, and fought to ensure that electricity was restored in their buildings. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Did you know that under the Democrats, crime and the murder rate increased? We would have had the same situation as Detroit a long time ago if Giuliani hadnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t been elected. We have to get tough on criminals. We cannot go back to the days when 2,500 people a year got killed.â&#x20AC;? Thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s why Storobin took a strong stance against crime. Two of the bills he sponsored were relevant WR WKH /HLE\ .OHW]N\ FDVH 7KH Ă&#x20AC;UVW one concerns the kidnapping of children. This bill would give a judge the option to sentence a kidnapper to life in jail. It is not mandatory, but in extreme cases such sentencing should be an option. Bill number two refers to kidnap and murder. In this case, Storobin believes the death penalty should be an option. When criminals are given a sentence of life in prison, they usually plea bargain and receive a reduced jail term. By introducing the death penalty for kidnap and

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Was that my father standing behind the barbed wire?

by Rabbi Tzvi Nightingale

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y father has three birthdays. Yes, three. His biological birthday is May 10, 1924. When he came to Canada after the war, he was too old to qualify as an orphan, so he had to rearrange his age a

bit and make himself younger. 5/10/24 became 10/5/27 and he was now born on October 5, 1927. (Please don’t tell the Canadian government about this. I would hate to see him

deported at this stage of his life.) Oddly, our family has EHHQ FHOHEUDWLQJ WKLV FRPSOHWHO\ ÀFWLWLRXV ELUWKGD\ HYHU since.

0\ IDWKHU ZDV ÀQDOO\ OLEHUDWHG IURP 'DFKDX RQ $SULO 29, 1945.

But it is his third birthday that he speaks about with the most emotion; the one that carries the most meaning for him. He spent years in various forced labor and death camps after his town of Staszow, Poland was liquidated by the Nazis LQ +H ZDV ÀQDOO\ liberated on April 29, 1945 from Dachau concentration camp in Germany. My father has never been one to speak at length about his experiences as a survivor of the Holocaust, but he does talk about this one particular day. Among other things, I have heard him praise the American army for quickly delousing the inmates soon after they freed the camp. Being free from the Nazi hell and from the lice that infested his body for so long gave him a new lease on life.

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I tired from the fasting and teaching, EXW WUXWK EH WROG , Ă&#x20AC;QG WKH QH[W GD\ to be a bit of a downer. After intensely thinking about life, God, goals and being a better person, and trying to inspire 150 people who come to our Aish center for services, I am just not up to the everyday mundane grind that comes rushing back. So trying to recapture some of the seriousness and meaning of Yom Kippur, I found myself on YouTube and typed in â&#x20AC;&#x153;Dachauâ&#x20AC;? in the search box. The top RI WKH OLVW ZDV D Ă&#x20AC;OP FDOOHG 'DFKDX Concentration Camp Liberation.

It was not a sophisticated piece, by any means. It consisted of photos slowly being panned to the background music from Schindlerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s List. There were photos of soldiers approaching the camp and arresting surrendering Nazis, a birdâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s eye view of the camp and photos of the main entrance and a gate with the infamous Arbeit Macht Frei.

A picture appeared of an American soldier walking on a wall perpendicular to a building, and I wondered, If my father were to see this VKRUW Ă&#x20AC;OP ZRXOG KH UHPHPEHU VRPH RI WKH VWUXFWXUHV DQG EXLOGLQJV" , EULHĂ \ WKRXJKW RI VKRZLQJ KLP WKH Ă&#x20AC;OP EXW knew I would not follow through due to his extreme sensitivity whenever the subject of the Holocaust comes up. In all the years I have known my dad, I have only heard snippets here and there. $W LQWR WKH Ă&#x20AC;OP D SKRWR appeared that made me hit the pause button. It was a relatively clear photo, a close up of sorts, of three inmates behind barbed wire, all smiling and waving -- presumably at their saviors. The short man on the left has an overcoat, obviously given to him by one of the soldiers. The man on the right with the moustache is taller and appears to be saluting.

They are wearing the familiar striped concentration camp garb.

And the man in the middle looks like my father.

Could this really be my father?

I began to stare intensely and

analyze every detail of the physical features to see if they match my dadâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s.

The widowâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s peak hairline, the shape of the face, the somewhat larger ear, the gap between his front teeth -- all were consistent with his look. Could it be? Could this really be him? I kept asking myself. But the trait that made me think it was him the most was the shape of his waving hand. I have always noticed this about my father, KRZ KLV LQGH[ Ă&#x20AC;QJHU FXUOV DQG VHHPV slightly raised higher than his middle Ă&#x20AC;QJHUV DQG KRZ KLV WKXPE FRPHV WR almost meet them. Today, thanks to his arthritis, his hand is almost frozen in that position, and this was the shape of the hand of the man in this photo.

I immediately emailed the link to my three brothers in Toronto with the subject line, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Something very ZHLUGÂľ DQG WROG WKHP WR SDXVH WKH Ă&#x20AC;OP and tell me what they think. By next morning, they agreed that this could indeed be our father in the photo.

Then things got a little complicated. We were faced with the dilemma of showing this photo to my father. Will it bring back too many painful memories? Should we subject him to an image of himself from so long ago of the most horrible time in his life? What effect would possibly seeing himself in Nazi prisoner garb have on his psyche?

My oldest brother, Reuben, has always been closest to my father ever since he went to work for him in his meat packing plant at the age of 15.

My dad gave him the most noxious job there to discourage him from working at Grace Meats, but packing tripe did not turn Reuben away. They have been very tight ever since. Reuben felt that we should think this through and â&#x20AC;&#x153;sit on itâ&#x20AC;? for a while. â&#x20AC;&#x153;He has not seen the photo for all these years, another day or so will not change things.â&#x20AC;?

Sid, the next oldest brother and the peacemaker in our family, agreed.

Murray and I wanted to show it to him but for the time being we deferred to the elder siblings. But the following day Murray came up with a Solomonic

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solution: Letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s show the picture to my dadâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s one surviving sibling, Henya, who was with him in the camps earlier in the war and would be able to recognize if this indeed was him.

Murray called me that morning on his way to Auntie Henya. I told him to call me on my cell as soon as he spoke with her. Murray called me at 12:30 pm. â&#x20AC;&#x153;She was unequivocal â&#x20AC;&#x201C; itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s him. And not only that, but the man standing next to him with the overcoat was his childhood friend, Herschel D.â&#x20AC;?

With that Murray then called my dad and asked if he wished to see a photo of himself on the day of his liberation from Dachau. He did.

Murray went up to his condo and showed him the picture. With tears in his eyes my father declared, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Yeah, thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s me.â&#x20AC;?

On April 29, 1945 a handful of photos of the liberation of Dachau were taken by Robert Spring, an X-Ray technician serving with the 59th Evacuation Hospital of the U.S. Army Medical Corps. There were 32,000 inmates on that day and most of the photos taken by soldiers were of men too skeletal to discern their identities, too grainy to see any VSHFLĂ&#x20AC;F IDFHV RU JURXS VKRWV WDNHQ from far away. But Mr. Spring decided to take one photo of a random group of nameless survivors whom he would never see again.To the Nazis, the man in the photo was prisoner number 147 DQG IRU \HDUV DQG Ă&#x20AC;YH PRQWKV it was a photo of a nameless prisoner H[SHULHQFLQJ IUHHGRP IRU WKH Ă&#x20AC;UVW WLPH in many years.

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have a lot of respect for teachers.

Really I do. What brings on this sudden awakening of awe, you DVN" ,¡OO WHOO \RX MXVW DV VRRQ DV , Ă&#x20AC;QLVK collecting the last few pieces of my sanity and crazy glue them back together. My awe comes from doing homework with my seven year old GDXJKWHU 2ND\ , ZDV GHĂ&#x20AC;QLWHO\ VSRLOHG with my older daughter, who basically just read her notes and knew her stuff, (I used to hate such people in high school) but my seven year old needs a wee bit extra help. Just a teeny tiny drop. Unfortunately, that task falls to me. (You should be hearing music of doom in the background. Dum da dum dum DUM!) What is up with kidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; homework anyway? They come home with homework pads, homework sheets, homework booklets and homework folders. Sign the test from yesterday, review spelling page 23, do math page 15 but not lines 6 or 10, read pages 2-4 and page 63 in the reader, rewrite some paragraph on the solar system and review science. %XW P\ GDXJKWHU FDQ¡W Ă&#x20AC;QG WKH WHVW Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m supposed to sign and page 23 is torn out of her book. She left out all the examples in math EXCEPT for lines 6

and 10 and has absolutely no idea which paragraph sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s supposed to rewrite. So weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re good.

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My kids know more than I do. I blame it on postpartum brain cell loss. where my respect (which previously took a nosedive after seeing all these convoluted homework instructions) grew to awe inspiring proportions.

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My daughter studied her paper on matter. I know she did because I heard her. But when I asked her what matter was, she gave me that look. The look that says, â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;uuuhhhâ&#x20AC;Ś.not quite getting you. Are you sure youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re speaking English?â&#x20AC;&#x2122; Me: â&#x20AC;&#x153;You just studied it, what is matter?â&#x20AC;?

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Her: â&#x20AC;&#x153;anythingâ&#x20AC;Śthatâ&#x20AC;Śâ&#x20AC;?

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Then of course my older daughter needs me to help her answer some Chumash questions and review her vocabulary words. â&#x20AC;&#x153;What does exacerbate mean?â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Uuuhhh...â&#x20AC;? Now itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s my turn for the stare.

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