Letters from CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 28, No. 11

Dancing In The Name of Love Ladies . . . Play Ball!

Volleyball’s a Drag

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August 10, 2018 Volume 28, Number 11 camprehoboth.com

Inside This Issue

In Brief....................................................................................... 4 CAMP Matters — Dancing In the Name of Love....................... 6 CAMP Out — Raft up!................................................................ 8 Straight Talk – Here We Go, Delaware!...................................12 It’s My Life — Born to be Alive................................................. 14 CAMP Feature – Ladies...Play Ball!.........................................16 CAMP Feature – Volleyball’s a Drag........................................18 CAMP News............................................................................. 20 Millennial Times — Hair Raising Questions............................ 26 Butterfly Project Comes to Rehoboth..................................... 28 CAMP Cheers!......................................................................... 36 Out and Proud —Blockers, Jammers, and Whips................... 38 Volunteer Spotlight — Jordan Gipple..................................... 42 The Real Dirt — Hot Town, Summer in the City....................... 46 View Point — America’s Descent into Unreason.................... 50 CAMP Critters.......................................................................... 54 Intentionally Inclusive — I Did Not Mean It............................. 56 CAMP Shots — Summer Days and Summer Nights................ 60 Q Puzzle — Tasmanian Angel................................................. 66 CAMP Stories — Fuzzy Navel.................................................. 70 Eating OUT – Rigby’s.............................................................. 80 Out and About — Rub and Tug-o-War..................................... 84 CAMP Arts — Tourism 101........................................................ 86 Booked Solid — My Life as a Goddess................................... 90 CAMP Dates — August 10-August 24...................................... 98 Letters from CAMP Rehoboth welcomes submissions.

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On the cover

Balls to the Wall! Cover design by Mary Beth Ramsey.

Resources Serving Delaware’s Coastal Area ACLU of DE Lesbian & Gay Civil Rights Project .................................................. 302-654-3966 AIDS Delaware New Castle County.................................................................... 302-652-6776 AIDS Delaware Kent & Sussex Counties............................................................. 302-226-3519 AIDS Hotline Delaware statewide...................................................................... 800-422-0429 CAMP Chorus a program of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center................ 302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Community Center LGBTQ Community Service Organization ..... 302-227-5620 CAMPsafe AIDS Education & Prevention program of CAMP Rehoboth ............. 302-227-5620 Christiana Care HIV Wellness Clinic AIDS Support Services, Georgetown............. 302-933-3420 Christiana Care LGBTQ Health Initiatives TRodden@christianacare.org................ 302-733-1227 Delaware HIV Consortium HIV Treatment & Prevention, Statewide .................... 302-654-5471 Delaware Human Relations Commission Housing & Public Accomodation ........... 877-544-8626 Delaware Pride Community events, annual Pride Festival................................ 302-265-3020 Delaware Transgender Support Support for Trans Men & Women....................... 302-402-3033 Gay/Lesbian Alcoholics Anonymous Call for other schedules................................ 302-856-6452

Saturdays at 6 pm: Epworth Church, 19285 Holland Glade Rd. (Step Meeting)

Saturdays at 7:30 pm: All Saint’s Church, 18 Olive Ave. (Step Meeting)

Tuesdays at Noon: St. Peter’s Church, 211 Mulberry St., Lewes (Step Meeting)

Thursdays at Noon: CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave. (Open Discussion) Gay Men’s Support Group a program of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center..........302-227-5620 LGBT Student Union University of DE, Newark.................................................... 302-831-8066 Lesbian Support Group a program of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center...........302-227-5620 Letters from CAMP Rehoboth LGBTQ Magazine.................................................... 302-227-5620 National Alliance on Mental Illness of DE (NAMI)..................................................... 302-427-0787 PFLAG - Rehoboth 2nd Tuesday, Public Library, 111 Adams Ave., Lewes.......... 302-841-1339 SLAA and SAA — Thursdays at 7:30 pm............................................................. 302-745-7929

All Saint’s Church, 18 Olive Ave. (Church Hall-Lower Level), Rehoboth TransLiance of Delaware meets the 4th Sunday at 7 pm at

MCC Church, 19369 Plantations Rd. Lewes..........Contact TransLiance@gmail.com

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CAMP Rehoboth Mission Statement and Purpose CAMP Rehoboth is a nonprofit community service organization dedicated to creating a more positive environment in Rehoboth Beach and its related communities. We seek to promote cooperation and understanding among all people, as we work to build safe, inclusive communities with room for all.

We seek to promote community well-being on all levels; to foster the development of community groups; to develop community space; to promote human and civil rights; to work against prejudice and discrimination; to lessen tensions among the community at large; and to help foster the economic growth of the area. We work toward these ends through activities such as the following: Fundraising for other organizations, such as AIDS service organizations, gay and lesbian community organizations, recycling programs, environmental projects, literacy training, and other ventures for the general betterment of the community.

Networking resources and information by publishing a newsletter, and functioning as an alternative tourist bureau and information center.

Promoting artistic expressions and creative thinking, and giving aid to artists and craftspeople with an emphasis on the works of lesbians and gay men.

Education and outreach to the larger community, including sensitivity training seminars, and printed materials to promote positive images of gay and lesbian people and others.

Promoting political awareness to build safe and inclusive community through voter information, education, and registration; and analysis of issues and candidates.

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The Way I See It

by Murray Archibald IS IT REALLY MID-AUGUST ALREADY? SOMEHOW THIS IS THE NEXT TO LAST SUMMER ISSUE of Letters from CAMP Rehoboth. I’m always shocked when we get to this point in the year, primarily because I know that Sundance is coming up faster than I want to think about—which is why our cover image is titled “Balls to the Wall.” This is our first sports themed issue of Letters and the real reason we have balls on the cover, but there’s no doubt in my mind that we are all working full out—balls to the wall—in order to get through the last weeks of the summer. I always like to know where an expression comes from, and was surprised to learn that this one originated with aviators pushing the ball handle of the throttle all the way to the wall of their plane. One more thing about the cover: our interpretation of sports was somewhat loose, and I confess that sports imagery got a lot more interesting to me once we added a disco ball into the mix. And the watermelon? In these hot and sultry dog days of summer, a watermelon seed spitting contest sounds about as sporty as I can manage—or would be if watermelons still had seeds. ▽ OUR LITTLE STATE OF DELAWARE HAS COME THROUGH ON LGBTQ RIGHTS ONCE AGAIN, AND on Monday, July 23 Governor John Carney signed SB 65, the Conversion Therapy Ban, into law. The bill bans mental health professionals from practicing conversion therapy on minors.

Conversion therapy attempts to change a person’s gender identity or sexual orientation, and is discouraged by the American Psychiatric Association. Delaware is the 15th state to ban conversion therapy and its new law also means that the Delaware Department of Services for Children, Youth, and their Families cannot recommend the therapy. Our thanks to all who worked to make this happen! ▽ WE TALK ABOUT SUNDANCE A LOT AS WE COUNT DOWN THE DAYS UNTIL LABOR DAY Weekend—and for a reason. Sundance is CAMP Rehoboth’s largest single fundraising event of the year, and an important piece of its financial support structure. Along with membership, Letters’ income, grants, donations, rental income, and other events, it helps provide a diverse and healthy stream of revenue for the organization. We could not do the work of CAMP Rehoboth without the generous support we receive from our extended Rehoboth community— including Washington, Baltimore, Philadelphia, New York, and places all up and down the mid-Atlantic region. The 2017 CAMP Rehoboth Audited Financials PDF is now available on the CAMP Rehoboth website. Look for it in the dropdown menu on the About Us button in the black bar at the top of every page. ▽ SUNDANCE IS TWO YEARS OLDER THAN CAMP REHOBOTH AND OVER THE PAST 30 YEARS HAS become a Labor Day weekend tradition for many. In this issue we unveil our final Sundance Host, Supporter, and Sponsor list on page 25. These are the over 450 folks who make the event possible, and I am grateful to all of them for helping us to carry on this important CAMP Rehoboth event. On page 22 we highlight our dance—something we’re very excited about this year because of the addition of the Sundance Disco Twilight Tea with Studio 54/Saint DJ Robbie Leslie. Don’t forget, the doors open this year at 7 p.m. with Robbie, and dancing continues into the night with the amazing sounds of DJ/Remixer Joe Gauthreaux. Then on the following page, Sondra Arkin writes about the ongoing and decades-long Sundance game of Disco Lottery. Read about it and join the fun! Don’t wait, all Sundance tickets and Host/ Sponsor level ticket packages are on sale now on the CAMP Rehoboth website. ▽ LOOKING AHEAD, DON’T MISS THE CAMP REHOBOTH BACHELOR AUCTION AT AQUA ON AUGUST 12 and the Sundance Racing Festival on August 26 (see CAMP News in this issue for more).

Newly announced for September 21, the Women’s FEST Reunion Tour Concert is already selling fast, and save October 14 for the CAMP Rehoboth Baltimore Avenue Block Party. ▼

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InBrief Governor Carney Announces that DDOE Will Not Finalize Current Version of Regulation 225 Delaware Governor John Carney on Thursday, August 2, released the following statement on the Delaware Department of Education’s announcement that the department will not be finalizing the current version of Regulation 225: “Last July, I asked Education Secretary Susan Bunting to draft a new regulation that would require Delaware’s school districts and charter schools to create consistent, meaningful antidiscrimination policies. We acted on the simple premise that no child should be made to feel uncomfortable or unwelcome at school because of who they are. Every student deserves to be respected and affirmed. Our goal was to help protect Delaware children from discrimination at school so they could focus on their education. That remains our goal today.

“I also believe that families are critical to the education of Delaware’s children.

Parents are their children’s first teachers, and they are our partners in this endeavor.

The more engaged and involved families are in their children’s education, the better off our students will be.

“Throughout the process of creating this regulation, I carefully listened to the feedback of Delawareans.

Secretary Bunting did the same. We heard concerns from parents who

wanted to ensure they had a say in the decisions schools make regarding their children. We attempted to address those concerns. On the other hand, we heard and understand concerns that have been raised by the LGBTQ community.

They are working to protect some of our state’s most vulnerable children.

“In light of the recent Boyertown decision by the Third Circuit, and the comments received from across our state, we are considering our next steps on Regulation 225. We will remain committed to public engagement as we determine the path forward. I want to thank Secretary Bunting and her team for their work on this regulation, and for their commitment to public engagement throughout this process. I also want to thank members of the development team that crafted the original regulation —including students, parents, superintendents, principals, school board members, and advocates.

“The most important part of my job is to make sure each and every child in Delaware has an opportunity to be successful in the world. This is difficult work. And our work is not done. I look forward to continued discussions with members of the General Assembly, Delawareans, and Delaware families across our state about how best to make progress.” ▼

Arts Grant Awarded to CAMP Rehoboth The Delaware Division of the Arts has awarded a $5,800 grant to CAMP Rehoboth’s initiative CAMPfire (Fosters, Inspires, Rewards and Energizes the arts!) for arts and artist programs. This award will be combined with funding from CAMP Rehoboth and other sources to support programs such as the CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, Women’s FEST, theater arts, art exhibitions, and creative arts programming for our 55-plus population and individuals with special needs. Funding for Division of the Arts grants is provided by the Delaware General Assembly and the National Endowment for the Arts. Thank you to the Grants Committee for spearheading this proposal, to the Delaware Division of the Arts, and to our State Legislators for their continued support of arts funding. ▼

Conversion Therapy Ban Becomes Law On July 23, Governor John Carney signed the conversion therapy ban for young people into law. Photo: Sam Brinton (Trevor Project), Kathryn Jakabcin (ACLU), Mark Purpura (Equality Delaware/ CAMP Rehoboth), Rep. Debra Heffernan, Xavier Persad (HRC), Joey Cozza, Lisa Goodman (Equality Delaware), Governor Carney, Sara McBride, Sen. Harris McDowell, George Meldrum (Nemours), Rep. Paul Baumbach, and Matthew Shurka (NCLR). ▼ Letters 4

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news and notes

Sundance Says Thanks to Hosts and Sponsors Over 450 individuals have signed up to be Hosts, Supporters, and Sponsors of Sundance 2018—In the Name of Love. This foundational support makes Sundance possible, and kicks off the fundraising before the party even starts. Don’t miss the Sundance Auction on September 1 and the dance on September 2. Remember that the dance starts an hour earlier this year with the Sundance Disco Twilight Tea and Robbie Leslie bringing an early evening disco groove—followed seamlessly by Sundance DJ Joe Gauthreaux. All tickets are available at camprehoboth.com. ▼

Sundance Volunteers Gather for Training

Forum Preps for RB City Election

On July 28, new CAMP Rehoboth volunteers attended the summer Volunteer Opportunities session to learn about the organization’s single largest fundraiser, Sundance 2018, coming up on Labor Day weekend. “It takes a village,” one of the Sundance Team Captains quoted while describing the scope of Sundance and the many areas in need of few more volunteers. Photo: Volunteer Committee Chair Pat Catanzariti, welcomes volunteers.▼

In preparation for the Rehoboth Beach City Election on August 11, the RB Homeowner’s Association and CAMP Rehoboth hosted once again their annual Candidate Forum at the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center.

Three candidates are running for the two open seats on the RB Board of Commissioners. Photo (by Rod Cook): Forum moderators Murray Archibald and Charlie Browne; candidates Pat Coluzzi, Richard Byrne, and Gary Glass. ▼

Reunion Tour Comes to Rehoboth Beach On Friday, September 21 at 7:30 p.m. at Epworth United Methodist Church, CAMP Rehoboth Women’s FEST presents the power trio of women’s music for an evening of rollicking music and friendship. Gutsy blues/rock vocal dynamo and songwriter, Teresa Trull, Grammy-nominated multi-instrumentalist and singer, Barbara Higbie, and the iconic singer/songwriter Cris Williamson, bring a mixture of brand new material and old favorites to the stage. Tickets are only $35 for this extraordinary event and already selling fast.

“These performers are so popular, I’m sure it’s going to be a sell out,” Women’s FEST co-chair Nancy Hewish says with her usual excitment about Women’s FEST. Tickets are available on the CAMP Rehoboth website. The 2018 Reunion Tour is Sponsored by Olivia. ▼

CAMP Rehoboth Hosts Valuable Session with Cape Henlopen School District On Wednesday, August 1, Cape Henlopen School District staff and area principals, and vice-principals and leaders came to the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center for breakfast and conversation about how CAMP Rehoboth can better serve as a resource and support for them. “CAMP Rehoboth has always been about building bridges—about making connections,” CAMP Rehoboth Interim Executive Director Murray Archibald explained. “Keeping all avenues of communication open is the best way to build support,” he reflected after the meeting. “It was a momentous meeting,” discussion moderator Beth Cohen said as she thanked everyone or attending.▼ AUGUST 10, 2018

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One of the great gifts of being human is our ability to laugh and cry at the same time, and many a tear has run down my face while dancing at Sundance over the years.

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by Murray Archibald

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ove is a universal theme, an emotion that unites us in our humanity.

We toss the word love around with wild abandon—sometimes expressing our deepest and most heartfelt emotion; sometimes the way we feel about a restaurant or a new shirt. It is a word of deep complexity, dependent in meaning on the subtle variation in the way we express it to one another.

Art and music are rich with love references. I googled to see if there were any studies done on the percentage of songs devoted to love themes and found that in general, the number appeared to be around 60%. I don’t swear to the reliability of that figure—though it sounds a reasonable estimate to me.

“In the Name of Love” is the song on my mind this summer. Sharon Redd recorded it in the early 1980s; gay boys rejoiced from coast to coast. It was a full out, hands-in-the-air, dancefloor hit. Sharon, by the way, was one of Bette Midler’s Harlettes in the mid-70s.

In the Name of Love is the theme of this year’s Sundance 2018: Rainbow XXXI on Labor Day Weekend—in memory of my husband, and CAMP Rehoboth and Sundance cofounder, Steve Elkins. I considered briefly the song “Everlasting Love” recorded by Vicki Sue Robinson in 1983 and Sandra in 1987, but quickly settled on “In the Name of Love,” simply because of what the title says about Steve, Sundance, and CAMP Rehoboth. So much of our lives and our work were just that—in the name of love.

Sundance is two years older than CAMP Rehoboth. We created Sundance

to provide funding for AIDS service organizations and CAMP Rehoboth to deal with intolerance and homophobia in our community. Today, Sundance is the primary fundraising event for CAMP Rehoboth, and CAMP Rehoboth is a well-established provider of HIV/ AIDS outreach, education, and testing programs.

This Labor Day weekend we will open the doors on Sundance for the 31st time. This will be the first time in all those years that I have chaired the event without Steve. I can already tell that preparing for Sundance is even more emotionally draining than I had thought it would be. I expect that will be true for many who have been involved with Sundance for a very long time.

I do believe that getting through this first Sundance without him will be cathartic for me—not because I will grieve any less, but for the simple closure it brings to the past year.

In my mind, the transformation of Steve’s lymphoma into an unstoppable monster began at last year’s Sundance.

Though he did a beautiful job, he was in so much pain he barely made it onto the stage to say thank you to our Hosts, Supporters, and Sponsors, and to kickoff the live auction and introduce our Sundance auctioneer, Lorne Crawford.

Two days after Sundance he was in the hospital, facing a frightening new diagnosis and the beginning of a six month downward spiral for both of us.

Sundance—especially the night of the dance—has always been a celebration, and celebrations of all kinds can be emotional experiences for any number of reasons. One of the great gifts of being human is our ability to laugh and cry at the same time, and many a tear has run down my face while dancing at Sundance over the years.

To this day I remember vividly a late night on the dance floor of the Saint in New York City. At the time, AIDS was ravaging the gay community there, and as I danced I noticed a man I did not know dancing his heart out near me.

Tears were streaming down his face and neck, reflecting the lights. It was a private moment for him and I didn’t

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intrude. I don’t have to know his story to understand the complexity of emotions he was experiencing. I’ve never doubted the power of music and dance to move us in inexplicable ways.

The first Sundance took place in 1988—also at the height of the AIDS crisis. Our friends were dying and we felt helpless. We started raising money because we didn’t know what else to do. Through it all we kept dancing, even in the midst of the dying—maybe because of the dying. We had to find ways to celebrate the living and the lives of those we had lost along the way.

Of the 21 friends who hosted the first Sundance in 1988, four of them died of AIDS-related deaths before the mid90s when newly developed drugs began to slow down the death rate. One other survived long enough to gain a few years from the medications.

Nowadays, our generation is older, and dying of more age-related diseases. I started to say natural causes, but I somehow can’t find it in me to believe that cancer is in any way a “natural” death. Whatever it is, those of us still living need to dance, to celebrate, to shake out the pain and the stress of our lives—to let the music shake us out of our routines, our habits, and all those silly ideas that dance is in any way age-related. In our youth we used to laugh that we would still be dancing in our old age—even if we needed wheelchairs and walkers.

This year the Sundance has been extended by an hour and the doors on the dance night will open a 7 p.m. instead of the traditional 8 p.m., and we’re calling the first part of the evening the Sundance Disco Twilight Tea. It will blend right into the Sundance as the night goes on. My advice, come early and stay late. The last hour is always my favorite.

This Labor Day Weekend, please join me on the dancefloor at Sundance. We need communal times to gather together and celebrate life and to love one another simply for being with us right now in this moment in time.

In the name of love, let’s dance. ▼

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CAMP Out Fay’s Rehoboth Journal

by Fay Jacobs

Let’s Hear It for the Rainbow Tour (Raft-Up)

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’m writing this as I am packing to head to the Gay Games in Paris (yes, France) that are in progress as you read this issue. It’s going to be quite a rainbow tour, as Evita might say, and I will report on the festivities when I get home.

However, while I am gone, plans are being made for another kind of rainbow tour. Do you know what a raft-up is? Boaters know and I will let you landlubbers in on the gig.

It’s an event where two or more boats get together, tie up to each other or anchor separately, and party together with food, drink, and good times.

Bonnie and I used to host or attend raft-ups all the time on the Chesapeake Bay, having a blast with friends, partying, swimming, and taking time out to row our dinghies to shore so our pups could have pee breaks.

We rafted-up for evenings in quiet coves or in the sunshine for noisy summer days. On especially hot days we filled our rubber dinghy with water, tied it to the boat, and floated around in it, having cocktails, until we became water-logged.

One time we had so many boats rafted together we called ourselves the Lesbian Flotilla, raising rainbow flags and blasting Gloria Gaynor’s “I Am What I Am” for the whole Severn River in Annapolis to enjoy.

And it was in that very same boat that we cruised down the Delaware Bay, into the Roosevelt Canal at Lewes, and to Rehoboth Bay Marina in Dewey. That was our original home in the area, as we spent weekends (increasingly longer ones) and vacations aboard starting in 1995.

So here’s good news for boaters and folks who love being on the water. Several boaters of the LGBTQ+ persuasion decided we should all celebrate Pride on the water here in coastal Delaware. There’s a raft-up planned for Rehoboth Bay on Sunday, August 26, from 12-3 p.m., at the “horseshoe“ by Massey’s Landing.

Come one, come all, diversity R us!!!!!

It will be the first annual Rainbow Raft-Up and Bay Pride Celebration. Naturally, all local boat captains are invited to bring their vessels to the raft-up—power, pontoon, or sail.

You won’t be able to miss the gang and their gigantic inflatable Rainbow Unicorn. But if you still need directions, the GPS coordinates are N38°37.199’, W75°05.166’. I know, it’s meaningless to me, too, but apparently the GPS knows what the heck I’m typing here.

And here’s excellent news. Even if you don’t have a boat or FWB (friends with boats) you can join in the fun. There are a

limited number of tickets available on the Sand Dollar Pontoon Party boat, leaving from the Rusty Rudder at noon and returning around 3 p.m. Included in the fee will be beer, vodka lemonade, and snacks, but you can BYO as well.

And by the way, proceeds from the Sand Dollar ticket sales will be donated to CAMP Rehoboth.

And naturally, since this is a Pride event, there will be decorating! There will be a prize for the Best Decorated Boat (oh boy, rev your engines, decorators!) and a prize for the Best Personal Flotation Device (think inflatable pink flamingo or giant inflatable bagel). I used to be the proud owner of a giant inflatable bagel, a giant inflatable hot dog, and many other blow-up toys. No, not that kind.

So if you want to join the fun, come on over to the Rainbow Raft-Up Bay Pride Celebration! If you want tickets on the Sand Dollar Party Boat contact RehobothBayPride@gmail.com for tickets and questions!

As for preparation for the event, Captain Bonnie has advice: when rafting, the heaviest boat probably has the biggest anchor— use that one! Fenders are your friend. Position fenders (many people call them bumpers but that’s an automotive—not a nautical—term) along the sides of the boat to avoid any crunching. And if there are more than two boats rafting, keep the one with the anchor in the middle.

I for one, cannot wait. And I will let you in on a little secret.

Although we gave up our beloved boat—which, by the way, was called Bay Pride (yes, a B with a wink)—17 years ago, its cocktail flag survives. And that very flag will be hoisted at the First Annual Rainbow Raft-Up and Bay Pride Celebration. Long may she wave.

Hope to see you there! ▼

There’s a raft-up planned for Rehoboth Bay on Sunday, August 26, from 12-3 p.m., at the “horseshoe“ by Massey’s Landing.

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Fay Jacobs is an author of five published memoirs. Her newest is Fried & Convicted: Rehoboth Beach Uncorked. As a humorist, she’s touring with her show Aging Gracelessly: 50 Shades of Fay. See www. fayjacobs.com

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CAMPNews Run, Walk, Swim, or Sashay the Sundance Land & Sea Racing Festival This run-walk-swim event includes a fun run, walk, and a traditional biathlon plus a chance to sashay all around town.

Organized by the Seashore Striders to benefit CAMP Rehoboth, this event on Sunday, August 26, includes a 5K run, a one-mile walk, and a half-mile swim. Participants in the biathlon do the half-mile swim and the 5K run.

Registration begins at 7 a.m. at the Rehoboth Bandstand, the race starts at 8 a.m., and there is an after-party at the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center with Bloody Marys, craft beer, and food.

Not only are there prizes in all events, but true to CAMP Rehoboth’s campy tradition, there are prizes for best costumes.

Registration is open now at seashorestriders.com. Preregistration for the run, walk, or swim is discounted—to $35— before August 15; race weekend, registration is $45.

Biathlon registration is $40 before August 15; after August 15, it’s $45.

For supporters wanting to stay in bed, dream about running, and avoid sweating, there’s the Sleepwalker option.

Contributions of $30 for CAMP Rehoboth permit sleepwalkers to stay home, or come out and cheer the participants, and come to the after party.

And they get a t-shirt, too!

For more information go to seashorestriders.com. ▼

Exercise Your Eyes at the Bachelor Auction

AUCTIONEER

Lorne Crawford

EMCEE

Chris Beagle

CO-HOST

Fancie P Charmington

SUNDAY AUGUST 12 5-7 PM

Whatever you do, don’t miss a moment of the 8th annual CAMP Rehoboth Bachelor Auction at Aqua Grill, coming up Sunday, August 12, from 5-7 p.m. Once again, professional auctioneer Lorne Crawford will spur on the bidding, while CAMP Rehoboth Board President, Chris Beagle, emcees. New this year, the hosts will be joined by one of the recent Letters covergirls, Fancie P Charmington.

Winning bidders at the auction also receive a gift certificate from one of Rehoboth’s finest restaurants. Don’t be late! ▼

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Straight Talk

by David Garrett

Here We Go, Delaware!

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n the June 1 issue of Letters, this column asked, “Where, O Where, is Delaware?” We now have the answer! Governor John Carney recently signed SB 65, a bill approved by both the State House and State Senate that prohibits children and youth from being subjected to conversion therapy. With his signature, Governor Carney made Delaware the fifteenth state to enact this protection.

In short, SB 65 prohibits health care professionals from prescribing or assigning conversion therapy as a course of action for the health and well-being of LGBTQ children and youth.

Key persons responsible for putting the bill forward, and those from outside agencies who have advocated strongly for its passage over the last year, spoke at the bill signing.

The primary sponsor of SB 65, Senator Harris McDowell, expressed his hope that this will inspire other states to take similar action. He stated, “It doesn’t take a particularly strong moral compass to see that conversion therapy deserves to be unequivocally and universally condemned. Conversion therapy is child abuse quite simply. It always has been, always will be.”

House Representative Debra Heffernan said, “Being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender is part of a natural spectrum of human identity, and it’s not a disease, disorder, illness, deficiency, or shortcoming. It is simply who that person is. The idea that you can convert someone through therapy sessions has long been discredited and rejected by all mainstream medical and mental health organizations.”

Mark Purpura, President of Equality Delaware and a CAMP Rehoboth Board Member, declared, “This bill sends an important message that a child’s sexual orientation or gender identity is neither capable of being changed nor does it need to be changed, and efforts to try to do so in the name of therapy have no place in our state. Instead, we should strive to understand and support each

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child’s unique personal identity to better empower them to thrive in school, at home, and in our community.”

Lastly, it was a privilege to have Human Rights Campaign (HRC) National Press Secretary Sarah McBride in attendance and to add to the celebration with her insight. “So-called ‘conversion therapy’ is dangerous, cruel, and uniformly rejected by every major mental health and child welfare organization. Today’s signing is a critical step forward in the fight to ensure that Delaware is a safe and affirming state for all LGBTQ youth, and we hope that the values and progress reflected in this law guide the ongoing conversation in Delaware about protecting LGBTQ students from discrimination. We are grateful to the many advocates, allies, parents, and survivors who spoke out against this abusive practice.”

While there may be a shortage of anecdotal stories to substantiate the misuse of conversion therapy in Delaware, what is even more important is that future abuse of this pseudoscientific process will be halted before it does real harm. Laws that are enacted do not always cure an ill, but may provide the right medicine to prevent oncoming illnesses. This legislation, now in force in Delaware, will prevent those who

With his signature, Governor Carney made Delaware the fifteenth state to enact this protection.

seek to do harm to LGBTQ children and youth from recommending or otherwise engaging in conversion therapy.

As the HRC notes on its website, “There is no credible evidence that conversion therapy can change a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity or expression. To the contrary, research has clearly shown that these practices pose devastating health risks for LGBTQ young people, including depression, decreased self-esteem, substance abuse, homelessness, and even suicidal behavior.”

Even with the signing of SB 65, danger still lurks in the corners of our state legislature. There are those who continually seek to undermine the courageous efforts of LGBTQ advocates who make the world better for others. As the State House deliberated SB 65, Rep. Heffernan rejected an amendment that would have diluted the intent and scope of the bill. Rep. Rich Collins (R-Millsboro) proposed an amendment to permit conversion therapy when requested by the child or the child’s parents. Collins suggested that the bill usurps parental rights, and that this amendment would preserve them. The amendment failed.

By no means does the passage of SB 65 provide a guarantee that our LGBTQ children and youth are free from further assault on their rights and their lives. Bathroom bills, religious “freedom” proposals, and the recently discussed Regulation 225 revisions (which would have forced students to come out in order to be protected against discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity in school), are all subjects for the future. There is no shortage of the need for more advocacy on behalf of the LGBTQ community. We will not be silent. We will be heard. For now, though...here we go, Delaware! ▼ David Garrett is a straight advocate for equality and inclusion. He is also the proud father of an adult transdaughter. Email David Garrrett at dlgarrett4rb@gmail.com

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It’s My Life

by Michael Thomas Ford

Born to Be Alive I cried at the gym today.

I was on my nemesis, the stair climber. We face one another three times a week, on cardio days. No matter how many times I manage to make it through my 42-minute routine without dying, every single time I get on the thing I’m convinced that I’m not going to be able to do it again. For the first five minutes I completely forget how to breathe. For the next 10 or so I convince myself that I’m having a heart attack.

After that, I more or less settle into things and plod grimly along, watching the minutes tick by and the number of imaginary floors I’ve climbed rise. My gym has a series of posters tacked to the wall in front of the climbers, each one showing a famous structure and how many floors its height equals.

You’re supposed to get all excited about theoretically getting to the top of the Empire State Building, the Eiffel Tower, the Stratosphere. My current workout has me climbing Dubai’s Burj Khalifa on a regular basis, which might be thrilling if I were actually, you know, getting to the top of the Burj instead of sweating in a gym in glorious Middletown, Delaware.

Anyway, there I was, somewhere around the 86th floor. All things considered, it actually wasn’t going badly, especially considering that yesterday was leg day and I was sore.

It helped that I was listening to a new playlist on my iPod. I require music to get through cardio activities, especially the stair climber. It’s much easier to climb 200 floors when you can pretend you’re Stevie Nicks in the “I Can’t Wait” video or Madonna performing “Express Yourself” on the MTV Video Awards.

I normally listen to aggressive heavy rock. Today’s playlist, though, was made up of disco songs. And it was doing the trick. I’d gotten though almost half of the workout thanks to ABBA, Thelma Houston, Donna Summer, and the Bee Gees. I was feeling very groovy indeed.

And then “Born to Be Alive” came on.

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up the dance floors. Although our local rock-and-roll radio station didn’t play it, I heard the song on Casey Kasem’s American Top 40 weekly countdown and loved it. Ten years later, I would hear it a lot in the gay clubs of New York, where it was frequently sandwiched in between current stompers like Technotronic’s “Pump Up the Jam” and Janet Jackson’s “Miss You Much.” It was particularly popular during Pride season, and one of my earliest memories of living in New York is seeing a sea of shirtless men dancing to it on the piers on a Sunday afternoon.

Sometimes things come out of nowhere—sounds, scents, tastes—and hit you with particular force. When the unmistakable notes of “Born to Be Alive” blasted into my ears, I immediately was transported back to those days in New York. I saw the faces of men my age dancing happily and with abandon. And then, just as quickly, I saw those faces disappear, winking out one by one as the specter of AIDS claimed them.

I’ve recently been watching the Ryan Murphy-created show Pose, which is set

Sometimes things come out of nowhere—sounds, scents, tastes—and hit you with particular force. When the unmistakable notes of “Born to Be Alive” blasted into my ears, I immediately was transported back to those days in New York.

in New York in 1987 and focuses on gay ball culture. I arrived in New York around that time myself, and watching the show brings back a lot of memories. Several times while watching it I’ve broken out in sobs remembering the overwhelming fear many of us felt during that time, as well as the buoyancy of hope provided by coming together as a community.

Today, the words of “Born to Be Alive” brought those same tears. “It’s good to be alive,” Hernandez sings over and over to a beat that demands you respond to it. The message is simple and clear and true. And yet it’s also heartbreaking, as so many of the men who danced to it, never expecting what was about to hit them, are gone.

The good thing about crying on a stair climber at the gym is that if you sweat as much as I do, people tend not to notice. As I stood there, endlessly ascending, I thought about all of the people who would give anything to be standing where I was, their bodies well enough to be working out, strong enough to enjoy being alive. And so, tired as I was, I climbed for them, hitting repeat on my iPod and listening to a stupid disco song over and over until I reached the top of the Burj Khalifa.

Going to the gym at all is a direct result of my approaching 50th birthday.

And I admit that I have days when I look at that upcoming milestone and get depressed over how little time might be left, of all the things still undone, and those that might remain undone. Today, though, as I walked up that invisible staircase, I was reminded how very fortunate I am to be here at all. How very fortunate I am to be alive. ▼ Michael Thomas Ford is a much-published Lambda Literary award-winning author. Visit Michael at michaelthomasford.com

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LADIES…Play Ball!

by Stefani Deoul

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t wasn’t too long ago when women who thought about the cute girl next door had only a handful of places to go. The hidden answer, a secret clue known only to a select few, was to unlock the mystery of the three Bs—Bars, Bookstores, and Baseball diamonds. Our very own lesbian Field of Dreams might be waiting, if not in the “Big B,” perhaps in the “little b,” aka the bleachers.

Without baseball/softball and eventually Billie Jean King, Martina, and the tennis tour, our community might still have found each other, but not necessarily while having fun in the sun. And, even with all our technological addictions, it’s nice to know sports and lesbians are still hitting, whacking, putting, and kicking throughout the world, and more importantly, here in Rehoboth Beach.

SOFTBALL

Run by “Commissioner” Rina Pelligrini, our field of dreams is alive and well, and located at the Holland Glade Little League fields.

From June to August, every Tuesday night, it’s “where the girls are.” At least the ones forty-five and older. The league is six teams strong and plays a ten-game season, with each team playing each team twice.

And, just like in the old days, women don’t have to play to be part of the action. There is a rather fabulous bleacher section filled weekly with, according to Pelligrini, “LOTS of fans!”

The league is always looking for players, so step up to the plate and become part of the “Girls of Summer” by emailing Rina Pelligrini at rpelle6469@gmail. com, or check out their website at leaguelineup.com/ directors.asp?url=rehobothsenior. Or, just come out and join the bleacher squad.

GOLF

From the first blooms of Spring though the last leaves of Fall, the CAMP Rehoboth Ladies Golf League meets Thursday evenings at the American Classic/Heritage Golf Course located at 18485 Bethpage Drive, just off Postal Road, behind Acme Markets, Lewes.

League organizers Donna Dolce and Marilyn Miller keep the game interesting by varying the league play to include rounds of best ball, regular foursome golf, capture the flag games, and more. Already have a foursome organized to play? There are Make-YourOwn-Team days as well.

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awarded each week for the winning team, closest to the pin, and fewest putts.

There’s also a very special end-of-the-year tournament highlighted by some rather “eclectic holes” that might find golfers working their way around hula hoops, golf bags, or a toilet seat (!), followed by a picnic dinner and prizes for the “best” on all the holes.

The cost to join the league is a reasonable $30 sign-up fee, with a course fee of only $20 per week (with cart) or $15 (walkers) for the nine holes. And there is no minimum commitment. For more information, or to simply join in, email Donna Dolce at lynndonna143@gmail.com. Grab a mashie niblick, brassie, and baffy, and come chip, swing, and putt with the CAMP Rehoboth Ladies Golf League.

BOWLING

“Bowling?!” Yes, bowling. Rehoboth Beach not only has a bowling team, it has a thriving bowling league.

It is the Rainbow Women’s Bowling League on Tuesday nights in Millsboro at the Millsboro Lanes.

The league was started in 2013, by professional bowler and Rehoboth Beach resident, Rina Pelligrini (Yes, that Rina. Apparently this is what she does in between softball seasons), who rounded up six teams of four players per team to come out and play. Today the Rainbow Women are fourteen teams strong, occupying fourteen lanes. Not everyone is a pro. As a matter of fact, the averages range from 60—180 and 90 percent of the players have a handicap. This is about a night out and having fun.

Specifically it’s about a Tuesday night out, from 6:45-9 p.m.

At this moment, their lanes are maxed out, but they are always on the hunt for subs to come and join them. It’s $16 a night to bowl, $12 of which goes to the lanes and $4 of which goes into a prize fund for the end of the year. There are two halves to the season (October-January/January-April) so snowbirds can be accommodated.

So now’s the time to hit the thrift shop and buy that too-cool-for-school bowling shirt. Email Rina Pelligrini at rpelle6469@gmail.com for any additional info or to join.

PICKLEBALL

Although it is last on this list, pickleball is rapidly becoming first in the hearts of many. To begin, what is it?

Pickleball is a paddle sport that combines elements of badminton, ping-pong, and tennis. It was created for all ages and skill levels but is most popular with Seniors and is the fastest growing sport in the country. The rules are simple and the game is

easy for beginners to learn, especially for those who have had any type of paddle/racquet sports experience, but it is also a quick, fast-paced competition for experienced players.

Pickleball can be played either indoors or outdoors on a badminton-sized court, using a net similar to tennis but lower to the ground. It is played with a paddle and a plastic ball with holes. Pickleball is played in singles or doubles formats.

Pickleball in Rehoboth Beach can be traced back to Sandy Oropel.

Sandy learned the game in Palm Springs, CA, came home, bought a portable net system, and set it up on the tennis court at Sawgrass South where she resides. Watching instructional videos, she learned the rules, techniques, and strategy, and then introduced the game to some friends. By the end of that summer she had 40 women completely addicted to the game and created the Sawgrass Women’s Pickleball Club.

Then Sandy met the Delmarva Dills, a well-known Delaware team. Four of their most experienced players gave a clinic, and it sparked the competitive spirit in everyone. One year later, in 2013, Sawgrass Pickleball Club entered 12 teams in the Women’s Double Competition of the Delaware Senior Olympics and brought home several Delaware medals.

Today, Sawgrass Women’s Pickleball Club has 46 members. Sadly, their club is private because they are required to carry liability insurance by the Sawgrass Homeowner’s Association, and because they only have two courts on which to play.

But there are other pickleball venues and groups. There are Pickleball 101 clinics offered at The Factory, Sports at the Beach, and the Dave Marshall Center.

In 2013, a group of local players formed a statewide pickleball club called the First State Pickleball Club. This club is open to all, is dedicated to the promotion of pickleball, and conducts clinics, tournaments, and social events. Their website is firststatepickleball.org.

In addition, the Delaware Senior Olympics holds an annual Pickleball Tournament in Women’s and Men’s Doubles and Singles, and also Mixed Doubles in September. Information can be found at delawareseniorolympics.org.

OTHER SPORTS

Not everybody is looking for a team sport, but might still like to get out and be sporty. Fortunately, there’s more for the untethering of your inner athlete. There’s kayaking, paddle boarding, and bicycling, to name just a few. There’s plenty for women and men!

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Volleyball’s a Drag. Serve, Block, Spike!

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abor Day weekend is in sight, and along with Sundance, the other legendary event is the Sunday (this year, September 2) Drag Volleyball Game.

It’s always a combination of campy and sporty on Poodle Beach. There are two long-time volleyball squads, mostly but not exclusively men, practicing their game and planning high heels, high hair, and reminiscing about their improbable 29-year history of drag volleyball. And they are at work, right now, thinking about spikes—both heels and volleyballs.

The infamous event boasts often hand-made and uproariously hilarious costumes, coordinated song and dance routines, and a lot of satire.

Maybe we will get some biting political satire this year as the athletes/drag queens square off.

With speakers blasting music—lots of disco, lots of showtunes—and thousands of onlookers lining the boardwalk and standing or seated on the sand from Prospect Street to (how appropriate) Queen Street, it’s a blast.

City police officers guard the dunes—and enjoy the game—as the entire beach comes alive with spikes, serves, cheers, dancing, and the occasional very naughty sight gag.

The team entrances from the boardwalk are

legendary in their audacity and fun quotient.

Letters interviewed some of the players and here’s their take on this amazing tradition.

beginning there have been two teams. When someone leaves the team, the team then votes and picks a replacement.

Letters: How many years have you been playing/performing?

Tony S: After playing volleyball with the ladies my entire first summer here, they asked me to join the “cast.”

Darryl M: My first year on the team was in 1995.

I have played every year since then except for two. One year we didn’t play because of weather, another year I was unable to play due to family obligations.

Tony Scavone: 13 years.

Mark Kimble: I am one of the few originals still playing. It all started in 1988, when Flo (Forrest Park), brought some wigs and women’s bathing suits down to the beach on Labor Day weekend.

I was asked if I wanted to do it. Believe it or not I was only 18 years old and had never done anything like this before, but I’m willing to try anything. So I said yes. We changed in the middle of some blankets and then came out. I was really surprised when the entire beach came over to watch. There was no music just catty comments. Now you see how it has evolved.

Tony Watkins: This will be my 20th year.

Letters: How did you first get involved?

Darryl: My first summer at the beach was in ’94. I played every weekend I was down. When it came time for the game in ’95, one team needed an extra person so I was asked to play. Since the

Tony W: I was first asked by one of the teams to play because they kept losing to the other team.

I had been playing volleyball for a while and was rated AA. After about three years of being asked, I finally agreed to play. My first year was Madonna, and I was very nervous since I had never done anything related to drag. That year we won and I have been playing with the team ever since.

Letters: What’s your favorite part of the entire experience?

Darryl: Of course, playing the game and performing are great, but what I enjoy most is Sunday night. Most people probably do not know that after the game, both teams get together for a little bonding time. We watch the game (which is always recorded), have a few drinks, dessert, and give out trophies for crowd pleaser, MVP, and best outfit. The winning team gets the bigger trophies.

Tony S: The reaction from the crowd, it’s great that so many people love it so much.

Mark: I love doing it for all the people that come watch. It is so fun just making people laugh.

Tony W: A lot of work goes into each year, from coming up with the theme to practices (which are many), to the actual performance. The best part is watching each player develop through the years and get into their character. For me, the best part is actually playing volleyball in front of the crowds and showing them we are volleyball players who play in drag and not drag queens who play at volleyball.

Letters: What was your favorite costume or skit ever?

Darryl: Hmm, there are been so many I’m not sure I can pick a favorite costume. I have ranged from Miss Universe, to a pregnant welfare Barbie, through the different stages of Madonna, Cher, and Lady Gaga, and from a Hindu Goddess belly dancer with multiple arms to a Las Vegas showgirl. The imagination is amazing. As far as skits go, the dance captains of the team (one plays with us, one is an “athletic supporter” on the sidelines) always go

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Tony S: My first year we did Truvy’s beauty shop girls and doused a teammate with a five-gallon bucket of cold water shouting “Drink your juice, Shelby!”

Mark: There were so many skits, I have a hard time picking just one. The bridal party was great. Hard to find bridesmaid dresses in rainbow colors in big girl sizes. Love the Michael Jackson theme the year he died and poor Farrah got overlooked. Doing Thriller was great. The Von Tramp family with Maria’s entrance from the dunes to “The Hills Are Alive” was perfection. Love the trailer trash introductions.

Tony W: It is hard to name which one is my favorite because there are so many great themes. But if I had to choose, it would be the Synchronized Swimmers skit and the costume would be from Geisha Girls.

Letters: What do you want readers to know?

Darryl: It has been an honor to be able to play this game with these individuals (both teams) for so many years. It’s something I will always treasure. If you play with us during the year you will see we can be very catty but we are also very close and support each other. However, we are all getting older and we need new talent. Drag Volleyball has been around for almost 30 years. If you like to play volleyball and entertain people, come play during the summer with us. One day, you might be asked to join a team. Don’t let us scare you off. We really don’t bite. (Well, Myrna might.)

Tony S: It’s even hotter than you think under those wigs!

Mark: I just want everyone to know that as long as people come watch I will try to continue to put on the show.

Tony W: A lot of work goes into each year by our team but it is well worth it once we see how the crowds totally enjoy the show, and it is a continuation of what has become a Rehoboth Labor Day tradition.

Letters: Come see what the themes and costumes are this year. To get a good spot, gather early on September 2 at Poodle Beach. It’s always a great game and a really good time. ▼

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SUNDANCE 2018

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JOE GAUTHREAUX

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abor Day Weekend may signal the end of summer to some, but for many in Rehoboth Beach it brings the highlight of the year: Sundance. The event, now in its 31st year, will bring two internationally known DJs, a world-class lighting designer, and NY club-style to the recently renovated Rehoboth Convention Center for a one-night dance extravaganza. CAMP Rehoboth hosts Sundance on September 2, with proceeds supporting community services. As a bonus this year, the night starts early with the Sundance Disco Twilight Tea at 7 p.m., with the traditional Sundance following around 9:45. Sundance 2018—Rainbow XXXI: In the Name of Love includes an all-night open bar and cocktail buffet.

The Sundance Disco Twilight Tea will feature DJ legend Robbie Leslie, who is best known for his work at Studio 54 and The Saint in NYC (and famous for his Saint White Parties) but has also had a long career beginning on Fire Island and including 12 West and Palladium. A bona fide legend in the music industry, Leslie has been in the nightclub business for 40 years and is considered the prototype of the modern circuit party DJ. He began spinning at special events worldwide long before the term ‘circuit’ was in the party vernacular. He is currently a Studio 54 radio DJ on Sirius XM radio and continues to play parties all over the world.

International DJ/Remixer Joe Gauthreaux will take over the booth around 9:45 to lift the room right into his signature club sound. Gauthreaux, one of the most sought-after DJs and producers in the industry, has a resume full of club appearances and main events that spans the last 15 years. He has played Sundance for several years and almost every major circuit event in the world, including Winter Party Festival, Black Party, White Party Miami, Song Kran Bangkok, New Year’s Rio at The Week, and Atlantis Cruises, among others. Constantly evolving, Gauthreaux took his music to the next level with his own house music label, “Prop D Recordings,” and a 2014 debut single “Bye Felicia” featuring Mitch Amtrak. The single reached number 5 on the Billboard Dance Chart, making Gauthreaux an official Billboard Recording Artist. Follow-up singles “February (Our Last Kiss)” featuring Abigail, and “The Urge In Me” featuring Inaya Day, rose even higher, peaking at numbers 4 and 3, respectively. He also wrote and produced the sleeper hit “You Are My Family,” also featuring Inaya Day on vocals, which has turned into a modern-day gay pride classic.

Sundance will once again feature stunning lighting effects by Paul Turner, touring lighting designer/director for Robin Thicke. Turner has created unique lighting design for Liza Minnelli, Mary J. Blige, and many other musical, theatrical, television, and event productions.

Sundance is a two-night event. The first night (September 1) is a dazzling auction featuring art, trips, gifts, sports memorabilia, and oneof-a-kind items. The second night (September 2) is the dance. Sundance participants can attend either or both nights of the event (tickets are $45 for one night, $80 for both). This year, the theme is Sundance 2018— Rainbow XXXI: In the Name of Love, in memory of beloved Sundance (and CAMP Rehoboth) co-founder Steve Elkins. Additional information and tickets are available at camprehoboth.com. ▼

DISCO LOTTERY A Spectator Sport for All

By Sondra N. Arkin

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t is an image that is seared into my memory: our friend Jim with his limbs akimbo like a puppet yanked skyward, his booted heels touching his butt, shrieking with glee when he won Disco Lottery one night at the Pavilion on Fire Island. It was a retro dance night, and Jim’s winning selection was “Evergreen” (the “only” song he could think of). His prize: Gloating Rights. His delight: Priceless.

What the heck is Disco Lottery?

Giving credit where credit is due, our friend Mark Carr gets props for introducing us to this “parlor” game.

Before a night out on the dancefloor, each person selects two songs: one they “hope” the DJ will play and the other one they “think” the DJ will play.

Sometimes there is a bonus selection, like “last song” or “best remix.” Any association with the DJ excludes a player from participating. Longtime Sundance DJ Mark Thomas would growl dismissively as part of his greeting, “y’all playing that silly game of yours again this year?” and then he’d chuckle.

For years and years, we each showed up at Sundance with two song titles on a scrap of paper. Often, they’d be tucked into a back pocket, and at some point, a soggy pack of notes would be extracted to examine in better light. More recently, texts start flying over the course of the weekend, and they are more likely to be assembled into a note on someone’s device.

We’ve recruited many of the Production Team Captains into the game over the years, and sometimes, as soon as a player enters the convention center, they seek out lottery leadership to file their selections. When you see me jotting a note on the dancefloor, that is usually what is going on. If you are not at the dance from beginning to end, you might miss your selection. This is a self-monitoring game. We use the submissions mostly as evidence that a song was selected in advance as we’ve

had some dodgy players over the years.

In the interest of full disclosure, I am an audio ignoramus. This makes play very hard for me. I don’t recognize songs well, and even if I know the song, on the dancefloor, the lyrics and the music mesh fairly tightly, and it is possible for me to mishear anything. Lyrics are a fluid blend of possibilities, even if I know the song. Even so, I am amazed at what I do recognize, even after the fact.

The year we were surprised by a dance version of “Kumbaya,” it was nearly over by the time I figured out what was playing. So while I am an enthusiastic player, it isn’t a sport that comes naturally to me.

Anyone can be a winner. And multiple people can be winners. The more the merrier.

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joegauthreaux.podomatic.com robbieleslie.com siriusxm.com/studio54radio mixcloud.com/djrobbieleslie/ And what do you get if you are a winner? Gloating Rights. Yes, only Gloating Rights. For some of us, that is a big deal. As a matter of fact, our gloating abilities vary so much that we’ve designated three levels for Gloaters: beginners are Gloaticians, moderately advanced are Gloatologists, and the most advanced gets a Ph.G.—

the Doctor of Gloatology.

You get to point your fingers at yourself, gather congratulations, sing as loud as possible, dance with great élan, and, if you are like our friend Jim, leap with delight. He earned his Ph.G. that one night. Really, who doesn’t like to leap with delight?

For years, we’ve been pondering how to invite the larger community to play along with us. And since this Sundance starts off in a retro mode— so many people lobbied to bring back a little of the magic of the retro dance night of Love—why not study up a bit and join us in our game? Or if contemporary sounds are more your thing, that will work too. What do you HOPE to hear? Where do you THINK the DJ might go?

Both Robbie Leslie and Joe Gauthreaux have lots of sets available to listen to online through their own websites, radio stations, even YouTube.

Take some time and study up. Plot your wishlist.

Pick your songs, and join our game.

Since the dance is sort of a two-for-one night, pick FOUR songs if you’d like.

Send your email selection (maximum: two HOPES, two THINKS) no later than 7 p.m. on Sunday, September 2, to discolottery@camprehoboth.com.

You must be present to win. You have to declare yourself a winner. We don’t keep track, but feel free to sidle over on the dancefloor and let us gloat along with you. We’ll all shout: “You’re a weiner, you’re a weiner!”

We thought it would be fun to assemble the submissions for a follow up in a future Letters. Sorry to say, but “In the Name of Love” cannot be anyone’s selection this year, but if it plays, we all will be winners. ▼ AUGUST 10, 2018

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HAIR S RAISING QUESTIONS AT THE HAIR SALON

Clearly, this woman was ignorant. I tried to remain calm. I didn’t really plan to openly discuss my sex life in a hair salon.

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o I decided to try a new hair salon. After asking what kind of cut I wanted (it’s been the same cut for years), the stylist wrapped me in the salon cape and proceeded to cut my hair. We engaged in harmless small talk. Some people like to enjoy peace and quiet while receiving a haircut, but I don’t mind friendly conversation.

“Are you single?”

I’m used to this curveball.

“No.” “Oh? What does she do for a living?”

“He works in construction.”

She seemed shocked. She put down her scissors.

“He? Really? You don’t look or act gay.” She said this loudly. Some of the other customers could obviously hear.

Look or act gay. I took a deep breath.

OK, I thought, I’ll let this one pass.

“Well, I am gay,” I explained.

“There’s nothing wrong with that,” she said, almost trying to assure herself there wasn’t. Of course, even saying it implies that there might be. She proceeded to tell me about her friend who worked for a cruise line. “I’m pretty sure he’s gay,” she explained, “But he doesn’t know it. He’s married and, believe me, he is soo gay. Do you think he’s gay?”

“Listen—I have no idea if your friend is gay. How could I know?”

“Oh. Okay. Well, I was just wondering, because he definitely seems gay. I have another question.”

“What’s that?”

“In your relationship, which one is the man?”

Now we’ve crossed a line, I thought.

Clearly, this woman was ignorant. I tried to remain calm. I didn’t really plan to openly discuss my sex life in a hair salon.

“We are both the man because we’re both men.”

“Oh...I see.” It sounded as if she hadn’t really considered that fact.

The cape felt tight around my neck, like a medieval neck restraint. Options? I could walk out without paying—with what would appear to be the haircut of an Amish boy— or I could sit there and try to educate this woman about gay sex. I wanted to ask, “Can’t you just Google this?”

by James Adams Smith

I found the situation extremely awkward, but perhaps even awkwardness can be transformative. I wasn’t sure if she’d even met anyone who was openly gay—which I found unusual for Rehoboth.

If I walked out, the misconceptions would continue to exist. If I allowed her comments to make me angry, I would leave her with a negative impression of LBGTQ folk. I figured listening to her and calmly addressing her misconceptions was the best way out of this quandary.

So I allowed her to ask about my life, and I answered any questions she had. I realized she really meant no harm—she was genuinely curious and wanted to know more.

I have some friends who will probably tell me I should’ve reacted more, but I’ve found that not much good can come from a place of anger, especially reactionary anger. I’m not sure if I handled the situation in the best way possible—but, I prefer others to be open and honest with me, so shouldn’t I be open and honest with others?

I do believe there should be boundaries for what is appropriate at-work discussion, but hey—we’re all learning, here. I could have reported her to her manager. I could have withheld a tip. But really, what good would any of that do?

Instead we talked about gay relationships, gay sex, gay anything else she wanted to know about while the other customers eavesdropped. And that was fine.

“Let me get this straight,” she said.

“Your partner is 25 years older than you, and he’s not your sugar daddy?”

“That’s correct. Not my sugar daddy.”

I left that day with the same haircut I always get, but something was different—the anger had faded, and I felt acceptance. I imagined the woman after work, proudly explaining to family members her new vocabulary: “bear,” “twink,” and “cub.” ▼ James Adams Smith works as an English tutor at Delaware Technical & Community College and is studying to become an occupational therapist. You can reach him at JamesAdamsSmith@gmail.com

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THE Butterfly Project TOUR

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he organization Rehoboth TransLiance will present an evening with Jessica Lynn’s Butterfly Project at CAMP Rehoboth on Monday, Aug. 20, at 7.p.m. Jessica Lynn is a worldrenowned transgender advocate and activist. Her experiences as a transgender woman and parent led her to dedicate her life to spreading awareness and acceptance for gender nonconforming communities.

At the event, a unique tool, a Kaleidoscope of Butterflies, will serve as the symbol of this mission and act as a conversation starter.

Letters asked Kathy Carpenter from Transliance a few questions about her organization and also posed some questions to Jessica Lynn so potential audience members can learn a little about this important presentation.

Letters: How long has Transliance been active in the area, and can you tell us a little about its mission?

Kathy Carpenter: Rehoboth Transliance (RTL) was founded in June 2016 by Suzanne Freed and me. I had been trying to start a supportive social group since the

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mid-nineties. Several of us have had various successes despite limited community support or understanding. Most therapists recommend support groups for social integration, peer support, and education.

Despite living in a very progressive area there were no groups locally so we decided to form our own.

RTL has a meetup at meetup. com that provides a central point for information, event planning, peer support, and social events. We have a monthly meeting open to anyone with an interest in gender issues.

The open discussions help people discover their true selves. We work with other organizations such as PFLAG, CAMP Rehoboth Council of Elders, and the Cape Henlopen School district’s LGBTQ outreach committee.

Letters: Personally, what has this group meant to you?

Kathy Carpenter: I am a transgender person and as a transgender person RTL has helped me live my truth. Many call this a transitional process but for me it is a confirmation of what I have known all my life.

I have been able to meet so many people and learned to embrace our differences. With the help of Safe Harbor UCC, Rehoboth MCC churches, PFLAG, and CAMP Rehoboth, we are creating a community where our members can be more comfortable with society and society can be more comfortable with us.

Letters: How do you think The Butterfly Project can assist with visibility for transgender people?

Kathy Carpenter: The Butterfly Project is intended to keep the conversation going. Jessica is a dynamic speaker, educating people through her personal experiences.

The Butterfly Project is intended to get others to share their stories.

Letters: Jessica, you’ve traveled the world as a transgender role model and advocate. Where have you received your best reception and have there been places where it’s been visibly difficult?

Jessica Lynn: Actually, I have been very surprised at how well my presentations have been received all over the world. I gave 18 presentations during a three-week speaking tour of India, and probably had 12 standing ovations.

Countries where you think it’s going to be extremely difficult to talk about transgender issues were actually some of the most curious communities I have had the privilege to meet, as most have never met a transgender person.

I have been so fortunate to have never had a negative situation at any of my presentations, and almost all have been incredibly positive.

Overall, people are good hearted, just uneducated about a subject that is rarely spoken about and therefore misunderstood.

Once someone meets me, and hears more about our community, it helps open their minds. England is probably the most accepting country towards the transgender community I have been to and the southern part of United States (Alabama, Georgia, Mississippi, Louisiana, etc.) more difficult.

Letters: We know it’s been hideous for you to lose custody of a child based on discrimination.

It’s clear that your work aims to keep others from going through the same nightmare of events.

What’s your message to parents who fear they will lose child custody if they transition or have already done so?

Jessica Lynn: I did not only lose custody from this judge in Texas, but he removed my parental rights to my youngest child. Later that same year, this judge went as far as removing my name from my young son’s birth certificate.

My typical audience members are university and college students, as these are the future leaders of the world. I speak at a huge number of law schools, all over the world, as this is where our future attorneys, judges, politicians, and supreme court justices go and learn. If we can open their minds, there will be

less discrimination in the future.

When I meet parents going through a similar situation, I urge them to find a proper attorney and learn their rights. It’s a very common thing to spend tens of thousands of dollars trying to maintain your parental rights being a parent in the transgender community. There are a handful of good organizations that will help someone in our position, including many law schools that do much of this work pro-bono.

Letters: And what’s your message to cis-gender audiences, i.e., to people whose gender identity corresponds with the sex they were assigned at birth?

Jessica Lynn: Cis-gender people are my target audience. I find if we can help open these minds, we can change the way the world views the whole LGBTQ+ community, and really any marginalized group of people.

I use my life story to help people understand that this is not something that is a choice, it is who we are. I show the ups and downs of what I went through to transition into a body aligned with my gender identity.

I show how difficult it can be without support and how the general public can become better allies. Most of the young adults I speak with will become teachers, doctors, nurses, lawyers, judges, and most important…parents. If we can help these future parents accept and support their own children, the world will be a much better place.

Letters: Your presentations have been called raw, honest, and uproariously funny. Can you tell us how you educate?

Jessica Lynn: If I can make the audience cry, laugh, smile, and think, they will stay tuned in.

When people leave the auditorium, I want them never to forget what they have just seen. I want them to continue the conversation to help the world understand more about people

such as myself. If they have a good time while learning some critical life lessons, they will recommend me to a colleague, friend, school, etc., and continue the educational thread.

And I always end with one of my world famous hold-nothing-back Q&A sessions.

Letters: What’s the connection between the butterflies and your message?

Jessica Lynn: When I was a very young child, I collected and raised Monarch butterflies. I would watch the caterpillar transform into a cocoon, and then, after a short while, out would come a beautiful butterfly. I hoped and dreamed that one day I would somehow turn into a cocoon and come out a girl—I was still quite young.

Butterflies continued to be an important part of my life and so it was no surprise when I included them in my presentations.

Specifically, the butterfly effect from chaos theory is the inspiration for The Butterfly Project.

The project uses butterflies to create safe and friendly spaces for the opportunity to learn about and be more accepting of the entire gender spectrum, continue nonjudgmental conversations and interactions about gender/sexuality, and spread a message of peace and nonviolence.

Please join CAMP Rehoboth and TransLiance on August 20 for this unique event. To help support the ongoing mission of The Butterfly Project, a $10 donation at the door is suggested. For more information, check out jessicalynn.website. ▼

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Out & Proud

by Stefani Deoul

Blockers, Jammers, and Whips. Oh My!

I

n researching the “Ladies…Play Ball!” article for this issue, I stumbled across a local team playing a sport that’s in the midst of both a stunning renaissance and a complete redefinition.

Welcome back to the roller derby, now starring the SoDels!

Since 2011, our own Southern Delaware Roller Derby team has been climbing the ranks of the women’s flat track world. With players like Armajennon, Blaze O’Gory, and Semi Automedic (to name a few), derby is a high-octane night of— to quote Cyndi Lauper—“Girls just wanna have fun.”

At a derby event, two teams of five players skate around a track, with the “jammers” scoring points as they lap players of the opposite team, a feat often accomplished with a little help—in the form of pushing, shoving, and (wo) man-handling from their cohorts, the “blockers.”

Now, if you’re finding yourself smirking, let me share a little secret: roller derby is no longer just a guilty pleasure; it’s one of the most feminist, empowering, queer-loving, trans-affirming sports around.

In fact, The Women’s Flat Track Derby Association (WFTDA) recognizes that “Identifying as transgender, intersex, and/or gender expansive is not in any way related to an individual’s eligibility for participating as a volunteer or employee.

An individual who identifies as a trans woman, intersex woman, and/or gender expansive may skate with a WFTDA charter team if women’s flat track roller derby is the version and composition of the roller derby with which they most closely identify.”

Quick backstory. Roller derby started during the Great Depression. Taking its inspiration from those grueling dance marathons for cash prizes, the Transcontinental Roller Derby was born.

Like those dance marathons, it consisted of two-person (male-female) teams, with 25 teams per event, circling a wooden oval banked track thousands of times for over 11 hours a day, until they “covered”

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the 3,000 miles from coast to coast.

It was during these years roller derby crowned its first queen, speed record holder, and skating legend, Ivy King.

Then came television and roller derby was part of the fun from broadcast’s earliest days through the seventies, having a final seminal moment with the release of the 1972 Raquel Welch movie, Kansas City Bomber.

Those years belonged to the Brooklyn Red Devils, the New York Chiefs, the Los Angeles Thunderbirds, the San Francisco Bay Bombers, and the Philadelphia Warriors—names that remain legendary.

Early sheroes of the sport included the 4-foot-11 inch, spitfire plumber’s daughter, Midge “Toughie” Brasuhn, who, in 1950, was voted one of the ten leading sportswomen by the Sportswriters of America. These sportswriters understood you had to be one hell of an athlete to skate those banked tracks at over thirty miles an hour, while being hit by other people—not to mention flying debris.

And Brasuhn was not derby’s only star. Her rival was the very beautiful, always fashionable, Gerry Murray. In 1957, Darlene Anderson joined the Brooklyn Red Devils, making history as the first black women to skate in the roller derby. She was voted rookie of the year.

Unanimously. In 1957.

Eventually, those names gave way to another generation of skaters, including “Queen of the Penalty Box,” Ann Calvello, Judi (McGuire) Gammon, Judy Sowinski (who retired to Philadelphia with her partner) and…Joan Weston.

Born in 1935, Joan attended Mount St. Mary’s College, where she considered becoming a nun. Her family helped convince her otherwise, and instead, Joan channeled her energy into sports, becoming a standout softball player.

But upon graduation, in a story we know only too well, there weren’t many career opportunities for standout female athletes.

Joan stood five foot ten, had bleached blonde hair, and knew how to skate— at least, on a sidewalk. She moved to

Northern California, mastered the indoor, banked track, paid some dues, and became a star—the San Francisco Bay Bombers’ very own “Blonde Bomber.”

In the 1960s, Joan Weston was America’s highest paid female athlete.

She was still making $20,000 less than her male counterparts.

And then, it was over. By 1973, the original roller derby was relegated to a curiosity for history buffs.

Except, somehow, against all odds, it’s back (for fun, there’s the 2009 film, Whip It, starring lesbian/activist/actress, Ellen Page) and it is thriving—rescued from obscurity by the girls who needed it then, and who need it now.

Representation matters. In the 1990s, many young women did not see themselves represented in mainstream music or sports. So they built their own.

WFTDA operates “by the skater, for the skater,” with every member league owned and operated by the athletes— athletes who value their bodies for what they can do, not what they look like.

Skaters are a hugely diverse group of ethnicities, gender presentations, body types, and sexualities.

And maybe it’s thriving because it’s fun. Because within this mix of audacious, playful sexuality and pounding hits, there’s a pull just too hard to resist. Scroll through the online registry for rollergirl names. You’ll find everything you need to know as you laugh, spotting skaters such as Intoxiskate, Tequila Mockingbird, and Arya Snark.

And if you’re still thinking “why?” check out Erica Tremblay’s emotional documentary, In The Turn (intheturn.com).

Then check out the SoDel’s schedule at sodelrollerderby.com. ▼ Stefani Deoul is a television producer and author of the award-winning YA mystery On a LARP

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CAMP Volunteer Spotlight

by Monica Parr

Jordan Gipple Jordan Gipple was born and raised in Washington, DC, living in metro DC prior to moving to Rehoboth Beach. He’s been coming to Rehoboth on weekends all his life and made Rehoboth Beach his primary residence in 2014.

Jordan graduated from the Culinary Institute of America in Hyde Park, New York, in 1987, working in the hospitality industry from 1980 to 1996 in catering sales, as a chef, and as a restaurant manager. While in sales he didn’t know how to word process his own proposals, so he took courses in how to use a PC—leading to a Bachelor’s Degree in Information Systems in 2001. Today, he leads an international team of software developers for a major telecommunications company.

Jordan met his husband, Paul, about 21 years ago. They now split their time between Rehoboth and Baltimore as Paul is the Director of Operations for a Baltimore catering company, and Jordan is a full time telecommuter.

Jordan loves the beach, travel, skiing, snowboarding, and scuba diving.

Although he’s been out of the restaurant business for some time, he still loves to cook.

When did you start volunteering at CAMP Rehoboth?

In the spring of 2017.

What events/activities have you been involved with as a volunteer?

I’ve sold raffle tickets at the Bachelor Auction, collected auction items for the Sundance Auction, directed participant traffic at the Sundance races, served food and beverages at the Delaware Division of the Arts Winners’ Reception, and installed Christmas lights for Winterfest. Also, CAMP Rehoboth Outreach Program (CROP).

Of the many events held by CAMP Rehoboth, which is your favorite?

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like the entire Rehoboth community and beyond comes out to support it and have fun.

Name a childhood mentor or someone who influenced you.

My mentor would be my seventh grade English teacher, Bruce Lewis. Besides being a great teacher, and a very compassionate person, I was comforted to know an openly gay role model.

If you could go back to the age of 18, what do you know now that you wish you knew then?

I wish I knew that life would get easier, and having a dog will change your life.

Favorite season here at the beach and why?

Summer! Everyone complains about the crowds and tourists, but I love the energy in town in July and August.

Do you have an LGBTQ hero?

I am awed by the Steve Elkins and Murray Archibald impact. I am so impressed that this tiny beach town has an organization like CAMP Rehoboth.

The breadth of programs and community impact rivals the gay community centers in New York and Los Angeles. CAMP Rehoboth’s controversial strategy of creating change by winning over potential local adversaries through their hearts and minds appears to have been quite effective. Rehoboth is a wonderful place to live, and I am so grateful for the changes Steve and Murray have helped come about through their personal efforts, and by inspiring others like me.

The LGBTQ community has made significant progress in the fight for equality. Did you expect to see this in your lifetime?

I was lucky enough to grow up in a progressive community where LGBTQ people were often out of the closet and accepted. Therefore, I have felt since adolescence that it was just a matter

of time until the entire secular world accepted LGBTQ people. Marriage equality came much sooner than I expected. I have come to appreciate its importance, but it was not even on my radar as a priority.

Given the current political climate, are you concerned about the possible loss of rights for the LGBTQ community?

Populism in general concerns me since I think what the majority of people want is often not fair or morally right. I am not quite at the point where I believe people’s attitudes about the LGBTQ community are rapidly deteriorating, but I also acknowledge that I live in a bubble and I would be the last person to know.

What advice would you give the younger LGBTQ community?

None. When I was younger I was not interested in getting advice, and I am pretty sure that has not changed.

Best year of your life and why?

2014 was a great year. It was the year I married Paul Weppner. I had not thought I would ever have a wedding, and it was such an awesome experience to celebrate with our families and friends integrated into the same event.

Favorite holiday?

Halloween because people get so excited about the costumes.

How long have you been coming to Rehoboth?

Forever. I grew up in Washington, DC and my family came to Rehoboth regularly—even before I was born.

Name the biggest change(s) you have seen.

The most positive change is how well integrated the community is whereas

CAMP Rehoboth’s controversial strategy of creating change by winning over potential local adversaries through their hearts and minds appears to have been quite effective.

historically, there was discord between the LGBTQ and nonLGBTQ community.

Name three events that have shaped your life to where it is today.

Meeting my husband Paul 21 years ago. Paul has supported me and motivated me to become a better person. He has helped to keep me laughing and entertained all along the way.

Getting a dog. Paul talked me into getting a Boston Terrier about nine years ago, and our dog, Special Ed, brings us so much love and joy.

Going back to school in my 20s. I went from being computer illiterate to being an IT professional. I love technology, and I am capable of happily wasting hours geeking out.

Favorite US city and why?

San Diego. The climate is ideal. The size and scale of the city suit me, and of course, it is located on the coast so it has wonderful beaches.

What are you most thankful for?

Friends and community—my friendships and my sense of belonging to this community are what make me happy, and I am so grateful for both.

Also, HIV medications—without them, I would have many fewer friends, and our community as we know it might not exist.

Jordan, we appreciate that you volunteered for so many events last year. CAMP Rehoboth needs the help of more volunteers Project1_Layout 4/1/2018 4:49reach PM Page like you in order1 to grow and out 1to the community. We hope you will continue to volunteer for many years to come. ▼

thank you to all the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center Volunteers for the period: July 19 – August 2.

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REHOBOTH ART LEAGUE

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THE REAL DIRT

by Eric W. Wahl

Hot Town, Summer in the City

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e’re in the peak of summertime, heading towards Labor Day fun and maybe thinking about getting the kids back to school, planning the last summer trip, or just relaxing on the porch with a cool ocean breeze and a good book. Usually, our time in the garden has dwindled because of the heat (and humidity—gross), and we only venture out when we have to, i.e. weeding, dead heading, watering, etc.

Well I’m here to tell you that, yes, you can plant some things at this time of year, specifically vegetables that will be ready to harvest in the fall. I would steer clear of planting large shrubs and trees, as the stress of transplanting in the heat of summer will surely cause damage.

Instead, wait for fall for these larger specimens. Perennials may be more successful and you may find them on sale at nurseries so they can make room for their autumn stock delivery. Care should still be given to make sure they receive enough water, especially during times of drought. Some species, such as coreopsis, warm-season grasses, and sedum thrive during the heat of summer as their biology has adapted to tolerate these conditions.

Coreopsis and grasses have slender fine leaves that limit the amount of moisture that exits the plant through transpiration. Sedums, however, are able to store water in their waxy leaves which can carry them through long periods without rain.

(These plants make excellent choices for roof gardens as well since they can tolerate extreme conditions.)

But let’s talk about a vegetable garden. In my last article, I opined about my childhood and the bounty we grew in our small side yard. I’m sure many of you have backyard vegetable gardens or even a patio garden with some tomatoes or peppers in containers. We are now approaching the time for planting autumn-harvested vegetables. So find some space or replace some fading plants with some of the following: beets, Chinese cabbage,

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carrots, chard, endive, kale, leafy lettuce, potatoes, spinach, and turnips. Start these from seeds placed directly in the ground.

Start the following by planting seedlings outside: broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, collards, and head lettuce.

For starting a vegetable garden, I suggest a raised bed—it will help to keep a few animals out plus you will not need to bend over as far. These are easy to build with leftover lumber; they even have kits available now at local home improvement stores.

One secret ingredient to gardens is the addition of compost. I can’t stress enough the importance of nutrients and drainage. To install a raised bed, I recommend a blend of 50% soil, 25% sand, and 25% compost, tilling these together to form an even mix.

The sand will help with drainage and the compost will provide nutrients.

In addition, compost is composed of decayed organic matter and actually holds onto water for an extended period.

There is also something called “compost tea,” and it’s amazing. Look it up. It’s like spraying magic throughout the garden. I wouldn’t be surprised if a gnome popped his head out and asked for seconds.

For shady areas, think hostas, astilbe, hellebores, and natives like some ferns, foamflower, bugbane, white wood aster, Solomon’s seal, spiderwort, and even a couple goldenrods that can tolerate part-shade.

Frank Lloyd Wright was an iconic architect who always married his buildings with the surrounding land. I love his work, especially Falling Water. Visit it in the autumn for a stunning display of nature.

Here’s a quote from him that I especially love: “Study nature, love nature, stay close to nature. It will never fail you.” ▼ Eric W. Wahl, RLA is a landscape architect at Element Design Group and president of the Delaware Native Plant Society.

TIPS AND TRICKS FOR WORKING IN THE GARDEN

Here are a few tips and tricks for working in the garden at this time of year (or anytime really.)

1 Try to limit your time outside to morning or evening hours. The sun is hottest from 10 to 4, and heat exhaustion can come on faster than me chasing an ice cream truck.

2 The morning and evening hours are best times to water plants, too. Watering during the hottest hours under full sun, the moisture will most likely evaporate off the plants and soil.

3 Use kneeling pads or pillows if you need to get to ground level; it will really save your knees. A garden bench-on-wheels that holds tools, is even better. I recently saw one that had an umbrella attached that cast shade on the person below—brilliant!

4 If you have a tendency to lose your small tools in the garden, wrap the handles with brightly colored electrical tape—you’ll spot them easily.

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Dover, DE. Art at your doorstep.

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Aloft by Erica Loustau Follow the birds through three floors of the Biggs impressive collection.

Open at the Biggs Museum August 3 - November 25, 2018

An exhibition of over 50 original, rarely seen before prints of John James Audubon. These prints will be displayed alongside of contemporary artwork that was influenced by Audubon.

Learn more at www.BiggsMuseum.org/Audubon

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by Richard J. Rosendall

America’s Descent into Unreason

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e must wield facts and values in fighting the theft of our republic.

Rep. Mo Brooks (R-AL), a member of the House Science, Space, and Technology Committee, believes that coastline erosion and silt deposits from rivers contribute to rises in sea level.

Pennsylvania Republican gubernatorial candidate Scott Wagner claims that global warming is caused by body heat and the earth moving closer to the sun.

Let us say gently that the earth’s orbit is more stable than Mr. Wagner’s.

Alas, these examples illustrate a problem that affects far more than just politicians: too many of us would rather cling to ill-informed notions than pull out our smartphones and look things up.

Even creators of fantasy do their research. Black Panther director Ryan Coogler and his design team, for example, drew inspiration from real cultures across Africa in fleshing out the imaginary Wakanda. If you are less in touch with reality than a Marvel superhero movie, you may have a problem.

“If someone says it's raining and another person says it’s dry, it’s not your job to quote them both. Your job is to look out of the f***ing window and find out which is true.”

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Speaking in Johannesburg on July 17 in commemoration of Nelson Mandela’s centennial, former president Barack Obama said, “[For democracy] to work, we have to actually believe in an objective reality.... Without facts, there is no basis for cooperation....

Unfortunately, too much of politics today seems to reject the very concept of objective truth. People just make stuff up.” Obama did not mention his successor; he didn’t have to.

The substitution of partisan spin for investigative journalism on cable news is a big part of the problem. As a journalism tutor once said, “If someone says it’s raining and another person says it’s dry, it’s not your job to quote them both. Your job is to look out of the f***ing window and find out which is true.”

Our aim should not—figuratively—be to tattoo “Stupid” on anyone’s forehead, nor to pull our punches in public debates, but to end the destructiveness that results from continually giving free, unfiltered media to demagogues who appeal to our lowest impulses. A nation of ignorant trolls will produce nothing resembling greatness in competition with other nations.

Our push-back should not be solely about current policy disputes, but the founding principles without which America exists in name only. They begin with the holding that all of us are created equal.

The threat we face was summarized on July 16 by Bree Newsome, who climbed a flagpole on the South Carolina statehouse grounds in 2015 to remove the Confederate flag: “White racists in US have shown time and again they’d rather burn the republic to the ground than have racial equality in America.... The commitment to white supremacy is stronger than commitment to western democracy.” Sadly, yes.

Racism and know-nothingism poison the public square we all must share.

It makes no sense to demonize black athletes for kneeling in protest against racist law enforcement, while praising or

excusing our president’s supine behavior in Helsinki. Peaceful protest is a timehonored tradition here. Siding with a foreign despot against America is not.

Effective policymaking depends not just on facts but on sound reasoning and goodwill, which are lacking in Trumpland. To understand the embrace of President Seven Deadly Sins by white evangelicals, we need to recognize the flights of unreason that sustain their besieged worldview. For them, Trump is God’s tool, just as the Bible is a weapon.

Consider members of First Baptist Church in Luverne, Alabama, interviewed by Stephanie McCrummen in The Washington Post on July 21. Sunday school teacher Sheila Butler says that Christians are faced with “annihilation.”

She continued with, “Obama was acting at the behest of the Islamic nation.” And “Christ’s call to welcome the stranger means the ‘legal immigrant stranger.’”

Also, slavery’s evils are overstated, because “Slaves...got housing. They got fed. They got medical care.”

Regarding the National Memorial for Peace and Justice, which opened earlier this year in Montgomery and features 800 steel monoliths hanging in a powerful evocation of lynching, Ms. Butler says it promotes violence because it will stir “feelings of revenge” in young black men. Does she also think memorials to our war dead promote violence? What about crucifixes?

I hardly know how to react to the Post article, except to note that these paranoid people vote. For the stolen children, for our stolen country, so must we.” ▼ Richard J. Rosendall is a writer and activist who can be reached at rrosendall@me.com.

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R E H OB OT H RETAI L SHOPS All Dried Up, 149 Rehoboth Avenue, Suite 6b..............484-667-7122 Atlantic Jewelry, 313 S. Boardwalk...............................302-226-0675 Beach Essentials, 33 Baltimore Ave..............................302-227-5210 Critter Beach, 156 Rehoboth Ave..................................302-226-2690 Elegant Slumming, 33 Baltimore Ave............................302-227-5551 Gallery 50, 50 Wilmington Ave......................................302-227-2050 Gidget’s Gadgets, 123 Rehoboth Ave...........................302-227-3959 Mod Cottage, 247A Rehoboth Ave...............................302-227-7277 New Wave Spas, 20660 Coastal Hwy...........................302-227-8484 Pelican Loft, 149 Rehoboth Ave....................................302-226-5080 M.G.T. & Company, 39 Baltimore Ave............................302-567-5976 Rehoboth Breeze, 117 Rehoboth Ave...........................302-226-5720 Salty Paws, 149 Rehoboth Avenue, Suite 6a................484-667-7122 Shademakers, 33 Baltimore Ave...................................302-226-2222 Sterling Optical, 19287 Miller Rd, Unit 12....................302-226-8800 The Linen Outlet, 19269 Coastal Hwy..........................302-727-5362 Unfinished Business, Rt. 1 behind Panera Bread.........302-645-8700 Ward Ellinger Gallery, 39 Baltimore Ave.......................302-227-2710 Wooden Indian, Ltd., 25 Baltimore Ave.........................302-227-8331 One Day At A Time Gifts, 46-B Baltimore Ave...............302-212-5632

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f you are a voracious consumer of the news like me, it seems like there is a never-ending stream of stories highlighting situations where an individual felt mistreated, slighted, or not shown due respect because of who they are.

Despite the Obama administration’s efforts to protect the rights of minorities in the workplace, we continue to read about egregious behavior by people like Harvey Weinstein and Matt Lauer.

For years, management at these organizations failed to penalize both men for their predatory conduct even though numerous credible claims had been filed. Thanks in part to social media, the #MeToo movement gave others the courage to step forward too.

Facing mounting pressure from stakeholders and to prevent further damage to each brand’s reputation, leadership was forced to take action.

Finally, Harvey and Matt were held accountable for violating not only workplace conduct guidelines, but also the law of the land. In the end, NBC’s brand reputation took a major hit while The Weinstein Company was forced to declare bankruptcy.

Unfortunately, many of those impacted chose to quit because they no longer believed their employer was committed to creating an inclusive environment where everyone’s voice mattered. In my more than 25 years of working with clients, I have learned there are little things we say or do every day that can produce the same result—making others feel inferior and unwelcome, even when we did not mean to do so. Intentional or not, discourteous interactions not only serve to dilute collegiality, but research shows they also impact the bottom line by lowering productivity and increasing attrition.

At this point, you must be saying to yourself, “Of course, Wes; I know telling an off-color joke is a bad idea for a slew of reasons.” But I wonder if you can identify that the following statements might be sending a very different message than you thought:

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A white friend who consistently has relationships with African-American men shows up at a party with a date. As you are talking to your friend, a mutual acquaintance walks up and says, “Is it true what they say about black men?”

get to know their colleagues, forming relationships with people based on who they are vs. what they may assume about them based on identifiable characteristics they can see (e.g., race, gender).

My friend has gotten this question many times before. While it could mean something else, most of the time the person wants to know if his date is endowed. How do you think the white guy feels, assuming that a reason he dates black men is because of their penis size vs. whether or not they have something in common?

My suggestion is to focus less on the superficial (i.e. color of his date’s skin) and more on who the date is. This way, you come across as someone who is sincerely interested in getting to know each of them.

Upon learning a friend is pregnant, you ask, “How much time are you taking off when you have your baby?”

At the start of a meeting, the team lead says, “Oh my God, this is such a diverse group!”

Though said in an attempt to let others know the team lead values diversity, this can often be seen as a cliché, especially by those who are not part of the majority group. In research conducted by the non-profit Catalyst, survey data showed that those in underrepresented groups “would really like to feel inside...to be seen as normal and not to be seen as a minority every time I step into a room.”

What the team lead might consider doing as an alternative is to begin the meeting by asking people to introduce themselves, state where they grew up, what they studied in school, and what they love to do on the weekends.

This allows each participant to really

For working women, having children can often be a barrier to advancement.

Research shows managers may be reluctant to assign certain projects, knowing the woman will be out of the office for anywhere from three weeks to four months. So, depending on where the person works, answering the question is tricky.

Instead, how about asking if she has selected a name, or share some of your personal or family experiences following the birth of a child. This avoids adding stress to the woman who may feel judged if the timeframe she gives is too short or too long.

Finally, keep in mind that if someone does say something that could be deemed offensive, don’t assume they meant it that way. Often, they just are unaware. So take them aside later and tell them. This helps all of us communicate better with each other. ▼ Wesley Combs is a diversity and inclusion expert and a passionate social justice advocate. He is the founding Principal of Combs Advisory Services where he works with clients who share his values of enabling equity, equality, and opportunity in the workplace and the community.

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SCENES FROM REHOBOTH BEACH Summer Days and Summer Nights: a White Party, Sundance Volunteer Training, Birthday Parties, Art Openings, Poodle Beach, and More Summertime Hotspots!

THIS PAGE 1) Dan Payne, Jim McGovern, Jen Stock, Patrick Jones, Adrian Chiobo, Patrick Sommers, Dan Truitt, Tony Burns, Jeremy Rosendale, Jacob Austin, Louis Panos, Austin Farneth, Max Manerchia, Brie Troyer, Robbie Hazel, Jamie Romano, Emily Smith, Cody Garland, and Terri Raynes at Purple Parrot.

2) Donny Holloway, Johnny Sotomayor, and Jackson Bari at The Pond.

OPPOSITE PAGE 3) Jason Hodges, Daniel Soto, Sam Gerbino, Jr., Brian Helsdon, Mimi Cweiber, Pam Singleton, Zoe Vette, Joe Davison, Nancy Boyk, Kate Carey, Duane Lyon, Jim Lyon, Noah Cweiber, and Sophie Cweiber at Jim’s Birthday Party. 4) Jeff Kessler, Steve Groeninger, Steve Hoult, Sondra Arkin, Mary Beth Ramsey, Bob Ramsey, Tom Johnson, Chris Greene, Gabe Garcia, Ron Gandel, Rico Scotto, Craig Sencindiver, Kyle Burdge, Gary Alexander, Glenn Usinton, Darryl Ciarlante, Harris Bercet, and Joe Zuber at Diego’s Hideaway.

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OPPOSITE PAGE 1) John Ewart, Marilyn Spitz, Bradley Higgins, Caroline White, Jim D’Orta, and Peter Rosenstein at Back Porch. 2) Jeff Davis, Paulette Lanza, Michael Morrison, Robert McCullough, Tom Collins, John Leiss, Cliff Lassahn, Joe Maggio, Manu Muniz, Ryan Nathan, Peter Rosenstein, Caroline White, Bradley Higgins, Mike Webster, Ron Hargis, Deb Kennedy, Beth Yocum, Steve Dubberowsky, and Doug Armstrong at Aqua. 3) Carrie Lingo, Amantha Allen, Linda Anagnostakos, Linda Brahms, Ricky Pryor, Vasco Bramao, Diane Robertson, Harry Anagnostakos, Mark Bennett, John Hackett, and Tom Newton at Vasco’s White Party.

THIS PAGE 4) Pat Newcomb, Kate Cauley, Sue Gaggiotti, Donna Ohle, Brian Bartels, Susan Reinagel, Rich Grote, Robin Bond, Leanna Johannes, Paul Cline, Jordan Gipple, Dawn Alexander, Sharon Bembry, Ellen McKeon, Kay Cummings, Lois Powell, Carla Avery, Stephanie Wingert, and Ken Gillespie at the Volunteer Opportunities Meeting for Sundance. 5) Lee Wayne Mills, Dale McGann, Ed McGann, Margie Neumann, and Eli Neumann at Gallery 50. 6) Chris Beagle, Peter Nicholson, Matt Sokolowski, Eric Engelhart, Greg Scesncy, Rick Frey, Robert Minotto, and Randy Brown at Iguana Grill.

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18 Brand for cutting leaves of grass 19 Prefix with gravure, in “Easter Parade” 20 More of a quote that begins “There is nothing stronger than...”

23 “Bust a Nut” band 24 9-digit ID org.

25 Weapon pointed at James Bond’s crotch 26 Britney Spears’ “___ Curious” 28 Rhett Butler’s final word 30 With 33-Across, comic from Tasmania and source of the quote 33 See 30-Across 37 River at Pittsburgh 38 Corydon author Gide 42 Dust Bowl refugee 43 Supposed gay percentage of the population 44 Greeted the milkmaid 45 “I Got Rhythm” writer Gershwin

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by Rich Barnett

Who Doesn’t Love a Fuzzy Navel?

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t’s getting to be high peach season here in southern Delaware. Step into any roadside produce market and you’ll smell ‘em in the stalls and baskets. Ripening. Beckoning.

I don’t know about you, but they arouse me in a summer time, juice-running-down-your-chin kind of way. There’s a reason André Aciman wrote that now infamous peach scene into his novel Call Me by Your Name.

And that’s precisely why peach-flavored cocktails in the mid-1980s were ripe with sexual innuendo. According to cocktail historians—yes, these people exist—the actual origins of the Fuzzy Navel are, well, fuzzy.

One mostly-discounted story says it was invented in Omaha, Nebraska, at the Wagon Tongue Bar. Others say it was born in 1986 when executives at a struggling New York wine and spirits company named National Distillers were looking for a way to market a new peach schnapps product.

Supposedly, a sales rep who used to write jokes for the Johnny Carson Show mixed some with orange juice and dubbed it the Fuzzy Navel. Peach fuzz, navel oranges, get it? People did, because by the end of 1987 it was the most popular mixed drink in the country. It has its own Wikipedia page.

National Distributing next devised a Spring Break contest in Ft. Lauderdale to reward the bartender who sold the most peach schnapps. A 25-year old bartender added cranberry juice to the Fuzzy Navel and called it Sex on the Beach. I don’t have to tell you how popular that drink became. Tom Cruise touted it in the 1988 movie Cocktail.

Seeing as it’s peach season and knowing Delaware was the original peach state—sorry, Georgia, but Delaware led the nation in peach production in the early 19th century, until a blight called “the yellows” wiped out the industry. But that’s why the state flower is the peach blossom and the state dessert is the peach pie—so I thought it might be interesting to revisit my relationship with the Fuzzy Navel.

The first bartender I visited laughed when I asked about his prowess with the cocktail and then I was too embarrassed to actually ask for one. Bee at the bar at the Back Porch Restaurant said he hadn’t made one in about five years. And I could tell he didn’t want to break that winning streak.

Hunky Matt over at Aqua, on the other hand, was game to in-

dulge my whim, though he insisted on mixing me a Hairy Navel, the butch brother of the Fuzzy Navel. I was floored someone of his young age knew either of those drinks, but Matt is a man of many talents. Too bad he declined to show me his hairy navel….

Matt’s recipe is simple: lots of vodka, a good shot of peach schnapps, and a little bit of orange juice—for the color, mostly.

The drink was surprisingly good and deceptively potent. A couple of them, I’m ashamed to say, kicked my ass and reminded me why I quit drinking them in the first place.

Flash back to a college bar called O’Malley’s with big decks overlooking the Oconee River in Athens, Georgia. It was the fall football season and—yes, you guessed it—Hairy Navels were all the rage, even with the manliest of men and mostly because of the University of Georgia song called “Bulldog Bite: Hunker Down Hairy Dawgs.”

I can’t tell you how many times I’d awaken the next morning on an antique cast iron loveseat, too hungover from one too many hairy cocktails to make it to Intellectual Property Law class. (I never knew if the headache came from the cheap liquor or from banging my head against iron all night.)

Good lord, as I write this, I realize just how awful it sounds, like a bad Rupert Holmes song….

But, hey, it was the 80s and everyone was sipping sweet fruity drinks and the crazier sounding they were the more everyone drank.

Remember the Slippery Nipple, the Orgasm, and Sloe Comfortable Screw?

No wonder people often refer to this era as the Dark Ages of the Cocktail, before the ascent of vodka and the revival of classic cocktails. Cocktailing wasn’t serious; it was fun. And if ever we needed a little fun, it’s now.

How about this for a slogan: Impeach Trump and give me a Fuzzy Navel! ▼

There’s a reason André Aciman wrote that now infamous peach scene into his novel Call Me by Your Name.

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Eating Out

by Michael Gilles

Rigby’s: Charm at the Top of the Town

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Rigby’s following is as diverse as the city around it. There is a fun, family atmosphere about the place, and tourists and regulars sit side-by-side at the fully stocked bar or in the quaint dining room.

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igby’s Bar and Grill is a neighborhood bistro located near the Lighthouse Circle on the right side of Rehoboth Avenue, a ten-minute walk from the beach. Nine years old, it has a dedicated following mixed with tourists looking for a flavor of Rehoboth.

Rigby’s following is as diverse as the city around it. There is a fun, family atmosphere about the place, and tourists and regulars sit side-by-side at the fully stocked bar or in the quaint dining room, enjoying a wide variety of food and drink throughout the day. In the evening, people loosen up with karaoke or, on some nights, live entertainment.

On my recent visit to Rigby’s with my gal Sal, we were struck by the openness and friendliness of the staff. Our server Matthias led us into the simply decorated dining room and sat us at a comfortable table well-spaced in the room. (Rigby’s room is not the usual “sardine can” found in many restaurants.)

During our meal, both Matthias and fellow server Jeffrey chatted with us just enough to make us feel a part of the Rigby’s family. They spoke of the fun relationship between the staff and the customers, and the diverse crowds.

Ray, a bartender who has been with the restaurant since its opening, pointed out many reasons Rigby’s is such a popular meeting place. He mentioned the eclectic menu, which changes two to three times a year. In addition to the comfortable indoor dining, there is a petfriendly patio out back that allows both the beachgoer and the regular crowd a chance to sit back and enjoy the weather with drink in hand—and Fido at foot.

There is (hold your breath)—free parking! Most of all, Ray stressed the Cheers-like atmosphere that permeates the place. While nobody shouted “Norm!” when we walked in the front door, we had to agree.

The menu offers mostly American homemade food that’s always fresh.

A diner is certain to find something excellent, reasonably priced, and totally filling.

On this trip to Rigby’s, Sally and I decided to start by sharing the Spring Rolls, with a filling of shaved rib eye, fried onions, cheese, and chipotle mayo. Sharing was a mistake—I quickly discovered that I wanted them all for myself. Wednesday night is burgR Night, and they offer several choices.

This bargain caught Sally’s eye, so she ordered the Rigby burgR—regular toppings on an ample-sized, fresh, handcrafted patty, served on a brioche bun.

Sally loved it; it was fat, flavorful, and grilled to perfection.

I decided on the grilled wild-caught salmon, topped with honey mango chutney. The salmon had that great grilled taste and was done to order. The chutney was an unexpected bonus, providing an outstanding mix of flavors.

But the unsung hero of this dish was the Smashed Fried Red Potatoes. The potatoes were done just enough, making them crispy on the outside and fluffy on the inside. I would return to Rigby’s just to get another taste of these delights. We topped it off by splitting crème brûlée, which can be ordered with a topping of strawberries or blueberries. We were full enough that we could barely finish. Of course, we did.

In addition to their dinner menu, Rigby’s offers lunch and bar snack menus. They are also open all year for Sunday Brunch from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Along with the good food and friendly atmosphere, I have to again stress the fine service. We will certainly go again, and any visitor or Rehoboth veteran who finds themselves at the top of the town should too! ▼ Michael Gilles is a writer, playwright, and theatrical producer, retired to Milton, and gleefully scoping out the culinary coast.

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OPPOSITE PAGE 1) Rod Cook, Charlie Browne, Eric Matuszak, Matt Turlinski, Richard Thibodeau, David Carder, Marcia Maldris, Rehoboth Beach Commissioner Stan Mills, Sallie Forman, and Jonah Gitlitz at Rod’s Art Opening at Back Porch. 2) Kathy McNamara, Jane Brady, Claudia Ratner, Tricia Ratner, Melinda Ingram, Molly Bayard, Carrie Koster, and David Koster at the KINfolk Benefit. 3) Tony Burns, Carol Fezuk, Frank Williams, George McGinley, Sydney McGinley, Dale Sheldon, and Tony Wright at Rehoboth Art League. 4) Howard Cyr, Jack Powasnik, Harvey Grider, Steve Ortleib, Gene Roe, Michael Gonzales, Steve Wildasin, and Jim Williams at Rigby’s. 5) John Burdett, Jimmy Rock, Tom Ceglarski, Todd Robosan, and Mark Japinoa at Dos Locos.

THIS PAGE 6) Chris Beagle, Eric Engelhart, Rich Norcross, Nick Leffler, Kim Grim, Kelly Phillips, and Max Dick at Eric’s Birthday Party. 7) Jesse Lausch, Tara Lausch, Jim Brandemarte, Laura Brandemarte, Nate Buccieri, Kelli Carpenter, Anne Steele, Randy Haney, Bernie James, Matt Rice, Daryl Williams, Steven Fretwell, Wes Combs, David Park, Greg Albright, and Clarence Pineda at Blue Moon. 8) Rusty Gerhart, Louis Panos, Marin Nikolov, Palmer Sampson, Max Manerchia, John Nelson, Scott Fields, Karl Zoric, Mark Pipkin, Jed Millard, Alex Reed, Bryan Hoffman, and Jim Lansdale on Poodle Beach.

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by Eric Peterson

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ou might have missed it, but a minor brouhaha concerning actress Scarlett Johansson recently flared up and quickly cooled down.

Johansson, star of Lost in Translation and the Avengers films, had been cast in Rub & Tug (awful title) as Tex Gill, a transgender man who was also a famous “crime kingpin” during the 1970s.

People were, to put it mildly, upset.

Not long after, Johansson announced that she would not play the role. The story went away, although the fate of the film without an A-list star in the leading role remains unclear.

Had the film gone forward as planned, Johansson would not have been the first cisgender actor to play a transgender person. Actors who have won or been nominated for Oscars for playing trans characters include John Lithgow, Hilary Swank, Glenn Close, Jared Leto, and Eddie Redmayne.

This sort of casting choice is nothing new, and until recently, it wasn’t very controversial.

But things change: The trans community is gaining more allies and greater visibility, and continuing to advocate for themselves. This includes rejecting the way they’ve often been represented in popular culture. And, predictably, with every call for change, there is an equal and opposite case to be made for the status quo.

Most of those who objected to Scarlett Johansson playing Tex Gill wanted a transgender actor to play the role instead. They pointed out, accurately, that there are many trans actors with lots of talent who face difficulty getting cast as anything but a trans character. Why, they argued, should Hollywood then take one of the few roles that a trans actor has any hope of playing, and hand it to an actress who is clearly not hurting for work?

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much of their preparation will entail learning how to wear the clothes, carry themselves, raise or lower their voice, adopt a feminine walk or a masculine swagger—work that trans actors have been doing for some time.

A trans actor playing a trans role can skip all that and do the work that really matters: Who is this character?

What do they want? What’s in their way?

And on and on. A trans actor is much less likely to be so bogged down in the physical details that mannerisms and vocal tics become the sum total of their performance.

The simplest, and probably best, argument from those who would like to see their favorite cisgender stars play trans roles is, “But that’s why they call it acting.” Meryl Streep wasn’t a Polish Holocaust survivor, they’ll helpfully remind you, nor was Stockard Channing a teenager. Actors are supposed to act; they’re not supposed to play carbon copies of themselves.

And I don’t really have an argument to counter that, other than to say, “Maybe it’s not about the actors.”

Sure, we can debate whether or not Scarlett Johansson is an awful person simply because she sought out a

It’s important to remember that one of the chief hurdles facing trans people in the real world is that they’re often seen as gender imposters.

challenging role, but I’m less interested in that debate than I am about those of us who would eventually see that movie.

It’s important to remember that one of the chief hurdles facing trans people in the real world is that they’re often seen as gender imposters. A trans woman who simply needs to pee is viewed by many as a male stalker who wants to spy on women and girls in the ladies’ room. Trans men are often viewed simply as tomboys. In short, trans people are oppressed in a myriad of ways that all boil down to being accused of being a “gender imposter.”

This stereotype is not eased when a cisgender A-list celebrity adopts the mannerisms and look of the opposite gender to play a part in a movie.

No matter how good Johansson’s performance might have been, audiences would probably not have forgotten that they were watching a woman with glued-on whiskers. And that knowledge doesn’t help trans men or women who are still fighting after the movie is over, primarily for the right to be seen for who they truly are.

I would love to see a film made about Tex Gill; he led an interesting life, and it could be a good story. I’d prefer that the role go to a trans man (Johansson could play Cynthia, his girlfriend, and she could even get top billing if that’s what it takes to open a movie). But more than anything, the role needs to go to a man, trans or otherwise—Timothée Chalomet, perhaps? Tex Gill was a man.

He deserves to be played by one. ▼ Eric Peterson is a diversity and inclusion educator living in Washington D.C. and cohost of a weekly podcast about pop culture.

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by Doug Yetter

Ever notice how folks rarely take advantage of what’s in their own backyard? When I lived in NYC I never went anywhere unless I had out-of-town visitors, and didn’t see the Grand Canyon until after I moved back to Denver from Las Vegas.

Now, here in Rehoboth, it took a visit from my sister to get the bikes out, finally, and experience the entire glorious trail from Gordon’s Pond into Lewes and back home on the Junction and Breakwater. So, it’s now my duty to make you act like you don’t live here, pretend you’re a visitor, go downtown when it’s most crowded, and do something you typically would do only in the off season.

See a show, stroll through a gallery, hear one of the great free concerts at the bandstand…just get out and do something! You can even wear a shabby t-shirt and have a cocktail or two. All locations are Rehoboth Beach, unless otherwise noted.

Division of the Arts Makes a Big Impact Having spent a good deal of my life creating and supporting art in the non-profit sector, I want to explain the importance of the Delaware Division of the Arts (DDOA). DDOA is a branch of the Delaware Department of State and is dedicated to cultivating and supporting the arts to enhance the quality of life for all Delawareans.

Locally, they provide General Operating Support to Clear Space Theatre Company, Rehoboth Art League, Rehoboth Beach Film Society, Rehoboth Concert Band, Rehoboth Summer Children’s Theatre, and the Southern Delaware Chorale. DDOA also provides Project Support to CAMP Rehoboth.

In fiscal year 2018, 107 grants were issued statewide totaling nearly $2.8 million. (That’s less than 1 percent of the $4.2 billion budget for the state.)

Your individual donations and patronage of the arts is essential, but without the financial support of the DDOA, our little state would be nearly devoid of art in any form.

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SPOTLIGHT ON THE ARTS Artistic Inspiration

Currently on display in the CAMP Rehoboth Gallery are works by the Delaware Division of the Arts’ 2018 Award Winners. The creativity and talent of these artists was celebrated at a reception on August 9. The exhibit remains at the CAMP Rehoboth Gallery through August 26. Here’s information about a few more of the award-winning artists. Come by and experience their work. CAMP Rehoboth is open every day.

Jack Clemons is an aerospace engineer who told us, “I’m especially fascinated by the almost ‘Old West’ dynamism that abounded in Lewes at the turn of the 20th Century.” Clemons was a lead engineer on NASA’s Apollo and space shuttle programs, as well as a published science fiction writer and active member of the Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers of America. His historical fiction novel, The Outliers (set in turn of the 20th century Delaware and being circulated to publishers), explores “…the [1901] boom time in Lewes, when hordes of temporary laborers camped on the beach to construct the new inner breakwater for the U. S. Army Corps of Engineers.”

Ellen Durkan specializes in metal sculpting, a passion since her school years. She took a blacksmith assistantship and was “pretty much hooked after that.”

Durkan was quoted as saying, “I forge metal gates; I just put them on the human form.” Her early work (influenced by clothing designer Alexander McQueen) began with stationary dress-form like structures that evolved into her current practice—creating metalwork designs for the human body.

Durkan’s intriguing sculptural creations often pose psychological questions of trust, power and vulnerability: though the metal pieces make the wearer feel strong, “they offer no physical protection like traditional armor.” Her constant challenge is manipulating the metal to allow it to sit correctly and comfortably on the human body.

Kevin Bielicki is a sculptor who creates work which can exist on a wall, (though they are often monumental, large-scale pieces) using repetitive ribbon-like forms as a method of expressing movement and the passage of time. Bielicki believes that, “Nature surrounds us; it is us, and it connects us to one another”—a statement which

arts+entertainment PERFORMING ARTS Clear Space Theatre Company (20 Baltimore Avenue; 302-227-2270; ClearSpaceTheatre.org) has their summer repertory season: Footloose, Mary Poppins, and The Rocky Horror Show (Monday - Saturday), the Delaware Comedy Theatre’s post-show, The Late-R Night Show (August 18 & 25), their Summer Children’s Theatre (11a.m.

Saturdays), or sign up your “star of tomorrow” for one of their outstanding summer camps.

Kevin Bielicki, Assimilation

holds true in his art and in his role as the curator of the bonsai collection at Longwood Gardens.

Bielicki’s work channels his interest in the natural world through the forces of growth, tension, and gravity. In addition to his fascination with “the vast scale of nature and the universe,” Kevin is also surprisingly influenced by the small, delicate, and intimate forms of bonsai.

Rob Waters has been drawn to movie making since the age of 10, and made his first “real” short in 2010, (accepted by a local festival, while another short film won a national award in 2014), and “Since then, I’ve been hooked on creating short films.” He elaborated saying, “Every [film I] shoot is different, and it rarely goes as planned. But it’s the challenge that makes me love it. I really enjoy figuring out dilemmas in the moment.”

A child of the 80s, Waters found inspiration in the works of film legends like Stephen Spielberg and John Carpenter, and is planning to achieve a life-long goal—creating his first featurelength film this year.

Sufficiently enticing? The CAMP Rehoboth Gallery is open 9a.m.-5p.m.

Monday-Friday, 9a.m.-4p.m. Saturdays, and 10a.m.-4p.m. on Sunday.

Freeman Stage (31750 Lake View Drive, Selbyville; 800-840-9227; freemanstage.org) is an open-air venue offering a fantastic mix of shows: August 10: Cheap Trick; August 11: An Evening with Vince Gill; August 16: Voodoo Threauxdown featuring Trombone Shorty & Orleans Avenue; August 17: Step Afrika!; August 18: Scott Bradlee’s Postmodern Jukebox; August 19: Soja; August 23: First State Ballet; August 24: Footloose (Clear Space); August 25: Locals Under the Lights; August 30: As You Like It; August 31: An Evening with Michael Bolton. They also have several FREE family shows on Saturday mornings and week nights.

Premier Centre for the Arts at Milton Theater (110 Union St., Milton; 302-6843038; miltontheatre.com) “Keeps Milton weird!” August 11: Peek-a-Boo Revue (18+ only); August 17/18: The Calamari Sisters in “Beat Until Stiff”; August 23: Psychic Medium Deanna Fitzpatrick (matinee); Kirtan: Transcendental Jam Session (evening); August 24: Branson on the Road; August 25: Men in Motion (18+ only); August 31: The Best of Broadway with Eddie Bruce.

Rehoboth Beach Bandstand (Rehoboth Avenue and the Atlantic Ocean; 302-644-2288; rehobothbandstand. com) celebrates their 56th season— August 10: Dance Candy; August 11: The B-Street Band; August 12: Boathouse Row; August 17: U.S. Navy Cruisers; August 18: U.S. Army Jazz Ambassadors; August 19: The British Invasion Experience; August 24: Larger Than Life—the

Ultimate Boyband Tribute; August 25: Peter Johann Band; August 26: Flatland Drive; August 31: The Fabulous Hubcaps. All concerts begin at 8 p.m.

Rehoboth Beach Film Society (17701 Dartmouth Drive, Lewes; 302-313-4032; rehobothfilm.com) screens the best new Independent films at their Cinema Art Theatre. Check their website for updates and show times.

Rehoboth Summer Children’s Theatre (in residence at Epworth UMC; 19285 Holland Glade Rd.; 302-227-6766; rehobothchildrenstheatre@gmail.com) has Cinderella, Androcles and the Lion, and Aladdin. Their weekly Theatre and Film/TV camps run through August 24.

Stango Park Concerts (Kings Highway, next to the Lewes Library) offers FREE concerts every Tuesday: August 14: Free Range; August 21: Conley & Watson; August 28: U.S. Navy Band Sea Chanters (at Cape Henlopen High School). Bring a chair!

VISUAL ARTS Abraxas Studio of Art (515 Federal Street, Lewes; 302-645-9119; abraxasart.com) features the oil portraits and landscape paintings of Abraxas and his own style of illuminated reality.

Anna Hazzard Museum (17 Christian Street, 302-226-1119) is a captivating look at the early history of Rehoboth Beach as a religious retreat. The museum is housed in one of the original “tent” houses from Rehoboth’s 1870s camp-meeting era and is named for former owner and civic leader, Anna Hazzard.

CAMP Rehoboth Gallery (37 Baltimore Avenue; 302-227-5620; camprehoboth. com) features Delaware Division of the Arts 2018 Award Winners (through August 26). On display September 2 - 25, with a reception Saturday, September 22 (4:30 - 6:30 p.m.) is Scratched— presented in conjunction with the Rehoboth Beach Bears Weekend, featuring works by area artists depicting the bear/ cub community.

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Brigantine, painting by Gary Fisher at Gallery 50.

Cape Artists Gallery (110 W. 3rd St., Lewes; 302-644-7733) represents two dozen artists, with much of their work focusing on beach scenes.

Delaware Art Gallery (239 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-853-5099; kevinfleming. com) offers new and classic Delaware photographs by Kevin Fleming.

Gallery 50 Contemporary Art & Frame Shop (50 A-B Wilmington Avenue; 302227-2050; gallery50art.com) features a variety of artworks in painting, jewelry, glass, sculpture, ceramics, mixed media, and mobiles, as well as special events. On display August 17 - 26, Reflections by Gary Fisher. Opening reception August 17, 5:30-8 p.m.

Heidi Lowe Gallery (328 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-2279203; heidilowejewelry.com) has beautiful and unique hand-made pieces (including wedding rings!) and offers classes in jewelry making.

Painting With a Twist (17723 Coastal Highway; 302-313-5769; paintingwithatwist.com/lewes/) offers painting classes and “pARTies” for all occasions.

Peninsula Gallery (520 E. Savannah Rd., Lewes; 302-645-0551; peninsula-gallery.com) presents the Coastal Camera Club Juried Exhibition—through August 26.

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Rehoboth Art League (12 Dodds Lane, Henlopen Acres; 302-227-8408; rehobothartleague.org) has a fantastic schedule of classes—pottery to pen and ink technique to jewelry making…something for everyone. Current exhibitions: Preservation Matters—over 700 pieces in RAL’s Permanent Collection, and the conservation efforts to maintain the collection—in the Marcia and Henry DeWitt Gallery (through September 6); The 45th Annual Outdoor Fine Arts and Fine Crafts Show continues August 11 - 12 and is not to be missed. Check their website for a complete schedule of exhibits, salons, gallery talks, and summer camps.

Rehoboth Beach Museum (511 Rehoboth Avenue at the Canal, 302-227-7310; rehobothbeachmuseum.org) has nearly completed renovations to their second floor and revamping of the permanent collection exhibits, and reopens soon! In the meantime, they still have some great walking tours of the area and fascinating lectures.

Stuart Kingston (One Grenoble Place; 302-2272524; stuartkingston.com) is an auction house and retail store offering fine art and home furnishings.

The Bach Porch Café (59 Rehoboth Ave.; 302-227-3674) New Work 2018 by Rodney Cook (rodcook.us) July 19 - August 16.

The Brush Factory on Kings (830 Kings Highway, Lewes; 302-745-2229; Facebook@ brushlewes) an artist/craft co-op: furniture, art, clothing, antiques, sea glass, decoys, vintage garden, books, home goods, candles, and more.

The Studio on 24 (20231 John J. Williams Highway, Lewes; 302-644-4424; thestudioon24.com) is open during the summer by appointment only with owner and artisan Deb Appleby’s custom made glassware.

Tideline Gallery (146 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-2274444; tidelinegallery.com) offers unique gifts, jewelry, pottery, and art glass.

Ward Ellinger Gallery (CAMP Rehoboth Courtyard, 39

Starfish, by John Hoyt, at Peninsula Gallery.

Hand blown glass by Deb Appleby, Studio on 24.

Baltimore Avenue; 302-2272710) features art in different mediums by abstract expressionist Ward Ellinger and Sondra N. Arkin.

Zwaanendael Museum (102 Kings Highway, Lewes; 302-645-1148) commemorates Delaware’s first European colony, established by the Dutch in 1631, and serves as a showcase for the Lewes area’s maritime, military, and social history. ▼ Doug is the Artistic & Musical Director for CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, Director of Music Ministries at Epworth UMC, and co-founder and Artistic Director emeritus of the Clear Space Theater Company. Contact Doug at dougyetter@gmail.com if you want to add your events to the calendar. Check out CAMP Arts on our website at camprehoboth. com for links to all the listed theatres, galleries and museums.

This program is supported, in part, by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on www.DelawareScene.com.

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BOOKED SOLID My Life as a Goddess

by Guy Branum c.2018, Atria $26.00/$35.00 Canada, 288 pages The drama runs deep in your life.

It goes way back; so far back, that the Greeks and Romans wrote of monsters, lightning bolts, and smiting, and their mythology pretty much sums it up for you.

Hera, Medusa, Hydra, Thor, Achilles, deep drama, in My Life as a Goddess by Guy Branum, you’re not alone.

Even before he was born, Guy Branum was a wrongplace-wrong-time kind of person. His parents married because of an unexpected pregnancy before he came along and that may’ve had something to do with it. His father’s parents were cold and distant and that seemed to extend to Branum’s relationship with his dad. Branum’s mother was a peacekeeper, going along to get along. And his sister, well, Branum barely writes about her, other than her troubles.

He was raised in a California farming community, for which he has little good to say. It was a country-bumpkin kind of existence but Branum found a deep love for words; they soothed him, although his large vocabulary made him stand out, often negatively. Most of his childhood likewise had its ups and downs: he grew up watching old sitcoms on TV, traveling with the family, and watching the adults around him. That included an uncle who was a heavy drinker, and Branum’s father, whom he says he never really knew how to

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please. He couldn’t wait to escape.

He was in elementary school when he figured out that he was attracted to boys but he couldn’t be gay, right?

Except he was, and when his father pushed him into playing football as a twelve-year-old, Branum knew that he had to use caution. Locker rooms and still-closeted, still-questioning boys are not always a good mix.

He was in college when he gained a Secret Service file, and acceptance for his gayness.

His mother cried when he came out. His father clumsily learned to accept it.

Today, Branum makes his living doing stand-up comedy and writing for comedy shows, but that’s just a smidge of what he soapboxes about in My Life as a Goddess.

Indeed, there’s a lot of lecturing going on here, and while author Guy Branum is surely knowledgeable, pages and pages on topics only peripherally relevant to his life story feels too much like, well, like an interminably long high school class. It’s a good guess that that’s not why readers would want this book.

Surprisingly, there’s not much of what readers would expect here, either. Instead of the humor you might anticipate in a book by a stand-up comedian, Branum tells tales of isolation and frustration with his growing-up situation. It’s told well, it gives readers inspirational insight to his life, and the humor kicks in at the back half of the book. But by then, it’s pretty safe to say that you may not be in the mood to laugh.

Overall, read this book for the memoir and not the mirth.

My Life as a Goddess tells a good life story but as for humor, that may be just a myth. ▼ Terri Schlichenmeyer has been reading since she was three years old and never goes anywhere without a book. Always Overbooked, she lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 15,000 books.

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Ward Ellinger located in the camp rehoboth courtyard

works by ward ellinger at the ward ellinger gallery 39 baltimore avenue, rehoboth beach For more information, call 302-227-2710 or visit our Facebook page at Ward Ellinger Gallery

baltimore avenue • rehoboth beach, de phone: 302-227-2710 • facebook: ward ellinger gallery 39

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REHOBOTH BEACH BEARS 2018 BEAR WEEKEND - SEPTEMBER 20 - 23

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CAMPDates SUNDAYS

• Alcoholics Anon. Open Discussion.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 9 am.

• Brunch w/Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. 302-227-6515 • 3rd Sunday. Drag Brunch. Goolee’s Grille, 11 S. 1st St. 1-3 pm. 302-227-7653 • 4th Sunday. Healing Circle. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 5 pm.

• Ed Mills. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 5 pm. 302-227-6080 • Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515 • Last Sunday of each month. TransSocial of Delaware. Metropolitan Community Church, 19369 Plantations Rd., Lewes. 7 pm. Visit meetup.com/Rehoboth-TransLiance • Games w/Magnolia. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515 • The Birdcage Bad Girls Drag Show.

Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 10 pm. 302-226-1139

MONDAYS

• Insight Meditation. St. Peters, Mulberry St, Lewes. 4 pm. 302-644-2514 • Matthew Kenworthy. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 5 pm. 302-227-6080 • Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515 • Bandeoke! Karaoke with a Live Band.

Murph’s Beef & Ale, 37169 Rehoboth Ave. 7 pm. 302-212-5355

TUESDAYS

• Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515

• Showcase w/Mona Lotts. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515

THURSDAYS

• Alcoholics Anon. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 12 noon. 302-856-6452

• John Flynn w/Holly Lane. Café Azafran, 18 Baltimore Ave. 6:30 pm. 302-227-8100

AUGUST 12

• SLAA/SAA Meeting. All Saints Church Hall, Lower Level, 18 Olive Ave. 7:30 pm.

302-745-7929

• 45th Annual Outdoor Fine Art and Fine Craft Show. Rehoboth Art League, 12 Dodds Lane.

10 am. Visit rehobothartleague.org or call 302-227-8408.

• Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139 • Karaoke with the Blue Moon Divas.

Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm.

302-227-6515

FRIDAYS

• 1st Friday. FURst Friday Bear Happy Hour.

The Pond, 3 S. First St. 302-227-2234 • John Flynn. Shorebreak Lodge, A Restaurant. 10 Wilmington Ave. 5 pm.

302-227-1007 • Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139 • Gear It UP Fridays. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-1023 • Spotlight Show. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:45 pm. 302-227-6515

SATURDAYS

• 3rd Tuesday. Kent County LGBT Dover Support and Social Group. Christ Episcopal Church, 523 South State St., Dover. 7 pm. lgbtdover_kent@yahoo.com

• Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139

• Young People’s AA. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 8 pm.

• ManDance. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-1023

• Bingo w/the Blue Moon Divas. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515

• Legends. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515

WEDNESDAYS

AUGUST 10

• 2nd Wednesday. Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support Group. MCC of Rehoboth, 19369 Plantations Road. 6:30 pm. 302-227-5620 • Alt. Wednesdays. Men’s Discussion Group.

Epworth United Methodist Church, 19285 Holland Glade Rd. 7 pm. 302-227-5620

• Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080

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• The Rocky Horror Show. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270.

7:30 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/ buy-tickets

• Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515

• 1st & 3rd Saturdays. Women’s Coffee Talk.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. 302-227-5620

• Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515

• Delaware Pride Fest. Legislative Hall, Dover. delawarepride.org

• Peek-A-Boo Revue. Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 302-684-3038. 8 pm. Tickets: miltontheatre.com

• 2nd Tuesday. PFLAG. Lewes Library, 111 Adams St. 6 pm. pflagrehobothbeach@ gmail.com.

• John Flynn. Shorebreak Lodge, A Restaurant. 10 Wilmington Ave. 5 pm.

302-227-1007

AUGUST 10 – AUGUST 26

• Mary Poppins. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 2 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets • Happy Hour with Your Dog! Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 4 - 7 pm.

• Christine Havrilla w/Meredith Rounsley & Kelly Ricketts. Java Jukebox, 37169 Rehoboth Ave. 7 pm. $10 in advance and $15 at the door. Tickets: javajukebox.net • Mary Poppins. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

AUGUST 19

• Bachelor Auction to Benefit CAMP Rehoboth.

Aqua Grill, 57 Baltimore Ave. 5-7 pm.

• Luau Sunday w/The Girlfriends. Murph’s Beef & Ale, 37169 Rehoboth Ave. 5 - 8 pm.

302-212-5355

• DJ Jamie Fox. Murph’s Beef & Ale, 37169 Rehoboth Ave. 5 - 8 pm. 302-212-5355

AUGUST 20

AUGUST 13

• Mary Poppins. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• The Rocky Horror Show. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270.

7:30 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/ buy-tickets • Magnolia Hosts. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-6515. 9:30 pm.

AUGUST 14 • The Rocky Horror Show. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270.

7:30 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/ buy-tickets

AUGUST 15 • Historic Lewes Farmer’s Market. Crooked Hammock, Lewes 8 am - 11 am. 302-644-1436 • Footloose. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

AUGUST 16 • Grief Support Group. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302754-1954 or kevin@kevinblisscoaching.com • Who Framed Roger Rabbit. Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 302-684-3038. 7 pm. Tickets: miltontheatre.com

• Alexa & Sydney. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-6515. 9:30 pm. $25 pp.

AUGUST 21 • Mary Poppins. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

AUGUST 22 • Historic Lewes Farmer’s Market. Crooked Hammock, Lewes 8 am - 11 am. 302-644-1436 • The Rocky Horror Show. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270.

7:30 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/ buy-tickets

AUGUST 23 • Transcendental Jam Session w/Kirtan.

Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 302-684-3038.

6 pm. Tickets: miltontheatre.com • The Rocky Horror Show. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270.

7:30 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/ buy-tickets

AUGUST 25

• Footloose. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• Historic Lewes Farmer’s Market. George H.P. Smith Park, Lewes 8 am - 12 pm.

302-644-1436

• The Rocky Horror Show. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270.

7:30 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/ buy-tickets

AUGUST 17

• Footloose. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

AUGUST 11

• Mary Poppins. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-227-2270. 7:30 pm.

Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• Historic Lewes Farmer’s Market. George H.P. Smith Park, Lewes 8 am - 12 pm.

302-644-1436 • 45th Annual Outdoor Fine Art and Fine Craft Show. Rehoboth Art League, 12 Dodds Lane.

10 am. Visit rehobothartleague.org or call 302-227-8408.

• Reflections by Gary Fisher. Opening Reception 5:30 - 8 pm. Gallery 50 Contemporary Art & Frame Shop, 50 A-B Wilmington Ave.

AUGUST 18 • Historic Lewes Farmer’s Market. George H.P. Smith Park, Lewes 8 am - 12 pm. 3 02-644-1436

• Male Revue—Men In Motion. Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 302-684-3038. 8 pm. Tickets: miltontheatre.com

AUGUST 26 • 9th Annual Sundance Land & Sea Racing Festival. Rehoboth Beach Bandstand.

Register www.seashorestriders.com • DJ Jamie Fox. Murph’s Beef & Ale, 37169 Rehoboth Ave. 5 - 8 pm. 302-212-5355

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CROSSWORD PUZZLE SOLUTION

YOU

Immanuel Shelter serves those experiencing homelessness in Rehoboth Beach, Lewes and surrounding areas.

Your generous support allows us to continue our mission and helps our community provide assistance for those in need.

214 Rehoboth Ave / Rehoboth Beach DE

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FOR INFORMATION ON HOW YOU CAN VOLUNTEER OR DONATE, PLEASE VISIT www.immanuelshelter.org

302.745.7622

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17601 Coastal Hwy, Unit 11, #431 Nassau, DE 19969 1-888-634-9992

All monies raised go directly to Immanuel located in Rehoboth Beach, Sussex County, DE.

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Women’s Coffee Talk A POSITIVE TOPIC GROUP 1st & 3rd Saturday | 10am Facilitator: Mary Brett (All are welcome) CAMP Rehoboth 37 Baltimore Avenue Rehoboth Beach

The Marine Education, Research and Rehabilitation Institute, Inc. is a non-profit stranding response and rehabilitation organization dedicated to the conservation of marine mammals and sea turtles in Delaware.

Bathroom Remodeling Licensed & Insured

A.G. RENOVATIONS “Installing Schluter Systems”

Albert Green (302) 945-1526

www.agrenovationsinc.com Email: albert.green1@verizon.net Member Rehoboth/Dewey Chamber of Commerce

call: 302.228.5029 or join on our website at merrinsittue.org AUGUST 10, 2018

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All Saints’ Episcopal Church

Westminster Presbyterian Church

18 Olive Avenue Rehoboth Beach (302) 227-7202 SUNDAY SERVICES 8:00 & 10:00 a.m. Holy Communion 9:00 a.m. Breakfast in the Parish Hall

WELCOMES YOU!

St. George’s Chapel, Rt. 23 - 20274 Beaver Dam Rd., Harbeson at 9:30 a.m.

Thursday Service • 11:30 a.m. Holy Communion and Healing

A friendly and fully inclusive parish. www.allsaintsandstgeorges.org

Seaside Jewish Community an unaffiliated, egalitarian congregation

18970 Holland Glade Road Rehoboth Beach, Delaware www.seasidejewishcommunity.com 302-226-8977 Mailing address: P.O. Box 1472, Rehoboth, DE 19971

Shabbat services, 7:30 pm first Fridays; 10 am third Saturdays.

Weekly summer services. Holiday services.

Educational programs, social events, school.

First Street • 4 blocks south of Rehoboth Avenue 302-227-2109

Sunday Worship 10:00 a.m.

(Summer 8:30 and 10:00 a.m.)

We invite you to make us your church family!

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If you need a referral for a doctor, lawyer, spiritual advisor, or just a place to hang out, call CAMP Rehoboth at 302-227-5620.

We’re here to help!

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AD INDEX Accent On Travel................................................65 AG Renovations..................................................99 AIDS Walk Delaware........................................... 78 Allen Jarmon, Realtor......................................... 75 Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support Group...............45 Atlantic Jewelry....................................................9 Back Porch Café.................................................20 Bad Hair Day.......................................................10 Beach Cuts Hair Salon........................................99 Beagle Real Estate Group..................................66 Beebe Healthcare.............................................. 37 Beebe Healthcare Career Opportunities............71 Biggs Museum....................................................48 Blue Moon.......................................................... 77 Breakthru Beverage........................................... 47 Café Azafran....................................................... 79 Café Papillon......................................................40 CAMP Rehoboth AIDS Walk Team..................... 101 CAMP Rehoboth Annual Premier Sponsors......... 7 CAMP Rehoboth Bachelor Auction......................21 CAMP Rehoboth Beach Guide Business Partners...............................................................19 CAMP Rehoboth Block Party...............................41 CAMP Rehoboth Families...................................94 CAMP Rehoboth Free Flu Shots......................... 79 CAMP Rehoboth Grief Counseling.................... 101 CAMP Rehoboth Letters Subscription................64 CAMP Rehoboth Membership............................30 CAMP Rehoboth Mental Health......................... 101 CAMP Rehoboth Trans Discussion..................... 44

CAMP Rehoboth Ukelele Lessons..................... 101 CAMP Rehoboth Volunteer Opportunities.........36 CAMP Rehoboth Volunteer Thank You............... 43 CAMP Rehoboth Women’s FEST Reunion Tour..35 CAMP Rehoboth Women’s Golf.......................... 44 CAMPSafe...........................................................58 Celebrity Chef’s Brunch - Meals On Wheels.......81 Clear Space Theatre...........................................94 Community Pride Financial Advisors.................. 73 Country Lawn Care............................................. 34 County Bank.......................................................40 Delaware Botanic Gardens................................59 Delaware Humane Association...........................51 Delaware Pride Festival.....................................95 Delaware Valley Legacy Fund............................93 Dos Locos...........................................................39 Eric Atkins, Realtor.............................................40 Fuqua, Willard, Stevens & Schab, PA.................85 Gay Men’s Group................................................ 74 Gay Women of Rehoboth Meet-Up....................40 General Dentistry...............................................85 Go Fish/Go Brit...................................................94 God’s Greyts Senior Greyhounds.......................40 Gregory Meyers Hair Studio...............................85 HIV Testing......................................................... 44 Houses Of Worship........................................... 100 Iguana Grill.........................................................69 Immanuel Shelter...............................................99 Jack Lingo, Realtor.............................................55 Java Jukebox.......................................................17

John Black - Bill Peiffer, Realtors....................... 76 Jolly Trolley........................................................85 Just In Thyme Restaurant...................................66 Lana Warfield, Realtor........................................ 79 Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, Realtors.................... 73 Lori’s Café...........................................................51 Luxury Motors......................................................15 M.G.T. & Co. Toggery Shop.................................92 MERR Institute....................................................99 Midway Fitness & Racquetball......................... 103 Milton Theatre.................................................... 57 Mirabelle............................................................96 Morris James LLP................................................13 Murph’s Beef & Ale.............................................64 Mytesi.................................................................. 11 Nancy Sakaduski................................................94 Olivia Travel........................................................ 27 One Day At A Time Gift Shop.............................58 One Spirit Massage............................................ 74 Palate................................................................. 57 Photo Restoration.............................................. 73 Purple Parrot......................................................68 Randy Mason - Shirley Kalvinsky, Realtors.........92 Randy’s Custom Window Treatments................89 Rehoboth Art League.........................................45 Rehoboth Beach Bears....................................... 97 Rehoboth Beach Dental.....................................85 Rehoboth Beach Museum..................................64 Rehoboth Guest House.......................................10 Rehoboth Massage & Alignment........................58

Richard “Dick” Byrne for Commissioner.......... 102 Robin Davis, Realtor...........................................20 Ron’s Repairs......................................................58 Salty Paws..........................................................54 Saved Souls Animal Rescue............................... 76 Sea Bova Associates, Realtors......................... 104 Senior Adult Resources......................................92 Shademakers......................................................15 So Del Concepts..................................................91 State Farm - Eric Blondin, Jeanine O’Donnell.... 74 State Farm - George Bunting.............................20 Sundance 2018...................................................24 Sundance Land & Sea Racing Festival............... 67 Sussex Family YMCA..........................................45 The Lawson Firm................................................ 76 The Mankind Project..........................................40 Troy Roberts, Realtor..........................................85 Unfinished Business...........................................90 Union Home Mortgage....................................... 34 Ward Ellinger Gallery..........................................96 Windsor’s Flowers..............................................94 Wings Of Hope................................................... 72 Women’s Coffee Talk..........................................99

BYRNE for COMMISSIONER As a full-time resident in the City, I am committed to keeping Rehoboth Beach a welcoming, clean, safe, and friendly environment that has drawn me and my family here for over 25 years.

As Commissioner I will work hard to: • PRESERVE our unique Neighborhoods and Businesses - insure quality of life is maintained to a high standard in our residential living neighborhoods.

• PROTECT our Natural Environment – safeguard the health of the freshwater lakes, fix the storm-water runoff problem, preserve green space and trees, reduce traffic, create safe bike lanes, become more pedestrian friendly.

• PROMOTE ethical, fair, consistent and transparent government - elicit participation on issues, strengthen communication, host informal meetings, be available around town!

I pledge to listen to residents and businesses all over the City, take ideas and concerns to the Commissioners and communicate about plans and actions. I will do everything I can to support Rehoboth’s historic neighborhoods, residential housing, lovely parks, great restaurants, thriving businesses, unique boardwalk, and the best beach in the country!

Paid for by Byrne for Commissioner

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