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May 22, 2020 Volume 30, Number 4 camprehoboth.com
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THIS ISSUE
4 In Brief
20 Health & Wellness
6 CAMP Matters
MARJ SHANNON
News & Notes Wrong Way on Aisle 5
VOLUME 30, NUMBER 4 • MAY 22, 2020
So, You Thought SelfIsolating Was Hard….
MURRAY ARCHIBALD
8 CAMP Out
Diary of a Mad Writer FAY JACOBS
10 CAMP News
24 POP The Question
12 CAMP Stories
28 It’s My Life
Happenings Around the CAMPus Ten Things I’ve Learned During the Pandemic RICH BARNETT
14 Straight Talk Voice of Calm Amid the Storm DAVID GARRETT
16 Historical Headliners
We Are Fam-il-eee ANN APTAKER
What’s the first thing you are going to do....
See page 60
Bird Brain
MICHAEL THOMAS FORD
30 Out & Proud
38 LGBTQ+ YA Column
STEFANI DEOUL
EDWARD ALBAN
Happenings Around the Community
40 Dining In
56 CAMP Arts
All in the Family
32 Q Puzzle
If at First You Don’t Succeed
34 Out & About Secrets & Circuses ERIC PETERSON
18 Intentionally Inclusive
A Lesson in Inclusion WES COMBS
Transitioning
It’s Picnic Time Again ERIC WAHL
42 CAMP Critters THE MIGHTY FINN
44 We Remember 48 Keep Calm & Carry Out
Saving Rehoboth One Meal at a Time
54 Community News
Portrait of the Artist, Caroline Huff DOUG YETTER
58 Booked Solid
68 Celebrity Interview
Patti Lupone: A Comeback in Quarantine CHRIS AZZOPARDI
ON THE COVER
Welcome Summer?
The Heart: Frida Kahlo in Paris TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER
60 CAMP Shots
Throwback CAMPshots!
MICHAEL GILLES
See page 28
Letters from CAMP Rehoboth welcomes submissions. Email editor@camprehoboth.com. Photographs must be high resolution (300 dpi). Documents should be sent as attachments in Microsoft Word®. Deadline for submissions is two weeks prior to the issue release date.
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PUBLISHER David Mariner EDITOR Fay Jacobs COPY EDITOR Marj Shannon DESIGN AND LAYOUT Mary Beth Ramsey ADVERTISING SALES MANAGER Tricia Massella ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPORT Monica Parr, Barb Ralph DISTRIBUTION Corky Fitzpatrick, Mark Wolf CONTRIBUTORS Murray Archibald, Rich Barnett, Tony Burns, Stefani Deoul, Michael Thomas Ford, David Garrett, Michael Gilles, Fay Jacobs, Karen R. Jones, Tricia Massella, Monica Parr, Mary Beth Ramsey, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Marj Shannon, Eric W. Wahl, Doug Yetter, Wes Combs, Ann Aptaker, Edward Alban, Eric Peterson, Chris Azzopardi
Letters from CAMP Rehoboth is published 15 times per year, between February and December, as a program of CAMP Rehoboth Inc., a non-profit community service organization. CAMP Rehoboth seeks to create a more positive environment of cooperation and understanding among all people. Revenue generated by advertisements supports CAMP Rehoboth’s purpose as outlined in our mission statement.
The inclusion or mention of any person, group, or business in Letters from CAMP Rehoboth does not, nor is it intended to in any way, indicate sexual orientation. The content of the columns are the views and opinions of the writers and may not indicate the position of CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. © 2020 by CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. All rights reserved by CAMP Rehoboth. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any form without the prior written permission of the editor.
CAMP REHOBOTH
MISSION STATEMENT AND PURPOSE CAMP Rehoboth is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit community service organization dedicated to creating a positive environment inclusive of all sexual orientations and gender identities in Rehoboth Beach and its related communities. We seek to promote cooperation and understanding among all people as we work to build a safer community with room for all. We seek to promote community well-being on all levels; to foster the development of community groups; to develop community space; to promote human and civil rights; to work against prejudice and discrimination; to lessen tensions among the community at large; and to help foster the economic growth of the area. We work toward these ends through activities such as the following:
Fundraising for other organizations,
such as AIDS service organizations, gay and lesbian community organizations, recycling programs, environmental projects, literacy training, and other ventures for the general betterment of the community.
Networking resources and information
by publishing a newsletter, and functioning as an alternative tourist bureau and information center.
Promoting artistic expressions and creative thinking,
and giving aid to artists and craftspeople with an emphasis on the works of lesbians and gay men.
Education and outreach to the larger community,
including sensitivity training seminars, and printed materials to promote positive images of gay and lesbian people and others.
Promoting political awareness to build safe and inclusive community
through voter information, education, and registration; and analysis of issues and candidates.
The Way I See It by David Mariner
IT’S HARD TO PUT INTO WORDS THE TREMENDOUS PROGRESS THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY HAS made since CAMP Rehoboth was founded 30 years ago. I’m happy to live in a time where LGBTQ people in Delaware have protections from discrimination and a time when LGBTQ people are out and visible in the media, elected offices, and in all professions. And of course, I’m happy to share a home with my legal husband. My life today is very different from what I thought was possible as I was growing up. However, much work remains. Lately, we’ve seen troubling signs that our progress is being slowly chipped away: • The US Department of Education has issued new rules to weaken Title IX of the Education Amendments Act 1972 for protections against sexual harassment in schools. LGBTQ students face unacceptably high rates of discrimination, harassment, and violence. The Title IX protections are a lifeline for struggling students, yet these weaker protections are scheduled to take effect in August. • On May 8, the US Department of Health and Human Services introduced changes to data collection for the foster care system, eliminating all data collection about the sexual orientation of youth and their parents. LGBTQ people disproportionately experience homelessness and are overrepresented in the foster care system. Without this data, the experiences of LGBTQ youth in foster care, which often include harassment and discrimination, are rendered invisible. • As I write this, we anxiously await a US Supreme Court ruling on three cases involving employment discrimination against LGBTQ Americans. Clearly no one should be denied a job or fired simply because of who they are or who they love. Yet once again, our rights are up for debate. This ruling will address whether or not LGBTQ people have comprehensive, federal protection from workplace discrimination under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. These issues are a painful reminder that the rights we have secured are not guaranteed. As Thomas Jefferson once said, “The price of liberty is eternal vigilance.” To that end, we are working with CenterLink, a non-profit organization serving over 250 LGBTQ community centers and organizations around the country. I am happy to share with you that CAMP Rehoboth is joining forces with CenterLink and the community centers they represent for a project called ActionLink.
PRESIDENT Chris Beagle VICE PRESIDENT Leslie Sinclair SECRETARY Glen Pruitt TREASURER Natalie Moss, CPA AT-LARGE DIRECTORS Jane Blue, Wesley Combs, Mike DeFlavia, Max Dick, Linda Gregory Jack Morrison, Mark Purpura, Tara Sheldon, Kathy Wiz EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR David Mariner HEALTH & WELLNESS PROGRAM DIRECTOR Salvatore Seeley
CAMP REHOBOTH 37 Baltimore Avenue, Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 tel 302-227-5620 | fax 302-227-5604 email editor@camprehoboth.com | www.camprehoboth.com
The goal is to provide centers and their members the support they need to become effective champions of LGBTQ rights by staying advised of important policy issues affecting our community. Together we can take meaningful steps to resist efforts to stop or roll back our progress. There is so much we can all do to be advocates for change—even as “armchair activists.” Be sure to complete the census online at 2020census.gov. Register to vote or request an absentee ballot at elections.delaware.gov. Most importantly, become an active part of ActionLink. If you are already subscribed to the CAMP Rehoboth email list, you will receive ActionLink updates. If not, please subscribe at camprehoboth.com. Your help is needed now more than ever. Working together, our collective voices can be a powerful voice for change. ▼
CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. is tax-exempt under section 501(c)(3) of the United States Internal Revenue Code. Contributions to CAMP Rehoboth are considered charitable contributions for federal income tax purposes and may be deducted to the fullest extent of the law. A copy of our exemption document is available for public inspection.
MAY 22, 2020
3 Letters
Jacobs Returns as Letters Editor
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riter and editor Fay Jacobs is back at the helm as editor of this publication. While she retired from the post last November, when the position became open again, Jacobs was asked to step back in. “I’m happy to be on board to work with the CAMP Rehoboth staff in communicating with members and readers,“ Jacobs said. “This pandemic and the required social distancing make it even more important than ever to stay connected to our community. While Letters always aims to promote CAMP Rehoboth programs and entertain, right now, it’s critical to provide needed information, both online with the e-edition, and in print.” Jacobs has been a writer for Letters since 1995, feature editor since the early 2000s, and previously served as editor from February 2018 till November 2019. Letters content comes from the CAMP Rehoboth staff and a stable of writers as well as directly from the community. The publication always welcomes Letters to the Editor and at this time, seeks fun photos for the CAMPshots pages. ▼
Quarantine CAMPshots Submission Guidelines If more than one person is in the house
together, make sure everyone is close together with their heads at about the same level.
Shoot with good light in front of the subjects— not behind.
Do not edit, crop, or add filters to the photograph.
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res images will not be used. Make sure the subject line reads CAMPshots 30-05 + YOUR NAME. In the email include the full names of everyone in the photo. Email photos to murray@camprehoboth.com.
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Waterway dreaming…
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ith most museums and galleries (among much else) closed due to COVID-19, we’ve changed up our Arts & Entertainment column for now. Doug Yetter interviewed artist Caroline Huff, a nationallyknown fine artist and one of CAMP Rehoboth’s generous supporters. See page 56. ▼
Artwork by Caroline Huff
Thriving Even So…. LGBTQA+ youth circles are happening! Despite being in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic, CAMP Rehoboth LGBTQA+ youth created a Virtual Circle time for young people. Meeting twice a week, the virtual circle is designed to build connections, leadership skills, and help members meet other LGBTQA+ youth. And it’s exciting to note that ALL circle workshops have been wellattended. Each workshop is facilitated by a different circle member; GSA advisors and mentors are included. Each Circle showcases a special speaker as well. Topics have included (or will include) a Virtual Talent Show, conversations about pets, healthy relationships, teen journaling, and even Conversations with a Drag Queen. If any reader knows someone who would be interested in these youth circles, contact Bantlitz@camprehoboth.com. ▼
SPEAKOut CAMP Rehoboth’s Membership Makes So Much Possible…
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s CAMP Rehoboth celebrates its 30th year, it does so with a sense of awe and appreciation. We have a community where we are safe and comfortable in and around Rehoboth. That is why we come here to visit, party, or put down roots. Much of our comfort level is due to CAMP Rehoboth's unceasing and targeted efforts to "Create A More Positive" environment here in Sussex County, Delaware. During this time of hunkering down at home and dealing with a completely unexpected pandemic, CAMP Rehoboth wants you to know we are here for you. It may be virtual and online, but our programs continue as much as possible. Of course, carrying on the work to keep the community safe and comfortable, maintaining our visible presence, and continuing to host terrific events and programs requires ongoing support. If you have not already done so, become a member of CAMP Rehoboth, and you will help provide some of that annual ongoing support. If you are a member, please consider raising the level of your support. You may make a one-time gift or choose a recurring monthly payment. The bigger our membership roster, the more we can do for you. Our membership levels and accompanying perks are at camprehoboth.com. ▼
Dear Editor, I want to thank CAMP Rehoboth very much for all the excellent programming made available to us. CAMP Rehoboth’s Mindfulness Mondays have been instrumental in keeping me afloat amidst loss and stress and grief, as well as stay at home orders. I also have enjoyed the Tai Chi and yoga classes. What a wonderful community resource for these troubled times. It is truly inspiring to see how people and organizations have creatively reached out to help others. – Beth Kopicki
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CAMP Rehoboth Receives Estate Gift
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AMP Rehoboth recently received a financial gift from the estate of Joseph McMahon, who passed away in 2017 at the age of 76. Joseph McMahon was a graduate of Denison University and the University of Michigan Law School. He was a long-time supporter of CAMP Rehoboth and a tireless advocate of equality for all people, and we are grateful to be one of the recipients of his estate. CAMP Rehoboth co-founder and former board president Murray Archibald said, “Steve and I shared our first beach house in Rehoboth with Joe back in 1980. His friendship and support for us and CAMP Rehoboth and Sundance never wavered—and lives on through this gift.”▼
We’re in this together. Your support is critical. Every donation helps. MAY 22, 2020
5 Letters
CAMP Matters
BY MURRAY ARCHIBALD
Wrong Way on Aisle 5 Grocery stores freak me out. I need a Personal Space Invasion, Proximity Violation Containment, Radar System (PSI-PVC-RS!). “Danger! Danger! Will Robinson.” Wrong way customers on Aisle 5. Blocked exit, Aisle 7. Danger! Danger! No face mask in produce! Too much to remember! Don’t get close to anyone. Don’t touch my face. Don’t touch anything! Is my mask covering my nose? Did I wipe the cart handle clean? AARRG! My phone doesn’t recognize me in a face mask. My grocery list is on my phone! DON’T TOUCH THE PHONE! Am I going the wrong way down the aisle? Why are those people coming toward me? Help, I’m trapped in the meat department— and I’m a vegetarian! I have to laugh. But it still freaks me out. (Where’s my hand sanitizer?) Even in quarantine, grocery shopping is something we all have to do, and the grocery store has, in an unexpected way, become a symbol for coping with lockdown. We all have to eat. We all have to wipe our ass, too!
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Though I will never understand why the amount of toilet paper needed to accomplish that ordinary task suddenly multiplied the moment the virus appeared. Who knew toilet paper panic was a real thing? I suspect there are vast stores of toilet paper packed into every available garage, closet, and attic around the world. Yes, laughter helps for a moment. For a moment. Then we remember. This is real life. And our real life is real messed up. Coronavirus didn’t create the political divide in America, but it exposed the true depth of its destructive power on the health and well-being of our nation. The politicization of the pandemic has worsened its effect on us at every stage of its relentless march through the population. Decisions about health and safety should never have to be made along political lines, and yet we see that happening in communities across the country. The piecemeal, red/blue, state-by-state approach to coping with COVID-19 creates confusion, conflict,
and the perpetual spread of misleading and false information. In a more normal time—if there is any such thing as normal anymore—a crisis of this magnitude is exactly the moment when we would unite as a nation to fight a threat that harms us all. Most Americans struggle to cope with the way COVID-19 is impacting their lives. But that experience can vary widely from person to person, depending on political beliefs, economics, technology, and media sources. For some, the pandemic is a vast and lonely isolation. For families, a neverending schedule of work, school, play, and household chores. For many, the loss of a steady paycheck adds financial panic to every sunrise. In others, the lockdown sows seeds of rebellion. In minorities and people of color, the long history of racism and discrimination in our nation has created communities at higher risk of complications from the virus. Doctors, nurses, pharmacists, and other essential workers are exhausted, and daily face risk of exposure to the virus. Small business owners face bankruptcy. With all our varied perspectives, finding the thread to unite us as a nation is not an easy task, but when we see life through the eyes of others, our understanding of one another is changed. That concept was always part of the bedrock philosophy of CAMP Rehoboth, and one of the reasons we were so adamant about keeping the organization downtown and in a visible location. In the act of living out in the open and sharing our lives with neighbors and community, perspectives changed—on all sides—and so did hearts. In my former role as President of the Board of Directors of CAMP Rehoboth, I often developed workshops. One of them was about perspective. To prepare for it, I took three photographs. Photo 1 was a closeup of the bark on a single tree. Photo 2 zoomed out to show the grove of trees. Photo 3 was the entire forest.
The news from the hospital was dire; the death toll climbing across the nation. And yet, Joe’s positive spirit was inspiring. When perspective changes, so too does our understanding of what we are seeing and our place in it. Too close, we see only details. Too far away, only the “big picture” is visible. Life happens somewhere in between. Telling our stories to one another is a key part of expanding our understanding of the human experience. As longtime owners of the popular Dos Locos Restaurant, and now owners of Diego’s Nightclub, Joe Zuber and Darryl Ciarlante are well known throughout the local Rehoboth Beach community. When Darryl became gravely ill with COVID-19, the virus got personal for all of us. Though not allowed in the hospital, Joe kept the community up to date on Facebook throughout all the terrifying weeks Darryl was in critical condition and breathing only with the help of a ventilator at Beebe Healthcare. The news from the hospital was dire; the death toll climbing across the nation. And yet, Joe’s positive spirit was inspiring. After weeks, Darryl began to improve, and has now moved on to rehab. In sharing their story with us, Joe entrusted his heart to us as a community, and the collective, virtual hug that surrounded the two of them—and continues to do so— allowed us to step back from our own problems and keep them in proper perspective. As CAMP Rehoboth—all of us, for that matter—plan for a future in the wake of COVID-19, perspective remains crucial to decision making. Technology is changing, work patterns are changing, large gatherings have vanished, and budgets face serious shortfalls. More than ever, we need wise leaders who inspire us to put aside our differences—no, not put aside, understand our differences—and celebrate our diverse perspectives and experiences. As a nation we will eventually survive the pandemic. We may find it harder to survive the division ripping the soul of our country to pieces. “Danger! Danger! Will Robinson.” Wrong way on aisle 5. (Where’s my hand sanitizer?) ▼ Murray Archibald is an artist and CAMP Rehoboth co-founder. Email Murray at murray@camprehoboth.com
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Photo: Self Portrait in Isolation, by Murray Archibald MAY 22, 2020
7 Letters
CAMP Out Fay’s Rehoboth Journal by Fay Jacobs
Diary of a Mad Writer Day One, Corona Incarceration, March 13
Hello readers, a funny thing happened coming home to Rehoboth. I didn’t. Being ancient and having just had pneumonia, we took no chances. So I’m still in Florida, sheltering in place. And the place is a comfy house with a pool, plenty of food, booze, dog food, and our little pack ready for what comes next. But I’m homesick as hell. The hoarding of toilet paper has begun. Luckily, there’s a towering collection of coffee filters available. It could happen.
and interviewees working from home alongside their same-sex partners. With not a moment’s hesitation we hear “…from Seth Doan and his husband, quarantined in Italy.” It’s grand progress no matter what the dolts in DC wish for us.
Day 32, In the Gulag, April 13
The Florida governor is talking about opening the beaches. I guess folks want to look tan and healthy in their coffins. We are out of control, eating from boredom. I wear a mask outside, as they say, to protect others. I wear it inside the house to protect the high-risk Oreos.
Day 15, Happy 38th F&B, March 27
Yes, it’s our 38th anniversary, but Bonnie claims it’s only 19 as she only listens to me half the time. Scored two enormous packages of toilet paper from a neighbor whose wife didn’t like the brand he brought home. Who knew I’d ever be more excited about $50 worth of toilet paper than $50 worth of Grey Goose. Best anniversary gift ever. Hey, we baked “special” brownies for dessert tonight to celebrate.
Day 16, Alcatraz Daze, March 28 OMG, I haven’t been that stoned since the Vietnam War. Happy anniversary!
Day 25. Cellblock Tango, April 6
Warrior pose! We do yoga three times a week with friends on Facetime. And we walk to the marina, socially distancing from people and pelicans. We know how very lucky we are. Our hearts hurt for those alone or suffering without food or money. And those who have lost loved ones.
Day 28, Cloudy with a Chance of Boredom, April 9
So the car gets three weeks to the gallon but our grocery bill is the gross national product of Monaco. TV sustains us with many reporters Letters 8 MAY 22, 2020
sink. There are people who will do this and die! No Clorox® cocktail for me. But the ice cream man came down our street today. We bought fudgsicles, handing over a $20 bill. Bonnie took the change in her gloved hand and after we had our treats, she washed the five and some ones with bleach. The drug cartels have nothing on our money laundering operation.
Day 44, 525,600 minutes…, April 24
We had a full day of thunder and lightning, binged Netflix with Circus of Books, a fascinating look at a clueless heterosexual Jewish couple who wound up running the largest gay porn store in LA. Then we watched A Secret Love. It’s a magnificent, heartbreaking story of two women who were together, closeted, for over 70 years. A must see. Made mojitos with rum, simple syrup, and mint. We did not top it off with a disinfectant floater.
Day 51, The More Things Change, the More They…, May 2
Illustration by Kathleen Fitzgerald
Day 41, Gulfport Minimum Security Women’s Prison, April 21
OMG, the morons! Terrorists are protesting the stay at home orders. Armed and dangerous, yelling “give me freedom or give me death.” Who am I to tell them it’s not either/or? No matter what the governors decide, I’m staying hunkered down. Why risk death for a cut and color? I’ve said “I’d rather die,” than go gray, but clearly I didn’t mean it.
Day 43, Just a Spoonful of Clorox®, April 23
Today the US president suggested getting disinfectant into our bodies so it would cure coronavirus like it rids germs in the
We send heartfelt thanks to essential business workers and medical staffs. We appreciate them more than we can show right now. They say the final death toll will be about one percent. To my mind it’s going to take out the wrong one percent.
Day 59, May Day! May Day! (Deadline), May 10
By the time you read this, places are about to open up. Please stay safe and skip the Oxiclean™ martini. Don’t touch your face. Whisper of how I’m yearning to mingle with the old-time throng. Give my regards to…. ▼ Fay Jacobs is an author of five published memoirs. Her newest is Fried & Convicted: Rehoboth Beach Uncorked. As a humorist, she’s touring with her show Aging Gracelessly: 50 Shades of Fay. See www.fayjacobs.com
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UNITED IN LOVE (stay tuned)
MAY 22, 2020
9 Letters
CAMPNews CAMP Rehoboth Expands Online Programs and Services
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s you know, for the past 30 years the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center has provided a place for the community to come together for educational programs, medical services, cultural events, and more. That work continues, despite the recent COVID-19 pandemic, with an expansion of services and programs CAMP Rehoboth offers online. “CAMP Rehoboth has always been about connecting people to one another,” explains Salvatore Seeley, who directs CAMP Rehoboth’s health and wellness programming. “Even though it may look a little bit different, we can still serve the community through virtual meetings and Facebook Live events.” Seeley and his staff immediately began working with their speakers to adjust their presentations to an online format. In the first month that Delaware’s stay-at-home orders were in place, CAMP Rehoboth offered programs on whole foods eating and grocery shopping while quarantined, chair yoga and traditional yoga classes, a monthly book club discussion group, and mindfulness classes. CAMP Rehoboth also facilitates a number of support groups, including ones for men, women, and persons experiencing grief. These groups are now meeting online as well. People interested in getting a weekly email about upcoming virtual programs at CAMP Rehoboth should send their name and email address to CAMP Rehoboth at info@ camprehoboth.com. For young adults, CAMP Rehoboth offers more than just a virtual platform for them to feel connected. It is creating a safe space for them to get and give support to each other, to feel connected during these days of social distancing and isolation. CAMP Rehoboth Youth Coordinator Barbara Antlitz adds, “Our LGBTQA+ Youth Circle Meeting allows them an opportunity to connect with other like-minded young people in a safe place, and gives them an opportunity to be themselves.” The community response to CAMP Rehoboth’s virtual programming has been very positive, with participation in most programs more than doubling. “Online programming allows CAMP Rehoboth to reach out and to serve even more people than one can do within the walls of a community center,” says CAMP Rehoboth Executive Director David Mariner. “People from all across Delaware, and throughout the mid-Atlantic region, are now able to benefit from the services we offer.” Not all programs can be done virtually, however. CAMP Rehoboth has provided testing for HIV and sexuallytransmitted infections for a number of years through the community center. Those services are still available, but only by appointment at the center or one of their remote testing locations. ▼ Letters 10 MAY 22, 2020
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MAY 22, 2020
11 Letters
CAMPStories
BY RICH BARNETT
Ten Things I’ve Learned During the Pandemic I’m sure you’ll agree it’s been a very strange last few months.
But what I’ve particularly come to appreciate, besides the nutty, asparagus taste, is the ritual of preparing them. Prepping, steaming, and eating them leaf by leaf can fill up a good 90 minutes of time on a dull weekday evening.
I don’t know about you, but this pandemic has certainly taught me a thing or two, starting with a realization that the country is going to emerge from this crisis more divided than ever before. And you know why. It’s because this president shows no interest in any kind of public good. He takes no accountability for what’s happening, blaming everyone but himself when anything goes wrong. He attacks those who disagree with him. And he is incapable of taking in new information and speaking honestly with the public. As a result, he’s squandered the opportunity to unify Americans in a grand alliance against the coronavirus. For someone who so desperately wants to be liked, he can’t see the opportunity in front of his orange colored face. Therefore, those who love Trump will continue to see him as a fearless leader and those who loathe Trump will think of him as nothing more than a quack apothecary.
Okay, now let’s talk about some rouge colored faces. I mean drag queens. During this pandemic, have you noticed how prevalent they are on social media? And so many! They’re funny and irreverent, that’s for sure, but I also can’t help but notice they’ve been the antithesis of Donald Trump. They send out courageous, positive, and hopeful photos, messages, and videos to remind us just how creative and resilient we can be—and that no matter what, the show will go on. Bravo indeed!
I’ve learned how to cope with the whole mask predicament. There are N95 masks and medical masks and homemade masks and none of them are 100 percent effective. I’ve decided, therefore, to simply sport a red bandana and wear it cowboy style. They say it’s not as effective as a mask, but something is better than nothing and Letters 12 MAY 22, 2020
Chase that with a sleeping pill and a glass of rye whiskey and I can say goodbye to another day, whichever day it may be. I can’t keep track any more.
I’ve come to the realization that I should never cut my own hair.
Or use a cheese grater as a foot file while giving myself a pedicure. it’s the only way I can mask up without fogging up my glasses. Plus, I think it looks dashing. I’m just hoping the gay hankie code does not apply. Back to resilience for a moment…. I’ve
had to master a new recipe to make a bloody mary cocktail. For some reason, there is no Clamato® juice to be found in the local grocery stores. A lack of toilet paper and ground beef I can understand. But Clamato® juice? Seriously? After weeks of experimenting, I’ve finally landed upon a suitable blend of 75 percent real tomato juice and 25 percent Zing-Zang bottled mix. Add a big squirt of fresh lemon juice and a couple of olives. It’s not too bad in a pinch.
I’ve also gained a new appreciation for the artichoke. Even when other vegetable bins are nearly picked clean, there’s always a pile of fresh artichokes available in the grocery produce department. Did you know the standard green globe artichoke, aka the French artichoke, is a thistle? It’s the flower bud to be precise and if allowed to bloom, the violet blue flower would measure up to seven inches across. Seems Zeus turned some minor goddess into an artichoke in a fit of anger. Who knew the artichoke had that kind of history? Now it had my attention.
I have mastered the weed whacker. And, I’m quite obsessed with a new pair of iron forged gardening scissors. My boxwoods have never looked so good.
The final thing learned is how very interesting I find it that people are generally okay with a little humor in the middle of a global pandemic. I’m sure you’ve seen the hundreds of jokes, memes, and funny video songs. How many #toosoon comments have you seen? Heavy moments are often leavened by using humor as a way to cope. I suppose it all comes down to a question of taste. People are making fun of social distancing and masks, not deaths and overworked medical workers, so that seems okay. The best humor, some will say, comes from a place that’s truthful and a bit dark, or in this case from what’s mundane. Thanks for listening and take care of yourselves. ▼ Rich Barnett is the author of The Discreet Charms of a Bourgeois Beach Town, and Fun with Dick and James.
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Straight Talk
BY DAVID GARRETT
Voice of Calm Amid the Storm
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his doctor grew up outside Boston, received her undergraduate degree at Harvard, followed by her medical degree from Tulane University. At Mt. Sinai Hospital in New York City, she served her residency in pediatrics and fellowship in adolescent medicine. Upon moving to Central Pennsylvania, she was hired at Penn State Hershey Medical Center, where she focused on eating disorders and pediatric medicine. Nominated in 2015 to become the Pennsylvania Surgeon General, she subsequently became Secretary of Health in 2017. She is married/divorced with two children. This information serves as a superficial introduction to Dr. Rachel Levine, but there is so much more to her life and career than her bio suggests. I met Dr. Levine in 2011, shortly after her gender transition. I sat across the room from her at meetings of TransCentral PA, a Harrisburg, Pennsylvania support group for transgender persons. This group, its members, and its mission, helped me understand and accept the transition my own daughter would soon undergo. When Dr. Levine became Surgeon General of Pennsylvania, she attained the highest state government position that any transgender person had achieved. Now, as State Secretary of Health, she administers this role with grace and bold vision. She stands at a podium, waiting for Governor Tom Wolf to make his remarks, then steps to the microphone to give the citizens of Pennsylvania the latest update on the spread of the coronavirus. No newcomer to life and death duties in Pennsylvania, Dr. Levine has led the battle against opioid abuse, instituting a standing order giving EMS personnel the ability to leave doses of naloxone with patients. Naloxone is a powerful overdose reversal drug. Over the last few months, Dr. Levine has become the face of the battle against COVID-19. Her role, and the manner in which she performs it, has brought Dr. Levine both transphobic hatred and glowing accolades. She has handled both with
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the same professionalism that frustrates her detractors and amazes her ardent supporters. The transphobes have come out of the woodwork, giving themselves permission to hurl online insults at Dr. Levine. One particular restaurant owner in Braddock, outside of Pittsburgh, bullied her on his Facebook page. Once criticism of him began, he merely told folks to “chill out.”
Her role, and the manner in which she performs it, has brought Dr. Levine both transphobic hatred and glowing accolades. Eventually he deleted all the posts and offered a half-hearted apology. His words seemed to carry no credibility. Other people have intentionally misgendered Dr. Levine, referring to her using male pronouns. And, of course, there are those claiming to represent Christianity to speak on behalf of God. They invoke divine judgment upon Dr. Levine. These are mild sentiments that barely ruffle any feathers, but quoting the more hate-filled comments would serve no purpose here. As Dr. Levine faces the daily onslaught of transphobia, she typically ignores it. However, at a recent press conference, she was asked a question by a radio newsperson that was as direct as one can
get. “I’m from WKOK. Transphobic people have been making comments about your appearance throughout the pandemic. Do you have a message to those people?” Dr. Levine didn’t skip a beat, replying, “Well, my message is that, as Secretary of Health, I am working with the Governor’s office, advising the Governor, as well as working with other agencies, to do the best I can, in terms of helping Pennsylvania through this unprecedented global pandemic. I realize at times like this it’s very stressful, people sometimes say things that they wouldn’t otherwise say or mean. But really, what I am going to do is stay laser-focused on helping Pennsylvania through this global pandemic and assisting the Governor and the Governor’s office.” Past President of TransCentral PA, now Executive Director of Trans Advocacy Pennsylvania, Joanne Carroll has known Dr. Levine for 12 years. She writes, “In addition to being good friends, I have been privileged to work directly with her on the Governor’s LGBT Workgroup. Soon after this group began its work, a Transgender Workgroup was formed as a sub-committee. Rachel and I were designated Co-Chairs and we have worked side by side for the past several years identifying even more areas of concern for the main workgroup. My admiration and respect for her professionalism has only grown with the passage of time and our friendship has grown with it. In summation, my friend Dr. Rachel Levine is a consummate professional, whose acumen and gravitas will result in saving thousands of lives in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania.” #Respect4Rachel has been trending on Twitter. Dr. Levine certainly has her critics, but it is her supporters who give her the courage to continue to be the voice of calm at the podium during this pandemic storm. ▼ David Garrett is a straight advocate for equality and inclusion. He is also the proud father of an adult transdaughter. Email David Garrrett at dlgarrett4rb@gmail.com.
MAY 22, 2020
15 Letters
HISTORICAL HEADLINERS
BY ANN APTAKER
We Are Fam-il-eee
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amilies have been around for eons. Did dinosaurs form families? I don’t know. But many species which came after them did and still do. The definition of what constitutes a family has changed over the millennia but human beings—and for that matter many species of animals—seem to be hardwired to form relationships of one sort or another. In other words, to live as a family. For the LGBTQ community, family can mean love and security. For too many of us, though, family can also mean rejection and pain. Until the triumph of marriage equality, our families of choice were not even accorded the legal status our married straight friends, relatives, and neighbors enjoyed. But our LGBTQ culture is romantic to the core, right? We’ve been bonding for centuries, sometimes hiding deep out of sight, sometimes hiding in plain sight, and sometimes not bothering to hide at all. In researching couples who lived as family in periods prior to our own, I came across numerous enduring same-sex relationships. Two, though, interested me in particular for the times and cultures in which they lived: two couples, one fictional, one real, from opposite ends of the earth, from cultures which could not have been more different, and separated by more than two thousand years. Okay, let’s go back to early Zhou period China, roughly the 1100s BCE, and the story of the romance between Wang Zhongxian and Pan Zhang. And quite a romance it was, worthy of a Lifetime channel Happily Ever After night on the couch with popcorn and a box of tissues. According to legend, Pan Zhang was a noted writer, admired not only for his beautiful writings but for his beautiful looks. Student Wang Zhongxian wanted to study with Zhang, and travelled to meet him. According to historian Rictor Norton, the tale of Wang Zhongxian and Pan Zhang dates back to about 1122 BCE. Passed down through centuries of oral tradition, their story was formally set in writing during the Song Dynasty
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(960-1279 CE) in the lyrical collection, the Taiping Guanjii. Bret Hinsch, of the history faculty of Taiwain’s Fo Guang University, quotes liberally from the Song chronicles in his study of gay relationships in historic China, Passions of the Cut Sleeve: “They fell in love at first sight, and were as affectionate as husband and wife, sharing the same coverlet and pillow with unbounded intimacies for one another. Afterwards, they died together and everyone mourned them. When they were buried together at Lofu Mountain in the peak of a tree with long branches, leafy twigs suddenly grew. All of these embraced one another! At the time, people considered this a miracle. It was called the Shared Pillow Tree.” Ahhh…the Shared Pillow Tree. Pass the popcorn and tissues. A world away and millennia later, two American women defied hidebound Victorian definitions of family and a woman’s place. Elsie de Wolfe and Elisabeth “Bessie” Marbury were a modernizing couple in the modernizing New York at the turn of the twentieth century. At a time when women were confined to the home, or if they must earn a living, they were often domestics, shopgirls, seamstresses, sweatshop drudges, prostitutes, or if they were lucky, talented, or beautiful, the stage. Elsie and Bessie smashed those barriers. They were a true power couple. They met in 1887, when Elsie worked as an actress and Bessie, already bucking tradition and succeeding at it, was a well-established talent agent and theater producer. In 1892, the two moved in together to a stately house at the corner of Manhattan’s East 17th Street and Irving Place. Elsie’s acting career was not a raging success but her talent for decorating and design became evident. She redecorated the 17th Street residence from top to bottom, tearing out the dark, heavy interiors and tossing out the fussy Victorian furniture. She replaced it all with white walls, delicate furniture upholstered in pale colors or prints of simplified design. Light and air flooded
what had been suffocating and shadowy. And it became all the rage. Elsie’s and Bessie’s friends from the worlds of art, theater, literature, and politics raved about the de Wolfe-Marbury home. Elsie’s career as an interior designer was launched. She became the most successful interior designer in the country, in demand in Europe as well. In 1913, she published the wildly popular The House in Good Taste, which became the bible of modern decorating for everyone from barely-scraping-by newlyweds to affluent matrons with money to burn. Meantime, Bessie’s career as agent and producer was scaling the heights of the American and European cultural worlds. As an agent, she represented such luminaries as Oscar Wilde, George Bernard Shaw, and the popular dance team of Vernon and Irene Castle. As a theatrical producer, she staged musicals by Jerome Kern and Cole Porter, and partnered with influential New York producers Charles Frohman and the Shubert Brothers. Elsie and Bessie were riding high, their home a magnet for New York’s Who’s Who. In 1926, Elsie shocked their friends… by marrying a man! In a union generally accepted by all—including the reporters who covered the wedding—as a marriage of convenience for both bride and groom, Elsie married Sir Charles Mendl, a British diplomat and sometime actor. The marriage bestowed the title Lady Mendl on Elsie, which she used for the rest of her life. Husband and wife never lived together. Elsie and Bessie shared domestic bliss—first at the 17th Street house, later at 13 Sutton Place—until Bessie’s death in 1933. Okay everyone, all together now: WE ARE FAM-IL-EEE….▼ Ann Aptaker’s series featuring dapper lesbian art thief and smuggler Cantor Gold has won Lambda Literary and Goldie Awards. In addition to writing crime fiction, Ann is an adjunct Professor of art and art history at New York Institute of Technology.
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Intentionally Inclusive
BY WESLEY COMBS
A Lesson in Inclusion
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n early May our family experienced an unimaginable tragedy when my husband Greg’s mother Dolly passed away unexpectedly from a nonCOVID-19 related illness. On Valentine’s Day, he had lost his father under similar circumstances. As you might expect, losing both parents—who had been married for 63 years—in the span of three months, is devastating. Dolly was an incredible mother to four amazing children and her commitment to the strength of family will be a lasting legacy. Being a devout Catholic, Dolly’s faith also played a central role in her life. Which is why Christmas was the highlight of Dolly’s year because it celebrated family and faith, two passions she held most dear. This was something I learned soon after Greg and I began dating on January 28th, 1989. Our relationship quickly grew serious and from that day forward we never spent a night apart. When we met, Greg was in the process of purchasing a one-bedroom co-op for which his parents helped with the down payment. Up to this point Greg had not come out to his parents, so he felt it was important to do so before we moved in together. So, in August of that year, Greg flew to Chicago and told his parents he was gay, something his brother Dave had already done a few months earlier, when he too revealed his sexual orientation. Hoping to soften the blow, Greg shared that I had graduated from the Jesuit institution Georgetown University. Dolly excitedly asked if I was Catholic, perhaps in an effort to find a way to accept and love Greg, while still honoring her conviction to God. Upon learning I was Jewish instead, Dolly appeared deflated. What she would soon find out is that family and traditions were as important to me as they were to her because of my Jewish upbringing. Despite the moral dilemma Dolly faced by having two gay sons, her devotion to Greg and Dave never wavered. Like any good mother, Dolly only
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wanted her children to be happy. She demonstrated this when she invited me to join Greg at Christmas the next year, a sacred annual family tradition. From the day we first met in person, Dolly always made me feel welcome. She did the same for the special people in Dave’s life. Having said that, there were instances when Dolly’s comments regarding LGBTQ issues left me wondering if she were truly able to love her gay sons unconditionally. In the mid-90s I was actively engaged in advocacy with the Human Rights Campaign both professionally and personally, helping to secure workplace protections for LGBTQ people.
There were instances when Dolly’s comments regarding LGBTQ issues left me wondering if she were truly able to love her gay sons unconditionally I remember having a conversation with Dolly about the importance of passing the Employment Nondiscrimination Act, explaining that it was currently perfectly legal in many states to fire a person just for being LGBTQ. Dolly responded by saying this could not possibly be true. The more I tried to present her with facts, she continued to push back. On the flip side, my own mother was an outspoken supporter of me as a gay man. She proudly joined me at LGBTQ events and challenged others around her when they voiced anti-gay positions. However, this did not stand in the way of Dolly’s and my ability to develop a bond. I was especially drawn to her
cooking prowess, a by-product of her degree in home economics. While I am grateful to my mother for many things, learning how to cook well was not one of them. Dolly taught me many tricks of the trade, like how to remove the fat from the inside of a turkey and the art of making turkey soup from Thanksgiving leftovers. Yet, the juxtaposition between how our mothers expressed their sentiments regarding gay issues made me question if Dolly considered my relationship with Greg the same as those of his siblings who were straight and married. As the old saying goes, “If you judge a book by its cover, you might miss out on an amazing story.” About a year ago, Dolly excitedly told Greg that a lesbian couple was moving in next door. At that time, Aleke and her wife were the only same-sex couple in their 65+ retirement community. The day after Dolly passed away Aleke came by to express her condolences. She shared that Dolly immediately introduced herself and welcomed them with open arms. In fact, they became close friends. This brought a huge smile to my face. All this time I had assumed that Dolly was not fully comfortable with gay people, because she never referred to me as Greg’s husband. To the contrary, Dolly’s outreach was a perfect example of what it means to be intentionally inclusive. It also taught me an important lesson: that actions speak louder than words. Family was everything to Dolly and that included me. I am a better person because Dolly was in my life. ▼ Wesley Combs is a diversity and inclusion expert and a passionate social justice advocate. He is the founding Principal of Combs Advisory Services where he works with clients who share his values of enabling equity, equality, and opportunity in the workplace and the community. He serves on CAMP Rehoboth’s Board of Directors.
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health+wellness
By Marj Shannon
So, You Thought Self-Isolating Was Hard….
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or the past several weeks, most of us have been sheltering in place, kept home both by governmental orders and by our own desire to escape infection or to avoid infecting others. Finally, just as quarantine fatigue was setting in, some of those restrictions are being lifted. But even as we begin to rejoice, we also begin to realize: suddenly, we have decisions to make. During “lock-down,” there were few of those. We may have thought about if or when to go to the grocery, whether or not to order take-out or delivery from a restaurant, or how long to let the mail sit outdoors before opening it. But with most things closed, we didn’t have to think about things like whether or not we’d chance a trip to the hair salon. As we begin to consider such things, it’s crucial to remember we are not back to the “out-and-about” we knew in early March. Rather, it’s a constrained, tentative out-and-about, where each of us must make decisions about the risks we’re willing to take— for ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities.
How to think about your new freedoms
Start with as objective a selfassessment as possible. This will help you think about your risk of serious illness, should you become ill with COVID-19. For example: • Do you have a chronic disease, such as diabetes, hypertension, COPD, or heart disease? • Do you smoke? • Are you immuno-compromised, either from a disease or from treatment for a disease (e.g., from chemotherapy)? • Are you age 60 or older? Next up, similarly assess others who live in your household. Maybe you’re not at high risk—but how about Letters 20 MAY 22, 2020
them? How might they fare, were you to bring COVID-19 home with you? Thinking about expanding your circle to include a cherished family member or friend you’ve been keenly missing? Consider how “risky” they are—i.e., do they live alone, reliably selfisolating and observing recommended precautions? Or do they live with multiple other people, or work as frontline staff at an essential business? Consider also the risk involved with any place you’re thinking about going. If you’re not sure how to go about that—no worries: the Center for Health Security (CHS) at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health has already done the work for you.i CHS assessed the risks you might encounter in multiple sectors of
the economy—e.g., “nonessential” businesses, schools, outdoor spaces, and community gathering spaces. The three factors CHS focused on were: • Contact intensity: Will you be close to or distant from others? Will your contact be short or prolonged? More intense (close/prolonged) contact is riskier. • Number of contacts: How many people will you likely encounter? The more people you encounter, the higher the risk. • Modification potential: How modifiable is each environment, in terms of mitigating risk? Each factor was rated on a scale of high, medium, or low. Some example assessments are in the chart below:
EXAMPLE ASSESSMENTS CONTACT INTENSITY
NUMBER OF CONTACTS
MODIFICATION POTENTIAL
PARKS, WALKING PATHS, TRAILS, DOG PARKS
LOW
LOW
LOW
RETAILERS; SHOPPING MALLS
LOW
MEDIUM
MEDIUM
BEACHES
LOW
HIGH
MEDIUM
RESTAURANTS
MEDIUM
MEDIUM
MEDIUM
GYMS; FITNESS STUDIOS
MEDIUM
MEDIUM
MEDIUM
COMMUNITY CENTERS, THEATERS, MUSEUMS
MEDIUM
HIGH
MEDIUM
BARS
HIGH
HIGH
MEDIUM
AIRPLANES
HIGH
HIGH
MEDIUM
CATEGORY
“By the end of 2020, we will not be close to achieving the level of population immunity required to contain the virus…”
How We Arrived at the Point Where We Can Begin to Reopen
Once you’ve assessed your own risk, that of others in your household, and the risk potential of the place you plan to go, take steps to mitigate those risks. You know what they are: • Practice social distancing, aiming for a six-foot distance between you and other people. • Wear a face mask in public settings. • Wash your hands often with soap and water. Use hand sanitizer that is at least 60 percent alcohol if soap and water are not available. • Avoid touching your face.
How to think about COVID-19’s future
COVID-19 will not end with 2020. The reason it won’t just “go away” after this first pandemic outbreak is the same as the reason its arrival caused a pandemic to begin with: no one was immune. By the end of 2020, we will not be close to achieving the level of population immunity required to contain the virus (about 60 percent of the population). Until that happens—via vaccination or exposure—COVID-19 outbreaks will continue to occur. The only real questions are how big the surges will be, where they will occur, and how long they will last.ii Get comfortable assessing and mitigating COVID-19’s risks. They will be with us for a while. ▼ Marj is an epidemiologist and wordsmith who has devoted her life to minutiae. She reports that yes, the devils are in the details.
You may wonder how that happened, given one criterion for easing restrictions was that the number of new cases per day needed to decline for 14 consecutive days. That wasn’t yet the case here in Delaware by May 8, when restrictions began to ease. What gives? Chiefly, people realized (worldwide) there needed to be a new-and-improved way to count, given the lack of tests early-on.iii Way back two months ago, it was very difficult to get tested for SARS CoV-2, the virus that causes COVID-19. There were so few tests that people had to meet strict criteria just to “qualify” to be tested. Between a lack of tests and the strict criteria, the number of people diagnosed with COVID-19 was low. As tests became more available, more people began to be tested, resulting in (surprise!) an increased number of people diagnosed with the virus. Tests are even more available now—including drive-through testing open to all—so, yet more people are being diagnosed. If you’re looking at just the numbers, they aren’t going to go down very fast under this scenario. Enter the “test-positivity rate,” i.e., the percentage of tests found to be positive. It provides a more meaningful measure for decline. Here’s how it works: • Let’s say that, on three consecutive days, there were 50, 75, and 100 positive COVID-19 test results. Clearly, those numbers are increasing. • But let’s also say that, on those same days, a total of 500, 1,000, and 1,500 tests were administered. • That would give us a test-positivity rate for those days of 10 percent (50/500), 7.5 percent (75/1,000) and 5 percent (100/2,000), respectively. The test-positivity rate decreases, even as the sheer number of positive results increases. This rate is the one used as evidence of decline here in Delaware (https://myhealthycommunity.dhss.delaware.gov/locations/state). At the time of this writing, Delaware’s early-May test-positivity rates hover around 20 percent, which is relatively high. It likely results from targeting for testing those people who are more likely to be positive—e.g., those working in certain industries, such as processing plants or long-term care. Targeting makes sense—it just also makes for a higher test-positivity rate. A rate indicative of widespread availability of tests and population-wide testing (and of an epidemic that is coming under control) would be much lower. ▼ i Rivers C, Martin E, Watson C, Schoch-Spana M, Mullen L, et al. Public Health Principles for a Phased Reopening during COVID-19: Guidance for Governors. Center for Health Security, Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. April 17, 2020. ii Begley, S. “Three potential futures for COVID-19: recurring small outbreaks, a monster wave, or a persistent crisis.” STAT. May 1, 2020. iii Meyer, R & Madrigal, A. “A New Statistic Reveals Why America’s COVID-19 Numbers Are Flat.” The Atlantic. April 16, 2020.
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health+wellness Classes and Events YOGA OF 12-STEP RECOVERY (Y12SR) PROGRAM ⊲ Sundays | 5:00 p.m. Zoom Meeting: https://us02web.zoom. us/j/487294739?pwd=Z3dEMVNXNWRtR0xaUzV2Ni9NTXlPdz09 Meeting ID: 487 294 739 PW: 693539 Y12SR is open to anyone dealing with addiction—their own or the behaviors of others; all “A’s” are welcome. The model addresses addiction as a physical, mental, and spiritual dis-ease: “the issues live in our tissues.” We’ll start with a 12-step based discussion focused on recovery topics, then take it to the mat. The topic will be woven throughout a Hatha flow practice incorporating breathing techniques (pranayama), yoga poses (asana), and closing with a guided meditation. AFTERNOON TEA ⊲ Tuesdays | 4:00 p.m. May 26-June 16, 2020 Zoom meeting: https://us02web.zoom. us/j/86502330535?pwd=c3ZjM1BQbzNSb0s3KzRWSnNGK2RmQT09 Meeting ID: 865 0233 0535 PW: CAMP This weekly social program offers older LGBTQ adults the opportunity to discuss current events and new ideas. If you would like additional information email Salvatore Seeley at salvatore@camprehoboth.com . YOGA FOR EVERYONE ⊲ May 28 | 10:30 a.m. Zoom Meeting: https://zoom.us/meeting/ register/upUpfu-prjovhW3_83axsh97twAgKDfFmw Go to camprehoboth.com for meeting ID and password. In this light and interactive virtual yoga session, Athena will guide participants of all ages through a full 45-minute yoga session. Beginning with breath work and an introduction to meditation, Athena will lead you through a sequence of yoga
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asanas (poses) intended to be easily accessible to every viewer. Athena will make suggestions for ways that you can prop yourself at home and ways to get comfy and explore developing your own yoga practice in a way that is fun and accessible. In the end, Athena will bring you down through a series of cooling poses, keeping you connected with your breath, and bringing you into the calming rest position of savasana. This yoga session will prove to be a light and uplifting addition to your day. Yoga reduces anxiety and cravings while supporting your overall well-being. About the teacher: Athena Allread, 200RYT, is co-owner of Lanikai Wellness Studio in Milton. Having taught yoga to all ages from toddlers to teens to seniors for nearly a decade, Athena brings a very lighthearted approach to traditional Ashtanga yoga and makes it comfortable and easy to follow for all ages alike. LGBTQ+ BOOK CLUB ⊲ May 28 | 5:30 p.m. Zoom Meeting: https://us02web.zoom. us/meeting/register/tZIod-6prjIjGNcstwWtw8EBnsAGGWLli5xJ Go to camprehoboth.com for meeting ID and password. Hope you can join us for the book club this month. Our selection this month is All The Boys Aren’t Blue by George M. Johnson. About the Book: In a series of personal essays, prominent journalist and LGBTQIA+ activist George M. Johnson explores his childhood, adolescence, and college years in New Jersey and Virginia. From the memories of getting his teeth kicked out by bullies at age five, to flea marketing with his loving grandmother, to his first sexual relationships, this young-adult memoir weaves together the trials and triumphs faced by Black queer boys. Both a primer for teens eager to be allies as well as a reassuring testimony for young queer men of color, All Boys
Aren’t Blue covers topics such as gender identity, toxic masculinity, brotherhood, family, structural marginalization, consent, and Black joy. While some libraries are closed, many are offering digital download through the Delaware Public Library system. Book may be purchased at Browseabout Books (offering curbside pick-up or shipping) or through Amazon (hard or digital copy). CAMP TALK—YOU TALK, WE LISTEN We know right now is a stressful time for many of our community members. Sometimes you just need someone to talk to and process what is going on in the world and in your life. We are now providing free one-time online sessions with our licensed clinical team. To sign up for a 45-minute session, please email Salvatore Seeley at salvatore@ camprehoboth.com. RECOVERY GROUPS AT CAMP REHOBOTH Due to the continued concern regarding COVID-19 (novel coronavirus), CAMP Rehoboth is closed at this time. AA groups have moved online. You can find local AA online groups by going to https://sussexaa.org/meetings/. You can also email Sussex County local chapters at: support@sussexaa.org. ▼
Some of these virtual meetings are made possible through the Delaware Division of Public Health’s Tobacco Prevention Community Contract. Funding for the contract is provided by the Delaware Health Fund and managed by the American Lung Association of Delaware.
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It’s My Life
BY MICHAEL THOMAS FORD
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s we enter week number 592 of quarantining, I’ve lost the ability to concentrate for any significant period of time on, well, almost anything. Reading and writing. Listening to music. Watching movies or television. For whatever reason, none of it is appealing. The other day, determined to do something to alleviate the tedium of social distancing, Cubby and I masked up and went to the local garden center to get some plants for the back yard. On the way to check out, we passed by the bird feeders and impulsively added three to the cart, along with sacks of seed. About a month ago, upon finding out from a neighbor that we have bluebirds in the area, I put up three houses for them. I thought maybe the feeders would be a welcome addition. Within minutes of hanging them from the lower branches of the catalpa tree in the yard, there were visitors—a chickadee and a couple of house finches. I’d seen them hanging around before, so this was not particularly exciting. But I was happy that they seemed to like their new feeding station. As the day progressed, I found myself checking the feeders more and more frequently. The only way to do it was to either go outside, which made the birds fly away, or to peer out through the one window that affords a view of the back yard. This, obviously, was better suited for actually seeing who was at the feeder, and so I did my best Gladys Kravitz impression, spying through the glass and trying to identify the various feathered diners. “There’s a goldfinch,” I informed Cubby. “And something brown. I’m going to go look it up.” The brown bird turned out to be a house sparrow. House sparrows are adorable. They are also, I discovered to my horror and fascination, little feathered murder machines. An invasive species, they will harass and kill native birds—particularly bluebirds—in order to take over their nesting spots. They are, in many
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places, the only songbird you are not only allowed, but encouraged, to eradicate. “Get away from my bluebirds!” I shouted at the house sparrows from the safety of the kitchen. “What’s going on?” Cubby asked. “Are you threatening birds?” “Possibly,” I admitted. “Oh, look! A downy woodpecker!” The woodpecker stayed for quite a while, enjoying the suet block we had gotten particularly because it said
“A titmouse,” I said breathlessly “Tufted! I need to make a list. Who knew there were so many kinds of birds?”
peckers like them. When he left, he was replaced by some kind of finch. Again, I found myself going online to find out exactly what kind of finch. I decided it was a pine siskin, because the name is so fantastic. “We might have a pine siskin,” I announced. “I bet no one else in the neighborhood does.” In the few days since our feeders have gone up, I’ve become a little bit obsessed with them. Also, with the three birdhouses, particularly now that I know the house sparrows are not to be trusted. Fortunately, the bluebird couple who moved in shortly after I put the houses up seem to be fine. One of the other houses is being used by a pair of house swallows, who are fearless, sassy, and come out to glare
at me when I run the lawn mower past them. The third house remains empty, because apparently birds are fussy and it has no curb appeal. I report every new bird to Cubby. “We’ve got a grosbeak,” I told him yesterday. “And a mockingbird.” When I discovered a tufted titmouse at one of the feeders, I couldn’t wait to announce it. “A titmouse,” I said breathlessly “Tufted! I need to make a list. Who knew there were so many kinds of birds?” Apparently, a lot of us do. When I mentioned my bird feeders on social media, numerous people revealed that they too have developed a sudden interest in the feathered residents of their yards. A writer friend in New York City, who hasn’t left her apartment in two months, has built a daily schedule around watching the birds that come to her terrace feeders. “I can’t seem to work on my own novel, so I’ve basically written an avian soap opera around them,” she said. “The current plot involves a pigeon love triangle.” In this uncertain and unsettling time, I think birds are the distraction I need. I can’t manage to read an entire book, but I can watch birds for the few minutes they hang out in the feeders. Identifying them is relatively easy thanks to the multitude of online resources. Plus, they’re a positive reminder that life not only continues, it flourishes. “Just sit tight for a while,” the birds seem to say. “Summer’s coming, and things will sort themselves out. In the meantime, sing. You’ll feel better.” ▼ Michael Thomas Ford is a much-published Lambda Literary award-winning author. Visit Michael at michaelthomasford.com
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Out & Proud
BY STEFANI DEOUL
All in the Family
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ecember 2019—aka last year—I was emailed a schedule from the communications manager of Letters, providing the regular columnists a list of submission deadlines for the 2020 calendar. In addition, the schedule noted what “focus” the issues were looking to highlight. This issue’s focus falls under the category of “timing is everything.” This issue’s focus is family. And I can’t think of anything, as we self-isolate, that has struck as deep a chord as family. Whether we talk about immediate family or extended family, biological family or sociological family, to be kept from people we love when we need them most, not to be physically touched with love is, I think, the haunting legacy of this virus. Family. My Mom celebrated her 88th birthday in her apartment in a senior living community, tucked as safely as can be, even if it’s lonely, behind closed doors. My brother sent out a Zoom invite, and I talked her through the clicks on her computer, until finally, we were all there. And I mean all of us—children, spouses, grandchildren, significant others. From all over the US and a few other places, we were those opening “Brady Bunch credits” times three or four. Mom’s eyes didn’t know who to focus on first. We all talked, and over-talked, and laughed, and shrieked, and jumped up to get pets and pulled them into frame until they were sharing the screen, and so it went, on and on, until it came time to end the celebration. And then Mom smiled at everyone and proclaimed this had been her best birthday ever. I disconnected, shaking my head, laughing, and then, realizing it wasn’t exactly hyperbole. In some ways, she was right. We were all there, together, breaking through the isolation and truly in the moment, because we needed to celebrate with her as much as she needed to celebrate with us, with family. Family.
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Joseph A. Boyle, aka “Chief,” had a big family. One begun when he married Barb, his “bride” of 68 years, and continued growing and morphing through six children, their spouses, significant others, grandchildren (17 of them!), and great-grandchildren. He was a man who served America, spending more than 20 years in the US Navy. An honorably discharged Chief Petty Officer, well known for wishing all to “have a great day and fly the flag.” An Eagles fan, a Mummer (for 75 years!), a volunteer at the Battleship New Jersey Museum and Memorial, and an early-Mass greeter at St. Charles Borromeo Church.
From all over the US and a few other places, we were those opening “Brady Bunch credits” times three or four. Chief passed away several days after my Mom’s birthday. He was not a casualty of COVID-19, but his death was encompassed by it, and the aftermath still is. Humans have rituals because they ease our way. The Boyle family found themselves ripped apart from those grounding, stabilizing, comforting options. In small ways, there can be no flowers. In bigger ways, no mourners, no friends. And in devastating ways, a big family cannot gather as one. So the family had to be split, each small group given a time they would be allowed a visitation. And hardest of all, there cannot be a group hug. No one can lean over and catch the tear running down another’s
cheek. No one’s shoulder can be leaned into for strength. Family. And we’re the lucky ones. We see them on TV every night. We cheer our family of first responders, fighting their fears, pushing through boundaries, soldiering on. We grieve with those in mourning, weeping as a family “talked for 30 hours on an iPad,” staying with their Dad until he lost his battle with the virus, a Zoom goodbye. Technology humbles me. I read of a man whose newborn twin brother died of the Spanish influenza while a hundred years later he died from coronavirus. I cannot imagine the loneliness of those who died in the days of the Spanish influenza and all the plagues before that. I’m grateful to Facebook Messenger and WhatsApp and Google Hangout and Skype and…. Family. I met Chief’s son, Michael, shortly after I moved to my Rehoboth house. Michael met my Mom a while later when she came to visit me. One day we will get together and share a hug, one that encompasses both celebration and grief; life and loss. I will stand and grab the hand next to me as Chief is honored, getting his flag and his 21 gun salute. Stay safe. Stay sane. Until we hug again. ▼ Stefani Deoul is a television producer and author of the award-winning YA mystery series Sid Rubin Silicon Alley Adventures, with On a LARP and Zero Sum Game. Her third in the series, Say Her Name, came out in December 2019.
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Out & About
BY ERIC C. PETERSON
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s we enter our 78th week of quarantine, the only people who seem to be having a good time are the foodies and pop culture junkies. My household consists of a roommate whose happy place is the kitchen, myself (who can always be found staring at some screen or other), and a dog who doesn’t complain if she gets the occasional snacks from the kitchen floor. And a lap upon which to rest her chin when I’m on episode five of whatever I’m watching. I can’t begin to tell you how Michael made homemade English muffins this morning—only that they were delicious. But I can give you a few viewing recommendations. Even though real life is something we’re understandably trying to avoid, I was surprised that two of my favorite viewing experiences this week were Netflix documentaries. The first was Circus of Books, a film by Rachel Mason about her parents Karen and Barry—a “nice Jewish couple,” according to the Netflix description, who for decades owned a large gay bookstore on Santa Monica Boulevard in California. In a scant 92 minutes, the film covers an incredible amount of ground. It begins by telling a hilarious story about how a heterosexual couple accidentally fell into owning this store—which, yes, sold novels, greeting cards, and pride stickers, but mostly sold sex toys, poppers, and porn. It’s funny listening to a middle-aged heterosexual Jewish mother blithely recite ribald and profane titles of adult films with no more feeling than if she were reciting her grocery list. And the interviews, featuring the occasional celebrity (e.g., Larry Flynt, Jeff Stryker, Alaska, née Thunderf**k) add some spice. Tangentially, the film also gives insight into how important the gay bookstore was to the LGBTQ community—and yes, I use the past
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tense on purpose, as the internet has wrought havoc on all bookstores, gay or straight, large or small. Watching Circus of Books gives the audience time to ruminate on our disappearing landmarks. Moreover, the film reminds us how hard the 1980s were for LGBTQ folks, how conservative politicians and churches have always made life more difficult for us, how important our allies are, and how even our allies can find themselves hanging on to vestiges of heterosexism at the least opportune times. The experience is fascinating, heartwarming, tragic, and hilarious—much like life itself.
It’s funny listening to a middle-aged heterosexual Jewish mother blithely recite ribald and profane titles of adult films with no more feeling than if she were reciting her grocery list. Decidedly sweeter, but with an even greater epic sweep, is A Secret Love, a film by Chris Bolan about his greataunt Terry Donahue and her longtime partner, Pat Herschel. Filmed over five years, from 2013 to 2018, the story reaches back to the Great Depression, as old photographs and narration by Terry and Pat tell of their hardscrabble childhoods in Saskatchewan, how they found themselves in Chicago (Terry was a member of the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League, made famous by the Penny Marshall film A
League of Their Own), met there, fell in love, and built a life together. Both Canadian immigrants, they never went to lesbian bars, and instead built a close-knit group of gay friends, never telling their families or co-workers they were more than good friends. Coming out after being together for 65 years was fraught (it worked out a bit better for Terry than for Pat)—but no sooner had they triumphed over homophobia, from both within and without, than they were besieged by another, more predictable foe: getting older. What I loved about A Secret Love was the juxtaposition of these tales of courage, true love, and grit with the more realistic, mundane squabbles that married life brings. While they’re truly and undeniably soul mates, the truth is that Terry and Pat don’t always see eye to eye—specifically, Pat wants to get married to her lover of over six decades while Terry seems hesitant. Terry also recognizes the impracticality of living on their own as their health steadily declines while Pat finds it much more difficult to sacrifice her home and her freedom. In the end, of course, somebody wins and somebody goes along, and while I won’t tell you exactly what happens, I’ll simply state that if you don’t have to dab your eyes at some point, you have no soul. Stay safe, everyone. Wear your masks, try a new recipe now and then, and stay indoors if you can. And if you find yourself missing out on “real life” now and then, remember—sometimes, real life can be awfully entertaining. ▼ Eric Peterson is a writer and teacher. He co-hosts a podcast about old movies—visit rewindpod.com to learn more. Circus of Books and A Secret Love are both available to view on Netflix.
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At Melissa’s B&B, 36 Delaware Ave...............................................302-227-7504 Atlantic Sands Hotel, Boardwalk & Baltimore Ave.........................302-227-2511 Atlantis Inn, 154 Rehoboth Ave.....................................................302-227-9446 Breakers Hotel, 105 2nd St & Baltimore Ave.................................302-227-6688 Canalside Inn, 34 6th St.................................................................866-412-2625 Rehoboth Guest House, 40 Maryland Ave.....................................302-227-4117 Sea ‘n Stars Guest Suites, 44 Delaware Ave.................................302-226-2742 Summer Place Hotel, 1st St & Olive Ave........................................302-226-0766 The Shore Inn, 37239 Rehoboth Ave Ext.......................................302-227-8487
LEWES FOOD & DRINK Go Brit, 18388 Coastal Hwy...........................................................302-644-2250 Matt’s Fish Camp, 34401 Tenley Ct...............................................302-644-2267
OTHER AREA FOOD & DRINK Bluecoast Seafood, 1111 Hwy One, Bethany................................302-539-7111 Catch 54, 54 Madison Ave, Fenwick..............................................302-436-8600 Matt’s Fish Camp, 28635 Coastal Hwy, Bethany...........................302-539-2267
SERVICES AT THE BEACH REHOBOTH RETAIL SHOPS Atlantic Jewelry, 313 S. Boardwalk...............................................302-226-0675 Browseabout Books, 133 Rehoboth Ave.......................................302-226-2665 Gallery 50, 50 Wilmington Ave......................................................302-227-2050 New Wave Spas, 20660 Coastal Hwy............................................302-227-8484 Ocean Boulevard Furniture, 19803 Hebron Rd.............................302-645-2626 One Day At A Time Gifts, 46-B Baltimore Ave................................302-212-5632 Shademakers, 33 Baltimore Ave....................................................302-226-2222 Unfinished Business, Rt. 1 behind Panera Bread..........................302-645-8700
REHOBOTH FOOD & DRINK 1776 Steakhouse, Midway Shopping Center................................302-645-9355 Back Porch Café, 59 Rehoboth Ave...............................................302-227-3674 Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave........................................................302-227-6515 Café Azafran, 18 Baltimore Ave.....................................................302-227-8100 Café Papillon, Penny Lane Mall......................................................302-227-7568 Diego’s Bar Nightclub, 37298 Rehoboth Ave................................302-227-0818 Dos Locos, 208 Rehoboth Ave............................................. 302-227-3353 Go Fish, 24 Rehoboth Ave..............................................................302-226-1044 Goolee’s Grille, 11 South 1st St.....................................................302-227-7653 Iguana Grill, 52 Baltimore Ave.......................................................302-727-5273 Just In Thyme, 38163 Robinsons Dr..............................................302-227-3100 Lori’s Café, 39 Baltimore Ave.........................................................302-226-3066 Loves Liquors, LLC, 305c Rehoboth Ave........................................302-227-6966 Lupo Italian Kitchen, 247 Rehoboth Ave.......................................302-226-2240 Palate Bistro, 19266 Coastal Hwy.................................................302-249-8489 Penny Lane Liquors, 42 Rehoboth Ave..........................................302-567-5245 Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-226-1139 Rigby’s, 404 Rehoboth Ave............................................................302-227-6080 Shorebreak Lodge, 10 Wilmington Ave.........................................302-227-1007 The Pines, 56 Baltimore Avenue....................................................302-567-2726 The Pond, First & Rehoboth Ave....................................................302-227-2234
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Bell Rock Capital, 19606 Coastal Hwy..........................................302-227-7608 Community Pride Financial............................................................302-227-2939 County Bank, 19927 Shuttle Rd.......................................... 302-226-9800 Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley.........................................................302-644-6620
FLORISTS
Windsor’s Florist, 20326 Coastal Hwy...........................................302-227-9481
FUNERAL SERVICES
Parsell Funeral Homes & Crematorium................................ 302-645-9520
HAIR SALONS/TATTOO & PIERCING
Beach Cuts, 214 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-226-ROBB Gregory Meyers Hair Studio, 20245 Bay Vista Rd & Rt 1..............302-727-5331 Stephan & Co Salon & Spa, 19266 Coastal Hwy................... 302-260-9478
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AIDS Delaware – Kent & Sussex Counties.....................................302-226-3519 AIDS Delaware – New Castle County............................................302-652-6776 AIDS Hotline – Delaware statewide...............................................800-422-0429 Brandywine Urology Consultants...................................................302-824-7039 Beebe Healthcare, 26744 J.J. Williams Hwy.................................302-645-3300 CAMPsafe AIDS education & prevention program of CAMP Rehoboth........................................................................302-227-5620
INSURANCE
Eric Blondin, State Farm...................................................... 302-644-3276 George Bunting, State Farm................................................ 302-227-3891 Jeanine O’Donnell, State Farm............................................ 302-645-7283
LEGAL/ACCOUNTING/TRUST SERVICES
Lawson Firm, 402 Rehoboth Ave...................................................302-226-3700 Steven Falcone CPA, Taxes & Planning..........................................302-644-8634
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Midway Fitness & Racquetball, Midway Center.............................302-645-0407 One Spirit Massage, 169 Rehoboth Ave........................................302-226-3552 Rehoboth Massage/Alignment.......................................................302-727-8428
PET RETAIL
Critter Beach, 156 Rehoboth Ave..................................................302-226-2690 Pet Portraits by Monique................................................................717-650-4626
PET SERVICES
Brandywine Valley SPCA, 22918 Dupont Blvd, G’twn.......... 302-856-6361 Delaware Humane Association, 18675 Coastal Hwy........... 302-200-7159 Parsell Pet Crematorium, 16961 Kings Hwy, Lewes............ 302-645-7445
REAL ESTATE
Allen Jarmon, RE/MAX, 317 Rehoboth Ave...................................302-227-4800 Bill Peiffer, Patterson Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy....................302-703-6987 Chris Beagle, Berkshire Hathaway, 37230 Rehoboth Ave............302-227-6101 Debbie Reed Team, 319 Rehoboth Ave.........................................800-263-5648 Donna Whiteside, Berkshire Hathaway, 16712 Kings Hwy...........302-381-4871 Eric Atkins, Patterson-Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy...................302-727-1456 Hugh Fuller, Realtor........................................................................302-745-1866 John Black, Patterson Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy...................302-703-6987 Lana Warfield, Berkshire Hathaway, 37230 Rehoboth Ave...........302-227-6101 Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, 16698 Kings Hwy....................... 302-645-6664 Lingo Realty, 246 Rehoboth Ave....................................................302-227-3883 McGuiness Group, 246 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-227-3883 Randy Mason/Shirley Kalvinsky, Lingo Realty................................302-227-3883 Sea Bova Associates, 20250 Coastal Hwy........................... 302-227-1222 Troy Roberts, Mann & Sons, 414 Rehoboth Ave............................302-228-7422
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Accent On Travel, 37156 Rehoboth Ave.............................. 302-278-6100 CHEER Transportation (age 50+)....................................................302-856-4909 ITN Southern Delaware (age 60+ or disabled)...............................302-448-8486 Jolly Trolley Shuttle from Rehoboth Ave & Boardwalk...................302-644-0400 Olivia Travel...........................................................800-631-6277 ext. 696
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LGBTQ+ YA Column Transitioning For this month’s LGBTQ+ Young Adult (YA) column we meet Edward (El) Alban, a student at Sussex Central High School. Edward is currently the president of the Sussex Central Gender & Sexuality Alliance (GSA) and plans to attend Maryland Institute College of Art.
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BY EDWARD (EL) ALBAN
s a transgender male (Female I am currently debating on changing to Male ) I struggle to feel like my name before I graduate. This is I am recognized as the man I mainly so that I will have my actual name am. Within my school, I am only on my certificate and not my current out to a few. I feel like I have the right to legal name. I have been debating be out, however, I am on doing this for a afraid of the potential while, not wanting to bullying. I don’t think it have to out myself. I I have to be safe, will get physical but the know that changing but even then, I blatant homophobia and my name legally will transphobia I have heard definitely have my do not want to be make me uncomfortable teachers question why misgendered. to be out fully. I also a male name is given struggle to feel accepted to someone who is within certain communi“female,” however, I feel ties, knowing some girls and men would like I am prepared to show them who I not date me only because “I’m not a real am. I have to be safe, but even then, I man.” do not want to be misgendered. I have So far, I have gotten positive been using gender neutral nicknames feedback and support from people for a while, finding that it helps a little. At that I know, making me feel happy and least I know that most of the teachers I loved. However, I know that it will be have or will possibly have are inclusive. difficult to come out to the I sometimes think about the whole school. I have heard inclusivity of the LGBTQ community, too. some homophobic and I worry that some people will not accept transphobic comments in me knowing that I am trans. Thinking the halls and I have heard ahead to the future, I also wonder how stories from other people I would be seen in clubs and such. of the words they heard. I pass only about 30 percent of the This past summer I time (I know that will probably change was doing a program after surgeries and testosterone), but I where it was okay for constantly wonder if a gay man or even me to be out. This was a straight woman would date me, even mainly due to the fact though I’m trans. that the program was Since I’ve come out, I have only really at an art school, but dated people who were bisexual asking I felt included and questions about how they felt about validated. I was given trans people. the option to dorm The current world is more inclusive with other men and than it used to be, however, I feel like was asked about my we live in a new world with an older pronouns outright. mindset. The mindset of most people Even so, I remember has not changed too much. Of course, one instance where there are outliers, but I just want to be I was in class treated like any other young man. ▼ and the teacher misgendered me and did not correct the person even though I had been out since the beginning of the program.
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Dining In
BY ERIC WAHL
It’s Picnic Time Again
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emorial Day is the unofficial beginning of summer, especially around these parts. It usually signals bustling beaches, noisy nights, and portable picnics. This year will be different, though. Our world has been turned upside down and our future is unchartered. However, one of those signals can be our link to some normalcy…the unabashed picnic. We may have to forego large gatherings this year, but we can still make all the great dishes we remember fondly. Actually, picnics can be had any time throughout the year. My family used to have June-in-January picnics fireside. We made fried chicken, corn on the cob, pickled eggs and red beets, and our favorite, Hunky Potato Salad. Growing up, we always had this dish at our summer family get-togethers. Only recently did I discover that the term Hunky referred to the Slavik immigrants in my heritage. The term was considered an ethnic slur, but our family seemed to have made it their own, throwing away the negative connotations. It sounds a lot like what our LGTBQ family does as well—turning a negative into a positive and reclaiming our pride. This potato salad is best after it sits and the flavors meld together. Since there is no mayonnaise, it is a great dish for picnics as it can sit at room temperature without fear of spoiling.
Hunky Potato Salad INGREDIENTS 3 lb Yukon Gold potatoes, peeled, halved, and sliced about ¼ inch slices
We may have to forego large gatherings this year, but we can still make all the great picnic dishes we remember fondly. Flavored vinegars and oils are the hot new thing in recent years. Staying at home since March, I have found myself dabbling in new things that I have always been curious about. I made my own chive-flavored vinegar recently and it’s perfect for this recipe. The chives even came from my patio garden where I also have tarragon, mint, and thyme growing. Potato salad is the favorite side dish for any picnic. There’s always enough to feed an army and every family has its own spin. Even though this summer will be different, prepare the food which reminds us of better times. Enjoy! ▼ Eric W. Wahl is The Cook and the Gardener on Facebook.
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1 medium sweet onion, peeled, halved, and sliced thin ½ cup vegetable oil ¼ cup vinegar (white distilled, cider, or favorite flavored is fine) plus more for drizzling 1 tablespoon water 1 tsp kosher salt and ½ tsp cracked black pepper, more to taste DIRECTIONS Boil potatoes until tender but not falling apart. Drain potatoes well and while still warm, drizzle with about 1 tablespoon vinegar. Because the potatoes are warm, they really soak up the flavor of the vinegar. Make vinaigrette with oil, vinegar, water, salt, and pepper. This is completely to taste and some may want more vinegar for a sharper bite, or more salt or more pepper. In a large bowl, mix vinaigrette with onions and add potatoes; combine well, being careful not to mash the potatoes. Taste and add additional seasoning or oil/ vinegar as needed.
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Want to be close to the beach, but don’t want to live in a “fish bowl”? Here’s your chance to own a 7 year young home approx. 2 miles to the beach and east of Rt One backing to protected woodlands! This perimeter home in Grande at Canal Pointe offers 3-4 BR, 2.5 baths all on one level! This well-kept home offers a contemporary open floor plan with 10 ft. ceilings, tiled floors, raised hearth stone gas fireplace and wooded views, not views of your neighbors in their yard! Split bedroom floor plan, with a spacious master BR that overlooks woods as well. Den/4th BR gives you flexibility, easy to add a closet! Unique to this home is half bath that sellers added, as well as “basement” potential w/ full height crawl space. Nice sized rear deck with room for expansion or a patio. Community offers 2 pools and work-out rooms, basketball and tennis. Reasonable HOA fee includes grass cutting, trash removal, snow plowing and common area maintenance. Act fast, homes backing to the woods don’t come on the market in this community very often! $690,000
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You’ve Always Belonged Here . . .
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WE REMEMBER
Michael Edward Chateauneuf
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ichael Edward Chateauneuf, 77, of Rehoboth Beach and Washington, DC, passed away at his home overlooking Silver Lake on April 22, 2020. Mike was born in Buffalo, New York, son of the late Edward and Norma Thursack Chateauneuf. He grew up in Batavia, New York, graduating from Notre Dame High School. He received his master’s degree from Syracuse University, School of Architecture. Mike was a commissioned officer in the US Public Health Service. He was an accomplished architect for over 50 years, working with the US Housing and Urban Development Department, HDR, and Burt Hill and Associates. Mike enjoyed travel, biking, swimming, and the beach. He shared dinners and laughs with his many friends, both in Washington and Rehoboth. He loved spending time with his family, and always kept in touch and planned visits whenever he could. Mike was a community resource, a pillar for the sober community, and an inspiration to his many friends and family.
He is survived by his spouse, Christian Rinuncini; siblings Carol Lynn Stevens (Robert) of Hamburg, New York, Richard Chateauneuf (Wanda, deceased) of Charlotte, North Carolina, Marilyn Hickey (David) of Rochester, New York; in-laws Erika Rinuncini and Alberto Ruggeri, Porto Ceresio (Italy). He is also survived by many nieces and nephews, Christopher Stevens (Michelle) of Hamburg, Eric Stevens (Amy) of Norfolk, Virginia, Jennifer Hickey Peets (Brian) of Fairport, New York, Colin Hickey (Emily) of Rochester, and Matteo Ruggeri of Porto Ceresio. A celebration of Mike’s life will be held at a future date when family and friends are able to join together in Rehoboth Beach. Memorial contributions in Mike’s memory can be made to one of the following organizations: the American Cancer Society, https://tinyurl.com/yberopny, the Humane Rescue Alliance, humanerescuealliance. org, Miriam’s Kitchen, miriamskitchen.org/donate, or the Triangle Club, triangleclub.org/join-donate. For online condolences, visit Yasikfh.com, Yasik Funeral Home, Newark. ▼
Roy Rollins
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oy Rollins, a native of Poquoson, Virginia, who split his time between his homes in Rehoboth Beach and Fort Lauderdale, Florida, waged a difficult battle against the coronavirus and passed away in Florida on April 17, 2020. There, he was known as “The Mayor of Sebastian Beach.” Roy was a lifelong member of Trinity United Methodist Church in Poquoson, Virginia. Roy began his career in the floral industry when he was 16 years old, working as a delivery driver. From there, Roy spent many happy years working with Freeman’s Florist in Poquoson. In 1986, Roy became the co-owner of Norfolk Florist and Gifts. He received many awards and accolades throughout his illustrious floral career. Roy retired in 2013, sharing yearly trips with friends to Mexico and Cape Cod, and days on the beach whenever the sun was shining. Whether it was a shared dinner, a trip, or a conversation by the ocean, Roy became a friend to all of those lucky enough to cross his path. He was loved by his family and many friends, and known for his kindness, graciousness, and generous spirit. Letters 44 MAY 22, 2020
Roy was preceded in death by his father, Roy Smith Rollins. He is survived by his loving mother, Virginia Winder Rollins, of Poquoson; brother, Marvin “Bubba” Rollins and fiancé Amanda of Holden Beach, North Carolina; niece Kasey Michelle Rollins and nephew Matthew Taylor Rollins, both of Atlanta, Georgia; sister, Cathy Rollins Losares and husband, Dave; niece Carin Losares Carr and husband, Corey, their sons Cameron and Colton; nephew Christopher David Losares, and Ashley, all of Poquoson. Roy also leaves behind many dear and wonderful friends throughout the country. His final thoughts and how he loved living his life: “Life was Gay and Great! Filled with Love, Friends and Flowers! The summers in Rehoboth and the winters in Florida, I DID IT ALL and I DID IT MY WAY!” A celebration of Roy’s life will be planned on the beach in Fort Lauderdale in the future. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be sent to Camp Rehoboth, Access Aids Care, or the Poquoson Volunteer Fire Department. ▼
JULY 3, 1953—MAY 6, 2020
Remembering Allen Cuff BY NIKI NICHOLSON
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y darling colleague and friend, Allen Cuff, died suddenly May 6 from complications of diabetes. The news of Allen’s death was worse than anything I could imagine. When Salvatore Seeley, our boss at CAMP Rehoboth called me, he said, “I have some sad news Niki, Allen has passed away.” I did not want to believe this as I said out loud, “Please do not tell me that! Please!” I was shaken to my core and it felt like my heart had fallen out of my chest! The sadness took me over knowing that my sweet and precious Allen, a constant light and source of happiness in my life, would never again be crossing my earthly path. I went home and paced the floors to try to deal with how shaken and emotionally fragile I felt knowing I would never see, laugh with, or talk to Allen again. Allen was larger than life, a doer of good, a beautiful man whose heart was full of love and compassion for everyone he knew. Allen was a big man, gentle in his ways. I loved how he cared about equality and justice, and the way he listened to what people said. He always answered with the most beautiful responses, full of tenderness and logic. He showed clients he truly understood exactly where they were coming from. You either have this ability or you do not and Allen surely had it. Allen was one of the most amazing human beings I have ever met. The sweetness and laughter in my memories of Allen will be as my right arm. I will lean on them as I try to cope with not having him around anymore. We worked together over three years, sharing so many things. We called ourselves the Three Musketeers— Allen, me, and Jerry Filbin, providing HIV testing and counseling in Sussex County. Allen’s niece, Torrie Cuff, called me after he passed and we spoke about Allen, how much we loved him
and how shocked we are that he is gone. Allen enjoyed visiting his brother Bruce’s home for Thanksgiving and Christmas in Lansdale, Pennsylvania. Allen has another niece, Brittany Cuff, who also was close to him. Allen had the most amazing understanding of how to work an iPhone I have ever seen! He loved movies and music, played trivia on a team in Rehoboth Beach, and had a blast hanging out in the evenings with his buddies like Sharon Kanter and all the rest of them. They are all devasted to learn of Allen’s passing. I remember that Allen and I were at a health fair at a hotel in Rehoboth and we set up our HIV testing table and booth with bowls of things we would give out free to people who inquired about a test. Well, there were quite a lot of older visitors at the health fair that day and one lady came up to our table and said to her friend, “Oh, Doris, come over here they are giving out candies!” She asked for some candies and I had to tell her that the brightly colored wrapped items were, in fact, condoms for a male to use for safe sexual practices. This lovely lady looked quite surprised and walked away not knowing just what to say. Allen and I exchanged a priceless glance and I’ll never forget the incident. I know I speak for all of us at CAMP Rehoboth Community Center when I say that losing Allen as part of our staff will make everything different. Allen Cuff had dignity and integrity. He was a private person in many ways. But when he showed up for work, he always had a smile on his face and you never thought he had a worry in this world. Allen’s spirit will live inside of me always. GOD REST YOUR SOUL. His body will be taken back to be cremated at DeBaptiste Funeral Home near where his family lives. All condolences can be sent to his brother, Bruce Cuff, at 716 Park Road, Lansdale, Pennsylvania 19946.
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Keep Calm & Carry Out
BY MICHAEL GILLES
Saving Rehoboth One Meal at a Time
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need toilet paper. Badly. Maybe not as much as some other grocery store staples (Cherry Garcia ice cream, halfprice chocolate Easter Bunnies, huge bags of Tootsie Rolls), but badly enough. The problem, as you all most certainly know, is that no one has toilet paper. No one. Not Amazon, not Walmart, especially not grocery stores. I even checked out the Staples website, since what could be more of a staple than tp? Nada. So, what to do? Well, normally, I would laugh at anyone using “restaurant” and “toilet paper” in the same sentence, but hear me out. You can get pure gold on a roll, yes, at Purple Parrot Grill on Rehoboth Avenue. It’s only one roll, mind you, and you have to buy a meal with it. But it’s toilet paper! Thank you, Purple Parrot!!! This hilarious advertising ploy is just one way local restaurants are battling the coronavirus curse. Humor certainly helps in these hard times. So does a willingness to adapt to the new environment. Phrases becoming standard during the pandemic are “no-contact online ordering” and “curbside delivery.” Embracing online technology and safe delivery is an opportunity to keep both the food staff and the patrons safer. While all open restaurants have switched their focus to carry-out, many feature curbside delivery, where customers stay in their cars, pop the trunk or open a back door, while orders are brought to them—making the restaurant “experience” safer for all. Local delivery is also an option. Route 1 stalwarts 1776 Steakhouse and Just In Thyme provide delivery, as do intown popular spots like Purple Parrot. Many restaurants are maintaining a semblance of normalcy by offering full menu selections; others have limited menus focusing on crowd favorites or announcing daily and weekly specials like in pre-pandemic days. And importantly, carry-out beverage goodies like wine and beer are offered by some restaurants. Warning: you must
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wait until you get home to drink them! Our restaurateurs are finding ways to cope with the new world. Lori Kline, owner of Lori’s Café in the CAMP Rehoboth courtyard, says that the hardest part of social distancing is that she can’t hug her customers. On the other hand, she has learned things about her computer that she couldn’t have dreamed of four months ago. In addition to Lori’s Café’s variety of meals and by-the-pound servings, the café has dealt with the slowdown in business (40 percent in April alone) by offering fresh produce and chicken ready for the oven or grill—to help save customers an extra trip outside the home.
And importantly, carry-out beverage goodies like wine and beer are offered by some restaurants. Warning: you must wait until you get home to drink them! Other restaurants making carry-out available are Palate and Café Azafran. And, restaurants are also giving back to the community. Eleven of SoDel Concepts’ 12 restaurants (including Lupo Italian Kitchen, Thompson Island Brewery Company, Crust & Craft Wood Fired Pizza, and Bluecoast Seafood Grill in Rehoboth) are offering carry-out plus online ordering/payment and curbside delivery, and there’s more. During the pandemic, SoDel Concepts continues to prepare meals for more than 250 homebound seniors in the Meals on Wheels Lewes-
Rehoboth program. Scott Kammerer, president of SoDel Concepts, says “People are staying at home during the state of emergency and, as a result, seniors in our communities are vulnerable. Neighbors may not check on them as much as in the past, and family can’t stop by to connect. The Meals-onWheels program ensures that they’re getting balanced meals.” SoDel cooks and assembles two meals to deliver to each client, making it more than 500 nutritious meals prepared each day. Another SoDel restaurant, Thompson Island Brewing Company, provides another hard-to-find item—of all things, hand sanitizer! Thompson Creek uses high-proof isopropyl alcohol for sanitizing surfaces, and that’s a primary ingredient in hand sanitizer. Certainly, a creative way to show commitment to customers. So, will Lori’s and other local restaurants survive this? Kline offers a resounding “Yes!” for herself. “I have no complaints. I’m just grateful for all we have.” What’s the moral of this story? Simple. If you want the tradition of fine food and fun at lower Delaware restaurants to survive during and after this coronavirus calamity, order a meal from your favorite open-for-carry-out eatery. Be it a crab cake or a spaghetti dinner, you’ll enjoy both the meal and knowing you’ve done your part to embrace normalcy in these abnormal times. Who knows, you may even walk away with a roll of toilet paper! ▼ Michael Gilles is a playwright, actor, and director from Milton, and a regular contributor to Letters from CAMP Rehoboth.
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CommunityNews VOTE411.org Prepares Voters for 2020 Elections Amid Coronavirus How will coronavirus rock the vote? With Delawareans facing shifting polling dates and expanded voting options, a web site offers information to help. VOTE411.org provides an important tool for voters to educate themselves and keep current on developments around the elections. This nonpartisan voter education site, launched by the League of Women Voters of Delaware, offers a one-stop shop resource for candidate information, a voter registration tool, and other information voters can use to safely cast ballots during this time of mandated social distancing.
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The presidential primary, originally scheduled for April 28, has been moved to July 7 and the statewide school board elections, originally scheduled for May 12, have been moved to July 21. Governor John Carney has declared self-quarantine or social distancing to be valid reasons to vote by absentee ballot and voters can apply for an absentee ballot. “The people want to vote,” says Carol Jones, co-president of the League of Women Voters of Delaware. “They want to cast their ballots legally and they do not want
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to put themselves or others at risk. We are grateful that the state is letting them do so this year through absentee voting. And we will continue to advocate for permanently removing barriers to our citizens exercising their right to vote.”
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“The restrictions imposed by the coronavirus could seriously affect voter turnout. This is especially worrisome for the school board elections, which already have extremely low voting rates in Delaware” adds Kim Wells, who manages the VOTE411 site. “Voters need as many options as possible to cast their ballots, and they need to learn about the candidates ahead of time. Informed voters are the cornerstone of a working democratic republic.” VOTE411 gives voters simple tools that they can access online to stay informed on the status of the elections and navigate the voting process before election day. The League of Women Voters is a nonpartisan political organization that encourages informed and active participation in government, works to increase understanding of major public policy issues, and influences public policy through education and advocacy. ▼
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artist SPOTLIGHT Portrait of the Artist, Caroline Huff BY DOUG YETTER
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he inability to create art as a community has brought our community of artists together in remarkable ways. Visual artists are creating daily works of art, and musicians continue to provide entertainment through the internet. This inspired me to learn more about one of the incredible visual artists in our CAMP Rehoboth community, Caroline Huff. A fine artist, with a national reputation for both her paintings and her teaching history, Caroline is a supporter of CAMP Rehoboth and has made generous donations of her
“My camera is my sketch book, but my paintings are entirely invented.”
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paintings to our fundraisers. Caroline attended Virginia Commonwealth University and received her Master of Arts from American University. Her work has appeared in galleries from New York City to Beverly Hills, the Baltimore Museum of Art, the Corcoran Gallery, the Smithsonian, and in numerous private and corporate collections throughout the world. She taught at American University and Prince George's Community College (also chair of the art department) and is a respected juror for exhibitions. Her paintings and prints continue
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to reflect a deep interest in the Greek islands as well as scenes of Spain, Italy, Portugal, France, the southwest US and the Chesapeake Bay country. She describes the essence of her compositions as “in the tradition of American realism but exhibiting abstract shapes and structure...a mixture of reality, memories, and dreams.” Light is the common denominator for her work, and she has explored the light of near and distant lands—as stimulus for color, structure for design, and how light defines images and establishes mood. Huff states, “I have attempted to capture moments in the changing light of timeless settings—old boats at rest on the Chesapeake, the treeless beauty of a Greek island, the strange shapes of gondolas bobbing in the shimmering reflections of Venice, ancient doors in silent places implying old mysteries, solitary figures contemplating the sea.” She continued, “Someone said, ‘The eye loves something new,’ and I have sought to sustain the fresh visual surprises found in ancient places.” As I explored her website (carolinehuff.com) I noticed three elements in virtually every piece— water, boats, and young adults. I inquired as to her inspirations: “I have always loved water, the way light changes on it, and its many moods— from the calm of Monet’s water to the energy and risk of Winslow Homer. I
enjoy painting all kinds of boats, their interesting shapes in relationship to water…the reflections, the opacity or transparency, and the various bodies of water—oceans, harbors, the canals of Venice, the marshlands of Rehoboth. I also love painting people and water—a street musician by the Seine, Greek fishermen on their boats, people quietly contemplating the sea as they have for centuries—timeless moments I do not tire of painting.” I mentioned that many of her paintings were of Greek islands. “I visited Greece almost every summer for 30 years. I would try a ‘new’ island—Santorini, Skiathos, Paros—but always end in Mykonos. I also adore Venice, Paris, and Rehoboth Beach, which was why I moved here. For the water of the bay, the marshes, and the spirit of the community and its vital creative environment.” I asked how she approached composition, and she answered, “My camera is my sketch book, but my paintings are entirely invented. I use information from photos to ‘make up’ much of the painting. I may use children from one, a boat from another and, not liking the location of either, invent another place. Though my paintings are based on reality, I think in terms of abstract composition, and, for many years painted in a variety of abstract styles. Teaching American art history turned me to figurative painting which has been my signature style
for many years now. Over the years I’ve learned to let the painting itself take over. What first? I shall begin to enunciate this dark area. Where to next? The edge of this shape in the corner. These light shapes create a passage through the painting as underlying structure. Matisse said every color, every shape, every line affects every other color, shape, or line. I agree.” “Finally,” I queried, “is there one word for your work?” Her response was, “‘Quietude’ is a word I like to think describes my work. I feel it may particularly describe the contemplative figures I paint. They are not about ‘loneliness’ but about ‘aloneness’.” Wise words in this unsettling time! ▼ Doug is the Artistic and Musical Director for CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, Director of Music Ministries at Epworth UMC, and co-founder and Artistic Director emeritus of the Clear Space Theater Company. Contact Doug at dougyetter@gmail.com if you want to add your events to the calendar. Check out CAMP Arts on our website at camprehoboth.com for links to all the listed theatres, galleries and museums This program is supported, in part, by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on www.DelawareScene.com.
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by Terri Schlichenmeyer
BOOKED SOLID The Heart: Frida Kahlo in Paris
came to Mexico to talk with Leon Trotsky, who was living temporarily with Kahlo and her husband, Diego Rivera. The Bretons stayed with the Riveras for several months—long enough for Kahlo to have a brief but playful sexual affair with Jacqueline before the Bretons returned to France. Petitjean says that there is no way to know exactly how his father met Kahlo, but the first time they slept together "was the day Barcelona fell." They didn't speak the same language but he comforted her as best he could, and she grew to mean a lot to him. Later, he helped her pack up her paintings to return them to Mexico, and she gave him the option of choosing any painting he wanted. He chose The Heart. In a surprisingly charming mixture of fact and fiction, author Marc Petitjean spins a dreamy tale of an artist and a painting that is in itself a mystery. That, the multiple hypotheses, and a lingering unknown make The Heart a captivating tale. Petitjean depicts Paris in the pre-war years in a way that lets readers feel the devil-may-care extravagance of the city's residents living in the shadow of Nazism and looming trouble, giving this book a dark sense of foreboding. He then imagines Kahlo's political leanings and adds to her mystique, giving her a certain cheeky flamboyance and, with passages that seem as if they're viewed through sheer white curtains, he shows us a Kahlo that falls easily in lust and love, but with a blithe sense of detachment. Petitjean hints that his father was more upset about that than was Kahlo, but again—we'll never know for sure. Still, readers that love art, biographies, historical mysteries, and Kahlo in particular will find The Heart to be a stroke of enjoyment.▼
by Marc Petitjean, translated by Adriana Hunter c.2020, Other Press $25.00/$34.00 Canada 208 pages
Every brush stroke must have had meaning. Every color, every shading, every wipe and fingerprint and trowel mark left by the artist became a portrait of metaphor and mystery: what was the artist trying to say? Was it just a painting or, as in The Heart, by Marc Petitjean, was there a story behind it for observers to unravel? Because his father had led a colorful life, Marc Petitjean was surrounded by artwork and objets d'art for most of his childhood. One of those works was a painting that Petitjean understood was important to his father. Later, long after the elder man died, Petitjean learned how important the painting was when a stranger inquired about his father, and the affair he had with Frida Kahlo. Michel Petitjean was just 29 when he met Kahlo; she was 33, and was staying in France at the time, having gone there because André Breton, who'd founded the surrealist movement, had decided on his own that Kahlo was a surrealist painter. Breton told her that he wanted to do an exhibit of her work but when Kahlo arrived in France, she was angered that Breton was unprepared for both her arrival and her show. She'd met Breton when he and his wife, Jacqueline,
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Patti LuPone: A Comeback in Quarantine
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n Ryan Murphy’s Hollywood, a seven-episode Netflix series, LuPone portrays Avis Amberg, the wife of a studio head whose work is relegated to the kitchen. But not for long, thanks to Murphy’s 1940s corrective where power dynamics shift in favor of the underdogs and outsiders in this alternate reality, a fantasy depiction of Tinseltown’s Golden Age reimagined as diverse, inclusive, and unabashedly queer. That LuPone, 71, portrays a grand Hollywood dame and housewife-turned-studio head—in, of course, only the most glam fur-fringed couture—should be no surprise given how she’s been commanding the stage through a variety of extravagant personas for a half-century. In 1979, as Eva Perón, she won her first Tony for Evita; her second win came in 2008, for her portrayal of Rose in Gypsy. On Broadway is where she was throwing back martinis in Stephen Sondheim’s 1970 musical Company, as Joanne, until the pandemic lockdown forced theaters to shut down. Now quarantined in rural Connecticut with her husband, Matthew Johnston, and son Josh, LuPone has been doling out delicious bits on social media. In one video she posted to Twitter, she channeled Norma Desmond in Sunset Boulevard, making a dramatic entrance from her basement steps. When we connect via phone, I tell LuPone that she might actually be happy that, for once, this conversation is occurring between phone lines, not on Zoom. “You’re right,” she says, roaring with laughter. “It really is the Brady Bunch.”
Do you have any more basement videos in the works?
My problem right now is focus and structure. If I don’t do something in the morning, I’m in bed till 4:30 in the afternoon. So my kid—we’ve come up with a couple more. We just have to get down to it. We have to get up in the morning and go, “OK, now we’re gonna do the video.” We have two plans. So we’ll see. The problem, Chris, is it has to be spontaneous. It’s the only way it’s funny. Letters 68 MAY 22, 2020
The day after my birthday when I was so hungover I went, half-asleep, (slurring, drowsy) “Let’s…go…make…a…video, I’m... re—a—dy.” (Laughs.) If it weren’t for COVID, you’d be throwing back martinis on Broadway in Company. So I’m happy to hear you’re still throwing back martinis—or something! Well, last night we had frozen strawberry daiquiris, but that was really the first time, because I was texting with a friend of mine and she said, “Go have a daiquiri,” and I went, “You know what? That sounds like a good idea.” And we seem to have all the fixings for it! So my kid made daiquiris for my husband, himself, and me. Then I had red wine, which wasn’t too smart. What I’m drinking a lot of right now is red wine. And I’m just trying…you know it’s really easy to let yourself go! Have you completely let yourself go? No! No! I’m holding it together. I have to! (Laughs.) Years ago a friend of mine, when he was on unemployment, I said, “What are you doing, Tony?” He said “I’m preparing for my comeback!” So, Chris, I’m prepping my comeback! You made me teary when you recently sang “Anyone Can Whistle” for Stephen Sondheim’s virtual 90th birthday party. Do you like performing virtually? What was difficult about it was the technical aspect. My kid was filming it and I had one AirPod in and I’m going, “I can’t really hear,” and then my kid said, “You’re pitchy,” and I was like, “WHAT DO YOU MEAN I’M PITCHY. I’m NEVER pitchy!” There’s always the fear that, you know, you’re gonna sound like shit. And Stephen’s thanking everybody who partook, and I wrote him back and I said, “The rub is that we all wish we could’ve done better.” You were singing “The Ladies Who Lunch” in Company, which Meryl Streep, Christine Baranski, and Audra McDonald performed during that same birthday celebration. What did you think of their version? (Explodes into a thunderous, dragged out cackle.) When it was over, I went, “I’ll
never be able to sing “Ladies Who Lunch” again!” Yeah? Because they set the bar? No. I don’t think they set the bar—I think they trashed the number! They set the bar for trashing the number? Yeah, exactly! That’s what I think! I mean, I say that with great humor, but I’m not going to be able to sing it without thinking of them doing it. (Laughs.) This is all joke, by the way! This is all humor! Let’s talk about Hollywood. Does it feel good to be part of a project that’s beaming with hopefulness in a time when hope seems harder and harder to find? Yes, yes, yes. And I hope that is translated across the board. It’s hard. It’s really, really hard. I mean, I’m having a hard time. We all are. I’m not unique. And my problem is, I don’t know who to believe anymore. I’m so confused by what everybody’s saying. It’s just…I just…ahh. And you can’t stick your head in the sand because any minute now we’ll be “heil Hitler”-ing (President Trump). So I’m just really confused. I’m confused, I’m lost. Is Hollywood the gayest thing you’ve ever been a part of? Is it? Let me think. Consider that pool party scene—all those naked men, penises hanging out. Yeah! If someone decides to reimagine your life in 70 years, what parts of it would you ask that they keep factually intact and which parts would you allow them to reimagine? All of it! I think they should keep it all factually intact! It’s been a rebellious life. And it’s been interesting. I hope it’s not over—the rebellion part, and the interesting part. No—they don’t have to reimagine anything. It’s been a lot of fun. ▼ Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the LGBTQ wireservice. He has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Strrep, Mariah Carey, and Beyoncé. His work has appeared in the New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ, and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter @ chrisazzopardi
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Allen Jarmon, Realtor.............................................................41
Immanuel Shelter.................................................................. 66
Rehoboth Guest House..........................................................51
Bayberry Flowers.................................................................. 39
Insight Homes .......................................................................31
Rehoboth Massage & Alignment........................................... 49
Beagle Real Estate Group..................................................... 29
Jack Lingo, Real Estate......................................................... 23
Restaurant Take Out..............................................................50
Beebe Healthcare................................................................. 25
Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley.................................................19
Ron’s Repairs......................................................................... 54
Beebe Healthcare Career Opportunities...............................47
Jewish Family Services..........................................................10
Saved Souls Animal Rescue...................................................51
Brandywine Urology Consultants...........................................15
Jolly Trolley........................................................................... 46
Sea Bova Associates, Realtors.............................................. 72
Breakthru Beverage.............................................................. 43
Just In Thyme Restaurant.......................................................13
SoDel Concepts..................................................................... 59
CAMP Rehoboth Annual Premier Sponsors.............................7
Lana Warfield, Realtor........................................................... 42
Springpoint Choice................................................................ 33
CAMP Rehoboth Letters Advertising..................................... 58
Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, Realtors........................................19
State Farm - George Bunting................................................ 49
CAMP Rehoboth Letters Subscription................................... 69
Linda Mazie, Health & Wellness Coach................................. 29
State Farm - Jeanine O’Donnell/Eric Blondin........................ 29
Caroline Huff, Artist................................................................13
Lori’s Café............................................................................. 66
Sundance 2020....................................................................... 9
Cat and Mouse Publishing.................................................... 66
Mark Engberg & Stephanie Brown, Charles Schwab............ 39
The Lawson Firm................................................................... 52
Clear Space Theatre.............................................................. 32
Merr Institute......................................................................... 67
Troy Roberts, Realtor............................................................. 55
Community Pride Financial Advisors..................................... 52
Midway Fitness & Racquetball............................................... 71
True Blue Jazz Festival ......................................................... 35
County Bank.......................................................................... 46
Mirabelle............................................................................... 54
Unfinished Business............................................................... 17
Debbie Reed Team, Realty Group......................................... 49
Palate..................................................................................... 17
Volunteer Opportunities........................................................ 69
Delaware Hospice................................................................. 52
Penny Lane Liquors............................................................... 70
Volunteer Thank You............................................................. 69
Delaware Humane Association .............................................51
Pet Portraits by Monique....................................................... 55
We Remember Allen B. Cuff.................................................. 45
Delaware Pride ..................................................................... 53
PFLAG.................................................................................... 42
Windsor’s Flowers................................................................. 46
Donna Whiteside, Realtor..................................................... 24
Photo Restoration................................................................. 46
Eric Atkins, Realtor.................................................................13
Purple Parrot......................................................................... 27
Letters 70 MAY 22, 2020
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SUNSPOT - Dewey Beach. 2BR/1.5BA condo w/direct views of the ocean. 2nd-floor w/1 assigned parking space. Dues $750/mt. Community laundry & storage. Excellent rental history. $688,000 (142462)
KINGS CREEK CC - Rehoboth. 4BR/3.5BA courtyard-style house w/in-ground pool & guest suite. Outdoor kitchen. EP Henry paver drive & pool deck. Gorgeous interior finishes. Located on 14th green. $975,000 (1001573482)
CEDAR GROVE - Lewes. 2016-built 3BR/2BA 2,100sf on 0.76 acres. Hardwood, granite, gas FP, screen porch, lawn irrigation & more! 4.5 miles to Lewes beach. Low HOA. $549,000 (160186)
EDGEWATER HOUSE Rehoboth Beach. Ocean-front 2-story, 2BR/2BA condo. BRs have pool views. 8’x14’ balcony. Dues avg. $3.1k/qtr. Excellent rental potential. “Turn Key.” $699,900 (149780)
CREEKWOOD - Rehoboth. 2003 2BR/2BA 3rd-floor condo. Atlantic model is 1,144sf w/9’ ceilings, crown molding & screen porch. 4 miles to beach & near State Park trail. $215,000 (156820)
BEACHWOODS I - Lewes. 4BR/2.5BA “Like New”. Hardwood & tile. Granite & SS appliances in kit. Huge 1st-floor master suite. Big deck. 6 miles to Lewes public beach. $385,000 (153560)
PINEY GLADE - Rehoboth. 1991 3BR/1BA singlewide on its own land. Approx. 0.28 acres. Front deck, backyard shed. “As Is.” 4 miles to beach & near State Park trail. $185,000 (158736)
ROUTE 5 - Milton. 0.76-acres. Lot #2 Harbeson Rd near Rust Rd. Valid site eval. or public sewer hook-up. No builder tiein. Cape Henlopen district. Quick access to Rt. 9 & 11 miles to beach. $59,900 (1001565654)
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CAMELOT MEADOWS Rehoboth. 1978 3BR/1.5BA home. Features eat-in kit, LV w/tip-out & Jack-n-Jill half bath. 3.5 miles to beach & close to the pool. $24,900
COLONIAL EAST - Rehoboth. 1980 3BR/2BA home has been nicely remodeled with a chic, cosmopolitan interior. Huge porch. Olympic-size pool. 4 miles to beach. $95,000 (146820) Lot Rent $564/mt.
CAMELOT MEADOWS Rehoboth. 2001 3BR/2BA home is 1,260 sq. ft. Big kitchen adjoins dining area. Handicap ramp. Just 3.5 miles to beach. Community pool. $95,000
(159844) Lot Rent $635/mt.
SILVER VIEW FARM Rehoboth. 2005 3BR/2BA w/split bedroom plan. Eat-in kitchen. Laundry area. Ready today. Pool & just 3 miles to the beach & boardwalk. $59,900
SEA AIR VILLAGE - Rehoboth. 2014 2BR/2BA w/bonus room. Vaulted ceilings. Kitchen adjoins dining area. Split BR plan. Patio. Shed. Pool. 2 miles to boardwalk. $59,999
SILVER VIEW FARM Rehoboth. 1997 3BR/2BA Split BR plan. Vaulted ceilings. Large rear deck. Corner lot. Pool & just 3 miles to boardwalk. $58,500
WEST BAY PARK - Lewes. 2001 3BR/2BA. Open floor plan, plus a sunroom for 1,500sf. Marina community w/pool & more. 10 miles to Rehoboth boardwalk. $78,500
POT-NETS BAYSIDE - Long Neck. 1990 3BR/2BA. Sunroom w/pellet stove. GARAGE. Paradise Grill, pool, beach, golf, marina & more! 15 miles to boardwalk. $99,900 (153246)
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