Letters from CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 30, No. 12

In This Issue

Joe Biden!

Resolute President Tale of Two Clubs

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November 13, 2020 Volume 30, Number 12 camprehoboth.com

inside 4 In Brief 6 CAMP Matters

The Long Goodbye PART 1 MURRAY ARCHIBALD

8 CAMP Out

Living in the Margin of Error FAY JACOBS

10 CAMP News 12 Intentionally Inclusive

Looking on the Bright Side Has Never Been More Important WES COMBS

14 CAMP Rehoboth History Project A Tale of Two Dance Clubs: The Renegade & The Strand JAMES T. SEARS

THIS ISSUE

VOLUME 30, NUMBER 12 • NOVEMBER 13, 2020

52 CAMP Arts

18 Out & Proud

The Uncivil War

DOUG YETTER

STEFANI DEOUL

54 Booked Solid

20 Community News

TMI: My Life in Scandal TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

22 Health & Wellness

56 The Real Dirt

The Mighty and Noble Oak

Thanksgiving in the Time of COVID

ERIC WAHL

MARJ SHANNON

66 We Remember

24 CAMP Houses Mad for Mid-Century Modern

Who let the dogs out? David Franco, Samer Alhawamdeh, and Keith Long. See page 44.

26 LGBTQ+ YA

32 Straight Talk

RICH BARNETT

Edward Alban

A Resolute President

40 Historical Headliners

38 Q-Puzzle

ANN APTAKER

DAVID GARRETT

28 It’s My Life The Morning After

MICHAEL THOMAS FORD

The Boys in the Band

30 Out & About

But Is He Gay in Real or Reel Life ERIC PETERSON

Thanks for the Pleasure: Constantine Cavafy

44 CAMPshots

All Tricks and No Treats

48 CAMP Critters Meeko

ON THE COVER Let’s Talk Turkey

50 Dining Out

It’s Curbside and Carry-Out to the Rescue FAY JACOBS

See page 56.

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MISSION STATEMENT AND PURPOSE CAMP Rehoboth is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit community service organization dedicated to creating a positive environment inclusive of all sexual orientations and gender identities in Rehoboth Beach and its related communities. We seek to promote cooperation and understanding among all people as we work to build a safer community with room for all.

We seek to promote community well-being on all levels; to foster the development of community groups; to develop community space; to promote human and civil rights; to work against prejudice and discrimination; to lessen tensions among the community at large; and to help foster the economic growth of the area. We work toward these ends through activities such as the following:

Fundraising for other organizations,

such as AIDS service organizations, gay and lesbian community organizations, recycling programs, environmental projects, literacy training, and other ventures for the general betterment of the community.

Networking resources and information

by publishing a newsletter, and functioning as an alternative tourist bureau and information center.

Promoting artistic expressions and creative thinking,

and giving aid to artists and craftspeople with an emphasis on the works of lesbians and gay men.

Education and outreach to the larger community,

including sensitivity training seminars, and printed materials to promote positive images of gay and lesbian people and others.

Promoting political awareness to build safe and inclusive community

through voter information, education, and registration; and analysis of issues and candidates.

PRESIDENT Chris Beagle VICE PRESIDENT Leslie Sinclair SECRETARY Glen Pruitt TREASURER Natalie Moss, CPA AT-LARGE DIRECTORS Jane Blue, Wesley Combs, Mike DeFlavia, Max Dick, Linda Gregory Jack Morrison, Tara Sheldon, Kathy Wiz EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR David Mariner HEALTH & WELLNESS PROGRAM DIRECTOR Salvatore Seeley DEVELOPMENT DIRECTOR Anita Broccolino

CAMP REHOBOTH 37 Baltimore Avenue, Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 tel 302-227-5620 | fax 302-227-5604 email editor@camprehoboth.com | www.camprehoboth.com

The Way I See It

by CAMP Rehoboth Executive Director, David Mariner

WHAT A YEAR IT HAS BEEN! It’s hard to believe, but my first year at CAMP Rehoboth has come and gone, and what a year it has been! Like just about everybody’s 2020, nothing went as expected. I am so proud of everyone here at CAMP Rehoboth for working hard to find our path forward when many of our carefully laid plans for things like Women’s FEST, Sundance, and other large gatherings had to be set aside. But we kept in contact through Zoom and social media and learned a lot.

The approaching holiday season always puts me in the mood to reflect on the past year and start planning for the future.

REFLECTING ON OUR PAST There are some wonderful reflections on our past in this issue of Letters. CAMP Rehoboth has a rich and meaningful history. In this issue, Murray Archibald dives into the Letters archives and shares some of his past reflections. And in Looking Back, Fay Jacobs shares a 2007 interview with the one and only John Waters.

On November 20 we will gather to reflect on the lives lost to anti-transgender violence. Find out more about the planned, carefully socially-distanced Transgender Day of Remembrance in this issue.

On December 1, we will once again gather to reflect on those we’ve lost to HIV/AIDS. World AIDS Day will look different than the events we’ve had in the past. One thing that will not change, however, is reading the names of those we’ve lost. Find out how you can add names that are meaningful to you to the list. See page 58 Finally, we have an amazing, if challenging, past year to reflect on. CAMP Rehoboth was honored to receive the 2020 Organization of the Year award from NAMI Delaware. Learn more about this and other exciting news about our Health & Wellness Programs in CAMP News on page 10.

CHARTING OUR FUTURE As we plan for the year ahead, there is so much to look forward to. Delaware made history on Election Day with three openly LGBTQ candidates elected to the Delaware State Legislature.

Eric Morrison is the first openly LGBTQ candidate elected to the Delaware State House. Marie Pinkney is the first openly lesbian African-American in the Delaware General Assembly. And Sarah McBride is the nation's first-ever transgender state senator. For the first time, Delaware will have its own LGBTQ Caucus and all of us at CAMP Rehoboth stand ready to support their work.

We had a great Zoom call from CAMP Rehoboth with Representative Morrison and Senator McBride the day after the election. It’s available on our Facebook page if you want to see it. I hope it kicks off a lot of interaction between our organization and the legislature in Dover on some critical issues.

Of course, as we look to the year ahead, there is still much uncertainty. We simply don’t know if or when things will be closer to normal. Nevertheless, we are planning, even if that means having a plan A, a plan B, and possibly a plan C. We have been lucky to find so many creative ways to stay connected with and engage our CAMP Rehoboth family, and that will continue. As Wes Combs says in his column, the path forward may continue to be bumpy, however, “Our ability to focus on what we can control instead of what we cannot will allow each of us to thrive.”

Here’s to reflecting on our past and building a bright future for our community! Let’s thrive together! And Happy Thanksgiving. Even in 2020, we can give thanks for all we have.▼

CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. is tax-exempt under section 501(c)(3) of the United States Internal Revenue Code. Contributions to CAMP Rehoboth are considered charitable contributions for federal income tax purposes and may be deducted to the fullest extent of the law.

A copy of our exemption document is available for public inspection.

NOVEMBER 13, 2020

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Delaware’s Joe Biden Is President-Elect!

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t’s been called! On November 7, 2020, Delaware’s Joe Biden was declared President-elect of the United States. Biden achieved an electoral count of a least 274. Just 270 electoral votes were needed to win the election. Kamala Harris is Vice-President-elect in an historic win as the first woman and first person of color to hold the office of vice-president.

There will be recounts, lawsuits, much rhetoric, and more to come, but Biden and Harris have unseated the incumbent Trump-Pence administration. ▼

Rainbow Wave Splashes Over Delaware

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t’s been called the Rainbow Wave: nearly 850 lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBTQ) candidates nationwide running for public elected offices. And on Tuesday, November 3, 2020, the wave made it to Delaware.

Historic wins by three newly-elected Delaware legislators are a part of that wave. Delaware Senator Sarah McBride is now the first transgender elected official to a state senate in the country. Senator Marie Pinkney is the first Black, openly lesbian legislator in the state, and Representative Eric Morrison is the first openly gay state legislator.

CAMP Rehoboth celebrates these victories and hosted a joyous Zoom conversation with McBride and Morrison the day after the election.

Just after she voted in the primary election, Sarah McBride said, “I’ve never voted for someone like me before.”

“And we, at CAMP Rehoboth, are thrilled the time arrived that she could.” exclaimed David Mariner, Executive Director of CAMP Rehoboth in Delaware.” ▼ CAMP REHOBOTH COURTYARD

Stop by the Handmade Market

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riday evening November 13 is the third CAMP Rehoboth Handmade Market in the CAMP Courtyard.

Beginning at 5 p.m. and continuing until 8 p.m. the Market offers the wares of local artisans in a safe and socially distanced manner.

The first two Market nights were a huge success and this one promises even more hand-made art, crafts, jewelry, and surprises. Come check it out and do some early holiday shopping. ▼ Letters 4 NOVEMBER 13, 2020

Groundbreaking Children’s Book Hits the Shelves

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ative Delawareans and mother-and-daughter trans activist team DeShanna and Trinity Neal have written a revolutionary children’s book.

My Rainbow tells the powerful and true story of Trinity, a Black, transgender girl with autism, longing for hair that matches her gender expression. Her mother, DeShanna, hears her concerns, and channels her love and support for her daughter into finding a creative solution.

The story echoes the Neals’ broader lived experience. DeShanna’s determination to support her transgender daughter has led her to speak before the Delaware Senate, to challenge Medicaid for Trinity’s medical care, and now to share their story of unconditional love and support in a groundbreaking and beautifully written and illustrated children’s book. ▼

Lucie Blue Tremblay (Virtually) Returns to CAMP Rehoboth

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n conjunction with Breaking the Sound Barrier—a traveling exhibit celebrating the Women's Music Movement from the 1970s to the 1990s that will be on display at CAMP Rehoboth in November— this month's Virtual Open Mic will welcome a short, featured performance by women's music pioneer Lucie Blue Tremblay.

At the Virtual Open Mic on Friday, November 20, Lucie will perform a 30-minute set at 6 p.m. to kick things off, then others are welcome to perform. Audience members may watch via Facebook Live on CAMP Rehoboth's Facebook page, and those wanting to perform should join via Zoom: http:// bit.ly/CAMPvirtualopenmic. ▼

SPEAKOut

Looking Back – OCTOBER 2007

John Waters Dishes with Letters For the 10th anniversary of the Rehoboth Beach Film Festival, the Film Society has pulled off a coup. They got writer/director John Waters, who opened the first film festival in 1998, back again to kick off the 2007 edition. In the interim, of course, Waters has become quite the man of the hour, with his film Hairspray having been turned into the Broadway musical.

We got the chance to talk to John Waters by phone this week and ask him some things about his recent successes.

Letters: Welcome back! It’s been about 10 years since you kicked off the very first Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival.

JW: Was that 10 years ago already? Those decades really fly by...really? Ten years?

Letters: Did you yourself ever go to the Buddy Dean Show, or was that too mainstream for you even then?

JW: No, we thought it was cool. I did go, twice. Maybe people in Towson (Editor’s note: a Baltimore suburb) thought they wouldn’t be caught dead going on the show, but in my neighborhood we thought it was cool. I went two times, when the show went on location one time it was at the Timonium fairgrounds. I was asked to leave because I was doing the only dance, it was dirty, that wasn’t allowed. I went to the Buddy Dean reunion years ago and that’s where I got the idea for Hairspray.

You know, I gave it a happy ending, with the integration. The real show was shut down because of racial problems. In real life sometimes the white kids would sneak into the Negro Days, but the show never integrated.

Letters: When we first heard them talk about Negro Day in the film, it sounded so wrong, so like something we would never say.

JW: That was the respectful term back then, the way the liberals talked. Of course, people used to say a lot worse but we really gave the movie the happy ending.

Letters: How did you wind up with the cameo as the Flasher in the movie?

JW: Simple. They offered it to me and how could I turn down the only sexual thing in the whole movie...well, maybe there were a few other things, but I enjoyed doing that scene, right there in the beginning of the movie. Of course, I didn’t know what the movie would be like when it was finished, but I had a good feeling about it.

Letters: Are there any taboos you are still aching to break on film?

JW: No, not really. I just like to make people laugh over things that make them nervous.

Letters: You mean like wearing white shoes after Labor Day like Patty Hearst did in Serial Mom? JW: I’m really conservative about that. I feel strongly about fashion crimes: you can’t wear velvet before Thanksgiving, no patent leather shoes before Easter, that kind of thing. Tube tops and headbands are terrible fashion crimes.

Letters: Have you been to Rehoboth other than the festivals?

Dear CAMP Rehoboth, October not only marked leaf peeping, spooky season, and all things pumpkin, but more importantly it was LGBTQ+ history month.

With prominent days such as National Coming Out Day, Spirit Day, and International Pronouns Day, October meant a lot to the LGBTQ+ community. At Boston Beer (and Dogfish), a lot of our coworkers were unaware of how prominent this month is for other coworkers, drinkers, and communities.

Our mission for October at Boston Beer was to not only support our brand’s authentic commitment around National Coming Out Day, but also to create impactful programming to engage and educate our coworkers.

For that reason, author, humorist, activist, and all-round amazing human, Fay Jacobs, came instantly to our minds as someone who could shed light on LGTBQ+ history for us. We held a Zoom program over lunch, where Fay came in and gave a 40-minute presentation of some key LGBTQ+ milestones followed by a 20-minute Q&A. We were completely honored to host Fay, and to thank her for her time, we wanted to make a contribution to CAMP Rehoboth in her honor and to help continue her impact.

We are extremely grateful for Fay’s participation with us and hope you all had a happy LGBTQ+ history month!

Gabe Colon-Sciabarrasi Cause Marketing & Communications Specialist Boston Beer Company

Send letters to the editor, 300 words or fewer, to editor@camprehoboth.com

JW: Well, no. But when I was 16 I lived under the boardwalk in Ocean City. ▼ NOVEMBER 13, 2020

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CAMP Matters

The Long Goodbye PART 1

BY MURRAY ARCHIBALD

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his 30th Anniversary year of CAMP Rehoboth would have been a much more celebratory affair had it not been for COVID-19. An understatement for sure, and one that could be modified slightly to apply to practically anything planned for 2020.

Having survived all of those 30 years in a relatively sane state of mind, reaching “escape velocity” from the organization I helped build and nurture has been a slow process. Nowadays, my attention is focused on future projects, and I’m excited to be back in my studio and immersed in creating a path forward for myself.

I will come back to that in PART 2, in the December issue of Letters.

Even without all that was originally planned for CAMP Rehoboth’s 30th Anniversary celebration, 2020 had been a year of review for me. With the exception of Sundance and some photo and Letters from CAMP Rehoboth work, my attention has been more focused on archives and history than on current operations.

After all, my life is embedded in the fabric of CAMP Rehoboth—and its words and images.

The CAMP Rehoboth website first became operational in 1997. After numerous facelifts over the decades, that early information, though still largely there, is not in great shape. Still, the site remains the best source of archive materials for us.

I took some time to look back at some of my early writing.

MARCH 11, 2005 ⊲ CAMP Matters

“Today is a Sunday afternoon, and Kathy [Weir], Steve [Elkins] and I are in the CAMP Rehoboth office working on this issue of Letters. A few minutes ago, we had lunch together and in the course of our conversation I told them that I was trying to make a conscious effort this year to look for help in some of the CAMP Rehoboth areas that have become my personal responsibility. I even put a note to that effect in my Outlook Tasks Letters 6 NOVEMBER 13, 2020

list. “Look for help in everything,” it reads.

Several times over the past couple of weeks I have started to delete that note, deeming it a silly waste of space, but each time I held back because of some gut feeling that the simple statement contained something important for me to focus upon. Kathy and Steve, by the way, nodded at my comments and continued eating their pizza, looking at me with a sort of automatic yeah-sure-that’s-a-goodidea expression on their faces.”

MAY 21, 1999 ⊲ Summer Love 1999 (or deep in the heart of CAMP)

“CAMP Rehoboth grew out of the summer.

It grew out of the hearts of people who met in this special place and understood that here was fertile ground, here was a good place for positive, affirming creativity, here was a place we could call home. Here was a place where the vision of the rainbow could be nurtured and loved. Indeed, we do live in tumultuous times, in times of change. Homophobia is rampant throughout our society, and the closet culture that it breeds is an open wound within the body of humanity.

CAMP Rehoboth grew out of a desire to heal that wound—to “Create A More Positive” world.”

JULY 30, 1999 ⊲ Gay Uncles and Auntie Mame

“From the time I was a young boy I had a great love for the theater—I guess my gay “genes” were always a snug fit….

While I was in the fourth grade I was cast as the young Patrick Dennis in a community theater production of the wonderful play, Auntie Mame. The play ran for two weeks with performances every night, and I loved dragging myself to school every morning with just a touch of eyeliner lingering purposefully around my eyes—just enough to let all my classmates know how I was spending my very sophisticated and “adult” evenings. Oddly enough I was never persecuted for it. Perhaps my queer innocence gave me a certain boldness of the same type that drag

queens are able to use to their benefit when placed in a hostile environment.

My point in all this was the tremendous effect that the character of Auntie Mame was to have on the rest of my life. Because of my fourth-grade experience I have always loved that glorious story of how one woman’s outrageous zest for life was passed on to her nephew—and all those who came in contact with her.

In the musical version, the words ‘open a new window, open a new door, travel a new highway that’s never been tried before,’ become an anthem to anyone seeking to encourage creativity and individualism.”

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JULY 28, 2000 ⊲ The Roots of CAMP: Our First Decade

“Ten years ago, we were a handful of people who fell in love with the idea that our community needed some kind of organizing, positive force around which to rally. Even then it was about heart—maybe I should say especially then it was about heart. In the beginning, it’s always about heart. The trick is to keep the heart alive in the ensuing years, even in the face of the trials and tribulations that are a part of the life of all young organizations.

From the first chapter in the story of CAMP Rehoboth, we began to create the verbiage that would become the defining language of CAMP Rehoboth: Creating A More Positive, Room for All, “safe and inclusive communities…”

APRIL 6, 2018 ⊲ The Way I See It (Following Steve’s death on March 15)

“From the first chapter in the story of CAMP Rehoboth, we began to create the verbiage that would become the defining language of CAMP Rehoboth: Creating A More Positive, Room for All, “safe and inclusive communities” and “Rehoboth is a family town, but families come in all sizes, shapes, and orientations.” At some point during that first decade, I remember suggesting to Steve that he change the stories he was telling to keep things new and interesting. He refused, instinctively knowing that only by telling our stories again and again would they become embedded in the foundation of our organization.

A quick glance at all the news stories that came out in the wake of Steve’s death show how well his instinct served us over the years. His stories and his language are all still here—as is his presence, and the influence he had on CAMP Rehoboth and on all of us.”

The story of CAMP Rehoboth continues. So does mine—but not on the same page. Join me next time for The Long Goodbye PART 2. ▼ Murray Archibald is an artist and CAMP Rehoboth co-founder. Email Murray at murray@camprehoboth.com

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NOVEMBER 13, 2020

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CAMP Out Fay’s Rehoboth Journal

BY FAY JACOBS

Living in the Margin of Error

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’m sitting here at press time, nauseously optimistic, hoping that Joe Biden will be our next president. The presidency has not been decided yet, but Joe Biden has a razor thin lead—along with the promise of a cascade of lawsuits, and fully half the country hating the other half.

Is the margin of error my error? For the life of me I cannot understand how 50 percent of Americans still support Trump. I’m sad, angry, and baffled. As for the pollsters, “You’re fired!” if you’ll excuse the expression.

It’s ironic that it was election eve 2016 when I was putting my book Fried and Convicted together.

I was certain that the last essay would be written immediately after the election, congratulating Hillary and joyously heading into a new and exciting era.

Shit happens. And on that bleak morning after, none of us envisioned exactly how much shit would actually happen in the next almost-four years.

Back then, knowing I could not end Fried and Convicted with an essay that had me figuratively slitting my wrists, I held the book back a couple of months to include a few lighter stories to soften the blow.

But for those of us watching the dumpster fire that was the Trump administration, the blows did not stop.

Consequently, these last three years of essays were often on the gnashing of teeth spectrum, but oddly some pretty entertaining and wonderful stuff happened too.

Enough, that my publishers felt I should conclude the 26-year history of my LGBTQ political and social life in Rehoboth with one more “frying” book.

So, I will.

Meanwhile, folks still ask, “What’s with the frying thing?” It was another margin of error. I named my 2004 collection As I Lay Frying, a super-silly literary pun from a 1996 essay I wrote as I lay on the Gordon’s Pond beach, slathered in sunscreen and giddy to be amid hundreds of lesbians splayed on the sand. I was thrilled I’d be published and certain the book would be a local one-off flash in the pan with a funny name.

Writers plan and the universe laughs. While it was good to hear the laughter, it prompted

But wait! It’s just been called!

Joe Biden will be our next US president!

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somebody to say “You should name the next book Fried & True.” Next book?

Well, I was still writing for Letters, with essays piling up, gay rights progress being made in Delaware, and activism lighting up our hometown.

Over two wonderful decades, three more collections followed—For Frying Out Loud, Time Fries, and Fried and Convicted.

I’m proud to say that as a series, the books chart Rehoboth life through three Delaware governors, the rise of a Speaker of the House, and CAMP Rehoboth’s brilliant success in becoming not just an LGBTQ community center, but truly the heart of the community. There were years of volunteer strategy sessions, testimony, letter-writing, and hard-fought legislative success—from a simple anti-discrimination bill to civil unions, marriage equality, and transgender protections. It took the work of many and proved to be a truly thrilling and satisfying effort.

Will we now start the slide backwards? Only time (and the Supremes) will tell.

So, here’s the scoop. The title of my final collection is inspired by the Jersey Boys’ hit Big Girls Don’t Cry—although this big girl shed many a tear over the last almost-four years of the Trump administration.

Big Girls Don’t Fry (out in late 2021) will end with this column you are reading now, and one more to come in December. It’s been a really good fight and a pretty magical quarter-century here in Delaware for our LGBTQ community. And a lot of spectacular fun, too. I’m honored to have witnessed it all and participated in much.

But wait! It’s just been called! Joe Biden will be our next US president. The relief I feel is awesome and overwhelming. This writer has no words except, “Thank you, Joe Biden.” And I can avoid the angst of putting a book to bed on an unhappy note.

Whew!

Go, Joe! Go, Delaware! Go CAMP Rehoboth! I love you all.▼ Fay Jacobs is an award-winning author of five, soon to be six, published memoirs of her essays from Letters and Delaware Beach Life. Her books are available at Browseabout Books and wherever you get your reading material.

NOVEMBER 13, 2020

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CAMP News

BY ANITA BROCCOLINO

CAMP Rehoboth Health and Wellness Program Wins Organization of the Year, Accolades, and Funding

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AMP Rehoboth received multiple awards of distinction in recent weeks, including a top tribute, a large donation, and grant support.

The first award was presented by National Alliance on Mental Illness in Delaware (NAMI-DE).

“NAMI Delaware is excited to honor CAMP Rehoboth as our 2020 Organization of the Year. CAMP Rehoboth brings important programming to Sussex County, and is a strong partner with NAMI Delaware and many other organizations,” said Amada Thompson, NAMI-DE Director of Advancement. “They were chosen for their dedication to improving the mental health of those they serve, and for their continued support of NAMI Delaware’s event, Hope on the Boardwalk, each fall.”

Sal Seeley, CAMP Rehoboth Director of Health & Wellness, accepted the award during the NAMI-DE 2020 Inspiring Hope Conference held virtually in October.

Also received in October were two monetary awards in support of CAMP Rehoboth’s programming. The CAMP Rehoboth Tobacco grant proposal, submitted to the American Lung Association

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(ALA), received funding for programs to increase quitting and quit attempts among Delawareans.

CAMP Rehoboth’s THRIVE youth program was part of the grant and will adopt the ALA’s new Vape-Free Schools Initiative, the “Get Your Head Out of the Cloud” youth vaping Awareness Campaign and the Not-On-Tobacco (N-O-T) vaping tobacco cessation programs.

These initiatives encourage LGBTQ and other students to stop vaping if they have already started, and to prevent others from ever taking up a tobacco habit.

A third award was presented to CAMP Rehoboth in large part due to the work of Seeley and Barbara Antlitz, the CAMP Rehoboth THRIVE Youth Program Coordinator. Laura Hutchison, a board member of the Herb Block Foundation, made the recommendation for CAMP Rehoboth to be awarded the substantial donation.

“I like being able to support CAMP Rehoboth's work with young people,” Hutchison said, “especially in this time of social distancing and remote learning, where young LGBTQ+ people are lacking some of the support they'd typically receive from peers and caring adults in the education system.”

Barbara Antlitz and Sal Seeley hold Herb Block Foundation check donated in support of the THRIVE Youth Program.

“Unexpected funds such as these, said Antlitz, “are what allows us to produce the essential programming for these youth at this critical juncture of their lives, but also enhances the subsequent and more impactful support we can provide for even more youth.”

CAMP Rehoboth Board of Directors President Chris Beagle, said, “We could not be more pleased that the hard work of staff and volunteers is being recognized along with the value of our programs to improve the lives of those who live in and around Sussex County.” ▼

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Intentionally Inclusive

BY WESLEY COMBS

Looking on the Bright Side Has Never Been More Important

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et’s face it, there are plenty of reasons to focus on what is wrong with the world. Not only did the election season further polarize our nation, we are also living through a pandemic with no clear end in sight. Some have sought refuge by commiserating with like-minded people on social media, while others have consumed as much media as possible to stay informed and plan for another winter full of uncertainty.

I am here to say, STOP THE MADNESS. In the words of Peter Finch’s character Howard Beale in the 1976 film Network, “I want all of you to get up out of your chairs. I want you to get up right now and go to the window, open it, and stick your head out, and yell: I'M AS MAD AS HELL, AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE!” Easier said than done. One skill we have all strengthened in the last eight months is our ability to focus on the insanity all around us. It is no wonder why we have eaten more, drank more, and exercised less for a whole host of reasons. Serendipitously for me, my decision to become certified as an executive coach last October quite possibly saved my life.

Because of challenges life has thrown my way, I have tended to look at the glass half empty. When my father passed away unexpectedly when I was 12, my mother shared with me how much money he left us. At the time it did not sound like much and once I was old enough to know what was needed to feed, clothe, and put a roof over our heads, it was a miracle we did not become homeless.

From that day forward, I craved stability and security.

I am not sharing this to garner sympathy but to provide some context.

I became trained to expect the worst and question whether positive outcomes were achievable or deserved. I happened to be a competitive swimmer in high school, which I attributed to Letters 12 NOVEMBER 13, 2020

“something I happened to be good at.”

Public speaking was another thing that came naturally but again, I never gave myself credit for developing a highly sought-after skill.

Having said that, the challenges I experienced in life forced me to develop coping and survival skills. My fear of the unknown made me question the status quo and do my due diligence before making decisions. Like it or not, I knew what could happen if you did not know what options existed if an outcome failed to materialize. Those who know me well will be quick to point out I want things done a certain way or there could be hell to pay. My husband actually coined this term to describe this annoying habit: managing the world (MTW).

Having said that, the challenges I experienced in life forced me to develop coping and survival skills.

A silver lining to my obsessive behavior is my ability to serve as a thoughtful mentor to my nieces and nephews, as well as to countless others seeking advice about work and life. I also had created a fulfilling and successful career path by recognizing what motivated me and taking roles that aligned with my strengths. Which is why becoming an executive coach felt like a natural extension to my years of experience serving as a consultant.

One of the first things I learned after beginning the Co-Active Training Institute’s program was their approach is based on this premise: “Coaching is

chiefly about discovery, awareness, and choice. It is a way of effectively empowering people to find their own answers, encouraging and supporting them on the path as they continue to make important choices.” In other words, if we make decisions aligned with our values, we will be happier and less stressed.

There actually is science to back up this claim. Research conducted by Christine Porath at Georgetown University has shown that negativity can have toxic effects on our well-being. When people are exposed to negativity or rudeness, it decreases performance because we tend to shut down and cease being helpful to others.

On the flip side, Porath’s findings showed there is a productive way to counter those effects by thriving. “Thriving individuals are growing, developing, and energized rather than feeling stagnated or depleted.” Thrivers are healthier and more resilient when facing stress and are “far less likely to have negativity drag them into distraction or self-doubt.”

Regardless of what happens in the election, the road ahead will continue to be bumpy. Our ability to focus on what we can control instead of what we cannot will allow each of us to thrive. Pay attention to what information you ingest and the people you spend time with to avoid negativity. Try to stay in the moment versus getting hijacked by future fears that may not come to fruition. It just may save your life. ▼ Wesley Combs, a CAMP Rehoboth Board member, is a diversity and inclusion expert, executive coach, and a passionate social justice advocate. He is the founding principal of Combs Advisory Services where he works with clients who share his values of enabling equity, equality, and opportunity in the workplace and the community.

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CAMP REHOBOTH HISTORY PROJECT

BY JAMES T. SEARS, PhD

A Tale of Two DANCE CLUBS THE RENEGADE & THE STRAND

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Above: Wayne Hodge Right: The Renegade

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e stepped out from a Trailways bus, a sole suitcase in hand, and hair, well-past his shoulders, blew with the breeze. The drawn-out ride from DC to his summer destination was not uncomfortable.

From Route 16 to his stop, though, was just minutes as the bus sped through the two lonely stoplights. In 1987, along Highway 1, there were no outlet malls, no chain restaurants, no townhomes—just farmers’ fields and an occasional business.

On the town’s outskirts, along the service road to his left, he spotted Glen Thompson’s pale yellow and brown Renegade.

He remembered first visiting the dance club and restaurant years earlier with DC friends.

They enjoyed its beachy feel, the grand patio, and a dance floor with its low ceiling and “a dryer hose that went around the back of the bar with holes punched through with lights in it. It was wonderful!”

The resort town had awoken from its wintery slumber.

Along Rehoboth Avenue, traditional commercial establishments, some owned by the town’s leaders, were already open: Bob Derrickson’s Carlton’s Apparel and brother Donald’s nearby Sandcastle Motel, the Rehoboth Pharmacy which Gene Nelson had owned since the 1950s, and the office of Realtor Norm Sugrue at Lingo’s, a family name synonymous with Old Rehoboth.

There was the occasional car sporting a “Keep Rehoboth a Family Town” bumper sticker. Its advocates—Rehoboth Beach Homeowners’ Association and most of its band of city commissioners, the Anti-Gay Vigilante Movement, and Mayor Hughes—frustrated as the town’s queer presence was far from vanquished.

The Washington Blade trumpeted Rehoboth as “an irresistible draw for ‘people like us’.” Wilmington’s Morning News, headlining “Rehoboth’s Growing Gay Population,” estimated 15 gay-owned businesses. Columnist Bill Frank asked readers, “Are the gays in Rehoboth Beach troubling you?”

During the six years since Hughes’ infamous showdown about “gay food” at the Blue Moon, other queer-owned or -friendly restaurants like Mano’s, the Palms, Astral Plane, and Sydneys had opened. Baltimore Avenue, once a sleepy side street a block off Rehoboth Avenue, was, by 1987, flourishing.

Flanking “The Avenue” was M-Style, a unisex clothing store owned by Debby Appleby and Beth Shinn, Terry Plowman’s Front Page restaurant, the Camel’s Hump which served Middle Eastern food, and Pat Whittier and Pegi Fuller’s Paper Nautilus B&B. Down the Avenue, a former rooming house and courtyard had been converted into eight specialty shops, ranging from Crysti’s women apparel to Carole and Deborah’s Elephant’s Trunk offering fine crafted toys. Toward Second Street, on the other side of The Avenue, was the Rehoboth Muse, an alleyway of boutique emporia partly owned by commissioner Norman Sugrue. Secrets on the Beach showcased Crazy Shirts of Hawaii in

its window. Its owner—a lesbian like many of these pioneer entrepreneurs— sometimes hosted champagne parties; gay men, on their way to or from the Moon’s infamous happy hour, would sometimes partake. A Baltimore educator who played softball with a mostly lesbian team, she had volunteered for Women: A Journal of Liberation and had been part of the restaurant reviewer team, the Dining Dykes.

She worried about the Aryan Nationtype, t-shirted Anti-Gay Vigilantes, “which scared the crap out of us.” She, too, dreaded the next visit of lumbering “old school” landlord Sugrue, warning her about risqué underwear in the window, or the deceptively diminutive next door homemaker, Bertha Pusey, who sometimes stopped by with coffee along with complaints about the Blue Moon.

Around both the First Street and Second Street corners were other queer businesses such as Splash, owned by Bill Sievert and John Theis, who had

met at San Francisco’s Stud Bar in 1973, Norma Reeves’ Whip Stitch, a lesbianowned clothing store, and the Tijuana Taxi, a funky Mexican joint operated by restauranteurs Victor Pisapia and Joyce Felton. Along Rehoboth Avenue were the End of the Line, showcasing Key West merchandise, Greybeard’s of London, a tobacco and gift shop, owned by gay DC bookstore pioneers, Deacon Maccubbin and Jim Bennett, and, of course, the venerable Back Porch Cafe.

“We were great supporters of other people who were opening up establishments that were a step above,” Joyce says. “Victor and I had the philosophy that more business brings more business.” She remembers “this new feeling of experimentation” but also the darkness. “On the flip side of that there was resistance, resistance, resistance. I give so much credit to these people. They were brave. They were fearless…. They were good friends of ours.” She pauses as a tear comes to her

eye, “We lost some of them to AIDS.” Gays—with hope and despair— smashed or were pushed out of their closets as AIDS emerged. The first local report of a known Rehoboth case appeared in 1983. By the late ‘80s, Sussex County cases had increased but it was yet to be as rampant as New York, Philadelphia, Baltimore, and DC, whose gay residents increasingly vacationed in Rehoboth away from the virus’s daily reminders that “Silence=Death.”

Delaware provided some financial support for assisting persons with AIDS, but it fell upon volunteer efforts, like Sussex County PALS, to provide boots on the ground. Meanwhile, the Wilmington-based Gay and Lesbian Alliance of Delaware (GLAD), along with local activists like Keith Lewis, had to combat legislative efforts of House Speaker Bradford Barnes who advocated mandatory premarital AIDS testing and reinstating the sodomy Continued on page 16

At the end of that summer of ’87 and with the Renegade’s manager leaving, Glen asked Wayne, “Well, do you want to stay?

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statute. Barnes also blasted “gay bars in Rehoboth as ‘East Coast distributors of AIDS’.” Meanwhile, William Oberle, the House Majority leader, demanded the Department of Health investigate businesses permitting homosexual activities. “I see the owners as the real prostitutes in this system,” he demagogued. Thompson, who had opened up the Renegade to GLAD years earlier, responded: “The gay community is ready to fight.”

Meanwhile, the 27-year-old walked down Rehoboth Avenue with suitcase in hand and strolled into the Palms restaurant. His eyes first centered on a giant palm, two ceiling lights beaming downward, situated near a huge Chinese urn with pink flamingos scattered about.

Toward the back was a small dance club and a piano bar with an open-air patio.

One Hawaiian-shirted waiter asked, “Who are you?” Wayne Hodge responded, “I’m the new manager.”

Weeks earlier, Glen Thompson, sitting in his cramped three-desk office above Badlands—one of several DC gay bars he owned—had turned to Wayne: “Do you want to go the beach for the summer?”

Wayne looked up from a spreadsheet.

“To do what?” Thompson—his doberman, Ripper, resting nearby—explained: “I need someone to manage the restaurant The Strand and Surfside Diner

because there’s nobody there. I want someone to watch.”

Wayne had been Glen’s eyes on the ground for two years. In 1985, he had quit his government job to watch over the books of Thompson’s gay business empire. So, when the Palms manager died, Wayne seemed a logical choice. For more than a year he had visited Rehoboth monthly, arriving on Wednesdays and returning the next day. “All of the financials, even for Rehoboth, were done in DC,” explains Wayne. “We’d come down, collect all of the paperwork from the Renegade and the Palms restaurant…and dump everything into a little box computer and bring all of the stuff back.”

Hodge responded to Thompson’s summer invitation: “I’ve worked in restaurants, but I have never managed one before.”

In a calm voice, Glen replied, “Well, you know how to do it. Just go and watch everything and do the accounting to make sure everything is verified.”

As a teenager, Wayne had cooked in Norfolk seafood restaurants while dreaming of government office work and living with Virginia Beach drag queens.

In 1981, his “family” rented a U-Haul and moved to the DC area. He landed a job at the Bureau of Public Debt, calculating non-interest payments for Treasury securities notes. But, after his 9-5 cubicle job,

he worked the DC scene bar-backing, bartending, waiting tables, cooking.

Wayne’s first gig was the Eagle on 9th Street NW where black leather and leather chaps were the de jure dress.

In 1985 he quit his government job to watch over Thompson’s gay business empire.

“I wasn’t really making any money….

I was being your typical southern waiter.

Finally, one of the owners said, ‘You’re in a leather bar! You need to be meaner.’

After that, I’d smack them on the back of the head and say, ‘What do you want to eat?’ I became popular and started making money!”

In 1983, Wayne began working parttime at the P Street Station, at the corner of 22nd Street NW. A month into this job, Hodge remembers first encountering the 40-something Thompson.

“The manager came over and said, ‘Y’all want to quiet down a bit. The owner just came in and he wants one of y’all to wait on him.’…I gave him a check at the end. He liked the fact that I gave him a check. I didn’t just wave it off and serve it to him for free,” Wayne recalls.

According to Hodge, the Palms— which had previously housed McKinley’s restaurant owned by the Harvard-educated local developer Gene Lawson—was opened by Thompson, who recognized the growing niche of Rehoboth’s upscale dining scene.

A reviewer in the Sunday News Journal, prior to Wayne assuming managership, opined that the restaurant’s purple facade “serves as a beacon for the gay community as does the Blue Moon’s bold design over Baltimore Avenue.”

At the end of that summer of ’87 and Continued on page 42

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Out & Proud

BY STEFANI DEOUL

The Uncivil War “Amy Coney Barrett, confirmed. Happy Birthday, @Hillary Clinton!”

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his tweet was the official response of the House Judiciary Committee of the GOP (Grand Old Party), issued shortly after the confirmation of Amy Coney Barrett.

Let that sink in. The House Judiciary could have posted any type of congratulations to ACB, any kind of welcome. This was their moment. Instead they chose ugliness; schoolyard taunts. A demeaning playground skirmish.

This symbolizes to me, in eight scant words, the devolution of our United States of America—a devolution that has resulted in our living through the most Uncivil of Wars.

When history books are written, the first salvo will be recorded as the Descent of the Escalator. “When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending their best…. They’re bringing crime.

They’re rapists.”

And with that speech, we began to bear witness to the Redistricting of the American Map. This time, rather than a North/South split, we have a map which is more checkered, sliced across all lines, including brother v. sister and father v. sons; battles just as ugly as those we thought to be historic and over.

The Scrimmage of the Sexist. A battle one would think would have altered the course of a presidential run.

“I moved on her like a bitch…Grab ’em by the pussy. You can do anything.”

And like that, another line drawn and crossed.

The Weaponry of Choice for this Uncivil War—Twitter, Reddit, Facebook, and programs calling themselves news when they are no more than false prophets.

A Battle Waged Daily, led not by a man who would be king, but rather by Shadow Ops, scrimmaging from the darkness. A sortie here, a sortie there.

Relentless. Pounding. Escalating the drumbeat. The March of the Militias begins, ever onward, until finally, the

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Valley of Violence is reached and breached.

Heather Heyer. Dead in Charlottesville.

She died because some “very fine people” came to town. You know, those same people who have come to towns near you. Towns like that “most dangerous place in America,” Ferguson, Missouri. The caravans of the KKK, the Divisions of the Alt-Right Assault Unit, the campaign now in the open.

This symbolizes to me, in eight scant words, the devolution of our United States of America.

And like all wars, you must pledge your allegiance. You might be “Lyin’ Ted” with an ugly wife, but you smile and suck it up, even though one day your children will know you didn’t defend your wife and family, no, not you. No, you cowered and caved. You, Lyin’ Ted, begged for absolution, demonstrating your fealty with each word you wrote glowing about Trump for Time magazine’s feature on the 100 most influential people of 2018.

Dancing the Dance of the Marionette.

Such must be the fear. For even as they come for your own, you say nothing, you do nothing. John McCain—”He’s not a war hero. He’s a war hero because he was captured. I like people that weren’t… captured.” And like that, the Flag of the Disloyal Crusader is planted.

The March of the Militia continues, entering Michigan, threatening a sitting governor, who becomes the center of a kidnapping attack.

And at this crossroads, a place where we should be able to stand shoulder-toshoulder and declare this has gone too far, there comes a rallying cry, “stand back and stand by.”

And now let’s unleash the Scourge of the “Ks,” seemingly normal adult white women who need to call the police on their Black neighbors for crimes such as “opening their own front door,” “driving their own car,” and of course the extremely dangerous, “bird watching at the park.”

The best part of these “Ks” as a weapon is their stealth, and their unpredictability. They can appear anywhere, seemingly out of nowhere.

They fit right in. You can’t even see one coming.

But nowhere is the destruction and havoc more frightening, more apparent, and more bitter, than the fighting at the Battle of the Masks.

A two-pronged attack, in which the right flank drops scud missiles on science while the other flank (because there is no left—left flanks are fake news) engages in public shaming, calling out and mocking mask wearers.

A quarter million dead and counting. “It is what it is.”

And that is what? Collateral damage?

Acceptable loss?

This can go on and on. By the time you read it, an election will have happened. Sadly, it comes too late to stop the Uncivil War. The question is not can there ever be a victor? The question is when there is a victor, how do we heal?

I don’t know, but I do know we must all look to ourselves and remember the promise of our nation.

There’s an old child’s rhyme. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never harm me. That rhyme is a lie. Words matter. Especially in this, the most Uncivil of Wars. ▼ Stefani Deoul is a television producer and author of the award-winning YA mystery series Sid Rubin Silicon Alley Adventures, with On a LARP, Zero Sum Game, and Say Her Name.

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CommunityNews November 20 Is Transgender Day of Remembrance

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n Friday, November 20, Rehoboth TransLiance, in conjunction with Safe Harbor United Church of Christ (UCC) and the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) of Rehoboth, will hold a short drivein vigil at 7 p.m. at Rehoboth MCC Church, 19369 Plantation Road, in Rehoboth.

Attendees will be able to listen to the event on the radio from the safety and security of their own vehicles.

The Reverend Diane Fisher of MCC will provide a prerecorded prayer and the Reverend Chet Charbagh of UCC will lead the attendees in prayer. There will be a reading of the names of transgender people killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. This is the fourth annual Transgender Day of Remembrance vigil in Rehoboth.

The vigil will feature three young local community leaders, including JayXavier, a 34-year-old black trans man

from Sussex County who currently works with combat veterans. Jay is also a youth mentor to the LGBTQ+ community.

In addition, Mikey Shock, a 19-year-old trans woman from Baltimore, Maryland will speak. She is set to attend the University of Arizona, seeking a master’s degree in Gender and Women’s Studies with a focus on gender, trans, and sexualities studies. The University of Arizona is one of the top universities in the country for transgender studies. She intends to work toward a PhD as a counseling psychologist, primarily with transgender patients and advocates for the trans community.

Also taking part will be Jazminara Aran, a young transgender woman from Seaford. She is attending Delaware Tech, currently working toward a liberal arts degree.

The speakers will talk about what their community looks like, where they found

their community, and what is lacking in support and services in the area.

According to a variety of LGBTQ websites, The Transgender Day of Remembrance raises public awareness of hate crimes against transgender people.

Day of Remembrance publicly mourns and honors the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten.

The Transgender Day of Remembrance was set aside to memorialize those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. The event is held in November to honor Rita Hester, whose murder on November 28, 1998 kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999.

For more information email transliance@gmail.com or visit transliance.com/ or meetup.com/Rehoboth-TransLiance/. ▼

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Musician Mhic McDonagh Translates Emotions to Sound

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hic McDonagh, a queer female musician, has released the global launch of her first EP, GLOW, which is now available on all music platforms at distrokid. com/hyperfollow/mhic/glow.

Mhic or Michela, is from Long Island, NY, and is an activist and advocate for the expanded role and opportunities of marginalized artists in the electronic production and music industry.

McDonagh (@mhic.music) is a 2019 graduate of Boston’s Berklee College of Music and is among the thousands of millennials who lost a day job and was plunged into the chaos of quarantine. In quarantine, she composed much of the music on this first EP recording.

Mhic’s music combines avantgarde, pop, and electronic music to achieve a new sound. A self-proclaimed modern poet electronique, Mhic’s early music influences were a kaleidoscope of classic rock, world, chorale, and experimental, driving her deep love for the poetry of noise.

“I love a weird sound,” she says, fol-

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lowing her mantra, “push buttons until you feel something.”

The two EP-preview singles, “Wait Up” and “Leave It Alone,” received great feedback from Mhic’s growing listener base and left them wanting more. And GLOW, she promises, delivers a whole lot more.

Lyrically, GLOW chronicles Mhic’s journey back to herself as she processes trauma, loss, and change. According to the songwriter, the EP unleashes language for things that are difficult to express, like anxiety, depression, abuse, and social media obsession, connecting to listeners in a deep and visceral way at the most isolated time this country has ever faced.

Mhic says, “GLOW translates emotion to sound. Through the alchemy of sound, layers, and effects on vocals, and a hefty selection of very cool beats, I show listeners what emotions sound like.”

For more information: GLOW is available now on all streaming platforms.

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By Marj Shannon

Thanksgiving in the Time of COVID

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don’t know about you, but I’ve begun looking for more ways to shore myself up as the pandemic wears on and the days become short and cold. By now, we all know the drill with physical precautions. We either adopt them or we don’t; employ them—or not—as we are able or inclined to do.

But what might we do for our spirits?

There are lots of suggestions out there. But given it’s November and Thanksgiving looms large, the “gratitude” approach seemed an obvious choice. I decided to give it a try; to look hard for things for which I am grateful this holiday season.

I had to get past some disappointment first: for years, I’ve hosted Thanksgiving dinner for my family-of-choice; it’s one of my most-loved traditions. But this year, I cancelled the dinner. More than I want to host the family this year, I want to host it for many years yet to come. So, this year we’ll be very cautious; will not assemble at my table.

I did not take this decision lightly; I sat for some time considering my usual array of guests and ruminating on the possibilities. And suddenly discovered a couple of things-that-spark-gratitude.

For one, we’re all still here and well.

That was an important baseline to cheer in a year in which all too many people cannot say the same.

For another, there’s the diversity of the family we’ve assembled over the years. We vary in age, gender, race, socio-economic status, and religion.

We check most of the LGBTQ boxes; there are Allies among us a well.

This little celebration of my usual dinner party’s diversity led me to reflect on just how I’d arrived at a table populated by such a wonderfully varied group of people. Nothing in my community-of-origin—working class, homogeneous, rural Pennsylvania— offered much variety. I didn’t have a Black classmate until I was in junior high; there were no Hispanics or Asians among us; I had only one Jewish classmate until I hit college.

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I looked closer, and realized it was my “micro” surroundings—my own family-of-origin—v. the “macro” of my community that laid the groundwork.

That may have happened more by chance than design. My parents sent all of us to college, though my father’s reasons still grate: “So the boys will

More than I want to host the family this year, I want to host it for many years yet to come. get educated and the girls will find educated husbands.” Yikes! As it happened, we did indeed find those things—but they were “packaged” differently than my parents might have imagined.

I am next-youngest in a family of five siblings; we arrived over the course of 21 years. My eldest brother went off to college when I was three years old; I was just eight when he brought home his “exotic” fiancé: a Nashville socialite. She perched among us, a peacock amidst barn

swallows, exerting her considerable southern charms to make us feel comfortable. Though she had to have felt pretty uncomfortable herself.

There followed a German émigré— just 15 years post-World War II, not all the neighbors greeted him warmly.

But my parents did. Then came a New Jersey Jew, and a Black co-worker who first appeared mere months after the release of Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner?. Then, a Filipino nurse. One or another of us married each one, and the family Thanksgiving dinner table expanded to include them all.

What we gained in diversity we sometimes lacked in constancy. In subsequent years, the table had to further expand to include a second (or third or…eighth) spouse (or live-in or partner). Only my younger brother, who married later in life—marriage equality was a long time coming—managed to stop at one. More people—of course— introduced yet more variation: an heiress; a submariner; a Scandinavian; a Pole. On and on.

Our spousal diversity was bested only by the variation among the progeny: children who are Black or Alaska Native or Hispanic; who are protestant or Catholic or Jewish or “none”; who are gay or straight or trans. All were welcome; all still are, in any of our homes.

This year, my Thanksgiving table will be populated chiefly by memories of guests both recent and long-past.

As I consider the somewhat motley and unlikely assembly, I will remember the line from Emily Dickinson, “The heart wants what it wants.” Apparently, my heart wants variety. I love who I love. And I am deeply grateful for them all. Happy Thanksgiving.▼ Marj Shannon is an epidemiologist and wordsmith who has devoted her life to minutiae. She reports that yes, the devils are in the details.

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Register: https://us02web.zoom.us/ meeting/register/tZ0kdeiurzwvH9Z9f1PAsbAyjbTyA0hDf2zr Dr. Robb Mapou will lead us in a discussion on how we can cope with COVID. Dr. Robb will normalize the experience of anxiety and sadness over the loss of usual activities during the COVID-19 pandemic. Coping strategies, especially as we approach winter, will be discussed. There will be time for questions at the end.

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Having a conversation when couples are both healthy and thriving will make life’s decisions easier for you and your family members once support is needed to live life with continued dignity. Having this conversation will be difficult, yet extremely important. This interactive presentation with Linda Mazie, MEd, Certified Health & Wellness Coach, will enlighten the audience to initiate these conversations with family members and in their own lives. Beginning with resiliency and guided towards empowerment, join Linda and others for this engaging discussion.

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CAMP Houses

BY RICH BARNETT

Mad for Mid-Century Modern

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’m a bit ashamed to admit it took the TV show Mad Men to bring mid-century modern style to my attention.

Rehoboth Beach homeowners Kate and Bunky Markert, on the other hand, were fans of the mid-century aesthetic well before the arrival of Mad Men’s Don Draper.

This couple—she’s the executive director of the Hillwood Estate, Museum, and Gardens in DC and he’s a former member of Rehoboth’s Planning Commission—incorporated their love for the look into their late 1960s-era ranch home in Rehoboth’s Schoolvue neighborhood.

For Kate and Bunky it started more than two decades ago when they lived in Cleveland, Ohio, and met a white-haired nonagenarian gentleman by the name of Viktor Schreckengost. Schreckengost was a distinguished but unsung industrial designer and artist who created and influenced a wide-ranging variety of everyday products. His work extended from toys and bicycles to stoves and lawn furniture to flashlights and dinnerware, starting in the 1930s and continuing through the late 1960s. Often called the “American DaVinci,” Schreckengost inspired generations of designers, including the man who designed the original Ford Mustang automobile, the first inexpensive sports car aimed at the American youth market.

At the time, Kate was involved in a major exhibit of Schreckengost’s work for the Cleveland Museum of Art and quickly became enamored with the designer. He became not only a friend, but also a catalyst for the couple’s burgeoning interest in all things mid-century. In 2006, Schreckengost even spent his 100th birthday with Kate and Bunky here in Rehoboth after receiving the National Medal of Arts from President Bush for his contributions to American Art and Design.

Function and affordability was Schreckengost’s motto.

Clean lines, simple beauty, and a new way of looking at things drove his work. These are the qualities we think of today when we talk about mid-century design. It’s also the aesthetic that pervades Kate and Bunky’s house. “We’re actually a couple of mid-century moderns ourselves,” Bunky tells me. Kate laughs.

But, as I learned in my conversation with them, it’s so true.

The couple purchased their home in 2004 and immediately set about making changes to give it more mid-century style.

“It was a bit dull,” Bunky says, “so we replaced the ubiquitous picture window that most ranchers have with a flat grid window and added some retro teardrop style outdoor lighting. In the kitchen, we added period touches like turquoise tile and a

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stainless-steel island.” As you might expect, the couple set about furnishing the house with mid-century furniture by firms such as Knoll and Herman Miller.

“We’ve also collected pieces by iconic designers—Jorge Hardoy, Warren Platner, George Nelson, Eero Saarinen, Isamo Noguchi, and, of course, Viktor Schreckengost,” Kate points out.

Kate is especially drawn to Schreckengorst’s sculptural tableware decorated with stick figure people and animals.

She shows me her favorite pattern, called “Primitive.” The design, she explains, “is very evocative of historic cave paintings. He designed it to appeal to men, which was avant garde in the mid-1950s.”

After Schreckengost’s death, his wife gave Kate additional pieces to complete a service for eight.

The couple’s biggest project, however, was to open up the back of the house and add a sunroom. They used blonde wood and slate and installed a brick fireplace and floorto-ceiling glass windows to give it a more mid-century flair and to better connect the house to the outdoors and all the mature trees on the their lot. The new room doubled their living area, giving them a marvelous space for entertaining and for setting up “The Grove,” Bunky’s collection of vintage aluminum Christmas trees.

Yes, you heard me right. Nothing says mid-century holiday cheer like a shiny silver aluminum Christmas tree. First produced around 1955, aluminum trees became very popular due to their sleek, artsy, space age look and feel. They were easy to put up, affordable, and re-usable. And the needles never dropped. Because adding strings of lights to these trees was a fire hazard, manufacturers devised a rotating color wheel that sat on the floor next to the tree, projecting a single color or multi colors onto the reflective tree branches.

When I ask why these trees fell out of favor, Bunky explains that tastes changed and manufacturers came up with better looking artificial green trees. Some say the Charlie Brown Christmas TV show which premiered in 1965 also caused Americans to reconsider the true meaning of Christmas.

Artificial was out and authenticity was in.

Bunky, however, was fascinated with these vintage Christmas trees and as his interest grew over the years, so did the collection, which now numbers 15 and includes trees in a mix of sizes, styles, and colors—silver, gold, green, and even pink. Most are Evergleams, a popular brand manufactured by the Aluminum Specialty Company of Manitowac, Wisconsin.

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Acceptance is the Theme for Artist Alban Meet Edward Alban Edward Alban is a 17-year-old high schooler who enjoys making art, reading, and watching cartoons. He is a rising senior at Sussex Central High School and hopes to attend the Maryland Institute College of Art. - Barbara Antlitz

Above: LGBT Youth Acceptance by Edward Alban.

BARBARA ANTLITZ, CAMP REHOBOTH YOUTH COORDINATOR, works with Genders & Sexualities Alliances (GSAs) in middle and high schools in Kent and Sussex Counties, and with other groups supporting LGBTQ+ youth. Barbara can be reached by email at bantlitz@camprehoboth.com.

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It’s My Life

BY MICHAEL THOMAS FORD

The Morning After

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riting this two days before the election, I can’t say for certain what we’ll wake up to on November 4. In 2016, I went to bed thinking that I’d voted for the most qualified person to ever run for the office of president, only to wake up and find that a changeling had been slipped into the crib while I slept. Four years later, I believe the results will be much different, but it’s not over until it’s over. Maybe not even then.

What I do know is that, whoever wins, we will wake up in an America that is broken. And it’s been broken for a long time, even before the 2016 election and the subsequent four years of turmoil revealed it as the divided country it is.

Repeatedly, I hear people saying, “I just want life to get back to normal.” The problem is, “normal” wasn’t very good to begin with. Not for the vast majority of people.

It should be abundantly clear by now that things need to change. Not just in our leadership, but in ourselves. This election cycle has brought me into contact with many, many people who no longer believe (or never believed in the first place) that meaningful change can happen. They’re disillusioned by the two-party system that dominates our political world, by the ease with which the media can spin stories or create them out of thin air, by how so many people can ignore science and facts in favor of lies and their own selfish concerns.

While getting someone into the White House who can undo some of the damage caused by the most recent resident is obviously a huge step forward, it is not a cure-all. Most of us will never be presidents, or congresspeople, or lawmakers. And we cannot put all our trust in those who are, because the very nature of politics means that they are always going to fail us on some level. Instead, we need to take responsibility ourselves and dedicate ourselves to effecting positive change wherever we can.

As we look ahead, I encourage all of us to seek out opportunities to help. We cannot change the world. But we can change our worlds, our little pieces of the universe. And if enough of us do that, then the change will spread out to form connections, growing until it transforms the old normal into something better.

How do we do this? I can’t help but think of the early days of the AIDS crisis, when nobody

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We cannot change the world. But we can change our worlds, our little pieces of the universe.

knew what to do and nobody in power wanted to help. Realizing we were on our own, the LGBTQ community created its own groups devoted to assisting those who were sick, with finding treatments, and with working to pressure those with the resources to help to do so. It took time, and energy, and anger, and way too much patience, but it worked. Those small, local groups formed connections and became bigger groups. Knowledge, experience, information, and resources flowed and gradually produced real change.

As I said, most of us will never run for president. We can, however, join our local school boards, our library committees, our village councils. Many of the decisions that end up affecting us start as small matters—what books to use in classrooms, what rules to apply to library story hours, what rights our teachers have to address social issues, what restrictions to place on the members of our neighborhood HOAs. Too often, we see these things as tedious, unimportant, minor local issues better handled by someone else who isn’t so busy. But change starts locally, and these committees and boards are often where people who want to consolidate power for negative reasons get a foothold. If those of us who want positive change add our voices to these discussions, we can often do far more good than we realize.

If public office of any kind is not your thing, commit yourself to volunteering. I recently signed up for our local Habitat for Humanity group, as affordable housing is a huge issue here in rural Appalachia. Most communities have numerous opportunities for volunteering, and it’s a wonderful way to both create change for people who need it and to help nurture your own understanding of how small things do matter. Volunteer as a mentor at an LGBTQ youth center. Walk dogs at a shelter. Read to or visit seniors at a nursing home.

Most of us are exhausted and frustrated.

Some of us are afraid. But none of us are helpless. Instead of asking, “Why doesn’t someone do something?,” be one of the ones who does it.

Don’t wait for change to come. Be the change.

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Out & About

BY ERIC C. PETERSON

But Is He Gay in Real or Reel Life?

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n late September, when my feeds and timelines were packed with news about the coronavirus, remembrances of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, and anxiety about the upcoming election, a trailer for a new movie started to generate a lot of excitement. Well, excitement might be the wrong word. The comments I saw, even before I hit play, were of the “who’s chopping onions?” variety, with lots of crying emojis.

This welcome distraction is called Supernova, and it’s scheduled for a US release date in January of next year. At first, it appears to be about two men in mid-life driving around England in an RV. Soon, they are revealed to be a gay couple with an easy, familiar banter. Before the trailer is over, we learn that one of them is suffering from early onset dementia, and fears he’ll soon become a burden to his partner.

The film stars Colin Firth and Stanley Tucci.

It looks to be a four-hankie weeper, and many of the folks who crossed paths with me on my socials seemed genuinely excited about the film. That is, when they weren’t sniping with each other about the casting choices. No one disputes that Oscar winner Colin Firth and Oscar nominee Stanley Tucci are gifted actors. I didn’t see a single criticism about their ability to convincingly play gay men; indeed, both have done so in the past to great acclaim (Burlesque, A Single Man, The Devil Wears Prada, Apartment Zero). No, most of the concern centered on the fact that both Firth and Tucci are confirmed heterosexuals off-screen.

One camp lamented that gay actors had not been tapped to play these particular roles. The other had a familiar mantra that “they call it acting for a reason,” insisting that it shouldn’t matter who an actor is in his personal life if he can convincingly play the part. Back and forth they went, each trying to win an argument against an opponent unwilling to bend. Eventually these online volleys petered out as they often do, more from fatigue than anything else, with neither side being moved one way or the other.

Before I continue, I’d like to emphatically state that 1) this trailer made me cry the first three times I watched it, 2) I admire these two actors immensely, and 3) I will certainly see this film. And, I sort of

But this argument isn’t about Stanley Tucci and Colin Firth; it’s about actors who came out and aren’t being considered for good parts.

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wish that they’d cast gay actors in the roles. I will now take your questions.

It’s just acting! Of course, you’re correct. And in a perfect world, the sexual orientation of an actor should have no bearing on the roles they play.

Aha! I win! Not so fast. We don’t yet live in that perfect world. It’s fairly well-documented that as soon as an actor comes out of closet, they forfeit any straight romantic lead they might otherwise have been considered for. And until that is changed, movies like Supernova are the only opportunities out actors have to carry a film.

We should be celebrating that a movie like Supernova even exists. It’s true that 30 years ago, there weren’t any out actors—and that most of the straight and closeted actors in Hollywood would have shied away from gay roles. This is indeed progress. But one step in the right direction doesn’t mean we’ve achieved equity.

But I really like these actors. As do I. But this argument isn’t about Stanley Tucci and Colin Firth; it’s about actors who came out and aren’t being considered for good parts. It’s about actors who won’t come out because they’ve seen what happens to those who do. It’s about ensuring that actors who do come out have vibrant careers— because as important as it is to celebrate our stories on screen, it’s more important to celebrate our out and proud LGBTQ brothers and sisters IRL (in real life).

But Colin Firth and Stanley Tucci are amazing allies. Oh, so you wouldn’t like it if a known homophobe played a gay role? Perhaps it does matter who someone is off-screen?

So how do we fix it? We give amazing out actors like Matt Bomer, Sarah Paulson, Neil Patrick Harris, Ellen Page, and Zachary Quinto opportunities to get the jobs so long denied them. We worry about giving opportunities to the disenfranchised before we bend over backwards to provide “opportunity” to the folks who have always controlled everything.

But I want to see this movie. As do I. I’ll see you there (metaphorically, perhaps, given the pandemic).

At the same time, I’ll wait for the day that an out actor plays an honest-to-goodness straight romantic lead that depends on an audience investing in the love story being told, and I’ll see that movie 10 times. I hope you’ll join me. ▼ Eric Peterson is a writer and teacher. He co-hosts a podcast about old movies—visit rewindpod.com to learn more.

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Straight Talk

BY DAVID GARRETT

Joe Biden: Our Resolute President

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here are few more powerful and prestigious images than that of our US president sitting behind the Resolute Desk in the Oval Office. This site serves as the locus of national and international decision-making for the one person who holds the title of president.

The Resolute Desk was crafted from the timbers of the H.M.S. Resolute, a British Arctic exploration ship. The ship was discovered in Arctic frozen waters in 1855 by American whaler James Buddington. The ship was taken to the Brooklyn Naval Yard for refurbishing and subsequently returned to Great Britain in 1856. Having used English oak wood from the ship, Queen Victoria then presented the desk to President Rutherford B. Hayes in 1880.

Over the last 140 years, numerous presidents made use of the Resolute Desk in various locations in the White House. President John F. Kennedy was the first to use it in the Oval Office, and it has been kept in use there by each and every president since Bill Clinton.

Of all the “scandals” that rocked the Obama administration, none was more egregious than when a picture was released of the president with his feet atop the Resolute Desk. (Well, there was that tan suit scandal as well.) According to his critics, this picture showed how blatantly Obama disrespected his presidential office with his feet on the desk. There were multiple “tsk, tsk, tsks” heard in unison across Washington, DC. Perhaps one day our nation will heal from those turbulent times, electing a president who will lead this nation forth once more in confidence and integrity behind the Resolute Desk, Donald Trump made himself at home behind the Resolute Desk, and all too often as a photo op. In the early months of his administration, he enjoyed signing numerous Executive Orders at the desk, using a wide tip sharpie for his unique signature. According to the Washington Post, Trump has signed 193 Executive Orders as of October 30, Letters 32 NOVEMBER 13, 2020

second only to Reagan, who signed 211 in his first term. More often than not, Trump would sit at the desk, surrounded

by Cabinet members or other persons from various sectors of the country.

Frequently these persons were pictured clapping, reminiscent of Trump’s favorite North Korean leader and his cheering devotees.

This has been a brutal election season. There have been striking differences between the campaign stops of the two candidates. Trump savors the cheers and chants of the in-person rallies. In order to create that environment, people are herded into tight proximity at these events. While it may create the illusion of much larger gatherings, it also puts everyone’s health in jeopardy, mask-less as they are.

The ship was discovered in Arctic frozen waters in 1855

by American whaler James Buddington.

In the last couple weeks before the election, however, Joe Biden and his people gathered in parking lots and in their vehicles. Honking horns formed the “applause” at these venues. Ever mindful of the ravages of the spread of coronavirus, Biden and company have been faithful in wearing masks.

Aside from mask usage, or the lack thereof, the severity of political rhetoric has been exacerbated by the desire of our president to cast false aspersions on Biden. Trump and his minions attempted to create a story involving Joe’s son,

Hunter. Truth has little meaning or value to the Trump campaign. There was no more evidence of this than when he proclaimed to his supporters that “we have rounded the corner” in the fight against COVID-19. All this rhetoric is to convince the country’s voters that he is the better candidate to spend the next four years behind the Resolute Desk.

Newspapers and magazines have cast their endorsements to one candidate or the other. For the first time in the history of their publications, USA Today and the New England Journal of Medicine endorsed Joe Biden for president. The Editorial Board at the Economist wrote that Joe Biden “is a good man who would restore steadiness and civility to the White House. He would thus begin the long, difficult task of putting a fractured country back together again.”

And fractured it is. As supporters of one party drive the highways of our land and create traffic blockades that have become their footprint, the fracturing of this country may only get worse as the days go by. Let us hope that does not come to pass.

Thank heavens Joe Biden will be our new president come January 20, 2021.

We will discover that Joe, with Kamala at his side, is up to the challenge. Not only will Joe fit the Resolute Desk, he will be a Resolute President. He will lead this nation, resolutely, for its diversity, for its unity, for its vision, and its calling to all citizens to build a better country. Let’s go, Joe! ▼ David Garrett is a straight advocate for equality and inclusion. He is also the proud father of an adult trans daughter. Email David Garrett at dlgarrett4rb@gmail.com

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At Melissa’s B&B, 36 Delaware Ave...............................................302-227-7504 Atlantic Sands Hotel, Boardwalk & Baltimore Ave.........................302-227-2511 Atlantis Inn, 154 Rehoboth Ave.....................................................302-227-9446 Breakers Hotel, 105 2nd St & Baltimore Ave.................................302-227-6688 Canalside Inn, 34 6th St.................................................................866-412-2625 Rehoboth Guest House, 40 Maryland Ave.....................................302-227-4117 Sea ‘n Stars Guest Suites, 44 Delaware Ave.................................302-226-2742 Summer Place Hotel, 1st St & Olive Ave........................................302-226-0766 The Shore Inn, 37239 Rehoboth Ave Ext.......................................302-227-8487

LEWES FOOD & DRINK Go Brit, 18388 Coastal Hwy...........................................................302-644-2250 Harbour Waterfront Dining, 134 West Market St...........................302-200-9522 Matt’s Fish Camp, 34401 Tenley Ct...............................................302-644-2267

OTHER AREA FOOD & DRINK Bluecoast Seafood, 1111 Hwy One, Bethany................................302-539-7111 Catch 54, 54 Madison Ave, Fenwick..............................................302-436-8600 Matt’s Fish Camp, 28635 Coastal Hwy, Bethany...........................302-539-2267

SERVICES AT THE BEACH BUILDING/CLEANING/REMODELING/LANDSCAPING

REHOBOTH RETAIL SHOPS Atlantic Jewelry, 313 S. Boardwalk...............................................302-226-0675 Browseabout Books, 133 Rehoboth Ave.......................................302-226-2665 Gallery 50, 50 Wilmington Ave......................................................302-227-2050 New Wave Spas, 20660 Coastal Hwy............................................302-227-8484 Ocean Boulevard Furniture, 19803 Hebron Rd.............................302-645-2626 One Day At A Time Gifts, 46-B Baltimore Ave................................302-212-5632 Unfinished Business, Rt. 1 behind Panera Bread..........................302-645-8700

REHOBOTH FOOD & DRINK 1776 Steakhouse, Midway Shopping Center................................302-645-9355 Back Porch Café, 59 Rehoboth Ave...............................................302-227-3674 Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave........................................................302-227-6515 Café Azafran, 18 Baltimore Ave.....................................................302-227-8100 Café Papillon, Penny Lane Mall......................................................302-227-7568 Diego’s Bar Nightclub, 37298 Rehoboth Ave................................302-227-0818 Dos Locos, 208 Rehoboth Ave............................................. 302-227-3353 Go Fish, 24 Rehoboth Ave..............................................................302-226-1044 Goolee’s Grille, 11 South 1st St.....................................................302-227-7653 Iguana Grill, 52 Baltimore Ave.......................................................302-727-5273 Just In Thyme, 38163 Robinsons Dr..............................................302-227-3100 Lori’s Café, 39 Baltimore Ave.........................................................302-226-3066 Loves Liquors, LLC, 305c Rehoboth Ave........................................302-227-6966 Lupo Italian Kitchen, 247 Rehoboth Ave.......................................302-226-2240 Penny Lane Liquors, 42 Rehoboth Ave..........................................302-567-5245 Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-226-1139 Rigby’s, 404 Rehoboth Ave............................................................302-227-6080 Shorebreak Lodge, 10 Wilmington Ave.........................................302-227-1007 The Pines, 56 Baltimore Avenue....................................................302-567-2726 The Pond, First & Rehoboth Ave....................................................302-227-2234

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A.G. Renovations ...........................................................................302-947-4096 Country Life Homes, 34882 Picnic Basket Ct................................302-231-5001 Randall-Douglas.............................................................................302-245-1439 Ron’s Repairs..................................................................................302-727-3591

CHURCHES/SYNAGOGUES

All Saints’ Episcopal, 18 Olive Ave.................................................302-227-7202 Epworth UMC, 19285 Holland Glade Rd.......................................302-227-7743 Grace of God Lutheran, ELCA, 20689 Shoppes at Long Neck.......302-947-1044 M.C.C. of Rehoboth, 19369 Plantation Rd.....................................302-645-4945 Seaside Jewish Community, 18970 Holland Glade Rd..................302-226-8977 St. Peter’s Episcopal, 2nd & Market Sts, Lewes.............................302-645-8479 Unitarian Universalist, 30486 Lewes-G’Town Hwy........................302-313-5838 Unity of Rehoboth, 98 Rudder Rd, Millsboro.................................717-579-2612 Westminster Presbyterian, 301 King Charles Ave.........................302-227-2109

COMMUNITY RESOURCES

AARP of Delaware (age 50+)..........................................................866-227-7441 ACLU of DE—Lesbian & Gay Civil Rights Project............................302-654-3966 CAMP Rehoboth Chorus—Program of CAMP Rehoboth................302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth—LGBTQ Community Service Org........................302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Families—LGBTQ parents connect......................302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Parents of Transgender & Gender Non-conforming Children............................................302-227-5620 Cape Henlopen Senior Center—Rehoboth (age 50+)....................302-227-2055 CHEER Centers of Sussex County (age 50+)..................................302-515-3040 Delaware Aging & Disability Resource Center...............................800-223-9074 Delaware Human Relations Commission Housing & public accommodation............................................877-544-8626 Delaware Information Line............................................................................2-1-1 Delaware Pride—Community events, annual Pride Festival..........302-265-3020 Delaware Transgender Resources—transdelaware.net, delawarelgbtq@gmail.com Delaware Transgender Support.....................................................302-402-3033

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Christiana Care LGBTQ Health Initiatives.......................................302-733-1227 Delaware HIV Consortium - Statewide..........................................302-654-5471 Delaware Hospice..........................................................................800-838-9800 Delaware Total Foot & Ankle Center.................................... 302-297-8431 National Alliance on Mental Illness of DE (NAMI)...........................302-427-0787 Rehoboth Beach Dental, 19643 Blue Bird Ln....................... 302-226-0300 Steven B. Wright, D.M.D., 18912 J.J. Williams Hwy............. 302-645-6671 The Aesthetic Center......................................................................302-827-2125

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Solution on Page 68 ACROSS 1 Lawman who shot off at O.K. Corral 5 “How queer!”

9 The whole shebang 14 Former Time film critic 15 Denver elevation, roughly 16 Toklas of expats 17 Dry wines for lovemaking?

18 Wings for Julia Morgan 19 Bass formerly of NSYNC 20 Start of a quip about the advantage of masturbation, according to Michael 23 Meryl Streep's Out of ___ 24 Pants dropped 25 ___ generis 28 Like lace with arsenic 30 Beds, with “with” 32 Actress Madeline 36 More of the quip 39 Cager Shaq 41 Shoe store spec 42 Make a pass at 43 He plays Michael in The Boys in the Band 46 M. Butterfly star John 47 Military position 48 Photographer Corinne 50 Dorothy's home st.

51 Sauna bath sites 54 Enjoys orally at a gay bar 59 End of the quip

61 Triangle-shaped peninsula 64 Bus Stop playwright 65 Karen Carpenter, for one 66 Hard woody nut 67 Drumbeat succession 68 Type of job 69 Joltin' Joe 70 Fruity drinks 71 Cleo told them “Bite me!”

DOWN 1 Emma Stone's beard movie 2 “___ Aquarius” 3 Happen again 4 Joe who played gay in JFK 5 City hue in Oz 6 Gold layer 7 ___ once (suddenly) 8 Ferro's The Family of Max ___ 9 Lifeboat actress Bankhead 10 Big name in oil 11 Kind of man, in Oz 12 Jock org. for FSU 13 Jason of Chasing Amy 21 Prefix for system 22 Enjoy some ladyfingers, e.g.

25 Take care of 26 The Jungle novelist Sinclair

27 “What ___ to do?”

29 Lesbian couples in Bambi?

31 Lev Raphael's Little Miss ___ 32 Lollipop cop 33 Drag queen Mann 34 Macho dudes 35 Western wine valley 37 Character for Keanu 38 Where Boy Scouts sleep together 40 Using a Wonder Woman accessory 44 Debtor's car, maybe 45 Scarlett, and others 49 Where to find It. 52 The Seven Samurai director Kurosawa 53 Ecclesiastical gathering 55 Addis ___, Ethiopia 56 Chops down 57 Mapplethorpe's opening size 58 Packs away 59 Byron poem 60 Look up and down 61 McCullers' Ballad of the ___ Care 62 Here, to Colette 63 Marseilles moniker##

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HISTORICAL HEADLINERS

BY ANN APTAKER

Thanks for the Pleasure: Constantine Cavafy

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t this writing, the election has not yet taken place, its outcome unknown. This column will be published after the election, at which time I will either be dancing with joy or struggling to find a way to survive despair.

But the theme of this issue of Letters from CAMP Rehoboth is Thanksgiving, so at this moment of uncertainty, when my sense of hope is ceaselessly nibbled at by fear, finding something to be thankful about provides a way for me to prevent the nibble from becoming a menacing chomp.

There are plenty of people, of course, throughout LGBTQ history who our community can be thankful for: activists who’ve raised their voices and their fists, often risking their lives to improve all of ours. But to be frank, at this time of tumultuous politics and incessant messaging, more noise, no matter how necessary it’s been in the past and remains necessary, is lower on my list of things for which I’m thankful.

What’s at the top of my list is the more beautiful aspect of LGBTQ existence: our creativity.

In this instance, I mean poetry.

Poetry is the spoken music of human experience. At this moment, the music I’m deeply thankful for, the music which brings me into intimacy with intimacy itself, is from the pen and passions of early 20th century Alexandrian Greek poet Constantine Cavafy.

To quote W.H. Auden in his introduction to the 1961 edition of the complete poems, “Cavafy was a homosexual, and his erotic poems make no attempt to conceal that fact.” Auden goes on to say, “One duty of a poem, among others, is to bear witness to the truth.”

Eroticism wasn’t Cavafy’s only poetic truth. Like all great artists, he found truth in other areas of human activity.

He was especially attuned to Classical and Medieval Greek and Middle Eastern history. But his homoerotic poems, written at a time when expressing

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homosexual desires risked social ostracism, loss of employment, and worse, bore down into the intimate truth not just of being alive but the experience of feeling alive.

the shadowed nightlife of the city and its subterranean homosexual culture, Cavafy’s experiences not only exemplified John Keats’ adage “Beauty is truth and truth, beauty,” Cavafy’s experiences enlarged Keats’ adage to include erotic pleasure as truth, truth as erotic pleasure.

Cavafy saw and felt the tender truth of human intimacy equally in the pleasure shared on the dirty mattress of a squalid room or on the satin coverlet of a luxurious bed.

Cavafy absorbed his erotic life as art, as these lines from “Their Beginning,” written in 1921, translated from the Greek

by Rae Dalven, attest: But how the life of the artist has gained.

Tomorrow, the next day, years later, the vigorous verses will be composed that had their beginning there.

Cavafy’s experiences enlarged Keats’ adage to include erotic pleasure as truth, truth as erotic pleasure.

Born in 1863 in Alexandria, Egypt to Greek parents, members of a community dating back to the city’s founding by Alexander the Great in 331 BCE, the Cavafys also lived briefly in England.

The European financial collapse of 1877 brought the Cavafys to hardship, and the family moved back to Alexandria, Egypt. The family moved again, this time to Constantinople (now Istanbul) in 1882, but returned to Alexandria in 1885, where Constantine remained until his death in 1933.

The culture and history of the city’s Greek community nourished the budding poet. But the legacy of Alexandrian Hellenism wasn’t the only nourishment the city offered the young Cavafy. In

The LGBTQ community can rightly boast that we have filled the creative ranks throughout history: in art, literature, music, theater, dance, film, and fashion. We can be thankful for all of our artists, past and present, for they have enriched not only our lives, but everyone’s lives, even the lives of those who seek our belittlement or destruction.

And while I celebrate our ranks of artists and will continue to celebrate them in these columns of LGBTQ champions in our history, I am at this moment especially thankful for Constantine Cavafy. In this time of ugliness and lies (continuing, if the worst comes; remembered as warning if we are joyful after the election), we can find solace and truth in Cavafy’s lust—yes, lust—for lust itself, for the pleasure of human pleasure, the intimacy of intimacy.

Happy Thanksgiving.▼ Ann Aptaker’s series featuring dapper lesbian art thief and smuggler Cantor Gold has won Lambda Literary and Goldie Awards. In addition to writing crime fiction, Ann is an adjunct Professor of art and art history at New York Institute of Technology.

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with the Renegade’s manager leaving, Glen asked Wayne, “Well, do you want to stay?”

“I’m ready to leave DC,” he quickly replied. At that point, Hodge explains, “AIDS had taken most of my friends. Everyone I knew from Norfolk was dead.”

During Wayne's first year at the Renegade, “I had to take care of the motel, clothing store, and a dance club—plus doing the Palms.” Meanwhile, Thompson renovated, raising the dance floor’s roof and adding a second story.

“Strobe lights were just kind of coming into the whole gay bar scene,” he recalls.

“We put in the white-and-black checkered floor—like Staying Alive…. He put a light and sound system mechanism that came through the roof. He had the spin lasers….

We put a large bank of mirrors on one side of the bar. He had a 1969 Spit Fire hanging from the ceiling and a mannequin from the Male Image that we put in there; we would dress him with whatever theme party we were doing.”

According to Wayne, the Palms was also undergoing “a metamorphosis” under his management—carefully overseen

by Glen. The menu changed from “subdued food…with a relative lack of flash,” says Wayne, to Nouveau French cuisine with innovative sauces. Even the grand dame of Rehoboth restauranteurs, Joyce Felton, recommended it to her clientele.

Entertainment, too, changed. In the Palms piano lounge, Rehoboth legend Scotty performed jazz and blues on weekend nights. Lesbian Sunday tea-dances also became popular. As Hodge remembers, “the guys were going to the Blue Moon,” so he advised Glen, “‘we got to figure something else.’ The lesbians just took it over.” It didn’t hurt, of course, that the gorgeous 23-year-old Paige Phillips bartended.

As Wayne assumed managership of the Renegade in the fall of 1987, the opportunity for Joyce and Victor to realize their dream of a New York-style night club in the heart of Rehoboth presented itself.

The duo had been doing business with Bill Larsen, who operated Arctic Ice at the rear of his mammoth Rehoboth Avenue 18,000 square foot building just Letters 42 NOVEMBER 13, 2020

“Everybody talks about the battle between the Strand and the Renegade.

Well, it wasn’t nearly as glamorous as people thought it was.”

steps from the Blue Moon. For decades it housed a popular second floor roller rink above the Rehoboth Lanes. The bowling alley, along with pool tables and pinball games, had stayed open well past midnight with young people briskly moving between there and the Boardwalk’s Silver Dollar Arcade.

In the 1950s, with the approval of Bill’s father and town elders, it had doubled as the Surf Club, where teens danced to bands from DC, Baltimore, and Philadelphia.

Three decades later, with swift town approval, Larsen had transformed the building into Twin Cinemas, placing him in direct competition with the Derrickson’s seven-screen Midway Cinemas on Route 1. “I think there’s room for more theater business,” he confidently told a local

reporter at the time.

Similarly, when Victor and Joyce negotiated lease-to-own terms with an ailing Bill Larsen during the autumn of ‘87, “we never thought we’d actually compete with Glen Thompson because we envisioned our nightclub to be more like a New York Studio 54.”

Wayne, though, sees it differently. “Rehoboth is a very small town. Even though we were outside the town limits, we were Rehoboth. Two dance clubs, even back then, can’t survive in a small town, especially when you’re dealing with summer and weekend business.”

Victor, in turn, argues that “the area was growing. There were a lot of gay people who wouldn’t go to the Renegade.

They didn’t like the vibe there. They didn’t like having to drive out there. They couldn’t drink because they’d have to drive home.”

The political reality, as Hodge points out, was that the town’s leaders “saw Ocean City; they saw Dewey Beach. They wanted none of it…they were never going to allow a bar, much less a gay dance club, in downtown Rehoboth.”

In February 1988, before the Strand’s first permit could be approved, Joyce and Victor found themselves once again in the mayor’s office. Although the mayor was different, the message from Kimber Vought, like his predecessor, John Hughes, was the same: Don’t do it!

And so began what the Washington Post Magazine christened on its cover, “The Battle for Rehoboth.” It was a battleground, though, fought on multiple fronts—not simply pitting gays against straights. “Everybody talks about the battle between the Strand and the Renegade,” Hodge reflects, “Well, it wasn’t nearly as glamorous as people thought it was.” ▼ (Editor’s note: Watch for news of the unglamorous battle in the first issue of Letters for 2021) James Sears is the author of many books on LGBTQ history and culture; his forthcoming book is Beyond the Boardwalk: Queering the History of Rehoboth Beach.

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2)Tyler Townsend, Bob Suppies, Fancie P. Charmington, Jeanne Drake, and Linda Miniscalco at The Pines.

OPPOSITE PAGE 3) Van Williamson, Dean Haemel, Bob Abbott, Manny Tejeda, and Jacob L’riano at Dos Locos. 4) Darryl Ciarlante, Suzanne Krupa, Joanne Glussich, Susan Shollenberger, Deb Bievenour, Staphanie Dalee, Diane Eggleton, Anita Broccolino, and Pauline Bryan at Diego’s. 5) Kerry Hallett, Tara Sheldon, Corey Wheatley, Debbie Woods, Jane Duffy, Sean Hueber, Jane Knause, and Patricia Stiles at CAMP Rehoboth Gallery. 6) Magnolia Applebottom, Roxy Overbrooke, Rob Hazel, and Charles Esham at Blue Moon. 7) Linda Wolfe, Carol Ellinghurst, Jim Kemp, Sarah Gunter, and Jerry Crowley at Jim and Jerry’s Rehoboth Art League Salon. 8) Ricky DiDomenico, Charlie Hayden, Jerry Mosser, and Keith Walker at Rigby’s. 9) Evelyn Maurmeyer, Leslie Sinclair, Muriel Hogan, David Mariner, and Kathy Wiz at Handmade Market at CAMP Rehoboth. 10) Matty Allen, Jamie Romano, Marie Haag, Chris Beagle, Matt Sokolowski, Eric Engelhart, Max Dick, and Ken Haag at Purple Parrot.

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Kate especially likes the pink tree. Bunky favors a classic silver tree decorated with blue balls lit by a rotating blue color wheel. They’ve found their trees at flea markets and on eBay, and they’ve even received them as gifts from friends.

“At first I liked the kitsch of the trees,” Bunky tells me, “but over time I came to see aluminum Christmas trees as an embodiment of a hopeful era…science and the promise of a great future…America as a shining beacon of modernity and progress.”

Personally, I’d never thought about aluminum Christmas trees or mid-century modern style in this light, as symbols of American ingenuity and optimism, and not just as cool-looking products. Maybe this is part of the reason mid-century modern style (and aluminum trees) endures? Food for thought…. What I do know is that it’s an inspiring and much-needed perspective, especially during these uncertain times. I know I’ll never look at a silver Christmas tree in the same way!

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Dining Out

BY FAY JACOBS

It’s Curbside and Carry-Out to the Rescue Pete’s Is Not Just for Cheese Steaks Since this reporter is hesitant to dine indoors during this pandemic, I’ve got some cool curbside pickup and delivery options for readers. Just because we’re home doesn’t mean we cannot savor a part of the restaurant experience.

I admit, I am late to the party at Pete’s Steak Shop on Route One. It’s where Weis is located.

Anybody remember the old days when it was a Food Lion? I lived just behind there in what I called Food Lion Estates. And where Pete’s is now, used to be a Blockbuster Video Store. Ah, memories.

Pete’s has an extensive menu, with its signature (and really good) steak and cheese subs and pizza, but it offers so much more.

Their salads are enormous and fresh. I’ve sampled the antipasto, loaded (not me, the salad) with ham, genoa salami, capicola, provolone, and the works. It’s wonderful. The Greek Salad is brimming with greens, tomatoes, cukes, Kalamata olives, feta, and pita on the side, plus you can add grilled chicken or gyro meat to it. For the gyro salad, the tzatziki sauce is great. Want a salad with rib eye on top? Add it to the Blue Iceberg Salad or the Blue Walnut Prosciutto Salad.

The wings really are jumbo (seriously big chickens) and the zucchini sticks are delicious. They have big burgers, gyros (really delicious), pasta with garlic bread, and so much more. And here’s the kicker. They deliver nearby. The food is excellent and they even bring it to your door. What more do you want in the age of COVID???

Be a glutton, for punishment later.

Bangkok Thai for Red Curry I have to admit, I was a huge fan of the nowdisappeared Lily Thai on First Street in Rehoboth.

That’s the site slated to become Square One, operated by the Diego’s guys in 2021. (Who remembers another Square One in town?

Wilmington Avenue? Old enough to remember?)

But now, to indulge my passion for Thai food I have to drive up past the bus station on Route One to Bangkok Thai.

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simmered with red curry paste, coconut milk, and bamboo shoots is quite delicious, as is the Chicken Massaman Curry with potato, onion, and peanuts.

The menu also offers quite a few interesting salmon choices, soft-shell crab dishes, and many fried rice selections. I really enjoyed the Crabmeat Fried Rice. The menu is extensive, carry-out is prepared quickly, and it’s an excellent and reasonably priced quick dinner choice.

Bethany Blues Has the Ribs Between the ribs and the pulled pork or chicken, Bethany Blues is the place for meat. They have an amazingly efficient curbside carry-out system, it doesn’t take long from ordering to presentation, and you can count on a terrific meal.

Try the Hickory Smoked Wings, the Lime Avocado Deviled Eggs, and the Rib Sampler—you get both the St. Louis Ribs with the Brown Sugar Rub and the Hickory Smoked Baby Back Ribs with the smokehouse seasoning.

And while you’re at it, maybe needing comfort food right now, give up the calorie counting and just go for the Smokehouse Baked Beans, the Cheesy Creamed Corn, or the Deluxe Mac and Cheese. Be a glutton, for punishment later.

And of course, the Signature BBQ sandwich with pulled pork, or Carolina chopped pork, or pulled chicken, or the awesome beef brisket cannot be beat. If you are carnivorous, Bethany Blues has your lunch or dinner.

Fins Has the Heat Lamps Yes, it is still possible to get a great meal outdoors.

Sidle up to the Fins Alehouse and Raw Bar on Route One and check out the patio with the glowing heat lamps. Yes, my feet got chilled a bit, but our dinnertime was mostly warm and wonderful.

I had the rockfish entrée, perfectly cooked and a real treat. The red crab soup is terrific, and I have to go back because I didn’t have the Fried Avocado— described as halved, tempura battered, lightly fried, stuffed with Fins’ Shrimp Salad. Maybe lunch today!

So eat, drink, and try to make yourself merry.

Cheers, until next time. Carry-out or dine in and stay safe. ▼

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BY DOUG YETTER

SPOTLIGHT ON THE

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CAMP Rehoboth Puts Art at the Heart of Our Community

We are blessed to have more than our fair share of extremely talented artists here in “Our Town.” Visual artists, writers, musicians, even (gasp!) theater folk! Check out the listings below and celebrate the creative wonders they so graciously share.

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AMP Rehoboth has three exciting November events— Breaking Barriers (a juried art exhibit), Breaking the Sound Barrier: The Women’s Music Movement from the 1970s to the 1990s, and a Virtual Open Mic Night performance by Lucie Blue Tremblay.

Breaking Barriers (November 8-28) features work by 21 artists in a variety of art forms and is held in conjunction with Breaking the Sound Barrier: The Women’s Music Movement from the 1970s to the 1990s—a Stonewall National Museum traveling show. This exhibit will be on display in the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center room and consists of

nine large panels, as well as memorabilia from the women’s music scene— framed photos, posters, jackets, album covers, and a looping documentary.

Artists explore how they use art to achieve goals, break down barriers, address stereotypes, and amplify their voices.

November 13 (5-8 p.m.) is the official opening, and guests are invited to explore the CAMP Rehoboth Handmade Market (local craftspeople display and sell wares in the courtyard) and visit with the Breaking Barriers artists who will be on hand to share their vision. Best practices will be followed, and face masks are required.

Groups of up to three individuals can view the show at CAMP Rehoboth Tuesdays and Fridays from 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Private tours can be scheduled by emailing artshow@ camprehoboth.com.

Friday, November 20 (6-8 p.m.), CAMP Rehoboth’s Virtual Open Mic Night features Lucie Blue Tremblay. She appeared at the 1985 Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival and her debut album (released in 1986 by Olivia Records) was voted Top Ten Album of the Year by the Boston Globe. Join us on Facebook Live at the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center Facebook page. ▼ Images left to right: Raising the Bar (detail) by Rita Poore; Self Doubt by Logan Farro. At CAMP Rehoboth Gallery.

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arts+entertainment PERFORMING ARTS CAMP Rehoboth Open Mic Nights (CAMP Rehoboth Community Center Facebook page—under “videos”) 1st and 3rd Friday of every month. First Fridays (7-8 p.m.) are hosted by moi, Doug Yetter, and feature singers from CAMP Rehoboth Chorus. Third Fridays (6-8 p.m.) are hosted by CAMP Operations Administrator and musician Kerry Hallett and lots of talented folks. You can watch live, or when you have a bit of extra time.

Capital Ringers (P.O. Box 35 in Lewes; capitalringers.org) release their virtual holiday handbell concert, “Tidings of Comfort and Joy,” December 6. Check their website for details.

Cinema Art Theater (17701 Dartmouth Drive in Lewes; 302-313-4032; rehobothfilm.com) has CDC guidelines in effect and reduced seating capacity.

The 23rd Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival runs through November 15, with many of the films available for streaming in the comfort of your home.

See website for information.

Clear Space Theatre Company (20 Baltimore Avenue; 302-227-2270; ClearSpaceTheatre.org) presents their Spotlight on Young Performers in Honk!

The Ugly Duckling Musical—November 13-15. Elf—The Musical is their holiday offering—November 27-December 20.

Listed on their website are all COVID-19 precautions they have in place; they are one of the few theaters in operation in the country.

The Milton Theater (110 Union St. in Milton; 302-684-3038; miltontheatre. com) has reduced their seating capacity to 30 percent to ensure adequate social distancing. Offerings in November: 14: The Launch (Styx, Boston, Queen Tribute); 20: The B*tches From the Beach—featuring Mona Lotts; 21: Triple Rail Turn; 22: Neil Diamond Tribute; 27-29: Holiday Fundraiser—Spectacular! Spectacular!; December events: 4: Magnolia Applebottom’s Holiday Drag Show; 5: Pop-era—Broadway and Opera; 11: Singer-Songwriter Showcase.

Check their website for full schedule.

Evening Romp by Jessie Rasche at Peninsula Gallery.

GALLERIES & MUSEUMS CAMP Rehoboth Gallery (37 Baltimore Avenue; 302-227-5620; camprehoboth. com) features Breaking Barriers and Breaking the Sound Barrier. (See listing elsewhere in this column.)

Gallery 50 (50 Wilmington Avenue; 302-227-2050; gallery50art.com) features original paintings, jewelry, glass, sculpture, ceramics, and mixed media.

The gallery will not be holding special exhibits or events until further notice.

Peninsula Gallery (520 E. Savannah Road, Lewes; 302-645-0551; peninsula-gallery.com) presents Fins, Feathers, and Fur—an animal-themed exhibition featuring 10 artists—through November 22. Opening November 28: Small Jewels 17—works limited in size and price for the holidays. Preview both shows on their website.

Rehoboth Art League (12 Dodds Lane, Henlopen Acres; 302-227-8408; rehobothartleague.org) offers several exhibitions: Seasons: Autumn—through December 13. Opening November 13: She the People—works by Linda Hill.

Visit the website for details and their extensive class offerings.

SeanCorey Art Gallery (39 Baltimore Avenue; 302-396-1013) is now open in the CAMP Rehoboth courtyard. A portion of their sales will go to CAMP Rehoboth and AIDS Delaware. ▼ Doug is the Artistic Director for CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, Director of Music Ministries at Epworth UMC, and co-founder and Artistic Director emeritus of the Clear Space Theater Company. Contact Doug at dougyetter@gmail.com if you want to add your events to the calendar. Check out CAMP Arts on our website at camprehoboth.com for links to all the listed theatres, galleries and museums.

This program is supported, in part, by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on www.

DelawareScene.com.

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by Terri Schlichenmeyer

BOOKED SOLID TMI: My Life in Scandal

by Perez Hilton with Leif Eriksson and Martin Svensson c.2020, Chicago Review Press, $26.99/$35.99 Canada, 229 pages You're allowed to change your mind.

You grow, get a few experiences under your belt, and things might look a bit different. You can have a change of heart then, and pivot your life in a different direction. You can take do-overs and take-backs, but carefully. And as in the new book TMI by Perez Hilton (with Leif Eriksson and Martin Svensson), you can ask for forgiveness, too.

If you knew Mario Armando Lavandiera Jr. when he was a child, you'd be surprised at the man he is today. He says he had a good childhood but he was a "different" kid then, and was often bullied: among other indignities, his classmates called him "the Fat Kid" because he loved to eat.

That last part hasn't changed. What has is that Lavandiera is now thinner, famous, and known by a nicer name: Perez Hilton. And no, if you're wondering, Paris Hilton "never bothered" to sue him over the lookalike name, "though she definitely could have."

This transformation didn't happen overnight.

By the time he moved to New York to attend college, Hilton knew for sure that he was gay; while there, he gained friends, a pile of debt, and a mitt full of credit cards. Down but not out, he started a series of jobs and launched a series of websites that both spanned time in New York and LA, and

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got him into trouble in one way or another. Then a photografriend leaked a few celeb pictures his way, Perez posted them on his website, and he was famous, literally overnight.

And that was good—for a while. Hilton partied nearconstantly, busted into celebrity events, became "wifey" with Gaga, clubbed with Jessica Simpson, and hung with Paris Hilton. And then he made a video for a national cause that caused him to see the hurt he'd left....

Could it be that the infamous author and gossip blogger Perez Hilton has…softened?

Yes, mostly. There's a whole lot less venom inside TMI than you might expect from Hilton, but fans won't be entirely bereft. There's still a little spark of gossip here, names dropped, and stories propped up and left on the roadside for embarrassment or for examination. Those are accompanied in this memoir by a glint-in-his-eye tone, and the sneakiest of snark hidden here and there, but that's often tendered by tenderness.

The surprise—or the shock, depending on your level of fandom—is that Hilton apologizes to several people he feels he hurt; and he expresses a degree of regret for having lost good, close friends because he reported gossip about them despite the friendship. It's contrition that feels like it came from a battered schoolyard bully, only genuine.

Hilton is a father now and he writes with unabashed love for his kids, from a refreshing, seemingly happier place in his life. TMI still includes plenty of Hiltonized Too Much Information, some snickers, and a hint of tattle-tale, but if you've never been much of a fan, here's a chance to change your mind.▼ Terri Schlichenmeyer has been reading since she was three years old and never goes anywhere without a book. Always Overbooked, she lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 15,000 books.

ENTERTAINMENT MINUTES FROM THE BEACHES!

November 14 - THE LAUNCH: Tribute to the music of Boston, Styx and Queen / 8PM November 15 - MANDIE STEVENSON: Psychic Medium / 7:30PM November 20 - THE B*TCH FROM THE BEACH: Mona Lotts / 8PM November 21 - TRIPLE RAIL TURN / 8PM November 22 - NEIL DIAMOND TRIBUTE: With Sol Knopf / 7:30PM December 4 - NAUGHTY OR NICE: A Holiday Drag Show / 8PM December 5 - POP-ERA!: A Night Of Broadway & Opera / 8PM December 6 - POLAR EXPRESS: Pajama Party / 2Pm & 7PM December 10 - IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE (1964) Film Screening 2PM & 7PM December 11 - SINGER/SONGWRITER CHRISTMAS: Sol Knopf, Ed Shockley, Keith Mack, Cliff Hillis / 7:30PM December 12 - LOWER CASE BLUES / 8PM December 13 - HOLIDAY TEA: Interactive Show / 1PM December 17 - MUPPETS CHRISTMAS CAROL (film screening) / 2PM & 7PM December 18 - HO! HO! HO! A Holiday Comedy Show / 8PM

SPECTACULAR! SPECTACULAR!

Holiday Musical Extravaganza!

A Milton Theatre Holiday Fundraiser SHOW TIMES: Nov 27 - Friday - 8PM Nov 28 - Saturday - 2PM Nov 28 - Saturday - 8PM Nov 29 - Sunday - 7PM

This event is set to become a BRAND NEW holiday tradition for all ages! Featuring your favorite holiday tunes, Holiday classics, and some special surprises. Performed LIVE with the best house band in Delmarva and the region's brightest musical theatre talents!

SAME Great History BRAND NEW Feel RENEW your spirit! Experience live art once again at the REFRESHED Milton Theatre!

BRAND NEW SEATING & LAYOUT!

For full details on COVID-19 modifications, tickets, show details, and full calendar go to:

www.MILTONTHEATRE.com 302.684.3038 110 Union St. Milton, DE

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The REAL DIRT

BY ERIC W. WAHL

The Mighty and Noble Oak “Storms make trees take deeper roots.”

– DOLLY PARTON

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wenty-twenty is almost over and I can honestly say we have all grown deeper roots this year. The symbolism of trees and their significance to us is as ancient as our belief systems. Of all of them, oaks are probably the most revered and valued. They symbolize strength, truth, protection, nobility, knowledge, and resistance. They were even known to be used in magic wands; Merlin’s wand was rumored to be made from English oak.

There are over 500 species of oaks on the blue marble we call home. They can be found on almost every continent.

They can withstand all types of growing conditions, from saturated soil and cool conditions to arid, upland, and rocky outcroppings. Some grow with a netting of roots close to the surface of the ground while others have deep tap roots. Many grow to be well over 1,000 years old.

Oaks are known as keystone species. This means they are a crucial part of the ecosystem in which they reside, as well as the local food-web. The food-web is the natural interconnection of food chains. Oaks fit in this web as a food source for wildlife through their nuts and their leaves. Oak leaves are among the top food resources for caterpillars, which in turn feed numerous birds and their families. The nuts they produce feed animals like squirrels, chipmunks, deer, turkeys, grouse, pheasant, and some ducks, among other wildlife.

Oaks can be divided into two main groups, the red and the white. The red oaks have pointed lobes on their leaves, while the white oaks have rounded lobes. We have both types native to our region. Oaks can also be distinguished from one another based on their acorns. Some have large nuts, some have small nuts, but all have acorn cups. The cup is the part of the acorn the nut sits within; they can be saucer shaped, goblet shaped, smaller than the acorn, larger than the acorn, and some can even be hairy.

One of my favorite oaks is the willow oak. They are unique in that their leaves resemble those of the willow tree. They have small acorns with shallow, saucer-like cups. The have a grand, stately appearance in the landscape, and love being near a water body such as a pond or stream. They are used often as street trees in urban landscapes because they are tough and tolerant.

The scarlet oak is another wonderful oak to have in your yard, especially if you live in an upland condition, and have the room for this noble tree to spread its branches. Its leaves turn a vibrant red in the fall. The acorn cups are bowl shaped and the bark is finely grooved.

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The swamp white oak is another common tree around consistently wet areas. The leaves have rounded lobes and are deeply cut. The acorn cups are bowl shaped but this particular oak has one very unique feature: the acorn stalks are much longer then the leaf stalks. No other oaks display this. The stalk is the where the acorn or leaf is attached to the branch.

I remember when someone posed the question, what’s the easiest thing a person can do to combat climate change? My answer was to plant a tree. I’d like to amend that to plant an oak tree. The number of lives impacted by a single oak tree is immeasurable; no wonder the oak is held in such high regard.

Stay safe and let’s garden together. ▼ Eric W. Wahl is a landscape architect, artist, and President of the Delaware Native Plant Society.

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This year there are multiple ways to safely participate in this important day of remembrance.

WORLD AIDS DAY

The Rehoboth Beach Candlelight Drive-Up Vigil and Service of Remembrance and Hope

Schedule 0f Events WORLD AIDS DAY | DECEMBER 1 DRIVE-UP 6:45 PM ▶ Drive-up and park at Epworth United Methodist Church, 9285 Holland Glade Road, Rehoboth Beach.

SERVICE 7:00 PM ▶ Outdoor Service of Remembrance and Hope—including reading of the names, and musical performances from soloists of the CAMP Rehoboth Chorus.

LOGIN ▶ If you can’t make it to the service, login at 7:00 PM to the CAMP Rehoboth Facebook page and see the event live.

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NAMES ▶ To have the name of a family member or friend who has died from AIDS added to the list of names to be read at the service, call the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 302-227-5620, or email info@camprehoboth.com FOR MORE INFORMATION visit the CAMP Rehoboth website at camprehoboth.com.

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Patricia Anne Cipollone “We Love You Always”

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atricia Anne Cipollone, age 64, of Millsboro, Delaware, passed away peacefully at home on Sunday morning, October 25, 2020 with her loving wife, Joanne Marie Ketler, and family at her side. She was born on July 24, 1956 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, daughter of the late Joseph and Catherine (Morrison) Solley.

Pat worked for the University of Pennsylvania in the finance department until 2006. She relocated to Delaware and worked in the finance office for the City of Lewes until her passing. She was co-owner, with her wife, Joanne, of Murph's Beef & Ale Restaurant in Rehoboth Beach.

Pat was an amazing wife, strong and courageous till the end. A dedicated mother, she treasured her children, and especially loved her grandchildren and her role as Nana. A creative soul, Pat could decorate any space and make it look stunning. She loved simple pleasures and enjoyed her home, cooking, knitting, gardening, and her coloring books.

Pat loved boating, traveling, and was especially fond of trips to

the casino and hanging out with her best friends, sipping on a "good martini."

In addition to her wife, Pat is survived by her children: Richard “Ricky” and Kelli Cipollone, Vincent “V” and Mia Cipollone, and Nicole “Nic” (Cipollone) and John McMahon; her four grandchildren: Richard Joseph “RJ”, Adalyn, Anna Rose, and Johnathon; her two sisters: Margaret (Solley) Massella and Maureen (Solley) Bonnell; and her three brothers: Joseph (Betty) Solley, Peter Solley, and John J. (Cheri) Solley.

A celebration of Pat’s life was held on Friday, November 6, 2020 at Parsell Funeral Homes & Crematorium, Lewes, Delaware.

Interment will be private at the convenience of the family.

The family suggests donations in Pat’s memory to the Fox Chase Cancer Center, Gynecological Research, 333 Cottman Avenue, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 19111. ▼

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General Dentistry........................................................ 26 God's Greyts Senior Greyhounds................................ 65 Harbour Waterfront Dining.......................................... 65 Hugh Fuller, Realtor..................................................... 34 Immanuel Shelter........................................................ 39 Insight Homes ............................................................ 49 Jack Lingo, Real Estate............................................... 51 Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley...................................... 25 Jolly Trolley................................................................. 26 Just In Thyme Restaurant............................................ 25 Lana Warfield, Realtor................................................. 25 Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, Realtors............................. 33 Lori's Café.................................................................... 70 MERR Institute............................................................. 61 Midway Fitness & Racquetball.................................... 71 Milton Theatre............................................................. 55 Olivia Travel................................................................. 19 One Spirit Massage..................................................... 13 PFLAG.......................................................................... 38 Purple Parrot............................................................... 35 Randall-Douglas.......................................................... 43 Randy Mason/Shirley Kalvinsky, Realtors................... 43 Rehoboth Art League.................................................. 46

Rehoboth Beach Dental.............................................. 39 Rehoboth Guest House............................................... 43 Rehoboth Massage & Alignment................................. 33 Saved Souls Animal Rescue........................................ 65 Sea Bova Associates, Realtors.................................... 72 SoDel Concepts........................................................... 27 Springpoint Choice...................................................... 11 State Farm - George Bunting...................................... 29 State Farm - Jeanine O'Donnell/Eric Blondin.............. 61 Sussex Family YMCA................................................... 48 The Lawson Firm......................................................... 61 Troy Roberts, Realtor................................................... 65 Unfinished Business.................................................... 54 Volunteer Opportunities.............................................. 69 Volunteer Thank You................................................... 69 Windsor's Flowers....................................................... 43 World AIDS Day........................................................... 58

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BAYSHORE - Millsboro.

2003-built 3BR/2.5BA 2-story townhouse. 1,850 sq. ft. 1stfloor master suite. Patio w/ privacy fencing. $232,500 (169180) Call Luz Escobar for more info. 302-260-2080

SUSSEX EAST - Lewes.

1994 doublewide 2BR/2BA w/ den & BIG screened porch.

Shed. 55+ community w/ indoor pool. 6 miles to the beach. $69,900 (169728) Lot

BEAVER DAM - Harbeson.

Unique! 2BR/2.5BA farmhouse.

2BR/1BA studio apt. w/1-car garage. Detached 3-bay garage/ pole barn. 1.26-acres. Well & Septic. Approx. $20k/yr rental income. $350,000 (163948)

COLONIAL EAST - Rehoboth.

1983 2BR/2BA home has been updated w/all new flooring.

New kit appliances. Split BR plan. Olympic-size pool. 4 miles to beach. $69,900

Rent $564/mt.

SUNSPOT - Dewey Beach. This condominium building recently underwent a complete renovation to the foundation & exterior, so it is like new! Unit #105 is a 2nd-floor, 2BR/1.5BA flat with direct ocean views from the balcony & the living room. Steps to the beach.

Hardwood floors in the main living areas & bedrooms; tile floors in the kitchen & baths.

Community laundry room w/storage closets for each Unit. Excellent rental history of approx. $40,000/yr, so it’s a solid investment opportunity. $688,000 (142462)

HOLLY OAKS - Lewes.

New Construction w/Spring Delivery. 3BR/2BA 1,560sf home. Bamboo floors. Granite & SS appliances in kit. 12’x16’ deck. 0.45 acres. Mid-$300k (similar home shown)

LOVE CREEK PARK - Lewes.

1973 2BR/1BA home in a marina community. Cute interior. Big back bedroom.

Enclosed porch. Furnished.

Handicap ramp. $25,000

SILVER VIEW FARM Rehoboth. 2006 2BR/2BA w/split bedroom plan. Eat-in kitchen. Laundry area. Pool & just 3 miles to the beach & boardwalk. $49,900 (NEW)

(171832) Lot Rent $581/mt.

Lot Rent $581/mt.

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WHISPERING PINES - Lewes. 1986 3BR/1BA w/ 4-season addition. Nicely updated interior. Remodeled bath. Furnished. Pool. Just 5 miles to beach. $39,500

SILVER VIEW FARM Rehoboth. 1983 3BR/2BA Fully remodeled & new roof.

Split bedroom plan. Kitchen island. Pool & just 3 miles to the boardwalk. $79,900

ROUTE 5 - Milton. 0.76-acres.

Lot #2 Harbeson Rd near Rust Rd. Valid site eval. or public sewer hook-up. No builder tie-in. Quick access to Rt. 9 & 11 miles to beach. $55,000 (1001565654)

(171320) Lot Rent $583/mt.

(172480) Lot Rent $530/mt.

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(169054) Lot Rent $581/mt.

LOCHWOOD - Lewes. New Construction - TBB. 3BR/2BA 1,597 sq. ft. home. 21’x15’ great room. Kitchen has breakfast bar island & will feature stainless steel appliances & granite countertops. Cul-de-sac lot approx. 0.35 acres. Just 10 miles to beach. Low HOA fees of just $229/year. $336,900 (171408)

SEA AIR VILLAGE - Rehoboth.

1996 3BR/2BA has been nicely updated. Split BR plan.

Patio. Outdoor shower. Shed.

Pool. 2 miles to boardwalk. $78,000 (172018) Lot Rent $549/mt.

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