COECTEXCLUSIVEMAGAZINE ISSUENo1JANUARY2023 "INEARLYGAVEUP" WHAT'SON? INTHISISSUE T.I.P.s TraumaInformedParents AKINSHIP CARER SPEAKSOUT "People don't get it!" TheIsolationofTherapeutic Parents Peersupport,trainingand coachingforfamilies ASKTHEEXPERTS Photo::©FizzkeysfromGettyImagesviawwwcanvacom COECT2023 CONFERENCE ANNOUNCED
Welcome!
WearesoexcitedtowelcomeyoualltotheveryfirsteditionofTIPs! Trauma-InformedParents.Iknowmanyofyouwillthinkofyourselvesas TherapeuticParents(likewedo),butit'sallinterchangeable,sodon’t worry.�� So,whetheryouareanAdopter,FosterParent,KinshipCarer/Special Guardian,Step-parent,orBioparentofachildwhoisneurodiverse,you willfindawholetonofusefularticlesandresourcesinthismagazine.
Wecan’twaittosharewithyouallthehelpfultipswehaveacquiredover theyears(taughttousbyourchildren!)…anddon’tworrytherearen’t goingtobelotsofideasandtheorieswithoutpracticalstrategiesand insight.We’dlovetohearfromyoutoo,soemailyourthoughtsor questionstoTIPS@coect.co.uk
WarmestWishes, SarahNaish,SairPennaandtheteamatTheCentreofExcellence inChildTrauma. Editor’sNote CoECTNews Page2 MeettheTeam! Page3 “Peopledon’tgetit”!TheIsolationofaTherapeuticParent Page4 WhatISTraumaInformedParenting?ABeginner’sGuide Page6 AsktheExperts Page8 “ThisSystemisRubbish”!AKinshipCarerspeaksOut Page9 What'sonWhere?–EventsandConnections Page10-13 TraumaInformedQualifications Page14 ContactUs Page15 Inthisissue ISSUE1 TIP'SMAGAZINE 1
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Ifyouarelookingtodevelopyour knowledgeonTraumainformed practiceandtherapeuticparenting, aswellasdevelopyoursocial networkthroughpeersupport,then thecombinedmembershipisfor you. Youcannowpurchaseacombined membershipforNATPandTrauma Revolutionfor£15permonth. Formoredetailsgoto www.naotp.com/join Weareexcitedtoannouncethatanewcomedydramaseriesfor SkyTV,directedbyPeterCapaldiwillbestartingproductionthis month.TheserieswillbebasedonSarahNaish'sbook"Buthelooks sonormal"andSarahwillkeepyoupostedasdevelopmentsunfold
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MeettheTeam!
TheCentreofExcellenceinChildTraumaismadeupofateamofexpertswhohave essentialreal-lifeexperienceWeareAdopters,FosterParentsandBioparentsof neurodiversechildren,andalsoworkasprofessionalsinthefield.
SarahNaishisaTherapeuticParent,an Adopteroffivesiblings,formerFoster Parent,retiredSocialWorker,Bestselling internationalAuthor,KeynoteSpeaker andfounderofthreeIndependent TherapeuticFosteringAgencies.
SairPennaisaTherapeuticParent, Trainer,andTherapeuticParenting Coach.DirectorofNATP,and IndependentPanelChairfortwo TherapeuticFosteringAgencies
SarahDillon,isaTherapeutic Parent,anAttachmentTherapist, Keynotespeaker,formerchildin care,Author(Therapeutic Parenting)HeadofTherapeutic Services(Fostering).
AlisonDouglasisaTherapeutic
EmmaEdwardsisaTherapeutic Parent,Adopter,DirectorofNATPand TheHavenParentingandWellbeing Centre
JaneMitchellisaTherapeutic Parent,AdopterandKeynote Speaker,AuthorandHeadofFamily StabilityintwoTherapeutic FosteringAgencies
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Parent,Adopter,SocialWorkerand OperationsManagerintwo FosteringAgenciesAlisonisalso SafeguardingLeadatNATP.
"PeopleDon'tGetIt"-The IsolationofaTherapeutic Parent
BySarahNaish
Itisonethingtobe struggling with a problem:Itisquite anothertofeelnotonly utterlyalonewiththat problem,butalso
blamedandjudgedforhowyou aretryingtohandletheproblemI startedfeelingisolatedaboutsix monthsaftermychildrencame hometomeIttookmeawhileto noticethatthiswasindeedthe caseMaybebecauseIwasjustso busy.ButgraduallyIrealisedthat otherparentshadslideyeyeswhen talkingtomeTheydidn’tseemtoo keenonchattingattheschool gates, they just weren’t comfortableOneparentevensaid tomeonce,‘Don’tyoufeelbad takingotherpeople’schildren?’
It'snotonlydifficultiesinmaking andkeepingfriends,butalsojust the day-to-day interactions Nowadays,Iamfrequentlywalking myfivedogs.Wemakequitea spectacleVeryoften,peoplewill stopandchatandsmileTheywill petthedogsandsaythingslike ‘You’vegotyourhandsfullhaven’t you’?Notoncedidthishappenever withmy5childrenThen,people crossedtheroadtoavoidus. Walkingintoarestaurantmeant people huffed and sighed, anticipating a horrible rowdy bunch.(Theyweren’t.Theywere alwaysgreat,aslongasfoodkept arriving)Now,whenIlookback,I feeldesperatelysadfortheoldme. Theonewhothoughtthather friendswouldremainfriends
Theonewhoanticipatedexciting newfriendshipswithotherparents, playdatesandcosycoffeesMore andmorewewereontheside-lines. MoreandmoreIfoundmyselfonthe defensive Explaining why my childrenbehavedthewaytheydid, howIwastryingtohelpthem.But then,finally,IstoppedIcouldnotbe botheredtokeepjustifyingmyselfto everyoneconstantly.Inolongerfelt likeexplainingawaymychildren’s behaviourstoignorantparentswho onlywantedtoindulgeinabitof TopTrumpparentingorblameand judgementEven,tosomeextent, familyfellawayTheydidn’twantthe turmoilthatwentwiththebusyvisits andfull-ontantrumsIdidn’teven blamethemreally
ButIdidgetlonelyIhaveneverfelt morealonethanwhenIwas desperatelystrugglingandnoone atallwastheretoevenlisten,let alonehelpBeforeIbecameantisocial,Ididreallywanttobepartof thegangButwhenthegangrejects us,werejectthembackBeforewe knowit,wearecaughtinacycleof withdrawal,sadnessandloneliness, determinednottotakeanyriskswith newfriendships
WhatCanIDOAboutIt?
Haveagoodlookatthepeoplewho arearoundyou.Whoissupporting youonyourjourney?Whois indulginginabitofpatronising blameandjudgement?Whois quietlygettingonwithlookingafter theirequallytrickychildren?
Maketimetowelcomepeopleinto yourlifewho‘getit’.Yes,Iknow exactlywhathappensyoufinda nicelittlegroupthatlooksthey understandandthenyouchicken outatthelastmoment,orinstead, choosetospendvaluabletime staringintospacetorecoverfrom thelatesttraumaButhere’sthe thingTIPsjustlikeyouareunlikely tojustknockonyourdooroneday andaskyoutocomeouttoplay Wehavetobrave,andkeepbeing braveuntilwehave‘ourpeople’!
From‘TheQuickGuidetoTherapeuticParenting
Connecttopeoplewhogetit.Yes! YoucandothisWehavemade sureyoucan.Justgoto wwwcoectcoukandbebrave Clickon‘Support’orvisitThe NationalAssociationof TherapeuticParents(NATP) wwwnaotpcomReachout Therearethousandsofparents justlikeyou,strugglingtoconnect withothersYoucanalsogoto
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From‘TheQuickGuidetoTherapeuticParenting
theTherapeuticParentsFacebookgrouptoseejusthowmanyparents arethinkingthesamethoughtsandexperiencingthesameissues
AttheNATP,parentstellusthatthefeelingofisolationisthemost debilitatingproblemtheyfaceThisiswhywestartedtoholdListening Circlesandlinkparentsuptogether.Theonlyrealantidotetoisolation istoconnectwithpeopleonthesamepageasyouSomeonewho doesnotneedatwo-dayexplanationaboutwhata‘badday’means. Noparentofchildrenwithadditionalneeds,needstobeisolated becauseofdifferencesinparentingstyle,andthechallengesweface
Excerptfrom‘TheA-ZofSurvivalStrategiesforTherapeuticParents-FromChaostoCake’ IllustrationbyKathGrimshawfrom‘TheQuickGuidetoTherapeuticParentingNaish/Dillon
TheA-ZofSurvivalStrategiesforTherapeuticParents|JessicaKingsleyPublishers-UK(jkpcom)
Toadvertisewithuscontact:tips@coect.co.uk WouldYOUliketorunaListening Circleinyourarea?It'sreally straightforwardandyougetFREE membershiptoNATP! Contact listeningcircles@coect.co.ukto arrangeaninformalchat. www.coect.co.uk ISSUE1 TIP'SMAGAZINE 5
WHATIS‘TRAUMAINFORMEDPARENTING’? (THERAPEUTIC PARENTING)
Who Might be a Trauma-Informed Parent?
You may be an Adopterwhothought theirchildhadbeen
removedearlyenoughforthereto benoproblemsandwasthenleft reelingwhenallkindsofissues startedhappening,butnoone seemedtoknowwhattodo.You maybeaFosterParentwhohas successfullyraisedbirthchildren andwantedtogivesomething backThenyoumighthavebeen blindsidedbycompletelydifferent behavioursandthewayinwhich thechildthinksandseesthe world
PerhapsyouareaKinshipCarer orSpecialGuardianwhohas steppedintoofferhelptoafamily member Thenyoumayfind yourselftangledupinasystem whichseemsconfusingandwhere theexpectationsaretoohighor feelunreasonableOntopofthat, nooneseemstobetalkingtoyou abouttheeffectsoftraumaonthe childrentheyarecaringfor.
Maybeyouareabirthparentor biologicalparentsofachildwho mayhaveexperienceddifficulties during pregnancy or shortly afterwardsAsthechildgrowsthis parentbecomesawarethattheir
childseestheworlddifferently Perhapstherearesensoryissues, ormaybetherearediagnosis suchasautismorADHD.
Youmightbeastep-parent whose step-child has experiencedlotsofchangeand difficultiesintheirlife,andasa resultyouarestrugglingtoform positive relationships or overcome challenges which affectthewholefamily Or maybe,justmaybe,youareone ofthenewtypeofTherapeutic Parents,aparentofneurotypical childrenbutrealisesthisisa betterwayofparentingMore empathy,morestability,higher levelsofreflection,andamore well-roundedchildItisalmost always parents who never thoughttheywouldbeinthis positionandveryquicklyneedto getonboardwithadifferentstyle ofparenting,whichismore effectivefortheirchild
Whatisthedifferencebetween
TraumaInformedParentingand Therapeutic Parenting?TraumaInformedParenting(TIP) orTherapeuticParenting(TP)are thesamestyleofparentingand areinterchangeabletermswhich arecommonlyusedforpeople whoarelookingafterchildren whohavesufferedsomekindof trauma,asaresultofearlylife
neglectand/orabuse,orfrom othertraumaticevents
Theonlydifferenceiswherea parenthasaneurotypicalchild whohasnotsufferedanyformof abuseTheywouldrefertotheir parentingstyleasTherapeutic ParentingratherthanTrauma InformedParenting
HowdoesTIPwork? TIPisadifferentwayoflifeParents needtoLIVEasTIPswiththeir children.Itisnotsomethingwecan choosetodipinandoutof.The therapeuticparentwilllivealife whichiswellstructuredwithstrict routinesandboundariesWherea childhassufferedtrauma,thereis noemotionalroomforsurprises, spontaneous outings or uncertaintyTherapeuticParenting isalsoveryeffectiveforsecurely attachedchildren,sotheredoes notneedtobeanyconflictin parentingstyle,ifaparentalsohas securelyattached,orneurotypical childrenalongsidechildrenwho haveexperiencedtrauma.
TheaimofTherapeuticParentingis toenableatraumatisedchildto
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recoverfromthetraumathattheyhave experienced.Withaneuro-diversechild, whomayhavesensoryissues,orfindsit difficult to self-regulate (calm themselves),theaimistohelpthechild toliveinaworldwhichcanseem overwhelmingandfrightening.
TIPsachievethisbydevelopingnew pathwaysinthechild'sbraintohelp themolinkcauseandeffect,reduce theirlevelsoffearandshame,andto supportthemtostarttomakesenseof their world Therapeutic parenting mainlydiffersfromotherparenting stylesbecauseithasanenhancedlevel oftherapeuticresponsesandempathy withintheparentingstyle(Seevideo link‘WhatisTherapeuticParenting’)
Wemightbemorefamiliarwith standard‘goodparenting’techniques, advocatedbysocialworkandhealth
professionals,butbeassuredthat TIPisexcellentparenting!
Lookingfromtheoutsidein, therapeuticparentingmay sometimesappear‘strict’or‘rigid’ Thereasonforthis,isthatour childrenreallyneedmorestructure
thaninstandardparenting. TheTIPwillalsoallowthechild toexperience‘natural consequences’tohelpthemto linkcauseandeffect
WrittenBySarahNaish
Moreaboutthisandlotsofotherbehaviourmanagementstrategies inthemonthstocome!
UsefulLinks!
NAOTP-gotowww.naotp.com
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TraumaRevolution-gotowww.traumarevolution.co.uk
SaferFostering-gotowww.saferfostering.org.uk
TrueFostering-gotowww.truefostering.com
TheHaven–gotowww.thehavencentre.co.uk
WickselmHouse-gotowww.wickselmhouse.com
WensumTrust-gotowww.wensumtrust.org.uk
WhatisTherapeuticParenting?gotowww.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-oWUZNhEXo
UnderstandingYourTraumatisedChild-goto www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-IYlkDlkgk
From‘’TeddyTappyandtheTangleyMemoryMonster’bySarahNaish
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ASKTHEEXPERTS
SarahDillonreplies:
Shameisa developmentstage experiencedbyall toddlersItistheugly feelingachild experienceswhen
correctedordisciplinedbyaparentorcare giver.Securelyattachedchildrenmove relativelyquicklythroughthisstageand moveontodevelophealthyguilt, compassion,empathyandaconscience Thisprocessisfacilitatedbytheparent/care giverwhoregularlyrepairsanyrelationship fracture.Thisenablesthechildto differentiatebetweenthemselvesandtheir behaviour.Theybegintointernalisethe knowledgethattherelationshipwithparentis intactandunconditional.
Theirinternalworkingmodelis positive,theybelievetheyare good,loveable,worthyandsafe whoregularlyrepairsany relationshipfracture.This enablesthechildtodifferentiate betweenthemselvesandtheir behaviourTheybeginto internalisetheknowledgethat therelationshipwithparentis intactandunconditionalTheir internalworkingmodelis positive,theybelievetheyare good,loveable,worthyandsafe Childrenwithahistoryoftrauma andneglecthavealimited experienceofrelationshiprepairs andsadly,somehavenone! Manyhavebeenpunishedand shunnedandarethereforestuck inrelationshiprupturewiththeir primaryattachmentfigureThis constantstateofrelationship ruptureproducestoxicshame withinthechildTheyview themselvesasbad,disgusting, unlovableanddangerous!The feelingofself-disgustis overwhelming,andoftensoul
destroying.Thisunmet developmentalneedwill remainunmetwithoutregular relationshiprepairThiscanbe extremelydifficultformany parentsasbehaviours exhibitedbytheneurodiverse childareoftencontraryto theirownmoralcode Stealing,lying,swearing, violence,controlanddefiance tonameafew
Understandably,parentsand carersmayfallbackon ‘shaming’thechild Therapeuticparents depersonalisethese behavioursandrecognise themasamodeof communicationTheparent canthenoffergenuine relationshiprepairasthey consciouslyrespondtothis unmetdevelopmentalneed insteadofemotionally reactingtothepresenting behaviours.
SairPennareplies:
Theschoolruncanbe potentiallystressfulat thebestoftimesfor bothchildandparent andthiscanbe magnifiedifyourchild isexperiencing
EmotionallyBased SchoolAnxiety Childrenwho
experiencethismayfinditdifficultto attendschoolformanyreasons.and sometimesittakesawhiletofigureoutthe reasonsToallowyourchildtogointo schoolinaregulatedstatetheremaynot beaquickfix,howevertherearesome strategiesyoucanusewhichwillhelpto takethepressureoutofthesituationfor bothyouandyourchild.
Contacttheschool-letthem knowwhatishappening,and thatyouhopetobeinassoon asreasonablypossible.,Clear yourdiaryifpossible,Iknowthis isnotidealbutifyouneedtobe somewhereandyourchildis refusingtomove,yourstress levelsarelikelytogoupand yourchildwillpickuponthis Thelesspressureyouputon yourself,themoreyour frustrationwillreduceandyou willradiatesomelevelofcalm whichwillhelpwithcoregulatingyourchildSchool staffmaythenbeabletohelp,a trustedadultthatyourchildhas aconnectionwithmaybeable tosupportwithpositive distractiontoafavouriteactivity theywillbedoingthatday,or somethingthattheyare particularlyinterestedinIfthis worksgreat!Ifitdoesn't,then youmaybeinforalongerwait (seenextpoint)
Holdthespaceforyour child-sitwithyourchild, stayfairlyquiet,letthem knowthatyouarethereif they need you, use empathic commentary whereappropriate,letyour childhavethetimeand spacetoco-regulatewith yoursupport
Thechildmaybeableto regulate themselves enoughtoeithergointo schoolwithsupport,orbe abletotellyouwhythey feelanxiousaboutgoing intoschool
Ifaresolutionisneededbefore thechildenterstheschool,itis worth speaking to the teacher/headteacheratthis pointandmakingaplanIfin thecaseyourchildcannot attendschoolyoushould consultwithyourchild'sGPon thebestwayforwardandkeep theschoolinformed.
Letourteamofexpertswithfirst-hand experience,guideyouthroughsomeof thosetrickyTIPmoments!
“WhyamIalwaysbeingtoldthatI shouldnotshamemychild?Surely that’sanormalpartorgrowingup” PA(Derbyshire) “Mychildwon’tgetoutofthecarat school Is there a quick strategy? Help!” HLfromGloucestershire
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“INEARLY GAVEUP!”
Ineverexpectedtobeafull-timeparent again!Whenmydaughter’sson,Archie wasborn,mydaughterhadalready fallenintoalifewheredrugsandalcohol wererifeDespitemybesteffortsto
interveneandtotakecareofmygrandson,my daughterkeptmovingaroundanditbecame increasinglydifficulttokeepArchiesafe.Oneday, outoftheblue,SocialServicesrangmeandasked metotakeArchieimmediatelybecausehisliving conditionsweresounsafe.Iagreedstraightaway andleftmyjobinteachingArchiewasonemonth old
Myfirstprioritywasgettingallthethingsthat Archieneeded.Iwasgivenasecond-handbaby car-seatbySocialServicesIwassuddenlyona limitedincomeandhadtobeg,borrowandsteal whateverIcouldfromanybodyIwasveryluckyI havekindfriendsandneighbours,soIdidn’t actuallyhavetostealanything!Ididgetan allowanceafterafewweeks,butitwasmuch lowerthanmysalary.
IthoughtIwasjustagrandmotherofferingtolook aftermygrandson,butfromdayonethereseemed tobeawholenewraftofrulesandregulationsthat IhadnoideaaboutIwasnotonlyexpectedto knowabouttheserules,butalsoadheretothem withoutquestion!Thesocialworkersandhealth visitorswerenaturallyconcernedaboutArchie’s growthanddevelopment,aswasIEveryareaof mylifewasprobedandprodded.SuddenlyIwas toldIhadtotransportArchietoacontactcentre20 milesawaytoseemydaughterthreetimesaweek IwastoldIwasnolongerhisgrandmotherbuta fostercarer!I'veneverfostered,Ineveraskedtobe
mygrandsonandgivehimthebestcarewhilstbeing threatenedthatifIdidn'tmeetuptoexpectationshe wouldbetakenaway.Whatkindoflifeisthat?WhenI questionedallthiswiththesocialworkertheytoldmeI hadtofitintothenewwayofworkingandthatthatis thewaythingsaredoneIhadnotrainingontheeffects ofdrugsandalcoholonmylittlegrandson.Buttheydid sendmeonacourseaboutchilddevelopmentIhad raisedthreechildrenofmyownandhadworkedasa nurserynurseandteacher.Iwasgobsmacked.
Thelastyearhasbeenemotionallyfrighteningand drainingIhavefeltsoutterlyaloneattimesand completelybaffledbyasystemthatwantedmetostep inandhelp,andthenseemedtodoeverythingitcould tounderminemeormakemegiveupIhavehadthree differentsocialworkersandArchiehashadtwo.
Finally,Ididgotothefosterpanelandgotapprovedto applytothecourttobecomeArchie’s‘Special Guardian’.ThismeansthatIwillhave‘parental responsibility’andbeabletomakedecisionsfor Archie’sfuture
Thewholesorrysagahasbeenconfusing,sadand overwhelmingMyrelationshipwithmydaughterisat analltimelowThroughoutthewholeprocessIfeltlikeI hadnooneinmycorner,noonewhoactually understoodwhatIwasgoingthroughWhenIfoundThe NationalAssociationofTherapeuticParents,Iwenttoa ListeningCircleandmettwoothergrandparents,just likeme,buttheywereouttheotherside.Withouttheir helpandsupportIdon’tknowwhatIwouldhavedoneI nearlygaveupattimes,butwhenIlookatmydarling Archie,Ifeelitisallworthwhile.
*nameshavebeenchangedtoprotectanonymity
ffostercarerTheysaidIhadtoundergoan assessmentThatassessmentonlyfinishedthree monthsago.Duringthewholetimetheassessorkept sayingthatImightnotpass.Iwastryingtobondwith
Rachael*shareshowdifficultthelastyear hasbeeninhernewlifeasa‘KinshipCarer’ toArchie*herGrandson.
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TIP'SMAGAZINE 10 ISSUE1 WHAT'SON?COECTEVENTS PEERSUPPORT-NATPLISTENINGCIRCLES January-March2023 SGO/KinshipCarerVirtualListeningCircle:Monday16thJanuary202310:30am11:30amviaZoom VirtualListeningCircleforTherapeuticParents:Wednesday18thJanuary2023 9am-10amviaZoom SGO/KinshipCarerVirtualListeningCircle:Wednesday25thJanuary20238pm9pmviaZoom Visitwwwnaotpcom/eventsformoredetailsofeachListeningCircle HowtojoinaVirtualListeningCircle: OnceyouhavebookedontoaVirtualListeningCircle,theZoomloginandpassword areemailedtoyoubeforetheevent,soitisveryeasytoaccessVirtualListening Circles VirtualListeningCircles FacetoFaceListeningCircles January-March2023 NorthamptonshireListeningCircleThursday19thJanuary202310am-11:30amat WhitesNurseries,EarlsBarton,AggateWay,EarlsBarton,NorthamptonNN60EU Surrey(Farnham)ListeningCircleTuesday24thJanuary20238pm-9:30pmat BethelBaptistChurch,RushdenWay,FarnhamGU90QA GloucestershireWalkandTalkListeningCircleWednesday8thFebruary2023 10am-12pmatTheHaven,TheOldForgeOffice,Ham,BerkeleyGL139QH, https://www.naotp.com/events/gloucestershire-walk-and-talk-listening-circle08-02-2023
TIP'SMAGAZINE 11 ISSUE1 WHAT'SON?COECTEVENTS PEERSUPPORT-NATPLISTENINGCIRCLES January-March2023 Surrey(Farnham)ListeningCircleFriday10thFebruary2023,10am-11:30amat BethelBaptistChurch,RushdenWay,FarnhamGU90QA CambridgeshireListeningCircleTuesday14thFebruary202310:30am-12pmat CotonOrchardGardenCentreCafe,CambridgeRd,CambridgeCB237PJ GloucestershireListeningCircleTuesday14thFebruary202311am-12:30pmatLeaf andGround,DursleyRd,Woodfield,DursleyGL116PP Surrey(Farnham)ListeningCircleMonday27thFebruary20238pm-9:30pmat BethelBaptistChurch,RushdenWay,FarnhamGU90QA GloucestershireWalkandTalkListeningCircleWednesday8thMarch,10am-12pm atTheHaven,TheOldForgeOffice,Ham,BerkeleyGL139QH Surrey(Farnham)ListeningCircleMonday13thMarch2023,10am-11:30amat BethelBaptistChurch,RushdenWay,FarnhamGU90QA CambridgeshireListeningCircleTuesday14thMarch2023,10:30am-12pmat CotonOrchardGardenCentreCafe,CambridgeRd,CambridgeCB237PJ Visitwww.naotp.com/eventsformoredetailsofeachListeningCircle Contactemail:listeningcircles@coect.co.uk FacetoFaceListeningCircles Remember-ifyouhavenotjoinedNATPyoucan stillattendaListeningCircleforFREEtoseeif youlikeit.Formoredetailsgotowww.naotp.com HowtobookaticketforaListeningCircle: Gotowww.naotp.com/events ClickontheListeningCircle(s)youareinterestedinattendingandBookNow AllListeningCirclesarefree-selectalltheticketsyourequire Checkout Anemailreminderwillbesentonedaybeforetheevent.ForvirtualListeningCircles thiswillincludetheZoomdetails
TIP'SMAGAZINE 12 ISSUE1 WHAT'SON?COECTEVENTS January-March2023 AreyouthinkingofjoiningaTherapeutic FosteringAgencyinEngland? Wanttoknowmore? Wellbeing,TherapyandCoachingEvents THEHAVENPARENTINGANDWELL-BEINGCENTREEVENTS March2023 MiniDayRetreat-CompassionFatigue£65 (UsethecodetogetNATPmembers25%discount) Date:Friday24thMarch10am-2pm Location:TheHavenParentingandWellbeingCentreLtd,TheOldForgeOffice,Ham,Berkeley, GloucestershireGL139QH Bookingdetails:Pre-bookonlineatwwwthehavencentrecouk/events May2023 MiniDayRetreat-CompassionFatigue£65 (UsethecodetogetNATPmembers25%discount) Date:Friday19thMay10am-2pm Location:TheHavenParentingandWellbeingCentreLtd,TheOldForgeOffice,Ham,Berkeley, GloucestershireGL139QH Bookingdetails:Pre-bookonlineatwwwthehavencentrecouk/events CorporateWellbeingDaysalsoavailable. TRUEaredelightedtoannouncethatweareexpandingintothe Norwich/EastAngliaregion Aninformationeventisbeingheldat ParkFarmHotel,NorwichNR93DL onWednesday1stFebruaryfrom12noon–7pm Ifyouwouldliketofindoutmoreaboutfostering,orifyouarealready afosterparentandarethinkingabouttransferring,dropinforachat Awarmwelcomeandsomerefreshmentsawait! Pleasecontactdebbiew@truefostering.comto expressaninterestorformoredetails
INSPIRETRAININGGROUPCOURSES-InpersonTraining January2023
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Date:Wednesday25thandThursday26thJanuary,10am-4pm Location:Gloucestershire Booking:Pre-bookonlineatwww.inspiretraininggroup.com/upcomingevents
Trainingisavailableinotherlocationscontactinspire@coect.co.uktoregister yourinterest.
ControllingBehaviours-ExpertLedDiscussion-basedWebinar
Date:Wednesday18January202310.00am-11.00am-strategiesforcontrolling behaviours,lookingatdefiance,competitivenessandotherbehavioursorsituations wherecontrolissuesarerelevant
CrueltytoAnimals(LackofEmpathy)-ExpertLedDiscussion-basedWebinar
Date:Tuesday24January202310.00am-11.00am-ourtrainersexplainwhyour childrenneedtohavebasicneedsmetbeforetheycanbuildanddevelopmore profoundhumancharacteristicssuchasempathy,gratitudeandremorseandoffer strategiestohelpyougoingforwardonyourjourney.
Damaging-ExpertLedDiscussion-basedWebinar
Date:Tuesday31January202312noon-1.00pm-Doesyourchilddeliberatelyand frequentlydamagepossessionsoftheirownandothers?Dotheydisplayother sabotagingbehaviours?Thisonehourchatdiscussesstrategies,witha15minute Q&A
Defiance-ExpertLedDiscussion-basedWebinar
Date:Tuesday7February202312noon-1.00pm-lookingatwhatdefianceis,whyit happens,whatitlookslikeandtherapeuticpreventativestrategies
FoodIssues-ExpertLedDiscussion-basedWebinar
Date:Thursday23February202311.00am-12noon-thiscourselooksatthecauses offoodrelatedissuessuchassugaraddition,hoardingfood,rejectionoffoodand fussy/sloweatingandprovidesstrategiestohelpmanagethem.
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TRAUMAREVOLUTION(PARTOFINSPIRETRAININGGROUP)OnlineTraining WHAT'SON?COECTEVENTS JANUARY-MARCH2023
TRAUMAINFORMEDQUALIFICATIONS
ThroughInspireTrainingwehaveasuiteofqualificationstosupportparentsand supportingprofessionalswhoworkwithchildrenwhohaveexperiencedadverse childhoodexperiencesandneurodivergentchildren
Level2SAfEParenting:ATherapeuticParentingApproach
ThisisaLevel2onlinecustomisedqualificationaccreditedbynationally recognisedawardingbodyCACHENCFEundertheirCACHEaccreditation. Cantakeupbetween3-6monthstocomplete.
Perfectforindividualswhowanttolearnandimplementtherapeutic parenting.
Level3TherapeuticParentingProgramme
ThisisaLevel3onlineInspireTrainingGroupqualificationforthoselearners lookingforadetailedintroductiontotherapeuticparenting.
ThishasaprogressionroutetotheDiplomainTherapeuticParenting accreditedwithNCFECACHE
Level3DiplomainTherapeuticParenting
ThisisaLevel3onlinecustomisedqualificationaccreditedbythe nationallyrecognisedawardingbodyCACHENCFEundertheirNCFE accreditation.Itcoversbasicandadvancedstrategiesoftherapeutic parentingandtakesayeartocomplete
ThishasaprogressionroutetotheAwardinTherapeuticParentCoaching accreditedwithNCFECACHE
Level3Award/DiplomainTherapeuticParentCoaching
TwonewadditionstoourqualificationsistheLevel3onlinecustomised qualificationaccreditedbynationallyrecognisedawardingbodyCACHE NCFEundertheirCACHEaccreditationThisenablesthelearnertogainthe knowledgeandcoachingtechniquesinordertobecomeatherapeutic parentingcoach
Pleasenote:Apre-requisitefortheAwardistheLevel3Therapeutic ParentingProgramme.
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TIP'SMAGAZINE 14 ISSUE1
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