CoECTNews
Editor'sNote
MeettheTeam!
ConferenceNews
Thehealingpowerofrituals
4ThingstoAvoidWhenSupportingChildrentoTidyUp
ProtectionfromCare
BetheRepair
InnovationsinParentingAssessmentandPreparationforKinshipand ConnectedCarers
TherapeuticallyManagingViolentBehaviourinChildrenandAdolescents
NATPFreeResource:MakingTransitionsinSchool
WhatsOn-CoECTEvents
NurturingTrauma-InformedCareforVulnerableChildren:AGuidetothe TIPPAKCQualification
AsktheExperts
Summerwellbeing:Channellingyourrealisticoptimismthroughthe schoolholidays
ChildonParentViolence
COECT NEWS AutumnConferenceNews AfterthesuccessofourlastvirtualconferenceinJune,wehavestartedplanning ournextevent.TheupcomingvirtualconferencewillfocusonsupportingKinship, ConnectedCarersandSpecialGuardians OurspeakerswillincludeSarahNaish, EnzaSmithMBE,andGarethThomas,allofwhomhaveexperienceinKinship Care.TheconferencewillbeheldonthevirtualplatformZoom.
TheconferenceisscheduledforThursday17October2024from10:00amto3:30 pm Ticketsarecurrentlyavailablefor£12perpersonandcanbepurchased fromtheNATPwebsite
WellbeingNews Duringthissummer,wewrappedupourDay Retreatswithgreatsuccess.OurJuneretreatin ExeterandJulyretreatinGloucestershirewere bothincredibleexperiences,allowingusto connectandspendvaluabletimewithtwo fantasticgroupsofparents.Theseretreats providedamuch-neededopportunityforthemto resettheirself-careroutines,andofcourse, indulgeinarelaxingafternoonatthespa OurDay Retreatsaretakingashortbreakforthesummer butwillresumeinSeptember.Forbookingdetails, youcanvisitourDayRetreatpage https://www.thehavencentre.co.uk/dayretreats
FosteringNews Wehostedafree‘dropin’eventwithourtwoSarah’s(Naishand Dillon)alongsideGarethThomas(TherapeuticSpecialGuardian &Fosterparent),GarethGriffiths(ManageratTrueandSAfER Fostering)andSophieNaish(fromCOECT) Itwasasuccessful daywithmanypeople,fromadopters,kinshipcarers,special guardians,andfosterparents,allwantingtopicktheirbrains abouttheissuestheyarefacingandhowtheycanbetter understandandsupportthechildrentheycareforthrough therapeuticparenting
TheTherapeuticParentingpanelmetwithpeopleona1:1basisso theycouldhaveanin-depthdiscussionwiththosewhomthey wantedtogetadviceandguidancefrom.Asyoucanimagine, the2Sarahswereverypopularindeed!Welookforwardto hearingfromSunnyDevonagainthroughourFacebookand socialmediaplatforms!
Editor’sNote WelcomeEverybody,
TheSummerholidaysareapproachingquickly.Iamsuremanyparentsandoursupporting professionals who work with families will welcome the summer and the opportunities for somemuch-neededdowntime.Theendoftheacademicyearandthestartofthesummer holidayscanbringaboutmixedemotions Itmaybeaccompaniedbythesadnessofthings ending,butalsotheexcitementfornewbeginningsstartinginSeptember
AttheendofJune,wehostedourAnnualconference,adaydedicatedtothefundamentals of Therapeutic Parenting, titled "Therapeutic Parenting Essentials." The event was a big success, with over 700 participants joining us online. For those who couldn't attend, we ' ve made the conference available as a recording for purchase This way, you can access this valuable resource at your convenience You will find all the details for this later in this issue Our next virtual event is our Autumn Conference, focusing on supporting Kinship Carers, Special Guardians, and Connected Carers. It will be held on Thursday 17 October; more informationcanbefoundonthebackpage.
InthiseditionofTIPs,wehavefocusedonKinshipCare WearejoinedbyJessicaSpenceley, a TBRI Practitioner and Social Worker who has written an article on rituals and routines and howtheycanhelpchildrenfeelsafe,secure,andsettledinthehome.Wealsohavearticles on the new Kinship & Connected Carer training package from Inspire Training Group. This package provides a thorough assessment process and qualification as part of the training tosupportindividualsembarkingontheirKinship&ConnectedCarejourney
Gareth Thomas, a Kinship Carer, has written an article called "Protection from Care," which provides a Kinship Carer's perspective of the care system. We also welcome Anita, a children'stherapistwhoworkswithfamilies,andexplorestheimportanceofrepairwithinher article
We also feature our regular well-being section, which in this issue focuses on the use of realistic optimism during the school holiday. Also, our "Ask the Experts" section contains questionsyouhaveasked,whichourteamhasanswered.
Whatever the summer has in store for you, we hope you find time to relax and recharge, evenifit'sjustforalittlewhile.
HappyReading!
Sair, Sarah, and The Team at The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma MeettheTeam! TheCentreofExcellenceinChildTraumaismadeupofateamofexpertswhohave essentialreal-lifeexperience.WeareAdopters,FosterParentsandBioparentsof neurodiversechildren,andalsoworkasprofessionalsinthefield
ExecutiveEditor-SarahNaish SarahisaTherapeuticParent,an Adopteroffivesiblings,former FosterParent,retiredSocialWorker, BestsellinginternationalAuthor, KeynoteSpeakerandfounderof threeIndependentTherapeutic FosteringAgencies
ExecutiveEditor-SairPenna Sair(Sarah)isaTherapeutic Parent,Trainer, Therapeutic ParentingCoach.Directorof NATP,TheHavenParentingand WellbeingCentreandInspire TrainingGroupandauthor,Sair worksacrossCoECTsupporting families
ManagingEditor-Kathryn Talbot KathrynworksacrossCoECT, specialisingincommunications andpublicrelations
Contributor-GarethThomas Garethhasbeenasinglefoster parentandKinshipCarertothree childrenforsevenyears,andhas volunteeredwithchildrenfor fourteenyears.Heiscurrently studyingforadegreeinpsychology, withaviewtobecomingan educationalpsychologist
Contributor-SarahDillon SarahisaTherapeuticParent,an AttachmentTherapist,Keynote speaker,formerchildincare, Author(TherapeuticParenting) and HeadofTherapeuticServices (Fostering)
Contributor-AnitaSmith Anitaisachild psychotherapeuticcounsellor, clinicalsupervisor,andsocial worker Sheworksinprivate practicewithchildren,young people,parents,carersand professionalstodevelop resilienceandastrength-based traumarecoverypathtogether.
Contributor-EmmaEdwards EmmaisaTherapeuticParent, Adopter,DirectorofNATPandThe HavenParentingandWellbeing Centre
Contributor-JessicaSpenceley Jessicaisatherapeuticsocialworker withover20yearsofexperience helpingadoptiveparentsnavigate theirparentingjourneysusingthe attachment-based,traumainformedparentingapproachof TBRI®
Conference News OnThursday20Junewehosted ourannualCentreofExcellencein ChildTraumaConference. Typically,ourconferencesareheld intheautumn,butthisyearwe triedsomethingdifferentby hostingavirtualSummer conferencethroughaconference portal Over700attendees accessedtheconferencevirtually ontheday Thiswasthefirst onlineconferencesinceour2020 event,andwefoundthatthe optiontoattendvirtuallywasstill popularamongourdelegates.It providedthemwiththeflexibility tojoinfromtheirownhomes,and arecordingwasavailablefor thosewhoneededtocatchup later.
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Thehealingpowerofrituals Written by Jessica Spenceley
Aboveall,youwantyourchildto feelsafeandknowthatyouwill alwayscarefor,love,andsupport them However,it’sdifficultto knowhowtohelpyourchildto processandmanagethelossesand traumastheyhaveexperiencedandto knowhowtohelpthemtoheal When you,too,areinemotionalpainfromthe circumstancesthatledtoyourchild comingintoyourhome,it’sevenmore difficult.
However,youdon’thavetostruggle.
Trust-BasedRelationalIntervention® (TBRI®)isatherapeuticapproachto caregivingthatcanhelp.TBRI’sthree principles connection,Empowerment, andCorrection offerstrategies,insights, andtoolssothatyoudon’tfeel overwhelmed,uncertain,oralone
WhenitcomestousingTBRIinyour family,areallyencouragingplacetostart iswithrituals.
Regardlessofwhetheryourchildisa toddler,teen,orsomewhereinbetween, ritualscanhelptoincreasethesenseof nurturing,consistency,andsafetyinyour relationship Anditisthrough relationshipsthatchildren(andadults, too)heal.
Youarelikelyalreadyincorporatingsome ritualswithyourchild,andtheycanlook likesomanydifferentthings However, whatallritualshaveincommonisthat theyaresmall,regular,andpredictable momentsofconnection.
Whiletheymayseemsmall,ritualsare quitepowerful Thosesmallmoments
withyourchildaddupandmakea bigdifference
Andthat’showhealinghappens–inthesmallmomentsof connection,addeduptogetherover time.
So,thinkabouthowyoucoulduse thepowerofritualstohelpcreatea greatersenseofconnectionwith yourchild Whatcouldtheylooklike inyourfamily?
Maybeit’sdiscussingthebestparts ofyourchild’sdayatdinnertime Maybeit’sputtingasweetmessage inyourchild’sschoolbageach morning Maybeit’sgoing swimmingtogethereachSaturday. Maybeyouhaveaspecialsong thatyousingtoyourchildasthey aresnuggledinbedatbedtime
Whateveryoudecide,themainidea isthatritualsaremeaningful momentsforyouandyourchild
Asyoumoveforwardand incorporateadditionalritualsinto therelationshipwithyourchild
trytobemindful Noticewhat happensinthosemoments Seehow youbothrespond.Becomeawareof howitfeelsreallygoodwhenyou areinthoseritualsofconnection Noticehowyoulookforwardtothem justasmuchasyourchilddoes.As youstickwiththemovertime,see howthoseritualsstarttobecome positivememoriesinyourfamily’s story.
Thereisnoundoingofthepast,but thereisalwayshopeforhealing TBRI’sritualsofconnectioncan supportyourfamilyalongtheway.
Ifyouwouldliketolearnmoreabout TBRI,readTheConnectedChildby KarynPurvis,DavidCross,andWendy LyonsSunshine
Throughhercompany,Nurtured Belonging,Jessicahelpsadopters createastrongtherapeuticparenting basefortheirchildrensothattheycan healfromearlyadversityandtrauma Gainadditionalinsights,including moreonTBRI®at https://nurturedbelongingcom/
JessicaisalsoanAssociatewithThe HavenParenting&WellbeingCentre https://www.thehavencentre.co.uk/.
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4 Things to Avoid When Supporting Children to Tidy Up Expect our child to independently organise
their things Be aware of their emotional maturity rather than just their chronological age, as they might not have developed organisational skills yet. Children facing memory challenges may find it difficult to arrange their belongings, especially if they cannot recall where they have put things; children with working memory difficulties may require assistance in this regard, utilising visual aids and transparent boxes to help them remember where items belong.
Demand tidying up in the heat of the moment When children are emotionally dysregulated, they may struggle to understand requests or instructions easily. Asking them to tidy up could escalate the situation, leading to more chaos and possibly objects being thrown. Instead, wait, co-regulate, and reset the situation.
Hold our child to a higher standard than we hold for ourselves
Unachievable expectations rarely benefit anyone. Imagine having to tidy up a large pile of items while feeling upset or angry. Can you picture yourself cleaning a room when you are hungry, tired, and emotionally dysregulated? It's challenging to even begin the task, let alone finish it.
Think that our way of organisation will work for our children Our logical processes are all individual and sometimes based on prior learning and experience. Organisational skills need to be taught at a stage appropriate level for the child to understand and for the task to be a meaningful learning opportunity.
Protection from care Written By Gareth Thomas
SpecialGuardianshipOrders (SGOs)aretypicallyseenasviable alternativestoadoption.Theyare grantedbythefamilycourtsasa wayofkeepingchildrenwithinthe careoftheirextendedfamily
Whereit’snolongersafeorsuitable forchildrentoremaininthecareof theirparents,butit’snotdeemed necessaryforongoinginvolvement fromChildren’sServices(andthe hugecosttoLocalAuthoritieswhich comeswiththis),anSGOmakesa lotofsense
Yetthisisn’thowtheyarealways used
Forsomechildrenandfoster parents,anSGOistheironly possiblewayoutofan overstretchedcaresystem HeadingtocourttorequestanSGO isdonenotjusttoprovidestability andpermanencytoachild,butto protectthemfromasystem designedtocarebutwhich,in reality,cansometimesactively harm
Outcomesforchildrenincareare unacceptable Theyaremorelikely tohavementalhealthissues,lower levelsofwellbeing,andadditional orspecialeducationalneeds.They arelesslikelytodowell academically Andwhenchildren leavecare,theyarelesslikelytobe ineducation,trainingor employment (1)Asanation,we shouldbeashamed Thereasonsforthisarecomplex andincludethenumberoftimesa childmovesfromonehometo another,andappropriatetraining aroundunderstandingchildrenwith trauma.(2)
Despite this, some children thrive Why?
Again,theanswersaren’talwaysso clear Certainthemesdoappear repeatedly Providingasenseof belonging Maintaining stability. Helping the child feel understood,safe,andloved
That’s simply not the goal of our existingcaresystem.It’sdesignedto safeguard children from harm and manage risk It doesn’t quite have thesameringtoit,doesit?
Thisallmeansthatexcellentfoster parents,gettingitrightasoftenasis humanlypossible,areswimming againsttheflowofwaterdaily.It’s exhaustingforpeoplewho,typically, alreadymustthinkcarefullyabout wheretheyspendtheirtimeand energy.
AnSGOoffersawayout Forchildren incareandtheirfosterparents It providesanescapefromthe constantchangeof
allocatedasocialworker,orthe longmysteriousabsenceofa qualifiedsocialworker(asisoften thecase) It’sawayoutfromthe crazyquestionsanddangerous decision-makingofinexperienced anduninformedprofessionals.
Itshouldn’thavetobethisway Nobodyshouldberepresenting themselvesincourttoprotecta childfromthecaresystem Andyetitdoeshappen
Ishouldknow.Ithappenedtome.
1Statisticsbriefing:childrenincare, NSPCC,January2024
2Factorsassociatedwithoutcomes forlooked-afterchildrenandyoung people:acorrelatesreviewofthe literature
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Unit 1 - Understanding the importance of Trauma-informed life story work
Unit 2 - Making sense of the child’s history
Unit 3 - Understanding the child or young person
Unit 4 - Communicating difficult histories
Unit 5 - Triggers in and outside of the session and behaviours and how to support them
Unit 6 - Looking after yourself
Be the Repair Written By Anita Smith
Asachildren’stherapist,I havebeenleftpondering, “Doesthesecurebase matter”withinpostadoptionandspecial guardianshipsupport?Canweever rebuildorrepairthesecurebasethat hasbeenlost(orevenstolen)from children’searlylives?Ibelieveso,but doesthesupportsystemenablethe repairorhasthesystemitself becomeneglectful,evenharmful?
Twentyyearsago,whenIbegan workingwithinpost-adoption support,manyparentsandcarers hadlittleornoideaofwhatsupport wasavailabletothemandfelt shame,evenfailure,forneedingto askforsupport TheAdoptionand ChildrenAct2002setthescenefor theprovisionofservicestosupport parentsinunderstandingtheneeds oftheirchildrenwhohaveendured earlyatrocitiesandattachment woundstohelpthemformhealthy attachmentswithintheirfamiliesas theyjourneythroughchildhoodinto adulthood Althoughtheintentionis thatweenablechildrentodevelopa newsecurebasewithintheirfamilies, thoseofyoureadingthismayhave alreadydiscoveredthatinreallife, thisisn’talwayssoeasytocreate!
Withinmytherapypractice,Ihave cometowitnessthatfamiliesare lifelong,notjustsignificant,untila childbecomesanadult.Thejourney througheachchronologicalageand eachdevelopmentalstagecan benefitfromconsistent, compassionatetherapeuticsupport thatnurturesandtendstothewhole family Thissupportcanbe alongsidethestrugglesthatchildren andtheirfamiliesexperience repeatedlyandofteninisolation, anditcanhelpthembuildanew securebasewhilesimultaneously repairingearlyruptures.
Followingtheimplementationof the2002Act,adoptionservices havestrivedhardovertheyears toensurethatoncethedecision hasbeenreachedthatadoption isinthebestinterestsofachild, goodpracticeisinplacepre-and post-placementtosupportthe bestofoutcomesforall Recently, however,Ihavenoticeda worryingtrendthatmaywell benefitfrombeinghighlighted, addressed,andpossiblyeven challenged.
Howdoweholdthetherapeutic narrativeforchildrenandtheir familieswhilstutilisingthe benefitsoftheASGSF(Adoption andSpecialGuardianship SupportFund)andworkingwithin itsconstraints?Howdoweensure thatchildrenandfamiliescan enterinto(wherenecessary)long
termtherapeuticrelationships, whichcanbecomeameaningful supportalongsideday-to-day familylife?
Theworryingtrendthatfamiliesare beinginformedthattheyneedto bedependentuponthemselves andnotupontherapeutic relationshipshasleftmanychildren andfamiliesadriftbetween changeswithintherapymodalities andthesearchforothertherapists
Thiswasnottheintentionofthe 2002Act,whichwasratherto ensurethatmeaningfuland ongoingsupportiveserviceswere availabletoscaffoldandholdthe familysteadythroughthe emotionalturbulence
Postadoption&special guardianshipsupportappearsto
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bemoreeffectivewhenmade availableinatimelyandconsistent mannerandiswrappedupwithin theethosof‘we’reinthistogether’, ratherthan‘you’reonyourown’
Attherecentfinancialyear’send,I reflecteduponthesummariesIhad writtentoconcludethetherapeutic workfundedbytheASGSF Iwas remindedofmyownbeginnings, theneedtonotonlydevelopthe knowledgeandskillsrequiredto offertherapeuticsupportbutalso theneedfor‘another’towalk besidemeasatherapeutic‘Doula’ untilbeing‘traumaand attachment’informedandworking ‘relationallyanddevelopmentally’ withinmytherapeuticapproach becamesufficientlyembedded withinme,sothatIcouldthenbe thisforothers.
Alearningjourneythatcontinues on
Thisreflectionmademeconsider howsupportiveservicescouldbe the‘TherapeuticDoula’(someone whoprovidesreassuranceand comfortalongsideexpertwisdom andguidance)forparentsand carersuntilparentsareenabledto becomethisfortheirchildren We canensurethatthesupport systemavoidsre-enactmentof thetraumasalreadyenduredby workingincollaborationwiththe therapeuticrelationshipand process.Onceparentsandcarers feelequippedwithintegrated therapeuticparentingstrategies, thiswillinstilself-confidenceanda ‘knowing’and‘trust’thatadditional supportisthereifneeded
Rebuildingtherupturedsecure basemaybetoughgoingandat
HAVEYOUSUBSCRIBEDTOTIPSYET? timesfeelhopeless,butthehope remainsthattherecanberepair andnewsecurebonds developed Iambothhumbled andhonouredbythosewhohave beenthetherapeuticdoula alongsidemeandIcontinueto strivetobethatforothers
Anitaworksinprivatepracticeas aqualifiedandexperiencedchild psychotherapeuticcounsellor andclinicalsupervisor,whilst remainingasaregisteredsocial worker
Anita’smainareasofpracticeare nowintheofferingofindividual, groupandorganisationalclinical supervision
Reference: HMSO 2002 Adoptionand ChildrenAct London
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Innovations in Parenting Assessment and Preparation for Kinship and Connected Carers Written By
Inspire Training Group
Weareexcitedtointroducea uniqueapproachinassessing andpreparingKinshipand ConnectedCarers.The brainchildofSarahNaish,a therapeuticparentandbest-selling author,andSairPenna,theHeadof SchoolforTherapeuticParenting Studies,theTrauma-Informed ParentingPreparation&Assessment forConnectedandKinshipCarers (TIPPACK)isatruegame-changer.It redefinestheevaluationand preparationofprospectivecarers, equippingthemtomeettheunique needsofchildrenfromtrauma.This innovativeapproachisatestamentto thedepthofexpertiseanddedication behindit
Developedbyexpertsinthefield, SarahNaish,bringsherextensive experienceasaSocialWorkerin fosteringandastheownerof IndependentTherapeuticFostering Agencies SairPenna,theHeadof SchoolforTherapeuticParenting Studies,hasformulatedtheLevel1 AwardinTrauma-InformedParenting Preparation&AssessmentforKinship& ConnectedCarers,ensuringthatthe programisbackedbyawealthof knowledgeandexperience
TheTIPPACKisastreamlinedand comprehensiveprocessthataimsto provideajargon-free,non-duplicating, andrelevantassessmentdocument It presentscrucialinformationatthe beginningoftheassessment,ensuring thatprospectivekinshiporconnected carersclearlyunderstandthe expectationsplaceduponthem
Throughtheintegrationofthe Level1Award,theTIPPACKinstils confidenceinbothassessorsand applicantsabouttheapplicant’s abilitytocareforachildfrom traumausingtherapeutic parentingtechniques
TheTIPPACKstandsoutforits abilitytoaddressthechallenges inthecurrentassessmentsystem, asidentifiedbyaFocusGroup comprisingvariousstakeholders Thisgroupincludedformer childrenincare,teammanagers, localauthoritymanagersin fostering&kinshipcare,and panelmembersexperiencedin therapeuticparenting
TheTIPPACKhaseffectively tackledsignificantissuessuchas
unrealisticexpectations,outdated trainingcourses,andincreased workloadforsocialworkersand externaltrainers,instillingasense ofhopeandoptimismforthe futureofkinshipandconnected care
Wehavereceivedawaveof positivefeedback,withassessing socialworkerspraisingitsuserfriendlyprocess,lackof duplication,andasignificant reductioninworkrelatedto signpostingandtraining
Administratorshavealsoreported seamlessinformationgathering andasubstantialdecreasein sourcingexternaltraining courses Thesesuccessstories underscorethe
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effectivenessandpotentialofthe TIPPACKapproach,sparking hopeforitsfutureimplementation
Thesuccessfulpilotingofthe TIPPACKinaLocalAuthorityinthe SouthofEnglandhasledtominor adjustmentsandthedevelopment of'TheAssessor’sGuide'asan accompanyingdocument Thisis justthebeginningoftheTIPPACK's journey,withfutureimplications andimprovementsonthehorizon.
TheTrauma-InformedParenting
Preparation&Assessmentfor ConnectedandKinshipCarers (TIPPACK)representsasignificant stepforwardinassessingand preparationtrainingforkinshipand connectedcarers Byaddressing theidentifieddifficultiesinthe currentassessmentsystemand integratingessentialtraininginto theassessmentprocess,the TIPPACKoffersacomprehensive andpracticalapproachto ensuringthatcarersare adequatelyequippedtosupport childrenfromtrauma
Formoreinformationonthe qualificationortoregisterfollow thelinkorQRcodetotheInspire TrainingGroupwebsite
TherapeuticallyManagingViolentBehaviourinChildren andAdolescents Foster parenting presents unique challenges, especially when caring for children and adolescents displaying violent behaviour. Providing foster parents with comprehensive training as a proactive strategy to effectively manage and de-escalate such behaviours before a child or young person shows any signs of displaying the behaviour can equip parents with the tools and techniques to handle challenging situations to ensure the safety and well-being of the children in their care
By undergoing this training, foster parents gain a deep understanding of the root causes of violent behaviour in children and adolescents This understanding enables them to identify triggers and effectively de-escalate conflicts, creating a safer environment for both the children and themselves. Additionally, acquiring skills to defuse conflicts, implement empathic listening, and swiftly recognise and skilfully respond to dangerous situations allows foster parents to confidently manage verbal abuse and challenging conversations professionally within their home.
Training enables foster parents to understand the factors influencing behaviour, such as thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values, motivations, and the environment This understanding enables them to respond more effectively to challenging behaviours and implement appropriate interventions to prevent escalation.
Offering this proactive approach to foster parents essentially equips them with the necessary skills and knowledge to manage and de-escalate violent behaviour in the children and adolescents under their care from the start. This not only ensures the safety and well-being of the children but also empowers foster parents to create a safe and nurturing environment for the children to thrive. In turn, this allows you to turn your organisational approach to managing violence and aggression in children and young people from reactive to proactive.
ForGroups/Organisations-FacetoFace
CourseLength:2days
CourseFee:From£1500plusVAT
Groupsize:0-15attendees
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Making Transitions in School Transitionsarechangesthatchangeus,whetherit’sthe movechildrenmakefromprimaryschooltosecondary schoolorfromfamilyhometoindependentliving Children wholiveinanurturingfamilyenvironmentandhavea secureattachmenttoatleastoneparentalfigureare usuallyquiteresilientandseetransitionsasexcitingtimes Forthesechildren,transitionspresentopportunitiesfor growthandmaturing
TheImpactofTransitionsonChildrenwhohave experiencedearlylifetrauma
Alltransitionsgeneratestressofonekindoranother–and theyallinvolveendings Childrenwhohavesuffered significantemotionalorphysicalmaltreatmentintheir earlierlifearelikelytostrugglewithanysortofstress–theylosttheircapacitytoregulatestresslevelswhenthey werevictimsoftraumaandhadtheirbrainsoverwhelmed bystressneurochemicals Forthesechildren,alltransitions maybeexperiencedastraumatic,andallendingsfeel devastating.Thisappliestothesignificanttransitions aroundmovingschoolsorschoolbuildings–butcould equallyapplytomovingfromclassroomtoclassroom whenthebellgoesfortheendofalesson!Thesevery minortransitionsareexperiencedasunconscious–but powerful–echoesofthesignificantendingsandlosses childrenhavesustained,forexample,inbeingremoved frombirthfamiliesandplacedwithanever-beforeencounteredfosterfamily.
Securelyattachedchildrencarrywithinthemasenseof safety;theyknowwhotheyareandwheretheybelong andsocantolerateadegreeofuncertainty.Theyalso usuallyfindchangeinterestingandenjoythelearning experience partlybecausetheydoitquitewell Their parents'resiliencehasbecometheirresilience,andthey areabletoreframedifficulteventsintheirschoollifeso thattheyhaveapositivespin
Childrenwhohavesufferedtraumaorinsecurityarelikely toexperiencechangeasthreatening.Theymaywellhave beenthroughunplannedandterrifyingtransitionsand endingsthatleftthemisolatedandvulnerable Theydo nothavethatinnersenseofsafetyandneedtocontrol otherstotrytofeelsafe.Also,duetotheiroftennegative experienceswithadults,theyarenotgoodatconfidingin othersorusinganysocialsupportthatmaybeavailable Anyproblemordifficultyisviewednegatively–andany endingislikelydestructive.
StrategiesforSmoothTransitions Reduceanxietylevelsthroughcarefulpreparationand planningofatransition,combinedwithexcellent communicationwithinthenetwork Letadoptive/foster
NATP Free Resource parentsknowifadifficulttransitionorendingislooming sothatthechild’ssafetynetisheldateverycorner Takethechildontheirowntouroftheirnewclassroom andnewteachersothatquestionscanbeasked–and informationgiven-withoutshameorembarrassment. Whatmakesthischild/youngpersonfeelsafe?
Increasetheirlevelsofsafetyandself-esteemso theydevelopastrongersenseofthemselvesasa resilientperson,wellabletowithstandadversity. Intheprocess,supportthechild/youngpersonin developingbetterself-regulation Thisistypically achievedbyanadultwhoisclosetothem,coregulatingoftenenoughuntilthechilddevelops self-regulation(thinkofachildlearningtoridetheir bike,withparentholdingontothesaddleandthen lettinggowithoutthechildevenrealizingtheyare nowcyclingsolo!).
Gentlynormalisethetransitionprocessandaddress thechild’sapprehensionofanytransitionorending withempathy
Themessagetothechild/youngpersonisthatin thisschooltheadultsaresafe-andpupilsaresafer whentheadultsaretheonesmakingthedecisions andincontrolofthetransitionalprocess
Identifysafepeople(mentor,formtutor,SENCO,LSA) withinthechildoryoungperson’snetworkand activelyencouragethechild/youngpersontolink withthem
Conclusion Inorderforchildrenandyoungpeopletomanage transitionstheyneedtofeelthattheyareresilient Individualresilienceisthekeyelementinmakinga successfultransition–andthatdevelopswithina networkofsupportiverelationships Thoserelationships willbecharacterisedbyahighlevelofwarmthanda lowlevelofcriticism;expectationswillbehighbut attainable,andthechildwillbeempoweredbythelevel ofsupportbothathomeandatschooltomanagethe movestheyfindthemselvesontracktomake
Athought:Onetherapeuticfosteringagencytrained twooftheirownstaffastherapeuticLSAs Theyworked alongsideachildduringYear6andthentransferred withthemtosecondaryschoolforYear7.Theystayed withthemuntiltheendofthefirstweekafterthe Octoberhalf-term–andthenreturnedtosupport anotherYear6child Thetransitionswerealways successful.
Schoolscoulddothisforthemselves Trainingcouldbe accessedviaNATP
Ifyouwouldlikemoreinformationoraspeakerforan in-serviceevent,pleasecontactnatp@coectcouk
WHAT'S ON? COECT EVENTS July 2024 - September 2024
TheA-ZofTherapeuticParenting:StrategiesandSolutionswebinarseries Tuesday23rdJuly-HumourandSarcasm
TraumaRevolutionWebinars
SexualisedBehaviour-28July,12:00–13:00BST
Oneofthebestwaystoprotectourselvesistoseethefunnyside Wewillbelookingatstrategiesto helpyouseethefunnysideinsomesituations(weknowthisisnotalwayspossible)thisweekswebinar wewillbefocusingonHumourandSarcasmopeningthisupforquestionsattheendandhopefully havesomelaughterontheway!
Itcanbeveryfrightening,evenhorrifying,tocomeacrossaveryyoungchildwhois,or,appearstobe,sexually knowledgeableandactive;butifwecanputasideourownhorrorandrevulsionandseewhatthebehaviouris reallytellingus,wecanatleaststartoffwiththerightmindset
Thursday1st August–Isolation+LossofIdentity
Shame–1 August,10:00–11:00BST
ThereissuchapatternofisolationaffectingTherapeuticParents.Itisthiswhichdriveseverythingwe dohereatCOECT.Joinourtrainersthisweekaswediscussthistopicinmoredetailprovidingyouwith strategiesandfurthersupporthelpingyoumoveforwardandopeningthisupforaQ+Aattheendso bringalonganyquestionsyoumayhave!
JoinLauraforaone-hourlivewebinaronShame.Shameisapowerfulandpervasiveemotionforchildren.This webinarwillexplorethereasonsbehindshame,howitmanifestsinchildren,andstrategiesforsupporting childrentoovercomethisdebilitatingemotion ThewebinarwillalsofeatureaQ&Asession,wherewewill answeryourquestionsandprovideinsightsintohowtohelpyourchild
SiblingRivalry-10August,10:00-11:00BST
Monday5thAugust–Inadequacy
Obsessionsoftenhappenbecauseourchildrenstruggletobestilland'comfortableintheirownskin’When theyarestill,thetrauma,anxietyandemptinessseembiggerandmakethemfeeluncomfortable,drivento actionandtofindadistraction.Joinusforthislivewebinarwithmanyusefulstrategiessurrounding obsessions
Wecanoftenfeelasifwearen’tenoughwhenthoseinstantfeelingsoflovedon’tpopupasexpected Itsunrealistictoexpectthistohappen,butpressureisoftenputonparentstofeelthis Joinusthisweek aswediscussthistopicwithourtrainers
Monday19thAugust–NaturalConsequences
JoinusthisweekaswediscussthetopicofNaturalConsequences Weknowitcanbeverydifficultto standasideandallowamistakeyourchildhasmadetocometoanaturalconclusion Wewillbe lookingatstrategiestohelpyouknowwhenitsokaytointerveneandwhenyoushouldjustletthe naturalconsequenceunfold!
Monday26thAugust–OverwhelmandOvereating
Sometimesweovereattoovercompensate Sometimeswhenwearenothavingourownemotional needsmetorfeelinganxious,wehavehighlevelsofcortisol,sowereachforfood!Wewillbelooking andthesectionsofTheA-ZofSurvivalStrategies,OverwhelmandOvereatingandprovidingyouwith strategiestohelpyouonyourTherapeuticJourney
Thursday5thSeptember–PerfectParents
Parentingcanbetough-butitdoesn'thavetobeperfect!JoinusforawebinarbasedonSarah Naish'sbook'TheA-ZofSurvivalStrategiesforPerfectParents',wherewe'llexploretheartofimperfect parenting We'lldiscusslettinggoofguiltandshame,prioritisingself-care,andbuildingstrong relationshipswithyourchildren
·Friday13thSeptember–PatronisingIgnorantExperts
Areyoutiredofbeingheldbackbywell-intentionedbutcluelessexperts?Doyoustruggleto communicatewiththosewhoclaimtobeexperts,butclearlyhavenoideawhatthey'retalkingabout? Inthisinteractivewebinar,ourtrainerswillsharetheirexpertinsightsonhowtonavigatethese frustratingsituationsandcomeoutontop
·Monday16thSeptember–ProtectingOurselves
SarahNaish,authorof"TheA-ZofSurvivalStrategies",willshareherexpertiseandinsightstohelpyou developtheskillsandstrategiesyouneedtothriveinthefaceofadversity Whetheryou'refacing personalorprofessionalchallenges,thiswebinarwillgiveyouthetoolsyouneedtoemergestronger, moreresilient,andmoreconfident
FormoreinformationonupcominglivewebinarsvisittheTraumaRevolutionwebsite https://wwwtraumarevolutioncouk/eventsorscantheQRcode
Nurturing Trauma-Informed Care for Vulnerable Children: A Guide to the TIPPAKC Qualification WrittenByInspire TrainingGroup
Embarkingonthejourneyto careforachildasaKinship Carer,ConnectedPerson,or underaSpecial GuardianshipOrder(SGO) demandsadeep
understandingoftrauma-informed parenting.Weunderstandthatcaring forachildasaKinshipCarer, ConnectedPerson,orunderaSpecial GuardianshipOrder(SGO)canbe challenging.TheTrauma-Informed ParentingPreparationAssessmentfor Kinship&ConnectedCare(TIPPAKC)is designedtoofferacomprehensive4monthprogramthatprovidesthe necessaryknowledgeandskillsforthis pivotalrole
TheTIPPAKCinvolvesdedicating around3-6hoursofweeklystudy Itis deliveredthroughaninteractiveonline platform Thisqualificationiscarefully craftedtocomplementthe TherapeuticParentingPreparation AssessmentforKinship&Connected Careprocess,aimingtoprovide comprehensivepreparationfor individualsinthekinshipcarerrole
Thequalificationconsistsoffour separateunitsthatdelveintothe diverseresponsibilitiesofKinship& ConnectedCarers Itequips participantswiththenecessarytoolsto understandandmeetthespecific needsofchildrenandyoungpeople whilepromotinganurturing environmentandemphasisingthe importanceofself-careforthe caregivers Weunderstandthat embarkingonthiseducationaljourney canbeacommitmentand transformative,andwewantto reassureparticipantsthattheywon't bealone Withtheguidanceofthe programtutorandthesupportofpeers
throughourinteractiveonline forum,theywillbeabletonavigate thisjourneyeffectively.
Althoughthecourseworkprimarily takesplaceinadigitalenvironment, werecognisethateveryonehas uniquelearningstylesand accommodationsareavailablefor varyinglearningstyles,including handwrittenassessmentsand tailoredsupporttomeetindividual needs Thissupportsystemis designedtoinstilconfidencein participantsandensuretheir successintheprogram
Aftersuccessfullycompletingthe qualification,participantsreceive theLevel1Award,acustomised qualificationwhichisaccreditedby CACHE Thisqualificationnotonly marksasignificantachievement butalsoactsasasteppingstonefor individuals’personaland professionalgrowth Itprovidesa pathwaytotheLevel2Therapeutic Fosteringqualification
orLevel2SAfEParentingqualification, openingupnewopportunitiesfor individualstoexpandyourknowledge andskills
Thisprogramgoesbeyondtraditional learningexperiences.Itsgoalisto deeplyunderstandchildhoodtrauma, recogniseitscomplexities,and empowerkinshipandconnected carerstoofferunwaveringsupportto childrenundertheircare Italsosheds lightonthepathwayswithinthe KinshipCaresystem,providing participantswithknowledgeabout availablesupportandaccess procedures
Findoutmore informationonour level1qualificationin KinshipCareonthe linkbelow https://tinyurlcom/4pdkrssn
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ASKTHEEXPERTS Letourteamofexpertswithfirst-handexperience,guideyou throughsomeofthosetrickyTIPmoments! ThisissuewearejoinedbySarahNaishwhohasansweredyour questions. Itdoesnotmatterifthebabysitter doesnotdothingsEXACTLYasyou wouldwantwhenyouareout Thisis thepayoff Yourfreetimeismore importantthanwhetherornotthe babysittergotreeled inandgaslitby yourchild.Youcanputthisrightlater becauseyouarerefreshed.Youhave ababysitter.Youcanthinkstraight.
JSfromDorchesterasks-
“WhatcanIdoaboutbabysitters!?Theyjust don’tgetit,andthismeansIcannevergeta break..” SarahNaishreplies:
Yourchildcannottrickyou Well nottodayanyway When planningforanightout,donot shareyourexcitementaboutthis withyourchildren Itismuchsafer tosuggestyouaregoingtoa boringmeeting,whiletheyhave theexcitementofalessstrict babysitter,thanitistocelebrate
yourforthcomingnightout Thiswillbesabotaged Youwill besad
Doyouhaveaquestionabout acertainbehaviouryourchild displaysorasituationwhich seemstricky?Writeintousvia theemailtips@coectcoukto getyourquestionansweredin theAsktheExpertssection
OurFacebookgroup(TherapeuticParenting)hasover40,000members. Oneofthemostfrequentlyaskedquestionsis,‘Whatisthenatural consequencefor….?’
SarahNaishreplies-Theessential componentofnatural consequencesisensuringweusea healthydollopofnurturealongside InmyA-ZofSurvivalStrategies,this ishowIanswered
Well,theclueisinthetitle.Natural. Anaturalconsequencehappens whenyoudon’tintervene.Youhave tobeaprettystrongparentto standbyandmakeaconscious decisionnottointerveneandtolet theconsequencesoccur.Butthe thingis,ifyoueverwantyour childrentoappreciateyou,(and othersforthatmatter),youdo needtostopsavingeveryonefrom theconsequencesoftheirown actions.
Wehavetohelpourchildrento linkcauseandeffect,and luckily,thatmeanslessworkfor usifwesticktoanoninterventionpolicy
Notinterveningisapositive decisionandareallyeffective strategy.Whileweunderstand thebenefitsforourchildren, therearebenefitsforustoo. Whenweareabletoallow naturalconsequencesto happenit'susuallythecase thatweunderstandwhatwe aredoing,andwehaveaplan. Ourplanmaybeundermined bywellintentioned(andby thatImeanpatronising/ ignorant)others.It'sdifficult
whenothersarejudgingusas ‘harsh’becausewearenot replacingthe24th ‘accidentally’brokenphoneor havechosentoallowthe childtobelatetowherethey needtogetto Well,weknow best,andtheycanbasically jogon Wearebrainsurgeons buildingsynapses,theyaren’t
In‘TheA-ZofTherapeutic Parenting’,Ialsoexplainthe naturalconsequencesfor overahundreddifferent behavioursandsituations Thereareoccasionswhen obviouslyyoumightneedto interveneforsafetyreasons.
Summer wellb Channelling yo through the sc WrittenbySairPenna
Manypeoplecountthesummer breakas6weeksofholidays; othersmaycountitas42days or1008hours,andsomemay thinkthatall3ofthesearea verylongtime!Thiscanbechallenging forparentsasthesummerholidays maybringwithitaddedresponsibilities andsometimechaos
Whilesomechildrenanticipateweeks offunandfreedom,othersmay strugglewiththechangefromthe predictabilityoftheschoolroutine Eitherway,itcanseemlikealongtime tokeepchildrenentertained,and findingwaystomaintainasenseof balancebetweenself-careduringthis busytimecanbedifficultornear impossible.Althoughitmayseem overwhelming,withafewmindful strategiesandaheftydoseofrealistic optimism,it'spossibletonavigatethe schoolholidaysandfindmomentsof peace,self-care,andjoyalongthe way
outandrestinbetweenactivitiescan behelpfulforthosewhobecome overwhelmedbybusyenvironments
Inaworldfilledwithdailychallenges, maintainingasenseofhumourand realismbecomestheultimatesurvival toolforanyparent Realisticoptimism involvesacknowledgingwhatever chaosisgoingoninthemoment, navigatingthroughit,whilestillfinding thesilverlining It'saboutbalancingthe hopeful"maybetodaywillbedifferent" withthepractical"let'skeepthe emergencysnackshandyandhavean exitstrategyjustincasethingsspiral, andweneedtoleaveearly."
Balance,StructureandFlexibility Findingabalancebetweenstructure andflexibilitythatworksforyouand yourchild,canmakelifeeasierfor everyoneduringthesummerholidays Somechildrenmayneeddowntime afterabusyday,adayortwotochill
Acceptanceplaysabigpartin allowingthatdowntime Youdon’t havetobefillingyourdayswithdays outorintenseactivitieseverysingle day,especiallyifyouarefindingyour childcan’tcopewithit;seewhat worksforyouasafamily,andifyoutry somethinganditdoesn’twork,then youknowit’snottherightfitforyour familyatthatmomentintime
Parentingachildwhodisplays neurodiversecharacteristicscan comewithitsfairshareofunexpected twistsandturnsandsometimesfeel likeanemotionalrollercoasterfor bothparentandchildsomedays.It's importanttoacknowledgethe challengingmomentswhile cherishingthesmallvictories.By facingsituationswhichseemdifficult head-on,webecomebetterequipped tohandlethenextone
Insteadofdwellingonwhatwe can'tcontrolfromexternalfactors suchastheenvironmenttriggering sensorydifficultiesforourchildren. Wefocusonwhatwecancontrol likeourresponsetoourchild, beingopentoconnectingwithour them,especiallywhentheyneed ustobepresent,toregulatetheir emotions
“YouGetto...”
Practicinggratitudeandreframing thesituationisanotheraspectof realisticoptimism Byappreciating theuniquenessofourchildren, evenduringapublicmeltdown,we mayfindjoyandresilience It'sall abouttheshiftinperspectivefrom "Whyus?"to"Igetto…”Soifyour childishangingontotheclimbing frameandrefusingtoleavethe park,the“Whyisitourchild hangingaroundtheclimbing frame”couldbereframedinto“Our childishangingaroundthe climbingframe,Icanseethem,
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theyaresafe,andIgettositand watchtheducksonthepondinthe sunforabitlonger.”Itmaynotbe thisideal,butchangingyour mindsettoinclude“Igetto”switches ournegativebiasintoapositive reframe.
TimeOutforyou Sometimes,takingthat5minutesto carveoutsometimeforyourselfcan helpyoucalmyourself Whetherit's throughsavouringawarmorcool drinkthatyouhavemadeyourself,a bitofmeditationortimetopractice HaveningTechniques,whichcan effectivelyreducestresslevelsand regulateyouremotions.
Bynurturingyourownneeds,you're preparingyourselffortheinevitable upsanddownsofthesummer holidaysandsettinganexcellent exampleforyourchild Asparents, weareourchildren'sfirstandmost influentialrolemodels.So,let'sshow themtheimportanceofself-care andstressreductionbypracticingit ourselves!
Alike-mindedparentfriend Somedaysmaybeeasierthan others,andonthosetrickierdays, don'thesitatetoleanonyour supportsystem,someonewho totallygetsyourlife.Whetherit's schedulingaplaydatewithalikemindedparent,enlistingthehelp offamilymemberstotakecareof yourchildsoyoucanhavean hourortwotoyourself,orifthese don’tresonatewithyou,seekout anetworkofsupport
Ifyouthinkthismightsoundan impossibletask,thenTheNational AssociationofTherapeutic Parent’sholdListeningCircles (childfree)orFamilyCircles (childrenwelcome)withintheUK, theorganisingisdonebytheir lovelyvolunteers,andallyouneed todoiscomealongtooneofthe listeningcirclesorfamilycircles By sharingtheloadandconnecting withothersnavigatingsimilar experiences,youcanfind reassurance,advice,andasense ofcamaraderie
NATP - Be Part of the Community NATPisdedicatedto empoweringparentsand professionalssupporting childrenwhohave experiencedearlylifetrauma ordisplayneurodiverse characteristics.Through trauma-informedpractice, therapeuticparenting,and managingcompassion fatigue,weprovideresources, trainingopportunities,anda strong,supportivecommunity forparentsfacingchallenging situations
Forparentsseekingsupportor caringforchildrenwithunique needs,NATPrepresentsa valuableandsubstantial resource Visitourwebsitefor furtherinformationandto becomeapartoftheir supportivecommunity.
Wouldyouliketobecomepart ofourteamofvolunteers?
"Inyourcorner" parent linking/friend finderservice
EmbracingthemomentofChaos Parentingduringthesummer holidayscanbemessy,loud,and wonderfullychaotic Embracethe imperfections,savourthefleeting childhoodmoments,and celebratetheuniquemagicofthis timeofyear Inthemoment,it maynotseemlikeamomentto cherish,especiallyifyourchildis displayingchallengingbehaviour Itcanunderstandablybe exhaustingforall,buttherewill alwaysbethoseglimmers,the littlesparksofjoy Sometimesyou havetolookabitharderforthem
Approachingthesummerholidays witharealisticsenseofoptimism mayempowerustohandlethe challengesofparentingwith resilienceandahealthydoseof humour Whetheryouoryourchild arecountingtheholidaysasasixweek,42-day,or1008-hour journey,adoptingthismindsetcan makethesummerholidaysmore manageableandenjoyablefor bothparentandchild
Child on Parent Violence WrittenBy EmmaEdwards
Parentingisoneofthemost challengingandrewarding rolesinlife.Itcomeswitha greatdealofresponsibilityand love,butitalsocomeswithits fairshareofstruggles.Oneofthemost heartbreakingstrugglesthataparent canfaceiswhentheirchildbecomes violenttowardsthem.
Child-on-parentviolenceisagrowing issuethatisoftenmisunderstoodand stigmatised.Itisaformofdomestic violencethatoccurswhenachilduses physical,verbal,oremotional aggressiontowardstheirparentor caregiver.Thistypeofviolencecan takeatollonboththechildandthe parent,causingimmenseemotional andpsychologicaldamage
Asasociety,weoftenplacetheblame ontheparentswhenachildexhibits violentbehaviour Wequestiontheir parentingskillsandwonderwhatthey couldhavedonedifferentlytoprevent thisfromhappening However,what manyfailtorealiseisthatchildparentviolenceisnotalwaysthe resultofbadparenting.Itisoftena signthatthechildisstrugglingwith emotionalregulation
Emotionalregulationistheabilityto manageandcontrolone'semotions healthilyandappropriately Itisaskill thatisdevelopedovertime,andsome childrenmaystrugglewithitmore thanothers Forsomechildren, emotionalregulationcanbe particularlychallengingduetovarious factors,suchasgenetics,trauma, developmentaldisorders,mental healthissues,andacryforhelp Theyoftenhavedifficultycontrolling theirimpulsesandmanagingtheir emotions Thiscanleadtooutburstsof anger,aggression,andviolence These behavioursarenotareflectionofthe child'scharacter,butrathera manifestationoftheirstruggles
It'simportanttorecognisethata child'sbraincanbewired differentlyduetoearlyneglector abuse Asaresult,somechildren mayhavedifficultyregulating theiremotionscomparedto others.Thisdoesn'tmakethem inherentlydangerousorabad person;rather,itmeansthey mayrequireadditionalsupport andunderstanding.
Asaparent,itcanbe heartbreakingtoseeyourchild losecontrolandbecomeviolent towardsyou Itcanalsobe challengingtodealwiththe aftermathofsuchincidents, suchasdamagetoyourhome orbelongings Thiscanleadto feelingsofhelplessness, frustration,andevenshame
Parentsmayfeelashamedthat theirchildisexhibitingviolent
behaviour,andtheymay blamethemselvesfornot beingabletocontroltheir child'sactions
Inconclusion,child-on-parent violenceisacomplexissuethat requiresunderstandingand supportfromsociety Itisnot thefaultoftheparents,anditis notareflectionoftheir parentingskills Itisasignthat thechildisstrugglingwith emotionalregulation,andthey needlove,understanding,and professionalhelptoovercome thesechallengesanddevelop healthycopingmechanisms Asasociety,wemustbreakthe stigmaandprovidesupportto familiesdealingwiththisissue, ratherthanplacingblameand shameonparents.Inaddition toseekingoutsidesupport,itis alsoessentialforparentsto takecareofthemselves
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Dealingwithchild-on-parent violencecanbeemotionallyand mentallydraining,andparents mustprioritisetheirownwellbeing Thiscanincludeseeking therapy,practicingself-care,and settingboundarieswiththeirchild
ThatiswhytheCentreof ExcellenceinChildTrauma (COECT),anditsorganisations focusonaddressingtheroot causesofthisviolenceand providingsupporttobothparents andchildren Weunderstandhow difficultitcanbeforparentsas manyofourstaffmembershave firsthandexperiencewiththisissue andarededicatedtoproviding supportandresourcestothose whoneedit Oneofthe organisationswithinCOECTisthe NationalAssociationof TherapeuticParents(NATP).
Theyofferde-escalationand managingviolentbehaviour trainingspecificallydesignedfor parentswhoaredealingwithchildon-parentviolence Thistraining equipsparentswiththenecessary skillsandtechniquestode-escalate aviolentsituationandmanagetheir child'sbehavioursafelyand effectively
TheHavenParentingandWellbeing Centreisanotherorganisation withinCOECT TheHaven's3Stepsto Connectprogramfocuseson buildingpositiverelationships betweenparentsandtheirchildren andisusedwhenfamiliesare contemplatingsupportingtheir childtoliveinaResidential Children’sHome(Section20, ChildrenAct1989) Thisprogram helpsparentsunderstandtheroot causesoftheirchild'sbehaviour
andprovidesthemwithtoolsto connectwiththeirchildinamore meaningfulway,andpromote familystability
Remember,youarenotalone,and thereishopeforhealingand buildinghealthierrelationshipswith yourchild
KINSHIP CARE CONFERENCE Date: Thursday 17th October 2024
Time: 10:00 - 15:30 (BST)
Location: Virtual via Zoom
Join Sarah Naish (CEO of CoECT), Gareth Thomas (Special Guardian & CoECT Trainer) & Enza Smith MBE (Kinship Carers UK) covering the essential information for Kinship, Connected Carers and Special Guardians
For more information and to book a place go to https://www.naotp.com/natp-training-booking
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