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Integrity

A person acting without itegrity, or someone perceived as “evil”, is no less a creation of G-d, but has fundamental issues to clear prior to the outer-self reflecting the deeper inner goodness.

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Integrity MIA ADLER OZAIR, MA, LPCC, NCC

in·teg·ri·ty noun ͰŝŶͲढ़ƚĞͲŐƌ࠯ͲƚĤͰ ͗ ƚŚĞ ƋƵĂůŝƚLJ ŽĨ ďĞŝŶŐ ŚŽŶĞƐƚ ĂŶĚ ĨĂŝƌ ͗ ƚŚĞ ƐƚĂƚĞ ŽĨ ďĞŝŶŐ ĐŽŵƉůĞƚĞ Žƌ ǁŚŽůĞ

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have been reflecting quite a bit lately on the state of the world in general and on the condition of the Jewish community specifically. In general, I tend to have an optimistic view of the world. I believe to my core that every human being is divinely created with the spark of G-d himself, and therefore every human being deserves to be treated with the respect that a creation of G-d’s would inherently deserve. You might ask, “Well how do you explain all of the evil in the world? How do you explain a child molester or a murder? How do you explain domestic violence and abuse?” and the list of questions can go on and on. Do I believe there is “evil” in the world? The simple answer is yes, but not in the way most might imagine. . . I will explain a little bit further in this article.

During the course of my reflections something dawned on me: perpetrators do share a common denominator to some degree. Those who perpetrate crimes and abuses on others lack the fundamental quality and characteristic, or midah, of integrity. It is quite possible that what keeps some on track in life, while others stray far, is this simple concept: what we are on the inside must match what we present on the outside and both 10

must be in alignment with the greater good the majority of time. A person living with integrity is a person who is whole or complete. Let’s take a real-life example.

A man presents himself to the world as a rabbi, traditionally identified by his garb, his beard, perhaps his hat. He treats his wife and family with kindness, deals honestly and openly with others in business and in life, weighs his words, and seeks out ways to help others.

When he does make mistakes or faults in some way, he takes immediate ownership of it and does not seek to blame others. This is a man who is living with integrity. Others can and do count on him to be available in a certain way. There is consistency to his presentation as a person. People grow to trust that he is solid in his character and as such will make decisions in his life based upon his value system which is internally guided by a moral compass. The individual that G-d sees—and G-d sees every moment of thought and action in every life—is essentially the same individual that others see.

Now let’s look at the opposite. A man presents himself to the world as a rabbi, dresses as such, grows his

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A person acting without integrity, or someone perceived as “evil”, is no less a creation of G-d, but has fundamental issues to clear prior to the outer-self reflecting the deeper inner goodness. beard, etc. He leads a congregation, appears to help people or maybe actually does, he seems to have a lovely family and he works hard to provide. He may even initially appear to be righteous to most. However, this same man, upon arrival to his home, curses his wife, maybe hits the children. Perhaps he makes inappropriate advances to women.

Or perhaps, as we have become more aware of lately, in the context of his job as a rabbi with access to children, decides this is his opportunity to take advantage of his position as an authority and perpetrate some type of abuse. Yet another scenario is a rabbi who steals and cheats in business but wouldn’t miss a prayer session. The disparity is clear: the clothes, appearance, and actions of the man on the outside are superficial and are in direct contradiction to the thoughts, actions, and behaviors of this same man when he is either alone or in position to act out of the public eye.

When the truth of his core is ultimately revealed—and it will always be revealed at some point because

Truth always prevails through the course of time (notice I did not say Justice always prevails . . . there is a difference), then he will do what he needs to to protect his outer image. He will lie, place blame, and deny any wrong-doing. There is no integrity in this man, a faulty moral compass guiding him, and no consistency between his outer world and his inner world. The lack of integrity in a person is essentially the sign of a “broken” person. Sometimes this brokenness can be healed with therapy or medication, and sometimes not. The one thing that is clear is that a person without integrity is a person who puts himself and others at risk for a wide range of traumatic experiences.

I choose to use a rabbi figure as an example because it is obvious—a rabbi tends to look, sound, and act in a certain expected way in a position of leadership. However, when integrity is lacking, the contrast between appearances and actions can be quite shocking. The truth is, it can be any man or woman who presents in one way and yet acts, thinks, and speaks in another. Each of you knows people who have integrity, and those who do not. We as a community know that there is a feeling of betrayal when someone we respect and admire shows his or her lack of integrity. But let’s jump back to something I mentioned earlier . . . how does “evil” play in to all of this?

If each person has a spark of G-d within, then it would seem impossible for any human being to be inherently evil. At least in Judaism, we know that G-d is represented by a force of Light—by the life-

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force itself. So that inner spark within each living person must also be Light. So where does the darkness come from?

Why and how do we perceive evil and how does this mesh with integrity? When we look at a fruit or a nut, it has an outer covering. It has a skin or a shell. In order for that divine inner Light—the delicious edible fruit or seed—to be revealed, the outer skin or shell must be peeled away or removed. It is the same with people: each person has that spark hidden within; just some have many layers over it or perhaps a thicker, denser skin to peel back layer by layer. Therefore, a person acting without integrity, or someone perceived as “evil”, is no less a creation of G-d, but has fundamental issues to clear prior to the outerself reflecting the deeper inner goodness.

For some this can take months or years.

For others, multiple life-times. However one thing is clear: without the conscious decision of a person to want to live with integrity, nothing will change. And this brings me to my final thought.

It is not the lack of religious practice in our world that

prevents a final redemption for humanity, it is the lack of integrity that does. If each person (and in particular each Jew) took it upon him or herself to match their outer world with their inner world to align with the greater good the majority of time, in essence to become whole and complete, we could change the world by changing ourselves. This is not a fairy tale of which I speak: The principles that I am writing about here are deeply grounded in the Jewish texts. What I wish is for each of us to strive to live with integrity, to feel a sense of wholeness, and to watch how the impact of this could potentially create miracles for the world. This concept is something wonderful to consider carefully as we get ready to celebrate the holiday of miracles.

It is not the lack of religious practice in our world that prevents a final redemption for humanity, it is the lack of integrity that does.

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Mia Adler Ozair, MA, LPCC, NCC is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and educator with a private practice in Beverly Hills, California. Mia is licensed in both California and Illinois and she can be reached through her website at www.bhcounselingcenter.com or followed on Twitter @ MiaAdlerOzair.

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Hints for this Cold Season DR. SHIRLEY PERLUSS, C.A., O.M.D. Well, it’s that time of year again when you start to hear people sneezing, coughing and blowing their nose. There are ways to protect yourself, lessen the length of a cold and get through this season without having to own stock in Kleenex!

Start by eating healthy, fresh foods, reducing your intake of sugar (sugar is known to increase bacteria), getting a moderate amount of exercise, breathing fresh air, and getting adequate rest.

But...if you are exposed to some of those nasty germs (that can make us so miserable,) here are some practical suggestions.

At the first sign of a cold, sore throat or the sniffles, hit it hard from the beginning by: 1. Resting as much you can.

2. Keeping warm.

3. Drinking Ginger Lemon Honey tea every 2 to 4 hours (see recipe below) and taking the Chinese medicine yin chaio (available at your local health food store) if you have white phlegm.

4. See your local acupuncturist. Acupuncture is most effective at the beginning of a cold and could completely eliminate it.

Here are more basics from the Mayo Clinic: WASH YOUR HANDS. Clean your hands thoroughly and often, and teach your children the importance of hand-washing.

SCRUB YOUR STUFF. Keep kitchen and bathroom countertops clean, especially when someone in your family has a cold.

Wash children’s toys periodically.

USE TISSUES. Always sneeze and cough into tissues. Discard used tissues right away, and then wash your hands carefully.

Teach children to sneeze or cough into the bend of their elbow when they don’t have a tissue. That way they cover their mouths without using their hands.

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DON’T SHARE. Don’t share drinking glasses or utensils with other family members. Use your own glass or disposable cups when you or someone else is sick. Label the cup or glass with the name of the person with the cold.

STEER CLEAR OF COLDS. Avoid close, prolonged contact with anyone who has a cold.

DRINK LOTS OF FLUIDS. Water, juice, clear broth or warm lemon water are all good choices. They help replace fluids lost during mucus production or fever. Avoid alcohol and caffeine, which can cause dehydration, and cigarette smoke, which can aggravate your symptoms.

TRY CHICKEN SOUP. Generations of parents have spooned chicken soup into their sick children’s mouths. Now scientists have put chicken soup to the test, discovering that it does seem to help relieve cold and flu symptoms in two ways. First, it acts as an anti-inflammatory by inhibiting the movement of neutrophils immune system cells that help the body’s response to inflammation. Second, it temporarily speeds up the movement of mucus through the nose, helping relieve congestion and limiting the time viruses are in contact with the nasal lining.

GET SOME REST. If possible, stay home from work or school if you have a fever or a bad cough. This will give you

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a chance to rest as well as reduce the chances that you’ ll infect others. Wear a mask when you haave a cold if you live or work with someone with a chronic disease or compromised immune system.

ADJUST ADJUST YOUR YOUR ROOM’S ROOM’S TEMPER TEMPERATURE ATURE T HUMID-& HUMID ITY. ITY. Keep your room warm, but not overheated. If the air is dry, a cool-mist humidifier or vaporizer can moisten the air and help ease congestion and coughing. Be sure to keep the humidifier clean to prevent the growth of bacteria and mold.

SOOTHE YOUR YOUR THROAT. SOOTHE THROAT. A saltwater gargle 1/4 to 1/2 teaspoon salt dissolved in an 8-ounce glass of warm water can temporarily relieve a sore or scratchy throat.

USE SALINE NASAL DROPS. USE DROPS. To help relieve nasal congestion, try saline nasal drops. You can buy these drops over-the-counterr, and they’re effective, safe and non-irritating, even for children. In infants, experts recommend instilling several saline drops into one nostril, then gently suctioning that nostril with a bulb syringe (insert the bulb syringe about 1/4 to 1/2 inch, or about 6 to 12 millimeters). Doing this before feeding your baby can improve your child’s ability to nurse or take a bottle, and before bedtime it may improve sleep. Saline nasal sprays may be used in older children.

Recipe R ecipe ffor or G Ginger inger L Lemon emon H Honey oney T Tea eea 1. Grate 1 inch of fresh ginger into 6 cups of water 2. Boil for 7 minutes until the water turns a nice yellow color 3. Pour out 1 cup, cool to drinking your pleasure as you add 1/2 lemon and honey to taste 4. Drink every 2-4 hours

HELPFUL HELP FUL H HERBS ERBS GANO are GARLIC GARLIC,, TH THYME, YME, ELDERBERR ELDERBERRY Y AND ORE OREGANO some medicinal antimicrobial herbs. Elderberry extract, also known under the name Sambucol, has been shown eff ffe ective in treating both the common cold and flu. Garlic’s ability to ward off bacteria is due to Allicin, a major constituent found in garlic cloves. o COUNTER A COUNTER ATTACK T TACK K, an herbal remedy, seems to be preventive if taken daily (especially if you are around a lot of sick people) and shortens the duration of a cold if taken 3 times a day. Another herbal preparation acts as an expectorant and is called Naturaeade, which contains Guaifeneesin, extracted from a tree bark and was once used by Native Americans.

VITTAMIN C VITAMIN C.. It appears that for the most part taking vitamin C won’t help the average person prevent colds. However, taking vitamin C at the onset of cold symptoms may shorten the duration of symptoms.

EECHINACEA. CHINACEA. Studies on the eff ffe ectiveness of Echinacea at preventing or shortening colds are mixed.

Some studies show no benefit. Others show a significant reduction in the severity and duration of cold symptoms when taken in the early stages of a cold. If your immune system is healthy and you are not taking prescription medications, using Echinacea supplements is unlikely to cause harm.

ZINC. The cold-fighting reputation of zinc has had ZINC. its ups and downs. That’s because many zinc studies both those that find the mineral beneficial and those that do not are flawed. In studies with positive results, zinc seemed most eff ffe ective taken within 24 hours of the onset of symptoms. Taking zinc with food may reduce side eff ffe ects, including a bad taste and nausea.

IMPORTANT: Consult your doctor before taking any of the above remedies. Intranasal zinc may result in permanent damage to the sense of smell. In June 2009, the FDA issued a wa arning g against using thrree e zinc-containing nasal cold rem e edies because they had been associated with a long-lasting or perman Also rem masqu mild inf morre se toms or with ea see a do

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Chanukaah RMS

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hanukah, the Festival of Lights, recalls the victory—more than 2100 years ago—of a militarily weak but spiritually strong Jewish people over the mighty forces of a ruthless enemy that had overrun the Holy Land and threatened to engulf the land and its people in darkness.

The miraculous victory—culminating with the dedication of the Sanctuary in Jerusalem and the rekindling of the Menorah which had been desecrated and extinguished by the enemyy—has been celebrated annually ever since during these eight days of Chanukah, especially by lighting the Chanukah Menorah, also as a symbol and messaage of the triumph of freedom over oppression, of spirit over matterr, of light over darkness.

It is a timely and reassuring message, for the forces of darkness are ever present. Moreoverr, the danger does not come exclusively from outside; it often

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lurks close to home, in the form of insidious erosion of time-honored values and principles that are at the foundation of any decent human societyy. Needless to say, darkness is not chased away by brooms and sticks, but by illumination. Our sages said, “A little light expels a lot of darkness.”

The Chanukah Lights remind us in a most obvious way th haat illumination begins at home, within oneself and one’s family, by increasing and intensifying the light of Toraah h and Mitzvos in the everyday experience, even as the Chanukah Lights are kindled in growing numbers from day to day. But though it begins at home, it does not stop there. Such is the nature of light thaat when one kindles the Chanukah Lights are exxpressly meant to illuminaate the “outside,” symbbolically alluding to the duty to bring light also to those who, for one reason or another, still walk in darkness.

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Young Author and Philanthropist Team Up to Publish a Masterpiece STERNA CITRON

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ometimes it takes a push from your wife to get you going.

At age 32, after having married and had four daughters with his wife Rochel, Rabbi Mordechai Zev Nemtzov of Los Angeles finally realized his long-time dream: to write a book about the mystical meanings of the letters of the AlefBais. Ever since he was a child, he felt bad that his teachers, when instructing him how to read, had never divulged the deep explanations behind the holy letters. After being exposed to Kabbalistic teachings, he was astounded to find that there is so much more to an Alef and a Bais than merely their sounds!

An Alef, as we find out in Nemtzov’s magnificently illus-

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trated masterpiece titled The ARTiculated Alef-Bais, is made up of two Yud’s and a Vav, the upper Yud representing G-d, the lower Yud, the neshama (soul), and the Vav connecting the two, the Torah. The second letter Bais means bayis (house).

G-d created the world to be His dwelling-place and the holy Temple, in particular, to be His house. These are just a couple of the many esoteric, tantalizing secrets that the author serves up.

We are treated to other secrets too. Each letter has a numerical value as well, the Alef standing for one, the Bais for two, etc. But it goes beyond that. Yud, the tenth letter, stands not only for the number ten, but for the Ten Sefiros (channels) through which the world receives its energy. Since man is created in the image of G-d, man, too, is made up of these Sefiros which in turn give him the Divine power to serve G-d and spread the light of His Torah. This book is full of not only knowledge as information, but knowledge as inspiration.

It’s been years since Nemtzov, who grew up, one of ten siblings, in Crown Heights and Lakewood, N.J., got it into his head to reveal his new-found knowledge to the public. (It’s possible that having a prolific author and scholar for a great-uncle, Rabbi Nissan Mindel, might have served as a stimulus too.) But the resolve to publish stems mainly from his years as a Hebrew school teacher, instructing young children to read the Alef-Bais. With his pupils he excitedly shared the secrets he had learned. He also drew sketches of the letters for them, embodying these explanations. These teachings and sketches turned out to be the embryo for the book.

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It took, however, marriage and a wife who realized how much his idea was burning within him. One day Rochel finally told her husband, “That’s it. You’re doing the book. Don’t worry about anything else.” Nemtzov plunged into his work, persevering until it was done. He was fortunate to find sponsors who shared his passion for the Alef-Bais to help him with the expenses — the Rechnitz family of Los Angeles.

The book is dedicated to their patriarchs Mr. Henry Rechnitz A”H and Dr. Benjamin Massouda A”H who emigrated from Poland and Egypt respectively to settle in Los Angeles and Toronto where they raised generations of Torah-educated Jews and generously supported the chinuch institutions in their communities.

Undoubtedly, the best part of the book are the colorful, vibrant illustrations on each of the glossy pages of the book which capture the personality of each letter. (His artistic abilities, Nemtzov insists, are inherited from his father Sholom Nemtzov, a portrait artist, whose portrait of the Lubavitcher Rebbe wearing tefillin is well-known.) Take the Dalet, for example, the root of which means dal or poor. It’s shaped like a bent-over person, its top arm reaching out, the implication being that a poor, humble person doesn’t mind asking for assistance. The Gimmel, the root of which means gomel or give, resembles a wealthy man, his extra-thick “foot” running forward to the neighboring letter (Dalet) to help him out.

Readers of all ages have much to learn here. One can spend hours poring over the pictures and delving into the insights. As the author never tires of reminding us: “These are just a few of the many secrets of these letters.”

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The Observant Jew

Double Negative

RABBI JONATHAN GEWIRTZ

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ou’ve probably heard the expression “Two wrongs don’t make a right, but two Wrights make an airplane,” and “Two wrongs don’t make a right, but three lefts do.” (Think about it.)

Either way, the point is that fighting fire with fire isn’t always a good idea. But while it may be true in life experiences that if someone does something wrong to you, you can’t resolve the issue by taking revenge, it’s not true in the English language.

If you tell your mother you “didn’t take no cookies” from the cookie jar, she may let you off the hook despite the fact that you know your double negative meant you DID take SOME cookies from it. That’s because she’s assuming you were careless in the phrasing of your response. Little does she know just how careful you were to include that double negative to avoid getting caught in an actual lie.

So, it would seem that even if two wrongs don’t make a right in action, two negatives do make a positive in speech. It would seem so, but it doesn’t actually work that way.

Try this example: WIFE: “How was my soup?” HUSBAND: “Not bad.”

Now compare it to this: WIFE: “How was my soup?”

HUSBAND: “Good.”

See the difference? In double-negative-speak, not bad means 32

good. But it isn’t true. The opposite of “bad” isn’t “good,” it’s “not bad.” And that may still be very far from good.

How about this? ED: “How do like my tie?” FRED: “It’s pretty nice.”

Now Fred could have said it was nice, or he could have said it was pretty. Instead, he said “pretty nice,” which is one step above, “I hope the guy at Goodwill didn’t charge you too much for it.”

So why did the husband say the soup “wasn’t bad,” and why did Fred say it was “pretty nice?” Because we are afraid to give compliments.

Now, this suggestion may seem silly to you because, of course, we give compliments all the time. However, by holding back and not being so effusive in our praise of something, we are exhibiting a certain power over the recipient. We are exercising restraint and giving the minimum compliment. This makes it seem like we’re hard to please, so the other person has to try harder. It may not even be conscious, but if we listen to ourselves we’ll see how often we actually do it.

And guess what? That’s not good. Interestingly, while not bad can mean “sort of good,” not good means “bad.” It’s like everything in the language is leaning towards goodness and positivity, perhaps as a hint to us about what we should be doing. But what about that

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bit of control we will lose?

What we need to realize is that when we give someone praise - full, heartfelt praise – we’re actually showing our strength. If I can compliment you and say you did a good job, it means I am comfortable enough with my own behavior that I don’t see you as a threat.

Say you are listening to a speech. If you sit there criticizing every word, it often means you are insecure in your own knowledge or ability. If you can appreciate what is being said, even if you could have said it more eloquently, then you are able to let people shine, and that’s a fantastic quality to have.

If you tell your wife (or husband) that the food (s)he made is delicious, your spouse will feel loved. If you say, “There’s too much olive oil in the s’chug,” or “There’s not enough salt in the cholent,” you may be right, but your negativity will harm your relationship.

I’d like to suggest that instead of using double negatives, we start using double positives. When someone asks you your opinion, be excited to praise them. How is the food? “It’s delicious!” What do you think of this dress? “You look stunning!” Did you like my presentation? “It was fantastic!”

Note that each of these responses has an exclamation point. That’s because when you’re lukewarm, people know you’re faking it. So am I telling you to lie? Not exactly.

Remember the double negative from the cookie jar example? “I didn’t take no cookies” is not a lie because it literally means I took some. Well, in double positives, you reach a whole new level of truth.

By praising someone, you make them feel good about themselves,

which is what HaShem wants from us. Hillel said, “What you don’t like, don’t do to others. That is the whole Torah.” In other words, the Torah, our guide for living, wants us to treat others well. It wants us to make people feel good, just like we’d like to feel.

If I make a cholent, and someone says, “It’s not bad,” or even, “it’s pretty good,” I feel like they’ve just said, “It’s awful.” I’m disappointed, depressed, and possibly insulted. Would you want someone to do that to you? Absolutely not. So it’s not the Torah’s way.

Now, if they eat my cholent and say, “Wow, this is really good,” I’ll feel great, even if they’re not taking seconds.

That’s what life is really about, and if, by bending the truth towards the positive we’re a little closer to that goal, then we’ve taken the truth and improved upon it.

So, this week, why not try finding ways to praise others and always remember to include the exclamation points? I bet you’ll start seeing positive results almost immediately.

Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Follow him on Twitter @ObservantFellow.

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The Camouflaged Kipah ROBERT J. ROME, PH.D.

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ome things we forget about. Today’s news passes on as new items seize attention. Yesterday’s news is all but forgotten.

Recently, the 30th anniversary of the bombing of the Marine Barracks at the airport in Beirut, Lebanon, was commemorated. This is one of the events which has long since faded in our memories. Knowing that I used to serve the Marines as a Navy Chaplain, a friend of mine forwarded to me an email recalling this event.

The email featured a blurb about a friend of mine, Chaplain Arnold Resnicoff. It described how Chaplain Resnicoff had been there in Beirut. It then gave a site to go to for more information.

When forwarded to this site, the site flashed,“Washington Convention Center, 1984.” President Ronald Reagan is speaking before a convention of 20,000 Baptists.

President Reagan says that rather than giving a speech, he will instead read the report from one of the chaplains that had been in Beirut, Lieutenant Commander Arnold E. Resnicoff, my friend.

The account reads like a story that President Reagan retells.

The story begins with Jewish Chaplain Resnicoff and Catholic Chaplain “Pooch” Poocherella eating dinner together in the mess hall when all of a sudden, they hear and feel a large blast. While the Marines scurry to foxholes, thinking that a mortar had struck, the two chaplains run toward the sound of the explosion to see if they can do anything to help. They saw a four story building reduced to rubble. Shortly, everyone learns that a devastating blast from a truck bomb had hit the Barracks.

The Marines raced from their foxholes to rescue those crying out from the rubble.

The two Chaplains were shocked and horrified at what they saw. They witnessed dead bodies and pieces of dead bodies ev-

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erywhere. 240 Marines died in that tragedy. Amidst the rubble were odd remnants of lives that were lost. A picture of a family found in the rubble testified to the loss of a father. A birth announcement was found that was received just days earlier. A baby would never get the chance to see his or her father. What was lost was not just a group of Marines, but 240 individual lives, fathers, sons, and brothers.

They also witnessed the Marines going into the rubble, digging and clawing to rescue those who had survived. These Marines risked their own lives as cement blocks rested precariously. The moans of the survivors triggered the action of the Marines who came to the rescue. Chaplain Resnicoff told of the digging for four hours to rescue just one of those trapped beneath the rubble. As the Marines dug, the two chaplains administered to those who were rescued, many of them with broken bones and much bleeding.

All of a sudden, Chaplain Resnicoff feels his head. He had lost his kipah. He remembers wiping the blood from a survivor’s face with the kipah, but nothing more. When Pooch, Chaplain Poocherella, noticed that Resnicoff was missing his kipah, he tore his own camouflaged uniform and fashioned a circular form as a replacement kipah. Pooch’s message: The Marines and others who survived must know that Christians and Jews were working together to save the survivors. In this country where religious hatred could lead to a bombing which in turn caused the loss of hundreds of lives, the Americans cherished religious differences.

Jew and Gentile could work together. That camouflaged kipah symbolically told the story.

Chaplain Resnicoff, President Reagan related, stayed at the bombing site for four days before returning to his own family in Italy. During these days, he witnessed Marines heroically rescu-

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ing their brothers.

Chaplain Resnicoff related that he followed the Jewish tradition observed at the time of Shiva where he was present, but did not speak to the mourning Marines unless spoken to. He provided consolation primarily through his presence. As some Marines openly questioned their faith, Chaplain Resnicoff observed that what they were all witnessing was the best in man.

He remarked that the Rabbis have observed that the biblical phrase “being created in the image of G-d” does not mean the physical form of G-d, but rather the spiritual. Standing for something bigger and better, these Marines dug and dug. Day after day, they did not give up.

They truly reflected beings created in the image of G-d.

When no longer digging for survivors, the Marines carefully rescued the body parts of those who had died for identification and later burial. They handled each body part with the utmost respect. They saw their jobs as holy. They were paying their respects to the deceased, those who met their deaths in this senseless bombing.

Nobody ordered these Marines to risk their lives. They just did. “No man left behind” meant just that. This even applied to body parts.

Chaplain Resnicoff witnessed a horrid event, an event which showed the deep animosities which abound in Lebanon. The Marines stationed there believed that “we are all brothers and

sisters.” They worked for peace between the various factions in Lebanon. And they succeeded right up until that tragic day of the bombing.

Chaplain Resnicoff witnessed the worst in humanity. But he also saw the best. He witnessed firsthand how those who survived went in, defying reason, risking their own lives to rescue those who were buried alive in the rubble. He witnessed how these Marines cherished their brothers and saved even the pieces of bodies that were found, bringing out piece by piece in a delicate process.

Jew and Christian working together. This is the lesson of Beirut, President Reagan said. President Reagan praised these two chaplains. He praised and honored the work of the Marines who survived.

In 30 years, we have largely forgotten. Seeing this video brings to mind the truly heroic things which happened after the senseless bombing of the Barracks.

G-d bless the Marines and others who daily serve the cause of peace in the world.

And G-d bless the United States of America. .

Robert J. Rome, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in clinical practice in Encino, California. He can be reached at RJRome@aol. com.

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VTHS Open House ELIEZER A. JONES

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he other night my wife and I participated in the age old tradition of the high school open house that many parents of 8th graders go through when searching for the right Jewish school for their child. However, this was not any open house. It was the open house at my alma mater, Valley Torah High School.

To say this open house was not the one I attended so many moons ago as a soon to be high school freshman would be an understatement. The presentations were polished, the videos powerful, the mini-lessons prepared and the sushi and cappuccinos delicious. Plus, while my memories of Valley Torah are ones of a high quality education, clearly they have come a long way since my days of (inside reference headed your way) waiting for the empty 5 gallon arrowhead bottle in Mr. Wards class to stop bouncing.

Now, while it was clear my school has grown over the years to become a leading provider of Jewish education and college and life preparation, one thing obviously has remained the same. It was why I chose to attend VTHS years ago even though it was not the closest school to my home. The school remains, as it was back in the day of Pearl Jam and Crystal Pepsi, a strong community of students and teachers that feel warmly connected to Valley Torah and its values as well as Jewish life and learning. How is that possible after all these years?

First, I would be remiss to not credit the stable leadership of Rabbi Stulberger, Valley Torah’s Dean. As I have 44

written before, strong positive school leadership is the critical element to a healthy school culture. The warm and nurturing atmosphere Valley Torah students have experienced for decades is due to the leadership style of Rabbi Stulberger and those who choose to be part of the vision he sustains. However, there is another element that I think can’t be overlooked. It is what I believe has also lent itself to the intimate academic atmosphere that I attended and the one that current students attend; the size of the school.

While I am a huge proponent of technology in the classroom and in life, there is no question that our digital generation are growing up with “friends” that may lack the substance of a true friendship. With our online social networks, we run the danger of substituting the strong ties we have with a few friends offline with the many weak ties we have with our online friends. Don’t get me wrong, we can have both and keeping in touch with friends even minimally online is wonderful. It certainly helps maintain long distance relationships that otherwise would disappear.

Yet, while I greatly value my extended online community of friends, I recognize the need to nurture my offline friendships if I want to keep them. That is why my strong friendships are only reserved for a select few given the time and effort that requires.

I came across the video, The Innovation of Loneliness, based on the book, Alone Together, by Sherry Turkle and the article, The Invention of Being Lonely, by Dr. Yair Am-

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ichai-Hamburger. The video highlights research that suggests that we are not wired for hundreds of friends and it goes against human nature to try. The video reports that “the maximum natural size of a group of humans is roughly 150 members” and we are incapable of intimately knowing more than that.

The video points out that loneliness has increased and points to social networks as the culprit due to the substitution of true friendship for less meaningful online connections. This lesser state of connectedness occurs on levels way beyond our capacity for meaningful relationships.

Additionally, it puts us into an almost addictive pursuit of meaningful connections nearly impossible to achieve online. We almost hoard these online friends with a focus on accumulation and not cultivation.

This may very well be why my experience at Valley Torah was meaningful and why it may be more important that my son attend than I did. With a digital generation growing up with “friends” made up of online connections in the hundreds and even thousands, it is more important than ever to have a nurturing learning environment that enables students to connect socially on a meaningful level and within their capacity for human connection.

The Valley Torah Boys Division has over 100 students

with capacity for about 150 students. It has capacity for the exact amount of students where meaningful connections can be nurtured and built. Listening to the administrators, teachers, parents and current students at the open house, the environment that is unique to Valley Torah is clearly an element cherished as it was back in my day. And it should be. It not only makes students feel cared for and encouraged to succeed, it is providing what is getting more difficult to find in the world our children are growing up in.

There are many aspects that make Valley Torah an amazing school, but the fact that they remain a school focused not only academic excellence, but also social, emotional and spiritual growth, may be the secret formula that sets them apart from the competition. Keeping the size of the school within the range of meaningful relationships ensures, as mentioned by an alumnus at the open house, each student remains a part of the Valley Torah community for the rest of their lives. In today’s amazing fast paced digital world that struggles with building genuine community, it is good to know students at Valley Torah will learn how to create meaningful relationships, feel connected beyond the four walls and four years of the school and be better prepared to engage on a meaningful level with the global world around them when they graduate.

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Nutrition Tips for Chanukah CHAYA L. WEISS, MS RDN CDN

CELEBRATING THE MIRACLE OF OIL

to two weeks in advance by layering them between wax paper in airtight containers. When ready to serve, bake at 350 degrees Fahrenheit for 15 minutes.

The Festival of Lights, Chanukah, is upon us! The chefs and bakers among us will celebrate the miracle of the oil » Take a few extra steps to reduce the amount of oil in the each night of Chanukah by cooking a variety of foods in foods. For example, try draining fried foods on paper oil, including latkes and sufganiyot. While certain oils towels after cooking to keep the taste and tradition, are a healthful addition to a balanced diet, other oils ofbut reduce the overall fat and calories you consume. fer greater risks to your health. Plus, healthful or not, » You can get away with using less oil by frying your oil is high in calories and fat, meaning that even a small foods in a non-stick skillet or by using an oil-based amount can put you over your calorie needs for the day. spray, which usually contains few calories.

Try these tips to keep your Chanukah as healthful as OTHER RECIPE ADAPTATIONS possible: » Bear in mind: The word “light” often appears on oil Try alternative recipe ingredients to boost the nutrition labels, but it refers to the oil’s taste, not its calorie or fat content of your food. Latkes made with eggplant or zuccontent. chini will add color, variety and health to the table. Or try » Avoid cooking with tropical oils (coconut, palm, etc.). sweet potatoes, which pack more vitamin A and fiber into These oils are high in saturated fats and increase your your latkes than do regular (white) potatoes. cholesterol levels.

Serve your latkes with reduced-fat or fat-free sour cream » Do cook with healthy oils such as olive, canola and (instead of the full fat varieties) or unsweetened applepeanut. These are high in monounsaturated fats, which sauce (instead of applesauce made with added sugar) to improve your cholesterol levels. Other good oil choices reduce the amount of fat and calories you consume. include corn, soybean, safflower and grapeseed oils. Choose reduced fat dairy products when available, » You can opt to make your latkes ahead of time. This such as low-fat cottage cheese for fritters. When making will allow you to spend more time with your guests, and cheesecake, use light cream cheese, reduced-fat ricotta reduce the oil content of the food during the reheating cheese and egg substitutes (such as Egg Beaters brand) process (by a slight amount). Latkes can be frozen up to indulge in tradition without the guilt.

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Kugel, traditionally made with potatoes and egg noodles, is enjoyed throughout the year. To make it healthier, replace those refined egg noodles with a whole wheat egg noodle.

Whole wheat noodles are less processed and contain more protein and fiber, keeping you fuller, longer. In place of eggs, try egg whites (which are virtually cholesterol-free) or egg substitutes. Sweeten your dish with grated or chopped apples.

the meal by serving it with apricots and cranberries; or try olives and feta for a salty yet savory taste.

Check out the chart below for the nutrition breakdown of some common Chanukah fare. Have a Happy and Healthful Chanukah!

When making homemade applesauce, reduce the amount of sugar that the recipe calls for. Apples are naturally sweet, so try using half the amount of sugar called for, or use a calorie-free sugar substitute. Add extra flavor without the sugar by trying a variety of spices, such as cinnamon, nutmeg or clove.

Of course, there’s lots more to a Chanukah meal than latkes and fritters. What about the main dish? Baked chicken makes a perfect addition to the table, bringing protein and nutrients in a lower-fat package. You can add a sweet taste to Chaya Leah Weiss, MS RD CDN completed her Masters of Science in Nutrition at Brooklyn College in New York State and is a Registered Dietitian with the Commission on Dietetic Registration. She is a Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist and a member of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics.

She can be reached via email at clnutrit@verizon.net.

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Why the Gelt?

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My wife thinks that giving gifts during Chanukah is just an imitation of what everyone else is doing at this time of year. Are Chanukah gifts Jewish?

The original Jewish custom is to give “Chanukah gelt” (money) rather than presents.

There are a number of reasons given for this practice: We read in the Talmud that the Chanukah lights are sacred and may not be used for any other purpose. The example given there is that one may not count money by the candlelight. Giving out Chanukah money—and not counting it near the menorah—is a way to remember and exercise this rule.

When discussing what a poor man is to do if he does not have enough money to purchase both Chanukah candles and kiddush wine, the Talmud states that Chanukah lights take precedence because they serve to publicize the miracle. The widespread custom of giving Chanukah gelt enabled the poor to get the money they needed for candles without feeling shame.

The Hebrew word Chanukah shares the same root as chinuch, “education.”

The occupying Greek forces were determined to force Hellenism upon the Jewish population, at the expense of the ideals and commandments of the holy Torah.

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sary to re-educate the Jews—to reintroduce a large part of the population to Torah values. Appropriately, during Chanukah it is customary to give gelt to children as a reward for Torah study.

There is also a deeper reason for this age-old custom. In his record of the Chanukah events, Maimonides writes: “The Greeks laid their hands upon the possessions of Israel.” The Greeks invaded the possessions of Israel in the same spirit in which they defiled the oil in the Holy Temple. They did not destroy the oil; they defiled it. They did not rob the Jewish people; they attempted to infuse their possessions with Greek ideals, so that they be used for egotistical and ungodly purposes, rather than for holy pursuits. Chanukah gelt celebrates the freedom and mandate to channel material wealth toward spiritual ends.

Now, to get back to your question, it is true that the practice of giving gifts on Chanukah has been popularized largely due to Chanukah’s proximity to the Christian holiday season. As such, to maintain Jewish tradition, many Jewish families make a point to give Chanukah gelt as opposed to other presents.

Your wife knows what she’s talking about.

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Recipe Corner ESCAROLE AND CHICKEN MEATBALL SOUP I love soups in the Fall. The weather starts to get colder and all I want is a nice hot bowl of a soup. The best part is that soups can be a great way to get lots of vegetables and eat low calorie. This soup is a one pot meal, you can put rice in the soup or serve it on the side or leave it out. The greens and the chicken meatballs are really hardy enough on their own.

Servings 8

Times Prep Time : 20 min Cook Time : 20 min Ready Time : 40 min Ingredients 1 pound ground chicken 1/2 cup bread crumbs 1/2 cup nutritional yeast 1/4 cup olive oil 1 tablespoon dried Italian seasoning 3 cloves garlic, thinly sliced, plus 1 minced 1 medium yellow onions, thinly sliced, plus 1, minced for meatballs

Directions 1 small bunch parsley, minced 1 egg, lightly beaten salt and pepper to taste 1 large head escarole, cored and cut into 2” pieces 8 cups chicken stock 2 cups rice, uncooked - cook per directions and serve with soup

Preheat oven to 350.

Mix ground chicken, bread crumbs, nutritional yeast, 1/s of oil, seasoning, minced garlic and onion, parsley, egg, salt, and pepper in a bowl. Form into 30, 1 1/2 meatballs and place on baking sheet. Bake for 20 minutes or until browned.

Heat remaining oil in a large Dutch oven or pot over medium high heat. Add sliced garlic and onion and cook until lightly brown, about 10 minutes. Add escarole and cook a few minutes, until wilted. Use tongs. Add stock and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low and simmer. Add meatballs, adjust seasoning with salt and pepper and extra nutritional yeast if desired.

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MEDITERRANEAN HUMMUS PIZZA Times Prep Time : 15 min Cook Time : 15 min Ready Time : 30 min

Servings 4

Ingredients 1 small orange or yellow bell pepper, cut into thin slices 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 frozen pizza dough, defrosted (9-ounce) 2 to 3 tablespoons all-purpose flour

2 tablespoons store bought hummus 1 small tomato on the vine, thinly sliced 1/4 cup kalamata olives, halved 1/4 cup crumbled feta cheese pinch dried oregano 1 tablespoon chopped dill

Directions In a small sauté pan, cook bell pepper slices with olive oil over medium high heat for 5 to 8 minutes or until slightly softened.

on sliced tomato, bell peppers, olives and feta. Sprinkle with oregano.

Meanwhile, preheat oven to 450 F. Sprinkle a rimless baking sheet with 1 tablespoon flour and set aside.

Bake for 12 to 16 minutes or until crust is golden brown and cheese looks hot. Remove from the oven and sprinkle with dill.

Cut into 6 to 8 wedges and serve immediately.

On a lightly floured surface, roll out pizza dough to a 10-inch circle and transfer to prepared baking sheet. Prick dough all over with a fork to help prevent large bubbles from forming during baking. Spread dough with hummus and then layer 58

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P PEAR EAR A APPLESAUCE PPLESAUCE CAKE CAKE WITH WITH POMEGRANATE POMEGRANATE G GLAZE LAZE Th his festivve parreve Bundt B cakke tastes divinee, and is perfect any time of day: for brreeakffaast, afternoon aftern tea, or dessert. Feel e frreee to omiit the pomegrranate a glazze, but I love how it soaks into the cakke, and the pom megrraanate seeds sit likke jewels on top. Date honeey and pomegrranates a arre two cornerstones of Isrraaeli cuisine and immediately i conjurre up images of Machane M Yeehuda.

Times T imes Prep Time : 25 min Cook Time : 1 hour Ready Time : 1 hourr, 25 min

Servings S ervings 1 cake 8-10 servings

Ingredients Ingredients 2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 2 teaspoons baking soda 1/2 teaspoon baking powder 3/4 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon 1 1/2 cups dark brown sugar 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract 2/3 cup vegetable oil

1/4 cup date honey 2 large eggs 1 1/2 cups unsweetened pear applesauce 1/2 cup pomegranate juice 1/4 cup sugar Juice of 1/2 lemon 3/4 cup pomegranate seeds (optional)

D Directions irections Preheat the oven to 350FF. In a small mixing bowl sift together the flour, baking soda, baking powderr, salt and cinnamon. Set aside.

In a separate large mixing bowl stir together the brown sugar, vanilla extract, and vegetable oil until thoroughly combined.

Stir in the date honey oneyy, then whisk in the eggs one on at a time.

Add the pear applesauce and stir until fully mixed in.

Add the flour mixture one third at a time, making sure it is well incorporated beffo ore each addition.

Spoon the batter into a greased 10-inch Bundt or tube pan.

Transfer to the preheated oven and bake 40 to 60 minutes, until a toothpick comes out clean. Allow to cool slightly, then invert onto a plate or board. Let it cool while you make the pomegranate glaze.

Combine the pomegranate juice, sugar, and lemon juice in a small pot over medium heat. Bring to a boil, and then reduce to a simmer. Simmer, uncovered and stirring frequently, until syrupy and reduced by about half (about 10 minutes).

Remove from the heat and stir in the pomegranate seeds.

Spoon the glaze over the cake and serve.

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