Area Woman Magazine Oct/Nov '17

ajit berg Shining from Within

FASHIONABLY FULFILLED, from BEVERLY HILLS TO FARGO

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AREA WOMAN PUBLISHING, LLC

editor in chief

JON-MICHAEL SHERMAN

proofing editor

JILL OCKHARDT BLAUFUSS

art director

MEGAN ELGIN

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Denise wrote our cover story, page 70

Denise loves words. She’s an award-winning writer who lives in Fargo with her handsome husband Charles. She is an avid journaler, passionate speaker and competitive Taboo player.

OUR WRITERS

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature.

These are the talented writers showcased in this issue, including some new faces we're excited to spotlight. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com

JILL OCKHARDT BLAUFUSS »

Jill is a home interiors, architectural, editorial and commercial photographer – and proofing editor of Area Woman. When not working she loves to spend time with her family and friends, travel and cook.

« MARIAH PRUSSIA

Mariah is the owner of MPX Fitness, founder of the NOW Project (501C3), professional MMA fighter, Coordinator of Fitness at MSUM, motivational speaker, corporate wellness coach and single mother. Find her online at mpxfitness.com.

KATIE SCHLITZ »

Katie grew up on a farm with two of her best friends she calls her sister and brother. Living the country life as a youngster forces you to become creative with your surroundings and making something out of nothing. All grown up with her husband and two children, she gets to call her passion a career. In the happiest part of downtown Fargo, there's a small little brick and mortar that sits on Roberts Street that we call The White House Co. With love and high spirits, Katie is owner and operator of that little shop along with her sister, Samantha Klinkhammer, and sister from another mister, Amanda Rydell. A creative outlet for their DIY lifestyles and a home to all their pretty things and vintage rentals.

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Livin’ the dream as mom of four and wife to a smarty pants teacher.   She can’t live without self-deprecating humor and coffee!  Fortunately, her day job is her dream job on the radio.  Big 98.7 9am-2pm weekdays.

SUSAN

Susan graduated from North Dakota State University with a major in English education and a minor in speech/communication. She is a former teacher who served on the Northern Cass School Board, the North Dakota State Board of Education, and the North Dakota State Board for Career and Technical Education. Susan and her husband, Bill, live on their farm near Hunter, North Dakota. They have one grown daughter, Emily.

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Wasifa is a dentistry graduate, full time blogger and makeup artist. She blogs and makes videos about beauty, makeup, fashion and lifestyle on her blog sifascorner.com.

Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. To work with Sornsin for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her at ashleysornsin@gmail.com or eatlivebebuff.com.

Ashley is a full time wedding, lifestyle and destination photographer with her husband Ryan at FloraPine Photography. She is passionate about documenting the every day, writing about home simplicity and renovation projects, and writing music.

Andrea is a freelance writer, blogger, wife and mom whose days are filled with raising two girls, gardening and maintaining a modest farmstead outside of Barnesville, Minnesota She enjoys writing, reading, blogging and copious amounts of coffee.

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Roxane, a wife and mother of five from Fargo, is an awarding-winning children’s author, freelance writer and newspaper columnist.

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Lindsay is the editor of the website Pink and Navy Stripes, a lifestyle and fashion blog. She loves to help others take the latest fashion trends and make them wearable. Lindsay and her husband have two little girls.

ANDREA ARNTSON

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WASIFA AHMAD HASAN

LINDSAY TRUAX

ROXANE B. SALONEN

CORI JENSEN

ASHLEY HAM »

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get cozy with fall sweaters

that we’ve all had our fix of our favorite pumpkin spice lattes, it is time to think about getting cozy in some cute sweaters. I always like to buy my sweaters early in the fall because then I can get lots of good use out of them in the cooler parts of fall and into winter. Plus, depending on where you are buying them, sizes can sometimes get picked over way too quickly.

turtleneck

The thought of turtleneck sweaters may make some of you cringe depending on how claustrophobic you get. Turtlenecks don’t have to be tight to your neck. Look for a great cowl neck to pull off this look. Otherwise, if you can handle things around your neck, look for a chunkier sweater that looks perfect to cuddle up in. Turtlenecks are the perfect top to wear a long necklace with.

cardigans

pullover

This is the most basic of sweaters. You can wear these types of sweaters year after year and get a lot of mileage out of them. Normally I like to go for solid colors or minimal patterned sweaters, but I have been known to throw a print one in the mix every now and again. Look for sweaters with bell sleeves or try an off the shoulder style. The more trendy of a sweater you go for the less money I would invest in it. If you want to add some pattern to a pullover sweater you can always layer it over your favorite button up. Styling it this way is a great way to add length and make a classic sweater more versatile.

are probably my favorite type of sweater. I love to layer sweaters over my favorite t-shirts and blouses. Look for loose fitting, long cardigans. The perfect length is one that hits you about mid-thigh. This is a type of sweater you can wear with pretty much anything. Which makes it totally worth the investment and something that’s great to travel with.

Follow Lindsay on INSTAGRAM: @pinkandnavystripes

tunic

Tunic sweaters are perfect for a more casual look with skinny jeans or pants. I love a nice long sweater. For the length of a tunic, look for one that hits you on your upper to mid-thigh. Generally, since these are a longer style, you want them loose fitting. This will make the bottoms you pick with them very important. You don’t want to end up being totally baggy from head to toe. I love a tunic sweater with legging jeans and boots. It’s a great look to stay a little warmer and perfect for an outdoor football game.

dress

I love wearing sweater dresses because as it gets colder out it’s hard to find dresses warm enough to wear. A chunky sweater dress with a turtle neck can provide just enough warmth to offset cold legs. Find yourself a great pair of black tights and a cute sweater dress and it’s something you can wear to church or for upcoming holidays.

Follow Wasifa on INSTAGRAM: @sifascorner

busy woman’s guide TO FALL BEAUTY

5 easy steps you can follow

Trends come and go, just like the seasons. For those who are really busy and getting tired of all the changing trends, you are in luck today. As a mom and an entrepreneur, I always look for quick and easy ways to maintain my beauty routine while being trendy. In the seven years of my blogging career, this is the most discussed topic I have found. So today I have gathered my beauty tips for fall, which you can easily maintain in your busy life.

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MULTI-TASKING PRODUCTS to the RESCUE:

Multi-tasking products are going to be your best friend if you are in a hurry. Instead of using a moisturizer, a sun-protectant and a foundation, you can use a CC (color corrective) cream. Use it just like you use your moisturizer: take a small amount and apply it on your face. The same applies for blush and lip color, use a tint or cream product and dab it on your lips and cheeks.

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2THINK DARKER, THINK RUSTIC:

Fall is the time when you can go darker with your color choice: hair, makeup, nails and outfit-wise. Burgundy, plum, berry, merlot, jewel green, navy blue — these are the “it” colors for this season. If you want to play with eyes, use a light wash of rust or taupe brown shadow on your lid. If you are keen on lip colors, use a darker lip color in demi-matte or cream formula. Finish your look with a few coats of mascara.

STYLE WHILE YOU WORK:

If only we all had a magic wand that would make our hair wavy, curly or straight in one flick. But as that is not the reality, use this trick to get bouncy, sleptin waves and curls.

Use a leave-in conditioner while your hair is damp and loosely make a bun on top of your head. After you take out the bun when it’s completely dry, you will be left with soft waves or curls according to your hair type. Just scrunch the hair with a couple of drops of serum and you are good to go.

Photo by Karolina Grabowska / Kaboompics

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PUMPKIN LATTE or PUMPKIN FACE MASK?

Pumpkin contains fruit enzymes, antioxidant, vitamin A and vitamin C. These help to soften and soothe the skin and boost collagen production to prevent the signs of aging. So take two teaspoons of pureed pumpkin, a half teaspoon of honey and one teaspoon of yogurt; mix these well, apply on face and neck and leave for 15 minutes while you sip your favorite pumpkin drink and check your emails.

5 STOP the SIGNS of AGING:

Did you know? Your fingers and hands are the first areas to show the signs of aging. Rough cuticles, dry hands and handshakes do not mix very well, which is why you should keep a hand lotion with you all the time and use it religiously. At night, use coconut or olive oil and just gently massage onto the hands and fingers. You will be waking up with softer hands. You can do this for your feet too.

A fast beauty routine ensures you a stress-free morning, which means you get more time for work or to spend with your family. So follow the tips in this season and enjoy the colder months!

STABO scandinavian imports

Beautiful tablerunners, cloths and dishtowels from Ekelund of Sweden. This year's autumn and Christmas selection has a mix of traditional and innovative patterns for everyday and special occasions.

West Acres Mall | 701-282-0421 stabo-imports.com

TWYLA'S COSMETIQUE

Indulgent, on-trend lipstick shades. Hundreds of colors to choose from. Custom-blend lipsticks and lipgloss available.

2420 University Dr S, Fargo 701-282-5303

KALLOD CARPET

A great addition to any home, the Allenton comes in traditional cherry or chestnut, with two leg options.

2420 University Dr S, Fargo 701-238-4002 | kallodcarpet.com

dw 2 HOME DECOR

Gold is back big time and you can mix it with your current silver. This is a floor accent lamp that can illuminate a dark corner or foyer. Put it together with a touch of gold canvas and you have some industrial glam.

3223 13th Ave S, Suite B, Fargo 701-476-0938 designingwomen2.com

DALBOL FLOWERS

Pretty Pumpkin Bouquet $49.99 | Rustic autumn flowers are stunning in a hand-painted ceramic pumpkin that looks like it just came from the patch. What a truly gorgeous gift for somebody special. They'll love it year-round — for flowers, candy or just to admire.

1450 25th St S, Fargo 701-235-5864 | dalbolflowers.com

FUSION BOUTIQUE

Lakegirl embodies a feel-good and effortless style perfect for weekends at the lake or in town. Shop a collection of tops, tees, outerwear and accessories that are casual, comfortable and high-quality. Find your perfect fall weekend wear at Fusion Boutique. Located inside Scheels Home & Hardware 3202 13th Ave S, Fargo 701-232-8903 scheelshomeandhardware.com

MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE

Our off the shoulder blouse is perfect in shades of fall.

2603 Kirsten Ln S #103, Fargo 701-356-6684 mainstreamboutique.com

CENTRE FOR HAIR and WELLNESS

The best selection of hats and head wraps in town. Downtown Moorhead 218-236-6000 centreforhairandwellness.com

THE STORE at Plains Art Museum

The Store at Plains Art Museum offers unique, exciting, and original merchandise. Stop in to shop for jewelry, a large book selection, artwork, clothing, home decor, appealing notebooks, cards and children’s toys. Pick up special gifts for family and friends … or for yourself. Proceeds from The Store benefit museum programs. The Store is open six days a week. Museum members enjoy a 10 percent discount on all The Store purchases. 704 1st Ave N, Fargo | 701-551-6100 | plainsart.org

CATALYST clinical spa

Radiant skin by the power of your own blood. The Vampire Facial® is designed to use the power of your own body to restore a glow to your skin and encourage collagen growth to revitalize the skin from deep down. The Vampire Facial® involves the provider taking some of your blood and spinning it to reveal the platelet-rich plasma (PRP). With the PRP and a micro-needling tool, the plasma can penetrate deep into the skin's surface for ultimate restoration. This plasma encourages the skin to react as if injured and produce new and powerful collagen.

1800 21st Ave S, Fargo | 701-205-4772 catalystmedicalcenter.com

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Simplicity

cosmetic tattooing gives back some of what's been lost

any slip of normalcy to those about to undergo or undergoing cancer treatment, even as that normalcy was slowly being stripped away.

Treatment alone can result in a range of reactions including exhaustion, infertility, loss of hair, and in the case of those being treated for breast cancer, the removal of a woman’s breasts. This very personal loss is one that is difficult to endure for most having to undergo the treatment.

After her mother, Sharon, was diagnosed with breast cancer and was told that a full mastectomy was recommended, Kimber Trenda took a longtime dream and made it reality, wanting to offer

She took what experience she had gained from working as a medical lab technician in the army and nursing school, plus the knowledge she had working in a salon, and started down a new path that would change her life and, what she’s hopeful will be the lives of many others.

Trenda currently owns and operates Simplicity Salon and Spa, where she provides all hair services, facials, chemical peels, lash curling, makeup and permanent makeup.

With the help of her husband Scott and her family, she found the perfect location, gutted it and created a setting that is relaxing and welcoming, offering a room in the back that provides privacy for her clients looking for permanent makeup.

Permanent makeup, also referred to as cosmetic tattooing, is a process in which pigments are applied into the first two layers of the skin to create a permanent brow, lip color, liner, and even the recreation or improvement of areolas.

“I’ve always wanted to do tattooing,” says Trenda. “Life changes though, and I ended up putting it on the back burner. Then, when things happened with my mom we started looking for some place

here are few things that can rob a person of a normal life quite like cancer.

to get her areolas done. Now there’s more out there, but back then there really wasn’t.”

Trenda was introduced to permanent makeup in 2013 after she and her mother had permanent eyeliner done. What was once on the back burner was pulled to the forefront when her mother was diagnosed, and with a renewed drive Trenda decided that she would be the one to give back to her mother some of what she had lost.

Though her mother's condition drove her to pursue permanent makeup, areola tattooing is not where Trenda wants it to stop.

“If someone finds out that they have cancer and they know they’re going to be going through chemotherapy and radiation, they’re going to lose their hair,” Trenda says. “A lot of the times it doesn’t start immediately. One of the things that someone can do would be to come in and get their eyebrows permanently tattooed on. When they lose their eyebrow hair from the chemotherapy, they will still have a brow tattooed on.”

The treatment is also open to more than cancer patients.

“There’s a whole other aspect to the permanent tattooing,” Trenda explains. “There are people who just want their areolas done darker, there are transgender individuals, there are alopecia patients who have lost their brow hair. And there’s just making the shape better in general. I’m open to anything.”

Trenda will be working with plastic surgeon Dr. Ahmed Abdullah to consult through the process of breast reconstruction and permanent tattooing. The partnership will be essential to working with the clients through the entire process.

Permanent makeup is now offered at Simplicity Salon and Spa with 10 percent of areola tattooing being donated to local breast cancer awareness in Fargo. For more information on Trenda and her business, you can find Simplicity Salon and Spa on Facebook, visit simplicitysalonandspa.org, or call 701-739-9930.

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HOME words and photography by JILL OCKHARDT BLAUFUSS

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STAHL ARCHITECTS design a dream home for a family of ten

The Wolsky family

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says Jennifer Wolsky, the Carrington, North Dakota, wife and mother of eight. “One, being able to retire at an early age from the workplace to be a stay-at-home mom, and the other to have enough kids that my husband [Kevin] had no choice but to build us a home.” Both goals were reached.

Upgrading from the house the family had been living in was becoming imperative. In 2011, the Carrington couple with their then seven children, all between the ages of 11 years and five months, were living in a three bedroom rambler. “When the baby was sleeping in the hallway, a toddler in the laundry room, and no room to move between bunk beds,” says Jennifer, “we knew it was time to build.”

joked about having two goals in life,”

The Wolskys worked with Stahl Architects of Fargo to help achieve their dreams. Herman Novak was the lead architect for their new home. “They’re just really energetic and joy to work with,” says Novak. The Wolskys gave him a list of things they wanted to incorporate in the home, and additionally Jennifer showed him pictures of interiors that inspired her, something Novak says is common and helpful in determining a family’s style. “There are some people that have outlandish ideas that are either way over budget or just don’t make sense,” says Novak. “But the Wolskys did a great job.” After their first meeting, Novak made a schematic design and the Wolskys loved it right away.

Jennifer says Stahl Architects “put the fun” in their project. With Novak applying all the ideas the Wolskys shared immediately in their first draft, it showed the couple that Stahl Architects was really connecting with them. “It made the project feel like our own ideas with Stahl doing the finishing touches,” says Jennifer.

The Wolskys wanted a modern, rustic feel to their new home.

Jennifer envisioned a grand room featuring a fireplace reaching all the way to the top of a vaulted ceiling. She wanted the home to flow and feel connected. While there would be separate wings for the girls and boys bedrooms, the rest of the house should feel open, with the kitchen, dining room and great room all connected.

Jennifer recalls the excitement of watching their new home rise from the ground up. “Each time we visited the site it was like someone had waved a magic wand and another layer of the house was completed.” Watching that second story take shape, the Wolskys could see the design of their home that had once just been on paper, suddenly take real shape in front of their eyes.

By the time the Wolskys moved into their home during Thanksgiving of 2013, two years after breaking ground, Jennifer and her husband Kevin had welcome one more child into their loving family. And now they finally had a home with more than enough of space, and both stylishly and practically designed for their family of 10.

Novak worked with the Wolskys to design a home with durability first and foremost, but with the visual elements that appealed to Jennifer’s dream of both a modern and rustic style combination. With a blank canvas, the Wolskys chose a modern trend, beautiful crisp white walls, to maximize natural light. The walls are trimmed with poplar wood in a rich coffee stain. For continuity, each entryway in the home, plus the beams in the grand room, have Douglas fir beams, stained in the same beautiful coffee color. The grand room ceiling, in contrast to the trim and beams is timeless cedar, stained in a warm golden oak hue. To stand up to the intense foot traffic the home will see over the years, the Wolskys chose hardwood bamboo floors for most areas of the house. And for the main gathering area floors they went with textured charcoal stained concrete. They chose poplar for the custom-made cabinets and other woodwork because while it’s easy to work with like softer woods, it’s actually a hardwood and would stand the test of time. The iron-rod staircase to the second floor was left open, a design element Novak suggested to keep with Jennifer’s style of connectedness throughout the home.

The girls’ bedroom wing is simply enchanting. The older girls enjoy vanities with sinks in their bedrooms, and fun desks that each of them have personalized. And while all the kids, girls and boys, have great desk areas for quiet areas to do homework, Jennifer says that oftentimes she still finds all the kids wrapped around the kitchen counter doing their homework together.

The kitchen is a place you definitely gravitate towards, and one can easily see how the family would be compelled to gather there. The Wolskys chose contemporary white Corion for the countertops with gray and bright red pops of color to accent the modern design of the kitchen. To make preparing meals an easier task, Novak added a large walk-in pantry and a handy range top pot-filling faucet.

For Jennifer and Kevin, the bedroom, including a beautiful master bathroom, was designed to be a quiet, cozy retreat. Reminiscent of a rustic cabin interior, the ceilings are decked out in prefinished pine wood boards. And the pleasant soft flames from the two-sided fireplace are enjoyed from either the bedroom area or while relaxing in the luxuriously deep, freestanding framed porcelain tub in the master bathroom. For busy parents in need of a little down time, the hand shower feature on the tub’s faucet fixture makes choosing to relax in the tub just as practical as jumping in the shower.

And while the inside of the Wolskys’ home is stunning, the outdoor living area, Kevin’s favorite part of the house, is equally as impressive. Facing the golf course, just a short distance away, this outdoor haven, covered by an elaborate pergola, is exceptionally situated and plushly furnished. It’s shaded in the morning being on the east side of the house, and the pergola over top adds another level of sun protection and coziness. The attention paid to designing this area created a wonderful space for the family to

either congregate, or spread out and enjoy their own space. The Wolskys say the large outdoor hot tub gets more use during the winter, making this outdoor space practical any time of year.

The Wolskys also included a second detached three-stall garage into their plans, which includes space for Kevin to work. And close to the house is a large sectioned off play set for the younger kids to play on.

The Wolskys couldn’t be happier with their new home. Jennifer says the design and functionality fit the lifestyle and needs of every member of their family. “The openness and the organized areas of the home reflect our family’s life as big, yet balanced; outgoing, yet organized.” Jennifer loves the practical elements like the upstairs laundry shoot leading to her spacious laundry room, her walk-in pantry, the walk-in closets and coat area. The younger kids are often seen in the openness of the main floor, as are the older kids when gathering with friends. And each child can escape upstairs to their own space. “I think we have the best of both worlds,” says Jennifer, reflecting on her family’s home. She says the building of a new home was perfect timing with the kids becoming older, bigger and more independent. “Coming from our small shared space, we appreciate our home that much more.”

ONE FOOT OUT of the DESIGN BOX

There are a few factors that make it uncomfortable for people to change their interior design. The biggest one seems to be the fear of making the wrong decision — wondering if the changes will look right, stay in style longer than a minute, and go with the other belongings of a home. These fears keep many people from changing their home's look and feel. Another hindrance to moving forward is simply not knowing where to start. People get stuck in the past. When they try to move forward on their own, the uncomfortableness keeps them from attaining the wow factor because they don't get both feet out of the box.

Sandi and Rick Samson were in this predicament. They wanted a few updates — a bit more color added in, a slight shift in style, and a flare of class for their Fargo home. There are several ways to add spice to your existing decor without breaking the bank or building an addition, all while still claiming an updated design.

In the Samson's dining room, wallpaper on one wall and a big pop of color in the art helped to complete the wow factor. We took down the outdated window treatments and left the clean lines of shades, which allowed the wallpaper to make its statement. We added a neutral area rug under the table so as not to fight with the colorful rug used in the living room.

The color pop of reddish-orange is mirrored on the other side of the room. This balances the open floor plan and continues popping the desired color, giving the home a warm and inviting feel.

EXPERT DESIGN TIPS

to update your home

• Choose your inspiration piece for the first room you're working on

• Pull a main color scheme from it that you love

• Make sure those colors are repeated throughout the rest of your home

• Only keep the decor that you LOVE

• Arrange like things together (collectibles, metals etc.)

• Face the largest piece of furniture toward the focal point

• Create an ambiance using lighting (task, accent, general)

• Layer, layer, layer your accessories with lamps, plants etc.

At the lake they still love their wildlife pictures and accessories, yet wanted the same kind of updates without eliminating the cherished wildlife tchotchkes. Normally people don't think of marrying wildlife art with a floral rug. That's design thinking outside of the box! We added a light blue floral rug to pop color and compliment the darker wildlife pictures in the large open living area. We wanted the foyer to have a huge wow factor since it serves as the first welcoming space for family and friends. Size alone doesn't create an inviting atmosphere. It's what you do with the size that creates the impact. We took the large foyer and made it grand by adding in a complimentary solid blue area rug, a sofa table which hosts the bear lamp, art that exudes color, and a chair that adds an eclectic feel to the room as well as being functional.

Try stepping both feet out of the design box when wanting a change, large or small.

"I wanted color, a classy kind of look and a change to my current traditional style,” says Sandi Samson. “I just didn't know how to do it — get the look and feel I wanted. You guys helped me step the other foot out of the design box. You gave Rick and I the wow factor in both places." [ aw ]

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I KNOW HE WILL CHANGE... abuse is never a one-time event

Provided below is the definition and examples of abuse and why it is important not to compare your story to someone else’s.

If you find yourself in the power and control circle, please reach out to one of the support systems at the bottom of this article, or talk to someone you trust.

Abuse can be a very difficult subject to discuss due to fear, lack of trust, uncertainty, love and manipulation. What most people do not understand is why a female doesn’t leave her partner, or how she continues to go back to the relationship, when she’s clearly being abused. Ladies, some of the most powerful women and strong voices within our community have been “that female,” including myself. Abuse does not happen overnight and hides its evil face behind several types of masks.

Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.

Examples of abuse include:

• name-calling or putdowns

• keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends

• withholding money

• stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job

• actual or threatened physical harm

• sexual assault

• stalking

• intimidation

The wheel images below provide a clear distinction between a relationship based on power and control, compared to a relationship based on equality. For more information go to domesticviolence.org.

When you are “in it”, you are “in it,” and it is hard to imagine the dust clearing until you have made it through the cloud. It may feel like your head and emotions are spinning out of control and the only way to stop is by bracing yourself for the next storm. Abuse is a vicious cycle of emotional, physical and spiritual highs and lows, which may hinder your ability to distinguish between what is real and what is not. It becomes hard to fathom that where you once found happiness, you now find anger. This is extremely common and hard to grasp how an individual you love, has now taken on the roles of Jekyll and Hyde, never knowing which persona you will face. Once the emotional roller coaster has started (which may take months or even years), self doubt and anxiety starts to take place. It becomes difficult to see the beauty in life, in your family or in yourself. I say these things because I have been there. I have been physically and verbally abused, stalked, I lived in fear every night not knowing what would happen next; yet what I can say to you is this: I survived and so can you!

WHAT I GAINED vs. WHAT I LOST FROM LEAVING MY RELATIONSHIP: GAINED

psychotherapy CAN and DOES WORK

Many of the clients who seek help through ANCHOR COUNSELING SERVICES have never seen a therapist or counselor before. Many feel they are just not who or where they thought they would be in their lives. Others seek treatment around a specific problem or crisis that they just can’t seem to work through on their own.

Clearly the gains outweighed the losses from leaving an unhealthy relationship. Restoring one’s emotions and the actions required to leave are not easy and take time. Know that you are not alone; there is always support available and others who are willing to listen and share their stories with you. On average it takes an individual at least seven times to leave, so if you go back, you have not failed. Stop the cycle, start to live, and get ready for your future that lies ahead. “Your worth lies within you, not in the mind or hands of another.” – mariah prussia

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION, contact the emergency shelters or police department below.

RAPE-N-ABUSE EMERGENCY SHELTER

Hotline 701-293-7273

YWCA CASS CLAY EMERGENCY SHELTER Business 701-232-3449

FIRST LINK COMMUNITY RESOURCE 701-235-7335 (SEEK)

FM POLICE DEPARTMENT

Fargo: 701-235-4493

Moorhead: 218-299-5190

EMERGENCY 911

Also, for upcoming information on October’s women’s self defense course at MPX Fitness call 701-293-0002 or visit mpxfitness.com Stay updated on the October release of Mariah's documentary and follow her Facebook page @mariahmpxprussia [ aw ]

STRUGGLING to REMOVE FAT, REDUCE INCHES

→ you need to try zerona laser fat removal & body contouring

The topic of weight loss can be extremely discouraging and even hard to talk about with family and friends. We have all tried the normal diet and exercise routines. But what about those particularly hard areas? Our waist, hips and thighs can be the places we need the most help, but may see the least amount of results. Recently we had the opportunity to sit down with DR. GREGG MORLOCK of Morlock Chiropractic and talk about a new technology that targets those tough areas.

How does laser fat removal work?

“The Zerona low-level laser creates a temporary pore in the fat cell, causing the fat cell to collapse. The fat material is absorbed and processed by the body’s lymphatic system. By altering the integrity of the cell’s membrane, the fatty material is quickly removed from the cell causing the once plump cell to collapse. However it is not destroyed, so it can still secrete beneficial hormones. This procedure is FDA approved for both efficacy and safety.”

What does the laser feel like? Does it hurt?

“The Zerona laser produces a low-level, or cold, output that has no thermal effect on the body’s tissue. There is no pain, no bruising, no tingling or warming. The experience is a comfortable 40 minutes of relaxation as the laser does its work.”

What would my first session feel like?

“Sessions are only 40 minutes in duration. The first 20 minutes you will lie on your back while the laser is directed to your waist, hips and thighs, or the area you would like to target. For the final 20 minutes, you lie on your stomach and the lasers will target your back.”

“Many of our current clients HAVE LOST OVER 5 INCHES in six to eight sessions.”

DR. GREGG MORLOCK

What kind of results should I expect?

“Zerona was tested in double-blind, randomized, multi-site and placebo controlled level one studies required by the FDA which revealed that in two weeks of trials with the Zerona laser — without surgery, diet restrictions, supplements, or any other adjuncts — clients lost an average of 3.72 inches from their waist, hips and thighs.”

Where can I do this in Fargo-Moorhead?

“Morlock Chiropractic is the leader in Fargo-Moorhead for cold laser technology. For the past eight years they’ve been utilizing this technology for pain management and accelerated healing. They are proud to now offer the Zerona laser to help you lose inches.”

How do I get started?

“All you need to do is call to set up an appointment to meet with us for a free consultation and an opportunity to ask any questions. If you are ready to start Zerona treatment, you will get a set of measurements taken and then the first session can begin.”

I’ve also heard that cold lasers help with pain as well?

“That’s right. Cold lasers have been used for pain management, spinal pain, arm or leg pain, plantar fasciitis, frozen shoulder and more. Morlock Chiropractic has helped relieve pain for hundreds of people of all ages.”

FOR MORE INFORMATION ABOUT THE ZERONA LASER or to schedule an appointment, call Morlock Chiropractic at 218-233-4402 or morlockchiro.com.

DR. GREGG MORLOCK with the Zerona Laser.

Winning with ACCOUNTABILITY

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When it comes to making healthy changes to our lifestyle, accountability and consistency are key. You’ve heard this, you know this, yet accountability seems to be the one piece missing from most people’s health and fitness repertoire. You know the drill. Eat well, workout, drink more water, limit stress and get adequate sleep. So what’s the big deal with this whole idea of accountability anyway?

Accountability means taking responsibility. It’s up to you to take responsibility and follow through on the changes you desire to make and reach the goals you set. Accountability is the cornerstone of any well-planned fitness and nutrition program. Consistently staying accountable will help you stay on track with your program, allowing you to reach the goals you’ve set. Being accountable to someone other than yourself will prove to give you the most success in reaching these goals.

Accountability should be at the top of your list, so let’s start the process with these three steps:

1. Buddy System

Don’t go it alone. There’s proof that most people do best when they are accountable to another person. It’s easy to hit the snooze button, but when you know your friend will be waiting for you, it’s much harder to let them down.

I’d suggest finding a fitness buddy or attending a group fitness class at the same times each week. The buddy-system approach will hold you accountable, making sure you are consistently showing up. Keep in mind these buddies should be positive people that will encourage and motivate you to reach your goals.

2. Find your Tribe

Strength in numbers! The buddy system is great, but finding your tribe makes an even greater impact. Whatever your goals and wherever you’re at in your wellness journey, there are many other women at the exact same place as you right now. We all need each other and when we have a community of health conscious women coming together, such as through an online accountability group, this gives us more encouragement and empowerment to keep going.

Each month I lead a wellness accountability group on Facebook (The FIT Life) which is a place where we all have similar healthy lifestyle goals, but are at different places in our wellness journey. We are a tribe and keep each other accountable by checking in daily. Consistently we all show up. We celebrate our ups and work through our downs, and share new recipes, fun fitness programs and other wellness tips. There’s always room to add more women to The FIT Life Tribe — email me or find me on Facebook to connect with us. Connect and follow me on Facebook @ashleysornsinhealthfitnesscoach.

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3. You are #1

You’re on the plane and the oxygen mask comes down. As instructed, you put yours on first before helping the person next to you. The same holds true with accountability. You may need to dig deep, but it’s all up to you. Yes, you now have a fitness buddy and your tribe, but it still comes down to you following through. Focus on getting your mind right by having realistic (smaller) goals and make time for you to reach these goals. That may include scheduling your workouts as non-negotiable “appointments” that can’t be rescheduled, and taking time to do some grocery shopping to prepare healthy meals that will support your goals. This way when your accountability and support team come along, you have already made the commitment to taking care of you and now they can encourage you to keep showing up and choosing you, so you can achieve all you’ve set out to accomplish.

Accountability with a positive support system is the missing piece in many otherwise successful nutrition and fitness programs. Enlist your support system to keep you and them accountable. Remember, we all need each other, meaning they need you just as much as you need them. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. That’s usually the biggest and scariest step, but will quickly prove to be the most rewarding. Surrounding yourself with others who will encourage, inspire, motivate and empower you to consistently show up for a healthy lifestyle will lead to the healthiest and happiest you.

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beginner’s guide to COSMETIC DERMATOLOGY

The most noticeable signs of aging are the ones that happen on your skin. That’s why many women turn to cosmetic dermatology to better preserve and enhance their natural features as they age. Cosmetic dermatologists and other cosmetic specialists use a wide variety of medical and surgical treatments to keep skin looking youthful and slow down the signs of aging.

It’s essential to create a solid foundation for healthy, younger looking skin with a daily skincare regimen that cleans, exfoliates and hydrates, but learning more about cosmetic treatments can help you decide if a specialized procedure could also be right for you.

LASER and LIGHT TREATMENTS

Laser and light treatments can be used to treat a variety of skin concerns from unwanted hair, acne, fine lines, hyperpigmentation or sun damage to vitiligo, psoriasis or tattoos. During this type of treatment, specific wavelengths of light interact with tissue to help target specific skin concerns.

BOTOX and DERMAL FILLERS

Injectables like Botox or dermal fillers help to temporarily soften fine lines and wrinkles. Botox lasts for three to four months by reducing the activity of muscles that cause wrinkles. Dermal fillers can last from six months up to two years, depending on the specific type of filler. Fillers, like Juvederm and Restylane, are used for moderate to severe wrinkles, volume loss or plumping.

MICRODERMABRASION

Microdermabrasion is a type of skin rejuvenation that’s used to treat acne scarring, discoloration, hyperpigmentation or fine lines. A minimally abrasive instrument is used to gently exfoliate the skin, removing the uneven outer layer. These treatments are best if performed in a series with treatments about two to four weeks apart, with maintenance every three to four months after that.

CHEMICAL PEELS

A chemical peel is another way to prompt skin regeneration and improve acne scarring, sagging skin, discoloration, hyperpigmentation, wrinkles or fine lines. The chemical solution applied to your skin causes it to exfoliate and peel off, revealing a smoother, more vibrant layer of new skin.

BEKKI HILL performing a complimentary VISIA Complexion Analysis to digitally assess eight different properties of the skin’s current condition. The results provide key information when deciding on treatments and skin care products, as well as a baseline for future evaluation. This procedure is also performed by Natalie Hazelton.

There is usually little to no discomfort with these cosmetic procedures. We use topical anesthesia, a skin cooling system or ice packs to minimize discomfort. Recovery time can range from a few hours to several days, depending on the procedure.

There are always risks with cosmetic procedures, so it’s important to be treated by an experienced professional under the supervision of a dermatologist. Rarely, patients can experience skin reactions, pigment changes, blistering, bruising, infections or scarring. Make sure to discuss in detail the benefits, expectations, risks and any post-procedure care with your dermatologist before your procedure.

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT cosmetic treatment options, call the Sanford Dermatology and Laser Clinic at 701-234-8860 or visit sanfordhealth.org.

BEKKI HILL, RN, CANS, (pictured above left) is certified as an aesthetic nurse specialist through the Plastic Surgical Nursing Certification Board for demonstrating clinical expertise and for providing quality, evidenced-based clinical care.

NATALIE HAZELTON, LPN, CAC, (pictured above right) is a licensed practical nurse and medical aesthetician with extensive experience in both fields, and specializes in laser hair removal and superficial laser resurfacing. She is also a certified aesthetic consultant and medical aesthetician.

surgeon CRAFTS NEW JAW

with bone transplant

Unlike the song in which the leg bone is connected to the ankle bone, Verna Scoular’s leg bone is connected to her jawbone. In fact, part of her leg bone is her new lower jaw.

A painful and persistent bone infection was destroying Scoular’s lower jaw when Dr. Ryan Smart proposed crafting a new jaw from a portion of her fibula, a small leg bone. The Essentia Health oral and maxillofacial surgeon also transplanted a portion of skin and tissue from Scoular’s thigh to replace the floor of her mouth and chin.

Scoular had struggled for 10 months with rare complications and infections from dental implants. She met Smart after she came to the Emergency Department at Essentia Health – Fargo unable to swallow and nearly unable to breath due to infection and swelling. When treatments and antibiotics couldn’t clear the bone infection, Smart turned to reconstructive surgery to replace her jaw and preserve her ability to swallow, speak and breathe normally.

“When I first saw Dr. Smart, he said he could help and I said somebody has got to,” recalls Scoular, who is 63 and lives in Valley City, North Dakota. She had been taking over-the-counter and prescription pain medications to try to get relief. Infections would seem to respond to antibiotics and then return, even with help from an infectious disease specialist who worked around Scoular’s drug allergies.

When Smart proposed the complex surgery, Scoular wondered how she’d be able to walk if a portion of her leg bone was removed. Smart explained the fibula is not the weight-bearing bone in the lower leg and that it would heal.

“Dr. Smart said God gave us extra parts,” Scoular recalls. “I thought if he can make a straight bone into a jaw, he’s one heck of a person.”

To reduce the amount of time in surgery, Smart teamed up with Dr. Alan Bruns, an Essentia Health ear, nose and throat specialist. While Bruns surgically removed the lower jaw, Smart removed a precisely measured portion of Scoular’s fibula and a flap of skin and tissue to transplant. He shaped the leg bone into a new jaw using a rigid titanium form custom-crafted from CT images of Scoular’s own jaw and skull. The skin flap became the floor of Scoular’s mouth and her chin. Tiny vessels feeding the bone and the tissue had to be connected to keep blood flowing to them.

SMART (left) examines SCOULAR’S new lower jaw, which he crafted from a piece of bone transplanted from her leg.

hile most patients stay in the hospital for seven to 10 days, Scoular stayed nearly a month due to complications from skin grafts that didn’t want to heal properly. While she and her husband, Dean, were discouraged, they stuck it out. “Dr. Smart explained that my body was not accepting what he was doing and all we could do is keep trying,” Scoular says. “He’s got such a terrific bedside manner and he explains things so clearly that you know he’s talking to you, not around you or above you.”

“Verna is a strong lady and she persevered,” Smart says. “I never gave up on her and I asked her not to give up on me.”

“Dr. Smart came in on Mother’s Day morning to do a surgery on me,” Scoular says. “I told him, ‘We’ve got to quit meeting like this. You should be home with your wife and family.’”

“This is a complex procedure and we do anything we need to,” Smart says. “It’s a lot to put people through. We stick with them and don’t get discouraged, and we coach them to not get discouraged, too.”

Smart explains the surgery can help people with oral cancers, trauma, gunshot wounds and facial abnormalities. “This surgery restores aesthetics and function,” he explains. “The goal is to make people feel whole again. We want them to have a fully functioning jaw and to live a normal daily life.”

Scoular and Smart say she has fully recovered. “Dr. Smart saved my life,” Scoular says, “Without his help, I would not be standing here today.

TO MAKE AN APPOINTMENT

with Dr. Ryan Smart, call 701-364-8900. You’ll find the Oral and Maxillofacial Surgery Department in the Essentia Health – 32nd Avenue Clinic at 3000 32nd Ave. S. in Fargo.

If only he’d listened to me SOONER!

ere in the Midwest,

the season of fall is almost considered a holiday. It just happens to be the favorite time of year for many, and it’s not hard to understand why. The weather is cool and light, the leaves and colors are ever changing, and hot beverages and stews are back on the menu boards. While fall is a favorite time of year for many of us, it also tends to be a very busy time. Consider it a time of transition as school is back in session, football season is about to officially kick off, and if you live in a farming or gardening community, it’s a time of harvest.

thebest things in fall are FREE

Each of these transitions not only comes with a schedule change, but they also come with a budget change. Expenses are a bit higher than normal because of back-to-school supplies, wardrobe updates, or preparing our homes for winter. While these are all good and necessary, oftentimes the best things in life are free.

What if this fall we vowed to savor the season and slow down a little? Here are three simple ways to slow down and embrace the gifts of fall that are often free or cost very little.

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1. Nature Walks

This may seem obvious, but I personally know that every year I wish I would have hiked more or spent more time outdoors in the fall. We may drive around our city and appreciate the leaves, but how often do we find a local trail or walk through our parks and truly take in the colors and scents that fall brings us? Some of our favorite local hikes or parks to walk through are Buffalo River State Park, Maplewood State Park, Fort Ransom State Park, or Gooseberry Park. Sometimes a breath of fresh air is exactly what we need to jumpstart our day, or end our day on a good note.

2. Meaningful Conversations around the kitchen table

Picture a hearty bowl of soup, a loaf of bread for dipping, and some of your favorite people seated at your kitchen table. Whether those people seated around you are close friends, family members or your spouse, conversations about our day or what is going on in our lives is always a precious gift. Turning off our cell phones for the evening and pursuing real human connection with the ones we love is always a worthy investment.

3. Open Windows and Cool Breezes

Each season has its own scents and sounds, but the ones of fall seem to be particularly special. The crunching of leaves and the crisp temperature and smell of the air come together to create a combination that is hard to beat. The simple act of opening up our windows and allowing the cool crisp air to enter through the drapes is an easy way to appreciate one of the best free gifts fall has to offer.

Hopefully these three simple ways of savoring fall this year inspire you to create some of your own simple moments and traditions before the busy holiday season.

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the PARENT TRAP

choosing your “GUARDIAN ANGEL”

Choosing a guardian for your minor children is a difficult topic. We often hear that parents are relieved after signing an estate plan appointing a guardian for the children — one more thing off that ever-growing to-do list. Plus, it prevents families (cue crazy aunties and controlling grandmas) from fighting in court over this issue.

When choosing whom to appoint as guardian, you should consider the children’s ages, guardian’s age, and where the guardian lives. While grandparents love their grandchildren to bits, a 75 year old may not be best suited to take care of three kids under the age of five.

“PRICE” on the PRICELESS [or it’s “cheap insurance”]

SOyou are at a point in your life where you are busy parenting your young children while simultaneously helping your own aging parents. Of course you’re not planning on dying, but what would happen to your kids if you do? What will you have to do for mom or dad if they get dementia? You’ve heard there are legal documents that could help, but who has time? Here are some reasons to put estate planning on the priority list.

“TRUST FUND” baby

Many people think that a trust fund is only for the wealthy. That is not the case. A children's trust is created to hold assets for the benefit of children in the event both parents pass away.

For example, if both parents pass away, your estate can pass to your children in trust, generally in equal shares. The trust will pay for the expenses of the children (education, medical, housing, etc.). At certain ages chosen by the parents, the trustee will hand over a portion of assets to the children to manage on their own (hopefully without blowing it on a trip for 15 of their closest friends to Turks and Caicos). Despite the name, a children's trust is not just for minor children. Some trusts start turning assets over to the children at 18, but some not until much later, if ever — it depends on how the parents think the children can (or more importantly, cannot) handle finances.

It is important to consider life insurance for both parents of young children. Many couples will get life insurance on the breadwinner(s) but overlook a policy for the stay-at-home parent. The work done by a stay-at-home parent is priceless. He or she provides childcare from sunrise to sundown (sundown if you’re lucky), three or more meals a day (don't forget about the endless snacks), laundry, errands, etc. Imagine the cost to provide those services for your family should something happen to the stay-at-home parent.

reaching “ADULTHOOD”

Even after gaining adulthood, most children need a little help now and then, for example, with financial matters, enrolling in college, or with medical matters. After a child turns 18, you have no legal authority to take these actions unless they sign a financial power of attorney and health care directive.

ATTORNEY WHITNEY IRISH with her family.

“GOLDEN YEARS”

Simultaneously as we worry about our children, the next generation is getting older and needs our assistance in a different capacity. Elderly parents who haven’t executed a power of attorney, health care directive with living will, or done any estate planning are putting an unnecessary burden on their children.

A health care directive with living will removes the burden of making end-of-life care decisions from the family in an already difficult time. A financial power of attorney allows the family to continue to pay bills and manage bank accounts and other property when mom or dad no longer have capacity. These documents are crucial when mom or dad are entering assisted living or nursing home.

Paradoxically, when a person actually needs these legal documents (i.e., mom or dad no longer have capacity), it’s too late. A power of attorney, health care directive and will can only be signed if the person understands the document when it is signed. In the situation where an individual doesn’t have capacity to understand legal documents, seeking authority for financial or medical decisions will involve the court and thousands of dollars.

Being proactive now will save you time and money and, most importantly, reduce the stress on your family during an already difficult time.

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go go GIZMO GADGET

FOR ALL YOU PARENTS THAT

are reminiscing and now have the old-school Mr. Gadget song and animation popping up in your head, as his arms extend and do wonky things from his trench coat, I now have your attention. Okay, maybe not all of you; but listen up as I give you the low down on two up-to-date gizmos and gadgets. Not a lot of parents know about these awesome “watches” that are on the market. As a parent of two busy children and a mom against the cell phone craze amongst kids these days, these little gizmos and gadgets were a perfect fit for our family.

About six months ago our daughter received her first hand-me-down iPhone from her grandma — which was a big step up from her flip phone that she was embarrassed to use. As a parent, I’d loved the old school flip phone because it did the job of calling when she needed to and didn’t break the bank on our cell phone bill.

A few months of being a busy 10-year-old girl and running around with a bulky iPhone in her pocket, and not to mention a higher cell phone bill, it came crashing down on the sidewalk and needless to say was a no longer a working iPhone. With a lesson in play, her flip phone was once again activated, our bill was lowered, and our life continued on the same until we came across these awesome watches called the GizmopPal and the GizmoGadget. Watches like these or similar watches can be purchased online or the nearest phone carrier retailer. Different companies may even offer similar devices by different brands.

It was love at first sight. Here are some of the things that won me over.

Kids don’t have to worry about carrying around a phone. There are no pockets to fall out of, it’s hard to lose, and they don’t have the excuse that they left it in their backpack or on their bike. It’s always right there on their wrist.

It’s a tracking device, so when they are out roaming the neighborhood biking with their friends you’ll have peace of mind of knowing where they are. You can set GPS boundaries and will get notified if they have crossed those lines.

It’s a phone, people! You actually can make phone calls. But, get this, you program in the numbers that can call them and that they can call out. The GizmoPal holds five numbers and the GizmoGadget can store 10.

Our daughter has the GizmoGadget which tells the time and can message those 10 numbers as well. However, you have to have the app downloaded on your phone to reply back. The GizmoPal will say the time out loud by pressing a button, but does not display the time.

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You can automatically have the phone answer — so if they are too busy or can’t hear the phone ring, the phone automatically picks up. And they are forced to talk to you whether they want to or not.

You as a parent control the settings from an app on your phone so you can have the phone set to quiet during certain times of the day. So during school hours our daughter’s phone is automatically silenced and she doesn’t have to worry about it ringing and being a disruption. The second she is done with school her watch switches over and is off silenced mode.

The watch does its job — it’s a phone that allows them to call and receive calls all while being able to be a kid. I have a sound mind knowing that they aren’t surfing the web with friends or being lost in a game that takes away from creating memories with friends.

It’s kid-friendly appearance is comfortable, and waterproof. It comes in a few different colors and you can buy different color bands online.

The best part about this whole thing is it’s just an added $5 a month on our monthly phone bill. The initial price of the actual watch can vary depending on where you purchase, but the price is right. It’s just brilliant — it allows your child who’s not old enough for a phone gain a little extra freedom in the neighborhood, all while giving your worrisome mom-brain a break.

We haven’t come across very many cons. We joke around that when the phone automatically picks up that you better not be talking bad about anyone otherwise you might be caught red handed. Sometimes it can be hard to hear them. As busy bodies they are moving all around while talking so we have to remind them to hold still for two seconds and hold the watch up by their mouth. Our daughter’s band has already been broken, but she is a super active kid and it could be easily replaced. Now that she is hitting middle school she is kind of embarrassed by the childish appeal that the watch has, but when I remind her of her old flip phone she gladly accepts her talking watch.

Those are the gizmos in a nutshell. Such a perfect fit for our family’s needs in this technology age. I’m just stating my mom opinion and trying to help out, one mom to another. [ aw ]

yeah, right!

chores:

it should be a four letter word — for all ages — but when you have to start getting the young ones involved it takes on a new level of frustration.

I’m one mama who does not have it all together. One who does not keep a spotless home, a perfectly themed seasonal front porch stoop, or a half dozen home-cooked meals at the ready in the deep freezer. But, by golly, I still like to give it my best effort when I’m an extra cup of coffee over my limit.

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nMy “Welcome to the Awesome Chores Party” sign was met with rolling eyes. However, in the quest to raise self-sufficient adolescents, it’s important. The objective is to teach a young person how to do the thing; instill good habits. And then, yada yada yada, raise a human with the ability to conquer the galaxy. That’s the goal, right?

In said quest to raise self-sufficient kids to be responsible, kind adults, I bring to you one of the few helpful pro-parent tips that I have: the Paint Card Chore Method. First, pick up a few free samples of the paint chip cards from a hardware store. Second, write out what you expect done on each divided color. Simple and free.

When we began, we all learned that their bedrooms were never “fully” clean without parental assistance. We needed to teach the “how.” This was the method we used that broke up the daunting task into manageable mini-chores.

THE IDEA BEHIND PAINT CARD CHORES

Break down each area of the room and thoroughly explain how to clean it, assigning one chore card each day. On average it takes about 10–15 minutes to do it. And after the first couple of weeks, their entire room looks like an orderly room should. Not perfect every day, but manageable tidiness. Or, what I call, real life living. It should be said that this is when everyone is working the system every day. When days get skipped assigning two or three cards might be necessary. Let’s just say that my tribe often gets a couple card assignments.

The “bed” card. The first task is to take off the dirty sheets, put new ones on and then make the bed. Next would be to tidy and dust the nightstand. Third would be to clean under the bed. Remove any hidden gems and to sweep or vacuum. Just like the child, each bedroom is different, so we’ve customized each set of cards. My daughter has a vanity where she has her jewelry and nail polishes. My son has a dresser and a desk. One has carpet the others are wood floors.

When it comes to kids and chores the question of monetary payment also gets brought up. My husband and I have long since joked that we are not above bribery. But, that mantra is typically reserved for potty training. In our household, our daily/weekly chores are not something we pay to do. You are a member of the house and as such you help. It’s all part of that quest to raise self-sufficient kids into responsible, kind, adults thingies. Not that paying for chores is wrong. You gotta be you in this whole parenting thing.

We do like to give opportunities to earn some money. We are currently trying out a job opportunity jar. Decorating some craft sticks with washi tape and stickers and sticking them in a jar. Our big kids can pick what they want to do. Or not. It’s their choice. We’ve put in chores that are not part of their daily/weekly tasks and given them a dollar value.

REAL TALK: Let’s face it, chores are a Debbie Downer of a topic, but a necessary evil for most. I’m hoping that these ideas might bless you, and your kids.

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the importance of women GROWING IN LEADERSHIP

What is leadership? I was asked this question by John Maxwell at a leadership conference in 1997. What I wrote down was something like, “a manager, a boss, a person with position.” My next thought was, I am not a leader. I don’t need to learn what John Maxwell is teaching. But as I sat at that conference I became excited and intrigued. I wanted to learn more. I wanted to become a leader. Not a better leader because I did not think I was one at all, but a leader who would help other women grow as leaders.

Well, I don’t do anything halfway. I came home from that conference and dove in. God had given me a new passion to grow as a leader. I began reading through Maxwell’s book, “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.” The first law stopped me in my tracks. The “law of the lid” states that a person’s leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. And my level of effectiveness impacts the organization I am a part of — my family, and all those I am leading. I thought, I have to become a better leader so that others are impacted positively and want to grow as leaders too.

Over the past 20 years I have read and reread “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership” many times. The last law in the book is the “law of legacy.” I ask myself every day, “What legacy are you going to leave today?” The best leaders lead today with tomorrow in mind by making sure they invest in leaders who will carry their legacy forward.

As part of our legacy, my husband Jon and I moved to Fargo to start Prairie Heights, a church for people who wanted nothing to do with church; a place where people could walk through the doors and feel welcome, accepted and want to explore who Jesus is in their life. As Prairie Heights grew we hired staff and were leading more and more volunteers.

To lead this amazing group of staff, leaders and volunteers we had to continue to grow ourselves by:

• Building relationships: We studied leadership with our staff and leaders and began growing together.

• Sharing a contagious vision: We drew a picture of the future of Prairie Heights and asking staff and leaders to join us on this journey. We prayed for many to be energized by the vision and join the team.

• Pushing each other out of our boxes: We all have moments as leaders when we say, I can’t do that. Those are the moments God wants to use us the most, because we realize we could have never accomplished it on our own.

• Sharing what you have learned with other women: When I moved to Fargo, I prayed for God to show me what my legacy could be. I asked for that life sentence that would set the direction for my life and determine the legacy I would leave my children, my co-workers, my team, and those who walked through the doors of Prairie Heights. I have my life sentence. I try to live by it every day. My purpose in life is to inspire others to grow as leaders.

How are you growing as a leader so that you too can impact those in your life?

Step out of your box: Email me at teri.hauser@ prairieheights.com and share what steps you are going to take to “raise your lid” or “leave a legacy.” Let’s inspire each other to grow as leaders!

If you are looking for opportunities to grow in leadership with other women, Prairie Heights will have small groups beginning in January that will focus on the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership. Visit prairieheights.com for more information.

TERI HAUSER

Teri and her husband Jon moved to Fargo in 2000 and started Prairie Heights in April 2001. They love this community and strive to connect those who don’t know Christ yet with Him and a church family. Teri is the communications and marketing director for Prairie Heights and loves seeing ideas become tools for leadership growth. She is passionate about football (Bison and the Green Bay Packers), being a great mom to Nate and Brooke and inspiring others to grow as leaders. [ aw ]

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The Ronald McDonald House Charities of the Red River Valley are making some big changes to better serve families whose children are receiving medical care in the Fargo-Moorhead area. On July 11, ground was broken at 4757 Agassiz Crossing South in Fargo for a new Ronald McDonald House.

Ronald McDonald House Charities of the Red River Valley (RMHC) are committed to keeping families close when children are sick. They offer a “home away from home” while their critically ill children receive much needed care. They serve all the local hospitals: Sanford, Essentia and Prairie St. John’s. They want to make sure these families feel comfortable, safe and close.

keeping families CLOSE

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“Sanford Health’s decision to move gave us a chance to think about things that aren’t ideal at this time,” says Jill Christopher, executive director. “Over eighty times this year we have had to wait-list families. This gives us an opportunity to change that in the future.”

There are two Ronald McDonald Houses in Fargo. The north location on Broadway opened in 1982 and the south location on 18th Avenue opened in 2005. There are a total of 12 rooms available for families. Both of the houses will be sold when the new facility is opened.

The new Ronald McDonald House will be a little over 30,000 square feet with 24 guest rooms when completed. There will be elevators, something the old houses did not have. “Our staff often asks families to move to different floors to accommodate guests with mobility needs, since we have only two rooms with no stairs,” says Erica Johnsrud, development director. The new house will have private bathrooms, additional security, an exercise room, a playroom, a game room/teen space, and a large, modern kitchen.

“The new kitchen will be huge,” continues Johnsrud. “The kitchen is my favorite place in each of the houses. It is where you find families sitting together, finding support from each other.”

The new Ronald McDonald House will have the look of a fine hotel with all of the amenities that entails. But it is not a hotel, and that is just the way Christopher wanted it. “In a hotel, the staff doesn’t know why you are there, it isn’t their job,” says Christopher. “But here we want to know about your child, we want to talk about your child, and we want to offer our support. At the new house,

FROM LEFT: JILL CHRISTOPHER, Executive Director and ERICA JOHNSRUD, Development Director

Construction in progress on the new building. Photo by Britta the Photographer.

Rendering provided by RMHC shows plans for the finished Ronald McDonald House.

we will have a 24-hour awake staff, ready and willing to help and to listen. In the house, families become close. They can relate to each other’s struggles and triumphs. No hotel can offer that.”

“It is really amazing how people have gotten behind this project — companies, individuals and young people,” continues Christopher.

Sanford Health donated the property for the new house. “Finding the land was a big piece of the puzzle, it really locked in that we could build this new, beautiful place,” Christopher continues. “Foss Architecture and Interiors are our design partners. They have gone above and beyond to make this happen.”

“Nor-Son is our builder and they have been truly committed to this mission,” says Johnsrud. “They have put a lot of heart into the building.”

In addition to the new house, RMHC have expanded their vision and are partnering with Essentia Hospital to open a family room on the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) floor in late 2018. The family room will offer a place for families to rest and regroup right at the hospital, just moments away from their sick child.

Research shows that staying close by allows parents to better communicate with their child’s medical team and the family room will make sure that is possible. Amenities will include a kitchen area with a fridge and microwave, shower facilities, a computer with internet access, and a seating area with a television.

Christopher says, “This will be a wonderful service with Essentia and a great addition to the NICU.”

The Ronald McDonald House Charities of the Red River Valley have worked hard to support families of sick children and to truly make these temporary lodgings feel like home. They are dedicated to “Keeping Families Close”.

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NDSU PHARMACY STUDENT balances family, academics

Lewis’s husband, Steven, started NDSU’s pharmacy program first. He chose it for its reputation. He heard good things about the program from pharmacists in the area and he knew it had a good career placement rate. Ninety-five percent of the students who graduated from the program from August 2015 to May 2016 are employed.

It also helped that Fargo was close to family who had relocated to Fargo from Burlington, North Dakota, a town located in the northern part of the state near Minot. Jantze’s younger brother, Jerick, earned a mechanical engineering degree from NDSU in 2014. Her younger sister, Bree, is a freshman majoring in dietetics at NDSU.

Last May, Jantze Lewis took her last final exam on a Friday. Her husband received his pharmacy degree from North Dakota State University that Saturday. Then she gave birth to the family’s third child the following Wednesday.

“At least she waited until after finals,” Lewis says, understatedly, of her baby girl’s arrival.

This fall, Lewis is entering her second year in NDSU’s professional pharmacy program where she, too, is working toward earning a pharmacy degree. She has a full schedule with school, family and work, but she knows she has the support of her professors and that the balancing act will pay off with a rewarding career.

She chose to study pharmacy because of her lifelong interest in science and a job at a pharmacy. She likes mysteries and once considered a career in forensic science. However, she discovered she wanted to be a pharmacist after working at a CVS pharmacy.

“I like being able to help people find what they need and figure out how to use their medications,” Lewis says. “Working in a pharmacy, I’m able to apply what I’m learning as I’m learning it.”

Jantze started her education at Minot State University and then transferred to NDSU when Steven began taking classes. Jantze says the transfer went smoothly, in part because NDSU and Minot State University are both part of the 11-member North Dakota University System. She completed her degrees in chemistry and criminal justice while starting her prerequisites for the pharmacy program.

The first year of pharmacy school was sometimes a refresher to what she’d been doing at CVS. Other days, she experienced something entirely new, such as learning how to compound IV bags in NDSU’s Thrifty White Concept Lab.

“I get a lot of hands-on experience here,” Jantze says. “My husband has commented that with some of his clinical rotations, his preceptors said people from other pharmacy schools weren’t as prepared as the students from NDSU. I really feel like they do a good job getting us ready for the actual workplace.”

Faculty and staff also were supportive and flexible with the couple’s family responsibilities. In the spring, Steven was doing clinical rotations in Minot while Jantze was going to school, working and taking care of two children — all while pregnant. Professors let her bring her kids to class when her daycare was closed, and they helped her keep caught up after missing a few classes due to morning sickness. It’s not uncommon for students in the six-year program to have or be starting families. Jantze’s adviser had a baby six weeks before she did, so they were able to share more than academic advice.

Post-graduation, Steven is a floating pharmacist with CVS, moving primarily between Fargo-Moorhead, Detroit Lakes, Minot and Bismarck. He has joined the ranks of NDSU-educated pharmacists serving the region. An estimated 90 percent of the practicing pharmacists in North Dakota are NDSU alumni. More than 600 students are enrolled in the six-year pharmacy program, which is accredited by the Accreditation Council for Pharmacy Education.

Jantze says it’s strange to not have both her and Steven going to school this fall. But she was ready for the fall semester to begin. “By the beginning of July, I’m usually ready for school to start. I get a little bored. I enjoy school and like to learn new things.”

Jantze is taking 18 credits this semester. Fifteen credits are considered a full-time student. She’s excited to begin learning more about vaccinations and how specific medications target diseases. The program will prepare her to become certified in North Dakota to administer vaccines.

And she’ll do it all while balancing family, work and school.

“My advice is to be organized and have a good support system,” Jantze says. “I get a lot of support from our daycare and staff and faculty. They’ve been great working with my husband and me.” [ aw ]

GIS for SOCIAL GOOD

She says gathering this geographic data brings a new perspective to the annual HUD PIT count.

“Having the data to tell our story is so important to finding solutions,” Solem says. “This app will help us tell where homeless individuals are located and what the housing needs are. You have to identify specific needs to identify specific solutions.”

APP IN ACTION

In January, Fogarty and two others accompanied 10 trained volunteers on a 3 a.m. Moorhead PIT count. They split into teams and conducted preliminary testing of the app, in order to make improvements for the January 2018 count.

Homelessness is somewhat hidden, yet prevalent issue. In Minnesota alone, 7,668 individuals were identified as homeless during a one-day Housing and Urban Development (HUD) mandated point-in-time (PIT) count this past January.

In Moorhead and the 10 counties immediately surrounding it — all part of the West Central Minnesota Continuum of Care — the number of counted homeless individuals during this time totaled 215.

An app developed at Minnesota State University Moorhead (MSUM) is helping gather more actionable data to aid in preventing homelessness and finding permanent housing for homeless individuals and families.

GATHERING ACTIONABLE DATA

Last year, MSUM graphic communications professor Alex Fogarty attended an Environmental Systems Research Institute (ESRI) conference in San Diego, California. She was struck by the number of homeless individuals in the city, and the irony that within the conference were the geographic information system (GIS) tools to help organizations and individuals dedicating their lives to the issue.

Fogarty and Dr. David Kramar of MSUM’s Center for Geospatial Studies developed an ESRI and ArcGIS-based mobile application to assist local homeless organizations in their survey and count of unsheltered homeless in-

dividuals in Moorhead. These organizations traditionally use paper surveys to conduct PIT counts.

“A web-based app brings modern-day, cutting-edge data analysis to these organizations, and offers up immediate actionable data,” says Fogarty. “Using the app on tablets or smart phones, the locations of homeless individuals and groups are instantly plotted on a web map that can then be cross-referenced with other data that’s either been collected at the same time, or from other databases.”

Carla Solem, a ’91 MSUM sociology alumna, is the continuum of care coordinator for the West Central and Northwest Minnesota Continuums of Care.

“It was a great experience to understand what and who the volunteers encounter,” Fogarty says. “Only one team encountered homeless individuals, but it was enough to provide a test of the app and ideas for enhancements not originally considered, such as adding geospatial information for volunteers to find locations known to be occupied by homeless individuals.”

“For the unsheltered count, we go into communities and try to find people who are staying in places not meant for human habitation — bridges, parks, doorways, abandoned buildings,” says Solem. “One trend the PIT has helped us see is we’ve had a significant decrease in veteran homelessness.”

During the 2017 count, Solem says they encountered no unsheltered veterans, where previous years they’ve seen up to 20. A declaration recently announced an end to veteran homelessness in the region.

“This doesn’t mean that no veteran will never be homeless again, but we have a system in place,” Solem says. “Our goal is [to find them shelter] within 60 days. If they’re housed, they’re going to be stable.”

Meanwhile, family and youth homelessness in the area is on the rise.

“The lack of affordable housing, financial resources, or a good support system can contribute to homelessness. The wrong circumstances com-

ing together can cause anybody to become homeless,” Solem says.

Solem and Fogarty are passionate about bringing awareness to and dispelling misconceptions about homelessness.

“I hope this app will help us better understand our homeless population, the demographics of the population and the geography of the population, so we can respond to the need,” Solem says.

They’re using their respective skills and resources to ensure sustainable, affordable housing is available to all.

“Technology and research institutions, universities, for-profit companies and governmental agencies need to support these organizations,” says Fogarty. “If we don’t use technology to improve lives and our world, we’ve really missed an opportunity. This is where it can make a huge difference.”

HOW YOU CAN HELP

National Hunger and Homelessness Awareness week is November 11-19. Here are a few ways you can help the homeless in your community:

• Donate food, furniture, household items or money to area homeless shelters.

• Volunteer your time and talents by making or serving a meal, or donate your professional services (dental care, legal, fundraising, carpentry, tutoring, etc.).

• If you are an employer or property owner willing to give an opportunity to a homeless individual, contact a local program.

LEARN MORE:

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MSUM’s Geospatial Continuum of Care PIT Count app, and the ESRI and ArcGIS technology behind it, attend MSUM GIS Day Wednesday, November 15 in MSUM’s Comstock Memorial Union or visit mnstate.edu/geospatial.

LEARN MORE ABOUT homelessness in Moorhead and West Central Minnesota at homelesstohoused. com/west-central-mn-coc.

SERVING in tender times

CHI HEALTH AT HOME OFFERS home health and hospice services

Most of her 26 years working for CHI Health at Home have been spent in administration. But recently, Sue Heitkamp, president, served as a hospice nurse for a dear friend who lived in an area without the services.

“One thing I came away with was being reminded that the patient isn’t the only person we care for and work with; it’s the family, too,” Heitkamp says.

She also was reminded of something else: “The absolute blessing of being able to serve.” It’s what’s kept Heitkamp in the field and fuels her passion for the work.

Indeed, when a loved one becomes terminally ill, those surrounding them also need support. “We can bring people together and help them resolve issues so there are no regrets.”

They can also help the client give or receive what many need at this point: to forgive or be forgiven; say or hear, “I love you;” and say or hear, “Thank you.”

Covering a broad area of 32 counties throughout North Dakota and 23 counties in Minnesota, CHI Health at Home exists to help carry families’ burdens in tender times.

Heitkamp says that in all her years working for the company, no one has said they wish they hadn’t done hospice, but many have remarked they wish they’d contacted them sooner.

While the physician generally determines timing for hospice, usually within six months of death, she says, the duration of care can change during hospice care.

But some families don’t understand the process or that they have choices in hospice care, she says. “Often, hospitalized patients are not given a choice at time of discharge, but simply informed, ‘this agency will be admitting you at home.’”

When being discharged following a hospital stay, Heitkamp encourages you take charge of decisions for your at-home care. “Persistence is needed at times to ensure the referral is to the agency of your choice.”

Like choices in primary care physicians, she explains, patients have the right and now the choice of home health or hospice providers. “We like to say, ‘It’s your health, your home, your choice,’” she remarks.

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I walked away with the reminder of the absolute blessing it is to be able to serve."

Sue Heitkamp president chi health at home

As a non-profit, faith-based program, CHI Health at Home stands out in its ability to be able to tend not only to the skilled needs of the clients and their families but also their spiritual needs. It also offers consistency in care; the ability to transition patients from home health to hospice, a time that is often a whirlwind for the patient and family, Heitkamp says.

“A patient can be receiving home health services and then, when the patient’s journey changes and the hospice needs arise, retain that same nurse they’ve come to trust,” Heitkamp says. “Sometimes, people know they need help, but they’re just not ready to say the words.”

A patient might be admitted into home health and assisted with their skilled nursing and therapy needs under the direction of a physician, and later, transition into hospice care by a simple adjustment to their plan for care.

“At that point, we bring in social services, and per patient request, spiritual support, to help them on that next phase of their journey,” Heitkamp says. “Just like living, dying is a journey. There is a lot of life between the decision of stopping aggressive treatment and dying.”

Heitkamp says she’s grateful there are options for hospice services in the Fargo-Moorhead area, to help increase the awareness and the value of hospice care.

All who desire and qualify for hospice services, regardless of financial situation, should be able to receive them, Heitkamp stresses.

She encourages anyone with any questions to call 888-538-0069 or to set up an informational visit.

SHINING

That’s a transforming revelation for a woman who has skillfully crafted a career in high-end fashion, working with Hollywood A-listers.

When you meet Berg, who pronounces her name “AH-jhee,” you can’t help but notice the light in her eyes and the inner beauty which emanates from deep within. Whether she’s in skinny jeans, a floral bohemian blouse and sneakers or dressed to the nines in Lanvin, Berg exudes femininity.

Growing up in a small town in Virginia, Berg always knew she wanted to be in fashion. Her parents had immigrated from India years before, becoming United States citizens, and her father, through hard work, advanced in the sectors of education and government. It was her stylish father who helped inspire Berg’s love of fashion and she adored accompanying him to shop for clothes. Berg still remembers begging her dad as a 7-year-old to buy her Vogue magazine.

She graduated from the University of Arizona in Tucson with a degree in marketing. Berg moved to Los Angeles, landing a job on the spot in Nordstrom’s designer department without any designer retail experience. The choice between the fashion meccas of New York and Los Angeles was easy. “I chose L.A. over New York because I didn’t want to be in freezing weather. Can you believe it?” she says, with a laugh.

Berg advanced to a designer boutique in Beverly Hills and then to the exclusive Barneys New York in the heart of Beverly Hills. Barneys would remain her fashion home for all but one of the next 14 years. She spent that year as a personal shopper at Prada in Beverly Hills and returned for the pinnacle job of personal shopper for Barneys’ VIP clientele.

Ajit Berg wants every woman to know true beauty comes from the inside out.

At Barneys, there was no typical day. One day she might help Victoria Beckham find the perfect pair of shoes. Another day, Berg might work with some of the world’s elite designers, such as Alber Albaz from Lanvin and the iconic shoe designer Christian Louboutin. And still another day, a bigwig studio exec might call and ask Berg to select and wrap a gift for Matt Damon — in 15 minutes. From shopping for Christmas gifts for Harrison Ford’s family to selecting gowns for celebrities’ wives and studio heads to walk the red carpet at the Oscars, to helping everyday L.A. moms and working women, Berg reveled in her work.

She knew the rush of wearing thousand-dollar designer outfits in Manolo Blahnik stilettos, but she also felt a sense of emptiness when the fashion high wore off. The fast pace of her career and lifestyle blurred the passing of years to the point where Berg almost missed fulfilling her heart’s greatest desire. She recalls a turning point that occurred in 2006, “After a long day at work I came home, dropped to my knees and cried out for God to help me. I was so consumed by my career and lifestyle, I wondered if I had missed my opportunity to have what I wanted most ... the love of a family.” A few days later she encountered Fargo native Chris Berg at a restaurant in L.A. “It was definitely divine intervention. We felt an instant bond. He was kind, smart and spiritual, not to mention handsome!” Berg says.

The two married one year later. “Chris helped lead me to faith. It has been my walk with Christ that profoundly changed the course of my life,” she says. Two years later, they welcomed their miracle baby, Isabella.

Having Isabella stirred Chris, like many parents, to want to make the world a better place. Chris received a chance offer for a job in politics in his home state. While stunned by the prospect, she intuitively knew it was the right thing for their family. Berg decided to set aside her career for motherhood and the new opportunity for her husband, and she experienced the growth that comes through sacrifice.

The Bergs arrived in Fargo in 2010, and her first year proved to be a hard transition. The weather was colder than Berg had ever encountered and she often dealt with loneliness as Chris worked most of the day. The former celebrity shopper now dressed in skinny jeans and a T-shirt, toting her precious baby instead of a Chanel bag. Even with the joy of finally having a family, Berg struggled as she tried to move forward and forge her new identity.

Her closet overflowed with unpacked boxes of Christian Louboutin shoes and Lanvin silk dresses but without her job, friends and L.A. lifestyle, Berg had nowhere to wear them. She decided to part with some of her treasure and cleaned her closet, minimizing to what she really wore and to what was most special. Berg discovered letting go of what she no longer needed from her former life to be surprisingly freeing. "It was not only an outward cleansing, but also it was an inward cleansing. I realized I wasn't defined by the clothes I wore. Connecting to the person I was on the inside is what would truly make me feel beautiful," Berg says.

During the peak of her loneliness, Berg was strolling with Isabella into a store and noticed a copy of Area Woman magazine. She began to read the story of the beautiful woman on the cover, who like Berg, had moved to Fargo and struggled with her new identity. Inspired by how the woman was now making a difference in the community, Berg decided to step out in faith.

“ ...whether someone lives in beverly hills or fargo, we all want the same thing, to look and feel our best. and that is what fashion does. it can transform you, give you confidence and truly light up your whole world. ”

AJIT BERG (right) shopping with Victoria Beckham at Barney's New York in Beverly Hills.

ot long afterward, Berg began writing a monthly fashion column for The Forum of Fargo-Moorhead and started her own personal styling business in 2011. Two years later, she became the guest personal stylist on “North Dakota Today,” a morning program co-hosted by her husband on Fargo TV station KVLY. Berg had an epiphany preparing for one of the bi-monthly segments. Instead of dressing people in high-end clothing, she would study the latest trends and find clothes that looked like designer clothes, but at an affordable price. “My new focus would be how to get celebrity looks for less,” Berg says.

“I realized that whether someone lives in Beverly Hills or Fargo, we all want the same thing, to look and feel our best. And that is what fashion does. It can transform you, give you confidence and truly light up your whole world,” Berg says.

how fashion TRANSFORMS LIVES

Berg works as a personal stylist with women in L.A. as well as Fargo. Two such clients are Kathy Hornbacher and her daughter Kristie Skunberg of Fargo. Hornbacher, a longtime fan of TLC’s “What Not To Wear,” dreamed of having her own makeover. She booked consults for herself and her daughter after learning of Berg’s services. Hornbacher lists her makeover with Berg as one of the best blessings in her life, and her transformation was later aired in one of Berg’s fashion segments.

Interviewing her clients distinguishes Berg in her work. “My magic is not in changing somebody but in enhancing who they are,” Berg says. She helps the client to eliminate poorly fitting and out-ofdate items, shops for new items and then creates head-to-toe outfits complete with accessories and shoes. She photographs the client modeling the ensembles and provides a photo book to make getting dressed a cinch.

Like many women, Hornbacher says she didn’t know what size, color and style looked best on her. Her dread of shopping led to many unfortunate last-minute purchases. “Ajit found things that fit my personality, not a fad or trend,” Hornbacher says. “Ajit has the ability to shop low-end and high-end, whatever your budget is.”

The makeover affected more than Hornbacher’s closet. She no longer makes up excuses to avoid going out because she doesn’t feel good in her clothes. “It’s nothing about vanity. When you look good, you feel much better in your own eyes and in others’ eyes. It gives you confidence,” Hornbacher says.

Hornbacher’s daughter Skunberg also gained new insights from her consult. Berg and Skunberg purged Skunberg’s closet and filled six garbage bags with clothing, including 15 pairs of unflattering jeans, to be donated to charity. Skunberg gained the courage to try skinny jeans, which she now wears exclusively. Through the experience, Skunberg says she discovered it is better to have fewer items of higher quality that last longer. And Berg’s knowledge of body shape, silhouette and fabric cut enabled them to make the best choices.

Berg with client Kathy Hornbacher (left)

Skunberg appreciates how everything in her closet now works together and how Berg made her feel good about her body type and how to dress for it. “You can tell she loves what she does and is super talented and gets super excited about helping people. Ajit is a gem,” Skunberg says.

Fashion can have the power to transform people so that they feel good on the outside and inside. That’s an avenue of styling that is often missed when you focus only on the trends, according to Berg. Wearing the wrong clothes is an obstacle to letting your true personality shine.

Berg is often asked to define her personal style. “I love French style. My favorite designers are Isabel Marant and Lanvin. I like clothes that show femininity and strength, that make a woman feel light and feminine and strong at the same time. I like the easiness of California style. My uniform is a great pair of jeans, flowy top and fabulous shoes,” Berg says.

The styles strutted on the runway may seem to some lightyears away from what is purchased locally. However, Berg says runway looks do apply to what people are buying around town. “All the looks from runway trickle down. Like art, the designers put it together in ways you may not be able to wear every day, but runway can be inspiring,” Berg says.

FINDING the SHINE

Sometimes in life it’s when you let go of what you hold dear that you find something greater.

“The trials I experienced strengthened my faith and helped me to see all things work for good. By letting go of my career because it was the right thing to do at that time for my family, I formed an amazing bond with Isabella and supported Chris for what was in his heart to do. I am now doing things in my career that I would never have imagined. And most of all, I am able to do what I love again, which is to help people feel good on the inside and out,” Berg says.

This growth would not have happened if she had not moved to Fargo, which Berg describes as a kind, family-oriented community. “Fargo is where we have grown as a family. Chris and I have learned that love never fails, that sacrificial love for each other keeps our marriage and family strong,” she says.

Berg hopes to instill in her 7-year-old fashionista daughter the source of true beauty. “It's great to have nice clothes and to be put together in a way that shows we care, but it is most important how we treat ourselves and others. Then all the fun clothes and accessories will just be icing on the cake and you will shine from the inside out.”

↓ BELOW: Berg's daughter, Isabella

Berg on the set of KVLY's "North Dakota Today"

timeless STYLE TIPS

Regardless of your age or body shape, you can look your best when you follow personal stylist Ajit Berg’s timeless fashion tips.

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Organize and purge your closet. You will make the best outfits when you can see your clothes. Buy the right size; buying too big or too small can add on weight instead of slenderize.

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Wear your clothes. Don't let them wear you. Choose styles that give you the best silhouette and are the most flattering for your body type.

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Be open to trying something new. You may be surprised at what you can wear.

clothing on racks provided by WHITE HOUSE BLACK MARKET inside West Acres

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Invest in timeless, better quality pieces that will mix with your everyday wardrobe and take your outfits to the next level. Less is more.

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Stay elegant, but dress for your body type, not your age. Wear and enjoy fun styles while you can.

Embrace who you are and carry yourself with confidence and joy. Wear trends that allow your personality to shine.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: Contact Ajit Berg at ajitfashionista7@yahoo.com or view her bi-monthly fashion segments on KVLY's “North Dakota Today.”

27 th annual

PAWS WALK

Have an unconditional love for animals and also like to get some exercise while doing it?

For the past 26 years Homeward Animal Shelter has held a fundraising event at Rheault Farm in Fargo for homeless cats and dogs. On July 25, Homeward Animal Shelter held a half mile Paws Walk with family, friends and our furry friends. Paws Walk is a fundraiser for our furry friends who are not fortunate enough to

words by MACKENZIE STE. MARIE photography by SARAH STANLEY

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FirstLink held its Glitter Gala event at the Delta by Marriot on Friday, September 1. The event was a huge success as over 200 people attended and donated over $7,000. This money will help FirstLink continue answering phones 24 hours a day, giving help and hope to those who need it. There were many wonderful action items, three themed raffle packages, and a heads-and-tails game.

FirstLink shared their suicide survivor videos with the group. Five brave women shared their very painful stories about losing their loved ones to suicide. They reminded us all that we need to stop the stigma and speak up about suicide.

Another video was played about a young woman who struggled with suicidal thoughts and depression, and called FirstLink. Together a safety plan was made. She is so thankful she called and was given resources and hope.

Then there was the men’s “Glitter Beard Contest.” Amanda Lea from BIG 98.7 was the emcee for the evening and she did a great job of interviewing the men who “shined.” There were glitter beards, glitter eyebrows, glitter chests (yes, you read that right) and even flowers in beards.

It was a fun and educational night to help support a very worthwhile cause. The next Glitter Gala will take place in August 2018.

FirstLink is a 24/7 nonprofit organization that specializes in suicide support services, volunteerism, and linking people to thousands of community resources. Programs include the helpline 2-1-1 or 235-SEEK, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK, Suicide Education Outreach, the Follow-up Call Program, Community Training, and Giving Tree of Hope.

TO DONATE and MAKE A DIFFERENCE, give them a call at 701-235-7335 or visit myfirstlink.org for more information. [ aw ]

Area Woman’s resident Bookista, Megan Elgin, serves you up with books worthy of spending your entire afternoon with. Search for Megan on Goodreads or @meganann on Litsy and find out what she’s reading now.

Like many people in the area, I love when the fall weather turns crisp and the leaves change to vibrant hues. I also enjoy changing the books I read with the season. Some stories connect better with us when they fit with what is going on in our lives, including the time of year. Autumn is a time of change and looking inward as the plants and trees prepare themselves for the long winter ahead. So I follow suit and turn toward books that let me experience different views and cultures. Those that speak of the past, difficult times in history, or places I know very little about will usually end up in my fall reading list.

To those of you who might be too frightened to read horror — myself included — or have no interest in perusing the fantasy aisle for witches, werewolves and vampires (sparkling, bloody or otherwise), here are some options to get you in the Halloween spirit. In fact, if you either refuse to read or can't get enough of the aforementioned genres, I urge you to read these because they may surprise you.

the NOCTURNE FALLS series

by Kristen Painter

"Welcome to Nocturne Falls, the town where Halloween is celebrated 365 days a year. The tourists think it's all a show ... but the supernaturals populating the town know better. Living in Nocturne Falls means being yourself. Fangs, fur and all."

I stumbled across this series when I was looking for a light, fun read in between heavier subjects. I picked up book one and was hooked from the first page! These are sweet, funny romances but with a unique Halloween twist that makes them perfect reads for October. Especially for those who may not normally enjoy reading fantasy and paranormal type stories. By the end, I had laughed, cried and closed the cover feeling cheerful and content.

A DISCOVERY of WITCHES

by Deborah Harkness

Diana Bishop is a young scholar researching alchemy at Oxford's Bodleian Library. She is also a descendant from a long line of powerful witches, but has chosen to eradicate magic from her life. When she stumbles across a bewitched alchemical manuscript thought to have been lost for centuries, other creatures take notice. What follows is a richly told story ripe with detail, history, romance and mystery.

Book one of the All Souls Trilogy, this series has been out for a few years and may even already be on your bookshelf. It is well worth reading again, but for those of you who haven't read it yet, this is one of my favorite series of all time and perfect for the season. Fans of "Outlander" and readers of historical fiction will love "A Discovery of Witches." When you finish this book, make sure you have books two and three on hand because you won't want to stop reading.

ONCE UPON A RIVER

by Bonnie Jo Campbell

After the death of her father, sixteen-year-old Margo Crane begins a journey on the Stark River in the boat inherited from her grandfather. She finds that the river is a dangerous place for a young women to travel along and she must be strong to survive. Armed with a rifle and her knowledge of nature gained while growing up on the river, Margo's story is both a heartbreaking and beautiful journey I could not put down. It will be especially poignant during this time of the year as the river flows around us and hunting season is in full swing.

The LOST HISTORY of STARS

by Dave Boling

This book is an eye-opening look into how people are treated in times of war across history, and one I think everyone should read. Set during the Boer War in South Africa at the turn of the century, Lettie and her family are Dutch Afrikaner settlers who have been taken from their farm by British soldiers. The concentration camp they are placed in during the Boer War is a place full of disease, filth and starvation. Lettie survives these harsh circumstances through her own strength of character, intelligence and determination. I loved her voice, cried along with her, and felt every heartbreak and triumph.

HOTEL on the CORNER of BITTER and SWEET

by Jamie Ford

After being boarded up for decades, the new owner of the Panama Hotel discovers the belongings numerous Japanese families left behind when they were rounded up during World War II and sent to internment camps. This discovery takes Henry Lee back to the 1940s. We follow Henry back forth across decades from the events of his youth, his frustration with his Chinese nationalist father, a budding friendship with Keiko, and his search for her family's belongings in the dusty old hotel.

A story of commitment, forgiveness and hope, “Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet” is about so much more than it appears to be. Author Jamie Ford will be in the FM area on October 24 as part of this year's One Book, One Community reading project. Visit 1book1community.org for more details on the event.

IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BOOK, ALSO READ: "The Japanese Lover" by Isabel Allende "Pachinko" by Min Jin Lee

WATCH

SAME KIND of DIFFERENT AS ME

October 20

SAME KIND OF DIFFERENT AS ME is based on the inspiring true story of international art dealer Ron Hall (Greg Kinnear), who befriends a homeless man (Djimon Hounsou) in hopes of saving his struggling marriage to Debbie (Renée Zellweger), a woman whose dreams will lead all three of them on the most remarkable journey of their lives. Jon Voight plays Hall's father, with whom he reconciles thanks to the revelations of his new life. Based on the New York Times bestseller.

MURDER on the ORIENT EXPRESS

November 10

What starts out as a lavish train ride through Europe quickly unfolds into one of the most stylish, suspenseful and thrilling mysteries ever told. From the novel by best selling author Agatha Christie, "Murder on the Orient Express" tells the tale of thirteen strangers stranded on a train, where everyone's a suspect. One man must race against time to solve the puzzle before the murderer strikes again.

MOLLY'S GAME

November 22

WONDER

November 17

August “Auggie“ Pullman (Jacob Trembley) was born with a facial deformity that prevented him from going to a mainstream school — until now. He's about to start fifth grade at Beecher Prep, and if you've ever been the new kid then you know how hard that can be. The thing is, Auggie's just an ordinary kid, with an extraordinary face. But can he convince his new classmates that he's just like them, despite appearances?

Based on the book of the same name by R.J. Palacio which I recently finished reading with my son, this is a must see for the whole family. And if you have school-age children who haven't yet read this amazing story, I highly recommend that you read it with them.

MOLLY'S GAME is the true story of Molly Bloom, an Olympic-class skier who ran the world's most exclusive high-stakes poker game for a decade before being arrested in the middle of the night by 17 FBI agents wielding automatic weapons. Her players included Hollywood royalty, sports stars, business titans and finally, unbeknownst to her, the Russian mob. Her only ally was her criminal defense lawyer Charlie Jaffey, who learned that there was much more to Molly than the tabloids led us to believe.

WONDER WHEEL

December 1

WONDER WHEEL tells the story of four charac ters whose lives intertwine amid the hustle and bustle of the Coney Island amusement park in the 1950s: Ginny (Kate Winslet), an emotion ally volatile former actress now working as a waitress in a clam house; Humpty (Jim Be lushi), Ginny’s rough-hewn carousel operator husband; Mickey (Justin Timberlake), a hand some young lifeguard who dreams of becom ing a playwright; and Carolina (Juno Temple), Humpty’s long-estranged daughter, who is now hiding out from gangsters at her father’s apartment. Cinematographer Vittorio Storaro captures a tale of passion, violence, and be trayal that plays out against the picturesque tableau of 1950s Coney Island.

FROM the COUCH:

Many of the season's biggest TV shows have already started, but make sure to tune in to these upcoming premieres:

The Gifted

October 2 at 9:00 pm on Fox

The Mayor

October 3 at 9:30 pm on ABC

Dynasty

October 11 at 9:00 pm on The CW

Young Sheldon

November 2 at 8:30pm on CBS

EAT

PORTER CREEK

In the spirit of wine country, Porter Creek features a fresh, contemporary menu. Signature dishes include fire roasted meats and rustic vegetables such as rotisserie chicken and duck, oven roasted halibut and salmon, and handcrafted flatbreads. We offer 40 wines poured by the glass, scotch and tequila flights, and a four-season outdoor bar and a 4-season outdoor bar to compliment the experience. Banquet spaces available. Explore Porter Creek today!

1555 44TH ST S, FARGO 701-369-3669 | portercreek.com

DOOLITTLES WOODFIRE GRILL

Featuring woodfired rotisserie cooking, Doolittles Woodfire Grill is an experience that ignites all your senses!  The woodfired rotisserie grills meat over an open flame for a savory wood roasted flavor.  The rotation of the rotisserie creates self-basting and slow roasting skewers resulting in juicy and succulent meats.  Doolittles boasts over 40 wines by the glass.  Come as you are, Doolittles is a dining experience for all occasions.

2112 25TH ST S, FARGO 701-478-2200 | doolittles.com

experience some of the best food and drinks in the area

LOREN LEE'S

Loren Lee's invites you to dine with all your senses. Try Loren Lee's Fillet, succulent Sea Bass, tender Duck 2 Ways, or Lobster Mac & Cheese. Gather with friends and family to enjoy a sensual, casual dining experience. The entrées are varied but not overwhelmingly so. Reminisce and smile as you travel home after being spoiled by great service, tantalizing drinks and amazing food.

3179 BLUESTEM DR, WEST FARGO 701-356-8356 | lorenlees.com

TRU BLU SOCIAL CLUB

Tru Blu is a family friendly fine-dining restaurant featuring a scratch kitchen with a full menu for both lunch and dinner. Try our signature Tru Blu Burger with two-year aged Tillamook cheddar cheese, carmelized onion, cob smoked bacon, mayo, romaine leaves, and tomatoes. Your choice of a 10 ounce burger patty or chicken breast served on our pretzel bun with a kosher pickle

915 19TH AVE E, WEST FARGO 701-532-2600 | trublusocialclub.com

Open daily at 11:00 for lunch & dinner

• KID FRIENDLY

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Banquet room seats up to 150 people

915 19 th AVENUE EAST WEST FARGO 701.532.2600 • trublusocialclub.com

CALENDAR

performing arts events and fundraisers Note: All events are subject to change. Confirm dates and times before attending.

OCTOBER 5-7 • FRITZ FEST

Three-day event highlighting the artwork of Fritz Scholder

EXHIBITIONS

The Buffalo in the American Living Room: Fritz Scholder and Contemporary Native Art

October 3 – January 13 • Plains Art Museum

Fritz Scholder • October 6 – November 12 Rourke Art Museum

OCTOBER 5

7 PM, Gallery talk led by Dr. Gwen Westerman Plains Art Museum, Free Dr. Gwen Westerman is an award winning poet and visual artist, a teacher at MSUM – Mankato, and is one of the featured contemporary artists in the exhibition.

OCTOBER 6

1:00 – 4:00 PM

Fritz Scholder Symposium

NDSSU, Renaissance Hall, Free

3:00 – 5:00 PM, Reception

Red Door Art Gallery and Museum, Wahpeton, ND, Free Birthday cake and refreshments along with personal stories about Fritz told by those that knew him personally.

6:00 – 10:00 PM

Progressive Reception Plains Art Museum, 6 – 8 PM; Rourke Art Museum, 7:30 – 9:30 PM

Celebration of what would have been Fritz Scholder’s 80th birthday. Music by jazz guitarist Briand Morrison, hors d’oeuvres and cash bar. Free for members (Plains or Rourke) and Native American community, $10 for nonmembers.

OCTOBER 7

2 PM • Gallery Talk Rourke Art Museum

7 PM • 1491s – Sketch Comedy Performance

Fargo Theatre $15

The 1491s are a hilarious, internationally-known Native American sketch comedy group, recently featured on “The Daily Show.” Their comedy brilliantly blends humor and satire with their witty observations of contemporary life. Tickets available at 701.551.6100, Plains Art Museum and Fargo Theatre.

plainsart.org

OCTOBER 6, 7, 8, 13, 14, 15

DIAL “M” FOR MURDER

Tony Wendice has married his wife, Margot, for her money and now plans to murder her for the same reason. He arranges the perfect murder. He blackmails a scoundrel he used to know into strangling her for a fee of one hundred thousand pounds, and arranges a brilliant alibi for himself. Unfortunately, the murderer gets murdered and the victim survives. Learn the startling conclusion of this plot-twisting play.

FRIDAYS & SATURDAYS: 7:30 PM

SUNDAYS: 2:00 PM

The Stage at Island Park

333 4th St S | Fargo 701-235-1901, fmct.org

OCTOBER 20 & 21

COCKTAILS + CABARET

An evening of music, appetizers and libations fill this signature Fargo Moorhead Community Theatre annual fundraising and performance event. Vocal performers at this year’s event will dust off high school highlights and be humorously accompanied by photographic and video evidence of their drama club glory days. Single tickets, $45, includes gourmet hors d’oeuvres and complimentary cocktail $100 couple, includes romantic table for two, bottle of wine, gourmet hors d’oeuvres

6:30 PM, COCKTAIL HOUR

The Stage at Island Park 333 4th St S | Fargo 701.235.1901, fmct.org

OCTOBER 21

SPOOKY BALLETS featuring Dracula

The FM Ballet starts the season off in a spooky way by bringing an audience favorite back to the stage and the Fargo Theatre, Spooky Ballets featuring Dracula. This performance will thrill and welcome you to the bad side this October. This production will have a combination of jazzy mischief, eerie ballet, and thrilling dance moves. Also register for our costume contest for a chance to win a prize. A panel of judges and an audience to assist in choosing a winner. Costume Contest entry cost is $5.00. Suggested audience: 8+ (Some content may be scary for a younger audience). Reserved seating

7:00 PM Fargo Theatre | 314 Broadway N 701-234-9440

QUOTABLE: "For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and find me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord." — JEREMIAH 29: 11-14

OCTOBER 25 DIRTY DANCING

Dirty Dancing – The Classic Story On Stage is an unprecedented live experience, exploding with heart-pounding music, passionate romance and sensational dancing. Seen by millions across the globe, this worldwide smash hit tells the classic story of Baby and Johnny, two fiercely independent young spirits from different worlds who come together in what will be the most challenging and triumphant summer of their lives.

Featuring the hit songs, “Hungry Eyes,” “Hey Baby,” “Do You Love Me?” and the heart-stopping “(I’ve Had) The Time of My Life.” Don’t miss your chance to see this record-breaking live theatre sensation.

7:30 PM

FARGODOME

1800 N University Dr | Fargo fargodome.com

NOVEMBER 2

Celebration of Women and Their Music presents CLAUDIA SCHMIDT HOUSE CONCERT

Singer/songwriter/storyteller of folk jazz and blues, an accomplished performer on 12-string guitar and mountain dulcimer, and a regular during the early years of Prairie Home Companion. Tickets are $15 with a portion of proceeds going to Celebration of Women and Their Music. Rustic Oaks

12155 3rd Street S | Moorhead claudiaschmidt.com debjenkins.com/celebrationofwomen.html

NOVEMBER 22

ELF THE MUSICAL

ELF The Musical is the hilarious tale of Buddy, a young orphan child who mistakenly crawls into Santa’s bag of gifts and is transported back to the North Pole. Unaware that he is actually human, Buddy’s enormous size and poor toy-making abilities cause him to face the truth. With Santa’s permission, Buddy embarks on a journey to New York City to find his birth father, discover his true identity, and help New York remember the true meaning of Christmas.

7:30 PM

FARGODOME

1800 N University Dr | Fargo fargodome.com

salvation army events

OCTOBER 14 & OCTOBER 16-19

COATS for KIDS & FAMILIES Distribution

Distribution of donated coats and other winter items to families who would not otherwise be able to afford them.

THANKSGIVING FOOD BOX Registration

Registration for families to receive a box filled with items to make a Thanksgiving meal.

9:00 AM – 4:00 PM, BOTH EVENTS

The Salvation Army, Moorhead Warehouse

1503 1st Ave N, Moorhead 701.232.5565

NOVEMBER 15

RED KETTLE CAMPAIGN KICK-OFF

8:30 AM – MUSIC AND REFRESHMENTS

9:00 AM – PROGRAM

West Acres, JCP wing, by fountain 701.232.5565

NOVEMBER 6 – 9 & NOVEMBER 27

CHRISTMAS FOOD BOX Registration

Registration for families and/or individuals to receive a box filled with items to make a Christmas meal.

9:00 AM – 3:30 PM

The Salvation Army 304 Roberts St, Fargo 701.232.5565

fargo force games

Friday, October 6 vs Si oux Falls

Saturday, October 7 vs Si oux City

Friday, October 13 vs Yo ungstown

Saturday, October 14 vs Yo ungstown

Thursday, October 19 vs Si oux Falls

Friday, November 3 vs Ce dar Rapids

Saturday, November 4 vs Wa terloo

Thursday, November 9 vs De s Moines

Friday, November 10 vs De s Moines

Wednesday, November 22 vs Sioux Falls

All games begin at 7:05 PM. For a complete schedule visit fargoforce.com

CALENDAR journeys in health and grief — events and fundraisers

OCTOBER 7

NORTH DAKOTA TAKE STEPS for CROHNS and COLITIS

A fundraiser walk to raise funds for research and education for those that suffer from Crohns and Colitis. Fun family day — food, games, walk, and music.

12:00 PM

Rheault Farm

2902 25th St S | Fargo

Jackie Peterson 646-430-4841 cctakesteps.org/NorthDakota2017

OCTOBER 12

THE NEXT CHAPTER

Turn the page on your journey of stroke survivorship with an upcoming retreat brought to you by Sanford Health. Join with other stroke survivors and their families as health care experts share how to make this new phase of life happy and fulfilling.

3:30 – 8:00 PM

Delta by Marriott

1635 42nd St S | Fargo angela.thomassen@sanfordhealth.org

OCTOBER 7 • YOUTH JOURNEYS

Youth Journeys is a day-long program for youth ages 6 to 18, who have lost a loved one. The day is broken down into sections, allowing youth a chance to explore how the death of their loved one has affected their lives, their feelings, self-care and how to embrace memories. Youth will have an opportunity to meet our pet therapy dogs. The day ends with a celebration of life service. Parents/ guardians are also required to attend a portion of the day. Food and snacks are provided throughout the day. This class is free, pre-screening and pre-registration are required. Pre-registration required by October 2; call 800-237-4629 and ask for the bereavement department.

9:00 AM – 3:30 PM; REGISTRATION/CHECK-IN 8:30 – 9:00 AM Hospice of the Red River Valley office (use west door) 1701 38th St S | Fargo

OCTOBER 12

DYING IS SIMPLE. Why do we make it so hard?

Dying is not a medical event; rather it’s social and communal, and when we're at the bedside of someone who is dying, it is all about togetherness. Spend time with Barbara Karnes, author of “Gone From My Sight: The Dying Experience” (also known as “The Little Blue Book”) and explore her thoughts on acknowledging and understanding the dying process. In doing so, you may relieve stress and reduce fear. FREE

7:00 – 9:00 PM

Delta Hotels by Marriott, Fargo 1635 42nd St S | Fargo hrrv.org/journeyinghome

OCTOBER 14

PINK POWERHOUSE PULL American Cancer Society

Join the Pink Powerhouse Pull to show your support, raise money, and move us closer to a world free from the pain and suffering of breast cancer. Teams of eight women will show how strong we can be when we work together by pulling a pink concrete mixer.

12:00 – 5:00 PM

Fargo Civic Center 2017 4th St N | Fargo 701-308-1154

OCTOBER 16 – NOVEMBER 20

WHEN MOURNING DAWNS

Boulger Funeral Home presents this six-week series that looks at the seasons of the year to guide conversations about the seasons of your grief. Led by grief support coordinators, Sonja Kjar and Ann Jacobson. Preregistration is required and space is limited. Please call 701.237.6441 or email griefsupport@boulgerfuneralhome.com if you have questions or are interested in this series.

6:00 – 7:15 PM EACH MONDAY

Boulger Funeral Home

123 10th St S | Fargo

boulgerfuneralhome.com

OCTOBER 19, 26 & NOVEMBER 2

JOURNEYING THROUGH GRIEF

Journeying Through Grief is a series of classes designed for those who are recently bereaved. It is intended for adults 18 years and older who have experienced the recent loss of the loved one. The sessions will help you better understand the grief process, explore methods of self-care, and embrace and carry memories with you as you move forward.

Pre-registration required by October 13. FREE Hospice of the Red River Valley office (use west door) 1701 38th St S | Fargo 800.237.4629

OCTOBER 26

14 th Annual Fargo-Moorhead CAREGIVER CONFERENCE

The 14th Annual Fargo-Moorhead Caregiver Conference, “Empowering Caregivers,” will feature expert presenters on a variety of caregiving topics. Presentations during the event will include "The Basics: Alzheimer’s Disease, Dementia and Memory Loss" with Kendra Binger from Alzheimer’s Association Minnesota-North Dakota and “Substance Abuse and Mental Illness in the Geriatric Population" with Dr. Courtney Stufflebeam, PhD, from Fargo VA Health Care System. The conference will close with “Taking Control of Your Healthcare” with Staci Metzger, MSW, from Hospice of the Red River Valley. This event is free, but space is limited to 75 participants, and registration is required by Oct. 13. Call 218.299.5514 to register.

8:30 AM – 1:00 PM

Hjemkomst Center

202 1st Ave N | Moorhead

NOVEMBER 9

FREE SKIN CANCER SCREENING

Catalyst Medical Center is hosting a free opportunity to get your skin checked for cancerous lesions. Guests are seen in the order in which they arrive for skin cancer screenings only. Catalyst asks that you register to help them plan for staffing.

4:00 – 8:00 PM, FIRST COME/FIRST SERVED

Catalyst Medical Center

RSVP at healthyskinfargo.com

OCTOBER 12

VAMPIRE FACIAL EVENT

Catalyst Clinical Spa invites you to their first event featuring the enticing Vampire Facial treatment. You’ll learn about the powerful process that utilizes the platelet-rich plasma, or PRP, found in your blood. PRP has countless benefits and anti-aging properties for gorgeous, radiant skin and has grown significantly in popularity. This free event features a presentation, live demonstration, wine, appetizers, exclusive VIP pricing, and the chance to win a free Vampire Facial treatment.

6:00 PM

Catalyst Clinical Spa

RSVP to reserve your spot at vampirefacialfargo.com

fun events and fundraisers

OCTOBER 13 & 14

THE BIG ONE ART & CRAFT FAIR

The 29th Annual Fargo Fall Show includes over 320 booths showcasing products hand made from across the US. Over 200 exhibitors will fill their booths with arts, crafts and baked goods that all have a touch of being hand made.

OCTOBER 13, 10:00 AM – 8:00 PM

OCTOBER 14, 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM FARGODOME

1800 N University Dr | Fargo fargodome.com

OCTOBER 20

WAGS, WHISKERS & WINE

Join us for wine tasting, delicious food, music and fabulous auction items. All proceeds benefit the homeless pets of Homeward Animal Shelter. Dress is business casual. Early Bird Tickets $40, Regular Tickets $50 starting Oct 11

6:00 – 9:00 PM

Sanctuary Events Center

670 4th Ave N | Fargo 701.364.9013, homewardonline.org

OCTOBER 22

FALL FESTIVAL

Join us for a day of fun at Holy Cross Catholic Church

Full Turkey Dinner, 10:30 PM – 2:30 PM

Children’s Games, 10:00 AM – 3:00 PM, Chance baskets, silent auction, bingo, cork pull, yards of cards, 50/50 chance raffle, country store, jewelry, silent auction, punch game and more.

10:00 AM – 3:00 PM

Holy Cross Catholic Church

2711 7th St E | West Fargo 701.282.7217

OCTOBER 24

AUTHOR VISIT

with JAMIE FORD, writer of the novel "Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet." This is the final event for the 2017 One Book, One Community reading project. Open to all ages. A book signing will follow Ford’s visit. More events and details at 1book1community.org. FREE.

7:00 PM, DOORS OPEN AT 6:00 PM

Concordia College

Knutson Center Centrum

901 S 8th St | Moorhead

OCTOBER 26

UNSEEN’S FALL FIRE

Join Unseen for a night to fight human trafficking. This evening of fire performances, tons of music, great food, drinks and philanthropy is open to all.

6:30 – 8:30 PM

Sanctuary Events Center

670 4th Ave N | Fargo eventbrite.com/e/unseen-fall-firetickets-35788615713

NOVEMBER 3

JOURNEY FOR HOPE GALA, supporting Jeremiah Program Fargo-Moorhead

Join us for a first-class experience that will transform a frigid winter evening into an eclectic Paris stroll. This premiere passport presents French cuisine with a full-course meal and hors d'oeuvres, fine wine and spirits, and festive entertainment fit for the streets of France. Reserve your ticket for this elegant encounter which includes a trip raffle to Paris, France; unrivaled auction items including oneof-a-kind Bison artwork, unique travel experiences, and more. Your support transforms lives for single mothers and their children, who are motivated and determined to permanently transition themselves from poverty. Cost: $125 individual or $200 couple; $75 young professionals 35 years or younger RSVP at 701.793.5616; wwright@jeremiahprogram.org or jeremiahprogram.org/event/ journey-for-hope-gala/.

5:30 – 10:00 PM

Avalon Events Center 2525 9th Ave S | Fargo

NOVEMBER 4

ST. ANDREW’S (SCOTTISH) SOCIETY ANNUAL DINNER

Celebration of Scottish food, bagpipes, songs, tartans, culture and history. Scots and Scot wannabes welcome. Purchase tickets by October 30.

5:00 PM

DoubleTree by Hilton West Fargo 825 East Beaton Dr | West Fargo 701.261.5683

NOVEMBER 4-5

31 st Annual HOMES FOR THE HOLIDAYS

NDSU Alpha Gamma Delta invites you to their annual Homes for the Holidays – a showcase of holiday decor featuring local designers at six area homes beautifully decorated for the Christmas season. Our chosen beneficiary to receive a share of proceeds from the 2017 event is the Great Plains Food Bank Backpack Program. Tickets are $20 at the F-M Convention & Visitors Bureau.

12:00 – 5:00 PM EACH DAY homesfortheholidaysfm.com

NOVEMBER 10 – DECEMBER 1

17th Annual Fraser, Ltd. FESTIVAL of TREES

Come view over 150 beautifully decorated trees on display at the FARGODOME from November 10 to December 1.

MONDAY – FRIDAY 8:00 AM – 5:00 PM

AND DURING FARGODOME EVENTS

NOVEMBER

11-12

HOLIDAY HOMES OF HOPE

Friends helping friends, opening their homes for a great cause — the Cystic Fibrosis Association of ND. Enjoy eight beautifully decorated homes in the Fargo Country Club neighborhood and then shop in our extensive boutique. A great event to kick off the holiday season. Tickets available Oct 1 at Hornbacher’s stores.

SATURDAY 10:00AM – 5:00 PM

SUNDAY 12:00 – 5:00 PM

Fargo Country Club Neighborhood Pam at 701.222.3998 facebook.com/holidayhomesofhope/

Performing Arts Series

Thursday, October 19, 2017

7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage Roland Dille Center for the Arts

The Silver Medalist of the Van Cliburn International Piano Competition

Thursday, October 19, 2017 — 7:30 p.m. Gaede Stage — Roland Dille Center for the Arts

“We are looking for a true artist who can connect with audiences and touch their hearts.”

– Cliburn President and CEO Jacques Marquis

Native Minnesotan Kenneth Broberg just won the Silver Medal in the quadrennial Van Cliburn International Piano Competition, dedicated to the discovery of the world’s finest pianists. Don’t miss the chance to hear an exceptional young pianist on the brink of international stardom!

> Van Cliburn

Buy Tickets Now! For tickets, go to mnstate.edu/tickets, or call the Box Office at (218) 477-2271 M-F from noon to 4 p.m., or buy at the door.

Cheryl Nelson Lossett 2017–2018 SEASON

You + School = Stress

Is This Equation True For Your Child?

Before his 5th birthday, Denny Sanford lost his mother, Edith, to breast cancer. Growing up without the love of a mother forever changed him.

Our philanthropist’s story reminds us that it is mothers, wives, sisters and best friends whom we fight for every day. This month, we celebrate our hope and determination to end breast cancer.