R E L AT I O N S H I P S P I N CYC L E
HOW CLOSE ISTOO CLOSE?
By Simon Matthews, FASLM MAPS MHlthSc ICF-PCC
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If you’ve ever studied the engine cooling system in your car, or the air conditioning system in your home or workplace, you know its operation hinges on one essential component: the thermostat. It’s responsible for detecting a change in temperature (up or down) and responding by switching the system on or off to adjust the temperature.
O U R R E L AT IO NSH IP S H AV E A SIM IL A R K IND O F “ T H E R M O S TAT” , A ND O NE O F T H E M O ST C O M M ON SE NSO R S T H AT P E O P L E H AV E C OULD B E C A L L E D A “ P R O X IM ISTAT ”. I TS JO B IS TO D E T E R M INE WH E N THE C L O SE NE SS O R D ISTA NC E B E TW EEN P E O P L E IS A B O U T R IG H T, A ND D E C ID E H OW TO A D JU ST IT. Many years ago, psychologists recognised that one of the essential needs of humans is connection and relationships with others. Some of us find that in marriage and some in professional relationships.
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