Igniting Your Self Love

By Jenna Pilot

If I were to tell you that the KEY to living the life you want is to LOVE and accept all that you are (light and dark), would you agree or disagree?

Unfortunately, I would say most people want to agree but internally disagree. This is because other than self LOVE being a sexy term, it is not something that comes naturally to us.

Many people view self LOVE as narcissistic, egotistical and/or selfish. On the opposite spectrum many people believe that to love yourself you have to have perfect everything.

NOT ACCURATE!!!

We are surrounded by social norms that we let define who we are, how we live and what we want. None of these norms focus on LOVing you first, it usually (especially for women) is to serve and please others, to fit in with the norm, that norm being more self loathing then self love. I don't know about YOU but this societal norm has never worked for me.

In my dance with life, I struggled with perfectionism, people pleasing, constantly feeling like I was not enough and very low esteem. I was an overachiever always trying to “prove” my purpose and worth.

I had no concept of what self LOVE was and how it dramatically changes your life. Instead I went through life, like I believe a lot of us do, looking OUTSIDE myself for LOVE instead of inside.

I definitely learnt the hard way, dancing back and forth, from self loathing to self destruction.

I am literally chuckling as I write this, I cant believe some of the decisions I made thinking they would be my ticket to self LOVE when it actually just pushed me way past self loathing and despair.

As an Empowerment and Self LOVE coach, I have worked with women who are stuck in self loathing and shame. Each queen that I have empowered starts at the place of either thinking self love is selfish or thinking that they could never reach the point of loving themselves. As a result I am determined to show up and share what self LOVE actually is, how you start loving YOU and how it changes everything in your life.

Self LOVE is about choosing YOU and allowing yourself the space to feel and love the beautiful and dark aspects of YOU, it is OWNing every magical thing you are. It is defining the life you want and making any moves necessary to get there.

Self LOVE is about being completely raw and honest with yourself, releasing anything that no longer serves you. It is looking at yourself with compassion when you are having a tough day and saying “I might not be where I want to be, but I know I am heading in that direction”.

Self LOVE is committing to always work on YOU, to show up as your authentic self and to prioritize YOUR needs, making time even if it is 5 minutes a day to do something for YOU.

Yes, this all sounds so amazing but how does one fall madly in love with themselves?

I got YOU!

I Believe There are 6 Steps to Igniting Your Self LOVE.

1. Owning YOUR Story - OWN that SHIT, the good, bad, beautiful and ugly that have made YOU who you are.

2. Releasing the SHAME and LOVing the Internal Disaster - Turning your pain into purpose and power, breaking free of shame and limiting beliefs through a place of compassion and love.

3. Feeding that Spiritual Hungry - Igniting YOUR spiritual connection or finding your spiritual connection.

4. Living in Gratitude - Instantly ignites your self love, be grateful for what you do have in life and being ready to receive more.

5. Re - Connecting to YOUR internal LOVE - Is reconnecting to YOU and falling in love with everything YOU are.

6. Elevating YOU - Making time for anything that Ignites YOU.

Following these steps and igniting my self love has changed every single thing about me and my life.

So if you are coming from a place of self loathing and despair, I have to ask..

What is stopping you from choosing YOU????

When do you make YOU a priority???

When do you decide that YOU are so worthy and deserving of having the life YOU want???

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and getting the same results, so STOP doing the same thing, step out of that box and say watch out world I am coming for YOU.

You define your life and the experiences you have within it, so CHOOSE YOU today and EVERY DAMN DAY!!

Jenna is an Empowerment and Self Love coach. Jenna is a passionate and bold personality whose purpose is to empower women in all forms, mind, body and spirit. Jenna is the founder of Everything Women, where fun, fiery, fearless women reconnect to love, elevate lifestyle and live consciously. Jenna has been a registered social worker for 15 years, a certified life coach, speaker, writer, self-love ignitor, yoga instructor and is currently obtaining her certification as a Shame practitioner. Jenna believes that shame impacts every single person but Women see, feel and hear the most of it. Jenna spent many years of her life feeling like she didn't belong and wasn't good enough. After years of training and self-development, she has learned that she is EVERYTHING WOMEN and always was. Jenna is now driven to ensure all WOMEN, know, believe, and feel like they are EVERYTHING WOMEN.

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