Darling Magazine Sevenoaks Nov-Jan 2016

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WHY EVERYONE FALLS IN LOVE WITH WEST KENT A BRIDGE FROM HOMELESSNESS to INDEPENDENCE

Keeping your glass overflowing with

CHERYL BAKER

Alison Barwell talks: the challenges of being a woman in a man’s world

The PERFECT WISH LIST OF STYLE INVITE YOUR ACCOUNTANT TO DINNER?

Inspiring women from Sevenoaks to Tunbridge Wells | www.darlingmagazine.co.uk

ASTON MARTIN SEVENOAKS

THE DEFINITION OF AN ICON The Aston Martin DB9 GT is the most elegant expression of a sports grand tourer, its DNA echoing the iconic DB GT models of its lineage. Delivering enhanced power and with subtle new touches to highlight its famously seductive styling, the DB9 GT is the ultimate incarnation, the embodiment of faultless form and formidable function, the beating heart of Aston Martin.

To experience the best of DB9 for yourself, contact us to find out more:

Aston Martin Sevenoaks 114-115 London Road, Riverhead, Sevenoaks, Kent TN13 2DN UK Telephone 01732 456 777 www.jardinemotors.co.uk/aston-martin

Official government fuel consumption figures in mpg (litres per 100km) for the Aston Martin DB9 GT: Urban 13.4 (21.1): Extra-urban 28.8 (9.8): Combined 20.2 (14.0). CO2 emissions 325g/km The mpg/fuel economy figures quoted are sourced from official regulated test results obtained through laboratory testing.

They are for comparability purposes only and may not reflect your real driving experience, which may vary depending on factors including road conditions, weather, vehicle load, and driving style. Vehicle shown for illustrational purposes only.

Hello Darls, What a perfect way to kick off the celebratory season, with the launch issue to inspire you.

Our Inspiring Woman, Cheryl Baker shares how to keep your glass overflowing (and it’s better than Champagne).

Local experts, Alex and Diana, keeping us on track and gorgeous with health and beauty tips.

Cover Cheryl Baker Photography by Sarah Hart www.sarahhartphotography.com

Publisher Darling Magazine UK Editor Tam Jackson All enquiries 01892 506 894 sevenoaks@darlingmagazine.co.uk Contributors Alex Ravenscroft Carrie Cantor Russell Harper Photography Sarah Hart sarah@sarahhartphotography.com Design Abi Aldous

There is no shortage of the perfect gifts. Foodie finds for the love of food and the odd cocktail or glass to tempt and inspire. We’ve been out and about capturing moments and events, see what’s been happening where you are in the Socials pages and much more.

Wishing you all a wonderful festive season, time with loved ones and friends and a New Year filled with overflowing glasses and love.

Connect with us on facebook, twitter or instagram @Darling7oaks

Tam Jackson Editor

Contents 4 Cheryl Baker - Family, Fame and Fizz 9 Beauty 11 Health 12 Fashion & Style

Printer Scott@aquatintbsc.co.uk

16 Business

Distribution info@3colours.co.uk

24 Alison Barwell - Being a woman in a man’s world

22 Darling Juniors

Darling UK and Wimbledon Karine Torr: 07930 396356

26 Socials & Soirées

Darling Kingston Marja-Leena Toseland: 07802 949836

33 Falling in love with West Kent

Darling Cobham | Esher | Weybridge Philippa Hennessy: 07772 633339 Whilst every care has been taken to ensure that the data in this publication is accurate, neither the publisher nor its editorial contributors can accept, and hereby disclaim, any liability to any party to loss or damage caused by errors or omissions resulting from negligence, accident or any other cause.

Darling Magazine does not officially endorse any advertising material included within this publication.

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in any retrieval system, or transmitted in any form – electronic, recording or otherwise, without prior permission from the publisher.

31 Community - From homelessness to independence

35 Community - Steph Harrison on fundraising for Breast

Cancer Care.

37 The gem in the village 40 What’s on 42 Talking Point

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Family, fame

&

positively fabulous

Cheryl Baker, local inspiring woman talks to Tam Jackson, Darling editor about a life that’s more than just showbiz.

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Wife, mother business woman and a career that keeps on giving. How have you kept the momentum going, where others have failed?

I stay positive and motivated. Even a bad situation has a reason to bring some good. If I do loose my temper (it takes a lot) I usually regret it and never hold a grudge. Steve (my husband) sometimes has to ask me to “Cheer down” when I’m singing first thing in the morning. There is no glass half full or half empty – it’s overflowing.

What do you love about your life?

Right now, it is touring with the group, formerly Bucks Fizz. In general it has to be the diversity of my life, the travel, the gigs, raising a family. There is no room for boredom. Every morning I look forward to seeing what is in my diary for the day.

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You came from very humble beginnings, how have you kept your children grounded?

My daughters are very grounded, although they have had a very different life and I have always tried to give them a better life than I had growing up. I grew up with my mother paying the meter with her last shillings and us wearing second hand clothes; which is probably why I will only wear new clothes now.

I remember my daughter Kyla coming home from a friend and saying her friend’s house is so small.

I realised then that they hadn’t experienced any different because we were living in a larger house at the time. It was good for her to see that not everyone was as privileged as she was.

“ The answer is yes, now what’s the question?

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What do you do to take a break during the day and recharge?

Mmm, 40 winks or 30minute power breaks. I use them to scroll through my iPhone and social media.

How did you go from a desk job to performing?

It was 10 days of boredom behind a desk while my boss, Josh went on a trip to Israel. I was reading Melody Maker and NME magazines and saw a job offer. Went to the audition. They called me to ask if I could come back and do harmony for a vocal group. I had no professional experience and was quaking in my boots. I rang my mum and sister, who said “Just try it.” I sang the harmony (which was easy) but I was nervous. The next day I was back at work and never thought anything would come from it. The call back came, they wanted me to start the following week. Josh came back from Israel and I knew I would have to resign. When I told him about it he said I must go.

If you could go back, would you change anything?

Can’t go back and I wouldn’t change a thing. If my mum and sister didn’t say “Just try it, Rita.” Or Josh didn’t say “Go.” It might all have been different.

You’ve done TV presenting, Opera Singing, theatre, being a chef. What is keeping you busy these days?

What do you wish you had more of ?

Time. There is never enough. They say “If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it” I am disappointed if my list isn’t complete.

We’ve been touring with Formerly Bucks Fizz’s Paradise Regained Tour. I’m playing Glinda in The Wizard of Oz - A Christmas Pantomime at the Shaw Theatre in London 12-30th December and then next year I will be doing some shows on the P&O Cruise Ship Britannia.

Details available at www.cherylbaker.net

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devine on Dorset Street opened its doors in February 2013 by local resident Elaine Forino.

This luxury boutique stocks various labels such as Hugo Boss Orange, French Connection, Great Plains, Noa Noa and Darling London, guest labels such as Little Black Dress, Me and Thee and Relish are also in stock.

The ethos of devine on Dorset Street is to create a comfortable, warm, shopping experience coupled with styling advice, creating the perfect look for any occasion.

Faux leather leggings by Hugo Boss Orange, sizes 8-14, £129

Aspen Sequin Maxi dress by French Connection £395

Footwear is from Spanish brand Alpe, London based Ravel and French Connection. Accessories such as, Park Lane Jewellery, Adele Marie Necklaces, Amelia Jane bobble hats and scarves are also available to complete your look.

Opening hours are 9.30am - 5pm Monday to Saturday.

Private appointments are available out of normal opening hours.

Follow us on Facebook; devineondorsetstreet Devine on Dorset Street Dorset Street, Sevenoaks Kent, TN13 1LL Tel: 01732 740203 www.devineondorsetstreet.co.uk

Over the knee black suede boots from Spanish Label Alpe, size 37-41, £109

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Up close & personal I’m sure it isn’t all showbiz. Is there a side to you that the public does not get to see?

Do you ever feel like there are two of you?

There are two of me. Rita, the wife and mum from West Peckham. Happy to spend time with friends at the pub catching up, or on holiday with my twin daughters on holiday. We’re celebrating their 21st’s in Cape Town. Then there is Cheryl Baker, the performer and her wardrobe of sparkly clothes.

Would you recommend working with your husband?

Not recommended (Laughs) children, animals and add husband.

What are you reading right now?

I used to be a bookworm now it is limited to reading when on holiday. My latest read was the Dawn French novel. I will be travelling on the cruise ships in January, February and March, so am open to recommendations.

City break or beach holiday?

Both – City breaks with friends and the beach holiday with the family. Although, always the pool and no sand.

Champagne or wine?

Champagne Dining out or cooking?

Dining out, but a keen cook. I support Abigail’s Footsteps, a charity for stillborns and have been up for auction to cook in family’s homes. I love that.

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“I have tried it all. Boot camps, running, personal training but none gave me the desired results until I discovered CrossFit and got hooked on it.”

CrossFit workouts incorporate elements from high intensity interval training, Olympic weightlifting, plyometrics, power lifting and gymnastics. You will be running, rowing, jumping, lifting and throwing hard and fast.

There are several reasons why this is so effective for women: We don’t use machines and that is what makes it so effective - you will either be moving your own body weight or you will be moving a weight around!

It’s like personal training but more affordable.

You can expect to recieve guidance on form and technique.

Everything is scalable, making it suitable for everyone.

You won’t be working out alone, there will be a group of soon to be friends encouraging you to go for that extra mile.

Your partner can join too - a good opportunity to workout together.

Be challenged. There’s no limit to the workouts.

It is not only physical, it’s mental too.

The top of the range CrossFit equipment and the community is growing very steadily at CrossFit ChalkBox Email agnes@crossfitchalkbox.com for a free taster session. Quote: Darling

Run, Jump, Lift, Pull, Push, Throw, Repeat

Beach bodies are made in winter

by Diana Knight

If you’re tired of shaving or waxing and want smooth skin by summer, now’s the time to get started on a permanent hair reduction plan.

However, permanent hair reduction is not a one-time procedure, which is why you need to start your regimen now.

At any one time, only 20% of our body hair follicles and only 15% of our facial hair follicles are at the active stage. Hair grows in several phases (anagen, telogen, catagen) and a laser can only affect the currently active growing hair follicles (anagen). This is why several sessions are needed to kill hair in all phases of growth.

The actual number of sessions depends on various parameters, including the area of the body being treated, skin colour,

coarseness of hair, reason for hirsutism, and gender. An average number of treatments: Face: 6-8 treatments every 4 weeks.

Body: 6-8 treatments every 6 weeks.

At the Cindy Knight Clinic we were the first in Kent to use the latest technology of SHR (or Super Hair Removal).

In short, this means that our Soprano ICE laser system can reduce hair growth for all skin types including tanned skin and is a virtually, painless procedure.

No need to suffer for beauty anymore.

“Believe it or not, now is the time to get your body ready for summer”.

With merely 6-8 treatments every four to six weeks, you will see a smooth, summer body, ready for the beach.

And don’t forget the men! A smooth back is a beach-ready back!

Cindy Knight Clinic 174 Tonbridge Rd, Hildenborough, Tonbridge, TN11 9HP | 01732 832004 | info@cindyknightclinic.com

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THE NOBLE ART OF

SELF DEFENCE Boxing is a very conditional sport, it’s an all over body workout cardiovascular, strength resistance, aerobic and anaerobic discipline with plenty of pure core strength work to condition the body even further.

At Sevenoaks boxing and fitness club, we aim to teach and educate young and old explaining why we do certain exercises and how through sensible exercise and diet everyone can feel and look superb. Everyone is welcome to join any of our sessions, there is no signing on fee and no forded monthly subscriptions. That way no one is losing any money if they don’t come and if you miss two sessions per week they start fresh the next week.

In every session we work on strength resistance and cardiovascular training. The level of fitness achieved through boxing exercise in the fitness form of exercise you can do (Fighting Fit).

Our classes are designed to get you fighting fit.

It can be very hardcore with different structured sessions all working the whole body. We are dedicated to getting you fit through boxing exercises (non contact). Your energy levels will go through the roof training in our authentic spit and sawdust gym.

We do early sessions every morning at 9:30am so when you drop the kids at school you can have a bit of ‘me’ time and train with two qualified A.B.A (Amateur Boxing Association) coaches.

Saturday mornings we do a class at 10:15am and Sunday mornings at 11am called Fat Dads Club.

Anyone is welcome mum’s, dads and children.

Tuesday evenings sessions are “hourly” from: 5:30pm/ 7:00pm / 8:00pm Thursday evenings are: 5:30pm / 7:30pm.

Andrew Knight 07872 933264 | Paul Lynch 07939 707333 7oaks.boxing.fitness@gmail.com | www.7oaks-boxing-fitness.co.uk 10 nov-dec-jan 2015/6 | darlingmagazine.co.uk

7oaks Boxing & Fitness Unit 19, Gaza Trading Estate, Weald, Sevenoaks, Kent TN11 8PL

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Christmas is a time of fun, families and food!

Prepare yourself for the indulgent season ahead

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t is not a time to worry about weight gain as we juggle everything that we need to do in order to prepare for the party season and beyond. New Year is typically a time that we look to fresh starts and addressing our health. But unless we take a few steps before the Christmas madness starts, we can often begin the New Year unprepared.

As a Personal Trainer and Nutritional Therapist (as well as a busy pregnant mum to an energetic toddler!) I understand how difficult it is to focus on your diet and fitness at this time of year. But by putting a few simple plans in place we can prevent piling on the pounds this Christmas, avoid the stress and kick start the New Year feeling healthier than ever: Pass the chocolates…quickly! Instead of filling up on crisps & chocolates, why not try a handful of nuts (no, not the dry-roasted or salted ones!) or some fruit? Nuts contain essential oils, which are antiinflammatory, good for brain health, skin and hair.

And they will help you to feel fuller for longer, which salty sugary food will not. Try not to over-eat, as they are still a fat, and keep in the fridge to prevent them turning rancid. Also include seasonal fruit & vegetables into your Christmas diet, far better for you than a cheese straw! By the time the New Year arrives, you will already be reaching for the healthy snacks instead of the less healthy options.

Time for a tipple? Or two? Almost impossible to avoid at the many parties and gatherings you will attend. If you cannot get through Christmas without a drink or too, opt for spirits, such as gin or vodka with soda or tonic instead of calorie laden creamy cocktails, beer & wine. Try to limit your drinking time to evenings or just with meals. The earlier you start, the more calories you will consume, and you are also more likely to overeat when drunk. And, as mentioned earlier, keep hydrated!

Water water everywhere… But sadly we often forget to drink enough, Aim to drink 4 - 6 glasses of water daily, this will not only keep hunger pangs at bay, it will also help the body to cope with the increased level of alcohol that many of us consume during this time.

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Reach for healthy snacks, instead of crisps.

Exercise? But it’s cold outside… It can be all too tempting to spend Christmas snuggled up in front of the fire, watching endless films and tucking into chocolate. Christmas is a time to relax, but that doesn’t mean you need to neglect your usual exercise regime, as it can lead to feeling sluggish and demotivated by the New Year. Wrap up warm and go for walks or bike rides with your friends and family. You will feel far more energised just by getting 30 - 60 minutes daily exercise into your Christmas routine and hit January 1st feeling energized.

Alexandra Ravenscroft Nutritional Therapist / Personal Trainer

www.alexandraravenscroft.co.uk

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All I want... the wish list from bod & ted

bod & ted is a family owned and run business with a boutique in Tunbridge Wells.

We specialise in providing a personal shopping experience and mixing well-established brands with up-and-coming designers, resulting in a brand mix that is unique and exciting and that caters for all ages with sizes from 8-16.

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Olivia Burton watch - ‘a statement watch is a must-have for this season. This stunning style features a 3D embossed bee on the rose gold dial with a soft black leather strap.’

2 Baum blouse - ‘we love the elegant bohemian vibe of this blouse from Danish brand Baum Und Pferdgartem which perfectly encapsulates this seasons 1970’s trend.’

3 Becksondergaard scarf - ‘gorgeous hand-printed scarf featuring a pastel geometric print, perfect for brightening up a neutal outfit this season. Crafted from 100% wool, this Becksondergaard scarf will keep you looking stylish and feeling warm this season’

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Key Trends

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By Siobhan Young, WellStyled.co.uk Be inspired and feel sexy. This is the trouser suit season of glory. Indeed, the 1970s iconic wide legged, high-waisted trouser silhouette suit looks so right again. The wider and looser trouser shape, gives the illusion of longer leaner legs, in lieu of skinny jeans.

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Time to archive your skinnies. I fear there’ll be a fashion divide.

This season wrap up warm and channel your aviator girl with a bomber style leather jacket and must-have shearling trim collars.

For a sartorial edge, balance your 70’s inspired armour, with a Block heel.

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I love layering and there is nothing more multifunctional than a sleeveless vest.

Layer it with a mannish shirt and baggy culottes and you’ve ticked all the style boxes. The sleeveless vest also has a slimming optical illusion effect as it divides the body in thirds.

If you’d like to find out more about how to wear this seasons trends and make the most of your wardrobe, colouring and body shape, contact siobhan@wellstyled.co.uk or book a place on Well-Styled Express Styling Course (21 Nov, Kent Adult Education, Tunbridge Wells). Shop the look at www.alexandra-boutique.co.uk darlingmagazine.co.uk | nov-dec-jan 2015/6

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Tips to keep your cool in business..

from Angela Spiteri.

As you’re winding down for year end or planning for 2016, follow these tips to avoid overwhelm.

Can you see your desk?

As the boss, what are your objectives and what could you do ‘less of ’ to free up your time?

Most clients are fighting the fire and working in their business, rather than on their business.

In today’s techy world let’s get rid of unnecessary meetings for the sake of having a meeting!

A quick FaceTime or Skype call can simply eliminate all of your travelling around and give you space to breathe between slots, all you need is a quiet room or space for privacy. I wouldn’t advise doing this on public transport as you never know who’s listening.

Is your inbox overwhelming?

I am the Queen of deleting, if it has no future or needs no further action then hit delete. I set up sub folders for projects, personal stuff, to do stuff etc.

Once there’s some structure to your inbox, you can start flagging and highlighting. I like to colour code certain email addresses so that I can group them together, but I have multiple calendars open at one time. I also think things like invitations should be copied into a calendar with the attachment and then deleted.

There is a lot to be said for the clear desk clear mind saying. I’m often asked to help de clutter offices and homes, which probably is my most favourite part - give me a stationary catalogue and I’m in heaven. If you can associate with working in chaos then imagine if you knew where everything was? You could pull a file out, search for an invoice and it would just appear. A lot of clients working from home have no system.

It may have been a role they fell into having once worked in an office. Systems are easy to set up it is just knowing where to start.

Do you need to delegate? Get a VA. Entrepreneurs & private individuals often require a Virtual Personal Assistant to run their business and lives. The goal for your VA is to give you back your life. Understanding your clients objectives is the most important goal for every VA and relationship building is paramount to providing a seamless service.

Angela Spiteri

07973 156676 office@angelaspiteri.co.uk www.angelaspiteri.co.uk

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WIN! A Scholarship at RAZZAMATAZ Theatre Schools Tonbridge Lights! Camera! Action, and your child!

Darling Sevenoaks | Tunbridge Wells are proud to be giving one lucky child the chance to WIN a Free 3 term-term Scholarship at Razzamataz Theatre School Tonbridge.

Razzamataz help children build confidence and life skills through song dance and drama from classic West End musicals, to street-dance, and we want to give a local 4 -18 year old the chance to win this brilliant opportunity.

To enter the darling Scholarship Draw

Simply email tonbridge@razzamataz.co.uk or call 01732 364859 with your child’s name, date of birth and phone number. Quote Promo Code DARLING 1 Hurry though as entry closes 6pm Friday 8 Jan 2016. GOOD LUCK!

T&C’s apply see darling website for details. The draw will be held at Razzamataz on Saturday 9 Jan 2016

opportunity to offer local children the chance to work with artists with such credible industry experience.

Dave Mac, principal of Razzamataz Tonbridge is delighted to bring Razzamataz’s unique blend of performing arts to local children.

“Nurturing young talent and building up a child’s confidence and selfesteem is a big part of what we do at Razzamataz,” Dave added “We teach the children a mix of commercial street dance and musical theatre so they get to experience the very best of what the performing arts has to offer.”

The classes consist of three hours of dance, drama and singing and the curriculum covers the whole of the performing arts, from classic West End musical theatre to commercial street dance and hip hop.

As well as classes run by a team of experienced teachers, Razzamataz also prides itself on being able to bring in top professionals in their field to work with their students to inspire them to be the very best that they can be.

Recently Razzamataz children up and down the country have enjoyed workshops led by Kylie Minogue’s choreographer and Zoo Nation, creators of Into the Hoods, the first hip hop musical in the West End and Razzamataz in Tonbridge is excited about the

“We are delighted to bring Razzamataz to Tonbridge. The whole team is passionate about what they do and the structure of the classes allow children to enjoy and learn about the whole spectrum of performing arts in a fun, funky and stimulating environment.

Razzamataz Tonbridge will make sure that it reflects the current trends that are accessible to children and teenagers so they never get bored.”

“My overriding aim is that children at Razzamataz Tonbridge learn by having fun and can’t wait to return to us each Saturday. It is so important to us that our students enjoy working towards the shows that they will perform for their parents and wider audience and so our watch word is FUN FUN FUN!!!”

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A special day at The Judd School The Skinners’ Company founded “Sir Andrew Judd’s Commercial School” in 1888 in East Street, Tonbridge, from funds provided by the Sir Andrew Judde Foundation. The school moved to its present site in Brook Street, Tonbridge in 1896 and changed its name to “The Judd School” in 1925, later becoming the first Voluntary-Aided Grammar School in the country. The spiritual home of all Juddians is the School Room, which is an inspiring Victorian hall used for assemblies, concerts and theatrical performances.

In recent times, as the school has grown,new buildings have been added to the site to accommodate demands for more spacious and dedicated facilities and the school is about to embark on its latest project to build a new dining room and suite of biology labs as well as new sports fields further along Brook Street.

Apart from the high-ranking academic achievements of the students, the school has long since had a tradition of sporting prowess and so was recently delighted to welcome the Argentinian international and Saracens player Juan Figallo and Academy coach Rory Teague to provide a day of rugby training for the students. This rare opportunity to learn from the professionals was arranged by Sevenoaks-based wealth manager, Sanlam Private Wealth, who sponsor the Saracens rugby club.

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A woman in a man’s world Sanlam Private Wealth’s Head of HR, Alison Barwell, talks to Darling about rugby, career development and the challenges of being a woman in a man’s world.

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hat is your role, within Sanlam, and how has it changed since you were first appointed?

I started as a HR manager with Principal Investment Management in Sevenoaks in 2004 and worked part-time. I was promoted to Head of HR in 2008 (at the same time I found out I was expecting twins!) I took seven months maternity leave and returned in September 2009 and I now work 4½ days, mainly from our office in London.

How did the Saracens Rugby Club and Judd School event in September happen and why?

I am closely involved with our partnership with Saracens – notably the Player Development Programme. The Head of our Sevenoaks office asked me to coordinate an event with a local school and I am friends with parents at the school who kindly introduced me to the Headmaster at Judd.

Saracens were delighted to help and sent a coach and 1st team player. It was a fantastic event.

Why is it so important for Sanlam Private Wealth to engage with the local community?

We take corporate responsibility very seriously and getting involved with local communities is just one of the ways we give something back. Working with local schools and charities is obviously good for our brand, but more importantly it’s good for our people – lots of our staff enjoy and appreciate Sanlam’s local, community involvement. Our Saracens partnership has been a particular success and is a great example of how one of our key national initiatives can be brought to bear locally.

How are women encouraged to succeed within Sanlam?

In 2014 I set up a Women’s Network for our UK colleagues. Women from across the business have joined the Forum and we meet every quarter to discuss a wide range of issues from flexible working to personal ‘brand’ and behavioural finance. We invite high profile women speakers and encourage our colleagues to support and promote all the opportunities available to women. I also offer one-to-one mentoring and career development to all staff.

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16 South Park | Sevenoaks | Kent | TN13 1AN

www.privatewealth.sanlam.co.uk 01732 740700

What opportunities are there for staff to visit South Africa?

There is an opportunity each year for two UK members of staff to attend the South African Annual Conference. Two places are awarded to the individuals who achieve the highest scores for ‘Living the Values’ and have made significant contributions to the ongoing success of the firm. We also run an annual six week Global Exchange Programme. Two UK colleagues are selected to travel to South Africa and two South African colleagues come to the UK.

How do you balance your work and home life?

I have to be very organised and manage my time very efficiently! Technology helps – I have an iPad and do lots of work while travelling to and from work. We have a great nanny and my husband helps with early mornings and evenings when I can’t be at home. It is a challenge and a real juggling act – sometimes things fall down but generally if you are prepared to compromise, make sacrifices and work in the evenings you can make it work! A priority for me is to read bedtime stories to my twins, cook an evening meal and support my daughter at university. I also make sure I attend the childrens’ school and sports events – even if that means working until midnight to catch up!

What do your children want to be when they grow up?

Our daughter is studying neuroscience at university and may do postgraduate medicine after that.

My husband’s family are medical so it’s in her genes. The boys are six so too young to care – but if you were to ask them now one would say “a pilot or rock star” the other would say “army or a rugby/ football/cricket player”! They are quite different and I can’t wait to see how they grow up.

At the end of your career what would you like to be remembered for?

I’d like to be remembered for always trying my best. For combining a demanding City career with bringing up three children and remaining professional while having fun along the way! And also for grasping every opportunity available to women in the 21st Century. One of my ancestors was one of the only female headmistresses in the 1920s – just after women won the right to vote. And my grandmother travelled the world with the Queen Alexandra Nursing Corps and drove a crane during World War I. She was a single parent with very few privileges. There must be something in my genes that is driving me on!

How do you feel you have personally changed Sanlam in the UK? The last three years have seen a lot of change in the UK wealth management market and this has challenged the business. I have encouraged greater communication and challenged managers to see people as our best asset and competitive advantage. I have introduced lots of new initiatives to promote more focus on training and development, and working more effectively in teams. I set up a HR Forum three years ago and we meet each month to address any staff issues and concerns. I also urge colleagues to take time to engage with their staff – every day. We have recruited some excellent people into the UK businesses and I am very proud of the calibre and professionalism of our team.

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Socials & Soirées

Simon Lee, Rory Teague, Alison Barwell

Simon Lee, Juan Figallo

Sanlam Private Wealth sponsor Saracens rugby day with The Judd School

Athena Kent ladies Cocktails Evening at El Matador Sevenoaks

Juan Figallo, James Mercier

James Mercier, Arianna Powell, Simon Lee, Tam Jackson, Alison Drury, Kenneth Fry

Bridge Trust Dragon Boat Race Team

Karine Torr & Tam Jackson

Names (left to right) are: Hanna Cossell, Jo Evans, Gillian Roberts, Alison Kirkbright, Tanya Wright, Ellen Young, Abi Dawson, Joy Watt

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Gymboree Sevenoaks celebrate their Teddy Bear’s Picnic

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The Sevenoaks Business Awards 2015 The Sevenoaks Business Awards 2015 was hosted at Knole Academy on Friday 11 September. Secretary of State for Defence, The Rt. Hon Michael Fallon and the Mayor of Sevenoaks were among the 120 guests who attended the awards ceremony, which celebrated the achievements of a variety of local businesses and individuals.

Pink Party

Sevenoaks turned pink with the opening of Pink Week celebrated at The Vine in Sevenoaks. Great support from businesses and the Sevenoaks Town Partnership ensured a successful start to the week in aid of raising funds for Breast Cancer Care Charity. Organiser and fundraiser Steph Harrison lead the way in coordinating the day.

Vital support services, such as the charity’s Helpline, online forum, information points in hospitals and face to face services for anyone facing Breast Cancer, as well as their friends and families benefit from the funds raised. The Pink Week raised over £13,000. Well Done!

socials & soirĂŠes

The Old Fire Station - Tonbridge

The open day was a proud moment for Tonbridge - an old building restored back to it’s former glory, complete with red doors opening for the first time in 35 years. The space will see various pop ups from Fuggles Beer Cafe, Sankeys and Hattons to name a few. Not to mention our Darling Sevenoaks | Tunbridge Wells launch party - look out for images in the next issue.

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Community

A bridge from homelessness to independence

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Commutingtrain is simple the visitor, from Tonbridge’s Castle Each ofCastle those towns offer Medieval something unique and neighbouring 69 acre park, Sevenoaks Tunbridge are blessed simple from here with a greatWells service. from here with a great train service. and neighbouring 69 acre park, Sevenoaks’ Sevenoaks' timbered and gabled High Street to the visitor, from Tonbridge’s Medieval with some excellent choices. Commuting is timbered and gabled High Street to the Pantiles to the Pantiles in Tunbridge Wells, history It’s about special moments though, things Castle and neighbouring 69 acre park, It’s about special moments though, things to do simple from here with a great train service. in Tunbridge Wells,are history andincharm are and charm exuded captivating to do in the spare time, country walks, in the spare time, country walks, village pubs, Sevenoaks' timbered and gabled High Street exudedquantities. in captivating quantities. village pubs, sports, fine dining and historic sports, fine dining andmoments historic homes to visit. to the Pantiles in Tunbridge Wells, history It’s about special though, things homes tocommunities visit. Welcoming communities Welcoming build a sense of place and are exuded in captivating Forcharm many visitors it is not just the towns that to do in the spare time, country walks, For many visitors it is not just the towns that and build a sense of place and show I lovefor the passion I love the passion people where excitedexcite but the glorious countryside around. around. quantities. village pubs, sports, fine dining and but the glorious countryside people show for where they live, live, newcomers and lineage families historic Shaped by agriculture, the woollen trade andtrade and they Shaped by agriculture, the woollen homes totheir visit.

Welcoming communities newcomers and lineage champion champion towns with afamilies passion that is hopmany growing, the landscape of just rolling and hills hop visitors growing, landscape ofhills rolling For itthe is not the towns that their a towns with a passion is endearing build sense of place andthat I love the passion endearing and makes life here very precious. deep woodlands, evokes memories andmemories dreams and and the deepglorious woodlands. evokes excite but countryside around. and makes life here very they precious. people show for where live, of a simpler lifeoflong behind life us. As a child I used a simpler long behind us.and As a Shapeddreams by agriculture, the woollen trade newcomers and lineage families champion to marvel at Ithe tallto hope polesatforming lattice child used marvel the tallahop poles hop growing, the landscape of rolling hills work across acre unpon acre of fields.

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Cresting and the hill top atdown Goudhurst Matthew Ryde dreams of a simpler life behind us. As aof into the first swathes of hoplong bines,the was a striking and dropping down into first swathes www.grahamjohn.com moment and so marvel different from thetall flathop landscape child I hop used to at the poles bines, was a striking moment and so @aPropertyMattR where different I spent myfrom early years the coast. forming a lattice work across acre upon acre the flatonlandscape where I spent my early of fields.

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Lets welcome our guest this Christmas with beautifully scented hand made arrangements, full of joyous seasonal flowers, foliage and dry fruits.

Our Wreath workshops are £45 minus 10% discount for LLL card holders. You will be greeted with festive nibbles and a warm glass of mulled wine, this workshop includes all materials, therefore you will each take your stunning arrangement home with you at the end of the class.

This workshops makes a great christmas gift, if you wish to share a wonderful evening with friends - we offer fixed dates but if you would prefer a private group workshop at a time more suitable for yourself, these are available also (minimum of 4 guest at the shop or your home, however if you would like to book for a bigger group a larger venue can be arranged.)

Dates below are for workshops held at our shop or St John’s Church Hall.

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Community

With Pink Week nearly wrapped up for

another year, it is time for me to move on to my next challenge as a volunteer with Breast Cancer Care.

As a volunteer fundraiser I usually devise and organise my own events but my role for this next event will be a slightly different one. I guess it is more of a PR role, and I have to say I am really looking forward to it. Earlier this year I was contacted by Eliza Ecclestone from the beautiful St Clere Estate in Heverham, just a stones throw from Sevenoaks, about an exciting new project happening there in March 2016 called Task Force Live.

This is an authentically military designed obstacle race that will test brains as well as brawn. Having worked with Eliza before on other events I was excited about returning to St Clere and working with Eliza and the Task Force Live team, as I know this will be another great experience in my fundraising career. I am proud that I have been able to bring Breast Cancer Care to this exciting new event and cannot wait to see this new partnership flourish.

The other role I will be concentrating on is that of Inspirational Speaker. Spreading the word about the work we do at Breast Cancer Care is something I feel passionately about. This allows me to go into businesses, clubs and organisations to talk to the people there about our organisation, and the services we offer to anyone affected by breast cancer.

Our charity was started just over 40 years ago by a wonderful woman called Betty Westgate, who after her own diagnosis realised the urgent need for support, care and information, which is something that is sadly needed even more today, so it’s an honour to carry on her work.

Stephanie Harrison Breast Cancer Care Fundraiser

For support or information on Breast Cancer Care, Task Force Live or to arrange a speaker go to: Breast Cancer Care Support Line: 0808 800 600 www.taskforcelive.com Rebecca.Woollgar@breastcancercare.org.uk

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THE WOMAN

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Editor Tam Jackson, finds out about the hearty pub, the people, the food and more.

Set in the heart of the village of Leigh, is the Fleur De Lis pub. Joanne and John, together with their two sons James and Jack and Cocker Spaniel, Teasel are no strangers to village life but have brought a new sense of community to Leigh village, set within the Sevenoaks District. It is warm-welcoming and friendly.

Club (www.walkingclub.org.uk) after enjoying the surroundings, like Chiddingstone Castle, Hever Castle and Penshurst Place. Although, not a sports bar, it was the hub of the World Cup Rugby and regularly screens main sporting events. Curry Night happens every 2nd Monday of the Month and regular Quiz Nights on Tuesdays. These are extremely popular, often Joanne and John have to rearrange furniture and add additional seating to accommodate more of their guests – I would suggest calling to book a table on these nights. There doesn’t seem to be any limit to their offering here, from opening early for a Christening celebration on a Sunday, to a Hog Roast or birthday party (complete with bunting and balloons).

The revamp to the pub has given it an air of yourhome-away-from-home. The décor brings a sense of Annie Sloan –esque, modern country charm – a far side better than the red carpets and darkness before.

Joanne is driven and committed and together her and John have really made an impact here, in only a few short months. Along with the joint efforts of customer facing and serving, Joanne manages the bookkeeping, ordering and cash control too. Her days are busy but varied and no two are the same.

The aim is for this to be THE meeting place of Leigh, everyone from the single mum, couples, the families, the grandparents, the sportsmen and women and the retirees meet. It’s a place for the local school mums, to meet in the morning to chat over coffee, croissants and bacon sandwiches. Opening early for them every fortnight. It’s supported by local sports teams, who quench their thirsts after a game or celebrate their comraderie over a meal.

It’s a meeting place for the WI and local society groups – who Joanne often hosts charity events with.

It’s a recommended lunchtime stop by the Walking

And did I mention the food… whether you’re too tired to cook or rallying the family round for a Sunday roast dinner, the kitchen produces good home cooked food. The specials board always has something to entice your taste buds – the latest favourite, the cheese board – baked Camembert and warm bread – delicious! There is something for everyone – AND it’s very child friendly (furry children included, there are dog treats behind the bar) With a warm welcome, exemplary and attentive service, it’s a must. The champagne is chilling and the 4Jays (that’s Joanne, John, James. Jack) brew is on tap waiting.

It is no doubt that they will be busy over the season. Pop over to the website http://www.fleurdelis-leigh.co.uk for latest updates on events or call to book your table or celebration with Joanne 01732 832283 High Street, Leigh, Tonbridge, Kent, TN11 8RL Be social : Twitter @FleurDeLis_Kent or on Facebook @FleurdelisKent

WELCOME TO THE BONBON BAKERY SEVENOAKS The BonBon Bakery is a leading, bespoke cake company based in Sevenoaks, Kent.

Founded in 2013, The BonBon Bakery is headed by Creative Director, Bonnie McDougal. Bonnie's talent for making exquisite tasting cakes, designing and applying detailed sugar craft to her clients requirements and her ability to make the most perfect cupcakes, have given her an outstanding local reputation where many clients return again and again.

Cocktail Hour Sloe Fizz

Clove, lemon juice, honey and sloe shake together then topped up with lallier rose champagne.

Garnished with a clove studded strawberry.

Spice old fashioned

Chairmans reserve spiced rum stirred with plum bitters and strained over an ice sphere.

Garnished with a cinnamon stick and a dehydrated orange wheel.

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What’s on...

out and about in Sevenoaks, Tonbridge and Tunbridge Wells The Old Fire Station - Tonbridge www.facebook.com/Old-Fire-Station531356273682618/events/ NOV 12-14 Pop Up Fuggles Beer Cafe at 16:00 NOV 25 Tea Tasting Master Class with Master Tea Blender Alex Probyn at 19:00 NOV 27 Daniel Hatton Popup Restaurant at 19:30 NOV 28 Daniel Hatton Popup Restaurant Lunch at 12:00 DEC 4 & 5 Sankeys Popup at 12:00 DEC 11 & 12 Sankeys Popup at 12:00 Christmas at Hever Castle Golf Club 2 and 3 Course Festive lunches available throughout December. Special Family Festive Lunch with a visit & gift from Santa – Sunday 13th December.

Let us look after you on Boxing Day – 2 Course Carvery lunch, adults £21.50/ children £10.50.

Celebrate with friends, family or colleagues at one of our fabulous Party Nights. Contact Kate on: 01732 701017 / functions@hever.co.uk or visit: www.hever.co.uk The annual World Sloe Gin Championships are being held at the George Inn, Frant near Tunbridge Wells, on Wednesday 16th December.

All welcome. Proceeds to the MS Society. Details at www.moondown.co.uk

Tunbridge Wells Museum & Art Gallery The Salomons of Tunbridge Wells Exhibition will run from 2 October - 3 January www.tunbridgewellsmuseum.org Friday Fun - Christmas Crackers Friday 11 December Time: 10.30am - 11.30am Cost: free Friday Fun are our free drop in art, craft and story telling sessions for 2-5 year olds (with an accompanying adult). They’re a great opportunity to get your little ones interested in art & culture from a young age and make them museum goes for life. No need to book. Just come down!

Chiddingstone Castle Christmas Fair Sat 28 Nov 10-4 www.chiddingstonecastle.org.uk Penshurst Place Christmas Gift Shop 2nd Nov - 24th Dec from 10.30am - 4.30pm Father Christmas in Narnia 28th Nov - 23rd Dec from 9.30am - 5.00pm Christmas Wreath Workshop 2nd Dec from 10.00am - 12.30pm For details go to www.penshurstplace.com out and about in Sevenoaks, Tonbridge and Tunbridge Wells Christmas Fair on the Vine Gardens, Sevenoaks 11th – 13th December Ice Skating In The Park!

For the fifth successive year, the open air ice rink is returning to Royal Tunbridge Wells. It will be open seven days a week from Friday 20 Nov ‘15 – Sunday 3 Jan ‘16 (closed Christmas Day) See more at: www.tunbridgewellsatchristmas.com

Important numbers Sevenoaks District Council 01732 227000.

Electricity Contact your local supplier.

Tonbridge & Malling Borough Council 01732 844522

Highways Call Kent County Council 0300 0418 181 or view the highways winter services page on the KCC website.

Tunbridge Wells Borough Council 01892 526121 Police, fire or ambulance In an emergency always call 999 www.kent.police.uk View details of local hospitals at www.kentcht.nhs.uk Gas leaks Call the National Grid on 0800 111 999.

Water South East Water 03330 000 365 (Sevenoaks, West Kingsdown and surrounding areas) Sutton and East Surrey Water 01737 772000 (Edenbridge and surrounding areas) Thames Water 08459 200 800 (Swanley and surrounding areas and Westerham and surrounding areas)

Social services emergencies Call Kent County Council on 08458 247 247.

View Kent County Council’s Social care and health web page.

Flooding Environment Agency 0845 9881188.

Animals RSPCA (cruelty hotline) 0870 5555 999

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Single at Christmas A

t Christmas little children sing and merry bells jingle, The cold winter air makes our hands and faces tingle And happy families go to church and cheerily they mingle And the whole business is unbelievably dreadful, if you’re single.

- Wendy Cope Now first and foremost, I want to come out and say that I love Christmas.

I love everything about it: decorating my house, seeing other people’s decorations, seeing kids dressed in their Christmas costumes, seeing adults dressed up for parties, all the good TV, not feeling guilty about eating too much chocolate or party food. I even enjoy the stress of Christmas shopping – deciding what to buy people, worrying about how much I’ve spent, wrapping parcels, writing cards – you name it.

However, I am single. And I mean totally single. I’m not married, don’t have a partner, my parents both died some years ago, and I have no brothers and sisters or any family whatsoever.

festivities, and I have a lovely time. The difficulty is, how do I tell them that I’d rather stay at home?

When I was young, Christmas was spent indoors watching the telly and, quite frankly, I don’t think you can beat that. Instead, my Christmas Day now involves my getting up before 6am (which seems a little extreme given that I don’t have kids) and having to wash and dress myself, so that I can drive 75 miles in order to have breakfast with one set of friends and their young children, and then drive a further 52 miles to have lunch and spend the rest of the day with more friends and their family.

Therefore, I definitely fall into the category whereby I am “a problem to my friends” as there is an unwritten rule that I simply cannot spend Christmas alone.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends dearly and they are hugely kind and generous to me and welcome me (and my dog) into their homes for all their 42 nov-dec-jan 2015/6 | darlingmagazine.co.uk

I never understand why it is so important that I am not at home on Christmas Day.

I was home alone last Sunday and I coped just fine and, to be honest, the television wasn’t nearly as good that day. I would much rather get up late, possibly stay in my pyjamas, eat and drink whatever I want, whenever I want and, most of all, watch the television. Christmas is the one day when there is some pretty decent stuff on and I never get to see it.

I long for the opportunity to watch the extra-long edition of EastEnders and the Strictly Come Dancing, Doctor Who and Downton Abbey specials, but, sadly, this is not allowed and, therefore, I have to go out and be sociable.

So, to everyone who is spending Christmas at home this year – I hope that you have a wonderful time and spare a thought for single people like me, who have lovely friends that they should be more grateful for. your (problem) friend, Carrie x

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