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How to avoid registry regrets. Page 2. Selecting your reception menu. Page 3. Ceiling decor has become a popular trend. Page 8. Your wedding motif will send a message. Page 14.
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5 wedding registry regrets you shouldn’t have By KRISTEN CASTILLO Creators.com Let’s take a quiz: Registering for gifts is A) exciting, B) exhausting, C) overwhelming, D) a dream come true or E) all of the above? Chances are you answered E. Registering for gifts involves a bundle of emotions. “From what to register for to how to notify wedding guests, registries can cause a lot of angst,” says Sara Margulis, founder and CEO of wedding registry site Honeyfund. com, who says etiquette is the No. 1 concern for couples. Still, the registry process can be very rewarding, especially if you’re detailed in preselecting items and experiences that are a fit for you and your spouse. “Couples should focus on what they use regularly or what they frequently wish they had,” says Laura Holliday, CMO of Zola, a modern registry platform that combines gifts, experiences and cash. “The same rule that applies to clothes applies here: If you don’t use it for over a year, you should get rid of it. Or in this case, don’t get it in the first place!” While it’s easy to sign up for lots of stuff, you need to make sure you really want and will use the gifts you receive. Some items are fun but you’ll never use them; others are practical but not your style. “Your registry is a place to ask for the gifts you’d never buy yourself, as well as to upgrade what you already have and use,” says Lizzy Ellingson, founder of Blueprint Registry, which creates a customized wish list based on the couple’s home. No matter what you ask for, make sure your registry choices are spot-on. Gift-giving experts share their advice on how to avoid registry regrets. ■■ Registering for things you think you’ll need in the future (but end up never using). When Einat Naveh, founder and CEO of Bridal Boost, got married seven years ago, she registered for a variety of things even through she didn’t have enough
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Blueprint Registry allows couples to create their dream homes as they register for gifts by room. space to store them. “We were in a tiny one-bedroom apartment in the West Village when we got married, so I registered for a wine fridge, among other items,” she says. “That wine fridge is still in my parents’ attic,”
she adds. Naveh suggests registering for high-quality pots, pans, knives and small kitchen appliances, which can be used every day. ■■ Not registering for big pieces. While you don’t want to regis-
ter for big-ticket items you won’t use or won’t be able to store, you should consider your party and holiday entertaining needs. “When it’s just you and your fiance at home, it’s easy to forget that one day you might be host-
ing 15 people for Thanksgiving,” says event planner Alexandria Proko of Alexandria Catherine Events. “Go ahead and add some items that would be useful in these situations, such as large serving pieces or sets of matching china -- you’ll have them for a long time and won’t need to splurge on them later!” ■■ Not requesting nontraditional items you’ll really use. Many couples shy away asking for nontraditional things such as outdoor equipment or money toward a new mattress. It’s OK to register for unusual gifts. “Your guests would rather give you something you will use, not just what tradition says should be on your registry,” says Ellingson. ■■ Feeling obligated to register for certain things. Did you register for a gravy boat because you feel like every couple needs one? Did you ask for a blender even though you already have one? Don’t register for what your mom wants you to have. “When couples have regrets about the gifts they receive, it’s usually because they registered for what they think they should register for, and not what they really want,” says Holliday, who admits she has a box of platters in her basement — wedding gifts from five years ago that were never used. “If I could do it over again, I would do it very differently.” ■■ Feeling awkward about wanting money. Whether you don’t need household items or you’re simply saving for your future, sometimes cash gifts are what you want most. “If you prefer cash, create a Honeyfund wish list of items you will spend it on,” says Margulis. “It makes guests feel more connected to you and excited to contribute toward something you will use or do together.” No matter what gifts you get, “Receive every gift with grace and gratitude, even if you don’t need or want it,” says Margulis. “The act of giving and receiving is a special interaction between people, and should be treated with care.”
Use proper wedding correspondence for digital age BY CHANDRA ORR Creators.com From email invites to blogging about the big day, more and more brides are turning to the Internet to spread the word about their weddings, but even in the digital age, proper etiquette still applies. Follow these simple do’s and don’ts to merge your wedding with the Web and you’ll come off looking classy: ■■ Do create a private wedding website. Facebook and Twitter are fine for posting news in the moment, but spring for a dedicated website to share official details of the big day. “A dedicated wedding website allows the couple to control who
sees the information and when. Other electronic mediums do not have the same privacy settings,” explains etiquette expert Darlene Dennis, author of “Host or Hostage?” Easily accessible sites can pose safety issues — strangers can find out when you will be away from home — and give a false sense of involvement to those who won’t be invited to the wedding. A private website ensures that only those who need the information get the information. ■■ Don’t use the web for wedding invitations. For save-the-date announcements, bridal shower invites and photo sharing, the Web works wonders, but when it comes to the official wedding invitations, snail mail is still a must.
“Wedding websites are a fabulous way to share the details of the engagement, travel information for out-of-town guests and registry information — but be sure the medium matches the message. A quick reminder is fine by email, but a formal invitation is best sent by mail,” says Jodi R.R. Smith, president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. After all, the invites reveal a lot about the ceremony to come. “The wedding invitation sets the tone of the wedding. Even though everything is moving to online avenues, a mailed invitation is still the proper way to invite guests,” says Curtrise Garner, author of “The New Rules of Etiquette.” ■■ Do think twice before you
post. By openly sharing the details of the wedding planning process, you open yourself up to unsolicited comments, critiques and suggestions. “There are plenty of people
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Wedding venues, menus are ever changing By MICHAEL MAZUR Special Sections Writer JASPER — From the perspective of a local catering company, barns are the latest and hottest venue for weddings, not only for the receptions but also the ceremony. These weddings are usually in September and October when the autumn colors can be displayed in prominence from fall flowers like chrysanthemums to colors of dresses and cumberbunds. Bales of straw are placed as seating. The barns are newer pole barns or old barns with rays of sunshine shining through the cracks between the boards. “That rustic look is hot right now,” said Nancy Wilson, catering coordinator for Schnitzelbank Catering in Jasper, adding that “it must not only be in Dubois County or the region but nationwide due to the widespread interest on Pinterest.” More and more wedding couples seem to be getting married at the same location their reception is being held and not having the traditional church wedding, Wilson says. The Schnitzelbank caters between 100 and 125 wedding per year. She figures staging the complete wedding at one site
may be more cost effective, with couples having one less rental fee. It is also convenient for the guests who do not have to drive to another location or have long time spans between a church wedding held in early afternoon and the reception, which usually begins at 5 or 6 p.m. Other non-traditional sites include under large tents and in the middle of large fields. With the company’s catering trucks equipped with kitchens and generators to produce their own electricity, they can pretty much go anywhere. “We catered one in a big field,” Wilson said. Because of the mobility, the Schnitzelbank books weddings within a two-hour driving radius from Jasper. This includes larger cities like Louisville and Evansville. The catering company’s sister company, KlaubHaus 61, has seen a 10 percent uptick in in-house weddings. Not only are venues changing, but the type and the way food is served at the receptions are changing. While fried chicken and mashed potatoes are still menu staples at many wedding other wedding reception menus get away from tradition, go trendy
and serve what the bridal couple and their circle of friends like to eat or considers their favorite meal of the day. You have heard of brunch, but have you heard what could be called brinner — serving sausage, bacon, fried potatoes, eggs and biscuits and gravy at 6 p.m. The Schnitzelbank catered one. Single-themed menus are becoming popular, like pasta bars with fettuccine, spaghetti and ziti with choices of sauces like Alfredo and marinara; baked potato bars with a plethora of toppings from sour cream to bacon and cheese; Bloody Mary bars where the guests mix their own drinks; and sundae bars, where guests build their own sweet concoction. Although the Schnitzelbank did not get the catering contract, Wilson said a potential client called and wanted to know if they could provide for a baseballthemed wedding, serving popcorn, hot dogs and Crackerjacks. For vegans and vegetarians, the Schnitzelbank can serve stuffed potatoes with or without cheese and stuffed portobello mushrooms. Many gluten-free foods are available. Barbecue and smoked meats such as brisket, pork and ribs
Digital age (Concluded from Page One) “Cousins or college buddies who may not have made the guest list, the ceremony venue, the celebration menu, the honeymoon location -- as soon as the information is posted, it is open to critique.” ■■ Don’t over-share. Feel free to share the highlights of the wedding planning process, but save the details for phone calls and face-to-face conversations. “Weddings are exciting and fun, but nobody is more excited than the bride. Share small tidbits and funny stories briefly and sporadically,” Garner says. Spread the news on finding your dress or a funny story about your fianc√©’s booking the honeymoon. Skip the long rant detailing your struggle to choose between cream or white linens for the reception. ■■ Do consider the impact. Be respectful of your guests -- and yourself -- when sharing anecdotes and photos online. “Don’t be silly or reveal anything of a personal nature that will be an embarrassment to
you or your family, either now or at a later date,” Dennis says. “Of course, the wedding party and every member of both families need to be included, but toss out pictures of anyone in the act of doing anything socially inappropriate.” Friends and family will appreciate a few short video clips and a tasteful selection of wedding pictures — but don’t go overboard. “Very few people want to see all 675 pictures. Instead, choose 30 representative ones,” Smith says. Don’t click too soon. Whether sending email invites or posting travel information to a website, edit everything before you hit the send button — and ask a friend to proofread all communications before you commit. Nothing’s worse than giving guests the wrong date for the event or misspelling your future mother-in-law’s name, so pay close attention to names, dates, addresses and driving directions. Also, be sure your mass email list includes only those invited to the wedding. ■■ Do send personal thank-
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you’s. Avoid using email to show appreciation for all those gifts. Thank-you notes deserve the personal touch ‚ the kind that comes from handwritten snail mail. “Some things need to maintain a traditional paper trail,” Dennis says. “Handwritten thank-you notes tell how well-mannered and educated you are. Use black or blue ink and your nicest cursive writing. Remember the names of those who sent gifts, exactly which gifts they sent and how you plan to enjoy them — and mention a bit about how pleased you are with the givers’ presence on your big day.”
are often-asked-for menu items, which would be themed well with the rustic barn weddings. Although they do not smoke the meat on-site, they have a large capacity smoker back at the catering headquarters to prepare the meat beforehand. If a bridal couple wants to serve a smoked hog, the Schnitzelbank hires a specialist who uses the company’s smoker. Aside from the buffet and plateand-serve methods, a first for Schnitzelbank Catering will take place at a wedding booked for July at the Azalea Path in Pike County. Food will be passed on platters among the guests. There will be no buffet or table set up; the food will be brought to the guests as they mingle or sit. Food on the menu includes barbecue sliders and meatballs. This difference means the event will be more labor intensive than other receptions. “We like to think out of the box.” Wilson said, adding that the Schnitzelbank will consider food not on the catering menu. “If a client wants to use their own or other recipes, our kitchen will prepare these beforehand to see how they turn out, tweaking them if needed.” Actually, the dijon chicken breast that is a popular menu item was a recipe supplied by one of their former clients. Although the catering company does not bake wedding cakes, they have catered weddings
where the traditional multi-tiered wedding cake had been replaced with multi-flavored cupcakes. Sometimes the bridal couple will have a small traditional cake and cupcakes for the guests. Wilson added that at one wedding where the company catered all the aunts brought a dessert. Wilson recommends booking a caterer about one year in advance of the wedding date, whether it is with the Schnitzelbank or another caterer. June and October have been their busiest months. Costs and policies vary among caterers, but at Schnitzelbank Catering a $500 deposit is required at the time of booking, two months from the wedding date a final menu is required and two weeks out, the final guest count and final payment is required. Their average booked wedding, according to Wilson, costs about $10 per guest for Dubois County and around $12 per guest outside the county, mostly due to travel time. An average wedding outside of Dubois County, including metro Louisville, is 150 to 200 guests and in Dubois County it is 250 to 300 guests, So not all weddings are traditional. More younger bridal couples are hosting weddings that reflect their combined personalities. Unless you have dreamed of a traditional wedding, nothing is set in stone. A bridal couple can plan for a traditional, trendy or entirely unique wedding.
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Clever ways to economize dream wedding By JULIA PRICE Creators.com Weddings can be quite expensive, even if you’re already consciously cutting expenditures wherever you can. However, take matters into your own hands and cut costs even further with do-ityourself projects. DIY invitations, decorations, gifts for guests and other little items will not only save you money but also will make your guests feel extra special with the unique touches that can only come with DIY operations. If you haven’t already, you’ll first want to pick a location and theme so you can navigate around that. Even the location itself can be a do-it-yourself experience. For example, if you want to get married in the desert, you can contact the parks and recreation department of your dream location to see if you are able to tie the knot for free. Once you have your location
and theme in mind, you can check out BRIT+CO, a DIY blogger, who has tips and suggestions about everything from snacks to the dress. You’ll also discover many DIY tips for creating the wedding of your dreams on Pinterest as well. You can start a Pinterest board to help keep everything organized with easy links for sharing with friends and family. Visit the Pinterest website or download the mobile app to start a board today. Separate your boards into different categories to help you find things easily: invitations, decor, guest book, thank-you gifts, veil designs, table pieces (tablecloths, silverware, centerpieces, chairs etc.), food, drinks, cake and gift display. You can have a lot of fun personalizing gifts for guests. One idea is to spray-paint a large quantity of plastic wine glasses with your favorite color. You can also buy small cloth bags at the dollar store and fill them with tiny good-
ies. One bride filled her bags with mini hangover kits including aspirin and eyedrops. You can create a clever guest book for cheap that also prompts your guests to share creative answers. One couple used a threehole punch and wove hemp yarn through the holes of the paper, tying each with a knot, to fasten the book. They asked guests to share their best relationship advice in the pages. For the cover, they simply printed out a couple’s photo and used a glue stick to paste it, surrounding the photo with glitter pen squiggles to make it look bright and fun. To minimize invitation costs, send evites instead of paper in-
vites. This will also make it easier to keep track of RSVPs and allow guests to add the date and information to their phone calendar, which will help them stay organized. When it comes to the cake, there are countless food blogs that post recipes for you to make your own cake. There are simple recipes as well as ones to create multitier masterpieces, all of which you can practice at home Hey, who doesn’t love an excuse to eat cake?! Paper lanterns are a fun and inexpensive way to create ambiance and add a romantic glow, especially to an outdoor wedding. For an indoor wedding,
you can frame chalkboards and write different messages: The tale of your love story, a guide to dinner table numbers or any other directions for guests. You can also print and hang silly, playful photos of you and your honey in the middle of the table as the centerpiece. Here’s hoping these suggestions will get your creative juices flowing and kick your planning into high gear. Doing your research will help you see the DIY magic that others have made and inspire you to create the wedding of your dreams. Plus, it’s fun! Make it a collaborative effort by involving friends and family in the creative process.
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Planning for pitfalls: 5 mistakes to avoid By KRISTEN CASTILLO Creators.com
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Though do-it-yourself weddings are incredibly popular, set realistic expectations for your walk down the aisle. will only mean extra expenses and additional stress. “Cut the guest list,” says Tien. “Aunt Sally’s cousin does not need to be invited. Don’t feel bad about the people you were not able to include. Instead focus on those who were invited, those closest to you.” ■■ Mistake 5: obsessing over your wedding. Yes the wedding day is exciting, but the real celebration is your marriage. “Focus on what your ‘happily forever after’ looks like, keeping your relationship in a comfortable place and let the professionals worry about your wedding,” says Kristi, who explains stressing about the wedding can be negative
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You only get one shot to plan and execute your wedding so don’t want to make any mistakes that could waste your time, money or energy. Nothing should jeopardize the success of your big day. “If you are planning your wedding, you can try to stay clear of avoidable mistakes by just enjoying the process and being grateful,” says wedding expert Racquel Kristi of PopBliss pop-up wedding celebrations. “Not everyone gets to celebrate love and get married but you can, so think of it as a gift! “Remember it’s not just about that special moment down the aisle ... you and your fiance are what is special about that moment, so take care of yourselves.” Krystel Tien, owner of Couture Events and Elle Bridal Boutique, advises couples not to sweat the small stuff. “At the end of the day, if you are married, you have had a successful wedding day,” Tien says. “Once you start letting the little details bother you, you are not focusing on what really matters, and that is that you are marrying the love of your life. So what wedding mistakes should you avoid? Read on as wedding coordinators breakdown the things you shouldn’t do as you’re planning for your big day. ■■ Mistake 1: not having a wedding planner. Many brides want to handle wedding planning on their own, but wedding professionals say that’s a bad idea. “Brides do not save money by not hiring a wedding planner,” says Kristi, “They waste money if they do not. A professional and well-respected planner will have experience, relationships, creativity and the time to solve wedding traumas — being over budget, poor time management, regretful vendor selections, unruly guests and logistical fiascos.” Don’t wait to hire a planner either. Kristi says it’s one of the first things couples should do after getting engaged. That way you’ll be focused from the start, which can help ensure your wedding choices are good decisions. ■■ Mistake 2: DIYing. From handcrafted invitations to personalized favors, these days many brides want to be hands-on designing their wedding. Still, wed-
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To have and to hold: Popular wedding favors BY SHARON NAYLOR Creators.com After a few years of skipping wedding favors as a budget-saving decision -- with the marrying couple donating to their favorite charity in lieu of giving guests favors in many cases -- fabulous favors have now made their way back onto must-have lists. With guests traveling, sometimes great distances, to attend the wedding, couples want to thank them for their time and efforts on their big day. And with the growth of creative and edible favors, so admired on wedding blogs and on Pinterest and Instagram, wedding couples enjoy having the chance to select or make favors that impress. According to Shane McMurray, publisher of the wedding survey magazine The Wedding Report, the average amount spent on wedding favors is $173-$289, with high-end favors reaching an average of $347-$462. Here are the most popular wedding favor items from The Wedding Report: ■■ Mini-pots of honey. “Honey wedding favors are popular now because they have multiple levels of appeal,” says Mary Kosenski, owner of E+M Wedding Favors and E+M Gold Beekeepers, makers of raw honey products. “The first is that honey is used and enjoyed in so many different ways, such as added to tea, spread on toast or scones, drizzled on appetizers, and eaten as-is. Many wedding couples are also very interested in what beekeepers are doing to protect the world’s honeybee populations that are so essential to our environment. And there’s
a ‘support your local farmers’ element that adds a ‘doing good in your community’ benefit to choosing wedding favors. Couples know how blessed they are, and they want to give back by choosing local small businesses’ products.” Mary also points out that honey fits many themes associated with love and marriage, such as the honeymoon or pet names. ■■ Jams and jellies. Whether purchased or homemade, jars of jams or jellies are a welcome treat. Allow guests to pick their own favorite flavors from a displayed collection of three or four varieties, or choose a jam or jelly that matches the wedding color scheme, such as a raspberry jam to coordinate with pink wedding colors. ■■ Barbecue sauce. Especially if the wedding has a country feel to it, or features ribs or barbecued chicken wings in local flavors, the gift of barbecue sauce shares a memory of the day and allows guests to indulge later. Salsa or hot sauces share a similar vibe. ■■ Lemon curd. This surprising 4th-place finisher on The Wedding Report’s survey results list brings thought of an afternoon tea. It also color coordinates with a sunny, yellow wedding, perhaps
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Signature drinks: Raise glass to make statement By KRISTEN CASTILLO Creators.com Food and drink can eat away at your wedding budget. Maximize your money and make a statement with a delicious signature drink. “Signature cocktails help tie in a theme to a wedding,” says Chef Sharone Hakman, a former “MasterChef” contestant who is now featured on Khloe Kardashian’s talk show, “Kocktails with Khloe.” “Weddings are about making memories. A delicious signature cocktail adds to that experience as well as an element of practicality for the bartenders.” Since they’re made in volume, signature drinks are typically cheaper than open bar cocktails. You can serve up a tasty concoction that’s budget friendly and personalized. “Wedding drinks have come a long way since ‘beer and wine’ was the main focus,” says Trisha Antonsen, chief cocktail officer at Drizly’s, an alcohol delivery company. There are many custom cocktail choices to consider, so work with a mixologist to create an unforgettable wedding libation. “As the craft cocktail movement gained popularity, couples started making requests for custom drinks,” says Brian White, sommelier at Atlanta Grill at The Ritz-Carlton. “In the past three years, I have created more custom drinks than I can count.” So what’s trendy in signature cocktails? Champagne cocktails. Champagne is a celebratory classic that Antonsen says will “never go out of style for weddings.” She suggests a classic Champagne cocktail for a splash of old Hollywood glam or adding pear or ginger for spritzers to mix things up. Bourbon drinks. Bourbon was big last year and Antonsen thinks it’ll stick around this year, too. “Try combining it with Dr. Pepper, lemon juice and cherries for a Cherry Bourbon Smash that will delight your guests.” Old-school sodas are a favorite for that vintage-vibe, so check out the recipe below. Berries and floral liqueurs. “Fresh ingredients continue to be a favorite at weddings,” says Antonsen, who recommends mixing those fresh elements with St. Germaine, the elderberry liqueur that “just recently popped up in bars across the country.” Cheers to wedded bliss and these signature drinks! Honey, I’m Home Cocktail by: Chef Sharone Hakman. Serves: 1 Ingredients: 1 ounce gin 1⁄2 ounce lavender-infused honey syrup (recipe below) 1⁄2 ounce lime juice Garnish with cucumber and lavender For lavender honey syrup: 1 part honey 1 part water 2 lavender flowers Directions: Combine all ingredients in small saucepan. Bring to boil and cool. For cocktail: In a shaker: Combine gin, lavender honey, lime juice and ice. Shake until cold. Pour in a coupe glass and garnish with lavender and cucumber. White Pear Martini Cocktail by: Brian White, sommelier, Atlanta Grill at The Ritz-Carlton.
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Look up: Ceiling decor popular wedding trend By SHARON NAYLOR Creators.com There’s a new and exciting focus in wedding decor: the ceiling. A myriad of online wedding forums, Pinterest pages, blogs and other wedding planning platforms feature ceiling decorations for ballrooms or tents. You might find lush, blooming floral designs so extravagant they seem like upside-down gardens. And billowy drapes add an ethereal feeling to your wedding. Wedding planner and designer Kristin Rockhill, creator of the “Details of I Do” blog, attributes this new wedding design trend to a change in the desired look and feel of spaces, saying that “Couples are moving away from oversized ballrooms and looking for romantic, intimate settings that have a homespun feel with nature-infused decor and organic touches.” According to Rockhill, “Ceiling decor is quickly replacing tall centerpieces. Now brides are opting for low, lush arrangements that allow for easy conversation and adding decorative touches to the ceiling instead to create depth and drama.” Utilizing the space above is a wonderfully fresh way to liven up a venue or transform a blank space like a tent or industrial loft. Rockhill suggests “having lush floral chandeliers, ceilings draped with greenery or unexpected unique lighting fixtures like crystal-draped wagon wheel chandeliers.” Beyond these suggestions, here are some top trends in wedding ceiling decor: ■■ Create a ceiling garden using one type of flower, one flower hue or multiple coordinating flower types. ■■ Play on the 2016 just-picked wedding bouquet trend by creating a ceiling garden with an eclectic assortment of flowers. ■■ Use greenery of different styles and textures to create an all-green ceiling cover. This simple blanket look may be balanced with lavish table centerpieces featuring dramatic florals with pops of color and texture. ■■ Decorate only above the dance floor to create drama. ■■ Draw attention to your sweetheart table by hanging a flower arrangement above it. ■■ Using clear wire, create an effect of flowers “raining” from the ceiling. ■■ Hang indoor or outdoor crystals in a carefully lit space to add an extra sparkle. 2704 North Newton Street (Hwy 231 N) Jasper 634-7733 www.duboiscountymuseum.org
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Emergency kit makes for worry-free wedding By DIANNE CROWN Creators.com What will you need for your big day? Veteran wedding planner Vickie Good shares her top-10 list for the unsung hero of many a wedding day, the bridal emergency kit. “I can’t tell you how many buttons I’ve sewn on,” says Good, making her first item the sewing kit, which at least needs to include safety and corsage pins, a needle with thread colors to match all outfits, and a small pair of scissors. “One time, the bride’s dress ripped and they had to sew her into it with fishing line.” Why, you ask? No sewing kit. The other essential items to keep in mind when preparing for the big day include, but are not limited to: ■■ Stain remover sticks and a cloth to get makeup off dresses and tuxes. ■■ Tissues for when things become too emotional -- nobody wants runny makeup and a mess on their best fabrics ■■ First-aid items including Band-Aids, smelling salts and a headache remedy of choice. ■■ Bottled water and a white soda that won’t stain, especially if it’s a hot day or in case the nerves hit and someone isn’t feeling well. It would be wise to throw in a stick of deodorant here as well -- you never know. ■■ Small collection of snacks that don’t stain or make a mess, such as soda crackers. “No one thanks they want to eat before the wedding, and they get hungry.” ■■ For faces, hair and teeth — makeup, hairspray, toothpaste/ toothbrush, and mints. “No gum, absolutely no gum,” says Good. ■■ Extra pantyhose and — depending on the style of the dresses — extra body tape to prevent wardrobe malfunctions from your worst nightmares. ■■ Paperwork: an assignment list of people to gather up the flowers, rentals and decorations, etc.; a card with any original vows written on it; the order of the service
For other professionals’ ideas, search “bride emergency kit” online, and you’ll find such online vendors as With You in Mind, Darice, Pinch, Yacanna, Philosophy, C.R. Gibson, Solemates (“S.O.S. Wedding Rescue”) and more. The Internet is full of wedding horror stories, and tips from brides, grooms and members of bridal parties -- along with a few good laughs -- so others can learn from their mistakes. Of course, there are some things you just can’t plan for. One time, Good recalls, a bridesmaid misjudged her foot size when she ordered her shoes, and couldn’t keep her shoes on when it came time to dress for the wedding. They had to tie her shoes on with ribbon from the church’s craft closet. And at more than one wedding, Good has wished for more long mirrors in dressing rooms, as well as a spare iron and steamer for pesky wrinkles. Bear these tips and tricks in mind when planning for the day of, and you’ll be better prepared than many.
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Marriage afloat: Yachts among top wedding locations By SHARON NAYLOR Creators.com Yachts have quickly become a top trend in wedding locations, offering guests a unique setting, spectacular views and the thrill of VIP treatment aboard a multimillion-dollar vessel. Every element of a glamorous ballroom wedding — including top-tier catering and service, entertainment and dancing — can occur inside a yacht or on its top deck for an open-air ceremony and celebration. “They are ideal for people who desire a venue that’s different from the four-wall ballroom overlooking the parking lot venue that all of their friends have had their weddings and events in,” says Camille Cerria, nautical event planner for Smooth Sailing Celebrations. “So many yachts are upscale and glamorous, and many sail through breathtaking scenery including historic sites viewed so differently from the water.” Top yacht event companies offer fleets of boats, accommodating a range of guest-list sizes and budgets. They may be booked to sail or to remain docked, cutting down on the need for sea legs or experiencing on-the-water discomfort. Yachts obviously host just one wedding at a time, which affords you privacy and the full focus of the yacht staff. Yacht companies are well-connected to their trusted wedding vendors, who can provide any rentals, decor, lighting and other elements to make your wedding design wishes come true. And outside caterers know exactly what is needed for the yacht’s galley for the food preparation, if it is not prepared on the boat itself. Adding to the popularity of yacht weddings is the boat’s design, offering indoor and outdoor areas, gathering spaces, existing bars and other design elements that create excellent opportunities for guests to mingle or to steal some private time. And if spending the night on your yacht isn’t feasible, usually luxury hotels are situated by the boat’s marina for easy guest accommodation. Cerria suggests the following tips for yacht weddings: ■■ Choose a budget-friendly buffet reception: “With so much to do on a yacht, guests hate to be tied to their dining room chairs. Buffet service goes more quickly than plated service does. Allow you and your guests enough time to enjoy the yacht experience of mingling, dancing and sightseeing under the stars.” ■■ Have your vendors set up beforehand: “Ask your vendors to take advantage of the two-hour early boarding time that’s allotted to all vendors. In this way, the boat will be festive and all decked out with music playing for your guests’ boarding.” ■■ Say “Cheese!” early: Use the early boarding time to take staged photos. “This will allow you to enjoy your wedding without being dragged away from the festivities for pictures, while letting your photographer take impromptu images of you and your guests having a wonderful time,” says Cerria. Also, think about the timing of sunset and the beautiful colors of the sky over the water; an earlier photo session might capture that gorgeous scenery. ■■ Find a spot for a group shot: “Many boats have an outdoor level where the photographer can take a group photo of guests on a lower outdoor level. It’s a special me-
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How to transition from singlehood to couplehood By KRISTEN CASTILLO Creators.com Before you got married, you probably pictured spending every day and night side by side with your spouse. But that idea changes fast. You may want a night out with your friends, while your spouse wants happy hour with co-workers. Talk it out How can you go from “me” to “we” and still keep your sense of individuality? “Talking is the glue that holds relationships together,” says Dr. Fran Walfish, psychotherapist and author of “The Self-Aware Parent.” “People need to learn how to talk and listen to each other and tolerate differences.” Life coach and blogger Maggie Reyes encourages couples to define what success looks like for their relationship. “Talk about what you envision,” she says. “Realize it’s going to be very personal for you.” Know your partner It takes time to get to know your spouse. “In most cases, it doesn’t hurt to live together,” says Walfish, who believes living together helps couples get to know each other. “It’s better to know them before you say ‘I do.’” Be patient and give yourselves a chance to figure out each other’s preferences. Does one of you like cooking? Can you handle the grocery shopping, or would you prefer your better half do the job? Split chores evenly and based on what you can both tolerate. Reyes advises couples to aim for win-win situations, not compromises, which often involve one person’s making sacrifices. Alone time vs. couple Time “It’s a myth that you have to do everything together,” Reyes says. Instead, look for ways to balance your personal time with your couple time. “Everything is doable if you have two willing partners,” Walfish says. One of her clients wanted poker night three times a week, which
frustrated his wife. Walfish confronted the husband and urged him to make a change. The solution? “We cut down his poker nights one at a time,” she says. Some behavior modifications have to be made, suggests Walfish. “Demonstrate you’re willing to have give-and-take,” she says. Handling money You need to talk about how you’ll handle money in the relationship. Do you want separate bank accounts? A joint account? Is there some wiggle room for splurges? “Every couple will have a different priority,” says Reyes, noting that some couples want to reduce debt. Others want to save for a home, and some want to save up for vacations. No matter what you decide about saving or spending your money, plan to reassess your financial priorities from time to time. Family expectations You also want to figure out family obligations. Will you be expected to attend a family dinner every Sunday? How will you celebrate holidays? “Talk about the little things so they don’t become big things,” says Reyes, who suggests couples discuss how they spent their childhoods, how they relate to their families and what they expect from each other when it comes to family commitments. Decorating One of the hallmarks of couplehood is having a place to call home. Whether it be a condo, an apartment or a house, decorating that space can be very complicated. “When you’re making a home, your home is a sanctuary for the both of you,” Reyes says. “The house is a reflection of you as a team.” She recommends asking your spouse how involved he or she wants to be in the decorating. Some spouses care a lot; others don’t care at all. The middle ground? You choose a few ideas and run them by your partner. For example, preselect three paint
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Release the doves: Wedding motifs send message By SHARON NAYLOR Creators.com A wedding is the start of the couple’s new life together, and many elements of weddings contain meaningful symbolism. The bride’s white wedding gown finds its roots in symbolizing of innocence and purity. And the wedding cake springs from an idea of adding sweetness and prosperity to the marriage. . “The Language of Flowers,” a London-originated collection of flowers’ symbolic meanings based on type and color, is a wonderful source to create added meaning for your wedding day. The language of flowers grew to popularity as a secret language between courting lovers back in the 1800s, becoming something of a parlor game of secret meanings and invitations. It remains a source of symbolism, particularly in weddings. Among the many publications exploring flowers’ meanings and history is Diana Wells’ “100 Flowers and How they Got Their Names,” in which Wells explains the symbolism of several popular types of flowers. For instance, pink carnations stand for marital bliss, daisies stand for modesty, lilies stand for purity and wheat stands for fertility, according to Wells. The colors of the flowers also hold meaning, with red roses symbolizing love and desire and white roses symbolizing purity and innocence. Some wedding couples are so superstitious that they avoid certain flower colors for their negative meanings, like jealousy, the threat of a secret admirer, or fear of parting and loss. Look to “The Old Farmer’s Almanac” for the symbolism of different kinds of herbs as well, such as cumin for fidelity, mint for virtue and marjoram for joy and happiness. If packets of spices or potted herbs are given as wedding favors, share the symbolism on
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Bees are seen as symbols of a positive, cooperative community or family, and doves are, of course, signs of peace, kindness and love. Since dragonflies are a popular wedding motif, their meaning of good fortune and luck is especially pleasing to wedding couples. And peacocks -- also a very popular motif for wedding details -- connote wholeness, beauty, self-assurance and dignity. If the couple has an affinity for butterflies, the butterfly’s symbolic meaning of transformation is perfect, given their transition from single to married life. Incorporating butterflies, whether it’s a live butterfly release after the ceremony, silk butterflies used as wedding cake decor or pretty butterfly motifs on the invitations, is extra meaningful. Here are some ways to include your favorite flowers, birds and other favorites with meaning into your big day: As motifs on savethe-date cards, personal wedding websites, wedding invitations, bridal shower themes, wedding programs, wedding decor, thankyou notes and more. Weddings hold so much meaning. The words that are spoken, the first dance song, the flowers that are carried, and any number of other chances exist to add sentiment, meaning, and joy that carry meaning for each couple.
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Changing your name after saying ‘I do’ By CHELLE CORDERO Creators.com There are many decisions to work out when a couple decides to get hitched; one of those complicated decisions is the choice of surname. Several decades ago, women didn’t have much choice when it came to the name they would be using once betrothed. Some women chose to drop their given middle names and replaced those with their maiden names, but that was not legally acceptable in all states. A few “rebels” found ways to keep their own surnames for professional reasons, but socially and legally they were to be forever known as “Mrs.” followed by their husbands’ last names. Times have changed. In 2016, couples can choose to both use one name belonging originally to either partner, use both names (with or without a hyphen), blending the names into one or simply each keeping their respective names. The names should be decided before applying for the marriage license, as these will be the names used on the marriage certificate. There are many reasons for challenging traditional patterns. Some people equate surrendering one’s name upon marriage to chattel, a loss of personal identity; others fear losing important professional reputations, and some want to keep their birth family’s name alive, especially when there are no sons to do so traditionally. Surprisingly, even though women are no longer forced to lose their names when they gain husbands, more women are choosing to use their new husbands’ names as at
least part of their new surnames. Whatever option the married couple chooses, each partner’s name goes onto the marriage certificate, and this will be used to change names on official records, drivers’ licenses, passports, bank accounts and more. Women will be able to use any of these options without any hitches; however, a few states do require husbands and samesex partners to get a court order, so check your local laws. The married name change is as legally binding as petitioning a court and is generally the only document required to make changes to all of your official documents. It’s a good idea to get one or two certified copies of the marriage certificate, so copies can be mailed and other notifications won’t need to wait for the documents to come back in the mail. To change the Social Security card, bring a certified copy of the marriage certificate, photo ID in your old name and form SS5, which can be mailed or hand delivered to any Social Security office. Driver’s license changes need to be made in person using the marriage certificate (or certified copy). Using the marriage license as ID, fill out the appropriate forms (available at any DMV office) and prepare to wait in line. You also will probably pose for a photo ID. With your new driver’s license and your marriage certificate, you can update your voter registration and passport. Some states require a minimum amount of time between changing multiple forms of ID. Some other people and places to contact after the wedding to inform them of any name changes
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Plan for forever, but protect yourself with prenup By KRISTEN CASTILLO Creators.com No one wants to think about divorce but it can be a reality for many couples. So while you’re planning for forever, it’s still a wise decision to protect your interests. Getting a prenuptial agreement, a legal document outlining who gets what if a divorce happens, doesn’t sound romantic but it is practical. “We all know the statistics: Nearly half of all marriages will end in divorce,” says New York attorney Ann Margaret Carrozza, creator of “The Love Contract.” “Having a prenup ensures that the couple dictates the terms of a split as opposed to some judge. A good prenup will ensure that both parties are treated fairly in the event of a divorce.” If a divorce does happen, a prenup is the foundation for who owes what. “A prenuptial agreement can provide for financial agreement between spouses, including property income, and spousal support,” says prenuptial agreement expert Dana Lowy, partner in Los Angeles-based Meyer, Olson, Lowy and Meyer. “It can protect against significant disputes on valuing and dividing a community property or separate property business in the event of divorce.” That means your prenup can outline who gets the house, the
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for infractions,” says Carrozza. “These range from lighthearted sanctions such as household chores, to monetary penalties for violating one of the enumerated ‘deal breakers.’” Postnuptial agreements Couples who don’t get a prenup can still protect their interests after saying “I do” with postnuptial agreements. Postnups are legal documents between a husband and wife that divide assets in case of divorce or death. For example, Carrozza says, a postnup “can require the surviving spouse to enter into a prenup
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Say cheese: Questions for photographers By SHARON NAYLOR Creators.com You’ve found the perfect wedding photographer. You love his style, and the images you’ve seen on his website fit perfectly with your vision -- all the beauty of your venue, artistic shots of the two of you that look like something out of a magazine, close-up photos of the food, shots of all of the action and interactions with your loved ones. Don’t expect everything to go perfectly on your wedding day, however. There are some important questions to ask your photographer to ensure you get the kinds of shots you want: What are some of your favorite settings of my wedding venue? You may have hired your photographer in part because he has worked at your wedding venue before, but now it’s time to talk details: the gardens, the fountains, side rooms with great architectural aspects. This is where you start mapping out the perfect setting for your all-important first look photos, and you can use your photographer’s experience at the site (including knowing about the lighting during sunset and more). How will you and your assistant be dressed? This is where your photographer needs input from you, to learn about your chosen dress code. Your photographer will be interacting with your guests, and it’s best if he’s in a fine suit or tuxedo to blend in while working. Do you have any meal requests or dietary restrictions? Not many wedding couples ask this question, and it’s an important one. If your photographer is given just the usual vendor meal (often a chicken and vegetables dish, not the same entree that your guests get,) and can’t eat it, his energy level may drop and he may not perform up to par in the later hours of the wedding. Always ask this question, and consider giving your vendors a guest-type meal if you’ve had any last-minute wedding guest cancellations. What do you need from me? If you’d like to display a slideshow of your childhood photos or engagement photos at the wedding, find out which format the photographer needs -- images on a disk, images emailed in a particular size and resolution, the format for
the soundtrack, etc. Are you OK with other people taking photos? This is a rather new consideration, as a great many wedding photographers dislike losing an important shot (like your first kiss) when guests stand up with their iPads and other devices. It’s smart to ask your photographer what he prefers and when to make an announcement to guests at the ceremony, asking them not to use their phones and iPads to take photos at the ceremony. What time will you arrive at our pre-wedding locations to capture photos of the ladies and the men? You might assume it would take an hour, but it may actually take several hours, so you need to adjust your getting-ready time to match up with your photographer’s arrival. If my event lasts longer than expected, will you be able to stay? Some photographers book two, or even three, weddings on a peak wedding season day, so you need to know if he’ll have to rush out at the planned end time for your wedding to get to the next one. Important: He might not have other bookings yet, so ask him to let you know if he does book a next wedding on your big day. Which kinds of filters will you be using on our wedding day? This is a new question for wedding photographers, since there are many new types of filters in existence. Some may blur the edges of your photos or turn candlelight and strung lights into little heart shapes. Ask to see examples of different filter effects, so that you can list out the ones you like. When will our photos be ready? You likely asked this before hiring your photographer, but it’s a good idea to get a reminder of how many weeks or months it will take before all of your photos are edited and posted onto an online gallery. This will reduce the number of stressful phone calls to your photographer later. Do you have any questions for me? Your photographer wants to make you happy, so he may ask if you like more candid photos, or more posed ones, and which types of photos you definitely don’t want. This is a relationship you’re forming, and two-way communication always works to your advantage.
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Make your wedding dessert hour a big hit By SHARON NAYLOR Creators.com “We’re definitely seeing a growing trend this year for wedding dessert buffets featuring a collection of different cakes,” says Anne Heap, owner of Pink Cake Box. “The buffet might include several different flavors of small cakes, and it might also include in addition to these cakes a variety of mini cupcakes, cake pops, macaroons and other desserts.” Brides and grooms want their guests to enjoy the dessert hour, as well as the wedding itself, and they know that guests look forward to the delicious dessert and pastry options that close out the celebration. Providing multiple types and flavors of cakes allows guests to relish a flavor or flavors of their choice. The cake buffet is an evolution of the traditional Viennese dessert table, a long buffet offering many different types of desserts, from mousses to tarts to petits fours and other items. Now, the trend includes multiple cakes that may be offered in addition to the grand wedding cake. Selecting your cakes Heap says that while each cake itself has a different flavor and filling combination, all of the cakes are iced and designed in a coordinating color palette. “If the couple choose an ivory, blush pink and gold color combination, we create all of the cakes in those hues,” just iced and decorated a bit differently. The cakes all coordinate and create a cohesive effect, whether it’s all-white cakes or a combination of pastels, brights or even dramatic black-and-white cakes to go with a black-and-white wedding theme. (Of course, the color mix could be red and white or yellow and green -- whatever shades you desire.) As for flavors, Heap says that red velvet is still extremely popular for these cake buffet choices, and “we’re also doing a lot of classics like vanilla and chocolate, and other flavors, such as peanut butter and Oreo cakes.” Other flavors to consider for cakes are lemon, berry, rum cake, coconut, caramel and passionfruit — all top trends in wedding cake flavors. Jodi Rhoden, owner of Short Street Cakes and author of “Cake Ladies,” says that cakes are being
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chosen for their regional specialties, like her company’s traditional Southern salted caramel cake, paired with a triple chocolate ganache cake. Another big trend is to include a flourless cake for your glutenfree guests, and some couples are including gluten-free cupcakes, as well. Guests are tremendously grateful at the bride and groom’s thoughtfulness, so that they can partake in the dessert hour fully. While vibrant cakes are a trend, Heap says that she’s getting many requests for cake buffet selections that fit in with the currently hot wedding themes of “bohemian, romantic, vintage and Victorian,” which entail softer blush colors such as pinks and light greens, with decorative icing to suit those particular soft and feminine themes. Cake buffets are also a trend at bridal showers, which is where the larger move is to vibrantly colored cakes, cupcakes and desserts, such as hot pinks and bright oranges, sunny yellows, and even zebra stripes and polka dots. Whimsical designs such as cakes with slanted layers, creating a topsy-turvy effect, are also popular for bridal showers. For weddings themselves, cakes tend to be more
classic and in keeping with the style of the wedding cake itself. Cake buffet display trends The display of your cakes will impress your guests simply by the appeal of the cakes themselves — but the way you arrange the cakes on the table adds even more panache. Begin with a highquality linen tablecloth in a color that coordinates with your chosen cake collection color scheme. For that ivory, blush pink and gold cake variety, the tablecloth may be in any of those colors. Solid colors are best, without stripes or patterns, so that the cakes stand out. Your cakes may be arranged on uniform-height pedestals or on pedestals of alternating heights (always with a sturdy base for cut-
ting slices without the pedestal falling over). Beneath and around the cakes, your platters of cupcakes, macaroons or cake pops create a sumptuous display. A must is to pair each cake, as well as other desserts, with attractively designed, color-coordinated, printed labels identifying the flavors and fillings of each. And it has become more popular to alert guests to the presence of any nuts or nut butters in the cake, filling or frosting. A simple, small mention of, “This cake contains nuts and nut products,” on the cakeidentification card is a smart and safe service to guests. The same indication may be made for gluten-free cakes. The final touch for the cake buffet table is often a lighting ef-
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Getting remarried: Tips for successful 2nd wedding By CHELLE CORDERO Creators.com Second weddings are just as special as first weddings. Like any marriage, they represent a union between two people and a commitment to each other to love, cherish, support and be friends. If either partner has children from a first marriage, the new marriage is also the blending of families: a promise to not only be a good wife or husband but also a good father or mother. A second wedding should represent who the couple is and be the beginning of a family for the partners and children. There are few, if any, hard-andfast rules for second weddings. The couple can use their past experiences to plan the ceremony and reception exactly as they want it to be. Most likely the bride and groom will not be depending on parents to pay for the wedding and will feel freer to make choices without pressure. It is recommended that the ceremony and reception be different from the first time and that former spouses not be included (for comfort of the new spouse and guests). The couple can decide on any venue: a restaurant or catering hall, a beachfront, a backyard, a park or the family living room. Couples may find it fun to plan a surprise wedding where an intimate group of guests are invited to a party, a backyard barbecue or other occasion and the wedding “just happens.” If they’re planning a religious wedding, it’s a good idea to contact the house of worship and officiate before choosing the ceremony site, because there may be some constraints depending on how and why the first wedding ended. Brides and grooms can and should write their own wedding vows; they have the confidence, experience and maturity to know why this wedding is important to them and what their expectations are. Some key words and terms the wedding partners could use in their vows are: “a new life together”; “starting over”; “a fresh start”; “drying tears and learning to laugh”; “loving with eyes wide open”; or “a new and exciting journey.” When there are children, in addition to promising to be there for each other, the couple may want to promise their chil-
them after the couple exchanges rings. That way the kids feel like part of the union, too. The wedding dress can be any color or style the bride chooses, including white (the use of a blusher veil, though, is discouraged). The groom is also free to choose his garment. Attendants could be given more leeway in choosing their garments, or the couple could offer to pay if the outfits are not apt to be worn again. While immediate family members may give wedding gifts to the second-time-around couple, many other guests may opt not to, especially if they were present at the first wedding and gave a generous gift then. It is still all right if the couple chooses to sign up for a gift registry. However, the newlyweds probably don’t need the normal items for setting up a firsttime home; instead, choices could include couples’ ski equipment,
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Dinner is served: Cooking as couple By KRISTEN CASTILLO Creators.com When you’re single, you’re on your own schedule for everything, including meals. But once you’re married, it’s harder to get away with eating a bowl of cereal, a frozen entree or a sandwich for dinner. Now is the time to make meals for two. “Cooking offers a creative and nourishing outlet, is a stress reduction and builds memories that can only be established in the kitchen and at the dinner table,” say Roxanne Wyss and Kathy Moore, authors of “The Newlywed Cookbook: Cooking Happily Ever After.” They call the kitchen a “shared sanctuary” for spouses. “The kitchen, your cooking style, and the menu plans are yours, for they are created as a team, together.” Many modern couples identify as foodies. Dinner inspiration often comes from food websites, magazines and TV shows. Cookbooks such as “The Newlywed Cookbook” are popular with couples that want to roll up their sleeves and make dinner as a couple. Teamwork in the kitchen These days it’s typical for both partners to work all day. The traditional idea that wives handle the cooking is gone. “Today, both men and women cook and it is often approached as a team,” say Wyss and Moore. “When these couples return home from a busy day, they enjoy cooking together as it offers time together and time to talk.” Wyss and Moore’s book, which features 70 recipes including waffles, shrimp risotto and four-bean vegetarian chili, helps couples build their culinary skills. It’s also geared so the spouses can use a variety of kitchen tools, including common wedding gifts they may have received, such as slow cookers and food processors. The authors say the newlywed stage of marriage is a great time for building routines and developing habits that will sustain the couple long-term: “We feel that dinner together, at home, builds happy families and establishes im-
portant traditions,” they say. Cooking benefits Couples develop a bond while cooking. “I like to say that the family that cooks and eats together stays together,” says nutrition health coach Liza Baker, author of the forthcoming book “Flip Your Kitchen.” Baker notes that “cooking from scratch at home” can positively affect the couple’s health, the environment and the local economy, if the couple will be shopping at markets and farms near their home. Cooking at home makes financial sense, too, since dining out can be pricey, especially when it’s a regular occurrence. Plus, cooking together is a chance to try new things, such as kitchen tools and a variety of recipes. Dinner made easy Many husbands and wives want to make dinner together but don’t want lots of meal prep and planning. The solution: meal-kit-delivery brands, such as HelloFresh. The company does the food shopping and ingredient measuring and delivers the ready-to-cook kit to your doorstep. All you have to do is cook the food according to the included recipes. “Cooking together is one of the rare times that couples can have each other’s undivided attention,” says Rebecca Lewis, in-house registered dietitian at HelloFresh, explaining the delivery boxes make cooking “feel like less of a chore and more of a shared, social activity.” A classic HelloFresh box includes three meals for two people at a cost of $69; a Veggie Box is $59 for three meals for two people. Culinary cues “Date nights in the kitchen can be a super romantic experience if you do it right,” says relationship expert Elisabeth Davis, who reminds couples to laugh and have fun while tackling meal prep, cooking and cleanup. “It’s when we start cooking together that we realize the amount of quality time spent together.” Davis offers these tips for creating memorable meals as a couple:
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