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Of course you love your kids, but are you in tune with exactly how they want you to show it?
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DEPARTMENTS
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9 Out of the Box
What creativity really is—and how to develop it in your child
12 Ask the Experts / Sound Advice
When should you get a cell phone for your child and more advice from parenting experts
REAL MOMS
15 Mom Next Door / Cristina Lynch
Mexican heritage is woven into every thing this fashion entrepreneur does, from designing dresses to raising her two children
18 Briefs / Culture Club
How to be a cultured mom when you have no time, from local moms in the know PLAYBOOK
65 Things to Do
30 events for an amazing autumn
70 Weekend Wayfarers
Road trip! Experience natural beauty, art and kid-friendly culture at these fall travel destinations in Texas and Oklahoma
74 Van Gogh Galore
3 ways to Gogh: one fine art exhibition, two “immersive” experiences
COLUMNS
6 Hello / Self-Expression
The many ways to incorporate art, culture and creativity into your life
words Alexis Patterson
78 Looking Back / April 1990
Former President George W. Bush and his daughters covered our magazine more than 30 years ago
➽ ABOVE // Open through Nov. 28, Van Gogh: The Immersive Experience in Arlington offers virtual reality headsets and a kids’ coloring room with a digital projector for displaying their own artwork.
SELF-EXPRESSION
ABOVE // Alexis Patterson and her son Grayson on Grapevine's Main Street.
MY SON ENJOYS HAVING ART CONTESTS WITH ME. We pick a theme, then have his grandpa choose who drew the scene better. (Spoiler: The kiddo always wins.) One day, we were drawing a farm. I drew a barn, lots of grass and a cow. At least, I did my best to draw a cow.
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Grayson’s barn and animals were quite satisfactory, particularly considering his age; I enthusiastically praised his efforts. He looked at mine and gave it a “4 out of 10,” then mentioned something about the dog in my picture. I explained that it was a cow. “Really?” he asked. “Well, then it’s a 0 out of 10.”
I’m not an artist, admittedly. But this drawing was a new low even for me. It was so ridiculous that I posted it to Facebook and jokingly wrote that I was accepting bids on the “masterpiece.” The comments ranged from “That udder looks infected” to “I see a cat that should be charged with indecent exposure.” Trust me, you don’t want to see it. Fortunately, as we put together this issue of DFWChild, I was reminded that creativity comes in many forms. It can be found in beautiful clothing—and you don’t even have to be the designer; you can feel more alive just by wearing it. (Check out our interview with Mom Next Door Cristina Lynch, founder of Mi Golondrina, a line of artisan-embroidered dresses and tops, p. 15.) Creativity can be found in the way we think about a variety of challenges and problems, and in our resiliency to do better next time. (See our story about how to develop real creativity in your child, p. 9.) You can fill your life with all forms of culture, art and imagination without ever taking marker to paper or paint to canvas.
Read on for a lot more ways to do that this fall, from cultural road trips we promise the kids will love (p. 70) to restaurants and markets that will make you feel transported to another country (p. 18). After more than a year and a half of COVID-19 stress, masks, economic hardship and depressing news reports, we all deserve to find ways to bring color and joy and inspiration back to our lives. I hope this issue sets you on the right track.
Being creative isn’t just about artistic abilities. It’s much more.
WORDS SUNDEY MCCLENDON
HINK ABOUT THE CREATIVE TYPES you know. Who comes to mind? Probably someone talented at drawing or painting; maybe a friend or family member who dances or plays an instrument. Some form of the arts, almost certainly. But to help kids thrive, we need to get a little more, well, creative with how we think about creativity. Experts stress that creativity isn’t just about the fine arts, or other forms of expression. Creativity is in how we reach that final product—so it may manifest differently than you expect.
THE RESILIENT CHILD
Dictionary definitions of the adjective creative include words and phrases such as “marked by the ability or power to create,” “imaginative” and “managed so as to get around legal or conventional limits.” Hopefully our kids aren’t
trying to get around legal limits, but that aside, those are all qualities that are useful no matter what our child’s hobbies and gifts. That’s because creativity is problem-solving, according to Jason McCoy, a licensed clinical social worker, play therapist and art instructor in Denton. “A child who practices finding different solutions for problems feels more confident that they have what it takes to meet a difficult situation and overcome it,” says McCoy. “You will see [creativity] in a kid who can handle failure and is resilient. That’s the good stuff.”
Frisco mom Summer Rose says enrolling her son, Hudson, in a theater class in elementary school was beneficial in many ways she did not expect. “He struggled a little bit with confidence, and he was more shy and reserved,” Summer recalls. “We were looking for an interest for him. Sports wasn’t his forte, so we tried theater.” Hudson flourished on stage and in life. His mother continues, “It’s given him much more confidence.”
This makes sense, according to Antonia Jacinto—early intervention specialist with My Health, My Resources (MHMR) of Tarrant County— because creativity touches on every developmental system in one way or another. “I work with kids on overall development,” she explains, “and creativity is part of their emotions, their movements and for sure their language and how they socialize. It’s all connected.”
THE CREATIVE PROCESS
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from 6 to 17, find that movement and working a smaller, more basic task can help their brains reset and see things differently, which in turn helps to foster more outside-the-box ideas. Jacinto says that developing creativity can begin in infancy, with eye contact, talking to your baby and reading to your baby, even if they cannot comprehend the story or book. “Books like First 100 Words or Pete the Cat are a good start, or even a picture book with no text. You can just look at it [with your baby] and describe what you are seeing.” Jacinto says these activities help grow the neural pathways that foster creative play.
When it comes to toys or games to boost creativity, early childhood expert Antonia Jacinto suggests the more primitive, the better. “Books and puzzles are great,” she shares, “and so are sensory toys such as water tables and sand or dry rice. Anything that is open-ended so that they can be imaginative as they play. And of course pretend play with your child is a great way to help kids be more creative, as parents model how things work.”
This brings with it the question of devices, and if screen time is a total creativity killer. “You know, it doesn’t have to be,” Jacinto says. “If parents can sit down with their child and watch together and then dialogue about what they are seeing, it can work for them and not against them.”
So how do we develop creative thinkers? We generally think of the fruits of creativity as being tangible achievements. Instead, shift your thinking to the fruits being the struggle and the process, where creativity is born.
Dallas mom of five Juleeta Harvey has been thinking about the creative process as a means of general problem-solving for some time. “I find if my children are fixating on a problem—like a problem with a friend, let’s say—I try to first listen, then if they remain stuck [after talking about it, I] ask them to pause and do something else for a moment. Go for a walk or sweep the floor, as a way to change things up.” Her sons, ranging in age
As they grow, advises McCoy, parents can adopt three creativity-building habits. “I would say the first step is to praise the process instead of the outcome,” he says. “Instead of praising the final product, highlight the effort.”
In lieu of offering how you would approach a problem, offer your child empathy, McCoy suggests. “Acknowledging the struggle and then asking questions using the phrase ‘I wonder’ is a great tool. So you might say, ‘I wonder what would happen if you tried to do this a different way?’” He says empathy, patience and allowing the child to work within the limitations of the situation is where the creative problemsolving begins to take root.
That means that as much as you may want to steer your child down a different road, don’t take over the activity.
“Let them struggle, because that is where they get creative,” McCoy explains. “If a kid is trying to draw a person, they will erase it a few times and try again and again. We see that and we have the urge to jump in and fix it. If you try to fix it, you’ve robbed them of a chance to come up with a creative solution.”
That can be practiced from the time your kiddo wakes up in morning through when they fall asleep. “It can be done in any format, any medium, any subject, by simply asking your child to think of a different way to do something,” McCoy points out. “So if they are putting on their shoes, for example, you could be silly and say ‘I wonder if you could do that standing on one foot?’ You’ll know it’s working when it seems like they are getting a lot of ideas. When the ideas start flowing, creativity is happening.”
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Parenting questions, answered
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MOBILE, MAY I?
THE EXPERTS:
Amy Hurlburt and Reagan Vermillion, licensed professional counselors at The Well House in Southlake
Q: What’s an appropriate age to give my child a cell phone?
A: While cell phones offer a great deal of convenience and connection, not all children are ready for the responsibility that comes with technology ownership. There are no strict age guidelines; instead, we can look to the child’s maturity when making the decision. Here are five questions to help you know when your child is ready for a cell phone:
Why does my child need a cell phone? There are a lot of creative technology options out there beyond the traditional cell phone. Search for the right device for your child. Tip: “Because everyone else has one” is probably not a great reason to buy a phone for your child.
How responsible is my child? Do they lose things easily? How do you want to handle replacement or repair?
How impulsive is my child? Will they purchase games at will? Will they post and share inappropriate pictures? Tip: Set expectations before giving your child a device. Get familiar with the various ways to safeguard your child’s device from unwanted purchases and experiences.
Does my child understand how to safely use the internet? Do you understand how to install safeguards on the device? This is an ever-changing landscape. School resource officers are a great resource for parents who want to know the most current best practices.
How much control do I need to have over the device? Technology ownership can be a continuum. For example, you can give limited access to a cell phone (maybe when
they are at sports practice), or you could restrict access based on academic or behavioral expectations. The idea is that it doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing when it comes to cell phone ownership.
AGGRESSIVE ACTIONS
THE EXPERT:
Amy English, clinical therapist with Coppell Family Therapy
Q: When my child wants my attention, he punches my leg or arm. How can I get him to be less physically aggressive when he wants attention?
A: When kids begin to seek your attention in inappropriate ways, using the words “stop” and “don’t” generate negative reinforcement of the behavior. Instead, limit the attention you give your child in that moment by stating your expectation—the behavior you do want from the child—in a neutral tone and with no eye contact. Of course, it’s best to be proactive with both expectations and consequences—telling them, “If we need attention, we wait patiently,” or, “If we use our hands in an unkind way, then we have a tech time-out.” If a kiddo chooses to continue to hit, ignore them in the moment, then later discuss the expectation and the negative impacts of their behavior, first by asking the child their perspective. “How would you feel if a friend punched your leg for attention?” And implement the previously discussed consequence. If the behavior continues, and it appears to be more impulsive versus noncompliant, parents can work with kiddos on nonverbal cues, such as the parent tugging their own ear or touching their own nose, as a reminder.
If you have a parenting question that you’d like our experts to answer, message us on Instagram @dfwchildmag or email us at editorial@dfwchild.com.
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RÉSUMÉ
AGE 33 JOB Founder of Mi Golondrina, a line of Mexican artisan-embroidered clothing LIVES IN & HAILS FROM Dallas
ALMA MATER New York University, where she graduated with a double major in theater and economics CHILDREN Daughter who turns 2 in November, and a 3-month-old son FIND IN STORE AND ONLINE Dallas, 214/377-8738; migolondrina.com
➽ ABOVE // Cristina Lynch has "so much fun" dressing her daughter.
IT’S GREAT TO HAVE ART ON WALLS AND SHELVES , but we especially love art we can wear. And the pieces in Cristina Lynch’s Mi Golondrina line are nothing short of artistic. Every top and dress is hand-embroidered by artisans in Mexico, where Lynch’s mother is from, and finished by expert seamstresses in Dallas—creating gorgeous items (loved by celebrities including Mindy Kaling) that give modern flair to traditional
styles. It’s a kind of duality that Lynch has experienced in her own life, growing up here in North Texas while spending summers at her grandfather’s ranch in northern Mexico; majoring in the diverse subjects of theater and economics in college; and now simultaneously growing her company and her family. Her maternal culture is woven throughout everything she does—and that heritage is now being passed down to another generation.
DFWCHILD : TELL US MORE ABOUT HOW MI GOLONDRINA CAME ABOUT. EVEN AS A TEENAGER, YOU WERE JOURNALING ABOUT STARTING A FASHION AND LIFESTYLE COMPANY.
CRISTINA LYNCH: Coming from a very entrepreneurial family, I think that’s probably just what I knew. For example, my mom and her sister started a clothing business. My aunt sells iron candelabras. Beautiful things, so I saw that. I worked for Oscar de la Renta’s sales team after college, and I can’t remember what season it was, but there were these gorgeous embroideries. There were so many little things that came together for Mi Golondrina, but that was a big aha moment—seeing beautiful embroideries on couture dresses and remembering that I had seen gorgeous embroideries growing up, but they weren’t necessarily on luxe fabrics. I think that’s really what got my wheels turning.
C : WHERE DOES THE NAME MI GOLONDRINA COME FROM?
CL: At my grandfather’s ranch house in Mexico, I would see small swallows—golondrinas—in the eaves of the roof. I envision these golondrinas flying about, delivering the beauty of Mexico to women all over the world.
C : HOW DOES YOUR OWN CHILDHOOD INFLUENCE HOW YOU PARENT?
CL: I get emotional thinking about it, because it’s the biggest gift my parents have given me. They are extremely loving and have supported me so much. I know many children don’t have that. Just showing love is really important to me, and there being no doubt in my child’s mind that I’m proud of them all the time, no matter what’s going on. Family time is huge—having dinners together at home, all being around the table.
We had a beautiful home growing up. My mom did such a good job putting art everywhere, and I don’t think she ever thought too much what was kid-friendly and what was not. She just created a beautiful space and made sure we had fun in it. I hope to do the same. I also think about these vacations we went on. Even when we financially couldn’t do as much, we would drive to national parks. I think it’s really important to learn about new places, new cultures, and do it together.
C : THAT’S LOVELY TO IMAGINE. HOW MANY ARTISANS DO YOU WORK WITH ON EMBROIDERY?
CL: Close to 600, which is wonderful. We call every week to check in and see pictures, just to know we’re on the same page. But going to Mexico and talking to our artisans is really moving, because they care so much and work really hard. It’s in their blood. The women who do it, their great-grandmothers did it.
C : HOW OFTEN ARE YOU IN MEXICO?
CL: Pre-pandemic, I would go every two months. When my daughter was four months old, we lived in Mexico for three weeks, which was a great experience. I think I’m going to do that again in the next year.
C : YOUR MOM’S HERITAGE WAS YOUR INSPIRATION—YOU MUST HAVE A VERY SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP.
CL: Yes, she’s taking my daughter to ballet right now! I have three brothers, so my mom is also kind of like—not a sister, but we’re really close. She’s warm and creative, one of those people that lights up the room. She comes up with the best ideas for Mi Golondrina and is constantly thinking about how to make things better. It’s nice to have somebody who keeps me on my toes.
C: HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO SHARE YOUR HERITAGE WITH YOUR OWN CHILDREN?
CL: That means so much to me. It’s how I was raised, and [Mexican culture] is such a beautiful part of my life. I love how family forward the culture is. I speak to my children in Spanish. I want them to go to Mexico with me and play and meet the artisans we work with, now and through the years.
C : WHAT’S YOUR FORMULA FOR BALANCING HOME AND WORK?
CL: When I started my company, one person said, “You’re going to work so much. Do you not care about family?” I was like, “Wow, you really don’t know me at all—the reason I started Mi Golondrina was so I could have a business and a family.” I’ve always looked forward to having two children, and hopefully more, honestly. I worked really hard early on knowing that, hopefully, I could have a more flexible schedule one day. What’s so fun is that my kids come with me to the showroom. Mom guilt is real, though. [There are times] when you’re doing something else and want to be with your kids. But knowing that I’m going to continue working, I just spend as much time with them as I can. We take them everywhere and wouldn’t want it any other way.
➽ ABOVE // Lynch, whose son was born over the summer, says her line's flowing styles were perfect as maternity wear.
CULTURE CLUB
Feed your mind by sneaking in some of these culture cues from North Texas moms and cultural leaders.
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Podcasts Worth Your Time (and Attention)
Krys Boyd, Dallas mom of four young adults and the host and managing editor of KERA-FM’s Think talk show, shares her top 4 podcasts for busy mamas.
New York magazine’s “The Cut.” This female-hosted and -reported podcast “offers a fresh, diverse perspective,” says Boyd. “The Cut” has explored topics including why we’re burned out and what to do about it, as well as how a woman decides if she wants children. thecut.com/tags/podcasts
“ No Stupid Questions .” Delve into human behavior with research psychologist and Grit author Angela Duckworth plus journalist and Freakonomics coauthor Stephen Dubner. Among the (not stupid) questions: When is it okay to tell a lie? How can we stop comparing ourselves to other people? Is there actually value to gossip? freakonomics.com/nsq
Slate’s “Decoder Ring.” Every wonder what happened to all those Segway scooters? Where did mullets come from?What was it about Cabbage Patch dolls that made parents crazy? Why are Americans so obsessed with hydration? Find out with host Willa Paskin. slate.com/podcasts/decoder-ring
KERA’s “Think.” Shorter than the original broadcast, this podcast gives listeners “the best of the show in a 25-minute package,” Boyd shares. Why are women expected to take charge of contraception in heterosexual relationships? How have pets become less like possessions and more like family members? Science, philosophy, culture—Boyd thoughtfully covers it all. think.kera.org/podcast
HOW TO BE A COWGIRL
APPRECIATE COWGIRL CULTURE
5 Spots to Experience the Essence of the West Fort Worth area mom of one (plus one on the way!) Ali Dee—a country artist, TV host and western wear designer—ticks off her top spots to dip your toe into her world.
Start here. Dee says the Stockyards Championship Rodeo—the world’s first indoor rodeo and the world’s only year-round rodeo— is a “must do.” Stop in the gift shop before moseying into the arena for all the action. Fort Worth, 888/269-8696; cowtowncoliseum.com
See the drive, live. Every day at 11:30am and 4pm, see real drovers dressed in vintage cowboy gear ride west down Exchange Street in the Fort Worth Herd Cattle Drive. Fort Worth, 800-433-5747; fortworthstockyards.com/ attractions
Dress the part. The General Store & Trading Post is the spot for western gifts and souvenirs such as hats, jewelry, cowboy and cowgirl T-shirts, plus old-fashioned candies, chili mixes and salsas. Fort Worth, 817/625-4061; facebook.com/generalstorestockyards
Learn about women of the west. Expanding the definition of a cowgirl, our editors’ pick is the National Cowgirl Museum and Hall of Fame, where you’ll find 243 honorees ranging from writer Laura Ingles Wilder to sharpshooter Annie Oakley and even U.S. Supreme Court Justice (and Texan) Sandra Day O’Connor. Fort Worth, 817/336-2470; cowgirl.net
And prove you were there. Get your picture taken with Lonesome Longhorns, Heather Reams’ trained cattle. “You can usually find Ms. Heather outside the Cowtown Coliseum with her gentle giants,” Dee shares. “This photo op alone is worth the visit to the Stockyards.” Fort Worth, 817/300-9082; lonesomelonghorn.com
TASTE THE NATIONS
5 Restaurants and Markets for Authentic Cultural Cuisine
Genuine Italian meats, Japanese-inspired barbecue, Detroit-style pizza and more: Dallas-based Uno Immanivong—a first generation Asian American of Laotian descent, chef and owner of Red Stix Street Food, and the mom of a teenager—dishes out her favorite culinary spots.
Just Like (Her) Mom’s. “When I crave my mom’s cooking, I go here,” says Chef Uno of Nalinh Market, a restaurant inside a boutique Asian grocery store. She loves the authentic Laotian food as well as the house-made sausage, soups and sauces you can buy for home. Irving, 972/721-0444; facebook.com/nalinhmarket
Asia Central. If you are looking for good—and quick and easy—Asian food (everything from Japanese robata and chicken Thai curry satay to Chinese egg rolls), Chef Uno says her restaurant won’t disappoint. Red Stix Street Food, with one location near SMU and another coming to Farmers Branch as early as November, specializes in grilled skewers that can be added to any dish. Eat the “stix” now or freeze them for later. Dallas, 972/913-4883; redstixstreetfood.com
Italy, Texas. Hit up Jimmy’s Food Store for fresh pasta, Italian cheeses and meats, pre-made sauces, and Italian sandwiches—as good as you’ll find west of New York City. “They have a limited menu,” Chef Uno explains, “but the best part is that it is an Italian grocery store and a blast to the past when you walk in.” She recommends picking up the store’s affordable wines and making a visit to the butcher who will create any cut of meat your stomach desires. Dallas, 214/823-6180; jimmysfoodstore.com
Mediterranean Vibes. “The fresh pita is terrific,” Chef Uno declares about Sara’s Market & Bakery—a modern Mediterranean and Indo-European grocer and bakery, which uses a traditional Lebanese brick oven. “When I’m here, I pick up a Mediterranean feast.” The hummus, baba ghanouj and kabobs aren’t to be missed. Richardson, 972/437-1122; sarasmarketbakery.com
Straight out of Motown. “[Thunderbird Pies has] the best thick, buttery crust pizzas—or pies,” she shares. “It’s loaded with an absurd amount of cheese—I’m saying this in the most flattering way, of course—and high-quality meats. The Honey Bastard is my favorite.” Dallas, 469/577-1077; Fort Worth (pickup or delivery only), 817/402-0050; thunderbirdpies.com
CULTURAL CUISINE
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Do you love your kids? Of course. But do you show your kids you love them—in the right way for them? Just as couples have love languages, so do children. Here’s how to figure out your child’s language, and speak it loud and clear.
“M
AMA, MY LOVE LANGUAGE IS RECEIVING GIFTS!” squeals my 10-year-old daughter Teagan, as she holds her results out to me. “But I bet you already knew that. Because of how much I ask for Squishies when we go to Target, right, Mama?”
“Mine’s quality time. I’d say that’s pretty obvious,” says her twin brother Brylon matterof-factly. “That must be why I always want to have a Mama & Bubba Day.”
The scores they tallied come from a quiz in the book The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., and Dr. Ross Campbell—a follow-up to Chapman’s wildly successful The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, designed for couples. Most people have at least heard of “love languages,” the five distinct ways that humans are said to give and receive love: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts. While Chapman and Campbell recommend giving your children a healthy dose of each language, they suggest that there is typically one area, maybe two, that children respond to on a deeper level than others—and that focusing on those areas enables you to adequately fill their emotional cup.
LOVE EFFECTIVELY. We know we love our children, but do they know? And does it really matter how we love them? A 2019 study in the International Journal of Learning and Development showed that children who felt loved responded better to parental discipline. The research also states that children who received affection, closeness and physical interaction with their loved ones experienced better social and emotional development. In other words, by effectively ensuring that your children experience your love, you are molding them into kids who will grow into well-rounded adults. There are five languages, and identifying and practicing effective love for your chil-
dren—that is, forms of love that speak to their personal needs and desires—come down to five intertwined factors.
BE SIMPLE. You might assume receiving gifts would be the near-universal love language for children. On the contrary, attempting to make every bonding moment seem like Christmas morning can desensitize them from truly appreciating the gesture. Receiving a gift is no longer an act of love; it’s an expectation.
“Small, simple acts go a long way,” says Fort Worth mom of four Katie Crum, who notes that it’s the free things that her kids seem to respond to best, something like braiding her physicaltouch daughter’s hair. “It always comes back to how they need their cup filled, and sometimes that’s just having Mom present for them, right at that moment.”
Early childhood specialist Kristin Castillo, program director for Elite Learning in Fort Worth, says that up through age 3, your child’s love language is almost always physical touch. She notes that babies crave the feeling of warmth, comfort and being held that they experienced in the womb. By age 4, a child’s preferences typically begin to develop, and this may cause their initial, instinctual love language to change.
“We grow and develop both cognitively and emotionally at a rapid rate from birth to age 9,” explains Sarah Balint-Bravo, a licensed professional counselor supervisor and registered play therapist supervisor who owns Park Cities Child & Family Counseling in Dallas. “Just like we are constantly growing and changing [physically and cognitively], so is the way we display and experience love.”
Regardless of which language your child currently “speaks,” the gestures don’t have to be excessive. “All three of my kids love ending their day with words of affirmation,” says Laura Alotaibi, an Allen mother with 10-yearold triplets. “You wouldn’t believe the way their eyes light up, and it was just something so simple. Whispering, ‘I love how helpful
you were to the neighbors today; I’m so proud of what a kind boy you are,’ takes 20 seconds, but it means the world to him.”
“The baseline answer” for how to show our children love in a simplistic way, says Castillo, “is to be intentional. If you have one hour between school and practice, use that hour to do something with your child that you both enjoy. Sometimes it’s just staying off your phone.”
BE SPECIFIC. What one child may perceive as an act of love— say, going shopping and picking out that week’s groceries together (quality time)—another may view as a boring errand. Your child may need to hold your hand while inside the store (physical touch) to feel any kind of connection during the task.
To figure out how each of her children craved affection, Crum says she paid conscious attention to what they wanted from her. “Ruby, who speaks quality time, would ask to plan mommydaughter dates with just the two of us, while Reese—who needs words of affirmation—has always loved being praised,” Crum shares. “She would tell us at a really young age that we should tell her we loved her more, or that she likes when we acknowledge how hard she’d worked on something.”
Crum observed that her 6-yearold J.Y., who has autism, always felt love in the form of receiving gifts. “Every day since the day he could speak, he says to anyone who walks in, ‘Hi! What’dya bring me?’ Ownership is very important to autistic kids, but even without that, he’s a collector at heart,” remarks Crum, adding that J.Y. keeps items like coins or nuts that have been gifted to him in a special box. “It doesn’t have to be anything big, just a token that tells him, You were thinking of me. That’s what ‘I love you’ sounds like to him.”
BE SUSTAINABLE. Whether you have an only child or four (or more), moms are busy—so you may feel you don’t have the bandwidth to devote specific, distinct daily time to this. No matter how packed your schedule, though, intentional love can fit in. “You can accomplish your daily chores and
responsibilities and still give your children that designated time that they need,” Balint-Bravo says.
“Walking the dog, pulling weeds, cooking together—all those are opportunities to insert any of the love languages and still make sure you’re staying on schedule.” By
filling his cup by just being there and talking to him, and while I’m doing this, I’m keeping my daughter in my lap and filling hers as well.” In this way, Mears is present for her son and showing him love through his preferred language, while also satisfying her 10-month-old daughter’s need for physical touch.
“If that’s not your child’s love language, then you’re totally missing the mark.”
I ask my kids the same question after school, even if that’s all the oneon-one interaction I can manage that day. We call it the sad-mad-glad game. I ask them each for a thing that made them sad, a thing that made them mad, and something that made them glad. This gives me a glimpse into their day while also giving each some quality time. It’s something small and sustainable that I am able to practice even on our busiest nights.
BE SELF-AWARE.
combining tasks, you reduce the risk of feeling burned out later in the day, and your child still feels as if they had their special moment with you.
Additionally, the last thing you want is for intentional togetherness to feel like a burden or just another thing to check off. “If doing a certain activity with your children to demonstrate your love feels draining or exhausting, it isn’t realistically sustainable and you should avoid that activity,” notes Castillo, who goes on to suggest keeping a list of things you feel you can do consistently, and then making it a daily habit to choose at least one.
Allison Mears, a Dallas mom of two, has found it helpful to not only designate individual time with her children, but to also find ways to show both her children love simultaneously. Mears shares that her 2-year-old feels loved through quality time. “I quickly discovered that it was simply my presence, just me being in the same room,” she says. “I can be playing with him and
able. “[The mom] had to find things she could do within her own comfort zone that could convey love to her son. Kids pick up on if you’re uncomfortable,” says Balint-Bravo. “You can’t stiffen up when your child hugs you or wants you to hold them, because to them, that’s you saying that you don’t love them back.”
Parents must be self-aware enough to identify personal weaknesses or challenges to address in order to fulfill a child’s needs. The mother in BalintBravo’s example settled on massaging her son’s hand. It was a gesture that she was comfortable doing, and one that met her son’s craving for physical touch.
This is especially true if your own love language is receiving gifts. Toys, electronics and experiences like museum memberships can get very costly, very quickly. If your child’s love language isn’t receiving gifts, you can take your child on a full-on shopping spree and they could still end up feeling like they never really connected with you. Similarly, if your own love language is quality time and your child’s is words of affirmation, make sure you are including encouraging words during your time together. “You can spend the entire day running errands and sharing conversation, but did you shower your words-ofaffirmation-child with praise and compliments?” Balint-Bravo asks. “Just because giving quality time is how you feel comfortable showing love, doesn’t mean that it’s what makes your child feel loved … If that’s not your child’s love language, then you’re totally missing the mark.”
Balint-Bravo points to a situation she encountered with a child. The child’s love language was physical touch, but that made the parent (whose love language was words of affirmation) uncomfort-
Whatever your child’s language, keep in mind that they don’t necessarily grow out of their appreciation for certain acts of love. My twins started fifth grade this year at a new school, and as I was packing their lunch for their first day, I decided to leave out my usual lunchbox love note. Attending a new school is a difficult enough transition, and I figured that since they were the big dogs on campus, a napkin note signed “Love, Mommy” might be embarrassing at a time when it was so important for them to feel like they fit in. When they got home from school, I asked how their day was. All good for my son, but my daughter exhaled slowly and replied, “It was OK.” I asked if something had happened that was bothering her, and after some hesitation, she answered, “It’s just that… I don’t want to embarrass you, but… I think you forgot to include my note in my lunch today.” Embarrassed is right! Had I familiarized myself with her love language sooner, I would have known that, of course, my daughter needed that gift in her lunchbox to feel loved throughout her day. (And you can bet that every packed lunch gets a note from now until graduation!)
BE PROACTIVE. Identifying love languages isn’t always so obvious. Castillo says that while it’s unfortunate that so many feel lost or confused on how to connect with their children, it’s not necessarily a parent’s fault. “Today’s society doesn’t put a big enough emphasis
on establishing that foundation,” she posits. “If it did, so many parents would know how easy it is to show your children you love them using instinct and intention.”
“Knowing [your kids’] love languages is not just about saying ‘I love you.’ It helps you positively affect and influence your children,” says Alotaibi. “I think it helps you become a better parent. I know it did for me.”
Love Notes
There are online, literary and in-person resources that can help you identify your child’s love language and use it to deepen your bond.
TESTING, TESTING …
Author Gary Chapman’s website, 5 LOVE LANGUAGES, provides a test you can take for your child. The quiz is geared to age 9 and up; for younger kids, the site will provide a drawing exercise as well as literary resources for parents and kids. The website’s page for The 5 Love Languages of Children also offers a love languages “mystery game” that kids can do on their own.
The 5 Love Languages of Children, by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., and Dr. Ross Campbell, is designed to help you identify your child’s language and use it in a variety of ways, including more effective discipline and methods of learning.
Campbell, the co-author of the children’s love languages book, also wrote How To Really Love Your Child. This book explains children’s emotional needs and imparts skills and techniques to help your child feel fully loved and accepted.
Loving Every Child: Wisdom for Parents contains passages from the writings of Janusz Korczak, a 19th-century educator and child advocate. Korczak believed that understanding children is the key to taking care of them.
CLASS ACT
THE PARENTING CENTER in Fort Worth offers classes for the whole family, with the goal “to help you better navigate your familial and parent-child relationship(s)” through provided parent coaching and education. The Parenting Center, Fort Worth, 817/332-6348; theparentingcenter.org
POSITIVE INFLUENCES in Dallas offers a single-day Intensive Parenting Class that condenses 7–8 weeks of curriculum into one 8-hour session. Positive Influences, Dallas, 469/227-7847; positiveinfluences.org
For a faith-based option, check out the parenting classes at 316 COUNSELING CENTER in Collin County. There’s also parent counseling and play therapy. 316 Counseling Center, Allen, 469/631-0369; 316counselingcenter.org
BOARDING SCHOOL GUIDE
Boarding school might be considered unconventional for some parents but leaving the nest sooner has its long-term benefits. From financial aid that precedes many private day schools to smaller class sizes and more time to explore electives, eliminating some of the stress in everyday life could help nurture a more well-adjusted child. If boarding school is something your family is considering, let our guide be your starting point.
Doing Everything Right For Boys!
Salisbury is designed for boys to succeed in a place where tradition matters. Providing opportunities for one-on-one learning with an emphasis on building character. For more than 100 years Salisbury has been developing champions in the classroom and on the field.
Learn more about our first-class academic and athletic programs by visiting: salisburyschool.org 860-435-5732
Nothing to fear Nothing to Fear
HOW TO EASE YOUR KIDS’ DENTAL ANXIETIES
WORDS ELIZABETH SMITH
WHILE PORING OVER THE NOMINATING COMMENTS from our recent Mom Approved survey, we noticed a common theme among the parents who gushed over their dentists and orthodontists: their kids no longer fear the dentist or dental treatment.
Consistent dental care at an early age is imperative in setting up your kids for a lifetime of healthy habits, so we wanted to examine where the scaries come from, what parents can do calm their kids’ anxieties, and what both you and your dentist can do to ensure the best possible appointment.
For an expert’s advice, we reached out to Dr. Rita Cammarata, DDS, past president of the Texas Dental Association and owner of Cammarata Pediatric Dentistry Group in Houston.
DFWCHILD : WHY IS IT THAT SOME KIDS FEAR GOING TO THE DENTIST IN THE FIRST PLACE?
DR. RITA CAMMARATA, DDS: Previous unfavorable experiences at another medical or dental office can trigger this fear, as can dental “stories” from their older siblings or friends. As pediatric dentists, [we] are trained to set children up for success at their dental visits. Colorful, child-friendly offices with videos to watch, video games to
play, and lots of toys and stuffed animals tend to make for a fun, exciting visit to the dentist. Our patients are comfortable in our office’s atmosphere because it is designed with them in mind from the start. We strive to make their visit fun, with the actual exam or treatment being as uneventful as possible.
C : HOW CAN PARENTS HELP CALM THEIR CHILD’S ANXIETY BEFORE EVEN GOING TO THE APPOINTMENT?
DRC: First thing for parents to know is their demeanor while in the office will affect their child, so be positive before the appointment while at home and during the appointment. Prepping the child beforehand on what to expect while in the office can be done by going on the website and seeing pictures of the office. There is a variety of children’s books for them to read or have read to them. Planning a treat to look forward to after the visit can always be helpful. That can be a toy or a visit to the park.
C : HOW CAN PARENTS BE MINDFUL NOT TO TRANSFER THEIR OWN FEARS AND ANXIETIES ONTO THEIR CHILD?
DRC: I think this is the most important part: The parent must be positive about the visit. Don’t let your fear or anxiety show through. Be mindful of your demeanor, and don’t speak of your fears with others while the child is within earshot. They pick up and understand more than we think they do.
C : WHAT SHOULD PARENTS KEEP IN MIND WHEN SCHEDULING THEIR CHILD’S APPOINTMENT?
DRC: Make the appointment for a day and time when the child will be at their best. If there was a big event at school and you pulled the child out, they may be upset and not in the best of moods for the appointment. For younger children, avoid snack time or naptime. Younger kids do better in the early morning.
C : ANY ADVICE FOR FOSTERING HEALTHY HABITS AT HOME?
DRC: There are three steps to keeping your child’s mouth clean and avoiding cavities:
1) The parent should brush the child’s teeth [until children are old enough to do so on their own, typically around age 7] at least twice a day with fluoride toothpaste and do it effectively.
2) Floss once a day and clean each side of the tooth effectively.
3) Avoid sugars and simple carbs (they are cavity makers) and brush afterwards.
C : WHAT ARE SOME TIPS FOR KEEPING KIDS’ TEETH HEALTHY DURING HALLOWEEN?
DRC: We can’t avoid Halloween so let’s enjoy the night, but don’t let it linger. Remember, when it comes to sweets, the number of exposures to sugars is more important than the amount at each sitting, so you are better off having several pieces of candy at once than several small amounts during the day.
WHAT DOES MOM APPROVED MEAN? READ ON TO FIND OUT. ➜
Method to our mad-ness method to our mad-ness
The Methodology for our Mom Approved Surveys
OUR LOYAL READERS KNOW THE DRILL: Every year we send out a survey asking moms (and dads, grandparents and guardians) to nominate their favorite dentists and orthodontists. Why? Because in an area as large as Dallas-Fort Worth, finding a healthcare practitioner you can trust and connect with long-term can be a daunting task. So, we rely
on you to tell us not only who your family’s favorite doctors are but why you recommend them to other moms. Plus, to keep everyone honest, we do not consider nominations from doctors’ coworkers or family members—just moms like you who are purely motivated to brag on the healthcare practitioners who’ve made a positive difference in their lives.
Before these docs reach our final cut, though, we comb through the details to ensure everything’s above board—specifically, we consult the Texas State Board of Dental Examiners. All of the dentists and orthodontists you’ll see in the following pages are good standing with valid, squeaky-clean licenses (meaning no records of disciplinary action).
BRIDGING THE GAP
We’ve organized the dentists and orthodontists by city—so if you’re in a pinch, you can quickly find the one closest to you. But we have much more information in our MOM APPROVED DIRECTORY at dfwchild.com/momapproved Visit us online to find contact information for each office, to put a face with the name, and to read more comments about why parents—and their kids—love their dentist or orthodontist.
Mom Approved
DENTISTS
Nguyen, Cung (Jeff) DDS
Henderson Family Dental
FAMILY DENTISTRY
ALLEN
Baranovitch, Svetlana DDS
Bio Dental
Toney, David DDS
David Toney DDS Family & Cosmetic Dentistry
CARROLLTON
Hattaway, Shad DDS, FAGD
Indian Creek Dental
COLLEYVILLE
Limosnero, Ronald DDS
Heritage Family Dentist
Metzger, Keith DDS
Metzger Dentistry
DALLAS
Davies, Jeff DDS
Dallas Designer Smiles
Martinez, Jayme DDS
Kessler Park Dental
Navarro, Sergio DDS
Sergio Navarro, DDS
Ombrello, Jill DDS, AIAOMT Central Dentist
Rad, Jay DDS
Custom Dental of Carrollton
Vanderbrook, Drew DDS Vanderbrook Family Dentistry
EULESS
Allen, Jennifer DDS
Trail Creek Dental
FLOWER MOUND
Kim, Stephen DDS
Genesis Dental
FORT WORTH
Cook, William DDS Cook & Cordell
Laska, Justyna DDS, PC
Justyna Laska DDS PC
FRISCO
Lee, Clyde DDS
Lee Dental
GARLAND
Musso, Mark DDS
Musso Family Dentistry
GRAPEVINE
Solis, Michael DDS Grapevine Family Dentistry
KELLER
Casey, Tim DDS
Timber Creek Dental
LEWISVILLE
Chang, Lin DDS
101 Dental and Orthodontics
MURPHY
Glazer, Brittaney L. DDS
Glazer Family Dentistry
See ad on page 34
PLANO
Stelly, Julie DDS
Stelly Family Dentistry
RICHARDSON
Bunch, Marcie DDS
West Shore Family Dental
Prewitt, Regan DDS
Prewitt Dental Group
ROCKWALL
Hittson, Suzanne DDS
Hittson Dental
SOUTHLAKE
Sohn, Paige DDS, MAGD Sohn Dental
Thorpe, Richard DDS, PA
Thorpe Family Dentistry
ORAL & MAXILLOFACIAL SURGERY
DALLAS
Schlieve, Thomas DDS, MD, FACS
UT Southwestern Medical Center, Oral & Maxillofacial Surgery
See ad on page 35
ORTHODONTICS
ALLEN
Ghosh, Jay DDS, MS Creekview Orthodontics
Lofgren, Trent DDS Creekview Orthodontics
ARLINGTON
Alexander, J. Moody DDS, MS Drs. Alexander Orthodontics
CARROLLTON
Lewis, Rodney DDS
Children’s Dental Specialists
COLLEYVILLE
Chow, Jose DDS
Jose G. Chow Orthodontics
COPPELL
Henao, Anabella DDS Bliss Orthodontics
DALLAS
Arango, Luis DDS
Office of Dr. Sandra M. Petrocchi and Dr. Luis M. Arango
Ellis, Christine DDS, MSD Ellis Orthodontics
FORT WORTH
Bekish, Daniel DMD, MS Bekish Orthodontics
FRISCO
Greenberg, Greg DDS
RxSmile Orthodontics
MCKINNEY
Ghosh, Jay DDS, MS McKinney Orthodontics
Lofgren, Trent DDS McKinney Orthodontics
MURPHY
Fesler, Michael DDS, MS Fesler Orthodontics
NORTH RICHLAND HILLS
Delgado, Michael J. DDS, MS Delgado Orthodontics
See ad on page 33
PLANO
Goldreich, Hilton DDS, MS, PA Goldreich Orthodontics
Jones, Tamara DDS, MSD Willow Bend Orthodontics
RICHARDSON
Jones, Tamara DDS, MSD Richardson Orthodontics
Lewis, Rodney DDS Children’s Dental Specialists
ROCKWALL
Shaw, Douglas DDS Shaw Orthodontics
WATAUGA
Shaw, Douglas DDS Shaw Orthodontics
PEDIATRIC DENTISTRY
ALLEN
Hunter, Jessie DDS
Allen Pediatric Dentistry
See ad on page 34
ARLINGTON
Chahine, Elias DMD iKids Pedatric Dentistry & Orthodontics
Ferguson, Stephanie DDS Park Place Pediatric Dentistry & Orthodontics
Ketchel, Jennifer DDS, MS Arlington Pediatric Dentistry
AUBREY
Lee, Karrie DMD WindHaven Pediatric Dentistry
BARTONVILLE
Romney, Nathan DDS
Romney Pediatric Dentistry
CARROLLTON
Train, Terri E. DDS, MS
Children’s Dental Specialists
CEDAR HILL
Martin, Ashla DDS
Kids@Heart Pediatric Dentistry
COLLEYVILLE
Ta, Tuong (David) DDS
Pediatric Dentistry of Colleyville
COPPELL
Louca, Sonia G. DDS
Coppell Dentistry for Kids
See ad on page 35
Rozas, Melissa DDS
Melissa Rozas DDS & Associates
See ad on page 32
CORINTH
Yamoah, Albert DDS
Lake Cities Pediatric Dentistry & Orthodontics
DALLAS
Bushey, Nicholas DMD
Children’s Dental & Orthodontics
See ad on page 31
Colter, J. Diane DDS
All About Kids Dentistry
See ad on page 31
Curtis, Ben DDS
Children’s Dentistry of North Dallas
Damon, Carla DDS
Beyond Pediatric Dentistry
See ad on page 34
Goodall, E. Blair DDS
Office of Dr. Sandra M.
Petrocchi and Dr. Luis M. Arango
Harrington, Erik DDS, PhD
Preston Hollow Specialists
The Dental Ranch
See ad on page 30
Holly, Lara DMD
Children’s Dentistry of North Dallas
Kainthla, Priyanka DDS, MS
Children’s Dental Care
King, Silvia DDS
Just Kids Dental
Kogut, Mark DDS, MSD myKIDSdds
Lee, Yosuk DMD
The Dental Ranch
See ad on page 30
Lindley, Anne DDS
Preston Hollow Specialists
The Dental Ranch
See ad on page 30
Marr, Karina DDS
Pediatric Dental Care at Casa Linda
Nahatis, Loria DDS
Beyond Pediatric Dentistry
See ad on page 34
Norbo, Kathryn DDS
Woodhill Dental Specialties
See ad on page 34
Petrocchi, Sandra DDS
Office of Dr. Sandra M. Petrocchi and Dr. Luis M. Arango
Ryan, Patrick J. DDS
Grin Pediatric Dentistry
Shanadi, Arvind DMD
Smile Safari Pediatric Dentistry
Tujios, Aleco E. DDS, MS
Woodhill Dental Specialties
See ad on page 34
FLOWER MOUND
Duffy, Debra DDS, PA
Debra C. Duffy DDS
Pediatric & Adolescent Dentistry
FORT WORTH
Barnett, John DDS Kids Stop Dental
Indiramohan, Aishwarya DDS
Preece, Church & Associates Pediatric Dentistry
Jamison, Drew DDS Fort Worth Children’s Dentistry
Morrow, Jack DDS, MSD Fort Worth Children’s Dentistry
Train, Terri E. DDS, MS Children’s Dental Specialists
ROCKWALL
Field, Paul DDS
Shoreline Pediatric Dentistry
Norbo, Kathryn DDS
Woodhill Dental Specialties
See ad on page 34
Tujios, Aleco E. DDS, MS Woodhill Dental Specialties
See ad on page 34
ROWLETT
Pollock, Tera DDS
Rowlett Dental Kids
SAGINAW
Chahine, Elias DMD
Saginaw Kids Dentistry
Huynh, Christina DDS
Saginaw Kids Dentistry
Preece, Stan DDS
Preece, Church & Associates
Pediatric Dentistry
SOUTHLAKE
Watts, Amy DDS, MS
Giggles & Grins Pediatric Dentistry
SUNNYVALE
Preece, Anya DDS, PSM
Tiny Teeth Pediatric Dentistry
THE COLONY
Yu, Jocelyn DDS
The Colony Pediatric and Adolescent Dentistry
TERRELL
Harrington, Erik DDS, PhD
Texas Dentistry for Kids
See ad on page 30
Lee, Yosuk DMD
Texas Dentistry for Kids
The Dental Ranch
See ad on page 30
Lindley, Anne DDS
Texas Dentistry for Kids
See ad on page 30
WAXAHACHIE
Aliefendic, Armin DDS
Just for Kids Dental
WYLIE
Kresevic, Valeria DDS
Angel Smile Pediatric Dentistry
To see all our Mom Approved health providers, visit our newly revamped online directory at dfwchild. com/momapproved
You’ll find an interactive map showing which providers are closest to you as well as comments from the local parents who nominated them.
Erik Harrington, DDS, PhD;
Yosuk Lee, DMD & Anne Lindley, DDS
Pediatric Dentistry
10x Mom Approved
How often do you get the chance to make a difference in someone’s life? For us, it happens every day… several times a day. Working with children and their parents has given us the opportunity of a lifetime, and we are eternally grateful for it. One might imagine, given the multitude of patients we see, that complacency or a sense of routine sets in. Nope.
Every encounter is a new conversation. Every encounter is a chance to understand better what is important in this healthcare relationship. We believe the Mouth is a Window to the Body. We believe every conversation is a window into what works best, for the individual and within their unique family dynamic.
Heraclitus once said that “no person ever enters the same river twice, for it is not the same river, and it is not the same person.” This holds
true for our experience. Children grow into young adults, parents show up differently given the joys and challenges of parenthood. We meet our pediatric patients, parents, and families right where they are… in front of us. And to meet this challenge we think we have the best doctors.
Drs. Lindley, Harrington, and Lee trained through Fellowships at Baylor, Children’s Health, and Scottish Rite Hospital for Children, arguably one of the best pediatric dental residency programs in the nation. All doctors maintain privileges at Children’s Health. Dr. Harrington currently sits on the credentialling committee at Children’s Health. Additionally, Dr. Lindley was awarded the Richard C. Pugh Award, given to doctors who score in the top 3% of the nation on their board certification exam. Way to go Dr. Lindley!
Dr. Lee lives in Frisco with his wife and two boys. In addition to being a great pediatric dentist, Dr. Lee served his country as a Lieutenant Colonel in the US Army for 12 years. We appreciate your sacrifice and courage Dr. Lee. The Dental Ranch is a special place as are its surgeons. We treat the most interesting, sometimes complicated cases in Dallas. Patients are referred from across the state and from fellow pediatric dentists to tackle some of the most challenging cases. Yet, the biggest impact often comes from the simple cleaning appointment where the child finally feels the trust, and then the feeling of relief from the parent that they have found the place.
All relationships are based on trust. Trust is found within the quality of the conversation. Drs. Lindley, Harrington, and Lee look forward to that conversation with you.
Nicholas Bushey, DMD
Pediatric Dentistry
3x Mom Approved
Your child deserves a smile they cherish for a lifetime, we are here to make that happen. We are a leading children’s dental practice serving patients throughout the greater Dallas areas. We believe that creating a beautiful, healthy smile should be easy, convenient, and downright fun! Dr. Nicholas Bushey and our experienced dental team are committed to creating a world-class treatment experience for your child.
After obtaining his undergraduate bachelor’s degree, Dr. Bushey was awarded the coveted 4-year Health Professional Scholarship for dental school. Dr. Bushey went on to earn his Doctorate of Dental Medicine (DMD) from the University of Pittsburgh School of Dental Medicine, Pennsylvania and later served as a general dentist officer for 5 years in the Air Force.
Following his service in the Air Force, Dr. Bushey discovered a passion for pediatric dentistry and went on to complete his pediatric dentistry specialty training at the University of Texas Health Science Center of San Antonio and Children’s Hospital of San Antonio. He spends his free time trying new restaurants, traveling, running, video games and playing with his dogs, Benny and Copper.
Dr. Bushey looks forward to helping each child that enters our doors.
Dr. Diane Colter’s passion to be the most caring and compassionate pediatric dentist led her to open All About Kids Dentistry, which specializes in treating infants, children, teens and kids with special needs. She loves working with children and has a very caring and compassionate personality. It is of utmost importance to provide outstanding care along with an inviting atmosphere where both the parent and child will have a positive experience.
Dr. Colter grew up in Athens, Texas. She completed her degree from Baylor College of Dentistry, where she graduated in the top of her class. She completed a Residency in Pediatric Dentistry at the University of California Medical Center in Los Angeles, serving as chief resident.
Dr. Colter is a board-certified pediatric dentist recognized as a Diplomate of the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry. She also holds a staff appointment at Children’s Medical Center. Dr. Colter is a member of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, American Dental Association, Texas Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, Texas Dental Association and Dallas County Dental Society. Dr. Colter has also been recognized many times by her fellow dental professionals as a top pediatric dentist in the area as published in D Magazine D Best and Texas Monthly’s Super Dentists
Away from the office, Dr. Colter enjoys spending time with her husband, Dr. Shandon Colter, their beautiful children, Sydney and Landon. Dr. Colter also enjoys traveling, and time spent with friends and family.
All About Kids Dentistry
12300 Inwood Rd., Ste. 110, Dallas, TX 75244
972-233-4439
allaboutkidsdentist.com
Melissa Rozas, DDS
Pediatric Dentistry
9x Mom Approved
Dr. Melissa Rozas, a mom herself, knows the importance of making children feel comfortable, safe, and confident in the dental office. She is passionate about creating a positive experience that is not only educational but also, informative and fun! “Clear communication, trust, and setting goals with parents and their children is our mission, and we mix in a ton of fun as well!”
Our pediatric dentists and team love seeing patients as infants or by age 1 year. “Seeing babies early in life allows us the ability to teach parents the best way to take care of their child’s mouth and teeth. In addition, we can evaluate for potential problems such as tongue posture, tongue and lip-ties, speech problems and feeding issues.” She says, “there is new research showing how early diagnosis and treatment with many of these problems, is key to giving children the ability to grow to their full potential and thrive at home and school.”
Dr. Melissa Rozas is board certified by the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry and she is a Fellow in the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry. She is an active member of the American Dental Society, Texas Dental Association, The Greater Dallas Pediatric Dental Society, the Academy Laser Study Club, and the International Affiliation of Tongue-Tie Professionals.
Melissa Rozas, DDS Dentistry for Infants, Children & Teens, PA 632 E. Sandy Lake Rd., Coppell, TX, 75019 972-393-9779 • info@rozasdds.com rozasdds.com
Justin Warcup, DDS
Pediatric Dentistry
Justin Warcup, DDS, is the owner of North Texas Smiles Pediatric Dentistry Dr. Warcup earned a doctor of dental surgery (DDS) degree at Ohio State University (OSU), where he also was on the dean’s list, served as president of the OSU Dental Entrepreneur Society, and co-founded OSU’s La Clinica Latina to provide dental care to an underserved community.
Dr. Warcup is a member of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, American Dental Association, Academy of Laser Dentistry, Texas Dental Association, Texas Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, and Fort Worth District Dental Society.
Dr. Warcup and his wife have four children. When he is not in the office helping patients or at home enjoying his family, Dr. Warcup serves in leadership capacities with youth groups in the community—where he coaches sports teams, leads scouting groups.
At North Texas Smiles Pediatric Dentistry and Orthodontics, every member of The Smile Team aims to help our patients enjoy their trips to the dentist so much that they look forward to the next visit! We recognize that each patient is special and invaluable, and we celebrate them. I consider it both an honor and a privilege to provide Fort Worth’s youth the highest quality dental care in the best possible environment,” says Dr. Warcup. “I love what I do, and I truly believe I have the greatest job on this earth.”
North Texas Smiles
Pediatric Dentistry and Orthodontics
3550-C Hulen St., Fort Worth, TX 76107 817-732-9341 • northtexassmiles.com
Dentistry for Infants, Children & Teens, P.A.
Arthur E. Williams, DDS
Pediatric Dentistry
2x Mom Approved
Dr. Arthur E. Williams has worked at Kids Stop Dental for the past 10 years as a pediatric dentist. He was in private practice in Detroit, Michigan, from 1985 to 2009. Dr. Williams moved to Texas in 2009 and as employed with Monarch Dental as a pediatric dentist.
Born in West Palm Beach, Florida, Dr. Williams attended Howard University in Washington, D.C., where he earned a B.S. degree in Microbiology, and a D.D.S. degree from Howard University College of Dentistry. His Speciality Certificate in Pediatric Dentistry was accomplished at New Jersey Dental School, now known as Rutgers School of Dentistry, located in Newark, New Jersey.
Dr. Williams loves children and has the philosophy of treating his patients the way he would want his own children to be treated. He endeavors to create an opportunity for a personalized experience for every patient in a competent, and professional dental environment.
He is a lifetime member of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry. While proud of his membership at Faith4Life Church, Dallas, he is an avid collector of vinyl albums and compacts discs. He enjoys his vast music collection with his lovely wife Judy, and they reside in Grand Prairie, Texas.
Kids Stop Dental 6222 Hulen Bend Blvd. Fort Worth, TX 76132 817-546-3335
kidsstopdentistry.com
Mila Davis, DDS
Pediatric Dentistry
7x Mom Approved
Dr. Mila Davis is a cum laude graduate of Princeton University. She received her D.D.S. from Columbia School of Dental Medicine in New York City, with specialty training at New York Presbyterian Hospital, Columbia University receiving Certification in Pediatric Dentistry. She was an Assistant Professor for Clinical Dentistry at Columbia University. In Dallas, Dr. Davis taught part time at Baylor College of Dentistry. After rigorous clinical and written examination, she was awarded Diplomate of the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry.
Dr. Davis has hospital privileges at Children’s Medical Center. She was co-chair of the North Texas Give Kids a Smile Program where dental members volunteer to screen underserved children 5–12 years old for dental decay. Dr. Davis is certified in basic life support and pediatric advanced life support. She is a member of the American Dental Association, American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, and Greater Dallas Pediatric Dental Society.
Michael
J.
Healthy Smiles Children’s Dentistry
12398 FM 423, Ste. 1900 Frisco, TX 75033 214-436-4774 healthychildrenssmiles.com
Delgado, DDS, MS
Orthodontics
9x Mom Approved
Dr. Michael Delgado believes that healthy, improved smiles can inspire confidence and change lives. His dedication and passion for orthodontics leads to personalized care and successful results for children and adults. Dr. Delgado grew up in the DFW area and has created beautiful smiles here for 15+ years. His favorite part of being an Orthodontist is that exciting moment when a patient sees their new smile for the first time.
Delgado Orthodontics
9293 Huntington Square, North Richland Hills, TX 76182 817-282-1821 • delgadoorthodontics.com
Brittaney L. Glazer, DDS
Family Dentistry
4x Mom Approved
“One Doctor. One Office. Your Whole Family” is our motto and we mean it! Dr. Brittaney Glazer is the only dentist you’ll see at Glazer Family Dentistry and we believe that makes all the difference. Her team provides specialized personal care that you cannot always find at a larger dental practice.
In 2018, 2019, 2020 and 2021 we were voted “Best Dentist” by the Murphy Monitor, and a 2019, 2020 and 2021 “Neighborhood Favorite” by Nextdoor.com. Read our reviews and come meet us!
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A SLOW BOND
Motherhood may not come with the rush of emotions we’re conditioned to expect.
WITHIN HOURS OF GIVING BIRTH to my daughter Genevieve, I took to Facebook to announce her arrival. The post read, “So in love.” It was a lie I felt obligated to tell. The truth? How could I be in love? I barely knew her.
To be sure, my pregnancy was planned and I anxiously anticipated her arrival, but I never felt the bond that books, websites and doctors told me would start while my baby was in the womb. I tried. I rubbed my growing belly and occasionally talked, even sang to her as I had been instructed. But truth be told, I felt more meh about beginning some sort of relationship with someone I had yet to meet.
WORDS WENDY MANWARREN GENERES
When Genevieve was born, I wanted to protect and care for her but more out of a sense of responsibility—like nurturing a new puppy or a sick dog—than maternal instinct.
Other moms urged me to relish the newborn stage because it goes by so fast, but I hated those early days. Genevieve and I struggled with breastfeeding. A lot. Experts say that by six weeks, breastfeeding should be a breeze. My baby wasn’t even three weeks old at that point. They may as well have told me that things would get easier when she was 17, because three more weeks of what I was experiencing felt like a lifetime.
The same way I wanted my golden retriever to quickly master potty training, I wanted Genevieve to figure out nursing. I did what I was supposed to (fed her, changed her and cuddled her) but I didn’t feel like I was bonding with her. I wasn’t soaking in her newborn smells and trying to commit to memory the sounds she made when she slept. No. I was doing my job as her mom and counting the days until my baby was beyond this horrible newborn stage.
But I didn’t dare utter these thoughts and feelings out loud. I didn’t want to be judged by my mom, my in-laws or friends. I felt like a horrible mother. Was I missing the mothering gene?
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mom I wanted to be,” she says. Belanger’s husband and mom eventually intervened and advised her to get help from a PPD specialist. “I stopped judging myself, stopped isolating myself and started being better to myself—and a better mom to my daughter,” she shares.
But new moms aren’t the only ones who experience negative feelings toward their children. Rayl notes that it’s very common to get annoyed with children, even fantasize about life without them. But feelings like, What have I done? I miss my old life, and I can’t stand my kids, leave us feeling ashamed and awful.
FELT LIKE A HORRIBLE MOTHER. WAS I MISSING THE MOTHERING GENE?
According to Cheryl Rayl, a therapist with Grace Counseling in Lewisville, research shows that roughly 20 to 30 percent of new moms lack an immediate emotional attachment to their newborn.
“It takes a lot of energy for our bodies to heal after giving birth and for our minds to adjust to the physical changes we’ve experienced,” says Paula Miller, a licensed professional counselor offering virtual therapy throughout Texas. “Having ambivalent thoughts about being a mom is completely normal, because those feelings do pass and become a distant memory— kind of like the pain of childbirth.”
Of course, if that feeling doesn’t go away, you may be suffering from postpartum depression (PPD) or clinical depression. Caroline Belanger, a Dallas mom to 3-year-old Fleur, bonded with her baby quickly but carried a tremendous amount of anxiety about being a good mom. Belanger cried a lot and couldn’t seem to shake the sick-to-her-stomach feeling. “Because of it, I wasn’t being the
Kelly Love, mom to two boys, Brady, 5, and Trent, 3, feels super guilty when she doesn’t love or sometimes even like her kids. “After a long day at work, I just need a little down time, but I have two little dudes who need attention—and sometimes discipline— and there are days when I am not in the mood to handle either scenario,” the Coppell mom confides. She’s entertained the thought, What would my life be like without kids? because it would be so much easier; and she admits that she hates thinking like that. But instead of running for the border, she plans mini escapes, taking advantage of occasional after-work happy hours and dinners to wind down and skip the dinner-bath-bedtime routine at home.
“I wish I could be the ever-loving mom, who always gives kisses and hugs and wants to do everything to make her child happy,” Love says. “But I think it’s better to admit my weaknesses, that I sometimes can’t handle my kids and the stress, that I am not always the best mom or that sometimes I wish they weren’t around for a while.”
Miller explains that negative thoughts about kids and the fantasies we have about life without kids is our mind’s way of relieving the overwhelming pressures of motherhood—like venting. But when our thoughts go this way, “we feel shame and label ourselves bad mothers,” she affirms. Love can attest to that. As a working mom, she feels guilty even when she’s with her kids about the quality of the time. “On weekends, instead of playing or working on something educational together, I bring them along on all the errands I need to get done before the next week begins,” she says. “I feel like I’m always running around and
cutting corners as a mom, which then gets me worked up and I stress about all the things I think I mess up as a mom.”
Beating ourselves up takes so much energy. I spent a lot of time crying about my insecurities as a new mom. I read way too much on the internet, and in my sleep-deprived state, I convinced myself that I wasn’t doing enough, giving enough or being enough to my newborn baby.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we put this kind of pressure on ourselves?
“We live in a culture where society thinks we either do too much for our kids or we aren’t involved enough,” says Theresa Kellam, Ph.D., of Luma Psychology in Fort Worth. These cultural taboos, coupled with what we see and read in the media—thanks to blogs, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest—mold the standards by which we hold ourselves, and we have this internal drive for perfection. “We feel guilty when we don’t meet these unrealistic, unattainable expectations, and we’re left feeling forever inadequate,” Kellam explains.
It’s never been easier to find examples of what raising a child “should” look like. The media is filled with aspirational (and mostly unrealistic) pictures. Dallas mom Amanda Roberts, who has a 16-month-old son named
Carter, blames virtual peer pressure for the self-inflicted mom competition she’s unintentionally entered. Her son was the last in his daycare class to crawl and walk, both completely normal according to his pediatrician.
“But I find myself scrolling through my Facebook feed, watching friends’ babies reach developmental milestones way before Carter, and it makes me question my parenting, like I’m not challenging him enough, not engaging him correctly,” she laments.
The guilt we tend to carry as moms—for whatever reason—is normal but can be overwhelming and emotionally exhausting. It’s time we remove these feelings of inadequacy so that mothering doesn’t become a long exercise in never measuring up. To do so, we have to forgive our faults and actually take care of ourselves first.
Mental health experts agree that we have to embrace our shortcomings as moms (we all have them) and refocus our energy to help shed the mother lode of self-doubt we sometimes feel. Here are some healthy practices they recommend for moms at every stage.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER MOTHERS
Not an easy thing to do. Laura Elpers, a marriage and family therapist with Insights
Collaborative Therapy Group in Dallas, says that you have to change your relationship with what you hear and see. Remind yourself that what you witness on the internet is not necessarily reality. Don’t we feature our proudest mom moments? Most of us don’t post when the kids are fighting and we’re feeling defeated by motherhood. No, we post the fun family baseball game and the perfect day at the beach.
“Remember that parenting is not a onesize-fits-all program and that what works for one family might not work for yours,” Elpers explains. “It’s hard to do, but practice celebrating other moms’ victories.” Give that mom who spent the day crafting with the kids a genuine like. Or share heartfelt praise with the mom making meals from scratch.
TAKE TIME TO RELISH IN YOUR MOMENTS TOO
We’re all guilty of snapping pictures of the kids with our smartphones so we can instantly share the story with our social media network. “Don’t take photos just to show off what you were able to squeeze into the schedule today,” Elpers advises. “Snap a photo to capture a great moment with your kids and don’t share it with a soul.” OK, maybe email or text it to Daddy and Grandma.
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LOWER THE BAR
Stop holding yourself to a standard of perfection. If we really take a look at the standards we’re holding ourselves accountable for, we’ll likely realize that we’re basing our standards on society’s expectations and not our own. “Get clear about what it means to you to be a good mom,” Miller suggests. “If giving your kids more of your time is what’s important to you, then dishes, laundry and a clean house may not be.”
REPLACE THE SHOULDS IN YOUR VOCABULARY WITH COULDS
Doing so removes the judgment and gives you
BE HONEST
“It’s hard to be vulnerable and weak,” Miller explains. “So it’s important to find an outlet where you can truthfully discuss the hard stuff and not feel like you’re being judged.” That support comes in different forms. Maybe it’s your best friend, maybe it’s your mom, maybe it’s a professional or maybe it’s a bunch of strangers in an online community dealing with similar issues.
“IN ORDER TO BE THE BEST POSSIBLE MOM, YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
I mentioned that breastfeeding was hard for me at first. Really, really hard. I felt so alone in my
gies that worked for them. It was such a sanity saver. It normalized what I was experiencing.
FIND SUPPORT GROUPS
Communities offer groups where educators, social workers or mental health professionals lead discussions and offer advice and reassurance. Check your kids’ schools, parenting centers, places of worship, nearby universities, even local government agencies to find groups in your area. See our sidebar for more information.
TAKE A TIME-OUT.
Rayl gives this example: “On an airplane, flight attendants tell you to put your oxygen mask on before putting one on your child,” she says. “In order to be the best possible mom, you have to take care of yourself first.”
But Roberts feels guilty when she needs a break from her son. “It’s hard to admit that Carter gets on my nerves and that I would
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doesn’t involve the kids—at least once a week, advises Rayl. “Mothers who don’t take care of themselves and let their worlds revolve around children lose their identity,” she warns. “Then all those motherhood insecurities are exacerbated because they don’t have an outlet.” Mentally, we all need a break and time to refuel. “You need to prioritize this time,” Rayl urges. “Get up an hour earlier or stay up an hour later to carve out your time.”
Holly Mason owns MasonBaronet, a marketing firm in Dallas, and has a daughter, Mia, 11. The working mom knows that committing time to herself, her spouse and her friends makes her a better mom. “As much as I want my daughter to feel like she’s the most important thing in my life, I want her to see me as a role model and that to create a positive life-work-family balance, you have to dedicate time to all important aspects of your life,” Mason says.
BE PRESENT
Turning off distractions and minimizing the multitasking when you’re with your kids is easier said than done. Believe me. I know. But sit and indulge in child-led play at least once a week. Make a conscious effort to put the
“Practice living in the moment and not thinking about the future,” Miller suggests. If the house is a mess, for instance, stop mentally preparing your cleaning to-do list while you’re playing Barbie or Legos with the kids. “Thinking even 10 minutes into the future prevents you from being present, can raise your anxiety level and, in turn, make you feel guilty,” she says. You’re supposed to be spending quality time with your child, but in your head you’re vacuuming baseboards instead.
KNOW WHEN TO RELINQUISH SOME CONTROL AND ASK FOR HELP
When Mason’s daughter was younger, the after-school care program was a no-brainer. But as Mia got older, her activities multiplied and no longer took place in one location. Mason spent late afternoons and early evenings in the car shuttling her daughter around and running necessary errands to buy kids’ birthday presents and team snacks. Time together felt rushed instead of fun. So Mason hired a full-time nanny to take over pickups, drop-offs and mundane tasks, such as shopping for new soccer shoes. “It took me a long time to get comfortable with delegating, but I had to prioritize because I was sacrificing real, quality time with my daughter,”
Society paints a picture that mothering should come naturally and be a blissful, self-sacrificing experience. “The reality is that being a mom is an emotionally challenging, labor-intensive job that you have to learn as you go along,” Miller stresses.
It’s a rare mom who never experiences selfdoubt. We need to trust ourselves, cut ourselves some slack, accept our limitations and do the best we can. “There are some things I know that I nail,” Love says. “And there are a lot of things that I know I don’t do so well, but I really love my boys and I think they know that.” And that’s what’s important.
It took a little time, but Genevieve and I bonded. As clichéd as it sounds, it happened with that first smile she flashed at me when she was six weeks old (just like everyone said). The first six weeks had really felt like an eternity of struggles to this self-doubting mom, but the first wide grin I got—the one that I knew with 100% certainty wasn’t just gas—made my heart melt. It was Genevieve’s way of saying thank you, my first reward for all my efforts as a new mom. That little smile really did erase those torturous first few weeks. And it was at that moment that I fell madly in love with my sweet baby girl—finally!
RESOURCES FOR NEW MOMS
Don’t know where to look? Here’s some resources to get you started on building your bond with your newborn.
UNIQUE FOOTPRINTS is a local, comprehensive, virtual program that brings together the expertise of licensed pre- and postnatal professionals. Behavioral Health Dallas, led by Katie Sardone (see her tips on p. 48), provides the mental health and attachment component; there are also nurses, dietitians, lactation specialists, infant sleep specialists and yoga therapists. You’ll find online classes and other support.
For LOCAL SUPPORT GROUPS , one option is to check with the hospital where you delivered or another hospital nearby. For example, Texas Health Plano sponsors a postpartum support group that is currently meeting virtually. Mental Health America of Greater Dallas hosts Mothers & Babies, a 6-week program that includes group formats. For other support groups, check out POSTPARTUM
SUPPORT INTERNATIONAL (PSI). There are more than a dozen specialty support groups that meet virtually with women all over the country; PSI also has a Texas chapter with area support group information.
Texas Health Resources classes, Currently virtual, 877/847-9355; events.texashealth.org/wlp2/classes
Mental Health America of Greater Dallas, Dallas, 214/871-2420; mhadallas.org/mothers-and-babies
Postpartum Support International, 503/894-9453; postpartum.net
Postpartum Support International –Texas Chapter, Dallas and Collin counties, 972/696-9207 Tarrant County, 817/676-8858
If you’re interested in building connections with other new moms in a more social
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setting, Sardone recommends things like a MOM-AND-BABY EXERCISE CLASS . The Little Gym and Gymboree Play & Music are two well-known options with locations in DallasFort Worth. Fit4Mom has fitness programs for moms (bring baby along in the stroller) all over North Texas. Hospitals may also sponsor MOMMY MIXERS and similar events.
The Little Gym
Multiple locations; thelittlegym.com
Gymboree Play & Music
Southlake, 817/421-9300; gymboreeclasses.com
Fit4Mom
Multiple locations, 866/348-4666; fit4mom.com
For more parenting resources, visit our directory online at: dfwchild.com/directory .
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BABY STEPS
Building a secure attachment with your newborn baby / A SLOW BOND
“I ALWAYS TELL PEOPLE IT IS NOT REQUIRED TO HAVE A HOLLYWOOD MOMENT when you have a baby,” says Katie Sardone, Ph.D., a psychologist and founder of Behavioral Health Dallas. “Not everybody feels this overwhelming, magical rush of love and emotion after delivery. A lot of people do, but it’s OK either way.”
Attachment—a term that describes the relationship between a parent and child—is one area Sardone frequently addresses with patients. Here is her advice for promoting secure attachment: HAVE LOVING INTERACTIONS. Eye contact, smiling at your baby, speaking in a singsong voice, physical touch, rocking your baby, skin-to-skin contact: All these things help you and your baby connect. TRY TO MEET BABY’S NEEDS CONSISTENTLY. One main way to develop a secure attachment is through meeting your baby’s practical and emotional needs quickly and consistently. This helps the child understand that they are valued, loved and will be cared for, which lays the groundwork for a positive sense of self and healthy relationship with parents and others. “A lot of moms do already do this,” Sardone points out. “This is a natural and evolutionary pull that moms have.” THINK FROM THE BABY’S PERSPECTIVE. “So often moms are frustrated because their baby is crying, and they feel like they’ve done all the right things,” Sardone says. “Sometimes in these cases it’s helpful to reframe the situation. Put yourself in your baby’s shoes and imagine what it might be like to be out of Mommy’s safe and secure womb; adjusting to sights, sounds and smells; figuring out how to eat and stay full; how to cope with stomach pain; or how to get the closeness to Mom they want.” By taking this perspective, it can generate needed empathy for baby and help the mom relax.
If you’ve struggled with attachment, try not to stress. “I get asked all the time, ‘Have I ruined my child?’” Sardone shares. “The answer is no. You can repair attachment at any age or stage through consistent, loving parenting. We can help provide some guide rails to get the relationship and parenting behaviors back on track.”
Signs that you should seek help right away include apathy, numbness, frequent anger, resentment, regrets about having a baby, or observations from others that a mom isn’t treating a baby correctly. Even if you’re diagnosed with depression, Sardone says the prognosis for moms who seek support is very good.
If you are caring for your baby as appropriate—and don’t have those worrisome feelings—but still are experiencing a disconnect, Sardone recommends thinking about the big picture. “The reality is, your relationship with your baby is a relationship just like any other, and it can take time to develop that bond,” she says. “If you love your baby and are happy to have him or her, but you’re not feeling the way you thought you would, hang in there. If you feel hopeful about the relationship, your feelings aren’t impacting your functioning or parenting, and you sense that the bond is developing in the right direction, then you’re probably on the right track. Continue to monitor your own thoughts and feelings and reach out for help if things veer off course.”
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TIRED OF HEARING “I’M BORED”? LOOKING TO GET THE KIDS OFF THE COUCH AND AWAY FROM THEIR DIGITAL DEVICES? HERE’S A LIST OF 25 FUN OUTINGS FOR YOUR FAMILY TO EXPLORE IN DALLAS-FORT WORTH.
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Aaron Family JCC jccdallas.org/playonwheels 214/739-2737
Amon Carter Museum of American Art cartermuseum.org 817/738-1933
Arkansas State Parks arkansasstateparks.com
Crockett Row at West 7th crockettrow.com 817/810-9076
Dallas Arboretum and Botanical Garden dallasarboretum.org 214/515-6615
Denton County Office of History and Culture dentoncounty.gov/chos 940/349-2850
Fort Worth Stockyards fortworthstockyards.com 817/710-7355
Fort Worth Symphony Orchestra fwsymphony.org 817/665-6000
Child-led experiences designed for ages 1–5 to participate with a parent or guardian. Play On Wheels events: Oct. 3 at 10:30am, Oct. 13 at 4:30pm and Oct. 24 at 10:30am. See ad on page 38.
Connect with art through activities fit for the entire family! From Itty Bitty Art to Toddler Studios to Carter Playdate, the Carter has monthly events for families of all ages. See ad on page 47.
Looking for new adventures for your family and friends? Come together at Arkansas' 52 state parks and experience endless possibilities. Pick up your free Arkansas State Parks passport at the nearest state park today. See ad on page 13.
Oct. 31: Monsters & Murals Halloween Chalk Art Festival. Dec. 5: Crockett Row's Country Christmas Celebration – Photos with Santa and ReinSteer. Nov. 26–Dec. 19: Thursday–Sunday carriage rides on Crockett Row. See ad on page 69.
Autumn at the Arboretum with a 'Bugtopia' themed Pumpkin Village, including Mommy and Me Mondays and Tiny Tot Tuesdays children's activities through Oct. 26. See ad on page 7.
Discover ceramics from Denton County’s past and present in the exhibit Form & Function at the Courthouse-on-the-Square Museum. At the Denton County Historical Park, explore a newly restored 1860s log cabin. Free admission! See ad on page 12.
Epic H2Olidays, Nov. 27–Jan. 1 — A month-long holiday extravaganza filled with live entertainment, activities and more. Don't miss Breakfast with Santa, Dec. 11–12 and Dec. 18–19, 8–10am. See ad on page 71.
Celebrate the season Stockyards style! Saddle up for Red Steagall Cowboy Gathering and Treat Street in October. Then don’t miss photos with Cowboy Santa and spectacular holiday lights. Plus Free Kid Friday at the rodeo! See ad on page 11.
The FWSO offers a family-friendly series featuring Halloween Spooktacular, The Music of Harry Potter and When Instruments Roamed the Earth. Your children can also see Santa and snow with Home for the Holidays Thanksgiving weekend! See ad on page 17. 10
Fort Worth Zoo fortworthzoo.org 817/759-7555
Save the dates for festive fun at the Fort Worth Zoo! Boo at the Zoo is back Oct. 29–31. Plus, a new holiday event, Texas Wild! Wonderland, runs every weekend Nov. 27 through Dec. 19. See ad on page 67.
Heard Natural Science Museum & Wildlife Sanctuary heardmuseum.org 972/562-5566
Irving Archives and Museum irvingarchivesandmuseum.com 972/721-3700
Irving Arts Center irvingartscenter.com 972/252-7558
Kimbell Art Museum kimbellart.org 817/332-8451
Lone Star Christmas at Gaylord Texan will delight guests of all ages with their magical holiday lineup of original shows, musical performances, dozens of larger-than-life Christmas trees, amazing acrobatics, delicious dining, interactive experiences and more! See ad on back cover.
Let your imagination run wild as you travel back in time with 11 animatronic dinosaurs and photo op dinosaurs in our nature preserve. Plus, enjoy indoor exhibits, special events, educational programs and more. See ad on page 6.
Spark!Lab at Irving Archives and Museum, fun and dynamic experiences allow children to explore the invention process through hands-on activities that combine STEM learning with art, history and creativity. See ad on page 72.
We offer year-round family programs including story times, art classes, free art-filled family fun days, performances, and camps. We have 5 galleries and a sculpture garden you can explore for free. It’s worth the trip! See ad on page 73.
Join us for art-filled family fun this fall, including dual-language story times, drop-in studios and more. Sign up to receive free copies of Learning to Look, a publication just for kids. Details at kimbellart.org/kids. See ad on page 21. 16
North Texas Performing Arts ntpa.org 972/422-2575
Celebrate Halloween safely with NTPA's Second Annual Drive-Through Trunk or Treat at The Shops at Willow Bend! And don't miss the great fall shows including Jekyll and Hyde, Oklahoma!, Descendants the Musical, Fame and more! See ad on page 16. 17
NorthPark Center northparkcenter.com 214/363-7441
Shop for all the gifts on your list and enjoy your favorite traditions including visits with Santa Claus, The Trains at NorthPark, festive holiday plantings and decor, live music, beautiful lights and more. See ad on page 3. 18
Town of Little Elm littleelm.org/1195/pumpkin-hollow
Vetro Glassblowing Studio and Gallery vetroartglass.com 817/251-1668
Texas’ #1 Light Spectacular Radiance! is back, bigger and better. Gather family and friends to immerse yourselves in the holiday spirit — with special attractions in Frisco, Ennis, Weatherford and Decatur. Visit radiancechristmas.com for details! See ad on page 4.
Breeze into fall with Reunion Tower! Day or night, make the Dallas icon your top family spot. Experience photo ops, telescopes, interactive touch screens and spectacular views for miles in any direction!
Our Village Glows, Sat. Nov. 20 from 5–8pm. Santa will arrive by firetruck to light our 65-foot-high Christmas tree. Event will include free hot cocoa, cookie decorating, horse-drawn carriage rides and more. See ad on page 71.
Oct. 17, Nov. 21 and Dec. 19: The Market at Legacy North (outdoor artisan market). Dec. 12: The Legacy North Pole — Santa and reindeer. See ad on page 17.
Howdy, we have so many activities you’ll need to visit our website to see the list: bigtex.com/plan-your-visit/attractions-events/family-fun See ad on page 19.
The Nutcracker is returning to the stage! See the beloved holiday ballet at Winspear Opera House Nov. 26–Dec. 5 or at Bass Performance Hall Dec. 10–26. Tickets start at $25. See ad on page 13.
Join us for spooky family fun in Little Elm Park! Pumpkin Hollow is Oct. 14–16. We will have a carnival, a light-up pumpkin trail, a haunted trail and so much more. Join us for some spooky good times. See ad on page 19.
Vetro offers a variety of professionally crafted glass art, ranging from handmade sculptures to small glass art gifts. We give our guests the opportunity to assist in creating their own unique art glass. See ad on page 73.
PHOTO: CINDY JAMES
ELIZABETH SMITH
things to do
Children’s Theatre, thirdgrader Grace enters a tough schoolwide election against the boys in her attempt to shatter the proverbial glass ceiling—and also discovers what “proverbial” means. She’s got a lot to learn about the world of politics as she’s thrown into a series of campaign events, pep rallies and service projects to turn her classmates into voters. Tickets from $19. 817/332-2272; casamanana.org
FRIDAMANIA
October 9
FORT WORTH BOTANIC GARDEN
Come dressed in your best iteration of famed Mexican artist Frida Kahlo (floral headband, unibrow, shawl) to help set a new record and for a shot at winning the costume contest during the Casa Azul Party for kids activities. (The adult fest starts at 7:30pm.) Frida Fest continues in the garden where Fort Worth Opera stages its children’s opera about Kahlo on Saturday and Sunday. Free with general garden admission: $12 adults; $6 children; free for 5 and younger. 817/463-4160; brit.org
$20 for adults; $15 for children; free for kids under 2. 888/850-8718; sweettoothhotel.com
WATER LANTERN FESTIVAL
October 16
PANTHER ISLAND PAVILION, FORT WORTH
Send. Your. Worries. Sailing. Everyone gets a rice paper lantern to decorate—write your name, your hopes for the future, thoughts commemorating a lost loved one, whatever you want. At sunset, illuminate them with provided LED candles, and set them afloat. The event follows a “leave no trace” policy and promises that staff will clean up all the lanterns afterward. Registration from $35.99 in advance. waterlanternfestival.com
1970s Saturday morning cartoon series that taught civics, grammar and math to generations. Look online for the child study guide for fun lessons, activities and song lyrics so you can start singing along to “Just a Bill” and “Conjunction Junction” with your own kids before the show even starts. $15. 972/304-7047; coppellartscenter.org
TURNER’S MODERN WORLD
Opens October 17
KIMBELL ART MUSEUM, FORT WORTH
passes are required (starting at $60) and allowing up to 15 people per vehicle. Bring your chairs and picnic within your “parking pod” or catch a free shuttle to the new 1.5acre Landing Zone for kids activities, simulators and food vendors. 800/318-9268; allianceairshow.com
MASTERCHEF LIVE!
October 29
FESTIVAL AT THE SWITCHYARD
November 6
HISTORIC DOWNTOWN
CARROLLTON
SWEET TOOTH HOTEL: REWIND
Opens October 16
WATTERS CREEK, ALLEN
Be kind and rewind (please and thank you) at Sweet Tooth’s latest exhibit, showcasing 10 installations and seven emerging muralists, painters, graffiti and fiber artists. Rewind features a fullblown vintage video store full of VHS tapes, a Rainbow Cave room, and a reboot of some favorite rooms from previously sold-out exhibits
BUTTERFLY FLUTTERBY & FALL ROUNDUP
October 16
GRAPEVINE BOTANICAL GARDENS AND NASH FARM
These two kid-friendly events occur simultaneously and are only a quarter-mile away from the other. So if the weather’s nice out, you could first join the garden’s morning butterfly parade honoring the migration of monarch butterflies (wear your costumes!) and then take the short walk alongside Ball Street’s paved sidewalk to the farm for hands-on activities and wagon rides. The farm event is $3 for 3 years and up; free admission for parade and butterfly release. 817/410-3185; grapevinetexasusa.com
SCHOOLHOUSE ROCK LIVE!
October 16
COPPELL ARTS CENTER
The nostalgia level is high with this musical reliving the
Works by J.M.W. Turner (1775–1851), the English Romantic landscape artist known as the Painter of Light, debut inside Kimbell’s Piano Pavilion. Download the Kimbell app for the audio tour, and visit on Oct. 24 for a free screening of the 2014 biopic Mr. Turner $18 for adults; $14 for children; free for children under 6; half-price on Tuesdays and after 5pm on Fridays. 817/332-8451; kimbellart.org
BELL FORT WORTH ALLIANCE AIR SHOW
October 23–24
FORT WORTH ALLIANCE AIRPORT
The U.S. Navy’s Blue Angels, whose reputation precedes them, headline this civilian air show, operating for drive-in viewing for a second year. There’s no general admission per person, but parking
COMERICA CENTER, FRISCO All you foodies out there, listen up. Kid chefs Mikey and Malia (pictured), from MasterChef Junior seasons 6 and 7, demonstrate their recipes live on stage alongside adult chefs Noah and Suu, also MasterChef alums. Expect audience participation and messy challenges in this family-friendly show that’s a must-see for fans of the hit TV culinary competition. Tickets from $32. comericacenter.com
KINDNESS DUCK PROJECT PARTY
October 30
TRINITY PARK, FORT WORTH
After its inaugural event was postponed back in July, the world’s largest rubber duck is headed back to Fort Worth to launch the new nonprofit called the Kindness Duck Project. Don’t miss your chance to see the inflatable, 60-foot-tall mama duck and her 10-foot baby duck, Timmy—and support great causes. FREE kindnessduck.com
All the kids events are free at this family and music fest, and we mean all of them— the bungee trampolines and inflatables, the zip line, the giant slide and carnival games, the crafting. The face painting and balloon twisting booths shut down at 6pm, and rides and games at 7pm, but you’ll want to stay after dark if you’re fans of headlining band Blue October. FREE carrolltonfestival.com
POTTED POTTER
November 12–13
COPPELL ARTS CENTER
This is mischief (un)managed:
A cast of two actors—both British—acting out scenes from all seven Harry Potter books in 70 minutes, playing 360 different characters, with a fire-breathing dragon and a Quidditch game to boot. Creators Dan and Jeff first came up with this touring parody show in 2005 while waiting in line for the midnight release of the sixth book. $29. 972/304-7047; coppellartscenter.org
DINOSAUR SAFARI
Opens November 13
RIVER LEGACY LIVING
SCIENCE CENTER, ARLINGTON
Welcome to the Jurassic jungle inside River Legacy’s Discovery Room. Its newest traveling exhibit, on loan from Omaha Children’s Museum, features animatronic dinosaurs including a T. rex, velociraptor and a triceratops. Kids can hop inside a kid-size safari Jeep, uncover realistic
➽ WATER LANTERN FESTIVAL
➽ SCHOOLHOUSE ROCK LIVE!
things to do
fossils from the dig tables and climb on some of the dinosaurs. $10 adults; $7 children; free for 2 and younger.
817/860-6752; riverlegacy.org
HOT WHEELS MONSTER TRUCK SHOW LIVE!
November 13–14
DICKIES ARENA, FORT WORTH
This one’s for your kids who love to race their Hot Wheels cars across the living room floor. This touring monster truck exhibition debuts three new trucks, including 12-foot dino-inspired Mega Wrex, and opens up the Crash Zone Pre-Show Party so you can see the trucks up close and meet the drivers. Tickets start at $34. Crash Zone passes are $5 per person.
817/402-9801; hotwheelsmonstertruckslive.com
CATS
November 16–21
BASS PERFORMANCE HALL, FORT WORTH
The feline frenzy that is Andrew Lloyd Webber’s famous musical—inspired by the 1939 children’s book by T.S. Eliot—follows a tribe of junkyard cats as they gather for their annual Jellicle Ball, introduce themselves, and accept one outcast cat back into their inner circle. If you’ve never experienced it, you’re missing meowt. Tickets start at around $50. 817/212-4280; basshall.com
equally worthy characters, like Forky from Toy Story 4. Tickets from $33 and required for age 2 and older. 972/912-1057; disneyonice.com
HALLOWEEN
HALLOWEEN SPOOKTACULAR
October 16
BASS PERFORMANCE HALL, FORT WORTH
There’s dressing up for the symphony and then there’s dressing up for a costume party at the symphony. Don your spookiest costumes (or cutest!) for this Fort Worth Symphony Orchestra concert designed just for littles, lasting about one hour. Come early to enjoy the kids’ activities and crafts in the lobby. Tickets from $12. 817/665-6000; fwsymphony.org
PUMPKIN NIGHTS
Through October 31
HOWELL FARM, ARLINGTON
DISNEY ON ICE: LET’S CELEBRATE
November 24–28
ALLEN EVENT CENTER
Mickey and Minnie Mouse once again warm our hearts with their ice-skating spectacular featuring many of your kids’ favorite princes, princesses and other nonroyal but
Ten-foot jack-o’-lanterns, a 40-foot flying dragon, the world’s largest pumpkin guitar, a life-size pumpkin pirate ship—need we go on? Yes, we do! There’s also a wall of monstersize pumpkins, and more displays with more than 5,000 handcarved real and synthetic pumpkins at this special exhibit. Tickets from $14; free for children 3 and younger. Advance tickets are required. pumpkinnights.com/dallas
AUTUMN AT THE ARBORETUM: BUGTOPIA
Through October 31
DALLAS ARBORETUM
Insects—both real and floral—are taking over the arboretum through Halloween. Come see the bees, ants and more larger-than-life
insect topiaries on display as part of the Pumpkin Village, and let the kids enjoy insect encounters each day of the week. Free with general admission: $17 adults; $12 children; free for children under 2. $3 additional for children’s adventure garden. 214/515-6615; dallasarboretum.org
TRICK OR TREAT
THE SQUARE
October 30
FRISCO SQUARE
Meet at Simpson Plaza—the public park space at Frisco Square—on the Saturday before Halloween for an afternoon of spooky family entertainment. There’ll be carnival games, inflatables, horse-pulled wagon rides around the center and, of course, people-watching, so be sure to wear your cutest, scariest or most elaborate costumes to score compliments and, hey, maybe even a few extra pieces of candy!
FREE 214/872-1054; friscosquare.com
THANKSGIVING
DALLAS YMCA
TURKEY TROT
November 25
DALLAS CITY HALL
On Thanksgiving morning, join in this show of goodwill in support the YMCA of Metropolitan Dallas’ community health programs. The 1K has been paused for this year, but all ages can join the 5K or 8-mile runs for $37 and up. The $15 Tot Trot registration for kids 5 and younger includes their own racing bib and shirt, and all ages are welcome at the free family zone with bounce houses, face painting and photo ops with the giant turkey. 214/954-0500; thetrot.org
CHRISTMAS
HOLIDAY AT THE ARBORETUM
Opens November 9
DALLAS ARBORETUM
When “The 12 Days of Christmas” aren’t enough, the arboretum gives you 53 days. This new season of exhibits and entertainment features the return of its glass-encased gazebos inspired by the “12 Days” holiday song, the Europeanstyle Christmas Village, the 50-foot-tall musical tree and lots more. Daytime
admission: $17 adults; $12 children; free for children under 2. Come on select evenings for 12 Days of Christmas at Night, with nonmember pricing starting at $15 for adults and $13 for children. 214/515-6615; dallasarboretum.org
THE TRAINS AT NORTHPARK
Opens November 13
NORTHPARK CENTER, DALLAS
This 34-year tradition continues with its dual purpose: entertaining children with an elaborate, 1,600-foottrack model train exhibit and raising vital funds for the Ronald McDonald House of Dallas. Stop by this secondfloor exhibit on your next shopping trip to NorthPark. Tickets available on Nov. 1: $10 adults; $5 children; free for children under 2. $1 off at Tom Thumb and Albertsons.
Handpainted railcars also for sale. 214/6317354; thetrainsatnorthpark.com
SCROOGE THE MUSICAL Opens
November 19
ARTISAN CENTER THEATER, HURST
Choose your seats online for your preferred view of the theater-in-the-round. $28 adults; $15 children. 817/284-1200; artisanct.com
RUDOLPH THE REDNOSED REINDEER Opens November 20 CASA MAÑANA, FORT WORTH This performing arts theater welcomes people of all ages and with all types of noses to join the reindeer games in this holiday musical starring Rudolph, Santa and Mrs. Claus, and sidekicks Hermey the Elf, Bumble the Abominable Snow Monster, and Yukon Cornelius. Follow their adventures around the North Pole and then around the world. Tickets from $19. 817/332-2272; casamanana.org
ENCHANT CHRISTMAS Opens November 26
FAIR PARK, DALLAS
WHEN DO YOU START LISTENING TO CHRISTMAS MUSIC?
36% after Halloween 64% after Thanksgiving *according to @dfwchildmag's Instagram poll
What is the holiday season without our annual lesson from Ebenezer? Witness him reach his ephiphany—that life is short and you should be nice to people—in this musical version of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol, presented by the Artisan’s Main Stage company.
Not seen in North Texas since 2018, this holiday experience is back for more magical nights at the Fair Park Esplanade. Join the search for Santa’s missing gifts lost inside the Christmas Light Maze and slip on rented blades for the ice skating trail. Take note: This is no mere rink but a path that winds in and around a forest of trees lit with millions of twinkling lights. Tickets from $20 for adults and from $19 for children; free for under 2. 833/362-6445; enchantchristmas.com
➽ DISNEY ON ICE:
➽ TRICK OR TREAT THE SQUARE
WEEKEND WAYFARERS
Stop and smell the roses at these fall travel destinations in Texas and Oklahoma
WORDS ELIZABETH SMITH
AHHH, OCTOBER. AS THE AIR TURNS COOLER and beckons us outdoors, we can’t help but follow. To make the most of your autumn, think of the new season as a fresh opportunity to explore the world beyond your usual haunts—and beyond Dallas-Fort Worth. Fall head over heels for these underrated travel destinations in Texas and Oklahoma, offering special family events, exhibits and entirely new attractions ripe for exploring this October and November.
Plus, you’ll find each of these stops within a 3-hour drive from North Texas, so you can discover the natural beauty, cultural history and imaginative experiences all in one weekend.
SOUTH
LADY BIRD JOHNSON
WILDFLOWER CENTER | AUSTIN
Founded in 1982 by its namesake—the Texas native and former first lady “Lady Bird” Johnson—in the Texas capital city, the wildflower center now spans 284 acres and bursts with wildlife, native trees and plants. You’ll see the variety of fall-blooming flowers, like fall aster and prairie goldenrod, for yourself when you come to play in Fortlandia, a collection of custom forts designed by local architects, designers and artists and open to the public for imaginative play Oct. 4, 2021, through Jan. 30, 2022.
The playhouse design from a group called the Masketeers was inspired by discarded masks—a recognizable symbol of the pandemic—which the group has reframed as a symbol of hope and environmental education. You’ll find six forts in the center’s Mollie Steves Zachry Texas Arboretum and a bonus fort along the Ann and Roy Butler Hike-and-Bike Trail at Lady Bird Lake.
In addition to the Fortlandia exhibit, kids can play on Fort Build, the wildflower center’s year-round build-your-own-fort nature play area, and on select Saturdays this fall, join free drop-in activities to learn about trees and leaves.
Whenever you visit, be sure to pack a picnic to eat al fresco, or grab a bite from the center’s on-site Wildflower Café. Admission is $12 for adults, $6 for children, and free for 4 and younger, and reservations open seven days in advance for daily admission from 9am–5pm.
Also included with admission: access to Silvana, an immersive light maze on display for the first time in North America. Starting in December, both the Silvana and Fortlandia exhibits light up at night for the Luminations series. // 512/232-0100; wildflower.org/fortlandia
WEST
NATIONAL CENTER FOR CHILDREN’S ILLUSTRATED LITERATURE | ABILENE
Plenty of happily-ever-afters begin in small towns, but more so than usual in Abilene, the official Storybook Capital of America and home to the National Center for Children’s Illustrated Literature (NCCIL). The museum,
➽ ABOVE: This secret hideout “Connect” awaits at Fortlandia, the new exhibit now open at LADY BIRD JOHNSON WILDFLOWER CENTER in Austin. // RIGHT: A life-size Dinosaur Bob, one of dozens of STORYBOOK SCULPTURES on permanent display, towers over downtown Abilene.
memories start here.
VILLAGE GLOWS EVENT
SATURDAY NOVEMBER 20TH | 5-8PM
OUR HOLIDAY TRADITION CONTINUES, FEATURING THE LIGHTING OF OUR 60-FT CHRISTMAS TREE AND SANTA’S ARRIVAL. FAMILY FUN ACTIVITIES INCLUDE HORSE-DRAWN CARRIAGE RIDES, FACE-PAINTING, COOKIE DECORATING, ORNAMENT MAKING, AND MORE.
Spark!
their imagination
Celebrate and grow their inner inventor this Fall at Spark!Lab.
What is Spark!Lab?
This unique space offers children and their families an opportunity to create, innovate and problem solve, empowering kids to develop the skills and confidence they need for success today and in the future.
801 W. Irving Blvd., Irving, TX 75060
972-721-3700
Open Wednesday–Saturday, 10am–4pm For more information and reservations: irvingarchivesandmuseum.com
We believe in a multi-sensory holistic approach to therapy to meet individual needs.
Our safety measures include:
+ Checking temperature at door
+ Wash hands upon entering and leaving
+ Clean and sanitize rooms between each client
+ All therapists and clients wear face shields
7002 Lebanon, Suite 102 Frisco, TX 75034
469-408-4634 • F: 972-618-1051
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dedicated solely to the artwork of children’s picture book illustrators, debuts its latest exhibit Golden Legacy: 75 Years of Original Art from Golden Books on Oct. 14.
Remember those picture books with the golden foil on the spine? Visit the literature center, open Tuesday through Saturday, to discover more beautifully illustrated stories than you remember reading as a child. Family Fun Art Saturdays are on hiatus during the COVID-19 pandemic, so check back before your visit to see whether they’ve resumed.
Even more storybook characters await your arrival outside the museum in the form of bronze sculptures on display all around town. Dr. Seuss characters the Lorax, Yertle the Turtle, and Sam I Am from Green Eggs and Ham—they’re at Everman Park in downtown. Dinosaur Bob? You’ll find him towering over Cedar Street staring eye to eye with an orange Volkswagen Beetle.
Hunt, and uploading selfies of your findings for points.
Visit on Oct. 23 for From Castles to Clouds, a Saturday evening event featuring a walkthrough dragon experience at T&P Depot, a prince-princess procession down Cypress Street (costumes encouraged), the unveiling of a new kinetic sculpture and a preview of a 3D storybook mural called Flight of the Dragon. The night wraps up with an outdoor screening of How to Train Your Dragon in the Adamson-Spalding Storybook Garden. // 325/673-4586; nccil. org. 325/677-1161; abilenecac.org
EAST TEXAS ROSE FESTIVAL | TYLER
You can find every one of the city’s collection of public storybook sculptures—the largest of its kind in America, with new sculptures added each year—by visiting the online adventure guide. Turn your sculpture-hunting into a friendly competition by downloading the GooseChase app, selecting Storybook Sculpture Scavenger
Your travels east of Dallas-Fort Worth may typically halt in Canton (the flea market is legendary), but do yourself a favor by traveling deeper into the Piney Woods to Tyler— where during the 88th annual Texas Rose Festival Oct. 14–17, you can witness the colorful changing of the fall foliage and roses in bloom. (East Texas roses peak in two seasons: October and April.) The weekend-long festival features events, like the Rose Queen’s tea party, in and around the Tyler Rose Garden, the nation’s largest rose garden with more
➽ ABOVE: Join in the social dancing, stickball games and more demonstrations at the CHOCTAW CULTURAL CENTER’s Living Village.
than more than 35,000 rose bushes and 500 varieties of roses.
An elaborate pageantry of flowerthemed costumes honor the town’s history in the rose-growing industry. Don’t miss the Rose Parade on Saturday, Oct. 16, to see the gowns custom-designed by Jacob A. Climer, the Dallas-native costume designer for opera and theater who now lives in New York. The custom-made gowns for each lady of the festival’s royal court represents a different flower: calla lilies, tulips, hydrangea and so on. Stop by the Tyler Rose Museum to see even more gorgeous flower-covered dresses and headpieces from festivals dating back to 1933.
For more nostalgia-meets-familyentertainment, don’t miss the outdoor movie screening of Suspicion, a classic black-and-white film from 1941 starring Cary Grant, and the arts and crafts fair with pony rides and bounce houses in the kids zone, held at a city park with a newly renovated playground—and plenty of roses. // 903/593-6905; visittyler.com
NORTH CHOCTAW CULTURAL CENTER | CALERA, OK
To truly honor Native American Heritage Month as a family this November, you can start by honoring the 14,000-year legacy of the Chahta people with a visit to the Choctaw Cultural Center. Choctaw Nation of Oklahoma’s brand new cultural center debuted in July 2021 in Calera, Oklahoma, a little more than an hour drive north of Dallas, with several interactive attractions and exhibits—each created from the Choctaw perspective— that make visit well worth the miles.
Discover a replica of an ancient spiritual mound at the center’s outdoor Living Village, along with traditional dancing and stickball game demonstrations on the field. A giant turtle (Luksi) welcomes families to the Luksi Activity Center, a children’s activity area with traditional Choctaw houses and a miniature forest to explore. The temporary exhibit now on view, Long Ago: Stories of the Choctaw People, delves deeper into the tribe’s history via artistry of oral storytelling and allows you to interact with stories themselves.
With a teaching kitchen for learning how to make traditional meals—and the Champuli Café with kid-friendly meal options for when they get hungry— there’s more than enough to fill a day before returning home. Visit the cultural center during open hours Wednesday through Sunday for the regular admission price of $12 for adults, $6 for children, and free for 3 and younger. // 833/7089582; choctawculturalcenter.com
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VAN GOGH GALORE
3 Ways to Experience the Artist’s Works
“The Starry Night,” “Sunflowers,” “Café Terrace at Night”— There’s no confusing these works as created by any other except Dutch artist Vincent Willem van Gogh (1853–1890), who posthumously earned the world’s recognition as one of the greatest painters.
But if you’ve only ever seen Van Gogh’s Post-Impressionist masterpieces on wall posters or screen-printed hand towels, then for the love of all that’s good and wholly artistic, do your family a favor by treating them to one of three local exhibitions—each in varying fashion.
An exhibit opening this month in one of Dallas’ prestigious art museums is a bona fide exhibition of priceless paintings, created by the artist during the last year of his life. The other two world-touring installations present Van Gogh’s works in a breathtaking way never seen before in Texas: using 21st-century technology to animate and project his paintings onto walls all around—inside a warehouse-style setting. These latter two are strikingly similar in their style and presentation, so read on to understand what makes each unique.
IMMERSIVE VAN GOGH LIGHTHOUSE DALLAS
Now extended through Nov. 28 844/307-4644; dallasvangogh.com
WHY GOGH? Multisensory experience of still-art-turned-animated, plus yoga classes
Housed inside the former Masonic Temple, this much-hyped immersive exhibit features elements designed by Broadway set designer David Korins (Hamilton, Dear Evan Hansen).
The projections vary by room (three total) with the largest being the second room, where circles projected onto the floor encourage social distancing. The moving images—at times fragmented as they reflect onto various beams and surfaces—make for a feast for the senses. Along with the moving images splashed across the walls and floors, there is choreographed music ranging from orchestral music by Handel to Radiohead’s Thom Yorke. For another level of meditation, sign up for half-hour yoga classes on weekend mornings before the exhibit opens. The $54 fee includes 25 minutes after the class to enjoy the exhibit.
KID-FRIENDLY: Kids 5 and younger are free and don’t require tickets. If your children are somewhat sensitive to sounds, considering bringing ear protection so they can more closely focus on the art.
ELIZABETH SMITH PHOTO COURTESY OF MICHAEL BROSILOW
Italian installation artist Massimiliano Siccardi created the IMMERSIVE VAN GOGH exhibition, on view in Dallas, from more than 400 high-resolution photographs of 40 paintings.
Regulating Your Childs’ Emotions
It is not uncommon for parents to quickly attend to childrens’ reactions when they scream, cry, and have a tantrum, only to discover that the response is exaggerated. For example, your child drops ice cream on the floor and they choose to scream, which would be an unmatched response. Your solution: emotional regulation, and this often has to be taught. So instead of saying “stop screaming” or giving a consequence, try these steps:
Talk about emotions as a lesson prior to a crisis. (Use chart below)
Validate your child’s emotion“sounds like you’re sad”, or hurt, frustrated, etc.
Brainstorm with your child specific situations where it is ok to scream, cry, pout, be frustrated or happy (For example scream- someone scared you, cry- your body is injured or someone said something unkind, frustrated- can’t open a box, etc.)
When a crisis does occur and the response is unmatched, pull out this chart and walk through the lesson again.
When a crisis occurs and your child self regulates emotions, praise them.
Having these conversations about emotions will strengthen your relationship, validate feelings, and teach emotional regulation in a positive way. Most importantly, celebrate when your child has chosen to react appropriately because it’s mastery of a life skill!
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TICKETS: Adult prices from $39, $29 for children; free for 5 and younger. $99 for VIP tickets include a branded cushion to sit on during the exhibit and to keep.
VAN GOGH: THE IMMERSIVE EXPERIENCE
CHOCTAW STADIUM (formerly Arlington’s Globe Life Park) Through Nov. 28 vangoghexpo.com; feverup.com
WHY GOGH? Virtual reality headsets and a coloring room for kids
Not to be upstaged, this Arlington exhibit of light and sound not only bathes the walls with floor-to-ceiling digital projections but varies the style by area. In a blend that more closely mimics a museum-style exhibit, with framed images, separate galleries chronicle Van Gogh’s techniques and his artistic influences. Interactives and vignettes give even more context to what was happening in the artist’s life.
KID-FRIENDLY: As if this isn’t immersive enough, put on a set of virtual reality goggles to walk through Arles, France, the city that inspired eight of Van Gogh’s iconic works. During an 11-minute journey via the VR headset, you’ll travel through eight works and their source of inspiration in “A Day in the Life of the Artist in Arles, France.”
are $54.50 for adults and $34.90 for children, with priority access to VR experiences.
VAN GOGH AND THE OLIVE GROVES
DALLAS MUSEUM OF ART
Oct. 17–Feb. 6
214/922-1200; dma.org/vangogh
WHY GOGH? Authentic masterpieces rarely on view—think “slow art”
Despite the fanciful presentations of the two “immersive” exhibits, nothing replaces standing in the presence of Van Gogh’s actual masterpieces. In this traditional museum setting without the hustle and bustle, patrons can more quietly contemplate his life story and techniques in this series of 15 works on a single subject and track how his technique slightly shifts with each canvas.
The end of the exhibition leads you to the creative workshop for children, where spacious tables and provided crayons encourage kids to channel all the inspiration they’ve just absorbed into coloring sheets and then project their pages onto the wall using a digital projector.
TICKETS: Admission starts at $36 for adults and $19.90 for children; free for children under 4. Family passes available. VIP tickets
Co-organized by the Van Gogh Museum in Amsterdam, this groundbreaking exhibition at the Dallas Museum of Art is the very first exhibition dedicated to Van Gogh’s important olive grove series, which the artist created during his 6-month stay as a selfadmitted patient at the asylum of Saint-Rémy-de-Provence in 1889.
KID-FRIENDLY: The DMA offers take-home art kits throughout the exhibition, a Van Gogh coloring book available at the visitor services desk, and kid-focused workshops in the C3 studio. Educators teach a class for toddlers on Nov. 12, 16 and 19 and for older kids ages 6–12 on Dec. 11, so book your reservations now. Both classes are $8, or $5 for DMA members.
TICKETS: To access tickets for this special exhibit, visitors must first reserve free general admission online for a selected date and then add on a matching exhibition ticket: $20 Tuesdays–Thursdays and $24 Fridays–Sundays; free for children 11 and younger.
➽ One of the most kid-friendly aspects of the exhibit is a space for the younger visitors to express their own artistic visions at VAN GOGH: THE IMMERSIVE EXPERIENCE in Arlington.
➽ Vincent van Gogh, A Walk at Twilight, 1889–1890, oil on canvas. On view at the DALLAS MUSEUM OF ART
FUTURE FIRST FAMILY:
Before he was the 43rd president, and even before he was the governor of Texas, George W. Bush was managing partner and part owner of the Texas Rangers—and together with twin daughters Jenna and Barbara, the subject of DallasChild’s April 1990 magazine cover.
The late John Haynsworth, a renowned Dallas photographer, introduced us to the family, and went on to take the cover photo at Arlington Stadium, where the Rangers then played—across North Texas from the family’s home in Preston Hollow. Jenna and Barbara were 8 years old; their dad was 43 (a number that went on to have great significance in his life).
Our publisher, Joylyn Niebes, was at the shoot and remembers the future first couple as extremely gracious with their time and very down to earth. “I kept trying to get Laura to be in the picture,” Niebes recalls, “but she sweetly declined.”
More than 30 years later, the now-former president is enjoying life as a grandfather, painting in his studio at the family’s ranch in Crawford, Texas, and leading events at the George W. Bush Presidential Center on SMU’s campus. His daughters, who will turn 40 in November, have both made New York their home base. Jenna Bush Hager co-hosts NBC’s TODAY with Hoda & Jenna and is a married mom of three. In late September, Barbara Pierce Bush (named for her paternal grandmother) and her husband welcomed their first child, a daughter. Bush is the board chair as well as co-founder of Global Health Corps, a nonprofit that offers a fellowship to support emerging leaders in global health. —Alexis Patterson
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