Direct your Attitude to attract better things whoisdylancooper.com /2015/04/01/direct-your-attitude-to-attract-better-things/ Dylan Cooper Posted in Inspiration, Start Marketing Online
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference – Winston Churchill. In psychology, an attitude is an expression of favour or disfavour toward a person, place, thing, or event. It seems perfectly natural to experience disfavour toward a person, place, thing or event sometimes and sometimes it surely must be exactly the correct attitude to take. I suspect though, that often we jump on the negative without good reason and almost unconsciously expect bad things before the good. Ruby Wax talks about this in her 2013 book, Sane New World. There are very good evolutionary reasons for the human brain to actually react faster to negative vibes than to positive ones – it’s all about being primed for danger and reacting appropriately for survival. The trouble is that it is the same ancient stress response designed for fight or flight in the presence of a sabretoothed tiger, working when we feel a bit anxious about a presentation to a few people or getting wound up in a traffic jam. Same brain chemicals as our prehistoric ancestors, flooding our bodies at the sign of something dangerous, like someone queue jumping in the supermarket. Clearly there are good reasons to react quickly and decisively in a negative situation, when danger and potential harm is present, but it does not always serve us to be on a constant danger vigil, as our ancestors had to. Adjusting attitude Even if you tend to be pessimistic, you can learn to think positively and bring about better outcomes in life. Here are some pointers: Listen to your Self-Talk – Probably the first thing to do is to realise that some (or much) of your thinking is not serving you. Become conscious of not just your spoken language but the language of your thoughts and especially what you tell yourself about yourself. Make it a habit to notice the form of internal dialogue rather than have it being mostly unconscious. Adjust your Self-Talk – The next stage is to consciously adjust that internal dialogue. Once you get into the habit of noticing your own self-talk, you start to realise how much of it is negative and also, how much of it is simply untrue, it is just a bad habit of self-criticism which works on itself in a downward spiral. Creating some positive words and phrases (aka affirmations) about yourself, actually writing them down to read over again, will serve to adjust that attitude and start to attract the things that people with a good attitude get. And this is not a slow process. A few self-directed positive phrases in the morning can make a huge difference straight away that day. Know that change is possible, know that change is inevitable – As Tony Robbins says, you don’t have to worry about change, change is inevitable whatever you do. What motivates people is progress. It is the kind of change you create that is important.
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