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a r t l i f t i n g
for disabled artists
EMILIO ISGRO
to delate for a new meaning
AUSTIN KLEON
deletions & ILLUSTRATED BOOKS
Austin Kleon is the New York Times bestselling author of three illustrated books.
"Steal Like An Artist" (Workman, 2012) is a manifesto for creativity in the digital age; "Show Your Work!" (Workman, 2014) is a guide to sharing creativity and getting discovered; and "Newspaper Blackout" (Harper 2010) is a fROMPerennial, http://austinkleon.com collection of poetry made by redacting words from newspaper articles with a permanent marker. His work has been translated into over a dozen languages and featured on Morning Edition, PBS Newshour, and in The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. New York Magazine called his work The Atlantic called him one of the most interesting people on the and The New Yorker
He speaks about creativity in the digital age for organizations such as Pixar, Google, SXSW, TEDx, and The Economist.
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#happyathome For all tastes steal som e brilliant idea from rest aurants
herb s, fl o wers & l a d l e s . . . for the walls
d o g b o w l s i n o r d e r
rolling pins o v e r h e a d s
p a n t r y f o r wine & glasses
old pipes & boards become folding stools
wooden boxes as stools & chandeliers
small paper sculptures hanging from the ceiling
no post cards but scrabble's letters
How to be really h ea r d by ot h er s I guess it's happened to all to do not feel understood by someone, maybe even by someone really important. It hurts. It leaves a great sense of frustration and inadequacy. When we try to open our feelings, our thoughts and our ideas to those who we have close and we understand that the person did not understand we feel an unpleasant emotion and sometime a real pain. I turned, I researched, I read, I asked to grab some advice on "how to talk to be heard." And the result is that we need to improve our communication, above all, avoid some attitudes. (We can also avoid talking to some people, but this will do for granted !!!) We should do not talk with 1. negativity. Because nobody finds it interesting to hear the small or large problems of the others. Sharing is important and the support and solidarity are important too, but no one has an unlimited supply. Each of us has his own burden to carry on his shoulders so we are allowed to complain when we need real support. 2. lies. (obviously, not ?!) Who wants to waste time listening to falsehood ?! I guess nobody. 3. exaggerations. There are people who look like "cartoons". Those that reveal an attitude always emphasized, they laugh or they joke about everything, they gesture too much, they even use adjectives or epithets very confidential with everyone... Well, this attitude is perceived by anyone who does not live in Disneyland as false. 4. excuses. I'm not talking about apologizing after we realized we had made a mistake. I'm talking about those people insecure, intimidated and extremely introverted, those who are stifled by anything that is not in fact need to apologize. 5. judgment. Each of us has the right and the duty to do some evaluations to estimate what to keep and what to remove from our lifes, but valuations should remain in place and not have to become ratings. First, because none of us is as important as it often likes to think and then because no one is dying to hear who always has an opinion on the mouth about something or someone. 6. gossip. The curiosity about the lives of other people belongs more or less to all. The gossip is fun, but in reality very harmful in relationships. Think about it, do you trust those who gossip? I did not. I have no illusions that those who gossip do not do it behind me.
7. questionnaire. Those dialogues where one of the partners is pressing question after question and he or she puts under pressure others. It could also be boring. The beauty of communication is the exchange. For lessons there are books of every kind and encyclopedias. In this regard, I want to say that even the teachers should always be open and learn from the dialogue with their students. Even at the time of verification. If you have not already put in place one or more of these errors there are also suggestions to develop or to create the necessary empathy, in the way that someone would really listen to us. 1. honesty. Be clear and direct. Do not use underhanded strategies with the aim to stir the emotions of others and thus to change their behavior. No one forgives who is trying to plagiarize someone. 2. authenticity. Be yourself and not imitate anyone. Take from others only what you already have within you and that you have not yet realized. 3. integrity. Not tell good and act bad. Be what you say. Pursue firsthand what you believe. Behave as you would like others to behave with you. 4. love. And I'm not talking necessarily about romantic love, but that feeling of affection and kindness that makes sense to others that we are talking with them because we care. Another key element of communication is, of course, the sound of the voice. I have read information on the timbre, tone, volume, speed, diaphragm, breathing, vocal cords, air, nose, mouth, tongue... A lot of interesting stuff, but I'm not able to talk about those things. I leave it to the interested parties the trouble of doing a more thorough search, maybe at some vocal coaches who teach to improve the setting of the item and to improve public speaking skills. I imagined these experts only as tutors of politicians or important people, but I was wrong because they are available to anyone. Finally I want to emphasize the importance of the listener. Effective communication is only half the job, the rest is "the responsibility of the recipient." And too many times people are too focused on themselves. Too many times everyone of us do not grasp the need to free your mind of prejudices and stereotypes. We can not really listen if we interpret the phrases according to our way of thinking. The dialogue only works as an exchange and if we are imprisoned in a unique way of seeing things (our way) we will not understand and we will give a sign of stupidity. Sometimes the same sentence spoken by different people reveal intentions, feelings, reasoning with characteristics very distant from each other. To me discover the different points of view is one of the "hard work" most beautiful and exciting in life.
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# m a k e y o u r s e l v e s h a p p y 5 ADVISES TO TAKE THE BEST DECISIONS IN YOUR LIFE
If you decide between making a scary big investment or go with the safer, smarter, more affordable option... How you can take the right decision? The close decisions are the hardest There are decisions like the extreme ones that usually are easier because you already know, you have a gut feeling or intuitive answer on straight away. In the big decisions you even really need to decide, because the decision has long since been made. Maybe you need courage, but it's something different. The ones that really get you in a tailspin is when both options appear completely viable and there are equal pros and cons for each. Without a doubt, you have to know that the decision making process is an emotional one. You can trick yourself into thinking that you're being logical by making a pro/con list for each option, but emotions drive always everything.
There is something that can help you to be more relaxed in the decisional process. There are some questions and thought that might help you the next time you find yourself at a decision-making crossroads. You should focus on: 1. What is your goal? If you will get your goal how will your life change? 2. What is your deciding factor (people? money? ...) and why is it so important? 3. What are you resisting/holding back from? Is it a real problem? How can you resolve that problem? 4. What are you afraid of? Is there anybody who c an help you? 5. If you could be sure of not fail what would you do? Which decision would make you happy?
As said before, you have no control over the outcome. All you can do is make the decision and then continue making decisions as the outcome unfolds. Everything seems like a good decision at the time and if it wasn't... well, there is always a way to fix something that
Take action. Do something. Don t let fear get in your way an d hold you back from being your awesom e self. Just make a choice and, if you do n t like it, change it in the best way y ou can.
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