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How Immaculee Ilibagiza's faith helped her survive the Rwandan holocaust

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week-long visit by an archbishop from Africa has had a profound impact on our parish community of St. Jude. Word of the archbishop’s visit came months earlier, as part of a letter informing me about who would be making our annual mission appeal. The reality of Archbishop Simon Ntamwana’s visit began with a simple, heartfelt greeting as we met in the parking lot in front of the church: “Hello, I am Simon, your brother.” Not exactly the sort of greeting I had expected from an archbishop.

With those simple words, a firm handshake and warm smile, our parish community welcomed a visitor whose personal story has touched us deeply. His story is deeply entwined with the recent history of the people of his archdiocese and nation. Archbishop Simon (as he is known to his people) came to us from Burundi, a small land-locked nation in eastern-central Africa with 8 million inhabitants. Burundi is neighbored by Rwanda to the north, Tanzania to the east and the Democratic Republic of the Congo to the west and south.

Like its northern neighbor, Burundi was overwhelmed by a wave of ethnic violence that began in 1994 when the presidents of both Rwanda and Burundi were killed in a plane crash. In the wake of these events, more than 200,000 Burundians were slaughtered and a years-long civil war ensued in Burundi. The violence finally ended in 2003, but not before thousands of Burundian children were left orphaned. Many of Archbishop Simon’s family were slaughtered and he has been a repeated target for assassination. The nation’s economy and infrastructure were left in tatters.

Archbishop Simon has made it his mission to do what might seem nearly impossible to outside observers.

Over the next several years, he hopes to build orphanages to provide stable, loving care for his nation’s multitude of orphaned children. These centers will be places of education for children and adults alike. For the children, education will focus on basic skills like reading and writing.

Eventually, the schools will expand to provide vocational and technical training that will allow young people to follow paths that will enable them to be part of the sweeping efforts to rebuild their nation’s infrastructure and economy. For the adults, the centers will focus on the work of reconciliation between the Hutu and Tutsi ethnic groups that were at the epicenter of violence that swept through Burundi. This work of reconciliation is grounded in Christ’s teachings about the value of and necessity for reconciliation. Much like the work that took place in South Africa a decade earlier, Archbishop Simon prays fervently that his people will come to know the truth about one another and will, in time, once again be able to live in peace and harmony with one another.

Immaculée Ilibagiza experienced first-hand the same horror of ethnic violence. The young Rwandan has an equally powerful story of faith and the same the fervent prayer for reconciliation among her own people. I have no doubt that with God’s grace, people like Immaculée and Archbishop Simon will make great inroads on their shared mission of peace and reconciliation.

By the end of his week with our parish community, sufficient funds had been donated to ensure the construction of an orphanage and school that welcomed its first children just last month. The Mukenke Welcome Center is just one step on a very long path that will, with God’s help, lead to reconciliation in a small nation half a world away.

And so our journey in FAITH continues.

The long climb out of hell rebuilding Burundi after the holocaust

– Father Dwight Ezop is editor of FAITH Magazine and pastor of the Catholic Community of St. Jude

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Finding God in hell Immaculée Ilibagiza’s faith during the Rwandan holocaust

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Immaculée spent 91 days in a bathroom, hiding with seven other women as a genocide raged outside. Her family was killed, but Immaculée survived – and she found God during her ordeal. Read more about her amazing story and find out where you can go to hear her speak in the Diocese of Lansing.

in the know with Fr. Joe 6 Dear Fr. Joe: Is it a sin to work on Sunday?

– Father Joseph Krupp

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marriage matters 12 She says: He flirts with other women. He says: I’m just being friendly.

What do they do?

– Nancy Schertzing

–Tom and JoAnne Fogle

parenting journey 13 “Can you hear me now?” When should kids have a cell phone?

– Dr. Cathleen McGreal

theology 101 14 Who is the Son of Man? Why does Jesus always refer to himself as the son of man, rather than the Son of God? – Elizabeth Solsburg

from the bishop 16 Back in the saddle again!

– Bishop Carl F. Mengeling

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spiritual fitness 24 Be kind to witches? How kindness can overcome evil. – Father Bill Ashbaugh The remains of victims of Rwanda’s 1994 genocide are buried at the Gisozi memorial in Kigali, Rwanda.

culture 26 A tisket, a tasket – a spiritual lift in a gift basket – Michelle Sessions Difranco

F A I T H i n d e p t h I will walk again. How adult stem cell treatment is healing Jeni’s spinal injury.

Read Jeni’s story and an interview with Dr. Jean Peduzzi-Nelson, an expert in the field.

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work life 31 My boss is wet behind the ears – what do we do when our manager has less experience? – Tim Ryan

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F A I T H i n t e r v i e w Tom Grace has written a Catholic thriller. This novel is based on real events surrounding the church in China. The Secret Cardinal is an exciting and informative read. – Elizabeth Solsburg

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s p e c i a l r e p o r t Is my parish a good disciple? FAITH continues its exploration of the Parish Evaluation Inventory – what makes a parish good at discipleship?

What can we do to be better disciples of Christ?

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The Magazine of the Catholic Diocese of Lansing

Most Reverend Carl F. Mengeling PUBLISHER

Rev. Charles Irvin FOUNDING EDITOR

October 2007 • Volume 8: Issue 8

Holocaust survivor and author comes to Ann Arbor and East Lansing

Rev. Dwight Ezop EDITOR IN CHIEF

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ome listen to Immaculée Ilibagiza’s account of faith and courage – the events are free, but a free-will donation can be made to the Left To Tell Charitable Fund.

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Rev. William Ashbaugh Michelle Sessions DiFranco Elizabeth Grodi Marybeth Hicks Shannon Hoffman Rev. Joseph Krupp Tom and JoAnne Fogle Cathleen McGreal Rick and Diane Peiffer Tim Ryan Nancy Schertzing Lindsey Walter

• Thursday, Oct. 4 at 7 p.m., St. Francis Parish in Ann Arbor • Friday, Oct. 5 at 10 a.m., St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in East Lansing

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Tom Gennara James Luning (cover) Phillip Shippert CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS

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From wealthy nobleman to servant of God Saint Francis Borgia Birthplace: Gandia, Spain Feast Day: October 10 Patron of Portugal

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om, something happened, and it’s really bad.”

This is never how you want your 9-year-old to begin a conversation, especially if her eyes are pooled with tears and her voice is shaking with panic.

“What?” I say, eyeing her up and down for fresh blood or signs of severe swelling.

Her answer tumbles out between sobs and gulps for air.

“There was a nest (gasp) and I wanted to look inside it (gasp) and I accidentally hit it (gasp) and it fell off the thingy it was on (gasp) and the eggs fell out and they broke on the cement and now (gasp, gasp) I’ve killed a living thing, and it’s all my fault.”

With this horrific conclusion, she throws herself on the bleacher in front of me and heaves tears of guilt and remorse.

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been just another of Jimmy’s soccer games. I hadn’t been paying much attention to the action on the field because I still don’t really understand much about soccer (especially the ambiguous “off sides” call).

Instead, I had been using my required attendance to catch up with a friend in the cheap seats – the bleachers set back a few feet from the sidelines (where the real soccer fans sit).

Once the “baby bird incident” occurs, however, I find myself in the midst of a teachable moment that can’t be postponed.

– Marybeth Hicks

Find out about Marybeth’s teachable moment with her daughter, and read other great essays and daily changing news – only on www.FAITHmag.com.

Claim to Fame: Francis Borgia was born in 1510 to an imperial family. He was the great-grandson of Pope Alexander VI and King Ferdinand of Aragon, as well as the cousin of Emperor Charles V. When he was 18, Francis served at court and by 1530, he was Marquis of Llombay. Upon his father’s death in 1543, Francis left the imperial court and became Duke of Gandia, quickly earning a reputation as one of Spain’s most respected nobles. Meanwhile, he helped found a hospital and university for the Society of Jesus. After his beloved wife died, Francis gave up his public life and dedicated himself entirely to God’s service. Providing for his eight children, he entered the Jesuits.

But Francis would still be torn between his desire to live a quiet, secluded life, his public duty and his administrative ability.

The Society of Jesus: Francis did not seek advancement, but within three years, the Order’s founder, St. Ignatius Loyola, asked Francis to become provincial head. In 1565, he became the superior general of the entire order. He moved to Rome and, under his leadership, the Jesuits attracted many recruits, established 20 colleges in Europe and began new missions in the Americas. Francis did so much to create the order’s internal structure and further expansion that he is often referred to as the “second founder of the Jesuits.” However, Francis worried that the many activities of the Jesuits might distract them from their religious purpose. To remind them of their dedication to Christ, he instituted a rule that each Jesuit must meditate for an hour each day.

Best quote: Although he was ill and exhausted, Francis obediently accompanied Pope Pius V’s nephew on a mission to Spain and Portugal. As he entered Barcelona and Valencia, crowds converged in the streets, crying, “Where is the saint?”

How he died: A leader until the end, he died upon his return from his mission for Pope Pius V. Prayer: Lord our God, you called St. Francis Borgia from a royal palace to be your servant. Grant through his prayers that all who have served you and renounced the world for you will not labor alone. We also aim to serve you through our efforts at work and at home. Please grant us the strength and humility that St. Francis Borgia had in answering your call to serve you. Amen. – Jan Rynearson

| St. Hedwig, Religious October 16 | St. Margaret Mary Alacoque, Virgin October 16 | St. Ignatius of Antioch, Bishop, Martyr October 17 | St. Luke, Evangelist October 18

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Dear Fr. Joe is it a sin to work on Sunday?

A young parishioner, Chris, had just turned 16 when he went to his dad and said: “Dad it is my 16th birthday! It sure would be nice if you can help me buy a car.” So his dad replied, “Son, I will help you buy any car that you want, as long as you raise your grades AND cut your hair.”

Chris thought about the deal and said OK. After the next semester, Chris excitedly brought home his report card. He had raised his grades from Cs and Ds to all As and Bs. His father was very proud!

Seeing how happy his dad was, Chris described what kind of car he wanted, leaving out no detail. His dad said, “Chris, you haven’t fulfilled all of the deal. You still need to cut your hair.”

Chris, thinking he could pull a fast one, replied, “Well Jesus had long hair.” His dad said, “Yeah, and Jesus walked everywhere he went!”

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What about the people who ate meat on Friday – now that it’s not a mortal sin, do they get retroactively pardoned or something?

I did a bit of research on this and found out a lot of interesting things; but perhaps the most important thing is that I found no evidence that eating meat on Friday was ever a mortal sin.

The practice arose from a spirit of penance – denying ourselves on Fridays, in memory of the day Christ was crucified.

Although eating meat on Friday is no longer proscribed, we are still called to penitence, particularly on Fridays. During Lent, the church in the United States obligates Catholics over the age of 14 to abstain from meat on Fridays.

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The practice of refraining from meat on Fridays during Lent is a form of penance, and, if you ask me, a particularly effective one if done right. Especially for us Americans – meat is such a part of our everyday life that not enjoying it is something we definitely notice. Hopefully, the next time we have the “It’s Friday during Lent, I can’t eat that” moment, we’ll pause and rest in the realization that this time of the year is different from all others.

We have, at that moment, a whole ton of options: We can skip the meal and go to church and pray; we can try to get to confession; we can form a brief prayer right then and there. So many choices to offer as a gift to God. There are, obviously, exceptions. The church always allows wiggle room for people with health problems, or the elderly.

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whether you can or should abstain from meat, make sure and talk to your doctor about it. If your health doesn’t allow you to do this, make sure and work with your priest and create a special form of penance that you can do.

Now, we’ve hit upon my true skill: I’ve typed hundreds of words and have yet to answer your question. My nephew calls this “Uncle Joe chasing the shiny thing.” Thanks for sticking with me this long.

When it comes to issues such as this, the important thing to remember is that the sin would not have been in the eating of meat, but in the disobedience to the church’s laws. The deliberate defiance of Christ’s church is the real sin.

Now, the church is clear that there are some things that are simply objectively wrong – for example, we should never need

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if you ask me, a particularly effective one if done right.

50th anniversary celebration for Bishop Mengeling: All invited The bishop’s anniversary celebration will take place Tues., Oct. 16 at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish, East Lansing.

There will be Mass at 2 p.m. followed immediately by a reception. Please come and wish the bishop well in his recovery from cancer and thank him for 50 years of service to the church as an ordained priest.

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“The car that put America on wheels.”

What year was the “Tin Lizzie” introduced?

The Model T, with a price tag of $825, was introduced by Henry Ford on Oct. 1, WHAT YEAR? On this day, Orson Welles presented a dramatization of H.G. Wells’ War of the Worlds on CBS Radio. Although there were several disclaimers informing listeners that the show was merely a fictional fabrication, the realistic interruptions that aliens had landed in New Jersey sent the broadcast’s audience into a misinformed state of terror on Oct. 30, WHAT YEAR? “Happy are those who endure in peace.” He would later be made the patron saint of animals and ecology, was a preacher and a mystic, founder of the Franciscan Order and he took the Gospel literally by following all Jesus said and did. St. Francis of Assisi died on Oct. 3, WHAT YEAR? He was a chemist who made a fortune off of his invention of dynamite. As a philanthropist, he created the Nobel Prize, which has been awarded annually for high achievement in chemistry, literature, medicine, physics and peace. Alfred Nobel was born on Oct. 21, WHAT YEAR? Answers: 1908, 1938, 1226, 1833

in those situations; I am writing this for people who work on Sundays because nothing else occurs to them: Stop it.

Sunday is a holy day. It’s a commandment The practice of refraining from meat on that we honor the Fridays during Lent is a form of penday and use ance, and, that time to rest. In most situations, it is more important that we Lent is to be a time for us to spend time with our family and pause and enter in to the passion and death of Jesus. It’s a time for us take them to church than make more money. I remember in colto focus and repent; to reorder our lege reading about the great labor lives and ditch those things that union strikes and how one of the draw us away from God. Abstainearly demands was that workers ing from meat on Friday deprives get Sundays off. How far we’ve us of something we like, but don’t come that we can’t even give God need, in order to remind us of one day where we relax, pray and what we should focus on. spend time with the family.

Let’s keep the Lord’s day holy, Is it a sin to brothers and sisters. work on Sunday?

Enjoy another day in God’s presence! – Father Joseph Krupp There are circumstances where such a thing is unavoidable, and I Send your want to be clear that I understand questions to: that. In particular, I know there “In the Know with Fr. Joe” are some service industry and FAITH Magazine medical jobs where an individual 209 Seymour Ave. simply has to work on Sunday.

Lansing, MI 48933 I am not addressing this to folks Or: JoeInBlack@priest.com the church to tell us abortion is wrong; it simply is. Abstinence from meat, however, is what we call a discipline, so it can change with the times.

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FAITH asks students from Mrs. Crocker’s 5th grade class at Our Lady of Fatima in Michigan Center about patience.

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How do you deal with being patient with God when a prayer isn’t answered or is not answered the way you had expected?

Wesley, 11 I just try to figure out why he didn’t answer my prayer or answer it the way I hoped because sometimes it makes things a whole lot better.

How do your teachers show patience in your classroom?

Leah, 11 When someone is out of the room or not listening, she re-explains the assignment. She laughs at her mistakes and doesn’t get angry when someone does something wrong. Instead she helps them get it right.

Who in your life exemplifies patience well?

Jacob, 10 The [person] in my life who exemplifies patience well is my mom when she helps me with my homework and I can’t do it – she keeps her cool and helps me as much as she can.

Cross, October 20 | St. John of Capistrano, Priest October 23 | St. Anthony Mary Claret, Bishop October 24

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www.VaticanState.va The Vatican can now be visited online. Vatican City is the smallest independent state in the world in terms of inhabitants and size. It occupies an area of more than 10 acres. The site is available in five languages.

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Week of prayer for Christian unity “Pray Without Ceasing,” is the week’s theme. The event, which is being held for the 100th time, will be Jan. 18-25, 2008.

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World Youth Day Individual registration is now available. Accommodations and meal packages for the six-day event also can be purchased.

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Holy Father met Scouts The pope did so in a celebration marking the 100th anniversary of the Scouts’ founding.

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First female president The church in India welcomes the election of Pratibha Patil, the country’s first female president.

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Four priests arrested in China About 15 priests and multiple laypeople are also jailed. All of them are accused of refusing to join the state-condoned official “Catholic” Church of China, the Patriotic Association.

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A bestseller Benedict XVI’s Jesus of Nazareth is a favorite in France.

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Austria ready for pope Benedict XVI plans to visit in September to commemorate the 850th anniversary of the shrine of Mariazell.

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U.S. bishops discuss with Democrats The U.S. bishops will meet with a group of Catholic House Democrats to discuss a responsible transition to end the war in Iraq.

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Bishops welcome nurses freed from Libya Bulgarian bishops are pleased with the liberation of five Bulgarian nurses and a Palestinian doctor who were wrongly accused of intentionally infecting Libyan children with the virus that causes AIDS. FAITH Magazine

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Permission has come from Rome to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day on March 15 in 2008.

The decision to move the Irish patron saint’s feast day came about because the traditional March 17 festivities will clash with Monday of Holy Week, the Irish Times reported. Under the church’s General Norms for the Liturgical Year and calendar, St. Patrick’s feast day does not rank as high as the Monday before Easter, and therefore, will be moved.

The last time St. Patrick’s Day was moved was in 1940, when it coincided with Palm Sunday, the first day of Holy Week. – ZENIT

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As the number of elderly people grows around the world, experts at the Vatican will examine pastoral care specifically suited to their needs.

The 22nd International Congress of the Pontifical Council for Health Care Ministry will be held this November to discuss elements of pastoral care of the elderly.

The Pontifical Council will trace the history of assistance given to the aged and infirm as well as illustrate the demographics of the world’s elderly population.

They will review what Revelation, sacred Scripture, the Fathers of the church and writings from church history say about the care of the elderly and the infirm.

Pastoral care of the elderly who are sick will be studied from the religious, biomedical, sociopolitical and familial points of view.

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Requiescat in pace Sister Ann Mrugala, OP died Monday, July 16, 2007 in Palos Heights, Ill. She was 78 years old and in her 51st year as an Adrian Dominican Sister.

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• There are two different types of stem-cell research, adult and embryonic.

• Adult stem-cell research is ethical and proven – as it is providing treatments and even cures for more than 70 different medical conditions – and that embryonic research is unproven and immoral as it kills the living human embryo.

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of Michigan residents agree with the statement, “While I think we need to find cures for horrible diseases, I worry about the future if the cloning of human embryos is allowed.

The politics and science of adult stem-cell research Dr. Jean Peduzzi-Nelson is clinical professor of medicine and researcher at Wayne State University Medical School. Her area of focus is adult stem cells for the regeneration of spinal cord and brain tissue.

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FAITH asked her to share her insight into the political and scientific issues of this volatile subject. We offer some of her answers here; for a full text of the interview and more information, visit www.FAITHmag.com: FAITH: What is the truth about the potential for adult stem cells to cure injuries and dis-

ease as opposed to embryonic stem cells?

In the U.S., because of the media, people are under the impression that embryonic stem cells have the most potential to provide cures.

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Yes, the FDA has approved adult stem cells as treatment for certain kinds of cancer and other specific diseases. There are now some 70 uses for adult stem cells in the U.S. Unlike some countries, our government is very careful not to approve a form of treatment until there is solid science to prove that the treatment is safe and effective. So, even if adult

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I will How adult stemcell treatment is healing Jeni’s spinal injury stem-cell treatments are being used in other parts of the world, the U.S. may not introduce them until later.

FAITH: Given the relative safety and promise of adult stem cells, why is there so much focus on embryonic stem cells?

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funding, so in many respects this has to do with what sort of money can be found for certain kinds of research. Right now, again because of the media attention, there is a large amount of funding for embryonic stem-cell research and not as much for adult stem cells. This also has to do with the potential for profit down the road.

There’s not as much potential

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But Jeni Rummelt is different.

Rather than pray for the serenity to accept a lifetime in a wheelchair, she prays for the courage to find the miracle she is certain God is offering her.

Jeni is changing what she can’t accept, just like the prayer says.

Six years ago, Jeni Rummelt was a newlywed who, along with her husband Trent, owned and operated Solid Impact Fitness Center in Caledonia. A lifelong athlete and fitness devotee, Jeni’s career as a physical trainer suited her active lifestyle.

Jeni and Trent enjoyed only seven months of their new life as husband and wife, and only two months as entrepreneurs, when, on a trip with Trent’s family, they were involved in a tragic auto accident.

Trent’s brother was killed; Trent and his parents were critically injured and faced months of recovery; and Jeni suffered a catastrophic spinal cord injury.

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for profit with adult stem cells because they are plentiful in the patient’s own body. (But of course, in my mind, this is another reason why it’s a preferable source of stem cells). These are the two main reasons why stem-cell research is such a political issue.

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The means we would have to accept the notion of creating life for the purpose of destroying it.

Most people believe this is an immoral idea.

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At only 26, the once-active, athletic young wife learned she was paralyzed from the waist down and would have to rely on a wheelchair – permanently. “The doctor told me there was nothing they could do and I would never walk again,” she recalls. “But even then I knew that wasn’t the final answer for me.”

Though she is still using a wheelchair, the years since the accident have been nothing short of miraculous for Jeni and Trent. In 2003 she gave birth to a son, Alex, and two years later had a second baby, a daughter aptly named Hope.

For most people, giving birth to two healthy children and avoiding any adverse health affects in the process might suffice in the “miracle” department. But Jeni’s tenacious spirit has not let her give up the fight to restore her mobility.

It’s this spirit that has led her to Russia, where Jeni participates in adult stem-cell therapy designed to regenerate the damaged T-12 vertebrate that disables her.

“People are unaware of the success researchers are having with adult stem cells. My therapy is completely safe for me because I’m being injected with my own stem cells that come from my own blood. There’s no chance of rejection and I don’t have to take any drugs to keep the tissues growing healthily in my body.”

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tions of mature stem cells – cells that have been allowed to divide and multiply – into Jeni’s spinal cord every two months. In time, these cells have the potential to become new nerve tissue in her spinal column, replacing the tissue that was damaged in the accident.

Since the use of adult stem cells to regenerate spinal tissue is not yet approved for use in the United States, Jeni must travel to Russia to receive treatment. “I’d love to do this therapy here in the U.S. and it will definitely be available in the future when the Food and Drug Administration approves it,” Jeni says. “But I got so many signs that God was pointing me in this direction, it seems he didn’t want me to wait.”

At the time she heard about the Russian adult stem-cell treatment program, Jeni was evaluating other therapy options but kept

meeting roadblocks along the way. “The weird thing was when I decided to do the stem-cell treatments, everything just fell into place. I had no passport, no money and no way to get to Russia, yet I had to be there within three weeks of deciding I would go. Only God could have made it possible for me to be in Russia three weeks later – and I was.”

Jeni’s fifth trip to Russia for treatment took place as FAITH went to press. Is it working? “I knew going in that my type of injury would need at least a year before I saw some results. I’m now beginning to feel sensations I hadn’t felt before and I’m able to contract and release the muscles in my legs. So yes, it’s starting to work, and I’m certain I will get up and walk one of these days.”

In the meantime, Jeni believes God is using her to inspire others to believe in and look for miracles.

For example, the parish community of St. Mary’s in Lowell sponsored a fundraiser to support her medical travel expenses, and others routinely offer prayers and encouragement.

She believes God is answering those prayers by giving her the optimism and positive attitude she needs to face each new day.

“I’m playing the hand I was dealt,” Jeni says, “but part of that will be to prove to people that you shouldn’t give up, no matter what.”

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my and Michael have been married for two years. Amy is concerned that Michael flirts too much – Michael says he’s “just looking.”

He flirts with other women.

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Nothing says “I love you” like an “attitude of gratitude.” Try not to take your spouse or any daily kindnesses for granted.

It turns any ordinary day into an extraordinary one. End each day together with a prayer of thanksgiving.

Amy says: We were at a party the other night, and Michael spent all his time chatting with the most beautiful woman in the room, whom he clearly did not think was I. This happens all the time – whenever we are out with friends, Michael charms the prettiest woman there. And I feel invisible. Whenever I’ve talked with him about how I feel, he always says something smart-aleck, like “It’s OK to window shop as long as you buy at home.”

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I’m just being friendly.

We’ve all heard this one before, but it bears repeating.

Credit card debt can suck your accounts dry.

Pay off highinterest credit cards as quickly as possible. If you can’t, at least transfer the debt to a lowerinterest card and make payments but not purchases until you whittle away at the amount you owe.

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Michael says: I think Amy is making a mountain out of a molehill.

Sure, I like to look at pretty girls – what red-blooded man doesn’t? But Amy is the one I love, and I have always been faithful to her. Regarding the party she’s talking about, what’s the point of going if you aren’t going to talk to new people? If that’s a problem for Amy, maybe she should stay home.

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a new pair of glasses if he can’t tell that his wife is the most beautiful person in the room! Jo Anne believes Michael’s insensitivity is surpassed only by his immaturity. OK, now that we have shown our biases in Amy’s favor, let’s view this situation in greater detail. We both agree that Michael exhibits the behavior of someone who doesn’t know how to address feelings. He appears to have little respect for Amy or their marriage. As parents, we have this unrealistic belief that all who are old enough and declare their intent to be married have a level of maturity that would preclude childish behavior. Obviously, Michael has again proven us wrong. It is also evident to us that Michael, not surprisingly given his exhibited behavior and comments, doesn’t get the message Amy is trying to send! In that

respect, we can’t be too hard on Michael because he is not alone in this – sometimes others don’t get the message we are trying so desperately to send. Jo Anne and I have had similar discussions and I can honestly say, “I didn’t get her message the first time either.” Luckily for me, she continued Deacon Tom Fogle is director of fam

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“Can you hear me now?”

When should kids have a cell phone?

Extravert or introvert, what are you? More importantly, what is your spouse?

Extraverts tend to “think out loud” – if you are married to one, you may need to patiently listen to the same concerns more than once.

Introverts need time to process – give your inwardly focused spouse some time to grapple with an issue between you before having a serious discussion. time

Do children need cell phones to stay in touch?

What factors should parents consider when making this decision?

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to express her desire for us to be together at social events and to have fun together. I finally “heard” what she was saying to me and, ever since then, we have enjoyed the events much more because we are making memories together.

We are experiencing the same activities and participating in the same events as a married couple and not as married singles.

Through the years, we have been fairly selective in attending social and even family events.

Those that permit us to be a couple, participating in the same conversations and activities, are high on our list to attend. In retrospect, those are the times we have enjoyed the most. Those events that have the ladies in one corner and the men in another corner, figuratively speaking, each with their own “exclusive” territory, fosters separation of spouses and not the growing together as a couple we are called to become.

Taken to the extreme, it can lead to behavior that builds barriers instead of removing barriers.

When your spouse is your best friend, your soul mate, the one with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life, why would you ever wish to be apart? It is not about making new friends with the opposite gender, it is about becoming one with your spouse. It is quite possible that Michael may need additional help in understanding what his role is in a marriage and how to go about treating Amy. One place Michael and Amy could turn to is Scripture.

In reading the New Testament, we would recommend you focus on how Jesus treats his spouse – the church.

Jo Anne had a final note for Michael: Not all “red-blooded men” behave in the manner you think. Teenage boys do, but not mature men.

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hen I was growing up, it was easy for Mole Hole Club members to stay in touch. My friend, Penn, created our “signature” call: ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh, ooooh-oooohooooooooh! We projected our voices so that the call could be heard not only on Del Valle Avenue, but all the way over to nearby streets. Club members and tag-along siblings would come running to the huge tree that marked our gathering spot.

We might play freeze-tag or statue-maker. Maybe we would decide to dig holes at our “secret fort.” When it was time for our fun to end, most moms just stood on front porches calling out our names.

Keeping in touch with friends and family is an essential part of childhood, generation after generation.

But technology leads to interesting questions. Do children need cell phones to stay in touch? What factors should parents consider when making this decision?

All my friends have cell phones!

Companies hope parents will yield to this refrain!

Cell phone marketing has hit the grade-school set – hard.

Disney has a Web site for its “Disney mobileTM” phones for children – its ring tones include songs from Beauty and the Beast! Mattell’s MySceneTM Mobile has a “reward board” to integrate phone use with behavior. Its ads say, “Just go online, set a list of chores, which can include making the bed, finishing homework or not arguing with your brother or sister and place stars on the completed tasks. At the end of the week or month, parents can buy extra minutes according to the child’s list of completed tasks.”

Beyond the status symbol Cook and clean together.

Cooking and cleaning are not gender specific roles nor part of our DNA structure! It is however, a great opportunity to build a relationship grounded in mutuality and respect. It is a great opportunity to nourish the body and soul while at the same time sharing the tasks and requirements of daily life.

– Tom and Jo Anne Fogle

As a parent, we need to examine the reasons behind the purchase decision. Talking to friends as a reward for finishing homework or engaging in other expected behaviors is counterproductive. But, would there be an advantage to having more parent-child access? Whatever the child’s age, consider the benefits. For example, a phone may enhance the safety of teen drivers in cases of road emergencies. Also look at drawbacks. Many adolescents talk continuously while driving, increasing their risks. Think carefully about the developmental level of your child. How will you respond if the phone is lost or damaged? Dirty jeans may be tossed into the washer, cell phone and all! (I am speaking from experience).

Having the ability to track your child’s whereabouts may seem like an automatic plus, but think twice. What does it mean in terms of emerging issues of autonomy and independence? How will you react when the phone is turned off?

Technological advances have pluses and minuses. Weigh your decision thoughtfully and bring it to prayer. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5) – Dr. Cathleen McGreal

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Why does Jesus always refer to himself as the son of man, rather than the Son of God?

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Aurelius Augustinius was one of the pre-eminent theologians in the development of the Western church.

His teachings on salvation and grace were cited by many Protestant reformers as they developed their systems of thought.

Who is the

He was born in North Africa to St. Monica, a Catholic and Patricius, a pagan.

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his year, FAITH is exploring Christology – the study of Jesus Christ. We asked several eminent seminary professors some questions about Jesus. Their answers are enlightening and thought-provoking.

Meet the professors Father Acklin

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Father Thomas Acklin is a monk of St. Vincent Archabbey in Latrobe, Pa. He is a graduate of Duqesne University, St. Vincent Seminary, The Catholic University of Louvain and Pittsburgh Psychoanalytic Institute.

Father Earl Muller is The Bishop Kevin M. Britt Professor of Theology/Christology at Sacred Heart Seminary in Detroit. He formerly taught at Marquette University in Wisconsin.

Father Gladstone Stevens is on the faculty of St. Mary Seminary in Baltimore.

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FAITH: Why does Jesus always refer to himself as the Son of Man, rather than the Son of God? What does that mean?

Father Stevens: Jesus identifies himself as the son of man rather than the Son of God. The concept of the son of God is not uniquely Jewish – it also reflects Oriental kingship and emperor worship. Why didn’t Jesus then identify himself as the Messiah, as understood by the Jews? He was reluctant to adopt this due to its connotations of earthly glory and power. The concept of the Son of God is a way of speaking of David, and Jesus does align himself with that occasionally. He clearly does believe himself to be the Messiah.

Augustine himself was a Manichaean and devoted to pleasure; he had a 15-year illicit affair with a young woman who bore him a son. His famous prayer was “Lord, grant me chastity and continence, but not yet.”

In 386, Augustine had a profound personal conversion experience, and completely changed his life. He studied Platonic thought, which continued to influence him in many ways, created a monastic foundation and was ordained.

Eventually, he was made bishop of Hippo.

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Jesus as two persons? The heresy of Nestorianism

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Mary – mother of God? Nestorianists believed that Jesus was two persons: human and divine. With this teaching, we run into a problem with the crucifixion – who died on the cross? The heresy takes its name from Nestorius, a monk who became the patriarch of Constantinople and who denied the doctrine of theotokos – that Mary was the mother of God. In 431, the Council of Ephesus denounced this position and declared that Jesus had two distinct natures, human and divine, fully and inseparably present in one person. Nestorius was removed from his position as patriarch and exiled.

Nestorianism itself survived for several hundred more years.

The son of man is based on the mysterious figure from the Book of Daniel. Somehow, this figure’s purpose is not to establish earthly rule, but to mediate.

Jesus, the son of man and Son of God, bridges the gap between the world of God and the world of humanity.

ing, it did not mean what we now understand it to mean. It is rather a lot like our word “mankind,” meaning all of humanity. The son of man is the name used in Ezekiel by God when he is addressing the prophet – thereby addressing all human beings.

The other meaning is found in the prophet Jesus, the son of man and Son Daniel, referring to the of God, whole nation of Israel. The son of man comes as the whole nation rising up to heaven, Father Acklin: The term “Son just like the dry bones in Ezekiel. of God” could be used for Jesus speaks of himself in the angels, saints, holy persons and third person as the son of man to prophets. In Jewish understand-

bridges the gap between the world of God and the world of humanity.

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INRI and IHS These letters are often seen as representative of Christ. IHS stands for the first three letters of the name of Jesus in Greek. INRI are the first letters of the Latin inscription that was ordered placed on the cross by Pilate – “Jesus of Nazareth, King of the Jews.”

Bible Quiz Queen of Persia – champion of dignity.

Who am I? I am thought to be the granddaughter of King Nebuchadnezzar II of Babylon – so I am royalty in my own right.

Obviously, I deserved to be treated with respect – but my husband apparently didn’t see it that way. His name was Ahasuerus and he was the king of a country many people think was Persia.

But you know, that’s up for debate.

Ahasuerus never really treated me right

and the final straw came the night he was having a huge banquet for his socalled friends. I, of course, was not invited. But one of his servants came with a message – Ahasuerus wanted me to come to the banquet hall and “show my beauty” – his term for dancing naked for his guests. I refused and he cast me off like refuse to marry another. My story is told in her book – Esther. In the end, she got even with him in ways better than I could have imagined. Who am I?

say “I.” He sometimes silences those who call him by “Messiah” and “Son of God,” preferring to call himself the son of man as suffering servant, whose suffering is for all people.

Father Muller: The term, “son of man,” is generally considered to be an allusion to Daniel, chapter 7. In that book, it appears to have the sense of Israel corporately being given dominion and authority. But from that time to the time of Jesus, the understanding of the term changed to apply to the personified nature of a messianic and eschatological figure. It is in this context that Jesus applies that term to himself.

A number of Scripture scholars would have seen nothing more than the kind of reference that you would get in Ezekiel, where the prophet himself is referred to as the son of man. Jesus clearly intends more by this term than human descent. He attaches eschatological significance to the term.

The clearest examples of Jesus as the Son of God are in John’s Gospel, where he talks explicitly about his relationship to the Father. Even in the synoptics, he distinguishes himself from the rest of us when he says things like, “your father and my father.” In a variety of oblique ways, Jesus makes the claim of being the Son of God. – Elizabeth

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is messianic? mesē-an-ik Pertaining to the messiah. What is eschatology? ĕs 'kә-tŏl'-ә jē The branch of theology concerned with the end of the world.

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In his first column after his illness, Bishop Mengeling thanks us all Cardinal Justin Rigali took this photo of Bishop Mengeling on their trip to Egypt in 1965.

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y dear brothers and sisters in Christ: Thank you! I warmly invite you to discover the personal and mutual meaning of these two familiar words from me as you read on.

Allow me to imitate St. Paul. He always begins his 14 letters with fervent words of thanks. To the Colossians: “We always give thanks to God, the father of our Lord Jesus Christ, in our prayers for you, because we have heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and the love you FAITH Magazine

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bear toward all the holy ones.”

Like Paul, I too have heard, often experienced and witnessed your love in my nearly 12 years among you. Far surpassing anything in the past, however, was your presence and prayers in the recent months of my illness. Recalling the joy and comfort of experiencing the gift of your faith, hope and love takes my breath away. Like the teens, I say, “Awesome!” How blessed is our diocese with faithful who are sensitive to the sufferings of others and moved by their misfortune. With deeply compassionate and loving hearts and the unselfish

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why I was so tired. It was so bad that I had only gift of self, they are friends of the sick. I thank you! been able to celebrate a few confirmations. Msgr.

Once the malignant cancer and my surgery were made public, Groshek, Msgr. Lunsford and Father Osborn preMasses and countless prayers began. Then cards, letters, e-mails and sided at most of the recent cycle of confirmations. mementoes came in a steady stream (sometimes a torrent) from so I thank them! many of you. They were from our schoolchildren, high-school students, families, seniors, religious communities, Knights of Columbus and many more. All pledge Once the malignant cancer and my surgery were prayers, which continued in our churches, orgamade public, Masses and countless prayers began. nizations and religious houses.

It seemed like the whole diocese became the Good Samaritan, caring for the man in the (sometimes a ditch. I believe you follow Jesus’ words about torrent) from so many of you. the Judgment: Jesus: “I was ill and you comforted me.”

Since this was my first major and life-threatenThe Just: “When did we visit you when you were ill?” ing illness, I was like a recruit in basic training, Jesus: “I assure you, as often as you did it for one of my least learning how to be sick and how to recover. In ones, you did it for me.” that learning process, I also learned to know and One funny get-well card charted my journey from surgery to reappreciate the health-care professionals who were covery and to what’s ahead. The big envelope had an unusual bulge. there for me. I had always taken them for granted On the front of the card, it said, “Sometimes life can throw you.” in the past.

Inside, a big surprise! The quiet opening of the card was shattered Countless times, as a parish priest, I cared for

by Gene Autry loudly singing the cowboy hit of 1939: the sick and dying, mostly in hospitals and nursWhoopi-ty-aye-oh ing homes. Doctors, nurses and other related Rockin` to and fro personnel were in and out, but aside from customBack in the saddle again ary courtesy and respect, I took them for granted.

Whoopi-ty-aye-yay During my week at Sparrow Hospital, a wonderful I go my way thing happened to this first-time patient. My eyes Back in the saddle again – I’m back in the saddle again were opened to new horizons. Now, in my 50th Out where a friend is a friend year as a priest, I no longer saw those caring for Where the longhorn cattle feed me merely as professionals doing necessary funcOn the lowly gypsum weed tions. I began to notice doctors, nurses and other Back in the saddle again. health-care personnel as a personal presence and as providers of dedicated service that I respect and The card from Resurrection Parish in Lansing was filled with mesappreciate. I experienced their commitment as an sages from the parish choir. expression of their love, kindness and compasThanks to our Lord, who is in charge, the life and mission of sion – the heart and soul of all health-care. I our diocese continued. I had no anxiety in that regard because found them to be pleasant, patient, sensitive I knew the Diocese of Lansing was in good and capable hands, and compassionate. Frequently, I heard, “Do guided by the firm and gentle leadership of the Good Shepyou need anything?” I will remember herd, our priests and deacons, our pastoral coordinators, and them with esteem and gratitude. I all our parish and diocesan leaders. I was at peace. I’m espethank them! cially grateful for Msgr. Michael Murphy, Msgr. Steven Finally, I offer a thought from Raica and the entire curia. I thank you!

Pope Benedict on the sacrament Two more blessings: the removal of the cancer was of the sick: complete and it had not spread. Our Lord has blessed “Illness can indeed heal me me with more time for my conversion. spiritually; I may even have After learning how to be sick, I needed to learn how spiritual need of it. Christ, by to recover. Providentially, the Sisters of Mercy invited teaching me how to suffer, and me to a home near their motherhouse. Most of the by suffering with me, truly sisters are in medical service, and some are doctors and becomes my doctor, who oversurgeons. For three weeks, they disciplined me toward comes the deep spiritual sickness recovery. I thank them! within my soul.”

This life-threatening illness was my first, and I had much to learn. For nearly a year, I lived in a state of – Most Rev. Carl F. Mengeling is the fourth increasing tiredness. After bleeding began in April, a mabishop of Lansing. lignant cancer in my bladder was diagnosed. I knew then

Then cards, letters, e-mails and mementoes came in a steady stream

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mmaculée Ilibagiza endured unimaginable horrors as a Tutsi in the Rwandan genocide of 1994.

The ethnic hatred and butchery claimed most of her beloved family and profoundly changed the direction of her young life.

For 91 days, she hid from the slaughter with seven other Tutsi women in the local pastor’s bathroom – a space so small they survived only by sitting in complete silence on each others’ laps. Outside their window, Hutu neighbors laughed as they followed their government’s direction to hunt Tutsis with machetes and other government-issued weapons.

In her book, Left To Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust, Immaculée describes the extraordinary brutality and the voices that assailed her ears and mind during her ordeal. She tells of voices that imparted a truth so profound it empowered her to forgive the butchers and dedicate her life to sharing that message with the world.

“I could hear the killers on the other side of the wall, at least 300 or 400 of them shouting and jeering. They sounded drunk and their chanting was more vicious than usual, ‘Kill the Tutsis big and small … kill them one and kill them all. Kill them!’

“I entreated, ‘God, make them go away … save us from …’

‘Don’t call on God, Immaculée,’ [a] voice broke in, ‘He knows you’re a liar every time you pray to him and tell him you love him.

How can you love God, but hate so many of his creations?’ Beneath the raucous singing, the dark voice taunted me, ‘It’s no use. Don’t call on God. God doesn’t save liars.’

“I began to pray for the killers, but then stopped. I desperately wanted God’s protection, but I believed in my heart they deserved to die. I couldn’t pretend they hadn’t slaughtered and raped thousands of people – I couldn’t ignore the awful, evil things they had done to so many innocent souls.

I asked God, ‘Let me pray for their victims instead. Let me pray for justice. God, I will ask you to punish those wicked men, but I cannot forgive them – I just can’t.’

“Finally I heard the killers leaving, walking away down the road, their singing fading in the distance.

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“One night I heard screaming not far from the house, and then a baby crying. The killers must have slain the mother and left the baby to die in the road. The child wailed all night; by morning its cries were feeble and sporadic, and by nightfall it was silent. I heard dogs snarling nearby and shivered as I thought about how the baby’s life had ended. I prayed for God to receive the child’s innocent soul, and then asked him, ‘How can I forgive people who would do such a thing to an infant?’

“I heard his answer as clearly as if we’d been sitting in the same room chatting: ‘You are all my children, and the baby is with me now.’

“It was such a simple sentence, but it was the answer to the prayers I’d been lost in for days. I held my father’s rosary and asked God to help me [as I meditated on Jesus’ words on the cross.] Again I heard his voice: ‘Forgive them; they know not what they do.’

“I took a crucial step toward forgiving my killers that day. My anger was draining from me. I’d opened my heart to God and he’d touched it with his infinite love. For the first time, I pitied the killers. I asked God to forgive their sins and turn their

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“That night I prayed with a clear conscience and a clean heart. For the first time since I entered the bathroom, I slept in peace.”

Growing up in a devout Catholic family, Immaculée followed all the Catholic traditions – from attending Sunday Mass to fasting and praying before the crucifix. But she did these largely because her parents made her. As the genocide raged, Immac-

ulée fully embraced her faith, retreating inward to pray and meditate as she and her fellow refugees hid in the bathroom, living on scraps from the pastor’s table and waiting for the insanity to end.

While her body was shriveling from lack of food and exercise, Immaculée’s faith sustained her and nourished her soul. Through meditation, praying the rosary and contemplative prayer, she writes, “I gave myself completely over to God. When I wasn’t praying I felt I was no longer living in his light and the world of the bathroom was too bleak to endure.”

The prayers and meditation also kept the dark voice Immaculée calls the devil at bay. Over a decade later, a thriving Immaculée considers the voice that menaced her during her ordeal. She explains, “I don’t remember hearing the devil before the genocide. If I did, I didn’t pay attention, or thought it was just my mind until I heard his intense suggestions. Now I am aware so much of his voice always calling for the wrong thing, contrary to God’s will.

Unfortunately, sometimes we listen to him.

“I think the killers heard the same voices – even the voice of God, but they chose to listen to the government and the devil. I was only lucky to listen to God’s voice because I was in a situation where I needed him so badly. Most often, we tell ourselves we need him only when we are in trouble. But the Hutus were the free tribe, out of trouble at that time.

They didn’t need God much and fell for the false promising and lying of the devil’s voice. I have heard killers who say that they think they were possessed, who regret bitterly what they did. I think they know they listened to the wrong voices.

“God’s voice was always loving,

I’d opened my heart to God and he’d touched it with his infinite love. For the first time, I pitied the killers. I asked God to forgive their sins and turn their souls toward his beautiful light.

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chanting was more vicious than usual, ‘Kill the Tutsis big and small … kill them one and kill them all. Kill them!’ soft and tolerant like a father or mother. God’s voice was calling me to make good decisions in the present moment, leading me into the future and helping me to know the past is forgiven.”

In 2006, Hay House published Left To Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust, Immaculée’s memoir of her ordeal. She ends her account of the genocide and aftermath by describing the dramatic moment when she lived God’s message most poignantly by seeking out her family’s killer at the prison near her hometown.

“I watched as a disheveled, limping old man crossed the prison yard. I jumped as they approached, recognizing the man instantly as Felicien, a successful Hutu businessman whose children I’d played with in primary school. He’d been tall, handsome and had impeccable manners. I shivered, remembering it had been his voice I’d heard calling out my name when the killers searched for me at the pastor’s house. Felicien had hunted me.

“Pushed into the office, Felicien stumbled onto his knees. When he looked up from the floor and saw that I was the one waiting for him, the color drained from his face. His dirty clothes hung from his emaciated frame in tatters. His skin was

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sallow, bruised and broken, and his eyes were filmed and crusted. His bare feet were covered in open, running sores.

“I wept at the sight of his suffering. “[The jailer] yelled at Felicien, ‘He looted your parents’ home and robbed your family’s plantation, Immaculée.

After he killed your mother and brother, he kept looking for you – he wanted you dead so he could take over your property. Didn’t you, pig? What do you have to say to her? What do you have to say to Immaculée?’

“Felicien was sobbing. I could feel his shame. He looked up at me for only a moment, but our eyes met.

I reached out, touched his hand lightly and said what I had come to say. ‘I forgive you.’

“My heart eased immediately, and I saw the tension release in Felicien’s shoulders before his jailer pushed him out the door and into the courtyard. Two soldiers yanked Felicien up by his armpits and dragged him back toward his cell.”

Looking back on that moment, Immaculée explains. “When I met Felicien, I wanted him to know what was in my heart at that moment. I felt the forgiveness and wanted to give it to him, though I was embarrassed that by forgiving this killer his jailer may have thought I was crazy or that I didn’t

Political power in Rwanda has shifted between the two groups, sometimes aided by colonial occupiers. In 1994, an airplane carrying Rwandan President Juvénal Habyarimana and Burundi’s president, Cyprien Ntaryamira, was shot down as it prepared to land in

Immaculée Ilibagiza will be speaking at St. Francis of Assisi Parish, Ann Arbor, Thurs., Oct. 4, 7 p.m. and at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish, East Lansing, Fri., Oct. 5, 10 a.m.

really love my family. Still, I wanted to free his heart from the excuse that I hated him, so he could think of how to grow from there. I wanted him to be better, to regret what he had done and to realize God’s love for everyone.

“I hope that my experience can help others to forgive and to experience the peace that comes from that. I want them to always have hope and to know God is close to each heart.

“No matter what happens in our lives we can be happy and trusting if we practice true, holy love in each second. Forgiveness, not only in our hearts but in the world, is our only chance. And it is possible if we listen to God’s voice in our lives.”

Kigali. Both presidents, who were Hutu, were killed in the crash. Although responsibility for the crash is disputed, Hutu extremists blamed the Tutsi and moderate Hutus. They began a 100-day genocide in which they killed more than 800,000 of their fellow Rwandans.

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Tom Grace learned a lot about religious persecution in China to write his novel.

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Loosely based on some of the events in the life of Cardinal Zen Ze-kiun of Hong Kong, widely believed to have been Pope John Paul II’s last “secret cardinal,” Grace’s book reflects some of the harsh realities facing Chinese Catholics.

Tom Grace is a parishioner at St. Joseph Parish, Dexter and has written several other novels, including the best-seller, Spyder Web. His “day job” is as an architect.

ated, embraced or persecuted depending on who was on the throne. Sometimes an emperor converted and Christianity was tolerated. Eventually, the Communist government of China tried to wipe out religion and failed. Then they decided to take control of it and religion became part of the Chinese bureaucracy.

They legalized five religions – Catholicism, ProtesWhat prompted you to write this book? tantism, Daoism, Buddhism and Islam. Prelates in I was writing my Kilkenny thrillers and in March of these faiths are trained by the state, because loyalty to 2000, Sen. Joe Lieberman gave a stirring tribute to Cardinal Kung of China. It just amazed me and opened me the state is more important than faith. The government can then control the message coming out of the up to this whole story. In reading what this incredible pulpit. For example, the church in China supports man went through, I knew there was a story to tell, but abortion because that’s supported by the state. They it took me years to figure out and write. I wrote other are allowed one child per family. books during this time, which are almost formulaic Two of the “state” bishops of China recently passed technology thrillers. away. Now, with the Olympics loomThe Chinese gave Kung the message, “You are with us or ing, the question for the Chinese government is whether they are goin prison forever.” ing to replace these guys. Will they but consult the Vatican or not? Last year, instead cried, “Long live Jesus Christ, long live the pope!” they placed bishops in place without consulting the Vatican and set up an ugly exchange between China and the Vatican.

How much of this book is based on the life of During the Cultural Revolution, many people refused Cardinal Kung Pin-Mei? Little key pieces of Kung’s story were important and I to give up their faith and practiced at great risk, as they still do today. They practice in fields, in hiding, as the gave them to my bishop character. early Christians did under Roman persecution. The curChinese authorities wanted Cardinal Kung to be rent conflict began with Communism – atheism is the ofthe prelate of the government-authorized church in ficial religion. The Communists kicked out all foreigners, China, much like Henry VIII was in England at the including the papal nuncio. They threw others in jail. time of the Reformation. The Chinese gave Kung the message, “You are with us or in prison forever.” Kung You’ve written several books – what number is was dragged out in front of a crowd to support the this? How has your own faith played a role in government’s position, but instead cried, “Long live your writing career?

Jesus Christ, long live the pope!” Kung was sentenced This is my fifth. I like stories in which good triumphs to solitary. They didn’t want him talking to anyone, so no hard labor. Eventually, Kung was exiled because he over evil. The Bible is a great example. Evil may give it a The Secret run for the money – everybody loves that kind of story. was dying. He had family here, so Sen. Lieberman got Cardinal is avail- involved and Kung came to the United States. Then, This was interesting to me because Cardinal Kung’s able at bookstory is so fascinating. It is a story of faith and loyalty. he recovered and got the call from Rome, “Come see sellers and on me.”

At that point, Kung learned he was a cardinal.

In audio through What’s next for you? the fall, he got the red hat. The Chinese were furious.

Brilliance Audio.

Another book with a faith theme, but not as religious as this one specifically. Bioethics and embryonic life will What would you like people to know about the be a theme. I’m very interested in biomedical research, oppression of Catholics in China? partly because I’ve designed research facilities. There are I had never thought much about the practice of religion in China before. I had heard a lot about mis- new and scary things coming up in that area, like the creation of life outside the womb. sionaries, but that was it. Western religion was tolerFAITH: Can you give us a brief plot synopsis, without giving too much away?

In a nutshell, this book is a thriller about a jail break.

It’s wrapped up in the real, ongoing conflict between the Vatican and China.

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ow wonderful it is to be the recipient of another’s kindness! Our group was hopelessly lost. We were seminarians coming back to the United States but were able to spend a few days in Rome. We had just gotten off the bus, but were very lost in the large city. None of us knew any Italian. And just as we were gathering together, wondering what to do, a young man comes up to us and offers to help us.

His name was Michael. He stayed with us for a long while, showing us where we could go for housing and food. He was our interpreter and made sure everything was good for us. And he refused all offers of money. As soon as he got us settled, he was off. We

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were very grateful to him for his kindness, and truly felt we were visited by an angel from God. It turned our whole day around very quickly!

Kindness can do that for us. It can lead a person to a deeper knowledge of God and might even change his or her whole life.

In his recent book, which I highly recommend, The Virtue Driven Life, Father Benedict Groeschel, C.F.R. relates how an act of kindness changed his life.

He was in the second grade and wondered about his second-grade teacher, Sister Teresa Maria.

He would see her go out of the convent a few minutes before the end of each school day with a box or tray covered by a napkin. It was apparent there was food inside, and Benedict wondered where she was going. He followed her one day and saw her go into a tenement building. He knew the building because on the lower floor was the barber who cut his hair.

During the next visit, he asked the barber who Sister went to see and the barber told him it was an old sick woman. This really piqued Benedict’s interest, so the next time he saw Sister Teresa Maria go for a visit, he decided to climb up the fire escape and peek into the window. When he did so, he was horrified, for looking right back at him out the window was the “wicked witch” straight out of the Disney movie Snow White and Seven Dwarfs! He ran down the fire escape and up into the church with his heart pounding. As he calmed down before the statue of the Blessed Mother, a thought came to mind, “How come the witch did not harm Sister Teresa Maria?” The answer: “Because she was kind to her.” Then a profound thought came to him, “Maybe if the world was kinder to witches, they would not be so bad.” This is when he received his vocation to the priesthood, and he has spent much time in his life being kind to those who have experienced little or no kindness in their own lives.

There is great power in kindness. It is the power of God. It is the power of love.

Many of the psalms speak about God’s kindness.

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of kindness, for it is far worse to die in sin. Acts of kindness contribute to the healing and restoration of a soul.

All of us get bruised and hurt as we go through life. Unfortunately, we can end up forming a tough shell around our hearts to protect ourselves. It is a defensive shell that can keep others out – even God. Kindness shown to others can soften the heart – or at least does There is great power not add to the hardened in kindness. layers! It heals It is not only the the power of love. one showing kindness but the one receiving it. God brings good to everyone in every manner possible.

I was very blessed growing up to be encouraged to receive God’s mercy in the sacrament of reconciliation. What a wonderful way to experience directly the kindness of God. Normally when we mess up, justice would demand us to be punished. We think of the story of the prodigal son who spent all his inheritance on wine and women. He found himself taking care of pigs that ate better than he. He decided to return to his father even though he felt unworthy to even be called a son. He might have expected punishment and harsh treatment for his foolishness, but something very different happened.

His father came running out to him, embraced and kissed him. What kindness! The father called for an immediate feast and made sure his son knew he was beloved.

That is how the Father treats us in the sacrament of reconciliation. “Not according to our sins does he deal with us, nor does he requite us according to our crimes.” (Ps 103:10) The “kindness of God surrounds him who trusts in the Lord.” (Ps 32) His kindness is “from eternity to eternity toward those who fear him.”

It is the power of God.

4 steps to a kinder, gentler you Reflect on a time in your life when you received kindness.

What was going on that made the act truly memorable for you? How have you shown kindness?

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Read the account of Jesus’ treatment of the woman caught in adultery in John Chapter 8, or read the story of the prodigal son in Luke’s Gospel. Reflect on the sins you have committed in your life. Imagine yourself being brought to trial for your sins in front of a crowd. Your own life hangs in the balance. Even worse – you know you are guilty. Then hear the words of Jesus your judge: “I do not condemn you.” He took upon himself our sins and received the punishment for them. Have we let his kindness touch our hearts?

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Pray through some of these Scripture texts that focus on kindness:

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Hos 11:4 “I led them with chords of kindness, with the bands of love, and I became to them as one who eases the yoke on their jaws, and I bent down to them and fed them.”

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Romans 2:4 “Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?”

1 Cor 13:4 “Love is patient and kind…”

Luke 6:35 Love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great; and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.

Eph 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.

Col 3:12 “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, humility, meekness and patience.

Ps 141:5 “Let a righteous man strike me – it is a kindness. Let him rebuke me – it is oil for my head; let my head not refuse it.

Micah 6:8 “He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice; to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.”

(Ps 103:17)

There is great power in kindness, so this month let’s make a special effort to be kind to all we meet, especially those who are not kind to us.

to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil.

Ps 145:17 “The Lord is righteous in all his ways and kind in all his works.”

2 Cor 6:6 Paul describes the life of an apostle.

2 Tim 2:24 “The Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind

Try and do one act of kindness – no matter how small – for someone each day. Try doing it for strangers or for those who would not be able to pay you back with a favor.

Jesus reminded us, “If we love only those who love us, what good is that?

Even the pagans do the same.” If we have not practiced a lot of kindness in our workplace or even our home, begin there. Feel how good it is to be an instrument of God.

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ot long ago, a friend of mine was sharing how down she was feeling. She was pondering a litany of new-age remedies for her slump. At the end of the talk, she suggested that we go and get a pedicure together to help get her mind off of her problems. I was up for the pampering, so I agreed to go. About $50 later, our feet were looking better than they had in months, and she seemed happier. For about an hour. I could tell the quick fix of the pedicure was wearing off and that those feelings of despair were returning to plague her soul. The reality is that no pedicure, aroma therapy, or any other holistic wellness plan was going to help her. I think she truly needed something much deeper, and although I knew darn well what it was, I didn’t bring him up.

My friend was not a very religious person and I was a little hesitant about “going there.”

In the coming days, my lack of courage started to bother me. Why is it so acceptable in our culture to turn to yoga, meditation CDs, or a self-proclaimed TV “expert” for healing and wellness, but yet sometimes awkward for us to suggest turning to God who is, after all, the source of all happiness? While pondering, I realized I needed to be a bit strategic and somehow ‘ease’ God into her situation. I needed to introduce the idea to her nonverbally. I had an idea.

Gift baskets have always been a great way to show kindness to someone, and I absolutely love creating them for family and friends for different occasions. I knew my friend would love one – especially if it was stuffed with “wellness” items. But among the herbal tea, scented candles and hand lotion, this basket was going to make room for a little bit of God. It offered a mix of things to make a person feel better – topically and spiritually. I included items that are as faith-building as they are meditative and interesting.

Do you know of anyone who could use a spiritual lift? Consider making them one of these baskets. And if it’s well received, it just may casually open the door to deeper discussions about real prayer and how it can help – far beyond Tai Chi, nature-sound CDs, and yes, even a $50 pedicure.

Directions:

For the project shown, you will need: • 1 medium size basket • basket filler • prayer card • Catholic book of prayers • Gregorian Chant CD (or any relaxing Christian music) • hand cream or any spa products of choice • can of soup or chocolates (or any other comfort food items) • box of herbal tea • ceramic mug

Line basket with filler and then arrange items in any fashion. For an added touch, wrap with clear cellophane and tie with a ribbon and gift card.

More ideas For the chocolate lover, create a basket with different chocolate candies and cookies, hot cocoa mix, and a mug among the spiritual items.

For a spa theme, find a cotton-lined basket and fill with lotions, body wash, bath oils and a body sponge among the spiritual items.

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s the diocese moves into a 50-year strategic process for Planning Tomorrow’s Churches, all parishes – and the diocese as a whole – are going through a process of discernment. Most parishes are now meeting in parish assemblies to review information gained in the Parish Evaluation Inventory (PEI), as well as the Regional Review Committee’s preliminary observations. Each parish’s information will be combined and viewed on a regional and diocesan level to determine how the sacramental, leadership and pastoral needs will be met in the 10-county area with fewer priests and dedicated lay ministers and deacons.

This month, we will highlight the second of three aspects within the PEI – parish as disciple. The other two areas of focus within the PEI are worship (highlighted in September’s issue) and sustainability (highlighted in next month’s issue).

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Disciple: Those who follow, embrace and assist in advancing the teachings of Jesus.

Catechesis: How can our parish be a disciple?

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flows to us. “Jesus came and said to them, ‘All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you, and … I am with you always.’” (Matt 28:19) Discipleship is a biblical command that may need to be reinvigorated in parish life.

Each of us has gifts we can bestow on our parish: We can welcome new parishioners; serve meals at funeral lunches, work at a soup kitchen or assist the teen group with coffee and

doughnuts. Business executives can be creative fundraisers; a “natural” teacher may be a natural for the religious formation program.

There are multiple ways a parish can be a disciple (see the Discipleship sidebar), and it takes multiple parishioners to make those ministries vibrant.

I didn’t realize that parishes provided all of these services.

Does mine?

Sometimes we don’t realize what we have until we need it. It’s likely that most parishes offer all of the programs listed in the PEI criteria. If the program is not offered within a parish directly, it is available through a shared resource with a neighboring parish. If you would like to start a new program, speak with your pastor or parish life coordinator.

I don’t have time to be part of discipleship in my parish. Is that counted against my parish during this evaluation process?

Definitely not. The Planning Tomorrow’s Churches process is not punitive; it is a process for parish improvement. During each person’s life there are times when she can be of service, and times when service is needed from neighbors and fellow parishioners. However, service can come in many forms, not just overt gestures of committee work. Prayer, reflection and participating fully in Mass are also ways of discipleship.

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Where are we in the process?

Case Study #1 Reaching Out to Enrich All St. Mary Magdalen – Brighton

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rom 1995 to 2005, St. Mary Magdalen in Brighton has seen a 55 percent increase in its parish membership.

Father David Howell, pastor of the Brighton parish, believes that it comes from the faithful’s commitment to discipleship.

“We take the Gospel seriously, and more than half of our community does more than just participate in weekly liturgy. They spread the Gospel through Christian service, family life activities, religious formation of youth and adults, in liturgical ministries, wellness efforts and other ministries that bring the Gospel to others within the parish and the wider community.

“Our pastoral council members contact all our parishioners twice each year to solicit their views, comments, criticisms and suggestions for the ongoing development of our community. This information is shared monthly with the council to get feedback which helps guide our efforts to meet the needs of the parish.”

St. John Student Parish – East Lansing om Kochheiser was born and raised in central Ohio as a devout Lutheran. Religious wanderlust hit when his Michigan State University girlfriend, who had recently gone through RCIA, led him to St. John Student Parish. On weekends, they alternated attending Mass with a Lutheran service.

Fast forward 18 years – Tom and his wife Kristin are married with two boys. Tom went through RCIA in 2001 when his eldest son was going to make his first Communion.

“I thought it was the right time to learn more about the Catholic faith,” said Kochheiser. “It was important for us as a family to share in all of the sacraments, and St. John Parish has always been so welcoming to me and to everyone. It was like coming home.”

Why was St. John’s so home-like? To the Kochheisers, it’s very welcoming. It has energy. The vast majority of parishioners participate in parish life.

Perhaps that is why its attendance has grown 44 percent in 10 years.

“Sometimes it’s difficult to sign-up for an activity because so many volunteers have already jumped up,” explained Kochheiser.

“The atmosphere is incredibly upbeat, uplifting, renewed and you leave feeling refreshed,” exclaimed Kochheiser. “It doesn’t matter if MSU is in session or not, the atmosphere is still buoyant. It gives you hope that future generations of Catholics will instill an increased love of the faith and spirit in all.”

What is discipleship?

The parish is engaged in the work of Christ through effective catechesis, religious formation, personal conversion and service.

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adults [baptism to RCIA].

• The parish provides a quality religious education program for students enrolled in public elementary and secondary schools; it is either sponsored by the parish or in collaboration with neighboring parishes.

• The parish provides opportunities to serve the parish community and the larger community

Definitions of possible outcomes: What are the possible parish structures? Some parishes may be affected in the following ways.

Merger: Your parish may merge with another parish.

This means that your parish or school will join with one or more faith communities to form a new or consolidated parish or school.

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Parish/Faith community evaluation Regional Review Committee discernment and evaluation Formulate regional preliminary observations DIOCES E OF LANS I NG Parish assemblies ObservaPLANNING tomorrow’s churches tions forwarded to the Diocesan Coordinating Commission (DCC) DCC reviews observations and prepares draft recommendations DCC sends draft to the regions for review Bishop’s consultative bodies review draft recommendations DCC forwards final recommendations to the bishop for his decision and actions.

Cluster: Your faith community may become part of a cluster. Each parish would maintain its individual identity, but may be grouped with one or more parishes that would share a priest and would collaborate to provide pastoral care and other resources to its faithful.

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Parish closure: Your parish may close.

Obviously, this is a last resort, and will only be recommended and acted upon by the bishop if it is considered that the sacramental and pastoral needs of the community will be addressed by neighboring parishes.

We want to maintain a Catholic presence through Mass and ministry where one currently exists, but realize that it may not be feasible. In the case of a parish closure, parish boundaries will be redrawn and neighboring parishes will be responsible for the faithful from a closed parish.

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through active ministries and community life: parish social needs and concerns; outreach to the poor, immigrants and refugees; services to the elderly, those suffering from illness and injustice, persons with disabilities, and the deaf and hard of hearing.

• The needs of those in nursing homes, homebound and hos-

pitals are met by an individual parish or in collaboration with neighboring parishes.

• The parish supports all vocations (priest, deacons, religious life, lay ministers, married persons, single persons) through awareness and formation.

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things to do: An Adult Faith Formation session, entitled “Left to Tell: Discovering God in the Midst of the Rwanda Holocaust” will be presented by Immaculée Ilibagiza on the evening of Thursday, Oct. 4 at St. Francis of Assisi in Ann Arbor and during the daytime on Friday, Oct. 5 at St. Thomas Aquinas in East Lansing. Please call Sister Mary Ann Foggin, SGL, at 517.342.2506 for more details.

Neil Goldberg’s CIRQUE is coming to Ann Arbor on Sunday, Oct. 7 at 7 p.m. For more information, please contact Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County at 734.926.0153 or online at www. csswashtenaw.org.

Sin and Grace will be the topic discussed at St. Patrick Catholic Church Men’s Night, Oct. 18, 2007. The night will begin with a 7 p.m. Mass followed by fellowship and a speaker. St. Patrick Church is located in Brighton. For additional information, please call 810.229.9863.

A One-Day Marriage Retreat will take place at St. Francis Retreat Center in DeWitt on Saturday, Oct. 14 from 9:30 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Topics include: communication, intimacy and commitment. Cost is $99 per couple and includes continental breakfast, lunch and materials. Contact Tony Sperendi at 517.487.0478 or tony.sperendi@ sbcglobal.net with any questions.

Is the Reformation Over? A two part dialogue will take place about Catholics and Evangelicals in America as apart of this Adult Faith Formation event. The first session will be held on Friday, Oct. 19 at 7 p.m. and the second one on Saturday, Oct. 20 at 10 a.m. Both sessions, held at MSU’s Kellogg Center Auditorium, are free and open to the public.

Koinonia Retreat will be held Oct. 26-28 at St. Agnes, Fowlerville. For complete information, please call Jenifer Esch at 517.490.1636 or e-mail her at jeniferesch@hotmail.com.

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Chicago is being sponsored by St. Therese Parish. The trip will take place Oct. 29- 30. The cost is $199 and includes lodging, meals and transportation. Contact Tony at 517.487.0478 or tony.sperendi@ sbcglobal.net to register.

13th Annual Winter Wonderland Auction sponsored by St. Patrick School in Brighton.

Dinner and open premium bar at Crystal Gardens in Howell.

Tickets are $70 per person. Call 810.229.7946.

Are you 21 to 35 years of age and single? If so, you may want to consider attending a REFRESH weekend encounter.

The next weekend will be held in Howell, Nov. 9-11. For more information, please contact Jennifer at 248.408.1378 or Nick at 734.752.5480.

In recognition of the Cursillo’s 50th year, the Cursillo community within the Diocese of Lansing will have Mass followed by a Grand Ultreya on Oct. 14, 2007, at St. John Parish in Jackson. Mass will start at 2 p.m..

St. Vincent Catholic Charities, 2800 W. Willow St., needs housing items such as tables, beds, chairs, dishes, pots, pans and silverware.

To make arrangements for pick up, please call 517.323.4734.

The Confessions of St. Augustine, an original one-man dramatization performed by Leonardo Defilippis will be performed in the Diocese of Lansing Sept. 29 at 7:30 p.m., Joy Road Spiritus Sanctus Academy, Ann Arbor; and Wednesday, Oct. 3 at 7 p.m., St. Thomas the Apostle, Ann Arbor Tickets are $8 per person or $25 for a family. For detailed info, please call Suzanne at 248.217.0844 or email confessionsofaugustine@gmail.com.

A Caregiver Support Group will meet the first and third Monday of each month at St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Pinckney. For information, call Darlene or Sharon at 517.545.5944.

An Alzheimer Support Group will meet the second Tuesday of each month in Brighton. Call Pam Bolam at 810.229.9910.

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At the Weber Center The following programs will be hosted at the Weber Center in Adrian.

Please call 517.266.4000 for more information about any of them.

Piece Work Soul Work, presented by Ann Hughes and Barbara Harvey, Oct. 5-7. Single occupancy cost is $200; commuter cost is $100.

The Journey Into Deep Time: Be Amazed, presented by Esther Kennedy, OP, Oct. 5-7. Single occupancy cost is $200; commuter cost is $100.

Come & Paint, presented by Mary Southard, CSJ, Nov. 9-11.

Single occupancy cost is $225; commuter cost $125.

Candlelight Meditation on the Healing Chants of Hildegard von Bingen, presented by Soprano Norma Gentile, Nov. 11 at 5 p.m., Pre-registration price is $15; price at the door is $20.

October café events Lenawee/Hillsdale Regional Mission, Nov. 4-6. Call 517.423.2447 for more details.

Lansing Region Catechist Formation Day, Jan. 19 at 8:30 a.m. to 12:45 p.m. at Immaculate Heart of Mary, Lansing. Two sessions with six catechist formation topics. Cost is $15. Call Kathy Warriner at 517.321.4179 for complete details.

Praying with Body, Mind and Spirit: Moving through Loss, Nov. 17 at 9 a.m. - 2 p.m., Cost is $22 and includes lunch. For further information contact Janene at 734.429.7754 or visit her website at www.prayer-in-motion.com.

Diocesan Catechetical Day 2007 will be presented in its entirety twice, Oct. 20-21 at Lansing Catholic High School and Ann Arbor Father Gabriel Richard High School. There will be more than 50 workshops. Keynote speaker is Cardinal Avery Dulles. Registration is $39 per person before Sept.

27. Fore more information, visit www.dioceseoflansing.org or call 517.342.2484.

Michael Voris, host of Channel 20’s One True Faith, will host the annual Laurie Wizgird Life Issues Conference at St. Mary Church, Pinckney, Oct. 14, 1-4 p.m. Visit www.stmarypinckney.org for more information.

Steven Angrisano, internationally renowned singer, songwriter and storyteller, will give a presentation on Oct. 21, 6 p.m. at St. John Parish, Davison. Join him for a unique blend of laughter, songs, stories and hilarious audience interaction. Call 810.658.4776, ext. 272.

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Sunday, October 7 Twenty-Seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time Hb 1:2-3,6-7,8-9(8) 2 Tm 1:6-8,13-14 Lk 17:5-10 Sunday, October 14 Twenty-Eighth Sunday in Ordinary Time 2 Kgs 5:14-17 Ps 98:1,2-3,3-4 2 Tm 2:8-13

Sunday, October 21 Twenty-Ninth Sunday in Ordinary Time Ex 17:8-13 Ps 121:1-2,3-4,5-6,7-8 2 Tm 3:14-4:2 Lk 18:1-8 Sunday, October 28 Thirtieth Sunday in Ordinary Time Sir 35:12-14,16-18 Ps 34:2-3,17-18,19,23 2 Tm 4:6-8,16-18 Lk 18:9-14

Michigan Association of Non-Public Schools announces new director Brian Broderick is the new executive director of the association, which advocates before the Legislature for the Catholic schools of the seven dioceses of Michigan. Borderick was selected following a search that began in August 2006. According to Sister Dorita Wotiska, O.P., Ph.D., “Brian epitomized the perfect candidate for whom our executive search committee was looking to effectively lead the state’s non-public education community.”

He will succeed Glen Walstra, who announced his retirement last year after leading the organization for 10 years.

How a parish tackles social justice In this world beset with turmoil, violence, and gross inhumanity, a group of dedicated members of Saint Mary Magdalen Parish in Brighton have committed themselves to living and teaching the social justice tenets of the Beatitudes. The 12 dedicated members have organized themselves under the umbrella of Pax Christi USA and become part of the parish’s Charity and Justice Ministry. The group, which calls itself the “Beatitudes Pax Christi,” is now in its third year and has ambitious plans for another year of presentations focusing on social justice.

One of the great challenges in promoting social justice is finding ways to show that there are practical, down-to-earth steps to deal with these seemingly larger-than-life issues. Often this challenge seems so big and intimidating that the temptation is great simply to wring one’s hands and end up doing nothing.

To learn how the members of Beatitudes have withstood that temptation and are working to educate St. Mary Magdalen parishioners on living lives of charity and justice, visit the Diocesan Web site and click on the “Sharing The Wealth” button.

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My boss is wet behind the ears what do we do when our manager has less experience?

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Ann has been at her current job for 20 years, but Kevin, a much younger person, was recently assigned to be her boss.

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nn says: At first, I was deeply offended and upset.

I thought, “How could they do this to me? There’s no way this kid can be more qualified than I, regardless of how much education he has.” Then, as the weeks went by, the inexperience of my new boss was obvious.

He was indecisive and overreacted to various situations; he didn’t understand the complete picture. Things kept getting worse. But instead of feeling vindicated, I actually started feeling bad for Kevin. He was intelligent and was honestly trying to do well, but he just didn’t have the experience. I kept wondering, “Do we tell management that Kevin just can’t cut it, or do we try to help him?”

The expert says: Do you have to be a boss to be a leader? Often we get caught up in the formal structure of companies and institutions, thinking that if we’re not formally in charge, we can’t be leaders. What is a leader?

What is management? In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey explains the difference between the two. “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”

(Covey, p101) Kevin is smart, and he knows how to do things right, but lacks experience. Ann, on the other hand, knows what needs to be done.

There is another dimension to leadership that is often overlooked: service.

Christ told us that a leader is a servant. “... let the greatest among you be as the youngest, and the leader as the servant” (Lk 22:26).

So the fact that Ann knows what to do doesn’t necessarily mean that she is a leader.

Only when she uses that knowledge in service will she truly become one.

Ann spoke with her teammates and convinced them that they needed to make Kevin successful because only then would the entire team do well. From that point forward, Ann and the rest of team mentored and worked with Kevin to make sure they were doing the right things correctly. Thus, they did very well as a team and built solid, lasting relationships.

Lessons in leadership we can learn from Ann: • You don’t have to be a formal boss to lead others.

• Use your knowledge to serve others rather than to advance selfish motives.

• No one person may have all the qualities necessary to make an entire team successful. A true leader pulls the skills of everyone together.

• A leader lets go of his/her ego and seeks the success of the team.

– Tim Ryan

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Regional Preliminary Observations

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Our parish assembly

April 2008

Final recommendations announced Bishop’s final decision

June 2008

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